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Jack Schafer (@jackschafer) is a retired FBI special agent, current assistant professor at Western Illinois University, and co-author of The Truth Detector: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide for Getting People to Reveal the Truth. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Catch up with part one here!] What We Discuss with Jack Schafer: Elicitation versus interrogation: why one is usually more effective in extracting truth than the other. How the elicitation techniques used by the FBI to uncover secrets from foreign spies can be applied to buying used cars, negotiating better salaries, and finding out if your teenager is throwing parties when you're out of town. Three friend signals we display when we want to establish rapport and trust with someone we've just met (and might be used against us by con artists and other disreputable types). How presumptive statements can be used to play upon our insecurities and get us to easily reveal truths we'd otherwise keep guarded -- and what we can do to avoid spilling the beans when they're used against us. How to use a third-party perspective to discover what people are really thinking. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/468 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jack Schafer (@jackschafer) is a retired FBI special agent, current assistant professor at Western Illinois University, and co-author of The Truth Detector: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide for Getting People to Reveal the Truth. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Stay tuned for part two later this week!] What We Discuss with Jack Schafer: Elicitation versus interrogation: why one is usually more effective in extracting truth than the other. How the elicitation techniques used by the FBI to uncover secrets from foreign spies can be applied to buying used cars, negotiating better salaries, and finding out if your teenager is throwing parties when you're out of town. Three friend signals we display when we want to establish rapport and trust with someone we've just met (and might be used against us by con artists and other disreputable types). How presumptive statements can be used to play upon our insecurities and get us to easily reveal truths we'd otherwise keep guarded -- and what we can do to avoid spilling the beans when they're used against us. How to use a third-party perspective to discover what people are really thinking. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/467 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In order to preserve your own sanity, you cut off all contact with your covert narcissist mom a few years ago. But now that she's dying, you wonder if you should reconcile for the short time she has left -- or regret not doing so once it's too late. What's the right thing to do here? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/466 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: In order to preserve your own sanity, you cut off all contact with your covert narcissist mom a few years ago. But now she's dying and you wonder if you should reconcile for the short time she has left -- or regret not doing so once it's too late. You've become a perpetual shoulder to cry on for someone who never follows your advice no matter how much time you devote to trying to help them. How do you gently quit the job of being this person's informal (and free) therapist? You've been at your current job for seven years with no advancement in your pay or position in spite of exceeding expectations and never receiving a negative performance review. Your boss promised a raise two and a half years ago, but it still hasn't surfaced. What should you do? You're 50 years old and have worked in the same industry for most of your adult life. You're interested in transitioning to a different career, but you're starting to wonder if your age is a help or a hindrance. When you show up to interviews with grey hair, does it communicate "experienced and reliable" or "old and obsolete?" Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Thomas Erikson is a behavioral expert, active lecturer, and bestselling author of Surrounded by Idiots and Surrounded by Psychopaths: How to Protect Yourself from Being Manipulated and Exploited in Business. What We Discuss with Thomas Erikson: Not all narcissists are psychopaths, but all psychopaths are narcissists. So how can you identify the psychopaths in your life who don't act like the ones you see in slasher flicks and psychological thrillers? What psychopaths have to gain from manipulating and destroying other people. The insidious tactics psychopaths use to sow doubt and reap chaos in others. How you can resist these tactics before they're used to ruin your life. What to do if you suspect that you might be a psychopath. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/465 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!Thomas Erikson is a behavioral expert, active lecturer, and bestselling author of Surrounded by Idiots and Surrounded by Psychopaths: How to Protect Yourself from Being Manipulated and Exploited in Business. What We Discuss with Thomas Erikson: Not all narcissists are psychopaths, but all psychopaths are narcissists. So how can you identify the psychopaths in your life who don't act like the ones you see in slasher flicks and psychological thrillers? What psychopaths have to gain from manipulating and destroying other people. The insidious tactics psychopaths use to sow doubt and reap chaos in others. How you can resist these tactics before they're... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ramit Sethi (@ramit) is the bestselling author of I Will Teach You to Be Rich: No Guilt. No Excuses. No B.S. Just a 6-Week Program That Works, and now he's applied the same no-nonsense approach to his latest program, Find Your Dream Job. What We Discuss with Ramit Sethi: Many people are underpaid, often by $10,000 per year. How can you make sure you're not one of them? What hiring managers are really looking for in job candidates, and how to refrain from disqualifying yourself before you've even applied simply because you lack a prerequisite mentioned in the listing. Throwing your resume on a stack with the rest of the candidates and hoping for the best is probably a wasted effort -- because most of the best jobs are filled through backdoor introductions, often before they're ever made public. By the time you've been granted an interview, the hiring manager doesn't want a generic rehash of your credentials -- they're more interested in knowing how well you'll fit in with the team and if you can be counted on under pressure. The three parts of the negotiation power dynamics framework that will help you maximize the outcome of your negotiations by understanding your leverage. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/464 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

While your sister's history of bad beaus continues to sap her self-esteem and savings, her current companion's cons are preying upon your parents' provisions. What's the surest way of saying sayonara to your sister's swindling sweetie? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/463 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: While your sister's history of bad beaus continues to sap her self-esteem and savings, her current companion's cons are preying upon your parents' provisions. What's the surest way of saying sayonara to your sister's swindling sweetie? As a young, caucasian, cisgender, heterosexual, and relatively fit male with no real health issues (or even allergies), you recognize your privilege and genetic luck. How do you most responsibly support those who are less privileged as an ally who amplifies their messages, educates yourself, and stays mindful of your impact on others? You're teaching at a run-down school where a gaslighting principal is in charge. You love your underserved students and don't want to abandon them, but you're finding the work environment too toxic to be sustainable for your sanity. What are your best options here? You’ve been introducing people to each other when you've thought the connection would be mutually beneficial, but these introductions have gone awry more often than not. What's our advice for preventing this from happening (or mitigating its damage to your reputation when it does)? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Linda Carroll (@Lovecycleslinda) is a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship sage, and author of Love Skills: The Keys to Unlocking Lasting, Wholehearted Love and Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love. What We Discuss with Linda Carroll: Love is a feeling that comes and goes, but loving is a skill set you can improve with practice. Why most arguments are not really about what you think you're fighting about. Is communication in relationships overrated? What the Woodpecker Syndrome is and how to avoid it. "You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else" and other cultural stereotypes and clichés about relationships that are worth less than the Hallmark cards they were printed on. Why so many of us get locked into repeating relationship patterns that ultimately end messily. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/462 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Erik Vance (@erikvance) is an award-winning science journalist and author of Suggestible You: The Curious Science of Your Brain's Ability to Deceive, Transform, and Heal. What We Discuss with Erik Vance: How the human tendency for patternicity can be used to inoculate ourselves against pain, but also make us believe we've been abducted by space aliens. The placebo effect vs. the nocebo effect. The power of false memories and the "Satanic Panic" phenomenon of the 1980s. How our brains twist reality to match expectations, and how it fits into our evolutionary model for survival. Why Erik paid a Mexico City witch doctor to curse him -- for science! And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/461 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When your adopted child turned 18, he immediately moved out without warning and wrote you a letter saying he left "for mental health reasons" -- and not to contact him. You're hurt, disappointed, and feel cut off; is there any way to respect his wishes while getting some clarity on why this happened and letting him know you're still unconditionally there for him? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/460 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Wisdom from Charlie Munger: Take a simple idea and take it seriously. When your adopted child turned 18, he immediately moved out and wrote you a letter saying he left "for mental health reasons" -- and not to contact him. You're hurt, disappointed, and feel cut off; is there any way to respect his wishes while getting some clarity on why this happened? You're a middle schooler who doesn't thrive with the lessened engagement of online courses, but you understandably don't feel safe going to the classroom in the middle of a pandemic. You've considered dropping out and attending a community college that offers courses for all ages and has much safer COVID-19 protocols, but you're not sure it's the right move. What would we do in your shoes? You graduated law school to become a world-changing lawyer, but you've been diagnosed with a debilitating illness that makes this a difficult proposition now. You know there are positions with a work-life balance that would be more accommodating to your condition, but they're not generally world-changing. Where should you go from here? A shady landlord is trying to sucker you into paying two months' rent against the terms of your very explicit lease, and it's having an adverse effect on your credit score. How can you legally get this creep off your back? [Thanks once again to our defense attorney friend Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!] You and your fiancee want your relationship to be focused on you, not the image of the relationship you convey online. But how do you balance sharing life updates with your network to provide an engagement point for weak or dormant ties (as discussed in our free Six-Minute Networking course)? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Steve Madden (@stevenmadden) is a fashion designer and businessman, and author of The Cobbler: How I Disrupted an Industry, Fell From Grace, and Came Back Stronger Than Ever. What We Discuss with Steve Madden: How growing up as a half-Jewish, half-Irish outsider gave Steve a unique perspective and mindset that dispensed with establishment formalities. Why it's not failure that defines someone's character, but how someone responds to coming up short. In hindsight, Steve weighs the pros and cons of living by the "better to beg for forgiveness than ask for permission" credo. Why knowing what you don't know can be what Steve considers "a very big gift." Why it wasn't designs or talent that made Steve's company successful; it was the cultivation of an unstoppable work ethic. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/459 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

John Brennan (@JohnBrennan) served as the Director of the CIA from 2013 to 2017, and is the author of Undaunted: My Fight Against America's Enemies, At Home and Abroad. What We Discuss with John Brennan: The mechanics of being in charge of America's spy agency and dealing with international crises on a daily basis. How CIA officers are taught to question their assumptions and overcome confirmation biases to find facts in a field of deception. Why John argued for diversity within the CIA -- not to placate a liberal agenda, as his critics asserted, but to strengthen the agency's ability to operate effectively in a diverse world. How John was able to get a job at the CIA in spite of past hashish use, lying to his mother about going to church, and voting for a communist. The challenges of operating clandestinely in the digitally rich 21st century. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/458 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You and your wife of four years have had your ups and downs, but she recently revealed her belief in a number of conspiracy theories. Now you wonder if you can continue a life together when you're living in two entirely different realities. We'll examine this rabbit hole and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/457 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Your wife of four years recently revealed she's gone down a conspiracy theory rabbit hole from which she may never return. Is it possible for your marriage to continue when you're each living in your own reality? [Thanks to Justin Ramsdell for helping us with this one!] You're the top choice to run operations if your company's acquisition goes through, but your priorities have shifted toward family and you're not sure the new bosses will understand your desire for work/life balance. What’s the best way to discuss your personal plans with the team so you feel your mutual needs are being considered? [Thanks to Michelle Tillis Lederman for giving us some insight here!] How should a financially smart, successful couple entertain the idea of cohabitating when marriage is in the plans down the road, but the relationship hasn't yet passed the one-year mark? You're friends with a family who recently started hosting maskless "freedom rallies" that have drawn thousands of people into tight quarters during this global pandemic. Every reason you've expressed to them for why this is a terrible idea has been dismissed. Should you just give up? And is there even a future for your friendship even after this passes? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Laura Nirider (@LauraNirider) is the co-director of the Center on Wrongful Convictions at Northwestern Pritzker School of Law, and the co-host of the Wrongful Conviction: False Confessions podcast. What We Discuss with Laura Nirider: Two to five percent of people currently serving time in prison have been falsely convicted. False confessions and admissions are present in 15 to 20 percent of all DNA exonerations. The United States is one of the only countries in the world that allows police to lie about evidence during interrogations. Why so many people are coerced into providing false confessions during interrogations that are gentle compared to the more "hands on" approach taken by police in decades past. How Laura is working to clean up interrogation techniques so they're still effective in solving crimes without trapping innocent people in the system. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/456 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Matthew McConaughey (@McConaughey) is an Academy Award-winning actor, producer, and author of #1 New York Times Bestseller Greenlights. What We Discuss with Matthew McConaughey: What the sobriety of grief did for Matthew's attitude about risk when he was dealing with the loss of his father. How Matthew tries to instill the values of self-reliance in his kids. How Matthew learned to cope with imposter syndrome and get his head on straight when he became a household name seemingly overnight. The philanthropic approach to selecting roles that has guided Matthew through his career in film. How Matthew keeps criticism from affecting how he perceives himself. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/455 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You're in an online community that chats about erotic roleplay (ERP), and inadvertently engaged in conversation with a couple of minors. When you discovered their age, you immediately broke off contact -- but you're still worried this could have legal repercussions. Should you be concerned? We'll tackle this and more here on the first Feedback Friday of the year! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/454See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Javier Peña and Steve Murphy (@deanarcos) are former DEA agents best known for bringing down Colombian drug kingpin Pablo Escobar in the '90s, as dramatized on the first two seasons of Netflix series Narcos and chronicled in their book Manhunters: How We Took Down Pablo Escobar. What We Discuss with Javier Peña and Steve Murphy: How do you conduct an effective investigation against a murderous yet charismatic criminal on their home turf with a $300,000 bounty on your head? Why was there such friction between the DEA and the CIA during the Pablo Escobar investigation? Why do countries like Mexico and Colombia resist extradition to the United States when we catch a big fish drug trafficker? Have Javier and Steve been back to Colombia since bringing down Pablo Escobar, or do they still have to fear for their lives there? Do Javier and Steve see the permanent dismantling of drug cartels as a possibility, or are they too entrenched in the infrastructure of the countries where they thrive? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/453 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to Stereo Sunday, a little Stereo app-sponsored experiment we did live in front of a studio audience of you! This time around, we answered questions from listeners. It went a little something like this... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/bonus-stereo-sunday On This Week's Stereo Sunday, We Discuss: You discovered -- and had to break the news -- that your mom's boyfriend was cheating on her, but she married him a few months later anyway. To your dismay, now she's having doubts. What can you do? As someone who's been dating for just a few months after a long-term relationship ended, why do you get attached so easily, and how do you avoid these feelings (at least until it's a mutual exchange)? You and your friend are both struggling with the mental and physical challenges that accompany type two diabetes, but she isn't as careful with her diet as you are and she seems genuinely puzzled that there are consequences. Is there a way to help your friend without being a nagging, self-righteous a-hole? If you've put your all into a business only to have it fail, how do you overcome the sting of this failure and drum up the courage to try again? You know you have the work experience to fill a job opening at your company, but your imposter syndrome kicks in when you read its prerequisites -- in particular, a degree you don't have. How can you make a case for your qualifications even though you don't check all the boxes on paper? What industries and potential side hustles have been positively affected by the COVID-19 pandemic and might be good opportunities for someone looking to pivot? You've been out of the workplace for so long that you're not sure where to even begin now that you're ready to get back into it. What's a good first step? How do Fiverr, Upwork, and Mechanical Turk compare for freelancers looking to make a buck? Download the Stereo app here! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You and your direct boss had a secret affair, and he asked you not to disclose it to your company's vetting agency for fear of losing his security clearance. Now it's years later and you want to come clean to the agency, but how can you do so without it coming off as petty revenge? We'll tackle this and more here on the last Feedback Friday of 2020! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/452 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: 2020's been a wild ride. Are we buckled up for 2021? You and your direct boss had a secret affair, and he asked you not to disclose it to your company's vetting agency for fear of losing his security clearance. Now it's years later and you want to come clean to the agency, but how can you do so without it coming off as petty revenge? When your uncle passed away suddenly, you felt remorse that you never tried to talk to him about the signs of depression he was showing. Now you don't want to make the same mistake with his son, who's clearly struggling with similar issues. But where do you even begin? You and your partner of five years recently split up after talking about how there isn't a path forward for you because opportunities forced you into a long-distance relationship -- even though you are still in love and so compatible otherwise. It feels like a wrong decision; how can you be sure you've explored every option? How might someone grasping at gratitude cultivate a more giving mindset? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jason Silva (@JasonSilva) would have been called a “performance philosopher” by counterculture icon Timothy Leary. Among many things, he’s a futurist, filmmaker, creator of short video series Shots of Awe, and host of the National Geographic Channel’s Brain Games and Origins: The Journey of Humankind. What We Discuss with Jason Silva: How our concepts of self are formed — often through the eyes of others — and how they affect our behavior. How top performers excel by shutting down the editorial parts of the human brain coined by Buddhists as the monkey mind. Why “unscripted” isn’t the same as “unprepared,” and how videos can be edited to elicit altered states of consciousness. How good directors help performers get out of their heads — while bad directors do just the opposite. How is day-to-day reality edited by context, similar to the Kuleshov effect demonstrated by Alfred Hitchcock? And much more! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/451 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Frank Maderal is a litigator and trial attorney (as featured on Netflix's Dirty Money) whose work has given him an intimate knowledge of illicit gold mining and smuggling operations that wreak environmental, social, and economic havoc on a global scale. What We Discuss with Frank Maderal: Why gold is such an ideal, sought-after medium by criminal enterprises for laundering billions of dollars every year. How unethical methods of gold mining -- both illegal and quasi-legal -- have a devastating, irreparable impact on the environments in which they operate and the people who live there. Money laundering 101: how it works on a global scale, what gives it away to law enforcement, and why gold makes its trail harder to trace even when the evidence is seemingly hiding in plain sight. Why otherwise on-the-level gold traders are increasingly turning to illegal means of aggregation (whether knowingly or not). What law enforcement is doing to make the illicit gold trade a more difficult business for its top-level players and deliberately ignorant enablers. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/450 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Your significant other is hyper-productive and passionate, but you suspect their motivation is hitched to bipolar tendencies that take their toll on you. What are some strategies you can build to deal with this type of personality and keep yourself sane? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/449 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: What's the true value of friends? Your significant other is hyper-productive and passionate, but you suspect their motivation is hitched to bipolar tendencies that take their toll on you. What are some strategies you can build to deal with this type of personality and keep yourself sane? A past business partnership turned sour and went bust. While you've moved on and started your own successful business since then, you can't help but harbor ill will for your past partner and how things went down. How can you just get over it, already? Already the parents of a special needs child, you made the difficult decision to terminate a pregnancy that would have resulted in another. Unfortunately, your in-laws were religiously opposed to the option you chose and you had to exaggerate the diagnosis for their support. How do you strike a balance between the part these in-laws play in your life and your own family's autonomy? In your 30s, you changed careers to a frontline job in healthcare. It gave you personal fulfillment and more money, but also a challenging lifestyle with lots of on-call time while raising two children. Now that your kids are older, should you commit your last working years to "contributing to the profession," or is it okay to finish out your career continuing to focus on giving great care to your patients? On the networking list you created for Six-Minute Networking, you tend to mostly include older professionals with more experience. Is this the right way to go, or should you stay connected with your peers as well? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Srdja Popovic (@SrdjaPopovic) is the author of Blueprint for Revolution: How to Use Rice Pudding, Lego Men, and Other Nonviolent Techniques to Galvanize Communities, Overthrow Dictators, or Simply Change the World. What We Discuss with Srdja Popovic: What do revolutions and businesses have in common? Why nonviolence is more popular -- and more effective -- than violence. Why there are no charismatic leaders in the most successful revolutions. How to make a revolution cool by using comedy. How was ’90s Serbia like Middle Earth in the Third Age of The Lord of The Rings (Hobbits and all)? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/448 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Stephen Schwarzman is the chairman and CEO of The Blackstone Group, an investor, a philanthropist, and the author of What It Takes: Lessons in the Pursuit of Excellence. What We Discuss with Stephen Schwarzman: How did Stephen turn being paired with a Nazi roommate at Yale into a learning experience? Why it's as hard to achieve small goals as bigger ones -- except larger goals have more significant consequences (and what entrepreneurs can gain from this perspective). What Stephen learned from working a summer wiping down grease in a Scandanavian ship's 120-degree engine room. Why Stephen considers candor fundamental to the operation of a healthy organization. How Stephen assesses talent when hiring. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/447 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Your significant other has gone through more than most in this seemingly cursed year, but any attempt on your part to help ease the pain is interpreted as a sinister affront. Worse, there's talk of suicide as a better option than the continued depression of quarantine. how do you help your suicidal partner? We'll dig into this and more here on Feedback Friday. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/446 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Great Mondays author Josh Levine suggests this thought exercise for business owners who want to understand the value of their organization beyond making money: ask your employees to write an obituary for your company. He likes doing this in teams of eight to 12 colleagues, and having each group come up with three to five paragraphs memorializing their company -- listing its accomplishments, its impact on the world, that kind of thing. The groups then share their obituaries and identify the most compelling phrases, with the goal of coming up with a short mission statement. Your significant other has gone through more than most in this seemingly cursed year, but any attempt on your part to help ease the pain is interpreted as a sinister affront. Worse, there's talk of suicide as a better option than the continued depression of quarantine. how do you help your suicidal partner? You're lucky and grateful to have a healthy nest egg and a home that's paid in full while so many are struggling to survive through these tough times. The thing is, you can't help feeling guilty for your good fortune, and you feel like you need to justify it. How do you drop the shame of being well off when everyone around you seems to be down and out? Your parents take the fact that you voted for the other side this past election as a sign they failed to raise you right, and their fear-driven conspiracy rambling is especially disheartening. Still, you've agreed to go to their house next weekend for walks and hard talks that are supposed to make adult families closer, but where do you even begin? Sometimes getting fired by a boss who makes empty promises is a favor in disguise, but when it's for voicing your frustrations after being asked for them, might you have grounds for a wrongful termination lawsuit? You're running through the exercises in our free Six-Minute Networking course, but you're wondering how you might introduce somewhat loose connections in your... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Seth Godin (@thisissethsblog) is an entrepreneur, a teacher, a Marketing Hall of Fame inductee, a daily blogger, the host of the Akimbo podcast, and the author of 20 (or so) international bestsellers. His latest is The Practice: Shipping Creative Work. What We Discuss with Seth Godin: Why trust is really the heartbeat of the creative process. Why writer's block is a myth. What's a success trap, and why do creators fall into them? What can we do when what we do is never enough to make us happy? How regularly asking yourself the question "What would I do if I knew I could not fail?" might just help you divorce yourself from outcome dependence. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/445 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

There's an old saying in Tennessee — I know it's in Texas, probably in Tennessee — that says, "Kidnap me once, shame on — shame on you. Kidnap me — you can't get kidnapped again." But Jordan doesn't know any better because he comes from Michigan, so he's actually been kidnapped twice. Here, Jordan tells the story of that second time. Here, We Talk About the Time Jordan Got Kidnapped in Serbia: Kidnapping victims don't always live to tell the tale. The reason Jordan is still alive after being kidnapped (twice) is due to the fact he saw security expert Gavin de Becker on Oprah discussing what to do in just such a seemingly unlikely situation. After almost getting kidnapped in Mexico in 2000, how did Jordan find himself in a position to get kidnapped in Serbia in 2004? How did Jordan escape whatever dire fate was surely awaiting him at the dreaded second location? What are your best chances for staying alive if you ever find yourself in a similar, unenviable condition? Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/444 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

There's an old saying in Tennessee — I know it's in Texas, probably in Tennessee — that says, "Kidnap me once, shame on — shame on you. Kidnap me — you can't get kidnapped again." But Jordan doesn't know any better because he comes from Michigan, so he's actually been kidnapped twice. Here, Jordan tells the story of that second time. Here, We Talk About the Time Jordan Got Kidnapped in Serbia: Kidnapping victims don't always live to tell the tale. The reason Jordan is still alive after being kidnapped (twice) is due to the fact he saw security expert Gavin de Becker on Oprah discussing what to do in just such a seemingly unlikely situation. After almost getting kidnapped in Mexico in 2000, how did Jordan find himself in a position to get kidnapped in Serbia? How did Jordan escape whatever dire fate was surely awaiting him at the dreaded second location? What are your best chances for staying alive if you ever find yourself in a similar, unenviable condition? Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/443 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In a momentary lapse of your usual good sense, you naïvely provided nude selfies to someone on a dating app, and now they're trying to extort a ransom from you. If you don't pay up, they've threatened to share said nude selfies with your family, friends, and employer. Now what can you do? We examine your solution for this quandary and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/442 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: A sextortionist is threatening to send your nude selfies to family, friends, and employer if you don't pay up! Now what? You've always found it easier to make friends with women, but you're married and it seems inappropriate. What can you do to better relate to other men and strike up friendships with them when it always seems like an awkward, fruitless effort? You're proud to work for a company that rallies around racial equity, LGBTQ+, and mental health awareness. But you feel pressured to add hashtags and pronouns to your email closing in order to signal support, which just feels performative and icky -- because you believe action should precede speech. Are you being unreasonable? Even though you landed your dream job in February, the drudgery of working from home every day since the pandemic started has worn down whatever motivation you once had to stay in physical and mental shape. How can you climb out of the funk of feeling bad about your situation and not wanting to do anything about it? You've been getting Spanish lessons through Fiverr, and you're at the awkward stage between being able to hold a fluid conversation and knowing most of the stuff covered in basic lessons. What can you do to make further progress on your language learning from here? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Russell Brand (@rustyrockets) is a comedian, broadcaster, actor, podcaster, columnist, political commentator, mental health and drug rehabilitation activist, and author of twelve books — including Recovery: Freedom from Our Addictions. What We Discuss with Russell Brand: How the concept of the twelve-step program is applicable to all forms of attachment as a tool for transition. Why does it usually take a serious crisis to spur people toward seeking help for their addictions? Addiction is really the result of reaching for something external that already exists internally — but exists in a place that’s either unknown or inaccessible. Do we really overcome addiction, or is it an ongoing struggle that requires constant attention and maintenance? What does addiction want? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/441 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

David Michaels (@drdavidmichaels) is an epidemiologist who served as the Assistant Secretary of Labor for OSHA from 2009 to 2017, Assistant Secretary of Energy for Environment, Safety, and Health from 1998 through January 2001, and is the author of The Triumph of Doubt: Dark Money and the Science of Deception. What We Discuss with David Michaels: Why bad science thrives and who most profits from its proliferation. How seemingly solid data can be used to mislead and distract us in the guise of fact. Why our flawed regulatory system can take decades to protect the public against dangers the industries benefitting from them know are risky. What David means when he says: "There are two sides to every story, but there are not necessarily two valid sides to every story -- especially if one of them has been purchased at a high price." What we can do to become more aware of these manipulations and resist their effects on our health, our children, and our trust in science itself. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/440 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This is the third episode of Stereo Sunday, a little Stereo app-sponsored experiment we’ve been doing live in front of a studio audience of you! Download the Stereo app for iOS or Android here. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/439 On This Week’s Stereo Sunday, We Continue Our Adventures in North Korea (Part One Can Be Found Here): Gabe and Jordan traveled to North Korea (aka Democratic People's Republic of Korea -- or DPRK) together several times between 2011 and 2016. As bizarre as you've heard North Korea can be, the reality is probably even weirder. What do you actually do on a trip to North Korea? How long does a typical itinerary last? Should you strike up conversations with random people in transit (or let them tell you what you can and cannot read)? What's so impressive about the Arirang Mass Games? What should you do if you're accidentally caught up in propaganda production? How do North Korean subways differ from what we've come to expect in the West? How can throwing a frisbee thaw international iciness? How much warm beer can you get for $20 cash money American? Want to know what it's like to live out a scene from a David Lynch-directed musical? Just dine at a North Korean restaurant! Will you get thrown into a gulag for performing the Star-Spangled Banner at karaoke in North Korea (or should you)? Why did Kim Jong-il allegedly accompany his mother into battle as an infant? In the US, we have freedom of speech. In the DPRK, you don't even have freedom from speech. Why do so many Americans and Canadians own businesses in a town on the Chinese-North Korean border? After talking about all the upsides of visiting North Korea as an American, what are the downsides? If you visit North Korea, what will you encounter that you won't hear about on American network news? We also answer some of our listener questions that came in live during the show! Download the Stereo app here and participate with us live on Friday, November 20th and 27th, at 2 p.m. PST! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Your boss is a low-down dirty sidewinder whose corruption seemingly knows no bounds, and you're on his radar because you've begun to piece together the extent of his malfeasance. If you're wondering how to straighten out your crooked boss (or at least dodge whatever wrath he's trying to dole out as you collect the evidence that will be his undoing), this Feedback Friday is a good place to start! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/438 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: As a new, proud firefighter, you're wondering how to straighten out your crooked boss before his malfeasance brings the whole department down or gets someone killed. We have thoughts! As a European woman working for an American tech company, you were unpleasantly surprised to discover one of your equal-role male coworkers makes $1,500 more per year than you. How might you negotiate for fairer pay at your upcoming evaluation? You "won" an auction to go on a golf trip with your company's least likable VP, which is made all the more awkward by the fact that you've never even played the game before. What are your best options here? Your Robinhood account was hacked, your $6,000 worth of stocks and options were sold, and the cash was transferred out of reach. Even though you reported this within an hour of it happening, Robinhood still hasn't given you definitive answers about what can be done to remedy the situation. What should be your next course of action? [Thanks to Corbin Payne, Esq. and Nathan Perry for helping us with this one!] Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Charles Koch is the CEO of Koch Industries, one of the largest privately held American companies. Brian Hooks is the CEO of philanthropic community Stand Together. Together, they wrote Believe in People: Bottom-Up Solutions for a Top-Down World. What We Discuss with Charles Koch and Brian Hooks: In what ways is our world "top-down," and what are "bottom-up" solutions? Should corporations with unfathomably deep coffers be allowed to contribute so much money to the political process and crafting of policies that affect us all? In recent years, what problems have warranted Charles' collaboration with figures from the "other" side of the political spectrum (like George Soros -- who is vilified by the right for contributing to Democratic initiatives just as Charles is vilified by the left for his contributions to Republican causes)? Good profit versus bad profit, and why making money should be a side-effect of creating mutual value, not the goal itself. How does Charles answer detractors who say Koch Industries is only in favor of government deregulation and pushing climate change denial so it can pollute with reckless abandon for maximum profits at the expense of the world's poorest? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/437 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Stuart Ritchie (@StuartJRitchie) is a lecturer in the Social, Genetic and Developmental Psychiatry Centre at King’s College London and author of Intelligence: All That Matters and Science Fictions: How Fraud, Bias, Negligence, and Hype Undermine the Search for Truth. What We Discuss with Stuart Ritchie: Why good, meaningful science too often gets pushed aside by the hype around bad science that makes for sensational headlines. How and why incentives in research are often skewed and lead to bad science — and even outright fraud. What happens when good scientists are hoodwinked by bad science and vouch for it as gospel because its pedigree seems legit. How can you spot bad science before you adapt your lifestyle to correspond to its dodgy, worthless, or perhaps even dangerous advice? What is the Open Science movement, and how might it help us reform these problems in research going forward? And much more… Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/436 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This is the second episode of Stereo Sunday, a little Stereo app-sponsored experiment we’re doing live in front of a studio audience of you! We will be live on Friday, November 27th at 2 p.m. PST, so download the Stereo app for iOS or Android here and follow along with us next time! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/435 On This Week's Stereo Sunday, We Discuss Travelling to North Korea: Gabe and Jordan traveled to North Korea (aka Democratic People's Republic of Korea -- or DPRK) together several times between 2011 and 2016. As bizarre as you've heard North Korea can be, the reality is probably even weirder. Do Gabe and Jordan have regrets about spending their tourist dollars in a country that routinely tries to goad the United States into nuclear confrontation and imprisons hundreds of thousands of its own citizens in slave labor camps? What are the dos and don'ts they lay out for Western tourists in orientation? First impressions of the airport and the island-isolated hotel where foreigners are kept. Travelers are accompanied everywhere by a guide/minder. Why tourists shouldn't argue with the locals about differing accounts of history. Is everything a tourist is allowed to see in North Korea just an elaborate "show?" Does everyone who lives there believe what the regime tells them? Download the Stereo app here and participate with us live on Friday, November 20th and 27th, at 2 p.m. PST! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Even people who know they're in abusive relationships don't always leave before it's too late, so what can you do to help a coworker who's clearly suffering from her partner's paranoia, instability, and violence? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/434 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Tune in on Friday, November 20th and 27th at 2 p.m. Pacific through the Stereo app (available on iOS and Android) to hear Jordan and Gabe gab live! We're happy to report a positive update from episode 421's Secret Sappho. Even people who know they're in abusive relationships don't always leave before it's too late, so what can you do to help a friend who's clearly suffering from her partner's paranoia, instability, and violence? Your best friend of 12 years -- who was also your business partner -- just ghosted you on the verge of a game-changing deal. It hurts because you don't know why, but you can't help but wonder if maybe you've just dodged a toxic bullet. What's the right way to deal with this on a personal and professional level? You have numerous interests and talents that seem to be pulling you in multiple directions when you feel you're at the age where you should really focus, choose something, and stick with it. How do you know what to drop and what to carry along on the next step of your journey? You and your wife are in your 50s and working stable jobs, but she's obsessed with moving to Europe ASAP -- and you don't have massive savings or employment leads there. How can you get her to see that, without a realistic plan in place, you might just wind up living on the streets of Europe? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Larry Lawton (@LawrenceRLawton) stole over $18m in diamonds and spent 11 years in some of the toughest federal prisons in the country. He works with The Reality Check Program to keep youth out of trouble that would land them in prison, and is the co-author of Gangster Redemption: How America's Most Notorious Jewel Robber Got Rich, Got Caught, and Got His Life Back on Track. This is part two of a two-part episode. Check out part one here! What We Discuss with Larry Lawton: How heavy is a million dollars in cash, and how quickly can you haul it away while evading the watchful eyes of authorities and tattletales? What major crimes do not carry a statute of limitations? How should you react if you're ever threatened in a place that's getting robbed? How much of a percentage does a professional robber get from fencing stolen goods? As a master of the skills important for pulling off successful heists -- and then getting caught anyway -- how would Larry have used these talents if he had it to do all over again? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/433 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Larry Lawton (@LawrenceRLawton) stole over $18m in diamonds and spent 11 years in some of the toughest federal prisons in the country. He works with The Reality Check Program to keep youth out of trouble that would land them in prison, and is the co-author of Gangster Redemption: How America's Most Notorious Jewel Robber Got Rich, Got Caught, and Got His Life Back on Track. This is part one of a two-part episode. Stay tuned for the rest later in the week! What We Discuss with Larry Lawton: How young Larry fattened his wallet with $125 a week in 1972 (equivalent to over $750 a week today) with various scams, thefts, and hustles. How Larry wound up getting into the jewelry robbery game, and what he did to maintain control over the situation when he had a gun pulled on him his first time out. Why Larry spent over $10,000 to get a professional education in the jewelry trade when he decided this would be the focus of his criminal career. How a business owner can ensure their place isn't the one chosen when a potential robber is casing businesses in search of an easy target. How Larry would plan and execute a heist when he was a career criminal, and what he would do afterward to hide his trail from the inevitable investigation. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/432 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This is the first episode of Stereo Sunday, a little Stereo app-sponsored experiment we’re doing live in front of a studio audience of you! We will be live on Friday, November 20th and 27th at 2 p.m. PST, so download the Stereo app for iOS or Android here and follow along with us next time! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/431 On This Week's Stereo Sunday, We Talk About Resilience: Resilience is a quality that is literally life-defining. It can make or break a career, open or close doors, and mean the difference between failing and succeeding. What is resilience? When we talk about resilience, what we’re really talking about is the ability to survive the ups and downs of life without taking too much of a hit. We don’t have control over everything that happens to us in life, but we do have control over what it means and how it affects us. Why does resilience matter? The more resilient you are, the greater your chances of overcoming adversity and succeeding. The less resilient you are, the more likely you are to hit a wall, give up, or drop off when things get tough. How do we cultivate resilience? Because it's not a skill like learning a language By making meaning out of adversity, developing and nurturing strong relationships, and seeking out new experiences. Resilience is a process. It’s not a skill you acquire once and then never have to work on again. And no matter how resilient you become, you can always become more resilient, you can always build up more grit -- and you should, because you can never have enough! Download the Stereo app here and participate with us live on Friday, November 20th and 27th, at 2 p.m. PST! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You've been trying to set boundaries with your bipolar mother about not calling during work hours unless it's important, but she calls you three to five times before noon every day just to talk. How can you help her to understand that her perspective isn't authoritative? We'll cover this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/430 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How Essentialism author Greg McKeown uses the 80/20 rule (aka Pareto principle) to get more done in less time -- and why Jordan is pretty minimal with his posting on social media. You've been trying to set boundaries with your bipolar mother about not calling during work hours unless it's important, but she calls you three to five times before noon every day just to talk. How can you help her to understand that her perspective isn't authoritative? You've had to fire and sue a general contractor who bilked you on a house renovation, and now you're forced to live in expensive, short term rentals while you find someone reliable to finish the job. How do you keep your sanity and identity intact while languishing in limbo? A friend with whom you reconnected has been diagnosed with depression, but would rather keep rehashing the same conversations with you rather than seek professional therapy. How can you bow out of your unintentional counseling role so she can get the help she really needs? You were recently selected by your company for “reverse mentoring” -- a program that connects senior-level managers with younger and less experienced employees in order to exchange fresh perspectives. Your mentee will be the CEO of the company. How do you make this unique opportunity valuable for both of you? You've been strengthening your network thanks to following our free Six-Minute Networking exercises, and now you've been getting clients for your new photography business. After doing one freebie for exposure, how do you start charging what you're worth? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Greg McKeown (@GregoryMcKeown) is the host of the What's Essential podcast and author of the New York Times bestseller Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less, which challenges core assumptions about achievement (e.g., “more is better”) to get to the essence of what really drives success — on one’s own terms. What We Discuss with Greg McKeown: Essentialism: the antidote to the problems of feeling busy but not productive, stretched too thin in one area of life, and fulfilling the agendas of others but not our own. Learn how to live by design, not by default. Find out how to say “no” effectively without getting in trouble at home — or fired. Discover how to set hard boundaries between work and play. Learn why folks who are originally very good at essentialism can end up ruining their career and their sanity by letting these boundaries slip over time. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/429 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jenny Radcliffe (@Jenny_Radcliffe) of Human Factor Security is an ethical social engineer hired to smash security measures using psychology, con-artistry, subliminal linguistics, cunning, and guile. She is also the host of award-winning podcast The Human Factor. What We Discuss with Jenny Radcliffe: How a childhood incident that took place in '70s Liverpool led to Jenny's resolution that she would never again allow herself to be helpless against bad people. What a thrilling break-in to the local zoo's lion exhibit in the middle of the night and an accidental sleepover in a mortuary with a dead body taught Jenny about the illusion of security. How breaking into places to test security for people went from being a side hustle (with assignments that may or may not have been legitimate or free of life-risking consequences) to Jenny's main calling. The strange, supernatural-seeming things someone might experience while alone in massive buildings after hours or asylums abandoned to the elements. What it was like to track people before the Internet, how social media made Jenny's job exponentially easier, and what you can do to protect yourself against being tracked. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/428 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Your sister's new boyfriend is a flag-waving neo-Nazi who admires what Hitler did for "his people and country." And even though she insists he's somehow one of those rare non-racist neo-Nazis, she herself has cut off contact with previously close Black and Jewish friends. How do you help her see why all of this is so wrong and counter to your inclusive upbringing? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/427 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Tune in on Friday, November 6th, 13th, 20th, and 27th at 2 p.m. Pacific through the Stereo app (available on iOS and Android) to hear Jordan and Gabe gab live! "If a decision is reversible, the biggest risk is moving too slow. If a decision is irreversible, the biggest risk is moving too fast." -James Clear How do you get your sister to see why dating her new neo-Nazi boyfriend and alienating her formerly close Jewish and Black friends is wrong on so many levels? You're about to become an officer in the US Navy, but you're worried your commitment to teetotaling will ruin your chances of bonding with your shipmates. How can you balance your desire to abstain with the need for a social life on board? You're honored to be the best man at your friend's wedding, but you're not too keen on going to the planned bachelor party in the middle of a pandemic. How can you get out of it without jeopardizing your friendship forever? You've been reconnecting with old friends and colleagues thanks to the exercises in our free Six-Minute Networking course, but is there a good way to recommend the course without giving away the fact that it's why you started reaching out to them in the first place? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Anthony S. Luciano Raimondi was born into the world of organized crime, spent much of his life as a mob enforcer, has played part in heists and assassinations, and is the author of When the Bullet Hits the Bone. This is part two of a two-part episode. Check out part one here! What We Discuss with Anthony S. Luciano Raimondi: The joke Anthony told to distract the bodyguard of an African drug lord he was sent to dispose of in Nigeria. How young Anthony came to the startling discovery that his father wasn't a longshoreman, but an assassin in the mob. Why Anthony likes animals a lot more than he likes people. What happened to people in Anthony's organization who unwisely brought attention to their part in the infamous Lufthansa heist by overspending. The code by which Anthony lived, the lines even he would never cross in his business, and why he left that world behind. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/426 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Anthony S. Luciano Raimondi was born into the world of organized crime, spent much of his life as a mob enforcer, has played part in heists and assassinations, and is the author of When the Bullet Hits the Bone. What We Discuss with Anthony S. Luciano Raimondi: What was the Black Hand, and how did it differ from what we think of today as the Mafia? The many creative ways mobsters have gotten rid of bodies over the years. How Anthony's father taught him to deal with a bully in Catholic school without getting smacked around by the nuns -- or going to jail. What it was like for Anthony to have an Uncle Lucky Luciano to hang out with as a kid. Why sometimes you've just got to kill a Pope when your grandfather tells you to. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/425 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Your dad has poor hygiene -- so poor, in fact, his #1 gross habit is that he'll go #2 and not wash his hands afterward. What can you do to discourage your foul father's frightening fecal forays? We'll tackle this (from a distance) and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/424 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Tune in on Friday, November 6th at 2 p.m. Pacific through the Stereo app (available on iOS and Android) to hear Jordan and Gabe gab! Ever experience something you can't explain and wonder if you're losing control of your mental faculties? Jordan's got a story about that... Your visiting dad has poor hygiene -- so poor, in fact, his #1 gross habit is that he'll go #2 and not wash his hands afterward, and then touch everything in your house. What can you do to discourage your foul father's frightening fecal forays? You've always been interested in becoming a mental health therapist, but life coach might be as fulfilling a career without the time/money investment. But how can you ensure you're the real deal and legitimately helping people? A friend in your group is difficult, loud, and rude, with zero social skills. The solution might seem to just cut her out of your life, but you've known each other since kindergarten and you know doing so would devastate her. So what should you do? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Celeste Headlee (@CelesteHeadlee) is the host of On Second Thought at Georgia Public Broadcasting in Atlanta and has been a host and correspondent for NPR and PRI since 2006. She is the author of We Need to Talk: How to Have Conversations That Matter. What We Discuss with Celeste Headlee: Why listening in the right way is the key to improving what you have to say. Ways to correct the bad advice you’ve picked up about having good conversations. How we can put our cognitive biases in check. What it takes to have productive disagreements instead of shouting matches. Surprising ways your smartphone affects the quality of your conversations — even if it’s off. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/423 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Billy McFarland co-founded the ill-fated 2017 Fyre Festival, and is currently serving six years in federal prison for defrauding investors of $27.4 million. What We Discuss with Billy McFarland: The ideas that sparked what Fyre Festival was trying to achieve on an epic scale and the shortcomings that transformed it into a fraudulent, failed mess. The countless things Billy would do differently if he could have a do-over. The numerous ways in which prisons are warehouses of unmet potential. How Billy stays safe and sane when he's in solitary confinement. Billy's biggest regrets and what he hopes to have a chance to accomplish after he's served the time he agrees he deserves. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/422 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You're a mother of three, happily married to a wonderful man. But lately you've been acting on your urges to get intimate with other women. Racked with guilt, what can you do to come to terms with this secret lesbian love life before it wrecks your marriage? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/421 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: What does it mean to live with a bias toward action? You're a mother of three, happily married to a wonderful man. But lately, you've been acting on your urges to get intimate with other women. Racked with guilt, what can you do to come to terms with this secret lesbian love life before it wrecks your marriage? How do you break out of the dead-end job rut? You're not looking for your dream job, and you're not looking to get rich. You just want to be content with your career and find financial stability, but it seems easier said than done. Your father is a retired child psychologist who should know that treating you like a nuisance when you need good advice about raising your own child isn't doing your relationship any favors. Is there anything you can do to make him understand something that seems so obvious? You've been doing the work of someone two levels above you in the company hierarchy, but you keep getting the brush off when you try to negotiate a raise and elevation in title. How do you more assertively pursue your due? You try to maintain your adult friendships by reaching out and catching up whenever the opportunity arises, but you can't shake the feeling that you're always the one putting in effort that's not reciprocated. Are you crossing some invisible boundaries you're not aware of, or should you just keep on keeping on? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Renee DiResta (@noUpside) is the technical research manager at Stanford Internet Observatory. She studies the role that tech platforms and curatorial algorithms play in the proliferation of disinformation and conspiracy theories, terrorist activities, and state-sponsored information warfare. What We Discuss with Renee DiResta: How the anti-vaxx movement, the Tea Party, and militia groups learned early on to market and cross-pollinate their messages across social media to receptive segments of the populace with shocking success. The challenges faced by the US government in trying to stem the tide of social media exploitation by fringe groups and terrorists for the purposes of recruitment, generating sympathy for their causes, and fueling general chaos. How entire networks of disinformation evolve to support and perpetuate interconnected webs of conspiracy theories, pseudoscientific bunk, fringe political views, and propaganda planted by hostile states and bad actors. Why foreign organizations like Russia's Internet Research Agency and China's 50 Cent Party have promoted tribalism in the United States to keep us fighting among ourselves, how it serves their interests at our expense, and why we're so receptive to their influence. Why memes and hashtags are so effective as short-form vehicles to promote simple ideas powerfully across wide demographics. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/420 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.