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Lisa Bilyeu sits down with former FBI hostage negotiator, Chris Voss, a man who’s spent decades navigating the minds of some of the most dangerous and manipulative people on the planet—including terrorists, criminals, narcissists, and psychopaths. In this incredibly insightful conversation, Chris unpacks the emotional and psychological tools he’s developed to outsmart even the most challenging personalities. Get ready to learn how to identify emotional triggers, use tactical empathy, and take control of high-stakes conversations—whether you’re facing a toxic boss, a manipulative partner, or just trying to stand your ground. Chris breaks down practical techniques like the illusion of control, the power of saying "no," and how simple questions can turn negotiations in your favor without raising alarm bells. Plus, Lisa and Chris dive into the emotional side of negotiations: how to stay calm when you’re triggered, why compromise often leads to disappointment, and why practicing your own internal “chatter” can prepare you for any confrontation. If you’re ready to master difficult dynamics and claim back your power, this episode is packed with actionable tools you can start using today. SHOWNOTES 00:00 "Using Negotiation Skills in Daily Life" 04:30 Using Passive Aggression for Control 06:42 Catching a Kidnapper with Questions 13:24 "Handling and Acknowledging Anger" 15:31 Flat Tone: Annoying Street Encounter 19:38 "Respect Drives Connection" 22:16 The Magic of Saying "You're Right" 24:58 "No Easy Way to Break Up" 27:37 Personal Dilemma and Perspective Shift 33:07 "Voice Tricks for Calm and Impact" 34:40 "Playful Attitude Beats Conflict" 39:36 Compromise: A Guaranteed Bummer? 42:11 Chasing Happiness: An Unpredictable Ride 45:08 "Dealing with the Mind's Chatter" 48:05 Cutting Ties with Toxic People 51:48 Negotiation Tips for Everyday Heroes CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠⁠⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠⁠⁠ Twitter: ⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠⁠⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lisa Bilyeu sits down with Vanessa Van Edwards—a behavioral investigator, bestselling author, and all-around expert in the science of people—for an unfiltered, practical, and refreshingly relatable conversation. Vanessa dives into why being smart and prepared isn’t always enough to make a lasting impression, sharing eye-opening stories from Shark Tank and research-backed tips you can use right away. From decoding body language and mastering the subtle art of digital communication, to navigating awkwardness at networking events and setting healthy boundaries without guilt, Vanessa brings her trademark blend of vulnerability and actionable advice. She opens up about her own struggles with people-pleasing and “fake it till you make it,” revealing how radical transparency and authenticity have transformed her life and career. Plus, get her insider hacks for reading social cues—on Zoom, on dates, in interviews—and creating stronger, warmer connections, even when life (or a pandemic) throws you curveballs. Whether you constantly feel underestimated, want to feel more confident in any room, or just need a pep talk about loving your awkward self, this episode is packed with the science, stories, and strategies to help you own your impact. Get ready to rethink what it really takes to be seen, heard, and respected—no Spanx required! SHOWNOTES 00:00 "Effective Panel Preparation Mindset" 07:29 Hot Button Conversations 11:28 "Priming Gender Skills Early" 18:21 Parenthood: From Ideals to Reality 23:24 Confidence and Personal Space Dynamics 30:10 Decoding Personal Space Signals 32:26 "Predicting Crushes by Toe Direction" 41:11 Contempt: Divorce's Key Indicator 44:29 Finding Purpose at Events 50:20 Priming for Successful Meetings 55:11 Embracing Awkwardness as Strength 59:26 "Hiding Our Truths" 01:06:06 Background Choices for Impression Management 01:10:16 Zoom Backgrounds as Personal Statements 01:15:32 The Other Shoe Effect 01:22:07 Zoom Etiquette: Show More Body 01:30:37 Virtual Culinary Experiences 01:31:47 "Missed Storytelling Opportunity with Props" CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠⁠⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠⁠⁠ Twitter: ⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠⁠⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this deeply moving episode of Women of Impact, host Lisa Bilyeu welcomes back the extraordinary poet and author Najwa Zebian for a conversation that goes right to the heart of healing and self-worth. If you’ve ever felt weighed down by emotional scars, struggled with people pleasing, or found yourself aching for validation from the wrong places, this episode is for you. Lisa and Najwa dive into the difficult, yet transformative process of acknowledging your pain, accepting your past without shame, and learning to speak to yourself with radical compassion. Najwa shares her hard-won wisdom on how to stop picking at old wounds and instead become the loving support you needed back when you were hurting most. With vulnerable stories, honest reflections, and actionable advice, Najwa shows us how to break free from cycles of self-blame and emotional debt. Whether you’re working on setting boundaries, letting go of past hurts, or learning to prioritize your own needs, this conversation is packed with “aha” moments. Grab your notebook—this is one of those episodes you’ll want to come back to again and again. And if it touches you, don’t forget to share it and leave a review to keep the impact going. Now, let’s dive into this powerful episode with the incomparable Najwa Zebian. SHOWNOTES 00:00 Transforming Scars into Motivation 09:39 Embracing Scars as Lessons 14:28 Overcoming People-Pleasing Tendencies 18:57 Empowering Your Healing Environment 25:01 Breaking Free from Self-Imposed Limits 28:33 Choosing Authenticity Over Approval 35:06 "Be Yourself, Not Their Perception" 41:54 The Cost of Toxic Love 44:41 Self-Validation and Independence 48:22 "This Too Shall Pass" 56:04 Healing Through Compassion and Clarity 01:02:26 Accumulated Unresolved Conflicts 01:08:28 From Reaction to Reflection 01:11:53 Healing Emotional Wounds 01:18:08 Self-Validation and Childhood Pain 01:24:00 Breaking Patterns, Embracing Self-Sufficiency 01:28:40 "Recognizing Unseen Patterns Without Judgment" 01:34:04 Rebuilding Self-Connection and Awareness 01:39:01 "Holistic Psychology's Core Beliefs" 01:43:56 "Practice Mindfulness with Phone Reminders" 01:48:25 "Inherited Suppression of Self-Expression" CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠⁠⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠⁠⁠ Twitter: ⁠⁠⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠⁠⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a Fan Fav episode. Lisa Bilyeu sits down with Dr. Emily Morse—renowned sex educator, host of the "Sex with Emily" podcast, and all-around confidence booster—for a candid conversation about building true confidence in and out of the bedroom. Emily shares why confidence isn’t a final destination but an ongoing journey rooted in self-awareness, acceptance, and healing from past relationships and limiting beliefs. Together, Lisa and Emily get real about body image, vulnerability, and the myth that someone else needs to "complete" us. They break down practical ways to boost body confidence, from mirror exercises to finding joy in movement and fostering positive self-talk. Get ready for honest strategies on dating, sex, and relationships—from why you should rethink that "body count" conversation, to reclaiming your right to pleasure and authentic communication with your partner. Plus, Emily and Lisa talk about aging, changing bodies, and how we can reprogram our minds for confidence at any stage of life. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling good in your skin, silencing your inner critic, or showing up authentically, this episode is a must-listen. Emily brings her trademark wisdom, warmth, and straight talk as she helps every woman realize: confidence isn’t just sexy—it’s your birthright. Original air date: 9-11-2022 SHOWNOTES 00:00 Embrace Being Single 12:51 Confidence in Authenticity 24:06 Overcoming Body Image Shame 35:38 "Exploring Mutual Pleasure in Relationships" 42:09 "Relationship Comfort and Challenges" 44:41 Reprogramming Sex-Negative Beliefs FOLLOW EMILY MORSE:Instagram: @sexwithemilyTwitter: @sexwithemilyYouTube: Sex with EmilyWebsite: sexwithemily.com CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit https://sleep.me/woi to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at https://oneskin.co ⁠⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠⁠ Twitter: ⁠⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a Fan Fav episode. There is something both sobering and chilling about being manipulated, especially by someone close to you. The feeling of betrayal and pain can leave you untrusting of everyone after that, and the emotional aftermath can lead to years of therapy or unhealthy behaviors. If you’re a ‘Yes’ to any of these, this episode is a must for you: Have fallen for people’s fake concern at the expense of invalidating yourself Felt suffocated by the weight of someone’s constant complaining Started questioning your version of reality because you were being gaslit The Boundary Boss and one of our favorite homies on Women of Impact, Terri Cole, is back for another round and this time she’s unpacking everything you need to never be tricked by manipulative people again! They want to get their way no matter what at your expense, and it’s your job to recognize it and put an end to it with the right boundaries in place. Terri Cole is a licensed therapist and bestselling author who helps women like you break the cycle of living without boundaries. It doesn’t matter who you are or what your past is, everyone deserves and needs boundaries to create and maintain healthy relationships. If you’re walking on eggshells at home, it’s time to sit up straight and pay attention. Original air date: 5-17-23 Check out Terri’s new book, Boundary Boss: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Boundary-Boss-Essential-Guide-Finally/dp/1683647688⁠ Follow Terri Cole: Website: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-OC1zN27enpTA_eNWB7dKw⁠ Podcast: ⁠https://www.terricole.com/podcast/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/terri_cole⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/terricole/⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/TerriColeLCSW/ CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Continuing the deep dive into protection and self-empowerment, Joe Navarro returns to expose the remaining “dangerous personalities”—from the clinically paranoid to the emotionally unstable and the narcissist. Joe and Lisa break down how these individuals manipulate, control, and undermine those around them, and offer tactical advice on naming behaviors, setting boundaries, and recognizing the subtle cues you may be missing. Lisa brings these lessons into the real world, as they discuss practical steps women can take to trust their intuition, safeguard their well-being, and reclaim their power in any relationship—romantic, professional, or otherwise. Learn actionable questions to ask, science-backed checklists, and get a clear-eyed view of the impact these behaviors can have on you and your loved ones. This is your masterclass in spotting red flags and building the self-trust and resilience you need to thrive. SHOWNOTES44:54 – The Cultural Undermining of Intuition55:27 – Everyday Examples: Power Imbalance in Family1:07:27 – Overvaluation of Self vs. Interest in Others 1:08:10 – Joe’s Mission and Where to Find His Work FOLLOW JOE NAVARRO:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/realjoenavarro/Twitter: https://twitter.com/joenavarrobodyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JoeNavarroBodyLanguageWebsite: https://www.joenavarro.net/ CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this powerful episode of Women of Impact, Lisa hosts Joe Navarro—former FBI agent, world-renowned body language expert, and bestselling author—to break open the science of spotting deception and protecting yourself from dangerous personalities. Drawing from his 25 years in counterintelligence and behavioral assessment, Joe unpacks the subtle physical and psychological cues that reveal stress, discomfort, and manipulation before words are ever spoken. Joe shares practical, science-backed strategies for reading body language in real-life situations, from dating and the workplace to high-stakes interrogations, and reveals why your gut instincts are your first and best line of defense. With riveting real-world stories and actionable tools, Joe arms listeners—especially women—with the knowledge and confidence to recognize red flags, trust their intuition, and stay safe. SHOWNOTES00:12 – The Science of Spotting Lies and Deception06:00 – Interrogation Techniques: Culpable Knowledge18:09 – Identifying Five Dangerous Personality Types23:26 – Rationalizing Toxic Behaviors30:12 – Predators in Positions of Power FOLLOW JOE NAVARRO:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/realjoenavarro/Twitter: https://twitter.com/joenavarrobodyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JoeNavarroBodyLanguageWebsite: https://www.joenavarro.net/ CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a Fan Fav episode. Matthew Hussey returns for his fourth conversation with me, and this time, we’re pulling back the curtain on the secrets—and illusions—of lasting love. Together, we unpack the intoxicating highs of lust, why so many of us mistake chemistry for commitment, and how you can finally spot the difference between short-lived thrill and real, long-term connection. With his usual blend of sharp insight, humor, and practical, no-BS truth, Matthew challenges everything you think you know about “compatibility,” affection, and why consistency—not fireworks—truly matters. Whether you’ve been burned by “bad boys,” stuck on unavailable partners, or just crave the peace that comes from authentic, secure love, this episode is your roadmap to re-writing those old stories and giving yourself the healthy relationship you actually deserve. SHOWNOTES Why we confuse lust, chemistry, and love in new relationships (00:00:29) The truth behind “love at first sight”—and why it’s often a story told by the victors (00:02:24) Attention vs. intention: How to recognize someone’s real investment in you (00:04:09) Why dazzling moments aren’t the real test—what matters on an average Tuesday (00:09:12) Why we chase inconsistency—and how scarcity tricks us into seeing value (00:17:41) The power of naming your needs, playfulness, and building a culture of honesty from day one (00:13:18) Letting go: How to heal, avoid vilifying your ex, and actually trust yourself again (00:34:35) Why communication, not perfection, will save your relationship as you both change (00:38:07) Curiosity and humility: The underrated tools for breaking old patterns and building true love (01:00:04) How to rebuild faith in dating after heartbreak, and Matthew’s advice for reclaiming your power (00:55:10) FOLLOW MATTHEW HUSSEY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thematthussey/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/gettheguyteam Website: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thematthewhussey CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a Fan Fav episode. You know those times when you find yourself lost in a fog of “shoulds”—feeling stuck, comparing yourself to others, and letting old stories hold you back? Yeah, you’re not alone. On this powerful episode, I sit down with the unstoppable Cynthia Pascuala Garcia, who’s not only lived through a traumatic childhood of poverty, addiction, and heartbreak, but has since rewritten her life from the inside out. Cynthia shares her signature “Stuck Story Coaching Method,” the psychology behind our limiting beliefs, and the crucial difference between seeking outside fixes versus doing the deep inner work. If you’re ready to drop the pressure, rewrite your own story, and finally get unstuck, this is the episode to play on repeat. SHOWNOTES 00:00 - The problem with all the “shoulds”—and why we numb out instead of healing 00:57 - Why we’re the authors of our own lives and how to change your inner story 04:01 - The huge impact of perspective: how your past shapes your present (and future) 06:01 - Why external distractions keep you stuck—and what happens when they're taken away 07:31 - The first step to true change: making real decisions and embracing discomfort 09:24 - How unconscious stories sabotage your progress and how to find their roots 17:32 - Cynthia’s “Stuck Story Coaching Method”—the five steps to rewiring your beliefs 29:02 - What if your story is true? How to move forward when the past is painful 34:48 - Rewriting your story isn’t a one-and-done—why compassion and repetition matter 41:22 - Caring what others think vs. staying true to yourself: Cynthia’s “Pluto” method FOLLOW CYNTHIA PASCUALA GARCIA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cynthiagarcia/ Website: https://www.cynthiagarcia.com/ Institute of Transformational Nutrition: https://transformationalnutrition.com/ Ready to dive deeper? Take Cynthia’s Stuck Story quiz and download her free workbook at her website! CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a Fan Fav episode. Stepping into radical honesty and self-love, Emily Morse joins me (Lisa Bilyeu) to explore the root causes of our insecurities—both in and out of the bedroom—and how to finally break free from toxic patterns in relationships. Emily’s signature empathy, real talk, and hands-on advice will help you create confidence from within, heal after heartbreak, and build connections rooted in true self-acceptance. With permission to be imperfect, practical mirror-work tips, and deep dives into navigating sex, vulnerability, and comparison traps, Emily guides us toward owning our desires and enjoying lasting, authentic intimacy. SHOWNOTES 00:01:08 – Why being single is the best time to get to know yourself and build real confidence 00:02:06 – Debunking the “you complete me” myth: becoming whole before seeking partnership 00:03:37 – Healing toxic relationship patterns: how therapy and reflection help you choose better 00:05:54 – Body acceptance, exposure exercises, and the journey from body shame to neutrality 00:07:59 – Confidence as the sexiest trait, even before you feel it: the “fake it till you make it” effect 00:10:15 – Sensual dance, movement, and embodying your pleasure in the bedroom 00:15:01 – Rewriting the negative self-talk tape: affirmations and the lifelong growth of confidence 00:23:18 – Questioning whose beliefs you carry—rejecting shame and reprogramming your own narrative 00:34:23 – Pleasing yourself first: becoming your own best lover for real relationship satisfaction 00:40:28 – Talking openly about sex: how real conversations fuel pleasure, trust, and long-term connection FOLLOW EMILY MORSE: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Website: https://www.sexwithemily.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/sexwithemily CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit https://sleep.me/woi to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at https://oneskin.co ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a Fan Fav episode. Sarah Jakes Roberts brings a raw honesty and magnetic vulnerability to this episode that truly moved me. We dive deep into some of her darkest battles—shame, self-worth, judgment, and those insidious whispers telling us we’re not enough. Sarah reveals how being pregnant at 14 and living as the very public daughter of Bishop T.D. Jakes shaped, challenged, and ultimately expanded her sense of what’s possible. Together, we peel back the layers on toxic thinking, betrayal, loving yourself after your lowest moments, and how to transform your “leftovers” into glory. Whether you feel lost, broken, or just in need of some truth-telling wisdom, Sarah delivers it straight. SHOWNOTES Sarah opens up about her struggles with worthiness, shame, and identity (00:00:08) The turning point: reframing scars as sources of wisdom instead of shame (00:02:29) Letting the poison out: why you must confront negative self-talk instead of hiding it (00:07:46) “The leftovers”: Sarah’s powerful analogy for creating abundance from what’s left after trauma (00:05:57) Building self-worth from the inside out and talking back to your inner critic (00:16:19) The impact of betrayal and reframing blame to fuel your own healing (00:33:13) How to draw boundaries—yes, even with family—and choose who qualifies to influence you (00:37:32) Incubating hope: how to protect and grow your inner dreams, even when no one else believes (00:25:54) From toxic relationships to flourishing partnership: Sarah’s journey to love and protecting your space (00:18:38) The definition of success, and daring to become the next version of yourself (00:43:00) FOLLOW SARAH JAKES ROBERTS: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahjakesroberts/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SarahJakesRoberts/ Website & Community: https://womanevolve.com/ You have to check out Sarah’s work—her book, her podcast, her voice—the transformation she evokes is next level. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lisa Bilyeu and intimacy expert Shan Boodram continue their deep dive into the art of seduction—moving from the signature personalities like “the Star” and “the Centerfold,” to building enduring wow factor and how to keep attraction alive in long-term relationships. Shan reveals how confidence is built not through massive, overwhelming change, but small “rivers of confidence” that are unique to your culture, personal style, and chosen sexual icon. Lisa and Shan discuss aging, attracting as your most authentic self, avoiding society’s ageist traps, and how to ground self-worth outside of fleeting appearance or sex appeal. They close with a frank conversation about the “seven year itch,” explaining why we lose the spark in relationships and exactly what to do about it—drawing from the latest science and real-world intimacy wisdom. Shan leaves listeners with practical, transformational advice on sexual self-ownership, pleasure, and how to reignite connection—both with your partner and yourself. SHOWNOTES35:02 The Centerfold — Gender-Bending, Nonconformity & Seductive Uniqueness45:16 How to Identify Your Unique Seduction Strengths56:00 Shan on Aging, Sexiness, and Sade as Her Next Icon1:06:39 The Work of Relationships: Keeping the Wow Factor Alive1:15:45 Shan’s Resources, Masterclass, and Where to Find Her FOLLOW SHAN BOODRAM:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodramTwitter: https://twitter.com/shanboodramWebsite: https://www.shanboodram.com/ CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit ⁠⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠⁠ OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠⁠ Twitter: ⁠⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this empowering first half of our two-part episode, host Lisa Bilyeu welcomes Shan Boodram—a certified intimacy expert, sexologist, author, and host—to unpack the art and science of seduction for women. Shan isn’t your average sexologist; she's here to debunk myths around seduction and reveal why true connection goes far deeper than any superficial tricks. Drawing inspiration from Robert Greene’s The Art of Seduction and her own clinical research, Shan shares the nine proven ways women can be highly seductive—and why each one works. As Lisa and Shan dive in, they reveal everything from the power of first impressions and the psychology behind the “siren,” to the overlooked potency of genuine interest and playing to your personal strengths. They also shine a light on the darker side of seduction—manipulation—and share actionable tips on building authentic confidence, owning your sexuality, and breaking free from societal norms. Whether you’re looking to harness your inner charm or simply show up more powerfully in your relationships, this episode is your blueprint. SHOWNOTES00:00 Introduction: Meet Shan Boodram, Intimacy Expert & Sexologist01:30 First Impressions: Warmth + Competence Formula12:45 Addiction, Inconsistent Reward, and the Sunk-Cost Fallacy21:55 How Your Inner Child Energy Attracts Others30:04 The Croquette — Mystery, Teasing, and Negging32:29 Living Apart Together: Creating Mystery in Relationships FOLLOW SHAN BOODRAM:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodramTwitter: https://twitter.com/shanboodramWebsite: https://www.shanboodram.com/ CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a Fan Fav episode. What up, homies? Lisa here, and today I am crazy excited to bring you a conversation with my total badass friend, Jenna Kutcher—CEO, mom, and host of the Gold Diggers podcast. We dive deep and get real about why so many women (including us!) end up stuck, unhappy, or living a life of “shoulds” instead of our truest desires. Jenna dishes the truth about people-pleasing, numbing out our feelings, ignoring the whispers inside us, and how we can get radically honest to become the hero of our own stories. Think of this episode as the pep talk—and the permission slip—you’ve been waiting for. SHOWNOTES 00:00 – How Lisa and Jenna’s friendship began with insecurity and mutual admiration 02:01 – Why so many women feel stuck and the power of asking, “How are you REALLY?” 04:55 – Why we’re scared to ask (or answer) the hard questions about our happiness 06:52 – Quick and simple ways to check in with yourself and tune into your body 08:01 – Unsent messages: Why ignoring your body and feelings is dangerous 13:01 – The “wake-up call” moment and how Jenna realized she needed to make a change 16:14 – Visualizing your life five years from now—and if you really want it 19:08 – How to create a safe space for honest self-reflection and feeling your emotions 42:30 – Boundaries as the hero of your life: Why saying “no” keeps you in alignment 47:24 – The myth of momentum, “shoulds,” and trusting yourself to set boundaries FOLLOW JENNA KUTCHER: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jennakutcher/ Website: https://jennakutcher.com Book: https://howareyoureallybook.com Podcast: Goal Digger Podcast (https://jennakutcherblog.com/category/goal-digger-podcast/) FOLLOW LINDSEY STIRLING: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lindseystirling/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/LindseyStirling⁠ Website: ⁠https://www.lindseystirling.com/⁠ CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a Fan Fav episode. Ever found yourself spiraling into a cycle of comparison that leaves your confidence in tatters? You’re not alone, homie. In this episode, I (Lisa) sit down with the amazing Melissa Ambrosini for an unfiltered conversation on “comparisonitis,” that self-destructive habit we all struggle with. Melissa doesn’t just bring empathy and her own raw stories—from harrowing moments as a dancer to her challenges with motherhood—she drops a tactical, four-step ACES framework to interrupt the self-comparison spiral. Together, we get radically real on body image, self-sabotage, social media triggers, breaking generational cycles, and modeling self-love for our kids. If you’re desperate for practical steps to finally stop comparing and start thriving as the best version of YOU, this is your antidote. SHOWNOTES 00:01:25 – Melissa relives the brutal world of dance auditions and how constant comparison slowly chipped away her self-worth 00:04:04 – How disordered eating and depression can be a fallout of comparison (and Melissa’s journey to healing) 00:06:49 – The epidemic of body comparison in the age of social media—and why boundaries matter 00:12:24 – The ACES technique: Melissa’s four-step tool to reset your mindset in moments of comparison 00:18:04 – Melissa’s personal story of infertility, supporting friends, and the power of “eliminating the trigger” 00:29:47 – Radical communication: How to honor where you are without letting shame destroy relationships 00:41:14 – The danger of numbing and self-sabotage as ways to avoid difficult emotions 00:44:54 – How to reframe your self-talk and break free from childhood comparison stories 00:48:32 – The final step: Shifting your state and anchoring your energy in self-worth 00:54:34 – Where to find the “antidote” to comparisonitis and keep healing with Melissa FOLLOW MELISSA AMBROSINI:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissaambrosiniWebsite (books, meditations, podcast): https://melissaambrosini.comPodcast: The Melissa Ambrosini ShowComparisonitis Book: https://melissaambrosini.com/comparisonitis FOLLOW LINDSEY STIRLING: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lindseystirling/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/LindseyStirling⁠ Website: ⁠https://www.lindseystirling.com/⁠ CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fan Favorite: This episode originally aired on: November 16, 2022. What up, homies! It's your girl Lisa Bilyeu, and welcome back to the Women of Impact podcast, where we dive deep and come out stronger. Today, you're in for a mind-blowing episode with the incredible, resilient, and ever-inspiring Lindsey Stirling! If you've ever felt crushed by life's adversities or worried that you're not good enough, then this episode is for you. Lindsey, the sensational dancing violinist, opens up about being told she wasn't good enough on national television, and how she overcame that crushing moment to become the powerhouse she is today. She's also getting real with us about her struggles with anorexia and mental health and shares her journey to self-love and healing. Ladies, we're diving deep into not just picking ourselves back up but totally owning our stories. Lindsey is here with some amazing nuggets on resilience, handling criticism, and finding the strength to be your true self. So grab that notebook and pen because Lindsey Stirling is about to drop some serious wisdom on how to own your life and your impact. SHOWNOTES 00:00 Rising Above: Lindsey Stirling's Triumph 05:31 Journey to Mastery 14:28 Embracing the Impossible 20:51 Silent Struggle with Self-Hate 23:44 Obsessive Thoughts About Eating 27:23 The Illusion of Weight and Happiness 32:54 Rewiring Self-Perception 38:12 "Finding Strength in a North Star" 48:25 The Dual Power of Gratitude 49:18 Balancing Gratitude with Ambition 59:39 Recognizing and Overcoming Abuse 01:03:24 Realization and Breakup After Show 01:07:32 Unique Christmas Album Takes on Classics 01:11:17 "Angels Inspire and Guide Me" FOLLOW LINDSEY STIRLING: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lindseystirling/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/LindseyStirling Website: https://www.lindseystirling.com/ CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit https://sleep.me/woi to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at https://oneskin.co ****************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact ****************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a Fan Fav episode. I’m diving deep with licensed therapist and boundary-building powerhouse Nedra Glover Tawwab to break down the sneaky, destructive patterns of gaslighting and how you can take your power back. If you’ve ever questioned your own sanity, found yourself apologizing when it’s not your fault, or felt stuck replaying “should have said” conversations in your head—this is the episode you can’t afford to miss. With Nedra’s signature clarity, honesty, and actionable advice, we cover how to spot manipulation in real time, the critical difference between assertiveness and aggression, the core role childhood plays in our conflict style, and—most importantly—how to cultivate the unshakeable confidence to set boundaries and reclaim your peace. SHOWNOTES 00:00 – The subtle signs of gaslighting and how to spot manipulative behaviors early 00:53 – Building the confidence to stand up for yourself in toxic relationships 02:12 – Why questioning your own sanity may signal gaslighting—and how to reality-check yourself 05:23 – The hidden cost of always apologizing (even when it’s not your fault) 07:35 – Classic gaslighting tactics: Deflection, lack of apology, and rewriting history 10:47 – The danger of taking on all the blame: Patterns, self-betrayal, and breaking the cycle 14:59 – How Nedra found the courage to finally stop apologizing for things that weren’t hers 19:54 – Nedra’s “practice makes progress” approach to building assertiveness 23:27 – Assertive vs. aggressive: How to stand up for yourself without crossing the line (and what to do when you’re unfairly labeled) 27:58 – Breaking free from people-pleasing: Owning your preferences and ditching the need to “win” every fight FOLLOW NEDRA GLOVER TAWWAB: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nedratawab/ Website: https://www.nedratawab.com/ Book: Set Boundaries, Find Peace: https://www.nedratawab.com/set-boundaries-find-peace CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit https://sleep.me/woi to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at https://oneskin.co ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In Part 2 of our deep-dive conversation with Dr. Thema Bryant, Lisa Bilyeu continues to explore the essential steps to healing your heart and elevating your sense of self. This episode addresses the complexities of forgiveness—untangling it from forced reconciliation and explaining why wisdom and boundaries are vital in protecting your peace. Dr. Thema also gives actionable advice on how to navigate toxic family dynamics, overcome self-blame, and practice self-compassion. Shifting gears, the discussion heads into the world of dating after heartbreak, with Dr. Thema outlining not just the “red flags,” but—importantly—the “green lights” that indicate healthy, fulfilling relationships. From emotional safety, vulnerability, and self-awareness to fun, balance, and mutual support, she details the traits to seek in both yourself and others for thriving love. The episode wraps with practical tips from Dr. Thema’s book on building authentic connection, loving yourself first, and setting up your life for sustainable joy—no matter where you are in your healing journey. SHOWNOTES 22:05 How society pressures victims, not offenders, about forgiveness 23:55 Why victim-blaming silences survivors 25:19 Navigating fear, guilt, and “forced forgiveness” with parents and partners 28:10 Redefining your role in your family of origin 30:20 How to forgive yourself and practice self-compassion 33:06 Self-sabotage: carrying survival strategies into new seasons 34:59 How awkward and uncomfortable healing can feel 36:11 Venturing into dating: Red flags vs. green lights 36:26 The 15 green light traits for healthy relationships 39:24 Do political and core beliefs matter in compatibility? 41:24 Navigating vulnerability—being open without manipulation 45:06 Physical and emotional safety as the foundation of intimacy 48:26 Time, investment, and sustaining connection 51:27 Balancing independence and togetherness 54:06 Spotting when a partner is undermining your shine 56:57 Negotiating happiness and when "hard work" is the wrong kind 59:12 Tactical steps to "upgrade your love life": Daily self-love, nature, boundaries, creativity, affirmation, routines, and more 1:04:25 Where to find Dr. Thema Bryant and resources for deeper healing FOLLOW DR. THEMA BRYANT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.thema/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.thema Website: https://www.drtaymabryant.com Podcast: The Homecoming Podcast CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit https://sleep.me/woi to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at https://oneskin.co ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this powerful episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu welcomes the trailblazing psychologist, author, and current President of the American Psychological Association, Dr. Thema Bryant. Renowned for her expertise in trauma recovery and healing, Dr. Thema joins Lisa to dive into the realities of heartbreak, betrayal, and emotional pain—and, most importantly, how to begin rebuilding your sense of self after it all feels shattered. Dr. Thema unpacks why recognizing and accepting our pain is the first step toward genuine healing, dismantling the lies we’ve been told about ourselves, and stepping out of shame and denial. From discussing the damaging waiting game for an apology, to offering insights from narrative therapy, she guides listeners to reclaim agency in their lives and shift their internal narratives. If you’ve struggled with toxic hope, anger, or the burden of forgiveness, this episode is packed with essential truths to help you break free. SHOWNOTES 00:00 What to do when your heart is broken 00:32 The importance of admitting you're hurting 01:32 The danger of denial and how it feeds shame 02:32 Healing and the ripple effect on your relationships 03:11 Surrounding yourself with the right people 03:29 Why waiting for an apology keeps you stuck 04:41 Restorying your life through narrative therapy 05:46 Moving from “why” to “what now” 06:17 Dismantling core negative beliefs 07:11 How to detect the lies you’ve absorbed 08:31 The “hope as handcuffs” trap 09:26 Differentiating between joint and solo hope in relationships 10:45 Recognizing empty words vs. changed behavior 11:47 The double-edged sword of anger and revenge 12:22 Constructive vs. destructive anger 13:49 Breaking the revenge spiral and centering yourself 16:06 Real-world examples of holding on to old wounds 17:05 External messages and body image: it's not all your fault 18:30 Forgiveness redefined: forgetting, speed, and reconciliation FOLLOW DR. THEMA BRYANT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.thema/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.thema Website: https://www.drtaymabryant.com Podcast: The Homecoming Podcast CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit https://sleep.me/woi to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at https://oneskin.co ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a Fan Fav episode. I’m sitting down again with the incredible Dr. Nicole LePera—The Holistic Psychologist—for a radically honest conversation about self-sabotage, self-betrayal, and how our subconscious habits keep us stuck for YEARS if we don’t wake up and intervene. Dr. Nicole doesn’t just break down the science; she offers the practical tools and tiny first steps you need to start making change, even if you’ve failed a thousand times before. With her signature compassion and “no more hiding” approach, Nicole shows us how overthinking, meaningless routines, and people-pleasing quietly sabotage our dreams. But, most importantly, she gives you a roadmap out. It’s time to reconnect to that inner voice, build unstoppable self-trust, and finally become the hero of your own life—no matter your history. SHOWNOTES 00:01 – What self-sabotage REALLY is and why “overthinking” betrays your inner wisdom 00:11 – Where self-betrayal comes from: The subconscious’s addiction to the familiar 00:27 – Creating space from your thoughts: Why you don’t need to “think less,” just think differently 00:41 – The daily “small promises” that actually break the cycle of self-defeat 00:55 – Overwhelm and emotional safety: How to start healing without retraumatizing yourself 01:15 – Self-sabotage vs. self-betrayal: How ignoring your needs ends up running your entire life 01:29 – Building ongoing self-awareness and spotting your own “tells” 01:52 – Navigating relationships as your needs (and self) evolve—and why communication is everything 02:15 – Meaning as your anchor: How reconnecting with purpose pulls you out of any spiral 02:36 – Why you’re not “broken,” and how tiny acts of self-trust change everything FOLLOW DR. NICOLE LEPERA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist/ Website: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/ Book: How to Do the Work Join the SelfHealers Community: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/selfhealers-circle/ CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a Fan Fav episode. From growing up in a world where women were told to disappear and serve—and taught their worth was only found in silence and subservience—to writing a book called Brazen and stepping into the world as an empowered entrepreneur, Julia Haart’s story is one of radical transformation, resilience, and the relentless pursuit of freedom. In this episode, I sit down with Julia to uncover how she faced—and still faces—the deeply ingrained fears and shame of her upbringing, how she redefined her worth, and her honest truth that confidence isn’t the absence of fear, but having the courage to act anyway. With raw stories, stubborn hope, and practical wisdom, Julia lays out how to break free from limiting beliefs, rewrite your narrative, and boldly claim your own power—even when every part of you wants to retreat to the background. SHOWNOTES Growing up trained to disappear: why invisibility was the measure of a “good” woman (00:00:00) The spiritual “high” of self-negation—and its hidden costs (00:04:21) Confronting core beliefs: discovering your cage is made of thoughts, not steel (00:08:13) Small rebellions that matter: fighting back by refusing to be uncomfortable for someone else’s rules (00:17:25) Surviving the impossible: why Julia didn’t give up—thanks to her daughter’s courage (00:21:15) The lifelong process of “deprogramming” and how even Julia still catches herself people-pleasing (00:34:17) Forgiveness, patience, and living as a work in progress—letting go of shame bit by bit (00:38:17) Taking bold leaps while still feeling fear: what it really means to be “brazen” and how to attack new opportunities (00:43:14) Why being a lifelong learner is non-negotiable for growth and reinvention (00:46:39) Final lessons: why your only fence is in your mind, and it’s time to break free (00:30:02, referenced later in conversation) FOLLOW JULIA HAART: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/juliahaart Book: Brazen, available at major booksellers including Barnes & Noble TV show: My Unorthodox Life on Netflix CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a Fan Fav episode. When life knocks you down—how do you get back up? In this episode, I'm joined by Rachel Hollis, whose name is synonymous with resilience. We dig deep into everything it really takes to rise stronger from heartbreak, setbacks, and the toughest chapters of our lives. Rachel gets real about her own journey—surviving a tumultuous childhood, tragedies, business failures, divorce, and the public eye. More importantly, she lays out the exact steps that helped her build an unbreakable sense of strength, self-trust, and the courage to evolve—again and again. Whether you’ve lost faith in yourself, are battling negative self-talk, or wonder if you’ll ever feel whole again, this conversation is packed with practical wisdom, vulnerable stories, and the unapologetic truth every woman needs to hear to keep showing up and become the hero of her own life. SHOWNOTES 0:00 – Why building resilience is the ultimate superpower for women 3:16 – How looking back at your own history can unlock your strength 7:24 – The price of not processing pain, shame, or mistakes 11:10 – Getting up for others vs. healing for yourself: breaking the codependency cycle 17:38 – Rachel’s secret: Evolution as her core value, and how it fuels resilience 26:51 – Learning to trust your gut after it’s been broken, and training self-intuition 52:03 – The powerful impact of emotional eating and how to break the shame cycle 1:23:35 – When brain fog and hormone imbalances cripple our self-worth 1:46:46 – Why understanding your cycle isn’t optional—it’s your 5th vital sign 1:52:13 – The key to real resilience: Knowing, loving, and rooting for yourself—one step at a time FOLLOW RACHEL HOLLIS: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/msrachelhollis/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/msrachelhollis Website: https://thehollisco.com/ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-rachel-hollis-podcast/id1245763628 CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. SleepMe: Visit https://sleep.me/woi to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a Fan Fav episode. You think you can spot a lie? Think again. In this episode, I’m joined by the incredible Vanessa Van Edwards—body language and human behavior expert, and founder of Science of People. Vanessa lays out the five fundamental cues to help you spot deception, debunks what you think you know about liars, and walks us through real-life tactics to not only detect lies, but to make sure we come across as our most honest and confident selves. From the science behind morning honesty and the power of congruence, to the difference between nervousness and deception, get ready for tangible, game-changing habits you can use right away. Grab your notebook, this is one you’ll keep coming back to. SHOWNOTES The shocking statistics: Why we misdetect lies 46% of the time 00:02:05 – The "Morning Morality Effect": Why morning is the best time for honesty 00:04:20 – The Pollyanna Principle: How assuming the best actually makes you a sharper liespotter 00:05:24 – Congruence: The number one cue liars can't fake 00:12:07 – Baselining and nervous baselining: How to set a “truth benchmark” for everyone you meet 00:19:15 – Red flags: 30+ behavioral clues that signal deception 00:28:08 – Why a single cue isn’t enough—look for clusters of three in body language 00:29:59 – Circling back and confirmation questions: Tactics to get to the truth with grace 00:41:05 – Laying out “truth rules” in relationships and how to create honest communication 00:47:31 – Shame touches and lip purses: Nonverbal cues that reveal discomfort, embarrassment, or withheld truth FOLLOW VANESSA VAN EDWARDS:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwardsTwitter: https://twitter.com/vvanedwardsWebsite: https://www.scienceofpeople.comBook: Cues by Vanessa Van Edwards (Amazon)Lie Detection Course: https://www.scienceofpeople.com Ready to become your own lie detector? Listen in and start spotting the truth—everywhere. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Continuing the masterclass on confident communication, Part 2 of Lisa Bilyeu’s transformative interview with Kwame Christian dives even deeper into the actionable side of navigating life’s toughest conversations. This half is your tactical toolkit for boundary-setting, breaking free from people-pleasing, and leveling up your negotiation skills—both with others and with yourself. Kwame and Lisa walk through the overlooked power of having a conversation “about the conversation”—from inviting others into dialogue with respect for timing, to tackling the tricky dynamics of dueling truths and differing upbringings. You’ll discover how to pivot conflicts into cooperative journeys, decode body language for deeper understanding, and master the art of healthy detachment in the face of disrespect. Plus, Kwame reveals the core negotiation issue most women face (and how to finally advocate for what you truly want), the script for when someone refuses to listen, and the surprising power of indifference. Insightful, practical, and empowering, this episode leaves you ready to be the hero of your own life—no matter who’s on the other side of the table. SHOWNOTES32:41 Moving From Blame to Collaboration: Real-Life Relationship Examples40:43 Negotiating Your True Wants vs. Society’s Expectations46:11 Negotiating with Your Own & Others’ Inner Toddlers52:00 The Two Worlds: Internal State vs. What You Say1:12:16 Lessons in Self-Respect and the Power of Indifference FOLLOW KWAME CHRISTIAN:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kwamechristian/Twitter: https://twitter.com/Kwame_ChristianPodcast: Negotiate AnythingLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kwamechristianWebsite: https://www.americannegotiationinstitute.com/ CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ BIOptimizers: Head to⁠ https://bioptimizers.com/impact ⁠and use code IMPACT for 10% off. OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ SleepMe: Visit ⁠https://sleep.me/woi⁠ to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lisa Bilyeu is joined by two powerhouse guests: Dr. Ann Burgess, a pioneering criminal profiler who helped shape the way the FBI tracks predators, and renowned attorney Karen Conti, whose experience spans defending some of the most infamous criminal minds. Together, they unravel the verdict in the highly controversial Sean “Diddy” Combs trial, where Diddy was found not guilty on three out of five serious charges, including sex trafficking—leaving many questioning whether justice was truly served or if power protected the powerful once again. Lisa, Dr. Ann, and Karen dive deep into what happened in the courtroom, shedding light on the complicated realities of coercion, consent, and the manipulation so often at play in cases involving abusive power dynamics. They discuss how the defense’s strategies, jury demographics, and society’s collective misunderstandings about coercive control may have influenced the outcome, and what needs to change to better support survivors and educate the public—especially juries—about these forms of abuse. Despite the heartbreak over not-guilty verdicts, the episode also highlights the significance of the guilty charges and the bravery of women like Cassie and “Jane” who came forward, risking everything to break the silence. This conversation is a call to action: to keep learning, to keep supporting survivors, and to make sure this isn’t a story that repeats itself. SHOWNOTES 00:00 Understanding Jurors' Perception Challenges 07:14 Unusual Leadership Dynamics Analyzed 13:25 Jane's Case: Legal vs. Illegal 21:22 "Yes People Enable Abusers" 33:35 "Psychology and Testimony Analysis" 44:00 "Championing Survivors' Voices" CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out. Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa BIOptimizers: Head to https://bioptimizers.com/impact and use code IMPACT for 10% off. OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at https://oneskin.co SleepMe: Visit https://sleep.me/woi to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices