The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

Welcome to the first episode of the Your Vote, Your Choice series! This week we get real about the fight for reproductive freedom and what's at stake. We tackle the harsh reality of what happens when women's reproductive rights are stripped away, and the ripple effect it has on all of us, especially marginalized groups. My guest, Alexandra Jamieson, is ready to cut through the noise. As an artist, coach, and the brilliant mind behind The Abortion Trading Cards and Fascism Tarot Deck, Alex shares her perspective on the consequences of losing access to reproductive healthcare. We also dig into her Instagram movement #NotADragQueen #NotATransPerson, break down the looming 2024 election, and Project 2025. Featured topics: The real-world fallout when abortion rights are restricted, from economic security to education (9:18) Why marginalized women get hit the hardest and why we all need to care (10:53) How Project 2025 could remove many rights and dismantle the Department of Education (28:14) Ways you can step up and support women's reproductive rights in this critical moment (41:34) Don't sit this one out—tune in to hear what's really going on with women's rights and how you can make a difference heading into the 2024 election. Learn more about Alexandra Jamieson: Artist, Coach, Multi-hyphenate. A renowned creative leadership expert, coach, and best-selling author, and artist-creator of The Abortion Trading Cards and the Fascism Tarot Deck. With over 20 years of experience, Alex has successfully guided executives in tech, finance, healthcare, and professional services by leveraging storytelling and positive psychology to inspire leaders with unique intersectional creativity. An Oscar-nominated filmmaker and Oprah Winfrey Show guest, Alex's insights have been sought after by top organizations worldwide. Resources & Links: Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Alex on Instagram @deliciousalex The Abortion Trading Cards The Turnaway Study (book) The Brigid Alliance Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/womens-reproductive-freedom-with-alex-jamieson-your-vote-your-choice/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

In the final episode of September's Women's Financial Empowerment series, we're equipping you with the tools to make confident financial decisions and find your financial voice—divorce or no divorce. Financial guru Amy Bradbury, CEO of Empowered Profit, joins us to unravel toxic money mindsets handed down by the patriarchy and shares how to shift into an empowered, intentional approach to your finances. From demystifying financial literacy to bringing your kids into money conversations, this episode is all about taking back control. Amy delivers game-changing advice on how to ditch restrictive budgets in favor of a spending plan that works for you, especially when dealing with life's unpredictabilities—like divorce or fluctuating support payments. She also reveals why no app will fix your finances and why gathering financial data is the key to making empowered choices. This episode is packed with actionable insights that will motivate you to take control of your finances and make informed decisions for your future. Featured topics: Reframing your money mindset and shifting to empowered financial thinking (6:14) Involving your kids in conversations about money, "[Society tells us] to not talk about money or sex with kids but we're expected to show up as adults and be great at both of them." (21:50) Creating a spending plan that's flexible and realistic, not just a budget (23:43) Gathering financial data to make smart, informed, and confident decisions, "If you don't have the data you can't make any decisions. You need to gather the financial data first." (25:08) How to create a spending plan when there are income fluctuations with things like divorce or support payments (28:10) Amy's thoughts and advice on using tools for managing your money (hint: the answer isn't found in an app!) (39:15) Learn more about Amy Bradbury: Amy is the CEO of Empowered Profit, a full service bookkeeping and tax agency, focused on working with female led businesses. Along with her team, Empowered Profit supports their clients with understanding their numbers so they can use that data to make decisions in their businesses and in their personal financial lives. Resources & Links: Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Amy's website Amy on Instagram @EmpoweredProfit Amy on Facebook @EmpoweredProfit Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-291-finding-your-financial-voice-with-amy-bradbury-womens-financial-empowerment/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

I am thrilled to welcome Nikki Tucker, speaker and founder of The FIIRM Approach, to dive into the complex world of divorce for high-income-earning women. Nikki, a Personal Financial Strategist, and problem-solver, is known for her work helping female breadwinners strategically exit their marriages and navigate the path to financial independence post-divorce. Together, we discuss the unique financial challenges high-income-earning women face, such as managing assets, financial support responsibilities, and the critical role of prenups and postnups. Marriage as a legally binding business arrangement is one of the most important conversations we're not having. "We place a lot of emphasis on the emotional and relational aspects of marriage. However, equally important—especially in divorce—is the business, transactional side of the relationship," says Nikki. This episode brings that crucial conversation to the forefront. Featured topics: High-income earning women may be surprised to learn they could be responsible for paying spousal support (2:30) Should you consider a prenup or postnup? Learn how to protect your finances before, during, and after divorce (7:50) Is premarital counseling a smart move? Get insight into whether it can help set the foundation for a successful financial partnership (22:31) What unique dynamics should high-earning women keep in mind when navigating divorce? (31:58) Insightful reminders and advice, like: "You don't need to be over-accommodating just because you're a woman with a high income." (32:48) Nikki breaks down her F.I.I.R.M. Approach, empowering women to be Flexible, Intentional, Informed, Resourceful, and Masterful in their financial decisions (33:25) Learn more about Nikki Tucker: Nikki Tucker, a Speaker and founder of The FIIRM Approach, is known as a problem solver since her experience and time involves helping female breadwinners strategically exit their marriage and work on their new financial life post-divorce, as a Personal Financial Strategist. As a 20+ year financial professional, she firmly believes that all women deserve financial security and she enjoys teaching new ideas about money, and reinforcing sound ones. Nikki finds joy in connecting her clients to great resources to help them gain clarity, confidence and control of their finances through live workshops and digital resources. When she is not working with clients, she is eating amazing food and drinking an oat milk latte or a French 75. Her friends and those close to her describe her as reliable, honest and resourceful which comes in handy when she's working with women going through major transitions like divorce. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Nikki's website Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-290-navigating-divorce-as-a-female-breadwinner-with-nikki-tucker-womens-financial-empowerment/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

We're tackling one of the most frequently asked questions I get from clients: "How do I return to the workforce after being a stay-at-home mom who is now facing divorce?" Stacey Delo, CEO of Your Turn Careers by Après, offers expert advice on reentering the workforce, boosting confidence, and leveraging core skills honed during motherhood. Stacey encourages women to embrace their career gaps and highlights how staying home with kids can be a strength in your professional story. As co-author of Your Turn: Careers, Kids, and Comebacks—A Working Mother's Guide, she shares strategies for financial independence and landing roles that align with your expertise, interests, and aspirations. Join us for a conversation about building your financial future and reclaiming your professional identity! Featured topics: How patriarchal patterns are reflected in the workforce (6:00) Building confidence and owning the gap: leveraging your core competencies and soft skills learned during parenting (17:35) The journey of discovering what you want to do when reentering the workforce (24:03) Rebuilding confidence when you feel beaten down—remember, the skills you had before being a parent haven't disappeared (33:00) Learn more about Stacey Delo: Stacey Delo is CEO of Your Turn Careers by Après, the premier site for women returning to work after career breaks, and co-author of Your Turn: Careers, Kids and Comebacks--A Working Mother's Guide (Harper Business 2019). She's an expert in helping women navigate their careers, and in helping companies build strong workplaces to recruit and retain women talent. Stacey spent eight years as a journalist with The Wall Street Journal, where she was a multimedia reporter and the host of Digits, a live video program about technology. Prior to Digits she was a contributing correspondent for the nationally syndicated show CBS MarketWatch. In 2012, Stacey founded Maybrooks, a career resource for moms, which was acquired by Après in 2017. Stacey holds a journalism degree from Northwestern University and a masters from American University. Stacey is also known for her work on The Ford Heights Four case to overturn the wrongful conviction of four innocent men on Death Row. She has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show and other live shows in addition to having interviewed many Fortune 500 and startup CEOs in her work as a journalist. She lives in San Francisco with her husband and two children. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Stacey's website Stacey's book, Your Turn: Careers, Kids, and Comebacks TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: SOBERLINK Surviving divorce is one thing, but surviving divorce with a co-parent who abuses alcohol is a whole different ball game. Soberlink is a high-tech breathalyzer system that sends you instant results of a co-parent's alcohol levels. When your co-parent tests, their identity is automatically confirmed with facial recognition, and tamper sensors ensure no cheating has occurred. You then get instant proof that your kids are safe in their care. Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Help your family thrive in the new year. Visit www.soberlink.com/dsg to learn more and get $50 off your device. -------------- Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-289-careers-kids-and-comebacks-with-stacey-delo-womens-financial-empowerment/ -------------- DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Divorce can be a financial minefield, and it's easy to feel overwhelmed. Throughout September, we'll be cutting through the confusion to help you take control of your financial future. Finances are often the hardest part of the divorce process for women. We're often left feeling financially powerless—disempowered by a system that's not built for us (more on that topic, in October). Here's the truth: your path to financial independence is possible. This month, I'm laser-focused on breaking down the money issues women face in divorce. If you've had your head in the sand about your finances, that's okay. The time for financial empowerment is now—without judgment, just clarity and strength. Some of the topics we'll be covering this month include: Navigating financial challenges in divorce Clarity and control over what's truly yours by understanding asset division Claiming your worth: spousal support and non-monetary contributions From Stay-at-Home to Financial Independence Strategizing your long-term financial future post-divorce And, so much more! Join us as we dive into empowering women through financial independence and support, before, during, and after divorce. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective The D-Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage Divorce Money Guide Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-288-womens-financial-empowerment-intro-to-the-series/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Tracy Otsuka, host of the ADHD for Smart Ass Women Podcast, joins me for a conversation about how ADHD uniquely shows up in women. We dig into why it's often overlooked or misunderstood because the symptoms don't always match up with what you see in men. We break down the top three signs of ADHD, how hormonal changes play a role, and why embracing your strengths is way more effective than trying to "fix" your weaknesses. Tracy also opens up about the emotional toll ADHD can take and offers practical advice for supporting kids with ADHD. Tune in to learn how ADHD impacts women navigating divorce and get tips for handling it all with confidence and self-compassion. Featured topics: How to recognize ADHD symptoms and how to advocate for care and the right diagnosis (3:28) Understanding ADHD in women, including how it shows up and how hormonal shifts shape your experience (7:14) Supporting kids with ADHD and tackling co-parenting challenges with confidence (21:55) Managing ADHD through divorce from diagnosis to treatment (32:25) Learn more about Tracy Otsuka: Tracy Otsuka, JD, is a certified ADHD coach and the host of the ADHD for Smart Ass Women podcast. Over the past decade, she has empowered thousands of clients (from doctors and therapists to C-suite executives and entrepreneurs) to see their neurodivergence as a strength–not a weakness. Tracy leverages her analytical skills from being a lead counsel at the U.S. Securities and Exchange Commission to identify the right questions to ask her clients so they can boost their productivity, improve their finances, save failing relationships and live happier lives. Tracy's expertise and experience as an adult living with ADHD are regularly sought out by top tier media including Inc, Forbes, ADDitude magazine, and The Goal Digger Podcast. When she's not sharing her thought leadership around ADHD on other platforms, she hosts her own podcast which ranks #1 in its category and has over 5 million downloads across 160 countries. She also moderates a Facebook group with nearly 100,000 members. A married mother of two, Tracy lives in Sonoma County outside of San Francisco. Her new book, ADHD for Smart Ass Women is due out in December 2023. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective ADHD Smarts for Women Via Character Strengths Survey Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-287-adhd-for-smart-ass-women-with-tracy-otsuka/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Tara McMullin, creator of What Works and the co-founder of YellowHouse.Media, shares her journey of receiving an autism diagnosis at 38 and its profound impact on her relationships. She explores the concept of 'biographical illumination,' revealing how understanding her diagnosis has brought clarity and validation to her life. Tara also discusses the intricate dynamics of 'masking' and emotional communication in relationships. Together, we explore the importance of recognizing and respecting personal boundaries, advocating for mutual understanding, and navigating the complexities of being autistic. Featured topics: How being diagnosed with Autism at 38, transformed Tara's perspective on work, relationships, and parenting (3:20) The impact of autism on relationships, including getting your social needs met, learning to compromise, and the journey to understanding (10:49) Highlighting the burden on neurodivergent individuals to conform and mask their true selves to meet societal expectations (14:44) The distinction between being autistic and being an asshole—two entirely different concepts (32:35) Debunking the myth that people with autism lack empathy; their empathy is just expressed differently (33:17) Learn more about Tara McMullin: Tara McMullin is a writer and critic who studies the future of work through the lens of philosophy, critical theory, and media. She's the creator of What Works and the co-founder of YellowHouse.Media, a boutique production agency. She believes that care, curiosity, and context create an environment where we can not only learn but experience new and sometimes challenging ideas with grace. She's coached, taught, and facilitated for over 15 years—including more than a dozen classes with CreativeLive. Tara brings her own experience as an autistic feminist, endurance athlete, and amateur baker to everything she does. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Tara's website Tara on Instagram Tara on LinkedIn "I'm a normal autistic person, not an abnormal neurotypical": Autism Spectrum Disorder diagnosis as biographical illumination Catherine D. Tan The Electricity of Every Living Thing, Katherine May Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-286-autism-and-relationships-with-tara-mcmullin-neurodivergence-in-relationships/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Zawn Villines, feminist activist and writer, is back on the show! Together we tackle the offensive and ableist ways that neurodiversity is often used to excuse abusive behavior. Zawn makes it clear that being neurodivergent does not mean someone is inherently abusive. In fact, neurodivergent individuals are more often the victims rather than the perpetrators of abuse. In this episode, we dive into the myths around empathy deficits in autistic individuals and how patriarchy keeps these harmful misconceptions alive. Further, we explore how patriarchy weaponizes neurodivergence against women. This episode is packed with practical advice for women dealing with neurodivergent partners, focusing on finding fair and supportive ways to navigate relationships without sacrificing your well-being. Featured topics: Neurodivergence is not a pass for getting out of household labor (5:12) Patriarchy and the weaponization of neurodivergence against women (15:22) What women can do when faced with a partner using neurodivergence as an excuse (40:05) You can accommodate a partner without sacrificing your life and well-being at the altar of their neurodivergence (41:53) Learn more about Zawn Villines: Zawn Villines is a feminist activist and writer who focuses on misogyny in motherhood and marriage. Her work argues that mothers are central to the feminist project, and that fathers must participate equally in household and parenting labor. She believes that inequality in marriage is a primary driver of sexism, and that it limits women's lives and futures. Inequality at home is a form of abuse, and Zawn teaches women to push back on this unacceptable treatment and claim their rightful place in the family, at work, and in their communities. Her weekly Feminist Advice Friday series advises people about how to live better and more just lives, and how to use their relationships as pathways to liberation and joy. Outside of her activism, Zawn has written full-time about science, medicine, politics, and the law for two decades. She writes a weekly reproductive justice column, and runs a nonprofit childbirth justice organization. She hopes to see more mothers claim the power and dignity of motherhood, and to end notions of mothers as irrelevant. Mothers are raising the next generation of resistance. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Zawn's Substack Newsletter Zawn's website Zawn on Instagram Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-285-weaponizing-neurodivergence-in-abusive-relationships-with-zawn-villines-neurodivergence-in-relationships/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Dr. Amelia Kelley, a trauma-informed therapist and author, joins me to explore the nuances of ADHD in women, discussing how it often goes unnoticed and untreated. We tackle the complex question, "Do I have trauma or ADHD?"—exploring whether childhood trauma manifests as ADHD or if living with ADHD contributes to traumatic experiences. Plus, we uncover the superpowers of ADHD, the fascinating link between hyperfocus and procrastination, and how neurodiversity and ADHD affect relationships. Tune in to gain valuable insights and feel empowered to understand yourself better or loved ones living with ADHD. Featured topics: The impact of untreated ADHD on women's lives (3:25) "Do I have trauma or ADHD?" Exploring the relationship between trauma and ADHD (15:22) Coping skills: Embracing change as a compassionate choice (27:02) The superpowers of ADHD + the link between hyperfocus and procrastination (27:44) Healthy relationships, neurodiversity, and ADHD (34:00) The correlation between ADHD and attachment styles (43:30) Learn more about Dr. Amelia Kelley: Dr. Amelia Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist, author of several books, co-host of The Sensitivity Doctors podcast, and certified meditation and yoga instructor. She is a psychology professor at Yorkville University and a nationally recognized relationship expert featured on SiriusXM Doctor Radio's The Psychiatry Show as well as NPR's The Measure of Everyday Life. Her private practice is part of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium at the Kinsey Institute. She is a contributing author for Psychology Today, ADDitude Magazine and the Highly Sensitive Refuge, the world's largest blog for HSPs. You can find out more about her work at ameliakelley.com. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Amelia's website Amelia's book Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-284-powered-by-adhd-with-dr-amelia-kelley-neurodivergence-in-relationships/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

I am kicking off a new series for August all around neurodivergence in relationships. With my amazing lineup, we delve into topics like ADHD, autism, and other spectrum disorders within a family and how they might affect various aspects of your divorce. This week I wanted to take a few moments to introduce the series to you. Throughout the month, you'll hear from incredible guests like: Dr. Amelia Kelley Tara McMullin Zawn Villines Tracy Otsuka These amazing women share their insights and strategies for embracing the unique gifts and challenges that come with being neurodivergent. In this episode, I also open up about my own experiences co-parenting a child who has ADHD. Here's why you should tune in: This series is not just about understanding neurodivergence; it's about empowering you with the knowledge and tools to navigate these unique challenges. Whether you're dealing with neurodivergent individuals in your own life or simply want to be a more informed and compassionate ally, this series offers invaluable perspectives and practical advice you won't want to miss. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-283-neurodivergence-in-relationships-intro-to-the-series/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

What are your divorce dealbreakers? In the final installment of my divorce mindset reset series, I share why knowing your dealbreakers is important before you enter into your divorce proceedings. I discuss the work required to determine what they are and offer insight into why you should stick to them as you move through your divorce. Overall, knowing your dealbreakers helps you prioritize what matters most so you can maintain focus during your negotiations. You'll hear: Why it is important to know your dealbreakers before you enter into your divorce proceedings Non-negotiables are the issues you feel strongly about and refuse to compromise on, even if it means presenting them in front of a judge Some considerations and strategies for dealbreakers in a high-conflict divorce Resources & Links: 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset Bundle Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-282-the-7-step-divorce-mindset-reset-knowing-your-dealbreakers/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Have you ever wondered how to navigate the tricky balance between what's legal and what's fair in a divorce? I dive into Step Six of the 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset, focusing on distinguishing between these crucial aspects. You'll hear advice on processing emotions through appropriate channels, documenting evidence of legal matters, and working with a coach or other professional to streamline what's pertinent for court. My goal is to help you approach your legal team with clear, legally significant information, thereby reducing costs and improving outcomes. You'll hear: The key to understanding legal vs. fair in divorce "If you're focusing on what's fair, you're going to get all of your personal feelings in the way." The importance of emotional processing, legal strategy, and documenting abuse for legal proceedings How to adopt a legally strategic mindset Resources & Links: 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset Bundle Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-281-the-7-step-divorce-mindset-reset-understanding-whats-legal-vs-whats-fair/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. —------------------------------------------------

Shifting to a strategy mindset during your divorce is a game-changer and that's the topic of this podcast episode. No longer are you trying to convince your partner to see things your way or understand your point of view. Instead, you're embracing radical acceptance and moving forward with a clear plan. When you adopt a strategy mindset, you can set clear goals and easily make decisions. You're taking control of the situation and the proceedings in a way you haven't been able to before. This shift empowers you to navigate challenges with a calm and calculated plan, maintaining control and being proactive. You'll move forward with confidence, knowing you're in charge of your journey. You'll hear: Why you must divorce yourself of emotional ties and manipulations so you can be strategic The importance of having support and a taking team approach to your divorce How a strategy mindset can help with high-conflict situations The key factors to maintaining or obtaining a strategy mindset Resources & Links: 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset Bundle Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset: Radical Acceptance The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset: Self-Care Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-280-the-7-step-divorce-mindset-reset-strategy-mindset/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Radical acceptance means completely accepting a situation, circumstance, or challenge without necessarily approving or agreeing with it. In this installment of the 7-Step Divorce Mindset reset, I share why this concept is especially crucial in the divorce process. Embracing radical acceptance is one of the most powerful things you can do. It's revolutionary yet fundamental. It's about letting go of the struggle over who you thought your partner was and truly accepting who they are. You'll hear: Radical acceptance is not remotely akin to forgiveness Tina Swithin's Radical Acceptance Oath What happens after you've come to a place of radical acceptance Resources & Links: 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset Bundle Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-279-the-7-step-divorce-mindset-reset-radical-acceptance/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

We're diving into the importance of self-care throughout your divorce process. Practicing self-care at this juncture is essential for managing the emotional and physical challenges you're going through. Self-care builds emotional resilience, helping you maintain mental well-being and decision-making ability, while also reducing stress and supporting your physical health. In this episode, I share some effective strategies to help you prioritize your well-being. You'll hear: How to set boundaries not just with others, but also in deciding how and when you'll focus on the divorce process The importance of establishing routines that help you stay present with yourself and your children Understand the value of leaning on support groups to navigate through this period The need to attend to your physical, mental, spiritual, emotional, and financial health Resources & Links: 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset Bundle Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-278-the-7-step-divorce-mindset-reset-self-care/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Divorce is a lengthy, emotionally demanding, and taxing process, taking about a year on average. In this episode, I share why practicing patience and managing expectations can help you navigate the journey peacefully and easily. You'll also hear: The questions to ask your divorce attorney or mediator about specific procedures and waiting periods in your state Why trusting the process and establishing routines can lead to a smoother experience The crucial role of self-care in managing stress and emotional well-being By being better equipped to navigate the divorce journey, you can adapt and maintain calm throughout the process. Remember, patience doesn't just happen; it comes from practicing self-care, staying informed, and managing your expectations. Resources & Links: 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset Bundle Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-277-the-7-step-divorce-mindset-reset-practicing-patience/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

We continue our month-long series centered around my 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset by discussing the creation of a vision statement for your divorce. This was something I did at the beginning of mediation with my ex-husband. A vision statement sets your intention for the divorce process. When things feel like they are going off the rails, you can return to your vision statement to stay grounded and centered on how you want the process to go. Whether you create a mutual or individual statement, it will serve as a helpful guiding principle for your divorce process. Resources & Links: 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset Bundle Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset: Intro Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-276-the-7-step-divorce-mindset-reset-your-vision-statement/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. —------------------------------------------------

Today, we kick off a month-long series centered around my 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset. If you've decided to get a divorce, it's time to start focusing on the immediate mindset shifts necessary to navigate this challenging period. Along with physically, financially, and legally divorcing, emotionally divorcing your spouse is crucial: "If you're done, be done." I've crafted these seven steps to help you approach your situation in a healthy, strategic, and empowered way. Throughout July, I'll guide you through each step. In this episode, I provide a brief introduction and overview of the seven steps, along with some exciting structural changes coming to the show and more! Resources & Links: 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset Bundle Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/solo-episode-275-the-7-step-divorce-mindset-reset-intro =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Anne Wintemute, Co-Founder of Aimee Says, joins me on the podcast this week. Aimee is an AI-powered advocate for victims and survivors of domestic violence. This fascinating and powerful AI tool helps individuals gain the support and validation they need. We uncover how Aimee can act as your advocate and lower the barrier to access vital resources. More than just a Google search, Aimee operates in multiple languages and is a groundbreaking initiative for empowerment. I am endlessly fascinated by this tool's ability to identify and address the complex needs of those it serves and I cannot wait for you to listen to this episode! Featured topics: Anne's motivation behind launching Aimee Says (5:22) How Aimee supports individuals from recognizing abuse to achieving recovery, including its role in safety planning (10:05) Aimee's multifaceted approach: AI-driven support, insights from human engineering, and specialized responses for survivors (14:23) How Anne and her team ensure Aimee delivers trustworthy and secure guidance (15:46) Exciting plans for Aimee, including expanding AI capabilities and forging strategic partnerships to enhance support for survivors (25:33) Learn more about Anne Wintemute: Anne Wintemute is the Co-Founder and CEO of Aimee Says, an AI companion for victims and survivors of controlling partners. When she's not working to hold perpetrators accountable, Anne can be found tending her urban farm or playing with her kids in Denver Colorado. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Aimee Says is an AI companion for victims and survivors of domestic abuse. Never before has instant, free, comprehensive support been at the fingertips of anyone impacted by a current or former partner's controlling behaviors. Aimee Says is committed to empowering survivors as they seek safety and healing for themselves and their loved ones and pursue accountability for their perpetrators. Get support and start healing with Aimee. Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-274-aimee-says-ai-support-for-victims-and-survivors-of-domestic-abuse-with-anne-wintemute/ DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

We're digging into the emotional rollercoaster divorced dads face, including why they're at higher risk for suicide and the heavy societal and psychological burdens weighing them down. Dr. Eran Magen is a Stanford University-educated expert, holding an M.A. in education and a Ph.D. in psychology. He is also the founder of DivorcedDads.org. Together we talk about the importance of dads having a support system, staying connected with their kids, and building stronger emotional bonds. Eran drops some serious wisdom on handling divorce, keeping your mental health in check, and boosting emotional resilience. Featured topics: The unique challenges divorcing dads face: why they're at higher risk for suicide (3:18) Why most men avoid seeking help during divorce (7:42) How divorcing dads can maintain strong bonds with their kids (24:14) Dr. Magen offers ways to provide support to divorcing dads (32:52) Learn more about Dr. Eran Magen: Dr. Magen earned his M.A. in education and Ph.D. in psychology from Stanford University. He completed post-doctoral training in child psychology and population health, and then served as the research director for the University of Pennsylvania's Department of Counseling and Psychological Services. Dr. Magen is the founder and CEO of Early Alert (https://EarlyAlert.me), which prevents suicide among students in school, colleges, and universities. He is also the founder of ParentingForHumans.com, which helps parents build more joyful and collaborative relationships with their children, and of DivorcingDads.org, which helps divorcing fathers stay healthy, sane, and connected to their children. You can learn more about his work at ParentingForHumans.com and DivorcingDads.org. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective DivorcedDads.org ParentingforHumans.com Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-273-help-for-divorcing-dads-with-dr-eran-magen/ DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Sharon Pope, a Master Life Coach, and Relationship Expert, joins me to dive into why more women are opting out of their marriages, the historical context of marriage dynamics, and the challenges modern couples are up against. Sharon's mission is to equip women and men with the tools to improve, heal, or let go of their struggling marriages. We'll also tackle relationships' social, legal, and emotional sides, emphasizing the importance of open communication and intentionality. Featured topics: Why more women are the ones pulling the plug on their marriages (3:21) Women often check out of their marriage mentally long before they physically leave (12:13) Communication tips and advice to use before you hit the "I'm done" point (14:24) Why Sharon believes "divorce should always be an option." (26:20) Learn more about Sharon Pope: Sharon Pope is a certified Master Life Coach and Relationship Expert helping women and men get the tools they need to improve, heal, or release their struggling marriages. She is a seven-time international best-selling author on love and relationships, including "Stay or Go: How to Find the Confidence & Clarity You Need to Either Fix the Struggles in Your Marriage or Move Forward without Regret," which has sold more than 300,000 copies, and host of the podcast, "The Loving Truth." Her work has appeared in numerous media outlets and online publications, including the "Modern Love" column of The New York Times. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Sharon's website Sharon's book, Stay or Go Sharon's Free Training: 4 Ways to Find Clarity in Your Struggling Marriage Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-272-why-more-women-are-calling-it-quits-with-sharon-pope DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Dr. Sarah Schewitz returns to the podcast to talk about pathological love relationships. Dr. Schewitz helps us understand what this type of relationship is, how to know if you're in one, why these types of relationships can be so devastating, and what is necessary to recover and heal. Dr. Sarah Schewitz is a licensed psychologist specializing in love and relationships. She is the founder of the successful online psychology practice, Couples Learn, which was named by Forbes Health as one of the top 3 online marriage counseling services in 2023. She specializes in healing attachment trauma, understanding the impact of childhood wounds on your relationships, helping couples transform their communication, and rebuilding trust after betrayal. Featured topics: Dr. Schewitz answers, "What is a pathological love relationship [PLR]?" and describes the four identifiers of a PLR (11:18) Signs and red flags that you might be in a pathological love relationship (13:19) The five personality traits of victims who most often are susceptible to this type of relationship (18:42) Why it is necessary to seek out a trauma-informed and educated therapist to aid you in recovery (33:32) Healing from traumatic PLR oftentimes requires a somatic therapy approach (36:06) Learn more about Dr. Sarah Schewitz: Dr. Sarah Schewitz is a licensed psychologist specializing in love & relationships. She is the founder of the successful online psychology practice, Couples Learn, which was named by Forbes Health as one of the top 3 online marriage counseling services in 2023. She specializes in healing attachment trauma, understanding the impact of childhood wounds on your relationships, helping couples transform their communication, and rebuilding trust after betrayal. Dr. Sarah and Couples Learn have been featured on CNN, The Washington Post, Women's Health, Bravo TV, and more. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Couples Learn Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-270-pathological-love-relationships-with-dr-sarah-schewitz/ DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

For over six years, I've managed a Facebook group for women contemplating whether to stay in or leave their marriages. Recently, I made the very tough decision to close the group. In this bonus solo episode, I address the issues that led to the group's closing. I further share about the rules and guidelines that were in place, the challenges of managing a large community, and my response to group members' frustrations. I also reflect on boundaries, the importance of doing the work for personal growth, and ultimately, the considerations for potentially reopening the group and providing some closure to the situation. Resources & Links: Facebook Group Survey Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

We're talking about tenderness and holding space with Heather Plett, author of the award-winning book The Art of Holding Space: A Practice of Love, Liberation, and Leadership and the recently released book Where Tenderness Lives: On Healing, Liberation, and Holding Space for Oneself. Heather opens up about her experience of dealing with divorce, co-founding the Center for Holding Space, and authoring books that dive into these concepts. Our conversation reveals how embracing tenderness towards oneself can disrupt patriarchal and capitalist structures and highlights the importance of self-care, setting boundaries, and the deep dive required for personal growth. Featured topics: The concept of holding space: what it is and how to do it (3:10) Tenderness as a disruptive force (27:13) Putting into practice daily acts of tenderness (33:15) Learn more about Heather Plett: Heather Plett is the author of the award-winning book The Art of Holding Space: A Practice of Love, Liberation, and Leadership and the recently released book Where Tenderness Lives: On Healing, Liberation, and Holding Space for Oneself. She is also an international speaker and workshop facilitator, and co-founder of the Centre for Holding Space. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Kate on A Tender Space Podcast: Healing and Divorce I A conversation with Kate Anthony Heather's website Center for Holding Space Heather on Facebook Heather on Instagram Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-269-where-tenderness-lives-with-heather-plett DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Oftentimes, we wrap our identities in this one thing - like marriage. What happens when it's over? This week, Nikki Spoelstra (Nikki Spo) joins me to discuss the transformative power of self-discovery through life's most challenging moments. Nikki and I cover a range of important topics, including how self-esteem is built through self-knowledge, strategies for managing thoughts about divorce, emphasizing the importance of setting limits on dwelling on the past, and so much more. Nikki is a breath of fresh air for women going through hard times. Join us as we discuss the intricate process of reinventing oneself after significant life changes, the importance of self-acceptance, and the journey to finding joy and worth within. Featured topics: Nikki answers, "How did you reinvent yourself?" TLDR: "You do so, even when you're scared as shit." (7:18) Self-esteem is built through self-knowledge. (22:02) Apologizing is not the same thing as making amends. (26:11) Romanticizing friendships with your ex/co-parent: Don't compare your divorce or co-parenting relationship to others. It may evolve differently or stay the same forever. (29:59) Parallel parenting vs. co-parenting. (31:33) A reminder that you get to be the owner of your story, and people don't have to know all the details about your relationships or divorce (38:19) Learn more about Nikki Spo: Nikki Spoelstra is the host of The Know with Nikki Spo - a globally top-ranked podcast that highlights the stories of individuals who are finding and celebrating their deepest sense of inner knowing in a space where it's not about knowing everything, but about coming to know ourselves. Covering topics that range from motherhood and business to wellness and self-care, The Know with Nikki Spo has been nominated for the People's Choice Podcast Award and is up for two coveted Gracie Awards, which honor exceptional women in podcasting and journalism. Nikki is a single mom of three, has overcome tough life experiences with ferocity and grace, and is a compelling speaker of truths. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Kate on Nikki's Podcast The Know with Nikki Spo Nikki's website Nikki on Instagram @nikkisappspo Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-268-reinventing-yourself-after-divorce-nikki-spo-on-self-discovery-and-empowerment/ DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

"Therapy is dead," says this week's podcast guest, Dawn Wiggins. In this episode, we get to the heart of why Dawn says therapy isn't always the answer and, instead, how somatic and homeopathic techniques help individuals heal from various forms of trauma. Dawn is a trauma-informed licensed marriage and family therapist and integrative healer who helps women turn the traumatic journey of divorce into a force for healing, self-love, and joy through a tailored blend of holistic and scientifically supported solutions. Featured topics: Supported solutions for healing like EFT (6:45) Why Dawn says therapy is dead + explains the job of a therapist (16:25) Homeopathy: what it is and how Dawn weaves it into her practice (18:31) How we can use all of these techniques to heal the trauma of divorce and more (29:19) Learn more about Dawn Wiggins: Dawn Wiggins is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, EMDR specialist, and constitutional homeopath. She draws on decades of experience to help women navigate the emotional rollercoaster that comes after ending a marriage. Using a little bit of science, a few alternative remedies and emotional release techniques, a whole lot of love, and zero BS, we step out of the victim mindset and into building a new life after divorce. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Dawn's website Dawn on Facebook Dawn on Instagram Post Divorce Roadmap - 21 Days of Guided Journaling Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-267-is-therapy-dead-with-dawn-wiggins/ DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

We are talking about a really important topic this week: grief. Grief is shocking in divorce. My guest Barri Leiner Grant, is a grief specialist and educator who joins me to help us understand how to process the grief we feel over an ended marriage. Barri divorced after a 17-year marriage and helps name grief and grieving for others who have experienced losing an imagined future. Putting the G-word in the D-word! Featured topics: Why do we grieve a divorce? (2:16) Shame is a complicating factor in grief and divorce (8:49) The root cause of the shame and how to move through it (17:00) If we don't look at our grief head-on, it will grow like a weed Grief tending: what it is and how you can tend to your grief (21:18) Exploring who you are now and who you want to be (28:35) Learn more about Barri Leiner Grant: Barri Leiner Grant is a grief specialist and educator and the founder of The Memory Circle -- a place and space she created for those who have experienced both death and non-death losses. Her work has been featured in The Washington Post, Psychology Today, and Maria Shriver's Sunday paper, among many other media outlets. She is an author who shares her personal experiences of loss widely. She divorced after a 17-year marriage and helps name grief and grieving for others who have experienced losing a future imagined. Putting the G-word in the D-word! Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Barri's website Barri on Instagram The Artist's Way Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-266-putting-the-g-word-in-the-d-word-with-barri-leiner-grant TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: SOBERLINK Surviving divorce is one thing, but surviving divorce with a co-parent who abuses alcohol is a whole different ball game. Soberlink is a high-tech breathalyzer system that sends you instant results of a co-parent's alcohol levels. When your co-parent tests, their identity is automatically confirmed with facial recognition, and tamper sensors ensure no cheating has occurred. You then get instant proof that your kids are safe in their care. Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Help your family thrive in the new year. Visit www.soberlink.com/dsg to learn more and get $50 off your device. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Sadie Marie of Divorced and Happy joins me for a conversation about why life after divorce is the BEST, and her path of personal growth, self-discovery, and relationships. Sadie Marie empowers divorced men and women globally to embrace the exciting, playful - and even spicy - life that awaits them after divorce. Our conversation is multifaceted, from feeling disempowered in marriage to reclaiming empowerment. We also touch on navigating divorce within friendships and pursuing genuine happiness. Listen in to hear about Sadie Marie's joy-filled journey post-divorce. Her journey is a true testament that finding happiness post-divorce is possible! Featured topics: What it means to be divorced and happy. (4:56) The feeling of being disempowered in marriage to moving to a place of empowerment. (7:17) Sadie shares her journey through fun, play, dating, and sexual exploration. (13:10) Navigating divorce and friendships. (17:39) Becoming a happy person and what the work looks like to get there. (20:13) Vanilla, Strawberry, and Sprinkles! Yes, please. Sadie tells us about her "What's your dating flavor?" quiz. (31:54) Learn more about Sadie Marie: Sadie Marie, host of Sadie's Divorced and Happy podcast, empowers divorced men and women globally to embrace the exciting, playful - and even spicy - life that awaits them after divorce. Sadie also produces Divorced and Happy social events in cities across the country, including the Twin Cities, Denver, and Chicago. Learn more at DivorcedandHappy.net Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word" - audiobook available now! Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Divorced and Happy Sadie Marie on Instagram Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-265-divorced-and-happy-with-sadie-marie/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

I am thrilled to welcome Susan Hyatt, a Master Certified Life Coach, Bestselling Author, and TEDx Speaker. Susan is on a mission to disrupt the age and wage gaps—all the gaps that hold women back. Her work (and this conversation) empowers women, particularly those in midlife, to embrace their prime with fervor and enthusiasm. Together, we discuss female empowerment, self-discovery, and the journey towards embracing one's prime, including our sexuality (and I tell you guys something I haven't told anyone else). We'll also explore the transformative potential of personal and financial growth, including opportunities in commercial real estate investment for women. Prepare for an episode filled with wisdom, inspiration, and actionable steps to redefine aging and self-worth. Featured topics: Embracing what it means to be in our prime (3:27) Disrupting age and beauty norms, including the notion that "thin is better" (9:57) Body acceptance, women and pleasure (20:26) Big YES Energy and how to tap into it (29:00) Women and building wealth (37:09) Learn more about Susan Hyatt: Susan Hyatt is a veteran Master Certified Life Coach, Bestselling Author, and TEDx Speaker. She helps women claim Big Yes Energy, getting more of whatever they want—from money to confidence, energy to joy. She is also the creator of BARE - a groundbreaking process that's inspired women all over the world to stop shrinking their bodies and start expanding their lives. Susan has been featured on national TV and in magazines like O: The Oprah Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Seventeen, and Woman's World and was a finalist for the Athena Award, recognizing leadership in the field of women's empowerment and entrepreneurship. When Susan is not hyping up her clients, leading epic retreats, or making a scene, you can find her lifting heavy weights, traveling the world, enjoying her hygge corner, and ditching the "invisible workload" so she can earn more and play more. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word" - audiobook available now! Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Susan's website Women Invested Susan on Instagram Susan on Facebook Show link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-264-big-yes-energy-with-susan-hyatt/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Discover how laughter can lighten the weight of divorce in this week's episode. When your whole world feels on fire, bringing levity to divorce can be like a breath of fresh air. My guest this week, Andrea Rappaport, knows a thing or two about imparting humor in one's life while navigating difficult situations. Andrea is a recovering comedian who is the co-host of the top-ranked Apple podcast, How Not to Suck at Divorce. Andrea and I look at the delicate balance between humor and seriousness in this episode when discussing divorce. Plus, we talk about why finding the right attorney is essential and the need for having a supportive squad by your side. Featured topics: Why humor is so important when we're struggling (3:30) Some of the mistakes Andrea made in her divorce and what she learned (10:30) Checking expectations: "If you have an unhealthy marriage, you will likely not have a healthy divorce." (11:53) Hiring the RIGHT attorney for your divorce (14:15) Why you need and DESERVE a team of support as you go through this process (44:20) Learn more about Andrea Rappaport: Andrea Rappaport is the co-host of the top-ranked Apple podcast, How Not to Suck at Divorce. As a recovering comedian, she STRONGLY values the need for humor in our lives while navigating difficult situations. Andrea is proudly divorced and a mom to two little boys whom she loves almost as much as a shopping trip to TJMAXX. She has recently been engaged to a man who makes her laugh and loves her deeply. When she's not shopping or podcasting, Andrea co-runs a Chicago-based marketing and messaging firm, Rappaport & Schaer. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word" - audiobook available now! Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Andrea's website Andrea on Instagram =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Tami Wollensak returns to the show! She shares more about divorcing and the nuances of keeping, selling, or refinancing your home. Tami is a licensed mortgage loan originator and a 28+ year industry veteran. She has discovered her passion in helping divorcing individuals navigate their home equity solutions and mortgage options while going through the most challenging time. Grab your notebook and a pen - this episode is a notetaking one that busts some myths and provides expert advice on what questions to ask when considering whether to take or leave the house during your divorce. Featured topics: Assuming the mortgage on the marital home: The answer to "Can my ex assume the mortgage on the marital home?" is not always "No." (4:18) What are your options if you are unable to assume the mortgage? (21:00) The importance of considering the long-term consequences of sharing a mortgage with your ex (23:21) The information you need to be able to decide if you can assume a mortgage (28:04) Learn more about Tami Wollensak: Tami Wollensak is a licensed mortgage loan officer and a 28+ year veteran of the industry, she has experience working in multiple roles and facets of the industry. She has discovered her true passion in helping divorcing individuals navigate their home equity solutions and mortgage options while going through the most challenging time of their life. Tami has earned the certification as a Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP®). This specialization provides the ability to identify potential gaps in the agreement that cannot be met during the mortgage process. Tami works with her client's attorney, coach, mediator, or financial advisor to help guide them through all the options available to ensure a successful outcome regarding the divorcing couple's real estate or future purchase. Tami has been a guest on multiple podcasts, speaks regularly and contributes to many media outlets on divorce mortgage planning and helping divorcing homeowners to make better and more informed decisions when it comes to their real property. As a Mortgage Loan Originator, Tami's goal is to educate her clients, take the mystery and anxiety out of the mortgage process, and provide a sense of security and peace to each of them. Tami can lend in all 50 states. (NMLS #1963450) Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word" - audiobook available now! Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Tami's website Tami on Facebook Tami on LinkedIn Tami on Instagram Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-262-home-equity-solutions-in-divorce-with-tami-wollensak/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Licensed Psychologist Dr. Justine Weber is on the show this week as we explore the complex journey of healing after leaving an abusive relationship. Her recent book is, "How the F*ck Do I Heal From This?" and the title (and content) is a favorite of mine! In the book and during our conversation, Dr. Weber walks us through understanding narcissistic abuse and how to put your life back together after everything feels like it has fallen apart. Together, we explore everything from dealing with post-separation abuse and navigating co-parenting with a narcissist to finding solace in somatic therapy and building back self-trust. This episode unpacks the multifaceted process of healing and empowerment. Featured topics: Somatic therapy and learning to reconnect with Self (11:33) Navigating post-separation abuse while working toward healing (17:42) Tips and insights for communicating with a narcissist (22:41) How to cope and detach from legal threats made by your abuser (35:27) Learn more about Justine Weber: California licensed Psychologist, a coach helping people heal after a narcissistic relationship, certified in high conflict divorce coaching, and a recent book author titled "How the fuck do I heal from this? Understanding narcissistic abuse and how to put your life back together". Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word" - audiobook available now! Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Justine's website Justine's book, "How the F*ck Do I Heal From This?" BIFF for Co-Parent Communication =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Relationship coach and author Bryan Reeves joins me this week to discuss relationships, personal growth, and societal constructs. Bryan's journey from military service to relationship coaching reveals insights into the power and necessity of connecting with emotions, especially for men. Many of Bryan's insights are drawn from his work with couples and his book, "Choose Her Every Day or Leave Her," focusing on choosing connection over disconnection, confronting one's fears, and the transformative power of love and accountability in relationships. Bryan's work is incredibly important. Please listen to what's possible in the world of relationships. This is truly an insightful conversation! Featured topics: Most men come to relationship work when they realize they have no choice… (3:01) How culture teaches men to suppress emotions and the journey from disconnection to real connection with feelings and others (5:17) Bryan talks about what he means when he says he teaches men "to care and not care simultaneously." (20:00) Creating safety in relationship with women and taking responsibility (38:51) Encouraging men's engagement in personal growth (48:12) Learn more about Bryan Reeves: A former US Air Force Captain, Bryan is now an internationally renowned Author and Life/Relationship Coach with a current focus on supporting men to have better lives and relationships. His viral blog has been read by over 50 million people in every country on the planet (except North Korea). He's the co-founder of "Elevate Your Relationship," a live coaching program for men ready to elevate their relationship game, which currently serves men in 10 countries. He's co-host of the popular podcast, "Men, This Way," and his newest book, Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her), is available on Audible, Amazon and other retailers. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word" - audiobook available now! Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Bryan's website Bryan's book: Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her) Women Who Run With Wolves, Clarissa Pinkola Estes Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-260-choose-her-every-day-or-leave-her-with-bryan-reeves/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: PRIMIS BANK Get started navigating your new financial picture with Primis Bank. For terms and conditions, visit primisbank.com/dsg. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Psychologist and writer Kerry McAvoy joins me to discuss the challenges of being in a relationship with someone who has narcissistic personality disorder. We also delve into its effects on individuals and share insights on self-nurturing after the relationship ends. Kerry Kerr McAvoy is a psychologist and a writer who educates on social media about cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her book, Love You More, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse. Featured topics: We explore the phrase "It takes two to tango…" Does it, though, when narcissistic abuse or toxicity is involved in a relationship? (1:49) Is there anything that you can do to help a narcissistic and abusive partner? The short answer is no. (7:00) Narcissistic Personality is a disorder. It's not a mental health condition. Kerry explains the distinction. (11:58) The slow dismantling of Self when you are in an abusive relationship. (15:29) Covert Aggression: what it means and how it shows up (19:56) Focusing on and nurturing yourself back to life is essential in a relationship that has dimmed you. (46:08) Learn more about Kerry McAvoy: Kerry Kerr McAvoy is a psychologist and a writer who educates on social media about cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her book, Love You More, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word - audiobook now available! Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Kerry's book, Love You More Kerry on TikTok Kerry on Instagram Kerry on Facebook Kerry on YouTube Why Can't I Just Leave (book) Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-259-healing-from-narcissistic-relationships-with-kerry-mcavoy TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: PRIMIS BANK Get started navigating your new financial picture with Primis Bank. For terms and conditions, visit primisbank.com/dsg. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

My guest, Jason VanRuler, shares his direct and honest approach to working with couples and offers a fresh perspective on overcoming past challenges and building exceptional relationships. During our conversation, you'll discover how to "Get Past Your Past" as Jason shares invaluable insights, emphasizing the importance of taking action and not seeking validation from others for your progress. We also discuss navigating resistance in relationships, dealing with differing narratives in divorce, and addressing the complexities of sex addiction within marriage. With over a decade of experience as a coach and therapist, Jason's expertise shines through as he offers practical advice and compassionate support. Featured topics: Jason explains what he means by "get past your past…" (2:28) "Sometimes it's not that you don't know what to do; it's that you are not doing what you're supposed to do." (8:53) It is essential to recognize that not everyone will be happy about your progress when you do the work. Do not determine your success by the approval of the people you are surrounded by. (9:56) The effects and challenges a couple faces when one is doing the work and the other is resistant. (13:07) Jason answers, "What do you do when your ex-partner has a narrative about your divorce that differs from yours?" (22:52) The effects of sex addiction on marriage and how Jason works with couples around this type of addiction. (31:57) Learn more about Jason VanRuler: Jason VanRuler has worked in everything from the corporate world to the entrepreneurial one — and has over a decade of experience as a coach and therapist dedicated to helping others. With extensive experience as a coach, clinician, and speaker, Jason now owns a private practice, writes books, gives speeches, and facilitates and leads groups across the world. Coaching is always equal parts affirming, honest, and compassionate — and Jason's practice has led with this approach when helping every client seeking guidance and direction. Whether it's leadership coaching, relationship building, couples therapy, addiction, trauma, or something different, his goal is the same: to speak truth and grace into every life I work with. When Jason is not facilitating, coaching, speaking, or writing, you can find him cycling, fly fishing, and living life with his wife and three children at their home in South Dakota. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Jason's website Jason's book Get Past Your Past Jason on Instagram Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-258-get-past-your-past-with-jason-vanruler/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: PRIMIS BANK Get started navigating your new financial picture with Primis Bank. For terms and conditions, visit primisbank.com/dsg. SOBERLINK Surviving divorce is one thing, but surviving divorce with a co-parent who abuses alcohol is a whole different ball game. Soberlink is a high-tech breathalyzer system that sends you instant results of a co-parent's alcohol levels. When your co-parent tests, their identity is automatically confirmed with facial recognition, and tamper sensors ensure no cheating has occurred. You then get instant proof that your kids are safe in their care. Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Help your family thrive in the new year. Visit www.soberlink.com/dsg to learn more and get $50 off your device. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Forensic Accountant Tracy Coenen joins me for a conversation about the predatory nature of MLMs. In addition to investigating fraud for over 25 years, Tracy founded Pink Truth, a website that uncovers the problematic and damaging truth of multi-level marketing (MLM). By and large, MLM schemes overwhelm and prey upon women, falsely promising entrepreneurship and financial freedom while making them more financially dependent on an abusive structure. In this episode, Tracy and I explore how MLMs masquerade as empowering ventures but function as wolves in sheep's clothing. Featured topics: Tracy Coenen sheds light on the predatory tactics of multi-level marketing. (6:10) False promises about entrepreneurship: We discuss the facade MLMs portray that "you are starting a business of your own…" (14:49) Instead of empowering women, MLMs make them more financially dependent on an exploitative structure. (21:31) Tracy answers, "Why are women so drawn to MLMs? Why are women a good target for this?" (42:12) Learn more about Tracy Coenen: Tracy has been investigating fraud for more than 25 years, but she didn't always want to be a forensic accountant. With a dream of one day being a prison warden, Tracy went to Marquette University in Milwaukee, WI to get a criminology degree. A class on financial crime investigations reminded her how much she loved Encyclopedia Brown books as a kid. She continued her criminology degree, but added accounting and economics courses so she could become a CPA… and here Tracy is, finding money in cases of corporate fraud, high net worth divorce, and other financial shenanigans. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Pink Truth The Dream Show notes: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-257-the-truth-behind-mlms-with-tracy-coenen/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: PRIMIS BANK Get started navigating your new financial picture with Primis Bank. For terms and conditions, visit primisbank.com/dsg. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Eli Harwood, the Attachment Nerd, joins me on the podcast this week to talk about attachment theory, building deep connections, and her new book, Securely Attached: Transform Your Attachment Patterns Into Loving, Lasting Romantic Relationships! We hear about attachment styles all the time. In this episode, Eli and I nerd out on all things attachment, get to the heart of how attachment patterns impact us, and how to transform patterns that are not in service of healthy, loving relationships. Featured topics: Attachment styles/patterns: what does the developmental research say? (3:42) What attachment is from a biological/evolutionary perspective. (6:46) The different attachment patterns and how each pattern impacts relationships. (7:03) Eli answers, "Can you transform into a secure attachment pattern in an unhealthy relationship?" (24:00) It is ethically contraindicated to engage in couples therapy when abuse is present. (33:58) When you leave an abusive relationship, you will be creating a domain in your life and your children's lives that are free of abuse. (40:28) Learn more about Eli Harwood: Eli Harwood is a licensed therapist, author, and educator who has more than 17 years of experience helping people process relational traumas and develop secure attachment relationships with their children and partners. Eli has three children, one husband, two cats, and an extraordinary number of plants! Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Private Coaching with Kate Eli on Instagram Eli's website Eli's book, Securely Attached Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-256-exploring-attachment-patterns-with-eli-harwood/ ---------------------- TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: PRIMIS BANK Get started navigating your new financial picture with Primis Bank. For terms and conditions, visit primisbank.com/dsg. -------------------- DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

This week, we are talking about reinventing oneself on the other side of divorce. Jenny Eversole founded Stylespace.com, an online professional styling service that elevates your style with expert stylists. She joins me to discuss discovering your identity through style and aligning it with who you are now. Jenny guides us through the process of defining our unique style identities. From curating our closets to accentuating our body types, Jenny's wisdom reminds us that style is not just about clothing—it's a powerful tool for self-discovery and confidence. Featured topics: How you can become grounded in who you are by discovering your identity through style (9:11) How to define your style that showcases your identity, goals, personality, and values (11:09) Editing your closet to let go and move on and create space for new opportunities (14:53) Style is for everyone and every body type (16:47) How to dress to accentuate your specific body type (32:31) Learn more about Jenny Eversole: Jenny Eversole is the founder of Stylespace.com an online professional styling service to elevate your style with expert stylists. After nearly a decade running her couture fashion label, she learned how personal style impacts every area of life from one's confidence, productivity, happiness and overall success. Jenny founded Style Space for anyONE and anyBODY to look, feel, and BE their best through personal style. Jenny is a divorce survivor and is 9 years very happily remarried with 3 kids. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective StyleSpace: You can download a free guide to get started on your style at StyleSpace.com. Click the "Discover my dream style" link at the top. Jenny on LinkedIn Jenny on Instagram Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-255-discovering-identity-through-style-with-jenny-eversole/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: PRIMIS BANK Get started navigating your new financial picture with Primis Bank. For terms and conditions, visit primisbank.com/dsg. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Most narratives around narcissism in relationships center on individuals with narcissistic personalities. My guest this week, Dr. Ramani, shifts the focus to the survivors, giving them a voice and discussing the emotional turmoil and psychological impact of being in a relationship with a narcissistic individual. Through Dr. Ramani's latest book, "It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People," she offers invaluable insights into navigating the aftermath of narcissistic relationships, empowering survivors to reclaim their sense of self and find a path forward. Her extensive research and clinical experience offer practical guidance for individuals navigating a divorce or contemplating leaving a narcissistic relationship, providing a beacon of hope and understanding in the journey toward healing. Featured topics: Narcissism is a personality style. It is a series of traits. (8:04) Why is it hard for people in a relationship with a narcissist to understand what's actually happening? (14:43) What's happening to us when we are gaslit and in a fog of confusion from narcissistic abuse? (18:37) What radical acceptance is and how it can help you build a path forward toward healing (35:06) How Dr. Ramani helps people get to a place of radical acceptance (44:07) Learn more about Dr Ramani: Dr. Ramani Durvasula is a licensed clinical psychologist in Los Angeles, CA, Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, and the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting, a company focused on educating individuals, clinicians and businesses/institutions on the impact of narcissistic personality styles. Her academic research was focused on the impact of personality and personality disorders on health and behavior. She is an author of multiple books including Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship with a Narcissist, and "Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility and her newest book, It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People will be released in February, 2024 (Penguin Life). Dr. Durvasula is a faculty member for the APA Leadership Institute for Women in Psychology, and a consulting editor for the journal Behavioral Medicine. She has spoken widely on the impact of narcissism on mental health, relationships and the workplace. She also operates a popular YouTube channel and podcast (Navigating Narcissism). Dr. Durvasula is also working with PESI on the development of an educational and certification program for clinicians working with clients experiencing the fallout of narcissistic relationships. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Dr. Ramani's website Dr. Ramani on Instagram Dr. Ramani on TikTok Dr. Ramani on YouTube Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-254-its-not-you-identifying-and-healing-from-narcissistic-people-with-dr-ramani/ Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you'll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I'll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what's ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE ============================================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

This week's episode explores the research behind narcissism and how it should inform the way victims should approach negotiation with them. My guest is none other than Rebecca Zung, a top 1 percent attorney in the nation and a globally recognized expert in narcissism negotiation. With two incredible books under her belt, including her new book "Slay the Bully: How to Negotiate with a Narcissist and Win," and the acclaimed "Negotiate Like You Matter: The Surefire Way to Set Up and Win," Rebecca's insights are both profound and practical. This episode is packed with invaluable advice and strategies to empower you in dealing with narcissistic personalities. Tune in and prepare to SLAY the bully and negotiate like you matter! Featured topics: Rebecca talks about communication principles and strategies found in her book SLAY the Bully (3:05) We discuss how high-conflict personalities are formed, particularly with a focus on what the research has to say (7:28) You cannot communicate with a narcissistic person like you can a rational or reasonable person (14:35) What causes the trauma bond between a person and a narcissistic partner (17:45) How to approach a narcissist or high-conflict person when a trauma bond exists and the SLAY acronym: Strategy, Leverage, Anticipate, and You (24:59) A reminder to never JADE: Justify, Argue, Defend, or Explain (28:00) Learn more about Rebecca Zung: Rebecca Zung is one of the Top 1% of attorneys in the nation, having been recognized by U.S. News as one of the Best Lawyers in America. She's also a globally recognized Narcissism Negotiation Expert (more than 40 MILLION VIEWS on YouTube in 3 years) and the creator of the SLAY® negotiation method. She is the author of TWO bestselling books, Negotiate Like You M.A.T.T.E.R.: The Sure Fire Method to Step Up and Win (foreword by Robert Shapiro) and Breaking Free: A Step-by-Step Divorce Guide for Achieving Emotional, Physical, and Spiritual Freedom. Rebecca's perspectives are in high demand by television and print outlets, as she has been featured in or on Extra, Forbes, Huffington Post, Newsweek, Time, Dr. Drew, Ed Mylett's Podcast among others. Rebecca's podcast, Negotiate Your Best Life is ranked in the top .5% of all podcasts globally. She, along with In-N-Out Burger owner, Lynsi Snyder Ellingson, is also the founder of a 501c3, Slay Legal Aid, which provides legal aid to those in need. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Rebecca's website Rebecca's book Rebecca on Instagram Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-253-slay-the-bully-with-rebecca-zung/ Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you'll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I'll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what's ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

This week, I welcome Laurie James back to the show as we delve into somatic therapy, exploring its effectiveness in healing and discovering techniques to soothe the nervous system. Whether you're navigating the complexities of contemplating divorce or actively undergoing the process, you're bound to encounter a myriad of emotions. Join us as we uncover various methods and resources for healing and self-care. Laurie James is a mother, caregiver, divorcée, turned author, somatic relationship coach, and podcaster. She loves coaching midlife and beyond women looking to date and relationship differently. She helps her clients connect to their bodies and nervous systems to work through their unresolved past and find more freedom and love in all their relationships. Featured topics: Understanding Somatic Experience: What it is and exploring the benefits of this therapeutic methodology (3:22) Somatic healing in action: Laurie provides some examples of how this modality might be used in coaching or therapy (10:46) We explore alternate ways to soothe the nervous system (24:54) Learn more about Laurie James: Laurie James is a mother, caregiver, divorcée, turned author, somatic relationship coach, and podcaster. Laurie's book, Sandwiched: A Memoir of Holding On and Letting Go is about her journey from loneliness to finding belonging during a time when she was raising four teenage daughters, her mother had a heart attack, and her marriage began to crumble. Laurie loves coaching women in midlife and beyond looking to date and relationship differently. She helps her clients connect to their bodies and nervous system so they can work through their unresolved past and find more freedom and love in all their relationships. When she is not hosting her podcast, "Confessions of a Freebird", working w/ clients, she can be found nurturing her free spirit by walking her dog, skiing, sailing, hiking, spending time with close friends, volunteering or planning her next adventure. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Laurie's website Laurie on Instagram Laurie's free Beginner's Guide to Somatic Healing Episode 131: Sandwiched: Holding on and Letting Go with Laurie James Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-252-somatic-healing-with-laurie-james/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: PRIMIS BANK Get started navigating your new financial picture with Primis Bank. For terms and conditions, visit primisbank.com/dsg. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Join me this week for an enlightening discussion with Priscilla Gilman, acclaimed author of the upcoming paperback release of her critically acclaimed memoir, The Critic's Daughter. Priscilla, a former professor of English literature at Yale and Vassar, brings a wealth of insight as we explore the intricacies of co-parenting and divorce. Beyond her literary achievements, Priscilla is one of my oldest friends, which adds a personal touch to our conversation. The Critic's Daughter becomes a guide on what not to do when faced with the complexities of divorce, providing a personal and poignant account of Priscilla's experiences. It's a rare opportunity to glimpse into my childhood, too, and witness the powerful narrative of Priscilla's parents' divorce – a tale of resilience, hardship, and the mistakes made during an era when people simply didn't know how to get divorced without deeply affecting their children. Learn more about Priscilla Gilman: Priscilla Gilman is a former professor of English literature at both Yale University and Vassar College and the author of The Anti-Romantic Child: A Story of Unexpected Joy (Harper), and The Critic's Daughter (Norton). The Anti-Romantic Child was excerpted in Newsweek magazine and featured on the cover of its international edition. It received starred reviews in Publishers Weekly and Booklist, was an NPR Morning Edition Must-Read, Slate's Book of the Week, one of the year's Best Books for the Leonard Lopate Show and The Chicago Tribune, and one of five nominees for a Books for a Better Life Award for Best First Book. Andrew Solomon called it "rapturously beautiful and deeply moving, profound, and marvelous." Gilman's second book, The Critic's Daughter, was published by W.W. Norton in February 2023 (paperback February 2024); a memoir about her relationship with her brilliant and complicated father, the late drama and literary critic Richard Gilman, it is set in the heyday of intellectual culture in New York of the 1970s and 80s. The Critic's Daughter received starred reviews in Kirkus and Booklist; Nick Hornby called it "Beautiful: honest, raw, careful, soulful, brave and incredibly readable." It was a Washington Post Best Book of 2023, a New York Times Book Critics' Favorite Book of 2023, one of the Los Angeles Times' book critic and Book Maven Bethanne Patrick's Top 10 Non-Fiction Books of 2023, one of the "18 Books Lilith magazine Loved in 2023," and 3rd on Bookreporter's Harvey Freedenburg's Favorite Books of 2023. Since 2011, Gilman has taught literature and writing in countless settings. She was the parenting/education advice columnist for #1 New York Times bestselling author Susan Cain's Quiet Revolution website. She speaks frequently at schools, conferences, and organizations about parenting, education, autism, and the arts. In 2018, she became a certified Mindfulness and Loving-Kindness meditation teacher. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Priscilla's websiteThe Critic's DaughterPriscilla on InstagramPriscilla on Facebook Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-251-reflections-on-the-critics-daughter-with-priscilla-gilman/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: PRIMIS BANK Get started navigating your new financial picture with Primis Bank. For terms and conditions, visit primisbank.com/dsg. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Beverly Price of Her Empowered Divorce joins me to share invaluable insights on preparing for divorce beyond the standard paperwork and financial considerations. Our conversation covers a range of featured topics and divorce dilemmas, including identifying domestic abuse, educating yourself about divorce, privacy concerns, and effective communication in court. Join us for this enlightening conversation beyond the conventional aspects of divorce preparation. Beverly Price brings a unique perspective that will empower you to navigate this significant life transition with confidence and awareness. Featured topics: Why ascertaining whether or not you've been a victim of domestic abuse is one of the first things you should do when preparing for divorce (9:28) How to identify whether or not you are being abused - it's not just being hit or getting a broken bone (11:09) How and what to communicate in court to be heard, plus communicating without emotion (16:47) Getting an education about divorce is critical, but make sure you are getting information from the right places (and do information gathering before you hire an attorney) (27:56) Privacy and ensuring the right people have access to confidential or sensitive information (41:28) The preparation and planning that should go into having the "I want a divorce" conversation with a spouse (47:43) Learn more about Beverly Price: Beverly Price, of Her Empowered Divorce, has helped thousands of women with her 30+ years' divorce coaching experience by providing knowledge, support, and insight to empower those going through the divorce process before, during and after. Her one-on-one coaching process includes extensive preparation, legal and financial education, emotional management, communication and negotiation skills, empowerment and support. She herself has a personal history with co-parenting, domestic violence, multiple divorces, being a single working mother and more. Beverly is also the host of the Her Empowered Divorce Podcast with industry leading guests who bring the latest information and guidance to help those going through divorce. She herself has a personal history with co-parenting, domestic violence, multiple divorces, being a single working mother and more Beverly is also the creator of the Divorce Coalition, who along with founders, Susan Guthrie and Kate Anthony, have formed a group of top podcast hosts, bloggers, and divorce professionals who are dedicated to bringing understanding, healing, and resilience to the forefront, ending the cycle of abuse one survivor at a time. She hosts "Divorce Coalition Live" radio and tv show where she interviews top divorce and domestic violence professionals to bring education and awareness to victims, survivors and the general public. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Beverly's websiteBeverly on InstagramDivorce CoalitionDomestic Violence Hotline DomesticShelters.org Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-250-divorce-preparation-beyond-the-paperwork-with-beverly-price/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: PRIMIS BANK Get started navigating your new financial picture with Primis Bank. For terms and conditions, visit primisbank.com/dsg. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Lesa Koski, a seasoned attorney turned mediator, joins me in this week's podcast episode. We delve into the seven common dilemmas women often encounter during divorce. Gain valuable insights and practical advice on overcoming these challenges, arming yourself with knowledge for the journey ahead. Lesa is an accomplished attorney turned mediator with a passion for empowering individuals through the often turbulent waters of divorce. She has spent years helping individuals find amicable solutions, emphasizing communication, collaboration, and empowerment throughout the divorce process. She has helped hundreds of divorce mediation clients create a peaceful agreement that works for them and that they're proud of, without all the stress, fear, time, and money involved with fighting it out in court. Tune in to discover solutions, engage in crucial conversations, and empower yourself. Featured topics and divorce dilemmas discussed include: Understanding finances and financial obligations (10:00) Exploring fear around parenting and co-parenting during and after divorce (12:26) The emotional impact of divorce (19:02) Overcoming the social stigma of divorce and addressing the question, "How do we tell our parents about our divorce?" (28:49) Divorce doesn't necessarily mean you are divorcing your in-laws (unless that's what you desire). (30:35) Understanding and navigating the legal complexities of divorce, including child support, spousal maintenance, and the types of divorce options available (collaborative, mediation, etc.) (32:54) Division of marital assets, including the marital home (40:57) Overcoming loneliness and isolation (44:00) Learn more about Lesa Koski: Lesa Koski is an accomplished attorney turned mediator with a passion for empowering individuals through the often turbulent waters of divorce. Lesa has spent years helping individuals find amicable solutions, emphasizing communication, collaboration, and empowerment throughout the divorce process. She has helped hundreds of divorce mediation clients create a peaceful agreement that works for them and that they're proud of, without all the stress, fear, time and money involved with fighting it out in court. Lesa's legal background allows her to share legal information which assists in drafting a plan that works for them and holds up in Court. Her background combined with her recent certification as a Self-Made U life Coach brings a unique perspective to the table. Today, she'll be unraveling what she calls the "7 Dilemmas of Divorce" - those critical challenges that women commonly face when navigating the legal and emotional terrain of separation. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D WordPhoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment CollectiveVisit Lesa's website to download free resource: The Ultimate Guide to a Successful SplitConnect with LesaTake or Leave the House? With Tami Wollensak Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-249-the-seven-divorce-dilemmas-with-lesa-koski/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: SOBERLINK Surviving divorce is one thing, but surviving divorce with a co-parent who abuses alcohol is a whole different ball game. Soberlink is a high-tech breathalyzer system that sends you instant results of a co-parent's alcohol levels. When your co-parent tests, their identity is automatically confirmed with facial recognition, and tamper sensors ensure no cheating has occurred. You then get instant proof that your kids are safe in their care. Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Help your family thrive in the new year. Visit www.soberlink.com/dsg to learn more and get $50 off your device. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

T.H. Irwin and Jessica Klingbaum, co-founders of the online platform exEXPERTS, return to the podcast this week to talk about divorced mom moments. When going through a divorce, the primary emphasis is often on the emotional and mental preparation and the legal requirements to navigate through the process. However, there's an unforeseen facet to the experience, including unexpected yet significant moments of being a divorced parent. In this episode, T.H., Jessica, and I discuss some of the less anticipated aspects of divorce that demand resilience and adaptability - like maintaining a home, asking for help, and middle-of-the-night emergencies. Featured topics include: In case of emergency: how to anticipate and prepare for critical moments (5:07) Enhance your home management skills with practical tips for maintenance and handling unexpected emergencies. (16:08) Helping your kids through divorce as a co-parent (20:22) Embrace the reality that being an engaged parent, rather than a supermom, makes a lasting impact on your kids. Even the smallest gestures matter. (31:37) Recognize the importance of asking for help when needed (42:44) Learn more about T.H. Irwin and Jessica Klingbaum: T.H. Irwin and Jessica Klingbaum (kling-bomb) are the co-founders of the online platform, exEXPERTS. They're best friends who got divorced at the same time 14 years ago, but had TOTALLY different divorce experiences. They realized back then that they didn't have the right resources to understand all the options and the different choices they needed to make, but they did have each other. So they used their own divorce experiences to create a place online where anyone can go for any phase of divorce, to answer all the questions and to feel educated about the process and everything that goes into it. As they like to say, they've lived it, so they get it! Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word The exEXPERTS The exEXPERTS on Instagram The exEXPERTS on TikTok The exEXPERTS on FacebookThe Most Important Things You Need In Your Home After Divorce (Season 2, Episode 10 of Divorce, Etc.) Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-248-divorced-mom-moments-with-the-exexperts-t-h-irwin-amp-jessica-klingbaum/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: THE REVISED SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? PROGRAM An online coaching program designed to help you make the right decision about your marriage...once and for all. In this groundbreaking online coaching program, you'll unlock the support, education and deep transformational work you need to finally answer to your most burning question: should I stay or should I go? DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Are you familiar with the term intergenerational trauma? My guest, Dr. Mariel Buqué, explains intergenerational trauma as "shadows of emotional pain that has plagued families for generations." Whether intergenerational trauma is a new term to you or something you've long been interested in shedding, this week's episode brings to light the complexities of this trauma and explores how to heal from it. Dr. Mariel Buqué is a Columbia University-trained Psychologist, intergenerational trauma expert, and the author of the book Break the Cycle: a book that focuses on healing wounds of intergenerational trauma. Her holistic clinical framework infuses ancient and indigenous healing practices into a modern, comprehensive therapeutic approach. Get ready for an enlightening discussion as we unravel the intricacies of intergenerational trauma with the exceptional Dr. Mariel Buqué. Featured topics include: What is Intergenerational trauma? Is it really a part of our DNA? (8:27) Recognizing triggers, naming them, and having the fortitude to change the behavioral pattern is valuable, but it can take many years of therapy to get to this point (10:25) How our family trauma contributes to our intimate relationship dynamics (26:48) Breaking the cycle of trauma in our lives to develop healthier relationships (34:58) Learn more about Dr. Mariel Buqué: Dr. Mariel Buqué is a Columbia University-trained Psychologist, intergenerational trauma expert, and the author of the book Break the Cycle: a book that focuses on healing wounds of intergenerational trauma. Her clinical framework is holistic and infuses ancient and indigenous healing practices into a modern, comprehensive therapeutic approach. She additionally provides healing workshops to Fortune 100 companies including Google, Twitter, Capital One, and Facebook and lectures within the psychology department of Columbia University. Dr. Buqué is widely sought out for her clinical expertise and trauma healing approach and has been featured on major media outlets including The Today Show, Good Morning America, and ABC News. Resources & Links: Kate's book "The D Word" Dr. Mariel's bookDr. Mariel on Instagram Dr. Mariel on TikTok Dr. Mariel on YouTube Dr. Mariel on Facebook Show link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-247-break-the-cycle-of-intergenerational-trauma-with-dr-mariel-buque/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: THE REVISED SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? PROGRAM An online coaching program designed to help you make the right decision about your marriage...once and for all. In this groundbreaking online coaching program, you'll unlock the support, education and deep transformational work you need to finally answer to your most burning question: should I stay or should I go? DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

This week's episode focuses on the impact of significant life transitions on relationships and mental health, emphasizing the need for open communication and understanding. Alessandra Torresani is my special-guest. She is a multi-hyphenate actress, host, creator, and mental health advocate. In this episode, Alessandra's candidness extends to societal stigmas, the fear of judgment, and the importance of recognizing mental health challenges in both men and women. By sharing her journey with Bipolar 1 Disorder, Alessandra aims to break down barriers and encourage others to seek help, fostering a community of support and understanding. Tune in for a conversation about postpartum struggles, mental health challenges, and navigating parenthood with vulnerability and strength. Featured topics include: Alessandra discusses the physical, emotional, and identity changes of being a new mom. (4:36) The impact of significant life transitions, such as becoming a parent, on marriages (5:33) We explore the question, "Why does stating you want a divorce seem like such a surprise to a partner?" (17:00) What to know when it comes to creating a parenting plan as a new mom (18:55) Alessandra shares her experience living with Bipolar 1 Disorder and navigating motherhood and marriage while not being medicated (24:26) Mental health and relationships: Some advice for those in relationships where someone has a mental illness and is not doing anything about it (40:09) Learn more about Alessandra Torresani: Alessandra is a multi-hyphenate actress, host, creator, and mental health advocate. She is dedicated to de-stigmatizing mental health by spreading kindness, compassion and hope. She brings tons of fun and laughter to her mission with sharing her story about living with BiPolar 1 Disorder on her podcast EmotionAL Support. Resources & Links: Pre-order Kate's book "The D Word" EmotionAL Support Pod Alessandra on Instagram Show Link: http://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-246-mental-health-relationships-and-lifes-transitions-with-alessandra-torresani/

Do you know what your relationship style is? In this enlightening podcast episode, we delve into the fascinating world of relationship styles with Dr. Anita Knight Kuhnley, Associate Professor of Counseling at Liberty University and author of "The Mister Rogers Effect" and "The Four Relationship Styles: How Attachment Theory Can Help You in Your Search for Lasting Love" (releasing January 2024). Dr. Kuhnley, drawing from her extensive experience, shares valuable insights on identifying and understanding your relationship style, navigating relationships, and exploring the strengths and challenges inherent in each style. This episode uncovers the profound impact of our relationship styles on our emotional well-being and teaches us to embrace the strengths within each style for a more thriving and fulfilling life. Featured topics include: What are relationship styles? (2:46) How and where to find out what your relationship is (7:19) The attributes of the four relationship styles: security guard, networker, firefighter, and investigator (10:00) As we become more self-aware, we can change the relationship style we have (21:44) "The way we do relationships is the way we do emotion." (33:10) Every relationship style has tremendous strengths; embracing them can help us thrive. (39:02) Learn more about Dr. Anita Knight Kuhnley: Anita is an author, esteemed scholar, expert counselor, and speaker. She is passionately committed to her mission of sharing simple psychological techniques that empower counselors and individuals to improve their own lives and make a positive impact on others. She has authored or co-authored nine books, including the acclaimed "The Mister Rogers Effect" (2020), which unpacks the incredible influence of Fred Rogers through a psychological lens. In her upcoming book, "The Four Relationship Styles: How Attachment Theory Can Help in Your Search for Lasting Love" (January 2024), she integrates classic attachment theory to provide readers with valuable insights into understanding both themselves and those with whom they aspire to build meaningful relationships. She resides in Florida. Resources & Links: Pre-order Kate's book "The D Word" Anita's website Pre-order Anita's book "The Four Relationship Styles." Anita on Instagram Show link: http://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-245-the-four-relationship-styles-with-dr-anita-knight-kuhnley/ Get Your Curated Podcast Playlist! Answer four easy questions and you'll get a curated list of podcast episodes to best support you as you navigate these tricky waters. I'll also help you identify where you currently stand on this journey, and what's ahead, with resources to help you move through this process with knowledge and grace. GET IT HERE DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

This week's episode revisits a fan-favorite conversation about coercive control with the incredible Dr. Christine Coccihola. We explore how coercive control serves as the bedrock for a majority of domestic abuse cases, often manifesting in non-physical forms, and discuss the insidious nature of control, including its impact and how to get help if you are a victim. Whether you're revisiting this powerful episode or hearing it for the first time, Dr. Cocchiola's insights are invaluable in navigating the complexities of relationships. Listen to hear (or re-hear) this conversation about coercive control. Featured topics include: What is coercive control? The global impact of high-profile cases that revolve around coercive control DARVO: an acronym used to describe a common strategy of abusers How coercive controllers gain and retain control How to avoid coercive control and other abusive situations Learn more about Dr. Christine Cocchiola: Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW is a Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher & Survivor. Coercive Control, the foundation of most domestic abuse, is often non-physical with offenders using "power over" to abuse their victims psychologically, legally, financially, and sexually and where children are involved, use of the children as pawns. She is a college professor teaching social work at CT Community College for the last 20 years and also an adjunct instructor at NYU. Her expertise is in the areas of intimate partner violence, trauma, and child abuse, developing and presenting workshops on these topics both nationally and internationally. Christine, a Board Member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, has supported policy codifying coercive control and has a small private practice, primarily serving victims and survivors of coercive control. She is the creator of the Protective Parenting Program, supporting protective mothers on their journey of healing their children. Resources & Links: Pre-order Kate's book "The D Word" and Grab Your Bonuses! Dr. Cocchiola's websiteDr. Cocchiola on InstagramDr. Cocchiola on FacebookDr. Cocchiola on TwitterDr. Cocchiola on LinkedInInstagram Live with Dr. Christine about Depp v HeardWhat Happens After You Leave Your Abusive Marriage? with Leanne Oaten Episode Link: http://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-244-coercive-control-with-dr-christine-cocchiola/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: SOBERLINK Proof. Protection. Peace of Mind. The Soberlink remote alcohol monitoring system comprises a portable breathalyzer with wireless technology for real-time results. With proven use as the leading choice in child custody cases since 2011, we are the only system that combines: Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Trust the Experts in Remote Alcohol Monitoring Technology™ to support the best interests of the child in your Family Law cases. DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Nicole Sodoma joins me on the podcast this week! Nicole is a marriage-loving divorce attorney, founder of Sodoma Law, and author of "Please Don't Say You're Sorry." In this episode, Nicole shares empowering advice from her book, offering a unique perspective on gracefully navigating the challenges of divorce. Discover the thought-provoking concepts and questions that will compel you to lift your head out of the sand, look closely at your relationships, and help guide you as you take the steps toward divorce. Our conversation covers essential topics such as preparation for divorce, understanding the work required for a successful and happy future, and the actions and steps one should take when considering divorce or separation. Tune in to gain a fresh perspective on the complexities of love and separation and learn how humor and introspection can guide you toward a brighter, more informed journey. Featured topics include: What would your partner say is the reason you want a divorce? Uncover the importance of open communication about the motivations behind this life-altering decision. (8:00) Nicole reveals why the safest place to disclose your deepest secrets is with your attorney. Plus, she offers communication tips for interacting effectively with them. (8:32) We discuss thought-provoking concepts and questions designed to help you confront the realities of your relationship. (27:53) Prepare for the unexpected: Contemplate a scenario where your spouse asks for a divorce. Are you prepared? Nicole helps us think further about the mental and emotional preparations needed to navigate this challenging situation. (33:13) Learn more about Nicole Sodoma: As a marriage-loving divorce attorney of 25 years, Nicole Sodoma has pioneered a way through the often- dreaded field of family law with integrity, compassion, and tenacity. Over the years, Nicole has risen to prominence as a national authority on divorce, custody, and co-parenting. However, Nicole never expected to go through a divorce herself. Through her professional and personal learnings, Nicole authored her first book, PLEASE DON'T SAY YOU'RE SORRY in 2022. The book is a witty, honest, and wildly relatable account of the stripped-down realities of marriage, separation, and divorce. While there's no denying that divorce sucks, PLEASE DON'T SAY YOUR'E SORRY serves as a reminder that although the journey can be wholly overwhelming and emotionally exhausting - it also doesn't have to be the worst thing that's ever happened to you. Nicole's new PLEASE DON'T SAY YOU'RE SORRY Workbook is the perfect companion to the book or audiobook, featuring thought-provoking questions, inspirational quotes and must-have relationship worksheets, perfect for anyone navigating marriage, separation or divorce. Resources & Links: Pre-order Kate's book "The D Word" Nicole's websitePlease Don't Say You're Sorry Book and Workbook Nicole on LinkedIn Nicole on Instagram Nicole on Facebook Episode Link: http://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-243-preparing-for-divorce-with-nicole-sodoma/ TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: THE REVISED SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? PROGRAM An online coaching program designed to help you make the right decision about your marriage...once and for all. In this groundbreaking online coaching program, you'll unlock the support, education and deep transformational work you need to finally answer to your most burning question: should I stay or should I go? DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.