The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast

My friend and colleague Tony Overbay is back, and we're unpacking one of the most transformative concepts in relational healing: differentiation. At its core, differentiation is the ability to say, "This is who I am" and to stay rooted in your identity, beliefs, and emotions, even when others might pressure you to conform. It's about holding onto yourself while staying connected to others, without relying on external validation to feel okay. In this episode Tony and I talk about what differentiation really means, and how developing a solid sense of self—what Tony calls a "90% solid, 10% flexible" ratio—can change how you navigate conflict, boundaries, intimacy, and even sex. Differentiation isn't something you do to fix the relationship. It's something you do to help you hold onto or come home to yourself. Here's what else we discuss in this episode: The truth about interdependence and how it is the opposite of codependence (14:03) Tony breaks down the four points of balance in differentiation: building a solid sense of self, self-regulating emotions, managing reactivity, and sitting with discomfort for growth (17:22) The dangers of chasing external validation instead of developing self-worth from within (20:08) Why "constructing your crucible" is both hard and necessary (39:15) Learn more about Tony Overbay: Tony Overbay is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Mindful Habit Coach, and host of two award-winning mental health podcasts, The Virtual Couch and Waking Up to Narcissism, with over 12 million downloads across 150+ countries. He also co-hosts Love, ADHD with author Julie Lee, The Mind, The Mirror, and Me with his daughter Mackie, and Murder on the Couch, a true-crime-meets-therapy podcast with his daughter Sydney. Together, Tony, Mackie, and Sydney offer live weekly relationship advice to over 20,000 viewers across TikTok (@virtualcouch), Instagram (@virtual.couch) and YouTube. Tony's first book, He's a Porn Addict, Now What?, was an Amazon best-seller in Sexual Health and Recovery and he currently has two books scheduled for a late 2025 release. One is based on his "Waking Up to Narcissism" podcast, and the other is on couples communication based on his "4 Pillars of a Connected Conversation," which he developed while working with over 1500 couples over the past 20 years. He works with individuals and couples on issues including narcissistic traits, states, and tendencies, emotional immaturity, betrayal trauma, faith transitions, and addiction. He's the creator of The Path Back, a faith-based online pornography recovery program, and offers courses on couples communication, parenting, and navigating faith journeys at tonyoverbay.com (https://tonyoverbay.com/). Tony has four adult children, recently became a grandpa, and has been married to his high school sweetheart, Wendy, for 34 years. Before becoming a therapist, he worked as a software executive and wrote a humor column for nearly eight years. He's an avid runner with over 100 marathons and ultramarathons under his belt, including a dozen 100-mile races. Resources & Links: Thank you to today's podcast sponsor: Our Family WizardSubmit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with KatePhoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Tony's websiteTony on InstagramTony on TikTok =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-324-the-power-of-differentiation-with-tony-overbay/

When you've finally left a toxic marriage and your kids, especially adult kids, have spent years steeped in that same environment, the guilt can be crushing. You wonder: How do I help them heal? How do I set them up for success when I feel like I already failed them? Dr. Alexandra Solomon is back, and we're getting into the deep stuff: parenting through regret, healing alongside our kids, and what it means to let our children hold their truth, even when it wrecks us a little. And, when you've walked through fire and come out whole, you get to show your kids that love can look like mutual adoration, and that being single is better than being stuck. Here are some truths you'll hear: Your healing is the best gift you can give your child. Witnessing their pain doesn't mean narrating their story. You're allowed to screw up, and still be a good parent. This one's for every mother who wonders if it's too late to get it right. It's not. Here's what else we discuss in this episode: Why witnessing your child's pain is step one to their healing (7:25) How healing ourselves supports our kids more than trying to fix them (9:37) Why modeling a healthy post-divorce relationship can be life-changing (22:49) The danger of "I don't want my kid to make the same mistakes I did" (35:44) How to have emotionally safe relationship talks with your kids (39:59) Learn more about Dr. Alexandra Solomon, PhD: Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is internationally recognized as one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the globe. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is a clinician educator and a frequent contributor to academic journals, and she translates her academic and therapeutic experience to the public through her popular Instagram page, which has garnered over 200K followers. She is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, reaches tens of thousands of listeners across the globe each week and features high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning author of two books: Taking Sexy Back and Loving Bravely, which was featured on the TODAY show. Resources & Links: Thank you to today's podcast sponsor: Wild Pastures Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodesFocused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Alexandra's websiteIntimate Relationships 101Reimagining Love Podcast Alexandra on Instagram Alexandra on FacebookMasterclass Anxiety Toolkit =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-323-parenting-through-regret-and-repair-with-dr-alexandra-solomon/

Beverly Engel is back, and I'm so grateful to talk with someone who's spent decades helping people break free from trauma-driven relationship patterns. If you've ever felt stuck in the same story - same red flags, different partner - you're not alone. In this episode, Beverly brings clarity to the messy, courageous work of breaking free and putting your past in your past. Beverly is a renowned psychotherapist and author of 27 self-help books, including her latest, Put Your Past In Your Past. In this conversation, we get into how hard it is to break lifelong patterns, especially when you were never taught how to feel your feelings, let alone trust them. But that's where the work is and that's how we begin to change everything. Healing is messy. It's uncomfortable. But it's also liberating as hell. Here's what else we discuss in this episode: What trauma reenactment actually is and how to begin interrupting the cycle (7:56) How to create a "triggers list" and begin connecting the dots between past pain and present-day reactions (10:51) Why you can't heal what you don't feel and what to do when the emotions finally surface (18:44) The fear of naming your trauma in relationships (and how to work through it) (40:08) Tools for building self-compassion and protecting yourself moving forward (43:40) Learn more about Beverly Engel: Beverly is an internationally recognized psychotherapist and expert on trauma. She has written 27 books on the related subjects of abuse, shame, and empowerment, including The Emotionally Abusive Relationship and Healing Your Emotional Self. Her books have been translated into many languages, including Spanish, Japanese, Chinese, Korean, Greek, Turkish, and Polish. She has a blog on Psychology Today titled The Compassion Chronicles and her writing has been featured in Oprah Magazine, Cosmopolitan, The Chicago Tribune and The Washington Post, to name a few. Resources & Links: Thank you to today's podcast sponsor: Our Family WizardSubmit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Beverly's website Heal My ShameBeverly on Instagram =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-322-put-your-past-in-your-past-with-beverly-engel/

Valerie Jones joins me for a powerful conversation about something so many of us need to hear: redefining what it truly means to be selfish. Valerie is a life coach, host of The Selfish Woman Podcast, and the author of the upcoming book The Selfish Year: The Power of Choosing Yourself, hitting shelves in September 2025. In our conversation, Valerie shares the transformative experience of her own "selfish year" after leaving an emotionally abusive relationship — a year that challenged her to get radically honest with herself and stop outsourcing her self-worth. We also dive into dating as a self-growth experiment (yes, really!), how emotional safety shapes our experiences of sex and intimacy, and why centering ourselves is not only radical, but absolutely necessary. Here's what else we get into, in this episode: Why Valerie chose "selfish" as her word of the year and how it became a life-changing framework (5:38) What Valerie's recovery from people-pleasing looked like, and how it shows up in her work and life today (15:26) Emotional safety is non-negotiable for sex and intimacy (25:39) How to start trusting yourself again after emotional abuse (32:25) Learn more about Val Jones: Valerie Jones is a Life Coach for women who are ready to create the life they truly desire. She is on a mission to redefine the word selfish, and help women learn how to prioritize themselves. Through her proven methods based in neuroscience, Valerie has helped thousands of women create better lives and relationships. Valerie is host of The Selfish Woman Podcast and author of The Selfish Year: The Power of Choosing Yourself. She is known for her direct approach and relatability combined with humor and compassion. Resources: Thank you to today's podcast sponsor: Wild PasturesSubmit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Valerie's websiteThe Selfish Woman Podcast Valerie on TikTok Valerie on Instagram Valerie on YouTube ====== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

If you're stuck in endless loops with a high-conflict ex, Brook Olsen wants you to stop expecting them to change, and start changing how you respond. Brook is a Certified Parenting Educator, Divorce Coach, and author of The Black Hole of High Conflict. In this conversation, we get real about what happens when you stop feeding the conflict, why parallel parenting is often the only way forward, and how choosing not to engage isn't weakness, it's clarity. Plus, Brook offers a framework that isn't just theory, it's deeply practical and actionable, especially when the legal system or co-parenting landscape isn't exactly on your side. Here's what else we get into, in this episode: Why disengagement is a laddered process, and how to stay in it (8:50) The nervous system's role in conflict and how to regulate your response (10:27) What conscious competence looks like in high-stress situations (28:57) The difference between co-parenting and parallel parenting (32:52) How to stop pushing back and start reclaiming your energy (36:10) Learn more about Brook Olsen: Brook Olsen is a Certified Parenting Educator with the International Network for Children and Families, a Certified Divorce Mediator, Divorce Coach, and author of The Black Hole of High Conflict, which offers perspectives and strategies for navigating a high conflict divorce. Brook's knowledge of how the nervous system works and understanding of the role it plays in psychological and physiological reactions to trauma, conflict and anxiety brings a holistic approach to his work with families caught in the High Conflict cycle. Brook teaches classes in the High Conflict Diversion Program and trains instructors to teach the Program throughout the U.S. and Canada. He also leads workshops in communication for couples and is a peer consultant for fellow professionals. Resources & Links: Thank you to today's podcast sponsor: Our Family Wizard Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Brook's websiteBrook's podcastThe Black Hole of High ConflictBrook on InstagramBrook on Facebook Brook's Facebook Group for High Conflict Divorce Support =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-320-the-black-hole-of-high-conflict-with-brook-olsen/

April Worthington is a teacher, mother of five, minister, and author of The Debriefing Workbook: Hope and Healing after Spiritual Abuse. In this conversation, April shares her experience involving a retreat led by Lundy Bancroft, author of Why Does He Do That?, a book many of us have clung to in our darkest moments. April's story isn't just one of personal harm, it's a call to action. As a survivor of both spiritual abuse and high-conflict divorce, April recounts how her initial fan-girl admiration of Bancroft shifted into something far more troubling after an encounter that left her reeling. She shares what unfolded during and after that retreat, the red flags she noticed, and the courage it took to speak out despite the risks. I'm holding space for April as she brings forward not only her own experience, but those of others who have come to her with eerily similar stories. Her insight challenges us to re-examine what it means to trust "experts," and the danger in handing over our vulnerability to uncredentialed individuals cloaked in guru status. Here's what else we get into, in this episode: The red flags that emerged during and after the retreat (6:03) The emotional fallout of being targeted by someone seen as a "healing" authority (26:24) How April is building a support network for other survivors (28:35) Why separating the author from their work is no longer an option (36:22) Learn more about April Worthington: April Worthington is a teacher, mother of five, minister, and author of The Debriefing Workbook: Hope and Healing after Spiritual Abuse. Resources & Links: Thank you to today's podcast sponsor: Wild Pastures Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment CollectiveApril on FacebookApril's YouTube video: A Warning to Women- RUN GIRL! Lundy Bancroft is not your friend! A Cry for Justice: Lundy Bancroft is a Predator ====== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-319-when-the-healer-harms-speaking-out-against-lundy-bancroft/

Dr. Kerry McAvoy returns to talk about what it means to heal from narcissistic abuse. Not just from an intellectual standpoint, but healing your nervous system, in your relationships, and in your relationship to yourself. Healing is not quick, it's not tidy, and it's definitely not linear. Dr. Kerry and I talk about how women have been conditioned to serve, to disappear, to manage the emotions of everyone around us just to maintain the illusion of peace. We explore what emotional fusion looks like, what healthy relationships look like, and what it means to reconnect with Self throughout your healing journey. Here's what else we get into, in this episode: How and why so many of us learned to believe our needs are "too much" (3:59) Discerning between, "Are you being loved and respected or just useful?" (18:03) What healthy love actually looks like (spoiler alert it includes messiness and mistakes) (28:04) Healing doesn't have a finish line and why that's okay (29:35) Learn more about Kerry McAvoy, Ph.D: Dr. Kerry, a retired psychologist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships and deconstructing narcissism. Her blogs have been featured in Mamami, YourTango, Scary Mommy, and The Good Men Project. In Love You More, Dr. McAvoy gives an uncensored glimpse into her survival of narcissistic abuse, and her workbook, First Steps to Leaving a Narcissist, helps victims break free from the confusion common in abusive relationships. She hosts the Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse podcast and offers trauma-related advice on social media. Resources & Links: Thank you to today's podcast sponsor: Our Family WizardUnbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Dr. Kerry's websiteDr. Kerry on Facebook Dr. Kerry on Instagram Dr. Kerry on YouTube Dr. Kerry on TikTok Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships, David Schnarch PhD| ====== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Finding a partner after divorce can feel like searching for a needle in a haystack. This week's guest, Jennie Young, suggests a bold alternative - burn the haystack. Jennie is the creator of Burned Haystack Dating Method, a method grounded in applied rhetoric and feminist praxis, designed to push back against the toxic norms built into many modern dating platforms. In this episode, Jennie shares practical, no-nonsense strategies for using dating apps more intentionally, treating them as tools (not lifelines), turning off notifications, and yes, burning the haystack. We also explore the common rhetorical patterns many men use on apps and how to recognize and respond to them when they show up. Tune in for an eye-opening conversation that puts you back in control of your dating life, no algorithm required. Here's what else we get into, in this episode: How Burned Haystack Dating Method came to be and the story behind its name (5:22) The 10 essential rules that make up the Burned Haystack Dating Method (13:06) What critical discourse analysis actually is and how it can help you navigate dating apps with confidence (37:10) The rhetorical red flags to look out for, like "Test and apologize," "Are you my mother?" and "Where were you on January 6th?" (38:58) Learn more about Jennie Young: Jennie Young is the creator of Burned Haystack Dating Method, a dating method grounded in applied rhetoric and feminist praxis. It is designed to combat many of the challenges of dating in a market that is too frequently mediated by misogynistic and patriarchal structures. She holds a Ph.D. in rhetoric and discourse studies from Case Western Reserve University and a satire writing certificate from Second City Chicago. Her work has been published in McSweeney's, Ms. Magazine, HuffPost, and others and covered by major media outlets such as The New York Times, Newsweek, RollingStone, and others. Resources & Links: Thank you to this episode's sponsor: Wild Pastures Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025 Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Jennie's website Jennie's Facebook Group Jennie on Instagram Jennie on Bluesky Jennie on LinkedIn Episode 309: Online Dating After Divorce with Alyssa Dineen DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-317-burned-haystack-dating-method-with-jennie-young/

Nikki Tucker is back, and we're tackling some of the most infuriating, and increasingly common, financial issues women are facing in divorce today. Nikki and I are arming you with strategies to fight back during divorce negotiations with facts and numbers. In this episode, we talk about how fear can make you want to just give in, and why that urge to "just be done" could cost you so much more than you realize. Nikki's advice? Run the numbers. Know the math behind the "yes" and the "no." Plus, we touch on something a lot of us don't want to think about, but need to: the unstable and uncertain economy. Nikki offers practical steps you can take now to protect yourself financially. This episode is packed with straightforward insights and empowering advice to help you make confident money decisions today that will shape your future. Here's what else we get into, in this episode: How to push back on unreasonable settlement offers by fighting fear with facts (5:58) What the unstable economy means for your post-divorce financial decisions (20:30) Crypto in divorce: when it's worth fighting over and when it's just a shiny distraction (28:49) Learn more about Nikki Tucker: Nikki Tucker is a Speaker, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, and Founder of The FIIRM Approach, a business dedicated to helping women overcome uncertainty and overwhelm in their financial lives while preparing for uncoupling or divorce. Through dynamic action-based workshops and on-demand digital resources, Nikki makes financial education practical and accessible to all women, showing them how to take control of their money, and create a new financial life post-divorce. Nikki firmly believes that all women deserve financial security, and is committed to reframing the divorce journey for women by reducing stigma and fear, and allowing them to establish and maintain financial independence, regardless of their relationship status. Resources & Links: Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025 Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Nikki's website Nikki on Instagram Nikki on Facebook The Divorce Support Pack DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-316-running-the-numbers-with-nikki-tucker/

Dawn Pick Benson, a self-discovery travel coach and writer, joins me to explore how travel can be a powerful tool for transformation, especially during life's crossroads, whether it's divorce, a faith shift, or an identity crisis. When everything feels uncertain, moving forward can seem impossible. Dawn shares how travel became a catalyst for reclaiming her power, redefining her faith, and embracing a new identity. Her journey to Kosovo reveals how travel isn't just an escape, it can be a path to deep spiritual reshaping and self-discovery. What you'll hear: The pivotal moment when Dawn realized her marriage and faith no longer aligned with her true self (2:36) How travel allowed her to question and redefine her beliefs outside of societal expectations (11:49) Practical tips to make travel more affordable, even if you feel stuck financially or logistically (29:08) How the BRAVE Journey process helps women design meaningful solo travel experiences (32:09) The role of community and self-reflection in making travel a transformational experience (39:16) Learn more about Dawn Pick Benson: Dawn Pick Benson is a self-discovery travel coach and writer who helps women rediscover themselves and thrive in their second half of life through travel. Dawn's small group coaching program, Brave Journey, helps women envision, plan and take their own transformational journeys. She also hosts retreats for women each year around the world. Dawn has visited more than 50 countries and has lived and worked in the Middle East and Eastern Europe. She's a Global Ambassador for the Travel Coach Network, a Certified Cultural Intelligence facilitator, and her work and story has appeared in The Washington Post, The New York Times, Wander and TripAdvisor. Dawn splits her time between living in the U.S. & Kosovo, where she is currently working on a book about her own journey and the transformative power of solo travel after divorce. Resources & Links:Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Dawn's websiteDawn on Instagram Dawn's Substack Dawn on LinkedIn Dawn on Facebook Dawn on YouTube DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-315-your-next-brave-journey-with-dawn-pick-benson/

What if divorce didn't have to be as complicated or expensive? Liz Pharo, the founder of Divorce.com, is on a mission to make the divorce process easier and less stressful. In this episode, Liz shares how she transitioned from the tech world to create Divorce.com, a platform designed to help people handle the paperwork, planning, and even mediation in a more streamlined way. Liz and I talk about the different types of divorce, mediated vs. court-based, and why focusing on the kids and minimizing trauma is key. Plus, Liz shares how Divorce.com can save you time and money, the importance of working with coaches and therapists during the process, and why you need to be aware of sketchy divorce service providers. Divorce is never simple, but with the right resources and mindset, it doesn't have to be confusing or exhausting. What you'll hear: Liz's journey from software engineer to Divorce.com founder (2:56) How Divorce.com simplifies the divorce process (7:57) The benefits of mediation and working with professionals (10:30) Why being informed about divorce options is crucial (26:12) Learn more about Liz Pharo: Elizabeth "Liz" Pharo launched Divorce.com in 2022 with the vision of revolutionizing the way people divorce – offering a more compassionate and healthier path with less conflict and financial burden. Amid her own divorce, Liz founded Divorce.com to pave the way for individuals to access online divorce services at a fraction of the cost, as well as eliminate the taboo that still remains around divorce. The company's goal is to have couples planning to divorce first consider "Divorce.com-ing it." Mediators then guide couples through the Divorce.com process to complete their divorce peacefully with mutual respect for both parties. Beyond her work helping Divorce.com reduce the time, cost, and trauma of the typical divorce process, Liz is dedicated to the growth and development of her own community and serves on the boards of the Economic Development Partnership of Alabama, Venture for America, and Blight-Free Birmingham. Liz enjoys running and spending time with her family at Lake Martin. Resources & Links: Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025 Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Divorce.comDivorce.com on Instagram Divorce.com on LinkedIn Divorce.com on TikTok Divorce.com on Facebook Divorce.com on YouTube Liz on LinkedIn Liz on Instagram Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-314-streamlining-divorce-with-liz-pharo-founder-of-divorce-com/

Andrea Vacca returns to explore amicable divorce solutions, even in high-conflict cases. While avoiding litigation is often the goal, sometimes it's unavoidable. Andrea breaks down the benefits of staying out of court, how to keep children at the center, and when it's time to shift from collaboration or mediation to litigation. Together, we also explore the power of a team-based approach and the role of a divorce coach, specifically how a coach can save you time, money, and energy! With her expertise in collaborative divorce and positive psychology, Andrea offers a fresh, empowering take on navigating divorce without court. You'll also hear: The misconception that all high-conflict divorces must go to court, and what it really takes to stay out of litigation (5:08) Why mediation isn't always the best fit for high-conflict couples and what alternative approaches may work better (8:53) The power of a team approach, including the role of a divorce coach in navigating conflict (11:20) Strategies for keeping children at the center of decisions (32:29) Learn more about Andrea Vacca: Andrea Vacca is the founder of Vacca Family Law Group in Manhattan, a boutique law firm focused on non-adversarial divorce and family law matters including divorce, separation, and prenuptial and postnuptial agreements. With a background in traditional divorce litigation, Andrea now exclusively helps her clients find amicable divorce solutions outside of court. She is a widely recognized collaborative divorce attorney and mediator, former President of the New York Association of Collaborative Professionals, author of the book Divorce Without Court: A More Peaceful Solution, and creator and host of "A Better Divorce" podcast. In addition to her law degree, Andrea holds a Certificate in Positive Psychology and recently became a Certified Positive Psychology Coach. Andrea regularly applies Positive Psychology principles in her work to help her clients navigate divorce, including having a growth mindset, being resilient, and encouraging mindfulness, helping them emerge stronger and more empowered. Resources & Links: Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodesFocused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Andrea's website, Vacca Family Law GroupGet a free digital copy of Andrea's book, Divorce Without Court: A More Peaceful Solution Andrea on Facebook Andrea on Instagram Andrea on LinkedIn Andrea on YouTube =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-313-divorce-without-court-is-it-really-possible-with-andrea-vacca

John Kim, aka The Angry Therapist, joins me to chat about his new book, Breakup on Purpose: A Catalyst for Growth. A bestselling author, well-known for his raw, no-nonsense approach to self-help, John keeps it real by practicing full authenticity and transparency. In this episode, he challenges us to rethink breakups. No one really talks about the different kinds of breakups, but John breaks them down into eight distinct types and explains how understanding which one you're going through can be a total game-changer. We dive into how this framework can help you process your experience, focus your healing, and even turn your breakup into an opportunity for growth. You'll also hear: Why understanding your specific breakup type can help you prioritize healing (4:55) John goes through all eight breakup types and explains the different responses they may create (6:07) How healing from divorce is different from other breakups (37:15) Learn more about John Kim: John Kim, LMFT is a bestselling author with a new book out called: BREAK UP ON PURPOSE: A Catalyst for Growth. Kim blogs as The Angry Therapist, and practices complete authenticity and transparency with his many clients. He is also the bestselling author of: "It's Not Me, It's You;" "Single. On Purpose," and "I Used to be a Miserable F*ck." Resources & Links: Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025 Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective John's website John on Instagram John on Facebook John on YouTube =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-312-breakup-on-purpose-with-the-angry-therapist-john-kim-lmft/

Betrayal recovery coach Lora Cheadle is back on the show! She's flipping the script on burnout and explains why "it's not just stress—it's betrayal." When expectations break, whether in your career, marriage, or personal life, the real damage isn't just exhaustion—it's the hit to your sense of self and your self-worth. So, Lora breaks down why burnout happens when broken expectations rupture your view of yourself or the world—and how to shift out of it. She also walks us through her FUEL UP burnout recovery method, designed to rebuild from the inside out. From finding your why to managing expectations, uncovering root causes, and yes, even using laughter to reset your nervous system, Lora offers a different way forward. You'll also hear: How to recognize when burnout is actually betrayal (3:56) Why expectation management is the missing piece in burnout recovery (5:28) Lora shares five tools to help you FUEL UP & Thrive (15:28) Learn more about Lora Cheadle: Lora Cheadle is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, and TEDx speaker who helps women heal from betrayal on an energetic, emotional, and ancestral level—while also providing legal guidance to help them navigate the practical complexities of infidelity and relationship transitions. She empowers women to rise from the ashes, reclaim their identity and self-worth, break free from repeating patterns, and step into their power with confidence, clarity, and grace. After being shattered by her husband's fifteen years of infidelity, Lora knows firsthand what it takes to transform devastation into an invitation for healing, freedom, and joy. Her unique approach blends deep emotional healing with tangible legal and life strategies, guiding women beyond betrayal into lives of unapologetic confidence and purpose. Licensed to practice law in California and Colorado, Lora is also a trauma-aware coach, clinical hypnotherapist, somatic attachment therapist, and advanced integrated energy practitioner. She is certified in yoga, mindfulness, group fitness, and personal training, bringing a holistic perspective to healing. She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It's Not Burnout, It's Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Resources & Links: Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025 Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Lora's website BurnoutOrBetrayal.com Lora on LinkedIn Lora on YouTube Lora on Instagram Lora on Facebook ================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-311-its-not-burnout-its-betrayal-with-lora-cheadle-jd-cht/

I'm diving into the concept of energetic self-perception with my friend and colleague, Karen McMahon. According to Karen, we are, at our core, walking balls of energy, constantly shifting between two primary states: our everyday selves and our stress-response selves. Karen returns to the podcast to discuss the seven levels of energy, a framework that can help you recognize where you are on the emotional scale and how to move toward awareness and empowerment. Karen shares how our thoughts, feelings, and actions are deeply connected and how understanding that can help us navigate divorce, co-parenting, and life post-breakup. Many of us stay trapped in old energetic patterns, reacting to our exes the same way we did during the marriage—but that's a choice. This conversation is all about reframing your perspective to shift your energy and create real, lasting change. You'll also hear: Understanding the seven levels of energy and how they shape your mindset (4:28) Why shifting out of victim mode is key to reclaiming your power (8:32) The difference between cooperation and acceptance in healing (14:25) Moving from external validation to inner trust and self-empowerment (36:13) Learn more about Karen McMahon: In the realm of divorce and relationship coaching, Karen McMahon emerges as a true luminary, specializing in the complex arena of high conflict divorce. With unwavering determination and a heart full of empathy, Karen's expertise shines brightest when guiding individuals through the tumultuous storms of high conflict situations. Her signature approach addresses the internal intricacies of intense emotions, fixed mindset and unconscious behaviors along with external complexities of legal approaches, financial awareness and co-parenting hurdles, ensuring that her clients emerge both victorious and transformed. Karen's impact extends far beyond borders, as she is the visionary force behind "Journey Beyond Divorce," an internationally acclaimed platform that offers guidance, support, and empowerment to individuals around the world. This thriving initiative has reached tens of thousands of men and women seeking solace, strength, and a renewed sense of purpose during life's most challenging transition. With a dynamic team of six dedicated coaches, Journey Beyond Divorce provides a comprehensive approach to healing and growth, acknowledging that every journey is unique. Resources & Links: Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025 Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Karen's website Energetic Perception Chart Rapid Relief Coaching Session Karen on Facebook Karen on Instagram ================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-310-shifting-your-energy-reclaiming-your-power-after-divorce-with-karen-mcmahon/

Alyssa Dineen, founder of Style My Profile, joins me to talk about the ins and outs of online dating after divorce. If you're feeling overwhelmed by the dating apps, unsure how to craft a compelling profile, or just wondering if you're ready to date, Alyssa's expertise will help you navigate it all. Together, we tackle the realities of modern dating, from building a profile that actually sparks conversations to avoiding burnout in the endless swipe cycle. Alyssa also shares her own post-divorce dating journey, including how she found love after leaving an abusive marriage. She also shares the key strategies she uses with her clients to help them date with intention. You'll also hear: The biggest mistakes people make with their dating profiles (5:24) How dating can help you re-discover who you are after divorce (7:23) The 'date uniform' strategy that makes getting ready effortless (37:46) The first date, avoiding dating burnout, and enjoying the process (26:37) Learn more about Alyssa Dineen: With over 25 years of experience as a fashion editor, stylist, and art director, Alyssa established herself as a seasoned leader in the New York fashion world. In the past decade, Alyssa has also emerged as a pioneering figure in the online dating space. Her innovative approach combines her expertise in styling with her insights into dating, guiding clients on everything from personal presentation to effective communication with potential partners. As an acclaimed dating expert, Alyssa has been featured in The New York Times, Today Show, Goop, and Oprah Daily. She is also the author of The Art of Online Dating published by Harper Collins in 2021, which offers valuable strategies for success in online dating. You can find more information about Alyssa and Style My Profile's services at stylemyprofilenyc.com. Resources & Links: Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025 Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Style My Profile website Alyssa is also offering 20% off her Mindful Dating 101 course and DIY Profile Kit to DSG listeners! Use code DSG20 at checkout. Alyssa on Instagram Style My Profile on Instagram Alyssa's Facebook Group for: Empowered Women Moving Forward in the Modern Dating World =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-309-online-dating-after-divorce-with-alyssa-dineen/

Jennifer Lee, financial advisor and founder of Modern Wealth, returns to the show to break down the financial realities of grey divorce. Whether you're the stay-at-home parent wondering what you're entitled to or the moneyed spouse navigating how to divide assets fairly, Jennifer's insights will help you make informed decisions with a clear sense of direction. Together, we unpack the unique financial challenges that come with untangling decades of shared assets—from businesses and retirement accounts to the realities of living on half the resources you once had. Jennifer shares her expert advice on how to avoid costly mistakes and take control of your financial future. You'll also hear: What makes grey divorce financially unique and how to prepare (3:58) The importance of a qualified domestic relations order (QDRO) and how it works (5:12) Key mistakes people make when dividing marital assets (7:47) How to approach long-term financial planning post-divorce (16:51) Learn more about Jennifer Lee: Originally from Maryland, Jennifer brought her over 27 years (44 years if you count going into the office with her father as a child) of expertise in the financial services industry to Florida. Jennifer has found that a relationship with an advisor is most critical at the intersections in life where emotions collide with financial events. She enjoys facilitating her clients through challenges as they experience life's upsets such as divorce, the loss of a spouse, or business to retirement transition. Whether you are experiencing divorce, a business client expanding or selling your operation, or a couple wanting to make sure they have provided for their family, Modern-Wealth may be a good fit. Jennifer provides a fresh perspective to the financial planning process by digging deep to understand what drives her clients. At Modern-Wealth, they build long-lasting relationships. As part of their process, they encourage clients to communicate their values to the most important people in their lives by writing a family love letter. This led her to write "Squeeze the Juice: Live With Purpose-Then Leave a Legacy." Resources & Links: Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025 Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Jennifer's website Consultation with Jennifer =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-308-grey-divorce-and-your-money-with-jennifer-lee/

Samara Bay, author of Permission to Speak, is here to reframe how we think about our voices—and the power they carry. Her work is for anyone who's ever been told to sound different, speak softer, or conform to fit in. In this conversation, we explore how the way we speak shapes not just how others perceive us but how we see ourselves. Samara's insights are grounded in her own journey, from Shakespeare festivals to coaching Hollywood actors to helping leaders and changemakers show up authentically. Her audiobook is as compelling as the conversation you're about to hear—a true reflection of her mission to help us all own our voices unapologetically. Samara's book, Permission to Speak, is available everywhere books are sold. If you love this conversation, grab the audiobook for an even deeper experience. You'll also hear: How societal norms shape the way we speak—and how to challenge them (2:25) The connection between breath, voice, and emotions (23:47) Practical exercises for finding and owning your voice (28:37) Why physical movement and warm-ups matter for confidence (29:14) Learn more about Samara Bay: Samara Bay coaches rising business leaders, political hopefuls, and public figures who need to speak in a voice they recognize as their own to truly make waves. She runs workshops and speaks at organizations around the world to support a new, diverse sound of power. In Hollywood, she helps movie stars integrate good acting with good accents, and has coached clients including Gal Gadot, Pierce Brosnan, Penélope Cruz, Ricky Martin, Terry Crews, Rachel McAdams, Ruth Negga, and Anjelica Huston. She has a BA from Princeton University and an MFA from Brown University. She lives in Los Angeles with her husband, son, and dog, Moxie. Resources & Links: Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025 Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Samara on Instagram Samara's Substack Permission to Speak =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-307-permission-to-speak-with-samara-bay/

What happens when life throws you curveballs like breast cancer, midlife dating, and unexpected sisterhoods? You turn them into stories, humor, and inspiration—and that's exactly what Julie Edelman has done. I'm thrilled to welcome author and humorist Julie Edelman for an empowering and laugh-filled conversation about love, resilience, and the unexpected sisterhoods that form through life's detours. Julie shares the inspiration behind her latest novel, The Accidental Sisterhood, and opens up about her personal journey through breast cancer, dating after 50, and finding joy in life's chaos. You'll also hear: Why women over 50 are more likely to be single—and why that's not a bad thing (4:31) How Julie turned life's detours—like surviving breast cancer—into creative inspiration (10:35) The challenges of midlife dating, including spotting "red flags" (14:47) Why sisterhood is such a powerful force for healing, growth, and joy (16:44) Learn more about Julie Edelman: Julie Edelman is the bestselling author of the how-to book, The Accidental Housewife: How to Overcome Housekeeping Hysteria One Task at a Time. She is a well-known lifestyle expert and has appeared on The Today Show, The View, Rachael Ray, Fox & Friends, The Doctors, ABC Audio Networks and iHeart Radio. She lives in Florida, close to her son, who is her heart and testament to a blessed life lived fully. Julie speaks publicly with heart, humor, and in high heels about the value of sisterhood and not letting life's detours define nor stop us from achieving our dreams. The Accidental Sisterhood is her debut novel, and a testimony to embracing a life detour with hope and determination following her triumph over breast cancer. Resources & Links: Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025 Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Julie's website Julie on Instagram Julie on Facebook =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-306-the-accidental-sisterhood-with-julie-edelman/

This episode is all about solo travel and how it can help you reconnect with yourself. Whether you're navigating a major life transition, like divorce, or just craving time to focus on your own needs, solo travel could be the adventure you didn't know you needed. I'm talking with Joy Huber, a solo travel pro with an incredible story. After overcoming stage 4 cancer, Joy decided life was too short to wait for "someday." She packed her bags, took the leap, and now helps women discover the magic of exploring the world on their own. Joy shares her personal journey, plus plenty of real-world tips to help you make your first solo trip safe, stress-free, and genuinely fun. You'll also hear: Why starting small—like a weekend getaway—can build your confidence for bigger adventures (5:10) Practical safety tips for women, from smart gadgets to group tours that let you ease into solo travel (11:34) Tools and tricks for trip planning, including how to find hidden gems that match your vibe (23:23) How traveling alone can help you reconnect with who you are and what you really want (25:29) Learn more about Joy Huber: Discover the "JOY" of safe & incredible solo travel with Joy Huber. Joy guides women to their own successful travels going alone yet never feeling lonely. As the founder of "Travel with Joy TV," Joy helps women live a life full of freedom and fulfillment. Women tend to outlive men when comparing life expectancy. Knowing this, Joy truly believes the ability to solo travel safely and successfully is a life skill women of every age & stage of life must have. Joy has traveled solo safely, capably navigating multiple challenging safety situations for over two decades. As a successful author & professional speaker, Joy traveled solo often delivering seminars and public speaking in person primarily in the United States before speaking virtually became more common. Through her personal solo travel experience, Joy discovered a number of tips, insider secrets, and inexpensive items that aren't very well known that she uses to feel confident traveling alone. Joy prioritized traveling solo for fun after receiving a devastating diagnosis of stage 4 cancer in March of 2010. Joy suffered through three years of hard-hitting chemotherapy which caused the complete loss of her shoulder-length hair. Joy realized we're all a car accident, heart attack or diagnosis away from a completely different life, and she decided she wouldn't wait until she retired to travel going where she wanted and doing what she wanted. As she's shared pictures, video & stories from her fun-filled travels she received questions from women on how to travel solo successfully as a woman. Travel with Joy TV was born out of this growing demand for a personal solo travel guide for women! Get started today by signing up for Joy's 7 tips you must know when traveling solo at www.TravelWithJoyTV.com/newsletter. Resources & Links: Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025 Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Joy's website Joy on Instagram Joy on Facebook Joy on TikTok =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.T FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-305-solo-travel-for-women-with-joy-huber/

Andrea Owen is back, and I'm thrilled to share this inspiring conversation. If you're navigating life's messy moments, like divorce, this episode is a must-listen. Andrea, a keynote speaker, life coach, and bestselling author, is a force in women's empowerment. She helps high-achieving women maximize unshakeable confidence, master their mindset, and magnify their courage. She's here to discuss the re-release of her bestseller, 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life, now updated to strip away toxic positivity and include reflective coaching questions that spark real change. Andrea also shares her journey through her second divorce, offering insights into what's different, what's the same, and the lessons she's learned. You'll also hear: Your spouse's reactions to your divorce may reveal someone different from the person you thought you married (12:48) Managing the emotional and mental toll of divorce (15:13) Building friendships, asking for help, and finding community in tough times (27:04) How relationships shift during transitions and the challenges of navigating those changes (29:16) Learn more about Andrea Owen: Andrea Owen is an author, global keynote speaker, and professional certified life coach who helps high-achieving women maximize unshakeable confidence, master their mindset, and magnify their courage. She has taught hundreds of thousands of women tools and strategies to be able to empower themselves to live their most kick-ass life through keynote speaking, her books, coaching, and her wildly popular podcast with over 4 million downloads. She is the proud author of How To Stop Feeling Like Shit: 14 Habits That Are Holding You Back From Happiness, published in 2018, then updated and re-released in 2022 (Seal Press/Hachette Books) which has been translated into 19 languages and is available in 23 countries, as well as Make Some Noise: Speak Your Mind and Own Your Strength (TarcherPerigee/Penguin Random-House), and 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: BS Free Wisdom to Ignite Your Inner Badass and Live the Life You Deserve, (Adams Media/Simon & Schuster). Andrea is a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC) from The Coaches Training Institute, a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) with the International Coaching Federation, a SHE RECOVERS® coach, as well as a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator; a modality based on the research of Dr. Brené Brown. When she's not juggling her full coaching practice or writing books, Andrea is busy riding her Peloton bike, or hanging out with her two teenagers. She is also a retired roller derby player having skated under the name "Veronica Vain". Resources & Links: Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025 Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life Andrea's website Andrea on Instagram Andrea on Facebook =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. =================== Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-304-lessons-from-divorce-and-living-a-kick-ass-life-with-andrea-owen/

I'm bringing back one of my most impactful conversations with psychologist and writer Dr. Kerry Kerr McAvoy about healing from narcissistic relationships. We unpack the challenges of being in a relationship with someone who has narcissistic personality disorder, the profound impact it can have on your emotional and mental well-being, and actionable strategies for self-nurturing after the relationship ends. We also take a closer look at the common phrase "it takes two to tango" and what it means in the context of unhealthy relationships. If you're healing from a toxic relationship or want to gain clarity on what healthy love looks like, listen to this episode again or tune in for the first time. What you'll hear: We explore the phrase "It takes two to tango…" Does it, though, when narcissistic abuse or toxicity is involved in a relationship? Is there anything that you can do to help a narcissistic and abusive partner? The short answer is no. Narcissistic Personality is a disorder. It's not a mental health condition. Kerry explains the distinction. Focusing on and nurturing yourself back to life is essential in a relationship that has dimmed you. Learn more about Kerry McAvoy: Kerry Kerr McAvoy is a psychologist and a writer who educates on social media about cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her book, Love You More, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse. Resources & Links: Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025 Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Kerry's book, Love You More Kerry on TikTok Kerry on Instagram Kerry on Facebook Kerry on YouTube Why Can't I Just Leave (book) =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/featured-episode-healing-from-narcissistic-relationships-with-dr-kerry-kerr-mcavoy/

In this solo episode, I share strategies to help you find clarity amidst the overwhelm of abuse and divorce. I explain how borrowing someone else's mental resilience—whether a trusted friend, mentor, or professional—can help you think clearly, make grounded decisions, and move forward with strength. You don't have to do this alone. Let's explore how leaning on support can make all the difference. What you'll hear: Why proper documentation is essential for protecting yourself and your children, and how to do it effectively There is nothing wrong with you; the only thing wrong is the abuse you're enduring, and you deserve to break free Seeking support—whether by borrowing someone else's clarity or building a strong team—can help you regain focus, confidence, and control over your life Resources & Links: Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025 Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-303-borrow-a-brain-gaining-clarity-and-strength-through-support/

Sol Kennedy, founder of BestInterest, joins me to share how this groundbreaking co-parenting AI-powered app is revolutionizing the way parents navigate high-conflict situations. With features that automatically censor toxic communication, BestInterest helps you reclaim your peace, focus on healing, and show up fully for your kids. This episode is all about empowering you to establish boundaries, disengage from unnecessary emotional triggers, and take control of your co-parenting dynamic—even when the other parent isn't on the same page. What you'll hear: How BestInterest helps you block out toxicity and protect your emotional well-being (7:46) How to handle situations where your co-parent refuses to use the app (11:47) Some of the tools and features of the app, including those that help you create and hold boundaries! (13:38) Learn more about Sol Kennedy: Sol Kennedy is the founder of BestInterest, an innovative, AI-powered app created to transform the co-parenting experience. As a co-parent himself, Sol understands the challenges of communication and stress that often accompany separated parenting. BestInterest offers tools to keep interactions respectful and child-focused, with features like advanced filters, customizable notifications, and a co-parenting journal that helps parents prioritize the children's well-being. Sol's mission is to empower co-parents to build peaceful, productive relationships, ultimately benefiting families and reducing conflict. Resources & Links: Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025 Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective BestInterestApp website BestInterestApp on Facebook BestInterestApp on Instagram =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-302-bestinterest-the-ai-app-for-co-parenting-in-toxic-dynamics-with-sol-kennedy/

I'm diving into a big topic this week—the holidays during divorce. It can feel like walking an emotional tightrope while trying to hold onto some joy. Whether it's your first holiday season after divorce, your last one as a family before separating, or you've been navigating holidays in divorce for a while, it's a time that stirs up all the emotions. Wherever you are in this process, I want you to know, that you're not alone. And let's be real, were the holidays stress-free before divorce? Probably not. This episode isn't just about surviving the holidays—it's about reclaiming them in a way that works for you and your kids. Get emotionally prepared, collaborate where it counts, and make choices that put your kids at the heart of it all. In this episode, I dive into: Self-care survival to ensure you're showing up for yourself and your kids Creating new traditions that align with who you are now Navigating the tricky question of whether to celebrate together "for the kids" Practical co-parenting strategies for gift-giving, scheduling, and prioritizing your children Resources & Links: Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025 Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-301-holidays-in-divorce/

I'm thrilled to share this special Thanksgiving episode with you as the podcast celebrates a huge milestone: the 300th episode! To honor this accomplishment, I'm revisiting some of the most impactful episodes we've shared together. These conversations have left a lasting mark on many of you, and it's a privilege to highlight them again. This episode is my heartfelt thank you to this amazing community we've created together. Your dedication and willingness to show up for yourselves and each other mean the world to me. Here's to continuing the journey! Highlights in this episode: Scenarios that are not your fucking job and why you need to stop carrying all the weight in your relationship – Episode 55: Not Your Fucking Job What to know about divorcing a narcissist and the wild truths you can't make up – Episode 156: Divorcing Your Narcissist with Tracy Malone Listener Q&A on co-parenting with a manipulative ex and supporting your kids through divorce – Episode 161: Listener Q&A: Co-parenting with a Narcissist Abuse recovery and advice for those considering reconciliation after their partner starts therapy – Episode 163: Covert Emotional Abuse with Annette Oltmans Compassionate advice and exploring tough questions like "Where's your line?" – Episode 177: Coercive Control with Dr. Christine Cocchiola Resources & Links: Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025 Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes Episodes highlighted: Episode 55: Not Your Fucking Job Episode 156: DIVORCING Your NARCISSIST: You Can't Make This Shit Up! With Tracy Malone Episode 161: Listener Q&A: Co-parenting with a Narcissist, Dealing with a Manipulative Co-parent, and Supporting Your Children Through Divorce Episode 163: Covert Emotional Abuse with Annette Oltmans Episode 177: Coercive Control with Dr. Christine Cocchiola Episode 159: The Top Eight Symptoms of Narcissistic Abuse with Leanne Oaten Thanks to our sponsor: Future Fans =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-300-giving-thanks-for-300-episodes/

I'm so excited to welcome back my dear friend and returning guest, Susan Guthrie, a leading family law attorney and mediator, for a robust conversation about the family court system. While family court often gets a bad rap (and yes, it needs reform), Susan and I dig into why it's not always terrible. There is good that can come from it too. Together, we're breaking down what you can expect if you navigate the family court process, how to prepare for it, and how to make decisions that truly serve you and your kids. We're also diving into the hot topic of no-fault divorce laws: Could they be repealed? And what would that mean for families going forward? What You'll Hear: Why family court is necessary and not always the "necessary evil" it's made out to be (7:09) What most people can expect from the family court system (12:50) How to prepare for your day in court, including what serves you and what doesn't (17:25) The likelihood of no-fault divorce laws being repealed and the potential implications (34:13) Learn more about Susan Guthrie: Susan Guthrie has been one of the leading family law attorneys and mediators in the country for more than 30 years and a world-wide expert in online mediation and she has trained over 20,000 professionals in the ethical and practical considerations in transitioning to a virtual practice. In late 2020, Susan and legal legend Forrest "Woody" Mosten partnered together to found the Mosten Guthrie Academy to provide top of the line training for mediators and collaborative professionals in a virtual format world-wide. Her award-winning podcast, The Divorce & Beyond Podcast, is one of the top 1% of podcasts worldwide and she is known to millions of listeners around the world as the "divorce voice you can trust!" Resources & Links: Unbreakable - the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025 Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Susan's podcast Susan on Instagram @susanguthrieesq and @divorceandbeyond Thanks to our sponsor: Future Fans This episode is also sponsored by Soberlink: Surviving divorce is one thing, but surviving divorce with a co-parent who abuses alcohol is a whole different ball game. Soberlink is a high-tech breathalyzer system that sends you instant results of a co-parent's alcohol levels. When your co-parent tests, their identity is automatically confirmed with facial recognition, and tamper sensors ensure no cheating has occurred. You then get instant proof that your kids are safe in their care. Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Visit www.soberlink.com/dsg to learn more and get $50 off your device. ================================= DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-299-not-all-bad-a-nuanced-perspective-on-family-court-with-susan-guthrie-esq-family-court-awareness-month/

I'm excited to welcome Tina Swithin back to the show for a powerful conversation about Family Court Awareness Month, which she founded five years ago to shine a light on the deep issues within our family court system. Together, we dive into the systemic obstacles—from the lack of judicial training on domestic abuse to the financial incentives that keep conflicts alive in court. Tina also walks us through important legislative efforts, like Kayden's Law and Piqui's Law, named after children who lost their lives due to preventable court failures. This episode is all about the critical importance of grassroots advocacy, educational efforts, and collective action to protect children and their families and demand accountability in our courts. Featured Topics: The harsh realities and challenges in the family court system (2:30) How financial incentives feed systemic corruption (10:00) The need for judicial education on domestic abuse (12:27) The impact of Kayden's Law and Piqui's Law on state legislation (16:09) Support networks and grassroots efforts pushing for change (24:18) Educational resources and future advocacy goals (36:34) Learn more about Tina Swithin: Tina Swithin is the author of Divorcing a Narcissist (series), founder of One Mom's Battle and the High Conflict Divorce Coach Certification Program. Tina Swithin continues to champion children's rights through her family court advocacy. Tina is working to raise awareness of the issues in the family court system and to educate the general public on post separation abuse, narcissistic abuse and the "alienation industry." Tina is a cofounder of the organization, nationalsafeparents.org and volunteers her time helping with family court reform through awareness, education and improved legislation such as Kayden's Law. Resources & Links: Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective One Mom's Battle Tina's Lemonade Wisdom: Divorcing a Narcissist Thanks to our sponsor: Future Fans =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-298-the-fight-for-family-court-reform-with-tina-swithin-family-court-awareness-month/

We kick off Family Court Awareness Month with Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko as we talk about their new book, Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld. This collection of 22 women's stories raises awareness about the systemic issues plaguing family courts, aiming to ignite awareness about the family court crisis by sharing the voices of those directly impacted. In this episode, Dr. Cocchiola and Polacko highlight the deep-seated misogyny and financial exploitation within family courts, emphasizing that this isn't just a U.S. issue—it's a global crisis that affects women of all races, demographics, and socioeconomic backgrounds. This episode is a call for awareness and action. Together, we can advocate for systemic change to better protect victims and their children. Featured topics: The family court crisis and how the assumption of justice often falls short, leaving victims unsupported (3:56) How disclosure of abuse can lead to devastating consequences, including loss of custody (4:35) Deeply rooted biases allow a system to profit from the suffering of women and children (5:41) The danger and harm of reunification therapy and camps (18:19) Kayden's Law, enforcing legislation, and how everyone can join the fight for family court reform (22:51) Learn more about Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko: Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW, is a Coercive Control Educator, Researcher, and survivor. She is a tenured college professor teaching social work for the last 20 years. She has been a social justice advocate since 19, volunteering for a local domestic violence/sexual assault agency. Her expertise is in coercive control and the traumatic experiences of adult and child victims, researching and developing training on these topics nationally and internationally. Amy Polacko is a Freedom Warrior - and is committed to helping women live life on their own terms during/after a toxic relationship or divorce. As a divorced single mom, she is passionate about coaching women one-on-one and founded the empowerment group Strong Savvy Women to provide support, inspiration, and guidance to single women. Amy is also an award-winning journalist who sheds light on women's issues including divorce, domestic abuse, coercive control, and singlehood. Resources & Links: Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Framed: Women In the Family Court Underworld for more information and workshops! Dr. Cocchiola's website Amy's website Thanks to our sponsor: Future Fans =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-298-framed-women-in-the-family-court-underworld-with-dr-christine-cocchiola-and-amy-polacko-family-court-awareness-month

Yesterday morning, like many of you, I woke up to the devastating news that a convicted rapist with countless indictments has been re-elected to lead our country. As I sit with this heavy reality, I'm thinking of all of you—especially women in difficult relationships and those in marginalized communities facing fresh threats to our freedoms. Today, I turn to a Zen Buddhist saying to help me keep going: "Chop wood, carry water." It reminds me that there is nothing you must do in life other than what must be done. So today, I stare into the void, speak to women, reassure my son, and cuddle my animals. Chop wood, carry water. And later, I will continue the fight. Please know that I will never stop fighting for you, for us, for our children and their futures. Resources & Links: Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective

In this solo episode, I'm diving into the journey of letting go and reclaiming your power during the divorce process, especially if you're healing from abuse. I know firsthand the mental conditioning and hypervigilance one endures during an abusive relationship, which is why it's so crucial to establish firm boundaries, even when fear tries to hold you back. I share a personal story of setting boundaries in the face of a controlling relationship and offer practical tips for stepping away from manipulative people, like muting their messages and using support tools such as Aimee Says. Remember, you deserve happiness, and I'm here to help you find it. Featured topics: How to reclaim your power and protect your peace Strategies to stay grounded and maintain boundaries Discover how self-worth fuels your healing journey A reminder that healing is not linear Resources & Links: Drop the Rope - 20 Phrases to Disengage from Conflict Free Download Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Aimee Says =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-296-drop-the-rope-embracing-your-power-during-divorce/

Bill Eddy is back on the show to dive into a critical topic: adult bullies. With election season upon us, the presence of bullies—whether in politics, the workplace, relationships, or even parenting—can feel more intense than ever. Bill, Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute and author of Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them – How to Stop Them, explains how today's media-driven culture fuels the rise of adult bullies, encouraging aggression and disregarding rules. We explore how bullies create crises out of thin air, positioning themselves as heroes of their made-up stories. Plus, Bill shares concrete examples of adult bullying in the world today, how it impacts children when parents are the bullies, and why it's crucial to stand together against bullies to take them down. Listen and learn how to protect yourself and your loved ones from the emotional manipulation bullies use to gain power. Featured topics: What defines an adult bully and the key traits to look out for (4:30) The secret weapon of bullies: emotional manipulation and the "crisis-villain-hero" narrative (8:04) How media and social media fuel the growth of adult bullies (15:27) How parents can inadvertently turn their children away from a co-parent (24:09) The importance of empathy: addressing bullying without becoming bullies ourselves (34:56) The future of adult bullies: what to expect and how to stand against them (49:27) Learn more about Bill Eddy: Bill Eddy is the author of Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them – How to Stop Them and the Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute based in San Diego, California. He trains lawyers, judges, mediators, and therapists throughout the United States and a dozen other countries in managing high-conflict family, workplace, and legal disputes. He is the author of over 20 books and manuals and has a popular blog on PsychologyToday.com. Resources & Links: Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective High Conflict Institute Bill's book "Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them, How to Stop Them" The High Conflict Institute on Facebook The High Conflict Institute on Instagram =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-295-adult-bullies-with-bill-eddy-your-vote-your-choice/

I'm chatting with Erin Levine, the founder and CEO of Hello Divorce, about why the push to get rid of no-fault divorce is seriously bad news—especially for women. No-fault divorce has enabled people to leave marriages without having to prove things like abuse or cheating and it makes women safer. The GOP wants to repeal or restrict no-fault divorce. We're here to break down why that's a huge problem. Erin, a lawyer-turned-CEO, has been shaking up the divorce world with Hello Divorce, a platform that makes the whole process smoother, easier, and less stressful. In this episode, we discuss what no-fault divorce is, why it matters, and what could happen if it's taken away. Spoiler alert: it's not good. Featured topics: No-fault divorce: What it is, and how it differs from fault-based divorce (4:55) How no-fault laws help victims leave unsafe marriages (6:55) Why the rollback of no-fault divorce would be disastrous (32:17) What you can do to ensure no-fault divorce protections remain in place (34:16) Learn more about Erin Levine: Erin Levine is not your typical attorney. With over a decade of experience in litigating complex family matters, she saw the need for a kinder, easier and more affordable pathway out of marriage and into the next chapter of life. To achieve this, Erin set out to revolutionize the broken divorce system and founded Hello Divorce, a venture capital backed, tech-enabled platform, that combines self-service online tools with integrated expert advice, making it easier for everyone to navigate their lives and finances with less stress and mess. Erin's innovative approach to the divorce process has earned her media mentions from the legal industry and beyond, with recent features in Vice, Forbes, American Bar Association Journal, Business Insider and TechCrunch. Ultimately, Erin is on a mission to help separating couples empower a better life ahead and has helped thousands of Americans reorganize their lives and families through a framework that levels the playing field between spouses so they can sort things out fairly, avoid missteps and reimagine their next (best) chapter. Resources & Links: Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Hello Divorce Hello Divorce on Instagram @hellodivorce Erin on Instagram @erinlevinepace Hello Divorce on Facebook =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-294-your-divorce-your-choice-the-future-of-no-fault-divorce-with-erin-levine-your-vote-your-choice/

Did you know that globally, women only have 75% of the legal rights that men have? And in the U.S., they have none. Gender equality is not just a women's issue—it impacts everyone. I am honored to welcome Mona Sinha to the show today. Mona is the Global Executive Director of Equality Now, an organization dedicated to advancing legal and systemic change to end violence and discrimination against women and girls worldwide. In this episode, Mona and I dive into the importance of the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA), discussing how its absence from The U.S. Constitution affects domestic violence protections, reproductive freedom, and the overall legal landscape for gender-based violence. We also explore the broader ramifications of not having the ERA in place and how this amendment could uphold equality and justice for all, regardless of gender identity, socioeconomic status, or sexual orientation. Tune in to this powerful conversation as we unpack the significance of the ERA and what's at stake for equality in the U.S during this upcoming election season. Featured topics: Why the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA) has not yet been added to The Constitution (5:21) How the ERA could impact the wage gap, reproductive rights, and legal protections (11:51) The connection between the ERA and protections for survivors of domestic violence (14:38) How the ERA could transform family court rulings on gender-based violence (20:39) Common misconceptions about the ERA (24:22) How this upcoming election could influence the future of the ERA (31:58) Learn more about Mona Sinha: S. Mona Sinha is the Global Executive Director of Equality Now, an organization that campaigns for legal and systemic change around the world to address violence and discrimination against women and girls. For 25 years, Mona has leveraged her corporate experience to launch, lead or advise over 90 mission-aligned organizations to create a gender-equal world. She is the Board Chair of Women Moving Millions and serves on the Executive Council of the Smithsonian American Women's History Museum, as well as the Advisory Board of Gucci CHIME. Creating inclusive communities is at the center of her strategic approach, which she believes is the key to unlocking sustainable organizational growth. Mona has received wide recognition for her work to advance equality. In 2023, she was listed in Forbes 50 Over 50 for her impact as a leader driving change for a better future. She's the recipient of the 2023 Horton Award for Excellence in Social Enterprise from Columbia Business School and CARE USA's 2021 Impact Award. She was presented the Last Girl Champion Award by Gloria Steinem and Apne Aap in 2017 and the Ellis Island Medal of Honor in 2015. She's also received awards from Smith College, Children's Hope India, Modern High School (Kolkata), Women's eNews, and Breakthrough. Resources & Links: Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Equality Now Equality Now 2024 U.S. Election Guide Equaliy Now "I Need ERA" Series The ERA Coalition Website Mona on LinkedIn Mona on Twitter/X =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-293-the-equal-rights-amendment-whats-at-stake-for-gender-equality-with-mona-sinha-your-vote-your-choice/

Welcome to the first episode of the Your Vote, Your Choice series! This week we get real about the fight for reproductive freedom and what's at stake. We tackle the harsh reality of what happens when women's reproductive rights are stripped away, and the ripple effect it has on all of us, especially marginalized groups. My guest, Alexandra Jamieson, is ready to cut through the noise. As an artist, coach, and the brilliant mind behind The Abortion Trading Cards and Fascism Tarot Deck, Alex shares her perspective on the consequences of losing access to reproductive healthcare. We also dig into her Instagram movement #NotADragQueen #NotATransPerson, break down the looming 2024 election, and Project 2025. Featured topics: The real-world fallout when abortion rights are restricted, from economic security to education (9:18) Why marginalized women get hit the hardest and why we all need to care (10:53) How Project 2025 could remove many rights and dismantle the Department of Education (28:14) Ways you can step up and support women's reproductive rights in this critical moment (41:34) Don't sit this one out—tune in to hear what's really going on with women's rights and how you can make a difference heading into the 2024 election. Learn more about Alexandra Jamieson: Artist, Coach, Multi-hyphenate. A renowned creative leadership expert, coach, and best-selling author, and artist-creator of The Abortion Trading Cards and the Fascism Tarot Deck. With over 20 years of experience, Alex has successfully guided executives in tech, finance, healthcare, and professional services by leveraging storytelling and positive psychology to inspire leaders with unique intersectional creativity. An Oscar-nominated filmmaker and Oprah Winfrey Show guest, Alex's insights have been sought after by top organizations worldwide. Resources & Links: Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Alex on Instagram @deliciousalex The Abortion Trading Cards The Turnaway Study (book) The Brigid Alliance Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/womens-reproductive-freedom-with-alex-jamieson-your-vote-your-choice/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

In the final episode of September's Women's Financial Empowerment series, we're equipping you with the tools to make confident financial decisions and find your financial voice—divorce or no divorce. Financial guru Amy Bradbury, CEO of Empowered Profit, joins us to unravel toxic money mindsets handed down by the patriarchy and shares how to shift into an empowered, intentional approach to your finances. From demystifying financial literacy to bringing your kids into money conversations, this episode is all about taking back control. Amy delivers game-changing advice on how to ditch restrictive budgets in favor of a spending plan that works for you, especially when dealing with life's unpredictabilities—like divorce or fluctuating support payments. She also reveals why no app will fix your finances and why gathering financial data is the key to making empowered choices. This episode is packed with actionable insights that will motivate you to take control of your finances and make informed decisions for your future. Featured topics: Reframing your money mindset and shifting to empowered financial thinking (6:14) Involving your kids in conversations about money, "[Society tells us] to not talk about money or sex with kids but we're expected to show up as adults and be great at both of them." (21:50) Creating a spending plan that's flexible and realistic, not just a budget (23:43) Gathering financial data to make smart, informed, and confident decisions, "If you don't have the data you can't make any decisions. You need to gather the financial data first." (25:08) How to create a spending plan when there are income fluctuations with things like divorce or support payments (28:10) Amy's thoughts and advice on using tools for managing your money (hint: the answer isn't found in an app!) (39:15) Learn more about Amy Bradbury: Amy is the CEO of Empowered Profit, a full service bookkeeping and tax agency, focused on working with female led businesses. Along with her team, Empowered Profit supports their clients with understanding their numbers so they can use that data to make decisions in their businesses and in their personal financial lives. Resources & Links: Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Amy's website Amy on Instagram @EmpoweredProfit Amy on Facebook @EmpoweredProfit Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-291-finding-your-financial-voice-with-amy-bradbury-womens-financial-empowerment/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

I am thrilled to welcome Nikki Tucker, speaker and founder of The FIIRM Approach, to dive into the complex world of divorce for high-income-earning women. Nikki, a Personal Financial Strategist, and problem-solver, is known for her work helping female breadwinners strategically exit their marriages and navigate the path to financial independence post-divorce. Together, we discuss the unique financial challenges high-income-earning women face, such as managing assets, financial support responsibilities, and the critical role of prenups and postnups. Marriage as a legally binding business arrangement is one of the most important conversations we're not having. "We place a lot of emphasis on the emotional and relational aspects of marriage. However, equally important—especially in divorce—is the business, transactional side of the relationship," says Nikki. This episode brings that crucial conversation to the forefront. Featured topics: High-income earning women may be surprised to learn they could be responsible for paying spousal support (2:30) Should you consider a prenup or postnup? Learn how to protect your finances before, during, and after divorce (7:50) Is premarital counseling a smart move? Get insight into whether it can help set the foundation for a successful financial partnership (22:31) What unique dynamics should high-earning women keep in mind when navigating divorce? (31:58) Insightful reminders and advice, like: "You don't need to be over-accommodating just because you're a woman with a high income." (32:48) Nikki breaks down her F.I.I.R.M. Approach, empowering women to be Flexible, Intentional, Informed, Resourceful, and Masterful in their financial decisions (33:25) Learn more about Nikki Tucker: Nikki Tucker, a Speaker and founder of The FIIRM Approach, is known as a problem solver since her experience and time involves helping female breadwinners strategically exit their marriage and work on their new financial life post-divorce, as a Personal Financial Strategist. As a 20+ year financial professional, she firmly believes that all women deserve financial security and she enjoys teaching new ideas about money, and reinforcing sound ones. Nikki finds joy in connecting her clients to great resources to help them gain clarity, confidence and control of their finances through live workshops and digital resources. When she is not working with clients, she is eating amazing food and drinking an oat milk latte or a French 75. Her friends and those close to her describe her as reliable, honest and resourceful which comes in handy when she's working with women going through major transitions like divorce. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Nikki's website Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-290-navigating-divorce-as-a-female-breadwinner-with-nikki-tucker-womens-financial-empowerment/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

We're tackling one of the most frequently asked questions I get from clients: "How do I return to the workforce after being a stay-at-home mom who is now facing divorce?" Stacey Delo, CEO of Your Turn Careers by Après, offers expert advice on reentering the workforce, boosting confidence, and leveraging core skills honed during motherhood. Stacey encourages women to embrace their career gaps and highlights how staying home with kids can be a strength in your professional story. As co-author of Your Turn: Careers, Kids, and Comebacks—A Working Mother's Guide, she shares strategies for financial independence and landing roles that align with your expertise, interests, and aspirations. Join us for a conversation about building your financial future and reclaiming your professional identity! Featured topics: How patriarchal patterns are reflected in the workforce (6:00) Building confidence and owning the gap: leveraging your core competencies and soft skills learned during parenting (17:35) The journey of discovering what you want to do when reentering the workforce (24:03) Rebuilding confidence when you feel beaten down—remember, the skills you had before being a parent haven't disappeared (33:00) Learn more about Stacey Delo: Stacey Delo is CEO of Your Turn Careers by Après, the premier site for women returning to work after career breaks, and co-author of Your Turn: Careers, Kids and Comebacks--A Working Mother's Guide (Harper Business 2019). She's an expert in helping women navigate their careers, and in helping companies build strong workplaces to recruit and retain women talent. Stacey spent eight years as a journalist with The Wall Street Journal, where she was a multimedia reporter and the host of Digits, a live video program about technology. Prior to Digits she was a contributing correspondent for the nationally syndicated show CBS MarketWatch. In 2012, Stacey founded Maybrooks, a career resource for moms, which was acquired by Après in 2017. Stacey holds a journalism degree from Northwestern University and a masters from American University. Stacey is also known for her work on The Ford Heights Four case to overturn the wrongful conviction of four innocent men on Death Row. She has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show and other live shows in addition to having interviewed many Fortune 500 and startup CEOs in her work as a journalist. She lives in San Francisco with her husband and two children. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Stacey's website Stacey's book, Your Turn: Careers, Kids, and Comebacks TODAY'S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY: SOBERLINK Surviving divorce is one thing, but surviving divorce with a co-parent who abuses alcohol is a whole different ball game. Soberlink is a high-tech breathalyzer system that sends you instant results of a co-parent's alcohol levels. When your co-parent tests, their identity is automatically confirmed with facial recognition, and tamper sensors ensure no cheating has occurred. You then get instant proof that your kids are safe in their care. Court admissibility in all 50 states Facial recognition Tamper detection Easy-to-read Advanced Reporting™ Help your family thrive in the new year. Visit www.soberlink.com/dsg to learn more and get $50 off your device. -------------- Episode link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-289-careers-kids-and-comebacks-with-stacey-delo-womens-financial-empowerment/ -------------- DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Divorce can be a financial minefield, and it's easy to feel overwhelmed. Throughout September, we'll be cutting through the confusion to help you take control of your financial future. Finances are often the hardest part of the divorce process for women. We're often left feeling financially powerless—disempowered by a system that's not built for us (more on that topic, in October). Here's the truth: your path to financial independence is possible. This month, I'm laser-focused on breaking down the money issues women face in divorce. If you've had your head in the sand about your finances, that's okay. The time for financial empowerment is now—without judgment, just clarity and strength. Some of the topics we'll be covering this month include: Navigating financial challenges in divorce Clarity and control over what's truly yours by understanding asset division Claiming your worth: spousal support and non-monetary contributions From Stay-at-Home to Financial Independence Strategizing your long-term financial future post-divorce And, so much more! Join us as we dive into empowering women through financial independence and support, before, during, and after divorce. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective The D-Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage Divorce Money Guide Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-288-womens-financial-empowerment-intro-to-the-series/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Tracy Otsuka, host of the ADHD for Smart Ass Women Podcast, joins me for a conversation about how ADHD uniquely shows up in women. We dig into why it's often overlooked or misunderstood because the symptoms don't always match up with what you see in men. We break down the top three signs of ADHD, how hormonal changes play a role, and why embracing your strengths is way more effective than trying to "fix" your weaknesses. Tracy also opens up about the emotional toll ADHD can take and offers practical advice for supporting kids with ADHD. Tune in to learn how ADHD impacts women navigating divorce and get tips for handling it all with confidence and self-compassion. Featured topics: How to recognize ADHD symptoms and how to advocate for care and the right diagnosis (3:28) Understanding ADHD in women, including how it shows up and how hormonal shifts shape your experience (7:14) Supporting kids with ADHD and tackling co-parenting challenges with confidence (21:55) Managing ADHD through divorce from diagnosis to treatment (32:25) Learn more about Tracy Otsuka: Tracy Otsuka, JD, is a certified ADHD coach and the host of the ADHD for Smart Ass Women podcast. Over the past decade, she has empowered thousands of clients (from doctors and therapists to C-suite executives and entrepreneurs) to see their neurodivergence as a strength–not a weakness. Tracy leverages her analytical skills from being a lead counsel at the U.S. Securities and Exchange Commission to identify the right questions to ask her clients so they can boost their productivity, improve their finances, save failing relationships and live happier lives. Tracy's expertise and experience as an adult living with ADHD are regularly sought out by top tier media including Inc, Forbes, ADDitude magazine, and The Goal Digger Podcast. When she's not sharing her thought leadership around ADHD on other platforms, she hosts her own podcast which ranks #1 in its category and has over 5 million downloads across 160 countries. She also moderates a Facebook group with nearly 100,000 members. A married mother of two, Tracy lives in Sonoma County outside of San Francisco. Her new book, ADHD for Smart Ass Women is due out in December 2023. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective ADHD Smarts for Women Via Character Strengths Survey Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-287-adhd-for-smart-ass-women-with-tracy-otsuka/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Tara McMullin, creator of What Works and the co-founder of YellowHouse.Media, shares her journey of receiving an autism diagnosis at 38 and its profound impact on her relationships. She explores the concept of 'biographical illumination,' revealing how understanding her diagnosis has brought clarity and validation to her life. Tara also discusses the intricate dynamics of 'masking' and emotional communication in relationships. Together, we explore the importance of recognizing and respecting personal boundaries, advocating for mutual understanding, and navigating the complexities of being autistic. Featured topics: How being diagnosed with Autism at 38, transformed Tara's perspective on work, relationships, and parenting (3:20) The impact of autism on relationships, including getting your social needs met, learning to compromise, and the journey to understanding (10:49) Highlighting the burden on neurodivergent individuals to conform and mask their true selves to meet societal expectations (14:44) The distinction between being autistic and being an asshole—two entirely different concepts (32:35) Debunking the myth that people with autism lack empathy; their empathy is just expressed differently (33:17) Learn more about Tara McMullin: Tara McMullin is a writer and critic who studies the future of work through the lens of philosophy, critical theory, and media. She's the creator of What Works and the co-founder of YellowHouse.Media, a boutique production agency. She believes that care, curiosity, and context create an environment where we can not only learn but experience new and sometimes challenging ideas with grace. She's coached, taught, and facilitated for over 15 years—including more than a dozen classes with CreativeLive. Tara brings her own experience as an autistic feminist, endurance athlete, and amateur baker to everything she does. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Tara's website Tara on Instagram Tara on LinkedIn "I'm a normal autistic person, not an abnormal neurotypical": Autism Spectrum Disorder diagnosis as biographical illumination Catherine D. Tan The Electricity of Every Living Thing, Katherine May Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-286-autism-and-relationships-with-tara-mcmullin-neurodivergence-in-relationships/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Zawn Villines, feminist activist and writer, is back on the show! Together we tackle the offensive and ableist ways that neurodiversity is often used to excuse abusive behavior. Zawn makes it clear that being neurodivergent does not mean someone is inherently abusive. In fact, neurodivergent individuals are more often the victims rather than the perpetrators of abuse. In this episode, we dive into the myths around empathy deficits in autistic individuals and how patriarchy keeps these harmful misconceptions alive. Further, we explore how patriarchy weaponizes neurodivergence against women. This episode is packed with practical advice for women dealing with neurodivergent partners, focusing on finding fair and supportive ways to navigate relationships without sacrificing your well-being. Featured topics: Neurodivergence is not a pass for getting out of household labor (5:12) Patriarchy and the weaponization of neurodivergence against women (15:22) What women can do when faced with a partner using neurodivergence as an excuse (40:05) You can accommodate a partner without sacrificing your life and well-being at the altar of their neurodivergence (41:53) Learn more about Zawn Villines: Zawn Villines is a feminist activist and writer who focuses on misogyny in motherhood and marriage. Her work argues that mothers are central to the feminist project, and that fathers must participate equally in household and parenting labor. She believes that inequality in marriage is a primary driver of sexism, and that it limits women's lives and futures. Inequality at home is a form of abuse, and Zawn teaches women to push back on this unacceptable treatment and claim their rightful place in the family, at work, and in their communities. Her weekly Feminist Advice Friday series advises people about how to live better and more just lives, and how to use their relationships as pathways to liberation and joy. Outside of her activism, Zawn has written full-time about science, medicine, politics, and the law for two decades. She writes a weekly reproductive justice column, and runs a nonprofit childbirth justice organization. She hopes to see more mothers claim the power and dignity of motherhood, and to end notions of mothers as irrelevant. Mothers are raising the next generation of resistance. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Zawn's Substack Newsletter Zawn's website Zawn on Instagram Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-285-weaponizing-neurodivergence-in-abusive-relationships-with-zawn-villines-neurodivergence-in-relationships/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Dr. Amelia Kelley, a trauma-informed therapist and author, joins me to explore the nuances of ADHD in women, discussing how it often goes unnoticed and untreated. We tackle the complex question, "Do I have trauma or ADHD?"—exploring whether childhood trauma manifests as ADHD or if living with ADHD contributes to traumatic experiences. Plus, we uncover the superpowers of ADHD, the fascinating link between hyperfocus and procrastination, and how neurodiversity and ADHD affect relationships. Tune in to gain valuable insights and feel empowered to understand yourself better or loved ones living with ADHD. Featured topics: The impact of untreated ADHD on women's lives (3:25) "Do I have trauma or ADHD?" Exploring the relationship between trauma and ADHD (15:22) Coping skills: Embracing change as a compassionate choice (27:02) The superpowers of ADHD + the link between hyperfocus and procrastination (27:44) Healthy relationships, neurodiversity, and ADHD (34:00) The correlation between ADHD and attachment styles (43:30) Learn more about Dr. Amelia Kelley: Dr. Amelia Kelley is a trauma-informed therapist, author of several books, co-host of The Sensitivity Doctors podcast, and certified meditation and yoga instructor. She is a psychology professor at Yorkville University and a nationally recognized relationship expert featured on SiriusXM Doctor Radio's The Psychiatry Show as well as NPR's The Measure of Everyday Life. Her private practice is part of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium at the Kinsey Institute. She is a contributing author for Psychology Today, ADDitude Magazine and the Highly Sensitive Refuge, the world's largest blog for HSPs. You can find out more about her work at ameliakelley.com. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Amelia's website Amelia's book Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-284-powered-by-adhd-with-dr-amelia-kelley-neurodivergence-in-relationships/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

I am kicking off a new series for August all around neurodivergence in relationships. With my amazing lineup, we delve into topics like ADHD, autism, and other spectrum disorders within a family and how they might affect various aspects of your divorce. This week I wanted to take a few moments to introduce the series to you. Throughout the month, you'll hear from incredible guests like: Dr. Amelia Kelley Tara McMullin Zawn Villines Tracy Otsuka These amazing women share their insights and strategies for embracing the unique gifts and challenges that come with being neurodivergent. In this episode, I also open up about my own experiences co-parenting a child who has ADHD. Here's why you should tune in: This series is not just about understanding neurodivergence; it's about empowering you with the knowledge and tools to navigate these unique challenges. Whether you're dealing with neurodivergent individuals in your own life or simply want to be a more informed and compassionate ally, this series offers invaluable perspectives and practical advice you won't want to miss. Resources & Links: Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-283-neurodivergence-in-relationships-intro-to-the-series/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

What are your divorce dealbreakers? In the final installment of my divorce mindset reset series, I share why knowing your dealbreakers is important before you enter into your divorce proceedings. I discuss the work required to determine what they are and offer insight into why you should stick to them as you move through your divorce. Overall, knowing your dealbreakers helps you prioritize what matters most so you can maintain focus during your negotiations. You'll hear: Why it is important to know your dealbreakers before you enter into your divorce proceedings Non-negotiables are the issues you feel strongly about and refuse to compromise on, even if it means presenting them in front of a judge Some considerations and strategies for dealbreakers in a high-conflict divorce Resources & Links: 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset Bundle Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-282-the-7-step-divorce-mindset-reset-knowing-your-dealbreakers/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Have you ever wondered how to navigate the tricky balance between what's legal and what's fair in a divorce? I dive into Step Six of the 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset, focusing on distinguishing between these crucial aspects. You'll hear advice on processing emotions through appropriate channels, documenting evidence of legal matters, and working with a coach or other professional to streamline what's pertinent for court. My goal is to help you approach your legal team with clear, legally significant information, thereby reducing costs and improving outcomes. You'll hear: The key to understanding legal vs. fair in divorce "If you're focusing on what's fair, you're going to get all of your personal feelings in the way." The importance of emotional processing, legal strategy, and documenting abuse for legal proceedings How to adopt a legally strategic mindset Resources & Links: 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset Bundle Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-281-the-7-step-divorce-mindset-reset-understanding-whats-legal-vs-whats-fair/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. —------------------------------------------------

Shifting to a strategy mindset during your divorce is a game-changer and that's the topic of this podcast episode. No longer are you trying to convince your partner to see things your way or understand your point of view. Instead, you're embracing radical acceptance and moving forward with a clear plan. When you adopt a strategy mindset, you can set clear goals and easily make decisions. You're taking control of the situation and the proceedings in a way you haven't been able to before. This shift empowers you to navigate challenges with a calm and calculated plan, maintaining control and being proactive. You'll move forward with confidence, knowing you're in charge of your journey. You'll hear: Why you must divorce yourself of emotional ties and manipulations so you can be strategic The importance of having support and a taking team approach to your divorce How a strategy mindset can help with high-conflict situations The key factors to maintaining or obtaining a strategy mindset Resources & Links: 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset Bundle Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset: Radical Acceptance The 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset: Self-Care Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-280-the-7-step-divorce-mindset-reset-strategy-mindset/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Radical acceptance means completely accepting a situation, circumstance, or challenge without necessarily approving or agreeing with it. In this installment of the 7-Step Divorce Mindset reset, I share why this concept is especially crucial in the divorce process. Embracing radical acceptance is one of the most powerful things you can do. It's revolutionary yet fundamental. It's about letting go of the struggle over who you thought your partner was and truly accepting who they are. You'll hear: Radical acceptance is not remotely akin to forgiveness Tina Swithin's Radical Acceptance Oath What happens after you've come to a place of radical acceptance Resources & Links: 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset Bundle Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-279-the-7-step-divorce-mindset-reset-radical-acceptance/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

We're diving into the importance of self-care throughout your divorce process. Practicing self-care at this juncture is essential for managing the emotional and physical challenges you're going through. Self-care builds emotional resilience, helping you maintain mental well-being and decision-making ability, while also reducing stress and supporting your physical health. In this episode, I share some effective strategies to help you prioritize your well-being. You'll hear: How to set boundaries not just with others, but also in deciding how and when you'll focus on the divorce process The importance of establishing routines that help you stay present with yourself and your children Understand the value of leaning on support groups to navigate through this period The need to attend to your physical, mental, spiritual, emotional, and financial health Resources & Links: 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset Bundle Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-278-the-7-step-divorce-mindset-reset-self-care/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.

Divorce is a lengthy, emotionally demanding, and taxing process, taking about a year on average. In this episode, I share why practicing patience and managing expectations can help you navigate the journey peacefully and easily. You'll also hear: The questions to ask your divorce attorney or mediator about specific procedures and waiting periods in your state Why trusting the process and establishing routines can lead to a smoother experience The crucial role of self-care in managing stress and emotional well-being By being better equipped to navigate the divorce journey, you can adapt and maintain calm throughout the process. Remember, patience doesn't just happen; it comes from practicing self-care, staying informed, and managing your expectations. Resources & Links: 7-Step Divorce Mindset Reset Bundle Private Coaching with Kate Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective Episode Link: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-277-the-7-step-divorce-mindset-reset-practicing-patience/ =================== DISCLAIMER: THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE. YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM.