The One You Feed | Personal Growth, Emotional Resilience & Purpose

In This Episode, You'll Learn: How his songs represent some of his values, like kindness and how we need to remember to be more kind in our interactions with each other. Learning persistance and his drive to keep going and never give up when faced with difficulty. Why he wrote the song, Get Better, which is about resilience and remembering there is always somewhere to go The importance of meaningful friendships in life How life will always have challenges and we can make the choice to continue on, knowing it will get better To learn more about Frank Turner and his work, click here! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Episode, You Will Learn... The fundamental quality of recognizing the good in and having compassion for ourselves and how it's foundational in how we show up in relationships Recognizing tension in relationships and developing practices to help you determine what to do or say and when Asking yourself to choose harmony or truth in conflicts and how if you routinely choose one, you can end up with neither. Why it's important to admit fault and how it's a strength, not a weakness Using wise speech is about how we say something and it can have more impact than what we say The useful strategy of making small agreements that can improve larger issues in a relationship To learn more about Dr. Rick Hanson and his work, click here! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Episode, We Discuss How to Eat for Better Mental Health and… The emerging field of nutritional psychiatry and why it's so important Simple strategies to enhance mental health and prevent mental health problems How exercising and eating well are the most powerful antidepressants Why healthier brains lead to less conflict, more love, and more laughter Why we tend to overcomplicate nutrition when it is actually quite simple To learn more about Drew Ramsey and his work, click here! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode you'll learn: Why motivation and will power are overrated when trying to make lasting changes Why you must understand the 5 stages behavior change and match your activity to the proper stage How slips up are inevitable and are perfect opportunities to learn How to use conflicting energy sources -the pushing away from unwanted behavior and pulling toward a desired behavior Why self monitoring and tracking progress increases your chances of success To learn more about John Norcross and his interesting work, click here! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Episode, you'll learn: How we often feed the wrong wolf without even realizing it What some of the hidden sources of stress are in modern day society How many stressors have become so familiar, we don't even recognize the stress they cause How we can learn to bring more calm into our lives by practicing being present Why calming our minds leads to more productivity and less anxiety To learn more about Chris Bailey and his interesting work, click here! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special collaborative episode with Eric Zimmer, Gillian Tietz, Casey McGuire Davidson, and Dave Wilson (aka Sober Dave), they each share... 1. The reasons they kept drinking and why they weren't ready or felt they could give it up. 2. The strategies or methods they used to get started on their recovery journey and how that evolved during the different stages of their recovery. 3. The importance of finding a supportive community, either in person or online, and understanding that recovery is not one size fits all- you must find what works for you and in your life. To learn more about our guests on this special episode. click here! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1. How can having conscious awareness of our thoughts related to eating well and exercise enable us to make different choices? 2. What is a motivation bubble and how can it lead to lasting changes in behavior? 3. How the “POP” decision tool works and strategically guides attention from decision traps and leads to making the Joy Choice! “The Joy Choice is the perfect imperfect option that let’s us do something instead of nothing and harmonizes exercise and eating within our full self. ” – Michelle Segar To learn more about this episode and Michelle Segar. click here! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, you will learn:1. What is the connection between procrastination and health?2. How can we use implementation intentions to deal with self regulation failure?3. What is the importance of not wasting our lives with procrastination? “It is in the getting on with life that makes our lives and that procrastination, in a very real sense, is an existential issue of not getting on with life itself.” - Tim Pychyl To learn more about this episode and Time Pychyl, click here! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Key Concepts: The roles of rewards and punishments and the importance of understanding how the habit loop cycle works in adjusting behavior. Understanding cravings and addictions and strategies that can be used to work through our habitual behavior patterns. How bringing awareness and curiosity is a crucial component in training our mind to deal more effectively with cravings. To learn more about this episode and Dr. Jud Brewer. click here! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Key Concepts in This Episode: 1. Physical environment plays a huge role in supporting the habit(s) we are trying to create or eliminate. We can improve our environment by making the habit more obvious and reducing friction (or making it less obvious and increasing friction for those we are trying eliminate). 2. Social environment is also an important factor in how it affects our behavior when it comes to creating good habits. By finding a social environment that provides a sense of belonging and friendship, we can increase the attractiveness of habits that leads to more motivation and better outcomes. 3. The best place to start is making new habits easy and convenient by scaling them down to something very small, such as the "2 minute rule". The goal is to establish the habit by first showing up and doing the small action consistently. Once the habit is established, it can then be improved and becomes easier to maintain To learn more about this episode and James Clear, click here! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Key Concepts in This Episode: 1. Habits are the compount interest of self improvement in that the positive effects compound over time. You may not see change right away, but consistent effort is what brings lasting results and real change. 2. More important than goals, your systems are what lead to your success or failure when trying to change your behavior. Systems are a collection of habits leading to every outcome so paying attention to the process rather than the final goal is a critical component 3. True behavior change is an identity change. (I want _____ as opposed to I am ____). Identity and behavior are closely linked and taking small consistent actions is the best method for shaping identity and becoming the person you want to be. To learn more about this episode and James Clear, click here! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we discuss: 1. How our thoughts and actions can shape our lives 2. The importance of paying attention to what we feed our mind 3. How our personality is not as fixed as we may think For More Show Notes, click here! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Eric and Kimi discuss her journey to healing and how the role of identity can be helpful (or not so helpful) when dealing with depression or mental illness. Kimi Culp is a TV and film producer and is the host of the award winning ALL THE WISER podcast. Kimi’s unique specialty is identifying and developing stories with soul. She has traveled the world interviewing hundreds of people and creating content that motivates people to live a happier, more fulfilling life. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! How Identity Can Affect How You Deal with Depression with Kimi Culp How her internal narrative shifted when she started talking about her mental illness The power of knowing we’re not alone in our struggles Owning the truth of who we are and also not letting it be your entire identity Understanding that we are many parts of the whole being The healing journey and how identity can take a more prominent role at the beginning The nuances of identifying what is depression How labeling depression can be helpful, but overidentifying with that label can be harmful The importance of adult friendships Comparative suffering Gratitude and how it is a powerful tool Her collaborative book, A Letter to My Dog Links: Kimi’s Website Kimi’s Podcasst, All the Wiser Instagram Twitter Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Kimi Culp, please check out these other episodes: Life Lessons with Dr. Edith Eger Gabe Howard on Mental Illness See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Nicole LePera is an author and clinical psychologist in private practice. She was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University, The New School for Social Research, and the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis. She i the author of the #1 New York Times Bestselling Book, How To Do The Work. In this episode, Eric and Nicole discuss her latest book How to Meet Yourself: The Workbook for Self-Discovery But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Dr. Nicole LePera and I Discuss How to Meet Yourself and… Her book, How to Meet Yourself: The Workbook for Self-Discovery Her personal and professional journey of getting and helping others get “unstuck” Understanding the power of our unconscious mind and our habitual nature How logic will not override the comfort and familiarity of our habits The critical step of setting an intention for a small manageable change How we can move from self betrayal to self trust by starting small and being consistent The importance of taking responsibility for yourself rather than blaming outside circumstances The shared human experience of shame of not being good enough that we often carry Becoming conscious of our habits and patterns How we need to tune into the body to find our intuition to find clarity Discovering our values and knowing what’s important to us The integral part of safety in beginning your journey Breathwork as a foundational practice to get to safety Grounding in the present moment is about paying attention and honoring our reactions The different ways of grounding ourselves such as being in nature, moving our body, or listening to music The “Daily Consciousness Check-In” as a foundational practice to activate conscious awareness Self witnessing is learning how to live in the active state of awareness Cycles of emotional addiction is the repetitive emotional experiences we often have Links: Dr. Nicole’s Webiste: The Holistic Psychologist Instagram Facebook YouTube By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Nicole LePera, please check out these other episodes: How to Create Emotional Agility with Susan David Hilary Jacobs Hendel: How to Process Emotions See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Neil is the the author of nine books and journals including: The Book of Awesome, a spinning rolodex of simple pleasures based on his 100-million-hit, award-winning blog 1000 Awesome Things, The Happiness Equation, originally written as a 300-page love letter to his unborn son on how to live a happy life, He also hosts an Apple “Best of” award-winning podcast called 3 Books where he is on an ‘epic 15-year-long quest to uncover the 1000 most formative books in the world. and he also shares his current writing on this blog and in a series of newsletters. In this episode, Eric and Neil discuss his latest book, Our Book of Awesome: A Celebration of the Small Joys That Bring Us Together In This Interview, Neil and I Discuss. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nickolas Butler is the author of many novels, including the internationally best-selling and prize-winning Shotgun Lovesongs, which has been optioned for film development and has been translated into ten languages. Nickolas is the recipient of many literary prizes and commendations and has published articles, reviews, short stories, and poetry in publications such as: Ploughshares, Narrative, and The New York Times Book Review, to name a few. Eric and Nickolas discuss a few of his novels as well as how we can learn to embrace the important elements of life. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Nickolas Butler and I Discuss How to Embrace the Important Elements of Life and… His novels, Godspeed and Shotgun Lovesongs The fear and doubt he faces in his creative life Comparing our lives to others How we take for granted the basic things that previous generations worked hard for His relationship with his father and grandfather The differences in generations and what he hopes to teach his kids Trying to find empathy and understanding with those you don’t agree with The complexities of parent-child relationships Why he writes essays for his local newspaper His idea of choosing a tree and practicing gratitude for that tree How friendships are special and unique human relationships Links: Nick’s Website Instagram Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Nickolas Butler, please check out these other episodes: What We Can Learn from our Bad Wolf with Matthew Quick How to Find Meaning and Live a Good Life with Jonathan Fields See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Father Gregory Boyle is an American Jesuit priest and the founder of Homeboy Industries in Los Angeles, the largest gang-intervention, rehabilitation, and reentry program in the world. He has received the California Peace Prize and been inducted into the California Hall of Fame. In 2014, the White House named Boyle a Champion of Change. He received the University of Notre Dame’s 2017 Laetare Medal, the oldest honor given to American Catholics. He is the acclaimed author of Tattoos on the Heart, Barking to the Choir, and his latest book, Forgive Everyone Everything. Fabian Debora is the artist and illustrator of the book, Forgive Everyone Everything. His work has been showcased in solo and group exhibitions throughout the US and abroad. Fabian served previously served as a counselor and the Director of Substance Abuse Services & Programming and a mentor at Homeboy Industries in Los Angeles and is now the Executive Director of Homebody Art Academy. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Father Greg Boyle & Fabian Debora and I Discuss How to Find Hope and Kinship His book, Forgive Everyone Everything The organization he founded, Homeboy Industries, to rehabilitate gang members Hope and how our focus must not be on outcomes How life is about removing the blindfold to see the goodness within us Joy is the love of being loving Equanimity and learning to not grasp at our pain Defining kinship as deep connection with others How we need to acknowledge privelege Fabian’s journey of recovery and his work with Homeboy Industries How his art represents his journey and lived experiences How he tells a story through his art His responsibility of an artist to combat stereotypes How he maintains hope amidst tragedy The legacy that he hopes to create for his family and community How kinship is a circle where everyone belongs Links: Father Greg’s Website Instagram Twitter Fabian's Website Fabian's Instagram By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Father Greg Boyle and Fabian Debora, please check out these other episodes: Human Nature and Hope with Rutger Bregman Donna Hylton on Healing and Hope See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Eric Maisel, PhD, is the author of more than 40 books, including Why Smart People Hurt, Making Your Creating Mark, The Future of Mental Health, The VanGogh Blues, Mastering Creative Anxiety, and Creativity for Life. Dr. Maisel is at the forefront of the movement to rethink mental health. He writes the Rethinking Psychology blog for Psychology Today. Eric and Dr. Maisel discuss his books Overcoming Your Difficult Family: 8 Skills for Thriving in Any Family Situation and The Future of Mental Health But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Eric Maisel and I Discuss Why We Need to Rethink Mental Health and … His books, Overcoming Your Difficult Family: 8 Skills for Thriving in Any Family Situation and The Future of Mental Health Defining the skills needed to understand and deal with family dynamics Learning the best anxiety management tool for you, such as deep breathing or visualization The powerful device of visualizing the “calmness switch” within you Understanding that there is one of many possibilities to deal with challenges His book, Mastering Creative Anxiety Depression The importance of identifying what’s important to us and living our life purposefully Stigmatization of mental health and how it promotes pharmaceutical Understanding there is more help to treat depression than just medication and psychiatry His models of personality: Original Personality, Formed Personality, Available Personality Links: Eric’s website Twitter Instagram By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Eric Maisel, please check out these other episodes: Challenges of Mental Health Diagnoses with Sarah Fay Gabe Howard on Mental Health See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are thrilled to welcome Dr. Nicole LePera, A.J. Jacobs, Martha Beck, Susan Cain and Cory Allen as our guests on this special “Thanksgiving” episode all about gratitude! Research from Harvard Medical School shows that “gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships." We know that it’s good to give thanks but so many of us struggle to make it a regular practice and this episode will teach you how to do so and why it is worth prioritizing! But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Our Special Guests and I Discuss How to Practice Gratitude and … Dr. Nicole LePera – how she defines gratitude and why it’s important How verbally stating or writing can activate feelings of appreciation Our tendency to pay attention to what we lack rather than what we have Shifting from “I have to” to “I am grateful for the opportunity” A.J. Jacobs – how practicing gratitude is a way to not take things for granted The hedonic treadmill and the “I’ll be happy” when trap His active practice of texting his mom every day what he’s grateful for How the more specific the better when it comes to expressing gratitude Martha Beck – how she was impacted when she first read about the benefits of gratitude How engaging in your senses is a good way to practice gratitude Her 3:1 gratitude practice – for every negative experience, think of 3 positive ones Reveling in what the soul yearns for sharpens a gratitude practice Susan Cain – how she notices and savors beautiful things How we need to both accept the beauty and the difficult realities of our existence The best gateway to gratitude is discovering what elevates us How she teaches her kids gratitude Cory Allen – how what we associate with gratitude is what makes us feel grounded and safe How he goes deeper into gratitude How gratitude comes from being present and getting curious The benefits of practice gratitude for its own sake Links: Dr. Nicole Lepera A.J. Jacobs Martha Beck Susan Cain Cory Allen By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed these conversations about Gratitude, please check out these other episodes: How to Make Life Easier with Greg McKeown How to Explore Our Awareness with Jonathan Robinson See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Julie Simon is a licensed psychotherapist, life coach and certified personal trainer with over 30 years of experience in helping overeaters and imbalanced eaters mend their relationship with their feelings and ultimately themselves. She’s also the founder of the popular Los Angels based 12-week emotional eating recovery program. Eric and Julie discuss her book, When Food is Comfort: Nurture Yourself Mindfully, Rewire Your Brain and End Emotional Eating. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Julie Simon and I Discuss How to Manage Emotional Eating … Her book, When Food is Comfort: Nurture Yourself Mindfully, Rewire Your Brain and End Emotional Eating. The most common cause of emotional overeating is difficulty regulating our emotions, moods, thoughts, and behaviors When we disconnect from our emotions, we don’t learn necessary skills to regulate Attunement and attachment in early childhood that create neural pathways When we’re under the influence of emotional part of the brain, we’re not capable of reasoning The 7 skills involved in inner nurturing The importance of exploring our emotions and bodily sensations Our tendency to move away from unpleasant emotions by focusing on our thoughts How emotions present in the body first (before we have words for them) Real recovery is experiencing and moving through emotions Learning to practice soothing behaviors to restore ourselves to calm The goal is not to distract ourselves, but to calm ourselves enough to work on regulation skills How self validation is not condoning the behavior, but acceptance and self compassion Julie Simon Links Julie’s Website Facebook Twitter By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Julie Simon check out these other episodes: Emotional Agility with Susan David Mindful Eating with Andrea Lieberstein See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jonathan Fields is a father, husband, award-winning author, executive producer, and host of one of the top-ranked podcasts in the world, The Good Life Project. He also speaks globally to groups and organizations and his work has been featured widely in the media including The New York Times, The Washington Post, Oprah Magazine, and many others. Eric and Jonathan chat about a few different topics relating to how we can bring more meaning and fulfillment into our daily activities that lead to living a good life. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Jonathan Fields and I Discuss How to Find Meaning and Live a Good Life … How people can bring more meaning and enjoyment to their day job The challenges and importance of setting boundaries for work time Learning to shift focus on how to be more effective rather than putting in more time The idea of investing in yourself when considering career or other life changes Jonathan’s “sparketype” framework Asking the question “How can I be a light in other people’s lives” in both professional and personal lives The process of change and how we can equip ourselves to handle forced change Finding the sweet spot of what motivates us and our approach to behavior change based on our personality How identifying our values can make behavior change more effective and sustainable Building flexibility and creating tolerance in your goals knowing perfection isn’t possible Knowing why we want to change is a critical component to making change and understanding Dealing with low moodspath to personal change Learning to be happy love yourself in your current state while you can also look to change Jonathan Fields Links Jonathan’s Website Instagram Twitter By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Jonathan Fields check out these other episodes: Discover Your Sparketype with Jonathan Fields How to Lead a Happier Life with Dr. Laurie Santos See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gillian Tietz is the host of Sober Powered, a top 50 mental health podcast, and the founder of Sober Powered Media, a podcast network of top mental health shows. She has a master’s in biology and worked in research labs in the Boston area. Getting sober in 2019 inspired her to start her podcast to help others understand why addiction happens and how to develop the coping skills they need to stay sober. After 2 years of consistent, hard work she left her career in biochemistry to start her network. Eric and Gillian discuss her journey to sobriety and how she shares what she has learned with others on her podcast, Sober Powered. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Gillian Tietz and I Discuss How to Embrace Sobriety and … Her podcast, Sober Powered How she learned that watching TV did not support the life she wanted The start of her journey to sobriety Struggling with emotions that lead her to destructive habits Her struggles with body image Realizing how drinking caused her mental health to deteriorate How alcohol enhanced the problems she was trying to hide from Learning to accept that moderating drinking wasn’t possible The idea of harm reduction and the controversial opinions Finally seeking professional help when at the start of the quarantine How she wanted to start the podcast to share what she had learned to help others The value of finding support from sober communities on social media How we often don’t see the cause and effect of drinking when you’re in it The effects that alcohol has on the brain and mental health Post acute withdrawal and how the brain needs to learn to re-regulate without alcohol Gillian Tietz Links Gillian’s Website Instagram Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Gillian Tietz check out these other episodes: The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober with Catherine Gray The Magic of Being Sober with Laura McKowen See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Scott Hershovitz is the Thomas G. and Mabel Long Professor of Law and Professor of Philosophy at the University of Michigan. He directs the University’s Law and Ethics Program and he co-edits Legal Theory. Scott writes about law and philosophy. His academic work has appeared in the Harvard Law Review, The Yale Law Journal, and Ethics, among other places. In addition, he writes occasional essays about philosophy for the New York Times. Before joining the Michigan faculty, he served as a law clerk to Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg of the United States Supreme Court and an attorney-advisor on the appellate staff of the Civil Division of the United States Department of Justice. Eric and Scott discuss his new book, Nasty, Brutish, and Short: Adventures in Philosophy withMy Kids But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Scott Hershovitz and I Discuss What We Can Learn By Thinking Like a Kid and … His book, Nasty, Brutish, and Short: Adventures in Philosophy with My Kids Defining philosophy as the art of thinking How kids are natural philosophers and ask interesting questions Learning to think critically about our own ideas Distinguishing between what we think we should do and what we want to do The story of the Ship of Theseus and how we can compare it to our own identity How identity can be used as a tool in how we see ourselves in the world in both a negative and positive way Relativism and how we each get our own truth Epistemic bubbles and echo chambers What we can learn when we talk to people who think differently than us How we can look at other people with both objective or participant attitudes, depending on the circumstances Tempering our perspectives when we learn about others’ circumstances Scott Hershovitz Links Scott’s Website Twitter By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Scott Hershovitz check out these other episodes: What We Know But Don’t Believe with Steve Hagen Everyday Courage with Ryan Holiday See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ayelet Fishbach, PhD, is the Jeffrey Breakenridge Keller Professor of Behavioral Science and Marketing at the University of Chicago, Booth School of Business . She is the past president of the Society for the Science of Motivation and the International Social Cognition Network. She is an expert on motivation and decision making. Dr. Fishbach’s groundbreaking research on human motivation has won the Society of Experimental Social Psychology’s Best Dissertation Award and Career Trajectory Award, and the Fulbright Educational Foundation Award. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Ayelet Fishbach and I Discuss How to Stay Motivated and … Her book, Get It Done: Surprising Lessons from the Science of Motivation The myth of motivation is that we are failures Changing our situations is the most important step in staying motivated Setting goals for our real life situations, not our ideal situations Finding empathy for our future self Intrinsic motivation predicts sustained engagement Choosing powerful goals that seem exciting and not a chore Approach goals as opposed to avoidance goals How assigning numbers to goals can be powerful The importance of framing our goals Why will power alone does not work Strategies for managing competing goals Remembering that we don’t have to act on our thoughts or ideas The middle problem when it’s hard to see progress and stay motivated Using time brackets for your goals Why some goals never become habit The role of incentives in achieving goals How important it is to track progress Ayelet Fishbach Links Ayelet’s Website Instagram Twitter Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Ayelet Fishbach check out these other episodes: Tiny Habits for Behavior Change with BJ Fogg How to Change with Katy Milkman See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Matthew Quick is the New York Times bestselling author of The Silver Linings Playbook—which was made into an Oscar-winning film—and eight other novels. His work has been translated into more than thirty languages, received a PEN/Hemingway Award Honorable Mention, was an LA Times Book Prize finalist, a New York Times Book Review Editors’ Choice, a #1 bestseller in Brazil, a Deutscher Jugendliteratur Preis 2016 (German Youth Literature Prize) nominee, and selected by Nancy Pearl as one of Summer’s Best Books for NPR. The Hollywood Reporter has named him one of Hollywood’s 25 Most Powerful Authors. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Matthew Quick and I Discuss What We Can Learn From Our Bad Wolf and … His book, We Are the Light What drew him to Jungian analysis and his ideas on synchronicity His healing journey and what he learned about himself Learning to face his pain from a sober light Losing access to a creative part of him when he stopped drinking How his work with his analyst replaced the alcohol in his life The importance of community What the term “father hunger” means His unique relationship with his analyst How he learned to redeem his father The important themes he covers in his latest novels Doing the hard work in the second half of life The respect he has developed for the craft of novel writing Matthew Quick Links Matthew’s Website Sign Up for Matthew’s Monthly Personal Letter (MPL) By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Matthew Quick, check out these other episodes: Matthew Quick - 2017 Interview Matthew Quick - 2016 Interview Living Between Worlds with James Hollis See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Parker J. Palmer, is the founder and Senior Partner of the Center for Courage & Renewal. He is a world-renowned writer, speaker and activist who focuses on issues in education, community, leadership, spirituality and social change. He has reached millions worldwide through his nine books, including Let Your Life Speak, The Courage to Teach, A Hidden Wholeness, and Healing the Heart of Democracy. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Parker Palmer and I Discuss and … His book, Hidden Wholeness: A Journey Towards an Undivided Life What the idea of “the Soul” means to him His experiences with depression and the lesson he’s learned from it What “the divided life” is The importance of having both community and solitude The idea of “The Circle of Trust” The importance of letting another person work their way to the answer themselves His book, Healing the Heart of Democracy The important role that conflict brings to our form of government The Five Habits of the Heart Eustress is the positive effect of tension The two ways that the heart can break How those with different viewpoints can find common ground The Courage and Renewal Center Parker Palmer Links Parker’s Website Twitter Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Parker Palmer, check out these other episodes: The Divided Yet Connected Brain with Iain McGilchrist Jonathan Rauch See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Chelsey Luger is a writer and wellness advocate originally from North Dakota, an enrolled member of the Turtle Mountain Band of Chippewa and descendant of the Standing Rock Sioux Tribe. She got her undergraduate degree at Dartmouth College, concentrating on comparative histories of global Indigenous cultures, and later earned an M.S. in Digital Media at Columbia University's Graduate School of Journalism. She is the co-founder of Well For Culture. Her writing has appeared in the Atlantic, Huffington Post, Yes! Magazine, and other outlets. Thosh Collins is a photographer, board member for the Native Wellness Institute, and co-founder of Well For Culture. He is On Akimel O'odham, Seneca-Cayuga, and Osage, born and raised on the Salt River Reservation. He serves on the Salt River Pima-Maricopa Land Board, and remains politically and culturally active within his community. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Chelsea Luger & Thosh Collins and I Discuss How to Find Wellness in Indigenous Wisdom and ... Their book, The Seven Circles: Indigenous Teachings for Living Well Beginning everything with gratitude is a key to our wellness journey Accepting the challenges and finding balance Chelsea's story of the dust storm and teaching resilience Focusing on solution based thinking for indigenous cultures to heal and thrive Expanding the common narrative of indigenous cultures to show resilience rather than brokenness Understanding the harm of cultural appropriation Keeping their cultural and spiritual practices private and sacred The seven circles include our connections to food, sleep, movement, ceremony, sacred space, community, and land. How the symbol of the medicine wheel represents interconnectedness of mental, physical, spiritual, and emotional Finding ways to integrate the circles of wellness Connecting to land is about remembering that we are not separate from nature Noticing and acknowledging the natural elements of this earth Adapting a subsistence world view How connecting emotion to day to day rituals creates the element of ceremony Chelsea Luger & Thosh Collins Links Chelsea & Thosh's Website Instagram Twitter By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Chelsea and Thosh, check out these other episodes: Deep Transformation with Spring Washam What is Wellness Culture with Fariha Roisin See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shozan Jack Haubner is the pen name of a Zen monk whose essays have appeared in The Sun, Tricycle, Buddha, Dharma, and The New York Times, as well as in the best Buddhist Writing series. Jack is the winner of a 2012 Pushcart prize and is the author of Zen Confidential Confessions of a Wayward Monk and Single White Monk. He is also the host of the YouTube channel Zen Confidential. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Shozan Jack Haubner and I Discuss How to Bring Zen Into Everyday Life and … His transition from monastic life to real world life Realizing that his growth has taken a different path after leaving the monastery Trusting in life, even when it’s really challenging The differences between the personal and intimate Noticing the moments of waking up that happen in daily life The challenges he experienced when in a leadership role His relationship with his dad Understanding the meanings of self and no self Shozan Jack Haubner Links Shozan Jack’s Youtube Channel Twitter Patreon Page By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Shozan Jack Haubner, check out these other episodes: Shozan Jack Haubner on No Self (2017) Shozan Jack Haubner (2014 Interview) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Susan Piver is the New York Times bestselling author of many books, including the award-winning “How Not to Be Afraid of Your Own Life”, “The Wisdom of a Broken Heart”, “Start Here Now: An Open-Hearted Guide to the Path and Practice of Meditation”, and “The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships”. Susan has been a practicing Buddhist since 1993 and graduated from a Buddhist seminary in 2004. She is an internationally acclaimed meditation teacher, known for her ability to translate ancient practices into modern life. Her work has been featured on the Oprah show, TODAY, CNN, and in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal and others. In 2013, she launched the Open Heart Project, the largest virtual mindfulness community in the world with 20,000 members. Her newest book is “The Buddhist Enneagram: Nine Paths to Warriorship.” In this episode, Eric and Susan discuss her newest book, The Buddhist Enneagram: Nine Paths to Warriorship But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Susan Piver and I Discuss How to Discover Your Way of Being Through the Enneagram and … Her book: The Buddhist Enneagram: Nine Paths to Warriorship Defining the enneagram as 9 paths or ways of being How the enneagram can be used in a variety of ways based on the person Defining warrior as one who is not afraid of oneself How it’s best to take multiple tests to best determine your enneagram type The subtypes of the enneagram and how they’re often easier to identify Patience is required to utilize the deep system of the enneagram How the enneagram defines our “cocoon” and also our way out of it The arc of transformation that includes the passions and the virtues How the enneagram leads us to compassion for ourselves and others How we should “feel the energy” of a number rather than declare our number Asking what does this mean to me, today Susan Piver Links Susan’s Website for The Open Heart Project Instagram Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Susan Piver, check out these other episodes: The Four Noble Truths of Love with Susan Piver (2021) Eli-Jaxon Bear on Your True Self See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Paul Gilmartin is a stand-up comedian, podcast host, and television personality best known as the long time host of TBS’ Dinner and a Movie. Since 2011, Paul has been the host and executive producer of the podcast, Mental Illness Happy Hour. In this episode, Eric and Paul discuss his strategies and practical approaches to deal with fear and depression. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Paul Gilmartin and I Discuss What How to Work Through Fear and Depression and … His podcast, Mental Illness Happy Hour How we all have something that we worship that orients our actions Learning to be truly and deeply vulnerable How there is no instant gratification in spirituality Living a fear based life and addictive behaviors Reconnecting with the body’s instincts Getting curious about the thoughts that come up during meditation The difference between self reflection and self obsession Strategies for moving away from self obsessing Finding himself stuck in the paralysis of perfection The importance of taking a break from the world when you need it The opposing forces of fear and hope Moving through his fears and depression How acting according to his values keeps him connected to his higher power His spiritual growth includes facing his everyday fears Learning to see past our mental barriers and realize what we’re capable of Paul Gilmartin Links Paul’s Website Twitter Instagram Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Paul Gilmartin, check out these other episodes: Paul Gilmartin (2014 Interview) Discovering Spiritual Truths with Pete Holmes See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Laurie Santos is Professor of Psychology and Head of Silliman College at Yale University. She is the host of the podcast The Happiness Lab and is an expert on human cognition and the cognitive biases that impede better choices. Her course, “Psychology and the Good Life,” teaches students what the science of psychology says about how to make wiser choices and live a life that’s happier and more fulfilling. Dr. Santos has been featured in numerous news outlets including the New York Times, NBC Nightly News, The Today Show, CBS This Morning, and more. She has won numerous awards both for her science and teaching from institutions such as Yale and the American Psychological Association. In this episode, Eric and Dr. Laurie Santos discuss the psychology of happiness and strategies on how to lead a happier life. Join Eric and Ginny in person for a Spiritual Habits Workshop at Omega in Rhinebeck, NY! For more details, visit oneyoufeed.net/omega But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Dr. Laurie Santos and I Discuss How to Lead a Happier Life and … Her podcast, The Happiness Lab The research she does with dogs How animals are excellent guides on how to be present The power of doing little things and doing them often Focusing on the small things can help keep our “stories” accurate and positive Gratitude and delight practices are useful strategies to create happiness The impact of sound and learning to notice pleasant sounds Shifting our attitude of how we spend our time (get to rather than have to) Understanding the scientific benefits can provide motivation to change behavior Self compassion helps to find the happy medium of being too harsh or easy on yourself Getting curious about our resistance to creating good habits How noticing and meditating on the rewards of a positive behavior hacks the brain systems Knowing that behavior change is easier when our environment supports the behavior Loneliness and how our intuitions are often wrong when trying to overcome it Dr. Laurie Santos Links Dr. Laurie’s Website Twitter Instagram By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Dr, Laurie Santos, check out these other episodes: Ruth Whippman on The Complexities of Happiness Jonathan Rauch on The Happiness Curve See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Matthew Fox is an internationally acclaimed spiritual theologian, Episcopal priest, and activist. He holds a doctor in the History and Theology of Spirituality In this episode, Eric and Matthew discuss his book: Matthew Fox: Essential Writings on Creation Spirituality. Registration for The Well Trained Mind Program is now open! Learn the foundations of mindfulness and create a more fulfilling spiritual practice in Ginny’s live virtual program that starts on October 9. Visit oneyoufeed.net/mindfulness to learn more! But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Matthew Fox and I Discuss What Creation Spirituality Means and … His book, Matthew Fox: Essential Writings on Creation Spirituality. Creation spirituality is about the sacredness of nature and our existence Dualism as the fall of humanity How it’s easy to forget to savor the beauty of existence Accepting the “both/and” rather than “either/or: Learning to fall in love the world around us The 4 paths of creation spirituality Creativity is what distinguishes postmodern from modern science The importance of cultivating creativity in a spiritual journey How art can be a meditation How both creating and taking in art is being an artist Compassion is about sharing both the joy and sorrow with one another Hildegard’s tent of wisdom Matthew Fox Links Matthew’s Website Twitter Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Matthew Fox, check out these other episodes: Matthew Fox (Interview from 2016) Creative Spiritual Practices with Clark Strand See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Diego Perez is a meditator and New York Times bestselling author who is widely known on Instagram and various social media networks through his pen name Yung Pueblo. Online he has an audience of over 2.7 million people. His writing focuses on the power of self-healing, creating healthy relationships, and the wisdom that comes when we truly work on knowing ourselves. In this episode, Eric and Yung Pueblo discuss his latest book, Lighter: Let Go of the Past, Connect with the Present, and Expand the Future Registration for The Well Trained Mind Program is now open! Learn the foundations of mindfulness and create a more fulfilling spiritual practice in Ginny’s live virtual program that starts on October 9. Visit oneyoufeed.net/mindfulness to learn more!540 Yung Pueblo and I Discuss How to Feel Lighter and … His book, Lighter: Let Go of the Past, Connect with the Present, and Expand the Future Human Habit vs. Human Nature What it means to live from compassion and self-awareness The anxiety and sadness that grew in him, starting in his childhood in poverty The life-changing moment that caused him to turn everything around That your initial reaction is usually your past trying to work its way into your present How he has gone about burning away the patterns that cause him misery His motto of “if this is helping you heal yourself, do it” Repetition in the positive sense The impact of gambling with his life in order to avoid his emotions What to do and not do when you find yourself in a low mood The power of first letting whatever is happening to just be Why it’s important to notice when a goal is slipping into a craving Yung Pueblo Links Diego’s Website Instagram By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Yung Pueblo, check out these other episodes: Life Through Poetry with IN-Q The Art of Poetry and Prose with David Whyte See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Susan David is a psychologist on faculty at Harvard Medical School. She’s also the co-founder and co-director of The Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital and is CEO of Evidence-Based Psychology. Have you ever gotten hooked by a difficult emotion? In other words, have you ever felt compelled to act on a strong feeling without having any space to think about your action first? If so, you will find really helpful wisdom in this episode that you can take, apply today and live a more skillful, open-hearted life. In this episode, Eric and Susan David discuss her book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life Registration for The Well Trained Mind Program is now open! Learn the foundations of mindfulness and create a more fulfilling spiritual practice in Ginny’s live virtual program that starts on October 9. Visit oneyoufeed.net/mindfulness to learn more! Susan David and I Discuss How to Create Emotional Agility and … Her book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life How emotions are a guidance system and aren’t good or bad Learning That emotions can help us adapt and thrive The thinking “unless I’m happy all the time, something is wrong” Emotional agility is when we connect with our values and move forward in action Emotional rigidity is when we believe the negative voice in our head and are reactive or on autopilot How we get “hooked” when we accept our thoughts as facts Strategies for getting “unhooked” Recognizing our patterns and being curious and compassionate about how we’re reacting Understanding that tough emotions are part of life Shifting thing from “I am ____ ” to “I notice that I’m feeling_____” Choice points: do I move towards or away from my values? Our values are quality of action Social contagion describes how we catch other peoples’ behaviors and emotions The power of keeping our values front of mind A meaningful life comes with discomfort How our difficult emotions are signposts for our values Premature cognitive commitment is when we decide before we think Susan David Links Susan’s Website Twitter Instagram Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Susan David, check out these other episodes: How to Handle Emotions with Hilary Jacobs Hendel How to Cope with Big Feelings with Liz Fosslien See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dean Sluyter is an award-winning author who has taught meditation since 1970, from maximum security prisons to the Guatemalan rainforest. He’s a student of Eastern and Western sages from multiple traditions and has completed numerous pilgrimages and retreats in India, Tebet, Nepal, and the West. In this episode, Eric and Dean discuss his latest book, The Dharma Bums Guide to Western Literature: Finding Nirvana in the Classics, which reflects his lifelong exploration of the awakening process as well as his years as a prep school English teacher. Registration for The Well Trained Mind Program is now open! Learn the foundations of mindfulness and create a more fulfilling spiritual practice in Ginny’s live virtual program that starts on October 9. Visit oneyoufeed.net/mindfulness to learn more! But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Dean Sluyter and I Discuss How to See the Dharma in Western Literary Classics and … His book, The Dharma Bums Guide to Western Literature: Finding Nirvana in the Classics The role (or lack thereof) of efforting in meditation The difference between awareness and mind What it means to “relax your grip” or “let it be” during meditation The Dharma and the Infinite in The Cat and the Hat That dualism is the way the world appears to us when viewed through the thinking mind How to find the fragrant emptiness at the core of our minds, beyond all thoughts That only the infinite can give us infinite joy, in the finite world – having can’t match our yearning. The nature of desire is that it replicates itself Kindness in Huckleberry Finn That the kingdom of heaven is spread upon the earth, within and all around us Dean Sluyter Links Dean’s Website Instagram Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Dean Sluyter, check out these other episodes: Dean Sluyter Interview (2019) Inventions in Literature with Angus Fletcher See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jillian Turecki is a certified relationship coach, teacher, and writer who for the last 20 years has taught others how to transform their relationship with themselves and others. Jillian is also the host of the podcast, Jillian on Love. In this episode, Eric and Jillian discuss her work coaching and teaching people how to develop healthier relationships with themselves and others. Registration for The Well Trained Mind Program is now open! Learn the foundations of mindfulness and create a more fulfilling spiritual practice in Ginny's live virtual program that starts on October 9. Visit oneyoufeed.net/mindfulness to learn more! But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Jillian Turecki and I Discuss How to Have Healthy Relationships with Yourself and Others and … Her podcast, Jillian on Love Recognizing that our minds create stories that we can easily get caught up in. The importance of understanding issues in a relationship aren’t just about the other person, but as much about yourself Taking responsibility for your love life is not about blaming yourself How we need to love ourselves before we can love others well Important medicine for relationships: accountability, forgiveness, and truth The biggest problems in a relationship is trying to change the other person and relying too much on the other person to make you happy Asking “how can I change to help you change?” When a relationship is failing, we often go into survival mode and neglect to see our role in the relationship How we need to keep acknowledging our appreciation to our partners Our “emotional home” is the pattern of what we do when we’re stressed How all of our emotional patterns come from fear The critical role of cC\ommunication in relationships Remembering that we should be listening more and talking less How you think about your partner’s intent when feeling hurt or angry Jillian Turecki Links Jillian’s Website Jillian’s Podcast Instagram Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Jillian Turecki, check out these other episodes: Dr. Sue Johnson on Navigatin Romantic Relationships Cindy Stulberg on Relationships See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ginny Gay is a Certified Mindfulness Teacher and has worked with Eric to create content here at The One You Feed for the past 8 years. Prior to that, she spent 13 years in the corporate world where she thought climbing the corporate ladder equated to success in life. Instead, that approach ultimately led her to a place of severe burnout, addiction, anxiety, and depression. Now, she knows that for her, success in all aspects of life comes from living from a place of authenticity and integration where meaningful work and relationships are the fruit and contribution to the world. Ginny loves creating courses, programs, workshops, and written content to help people live life more skillfully and help them navigate the difficulties that come from the inherent challenges of being human so that they can experience more peace, purpose, and joy in their daily lives. In this episode, Eric and Ginny discuss her story of struggle and growth, how to work with the inner critic and what it means to practice mindfulness. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Ginny Gay and I Discuss How to Free Yourself from the Inner Critic Through Mindfulness and … The way not wanting to experience internal pain can drive us to act in potentially harmful, problematic ways Her experience in a fundamentalist Christian church Her experience hitting the glass ceiling in the corporate pharmaceutical industry The circumstances surrounding her addiction and burnout How she was able to believe in growth through difficulty during the worst time in her life The key learnings that helped her transform her life from the ground up The radical shift she made that saved her life The power of naming things as they show up inside of us The corrosive impact of the inner critic How to differentiate the inner critic from our helpful inner conscience Where the inner critic comes from The various ways the inner critic shows up in us How to free yourself from the inner critic What mindfulness really means The benefits of practicing mindfulness The connection between mindfulness and meditation Her definition of spirituality Her mindfulness program, The Well Trained Mind Ginny Gay Links FREE 3-Part Mindfulness Training: How to Quiet the Inner Critic The Well Trained Mind Program By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Ginny Gay, check out these other episodes: Mindfulness in Nature with Mark Coleman Transforming Your Inner Critic with Dr. Aziz Gazipura See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Gabor Maté is a highly sought expert on a wide range of topics such as addiction, stress, and childhood development. He has written many books, of which several are best-sellers, including the award-winning “In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts” , “Close Encounters with Addiction”, and “When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Culture.” Gabor’s work has been published internationally and in more than 30 languages. In this episode, Eric and Dr. Maté discuss his book, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Dr. Gabor Mate and I Discuss How to … His book, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture Defining the myths of normal How the increasing anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues are a result of toxic culture Stress and trauma can begin for a child in utero, at childbirth, and throughout childhood The modern stresses of our world contributes to a toxic culture How parents pass down their traumas to their children Defining trauma as a psychic wound that happens inside of you The healing process is the recovery of self Understanding the clash between attachment and authenticity How emotions and immune systems are part of the same system The importance of understanding the important link between emotions and physical health Trauma imposed self beliefs are the main obstacles of healing Remembering that healing is a lifelong process The 4 A’s of healing: authenticity, agency, acceptance, and anger (healthy) Dr. Gabor Mate Links: Dr. Gabor Mate’s website Twitter Instagram Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Dr, Gabor Maté, check out these other episodes: Dr. Gabor Mate’s Interview from 2016 Healing Trauma with Dr. James Gordon See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Scott Barry Kaufman, Ph.D., is a cognitive scientist and humanistic psychologist exploring the depths of human potential. He is a professor at Columbia University and director of the Center for Human Potential. Dr. Kaufman has authored 10 books and is host of The Psychology Podcast. In 2015, he was named one of “50 groundbreaking scientists who are changing the way we see the world” by Business Insider. Jordyn H. Feingold, MD, MAPP, MSCR is a resident physician in psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in NYC, well-being researcher, and positive psychology practitioner. Her research and clinical interests involve protecting and promoting health care worker and patient well-being and incorporating positive psychology approaches into health care delivery. In this episode, Eric talks to Scott and Jordyn about their book, Choose Growth: A Workbook for Transcending Trauma, Fear, and Self-Doubt But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Scott Barry Kaufman, Jordyn Feingold, and I Discuss How to Choose Growth and … Their book, ChooseGrowth: A Workbook for Transcending Trauma, Fear, and Self-Doubt How practicing what is uncomfortable will lead to growth Understanding the relationship between security and growth The importance of the word “yet” and how it creates a belief that change is possible How growth is about finding the balance between doing and being Healthy transcendance includes fusing the connection of self with the world The self actualization process and getting in touch with our potential Learning to embrace our character strengths as our super powers How we can improve our weaknesses by using our top strengths The importance of defining our values and what matters most to us Closing the gap between how we’re living and the values that we hold Scott & Jordyn Links: Scott’s Website Scott’s Twitter Facebook Jordyn’s Twitter Jordyn’s Website By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Scott Barry Kaufman and Jordyn Feingold, check out these other episodes: Living a Transcendant Life with Scott Barry Kaufman (2020) Fixed and Growth Mindset with Carol Dweck See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Steve Magness is a world-renowned expert on performance, well-being, and sustainable success.He is coauthor of the best selling Peak Performance and The Passion Paradox. In his coaching practice, Steve works with executives, entrepreneurs, and athletes on their performance and mental skills. He also serves as a consultant on mental skills development for professional sports teams, including some of the top teams in professional sports. In this episode, Eric and Steve discuss his book, Do Hard Things: Why We Get Resilience Wrong and the Surprising Science of Real Toughness. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Steve Magness and I Discuss How to Build Resilience and … His book, Do Hard Things: Why We Get Resilience Wrong and the Surprising Science of Real Toughness Asking ourselves if our inner voice is fair, rather than good or bad How we handle difficult things better when we feel secure and supported Defining toughness as navigating discomfort to make the best decision you can Understanding the importance of confidence in toughness Quiet internal confidence is about being realistic in our ability and the difficulty of the task at hand. How doubt is a necessary component of confidence A central component of internal confidence and motivation is seeing progress How consistency and taking small steps is what matters most Accurate appraisal of both the challenges we face and our internal feelings Understanding that feelings are the body’s communication system The importance of awareness and contextualization when dealing with feelings and emotions Dealing with the two types of inner dialogue – integrated and confrontational Learning to shift your self talk to 2nd or 3rd person voice How stress narrows our perspective and amplifies negative feelings Steve Magness Links: Steve’s Website Instagram Twitter Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Steve Magness, check out these other episodes: Strengthening Our Resilience with Linda Graham Lisa Feldman Barrett on Emotions See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shauna Niequist is the New York Times Best Selling author of many books such as Present Over Perfect, Bread and Wine, Cold Tangerines, and others. She lives in New York City with her husband and two sons. In this episode, Eric and Shauna discuss her book, I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet: Discovering New Ways of Living When the Old Ones Stop Working. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Shauna Niequist and I Discuss How to Discover New Ways of Living and … Her book, I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet: Discovering New Ways of Living When the Old Ones Stop Working Why the word hospitality is important to her What self-compassion means to her and how she practices it Seeing out beauty as an act of prayer, worship, and resistance Putting herself in the path of joy and beauty, giving herself the greatest chance to find them How to practice being easily delighted It’s ok for the joy of something to be that it feels like play Seeing people different from you is a reminder that you can change and find a new way of being How radical and freeing it is to consent to the reality of the way things are The value of adding to our toolkit of ways we can help ourselves when we are struggling What it means for her that sometimes saying no is in service to a much better yes Shauna Niequist links: Shauna’s Website Instagram By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Shauna Niequist, check out these other episodes: Radical Self Love with Sonya Renee Taylor Poetry and Life Lessons with Maggie Smith See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Clark Strand is an American author and lecturer on spirituality and religion. He is a former Zen Buddhist monk and was the first Senior Editor of Tricycle: The Buddhist Review. He is also the author of many books including The Way of the Rose: The Radical Path of the Divine Feminine Hidden in the Rosary and Seeds of a Birch Tree: Writing Haiku and the Spiritual Journey In this episode, Eric and Clark discuss a few of his books in addition to his exploration of the many spiritual traditions. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Clark Strand and I Discuss Haiku and Other Creative Spiritual Practices and … His book, Waking Up to the Dark: The Black Madonna’s Gospel for an Age of Extinction and Collapse His exploration of many spiritual traditions Self power and other power The circular notion of spiritual life rather than linear notion of progress How a bead/rosary practice represents the circular nature of spirituality The “hour of God” or “hour of the wolf” when awake in the night Haiku and the tradition and forms of this type of poetry Translation of haiku is “playful verse” How profound meanings can come through from this playful art from Clark Strand links: Clark’s Website Instagram By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Clark Strand, check out these other episodes: The Divine Feminine with Mirabai Starr Being Heart-Minded with Sarah Blondin See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fariha Roisin is an Australian Canadian writer whose work frequently covers her identity as a queer, south Asian Muslim woman as well as self-care and pop culture. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, Al Jazeera, The Guardian, Vice, Village Voice,and other publications. She has written a book of poetry (How To Cure A Ghost), a journal (Being In Your Body), and a novel (Like A Bird). In this episode, Eric and Fariha discuss her non-fiction book, Who Is Wellness For? An Examination of Wellness Culture and Who It Leaves Behind. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Fariha Roisin and I Discuss Wellness Culture and … Her book, Who Is Wellness For? An Examination of Wellness Culture and Who It Leaves Behind The way her severe childhood trauma has shaped her entire life That we are shaped by the trauma of our families and ancestors The factors that weave into how we need to heal The importance of looking at and into the darkness for ourselves Being alive IS the journey of self-discovery to show up as a fairer, kinder version of yourself How discomfort is undervalued That unraveling is the nexus for change in life The difficult path of healing will give you your life if you follow it How achieving or ascension can be a trauma response What it means to become a more whole version of yourself – where every part of you is allowed The idea of taking only what you give How healing requires being present with yourself Fariha Roisin links: Fariha’s Website Fariha’s Newsletter Instagram By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Fariha Roisin, check out these other episodes: How to Overcome Childhood Trauma with Michael Unbroken Donna Hylton on Healing and Hope See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sharon Salzberg is one of the worlds best know Buddhist teachers and a leader in meditation retreats worldwide since 1974. She teaches both intensive awareness practice (vipassana or insight meditation) and the profound cultivation of lovingkindness and compassion (the Brahma Viharas). She is a co-founder of the Insight Meditation Society in Barre, Massachusetts and The Barre Center for Buddhist Studies. In this episode, Eric and Sharon discuss her book Real Happiness At Work: Meditations for Accomplishment, Achievement, and Peace. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you Sharon Salzberg and I Discuss How to Bring Lovingkindness to Your Life … Her book, Real Happiness At Work: Meditations for Accomplishment, Achievement, and Peace. Lovingkindess is the fundamental sense of connectedness to ourselves and each other Compassion is recognizing the universal vulnerability of ourselves and each other The fundamental teaching of “everyone wants to be happy“ Remembering that it’s never to late to make a change How the mind is naturally radiant and pure The “visitors” that obscure our mind The essential question of asking what we really need to be happy How mindfulness is about training to find “the place in the middle” Balancing repression and indulgence in our emotions Whether Buddhism teaches that desire is the core problem Making decisions from a “climate of wisdom” The four types of enemies (outer, inner, secret, and most secret) How to deal with these enemies The importance of setting intentions Watching our thoughts like an elderly person watches children in a park How the difference between happiness and misery depends on where we place our attention. Sharon Salzberg links: Sharon’s Website Twitter Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Sharon Salzberg, check out these other episodes: Discovering Our Essence with A. H. Almaas Inner Freedom Through Mindfulness with Jack Kornfield See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Martin Aylward has practiced meditation intensively since the age of 19, spending four years in Asian monasteries and with Himalayan hermits. He’s been teaching worldwide since 1999, leading retreats and courses in mindfulness, meditation, and inner freedom. Martin co-founded the Mindfulness Training Institute with Mark Coleman, which runs year-long professional mindfulness teacher training in Europe and the U.S. In this episode, Eric, Ginny, and Martin discuss his book, Awake Where You Are: The Art of Embodied Awareness. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Martin Aylward, Ginny, and I Discuss How to Embody Awareness and … His book, Awake Where You Are: The Art of Embodied Awareness The habits of “Grabby Mind”, “Resistant Mind”, and “Check Out Mind” The good news that can learn to meet our experience more kindly and more spaciously How aging can be humiliating or humbling depending on how much we try to hold on to our younger self-image The distinction between what is true vs. what is useful to focus on How to recognize and work with the deficient age gap The way our life experiences are stored in our bodies Sometimes meditation isn’t quite psychological enough. It can help dissolve inner states in the moment but further understanding is needed in order for them to really resolve Waking up, growing up, showing up, cleaning up No rehearsal, No replay Inhabiting this moment is the best way to prepare for the next moment Martin Aylward links: Martin’s Website Twitter Instagram By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Martin Aylward, check out these other episodes: Mindfulness in Nature with Mark Coleman The Heart of Awareness with Dorothy Hunt See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Marshall Goldsmith is the only two-time Thinkers 50 Award for #1 Leadership Thinker in the World. He has been ranked as the world’s #1 Executive Coach, a Top Ten Business Thinker for eight years, and was chosen as the inaugural winner of the Lifetime Award for Leadership by the Harvard Institute of Coaching. Marshall is the author or editor of 41 books, that have sold over 2.5 million copies, translated into 32 languages, and listed as bestsellers in 12 countries. In this episode, Eric and Marshall discuss his book, The Earned Life: Lose Regret, Choose Fulfillment But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Marshall Goldsmith and I Discuss How to Lose Regret, Choose Fulfillment, and … His book, The Earned Life: Lose Regret, Choose Fulfillment The every breath paradigm in learning to lose regret Understanding the importance of asking for helping Some of the barriers that hold us back Differences between being comfortable and being fulfilled Problems that arise when we are too attached to outcomes The 3 A’s: action, ambition, aspiration How both finding meaning and enjoying the process leads to happiness Obligations and how they relate to our values The practice of daily questions that takes 3 minutes Remembering that aking change is easier when you have support The value in asking”Did I do my best to….”questions as they force you to take responsibility How it’s more challenging to make the effort in our personal life than our professional life Marshall Goldsmith links: Marshall Goldsmith website Twitter Instagram Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Marshall Goldsmith, check out these other episodes: Conscious Leadership with Eric Kaufmann Mimetic Desires in Everyday Life with Luke Burgis See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Susan Cain is an author who has appeared in The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Wall Street Journal, and many other publications. Her record-smashing TedTalk has been viewed over 30 million times and was named by Bill Gates as one of his all-time favorite talks. Susan is the author of the book, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking, which spent seven years on the New York Times Best Selling List and has been translated into 40 languages.. In this episode, Eric and Susan discuss her new book, Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Susan Cain and I Discuss How to Become Whole Through the Bittersweet and … Her book, Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole Why some people really love sad music How brokenness points in the direction of transcendence How to know if you tend towards a bittersweet state of mind Why do some people turn pain into something beautiful and in other cases people are broken by life’s difficulties The way of “even so” Union between souls when sorrow is shared Understanding the messiness and unpredictability of grief The mystery of bittersweet The divine nature of longing How longing is different from craving Being open to great states of transition as gateways in our life Moving on vs. Moving forward Poignancy What it means to turn in the direction of beauty Susan Cain links: Susan’s Website Twitter Instagram Facebook By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Susan Cain, check out these other episodes: Life Transitions with Bruce Feiler The Longings of our Heart with Sue Monk Kidd See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does the future hold? And how do we make sure we're making the best decisions for ourselves? In today's episode with David Christian, you will discover answers to these questions and much more! "What are the skills involved in trying to think about the future? To construct future stories that are closer to the truth than other future stories? Because if we don't do that. We die." - David Christian David Christian is a distinguished Professor of History at Macquarie University and Director of the school's Big History Institute. David co-founded the Big History Project with Bill Gates and has delivered keynotes at conferences around the world, including the Davos Economic Forum. His Ted Talk has been viewed millions of times and he is the author of many books and articles. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Also From the Interview with David Christian... His book, Future Stories: What's Next The questions leading him to write about the future How we are always thinking about and telling ourselves stories about the future Thinking about the philosophy and science of time The two metaphors of time being like a river and a map How time is an important concept for complex entities Punctuated equilibrium refers to trends from the past to predict changes in the future How time is experienced in 3 ways: natural, psychological, and social time The best predictions of the future depend on finding the most powerful trends of the past The four possible scenarios for the future of humanity David Christian links: David's Website Twitter Ted Talk By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with David Christian, check out these other episodes: Big History of Everything with David Christian (2019) What We Know But Don't Believe with Steve Hagen See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jessica Nordell is an award-winning author, science writer, and speaker known for blending rigorous science with compassionate humanity. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, and many others. She is the recipient of a Gracie Award from American Women in Radio and Television, was named a Best New Poet by Tracy K. Smith, and was a 2022 featured speaker at SXSW. In this episode, Eric and Jessica discuss her book, The End of Bias: A Beginning: The Science and Practice of Overcoming Unconscious Bias. But wait, there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue tathe conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! Jessica Nordell and I Discuss How to Overcome Unconscious Bias and… Her book, The End of Bias: A Beginning: The Science and Practice of Overcoming Unconscious Bias What bias is and how prevalent it is Her personal experience being on the receiving end of another person’s bias Homophily The implecations of prejudice being a habit and a result of conditioning How labels and categorizing plant seeds of bias Ways to lessen the impact of categories on our perspectives Why being “color blind” can be so harmful to people (despite the well-meaning approach) Taking on more and broader perspectives helps us better understand the world Seeing the groups we don’t belong to as just as complex as our own group The fundamental attribution error The role of empathy in dissolving biases Hyper-objects Jessica Nordell links: Jessica’s website Twitter Instagram By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you! If you enjoyed this conversation with Jessica Nordell, check out these other episodes: The Element of Choice with Eric Johnson How to Change Anyone’s Mind with Jonah Berger See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices