10% Happier with Dan Harris

Three tools for living a "passion-struck" life. John R Miles is a former naval officer and corporate titan who has made it his business to study what it means to find passion and purpose in your life. He is the host of the Passion Struck Podcast and the author of the new book Passion Struck: Twelve Powerful Principles to Unlock Your Purpose and Ignite Your Most Intentional Life. In this episode we talk about: A visualization technique for setting your priorities Why "autopilot" is the wrong metaphor for an unlived life The five "transition points" on "the journey to becoming passion struck" Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/john-r-miles

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- A master class in equanimity. It's the latest installment of our Meditation Party series. Live from Omega. Sebene Selassie describes herself as a "writer, teacher, and immigrant-weirdo." She teaches meditation on the Ten Percent Happier app and is the author of a great book called You Belong. She's based in Brooklyn. Jeff Warren is also a writer and a meditation teacher. He and Dan co-wrote the book, Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics. He also hosts the Consciousness Explorers podcast. He's based in Toronto. Tickets for the two more Meditation Party retreats this year at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, New York are available now. The last one was a blast. Come join us for both. One is in May, the other October. For tickets to Dan Harris: Celebrating 10 Years of 10% Happier at Symphony Space: click here Related Episodes: Meditation Party: The "Sh*t Is Fertilizer" Edition | Sebene Selassie & Jeff Warren Meditation Party with Sebene Selassie and Jeff Warren: Psychedelics, ADHD, Waking Up From Distraction, and Singing Without Being Self-Conscious Meditation Party: Magic, Mystery, Intuition, Tattoos, and Non-Efforting | Sebene Selassie and Jeff Warren Nirvana | Joseph Goldstein A More Relaxed Way to Meditate | Alexis Santos Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/medparty-omega

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Simple tools you can knit into your life both for when you're actively freaking out, and for preventing future trips down the anxiety toilet. Dr. Jenny Taitz is a clinical psychologist and an assistant clinical professor in psychiatry at the University of California, Los Angeles. Dr. Taitz completed her fellowship in psychology at Yale University School of Medicine and achieved board certifications in both cognitive behavioral therapy and dialectical behavior therapy. Her new book, Stress Resets: How to Soothe Your Body and Mind in Minutes, is out now. In this episode we talk about: The difference between stress and anxiety Jenny's take on the use of benzodiazepines What she means by, "negative core beliefs", and how to untangle ourselves from them How to prepare in advance for stressful situations The benefit of giving yourself a deliberate panic attack And why stress, while uncomfortable, is actually part of a healthy and meaningful life Additional Links: How to Be Single and Happy by Dr. Jenny Taitz Breathe • Calm down • Meditate Three-Minute Breathing Space Related Episodes: Can Anxiety Be a Gift? | Dr. David Rosmarin Zach Braff On: Anxiety, Sobriety, Insomnia, Grief, Social Media, and the Meaning of the Tattoo on His Wrist For tickets to Dan Harris: Celebrating 10 Years of 10% Happier at Symphony Space: click here Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/jenny-taitz-730

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- What 40 years of research tells us about how to cultivate good relationships in our lives. World-renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, Dr. John Gottman has conducted over 40 years of breakthrough research with thousands of couples. He is the co-founder of The Gottman Institute and Affective Software Inc. as well as author of over 200 published academic articles and author or co-author of more than 40 books, including The New York Times bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Dr. Julie Gottman is the Co-Founder and President of The Gottman Institute and Co-Founder of Affective Software, Inc. A highly respected clinical psychologist and author, she is sought internationally by media and organizations as an expert advisor on marriage, domestic violence, gay and lesbian adoption, same-sex marriage, and parenting issues. She is the co-creator of the immensely popular The Art and Science of Love weekend workshop for couples and she also co-designed the national clinical training program in Gottman Method Couples Therapy. In this episode we talk about: how to talk (and listen) to your partner in moments of conflict what to do before you start trying to solve a problem together why "there's no such thing as constructive criticism" the details of John's research findings, which have allowed him to predict with stunning accuracy whether a couple will get divorced how the Gottmans themselves do when it comes to operationalizing their findings/advice how and why betrayal occurs when a couple should consider separating the role mindfulness can play in healthy relationships and the role of humor in relationships. Related Episodes: Six Buddhist Strategies for Getting Along Better with Everyone | Sister True Dedication The Science of Emotional Intelligence | Daniel Goleman Improving Your Relationships - Buddhist Style | Martine Batchelor Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes For tickets to Dan Harris: Celebrating 10 Years of 10% Happier at Symphony Space: click here Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/gottmans-418-rerun Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

Conflict doesn't have to suck. These iconic relationship researchers tell us how. Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection is the name of a new book by esteemed guests Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Gottman. They are the co-Founders of The Gottman Institute and have completed over 40 years of research with more than 3,000 couples. John is the researcher; Julie the clinician. They have written several books together, including Eight Dates and The Love Prescription. Even though the majority of the Gottmans' research is on couples, the advice is applicable to all types of relationships. In this episode we talk about: The three principle conflict styles Why we often don't understand what it is we're fighting about Perpetual problems vs. Solvable problems Why the first three minutes of an argument are key The simple sentence to use at the beginning of an argument How to downregulate defensiveness in an argument Why the Gottmans' believe there is no such thing as constructive criticism Why apologizing quickly isn't always the right move When a fight might spell the end Related Episodes: Dan Savage on how to handle disappointment in your relationships, how to get better at sex, and why "a couple" is an Illusion Lori Brotto on mindful sex Devon and Craig Hase on how not to be a hot mess Myisha Battle on love, sex, dating, and relationship myths Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes For tickets to Dan Harris: Celebrating 10 Years of 10% Happier at Symphony Space: click here Full Shownotes: http://tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/gottmans-726

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- We're dropping a fun little treat in your feed today: it's an episode of The Puzzler, a new podcast from writer A.J. Jacobs, who was my guest on Ten Percent Happier at the beginning of December. His new book, also called The Puzzler, is all about his exploration of the world of puzzles – everything from word games to jigsaw puzzles to Sudoku and beyond – and how what he calls "the puzzle mindset" can really improve your life. So then he asked me to be his guest on The Puzzler, a daily podcast that he hosts, with so-called "celebrity" guests trying to do puzzles. I've said before that I'm not really a puzzle guy, but A.J. is a delight and it was a lot of fun getting to be on his show – and that's the episode we're sharing with you today. You can find "The Puzzler with A.J. Jacobs" wherever you get your podcasts. And thanks, A.J., for having me. Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes For tickets to Dan Harris: Celebrating 10 Years of 10% Happier at Symphony Space: click here Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- You may be breathing wrong. Here's how to fix it. At times, self-improvement can seem like a never-ending hallway filled with limitless shame and insufficiency. So when something as simple as the breath falls into this category, it seems only natural to meet that news with some resistance. Our guest today, James Nestor, argues that many of us, of all things, are breathing incorrectly but that by fixing our breathing, it can help with both physical and psychological ailments. Nestor is a science journalist who wrote a book called, Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art, which spent 18 weeks on the New York Times bestseller list and was translated into more than 35 languages. In this episode we talk about: How Nestor got interested in breathing in the first place Why we are the worst breathers in the animal kingdom The importance of posture The deleterious effects of mouth breathing Why we need to chew more The relationship between breathing and anxiety The relationship between breathing and sleep And we dive into a variety of breathing exercises Where to find James Nestor online: Website: www.mrjamesnestor.com Social Media: Facebook Instagram Book Mentioned: Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art Other Resources Mentioned: Daniel E. Lieberman The Wim Hof Method Dr. Stanislav Grof and holotropic breathwork Dr. Richard P. Brown Matthew P. Walker More on Kundalini Yoga and Breathing Sudarshan Kriya Dr. Herbert Benson and tummo breathing technique Related Episodes: Three Lessons from Happiness Research | Emma Seppälä Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes For tickets to Dan Harris: Celebrating 10 Years of 10% Happier at Symphony Space: click here Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/james-nestor-rerun Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Dan Savage has been writing the popular sex-advice column Savage Love for over thirty years. He also hosts the Savage Lovecast and is the author of numerous books. In 2010 Dan and his husband founded the It Gets Better Project, which was designed to give hope to LGBTQ kids. It was seen all over the world–and won an Emmy. In this episode we talk about: How to handle disappointment and jealousy How to get better at sex Why so many couples lose their spark and what to do about it How to date in the era of apps Why it's so hard for straight couples to talk about sex Dan's contention that the idea of a 'couple' is an illusion Related Episodes: Lori Brotto on mindful sex Devon and Craig Hase on how not to be a hot mess Myisha Battle on love, sex, dating, and relationship myths Sign up for Dan Harris's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan Harris on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes For tickets to Dan Harris: Celebrating 10 Years of 10% Happier at Symphony Space: click here Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/dan-savage-723

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Sometimes perseverance is overrated. An argument for strategic quitting. Julia Keller is a Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist, novelist, and playwright. She has a Ph.D. in English Literature from The Ohio State University and has taught at Princeton University, the University of Chicago, and the University of Notre Dame, and was a Nieman Fellow at Harvard University. She was the chief book critic at The Chicago Tribune for many years before quitting the world of daily journalism to write books. In this episode we talk about: The history behind why quitting gets such a bad rap What happens in our brains when we quit Why we don't give enough credit to quitting The myth of perseverance How to talk to our children about healthy quitting The power of having a community of quitters Related Episodes: The Myth of the Dream Job | Simone Stolzoff How To Find Meaningful Work in a Rapidly Changing World | Bruce Feiler Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/julia-keller Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Our ability to focus is not lost, it's just changing. Here's what we can adapt. Here's a horrifying fact: the average attention span has now declined to just 47 seconds on any particular screen. 47 seconds! How did this happen? How can we get anything done this way? Today we're going to meet the scientist who's done this research, find out what's driving this, and what we can do about it. And the good news is we really can do things about this. We're experiencing a fundamental shift in how we think, work, and focus. It shows up in our blizzard of notifications, zoom fatigue, task switching, and burn out. Dr. Gloria Mark is the Chancellor's Professor of Informatics at the University of California, Irvine. She has been a visiting senior researcher at Microsoft Research since 2012. She's written a book called Attention Span: A Groundbreaking Way to Restore Balance, Happiness and Productivity In this episode we talked about: Four myths about attention and technology The problem with frequent task-switching The surprising (to me) value of rote or mindless activities How to recognize when we are most distracted How to design your day based on your attentional resources How practicing forethought can help boost our attention and focus And Her thoughts on digital detoxes This episode is part of the latest installment of an occasional series we do, called Sanely Ambitious. If you missed last week's episodes, go check them out. We talked about the science of optimal performance, and also the science of failure, meaning how to fail well. Coming up on Wednesday we're gonna talk about what the research says about when to quit, not just your job, but any endeavor. We will put links in the show notes. Related Episodes: The Science of Optimal Performance—at Work and Beyond | Daniel Goleman The Science of Failing Well | Amy Edmondson Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/gloria-mark

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. ---- A Harvard Business School professor discusses how to get good at "intelligent failure." Amy C. Edmondson is the Novartis Professor of Leadership and Management at the Harvard Business School. Her latest book is called the Right Kind of Wrong. Her research examines psychological safety and teaming within and between organizations. In this episode we talk about: The problems of shame, perfectionism, and social media How not to get caught up in analysis paralysis The importance of self-compassion and a growth mindset The benefits of worrying with someone else Why redundancy is your friend How to discuss failure without assigning blame Why accepting your smallness can be freeing Taking the time to learn from failure The cognitive framework: stop, challenge, and choose How to have a healthier relationships with anxiety and failure Creating a culture of psychological safety Recognizing that not everybody in society has the same permission to take risks Related Episodes: Self-Compassion Ain't Always Soft | Kristin Neff Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/amy-edmondson-2023 Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- How to boost productivity, empathy, and focus, while reducing burnout. From the godfather of Emotional Intelligence. If you have any degree of ambition, one of the things you probably think about is how to perform at your best, or somewhere close, every day. How to keep your energy up. How to get into flow. How to stay focused and productive. How to play well with others. Daniel Goleman— his friends call him Danny—-has been thinking and writing about optimal performance for decades. He's perhaps best known for his book, Emotional Intelligence. He's a Harvard trained psychologist who also wrote in the New York Times for a while. And in his youth, he spent many years studying meditation in Asia, alongside many of today's most intellectual meditation teachers like Joseph Goldstein and Sharon Salzberg. He's got a new book called Optimal: How to Sustain Personal and Organizational Excellence Every Day, co-written with Cary Cherniss. In this episode we talk about: How to train your mind for optimal states How to reduce burnout How to develop and deploy empathy in a work setting How to give feedback A productivity hack that involves only doing the easy stuff The 4 parts of emotional intelligence—and how to get better at each And the future of EI in a world of AI This episode kicks off the latest installment of our occasional series, Sanely Ambitious. Over the next two weeks, we will be posting episodes on: how to focus in the midst of a pandemic of distraction, how to fail well, and when to quit. It's a great lineup. Daniel Goleman's online Emotional Intelligence Program Related Episodes: A Radical Approach to Productivity, Self-Compassion Series | Jocelyn K. Glei #494. How to Speak Clearly, Calmly, and Without Alienating People | Dan Clurman and Mudita Nisker The Science of Emotional Intelligence | Daniel Goleman #523. A Masterclass in Handling Yourself When Things Suck | Tsoknyi Rinpoche and Daniel Goleman #436. Brené Brown Says You're Doing Feelings Wrong Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/daniel-goleman-716

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. ---- The author/podcaster talks about her nonnegotiables at a delicate time in her life. Glennon Doyle is an author, activist, and the founder of Together Rising. She hosts the We Can Do Hard Things podcast and wrote the #1 New York Times bestseller Untamed, a Reese's Book Club selection, which has sold nearly three million copies. Photo Credit: Alexandra Hedison In this episode we talk about: The concept of embodiment Undoing harmful deep conditioning around hustle and diet culture The role of Internal Family Systems in Glennon's life Related Episodes: You Don't Have to be Miserable While Doing Important Work | adrienne maree brown How To End The War With Your Body | Sonya Renee Taylor The Anti-Diet | Evelyn Tribole Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/ Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Plus, provocative and practical ideas about actually enjoying exercise, the real relationship between weight and health, the problem with weight loss, the morality of food, feeding your kids, and who "the real bad guy" is. Virginia Sole-Smith is the bestselling author of Fat Talk: Parenting in the Age of Diet Culture and The Eating Instinct: Food Culture, Body Image and Guilt in America. She also writes the Burnt Toast newsletter, hosts the Burnt Toast Podcast, and frequently contributes to The New York Times and other publications. In this episode we talk about: The actual connections between health and body size The severe limitations of many of the most popular approaches to weight loss Nuanced strategies for disentangling from diet culture How to exercise without a hidden agenda of trying to wrench your body into a specific shape The idea that food doesn't have a moral value The relationship between men, exercise, food, and diet culture How our kids are getting caught up in diet culture, and what parents can do about it What Virginia's smartest critic would say about her contentions Her take on Ozempic Related Episodes: Dharma teacher Cara Lai on mindfulness and exercise Jud Brewer on "The Hunger Habit" Evelyn Tribole on "The Anti-Diet" Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/virginia-sole-smith

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Dr. Jud breaks down how habits work and how to change them. Plus, insights on stress, boredom, mindfulness, pleasure, satisfaction, and contentment. Judson Brewer M.D., Ph.D., is an internationally renowned addiction psychiatrist and neuroscientist and a bestselling author. He is a professor in the School of Public Health and Medical School at Brown University. His new book is called The Hunger Habit: Why We Eat When We're Not Hungry and How to Stop. In this episode we talk about: The scientific evidence behind Dr. Jud's approach The difference between satisfaction and contentment The difference between hedonic and homeostatic hunger Why changing behavior may not require you to dig into your past "Unforced freedom of choice" The "bigger better offer" The "pleasure plateau" Habits vs. addictions "The hunger test" The Buddha's advice on eating Whether or not we can still eat gummy worms Related Episodes: Dr. Jud's anxiety Q&A Dr. Jud on anxiety as a habit Dr. Jud on addiction and bad habits Evelyn Tribole on intuitive eating Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/jud-brewer-hunger

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Have you already bailed on your resolutions? Where are you on your other life goals? This episode is a master class on sticking with it, no matter what. Bryan Stevenson is a public interest lawyer who has dedicated his career to helping the poor, the incarcerated, and the condemned. He is the founder and Executive Director of the Equal Justice Initiative, based in Montgomery, Alabama—an organization that has won major legal challenges eliminating excessive and unfair sentencing, as well as reversals, relief, or release from prison for over 140 wrongly condemned prisoners on death row. He is the author of the bestselling memoir Just Mercy, which was made into a feature film, and the subject of an HBO documentary, True Justice. He is also a MacArthur "Genius," a graduate of Harvard Law School, and a recipient of over 50 honorary doctoral degrees from institutions like Yale, Princeton, and Oxford University. In this episode we talk about: Bryan's "non-negotiables," including exercise, music, and mindfulness The necessity of "proximity" How he manages fear, anger, and hatred How he cultivates hope and faith in the face of overwhelming odds Related Episodes: Father Gregory Boyle on Conquering Hatred with Love Other guests in our "Non-Negotiables" series, including Jon Kabat-Zinn, Esther Perel, and Bill Hader Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/bryan-stevenson

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Chödrön also talks about how to deal with difficult people, set boundaries, and keep a sense of humor in the face of our human foibles and failings. Pema Chödrön was born Deirdre Blomfield-Brown in New York City. In her mid-thirties, Ani Pema met and studied with Lama Chime Rinpoche, becoming a novice nun in 1974 in London. She received ordination from His Holiness the Sixteenth Karampa during that time. Pema first met her root guru, the teacher with whom she had the most profound connection, Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche, in 1972, and she studied closely with him until his death in 1987. In 1984, at the behest of Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche, Ani Pema moved from Boulder, Colorado to Cape Breton, Nova Scotia to be the director of Gampo Abbey. She currently teaches throughout the United States and Canada and continues her studies and meditative retreat under the guidance of Venerable Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche. In this episode we talk about: How to deal with difficult people and set boundaries Having a sense of humor about our own foibles and failings Keeping a sense of ok-ness in the face of whatever happens Why coming from a place of love doesn't preclude us from getting angry or standing up for what we believe in Keeping a sense of humor when we're setting intentions or taking a vow so we don't set ourselves up for failure The actual language of the Bodhisattva vow and why admitting how vast and impossible it is to achieve can actually be empowering Why putting others first doesn't mean leaving yourself out of the equation How healing yourself can affect your relationships with other people and create a virtuous circle Taking a "one person at a time" approach to suffering Related Episodes: The Dalai Lama's Guide To Happiness Full Shownotes:https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/pema-chodron-2024

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Kabat-Zinn on the nitty gritty practicalities of starting a practice, being fully present with no agenda, and letting go of "the story of me." Jon Kabat-Zinn, PhD, is professor of medicine emeritus at the University of Massachusetts Medical School. Back in the 1970s, he came up with something called Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction, or MBSR, which is a secular way of teaching Buddhist meditation. He's written many books, including Full Catastrophe Living; Wherever You Go, There You Are; and Coming to Our Senses. His latest book is called Mindfulness Meditation for Pain Relief. In this episode we talk about: The nitty gritty practicalities of starting a practice How he's learned to be more relaxed about his practice—including advocating for meditating in bed How to practice being fully present with no agenda How investigating your motivations—something most people don't do— can help you be more mindful How to practice letting go of "the story of me" Related Episodes: Tripping Out with a Legend: Jon Kabat-Zinn on Pain vs. Suffering, Rethinking Your Anxiety, and the Buddha's Teaching in a Single Sentence Jon Kabat-Zinn | Meditation as a Love Affair Jon Kabat-Zinn, Creator of Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/jon-kabat-zinn-2024

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- The star of SNL and Barry discusses how he channels his anxiety into his work. Plus, an imitation of Joseph Goldstein. Bill Hader has made the transition from being a master of stand-out characters and impressions on eight seasons of Saturday Night Life to becoming a true multi-hyphenate by creating, directing, writing, producing and starring as a burned-out assassin trying to break into Hollywood as an actor in HBO's award-winning and critically lauded dark comedy, Barry. In this episode we talk about: How Bill deals with anxiety His panic attack on live television His love of directing and the importance of having the right collaborators Full Shownotes:https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/bill-hader Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. ---- The renowned psychotherapist talks about the importance of accountability in generosity in her own life, and the one thing you can do right now, today, to make yourself happier. Esther Perel is a psychotherapist and bestselling author. She has a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are huge bestsellers. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? In this episode we talk about: How to get around the obstacles that hinder connection with other people The role of conflict in relationships and why we shouldn't be afraid of it Ways to get better at experiencing anxiety or discomfort so that you can better handle the ups and downs of life And the simple thing you can do right now to make yourself happier Related Episodes: Can Anxiety Be a Gift? | Dr. David Rosmarin Lessons From the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness | Dr. Robert Waldinger How to Keep Friendships From Imploding | Esther Perel Mating in Captivity | Esther Perel Love in the Time of COVID | Esther Perel Esther Perel: Turning Conflict Into Connection Esther Perel on the Other A.I.: Artificial Intimacy (SXSW 2023) Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/esther-perel-non-negotiables Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. ---- A leading behavioral psychologist reveals practical strategies to help you actually make the changes you want to make this new year (and beyond). Hal Hershfield is a professor of marketing, behavioral decision-making, and psychology at UCLA's Anderson School of Management, and the author of Your Future Self: How to Make Tomorrow Better Today. His research on future selves has been featured in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Washington Post, as well as the Harvard Business Review and Psychology Today. In this episode we talk about: What he means by a future self, and why thinking about your future self will help you make better decisions How to think about your future self without neglecting the present moment The importance of commitment devices, and what they are — including some which you can even adopt right now The importance of breaking down big goals to make them achievable How to reframe commitments so that you actually stick to them The role of mental time travel to help you actually do what you say you want to do Related Episodes: How to Change Your Habits | Katy Milkman Atomic Habits | James Clear Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/hal-hershfield Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Tackling one of the best known contemplative clichés: being in the present moment and "inhabiting the now." Matthew Brensilver, MSW, PhD, teaches retreats at the Insight Retreat Center, Spirit Rock and other Buddhist centers.He was previously program director for Mindful Schools and for more than a decade, was a core teacher at Against the Stream Buddhist Meditation Society. Before committing to teach meditation full-time, he spent years doing research on addiction pharmacotherapy at the UCLA Center for Behavioral and Addiction Medicine. Each summer, he lectures at UCLA's Mindful Awareness Research Center on the intersections between mindfulness, science and psychotherapy. Matthew is the co-author of two books about meditation during adolescence and continues to be interested in the unfolding dialogue between Buddhism and science. In this episode we talk about: What being present actually means What to do when Buddhist teachings or meditation instructions feel out of reach What to do when a memory arises in meditation, especially a difficult one The brain's, at times, exhausting, evolutionarily wired tendency toward constant prediction The benefits of going on meditation retreats Distinguishing between true alarms and false alarms Related Episodes: Why Self-Hatred Makes No Sense | Matthew Brensilver Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/matthew-brensilver-rerun-2023

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- A slew of evidence-based, ready-to-try-today interventions we can use to "complete the stress cycle." Emily Nagoski is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestseller Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life. She has a MS in counseling and a PhD in health behavior, both from Indiana University. She's also the co-author of Burnout: The Secret To Unlocking The Stress Cycle. Amelia Nagoski holds a DMA in conducting from the University of Connecticut. An assistant professor and coordinator of music at Western New England University, she regularly presents educational sessions discussing the application of communications science and psychological research for audiences of other professional musicians, including "Beyond Burnout Prevention: Embodied Wellness for Conductors." She is the co-author of Burnout: The Secret To Unlocking The Stress Cycle In this episode we talk about: The three characteristics of burnout The difference between addressing stressful circumstances in our lives and dealing with the actual physical experience of stress What they call the "real enemy" How to create a "bubble of love" The evidence-based interventions you can try right away Related Episodes: Optimizing Your Stress | Modupe Akinola Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/nagoski-2023-rerun

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- How to stay focused, fight distraction, and function at your peak. Dr. Amishi Jha is a professor of psychology at the University of Miami. She serves as the Director of Contemplative Neuroscience for the Mindfulness Research and Practice Initiative, which she co-founded in 2010. Dr Jha is the author of the national bestseller, Peak Mind. In this episode we talk about: What peak mind is Why meta awareness is important to practice and achieve peak mind The suite of mindfulness-based attention training practices Why humans developed attention in the first place Using the flashlight and floodlight metaphors to help us understand different types of attention The mental pushup for attention: focus, notice, and redirect The attention benefits for high stress populations who engage in contemplatives practices Multitasking vs. monotasking The real life and death consequences of confirmation bias Part of the reason why we may be experiencing a crisis of attention Giving our mind the freedom to choose where it goes next Related Episodes: Why You Can't Pay Attention - And How to Think Deeply Again | Johann Hari Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/amishi-jha-rerun-2023

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Understanding the Buddhist concept of "the five aggregates." Pascal Auclair has been immersed in the study and practice of Buddhist teachings since 1997. He has participated in retreats in Asia and America with renowned masters from both monastic and secular backgrounds. Pascal completed four years of teacher training with Joseph Goldstein and Jack Kornfield of the Insight Meditation Society in Massachusetts and Spirit Rock Meditation Center in California. Pascal teaches mainly in North America and Europe. He is one of the founding members of True North Insight, where he teaches and acts as a mentor. In this episode we talk about: How the five aggregates got Auclair hooked on Buddhist practice and philosophy The five aggregates as a way to work with difficulty Living with the non-negotiable prospect of dying Paying attention to pleasant, unpleasant, and neutral feeling tone Meditation training as a way to understand that experiences are conditional Related Episodes: Seven Buddhist Ingredients for a Happy Mind | Pascal Auclair Dharma Seed Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/pascal-auclair-rerun-2023

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Next year marks the fifteenth anniversary of Gretchen Rubin's #1 New York Times bestselling book, The Happiness Project. To celebrate, she's leading a one-time, one-year course called "The Happiness Project: Revisited." In this bonus excerpt from the course, Gretchen and Elizabeth explore the lessons Gretchen has learned over the years, talk about her plans to do a new happiness project in 2024, and discuss how other people can do their own happiness projects. You can learn more and sign up here—plus, get 30% off through December 31st with code THPR30DEC.

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- The interview that changed the way Dan relates to food. Evelyn Tribole, MS, RD, CEDRD-S is an award-winning registered dietitian, with a nutrition counseling practice in Newport Beach, California. She has written ten books including the bestsellers Healthy Homestyle Cooking and Intuitive Eating (co-author). Her newest book is the Intuitive Eating Workbook: Ten Principles for Nourishing a Healthy Relationship with Food. In this episode we talk about: How meditation practice and intuitive eating are similar The difference between mindful eating and intuitive eating Why gentle nutrition is the last principle of intuitive eating How to rethink negative body image Why you can't tell how healthy a person is by looking at their body Why it's important not to talk about food in moralistic terms How to make peace with and rethink our relationship with food Related Episodes: How to Embrace the Anti-Diet | Christy Harrison Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/evelyn-tribole-rerun-2023

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- A comprehensive strategy for setting and maintaining boundaries—and respecting other people's boundaries. Nedra Glover Tawwab, MSW, LCSW, is the author of bestsellers Drama Free and Set Boundaries, Find Peace. She is a licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert and has practiced relationship therapy for 15 years. Tawwab is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Kaleidoscope Counseling. In this episode we talk about: The definition of boundaries Leading with love when it comes to boundary setting Tawwab's taxonomy of boundaries How to summon the courage to set and maintain boundaries, even when it's hard How to respect other people's boundaries, even when they aren't clear about what they might be Related Episodes: How to Handle Family Drama | Nedra Glover Tawwab Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/nedra-glover-tawwab-2023-rerun

The longtime TV host and actor talks about working onscreen with her husband, her fear of public speaking, and what she does instead of sitting meditation. Kelly Ripa is one of the most powerful voices in media with a career at ABC spanning over 30 years. She's the author of the NY Times Bestseller, Long-Winded Short Stories and the host of her new podcast "Let's Talk Off-Camera" on Stitcher Podcasts. In this episode we talk about: What it's like to work with her husband The value of marriage counseling, even when you're not on the cusp of divorce Her resistance to meditation, and what she does instead The upsides of anxiety Her surprising fear of public speaking Menopause and the whole idea of "growing old gracefully," whatever that means Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/kelly-ripa-690 Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Frequent guest Sam Harris discusses life after quitting Twitter and the metaphysics of meditation along with special co-host and brother Matt Harris. Sam Harris is a neuroscientist, philosopher, and author of five New York Times best sellers. His work covers a wide range of topics—neuroscience, moral philosophy, religion, meditation practice, political polarization, rationality—but generally focuses on how a growing understanding of ourselves and the world is changing our sense of how we should live. His books include The End of Faith, The Moral Landscape, Free Will, Lying, and Waking Up. Sam hosts the popular Making Sense podcast and is the creator of the Waking Up app, which offers a modern approach to living a more examined life, through both in-depth mindfulness training and secular wisdom. Sam has practiced meditation for over 30 years and has studied with many Tibetan, Indian, Burmese, and Western meditation teachers, both in the United States and abroad. He holds a degree in philosophy from Stanford University and a Ph.D. in neuroscience from UCLA. In this episode we talk about: The psychological benefits of quitting Twitter Vipassana meditation vs. Dzogchen The practice of looking for the looker Sam's views on the metaphysics of meditation and psychic powers Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/sam-harris-2023

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- What the ancient Greek philosophers discovered about how to do life better. Tamar Gendler is dean of the Faculty of Arts and Sciences, Vincent J. Scully Professor of Philosophy, and Professor of Psychology and Cognitive Science at Yale University. Her Open Yale course "Philosophy and the Science of Human Nature" has hundreds of thousands of views. An updated version of this course will be available on the Coursera website this spring. In this episode we talk about: The tension between our animal nature and our spiritual/intellectual nature How to define concepts such as "virtue", "morality" and "the soul" Whether living a moral life actually makes you happy The similarities and differences between ancient Greek philosophy & Buddhism And how Tamar has applied all of this to her own life Related Episodes: How (and Why) to Hug Your Inner Dragons | Richard Schwartz An Ace Therapist Gives Dan A Run For His Money | Dr. Jacob Ham Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/tamar-gendler

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- One's a legend, the other's a phenom. Together, they offer practical wisdom for maintaining your daily meditation practice, handling conflict, connecting with community, and understanding the limits of the mind. Jack Kornfield trained as a Buddhist monk in Thailand, India, and Burma. He holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is a founding teacher of the Insight Meditation Society in Massachusetts and Spirit Rock Meditation Center in California. He is the author of 16 books which have sold 2 million copies, and the co-founder of Cloud Sangha. Diego Perez is a #1 New York Times bestselling author who is widely known on Instagram and various social media networks through his pen name, Yung Pueblo. Online he has an audience of over 3 million people. Diego's books are Inward, Clarity & Connection, Lighter, and The Way Forward. In this episode we talk about: How and why to maintain a daily meditation practice The importance of community The limits of the thinking mind How to handle conflict How to love without being attached Related Episodes: Jack Kornfield talking about forgiveness and uncertainty on the pod Yung Pueblo's past appearance on the pod Dan Clurman and Mudita Nisker on effective communication Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Further resources: Diego's latest book: The Way Forward Diego's Newsletter Diego's Instagram Wisdom Ventures A note on Cloud Sangha: Jack Kornfield is a co-founder of Cloud Sangha, where you can turn your challenges into compost for growth and change. Come use your real-life experiences to rehearse living mindfully so you can be the best version of yourself, more often. Join us online to navigate the ups and downs of life together, and find inner freedom along the way. Use the code "TENPERCENTHAPPIER" to receive 30% off. Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/jack-kornfield-and-yung-pueblo

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- A counterintuitive way to become more clear, creative, and persistent, via a writer who calls himself a "human guinea pig." A.J. Jacobs is an author, journalist, podcaster, and human guinea pig. His new podcast "The Puzzler" is produced by iHeart and is in the Top 20 Apple Podcasts. He has written four New York Times bestsellers that combine memoir, science, humor and a dash of self-help. Among his books are "The Year of Living Biblically" and "The Know-It-All." He has told several Moth stories, has given several TED talks that have amassed over 10 million views. His latest book is "The Puzzler," which Booklist called "ridiculously entertaining," and The New York Times called "a romp, both fun and funny." In this episode we talk about: The "puzzle mindset" and how it can change the way you approach your problems Creating a puzzle that will take billions of years to solve How puzzles can help us during dark times The dark side of the puzzling world How his gratitude project made him better at talking to himself Learning to appreciate everyday objects and people he sees all the time How pretending to be a good person helped him actually learn to be one – most of the time Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/aj-jacobs-688 Additional Resources: Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: https://10percenthappier.app.link/install

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Buddhist strategies for navigating tumult— and even becoming a node of sanity amidst it all. Oren Jay Sofer teaches meditation and communication internationally and has practiced Buddhist meditation since 1997. He holds a degree in comparative religion from Columbia University and is a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner for the healing of trauma. Born and raised in New Jersey, he is the author of several books, including the best-seller Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication as well as his newest book, Your Heart Was Made for This: Contemplative Practices for Meeting a World in Crisis with Courage, Integrity, and Love. In this episode we talk about: 26 qualities for both navigating and positively impacting a chaotic world What inspired the title of his newest book Why the cultivation of attention and aspiration can be transformative tools How mindfulness isn't just about feeling good Why joy can help us to persevere through challenges And How to reframe the concept of devotion so that it can apply to your everyday life Related Episodes: Oren Jay Sofer, Practicing Mindful Communication Why Buddhism Is Inherently Hopeful (Despite All the Talk of Suffering) Rethinking Your Relationship to 'Stuff' | The Minimalists + Oren Jay Sofer Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/oren-jay-sofer-new-heart

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- This guest says you can thrive with anxiety. And the trick is learning to get comfortable with discomfort. Dr. David H. Rosmarin is an associate professor at Harvard Medical School, a program director at McLean Hospital, and founder of Center for Anxiety, which services over 1,000 patients/year in multiple states. His most recent book is Thriving with Anxiety: 9 Tools to Make Your Anxiety Work for You. In this episode we talk about: The difference between anxiety and stress How anxiety and distress can, paradoxically, improve our relationships with ourselves and others Why he's a proponent of exposure therapy How anxiety can be transmuted into love Why we often use anger to cover up fear and anxiety And the spiritual benefit of thinking the worst Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes:https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/david-rosmarin

Today we are dropping down our feed a conversation that I listened to recently that had a huge impact on me. It's from a great show that I'm sure many of you have heard of, On Being with Krista Tippett. It's been around for decades, and it explores the question of what it means to be human, how to do life better, how to live with each other in complex times. Krista Tippett is a recent friend of mine, somebody who I have long admired and really, like – she was on the show just recently. They've got a new season of their show going right now, over on the On Being feed, which I highly recommend you check out. They're doing episodes on the intelligence of the human body, what AI might be calling us to as human beings, and much more. They've also got a 20 year archive of conversations with people like Mary Oliver, John O'Donohue, and Desmond Tutu, which is pretty extraordinary. And this conversation, which, as I mentioned earlier, has had a big impact on me seems unfortunately quite relevant. It's about conflict and how to do it right: the difference between healthy conflict, which is an unavoidable part of life, and high conflict, which we see all around us these days, but which is avoidable.

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Practical tools for regulating your nervous system in stressful times. Deb Dana is a licensed clinical social worker, clinician, and consultant who specializes in working with complex trauma. She is the author of Anchored: How to Befriend Your Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory. In this episode we talk about: What polyvagal theory is The case for understanding our nervous system The practical tools and exercises for changing our nervous system and learning to become more regulated The fact that our nervous systems aren't simply isolated, self-contained phenomena – they are social structures Our responsibilities for our own nervous system and the nervous systems of others Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/deb-dana-rerun

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- We deal with difficult people over holiday meals, at work, and online. This guest says there is only one answer. Father Gregory Boyle is an American Jesuit priest and the founder of Homeboy Industries in Los Angeles, the largest gang-intervention, rehabilitation, and reentry program in the world. He has received the California Peace Prize and been inducted into the California Hall of Fame. In 2014, the White House named Boyle a Champion of Change. He received the University of Notre Dame's 2017 Laetare Medal, the oldest honor given to American Catholics. He is the author of The Whole Language, Tattoos on the Heart, and Barking to the Choir. In this episode we talk about: How Homeboy Industries began 34 years ago Boyle's practices for working with stress What he means when he says you have to put death in its place Motivating people through joy rather than admonition How to catch ourselves when we're about to demonize or be judgmental How to set boundaries How to dole out consequences without closing the doors to anybody And, Father Boyle's expansive and inclusive notion of God Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/gregory-boyle-rerun

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- How getting your sh*t together can make you a better leader in your own personal orbit. It can maybe even change the world. Jerry Colonna is a leading executive coach who uses the skills he learned as a venture capitalist to help entrepreneurs. He is a co-founder and CEO of Reboot, the executive coaching and leadership development company, host of the Reboot Podcast, and author of Reunion: Leadership and the Longing to Belong, and Reboot: Leadership and the Art of Growing Up. In this episode we talk about: How to avoid the pitfalls of virtue signaling and self-righteousness The term, "reunion" and how it relates to the stories of our ancestors What he means by, "the longing to belong" How we can learn to "do our first works over" The difference between equality and equity And his framing of, "content and container" to help guide good leadership Related Episodes: Jerry Colonna, 'CEO Whisperer' and Reboot.io Founder The Art of Growing Up, Jerry Colonna Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/jerry-colonna

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. -- Plus, what happens if you don't repair, whether it's ever too late to repair, what "boundaries" actually are, and a helpful little tool for avoiding fights called the "MGI." Dr. Becky Kennedy is a clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and mom of three. She is the author of Good Inside and the host of the podcast Good Inside with Dr. Becky. Her new TED Talk is called "The single most important parenting strategy." In this episode we talk about: How to repair damage after a fight What happens if you don't repair Whether it's ever too late to offer a repair Whether "good inside" is a thesis for all of humanity Whether punishment is ever appropriate Dr. Becky's definition of "boundaries" A handy hack for avoiding fights called the "MGI" Whether or not Dr. Becky follows her own advice Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/becky-kennedy

A former nun explains how to deal with doom-scrolling, despair, and rage in the face of world events. Kaira Jewel Lingo spent fifteen years as a monastic in Thich Nhat Hanh's Plum Village tradition. She is now a lay dharma teacher and is the author of We Were Made for These Times: Ten Lessons for Moving Through Change, Loss, and Disruption. In this episode we talk about: How to stop doom-scrolling and what to do instead Why it's more important, not less, to take care of yourself in times of crisis How to take concrete action that reduces suffering Stories and lessons from the life of Thich Nhat Hanh From Plum Village: An open letter to President Biden, guided meditations, and other resources Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Ten Percent Happier online bookstore Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Our favorite playlists on: Anxiety, Sleep, Relationships, Most Popular Episodes Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/kaira-jewel-lingo-news

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- The meditation style that changed Dan's entire practice. Alexis Santos, has been practicing meditation for twenty years and was a student of a highly influential Burmese monk by the name of Sayadaw U Tejaniya. Alexis is also a core teacher in the Ten Percent Happier app and the lead teacher of our On The Go course. Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/alexis-santos-rerun

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Nirvana is a culturally confusing and freighted term. It's the name of the best rock band of the 1990s and also the name of smoothie joints, vape stores and yoga studios. There's a vape place near me called Nirvana. Nirvana's been fully co-opted and sometimes corrupted by the culture… and yet it is also the clearly stated goal of the Buddha's teaching. So what does it really mean? We cover all of that today in what is an experimental episode for us. Not only because the topic is so unusual, but also because this is our first podcast recording of a live show. We recorded this at the Armory in Boston in front of a sold out crowd who did not know in advance that premier teacher Joseph Goldstein would be the guest. We would love your feedback, because if you like this, we'll do more. Joseph Goldstein is one of the top western proponents of mindfulness. He co-founded the legendary Insight Meditation Society alongside Sharon Salzberg and Jack Kornfield. He also wrote a book called Mindfulness: A Practical Guide to Awakening. PS We've been trying to do a bunch of experiments here on this show, and our latest is a weekly newsletter, which you can sign up for here! Related Episodes: The Mental States That Steal Your Calm | Bhikkhu Bodhi The Words of the Buddha | Bhikkhu Bodhi Joseph Goldstein On: How Not To Try Too Hard in Meditation, Why You Shouldn't "Waste Your Suffering," and the Value Of Seeing How Ridiculous You Are Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- How to spend your money in ways that will really boost your happiness and a look at the state of happiness research. Dr. Elizabeth Dunn is a professor in the Department of Psychology at the University of British Columbia. Dr. Dunn conducts experimental research examining how time, money, and technology shape human happiness. She is the co-author of "Happy Money: The Science of Happier Spending" with Dr. Michael Norton. Her research has been featured in The New York Times, Time, CNN, and more.

We've been trying to do a bunch of experiments here on this show, and our latest is a weekly newsletter, which you can sign up for here! To celebrate this new endeavor, we've put together a whole episode about risk taking and experimenting. We thought this would be helpful and educational while also giving you a fun peek behind the scenes (and also allowing us to be blatantly self-promotional in the process—a win/win!). In fact, this episode itself is experimental in its format, because we don't have a typical guest. I sat down with the show's Senior Editor Marissa Schneiderman—who has been collaborating with me on the newsletter—to talk about how we've been putting into practice the wisdom from some of our best guests, including Brené Brown, Adam Grant, Rick Rubin, Sarah Cooper. You can sign up for Dan Harris' Newsletter at: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast It's a weekly roundup of life hacks, cultural recommendations, pod news, and upcoming events. Related Episodes: Adam Grant on the Science of Potential and Achievement Legendary Record Producer Rick Rubin On: Creativity, Habits, Self-Doubt, Intuition and Meditation Comedian Sarah Cooper On: Humiliation, Perfectionism, and Taking Chances Vulnerability: The Key to Courage | Brené Brown How to Speak Clearly, Calmly, and Without Alienating People | Dan Clurman and Mudita Nisker Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/take-risks

One of our most frequent and popular guests talks about how to develop the character skills to discover your hidden potential. Adam Grant is an organizational psychologist at Wharton, where he has been the top-rated professor for seven straight years. His books have sold millions of copies, hisTED talks have been viewed more than 30 million times, and he hosts the hit podcastRe:Thinking. His viral piece on languishing was the most-read New York Times article of 2021. He has been recognized as one of the world's ten most influential management thinkers. In this episode we talk about: Why character skills are so important and how to develop them What we learn from seeking discomfort The concept of scaffolding as a way to overcome obstacles The value of acceptable mistakes And How to see the hidden potential in others and champion them Take Adam's Quiz: Which skill could unlock your potential? Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/adam-grant-hidden-potential

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Plus: Why Lama Rod is "no longer interested in being a good person," why we need to let go of perfectionism, and the selfish case for sainthood. Lama Rod Owens is making his fifth appearance on Ten Percent Happier. He describes himself as "a Black Buddhist Southern Queen" and is an authorized lama in the Kagyu School of Tibetan Buddhism with a Master of Divinity degree from Harvard. His new book is The New Saints: From Broken Hearts to Spiritual Warriors. In this episode we talk about: What Lama Rod means by "New Saint" Why he is "no longer interested in being a good person" Why it's so important to let go of the ideal of perfection The practices and characteristics of a New Saint The questions you should ask yourself about your beliefs His experiences with what he refers to as "unseen beings" and his exploration of the "unseen world" Related Episodes: Meditation Party: Magic, Mystery, Intuition, Tattoos, and Non-Efforting | Sebene Selassie and Jeff Warren Lama Rod's first appearance on Ten Percent Happier Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/lama-rod-owens-new-saints/lama-rod-owens-new-saints

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Understanding the difference between 'normal' forgetfulness and actual memory loss, practical ways to stave off Alzheimer's disease, and meditation's role in brain health. Lisa Genova has a Ph.D. in Neuroscience from Harvard University. She is the New York Times bestselling author of several novels including Still Alice—which was adapted into a film starring Julianne Moore who won the 2015 Best Actress Oscar for her role as Alice Howland, Love Anthony, and Every Note Played. Her first work of nonfiction is Remember: The Science of Memory and the Art of Forgetting. Genova's first TED talk, What You Can Do To Prevent Alzheimer's has been viewed over eight million times and her most recent TED talk, How Memory Works--and Why Forgetting is Totally OK was the sixth most watched TED talk of 2021. In this episode we talk about: The difference between 'normal' forgetting and actual memory loss The difference between dementia and Alzheimer's disease Meditation's role in brain health What the Memory Paradox is The best foods and types of exercise for staving off Alzheimer's The three things happening in your brain while you sleep that are helpful for memory Why brain games (like crossword puzzles and sudoku) don't actually improve memory The first necessary ingredient for creating a memory How memories are formed And the relationship between memories and music Related Episodes: Ten Percent Happier Podcast Sleep Series Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/lisa-genova

Our friend Dr. Michael Gervais at the Finding Mastery podcast is a renowned sports psychologist who found meditation by happenstance. We wanted to share this conversation he had with Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn about the mind/body interactions for healing and clinical applications for mindfulness meditation training. Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn is a Professor of Medicine emeritus at the University of Massachusetts Medical School, where in 1995 he founded the Center for Mindfulness in Medicine, Health Care, and Society and in 1979, its world-renowned Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) Clinic. Order Dr. Michael Gervais' new book here: https://findingmastery.com/book/ Listen to the Finding Mastery podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/finding-mastery/id1025326955

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- The host of On Being shares lessons learned from 20 years of interviews, including: how to live with open questions, counterprogramming against your negativity bias, and getting over the God question. Krista Tippett is a Peabody Award-winning broadcaster, a National Humanities Medalist, and a New York Times bestselling author. She grew up in a small town in Oklahoma, attended Brown University, and became a journalist and diplomat in Cold War Berlin. After studying theology at Yale Divinity School in the early 1990s, Tippett launched Speaking of Faith — later On Being — as a weekly national public radio show in 2003. She has published three books: Becoming Wise: An Inquiry into the Mystery and Art of Living; Einstein's God, drawn from her interviews at the intersection of science, medicine, and spiritual inquiry; and Speaking of Faith, a memoir of religion in our time. In this episode we talk about: Getting over the God question when it comes to contemplating religion Why Western culture has such a dearth of ways to talk about love Why she thinks the core of relationships is not about agreeing but about navigating differences Tuning into our generative agency Her definition of a wise life as distinct from a knowledgeable or accomplished on Why she believes it is as important to know what you love as it is to know what you hate Learning to love big open questions instead of rushing to answers Why the things we get paid to do may not define whether we're living a worthy life And getting our intentions straight and then trying not to tie them too tightly to our goals Other Resources Mentioned: Krista Tippett's TED Talk: 3 practices for a life of wisdom Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/krista-tippett