The Jordan Harbinger Show

Cal Newport researches cutting-edge technology and writes about the impact of these innovations on society. He is the New York Times bestselling author of Deep Work, So Good They Can’t Ignore You, Digital Minimalism, and his latest, A World without Email: Reimagining Work in an Age of Communication Overload. What We Discuss with Cal Newport: What is the hyperactive hive mind, and how did the collaborative nature of email communication give rise to it? Why checking our email an average of every six minutes is, as Cal puts it, "a terrible way to extract value from human neurons." How so-called multitasking takes its toll not only on our individual capacity to focus, but on the prosperity of society as a whole. Why debuzzing the hyperactive hive mind can't be done from the inbox, but by replacing the rules for how we collaborate. How we can set the rules, guidelines, and systems by which we agree to communicate without succumbing to the collective pull of the hyperactive hive mind. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/503 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The father of your eight-year-old daughter has been given six months to live. How much do you tell your daughter -- and how soon? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/502 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: The father of your eight-year-old daughter has been given six months to live. How much do you tell your daughter -- and how soon? [Thanks to clinical psychologist and friend Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!] Career circumstances drove you and your ex-girlfriend apart a few years ago. And while she thinks you and her new fiance would be fast friends, you don't need a constant reminder of what might have been. How do you get her to respect your boundaries on this matter? A recruiter told you that a misdemeanor DUI from 2013 makes your chance of becoming an Air Force officer "nearly zero," but it's a dream you've had since you were seven. You couldn't forgive yourself for not giving it a shot anyway, but are you just wasting your time? [Thanks to Evil Genius Jason LeDuc for helping us field this one!] You've been on a revolving door basis with college admissions for years, never really nailing down a course plan that suits you before you drop out and try something else. You've spent countless hours and dollars without credentials to begin a professional career, much to your parents' shame as well as your own. How can you just choose a path and stick to it? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ed Calderon (@eds_manifesto) is a non-permissive environment specialist and combatives instructor with over 10 years of experience in counter-narcotics, organized crime investigation, and public safety in the northern border region of Mexico. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Find part one here!] What We Discuss with Ed Calderon: Three things that kept Ed from choosing the cartel life over law enforcement when it became a very real option. Why there’s an eerie devotion to blasphemous, Church-condemned figures like death icon La Santa Muerte by the dispossessed and the deadly on both sides of the law. What happens when different factions of law enforcement in the same area work for different cartels. How occult practices that combine Catholic symbology with Aztec beliefs adapt to changing times and desperate characters. Is Ed worried for his life after crossing some of the world’s most dangerous and vindictive people? And much more… Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/501 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ed Calderon (@eds_manifesto) is a non-permissive environment specialist and combatives instructor with over 10 years of experience in counter-narcotics, organized crime investigation, and public safety in the northern border region of Mexico. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Stick around for part two later this week!] What We Discuss with Ed Calderon: How drug cartels infiltrate and take over towns, cities, and entire regions without fearing local law enforcement or even the military. How US taxpayers fund limitless government corruption south of the border without any real accountability. 2020 has been the most deadly year in Mexico for cartel-related violence, and it's getting worse. Not all mass graves found in Mexico are the result of cartel atrocities. The reality could be even more sinister. Why cracking down on cartel crime is such a difficult (and life-threatening) proposition for would-be crusaders. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/500 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You're in a relationship with someone who's in an open marriage and all parties consent -- for now. But you want to be sure you don't get stuck with your state's tricky alien of affection law that could ruin your life if someone changes their mind. Aside from documenting all communication, how can you best prepare a polyamorous protection plan should your love triangle get bent out of shape and leave you and your property legally in peril? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/499 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How can you best prepare a polyamorous protection plan should your love triangle get bent out of shape and leave you and your property legally in peril? [Thanks again to attorney and friend Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!] Your intense, old-fashioned dad doesn't approve of your brother's girlfriend, which makes the arrival of their first child (and his first grandchild) somewhat bittersweet. On top of all this, he's hurt he was the last to find out. What can you do to facilitate communication between your dad and brother so this doesn't sour what should really be a happy occasion for the family? How do you remain professional and open to networking when you've got annoying, creepy, and clueless clients abusing your business relationship as an unwelcome excuse to pursue something more intimate? With some of our episodes including less-than-complimentary critiques about the governments of North Korea and China, are we ever worried about being targeted by their agents, and would we ever travel to either country again? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Rob Dyrdek (@robdyrdek) is an entrepreneur, actor, producer, reality TV personality, and former professional skateboarder. He's the founder of venture creation studio Dyrdek Machine and host of the Build with Rob podcast. What We Discuss with Rob Dyrdek: How Rob negotiated with his parents to let him drop out of high school and become a professional skateboarder at age 16. The lesson veteran skateboarder Neil Blender taught young Rob about knowing his range when taking a shot at doing something extraordinary. How Rob hones the clarity to operate in what he calls "kill mode" by eliminating the stressors that keep him from living optimally. What venture creation studio Dyrdek Machine is and how it's been built to efficiently launch meaningful businesses that stand the test of time and have an impact on the world. How Rob has the uncanny ability to, as his friend Shane Nickerson says, put himself in a position where luck hits him. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/498 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

David Kilgour is a human rights activist, former lawyer, and Canadian politician. He is a Senior Fellow to the Raoul Wallenberg Centre for Human Rights, and co-author of Bloody Harvest: Organ Harvesting of Falun Gong Practitioners in China. What We Discuss with David Kilgour: Who is targeted by the Chinese government for forced organ harvesting, and why? How long has this illicit trade been going on, and who does it benefit? How much does a healthy kidney, heart, or lung go for on this immoral market? Who is Gao Zhisheng, and why is his story important? How these atrocities have been brought to light and what efforts are being undertaken by the international community to put an end to them. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/497 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The schizophrenic mother with whom you've never had a great relationship is out of hospital and probably in need of high maintenance care. You feel guilty for saying so, but just being around her makes you want to leave town and disappear without leaving a forwarding address. Is there a way to ensure she's taken care of without taking on the burden of providing that care, and does it make you a terrible person for even wondering? We'll find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/496 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How can you ensure your schizophrenic mother gets the care she needs without taking on a burden that eclipses your entire life? Your cousin is in the middle of a divorce from an emotionally manipulative woman who is threatening to lie to the police that he's been abusing her -- which would threaten his DREAMer status and potentially send him back to the country where he was born but hasn't seen since he was nine (he's 29 now). Is there any legal protection he can pursue? You're getting a divorce from your husband, who also happens to be your business partner. You don't want a stake in the business you helped build from the ground up, and you don't want money; you just want your dog and your truck, and you want to start a new life. But are you making a mistake to walk away with nothing? As a high school teacher, you're worried the kids you teach to live in today's world won't have a place in a tomorrow operated increasingly by artificial intelligence. What will the future of work look like, and how can you best prepare your students for this potentially dystopian future? [Thanks to Allen and Shane from Allen Gannett and Shane Snow from the Creative Hotline podcast for helping us with this one!] Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jon Acuff (@jonacuff) is an Inc. Magazine Top 100 Leadership speaker, host of the All It Takes Is a Goal podcast, and author of multiple bestsellers. His latest book is Soundtracks: The Surprising Solution to Overthinking. What We Discuss with Jon Acuff: Jon defines a soundtrack as those repetitive thoughts that play automatically in your head that shape more of your choices than you know -- and this is why you need to curate your soundtrack. Three questions to ask yourself if you want to identify a broken soundtrack that derails your ambitions -- and change it into one that goads you into action. How you can flip a worry-inducing soundtrack into one that instills confidence. Being prepared always leads to an action; overthinking always leads to more overthinking. Something better to tell yourself than "Fake it 'til you make it" from the son of the guy who coined that phrase. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/495 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Rutger Bregman (@rcbregman) is a historian and author who has published five books on history, philosophy, and economics. His latest is New York Times bestseller Humankind: A Hopeful History. What We Discuss with Rutger Bregman: How crises like the London Blitz during WWII and the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina tend to bring out the best in people rather than the worst. Why a crisis that forces us to isolate rather than connect with each other as a way to cope (like the COVID-19 pandemic) may make some of us behave counter to this tendency, but not most. The evidence that prevails against veneer theory -- the idea that humanity is only buffered from acting on its vilest and most selfish instincts by the thin veneer of civilization (perpetrated by those in power throughout human history). The negativity bias vs. contact theory: how we can counter the effects of past bad experiences with others by increasing our exposure to diversity. How a real-life Lord of the Flies incident disproved the thesis of William Golding's fictional counterpart and showed how six shipwrecked schoolkids cooperated to thrive on a remote island for more than a year. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/494 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Your promising military career was derailed when former colleagues falsely accused you of wrongdoing to cover their own misdeeds. Even though the timeline proved that your alleged malfeasance would have been impossible and you were cleared of all charges, you missed promotions, eligibility cutoffs, special pay, and accompanying bonuses over the course of the lengthy investigation. Adding insult to these injuries is the message that your higher-ups have elected "not to go forward" with reinstating your qualifications and reimbursing you for your losses. So now you're wondering: should you sue Uncle Sam for this allegation sham? And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/493 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Your military career was derailed by accusations of misconduct proven untrue, but you've been denied back pay or promotions due. Should you sue? [Thanks to attorney and friend Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!] In an out-of-character lapse of judgment, your girlfriend got drunk, drove, hit a car, and got arrested. As a result, she may spend a year in prison. While you feel bad for her, you don't want to be pulled down by her bad choices. Should you stay or should you go? In spite of the pandemic, your new business is thriving. Unfortunately, your mental health isn't, and establishing self-care boundaries with your workaholic business partner isn't panning out. Should you try to navigate the partnership for the sake of all you've built, or let it go for the sake of your sanity? What's the best way to get your child to learn a second language at a young age? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Michael Shermer (@michaelshermer) is the founder of Skeptic magazine and several books on the nature of belief. He’s the Director of The Skeptics Society, a non-profit dedicated to the promotion of science, reason, and critical thinking. He joins us to discuss why people believe weird things. [This is a rebroadcast that originally aired in 2016.] What We Discuss with Michael Shermer: How do beliefs form and persist even when we know they’re wrong? Why do skeptics (and restaurant owners) scowl at the mention of Uri Geller? Why are smart people even more susceptible to faulty beliefs? How do our genes influence our political and religious beliefs? What’s the difference between a skeptic and a cynic? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/492 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ray Dalio (@RayDalio) is the founder of Bridgewater Associates — the largest and best-performing hedge fund in the world — and author of New York Times bestseller Principles: Life and Work. His latest book is The Changing World Order: Why Nations Succeed and Fail. What We Discuss with Ray Dalio: What history can tell us about the cycles our society has endured before and what we should expect from the cycles to come. The cycle we're currently experiencing in terms of our economy and security as a country (and as a planet). What Ray sees as the way forward to ensure these cycles serve as warnings -- not just echoes of past disasters. What the West needs to do to remain competitive with China and other emerging world powers. What Ray has learned from grieving the recent loss of his son. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/491 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You love jumping out of random hiding places in your house to startle your fiancée, but your fiancée does not share your enthusiasm for this "hobby" and wants you to knock it the heck off. You understand your boo's rightful vexation over this frightening fixation, but you can't seem to stop. Is this a common problem? We'll tackle this and more here on our special Day-After-April-Fool's-Day episode of Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/490 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Jordan shares a story about the time he thought he was going to get arrested at the donut shop in the middle of the night. You think you might be addicted to the thrill of jumping out of random hiding places in your house to startle your fiancée, because now you can't stop (even though she really, really wants you to). Is this a "normal" problem? Do Jordan and Gabe brush their teeth and floss every day? What have been Jordan's best and worst interviews? Does he stay friends with any of them afterward? What are the strangest things Gabe and Jordan know how to do? How do Jordan and Gabe feel about psychedelics? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Frank Bourassa counterfeited and sold $250 million in fake US currency until he was nabbed in an undercover operation. Now he runs a security company and works with the police to catch other counterfeiters. What We Discuss with Frank Bourassa: How someone creates a quarter of a billion dollars in American $20 bills that not only look genuine, but feel genuine even to experts. The hours of research that Frank spent learning how to create counterfeit money that would pass most muster without immediately going to jail on his first attempt. The catalyst that drove Frank to pursue a life of crime in the first place (and has probably tempted most of us to consider it from time to time). It takes money to make money: Frank reveals the startup fees that went into his operation to literally print the perfect $20 bills en masse. How much labor actually goes into a counterfeiting project at this scale -- once you find a crew you think you can trust. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/489 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Frank Bourassa counterfeited and sold $250 million in fake US currency until he was nabbed in an undercover operation. Now he runs a security company and works with the police to catch other counterfeiters. What We Discuss with Frank Bourassa: How someone creates a quarter of a billion dollars in American $20 bills that not only look genuine, but feel genuine even to experts. The hours of research that Frank spent learning how to create counterfeit money that would pass most muster without immediately going to jail on his first attempt. The catalyst that drove Frank to pursue a life of crime in the first place (and has probably tempted most of us to consider it from time to time). It takes money to make money: Frank reveals the startup fees that went into his operation to literally print the perfect $20 bills en masse. How much labor actually goes into a counterfeiting project at this scale -- once you find a crew you think you can trust. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/488 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You basically grew up in a cult, and following your own path as an adult was seen as an act of "rebellion" in the eyes of your dad, from whom you've been estranged ever since. He's even forbidden you from setting foot on his property until you "repent, return, and remain." Now, years have passed and it doesn't sit well with you that your relationship is so strained. Should you try to reconnect with your cult father, or is it even worth the bother? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/487 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: After "rebelling" against the cult in which you were raised, should you try to reconnect with your estranged father, or is it even worth the bother? [Thanks to cult expert Steven Hassan for helping us with this one!] You fell behind on paperwork your job legally requires, and even though you provided it to the inspectors before the pandemic lockdowns began, you've yet to hear back from them. Now your wife says if it causes you to lose your job, she'll never forgive you. Is she overreacting? How do you handle this? You've got a new, cushy job that pays handsomely, but you're unfulfilled because it's not the work you signed up for. Quitting now means you'd have to pay off thousands in sign-on bonuses, but you feel like you're doing your career a disservice by sticking with it. Should you just shut up and be grateful, or cut your losses and find something that better suits you? Over the past year, you’ve become obsessed with learning. You read books, consume newsletters, and listen to hours of podcasts every day. The bad news: you can't seem to retain any of it. Are you just overloading your brain circuitry, or is there a trick to getting all this new info to stick? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Nina Schick (@NinaDSchick) specializes in how technology is transforming geopolitics and society in the 21st century. She is the author of Deepfakes: The Coming Infocalypse. What We Discuss with Nina Schick: What deepfakes are and how they're created using technology that is getting exponentially more sophisticated every year and accessible to anyone. How deepfakes go beyond novelty and into dangerous territory occupied by blackmailers, propagandists, terrorists, conspiracy theorists, and other unsavory ne'er-do-wells who profit by making the rest of us doubt what we can trust as reality. Why deepfakes are so much more concerning than reality-bending manipulations of the past. The potential positive uses of AI-assisted deepfake technology that will change our world as dramatically as the advent of the Internet. How we can discern between real photo, video, or audio footage and imposter deepfakes to avoid being duped by 21st-century technoshysters. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/486 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Leah Remini (@leahremini) is an actor, producer, co-host of podcast Scientology: Fair Game, and co-author of Troublemaker: Surviving Hollywood and Scientology. What We Discuss with Leah Remini: What Scientology is, how it came about, and why it's so dangerous. The lengths the Scientology organization has gone through to protect itself from the government and its disillusioned apostates. How Leah and her Fair Game co-host Mike Rinder have survived the stalking, harassment, and threats of post-Scientology life. What die-hard Scientologists really believe. How Scientology recruits and retains its A-list celebrity lineup. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/485 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Your BFF was slated to be a bridesmaid at your wedding, but she can't resist the urge to argue about politics with you, your fiance, and anyone with whom she disagrees. Now you're wondering: should you even invite her to the wedding at all? We'll dig into this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/484 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Your BFF bridesmaid insufferably loves to argue politics to the point that your fiance can't stand the sight of her. Now you're wondering: should you even invite her to your wedding? Even though you helped your dad build a multi-million dollar business, your long-distance girlfriend's old-fashioned parents don't approve of your relationship. They don't see what you've done as an accomplishment, just that you "work for your dad." What can you do to improve your relationship with people who might someday be your in-laws? You tend to interact with people in a way that some consider being too informal or familiar. Sometimes your sense of humor just doesn't seem to hit the right note and you wind up offending more often than making people laugh. Is there anything you should be doing to make a better impression? Your girlfriend is a magnificent writer, with a master's degree in English, pursuing a career in publishing. Unfortunately, her lack of success in landing a job has sapped her confidence; she won’t reach out to friends and family for support, and is terrified to ask for help. She's even opposed to therapy thanks to bad experiences in the past. What can you do? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Drew Binsky (@drewbinsky) has been to 194 countries (probably more by the time you're done reading this sentence), shares his prolific adventures on YouTube, and hopes to inspire us all to become better world travelers. Take in the vicarious trips and travel tips with him here! What We Discuss with Drew Binsky: What it's like to spend 24 hours with an isolated tribe of pygmies in the middle of a forest in Africa. The story of Zablon Simintov, the last and only remaining Afghan Jew in the country of Afghanistan. What Drew considers to be the most dangerous country in the world (without even a close second), and how he fared during his six days there. Why the most expensive countries in the world are ones you've probably never heard of. How Drew protects himself when he's traveling in war zones and countries that are particularly hostile toward journalists. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/483 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Adam Grant (@AdamMGrant) is Wharton’s top-rated professor, the host of podcast WorkLife with Adam Grant, and the author of three New York Times Best Sellers: Option B (with Sheryl Sandberg), Originals, and Give and Take. Adam revisits the show to discuss his latest book, Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know. What We Discuss with Adam Grant: Why being open to changing your mind is a huge advantage in your personal and professional life -- and not weakness, as your ego is urging you to believe. The criteria by which Amazon's Jeff Bezos makes big decisions quickly while allowing room for a change of mind when new information is revealed. How you can use brainwriting instead of brainstorming to come up with the best ideas from within your organization without losing them to the hazards of dreaded groupthink. Why your network could do with a "disagreeable giver" (or several) to tear your ideas apart and point out the holes in your thinking -- not to bring you down, but to help you improve. How to preface criticism so that other people really hear it (in only 19 words or so) without taking offense. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/482 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When a father is unbothered by the results of a paternity test that disproves a biological connection to the daughter he's raised since birth, what can he do to win a custody battle against the uncooperative mother who's considered a more "real" parent by the state? We'll seek the answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/481 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Can a dad who's raised a daughter as his own win custody after a court-ordered test disproves his paternity? [Once again, many thanks to attorney and friend Corbin Payne for helping us answer this one!] A new job with amazing opportunities for growth means leaving behind a team you've come to admire. What's the most graceful way to exit while remaining on good terms? A simple request for a textbook refund has led to erroneous, uninvited emails from the publisher containing private information of other customers, which means someone else probably has your "private" information. On top of this, you still don't have a refund. Is threatening legal action your most reasonable next step? [Yep. The Payne Train helped us with this one too! Thanks, Corbin!] For years, you've been happily married to the love of your life, but they've become politically active to a hostile degree on social media and condescending toward you for being "uninformed" when you want to talk about something -- anything -- else. What can you do to bring the boiling point down a bit? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Roger Atwood (@rogeratwood) knows where priceless antiquities are buried, who is digging them up, and who is fencing and buying them, as described in his book Stealing History: Tomb Raiders, Smugglers, and the Looting of the Ancient World. What We Discuss with Roger Atwood: How abhorrent colonial looting practices of the past pale in comparison to the streamlined, market-driven illicit antiquities trading of today. Contrary to popular depiction, illicit antiquities traders aren't marginalized hustlers scrambling to put food on the table, but savvy businesspeople following the demand that leads to a hefty payday. How well-connected and wealthy collectors perpetuate this market by requesting and purchasing relics on demand in the same way most of us would order pizza. Why this on-demand artifact mill irrevocably destroys more than it rescues from the unknown past and ruins sites beyond the context of legitimate archaeological salvageability. On a positive note: what can be done to stem the tide for this wasteful demand so future generations might still enjoy what's yet to be discovered. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/480 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Lisa Feldman Barrett (@lfeldmanbarrett) is among the top one percent most-cited scientists in the world for her revolutionary research in psychology and neuroscience. Her new book, Seven and a Half Lessons About the Brain, is out now. What We Discuss with Lisa Feldman Barrett: Our brains evolved to keep our bodies alive -- thinking is just a bonus by-product. Why the lizard brain theory is a myth. More like companies than computers, our brains reorganize themselves when the situation calls for adaptation to survive. How our brains predict what we think we’re hearing and seeing, and how this affects our behavior. Why you're not really left-brained or right-brained. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/479 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Your mother and aunt have suffered lifelong trauma from your grandfather's physical, mental, and sexual abuse of them when they were children. The family has been considering legal action against him, but it would be difficult for your mother and aunt to repeatedly relive this abuse in court, and the strength of the case is in question because this happened over 30 years ago. Should they pursue it anyway? This and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/478 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Should your mother and aunt sue their father 30 years after he physically, mentally, and sexually abused them? Would justice -- or at least telling their story in court -- bring them peace? [Thanks again to Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!] You're an ex-con whose rough childhood and over 10 years in prison have taught you some hard but valuable lessons, and you've earned a uniquely valuable skill set. So how do you market this experience in a way that will serve you in the outside world? You and your significant other have been living with their mother for much of the pandemic. While you get along, she can be passive-aggressive, petty, and dramatic. You try to sympathize, listen, and help her out when possible, but it's stressing you out. What else can you do to maintain a good relationship without sacrificing your own sanity? You’ve been passed over for a promotion twice in a year and a half, and you suspect the reasons might be more personal than professional. Should you lodge a complaint at the risk of a hit to your reputation, or should you just take it on the chin and hope a third time will be the charm? Bottom line: how can you be truly proactive about advancement? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Peter Diamandis (@PeterDiamandis) is the founder of the XPRIZE Foundation, co-host of the Exponential Wisdom Podcast, and co-author of Bold: How to Go Big, Create Wealth and Impact the World and Abundance: The Future Is Better Than You Think. What We Discuss with Peter Diamandis: What does the future hold for human longevity, space colonization, artificial intelligence, and beyond? How can we adapt — individually and as a society — to deal with increased automation in the workforce? What is linear thinking and why does it cause us to miss the mark when coping with technology, innovation, and the advancement of the human race? If you don’t know your calling in life, your calling in life is to discover what that is. What experiments can kids curious about science do that won’t get them put on a no-fly list for the foreseeable future? And so much more… Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/477 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dan David (@Dan_David44) is an investor, activist short-seller, and whistle-blower. He is the founder of Wolfpack Research, host of the I Hung Up On Warren Buffett Podcast, and is featured in The China Hustle documentary. What We Discuss with Dan David: Dan defines what it means to be an activist short-seller, and how his research discerns between legitimate but worthwhile risks in the market and outright criminal fraud. How Chinese companies use reverse mergers to trade on US markets without oversight and siphon hundreds of billions of dollars from the economy without accountability or criminal consequences. Why the US government allows this legalized corruption to continue (with the blessing of investment banks). In the end, who really suffers in the fallout of these reverse takeover (RTO) scams. The long-term dangers of allowing this fraud to continue, and what Dan sees as our way out of this mess. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/476 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Your significant other of six years has a narcissistic personality disorder and an unhealthy relationship with alcohol. Even when sober, she can turn on a dime and engage in narcissistic rage, which includes venomous, disrespectful rants and the destruction of expensive artwork. It seems obvious that you should break up with her, but she's unemployable and unable to care for herself, and living arrangements for whoever leaves would be difficult to secure in the midst of the pandemic. What's your next move? We'll do what we can to help assuage narcissistic rage and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/475 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: What are you avoiding just because the desired outcome would take longer than you'd like? What do you do when your significant other ruins your stuff in fits of narcissistic rage but breaking up is logistically difficult? [Thanks to friend and therapist Kim Seltzer for helping us field this one!] You're excited about becoming a first-time parent, but you're worried it won't allow you the time to do your full-time job and pursue a career in competitive golf. Does this make you a selfish jerk? An opening for advancement has come up at your company, but you're not sure you're ready for it just yet. Should you go for it anyway, or wait until you've got more experience under your belt and hope that opportunity knocks again? While you're not currently disabled, you do have multiple sclerosis that will gradually incapacitate you to some degree over time. Are you obligated to disclose this on a job application? [Thanks to once-adversary, now-friend, and attorney Jeremy Golan for helping us with this one!] Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

David Eagleman (@davideagleman) is a neuroscientist at Stanford, CSO of sensory substitution technology company NeoSensory, host of Emmy-nominated PBS/BBC series The Brain, and author of Livewired: The Inside Story of the Ever-Changing Brain. What We Discuss with David Eagleman: Like organisms in a forest, the multicellular components of your brain are as much in competition with one another as they are in cooperation. How your sensory landscape adapts to utilize what's useful and discard what's not as you learn new skills. Why David believes the nature vs. nurture debate is dead (and that Darwin might owe Lamarck a bit of an apology). How neglect can irreparably shape the brain of a child, and what this can teach us about the way different generations learn about, process, and behave in the world. How senses like sight and hearing can be translated by technology for people without a native ability to process them, and why we'll be able to invent entirely new senses with the help of technology. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/474 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Scott Galloway (@profgalloway) cohosts Pivot with Kara Swisher, publishes the No Mercy/No Malice newsletter, is a professor at NYU Stern School of Business, and is the author of Post Corona: From Crisis to Opportunity. What We Discuss with Scott Galloway: How the pandemic has accelerated changes already in the making: it only took 40 weeks to lose the jobs that it took 20 years to create, and only eight weeks for e-commerce to experience a decade's worth of growth. The industries most poised to thrive in the post-pandemic world. Why it's never been easier to become a billionaire, and it's never been harder to become a millionaire. How education will change as a result of pandemic upheaval and the technology created to match its demand -- likely for the better. How to make sure these dramatic changes work for you instead of against you. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/473 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In spite of not being financially affected by the pandemic, you know an employee of yours and his wife have been gaming the system and taking unemployment benefits and PPP loans from the government to the tune of tens of thousands of dollars. While you're deeply bothered by their gleeful boasting about these fraudulent actions, you also don't like meddling in other people's business. Should you file a complaint to the proper authorities anyway, or just hope that karma will come around someday? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/472 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Your well-paid employee boasts about fraudulently receiving COVID relief from the government to the tune of tens of thousands of dollars. Should you report this or hope karma intervenes? Another ponderable: if he's regularly and remorselessly stealing from Uncle Sam, what's he been stealing from your company? Your irresponsible sister parties and spends beyond her means while neglecting her daughter. You want to be supportive of your niece's well-being, but you also don't want to take her off your sister's hands and enable more bad behavior. How do you find a decent middle ground without also neglecting your own family? As a Westerner teaching English in Japan, how do you get past the point of being a tall, freakish curiosity to the locals in order to build deeper relationships with new friends? Would getting a text message from a person you spent a total of eight hours with over a year ago mean anything? Or would it just be a weird, semi-unnecessary gesture? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps!...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Steven Hassan (@CultExpert) has helped thousands of individuals and families recover from undue influence (authoritarian control). With over 40 years of experience, he is sought after as one of the foremost authorities on undue influence and controlling groups and individuals. He is the founder of the Freedom of Mind Resource Center, and a founding collaborator of the #iGotOut movement. What We Discuss with Steven Hassan: How a disinformation crusade like QAnon takes root and thrives in the politically polarized petri dish of modern America (with a little help from its outside adversaries). Why the trope of non-human elites ritualistically sustaining themselves on the essence of innocent children should seem familiar -- because this blood libel has been most famously used to normalize the persecution of Jews from the Middle Ages to the Holocaust and beyond. How QAnon appeals not only to the predictable dumber-than-a-box-of-rocks demographic, but a surprising number of seemingly otherwise intelligent people who are counterintuitively more susceptible to its influence than most. How Steven’s BITE model applies to QAnon's manipulation of behavior, information, thought, and emotion among its followers to show it for what it is: a destructive cult with elements of psyops thrown in for good measure. What we can and should do when people we care about have been sucked down the QAnon rabbit hole and we want to see them safely tethered back to reality. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/471 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Bruce Sackman (@bts1811) is a renowned investigator specializing in tracking down medical serial killers. He is the co-author of Behind the Murder Curtain: Special Agent Bruce Sackman Hunts Doctors and Nurses Who Kill Our Veterans. What We Discuss with Bruce Sackman: How Bruce first became aware of the MSKs (medical serial killers) who were operating for years, undetected, in our veterans hospitals. Why it's so difficult -- even for medical professionals -- to spot their colleagues who kill in a hospital environment (and why it's often covered up when they do). How the monstrously prolific body count of a quietly efficient MSK makes the serial killers who wind up famous as household names and true crime documentary subjects seem like amateurs in comparison. What motivates an MSK to murder the people who trust and rely on them for care? How Bruce's experience with tracking, exposing, and catching MSKs have helped investigators and forensic nurses throughout the world put a stop to these formerly unchecked murder sprees. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/470 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Should a cheater get a second chance? Like most of us, you probably have an instant answer to that question. But what if the cheater happened to be you? Should the ex you cheated on give you a second chance? We'll tackle this timeless question and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/469 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: A listener shares their own false confession story after hearing episode 456 with Laura Nirider, and Corbin Payne reminds us why we should never talk to the police without an attorney present whether or not we're guilty. Should a cheater get a second chance? What if you're the cheater? Does that change your answer? Should the ex you cheated on give you a second chance? Your idealist sibling can't seem to get his life together unless the "perfect" opportunities present themselves, and your family has had enough. How can you gently nudge him toward the path of progress he needs to take? Your former boss turned hostile when you gave your two-week notice, and now you're worried she'll give you a bad reference as you seek employment elsewhere. How do you prepare for this possibility as you interview for future positions? Your grandma's struggles with seasonal depression are exacerbated by her quarantine-era hobby of doomscrolling the news and posting on Facebook. What can you do to help her get unstuck from her own gloomy thoughts during this time? What systems do we have in place to ensure we answer all the messages that come our way? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jack Schafer (@jackschafer) is a retired FBI special agent, current assistant professor at Western Illinois University, and co-author of The Truth Detector: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide for Getting People to Reveal the Truth. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Catch up with part one here!] What We Discuss with Jack Schafer: Elicitation versus interrogation: why one is usually more effective in extracting truth than the other. How the elicitation techniques used by the FBI to uncover secrets from foreign spies can be applied to buying used cars, negotiating better salaries, and finding out if your teenager is throwing parties when you're out of town. Three friend signals we display when we want to establish rapport and trust with someone we've just met (and might be used against us by con artists and other disreputable types). How presumptive statements can be used to play upon our insecurities and get us to easily reveal truths we'd otherwise keep guarded -- and what we can do to avoid spilling the beans when they're used against us. How to use a third-party perspective to discover what people are really thinking. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/468 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jack Schafer (@jackschafer) is a retired FBI special agent, current assistant professor at Western Illinois University, and co-author of The Truth Detector: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide for Getting People to Reveal the Truth. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Stay tuned for part two later this week!] What We Discuss with Jack Schafer: Elicitation versus interrogation: why one is usually more effective in extracting truth than the other. How the elicitation techniques used by the FBI to uncover secrets from foreign spies can be applied to buying used cars, negotiating better salaries, and finding out if your teenager is throwing parties when you're out of town. Three friend signals we display when we want to establish rapport and trust with someone we've just met (and might be used against us by con artists and other disreputable types). How presumptive statements can be used to play upon our insecurities and get us to easily reveal truths we'd otherwise keep guarded -- and what we can do to avoid spilling the beans when they're used against us. How to use a third-party perspective to discover what people are really thinking. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/467 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In order to preserve your own sanity, you cut off all contact with your covert narcissist mom a few years ago. But now that she's dying, you wonder if you should reconcile for the short time she has left -- or regret not doing so once it's too late. What's the right thing to do here? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/466 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: In order to preserve your own sanity, you cut off all contact with your covert narcissist mom a few years ago. But now she's dying and you wonder if you should reconcile for the short time she has left -- or regret not doing so once it's too late. You've become a perpetual shoulder to cry on for someone who never follows your advice no matter how much time you devote to trying to help them. How do you gently quit the job of being this person's informal (and free) therapist? You've been at your current job for seven years with no advancement in your pay or position in spite of exceeding expectations and never receiving a negative performance review. Your boss promised a raise two and a half years ago, but it still hasn't surfaced. What should you do? You're 50 years old and have worked in the same industry for most of your adult life. You're interested in transitioning to a different career, but you're starting to wonder if your age is a help or a hindrance. When you show up to interviews with grey hair, does it communicate "experienced and reliable" or "old and obsolete?" Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Thomas Erikson is a behavioral expert, active lecturer, and bestselling author of Surrounded by Idiots and Surrounded by Psychopaths: How to Protect Yourself from Being Manipulated and Exploited in Business. What We Discuss with Thomas Erikson: Not all narcissists are psychopaths, but all psychopaths are narcissists. So how can you identify the psychopaths in your life who don't act like the ones you see in slasher flicks and psychological thrillers? What psychopaths have to gain from manipulating and destroying other people. The insidious tactics psychopaths use to sow doubt and reap chaos in others. How you can resist these tactics before they're used to ruin your life. What to do if you suspect that you might be a psychopath. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/465 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!Thomas Erikson is a behavioral expert, active lecturer, and bestselling author of Surrounded by Idiots and Surrounded by Psychopaths: How to Protect Yourself from Being Manipulated and Exploited in Business. What We Discuss with Thomas Erikson: Not all narcissists are psychopaths, but all psychopaths are narcissists. So how can you identify the psychopaths in your life who don't act like the ones you see in slasher flicks and psychological thrillers? What psychopaths have to gain from manipulating and destroying other people. The insidious tactics psychopaths use to sow doubt and reap chaos in others. How you can resist these tactics before they're... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ramit Sethi (@ramit) is the bestselling author of I Will Teach You to Be Rich: No Guilt. No Excuses. No B.S. Just a 6-Week Program That Works, and now he's applied the same no-nonsense approach to his latest program, Find Your Dream Job. What We Discuss with Ramit Sethi: Many people are underpaid, often by $10,000 per year. How can you make sure you're not one of them? What hiring managers are really looking for in job candidates, and how to refrain from disqualifying yourself before you've even applied simply because you lack a prerequisite mentioned in the listing. Throwing your resume on a stack with the rest of the candidates and hoping for the best is probably a wasted effort -- because most of the best jobs are filled through backdoor introductions, often before they're ever made public. By the time you've been granted an interview, the hiring manager doesn't want a generic rehash of your credentials -- they're more interested in knowing how well you'll fit in with the team and if you can be counted on under pressure. The three parts of the negotiation power dynamics framework that will help you maximize the outcome of your negotiations by understanding your leverage. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/464 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

While your sister's history of bad beaus continues to sap her self-esteem and savings, her current companion's cons are preying upon your parents' provisions. What's the surest way of saying sayonara to your sister's swindling sweetie? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/463 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: While your sister's history of bad beaus continues to sap her self-esteem and savings, her current companion's cons are preying upon your parents' provisions. What's the surest way of saying sayonara to your sister's swindling sweetie? As a young, caucasian, cisgender, heterosexual, and relatively fit male with no real health issues (or even allergies), you recognize your privilege and genetic luck. How do you most responsibly support those who are less privileged as an ally who amplifies their messages, educates yourself, and stays mindful of your impact on others? You're teaching at a run-down school where a gaslighting principal is in charge. You love your underserved students and don't want to abandon them, but you're finding the work environment too toxic to be sustainable for your sanity. What are your best options here? You’ve been introducing people to each other when you've thought the connection would be mutually beneficial, but these introductions have gone awry more often than not. What's our advice for preventing this from happening (or mitigating its damage to your reputation when it does)? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Linda Carroll (@Lovecycleslinda) is a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship sage, and author of Love Skills: The Keys to Unlocking Lasting, Wholehearted Love and Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love. What We Discuss with Linda Carroll: Love is a feeling that comes and goes, but loving is a skill set you can improve with practice. Why most arguments are not really about what you think you're fighting about. Is communication in relationships overrated? What the Woodpecker Syndrome is and how to avoid it. "You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else" and other cultural stereotypes and clichés about relationships that are worth less than the Hallmark cards they were printed on. Why so many of us get locked into repeating relationship patterns that ultimately end messily. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/462 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Erik Vance (@erikvance) is an award-winning science journalist and author of Suggestible You: The Curious Science of Your Brain's Ability to Deceive, Transform, and Heal. What We Discuss with Erik Vance: How the human tendency for patternicity can be used to inoculate ourselves against pain, but also make us believe we've been abducted by space aliens. The placebo effect vs. the nocebo effect. The power of false memories and the "Satanic Panic" phenomenon of the 1980s. How our brains twist reality to match expectations, and how it fits into our evolutionary model for survival. Why Erik paid a Mexico City witch doctor to curse him -- for science! And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/461 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When your adopted child turned 18, he immediately moved out without warning and wrote you a letter saying he left "for mental health reasons" -- and not to contact him. You're hurt, disappointed, and feel cut off; is there any way to respect his wishes while getting some clarity on why this happened and letting him know you're still unconditionally there for him? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/460 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Wisdom from Charlie Munger: Take a simple idea and take it seriously. When your adopted child turned 18, he immediately moved out and wrote you a letter saying he left "for mental health reasons" -- and not to contact him. You're hurt, disappointed, and feel cut off; is there any way to respect his wishes while getting some clarity on why this happened? You're a middle schooler who doesn't thrive with the lessened engagement of online courses, but you understandably don't feel safe going to the classroom in the middle of a pandemic. You've considered dropping out and attending a community college that offers courses for all ages and has much safer COVID-19 protocols, but you're not sure it's the right move. What would we do in your shoes? You graduated law school to become a world-changing lawyer, but you've been diagnosed with a debilitating illness that makes this a difficult proposition now. You know there are positions with a work-life balance that would be more accommodating to your condition, but they're not generally world-changing. Where should you go from here? A shady landlord is trying to sucker you into paying two months' rent against the terms of your very explicit lease, and it's having an adverse effect on your credit score. How can you legally get this creep off your back? [Thanks once again to our defense attorney friend Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!] You and your fiancee want your relationship to be focused on you, not the image of the relationship you convey online. But how do you balance sharing life updates with your network to provide an engagement point for weak or dormant ties (as discussed in our free Six-Minute Networking course)? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Steve Madden (@stevenmadden) is a fashion designer and businessman, and author of The Cobbler: How I Disrupted an Industry, Fell From Grace, and Came Back Stronger Than Ever. What We Discuss with Steve Madden: How growing up as a half-Jewish, half-Irish outsider gave Steve a unique perspective and mindset that dispensed with establishment formalities. Why it's not failure that defines someone's character, but how someone responds to coming up short. In hindsight, Steve weighs the pros and cons of living by the "better to beg for forgiveness than ask for permission" credo. Why knowing what you don't know can be what Steve considers "a very big gift." Why it wasn't designs or talent that made Steve's company successful; it was the cultivation of an unstoppable work ethic. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/459 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

John Brennan (@JohnBrennan) served as the Director of the CIA from 2013 to 2017, and is the author of Undaunted: My Fight Against America's Enemies, At Home and Abroad. What We Discuss with John Brennan: The mechanics of being in charge of America's spy agency and dealing with international crises on a daily basis. How CIA officers are taught to question their assumptions and overcome confirmation biases to find facts in a field of deception. Why John argued for diversity within the CIA -- not to placate a liberal agenda, as his critics asserted, but to strengthen the agency's ability to operate effectively in a diverse world. How John was able to get a job at the CIA in spite of past hashish use, lying to his mother about going to church, and voting for a communist. The challenges of operating clandestinely in the digitally rich 21st century. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/458 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You and your wife of four years have had your ups and downs, but she recently revealed her belief in a number of conspiracy theories. Now you wonder if you can continue a life together when you're living in two entirely different realities. We'll examine this rabbit hole and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/457 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Your wife of four years recently revealed she's gone down a conspiracy theory rabbit hole from which she may never return. Is it possible for your marriage to continue when you're each living in your own reality? [Thanks to Justin Ramsdell for helping us with this one!] You're the top choice to run operations if your company's acquisition goes through, but your priorities have shifted toward family and you're not sure the new bosses will understand your desire for work/life balance. What’s the best way to discuss your personal plans with the team so you feel your mutual needs are being considered? [Thanks to Michelle Tillis Lederman for giving us some insight here!] How should a financially smart, successful couple entertain the idea of cohabitating when marriage is in the plans down the road, but the relationship hasn't yet passed the one-year mark? You're friends with a family who recently started hosting maskless "freedom rallies" that have drawn thousands of people into tight quarters during this global pandemic. Every reason you've expressed to them for why this is a terrible idea has been dismissed. Should you just give up? And is there even a future for your friendship even after this passes? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Laura Nirider (@LauraNirider) is the co-director of the Center on Wrongful Convictions at Northwestern Pritzker School of Law, and the co-host of the Wrongful Conviction: False Confessions podcast. What We Discuss with Laura Nirider: Two to five percent of people currently serving time in prison have been falsely convicted. False confessions and admissions are present in 15 to 20 percent of all DNA exonerations. The United States is one of the only countries in the world that allows police to lie about evidence during interrogations. Why so many people are coerced into providing false confessions during interrogations that are gentle compared to the more "hands on" approach taken by police in decades past. How Laura is working to clean up interrogation techniques so they're still effective in solving crimes without trapping innocent people in the system. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/456 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Matthew McConaughey (@McConaughey) is an Academy Award-winning actor, producer, and author of #1 New York Times Bestseller Greenlights. What We Discuss with Matthew McConaughey: What the sobriety of grief did for Matthew's attitude about risk when he was dealing with the loss of his father. How Matthew tries to instill the values of self-reliance in his kids. How Matthew learned to cope with imposter syndrome and get his head on straight when he became a household name seemingly overnight. The philanthropic approach to selecting roles that has guided Matthew through his career in film. How Matthew keeps criticism from affecting how he perceives himself. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/455 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You're in an online community that chats about erotic roleplay (ERP), and inadvertently engaged in conversation with a couple of minors. When you discovered their age, you immediately broke off contact -- but you're still worried this could have legal repercussions. Should you be concerned? We'll tackle this and more here on the first Feedback Friday of the year! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/454See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.