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You were laid off, your wife's business is in the red, and you have a baby on the way. In spite of occasionally inconsiderate guests being a drag, renting your spare room through Airbnb is the only thing bringing in steady money right now. Should you shut down the business that doesn't make money and focus on how you can make Airbnb a more sustainable and tolerable source of income? This and more on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/319. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Should you shut down your business that's in the red to focus on renting your spare room through Airbnb? Given that everyone has limited time and energy, how do you decide what to pursue and what to let go of, and vet opportunities to ensure they're worth the effort? What can you do to help your friend cope with the serious social anxiety that has literally driven her to drink? As a recovering addict, you know following through with the attraction you feel for a fellow recovering addict would be a poorly timed mistake -- right? Is it rude to offer unsolicited feedback on someone's resume when you notice room for improvement -- even when asked to share it with the people in your network? Life Pro Tip: Make a checklist of things you need when traveling and stick it on your closet door (or in your phone's notes app). Every time you realize you forgot to pack something, add it to the list when you get back. It saves you time running around trying to remember what you will need each time you have to pack. Recommendation of the Week: Generation Wealth A quick shout out to Sam Windham! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, join his podcasting... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Christian Picciolini (@cpicciolini) is an Emmy Award-winning television producer, reformed extremist, founder of the Free Radicals Project, and author of Breaking Hate: Confronting the New Culture of Extremism and White American Youth: My Descent into America's Most Violent Hate Movement -- and How I Got Out. This is part two of a two-part episode. Make sure to catch part one here! What We Discuss with Christian Picciolini: Why extremist ideology is on the rise all over the world -- and what we can do to stem its spread. What to do when we see other people in our sphere potentially falling victim to extremist recruiting tactics. How personal journeys of identity, community, and purpose are hijacked by extremist recruiters to fill their ranks. How the Internet has made it easier than ever for recruiters to draw young people away from families and communities that have zero ties to extremism. What extremist groups are doing to rebrand and sanitize their image in ways that appeal to the disenfranchised among the mainstream. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/318 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Christian Picciolini (@cpicciolini) is an Emmy Award-winning television producer, reformed extremist, founder of the Free Radicals Project, and author of Breaking Hate: Confronting the New Culture of Extremism and White American Youth: My Descent into America's Most Violent Hate Movement -- and How I Got Out. This is part one of a two-part episode. Make sure to catch part two here! What We Discuss with Christian Picciolini: How the marketing of extremism has evolved to become more palatable to the masses. How identity, community, and purpose drive extremism -- not ideology. Why extremism and race identity are popular with youth now more than ever before. What we can do if we know someone involved with -- or thinking of becoming involved with -- an extremist group. How an ex neo-Nazi skinhead became a uniquely qualified peace advocate to help others avoid walking in his footsteps. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/317 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

As a remorseful sex offender who's done your time and been officially cleared as posing no threat to society, you're committed to turning your life around for you, your wife, and your five-year-old. But how can you get a job when you're a convicted felon with the extra stigma of being on the registry for the next 20 years? We'll tackle this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/316. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How do you get a job if you're a registered sex offender who's done your time and been officially cleared as posing no threat to society? While your significant other wants kids someday, you're undecided. You're young, but you don't want to waste their time. How long do you reasonably have to make the decision? How do you handle a two-faced ladder-climber in your company whose Machiavellian manipulations aren't as invisible as they seem to think they are? What can a high schooler do to network in the field they wish to pursue when it's a bit esoteric -- like biochemistry? A job promotion for more pay and research experience sounds great, but you're worried about losing the downtime that allows you to get homework done for your current course load. Should you choose freedom or finances? After past disappointments, your wife is unexpectedly pregnant. It's great news, but you've been training for a dream job that would take you away for the months around your baby's birth and the opportunity window is about to close since you're near the age cap. What's your best next move -- for yourself and your family? Life Pro Tip: Real wealth is about freedom. Money can help achieve these things, but there are plenty of people who make lots of money yet aren't free. Make choices that get you this kind of wealth, not just the money. A quick shout out to John M. Carr! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, join his podcasting club, and check out... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Admiral William H. McRaven (@billmcraven) masterminded and executed the mission that brought down Osama bin Laden and is the author of Make Your Bed: Little Things That Can Change Your Life...And Maybe the World. What We Discuss with William H. McRaven: What are the benefits to taking every day, as a Navy SEAL might say, "one evolution at a time?" What are the potential downfalls of having a 20-year plan? Why is taking advantage of opportunities more important than charting a course — and how can we spot them? What are you proving when you're willing to take professional risks — even when you don't succeed? What is the most important thing to understand about leadership? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/315 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Michael Yon (@Michael_Yon) is an author, columnist, and award-winning independent war correspondent who gives us a frontline view of the current civil unrest between Hong Kong protestors and the government of mainland China. What We Discuss with Michael Yon: What Michael means by his oft-truncated and misunderstood quote: "If a writer wants to make money, he should avoid truth and tell people what they want to hear. Yet to win the war, tell the truth." The difference between riots, protests, general civil unrest, and insurgency -- and what's really going on in Hong Kong right now in contrast with the official story. Why Michael considers himself a war correspondent and not a journalist -- and how the two differ. Why the long-simmering relationship between China and Hong Kong is only now coming to a boil, and what the rest of the world should take away from this. How the current movement in Hong Kong compares to Poland's Solidarity Movement of the '80s -- and why this especially worries the Chinese Communist Party. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/314 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Your boyfriend's close friend flirts with him directly in front of you. He doesn't reciprocate, but it does bother you because you know -- from conversation you've had with her in the past before you became his significant other -- that she actually does fancy him. Should you communicate your displeasure to either party or just keep your cool? And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/313. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Confused by The Adam Carolla Show clips at the end of a few of our episodes? If you're not skipping commercials, you should have gotten the memo! ;) Like our new show art? Much thanks to Santi Fox for making it so! Many thanks to all the unknowns out there who keep sending us gifts but don't provide a return address! Should you call out your boyfriend's close female friend for flirting with him directly in front of you, or should you keep your cool? Friends give you the silent treatment when they're upset with you. Should you give them time to cool off, or is life just too short to deal with this kind of drama? Your mom has ADHD and gets so distracted by her phone and surroundings that it always causes a scene. How can you travel together and remain sane? You're either too social and your grad school work takes a hit, or you're too involved in school and your social life takes a hit. How can you strike a successful balance? Your friend/employer insists on paying you by check, but you usually have to text him reminders and personally pick it up. Aren't there easier ways to get paid these days? What are some tips for someone without a college degree going into interviews for entry-level corporate jobs? Life Pro Tip: For parents: Instead of always telling your child what to do, give them two options with the same outcome to prevent the headache of having them refuse the task. (For example, instead of telling them to put on their pajamas for bed, ask them which pajamas they want to wear to bed tonight. This works well because kids love having control over what they are doing.) For travelers: Bring a power strip with you to use at airports, and you'll never have to wait for an outlet to be available again. Recommendation of the Week: The Weekly, Hulu A quick shout out to Gareth Emery! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

John Tierney (@johntierneynyc) is an award-winning science columnist for The New York Times, and he's the co-author of The Power of Bad: How the Negativity Effect Rules Us and How We Can Rule It. [Featured photo by Jamie Meggas] What We Discuss with John Tierney: What is negativity bias, and why does even a small dose of it have the power to overwhelm even our greatest reserves of positivity? How can we psychologically overcome this innate negativity bias? How we can watch the news (especially during an election year) without succumbing to deep despair at the state of the world by consuming what John calls a low-bad diet. Why the worst person at your workplace has the power to passively drag the whole team down beyond the abilities of the best person to bring it up. The negative golden rule -- it's what you do not do unto others that really matters. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/312 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Susan David (@susandavid_phd) is a Harvard psychologist, co-founder and co-director of the Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital, and author of Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life. What We Discuss with Susan David: What is emotional agility? What’s wrong with trying to force ourselves to be happy all the time? Is our society misguided by a tyranny of positivity today? Unpleasant and negative emotions actually serve a purpose — but what is that purpose and how can we use it to our advantage? How do our thoughts, emotions, and stories hook us into responding ineffectively to life’s challenges, and how can we break these patterns? Practical ways to develop our responses to adversity that leave us stronger and more capable. And much more… Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/311 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

As an active 45-year-old woman who is usually mistaken for someone 10 years younger, you're throwing your hat back in the dating game after six years. You realize that if you put your actual age on your dating app profile, you'll probably get filtered out by the age range of men you're looking for. Friends have encouraged you to put down 37 or 38 as your dating profile age so you'll still fall within the desired search results, but you're uncomfortable about the deception. In a situation like this, should you fudge your age in dating apps? We'll break down this and much more on the latest Feedback Friday right here! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/310. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: When you're active and appear 10 years younger than you are, is fudging your age in dating apps acceptable if you're only trying to fool the search algorithm and not potential matches? You never really bonded with your mother and you'd like to change that now, but she considers you "selfish." How much responsibility do both parties have to create familial closeness? There's a family rift between your father and uncle thanks to inheritance drama. You'd like to invite your aunt to your wedding, but don't want to appear disloyal to your father. What's the right thing to do? You've noticed that people who are very successful seem to have mastered the skill of remembering people's names, but you're terrible at it. How can you get better at remembering the names of people you meet? You have an amazing new job opportunity, but you've been planning a gap year to travel abroad and the timing couldn't be worse. Should you trust your gut and travel even though this opportunity might never come your way again? What are your options? How do you strike a balance between being an entrepreneur and a family man without neglecting your spouse and new baby -- or the needs of the nascent company you've worked hard to build? Life Pro Tip: Google your kid's prospective name before they're born. This way, when their name is googled, people won’t see news of some a-hole criminal with the same name. Recommendation of the Week: Pandemic A quick shout out to Eric Hulbert! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What We Discuss with Laila Ali: What made Laila become the only boxer out of Muhammad Ali’s nine children? Why do fighters trash talk (and does Laila regret any trash talking she did during her fighting career)? How did Laila make the choice to pivot from an aspiring nail salon tycoon to a world-class boxer? What was it like growing up around fame, and how does Laila’s father’s legacy still affect her? How did Laila’s father react when she got serious about boxing? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/309 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Kris Buckner is the president of Investigative Consultants, with over 22 years of experience in investigations related to trademark counterfeiting, piracy, and other intellectual property matters. What We Discuss with Kris Buckner: Why the trillion-dollar counterfeiting industry should concern you -- even if you don't care that the "Gucci" bag you got for $12 can't be spotted as a knockoff by the snootiest in your circle of friends. What gets counterfeited? You name it: designer clothes, automobile parts, cancer medication, alcohol, makeup, vaping products, perfume, computer parts, and kids' cough syrup are just the tip of the iceberg. How buying or selling counterfeit goods -- knowingly or otherwise -- potentially benefits corrupt regimes, terrorists, and organized crime networks around the world. The real harm counterfeit goods pose to the end consumer, from health risks associated with contaminated products to loose parts that can become choking hazards for small children. The real harm counterfeit goods pose to the legitimate economy, from fewer jobs to less tax revenue that funds law enforcement and education. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/308 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Being unattractive to potential partners is obviously not ideal, but what happens when you're too physically attractive to land meaningful attention from someone who might complete you? We'll tackle this and more on the latest Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/307. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Our prison trip is officially full! If you want to get on the waiting list in case we have last-minute cancellations, please drop Jordan a line at [email protected]! Should a tip be optional unless service is above and beyond what's expected from your server -- instead of obligatory because the restaurant or business won't pay their staff enough? You've been at your job for a long time and you want to do something different. How do you let your employer know that you want to transition out of your current role while still keeping a positive relationship? You're the only child, and you've got an overly sensitive and selfish parent you need to take care of. What can you do to make sure they don't stress you out when you're expected to drop everything to attend to their needs? You're in a long-term relationship that seems to be on track for marriage. What do we suggest you talk about to make sure you're both on the same page before you make the biggest commitment of your life? You want to settle down in one place after moving to six different states and countries over the past 12 years, but your spouse can't seem to decide where to settle. What can you do to come to an agreeable compromise? You're a successful, moderately attractive person who seems to get attention from all the wrong people. Potential friends either want to date you or worry their partners want to date you. On top of all this, you're demisexual. How can you find someone compatible? Life Pro Tip: Instead of spending a day shopping, spend a day cleaning out your closet. You will find clothes you didn't realize you had and re-discover old favorites you thought you had lost. Plus, it's free! Recommendation of the Week: Wrong Man A quick shout out to Amanda Milligan! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

BJ Fogg (@bjfogg) is the founder and director of the Stanford Behavior Design Lab, and author of Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything. [Featured photo by Nathaniel Gerdes] What We Discuss with BJ Fogg: The main reasons we fail at behavior change -- even when we rationally know the long-term benefits heavily outweigh any short-term discomforts. The B=MAP Fogg Behavior Model that can be applied universally to understanding (and correcting) every type of behavior there is. How starter steps and tiny habits work as effective ways to "trick" our change-resistant human brains into radical behavior change. Why BJ prefers the term "untangling" rather than "breaking" in reference to habits we want to discontinue. Why repetition is often repeated as being the catalyst for creating habits, why this tidbit of popular misinformation is so wrong, and what really works as a better catalyst. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/306 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shaka Senghor (@ShakaSenghor) is a leading voice in criminal justice reform, the director of innovation and strategy at #Cut50, and the consulting producer for the OWN docuseries Released. He is also the author of Writing My Wrongs: Life, Death, and Redemption in an American Prison. What We Discuss with Shaka Senghor: How Shaka's childhood neighborhood in Detroit quickly went from idyllic to nightmarish when the crack epidemic struck in the '80s (and what he spent his money on when he became a dealer). The assorted sources of trauma faced by kids who wind up in the drug-dealing lifestyle and why such a lifestyle is initially appealing to them -- in spite of exposing them to very adult consequences. Why the current opioid crisis may actually be instrumental in helping heal societal class and racial divides widened during the crack epidemic. Why removing the stigma of mental health treatment is crucial to breaking the cycles of recidivism in which young people often get trapped. The series of events that landed Shaka in prison for 19 years, how he made use of his time there, and what he's doing to help fix a very broken system. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/305 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You're in your thirties, and although you've had reasonable success running your own business, you've always believed that you were lazy and unmotivated. You recently got diagnosed with ADHD and prescribed Adderall, and everything changed for the better. You're finally a hard worker, don't get distracted easily, and finish things you start. It's been a huge lifesaver and a huge boost to your self-confidence. After hearing Jordan talk about his negative experiences with Adderall in high school on the Darren Prince episode, it got you concerned. Your brother has been using Adderall for years, and said something that worried you. While on vacation, he lost his prescription and felt the need to find a doctor who could write him an emergency prescription. He regularly has to restrict towards the end of the month to make sure he doesn't run out, which signals he's taking extra doses. Should you be concerned for your brother getting addicted? Are you at risk of becoming dependent if you stay on it for years? We'll talk about this and much more on this latest episode of Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/304. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan for his birthday this February? The trip is officially full, but if you really, really want to go, reach out to [email protected] and we'll do our best to squeeze you in! Adderall's been a godsend in helping you focus since you were diagnosed with ADHD, but you worry you might become dependent on it over time. How can you avoid becoming addicted to study drugs? As a police officer, you train recruits to communicate effectively by treating people like humans, building rapport, and displaying empathy. So what's the best way for an officer to build rapport quickly during, for example, the brief interaction of a traffic stop? You want to help your mom move closer to you and the rest of the family because you know it will help alleviate her depression, but you're not exactly rich. How can you raise a loan or borrow money to cover her move and a place to live in a short amount of time? You slacked in high school and now you're a 30-year-old custodian. You have the ambition to return to school and seek work in the infosec/cybersecurity industry, but your wife is unable to work and you make just enough to get by. How can you stay working full time and return to school without spending money you don't have? What are our thoughts on investing in cryptocurrency in 2020? What's... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Megan Phelps-Roper (@meganphelps) grew up in the Westboro Baptist Church, an organization widely monitored as a hate group for its anti-gay, anti-Jewish, anti-American protests. She left WBC in 2012 and has since written about her experiences in Unfollow: A Memoir of Loving and Leaving the Westboro Baptist Church. This is part two of a two-part episode. Listen to part one here! What We Discuss with Megan Phelps-Roper: What catalyzed Megan and her sister's departure from the Westboro Baptist Church in 2012, and how do the family members left behind feel about their decision? The logistics Megan and her sister faced when they decided to leave the home and family they'd known their entire lives to start anew in the outside world. What Megan learned about the human capacity for empathy, generosity, forgiveness — and general goodness — by revisiting people she'd formerly picketed in WBC. What Megan's experiences have taught her about the cognitive biases we all have — about everything from religion to politics — no matter how smart we think we are. The four steps others used to break through to Megan and get her to have real conversations, and how we can use them to connect with people who disagree with us on a fundamental level. And much more… Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/303 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Megan Phelps-Roper (@meganphelps) grew up in the Westboro Baptist Church, an organization widely monitored as a hate group for its anti-gay, anti-Jewish, anti-American protests. She left WBC in 2012 and has since written about her experiences in Unfollow: A Memoir of Loving and Leaving the Westboro Baptist Church. This is part one of a two-part episode. Stay tuned for the second episode coming later this week! What We Discuss with Megan Phelps-Roper: What it was like to grow up in what documentary filmmaker Louis Theroux called "The Most Hated Family in America." Why the Westboro Baptist Church feels it's uniquely qualified to spread what it sees as the "true" word of God in a way that shocks and offends the rest of the world. How the Westboro Baptist Church interprets feelgood lessons from the Bible like "Love thy neighbor" and the tale of the good Samaritan. Why children who grow up in Westboro Baptist Church aren't educated at home, but encouraged to go to public schools. The complicated history of the church's founder (and Megan's grandfather), Fred Phelps, who championed civil rights for African-Americans as a lawyer while campaigning against homosexuals, Jewish people, dead soldiers, tsunami victims, Mr. Rogers, and others deemed "deviant" by his very specific interpretation of the Bible (e.g., everybody not belonging to Westboro Baptist Church). And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/302 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You're not sure if the speeding ticket you got driving across the country was given because you had out-of-state license plates, you were racially profiled, or there was an equipment failure of some kind, but you're pretty sure it wasn't for speeding. You want to fight it, but you're not sure what your legal options and obligations are. Friend of the show Corbin Payne, Esq. will explain how to fight an out-of-state speeding ticket the right way, and of course we'll try to do our best to answer a stack of other questions here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/301. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan for his birthday this February? It'll be here sooner than you know it! Reach out to [email protected] for details if you want to go! When you're paying so much money and time for the privilege of being part of your best friend's wedding party, is it unreasonable that, with plenty of notice, the caterer is refusing to accommodate your vegan request? Recently married, your partner has been voicing concern and guilt for living so far away from family. But due to the nature of your job (which you love), you can't move back to your home state without having to give it up. How do you make an informed decision in this situation? Driving across the country, you were stopped in Texas and ticketed for speeding even though your speedometer says otherwise. You're not sure if you were flagged for out-of-state plates or racially profiled, but you'd like to fight it. What are your legal options? [Thanks to Corbin Payne, Esq. for helping with this one!] We often advise listeners to find competent legal advice, but how do you go about choosing someone? How do you know you will get a performer and not a shyster? [Thanks again to Corbin Payne, Esq. for helping with this one!] The well-paying job where you've worked for 13 years is undergoing a transformation and trying to get rid of as many employees as possible. Of course morale is low and you'd love to quit even to take less money elsewhere, but you've got a baby on the way and your wife wants you to hang in there until you're out of debt. What should you do? Need a little help being a great dad? Ryan's Holiday's See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Simon Sinek (@simonsinek) is the best-selling author of Find Your Why and Start with Why. He returns to the show to discuss his latest offering, The Infinite Game, which offers a framework for leading with an infinite mindset in a limitless world. What We Discuss with Simon Sinek: Common public speaking gaffes and how to avoid making them. How Simon blocks time for himself in his calendar without feeling guilty. Finite games vs. infinite games: the metrics by which they're governed, the stakes for which they're played, and the mindsets required to master them. Why having a worthy rival (as opposed to competition) can be a healthy catalyst for personal growth -- and how you can select one. How friendship works as an equitable, not equal relationship. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/300 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Steve Elkins is a cinematographer and explorer whose discovery of and expedition to a legendary settlement in the rainforest of Honduras is chronicled in The Lost City of the Monkey God: A True Story by Douglas Preston. [Featured photo by Ryan Hartford of Ecliptic Media] What We Discuss with Steve Elkins: How did Steve and his team manage to only recently discover a legendary city in the Honduran rainforest that had been aggressively -- and fruitlessly -- sought out by disappointed locals and explorers for half a millennium? The countless natural and manmade dangers of exploring the mosquito-infested region of Honduras known locally as "The Gates of Hell" -- from venom-spitting snakes to quicksand to drug cartels. Why knowing an unhinged guy with a gun can come in handy when your producer needs to leave the expedition early and return to civilization for a family emergency. The logistics, legal considerations, and politics that go into being outsiders exploring the cultural heritage of another country. The details of what Steve and his team discovered, and what this discovery has brought to light beyond the mere satisfaction of archaeological curiosity. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/299 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Your dad is a pedophile. He's taken naked pictures of kids, including one of your cousins on your mom's side, and posted them online. He's been caught by the police, but he's been let go on some kind of probation. You don't know how to handle the situation. For some context, You're a high functioning autistic person. You're able to live on your own, take care of yourself, and hold down a full time job, but you have a lot of problems making and maintaining friendships and you have enough sensory issues that you don't like to leave your house any more than you need to. On the one hand, it would be a great relief to you if you never had to see or hear from your parents again. On the other hand, the number of people in your support network is already quite small, and you wouldn't want to lose contact with your sister, who has very severe mental health problems and is still living at home. What should you do? This is pretty dark and heavy territory, but we'll do our best to offer some real advice on this and much more in this Feedback Friday. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/298. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan for his birthday this February? It'll be here sooner than you know it! Reach out to [email protected] for details if you want to go! Your significant other paid for you to attend college and supported you financially as you started out in your career. Now that you're on track financially, you're having relationship issues. How should money factor into a situation like this? Years ago, your mother and sister found out your father was having affairs with multiple women. It was devastating at the time, but you all eventually moved on when he agreed to stop. Today, you saw him with one of those women. How do you handle this? Your dad is a convicted pedophile on probation. You're a high-functioning autistic person living on your own who would love to never see your parents again, but you don't want to lose contact with your sister who still lives at home. What can you do? Do the potential networking, career, and social benefits of living in a big, expensive city outweigh the increased cost of living? Your girlfriend has been getting therapy to improve in academia from an unlicensed "life coach" who sells her expensive (and ultimately useless) gadgets, and now has the gall to tell her you're manipulative, controlling, and patronizing for not being supportive. How can you lovingly steer your girlfriend away from this shameless shyster? How you can communicate a barter proposal in an attractive... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Eric Thomas (@ericthomasbtc) is a motivational speaker, YouTube personality, podcaster, pastor, director of Breathe University, and author of several books, including The Secret to Success: When You Want to Succeed as Bad as You Want to Breathe. What We Discuss with Eric Thomas: How Eric Thomas went from homeless to PhD to become one of the world's top motivational speakers. How and why to get out of our psychological bubbles whether we're broke or millionaires. Why we do not have to accept life as it was given to us. How to break out of patterns and mindsets that no longer serve us. What taking responsibility for our own actions ultimately gives us (and what blaming others takes away). And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/297 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Tasha Eurich (@tashaeurich) is an organizational psychologist, researcher, and New York Times bestselling author of Insight: The Surprising Truth About How Others See Us, How We See Ourselves, and Why the Answers Matter More Than We Think. What We Discuss with Tasha Eurich: How to identify and navigate the invisible barriers to self-awareness. Why thinking about ourselves isn't related to knowing ourselves. How to deal with the woefully un-self-aware people in your life. How to use mindfulness to become more self-aware, and how to practice it without mantras. Why no one is telling you the truth about how you're coming across -- and why that's dangerous. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/296 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shep Gordon (@SupermenschShep) is a talent manager, Hollywood film agent, producer, and author of They Call Me Supermensch: A Backstage Pass to the Amazing Worlds of Film, Food, and Rock'n'Roll. He is also the subject of Supermensch: The Legend of Shep Gordon -- a documentary by Mike Myers that chronicles his life and times. What We Discuss with Shep Gordon: How do you create history rather than waiting for it to happen? Do you have to be a jerk to make it in Hollywood? What's Shep's coupon system? What's the most selfish thing you can do? Is fame toxic? And so much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/295 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You have a nephew who has a history of undressing, touching genitals, and dry humping smaller, weaker humans than himself. These humans either do not consent or are unable to consent. It's well known in your family that he can't be left alone with children. There have been numerous incidents with different witnesses and victims spread out over the years. Today this nephew is 20 years old and expecting a baby with his live-in girlfriend. You were horrified and began asking if this girlfriend knew about his history. No one seems to know if she's aware, but are strongly agreed that it's not any of your places to tell her. But you fear that if you don't tell her, no one will. Taking it upon yourself, what's the best way to deliver the news? And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/294. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan this February? It's filling up fast; reach out to [email protected] for details! Your nephew has had a history of being sexually abusive, and now he has a kid of his own on the way. While the rest of your family wants to ignore the problem, how do you step up and tell the mother-to-be? As a frequent employee of the month, you recently negotiated a raise to your salary only to discover that you're making the same amount as someone who was recently hired and is already on probation for dropping the ball too many times. Should you say something? The Jordan Harbinger Show is banned in China, possibly for allowing guests to air anti-government opinions (and, to be fair, facts). Do Jordan and Jen ever worry about extended family who may still live there being in danger as a result? As your uncle's sole beneficiary, you were left with a house he wanted the family to enjoy after he passed. Your other family members feel they should be entitled to their fair share of what the house is worth, though they're happy enough to leave you holding the bag for the funeral, legal, bills, upkeep, and yard work. What should you do? Two months ago, you earned and accepted a job transfer within the company where you've worked for 14 years. Unfortunately, the department you're leaving is understaffed and overworked, and the status of your transfer has been postponed indefinitely. How can you continue to advocate for your transfer date without seeming like you have a bad attitude? Is it time to just find a new job? Life Pro Tip: Winter is in full force in many places, so be sure to keep a bag of cat litter (for traction under your tires if you get stuck in the snow), a shovel, a hat, gloves, a blanket or... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Zak Dychtwald (@zakdychtwald) is the Founder of think tank and consultancy Young China Group and author of Young China: How the Restless Generation Will Change Their Country and the World. What We Discuss with Zak Dychtwald: At 417 million strong, China has more millennials than North America, the Middle East, and Europe combined. Chinese millennials and its younger generations are experiencing -- and influencing -- a society and culture changing at 10 times the speed of what Western millennials have experienced. What this breakneck rate of change means for the childhood of someone growing up in modern China and the effect it has on his or her resulting worldview. Whether we view it as a collaborator, competitor, or consumer, this "Young China" is the single most important rising actor on the world stage. How Zak became fluent in Mandarin -- considered by the CIA to be the hardest language to learn in the world -- at the highest level in two and a half years instead of the customary six. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/293 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You've got two lovely kids, and you're perfectly content to stop there, but your spouse has other plans. How do you break the news you're not of like mind to have a third? We'll try to tackle this and more on the latest Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/292. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Your spouse has been pushing for a third child, but you figure two is enough. Is there a way to find common ground? Your sibling and their fiance have decided to get married on one of the few nights you can't get out of work. To whom do you owe your loyalty? Your mother stopped making payments on a parent loan taken out for your education, and now you're stuck with $28,000 in interest. What happens next? You accidentally fell asleep on the job, and if you don't adjust your time card, no one else would be the wiser. What should you do? Retiring from a professional athletic career, you wonder if your BA in economics will cut it for your next career move, or if you should go back to school? Your friend is publishing articles about his industry in order to raise his profile at work. But how do you tactfully suggest that his writing is sorely in need of editing? Life Pro Tip: If you're on a Mac, use Bartender, Endurance, FruitJuice, and iStat Menus. Recommendation of the Week: Broken Quick shout outs to Melissa Kellogg and Jon Bjork! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, join his podcasting club, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When a family inheritance is split between two siblings, only one of them is given control over how the money is spent due to the other's penchant for get-rich-quick scams and bad investments. What can the family do to close the rift this power dynamic is causing while ensuring half of the inheritance isn't wasted on a pyramid scheme? This and more on the latest Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/290. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan next February? It's filling up fast; reach out to [email protected] for details! Suggestions are in for how we should refer to our listener base! How can you keep your relative from wasting his inheritance on a pyramid scheme? Your current employer is ghosting your requests for owed vacation days and paperwork needed to transfer to a new job. How should you proceed? How can you renegotiate for a better salary when you gladly accepted an offer without negotiating in the first place? As a healthcare worker who sees death more often than most, how can you healthily deal with the spiritual void you feel thanks to a bad relationship with organized religion? When is it okay to stop banging your head against the system and just relax? What should you make of it when your wife of almost a decade out of the blue suggests that she wants you to get a girlfriend? How do you find a trustworthy guardian or fiduciary for the kids when the parents pass? [Thanks to Corbin Payne, Esq. for helping with this one!] You're a female personal trainer with a dream to help gamers -- who are predominantly male -- live healthier lifestyles. How can you assure your husband of your safety? Life Pro Tip: When you replace "Why is this happening to me?" with "What do I need to do now?" everything shifts. Action ends suffering. Recommendation of the Week: Tell Me Who I Am Quick shout outs to Dave Olverson and Melody Wilding for recommending FollowUpThen -- and James Gibbins for recommending Tinyblu -- to the person who asked for a free CRM in See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Akshay Nanavati (@fearvanalife) is a former Marine who has survived PTSD, depression, alcoholism, and suicidal ideation to build a global business, run ultramarathons, and explore the world's most hostile environments. He is also the author of Fearvana: The Revolutionary Science of How to Turn Fear into Health, Wealth and Happiness. What We Discuss with Akshay Nanavati: What going on a seven-day retreat in total darkness and isolation taught Akshay about himself that transcended rationality and the reality of his senses. Why Akshay believes that the single greatest barrier standing in the way of our well-being is our negative relationship to suffering -- such as the way we demonize fear, stress, and anxiety. What does Akshay mean when he recommends finding "the worthy struggle" that will make our suffering meaningful? Stillness accompanied by consciousness and intention versus doing nothing, and what we risk by being afraid to confront what lurks in the space of our deepest darkness. Why Akshay considers the prevailing idea in the self-help world of "I am enough" to be nonsense, why we are not enough, and -- most important -- why that's not a bad thing. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/289 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Erik Weihenmayer (@ErikWeihenmayer) has kayaked the Grand Canyon and climbed Mount Everest -- blind. He is the author of Touch the Top of the World and co-author of No Barriers and The Adversity Advantage. What We Discuss with Erik Weihenmayer: How challenges unite us as human beings -- no matter our hardships or handicaps. Why losing his sight as a teenager didn't discourage Erik from excelling beyond the capacity of the world's most accomplished extreme athletes. How Erik embraces a "no barriers" philosophy to guide and lift others -- even when their own cultures seek to keep them down. Why Erik's not "the blind climber," but a climber who happens to be blind -- and why this makes all the difference. The instincts, senses, and technology that allow Erik to navigate around his dangerous terrains of choice without sight. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/288 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You find criticism somewhat punishing rather than productive -- especially when it's given by people you love. So how can you stop taking feedback so personally? We'll explore this and more on the latest Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/287 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How should we refer to our listener base? Is there a reason to share your salary with anyone else? Is it your imagination that there's tension between you and the only other woman in the office? As a business owner, how should you respond to competition fishing for pricing? How do you find hangout buddies? What can you do to help your boss step up as the leader you need him or her to be? Are extremely confident people drawn to jobs like teaching? Or is it the job that brings out the best in people? How do you keep contacts in your network from going cold? How should you stop taking feedback so personally -- especially when it's given by the people you love? Life Pro Tip: Compliment people on what you want them to be, even if they may not live up to it yet. Because when people hear themselves referred to in a certain way, they'll be motivated to act more that way. Recommendation of the Week: Bikram: Yogi, Guru, Predator (And advice: Don't believe everything you see in any documentary. Always do some follow-up research before treating it as gospel!) Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan this February? It's filling up fast; reach out to [email protected] for details! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, join his podcasting club, and check out... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jack Barsky (@DeepCoverBarsky) joins us to discuss his book Deep Undercover: My Secret Life and Tangled Allegiances as a KGB Spy in America. This is part two of a two-part episode; part one can be found here! What We Discuss with Jack Barsky: We continue Jack Barsky's story that began in episode 285. Make sure you start there! How Jack handled a double life -- complete with two families. Why the once-powerful allure of Soviet-style communism began to wane over time for Jack. Why Jack decided to stay in the United States and become a "real" American. How Jack shook his KGB handlers. And so much more... And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/286 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jack Barsky (@DeepCoverBarsky) joins us to discuss his book Deep Undercover: My Secret Life and Tangled Allegiances as a KGB Spy in America. This is part one of a two-part episode; part two airs later this week! What We Discuss with Jack Barsky: What Jack Barsky's childhood was like in postwar East Germany. The stickiness of Soviet-style communist ideology and how it appealed to young people on Jack's side of the Iron Curtain. How spies were recruited and trained during the Cold War. What skills Jack used to assimilate seamlessly into American culture. Why caution is a spy's best friend; paranoia is his enemy. And so much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/285 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

While doing a little Facebook stalking recently, you noticed that photos of your wife's ex-boyfriend's youngest look suspiciously like your own youngest. You're thinking about discreetly having your kid take a paternity test, but you're honestly not sure what you'd do if the results confirmed your suspicions. So what should you do? We'll try to help you with this and more on the latest Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/284. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Should you secretly undertake a paternity test on your 11-year old? You're a cybersecurity student stuck in a career ditch. How do you dig yourself out? You struggle with stammering. What can you do to find your way through? How do you sell ideas without getting them stolen? What does "I'm here if you need anything" actually mean, and how far can you take it? Threatened by hackers, you wonder: where do old passwords go to die? Should you report your ex for a visa breach that could get them deported? How can you get out of spending Thanksgiving with your fiance's family for for much needed "me" time? Life Pro Tip: Next commute, take time to listen to your car without the radio on. Your ears may pick up on sounds you wouldn't otherwise notice that indicate it's time to take it to the shop. Recommendation of the Week: Hail Satan? A quick shout out to Kay for recommending Bikram: Yogi, Guru, Predator on Netflix! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, join his podcasting club, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! On...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Brian Koppelman (@BrianKoppelman) is a writer, filmmaker, producer, and director. He's currently the showrunner, co-creator, and executive producer of Billions on Showtime and the host of The Moment podcast. What We Discuss with Brian Koppelman: Law school is an expensive (but not completely useless) place to learn life lessons. How do you know when you've done work of "undeniable" quality -- in the absolute sense? The line between being an artist and being delusional is very thin. If you want to be a screenwriter, read a thousand screenplays. We focus so much on the hustle that sometimes we forget to focus on the work. And so much more… Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/283 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ken Perenyi is a former art forger who spent 34 years creating fake paintings that passed muster among the experts in the world's major auction houses and galleries. He comes clean to tell us how he got away with it in his book Caveat Emptor: The Secret Life of an American Art Forger. What We Discuss with Ken Perenyi: How Ken, as an academically disinclined New Jersey teenager with no artistic background and zero plans for the future, fell headfirst into the New York art scene of the '60s and '70s. What a fortuitous trip to The Metropolitan Museum of Art awakened in Ken and how it led from technical curiosity to natural talent to outright forgery. How Ken prematurely aged his work to appear hundreds of years old, the materials he used, and how long it took him to create forgeries that would fool even lifelong, devoted experts. The first nervous deal Ken ever made and how it fed an ambition to take his talents as far as they would go. How Ken survived scrutiny by the mafia and FBI, changed his ways, and now works on the level selling "high-class fakes" rather than "forgeries." And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/282 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Your shopaholic wife spends like there's no tomorrow, and is irked that you won't add her to the account for the business you've been running since before you were married. In fact, she loves to gain sympathy from others by telling them you're hiding money away from her -- which irks you. But one practical question did recently come up: What happens to the money in that account if anything should ever happen to you and she doesn't have access to it? On this Feedback Friday, we delve into this and much more! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/281. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan next February? It's filling up fast; reach out to [email protected] for details! It's been a long day. Are you a jerk for not letting someone cut in front of you in the grocery store checkout line just because they say their child is waiting for them in their car and everyone behind you already let them through? You were able to use the tips you learned about negotiation in our episodes with Alex Kouts and Ramit Sethi to get a raise from your old boss. But now that it's time to ask for an increase, you've got a new boss with whom you haven't yet established rapport. Should you wait? In another nod to the Alex Kouts episodes, you've negotiated the raises to elevate you into a higher tax bracket -- but you're clueless about how to behave in the associated culture. How do you fit in with your new peers without feeling like you just landed on another planet? Even though your parents don't let your 10-year-old sister use Instagram because they don't want her interacting with creepy DMs from predators, she's allowed to use TikTok because of the "funny videos" even though you know the creeps are there, too. How can you keep her safe? Three years ago, you married a widow whose husband died three years before that. You don't really have a problem talking about him with her, but you no longer want to visit his grave with her where she breaks down and makes you feel like a consolation prize. Is this wrong of you? Your shop-happy wife is irked that she doesn't have access to the business account you've had since before you got married, and... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Sarah Hill (@sarahehillphd) is a leading researcher in the dynamic and rapidly expanding field of evolutionary psychology, and the author of This Is Your Brain on Birth Control: The Surprising Science of Women, Hormones, and the Law of Unintended Consequences. What We Discuss with Dr. Sarah Hill: How hormonal birth control affects women -- and the world around them -- in ways we are just now beginning to understand. Why a woman will be attracted to a certain partner while taking hormonal birth control -- and the problems this could cause for a relationship when she stops taking it. On a hormonal contraceptive, a woman is twice as likely to have attempted suicide as a woman who was not on a hormonal contraceptive. Why, in spite of its drawbacks, Sarah credits the pill to her own ability to achieve a doctorate and career success. Why these new findings should be a rallying cry for women to demand more information from science about how their bodies and brains work and to advocate for better research. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/280 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dennis Quaid has been a Hollywood leading man for decades, fronts a band called The Sharks, and now stars in a new scripted musical podcast called Bear and a Banjo. What We Discuss with Dennis Quaid: Whether or not getting rejected for a coveted job in Hollywood ever gets easier -- even when you've been getting cast for decades. Why Dennis considers fear his greatest motivator -- and what this indicates to him when he feels it upon being offered a role. The hardest place to get respect, the greatest things our kids teach us, and where dad jokes go to die. Listening versus improvising, and how Dennis brings his characters to life without strictly memorizing his lines before arriving on set. Accents, biographical misinformation, and how learning to play a real-life astronaut led to Dennis learning how to fly real-life planes. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/279 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! On Morning Brew's Business Casual, Kinsey Grant sits down with the biggest names in business to talk about the biggest stories in business. This week, they're tackling the streaming wars with none other than Matthew Ball. Subscribe to Business Casual here or wherever you listen to podcasts! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When you were kids, you and your brother moved to the other side of the country with your mother and stepfather not long after your parents divorced. You never saw your father again, and believed your mother when she said that he and his mother -- your grandmother -- had died. Fast forward to now. You and your brother are adults, and he's got a bombshell to drop: your grandmother is still alive, and your father only recently passed away. Feeling betrayed, you've pieced together your mother and stepfather's systematic strategy to estrange you from your dad's side of the family (who, by the way, tried to find you over that time without success) -- and you're angry. You feel robbed of the time you could have spent with them, and you're wondering how you should raise the issue with your mother -- or if you should. This is obviously a sensitive situation, but we'll do our best to help you with this and more on the latest Feedback Friday. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/278. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan next February? It's filling up fast; reach out to [email protected] for details! When you have to cover for your kid's friend's expenses on a movie and pizza night because his mom neglected to provide him with any cash, is it wrong for you to expect his mother to recompensate you for those expenses even though she works two jobs and says you look like you can afford it? Your 80-year-old grandmother insists on bringing your bedridden and nonverbal father home instead of putting him in a place where he can get the constant care he needs. Putting your grandmother's strong will aside, what's the most responsible call to make here? As kids, you and your brother moved across the country with your mom when your parents divorced. Until recently, you never saw your dad's side of the family again because, your brother recently discovered, your mom lied about your father and your grandmother's deaths. How do you confront your mother -- or should you? You have a serious case of wanderlust. You have no debt, no children, and above average savings. But your friends and family look at you like you're insane whenever you mention leaving a job you love in order to travel. You know that the amazing experiences will be worth it, but can't help but wonder: are you crazy? You work in an incredibly cutthroat sales company where only 10%-15% of employees hired retain their employment, and you're in that top 15%. But you don't love your job and only stick around because you've got the "golden handcuffs" to keep you tethered. You're an underperforming... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Neil Pasricha (@neilpasricha) is a New York Times bestselling author of five books including The Book of Awesome, The Happiness Equation, and his latest, You Are Awesome: How to Navigate Change, Wrestle with Failure, and Live an Intentional Life. What We Discuss with Neil Pasricha: Why anxiety is at an all-time high when we live in an age of relative ease compared to what our ancestors (and even recent generations) endured. Why you need to be prepared — and willing — to lose more if you want to win more from what life has to offer. How to set up incredibly productive untouchable days where you're basically unplugged and unreachable — even when you have bosses and significant others who may be resistant to the idea. How to use the Saturday morning test to brainstorm new skills, adventures, and personal improvements you'd like to implement. A failure budget you can use to try new things, fail, and rejoin the fray — enhanced by the experience, but with relatively few scrapes and bruises. And much more… Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/277 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

James Stavridis (@stavridisj) is a retired United States Navy admiral, operating executive with The Carlyle Group, and author. His latest book, Sailing True North: Ten Admirals and the Voyage of Character, is out now. What We Discuss with James Stavridis: What Admiral Stavridis means when he says we're "overweight in thinking about leadership and underweight in thinking about character." Why creativity and innovation are important for leaders -- and the roadblocks that tend to smother these qualities as we achieve in our lives and careers. Principles followed when top brass make decisions that put people in harm's way. The winners and losers in the recent decision to pull US troops from Syria and what this means for our former allies in the region. Meditations on single malt scotch whisky and the dangers of bringing alcohol to sea on a US Navy ship. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/276 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! On Morning Brew's Business Casual, Kinsey Grant sits down with the biggest names in business to talk about the biggest stories in business. This week, they're tackling the streaming wars with none other than Matthew Ball. Subscribe to Business Casual here or wherever you listen to podcasts! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Your fiance travels and stays in hotels at different locations every week for work. The other day, you found black Victoria's Secret panties in your laundry. The thing it, you don't wear Victoria's Secret. So you approached him and said, "I need help understanding how this is in our belongings." He said this is a truly unfortunate situation because he doesn't know how it got there. You closely watched him for any signs that would alarm you as hints of lying. You found none. Is there any surefire way to know if a significant other is cheating beyond what amounts to circumstantial evidence? We'll try to unlock this and more on the latest Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/275. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan next February? It's filling up fast; reach out to [email protected] for details! A mysterious pair of panties that don't belong to you showed up in your laundry after your fiance returned from a business trip. He says he has no idea how they got there. Is there a surefire way to tell if he's been cheating and lying? You're a single dad who shares equal custody of a five-year-old son. His mom and new husband have offered the option to stay in a trailer on their property. You all get along great and this would be convenient for everyone, but is it an appropriate arrangement? As a leader in the workplace, you helped someone you thought was an amazing employee get promoted. Now you find that this person is mocking you behind your back and taking sick days once a month. You went to bat for this person and you feel betrayed. What now? You've been using techniques in Six-Minute Networking for talking to strangers, but what can you do when people aggressively try to shut down a conversation? Should you just call it a loss, cut bait, and move on, or try to break the dam a different way? You broke up with your girlfriend of four years because she started having feelings for another woman. Neither of you want this, but you're not able to continue loving her and only her knowing that she doesn't love you and only you back. Where do you go from here? You're worried that your significant other's negativity is rubbing off on you; your social life is suffering and you haven't felt like yourself lately. Even though you still care about them, you feel breaking up is the best way to give them the time and space they need. But how? You just started a new career. You want to start off strongly, but you already feel intimidated and think perhaps you have a little imposter syndrome. What can... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Darren Prince (@agent_dp) is a prominent sports and celebrity agent and global advocate for addiction and recovery. His book Aiming High: How a Prominent Sports and Celebrity Agent Hit Bottom at the Top is out now.[Featured photo by Ryan Hartford of Ecliptic Media] What We Discuss with Darren Prince: How Darren was making multiple six figures by the time he was old enough to drive. What got Darren started on a 24-year journey of addiction and how he found the exit to a recovery that's been going on for 11 years strong now. What it's like to go drinking with Dennis Rodman and rely on him to be the responsible one when it's time to wake up and go to work the next morning. What Darren does to fulfill his mission to help others avoid and break free from addiction. Lots of celebrity stories from someone who's not just an agent for his clients — he's also their fan. And much more… Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/274 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! The Ben Greenfield Fitness Podcast presents interviews with exercise, diet, and medical professionals, and an entertaining mash-up of ancestral wisdom and modern science, along with Q&As and mind-body-spirit optimizing content from America's top personal trainer. Listen here or wherever you get your podcasts. Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Scott Adams (@ScottAdamsSays) is the creator of comic strip Dilbert, a talent stacker extraordinaire, and bestselling author. His latest book, Loserthink: How Untrained Brains Are Ruining America, is out now. What We Discuss with Scott Adams: Why the term “loserthink” isn't about being uninformed — it's about unproductive thinking. Mental models we use that sometimes fail us, and thinking traps that we fall into when we're looking to interpret communication, evaluate facts or evidence, and form opinions. How to evaluate fake news and see why the business models of many media outlets have been redesigned to keep us engaged at the expense of accuracy and truth. When and how to dial down our ego so we can clarify our thinking, and also when and how we can use our ego as a tool to move forward. Ways to evaluate and poke holes in bad arguments, and strengthen our own methods of thinking and arguing. And much more… Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/273 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! On No Dumb Questions, a science guy from the deep south (Destin of Smarter Every Day) and a humanities guy from the wild west (Matt Whitman of The Ten Minute Bible Hour) discuss deep questions with varying levels of maturity. Give No Dumb Questions a listen here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Last week you texted your parents to let them know you'd be able to make it home for Christmas this year. They called back to tell you how they decided several years ago to buy a boat. The only problem was that they didn't have the $20,000 to buy it. Their solution? Take out a student loan in your name, of course! Now they've missed several payments and it's about to default, and your father had the nerve to say, "If you're going to make a big deal about this, it's best if you don't come home this year." In shock and 'about' $25,000' in debt, you're wondering if you should sue your parents for identity theft. On this Feedback Friday, we'll do our best to help you figure out not only if, but how to sue your parents for identity theft if you decide it's the right thing to do. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/272. On This Week’s Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Your parents are about to default on a $20,000 student loan they took out in your name without permission so they could buy a boat. So now the question is not only if, but how to sue your parents for identity theft and make sure you’re not on the hook for their mistake. This year, your sister bought plentiful gifts for your oldest and youngest kids, but shorted the middle one considerably. You don’t want to appear ungrateful, but what can you do to make it clear how this is going to play out for Jan Brady on Christmas morning? You have trouble connecting and communicating with people and cultures outside your own. You’re a science-y, city type struggling with social skills, and your work brings you into contact with a more rural demographic. How can you bridge the gap? Because you compete in beauty pageants, some make incorrect assumptions about your intelligence. How can you build your professional identity and network as a future physician without having to hide your personal interests and accomplishments? You’re in a small market and want to get noticed by potential mentors or hiring managers outside of your geographic location. What thoughts or strategies do we have for moving up the corporate ladder? Your recent college graduate son is an introvert with Asperger-like qualities when it comes to interpersonal skills. When you bring up networking as a way to get ahead in his new career, he shuts down and exits the conversation. How can you best support his progress? You’re starting to plan your work travel for next year. How do we decide what conferences and events are worth our time when we’re making our travel plans? You hate winter so much because of the cold, the dark, and the holidays. You get depressed and stressed, and basically hibernate. What do we recommend for people with past abuse for whom the holidays turn into a deep, dark, angry depression? Life Pro Tip: If you have aging parents, go through their bills with them and make... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ryan Holiday (@ryanholiday) is the bestselling author of Trust Me, I'm Lying; The Obstacle Is the Way; Ego Is the Enemy; Conspiracy, and other books about marketing, culture, and the human condition. His latest offering is Stillness Is the Key. What We Discuss with Ryan Holiday: How successful people learn to process feedback -- and consider its source in order to improve and move forward. Why self-awareness is the secret weapon of some of the highest-performing people you'll meet. What can keep us striving and moving upward in a world where it's way too easy to compare ourselves to one another and beat ourselves up in the process. How Ryan found the purpose and motivation to write eight books and ghost write another six by the time he was 30. The eerie, intuitive, borderline magical superpowers of Mr. Rogers, Cesar Millan, and the two daycare miracle workers who can put 15 toddlers down for a nap (including Ryan's son) simultaneously every day. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/271 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Join entrepreneur, technology investor, and self-experimenter Kevin Rose as he explores new ways to reach peak personal and professional performance on The Kevin Rose Show -- listen here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ben Horowitz (@bhorowitz) is a founding partner of superstar venture capital firm Andreessen Horowitz, and the author of NYT Best Seller The Hard Thing About Hard Things: Building a Business When There Are No Easy Answers and his latest, What You Do Is Who You Are: How to Create Your Business Culture. What We Discuss with Ben Horowitz: What the Haitian slave revolt can teach us about creating a thriving, resilient company culture from chaos. Why a company's culture -- for better or worse -- will endure in the memory of the people who work there far longer than the consequences of a bad quarter. The disasters that strike when a company's core values and culture reveal their dark side. How prison culture influences the way some billion dollar tech companies are managed. Ben's possibly surprising musical preferences and how they fuel his own creative direction. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/270 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! On No Dumb Questions, a science guy from the deep south (Destin of Smarter Every Day) and a humanities guy from the wild west (Matt Whitman of The Ten Minute Bible Hour) discuss deep questions with varying levels of maturity. Give No Dumb Questions a listen here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Your stepdaughter is 14 and has been living full time with you and your husband for about eight years. Every other weekend she spends with her mom, who you know is a sex worker. The stepdaughter just says her mom works away, but doesn't know what she does. Recently you were sent a screenshot of a Facebook post from another mom in your stepdaughter's class asking if it was real. The post had an ad for your stepdaughter's Mom's "services." You haven't answered yet because you don't know what to say. Since it's out on Facebook, should you give the stepdaughter a heads up that her mom takes money for sex, or do you let her get blindsided by the kids in school? On this Feedback Friday, we'll try to help you do the right thing here. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/269. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan next February? It's filling up fast; reach out to [email protected] for details! Unknown to her, your stepdaughter's biological mother is a sex worker. Now that busybodies in your town have found out, should you tell her before she finds out from her bullying classmates? You're forced to interact often with someone who doesn't respect your time and keeps you locked in long, boring conversations for what adds up to about three hours a week. What's your best escape plan? Your fiance's sister moved to a new city and hasn't had much success with networking. As far as you know, she hasn't made any friends, isn't dating, and doesn't have any hobbies. You want to help her, but you're not sure how. What do we suggest? When you have new coworkers who seem to go out of their way to exclude you from their conversations, it's hard not to take it personally. What can you do, if anything, to cope with cliques in the workplace? You've found a job for which you'd love to apply, but the company is requiring a cover letter with pay requirements. Is there a comfortable middle ground you can ask for that doesn't make you seem overzealous? You're analytical, and your spouse is emotional. You usually play off of each other's strengths, but you're currently in a conversational stalemate in which you feel like your spouse is treating you like a jerk for just trying to help. What's really going on here? You recently graduated from a great school, but you've only managed to get a handful of interviews and no offers over the last several months. Your confidence and resources are dwindling and you don't know what else to do. How can you keep your spirits up while finding your bearings? What does cultivating relationships through networking when you're just... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.