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A former NASA astronomer explains what time REALLY is and why everything you believe about it might be wrong.From relativity to free will, this conversation will change how you see reality forever.In Episode 79 of The Struggle, I sit down with former NASA astronomer Sten Odenwald to explore one of the most mind-bending questions in existence:What is time?We break down:- Why there is no universal “now”- The difference between subjective time and physical time- How relativity proves time isn’t what we think- Whether time travel is actually possible - The relationship between time and free will- Why the future may not be predetermined- What happens to time at the Big Bang - Why time might not even exist inside atomsThis is one of the most fascinating conversations I’ve ever had — and one that will genuinely change how you think about your life.The Essential Book Of Time by Sten Odenwald Is Now Available In Most Book Shops 📱 Get In TouchInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/gregorsthomson/Tiktok -https://www.tiktok.com/@gregor.s.thomson?_t=8ioMNLUnA25&_r=1Email - [email protected]📺 Watch The StruggleYouTube - https://youtube.com/@GregorSThomson?si=wTfFwPVYKhJxKAsD—If you enjoyed this, subscribe for more conversations on psychology, philosophy, and breaking free from limitation. #time #nasa #physics #philosophy #freewill #relativity #podcast

What makes someone truly disciplined? In this episode of The Struggle, I sit down with Diren Kartal to talk about productivity, resilience, fatherhood, coaching, discipline, handling failure, building a business, and why success means more than money.Diren shares how growing up in East London shaped his mindset, why hearing “no” made him mentally bulletproof, what young men need to hear more of, how to deal with negativity online, and why family, purpose, health, and self-awareness matter more than clout.We also talk about:how struggle can build resiliencewhy progress isn’t loud when you’re living itsocial media, influence, and bringing real valuethe “freedom fallacy” and chasing peace in the futuremorning routines, fatherhood, and enjoying the simple thingswhat it really takes to build something meaningful over yearsIf you’re trying to build a better life, become more disciplined, get fitter, think more clearly, or create something meaningful, this conversation is for you.Follow Diren Kartal on Instagram📺 Watch The StruggleYouTube - https://youtube.com/@GregorSThomson?si=wTfFwPVYKhJxKAsD📱 Get In TouchInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/gregorsthomson/Tiktok -https://www.tiktok.com/@gregor.s.thomson?_t=8ioMNLUnA25&_r=1Email - [email protected] for more conversations on discipline, meaning, ambition, self-development, psychology, and modern life.#DirenKartal #Discipline #SelfImprovement #Productivity #Fatherhood #Masculinity #Mindset #Success #Resilience #TheStrugglePodcast

Louis Theroux’s new documentary Inside the Manosphere has sparked huge debate — but I think it reveals something much bigger about masculinity, social media, and the crisis facing young men. In this episode of The Struggle, I give my honest reaction to the Netflix documentary, discussing figures like Myron Gaines, the rise of manosphere influencers, and the deeper cultural forces behind the phenomenon. While the rhetoric in the documentary is often disturbing and misogynistic, the wider issue is far more complex. Why are young men drawn to this content? What role do social media algorithms play? And why does the conversation around men’s issues so often become polarised? This episode explores: • Louis Theroux’s Inside the Manosphere • The rise of manosphere influencers • Myron Gaines and Fresh & Fit • Why young men are drawn to this content • The impact on relationships and society • Why the conversation around masculinity has become so polarised This is an unscripted reaction episode discussing statements made in the documentary and exploring the wider cultural conversation around masculinity, social media, and identity. 🎙 Subscribe for weekly conversations on psychology, philosophy, and the struggle to live a meaningful life. Thumbnail image: promotional image from Inside the Manosphere (Netflix).— #manosphere #louisstheroux #masculinity #podcast #psychology 📱 Get In Touch Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/gregorsthomson/ Tiktok -https://www.tiktok.com/@gregor.s.thomson?_t=8ioMNLUnA25&_r=1 Email - [email protected]

John McClarey joins me on Episode 77 of The Struggle to talk about building Business Fives from scratch, what it really takes to grow a business over years, and what happened behind the scenes before stepping into Dragon’s Den.We talk about:how he started the business in 2016taking action before things feel perfectproductivity, prioritisation, and focus timethe 1-2-3 / 1-3-5 frameworkGetting Things Done and the 2-minute rulethe full Dragon’s Den application and pitch processpublic speaking, preparation, and pressuremotivation vs dedicationmeditation, journaling, breathwork, and morning routines and entrepreneurship is actually like behind the scenes.If you’re interested in entrepreneurship, self-development, productivity, mindset, Dragon’s Den, or building something meaningful, this episode is for you.Guest: John McClareyPodcast: The Struggle with Gregor ThomsonSubscribe for more conversations on psychology, philosophy, ambition, discipline, freedom, and building a meaningful life.#DragonsDen #Entrepreneurship #Productivity #BusinessPodcast #SelfDevelopmentReferences mentioned in this episodeThe Lean Startup — Eric RiesEssentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less — Greg McKeownGetting Things Done / GTD — David AllenThe Miracle Morning — Hal ElrodMiracle Morning Millionaires — Hal Elrod, David Osborn, Honoree CorderTools of Titans — Tim FerrissInsight Timer — meditation app mentioned by John McClareyDragon’s Den — BBC television seriesBusiness Fives — John McClarey’s business📺 Watch The StruggleYouTube - https://youtube.com/@GregorSThomson?si=wTfFwPVYKhJxKAsD📱 Get In TouchInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/gregorsthomson/Tiktok -https://www.tiktok.com/@gregor.s.thomson?_t=8ioMNLUnA25&_r=1Email - [email protected]

Is the wellness industry replacing religion? And is our obsession with self-improvement actually making us more anxious? In Episode 75 of The Struggle Podcast, author and journalist Brigid Delaney joins Gregor Thomson to explore Stoicism, ambition, journaling, alcohol, modern anxiety, and what she calls the “freedom fallacy” — the belief that peace and happiness only arrive once we succeed. We discuss: • Why Stoicism is misunderstood as emotionless or masculine • How the wellness industry became a new form of spirituality • The danger of ambition and hustle culture • Why moderation beats extreme self-discipline • Alcohol, connection, and social health • Journaling as a Stoic practice • Why freedom and success never feel as good as we expect • How ancient philosophy applies to modern burnout Brigid explains how Stoicism helped reshape her life after exploring the trillion-dollar wellness industry — and why philosophy should be a “street practice” for everyone, not just academics. This episode is for anyone struggling with: • Anxiety and overthinking • Burnout and ambition • Self-help overload • Feeling stuck in the future instead of living now 🎧 Listen if you’re interested in Stoicism, philosophy, psychology, wellness culture, journaling, or living a meaningful life. ⸻ About The Struggle Podcast: The Struggle explores psychology, philosophy, and modern life — honest conversations about ambition, suffering, freedom, and what it really means to live well. 👍 Like 💬 Comment 🔔 Subscribe for weekly episodes 📺 Watch The StruggleYouTube - https://youtube.com/@GregorSThomson?si=wTfFwPVYKhJxKAsD📱 Get In TouchInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/gregorsthomson/Tiktok -https://www.tiktok.com/@gregor.s.thomson?_t=8ioMNLUnA25&_r=1Email - [email protected] Books & Thinkers Mentioned Marcus Aurelius – Meditations Seneca – Letters from a Stoic Epictetus – Enchiridion Brigid Delaney – Reasons Not to Worry, Wellmania, The Seeker and the Sage Donna Zuckerberg – Not All Dead White Men David Foster Wallace – This Is Water Oliver Burkeman – Four Thousand Weeks

Most of us feel trapped between two voices:One telling us to work harder, achieve more, and sacrifice now…And another telling us to slow down and enjoy life before it’s too late.In this episode of The Struggle podcast, I explore what I call The Freedom Fallacy — the belief that freedom only exists in the future once success is achieved.This episode breaks down:• What the Freedom Fallacy really is• Why it appears in the “messy middle” of any ambitious project• The psychological cost of postponing life• How to struggle toward freedom without burning out• Why presence, joy, and rest are not distractions but part of the journeyThis is not a productivity hack.It’s a lens for living.If you’re working hard for a better future but feel like you’re missing your life right now, this episode is for you.⸻🎧 Topics covered:Freedom vs struggleBurnout and regretDelayed gratificationMeaning and purposeAmbition and presencePsychology of motivationIf this resonated with you, subscribe for weekly episodes exploring psychology, philosophy, and the struggle for a meaningful life.“The answer lies in the struggle.”Conceptual influences (not quoted):• Viktor Frankl – Man’s Search for Meaning (meaning through struggle)• Friedrich Nietzsche – “He who has a why…”• Carl Jung – individuation and psychological tension• Cal Newport – Deep Work / burnout & meaningful effort• Oliver Burkeman – Four Thousand Weeks (time and life balance)• Zach Talender – “Space Cadet” metaphor (credit clearly as inspiration)• Self-determination theory (Deci & Ryan) –autonomy, competence, relatedness📺 Watch The StruggleYouTube - https://youtube.com/@GregorSThomson?si=wTfFwPVYKhJxKAsD📱 Get In TouchInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/gregorsthomson/Tiktok -https://www.tiktok.com/@gregor.s.thomson?_t=8ioMNLUnA25&_r=1Email - [email protected]

Feeling overwhelmed by your to-do list?If productivity keeps leading to burnout, guilt, and never feeling like you’ve done enough — this episode will change how you plan your day.In Episode 73 of The Struggle, I break down a self-compassionate productivity framework that replaces shame, overworking, and endless task lists with clarity, sustainability, and calm — without sacrificing progress.You’ll learn: • Why “doing more” actually causes burnout • How guilt and shame sabotage productivity • A simple daily framework to reduce overwhelm • How to know when to rest and when to push • Why discipline without self-awareness leads to collapseThis episode is for you if: • You feel like a failure at the end of most days • You’re exhausted by self-improvement culture • Rest feels unproductive or undeserved • You want consistency without burnoutThis isn’t about doing less — it’s about doing what matters, in alignment with how you actually feel.📌 Subscribe or follow for grounded, evidence-based conversations on productivity, self-compassion, psychology, and meaning.The answer lies in the struggle — so keep on struggling.This episode reflects personal experience and interpretation of existing research and literature and is not intended as medical advice.ReferencesMcKeown, G. (2014). Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less. Crown Business.📺 Watch The StruggleYouTube - https://youtube.com/@GregorSThomson?si=wTfFwPVYKhJxKAsD📱 Get In TouchInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/gregorsthomson/Tiktok -https://www.tiktok.com/@gregor.s.thomson?_t=8ioMNLUnA25&_r=1Email - [email protected]

In Episode 72 of The Struggle, I sit down with ADHD expert Professor James Brown to explore the complex realities of ADHD. Is it a disability, a superpower, or simply a different way of thinking? We dive into the science, lived experiences, and strategies for managing ADHD effectively.We discuss: • How ADHD affects motivation, focus, and reward pathways • Differences in ADHD presentation between men and women • The hereditary and environmental factors behind ADHD • The impact of modern life and social media on ADHD • Practical insights for living with ADHD and accepting yourselfWhether you suspect you have ADHD, are a parent, or just want to understand the condition better, this episode is packed with evidence-based insights and personal experiences.🔔 Subscribe for weekly discussions on psychology, philosophy, and life strategies: @GregorSThomson⸻📱Get In TouchInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/gregorsthomson/Tiktok -https://www.tiktok.com/@gregor.s.thomson?_t=8ioMNLUnA25&_r=1Email - [email protected]📺 Watch The StruggleYouTube - https://youtube.com/@GregorSThomson?si=wTfFwPVYKhJxKAsDReference List 1. American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (5th ed.). Arlington, VA: American Psychiatric Publishing. 2. Barkley, R. A. (2015). Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder: A Handbook for Diagnosis and Treatment (4th ed.). New York, NY: Guilford Press. 3. Brown, T. E. (2020). A New Understanding of ADHD in Children and Adults. Routledge. 4. Castellanos, F. X., & Tannock, R. (2002). Neuroscience of ADHD. Current Opinion in Neurobiology, 12(2), 157–162. 5. Faraone, S. V., Larsson, H. (2019). Genetics of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. Molecular Psychiatry, 24, 562–575. 6. Ginsberg, Y., Quintero, J., Anand, E., Casillas, M., & Upadhyaya, H. P. (2014). Underdiagnosis of ADHD in Adults. Postgraduate Medicine, 126(5), 108–122. 7. Hartmann, T. (1993). Attention Deficit Disorder: A Different Perception. Underwood Books. 8. Mate, G. (2010). Scattered Minds: The Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder. Vintage Canada. 9. Nigg, J. T. (2017). Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder and Adverse Environments: Implications for Genetic Research. Development and Psychopathology, 29(4), 1527–1545. 10. New Scientist. (2023). “Understanding ADHD in Adults.” [Article]. New Scientist. 11. Shaw, P., et al. (2012). Developmental Neuroimaging of ADHD. American Journal of Psychiatry, 169(9), 919–926. 12. Volkow, N. D., Wang, G.-J., Fowler, J. S., & Telang, F. (2009). ADHD: Reward Deficiency Syndrome. Biological Psychiatry, 65(10), 859–866. 13. Wilens, T. E., & Spencer, T. J. (2010). Understanding ADHD in Adults. Harvard Review of Psychiatry, 18(6), 291–303. 14. Zentall, S. S. (2005). Theory- and Evidence-Based Strategies for ADHD Management. School Psychology Review, 34(3), 377–402. 15. TikTok Studies: Chiu, K. et al. (2023). Misleading ADHD Content on TikTok. Journal of Medical Internet Research, 25(8), e51234.

In Episode 71 of The Struggle, we dive into one of the most powerful ideas I’ve ever come across — a 13-word quote by Zen teacher Charlotte Joko Beck:“What makes it unbearable is your mistaken belief that it can be cured.”This single line might explain why you feel unhappy, unsatisfied, or constantly searching for meaning. In Buddhism, suffering isn’t something to escape — it’s something to see clearly.In this episode, we explore:• why we suffer more in our minds than in reality• the Zen story of the student under the cold waterfall• why trying to “cure” life makes life worse• the illusion that the future will save us• how material possessions and achievements trap us• why accepting suffering is the beginning of freedom• how focus creates your emotional reality• why the present becomes unbearable when we worship the futureLife isn’t a problem to be fixed, and there is no magic cure coming later. But accepting that truth is where peace actually begins.If episodes like this help you think differently about your life, subscribe. This journey is only just beginning.References1. Charlotte Joko BeckBeck, C. J. (1990). Everyday Zen: Love and Work. HarperCollins.— Source of the quote: “What makes it unbearable is your mistaken belief that it can be cured.”(This is the most accurate traceable source of her teachings.)2. Buddhism – Foundational Teachings on Suffering (Dukkha)Rahula, W. (1974). What the Buddha Taught. Grove Press.— Overview of the Four Noble Truths and the nature of suffering.Harvey, P. (2013). An Introduction to Buddhism: Teachings, History and Practices. Cambridge University Press.— Scholarly explanation of suffering, attachment, and perception.3. Zen Buddhism – Mindfulness, Perception, and Direct ExperienceKapleau, P. (1980). The Three Pillars of Zen. Anchor Books.— Discusses direct awareness, discomfort, and perception.Shunryu Suzuki (1970). Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind. Weatherhill.— Explores non-judgment, direct experience, and acceptance.4. Zen Teaching Story (Student Under the Cold Waterfall)This story is a widely taught Zen parable.A commonly cited retelling is in:Osho (2001). Zen: Its History and Teachings and Impact on Humanity. Watkins Publishing.— Contains multiple Zen training stories, including endurance teachings similar to the waterfall anecdote.This is a classic Zen teaching story passed down through various teachers and retold in multiple sources.5. Einstein Quote (Insanity Definition)Although widely attributed to Albert Einstein, the origin is disputed.The earliest documented appearance is:Narcotics Anonymous (1981). Narcotics Anonymous (1st ed.).— The line appears here, not in Einstein’s writings.6. Tony Robbins Exercise (Focus On Color Prompt)Robbins, T. (1991). Awaken the Giant Within. Free Press.— Robbins uses variations of the “look for brown, now recall gold” focus/perception exercise in his seminars and books.7. Hedonic Adaptation / The “New Car” Emptiness ProblemBrickman, P., & Campbell, D. T. (1971). Hedonic Relativism and Planning the Good Society.— Foundational research on why achievements and purchases don’t produce lasting happiness.Lyubomirsky, S. (2007). The How of Happiness. Penguin.— Modern evidence for why external accomplishments don’t cure dissatisfaction.⸻Disclaimer:This episode draws on concepts from Zen Buddhism, modern psychology, and philosophical sources. All quotes are credited to their original authors, and traditional Zen stories are referenced as commonly retold teachings rather than original content. The interpretations and explanations in this episode are my own.📝SponsorSign up for The Struggle Newsletter here - https://gregorthomson.com📺 Watch The StruggleYouTube - https://youtube.com/@GregorSThomson?si=wTfFwPVYKhJxKAsD📱 Get In TouchInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/gregorsthomson/Tiktok -https://www.tiktok.com/@gregor.s.thomson?_t=8ioMNLUnA25&_r=1Email - [email protected]

Are We Slaves to Our Desires? | Charlotte Fox Weber on Human Desires, Free Will & RelationshipsIn this episode of The Struggle, Gregor Thomson sits down with renowned psychologist and author Charlotte Fox Weber to explore the complex nature of human desires, free will, and the role our upbringing and societal scripts play in shaping what we want.They discuss: • How desires can enslave us if ignored, but can also guide us toward self-discovery (00:08–04:50) • The paradox of instant gratification vs. higher-order desires and finding balance in daily life (03:30–05:50) • Understanding taboo or “dark” desires and how curiosity can free us from shame (09:12–12:34) • How childhood experiences and cultural scripts shape our expectations in love and relationships (12:34–21:21) • The evolutionary roots of wanting to be noticed and understood, and why this is central to human connection (25:56–32:53) • The challenge of balancing autonomy and connection in modern life (34:23–37:15) • Practical tips for reconnecting with others, noticing small joys, and cultivating flexibility and self-compassion (37:15–54:49)This conversation is a masterclass in navigating the human mind, understanding the motivations behind our actions, and embracing complexity in both desire and life.📚 Charlotte Fox Weber’s Book: • What We Want: A Journey Through Twelve of Our Deepest Desires • Follow Charlotte on Instagram: @charlottefoxweberpsychology • Upcoming book (2026): Sacred MonstersBooks • Weber, C. F. (2024). What We Want: Unlocking the Power of Desire. [Publisher not specified in transcript] • Von Hippo, W. (2024). The Social Paradox: Balancing Autonomy and Connection. [Publisher not specified in transcript] • Weber, C. F. (2026). Sacred Monsters. Penguin.• William Von Hippel: The Social Paradox: Autonomy, Connection, and Why We Need Both to Find Happiness• Oliver Burkeman (4000 Weeks): Concept of telic vs atelic activities. [Referenced by Thomson]• Greg McKeown’s 1-2-3 Method - Essentialism [Referenced by Thomson]⸻Podcasts / Interviews • Chris Williamson (Modern Wisdom) Discussion on finding joy in small everyday moments. [Referenced by Thomson]⸻Quotes / Philosophical References • Sartre, J.-P. (1943). No Exit (“Hell is other people”).📄 SponsorSign up for The Struggle Newsletter here - https://gregorthomson.com📺 Watch The StruggleYouTube - https://youtube.com/@GregorSThomson?si=wTfFwPVYKhJxKAsD📱 Get In TouchInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/gregorsthomson/Tiktok -https://www.tiktok.com/@gregor.s.thomson?_t=8ioMNLUnA25&_r=1Email - [email protected]

Are you an ambitious overachiever constantly chasing “more”? In Episode 69 of The Struggle, I explore toxic productivity — what it is, how hustle culture can slowly ruin your life if left unchecked, and most importantly, how to find balance and reclaim your time.We dive into: • The subtle dangers of following ultra-productive role models on social media. • How tying your self-worth to achievements can backfire. • The difference between telic activities (goal-oriented) and atelic activities (done for their own sake). • Practical strategies to rebalance your life with compassion, presence, and sustainable productivity.If you’ve ever felt like resting, doing less, or enjoying life comes with guilt — this episode is for you. Learn why overcorrecting from underachievement can be just as harmful as doing too little, and discover tools to cultivate a healthier, more fulfilling approach to your goals.🎧 Watch or listen to the full episode and start finding your balance today.References & Further Reading:1. Burkeman, Oliver. Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals. Penguin Random House, 2021.2. The Hidden Traps Of Productivity With Oliver Burkeman | Episode 38 | The Struggle (Video) - https://youtu.be/5mi6vhwMkVU?si=nGppIORdqyYkeiAJ3. Modern Wisdom Podcast – Episode featuring Oliver Burkeman: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=czinKQl88uU4. Chris Williamson (Modern Wisdom) – “0–50 vs 90–95”5. Sowell, Thomas. Basic Economics: A Common Sense Guide to the Economy. Basic Books, 2014.6. Zack Talender – “Be a space cadet who notices the little things.” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TbzJ9rIWF7g📌 Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe/follow The Struggle for more episodes exploring productivity, mindset, and personal growth.📺 Watch The StruggleYouTube - https://youtube.com/@GregorSThomson?si=wTfFwPVYKhJxKAsD📱 Get In TouchInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/gregorsthomson/Tiktok -https://www.tiktok.com/@gregor.s.thomson?_t=8ioMNLUnA25&_r=1Email - [email protected]

What if the most controversial public figure of our time could help us understand ADHD better?  In this episode of The Struggle, psychiatrist Dr. John Kruse breaks down the science of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) through the lens of Donald Trump’s behavior — exploring impulsivity, hyperfocus, and control of attention.Whether you’ve just started exploring ADHD or you’ve lived with it for years, this deep dive offers valuable insights into how the ADHD brain works in adults, why it’s so often misunderstood, and what the media gets wrong about “distraction” and “drive.”We unpack:• The difference between focus vs. control of attention• Why ADHD is underdiagnosed in adults and seniors• The paradox of hyperfocus vs. distractibility• Misconceptions on social media (e.g., TikTok misinformation trends)• How environment and genetics interact in ADHD• Why stimulants like Adderall work — and their real risks• Why ADHD might shorten lifespan if untreated• Lessons schools and workplaces can learn about neurodiversityDr. Kruse also discusses real-world stories of lifelong ADHD awareness, misdiagnosis, and late-in-life discovery — including a humorous example of how an 80-year-old man found clarity through understanding his ADHD patterns.Learn more about ADHD on Dr John Kruse’s YouTube channel here: https://youtube.com/@drjohnkruse?si=LOTP2EhfoJLJOVPS& his Medium page here: https://dockruse.medium.com📰 SponsorSign up for The Struggle Newsletter here - https://gregorthomson.com📺 Watch The StruggleYouTube - https://youtube.com/@GregorSThomson?si=wTfFwPVYKhJxKAsD📱 Get In TouchInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/gregorsthomson/Tiktok -https://www.tiktok.com/@gregor.s.thomson?_t=8ioMNLUnA25&_r=1Email - [email protected]🎵 MusicConal Mooney - https://www.instagram.com/conalmooneyaudio?igsh=dGxqdThlNnNoNzh6Reference ListKruse, J. (2020). Recognizing Adult ADHD: What Donald Trump Can Teach Us About Executive Dysfunction. DrJohnKruse.com.American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (5th ed.).Faraone, S. V., & Larsson, H. (2019). Genetics of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. Molecular Psychiatry, 24(4), 562–575.Dalsgaard, S., et al. (2015). Mortality in Children, Adolescents, and Adults With ADHD. The Lancet, 385(9983), 2190–2196.Weiss, M., & Weiss, G. (2004). ADHD in Adults: A Guide to Evaluation and Treatment. Guilford Press.Barkley, R. A. (2015). Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder: A Handbook for Diagnosis and Treatment (4th ed.). Guilford Press.Stat News. (2017). I’m an Expert on Diagnosing Mental Illness. Trump Doesn’t Meet Criteria for a Mental Disorder.CHADD. (2025). ADHD in the News – September Edition.🔍 Hashtags#ADHD #ADHDAwareness #ADHDTreatment #AdultADHD #MentalHealth #DonaldTrump #FocusAndAttention #TheStrugglePodcast

Turning 30 gave me perspective — and in this episode of The Struggle Podcast, I share five lessons I wish I’d known a decade ago. These are insights that changed how I think about productivity, rest, meaning, and self-compassion.If you’ve ever felt lost, unmotivated, or stuck in constant self-improvement mode, these lessons might help you slow down, reflect, and reconnect with what truly matters.⸻🧠 In This EpisodeLesson 1:Music is the Space Between the Notes — why rest, relationships, and stillness are essential for a meaningful life.Lesson 2:You Are Not Who You Think You Are — the paradox of self and thought from Sam Harris.Lesson 3:You Are Loved in Your Anger — how men can find emotional safety and acceptance.Lesson 4:Peace Is Building a Better Boat — what Oliver Burkeman, Greg McKeown, and Travis Meadows can teach us about embracing imperfection.Lesson 5:This Rules — a simple gratitude practice that makes life richer.⸻🪞 Referenced Thinkers, Authors & Works1. Claude Debussy (1862–1918)Quote: “Music is the space between the notes.”— Widely attributed to Debussy, French composer and pianist.2. Chris Williamson (@ChrisWillx)Host of Modern Wisdom podcast — referenced discussion with Dr. John Delony on delayed gratification and fulfillment.3. Dr. John DelonyPsychologist, author, and host of The Dr. John Delony Show — referenced for his views on self-worth and emotional health.Book: Own Your Past, Change Your Future (HarperCollins, 2022).4. Kyle EschenroederEssay: “Wanting What You Want to Want” — explores the difference between surface desires and meaningful goals.Available at: https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/advice/what-do-you-want-to-want/5. Sam HarrisMeditation reference: “You are not who you think you are, but you are condemned to be who you think you are.”— from Waking Up App (“Moments” meditation series)6. Johnny Miller (@johnnym1ller)Coach and nervous system teacher -  “You are loved in your anger.”7. Oliver BurkemanBook: Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals (Bodley Head, 2021).Referenced quotes - “True security lies in the unrestrained embrace of insecurity — in the recognition that we never really stand on solid ground, and never can.”“You can’t do everything, or have everything, or be everything. But realizing this is what gives you the opportunity to make the best choices you can, in each moment.”8. Travis Meadows & Liz RoseSong: “Better Boat” (2018), written by Meadows and Rose, performed by Kenny Chesney.Lyric reference: “Peace is not finding calmer seas; it’s learning to build a better boat.”9. Tim FerrissQuote: “If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no.”— from Tools of Titans (Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2016).10. Greg McKeownBook: Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less (Crown Business, 2014).Referenced concept: The 1-2-3 Framework for prioritizing tasks, which I altered to be the 1-3-5 Framework.11. Zach Telander (@ZachTelander)Story: “This Rules” — shared via Instagram here @zach_telander⸻🧩 Key Takeaways • Productivity without rest is noise without music. • You are not your thoughts. • You can be better and be enough now. • True peace is acceptance, not control. • Gratitude turns ordinary life into something that rules.⸻🔗 Support the ShowIf you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe or follow to The Struggle Podcast for weekly reflections on self-development, philosophy, and mental health. Leave a ★★★★★ review to help the show grow.📰 SponsorSign up for The Struggle Newsletter here - https://gregorthomson.com📺 Watch The StruggleYouTube - https://youtube.com/@GregorSThomson?si=wTfFwPVYKhJxKAsD📱 Get In TouchInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/gregorsthomson/Tiktok -https://www.tiktok.com/@gregor.s.thomson?_t=8ioMNLUnA25&_r=1Email - [email protected]🎵 MusicConal Mooney - https://www.instagram.com/conalmooneyaudio?igsh=dGxqdThlNnNoNzh6⸻#LifeLessons #TheStrugglePodcast #SelfImprovement #Mindset #Turning30 #PersonalGrowth #Philosophy #ChrisWilliamson #OliverBurkeman #SamHarris #Essentialism #BetterBoat #ThisRules

Why are we richer and freer than ever—yet feeling lonelier and less happy? In Episode 66, I sit down with William von Hippel to unpack the “connection vs autonomy” trade-off, the Easterlin paradox, why hunter-gatherers often report higher wellbeing, how cities and social media reshape relationships, and what we can practically do to rebalance our lives.🔔 If this helped you think differently, subscribe for more honest conversations: new episodes weekly.What we cover • Why more money ≠ more happiness • Hadza insights: sharing, status, and joy • The tension between connection and autonomy • Cities, mobility & the rise of loneliness • Social media, news doom-loops & risk perception • Religion, community rituals & secular alternatives • Dating apps, gender gaps, and modern love • ADHD through an evolutionary lens • Capitalism, AI, and the future of meaning📚Buy the Social Paradox here - https://www.amazon.co.uk/Social-Paradox-Autonomy-Connection-Happiness/dp/B0D4XB79F5/ref=sr_1_1?crid=38WAQWKPOQV1K&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.EMhin9kb5iiyMs6H9XtbH07qzfmkAVQkMTQd7l3uKuavBT2ZGNIkzp8-Z6Yblw8ZO6_JtA3OqOwa1ka6FwUQ1IJXR3XQF9WpoPUq1kMjxg0MN7I6VGloaLDxxRpQmWIXeUgjohlGzmnnR-_mX1jrSxkIZTxkkz67V2FjsFGvE5bFSoFlv63KRFLcC3q38JRIhAc9Z4PLHNAAheUxHtIaOQSuYD0jy3Ei7KaA_pMtn4g.QEx3D6n6NF-juo6ZVu5ma2bMvqpIwbs4Ri0saY8FKSM&dib_tag=se&keywords=Social+paradox&qid=1757754615&sprefix=social+paradox%2Caps%2C111&sr=8-1📸Follow William here - https://www.instagram.com/williamvonhippel/?hl=en📚 Reference List (APA 7th edition) • Buss, D. M. (2000). The dangerous passion: Why jealousy is as necessary as love and sex. Free Press. • Easterlin, R. A. (1974). Does economic growth improve the human lot? Some empirical evidence. In P. A. David & M. W. Reder (Eds.), Nations and households in economic growth: Essays in honor of Moses Abramovitz (pp. 89–125). Academic Press. • Marlowe, F. W. (2010). The Hadza: Hunter-gatherers of Tanzania. University of California Press. • Pinker, S. (2018). Enlightenment now: The case for reason, science, humanism, and progress. Viking. • von Hippel, W. (2024). The social paradox: Connection, autonomy, and the science of happiness. [Publisher name – check your copy for the exact publisher]. • Wilson, E. O. (1975). Sociobiology: The new synthesis. Harvard University Press.⸻🔬 Key Studies & Concepts Mentioned • The Easterlin Paradox → See Easterlin (1974). • Evolutionary mismatch (connection vs autonomy, autonomy “scarcity bias”) → Discussed extensively in von Hippel (2024). • Relative wealth & happiness → Rothschild anecdote, common in wealth/happiness research literature (Easterlin + follow-up studies). • Jealousy sex differences → Buss (2000). • Social capital & religion → Large body of evidence; a good general reference is Putnam, R. D. (2000). Bowling alone: The collapse and revival of American community. Simon & Schuster. • Crime rate decline (U.S., 1970s–present) → Bureau of Justice Statistics data; e.g., FBI Uniform Crime Reporting (UCR) program.⸻📰 Data Sources Referenced • World Values Survey (WVS) → World Values Survey Association. (2022). World Values Survey 1981–2022 Longitudinal Aggregate v.20220731. JD Systems Institute. • Time Use Surveys (alone vs social time, past decades) → American Time Use Survey (BLS, ongoing).Support the showIf you enjoyed this, subscribe, rate 5★, and share with a friend—it really helps a one-person show grow 🙏SponsorSign up for The Struggle Newsletter here - https://gregorthomson.com📺 Watch The StruggleYouTube - https://youtube.com/@GregorSThomson?si=wTfFwPVYKhJxKAsD📱 Get In TouchInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/gregorsthomson/Tiktok -https://www.tiktok.com/@gregor.s.thomson?_t=8ioMNLUnA25&_r=1Email - [email protected]🎵 MusicConal Mooney - https://www.instagram.com/conalmooneyaudio?igsh=dGxqdThlNnNoNzh6—Keywords: William von Hippel, Easterlin paradox, happiness, loneliness, connection vs autonomy, Hadza, evolutionary psychology, religion and wellbeing, dating apps, ADHD, AI and meaning, cities vs countryside, social media, modern malaise#TheStrugglePodcast #WilliamVonHippel #Happiness #EvolutionaryPsychology #Loneliness #DatingApps #ADHD #AI

In this special Q&A episode of The Struggle, I go unscripted for the first time — answering your biggest questions on identity, passion, purpose, imposter syndrome, mental health, mindfulness, motivation, and more.We dive into: • How to hold onto your passions as you get older and life gets busier • Why letting go of “identity” can free you from regret and depression • What imposter syndrome really means — and how to beat it with proof • The UK’s mental health crisis and what Scotland can learn from other cultures • The real purpose of life (objective vs. subjective meaning) • My routine recommendation for everyone: simple mindfulness practices • Motivation, productivity, and when striving becomes a problem • Plus lighter questions on beard growth, Bilbo Baggins, and more…Whether you’re struggling with self-doubt, motivation, or finding meaning, this episode gives practical insights and honest reflections you won’t hear anywhere else.💡 Subscribe or follow for more deep conversations, theories, and strategies to help you overcome life’s challenges.👍 If you find value here, drop a like and share with a friend who needs to hear it.#Mindfulness #MentalHealth #ImposterSyndrome #LifePurpose #TheStrugglePodcast📰 SponsorSign up for The Struggle Newsletter here - https://gregorthomson.com📺 Watch The StruggleYouTube - https://youtube.com/@GregorSThomson?si=wTfFwPVYKhJxKAsD📱 Get In TouchInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/gregorsthomson/Tiktok -https://www.tiktok.com/@gregor.s.thomson?_t=8ioMNLUnA25&_r=1Email - [email protected]🎵 MusicConal Mooney - https://www.instagram.com/conalmooneyaudio?igsh=dGxqdThlNnNoNzh6📚 References & Resources MentionedPodcasts & Episodes • The Diary of a CEO – Daniel Preistley on Passion - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-diary-of-a-ceo-with-steven-bartlett/id1291423644?i=1000721000330 • Real Time with Bill Maher – Appearance by Thomas Chatterton Williams (Author, essayist) - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/real-time-with-bill-maher/id98746009?i=1000722180013Studies & Reports • Sapien Labs (2023). The Mental State of the World Report. - https://www.sapienlabs.org • Kahneman, D., & Deaton, A. (2010). “High income improves evaluation of life but not emotional well-being.” Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 107(38), 16489–16493. - https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.1011492107Comedians & Specials • Finn Taylor – Stand-up special on YouTube (includes bit on imposter syndrome) - https://youtu.be/KqmRphdR2S8?si=f0lhkO1OkktTuaZ1Thinkers & Entrepreneurs • Alex Hormozi – Concept of building an “undeniable stack of proof” (imposter syndrome advice) • Rangan Chatterjee on Regret - “Regret comes from wishing the past were different. But the truth is, you did the best you could with the knowledge you had at the time.” • Thomas Sowell – “There are no solutions. There are only trade-offs.” (A Conflict of Visions: Ideological Origins of Political Struggles, 1987)Policies & Case Studies • Portugal’s Drug Decriminalisation Policy (2001) – Impact on overdose rates and public health • Scotland – Policies on period poverty & discussions on safe drug consumption roomsApps & Practices • Mindfulness / Meditation App – Waking Up - https://www.wakingup.comPhilosophy & Psychology References • Evolutionary perspective on purpose (survival & reproduction) • Mindfulness and present-moment awareness practicesLiterature & Fiction • Tolkien, J. R. R. – The Hobbit & The Lord of the Rings (Bilbo Baggins reference)

Is life on Earth a cosmic fluke, or is it inevitable wherever the right conditions exist? In Ep. 64 – The Struggle, I sit down with esteemed astrophysicist and bestselling author Dr. Mario Livio to unpack some of the most profound questions in science and humanity’s future.⸻🌌 In this episode, we explore: • 🌍 Is Earth exceptional? Why life exists here — and why we still don’t know whether it exists elsewhere. • 👽 The likelihood of life elsewhere in the universe — and why the odds remain uncertain. • 🔭 How telescopes and astronomical observations might reveal biosignatures on exoplanets by 2040. • 💧 The key role of water as a solvent — and whether worlds like Titan with liquid methane could also support life. • 🧬 The origin of life on Earth: RNA, DNA, amino acids, and even cyanide (a deadly compound that played a crucial role in life’s beginnings). • 🧠 The three “big questions” of modern science: the origins of the universe, life, and consciousness. • 🤖 The double-edged sword of AI — from breakthroughs in protein folding to existential risks, and why machines may evolve differently from humans. • ☢️ Humanity’s existential risks: nuclear conflict, pandemics, and climate change. • ❓ The Fermi Paradox — and Dr. Livio’s theory (with Lord Martin Rees) that intelligent machines may not expand aggressively like biological civilizations. • 🎭 Why curiosity sets humans apart — and how this drive gave rise to polymaths like Leonardo da Vinci (curious in all things, wisely averse to politics) and Brian May (Queen guitarist, astrophysicist, and polymath). • 🦕 How to foster curiosity in kids: start with what fascinates them (like dinosaurs) and connect it to science. • 📚 Insights from Dr. Livio’s books: Is Earth Exceptional? (with Nobel Laureate Jack Szostak) and Why? What Makes Us Curious.⸻🔗 Learn more about Dr. Livio:🌐 Official Website: https://www.mario-livio.com⸻❤️ Enjoyed this conversation? • 🔔 Subscribe/follow for more science & philosophy deep dives: ​⁠ • 📚 Get Dr. Livio’s books: Is Earth Exceptional? | Why? What Makes Us Curious - https://www.amazon.co.uk/s?k=Dr+Mario+livio&crid=16K715OQ6XQ32&sprefix=dr+mario+livio%2Caps%2C122&ref=nb_sb_noss • 🎧 Explore more episodes of The Struggle: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLnghBCMWJomoI8v_ft0L0Ekmnjkpq4nsy📰 SponsorSign up for The Struggle Newsletter here - https://gregorthomson.com📺 Watch The StruggleYouTube - https://youtube.com/@GregorSThomson?si=wTfFwPVYKhJxKAsD📱 Get In TouchInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/gregorsthomson/Tiktok -https://www.tiktok.com/@gregor.s.thomson?_t=8ioMNLUnA25&_r=1Email - [email protected]🎵 MusicConal Mooney - https://www.instagram.com/conalmooneyaudio?igsh=dGxqdThlNnNoNzh6

Welcome back to The Struggle — Episode 63 is the final part of our three-part deep dive on time. We’ve explored the future, wrestled with the present, and now it’s time to confront the past.In this episode, we unpack the two major psychological burdens we carry from our past:Regret – the weight of wishing we’d done things differently.Nostalgia – the ache of longing for the “good old days.”We explore:The evolutionary function of regret and why it persists in modern life.The psychology of nostalgia, and how it helps us regulate stress, connect with others, and find hope for the future.Why both regret and longing can trap us in time loops that keep us from engaging meaningfully with the present and the future.Practical reframes for viewing your past more compassionately, including a quote from Dr. Rangan Chatterjee:“Living life with ‘no regrets’ is about learning and understanding from your perceived mistakes, but not being unkind to who you were then.”This episode includes references to:Evolutionary psychology (e.g. why our brains prefer certain pain over uncertain outcomes – see the 2016 University College London shock study on uncertainty and anxiety)Insights from Dr. Rangan Chatterjee, Joe Hudson, and the idea that we’re all just “grown-up children” doing our best with limited knowledge.The distortions of memory and how nostalgia romanticizes moments that weren’t as perfect as we remember.💡 If you’re stuck ruminating on your past — this episode will help you move forward with compassion, clarity, and hope.🧠 Written with support from ChatGPT (OpenAI) — used to:Refine SEO-optimized title, tags, and posting strategySummarize academic references (e.g. UCL 2016 uncertainty study)Polish structure for clarity, coherence, and emotional resonance🎙 Subscribe or follow for more weekly episodes on self-awareness, meaning, and personal growth.📰 SponsorSign up for The Struggle Newsletter here - https://gregorthomson.com📺 Watch The StruggleYouTube - https://youtube.com/@GregorSThomson?si=wTfFwPVYKhJxKAsD📱 Get In TouchInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/gregorsthomson/Tiktok -https://www.tiktok.com/@gregor.s.thomson?_t=8ioMNLUnA25&_r=1Email - [email protected]🎵 MusicConal Mooney - https://www.instagram.com/conalmooneyaudio?igsh=dGxqdThlNnNoNzh6#TheStrugglePodcast | #Regret | #Nostalgia | #Mindset | #SelfCompassion

Why is it so hard to live in the moment — and why do we overthink it when we try?In this episode of The Struggle, we dive deep into the real reasons we struggle to stay present — and what we can do about it. From the way our brains evolved, to how the modern world hijacks our attention, this episode explores both the science and psychology behind presence, distraction, and overanalysis.🎙 Episode 62: Why You Can’t Live in the Moment — And What to Do About ItWe’ll explore: • Why the present moment is the only tense that’s experientially real • How our instinct to avoid uncertainty makes us overthink presence itself • Why even mindfulness can become another trap for control • How the digital world trains us to escape the moment • Two clear strategies to reclaim your attention and stop resisting the now📰 SponsorSign up for The Struggle Newsletter here - https://gregorthomson.com📺 Watch The StruggleYouTube - https://youtube.com/@GregorSThomson?si=wTfFwPVYKhJxKAsD📱 Get In TouchInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/gregorsthomson/Tiktok -https://www.tiktok.com/@gregor.s.thomson?_t=8ioMNLUnA25&_r=1Email - [email protected]🎵 MusicConal Mooney - https://www.instagram.com/conalmooneyaudio?igsh=dGxqdThlNnNoNzh6🔬 Key Study Referenced:De Berker, A. O., et al. (2016). “Computations of uncertainty mediate acute stress responses in humans.” Nature Communications, 7, 10996.https://doi.org/10.1038/ncomms10996— This study from University College London showed that participants experienced greater anxietywhen there was a 50% chance of receiving an electric shock than when the shock was guaranteed — highlighting our deep aversion to uncertainty.📚 Additional Sources Referenced: • Oliver Burkeman, Four Thousand Weeks – for the quote about overthinking joy during a walk in the Yorkshire Dales • James Clear, Atomic Habits – for the habit design principle: “make bad habits difficult” • Sam Harris, Waking Up – for the river/canoe metaphor about letting go and observing the mind • Nir Eyal, Indistractable – for practical strategies on reducing distraction🛠 AI Use Disclosure:I used ChatGPT (GPT-4) as a research and editorial assistant to refine concepts, fact-check studies, and develop a clearer structure. All personal insights, storytelling, and delivery are entirely my own.💬 If you’re tired of surface-level advice and want to go deeper into the ideas, psychology, and philosophy that actually help you grow — subscribe for weekly episodes.📌 Listen to the full podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your shows.#presentmoment #mindfulness #overthinking #selfawareness #thestrugglepodcast #gregorthomson #anxiety #timemanagement #selfgrowth #mentalclarity

🎯 Is your imagined future stealing joy from your present? In Episode 61 of The Struggle, we explore how thinking about the future can either empower you—or trap you in fear, anxiety, and disappointment.We break down two major psychological traps: 1. Fear of the Future – how worst-case thinking activates stress and how to use Tim Ferriss’ Fear-Setting technique to take back control. 2. The Arrival Fallacy – why obsessively fantasising about a “perfect” future makes reality feel hollow, and how embracing uncertainty is the only way to feel truly alive.You’ll learn: • The science of Prospection and Episodic Future Thinking • Evolutionary roots of why we fear the future • Tools to shift from anxiety to clarity • Why the imagined future will never live up to your expectations—and why that’s okay💭 If you constantly plan, overthink, or chase future achievements without feeling fulfilled—this episode will help you shift your mindset.👉 New here? Subscribe or follow for weekly deep dives into the mind, meaning, and modern struggle.👉 Liked this episode? Share with a friend who needs to hear the message.📰 SponsorSign up for The Struggle Newsletter here - https://gregorthomson.com📺 Watch The StruggleYouTube - https://youtube.com/@GregorSThomson?si=wTfFwPVYKhJxKAsD📱 Get In TouchInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/gregorsthomson/Tiktok -https://www.tiktok.com/@gregor.s.thomson?_t=8ioMNLUnA25&_r=1Email - [email protected]🎵 MusicConal Mooney - https://www.instagram.com/conalmooneyaudio?igsh=dGxqdThlNnNoNzh6Primary Sources Cited or Referenced 1. Oliver Burkeman • Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals • Key ideas used: Telic vs. Atelic time, instrumentalising life, existential time, and the quote “The future is under no obligation to comply.” • Discussed in relation to modern productivity and time perception. 2. Tim Ferriss • The 4-Hour Workweek and TED Talk on Fear-Setting • Fear-Setting framework referenced (Define, Prevent, Repair) including questions used to reframe fear and promote action over paralysis. 3. Daniel Gilbert & Timothy D. Wilson • Research on Prospection and Affective Forecasting • Ideas referenced: how we simulate future events and misjudge how they’ll make us feel. 4. Martin Seligman • Homo Prospectus (co-authored with Peter Railton, Roy Baumeister, and Chandra Sripada) • Concept of Episodic Future Thinking as an adaptive evolutionary trait. 5. Mark Twain (attributed) • Quote: “I’ve known a great many worries in my life, most of which never happened.” • Used to illustrate cognitive distortions and imagined fear. 6. Eminem • Humorous reference to lyrics from “Lose Yourself” — “palms are sweaty, knees weak…” • Used to illustrate physical symptoms of anticipatory fear.⸻Tools & Support Used in Production • ChatGPT (OpenAI, GPT-4o, July 2025) • Used to: • Refine the episode title for SEO and viewer engagement. • Write a YouTube-optimized description. • Help summarise complex psychological theories (e.g., prospection, fear setting, arrival fallacy). • Suggest structuring, phrasing, and calls-to-action. • All ideas were grounded in publicly available concepts and research; no original academic research was generated by ChatGPT.⸻ • The narrative structure, personal commentary, humour, episode scripting, and thematic framing were entirely my own. • ChatGPT was used as a research assistant and SEO advisor, not as the voice or writer of the episode itself.#thefuture #anxiety #timferriss #arrivalfallacy #podcast #thestruggle #selfdevelopment #mindfulness #oliverburkeman