The One You Feed | Personal Growth, Emotional Resilience & Purpose

Make Better Decisions using Solomon's ParadoxKing Solomon was said to be wiser than anyone in Egypt.What we don't hear, is that while Solomon was great at giving advice to others, he was notoriously bad at dealing with his own life issues, ultimately bringing ruin upon the kingdom.If look closely at ourselves, we’ll see that we all have this same flaw. This behavior is so common it has been given a name — “The Solomon Paradox”.Igor Grossman's research that founds the basis for this mini episode. Our sponsor this week is FractureVisit Fracture and use the promo code “wolf” to get 10% off!! The Tale of Two WolvesA grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other. One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feedThe Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Barry Mangione about how there are no easy answersBarry Mangione is an author, musician, podcaster, life coach, and pediatric physical therapist.Barry was once a struggling alcoholic suffering from depression, failed relationships, and bankruptcy. He even came close to suicide, but he now enjoys a life filled with creativity, service to others, and abundant possibilities.In his Self-Help Rockstar Show podcast, he features music, interviews, and his own brand of self-help advice in order to raise self-awareness and to inspire people to go out and live their best lives every day.In his self-help book No Easy Answers: A Book of Life-Changing Questions, Barry shares his personal success story with readers so that they, too, can achieve personal transformation.Barry is also currently in the studio recording an album of rock songs to carry his message of hope and healing to music lovers everywhere.Barry lives in New York with his wife and their family, who are all firm believers in the paleo diet and lifestyle, for both physical and mental health. Our Sponsor this Week is Casper MattressVisit casper.com/feed and use the promo code “feed” to get $50 off!! In This Interview, Barry Mangione and I Discuss:The One You Feed parableSimple practices to feed your good wolfJournaling as a practiceGuilt doesn't help but accepting responsibilityLearning to see our role in thingsAsking ourselves "Maybe it's me"The questions to ask ourselves when making a decision:How do I feel about myself now?How will I feel about myself after I've done this?How will I feel about myself if I don't do this?How will I feel in 10 days/10 months/10 YearsTrying to avoid black and white thinking when making decisionsHow perspective is intellectual while gratitude is emotionalThe 2nd ArrowResponsibility without creativity is lifeless and boringCreativity without responsibility is dangerous and misleadingFinding creativity again after getting soberLearning to do things sober as a challengeHow would I talk to my best friend if he was in my shoes?Visit our show notesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Mark Nepo about the mysteries of lifeMark Nepo is a poet, philosopher and cancer survivor who has taught in the fields of poetry, health, and spirituality for forty years. A New York Times #1 bestselling author, he has published numerous books and audio projects. Mark has appeared with Oprah Winfrey on her Super Soul Sunday program on OWN TV, and has also been interviewed by Robin Roberts on Good Morning America.His book The Book of Awakening is considered a modern spiritual classic. His latest book is called Inside the Miracle: Enduring Suffering, Approaching WholenessOur Sponsor this Week is Spirituality and Health Magazine. Click here for your free trial issue and special offer. In This Interview Mark Nepo and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableThinking of things as life affirming or life draining versus good and badHow none of us really understands the mystery of lifeHow controlling and counting cuts off our access to the present momentResisting inflating or deflating ourselvesThe real meaning of humilityHow only the heart can synthesize our experienceThe role and definition of paradoxSubstituting what is familiar for what is trueThe critical role of dialog and relation in a spiritual practiceFor more show notes visit our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Mirabai Starr about grief and healingMirabai Starr writes, speaks and leads retreats on the inter-spiritual teachings of the mystics.Known for her revolutionary translations of John of the Cross, Teresa of Avila, and Julian of Norwich, Mirabai renders mystical masterpieces accessible, beautiful, and relevant to a contemporary circle of seekers. Her commentaries on the interconnected wisdom of all traditions are lyrical and evocative.Mirabai builds bridges not only between religious traditions, but also between contemplative life and compassionate service, between cultivating an inner relationship with the Beloved and expressing that intimacy in community, between the transformational power of loss and longing for the sacred.Her latest book is called Caravan of No Despair Our Sponsor this Week is MeetMindfulVisit MeetMindful and get a free trialIn This Interview, Mirabai Starr and I Discuss:The One You Feed parableWalking the landscape of loss in a genuine wayLearning to be present even when things are really hardThe death of her 14 year old daughterHow sometimes spiritual teachings fail us and are of no useRealizing that we share our suffering with so many other peopleThe Stages of GriefReturning to joy after great loss, it eventually happensHow tragedy and trauma are not guarantees to transformationThe states of mind that allow us to turn our pain into treasureCultivating curiosity about our experiences, even when painfulThe Dark Night of the SoulThe transforming power of loveHow vast we are as beingsTelling the truth about griefThe holiness of being broken openWhat mysticism isMystical poetryThe desire to experience unionThe four arms of yoga in HinduismApproaching the divine in the way that is best for each of usWhat interspirituality isThe difference between interspiritual and interfaithMirabai Starr LinksHomepageTwitterFacebookSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Chris Grosso about Everything MindOnly the third repeat guest on the The One You Feed, Chris Grosso is a public speaker, writer, and author of Indie Spiritualist: A No Bullshit Exploration of Spirituality and Everything Mind: What I’ve Learned About Hard Knocks, Spiritual Awakening and the Mind-Blowing Truth of it All.He writes for ORIGIN Magazine, Huffington Post, and Mantra Yoga + Health Magazine, and has spoken and performed at Wanderlust Festival, Celebrate Your Life, Yoga Journal Conference, Sedona World Wisdom Days, Kripalu, and more.He is a member of the advisory board for Drugs over Dinner and hosts The Indie Spiritualist Podcast on The Mindpod Network. Our Sponsor this Week is Wisdom Publications. Click here to explore their offerings In This Interview Chris Grosso and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableWelcoming Mara inHow there is no end point in lifeHis new bookHow spirit surrounds us in all aspects of lifeHow spirituality includes the dark sides of ourselvesFinding spirituality everywhere, including Megadeath and MotorheadThe relative and absolute truthThe journey from the head to the heartThat there are different approaches to awakeningArt as a path to spiritualityMeditation versus mindfulnessEverything MindDiscovering interdependence at a Motorhead showPositive concentration practicesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Second Arrow “The Buddha once asked a student, “If a person is struck by an arrow, is it painful?” The student replied, “It is."The Buddha then asked, "If the person is struck by a second arrow, is that even more painful?” The student replied again, “It is.” The Buddha then explained, “In life, we cannot always control the first arrow. However, the second arrow is our reaction to the first. The second arrow is optional.”Eric describes the parable of the Second Arrow and how it to makes things worse.Our Sponsor this Week is Spirituality and Health Magazine. Click here for your free trial issue and special offer. The Tale of Two WolvesA grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other. One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather, which one wins?”The grandfather quietly replies, the one you feed The Tale of Two Wolves is often attributed to the Cherokee indians but there seems to be no real proof of this. It has also been attributed to evangelical preacher Billy Graham and Irish Playwright George Bernard Shaw. It appears no one knows for sure but this does not diminish the power of the parable.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Rainn Wilson about the courage to be hopefulRainn Wilson is best known for his Emmy-nominated role as Dwight Schrute on NBC’s The Office. Wilson also voiced the alien villain Gallaxhar in Monsters vs. Aliens (2009) and starred in the police procedural BackstromToday he’s equally well-known for his millions of Twitter followers and the philosophy website he founded, SoulPancake, which creates media about life's big questions. and wrote a New York Times bestselling book of the same name.He just released a memoir called The Bassoon King: My Life in Art, Faith, and Idiocy. Our Sponsor this Week is Spirituality and Health Magazine. Click here for your free trial issue and special offer. In This Interview Rainn Wilson and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableHis new book The Bassoon KingHow spirituality got a bad nameHow spirituality is everything that we don't have in common with the monkeysHow happiness is not an if then propositionThe difference between happiness and joyThe balance between ambition and acceptanceHow cynicism robs us of the gift of joyHow much easier it is to be cynical than to be hopefulBombing on BroadwayHow success doesn't mean the end of the difficulties of lifeThe Baha'i faithHow the Baha'i faith encourages equality between women and menThomas MertonReconciling a loving God with the terrible things that happen in the worldSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Manoush Zomorodi about remaining human in a digital ageThis interview was recorded live in the WNYC studios in New York city, home of other popular podcasts like RadioLab, The New Yorker Radio Hour and Freakonomics.Manoush Zomorodi is the host and managing editor of Note to Self, “the tech show about being human,” from WNYC Studios.Every week on her podcast, Manoush searches for answers to life’s digital quandaries, through experiments and conversations with listeners and experts. Topics include information overload, digital clutter, sexting “scandals," and the eavesdropping capabilities of our gadgets.Manoush’s goal, as the New York Times wrote, is to “embrace the ridiculousness” of modern life, even when that means downloading dozens of apps to fight the feeling of digital overload. She often speaks on creativity in the digital age, kids and technology, and non-fiction storytelling.Manoush has won numerous awards including 4 from the New York Press Club. In 2014, the Alliance for Women in Media named her Outstanding Host. Prior to New York Public Radio, Manoush reported and produced around the world for BBC News and Thomson Reuters. In 2012, she published Camera Ready, a guide to multimedia journalism.The Note to Self podcast is starting a new challenge called Infomagical to help cope with information overload.. You will hear more about during the episode. If you want to sign up to participate at go to wnyc.org/infomagical. Challenge week starts February 1 and runs through February 5. Our Sponsor this Week is MeetMindfulVisit MeetMindful and get a free trial In This Interview, Manoush and I Discuss:The One You Feed parableHow the good and bad wolf help each other to find the middle groundWhich "technology" wolf are you feeding?Keeping our humanity in a digital ageTrying to understand the effects our technologies have on usHaving to make too many small decisions all day longInformation overloadHow the average American takes in over 12 hours of information per dayThe Note to Self Infomagical challengeThe consumption to creation ratioTaking in too much information but not remembering or applying any of itHow a theme is important for memory and learningThe myth of multi-taskingHow not being perfect is the point of being humanThe new digital literacyInformation filter failureAsking "What's the Point" when consuming digital contentEric's Three Questions:What am I doing?Why am I doing?Is it what I should be doing?Pulsing- working in small burstsGetting everything out of your mind and written down somewhere and then prioritize itSee more show notes on our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Belinda Gore about The EnneagramThis episode was recorded outdoors, live before an audienceBelinda Gore is a psychologist, coach and experienced seminar leader who is skilled in supporting high-level learning and personal development. She holds a Ph.D. in Counselor Education and Counseling Psychology, from The Ohio State University. Using the Enneagram system along with thirty years’ experience in facilitating change, she helps leaders identify their natural talents and deliver results by engaging the best in themselves and their organizations.She founded The Enneagram Institute of Central Ohio, is the former president of The Cuyamungue Institute, a non-profit organization with international membership, and is a founder and former managing partner of Wilbridge Consultation Center, a multidisciplinary group using a holistic approach in working with individuals and groups. Our Sponsor this Week is FractureVisit Fracture and use the promo code “wolf” to get 10% off!! In This Interview, Belinda and I Discuss:The One You Feed parableUnderstanding our filters and patternsThe EnneagramChoosing what to focus onThe great Lou DeweinHow we need nature in our life- echo philosophyWhat the Enneagram isThe 9 Enneagram Personality Types For more show notes visit our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Toni Bernhard about not getting what we wantToni Bernhard was a law professor at the University of California—Davis when she became very ill. Since then she had dealt with, and helped teach the world about how to deal with chronic conditions.She is the author of How to Be Sick: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide for the Chronically Ill and their Caregivers. Her second book is titled How to Wake Up: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide to Navigating Joy and Sorrow. Her latest book is How to Live Well with Chronic Pain and Illness. Our Sponsor this Week is FractureVisit Fracture and use the promo code “wolf” to get 10% off!!In This Interview, Toni and I DiscussThe One You Feed parableHow we are forming our personality as we goThe malleability of the mindOur inability to be nice ourselvesHow it feels good to be nice, kind and compassionateHer journey through illnessLearning to handle not getting our wayHow hard dealing with chronic illness isHow most of our suffering comes from our reaction to events, not the events themselves.Building a life within our limitationsDealing with things that are out of our controlHow pain and sorrow are inevitable but suffering is optionalFor more show notes please visit our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to John Lee DumasJohn Lee Dumas is the Founder and Host of EntrepreneurOnFire, awarded 'Best of iTunes 2013'. John interviews today's most inspiring and successful Entrepreneurs 7-days a week and has been featured in Forbes, Fast Company, Success, INC, & TIME Magazine.John also founded the #1 Podcasting community in the world; Podcasters' Paradise; a community where over 1500 Podcasters learn how to create, grow, and monetize their podcast in a supportive environment. He just completed the book The Freedom Journal. It is designed to help you create and complete a major goal in 100 days. Our Sponsor this Week is Casper MatressesVisit casper.com/feed and use the promo code “feed” to get $50 off!! In This Interview, John and I Discuss Accomplishing Your GoalsThe One You Feed parableControlling our outlook on lifeBeing grateful for todayThe three things he does when he feels downThe value of exercise and fresh airSurrounding ourselves with positive peopleThe legacy of Scott DinsmoreJohn's time in the armyFor more show notes visit our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Megan Feldman Bettencourt about forgivenessMegan Feldman Bettencourt is an award-winning writer and journalist. She has reported from many countries, and her journalism has appeared in publications including The San Francisco Chronicle, Psychology Today, Salon, The Daily Beast, Glamour, Newsday and many others. Megan is the author of the internationally-acclaimed book, TRIUMPH OF THE HEART: FORGIVENESS IN AN UNFORGIVING WORLD, which explores forgiveness through science, stories and memoir. She holds a master's degree from the Columbia University Graduate School of Journalism. Our Sponsor this Week is Thrive Market! Wholesome Products. Wholesale Prices.In This Interview, Megan and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableDrinking poison and expecting your enemy to dieThe story that got her interested in researching forgivenessHer definition of forgiveness- giving up resentmentHow forgiveness is not about enabling someone to avoid accountabilityHow Forgiveness and justice are not mutually exclusiveForgiving because it benefits usThe toxic effects of resentment on our bodyThe process of learning to forgiveGrieving and feeling the emotions are part of the forgiveness practiceEngaging the part of the brain that is more able to become forgiving For more show notes visit our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Interested in behavior change? Please help us out by taking our short 3 question survey and receive a free guide: The 5 Biggest Behavior Change Mistakes This week we talk to Kristin Neff about self compassionKristin Neff is a self-compassion researcher, author, and Associate Professor at the University of Texas at Austin. She got her Ph.D. at the University of California at Berkeley in 1997 in the field of moral development.While doing her post-doctoral work she decided to conduct research on self-compassion – a central construct in Buddhist psychology and one that had not yet been examined empirically.In addition to her pioneering research into self-compassion, she has developed an 8-week program to teach self-compassion skills. The program, co-created with her colleague Chris Germer, affiliated with Harvard Medical School, is called Mindful Self-Compassion. Her book, Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself was recently released in paperback.She and her family were recently featured in the documentary and book called The Horse Boy. Our Sponsor this Week is Thrive Market! Wholesome Products. Wholesale Prices.In This Interview, Kristin and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableThe difference between self-esteem and self-compassionWhat self compassion isThe research on self-compassion and its benefitsHow self-compassion increases motivationThe more self-compassionate you are, the less afraid of failure you areHow self-compassion reduces performance anxietyThe three pillars of self-compassionLearning to soothe and comfort ourselvesRemembering that all people struggle and sufferThe damaging psychological effects of isolationLearning to turn towards our own pain in order to work with itHow to practice self-compassionLearning to talk to ourselves like we would a friendFor more show notes visit our websiteInterested in behavior change? Please help us out by taking our short 3 question survey and receive a free guide: The 5 Biggest Behavior Change MistakesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please help us out by taking our short 3 question survey and receive a free guide: The 5 Biggest Behavior Change Mistakes This week we talk to Monk Yunrou about modern TaoismTaoist Monk Yunrou in as author, activist, and tai chi master, Yunrou (formerly known as Arthur Rosenfeld) has a lifelong relationship with Taoism. A 35-year master of Taoist arts, he was born in America and ordained a monk, by official leave, at the Pure Yang Temple in Guangzhou, China. Combining his overarching spiritual focus with a Yale literary education, the pursuit of natural history at the University of California and Cornell, he is an authority on the cultural, social, and spiritual dimensions of Eastern thinking for the Western world.Yunrou contributes to such publications as Vogue, Vanity Fair, and Parade, and has been profiled and cited in Newsweek, and other national magazines. His blog on The Huffington Post is frequently cited by other websites, including The Wall Street Journal, Fox Business News, and Reuters. He has appeared on national TV networks including Fox News, and interviewed on various podcasts and radio shows. From 2010 – 2013, Yunrou hosted the hit (56MM households tuned in) national public television show Longevity Tai Chi with Arthur Rosenfeld.His latest book is called Yin: A Love Story Our Sponsor this Week is Thrive Market! Wholesome Products. Wholesale Prices.In This Interview, Yunrou and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableThe Tao Te Ching- Eric's favorite translationHow the Tao that can be spoken is not the real TaoSeeing things in terms of binary opposites working harmoniously together.What Taoism isThe differences between Taoist meditation and Buddhist meditationTai Chi and the deep integration to TaoismThe culture which the Tao Te Ching was writtenSome of Eric's favorite sections from the Tao Te ChingHow there is no connection between money and happinessThe lack of connection we have to the modern worldHistory of Lao TzuThe concept of stewardshipFor more show notes visit our website Please help us out by taking our short 3 question survey and receive a free guide: The 5 Biggest Behavior Change MistakesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please help us out by taking our short 3 question survey and receive a free guide: The 5 Biggest Behavior Change Mistakes This week we talk to Guy Winch about emotional first aidGuy Winch, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist, keynote and TED speaker, and author whose books have been translated into twenty languages. His most recent book is Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts .The Squeaky Wheel: Complaining the Right Way to Get Results, Improve Your Relationships and Enhance Self-Esteem was published in January 2011. His TED Talk, Why We All Need to Practice Emotional First Aid, has been viewed over 2.5 million times and is rated among the top 5 most inspiring talks on TED.com.Dr. Winch received his doctorate in clinical psychology from New York University in 1991 and completed a postdoctoral fellowship in family and couples therapy at NYU Medical Center. He has been working with individuals, couples and families in his private practice in Manhattan, since 1992. He is a member of the American Psychological Association.Dr. Winch also writes the popular Squeaky Wheel Blog on Psychology Today.com, and blogs for Huffington Post. Our Sponsor this Week is Thrive Market! Wholesome Products. Wholesale Prices.In This Interview, Guy Winch and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableEmotional First Aid: What it is & how to apply it in your lifeHow to triage small emotional woundsBuilding emotional resiliencyThat treating emotional wounds when they are small can prevent them from escalating into larger ones laterHow to treat the emotional wound of rejectionHow to improve low self esteemThe dangers of rumination: stewing vs. doingWhat to do when caught in a place of ruminationThe difference between rumination and trying to figure something outBuilding self compassionThe detective mindset vs. a harmful, self critical mindsetThe research Guy Winch is currently working on that's got him really excited Please help us out by taking our short 3 question survey and receive a free guide: The 5 Biggest Behavior Change MistakesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please help us out by taking our short 3 question survey and receive a free guide: The 5 Biggest Behavior Change Mistakes This week we talk to Loch Kelly about awake awarenessLoch Kelly, MDiv, LCSW, is a teacher, consultant, and leader in the field of meditation and psychotherapy who was asked to teach by Mingyur Rinpoche and Adyashanti. The founder of the Open-Hearted Awareness Institute, he is an emerging voice in modernizing meditation, social engagement, and collaborating with neuroscientists to study how awareness training can enhance compassion and well-being.Our Sponsor this Week is Wisdom Publications. Click here to explore their offerings In This Interview Loch Kelly and I Discuss...The 4 types of parable interpretationsHis new bookThe idea of awarenessHow to feel, know, be & live from our awarenessThe "pointing out instructions" can enable us to access our true nature at any timeGlimpse practices that we can use to discover & experience our true natureThe difference between a glimpse practice & a meditative stateThat the Tibetan word for meditation is literally translated as "familiarize"What "awake awareness" meansHow to experience the bliss & joy of thought-free awarenessHow to function as "continuous intuition"That our thoughts & feelings are not the center of who we areHow to keep difficult emotions from overwhelming youWhat "local awareness" is Please help us out by taking our short 3 question survey and receive a free guide: The 5 Biggest Behavior Change MistakesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please help us out by taking our short 3 question survey and receive a free guide: The 5 Biggest Behavior Change Mistakes This week we talk to Deborah Schoeberlein David about integrating mindfulness into daily lifeDeborah Schoeberlein David is a teacher, education consultant and curriculum developer. Deborah's most recent book is Living Mindfully: At Home, At Work and in the World . An earlier book, Mindful Teaching and Teaching Mindfulness: A Guide for Anyone Who Teaches Anything, is now in its fourth reprint and has been translated into Spanish and Korean. Deborah's other publications include multiple articles in professional journals and trade magazines; and online postings, including more than 60 blogs for the Huffington Post.Our Sponsor this Week is Spirituality and Health Magazine. Click here for your free trial issue and special offer. In This Interview Deborah and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableHer new bookHow the mind naturally wandersHow mindfulness is not a panaceaBringing mindfulness into all aspects of our livesExploring different styles of meditationThe practice of adding in instead of adding onIntegrating mindfulness into activites that we are already doingFocus, Observe, RefocusLearning to break our habitual reaction patternsIncreasing the space between stimulus and response Please help us out by taking our short 3 question survey and receive a free guide: The 5 Biggest Behavior Change MistakesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Mark Manson about making sacrificesMark Manson is an author and personal development consultant. His writing is a different take on the self help genre. He calls it self help from a first-person perspective.He’s been published and quoted on CNN, Huffington Post, Business Insider, Yahoo! News, The Sydney Morning Herald and a variety of other publications. He is also the CEO and Founder of Infinity Squared Media LLC. His blog is read over 2 million times a month. Our Sponsor this Week is Athletic GreensClick here to get 50% off your first order!! In This Interview Mark and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableBeing aware of what we think is importantOpportunity CostThe fallacy of being able to do everythingThe sacrifice inherent in doing anything greatThe subtle art of not giving a F*!%The best friend test for relationships, its not what you thinkMark's issue with The SecretThe dangers of positive thinkingHow action can be the cause of motivationFor more show notes visit our web pageSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week Eric and Chris get interviewedIt has been 100 episodes of The One You Feed and as a way to makr the occasion we asked our friend Greg from the Life on Purpose podcast to interview Chris and I together. We talk about why we started the show, what it's like making it and what we've learned from it. We also feature a song that each of us has written.Thanks to each and every one of you for listening to the show.You can hear the full version of Chris' song My Body Betrays Me hereYou can hear the full version of Eric's song Grass is Greener hereOur Sponsor this Week is Spirituality and Health Magazine. Click here for your free trial issue and special offer.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Steve Almond about the good and bad in all of usSteve Almond spent seven years as a newspaper reporter in Texas and Florida before writing his first book, the story collection My Life in Heavy Metal. His books, Candyfreak, and Rock and Roll Will Save Your Life: A Book by and for the Fanatics Among Us were New York Times Bestsellers. His short fiction has been included in The Best American Short Stories and Pushcart Prize anthologies, and his collection, God Bless America, won the Paterson Prize for Fiction. Almond writes commentary and journalism regularly for The New York Times Magazine and The Boston Globe. A former sports reporter and play-by-play man, his latst book is called Against Football: One Fan's Reluctant Manifesto.He is also the co host of the popular Dear Sugar podcast that he co-hosts with Cheryl Strayed. Our Sponsor this Week is Athletic GreensClick here to get 50% off your first order!! In This Interview Steve and I Discuss...The beginnings of the Dear Sugar columnBeing funny and poignant at the same timeWhat makes good writingHow to make an advice column goodThe culture of treating everything like a joke or with ironyKurt VonnegutLanguage, storytelling and humor as a way to fight of despairThe declining American cultureThe One You Feed parableThe two stories that we are constantly telling the worldHow the two wolves keep fighting all our livesThe flattening out of character in American discourseHow we all contain great and terrible qualitiesHow our culture makes a god out of convenienceFor more show notes visit our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

© Noel Cianci, 2012[powerpress] This week we talk to don Miguel Ruiz about the stories we tell ourselvesDon Miguel Ruiz is a renowned spiritual teacher and internationally bestselling author. He has spent the past three decades guiding students to personal freedom through his profound insights regarding the nature of human reality. His forthcoming book is called THE TOLTEC ART OF LIFE AND DEATH: A Story of Self Discovery written with Barbara EmrysCombining Toltec mythology and scientific perspectives, don Miguel has been able to merge ancient wisdom with modern physics and practical common-sense, forging a new philosophy for seekers of truth and personal authenticity. His landmark bestselling book, The Four Agreements, contains practical steps for long-term, personal transformation and has been read by millions around the world.First published in 1997, The Four Agreements has since sold over five million copies in the United States and seven million worldwide. It has been translated into 38 languages, appeared on the New York Times bestseller for over seven years, and was the 36th bestselling book of the decade. Don Miguel is also the author of The Mastery of Love, The Voice of Knowledge, and the New York Times bestseller, The Fifth Agreement, a collaboration with his son, don José Ruiz. Each of his books are international bestsellers.Our Sponsor this Week is Spirituality and Health Magazine. Click here for your free trial issue and special offer. In This Interview Miguel and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableHis new bookThat truth is life engergy, the force that moves matterHow we don't need to believe in the truth, it just existsThe fact that we are all artists and the greatest creation we have is the story of our livesHis near death experienceThe fifth agreementWe learn to love by how others love us - with conditionsHow we can start to love ourselves and others unconditionallyThe fact that we are not responsible for other people's minds or other people's actionsHow suffering is really in the mind and of the mindThat if we change our attitude, everything will changeThe wonderful truth that you have control of your own lifeThe lesson that has taken him the longest to learnWhy he likes Popeye the Sailor Mandon Miguel Ruiz Links don Miguel Ruiz Homepage don Miguel Ruiz Twitter don Miguel Ruiz Facebook don Migue Ruiz YouTubeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Mike PetersMike Peters is a Welsh musician, best known as the lead singer of The Alarm. Between 2011 and 2013, Peters was the vocalist for Big Country as well as The Alarm.A two time cancer survivor he founded the Love Hope Strength Foundation. The Foundation has found close to 1000 potentially life saving bone marrow donor matches; built the first ever children’s cancer center in Tanzania; supported the Bhaktapur Cancer Center in Nepal with life saving equipment and registered over 60,000 donors through it’s ‘Get On the List’ program.Eric caught up with Mike in Akron on his tour supporting the 30th anniversary of the classic Strength album. Our Sponsor this Week is Athletic GreensClick here to get 50% off your first order!! In This Interview Mike and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableFeeding the positive side of our personalityTreating people the way we want to be treatedSeeing both sides of the storySeeing The Clash and The Sex Pistols in 1977Meeting Johnny Rotten and Joe StrummerJoe Strummer teaching Mike to be positiveCreating an empowering message for the audienceWhat the song Strength means to him 30 years laterHis 20 year battle with cancerThe Love Hope Strength FoundationHis approach to handling cancerThe power of musicWhere he turns when he is struggling internallyThe meaning of the song Blaze of Glory For more show notes visit our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Michael Taft about better mediation Michael W. Taft is an author, editor, meditation teacher, and neuroscience junkie. He is currently a meditation coach specializing in secular, science-based meditation training in corporate settings and one-on-one sessions. Michael is the author of several books, including The Mindful Geek, and Nondualism: A Brief History of a Timeless Concept, Ego (which he co-authored), as well as the editor of such books as Hardwiring Happiness by Rick Hanson and the upcoming The Science of Enlightenment by Shinzen Young. He has taught at Google and worked on curriculum development for SIYLI. Michael is also an official advisor to the Therapeutic Neuroscience Lab. He was previously editor-in-chief of Being Human, a site for exploring what evolution, neuroscience, biology, psychology, archeology, and technology can tell us about the human condition, and was editorial director of Sounds True. Our Sponsor this Week is Spirituality and Health Magazine. Click here for your free trial issue and special offer. In This Interview Michael and I Discuss... The One You Feed parable How it takes awareness to know what wolf we are feeding Learning to meditate on emotional states Defining meditation The difference between meditation and mindfulness Making the unconscious conscious The misconceptions of meditation How meditation does not mean having no thoughts The Teletubbies That meditation is not always supposed to be blissful How there are more ways to meditate than just following the breath His teacher Shinzen Young The pillars of concentration, acceptance and sensory clarity Meditation and the Flow state For more show notes visit our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Casey Schwartz about the science of neuropsychoanalysisCASEY SCHWARTZ is a graduate of Brown University and has a Masters Degree in psychodynamic neuroscience from University College London. She has worked as a staff writer at Newsweek/The Daily Beast, where she covered neuroscience, psychology, and psychiatry. Her writing has also appeared in The New York Times and The New York Sun. She lives in New York City.Her first book is called In the Mind Fields: Exploring the New Science of Neuropsychoanalysis Our Sponsor this Week is Athletic GreensClick here to get 50% off your first order!! In This Interview Casey and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableWhat neuropsychanalysis isBattling self doubtThe importance of asking others for helpThe Don Draper approach to creativityTaking a "mind bath"The divide between neuroscience and psychoanalysisFreud's Boldest Idea: TransferenceMapping transference in the brainThe resurgence of the unconscious in current neuroscience researchAvoiding the temptation to boil us down to chemicalsHonoring the mystery of human life and behaviorReductionism vs holism in scienceThe fantasy of the easy answerThe oversimplification of the role of the amygdalaThe dangers of extrapolating animal studies to humansPsychoanalysis on patients who have had brain damageThe uneven pathway of recoveryStarving neural pathways that separate thought from feelingFor more show notes visit our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Amy Banks, M.D., has devoted her career to understanding the neurobiology of relationships. In addition to her work at the Jean Baker Miller Training Institute (JBMTI), she was an instructor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. She is the first person to bring relational-cultural theory together with neuroscience and is the foremost expert in the combined field.Amy is the creator of the C.A.R.E. Program, an easy to use, practical guide that helps clinicians and laypeople assess the quality of their relationships and strengthen their neural pathways for connection. Amy also has a private practice in Lexington, MA, that specializes in relational psychopharmacology and therapy for people who suffer from chronic disconnection. Most recently, Amy has joined the core group of Harville Hendrix’s Relationships First, a small group of prestigious scientists and cultural leaders who promote the idea that “healthy relationships are non-negotiable in a healthy society.”Her latest book is: Four Ways to Click: Rewire Your Brain for Stronger, More Rewarding Relationships Our Sponsor this Week is Casper MatressesVisit casper.com/feed and use the promo code "feed" to get $50 off!!In This Interview Amy and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableHow feeding neurons means stimulating themHow culture can feed our bad wolfThe power of isolation & how it can lead to more sicknessHow humans work best in healthy connection & interdependence with one anotherThe importance of identifying and building healthy relationshipsThe "5 good things" that exist in a healthy relationshipHow boundaries in relationships are overratedThe 1 sign that you are at a 340% higher risk of premature deathThe 4 neural pathways that function in the relationship realmFor more show notes visit our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kevin Breel is a 21-year-old writer, comedian, and activist for mental health. His work has been featured by NBC, CBS, The Huffington Post, MTV, CNN, The Today Show, Mashable and The Wall Street Journal. His passionate TEDx talk entitled "Confessions of a Depressed Comic" went instantly viral online- amassing millions of viewers and being featured on more than 200+ media outlets. Mashable called it "one of the moments that brought the world together" and the Huffington Post said the talk was "simply amazing." As a comedian, he’s performed in venues all across the globe; including the House of Blues, Rogers Arena and the historic Colosseum. As a mental health activist, he's a National Spokesperson for the Bell LET'S TALK Campaign and has been a guest speaker at Ivy League schools and billion dollar companies. His first book, available now, is called Boy Meets Depression: Or Life Sucks and Then You Live Our Sponsor this Week is Spirituality and Health Magazine. Click here for your free trial issue and special offer. In This Interview Kevin and I Discuss... Still wrestling with depression His viral Ted talk Learning to build the skill set to handle depression Defining our emotional landscape The benefits of waking up early The power and stabilizing force of a routine The importance of honest conversations with others Taking care of the physical body to help with depression Learning to recognize when were taking a turn for the worse and knowing how to respond For more who notes visit our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[powerpress] This week we talk to Tony Horton about the law of consistencyTony Horton is the master behind the best-selling fitness series: P90X®, P90X2®, 10-Minute Trainer®, his latest 30-minute dynamo P90X3® and the brand new “X” series prequel; P90. Tony is a world-class motivational speaker and author of the top selling books “Bring It,” “Crush It,” and the incredibly motivating “The Big Picture.” He has appeared on countless television and radio programs as a fitness and lifestyle expert and is sought after to appear at Fortune 500 corporate events, health and wellness expos, universities and over 40 military bases throughout the world.For the past 25 years, Tony has used his unique brand of humor to change the lives of over 8 million people through his powerful fusion of motivation, physical exercise, nutrition and discipline. From world class athletes, pro sports teams, congressmen, celebrities and the U.S Military, to corporate executives, couch potatoes and busy moms and dads alike, Tony has what it takes to reach and teach them all.Our Sponsor this Week is Emeals. Try eMeals risk free for 14 days. Head to EMEALS.COM to sign up today—it only takes a few minutes to solve your dinnertime dilemma. Simply choose a food style and you’ll be ready to experience the power of planning with your 14-day free trial.With eMeals, you’ll never again have to ask yourself, “what’s for dinner.” That’s EMEALS.COM (Remember to tell them you heard about them from us when you check out.) In This Interview Tony and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableHow Tony used to feed his bad wolfHow we all need different approaches to changing our livesThe importance of the right teacherStarting with the physical aspect of changeWorking on the things we can controlThe mental benefits of physical actionThe downside of shortcuts to feeling betterDoing your best and forgetting the restFor more show notes and links to Tony visit us at our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sharon-Salzberg the one you feed This week we talk to Sharon Salzberg about the essential questionSharon Salzberg is one of the worlds best know Buddhist teachers and has been leading meditation retreats worldwide since 1974. She teaches both intensive awareness practice (vipassana or insight meditation) and the profound cultivation of lovingkindness and compassion (the Brahma Viharas). She is a co-founder of the Insight Meditation Society in Barre, Massachusetts and The Barre Center for Buddhist Studies.She is the author of many books including the New York Times Best Seller, Real Happiness: The Power of Meditation: A 28-Day Program, Love Your Enemies: How to Break the Anger Habit & Be a Whole Lot Happier with Robert Thurman, Faith: Trusting Your Own Deepest Experience and Lovingkindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness. Sharon's latest book is Real Happiness At Work: Meditations for Accomplishment, Achievement, and Peace.Our Sponsor this Week is Spirituality and Health Magazine. Click here for your free trial issue and special offer. In This Interview Sharon and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableHer view on Lovingkindness after teaching about it f0r 20 yearsUnderstanding the ways that we are all connected to each otherThe difference between lovingkindness and compassionIdiot CompassionThat lovingkindness and compassion don't equate to weaknessThe fundamental teaching "Everyone wants to be happy"How it's never to late to make a changeLife lessons manifesting during meditationAvoiding the all or nothing mindsetHow nothing stays the same, especially our mindsetHow the mind is naturally radiant and pureThe "visitors" that obscure our mindHow what we resist persistsThe essential question to ask ourselvesBalancing repression and indulgence in our emotionsHow mindfulness is sometimes called "The Place In The Middle" For more show notes and links to Sharon's work please visit our webpageSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to BJ Fogg about changing our behavior Dr. BJ Fogg directs the Persuasive Tech Lab at Stanford University. A psychologist and innovator, he devotes half of his time to industry projects. His work empowers people to think clearly about the psychology of persuasion — and then to convert those insights into real-world outcomes. BJ is the creator of the Fogg Behavioral Model, a new model of human behavior change, which guides research and design. Drawing on these principles, his students created Facebook Apps that motivated over 16 million user installations in 10 weeks. He is the author of Persuasive Technology: Using Computers to Change What We Think and Do, a book that explains how computers can motivate and influence people. BJ is also the co-editor of Mobile Persuasion, as well as Texting 4 Health. Fortune Magazine selected BJ Fogg as one of the “10 New Gurus You Should Know”. Our Sponsor this Week is Spirituality and Health Magazine. Click here for your free trial issue and special offer. In This Interview BJ and I Discuss... The One You Feed parable The wolf you pay attention to is the one you feed The two main limits in life: time and attention The Fogg Behavioral Model- Motivation, Ability and Triggers How behavior change is about more than motivation Designing effective behavior change Managing the Ability part of the behavioral model Designing behavior to fit into our every day routines For more show notes and BJ Fogg links visit our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Jeff Goins about The Art of WorkJeff Goins is a full-time writer who lives just outside of Nashville, Tennessee, with his wife, son, and border collie. He has authored four books and frequently speaks on writing, creativity, and making a difference. His website, Goinswriter.com, has been visited by more than four million people from all over the world.His latest book is called The Art of WorkOur Sponsor this Week is Emeals.Try eMeals risk free for 14 days. Head to EMEALS.COM to sign up today—it only takes a few minutes to solve your dinnertime dilemma. Simply choose a food style and you’ll be ready to experience the power of planning with your 14-day free trial.With eMeals, you’ll never again have to ask yourself, “what’s for dinner.” That’s EMEALS.COM (Remember to tell them you heard about them from us when you check out.)In This Interview Jeff and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableThe fixed and growth mindsetsChoosing between being a victim and a victorThe secret to an extraordinary lifeFinding your callingHow for most people finding their calling is a roundabout processHow hidden in our obstacles and challenges often lie our purposeLearning to take the next stepUsing the surprises and setbacks we encounter for the goodWalking the path of your lifeThat difficulties are a prerequisite to a meaningful lifeHow mentors come in many forms and multiple peopleAccidental apprenticeshipsHow no one gets changed by an idea, it takes action along with the ideaNot dreaming but doingHow the work always comes before we feel readySee more show notes at our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Todd Henry about developing your authentic voiceTodd Henry teaches leaders and organizations how to establish practices that lead to everyday brilliance. He is the author of three books (The Accidental Creative, Die Empty, and Louder Than Words) which have been translated into more than a dozen languages, and he speaks and consults across dozens of industries on creativity, leadership, and passion for work.His book Die Empty was named by Amazon.com as one of the best books of 2013.His latest book, Louder Than Words, is about how to develop an authentic voice that resonates and creates impact. Bestselling author Tom Rath called it “…one of the best guides to living a meaningful life I have ever read Our Sponsor this Week is Emeals.Try eMeals risk free for 14 days. Head to EMEALS.COM to sign up today—it only takes a few minutes to solve your dinnertime dilemma. Simply choose a food style and you’ll be ready to experience the power of planning with your 14-day free trial.With eMeals, you’ll never again have to ask yourself, “what’s for dinner.” That’s EMEALS.COM (Remember to tell them you heard about them from us when you check out.) For Detailed Show Notes Visit our WebpageSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mini Episode: ConsistencyThe importance of consistency in behavior change. Consistency of action is critical. It's amazing what a series of small steps taken day after day can do. "What you do every day matters than what you do once in awhile"- Gretchen Rubin "A jug fills drop by drop"- The Buddha"Consistency is the last refuge of the unimaginative" -Oscar WildeOur Sponsor this Week is Spirituality and Health Magazine. Click here for your free trial issue and special offer. Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Kino MacGregorStrand of OaksMike Scott of the WaterboysTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[powerpress] This week we talk to Rabbi Rami Shapiro about perennial wisdomRabbi Rami Shapiro is an award-winning author, poet, essayist, and educator whose poems have been anthologized in over a dozen volumes, and whose prayers are used in prayer books around the world. Rami received rabbinical ordination from the Hebrew Union College–Jewish Institute of Religion and holds both Ph.d. and D.D. degrees. He has created a synagogue, worked as a management consultant for Fortune 500 companies, and got initiated into the Ramakrishna Order of Vedanta.In addition to writing over 30 books, Rami writes a regular column for Spirituality and Health magazine called “Roadside Assistance for the Spiritual Traveler” He also host his own podcast Essential Conversations with Rabbi Rama.Our Sponsor this Week is Spirituality and Health Magazine. Click here for your free trial issue and special offer. In This Interview Rabbi Rami and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.How the good wolf can teach the bad wolfWhy Rabbi Rami is a JewHow wisdom comes out of dialogueThe importance of thinking critically & paradoxicallyThe four components of perennial wisdomThe idea of spiritual maturityThe role of Believing in Something vs. Experiencing Something For more show notes visit our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[powerpress] This week we talk to Johnette Napolitano of Concrete BlondeJohnette Napolitano is an American singer, songwriter and bassist best known as the lead vocalist/songwriter and bassist for the alternative rock group Concrete Blonde.Johnette is currently a resident of Joshua Tree, California. She composes music for films and works as a gallery artist, specializing in working with discarded and reclaimed materials. She also takes care of rescue horses.Her latest record is called Naked and her book is called Rough Mix.Chris and I have been huge fans of her work for over 25 years.Our Sponsor this Week is Spirituality and Health Magazine. Click here for your free trial issue and special offer. In This Interview Johnette and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.Channeling negative emotions into art.The role of our environment on our moods.Finding the right balance between repressing and indulging our moods.Flamenco dancing.The danger of denying the spiritual side of ourselves.How relevant "God is a Bullet" is today.Willing her property to The Desert Land Trust.Being rejected early in their career.The song "True"Paradox and Contradiction.How cliches are cliches for a reason.Fear of missing out.Working with Harold Budd.Using social media in a positive way.The mystery of life.Her new three song EP.Moving out of Hollywood.Her new song "Here"The things she does to comfort herself.Who "Joey" is about.The lesson that has taken her the longest to learn.How life can end at any minute and learning to appreciate it while we are here.How every moment is precious.That sleep is the sex of the new millennium: you'll be lucky if you get any.Songs featured in this episode:God is a BulletTrueHereJoey Johnette Napolitano LinksJohnette Napolitano HomepageJohnette Napolitano- FacebookJohnette Napolitano- TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Kerry PattersonKerry Patterson is the four-time New York Times best-selling co-author of Crucial Conversations, Crucial Accountability, Influencer, and Change Anything.He received his doctorate from Stanford. He has been featured in more than 150 print and radio programs, including MSN Career Builder, and CNN. He is also the co-founder of VitalSmarts, an innovator in corporate training and leadership development. He is a recipient of the Mentor of the Year Award and the 2004 William G. Dyer Distinguished Alumni Award from Brigham Young University. His latest book is called The Grey Fedora.In This Interview Kerry and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.What a crucial conversation is: stakes are high and emotions are strong.What is happening in the brain during conversations that are emotional.The role of the amygdala.How moving from anger to curiosity helps defuse tense conversations.The one question we should ask ourselves before entering any disagreement.See additional show notes and links on our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[powerpress] This week we talk to Justin Sullivan from New Model ArmyJustin Sullivan is an English singer and songwriter. He is the frontman and lyricist of the British rock band New Model Army, which he formed in 1980 together with drummer Robert Heaton and bassist Stuart Morrow in their hometown of Bradford, Yorkshire. In the early 1980s he performed under the stage name of "Slade the Leveller". Their latest record is called Between Dog and Wold released in 2013.The New Model Army record, Thunder and Consolation, is one of our favorite records ever. Eric says it is in his top 5 of all time.In This Interview Justin and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.Whether we really live by our values.How money doesn't make us happy but we still chase itThat human systems mimic nature.New Model Army songs about the weather.Nature vs. NurtureHow much people can actually change.How education helps make the world more interesting and enjoyable.The inevitability of change.How it's always the ones that want to be saved that do all of the saving.Additional show notes on our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Scott Gornto about the stories we tell ourselvesR. Scott Gornto, is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Sex Therapist and Expert on Relationships and Personal Development. Scott works with Individuals, Couples, Families, Groups and Businesses. His recent book is called: The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Stop Jumping to Conclusions. Free Yourself from Anxiety. Transform Your Relationships Our sponsor this week is Casper Mattress. Click here to get $50 off (use promo code: oneyoufeed) For more show notes visit our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Brigid Schulte is an award-winning journalist for the Washington Post and Washington Post magazine. She was part of a team that won the Pulitzer Prize. She is also a fellow at the New America Foundation. She is a regular contributor to the She The People blog and has written for Style, Outlook, and other outlets.She writes about work-life issues and poverty, seeking to understand what it takes to live The Good Life across race, class and gender.Her recent book is called Overwhelmed: Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the TimeIn This Interview Brigid and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.How being overwhelmed never goes away.What "The Overwhelm" is.How it's not the amount of stress but how we feel about it.Busyness as a badge of honor.For more show notes see our websiteSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

image by Filip Cedarholm[powerpress] This week we talk to Bob Proctor about thought and actionBob Proctor is an author, lecturer, counselor, business consultant, entrepreneur, and teacher of positive thinking, self-motivation and maximizing human potential. In that endeavor, he follows in the footsteps of such motivational giants as Napoleon Hill, Earl Nightingale and Wallace D. Wattles.He is the author on numerous book including the international best-seller You Were Born Rich, his latest book is called The ABC's of Success.He was prominently featured in the book and movie, The Secret by Rhonda Byrne.In This Interview Bob and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.The paradigm that feeds the bad wolf.His feeling on the movie The Secret.The Law of Vibration is the primary law over the Law of Attraction.That positive thinking alone does not deliver.The belief that we get what we think about it is a myth.How a little bit of knowledge is dangerous.How whatever we impress on our mind, we express outwardly.That we must have discipline as our most basic attribute.Being able to give ourselves a command and then following it.That the real problem is that we do not understand ourselves.Changing the core paradigm.His view on psychotherapy and psychoanalysis.How we never learn about who we are in the formal education system.Whether there is more to a spiritual life than desire and wanting.That humans are creative beings.The two good reasons to want money.The devil's best tool.The damaging power of discouragement.Rising Above our circumstances.How we either react to life or respond.The space between stimulus and response.That when we re-act, the other person is in charge.Dealing with our emotions in a conscious fashion.The value of reading biographies of famous people.The room of windows versus the room of mirrors.Avoiding the obligation mindset.Dissatisfaction as a creative state.That grandma was wrong.The power of persistence. Bob Proctor LinksBob Proctor HomepageBob Proctor FacebookBob Proctor Twitter Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Dan HarrisMaria PopovaTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Dr. Rick Hanson about hardwiring happiness into our brainRick Hanson, Ph.D., is a neuropsychologist and author of Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence as well as Buddha's Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love and Wisdom and Just One Thing: Developing a Buddha Brain One Simple Practice at a Time.He is the Founder of the Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom and an Affiliate of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley, he's been an invited speaker at Oxford, Stanford, and Harvard, and taught in meditation centers worldwide.An authority on self-directed neuroplasticity, Dr. Hanson's work has been featured on the BBC, NPR, CBC, Fox Business, Consumer Reports Health, U.S. News and World Report, and O Magazine, and his articles have appeared in Tricycle Magazine, Insight Journal, and Inquiring Mind.In This Interview Rick and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.His latest book: Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence.That feeding the good wolf is a daily habit.How it's our responsibility to feed our good wolf- no one can do it for us.How frequently our brain changes.Experience-dependent neuroplasticity.That our brains are like velcro for the bad and Teflon for the good.Deciding what we cultivate and what do you restrain. For more show notes visit our webite Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Dan HarrisMaria PopovaTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Jackie Warner about using exercise and food to improve low moodJackie Warner is best known as the star of Bravo’s “Work Out” and “Thintervention”Jackie is one of the world’s most sought-after fitness experts. She wrote two New York Times Bestsellers, This is Why You’re Fat (and How to Get Thin Forever), and 10 Pounds in 10 Days. Her new is book This is Why You’re Sick and Tired. Jackie has contributed to over thousands of articles, making her the among the most quoted fitness authorities globally. She also stars in several best-selling DVDs. Our Sponsor This Week is Aloha- Try their new Plant Based Superfood Smoothie Kit. Enter GETFIT20 for 20% off your order. In This Interview Jackie and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableHer new book: This is Why You Are Sick and TiredMonitoring whether our energy brings happiness or sadness to others.Using food and exercise to improve depression.The prevalence of toxicity in our cells.For additional show notes visit our website Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Dan HarrisMaria PopovaTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mini Episode: The Elephant and The RiderOne of my favorite books is The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom by Jonathan Haidt.In it, Haidt poses several "Great Ideas" on happiness espoused by thinkers of the past - Plato, Buddha, Jesus and others - and examines them in the light of contemporary psychological research, extracting from them any lessons that still apply to our modern lives. Central to the book are the concepts of virtue, happiness, fulfillment, and meaning.He uses a metaphor of a rider on the back of an elephant in which the conscious mind is the rider and the unconscious mind is the elephant. The rider is unable to control the elephant by force: this explains many puzzles about our mental life, particularly why we have such trouble with weakness of will. Learning how to train the elephant is the secret of self-improvement. Visit our website Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Kino MacGregorStrand of OaksMike Scott of the WaterboysTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Karen Valencic about using movement to get unstuckKaren Valencic is the founder of Spiral Impact, an Indianapolis-based speaking, training and development company, which she founded in 1992. Valencic leverages her expertise in communication, science and martial arts to provide a distinct perspective on performance improvement. Karen is the author of the book Spiral Impact: The Power to Get It Done with Grace, and the handbook Giving Deliberate Feedback for Leaders.As a black belt in Aikido, the Japanese art of reconciliation, Karen weaves examples from the martial art practice mat into her writing and speaking. Aikido is a martial art based on position rather than force. Prior to establishing Spiral Impact, Karen utilized her degree in Mechanical Engineering as a project engineer in the automobile industry. Our Sponsor This Week is Aloha- Try their new Plant Based Superfood Smoothie Kit. Enter GETFIT20 for 20% off your order. In This Interview Karen and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableAikido: The Japanese Art of ReconciliationPosition vs. ForceHer book: Spiral Impact: The Power to Get it Done With Grace For more show notes visit our website Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Dan HarrisMaria PopovaTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Akshay Nanavati about learning to use our fearAkshay Nanavati is an explorer, volunteer firefighter, former U.S. Marine, and masters graduate in journalism from the S.I. Newhouse School of Public Communications. He has been mountaineering all over the world, glacier caving in Nepal, skydiving, ice diving, cave diving, scuba diving, and spent one month dragging a 190 pound sled 350 miles across the second largest icecap in the world.His current project is to run across every country in the world. His website is called Existing to Living and uses the principles of human psychology, neuroscience and a greater understanding of how we function as human beings, to help you master your mind, body, heart, spirit and business. Our Sponsor This Week is Aloha- Try their new Plant Based Superfood Smoothie Kit. Enter GETFIT20 for 20% off your order. In This Interview Akshay and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.The difference between the human brain and the animal brain.His goal of running across every country in the world.Breaking things down into smaller steps and taking them one at a time.Learning to control how we respond to our environments.His forthcoming book: The Other Side of Fear.How fear and nirvana work together.For more show notes please visit our webpage Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Dan HarrisMaria PopovaTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We have gotten so many questions about habits lately that we thought we would re-release one of our most popular episodes of 2014 with James Clear. With classic pieces of advice like "Never Miss Twice" and "reduce the scope, stick to the schedule" this episode is a worth hearing again or for the first time if you are newer to the show. ----------------------------------------James Clear is an entrepreneur, weightlifter, and travel photographer. He writes at JamesClear.com, where he talks about scientific research and real-world experiences that help you rethink your health and improve your life. His blog gets millions of visitors per year. In This Interview James and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.How money can be an addiction that society rewards.How much we over estimate one defining moment versus steady day to day behavior.The aggregation of marginal gains- improve by 1% in everything you do.Small changes can lead to big results.Reduce the Scope, Stick to The Schedule.Not letting your emotions drive your behavior.The difference between professionals and amateurs.It's not the result that matters but the action and habit.The 2 Minute Rule.How willpower often comes after we start, not before."Start with something so easy you can't say no to it"- Leo BabutaYou don't have to be great at the start, you just need to be there.Learning from our failures and seeing it as a data point.Seeing failure as an event, not as part of us.How mentally tough people define themselves by their persistence, not failure.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Simon Sinek about leadershipSimon Sinek is an author best known for popularizing the concept of "the golden circle" and to "Start With Why", described by TED as "a simple but powerful model for inspirational leadership all starting with a golden circle and the question "Why?"'. He joined the RAND Corporation in 2010 as an adjunct staff member, where he advises on matters of military innovation and planning.His first TEDx Talk on "How Great Leaders Inspire Action" is the 3rd most viewed video on TED.com. His 2009 book on the same subject, Start With Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action (2009) delves into what he says is a naturally occurring pattern, grounded in the biology of human decision-making, that explains why we are inspired by some people, leaders, messages and organizations over others.His latest book is called Leaders Eat Last: Why Some Teams Pull Together and Others Don’t In This Interview Simon and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.How good leadership is feeding the good wolf.How good leadership fills the environment with love, empathy and kindness.The four main neurotransmitters that regulate human emotion.How oxytocin inhibits addiction.The Rat Park experiments.The Cost of Leadership is self-interest.How leadership does not come with rank. For more show notes visit our website Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Dan HarrisMaria PopovaTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Lama Surya Das about looking beyond ourselvesLama Surya Das is one of the foremost Western Buddhist meditation teachers and scholars, one of the main interpreters of Tibetan Buddhism in the West, and a leading spokesperson for the emerging American Buddhism. The Dalai Lama affectionately calls him “The Western Lama.”Surya has spent over forty five years studying Zen, vipassana, yoga, and Tibetan Buddhism with the great masters of Asia, including the Dalai Lama’s own teachers, and has twice completed the traditional three-year meditation cloistered retreat at his teacher’s Tibetan monastery.Surya Das has been featured in numerous publications and major media, including ABC, CNN, MSNBC, NPR, The Washington Post, One segment of the ABC-TV sitcom Dharma & Greg was based on his life (“Leonard’s Return”). Surya has appeared on Politically Correct with Bill Maher, and twice on The Colbert Report.Surya is the author of thirteen books, his latest is called Make Me One With Everything: Buddhist Meditations to Awaken from the Illusion of Separation. In This Interview Surya and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.The Concept of Inter-Meditation.The Us vs.Them problem.Furthering a collective awakening versus only individual awakening.The process of gazing meditation. For more show notes visit our website Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Dan HarrisMaria PopovaTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Life will always take effortMost of us have a fantasy that we will hit some point where life won't take effort. We will read the right book, learn the right meditation, rub the right crystal and our troubles will vanish.I think this is a fallacy. Life always take effort, and I think this is good news. It's our unrealistic expectations that cause us problems and cause us pass over what works and chase more snake oil.Make the effort, life is worth it. Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Kino MacGregorStrand of OaksMike Scott of the WaterboysTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Johann Hari about battling our demonsJohann Hari is a British journalist. He has written for many of the world’s leading newspapers and magazines, including the New York Times, Le Monde, the Guardian, the Los Angeles Times, the New Republic, the Nation, Slate, El Mundo, and the Sydney Morning Herald. He was a lead op-ed columnist for the Independent, one of Britain’s leading newspapers, for nine years.Johann was named ‘National Newspaper Journalist of the Year’ by Amnesty International twice. He was named ‘Environmental Commentator of the Year’ at the Editorial Intelligence awards, and ‘Gay Journalist of the Year’ at the Stonewall awards. He has also won the Martha Gellhorn Prize for political writing.His latest book is called Chasing the Scream, The First and Last Days of the War on Drugs In This Interview Johann and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.The origins of the war on drugs.Is the war on drugs productive.How every culture in the world has looked for ways to become intoxicated?The % of people who use drugs who ever have a problem with it.For more show notes please visit our website Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Dan HarrisMaria PopovaTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we talk to Edward Slingerland about trying not to tryEdward Slingerland is a Professor of Asian Studies and Canada Research Chair in Chinese Thought and Embodied Cognition at the University of British Columbia, and was educated at Princeton, Stanford and the University of California, Berkeley. His areas of specialty include Chinese thought, comparative religion, cognitive science, and the relationship between the sciences and the humanities. In addition to over twenty academic journal articles in a range of fields, he has written several scholarly books, including What Science Offers the Humanities and a translation of the Analects of Confucius. His first book for a popular audience is called Trying Not to Try: Ancient China, Modern Science, and the Power of Spontaneity In This Interview Ted and I Discuss...The One You Feed parable.Trying not to try.The tension of trying to relax.The conscious mind vs the unconscious mind.The ancient secrets of Wu Wei.For more show notes visit our website Some of our most popular interviews that you might also enjoy:Dan HarrisMaria PopovaTodd Henry- author of Die EmptyRandy Scott HydeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices