The Purple Pawedcast

Today's episode features Artemisia de Vine's theory of sexual fantasy. Artemisia is a sexual fantasy expert, sexologist and author who uses fantasy not as a source of shame and guilt, but as the key to unlocking our deepest motivations and desires. Artemisia and I discuss prevailing theories of sexual fantasy, the three paradoxes we seek to rectify through sex, and the origin of airborne penetration of pastry products.REFERENCES:deVining the Erotic (free) Substack: https://substack.com/@artemisiadevineArtemisia de Vine’s website: https://www.artemisiadevine.com/Follow Artemisia on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/artemisia-de-vine-780847184/Follow Artemisia on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/artemisiadevine/Follow Artemisia on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ArtemisiadeVineFree mini course! The Celeb Swoon Technique: Uncover your own unique erotic narrative with this simple exercise:https://MyFantasyIs.com (also found at https://www.artemisiadevine.com/CelebSwoon).(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:30) - Introducing Artemisia de Vine (02:51) - Sex is in everything we do (06:55) - Theories of sexual fantasy (10:29) - A human-centered theory of sexual fantasy (13:57) - The first paradox in sex (19:14) - The second paradox in sex (22:32) - The third paradox in sex (26:35) - Resolving the paradoxes (30:28) - Changing state of consciousness (35:33) - Improving your life by understanding your fantasies (40:43) - Why do we feel shame at fulfilling our fantasies? (44:52) - The spirituality of smut (48:42) - Fantasies are not necessarily about trauma (52:41) - How to find Artemisia de Vine on the internet (55:46) - Show closing (58:02) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

On today's episode, I speak with Ailsa Blair about the drag community. Ailsa is a neurodiverse, nonbinary product designer and research leader who founded Drag Me, a company whose mobile app empowers drag artists to connect with their fans. Ailsa and I talk about topics as far afield as Tech Bros treating employees as tools, features of the Drag Me app, and invoking Rule 34 and Godwin's Law at the same time.REFERENCES:Ailsa Blair’s website: https://www.ailsamblair.com/Follow Ailsa on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ailsamblair/Follow Ailsa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whoaitsailsaDrag Me website: https://www.dragme.io/Follow Drag Me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dragme.ioFollow Drag Me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dragme.ioFollow Drag Me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dragme.io(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:30) - Introducing Ailsa Blair (02:46) - Transforming isolation into community (07:18) - Using empathy to make the world better (17:17) - Nameless faceless tools make lesser products (24:29) - Invoking Rule 34 on identity legislation (27:28) - The evolution of drag (34:49) - Helping drag entrepreneurs (40:00) - Bucking the gender hate (43:37) - The Drag Me community thus far... (46:37) - Coming soon to Drag Me (48:52) - How the drag scene became mainstream (55:22) - How to find Ailsa Blair and Drag Me on the internet (58:22) - Show closing (01:00:06) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

In this episode, I talk history with Neil Laird. Neil is an Emmy and BAFTA-nominated TV producer, novelist, and ancient history geek whose fiction retells gay stories across early human civilizations. We discuss such diverse topics as The Tomb of the Brothers, the Myth of Stonewall, and Toxic Avenger 3 or 4 - whichever was worse.REFERENCES: Neil Laird’s website: https://www.neillaird.com/ Follow Neil on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/neillaird/ Follow Neil on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61557422344116 Follow Neil on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@gay_history (00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:31) - Introducing Neil Laird (03:12) - An early love of film and air conditioning (06:38) - What does Western isolationism miss in human history? (11:25) - Travel with a sense of humility (15:04) - Promoting gay history in fiction (17:52) - The Tomb of the Brothers (22:06) - Humanity has always been queer (25:17) - Prehistoric doesn't mean unknown (29:29) - Interior decorators at Stonehenge (33:50) - Christian suppression of history (36:20) - Modern queer myths (40:56) - Knowing the history claims the identity (45:57) - The Other is magical (48:35) - Making gay love in ancient Rome real today (53:51) - The Mythology of the Stonewall Riots (55:21) - How to find Neil Laird on the internet (56:25) - Show closing (56:54) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

Today we hear an inspirational story from Duncan Bhaskaran-Brown. Duncan is a speaker, author, sober coach, and Morris dancer whose work challenges the stranglehold alcohol maintains over Western life. Duncan and I cover topics as diverse as alcohol addiction, how drinking affects the rich more than the poor, and The Agrarian Reforms of the 16th Century.REFERENCES:Duncan Bhaskaran Brown’s website: https://www.bhaskaranbrown.com/Follow Duncan on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/duncan.brown.5648/Follow Duncan on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/soberwarriorcoach/Follow Duncan on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/duncanbhaskaranbrown/(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:30) - Introducing Duncan Bhaskaran Brown (02:48) - Good childhood, still unemployable... (06:18) - Learning to be there for your family (11:32) - From addictive personality to cognitive realignment (14:52) - Everybody needs a coach (20:07) - Addiction as a form of self-punishment (23:10) - The unexpected demographics of drinking (28:19) - The road to hell is paved with moderation (32:40) - Can you be "cured?" (38:18) - Quit first or change your mindset first? (41:47) - Building the discipline of mindset (45:49) - Replacing addiction with addiction (48:38) - The joy of Morris Dancing (53:22) - A quick Morris history lesson (57:23) - The Agrarian Reforms of the 16th Century (59:41) - A bit of thanks... (01:01:07) - How to find Duncan Bhaskaran Brown (01:02:39) - Show closing (01:03:24) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

Today's episode features a story of what can go right when you don't like school. Eric Gee is an author, a writing and life coach, and founder of the Youtopia Project, which helps people discover their personality and work with the strengths and weaknesses within. Eric and I mull over topics as far-flung as holistic personality theory, how we disagree with our negative traits, and the beauty of Abyssinian pottery. REFERENCES: Eric Gee’s website: https://www.projectyoutopia.com/ Youtopia Assessment: https://youtopiaproject.com/youtopia-16-assessment-2/ Follow Eric on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/eric-gee-3565a79/ Follow Eric on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_power_of_personality/ Follow Eric on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/eric.c.gee/ (00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:30) - Introducing Eric Gee (02:24) - When boring school subjects make great careers (06:52) - Holistic theory vs independent variables (09:39) - The four packs (15:15) - Behavior vs core life values (20:21) - The sixteen animal personalities (23:49) - Nobody agrees with negative traits (29:45) - Totally a chimpanzee... (34:53) - How do we use our animal personality? (39:25) - Demographics and animal personality (45:51) - The strengths that play off our weaknesses (49:42) - Find Eric Gee and Youtopia (51:42) - Generation X reminisces... (55:21) - Show closing (56:20) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

Today we hear a heartbreaking story of disconnection with Kyleigh Weathers. Kyleigh is an attachment coach, podcaster, and the founder of Queerly Attached, through which she helps others overcome feeling outside the family to become secure in themselves. We speak about topics as diverse as how being raised Mormon demands so much, feeling and dealing with attachment wounds, and a prescient poem.REFERENCES:Kyleigh Weathers’s Queerly Attached website: https://queerlyattached.net/Follow Kyleigh on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/QueerlyAttached/Follow Kyleigh on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queerlyattachedFollow Kyleigh on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queerlyattachedMichael Singer "The Untethered Soul": https://untetheredsoul.com/untethered-soul(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:31) - Introducing Kyleigh Weathers (03:22) - Creating a queer life (10:31) - When you aren't part of the family (15:58) - Creating her own family (20:19) - Becoming reconnected in mind, body, and spirit (25:19) - Feeling and dealing with emotions opens us to opportunity (30:07) - Sit down, Kyleigh: an introduction to attachment theory (35:43) - Models of insecure attachment (40:12) - Reuniting with our abandoned self (47:02) - Behaving as our higher self would (53:21) - Breaking the cycle of insecure attachment (56:20) - Intentions of Mormonism (01:02:00) - Life is still stressful...just less so (01:05:18) - A Permanent Address (01:06:41) - How to find Kyleigh Weathers (01:08:29) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

Today's episode features the eminently magical Jhenah Telyndru! Jhenah is an author, Celticist, and Priestess who founded the Sisterhood of Avalon. In this illuminating discussion, Jhenah and I consider the role of culture in gender, promote spiritual service to all, and have a good chuckle over ancient Welsh poetry slams.REFERENCES:Jhenah Telyndru’s website: https://ynysafallon.com/Sisterhood of Avalon website: https://sisterhoodofavalon.org/Follow Jhenah on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ynysafallon/Follow Jhenah on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ynysafallon/Find Jhenah on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JhenahTelyndruKeep up with Jhenah on Linktree: https://linktr.ee/YnysAfallon (00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:28) - Introducing Jhenah Telyndru (03:01) - The birth of a Goddess worshiper (04:27) - Does the body drive gender and magic? (07:53) - Gender and culture (12:38) - Conscious self-determination (15:42) - The balance of power between genders (26:08) - Spiritual service to the Universe (34:38) - The Sisterhood of Avalon (39:27) - The relationship between light and shadow (43:26) - Is our existence pathological? (47:43) - Our worst weakness can become our greatest strength (53:55) - The three levels of the Avalonian Tradition (01:02:01) - Geeking out on jewelry (01:06:34) - How to find Jhenah Telyndru (01:08:19) - Show closing (01:09:58) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

On today's show, I speak with the wonderfully introspective Louise Boye. Louise is a Qi Gong instructor and musician who also facilitates groups in learning Nonviolent Communication. We cover topics that span from honoring our bodies and emotions, recovering from isolation, and how Hamlet really fits into daily conversation.REFERENCES:Louise Boye's Qi Gong website: https://www.facebook.com/QiGongLouiseBoye/Empati Venner / Empathy Buddies Discord server: https://discord.gg/cvxgkrCyXEFollow Louise on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@zhcoopFollow Louise on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/qigonglouiseboye/Support Louise on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/zhcoop480/postFind Louise on SoundCloud: https://soundcloud.com/zhcoop https://soundcloud.com/1n5ec7 https://soundcloud.com/bredsmag(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:29) - Introducing Louise Boye (02:32) - Beginning to consider how to be human (08:44) - Nonviolent communication is critical for healing (14:56) - Communication requires connection (21:24) - Learning who we are never ends (26:28) - The cyclicity of life (31:13) - Western society is too disconnected from Nature (34:07) - Fear of death is fear of living (37:53) - It can't always be Summer (40:48) - Human life as a wheel (48:15) - Modern life is making us sick (52:43) - Some parts of life serve only as compost (55:11) - Nature will supply what we need (01:02:06) - Show closing (01:02:38) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

Today's episode features a fascinating discussion of psychic energy with Gao Motsemme. An African Quantum Witchdoctor and Psychic Surgeon, Gao's work teaches us how to tune into our natural energetic fields to build a better life. Gao and I discuss topics as diverse as the power inherited through our names, the unsinkable honesty of our soul, and the social philosophy of Depeche Mode.REFERENCES:Gao Motsemme’s website: https://www.gaomotsemme.com/Follow Gao on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@gaoconfidence.motsemmeFollow Gao on YouTube: www.youtube.com/@gaomotsemme4856Follow Gao on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gaomotsemme/(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:26) - Introducing Gao Motsemme (02:29) - A greeting and invitation to experience (05:42) - Fighting to be who we are (09:28) - What if you were meant to be the first to solve the problem? (11:38) - What we inherit through our names (16:51) - Changing our name can cast off past energy sinks (29:23) - Heaping shame on a celebration (36:51) - Soul connections (39:47) - Being fully in the body (46:38) - Self-hatred disconnects us from Source (51:03) - Releasing guilt improves the Universe (59:45) - The world according to Depeche Mode (01:08:15) - How to find Gao Motsemme (01:09:45) - Show closing (01:10:45) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

In today's episode, I have a delightful chat with Dr. Redfern Jon Barrett. Redfern is a writer, journalist, and activist who recently published "Proud Pink Sky," an alternate history of Nazi Germany and the establishment of the first gay state. Redfern and I discuss topics as diverse as being flexible with labels, the history of homosexual relationships, and the best Pokemon there is.REFERENCES:Redfern Jon Barrett’s website: https://www.redjon.com/Follow Redfern on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/redfernjon.bsky.socialFollow Redfern on Mastodon: https://mastodon.social/@[email protected](00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:32) - Introducing Redfern Jon Barrett (02:26) - All the pieces of the puzzle without being assembled (06:53) - Owning a name to own an identity (10:58) - The power of being flexible with labels (18:00) - The liminal spaces of identity (24:11) - What happened to change our perception of relationships? (28:12) - Identity shouldn't be a straightjacket (36:04) - How much Redfern is in their books? (39:10) - Queer culture is not Utopia (45:53) - Making Queer culture even less normal (49:55) - The LGBTQ Civil War (53:08) - What is a Proud Pink Sky? (01:00:03) - Finding Redfern Jon Barrett (01:04:50) - Show closing (01:05:29) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

Today's episode features the amazing Catherine Stagg-Macey. Catherine is an Executive Coach, hostess of the podcast Unsaid @ Work, and finder of lost mojo. We discuss topics critical to improving the workplace today, including living our own dreams, being safely authentic, and wearing a purple Speedo to work.REFERENCES:Catherine Stagg-Macey’s website: https://www.conversationsattheedge.co.uk/Unsaid @ Work podcast: https://www.podpage.com/unsaid-at-work/Follow Catherine on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/staggmacey/?hl=enFollow Catherine on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/staggmacey/(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:30) - Introducing Catherine Stagg-Macey (02:48) - Is it possible to be fulfilled with work? (06:30) - Examining our lives gives them meaning (09:43) - Living someone else's dream (13:19) - The fish rots from the head down (17:45) - Fitting the purpose of the organization (20:48) - Speaking truth to power (26:41) - Authenticity must have a positive influence (31:35) - Authentic in which social environment? (35:58) - Be authentic only where it's safe (40:14) - Women in technology (49:19) - Do women make better leaders? (56:37) - Let's not entertain fragile egos (01:00:18) - Finding Catherine Stagg-Macey (01:01:29) - Show closing (01:03:30) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

In this episode, I have an enchanting conversation with Josephine McCarthy. Josephine is an esoteric author and the Director of Quareia, a free, online, magical training course (that I highly recommend!). We cover topics as diverse as goddesses beautiful and terrible, how physical changes affect our magical connection, and dangerous cows.REFERENCES:Josephine McCarthys’s website: https://josephinemccarthy.com/Quareia’s website: https://www.quareia.com/Quareia Publishing website: https://www.quareiapublishing.com/Follow Quareia on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/quareia(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:28) - Introducing Josephine McCarthy (03:40) - What is magic? (07:56) - Stable magical systems (16:11) - Are we so ignorant of Nature around us? (23:26) - A wide scale of gender is normal (31:11) - The power to bring both life and death (40:08) - The ability to feel both sides (44:51) - Magic can change with physical changes (54:03) - Protective magic comes with femininity (01:01:15) - Big magical hits can be devastating (01:06:41) - Ladyboys and mangirls (01:11:57) - Show closing (01:13:48) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

In today's episode, I speak with Sara Webb, a Resilience Coach who specializes in breakup and meditation therapy. Sara and I talk about topics as off-the-wall as how trauma can be seen as valuable to growth, Western medicine's focus on symptoms instead of health, and the billions of bits of data that hit you every second.REFERENCES:Sara Webb’s website: https://www.sarawebbsays.com/Follow Sara on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarawebbsays/Follow Sara on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SaraWebbSaysFollow Sara on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/SaraWebbSays/"Breath" by James Nestor: https://www.amazon.com/Breath-New-Science-Lost-Art/dp/0735213615The Buteyko mthod: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Buteyko_method"Autobiography of a Yogi" by Paramahamsa Yogananda: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Autobiography_of_a_Yogi(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:32) - Introducing Sara Webb (02:27) - Trauma is a gift (06:41) - The value of denial, distraction, and dissociation (11:05) - Heartbreak is not genderered (15:46) - Billions of bits of data (21:07) - A mental fast from billions of bits of data (24:06) - The role of breath in therapy (31:16) - Be wary of a Master with One True Way (33:23) - We only have normal people here (37:13) - Attachment traits, not attachment states (41:05) - Becoming aware of our body (46:51) - Journaling as therapy (52:58) - Challenging your body to do the uncomfortable (57:17) - It can't always be Summer (01:01:51) - How to find Sara Webb (01:03:57) - Show closing (01:04:25) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

In this episode, I speak with Andrea Leigh about saying "yes" to experiences. Andrea is a high-impact coach, fashionista, and Co-Host on Thriving Women Network TV. Topics include finding comfort in discomfort, living life to the fullest, and parents who accept gender transition as long as football isn't impacted.REFERENCES:Andrea Leigh’s website: https://www.andrealeigh.com/Follow Andrea on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrea-leigh-borth-b72159b/Follow Andrea on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therealandrealeigh/(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:27) - Introducing Andrea Leigh (02:16) - Love and purpose shape a childhood (09:06) - Parents can accept their transgender daughter! (12:38) - Saying yes to experiences (17:08) - Finding comfort in discomfort (20:11) - Conquering the fashion industry (25:58) - Authenticity and success (30:42) - Putting yourself into uncomfortable places in order to grow (34:31) - Our adversity is our own perception (39:08) - Is there room for femininity in corporate America? (49:41) - There is no normal (54:37) - What truly divides us as a society (59:10) - How to find Andrea Leigh (01:00:04) - You are not a constituency (01:04:39) - Show closing (01:05:04) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

Today's episode features Jake Didinsky, a pansexual, nonbinary DJ and Producer. Jake is also co-founder of the inclusive night club event "Lights Out, Barks Out." In our discussion, we cover topics as far afield as the power of inclusivity, helping cis / het people understand the queer experience, and the Right Old White Guy.REFERENCES:Jake Didinsky’s website: https://jakemaxwellproductions.com/Follow Jake on MixCloud: https://www.mixcloud.com/live/jakeMaxwell/Follow Jake on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LightsOutBarksOutFollow Jake on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lightsoutbarksoutdc/Gender Identity Today: https://genderidentitytoday.com(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:25) - Introducing Jake Didinsky (02:30) - A quick biology lesson about mitochondria (07:44) - Adversity as an instruction manual (15:25) - Inclusivity is giving people the benefit of human decency (20:05) - Kink can bring us all together if we let it (25:31) - Cis / het people CAN understand (30:15) - What makes us unique is allows us to grow (37:29) - From crummy DJ to kicking in doors (43:59) - LOBO grows out of the need to make the world better (48:23) - White straight men with money ruin everything (53:10) - How to find Jake Didinsky (55:15) - An unrelated story about every day in the ICU (58:22) - We need to use the system to change the system (01:09:04) - A quick plug for Gender Identity Today (01:10:20) - Show closing (01:11:04) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

In today's episode, I speak with Karen Anne Coccioli. Karen is a queer author and public speaker whose queer memoir "Paradise" is available on Amazon. We cover topics as disparate as fleeing fascism, madness as a source of gender, and the purple light within.REFERENCES:Karen Anne Coccioli’s website: https://www.karenannecoccioli.com/Annie Moon’s website: https://www.authoranniemoon.com/Follow Karen Anne on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karenannecoccioli/Follow Karen Anne on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/karenanne.coccioli/Gender Identity Today: https://genderidentitytoday.com(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:29) - Introducing Karen Anne Coccioli (02:02) - The origin of an author (09:07) - Family flight from fascism (16:01) - Writing through conversion therapy (22:27) - The gendered body and madness (27:12) - Is madness pathological or powerful? (34:35) - Madness as a source of gender (40:32) - Living as you are glows you up (44:45) - Using what we have to work with (50:25) - You can't be told who you are (55:09) - Would you change it if you could? (59:00) - Don't stamp your children's sparks (01:03:05) - How to find Karen (01:03:53) - Show closing (01:05:29) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

Today's episode features the effervescent Cherish Amber! Cherish is a queer sex, love, and relationship coach who teaches we must know ourselves in order to have good sex and solid relationships. We talk about topics as diverse as prerequisites to good sex, stigmatizing sex to maintain control, and Virgin Condoms.REFERENCES:Cherish Amber’s website: https://www.cherishamber.com/Follow Cherish on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cherishambercoachingFollow Cherish on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecherishamber/Follow Cherish on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cherishambercoachingGender Identity Today: https://genderidentitytoday.com(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:27) - Introducing Cherish Amber (02:43) - Learning from every person (07:16) - Know your own pleasure (09:49) - Being gentle with yourself (14:01) - Good sex means meeting yourself where you are (16:24) - Can we meet ourselves and not have it relate to sex? (21:42) - The stigma of sex is all for control (27:42) - Masculinization of sex, love, and relationships (34:07) - Rejecting social expectations means being more aware of trauma (39:38) - Tools to address trauma (46:00) - No such thing as little bits of trauma (51:32) - Language as a contributor to misunderstanding (01:01:01) - How to find Cherish Amber (01:02:43) - Show closing (01:03:01) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

In today's episode, I speak with the incredible Jasmine Vine! If you've been living under a rock for the past decade, Jasmine is a trans empowerment specialist with training in several modalities of mental health treatment. Jasmine and I discuss the urgency of gender transition, being able to identify with your therapist, and West Coast Privilege.REFERENCES:Javine Coaching: https://www.javinecoaching.comFollow Jasmine on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jasminevineeFollow Jasmine on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jasmine.vineeFollow Jasmine on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jasminevineeGender Identity Today: https://genderidentitytoday.com(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:24) - Introducing Jasmine Vine (02:11) - Jasmine's public gender transition (06:06) - Not initially a transgender story (10:18) - We do what it takes because we must (13:31) - Was transition a part of the mental health struggle? (18:09) - Breaking out of the hater cycle (23:48) - Find the root cause (27:39) - Risk involved in becoming who we are (32:07) - Young transition doesn't mean less shame to process (35:24) - Experience makes a better teacher (40:10) - How does a mentor process another person's shame? (44:33) - Vocal feminization and West Coast Privilege (51:25) - You must believe for it to be true (57:16) - How to find Jasmine Vine (58:41) - Show closing ★ Support this podcast ★

In this episode, I am proud to feature my dear friend Kaedyn Nedopak. Kaedyn is an Award-winning Queer Transgender Producer, Author, Podcaster, and Activist...and he really lives up to the list! Kaedyn and I talk about such interesting topics as Hollywood's failure to break gender roles, Pagan practices with Irish goddesses, and dissin' from the 80s.REFERENCES:Follow Kaedyn on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/transfaerieprince/Follow Kaedyn on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@transfaerieprinceFollow Kaedyn on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kaedynnedopak/Watch CAGD Interview with Kaedyn: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nVtpsXku2hMKaedyn Nedopak on IMDb: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm2969725(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:24) - Introducing Kaedyn Nedopak (03:48) - Small town productions to cast as trophy wife (08:13) - Somewhere in between (12:28) - Gender roles or cast roles- same rigidity (19:41) - Dissin' from the 80s (20:48) - Faerie Prince of the Land (27:14) - The Sun and The Morrigan (31:25) - We are each a Triple Goddess (34:18) - The Moon and hormone therapy (40:52) - Pagan practices (45:40) - Quick etymology and history lesson (52:51) - Leadership of the Trans Faerie Prince (01:01:26) - Showing, telling, and completing stories (01:07:15) - Show closing (01:13:16) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

This episode features Win Charles, an award-winning author, podcaster, and advocate for people with disabilities. Win and I discuss the abuse people with disability face, the help available after abuse, and why you should have a rainbow sticker on your wheelchair.REFERENCES:Win Charles on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ButterfliesofWisdomWin Charles on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wincharles/“I, Win” on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B009YLKW54Win Charles on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGN0mfJdlpKG8IdJTBjKTowCEO of a Disability podcast: http://ceoofadisability.weebly.com/(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:33) - Introducing Win Charles (02:22) - The beginning of Win's tenacity (08:19) - High incidence of abuse for people with disabilities (17:21) - Finally getting help (21:17) - Confronting the abusers (24:15) - Protection for people with disabilities (28:52) - Escaping the situation (40:20) - Being able to move forward (48:42) - How to find Win (51:28) - Let us all rally together! (53:24) - Show closing (53:42) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

Today I present an amazing conversation with Lindsay Law. Lindsay retired from a career as an executive producer and President of Fox Searchlight Pictures to become a novelist. Lindsay and I discuss the story of "Boys Don't Cry," why we need more gay people in media, and the magic of Vermont.REFERENCES:Lindsay’s personal website: https://www.lindsaylaw.net/Follow Lindsay on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lindsay.law/“The Orphan from Shepherds Keep:” https://www.amazon.com/Orphan-Shepherds-Keep-Intertwined-Rightful/dp/B0CXYPYX23(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:37) - Introducing Lindsay Law (04:26) - Choosing stories for American Playhouse (07:40) - Good storytelling has an impact (11:57) - Boys Don't Cry (18:32) - Introducing the world to gay people (24:48) - Why wouldn't these stories be on TV? (29:33) - We are all in a 10 percent category (31:50) - The truth cannot be generic (35:02) - Characters live inside your identity (40:00) - Good storytelling has a real atmosphere (47:50) - Stories about healing (52:09) - Characters lead to the story (54:57) - Writing longhand vs. on a computer (58:18) - Finance who people are, not what they can pitch (01:04:07) - How to find Lindsay (01:06:55) - Show closing (01:08:26) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

In this episode, I host Dr. Lino Martinez! Dr. Lino is an author, podcaster, and Professor of Psychology who views his ability to survive not as extraordinary, only human. Lino and I discuss existential psychology, depleting ourselves to please others, and The Meaning to Life.REFERENCES:Lino’s professional website: https://www.alittlelessfear.com/A Little LESS FEAR podcast: https://www.alittlelessfear.com/podcastMuckle-Wells Syndrome: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Muckle%E2%80%93Wells_syndrome(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:32) - Introducing Dr. Lino Martinez (03:09) - Birth as we choose it, even when it's difficult (08:10) - Fighting not for life, but for being awesome (17:34) - The rebirth of Dr. Lino Martinez (24:01) - Dr. Lino's search for meaning (29:27) - Combating a sense of isolation (34:04) - The Meaning to Life (38:24) - Pleasing people as a trauma response (43:16) - Gender transition is not a change of identity (52:51) - What doesn't kill me reveals the strength that was already there (01:01:30) - How to find Dr. Lino (01:02:58) - Show closing (01:04:10) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

Today's episode features Mx. Crys/ta Song, a Speech Language Pathologist and vocalist who is also Board Co-Chair of Queer Oriented Radical Days of Summer (QORDS). Crys/ta and I talk about such topics as why the South should not be discounted as a political forum, how we cannot help but be part of humanity, and obscure William Makepeace Thackeray quotes.–REFERENCES:Follow Crys/ta Song on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mx.singasong/QORDS website: https://qords.org/Follow QORDS on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Qords/Follow QORDS on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/qords_camp/Transcend NYC Chorus: https://www.transcendsings.org/“Braiding Sweetgrass:” https://milkweed.org/book/braiding-sweetgrassQuote from “The Crow:” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s6sz0mgQL_A(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:32) - Introducing Crys/ta Song (02:31) - The beauty in pure vocal sounds (06:11) - Applying sound to the human experience (09:52) - Genderless choir (12:23) - Music Theory for Cis/Het White Dudes (15:11) - Gendered Voice for Cis/Het White Dudes (20:59) - Healing through community connections (27:15) - Chosen family is different from the labels we adopt (31:07) - Mother is the name for God in the lips and hearts of little children (35:55) - Stay aloof or be in the human community? (43:12) - Why it's worth investing in the South (49:44) - Transformation during Queer Oriented Radical Days of Summer (57:10) - Can QORDS help youth with recalcitrant parents? (01:01:41) - Finding Crys/ta in the Universe (01:03:21) - Show closing (01:04:54) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

This week's episode features the ever-talented Danni Velasquez-Mora. Danni is Founder and Creative Director of Womankind Creative and - because we had such a great conversation about women's representation the first time (see the link below), Danni wanted to interview me to get an angle on how the transgender community would appreciate representation in marketing. We talk about topics as far-reaching as where gender originates, who fits the mold of "normal" woman, and the importance of label-lumping.–REFERENCES:Womankind Creative: https://www.womankindcreative.com/Womankind Creative LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/womankindcreative/Womankind Creative Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/womankindcreative/(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:49) - Introducing...Amethysta? (07:55) - Gender is not a choice (12:06) - Gender is hard for everybody (16:07) - Presenting as a woman when you aren't a "normal" woman (24:24) - And it's no easier for transgender men (27:12) - Manifesting who we are requires grit (29:32) - Marketing and the transgender experience (34:15) - Doctor? Or Woman Doctor? (36:55) - Marketing and the Self-Concept (43:12) - Appearing inclusive vs. being inclusive (46:26) - Transgender hyperexpression (52:07) - Every conversation is only about people (56:25) - Is the problem too much knowledge? (01:01:34) - Lumped into labels (01:04:54) - Let's have more of these conversations (01:08:22) - Show closing (01:09:08) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

In this week's episode, I speak with Professor Loretta Breuning about human behavior. Loretta is a Professor Emerita of Management, the Founder of The Inner Mammal Institute, and author of the book "Habits of a Happy Brain." We consider such topics as how our undesired behavior can be modified given the appropriate reward, finding forgiveness even for our parents, and why not everybody is mad at you.–REFERENCES:The Inner Mammal Institute: https://innermammalinstitute.org/Alice Miller: http://www.alice-miller.com/Albert Ellis: http://www.albertellis.info/(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:27) - Introducing Loretta Breuning (02:13) - How conflict made a career (06:22) - Building the brain's big highways (10:05) - The animal brain explains it all (13:00) - The mammal brain brings cooperation (14:28) - Neuroplasticity demonstrates experience, not genetics (18:03) - Working with our neurochemical preferences (22:52) - Running away from fear and pain works (26:12) - Not everybody is mad at you (30:33) - Forgiveness is almost unnecessary (35:37) - Rearing childhood out of children (40:22) - At least your crush doesn't have lice (43:26) - Being cool is hard work (45:37) - Any similarity between the Mammal Brain and modern psychology? (49:13) - The Mammal Brain in human identity (53:03) - Life doesn't always suck (57:15) - Show closing ★ Support this podcast ★

Today's episode features an amazing artist and friend, Cendrine Marrouat. Cendrine really has done it all: poet, photographer, painter, podcaster, and author. We discuss topics as diverse as camels, the importance of haiku, and why Hemingway is boring.-- REFERENCES:Cendrine’s professional website: https://creativeramblings.com/Auroras & Blossoms website: https://abpositiveart.com/(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:29) - Introducing Cendrine Marrouat (03:11) - How does one become this creative? (07:50) - Perfectionism taken to the right level (10:54) - Challenge yourself constantly (15:34) - Being comfortable looking ignorant (19:27) - Good writing lets you read between the lines (23:01) - Our favorite Jane Austen books (28:24) - When too little space exists between the lines (32:31) - Learn to write a good haiku (38:03) - The space between in photography (45:33) - Synthesizing a visceral YES (52:23) - Refusing to open to the story (56:30) - Trauma does not need to be our story (01:02:44) - Leading with the between (01:04:52) - Show closing (01:07:23) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

In today's episode, I have a fun discussion about a serious topic with Brittany Sandoval. As a registered nurse and foster parent, Brittany had to process her childhood trauma to help her children become better people. Brittany and I talk about the meaning of anger, how generational trauma can be healed, and Lesbian TikTok. P.S. No cats were harmed in the making of this podcast.--REFERENCES:The Odd Mom Pod: https://link.chtbl.com/oddmompodInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/brittanysandovalrn/(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:27) - Introducing Brittany Sandoval (03:06) - What makes Brittany's journey? (06:32) - Healing spreads outward from the source (11:00) - From eight months old, for the rest of our lives (15:40) - How can happy parents have unhappy children? (20:10) - What anger agaisnt others really means (24:06) - Swinging from one side to another in search of ourselves (28:31) - Paganism, Moon phases, and boobs (33:58) - Is generational trauma based on nature or nurture? (36:18) - Breaking the chain of generational trauma (41:57) - Healing scars with Lesbian TikTok (46:29) - Respecting our children to teach them respect (50:01) - A journey of sexuality and gender (52:44) - Are Brittany and I "groomers?" (56:23) - How to find Brittany (57:50) - Show closing (58:24) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

In today's episode, I have an honest conversation with Victoria Pelletier, an executive leader, best-selling author, and motivational speaker. Victoria talks me through what it takes to push through adversity, how transgender care is even more difficult for parents, and why jerks need honesty more than the rest of us.--REFERENCES:Victoria’s website: https://victoria-pelletier.com(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:24) - Introducing Victoria Pelletier (02:36) - Victoria's Origin Story (04:49) - Can you choose to become unstoppable? (07:52) - Facing discomfort (11:12) - Being aware of your role in the situation (14:57) - Make the choice to lead (17:09) - What if you really are a jerk? (18:35) - Diversity is good for business (22:35) - Token diversity is not good for business (25:13) - Personal branding is more than a hair flip (30:01) - Make the brand worth a damn (34:25) - Your legacy will change over time (39:24) - From victim to unstoppable requires control (40:54) - Hard choices being transgender (45:01) - Show closing (45:54) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

In this episode, I talk with Danni Velasquez-Mora, an absolutely amazing woman who ups the game in marketing as Founder and Creative Director at Womankind Creative. Danni and I talk about important topics as healing through representation, seeing our own possibilities, and why Wonder Girl should have had a longer run.--REFERENCES:Womankind Creative: https://www.womankindcreative.com/Womankind Creative LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/womankindcreative/Womankind Creative Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/womankindcreative/(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:24) - Introducing Danni Velasquez-Mora (02:19) - Womankind Creative as a journey of healing (07:22) - The impact of unhiding womanhood (10:54) - The divine feminine of Womankind (16:19) - The battle against reinforcing male dominance (19:33) - Seeing the possibility in ourselves (24:34) - Token representation comes from ignorance of the experience (28:52) - Showing us all uplifts us all (37:23) - Making brands compete for our attention (42:54) - Buying power from more than white men (47:56) - Healing gender dysphoria for everybody (51:48) - Feminism as reality, not another fantasy (58:15) - Show closing (59:25) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

In this on-location podcast shoot, I have a grand time with Julia DiVerdi. Julia is a stunning burlesque and belly dancer who shifted her focus to an inclusive dance studio where she can teach anybody how to dance! We talk about subjects as far afield as accidentally starting to teach, how learning dance can be healing, and Julia's plan for my first burlesque routine (yikes!!).--REFERENCES:Julia DiVerdi and Starlight Studio: https://juliadiverdi.com/Overcoming My Hidden Transphobia: https://genderidentitytoday.com/overcoming-my-hidden-transphobia/(00:00) - Opening credits (00:37) - Show opening (01:29) - Introducing Julia DiVerdi (03:47) - Beginning to dance...and teach! (07:32) - Cupcake Cabaret and the burlesque explosion (10:30) - Julia can teach anybody to dance (15:05) - Teaching comfort by example (20:02) - The hyperfemininity of burlesque (23:20) - Is drag a mockery of femininity? (27:36) - No drag class for you! (32:30) - Fundamentalist Christian drag queens (37:05) - Hair removal horror stories (40:13) - A genderless mess (43:43) - Body and mind as one (48:25) - Dance for healing (53:52) - Authentic expression of the feminine (57:25) - Show closing (58:35) - Closing credits ★ Support this podcast ★

In this episode, I speak with John C. Morley. John is a prolific podcaster and writer, a great storyteller, and a serial entrepreneur. John and I talk about believing in ourselves as the foundation of success, taking the risks necessary to achieve what we want, and why hypnotists shouldn't embarrass people during their shows.--REFERENCES:John’s Linktree: http://believemeachieve.comThe JMOR Tech Talk Show: https://www.youtube.com/@TheJMORTechTalkShowInspirations for your Life: https://podcastscj.podbean.com/John’s Recent Articles: https://www.linkedin.com/in/johncmorleyiv/recent-activity/articles/The Silva Method: https://silvamethod.com/(00:00) - Show opening (00:44) - Introducing John C. Morley (01:29) - Serial entrepreneurship (07:15) - Creating new beliefs (16:11) - Letting them down easy (20:29) - Integrity and knowing you can (24:53) - Breakfast, lunch, or dinner? (29:49) - Promises, not goals (32:49) - Take challenges as they come (37:32) - Make it happen by manifesting it (43:55) - Thought is connected to the world (49:54) - Karma is a harsh mistress (55:27) - What frequency are you tuned in to? (58:59) - The Alphabet of Gratitude (01:01:27) - Show closing ★ Support this podcast ★

Today I have the distinct honor of interviewing Emily Kailyn. Emily began a community called The Transverse and continues her great work for the transgender, nonbinary, and gender non-conforming community. Emily and I consider the hard decisions required in building community, the dreams we need to move society forward, and why confidence makes the gender.--The Transverse: https://thetransverse.net/The community Discord server: https://thetransverse.net/discordInstagram: https://instagram.com/thetransversenetwork https://instagram.com/thetransgendershowYouTube: Video: https://youtube.com/thetransverse The Transgender Show Podcast: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLD_d3L2xVsoEEr5boQSP8nn6jekFnzROB&si=fErmwzDzSCiR-SMHFollow Emily’s personal account at https://instagram.com/emilywouldgoSupport at https://patreon.com/thetransverse(00:00) - Show opening (00:47) - Introducing Emily (01:37) - How The Transverse begun (05:40) - Community as activism (08:43) - Running a business sometimes takes hard decisions (13:02) - Helping with housing (17:26) - Yet another "Am I Trans Enough?" (22:03) - Transgender Elders and their benefits (25:40) - How do you find the identity of 1400 people as one? (32:09) - The value of cisgender people in transgender communities (37:59) - The most important component of a social transition (45:41) - Gatekeepers need not apply (55:01) - Calls to Action! (56:42) - Show closing ★ Support this podcast ★

Today on the program, I speak with Amanda Lien, a technical copywriter and published science fiction author. Amanda gives us the lowdown on why technology and fiction must show humanity as it is - to remind each of us we are a part of it. We talk about how marketing frequently doesn't get it, lament villains made worse by being gay, and remember 1970s pop music.REFERENCES:Amanda Lien professional website: https://www.amandajlien.com/Find Amanda on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandajlien/-sense"I Am Woman" by Helen Reddy: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I_Am_WomanGender Identity Today: https://genderidentitytoday.com/(00:00) - Show opening (00:37) - Introducing Amanda Lien (01:15) - If you know...you know (06:47) - Conducting yourself professionally should be enough (09:25) - Representation is about getting it (12:46) - Things are better and worse (14:48) - Gender neutrality in anime (20:53) - When villians are only "queer" (26:28) - Tell the stories nobody else will give you (30:37) - Representation is not always appreciated (33:25) - What is good representation? (38:32) - Hear me roar with my power (44:20) - Token representation is worse than none (49:50) - Quality is the point of representation (53:58) - A hidden cost of representation in film (58:49) - Feeling uncomfortable about taking the spotlight (01:04:10) - Show closing ★ Support this podcast ★

In this fascinating episode, get ready to geek out with Lindsay Tabas, a technologist also known as The Lady Engineer®. Lindsay and I have some great discussion around why technology works against us instead of for us. I only make a few diversions...like why that red button requires a new security architecture.REFERENCES:Lindsay Tabas professional website: https://www.lindsayt.com/Follow Lindsay on LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/lindsaytabasMake Sense w/ the Lady Engineer®: https://www.lindsayt.com/make-senseProduct-Market Fit E-book: https://www.lindsayt.com/product-market-fit(00:00) - Show opening (00:36) - Introducing Lindsay Tabas (08:02) - The Lady Engineer brand (12:47) - The tech industry gets an unwarranted free pass (17:09) - Developers give entrepreneurs a snow job... (18:57) - ...and sometimes the entrepreneur is just a dick (23:00) - Breaking the myths of entrepreneurship (28:53) - Dialing in your product's sights (32:00) - Find a real problem to solve (35:30) - The real problem in technology is hubris about the solution (41:59) - Being risk-averse is a good trait! (46:05) - Let go of the ego to invoke success (49:35) - Changing the system is neverending (57:45) - And in the end...this is identity (01:01:48) - Show closing ★ Support this podcast ★

In this episode, I have a great conversation with Mona Lazar, an artist, writer, and relationship coach. Mona and I contemplate finding reflection in a relationship, why social roles must change for humanity to survive, and how filled doughnuts probably roll downhill better than those with holes in the middle.REFERENCES:Mona's personal website: https://monalazar.com/Find Mona on Medium: https://medium.com/@monalazzarFind Mona on Substack: https://wordwhisperers.substack.com"And Then All the Women Wanted to Be Lesbians": https://medium.com/the-soulciety/and-then-all-the-women-wished-they-were-lesbians-419923cf10fGender Identity Today: https://genderidentitytoday.com/(00:00) - Show opening (00:37) - Introducing Mona (04:32) - And Then All the Women Wanted to Be Lesbians (07:44) - Being completed in a relationship (13:36) - Is it being a lesbian or finding reflection? (18:21) - The difficulty with most relationships (23:57) - Permission to be ourselves (29:26) - Breaking out of social roles (36:04) - The value of other gender roles (41:46) - So how do we be ourselves? (49:18) - We need those people who challenge social expectations (55:43) - Mona reflects Ami (00:19) - Of moving reproduction and rotating pastries (01:04:35) - Show closing ★ Support this podcast ★

In this episode of the show, I speak with my very good friend Shannara Quissell, an amazing attorney and Executive Director of the Colorado Name Change Project. Shannara and I discuss the important things in life: our right to define ourselves, our obligation to trust each other, and the beauty of the brocket for storing documents.REFERENCES:Connect with Shannara on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shannara-quissell-25072387/The first of name change blogs: https://www.zalesskylaw.com/blog/name-changesColorado LGBTQ Bar Association: https://www.clba.netColorado Name Change Project: https://www.namechangeproject.org/Dana Zzyym: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dana_ZzyymGender Identity Today: https://genderidentitytoday.com/(00:00) - Show opening (00:36) - Introducing Shannara Quissell (03:43) - A desire to make a difference (07:18) - Law as penalty, not support (09:17) - Finding Colorado Name Change Project (12:42) - Names as identity, not gender (17:46) - Name change is even hard for attorneys (21:49) - For the love of stamping (23:49) - States get to make names change as hard as they choose (27:23) - Names are only about money (31:29) - Names used to be only social constructs (34:00) - Gender marker is less than social construct in Colorado (37:56) - Jude's Law (42:16) - Change your entire view of identity (49:12) - Gender change for intersex people (54:41) - Trust could go a little further (56:43) - The Episode's Misty-Eyed Moment (01:01:57) - Show closing ★ Support this podcast ★

In today's episode, I speak with Lisa Haukom: a dear friend, photographer, and developer of The Self-Portrait Method - a course designed to help us learn to see who we truly are. Lisa and I talk about topics as diverse as self-objectification, why we must approve of ourselves first, and the claptrap of a French Bitch.REFERENCES:Goldenbrand Photography: https://www.thegoldenbrand.co/The Self-Portrait Method: https://www.thegoldenbrand.co/self-portraitstudioAustin Kleon: https://austinkleon.com/Gender Identity Today: https://genderidentitytoday.com/(00:00) - Show opening (00:36) - Introducing Lisa (03:05) - Why did I feel beautiful in a photo shoot? (05:36) - The magic of being seen through other eyes (09:15) - Affirming, not validating (12:22) - The selfie camera is validation (15:33) - Just be yourself is terrible advice (20:21) - Self-objectification (25:15) - Affirmation requires our own approval (32:35) - Why do we try so hard when it isn't real? (37:32) - The truth you didn't know existed (40:35) - Why is authenticity compelling? (46:48) - Therapeutic value of selfies (54:57) - You really do gotta have faith (57:54) - Doing the work for French Bitch with a Window (59:59) - Show closing ★ Support this podcast ★

Today on the show, I discuss role-playing games with Bill Tucker, an experienced improv actor and tabletop role-playing gamer. Bill and I get philosophical about good and evil, when we can't be the person we want to be, and Darth Vader's poor fashion choices.REFERENCES:Find Bill on Twitter: https://twitter.com/imbilltuckerSly Flourish - Playing D&D can save your life: https://slyflourish.com/playing_dnd_can_save_your_life.htmlDungeons & Dragons: https://dnd.wizards.com/Traveller: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Traveller_(role-playing_game)Shadowdark: https://www.thearcanelibrary.com/pages/shadowdarkCall of Cthulu: https://www.chaosium.com/call-of-cthulhu-rpg/Gender Identity Today: https://genderidentitytoday.com/(00:00) - Show opening (00:43) - Introducing Bill Tucker (02:51) - RPGs can save your life (07:03) - Performing for an audience of one (11:38) - What's my motivation? (17:31) - Skin in the game (20:14) - When you don't make the character you want (25:55) - Moving the story forward (29:11) - The big and small stories (33:14) - Accept and build (36:36) - Society hands us roles (42:07) - Playing a role we can't understand (45:56) - Christmas in R'leyh (50:21) - Role-playing the typical human experience (53:36) - Good and bad - what's the diff? (58:36) - Show closing ★ Support this podcast ★

Today I speak with the one and only Ossiana Tepfenhart, who covered the adult film industry as a journalist and has written on topics from music to politics to sex. Ossiana and I discuss Lolita fashion, control freaks, and why we should not be embarrassed to appreciate a good orgasm.REFERENCES:Find Ossiana on Substack: https://ossiana.substack.com/ Find Ossiana on Medium: https://medium.com/@ossiana.tepfenhart Find The Refugee Newsletter on Substack: https://therefugee.substack.com/Gender Identity Today: https://genderidentitytoday.com/(00:00) - Show opening (00:35) - Introducing Ossiana (03:46) - Gender, beauty, and sexuality (09:01) - Unreal social expectations (11:27) - Ami defines gender and sexuality in 10 words or less (14:45) - Sex and gender are more than physical (18:26) - Beauty is not (always) symmetrical (23:26) - Scary sells...really well (29:28) - Sex is not a bad thing (33:42) - Victorian era repression (38:19) - Shame as a means of control (40:50) - Slut-shaming and society (45:00) - Forbidden fruit (48:59) - Abuse at the hands of those not getting any (51:43) - Show closing ★ Support this podcast ★

In this slightly different show, I engage my witchy side with Miriam Rachel, a medium and tarot reader who writes and teaches how to improve your life through divination. Miriam and I discuss karma, finding your inner depths, and why social media kinda sucks.REFERENCES:Miriam Reads Tarot on the web: https://miriamreadstarot.com/Find Miriam on Substack: https://miriamreadstarot.substack.com/ Find Miriam on Medium: https://medium.com/@msmir Find The Refugee Newsletter on Substack: https://therefugee.substack.com/Gender Identity Today: https://genderidentitytoday.com/(00:00) - Show opening (00:34) - Introducing Miriam (02:12) - How divination fits into a career (05:18) - The effect of the past on the present (06:30) - Overcoming Echoism with Tarot (10:23) - Self-reflection with tarot (13:51) - Western Magical Tradition (19:26) - Divination as forcing different experiences (24:34) - Introspection through divination (29:29) - Probing your personality (34:00) - Learning to read tarot (41:45) - Sleep paralysis (44:18) - Healthy balance with divination (47:42) - Do you believe in magic? (50:15) - How to get started (53:25) - How to find Miriam (54:40) - Social media as a distraction (56:52) - Show closing ★ Support this podcast ★

In this episode, I talk to Caitie Corradino, a Registered Dietician and body worker who explains the connections among body, mind, and spirit. Caitie and I talk about topics as diverse as fasting, dietary supplements, and one step better than acceptance.REFERENCES:Full Soul Nutritiion: https://www.fullsoulnutrition.com/Whole, Full, & Alive Podcast: https://www.fullsoulnutrition.com/wholefullandalivepodcastFind Caitie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/caitie.c.rd/Gender Identity Today: https://genderidentitytoday.com/(00:00) - Show opening (00:36) - Introducing Caitie (01:12) - Identity and the body (04:19) - Why Caitie is so committed to the cause (07:42) - The effect of social environment on body image (11:03) - Our bodies are not just slabs of meat (14:28) - Our own personal apothecary (18:50) - How long have we taken a reductionist view of nutrition? (21:01) - Body image and gender (27:27) - Intermittent fasting (31:07) - The definition of a good relationship with food (35:16) - Only pretty, rich, and thin people are worth a damn (38:54) - Embodiment occurs first in our heads (44:50) - Not acceptance, but friendship (50:41) - Show closing ★ Support this podcast ★

Today I talk to Tucker Lieberman, an excellent author and philosopher whose transgender journey took place in part through his creativity. Tucker and I discuss important artistic media, how we find ourselves in fictional characters, and give a nod to Wes Craven.REFERENCES:Tucker’s Personal Website: https://tuckerlieberman.comFind Tucker on Medium: https://medium.com/@tuckerliebermanGender Identity Today: https://genderidentitytoday.com/(00:00) - Show opening (00:35) - Introducing Tucker (01:28) - The role of creativity in who we are (05:54) - Photography as a medium of identity (10:02) - The value of not having a reason (16:03) - Fiction as a vehicle to explore our parts (22:29) - More than "only" who we are (26:25) - Finding the ineffable quality of art (34:01) - Constraints to help make better art (38:03) - There are no accidents (46:13) - No art is truly bad art (49:26) - Tarot to show our angles and dimensions (57:57) - Show closing ★ Support this podcast ★

In this episode, I have an informal discussion with my good friend Alison (Dragon) Hiester - because any discussion we have is informal! We talk about what it means to be cis / het in a world of rainbow, what would make a good speech language pathologist, and apologize to Robert DeNiro.REFERENCES:Prismatic Speech Services: https://prismaticspeech.com/Alison Hiester on Prismatic: https://prismaticspeech.com/about-us/#alison Gender Identity Today: https://genderidentitytoday.com/(00:00) - Show opening (00:33) - Introducing Alison (02:50) - Gender and communication (03:54) - Being cis/het in a rainbow world (08:55) - We all need validation (14:21) - From Alison to the community... (19:10) - Using pronouns make you a good person (21:49) - Do transgender people get a free pass on being polite? (24:55) - We will all mess up at one point (27:38) - And then some people just want to piss you off (29:27) - Is a cisgender speech therapist better? (34:38) - Observing gender voice roles (37:38) - The best speech therapist (42:04) - Performing nonverbal communication (45:30) - Being Robert DeNiro - or not (48:29) - What it takes to live the voice (50:47) - Speaking is not like breathing - at first, anyway (54:31) - Show closing ★ Support this podcast ★

Today I am honored to share this interview with my inspiring Sister Döro. She speaks under cover of anonymity about being transgender in Türkiye. The stories she tells are harrowing, and I ask each of you listening please to share this with as many people as you can. Improving conditions for transgender people everywhere must be a global concern.REFERENCES:Döro on Medium: https://medium.com/@DoroVolkovaGülya on Medium: https://medium.com/@GulyaKerimogluTransgender Mental Health: https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/transgender-mental-healthUS Transgender Employment: https://transequality.org/issues/employmentTransgender People in Sex Work: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transgender_sex_workersGender Identity Today: https://genderidentitytoday.com/(00:00) - Show opening (00:37) - Introducing Döro (03:03) - Growing up transgender, not human (07:38) - No access to health care (09:56) - Changing name and gender marker (13:41) - Employment as a transgender person (18:50) - The option is sex work (22:21) - Worker organization is not for transgender people (26:59) - No protection from police (30:03) - So why not just move away? (33:47) - Solidarity of the community (35:53) - Fighting back (39:18) - What can we do? (42:52) - Transgender people aren't going away (44:51) - We must all stand together (47:15) - If you can't be yourself, there's no point (50:07) - Better to be happy and in danger... (51:32) - Giving love to those who hate us (53:46) - Remembering our community (57:20) - Off to bed! ★ Support this podcast ★

Today's episode is about feminism. My friend Kendra and I muse on Western society and feminism's role in it. REFERENCES: Dreamers & Doers: https://www.dreamersdoers.com/ The Kochfidential: https://www.thekochfidential.com/notes Get Touchy Feely: https://gettouchyfeely.com/ Gender Identity Today: https://genderidentitytoday.com (00:00) - Show Opening (03:22) - Trying Harder Doesn't Always Work (06:15) - How Kendra and I Got into Feminism (08:22) - Ami Takes an English Course (13:18) - Feminism is a Western Concept (15:44) - Other Cultural Takes on the Divine Feminine (19:39) - Why Kant Women Have a Career? (21:25) - Growing up in a Small Town (26:45) - Unreal Expectations from Feminism (28:35) - Christian Philosophy and Western Society (32:07) - Capitalism as the Culprit (42:02) - Blame, Responsibility, and Feeling like a Failure (49:54) - We Can Always Improve (52:19) - Divine Feminine as Completing (58:27) - Using Sex where a Gender is Required (01:00:47) - It's Summer All the Time! (01:04:45) - Finding Kendra (01:05:24) - Show Closing ★ Support this podcast ★

This episode is the beginning of what is to become Gender Identity Weekly - my existing Dingbat Diaries idea, but engaging other contributors to Gender Identity Today. I may someday break this out into a separate podcast, but I will publish them here as well until the change occurs.REFERENCES:CDC Statistics: https://www.cdc.gov/suicide/suicide-data-statistics.htmlThe Trevor Project: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/survey-2023/Williams Institute - LGBTQ: https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/press/suicide-coming-out-press-release/Williams Institute - Transgender: https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/publications/suicidality-transgender-adults/Gender Identity Today: https://genderidentitytoday.com/ ★ Support this podcast ★