Two Therapists Talking

David & Sherie talk about the four things that really hurt relationships: criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. Learn more about what those things are, how they show up, and why we want to avoid them!

David & Sherie finish talked about mourning and grieving by talking about healthy and unhealthy depression and acceptance, the final two stages in the traditional process of denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally acceptance.

David & Sherie continue talking about grieving in healthy ways, covering anger and bargaining. We will continue to talk about depression and acceptance in future episodes!

David & Sherie begin talking about grieving and how to do it well, or how to release and move through it sooner or more effectively. This will begin a series of episodes following the well know DABDA model of grieving: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

David & Sherie finish talking about borderline and what to do to help and encourage someone struggling with it.

David & Sherie start to talk about another important relationship dynamic that might include borderline personality disorder, referred to simply as borderline. What does it look like, what's behind it, and eventually, what can we do with it?

David & Sherie finish talking about the equation for sobriety by finishing the final items: sobriety = self-worth + overcoming addiction enabling patterns + motivation + tools + accountability + consequences. Discover what's missing in order to better establish and maintain sobriety in your life!

David & Sherie talk about what the actual equation is for sobriety and more about each item. Sobriety = self-worth + overcoming addiction enabling patterns + motivation + tools + accountability + consequences. We begin to go into each one of these to help you discover what's missing for you if you're not sober!

David & Sherie begin talking about sobriety and what it is, and how it's the beginning of the recovery process. We talk about what it is and what it isn't, what white knuckling is and begin a conversation on how to get sober long-term.

David & Sherie talk about creating a marriage contract that helps guide the relationship and teaches both partners about the needs of their spouse. Good for rebuilding as well as starting at the beginning!

David & Sherie talk about how trust and safety in the relationship isn't all or nothing, and this can actually hinder recovery, reconciliation and healing. What are the different levels and how can we think about this? This episode will help with this concept.

David & Sherie finish talking about steps to come out of victimhood including personal safety versus relationship safety and finding ultimate meaning from hard things that have happened in the relationship.

David & Sherie talk about specific steps to take in order to come out of victimhood and into a healthier, better place. This includes having empathy and differentiating between unwilling and unable and other helpful tools. This is part 1 of 2 to finish our series on victimhood.

David & Sherie start to talk about how to make meaning out of meaning and how to use this to move from victim to survivor to creator. We also recommend the book The Choice by Edith Eger and how to create positive meaning from negative experiences.

David & Sherie continue talking about the negatives of being in a victim stance or remaining in victimhood. We will then follow up on what to do about it!

David & Sherie talk about the downsides of being in victimhood and why it's not what it's cracked up to be. This is the first part of two episodes.

David & Sherie talk about what victimhood is and how to know if you or someone else might be in it, or what characteristics define being in a victim stance. This comes before we talk about why it can be so dangerous to growth.

David and Sherie begin a conversation about victimhood, and how to avoid being in victimhood despite being a legitimate victim of betrayal or other situation.

David & Sherie review some ways to deal with being in a relationship with someone who is NPD using BIFF (brief, informative, friendly, and firm) and other techniques.

David & Sherie talk about aspects of the NPD cycle, or how they engage with other people. This will help you to recognize even more if you're caught in these patterns.

David & Sherie talk now about how to deal with people who struggle with narcissism and how to try to manage through challenging relationships.

David & Sherie continue talking about narcissism and different classifications or manifestations of it and what it means in relationships.

David & Sherie start to explore what narcissism is and how to spot it. This is the first in a series where we explore not only what it is but how to deal with someone who is a narcissist.

David & Sherie finish talking about parenting as we've spent some time on different ways to help parent your children and this is the final principles we want to share.

David & Sherie continue talking about important parenting principles that will make a difference if you implement them!

David & Sherie continue talking about parenting and how best to parent with confidence to help your children receive what they need.

David and Sherie continue talking about parenting and consistency and other helpful concepts.

David and Sherie talk about parenting and how to overcome our weaknesses as we have children and learn how to best approach this important and challenging aspect of life and growth.

David & Sherie continue talking about how to best communicate with as much empathy and understanding as possible, including a great quote by Richard Rohr.

David & Sherie continue talking about the most helpful phrases couples can use and concepts they can understand to improve the ever-present communication challenges in most relationships.

David and Sherie talk about what healthy communication is and how to do a better job of it, specifically using empathy. We end on some great empathy statements we can use in conversation that really work!

David and Sherie talk about what EMDR and ART are, how they work, and when and why you might do these trauma interventions. They work, so you should consider these in your recovery process!

David and Sherie finish talking about anxiety, specifically interventions that will further help after everything else that's been addressed. You will officially be an expert afterwards!

David & Sherie continue talking about anxiety management techniques with even more tools and interventions that can help! Practice using some of these to make a difference in your life.

David & Sherie continue talking about anxiety management techniques, this time discussing how to start with the body and calming the body before we're able to use thoughts to help manage our feelings.

David & Sherie follow up the last episode on anxiety management techniques by talking about top-down, thought-first approaches that can help you find safety and come out of anxiety. Next episode we will talk about bottom-up or body-first approaches.

David & Sherie talk about anxiety and how to create a lifestyle that will help to minimize the anxiety in your life. We will continue this topic through several more episodes as we explore top-down and bottom-up approaches to managing your anxiety.

David & Sherie finish talking about how we can increase our sense of self-worth or self-esteem. Implement these concepts into your life to make all the difference!

David & Sherie follow up our shame episode with how to combat it, by increasing our sense of self-worth. Be ready to take notes and implement what we talk about!

David & Sherie talk about how shame shows up in relationships and why managing your shame may be the key to healthy couples.

David & Sherie talk about the most important attitude to have when your spouse is struggling with addiction and trying to recover. Your approach can make all the difference, but it's about you, not them!

David & Sherie talk about how addiction is a lack of connection and environment matters a great deal. Helpful for spouses who misunderstand addiction as a lack of love or caring.

David & Sherie talk about the law of attraction and how like attracts like and the positive energy of this process makes a real difference in your life. How do we do it and why?

David & Sherie continue talking about forgiveness with an emphasis on how and share more of the benefits of letting go.

David & Sheri talk about her recent accident and forgiveness and what an attitude of forgiveness feels like and why positive energy matters!

September is suicide awareness month, and David and Sherie talk about suicide and what it means and how to approach it more effectively.

David and Sherie finish talking to guest speaker Mariann Adams who helps us understand how to implement breathing to improve our quality of life. Mariann's book is Boost core power and bust anxiety and her website is findcorepower.com.

David and Sherie have their first guest speaker Mariann Adams who helps us understand the research that's being done on the effects of trauma on our heart rate and brains and why that's important. This is a fascinating episode you'll be happy to learn! Mariann's book is Boost core power and bust anxiety and her website is findcorepower.com.

David & Sherry finish talking about healthy sexuality in detail and describing body processes in ways that are uplifting and honor our bodies. To learn more about Sheri's book, go here: https://www.amazon.com/Body-Gift-God-Introducing-Conversations/dp/0997966904/ref=cmcrarpdproduct_top?ie=UTF8

David & Sherry continue talking about healthy sexuality and how to talk about the menstrual cycle and why this can lay the foundation for the subject of sex. To learn more about Sheri's book, go here: https://www.amazon.com/Body-Gift-God-Introducing-Conversations/dp/0997966904/ref=cmcrarpdproduct_top?ie=UTF8