The Dynamics Of Everyday Life

We all know the days when we take a deep breath and metaphorically put on our armour.  It’s not fun.  But why are we doing this?  What’s happening when we feel like we need to defend ourselves against people, situations or the world in general?  In this episode I’m exploring why we might be reaching for our shields and what steps we can take to learn how to look after ourselves better, so we aren’t dragging that armour around with us!Here are the highlights for this episode:(1.06) Freud or Jung?(1.32) Freud and Defence(5.15) Freud and Jung’s “bromance”(6.02) Jung and the persona(8.53) Invitation for this weekConnect with Julia:WebsiteLinkedInInstagramABOUT THE PODCASTThe Dynamics of Everyday Life explores the psychological patterns shaping how we think, work and relate to others; bringing psychodynamic thinking into coaching, leadership and everyday life.If you're a coach interested in learning more about psychodynamic approaches to coaching, you can explore Julia's training programmes on her website.FOLLOW THE PODCASTIf you're enjoying The Dynamics of Everyday Life, follow the podcast on your listening app so you don't miss future episodes.

Pain is something that all of us will go through at some point in our lives, and for some of us it will be chronic.  However, this isn’t talked about very much and most people will rely on painkillers and what their healthcare provider tells them to do.  This might work – and it might not, and can leave us feeling bewildered and alone in what steps to take next. In today’s episode I welcome chronic pain expert, Narinder Sheena, to share her experience of living with and working through chronic pain.  There’s lots to learn from Narinder’s story.  She speaks with warmth and encouragement that chronic pain doesn’t have to be with us for life.  To connect with Narinder you can find her at www.mapcoach.co.uk and at Narinder Sheena on LinkedIn.Here are the highlights for this episode:(1.35) Freud’s concept of somatic compliance(5.10) Having the belief in the power to heal yourself(7.08) The brain needs to know what the problem is(15.37) How to soothe your nervous system(22.35) How do you bring yourself back?Connect with Julia:WebsiteLinkedInInstagramABOUT THE PODCASTThe Dynamics of Everyday Life explores the psychological patterns shaping how we think, work and relate to others; bringing psychodynamic thinking into coaching, leadership and everyday life.If you're a coach interested in learning more about psychodynamic approaches to coaching, you can explore Julia's training programmes on her website.FOLLOW THE PODCASTIf you're enjoying The Dynamics of Everyday Life, follow the podcast on your listening app so you don't miss future episodes.

Don’t go to the DIY store for milk.  Seems simple doesn’t it?  If only it was as easy as it sounds.  In this episode I’m exploring why we will often look to get our needs met in places and people that aren’t right for us, and the corresponding upset that this can cause.  Fortunately we don’t have to be destined to stay on this roundabout forever.  Have a listen and find out what’s happening when we are looking in the wrong place, and equally, what we can do about it.Here are the highlights for this episode:(1.21) Going to the DIY store for milk(3.23) The ego and the defence mechanisms being activated(5.54) Back at defence mechanism bingo(6.50) How can we stop looking for our needs to be met in the wrong place?(8.17) Metaphorically being back at the DIY storeConnect with Julia:WebsiteLinkedInInstagramABOUT THE PODCASTThe Dynamics of Everyday Life explores the psychological patterns shaping how we think, work and relate to others; bringing psychodynamic thinking into coaching, leadership and everyday life.If you're a coach interested in learning more about psychodynamic approaches to coaching, you can explore Julia's training programmes on her website.FOLLOW THE PODCASTIf you're enjoying The Dynamics of Everyday Life, follow the podcast on your listening app so you don't miss future episodes.

Why do we do things over and over again, even though we tell ourselves that we are going to do things differently?  Why is it so hard to make changes that we know we want to make?  In this episode I dive into another of Freud’s concepts; the compulsion to repeat.  By looking at the theory and applying it to what we are doing in our own lives we can start to get a bit more of that elusive control back.  And there’s a nod to Cabaret and Depeche Mode too – what’s not to like?Here are the highlights for this episode:(1.30) Einstein’s definition of insanity(3.18) Return of the repressed(3.55) The reality principle(5.11) The compulsion to repeat is a way of gaining mastery(8.50) Let’s give ourselves some graceConnect with Julia:WebsiteLinkedInInstagramABOUT THE PODCASTThe Dynamics of Everyday Life explores the psychological patterns shaping how we think, work and relate to others; bringing psychodynamic thinking into coaching, leadership and everyday life.If you're a coach interested in learning more about psychodynamic approaches to coaching, you can explore Julia's training programmes on her website.FOLLOW THE PODCASTIf you're enjoying The Dynamics of Everyday Life, follow the podcast on your listening app so you don't miss future episodes.

Today I’m thinking about a moment that many of us will have experienced and would most likely rather forget – that of being the last one to be picked for a team in our PE classes.  It seems to be something that hasn’t been left behind, despite our best efforts.  I’m interested in what the reasons for this might be.  Why do we still worry about if we are going to be chosen by other people?Here are the highlights for this episode:(1.00) If our school days aren’t the best days of our lives it’s no bad thing (2.35) Revisiting Freud’s Group Psychology and the Analysis of the Ego (3.13) What part do you play in a group? (5.46) Andy Murray at Wimbledon’s impact on a group (7.40) What do we do about this? (9.47) We don’t see us as other people see usConnect with Julia:WebsiteLinkedInInstagramABOUT THE PODCASTThe Dynamics of Everyday Life explores the psychological patterns shaping how we think, work and relate to others; bringing psychodynamic thinking into coaching, leadership and everyday life.If you're a coach interested in learning more about psychodynamic approaches to coaching, you can explore Julia's training programmes on her website.FOLLOW THE PODCASTIf you're enjoying The Dynamics of Everyday Life, follow the podcast on your listening app so you don't miss future episodes.

In this episode, we tackle the daunting topic of redundancy after 50, with my guest Tom Parkin, who shares his journey from a stable career to an unexpected redundancy at 51. Tom's story is not just about the struggles, but also the resilience and value experience brings, offering hope and strategies for those in similar situations. Join us as we uncover how an apparent setback can lead to new beginnings and affirm that life’s potential doesn’t diminish with age.I’m really excited to share this episode, featuring my first-ever guest with you today. Here are the highlights: (2:24) Career, redundancy, and an unexpected turn of events(7:06) Ageism in the workplace(12:35) Career transition and COVID-19 impact(16:46) Unemployment and job search challenges(27:29) Returning to work after a long absence(32:42) Career rediscovery and job search strategiesConnect with Julia:WebsiteLinkedInInstagramABOUT THE PODCASTThe Dynamics of Everyday Life explores the psychological patterns shaping how we think, work and relate to others; bringing psychodynamic thinking into coaching, leadership and everyday life.If you're a coach interested in learning more about psychodynamic approaches to coaching, you can explore Julia's training programmes on her website.FOLLOW THE PODCASTIf you're enjoying The Dynamics of Everyday Life, follow the podcast on your listening app so you don't miss future episodes.

Are there people in your life that you struggle to get along with? Maybe you find yourself questioning who you are in the relationship. There are many factors that can affect our friendships and in this episode I want us to look at one of the biggest ones, transference! I’ll help you understand why we project the things we don't like on other people and how we can manage this so that we get the best out of our relationships.  Here are the highlights(01:18) Transference!(03:52) How do we spot it?(05:21) Examples of positive transference.(06:41) The impact of transference.(07:36) Things that we can do about it.Connect with Julia:WebsiteLinkedInInstagramABOUT THE PODCASTThe Dynamics of Everyday Life explores the psychological patterns shaping how we think, work and relate to others; bringing psychodynamic thinking into coaching, leadership and everyday life.If you're a coach interested in learning more about psychodynamic approaches to coaching, you can explore Julia's training programmes on her website.FOLLOW THE PODCASTIf you're enjoying The Dynamics of Everyday Life, follow the podcast on your listening app so you don't miss future episodes.

School plays an important role in helping us find people with similar interests. It also provides us with enough time to build great friendships. But when it's over and we enter the real world, it can be challenging to find and maintain friends.Today, we’re exploring ways to cultivate meaningful friendships as adults and how to identify potential obstacles.Here are the highlights from this episode:(02:24) Having a shared interest can really help.(03:36) Repetition helps us feel safe.(04:35) We have more power and choice over what we do.(06:26) We have friends for a reason, a season or a lifetime.(07:59) The expectations that we place on people.Connect with Julia:WebsiteLinkedInInstagramABOUT THE PODCASTThe Dynamics of Everyday Life explores the psychological patterns shaping how we think, work and relate to others; bringing psychodynamic thinking into coaching, leadership and everyday life.If you're a coach interested in learning more about psychodynamic approaches to coaching, you can explore Julia's training programmes on her website.FOLLOW THE PODCASTIf you're enjoying The Dynamics of Everyday Life, follow the podcast on your listening app so you don't miss future episodes.

Covid changed the world in many ways, including how we work.Remote working has become popular but as much as it has its benefits, it also has its downsides. We’re spending more time in a virtual world which can affect our bodies and mind. Today's episode will help get us to reflect on remote working and find out if it’s really good for us!Here are the highlights from this episode:(04:03) The risk of becoming completely isolated.(04:31) People can make up stories and narratives about us.(06:32) Denial can abound whilst we are working on our own.(07:54) We have nowhere to leave our anxiety.Connect with Julia:WebsiteLinkedInInstagramABOUT THE PODCASTThe Dynamics of Everyday Life explores the psychological patterns shaping how we think, work and relate to others; bringing psychodynamic thinking into coaching, leadership and everyday life.If you're a coach interested in learning more about psychodynamic approaches to coaching, you can explore Julia's training programmes on her website.FOLLOW THE PODCASTIf you're enjoying The Dynamics of Everyday Life, follow the podcast on your listening app so you don't miss future episodes.

Welcome back to The Dynamics of Everyday Life, where we delve into the art and science of maintaining relationships. This episode shines a light on our very own defence mechanisms. From the comfort of our everyday friendships, to the challenge of navigating stormy relational seas in metaphorical high heels and a bikini, we're exploring the common thread in all our relationships: ourselves. Join us as we unpack how our unconscious mind, with all of its defence mechanisms, plays a pivotal role in either bridging or building barriers between us and others. Ready to dive deep? Let's unravel the mysteries of our minds together.Here are the highlights: (1:24) Maintaining relationships and self-awareness(2:18) Unconscious defence mechanisms in relationships(5:59) Common psychological defence mechanisms(7:28) Self-awareness and copingConnect with Julia:WebsiteLinkedInInstagramABOUT THE PODCASTThe Dynamics of Everyday Life explores the psychological patterns shaping how we think, work and relate to others; bringing psychodynamic thinking into coaching, leadership and everyday life.If you're a coach interested in learning more about psychodynamic approaches to coaching, you can explore Julia's training programmes on her website.FOLLOW THE PODCASTIf you're enjoying The Dynamics of Everyday Life, follow the podcast on your listening app so you don't miss future episodes.

Welcome to episode one of The Dynamics of Everyday Life, where we’re diving into the world of the unconscious.In this episode, we’re peeling back the layers of our identity, exploring the hidden drivers of our behaviours and reactions. With a dash of humour and heaps of insights, we uncover the secrets Freud and Jung left behind, shedding light on how the unseen parts of our psyche shape our everyday lives. Get ready to unravel the mysteries of the self. Here are the highlights: (1:05) Identity, emotions and psychology(2:38) Freud's impact on psychology and societal views(3:02) The conscious, preconscious and unconscious mind(7:02) Unconscious mind's impact on behaviour and self-awarenessConnect with Julia:WebsiteLinkedInInstagramABOUT THE PODCASTThe Dynamics of Everyday Life explores the psychological patterns shaping how we think, work and relate to others; bringing psychodynamic thinking into coaching, leadership and everyday life.If you're a coach interested in learning more about psychodynamic approaches to coaching, you can explore Julia's training programmes on her website.FOLLOW THE PODCASTIf you're enjoying The Dynamics of Everyday Life, follow the podcast on your listening app so you don't miss future episodes.

Welcome to The Dynamics of Everyday Life, where we're setting off on an incredible journey into the realm of psychodynamic theory with me, Julia Rogers. I'm here to take the seemingly complex concepts of psychology and break them down into digestible, relatable bits that can apply to our daily lives. Together, we'll uncover the mysteries of our inner selves, navigate the intricacies of human relationships, and discover the keys to personal happiness. So, sit back, relax, and join us as we embark on this enlightening adventure.Here are the highlights: (0:02) Psychodynamic theory for self-awareness and happiness(0:17) Getting to know ourselves(0:38) Making the complicated, uncomplicated (0:42) What you can expect Connect with Julia:WebsiteLinkedInInstagramABOUT THE PODCASTThe Dynamics of Everyday Life explores the psychological patterns shaping how we think, work and relate to others; bringing psychodynamic thinking into coaching, leadership and everyday life.If you're a coach interested in learning more about psychodynamic approaches to coaching, you can explore Julia's training programmes on her website.FOLLOW THE PODCASTIf you're enjoying The Dynamics of Everyday Life, follow the podcast on your listening app so you don't miss future episodes.