Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Q: What are the right ways, and wrong ways to use the Enneagram? And how can we use it to strengthen our relationships? - Rachel from PA Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health - with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we're talking about the Enneagram! You may have heard about the Enneagram before, or this could be your first glimpse - but either way, this conversation is really enlightening! My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Pastor Matt Brown! Pastor Matt is a huge enneagram fan, and believes that this tool impacted his life and his church in meaningful ways, and helped him put into words a deeper understanding of his own personality and motivations! Today we talk through the pros and cons of the Enneagram, and how we can use it to better our relationships! So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ Ready to do the work for yourself? Start reading Are You Really OK? Today! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: I've never struggled with anxiety before the past few years...when I googled it, I realized I might even have some traits of OCD. Any advice on how to nagivate this and take some next steps? Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health - with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we're talking about anxiety and OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Jon Seidl! Anxiety and OCD don't discriminate...and Jon is a Christian who has been walking the journey of dealing with OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) for many years. We talk about his personal experience recognizing and dealing with OCD, where he is today, and how he finds peace and rest even within his diagnosis. If you have any experience with clinical anxiety or even OCD, I truly think this episode and Jon's story will resonate with you no matter where you're at. So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ Ready to do the work for yourself? Start reading Are You Really OK? Today! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you deal with your past? Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health - with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we're talking all about dealing with your past. Today's caller wants to know how to appropriately look back at her past and deal with some of the past baggage that she's carrying today. My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Mary Marantz! Mary has had to take some time to do some work, reflection, and understanding of her own past...and we talk through the importance of looking back in order to move forward. Because sometimes you have to go backwards in order to go forwards. If you have any baggage, family dysfunction, emotional wounds, or past trauma - I think this episode will challenge and encourage you to begin to do the work! So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ Ready to do the work? Start reading Are You Really OK? Today! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our counselors TODAY and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health - with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we're talking all about DATING. Jay from Maryland wants to know why he's got so many worries and doubts about dating. He doesn't want to marry the wrong person, so he freaks. My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Dave Marvin! Dave pastors a huge gathering of young adults in Dallas called The Porch, and he loves the topic of dating because it seems to be on everybody's mind!! Today Dave and I talk through some of the worry, anxiety, and fears around dating and encourage you to stop freaking out about it! So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ Want deep dive into some of my BEST DATING ADVICE? Click below and grab my book True Love Dates. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our counselors TODAY and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health - with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we're talking all about BURNOUT. Our question comes from a woman who is wondering how to balance ministry, and life, and work, and family and everything else we have going on without burning out!! There are so many expectations on our shoulders. Is it even possible to "do it all"? And if so, what does that even look like? My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Christy Wright. Christy is a working mom (Ramsey Solutions), and she's also had to learn how to navigate busy seasons all while caring for others, and caring for herself. Together, we talk you through some tips, tricks, and anecdotes to avoiding burnout!! So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our counselors TODAY and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health - with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we're talking all about attachment styles - how they impact your relationship with others, as well as your relationship with God. I'm joined by Licensed Counselor and author Krispin Mayfield who just wrote a book all about Attachment. The way you handle your emotions, interact with others, and your ability to connect all comes down to something called your attachment style, that was shaped in early childhood. It's a really important concept to understand if you're hoping to pursue healthy relationships. I think this episode is going to open your eyes to how you view your relationships with others, as well as your relationship to God. So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our counselors TODAY and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is Pastor Mike Todd. Pastor Mike is the lead pastor of Transformation Church. Today he opens up about one of the darkest seasons in his life, battling depression and anger after his son was diagnosed with autism. Under the weight of the stress and pain, he felt like something inside of him broke. And when it did, out came a flood of feelings that had been buried under the surface for many, many years. He talks about how he had spent so many years of his life "capping" his feelings- seeing them as obstacles rather than assets. We trace this belief back to his childhood, and spend some time processing his past experiences that led him to years of numbing his emotions. And then we talk about his road to healing. This conversation is truly unique and eye opening. If you have ever struggled with feeling like you "don't know what you feel" or "don't have strong feelings" - you need to tune into this conversation with pastor Mike Todd today. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Anthony on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is coming your way July 1st!! Sign up for our WAIT LIST HERE. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is Toni Collier. Toni and her husband Sam are pastors of a thriving church in Atlanta, Georgia. Today Toni opens up about her history of codependent relationships, finding herself in a toxic relationship at a very young age. She talks about getting to the root of her need to be a "caregiver" that started in the trauma of her childhood, being the primary caregiver for her ailing mother - although she wasn't really aware of all of these roots until until age 24 when it all began to manifest in her life. She carried the pain of her past for many years, which led her into alcohol abuse, and toxic behavior, and codependent relationships - until she stopped to face the pain and abuse from her past. This conversation with Toni is SO SO powerful and healing, for any of you who have the roots of a "caregiver" and are feeling burnout and stuck in a cycle of codependent relationships- this conversation is one you must listen to. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Anthony on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is coming your way July 1st!! Sign up for our WAIT LIST HERE. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Lisa Bevere. Lisa is an international speaker, author, and co-founder of Messenger International. She's a powerhouse of a woman, and I'm so grateful to call her my friend. In our session today, Lisa talks through a tumultuous and difficult relationship with her mother, where she endured abuse and navigating their dysfunctional relationship. But childhood trauma doesn't stay in childhood, and Lisa's trauma followed her into the actions and decisions she would make as a young woman - and even into marriage. Lisa's story is one that many of you can relate to, a story of brokenness and pain from childhood. But what many of you don't realize is that the past doesn't just stay in the past. And if you don't deal with the past, it will impact your present as well. I love her candor, her passion, and her heart to learn - and I know you'll love this conversation with Lisa Bevere. She's a very special woman and a dear friend of mine! Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Anthony on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is coming your way this July!! Sign up for our WAIT LIST HERE. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Louie Giglio. Louie is a well-known pastor of Passion City Church and founder of the popular Passion Conference - who found himself at a point of "complete wipe out". He found himself in the hole of depression - something that he was never aware of before. He woke up in the middle of the night thinking this would be the last night of his life. The overflow of the stressors in his life took him out of commission for 4 months, causing a physical and mental breakdown. Louie had to really come to terms with what was happening in his body and mind, and learn what it means to take care of himself from the inside-out. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Anthony on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is coming your way this July!! Sign up for our WAIT LIST HERE. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Rebekah Lyons. Rebekah talks about a season of life in which experienced debilitating panic attacks and claustrophobia. Entering into a season of massive change, she expected the transition to be difficult - but she didn't expect it to impact her the way it did. We talk through growing and healing through this hard season, how she navigated change, dealt with some of the past roots, and found healing from a season of acknowledging that she was NOT OKAY. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Anthony on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is coming your way this July!! Sign up for our WAIT LIST HERE. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Sheila Walsh. She opens up about the moment that broke her, while filming on national television - she realized she was not okay. All the pain and hurt and wounds from her past got to the point where she could ignore them no longer. She broke down on national television, and couldn't stop crying. She knew she was not okay, and it was finally time to face it. That day she was admitted to a psychiatric unit and the journey of healing began for the first time. "I'd known for some time that there was something wrong, but I didn't know what it was...an overwhelming weight of sadness." This no-filter conversation talks us through her journey of healing from national TV to her 30 day stent at the psychiatric unit. Her story is going to challenge you to come to terms with how you're really doing - right here and right now, and begin to face it. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Anthony on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is coming your way this July!! Sign up for our WAIT LIST HERE. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Bianca Olthoff. Bianca is a pastor, teacher, and church planter who has been in ministry for many years. She's come to a point where she realized that she's not okay - right here and right now in this season. There has been so much change in the past two years since the pandemic started, and she's realizing that the pain of the past few years is something she needs to face. "I think that the present has been a really hard season for me...and I need to make space for the sad." Today we talk through the hard things of the past few years, and how they've all compounded leaving her at a place where she has to acknowledge the hard things, feel the hard things, and grieve the hard things. Maybe you can relate. Maybe you find yourself running, distracting, ignoring the pain - rather than dealing with it. If so, this episode is for you. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Bianca on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is coming your way this July!! Sign up for our WAIT LIST HERE. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Anthony Evans. Anthony is a worship pastor and gospel music producer from Dallas, TX. He's the son of Tony Evans, and the brother of national speaker Priscilla Shirer- and comes from a ministry oriented family. Which directly ties into our conversation today. We talk through the pressure that comes from being a prominent person in ministry, and how that has impacted his life. We talk about the emotional "sprains" that he's faced over the past few years, and specifically, the emotional pains he's feeling right now in life - and how hard it's been to heal under a spotlight of ministry. "I'm currently not okay, and my job is to present that I'm okay," he says honestly.... This no-filter conversation is going to challenge you to come to terms with how you're really doing - right here and right now, and begin to face it. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Anthony on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens & ZocDoc DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Jonathan Pitts. Jonathan is the executive pastor at Church of the City in Franklin, TN. Today Jonathan opens up about the trauma of losing his 38-year-old wife suddenly and unexpectedly. He talks about his journey today, and the things he's learned along the way. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Jonathan Pitts on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens & Faithful Counseling Get matched with a licensed counselor in 24 hours! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Jeremy Camp. Jeremy is an incredibly talented singer/songwriter. You've probably heard his songs on the radio, or even tuned into the movie he released two years ago called "I Still Believe" chronicling the heart wrenching journey of losing his first wife to cancer. But today, Jeremy opens up to talk about the crippling anxiety he faced while on a ministry trip. His anxiety in the present was actually rooted in past experiences, and we process that today on-air. His story is powerful and painful, yet filled with hope and healing. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Jeremy Camp on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens & Faithful Counseling Get matched with a licensed counselor in 24 hours! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Levi Lusko. Levi is the pastor of Fresh Life Church in Montana, along with his wife Jennie. Levi opens up and shares about the dark time of grief, after tragically losing their 5 year old daughter. He talks about the power of grief, how it leads to depression and anxiety, and the way it ravages your heart, soul, mind and strength. He gives us a glimpse into this dark season, as well as others as he opens up about his personal journey with mental and emotional health. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? I know this on-air session with Christine will challenge you. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Levi Lusko on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens & Faithful Counseling Get matched with a licensed counselor in 24 hours! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with my dear friend Christine Caine. Christine is a Jesus-loving, passionate, international speaker and author. Along with her husband, she's the founder of A21, an anti-human trafficking campaign that's saving lives across the globe. Christine opens up and shares about a dark time of rejection and pain that lasted almost two years....so dark, she wasn't sure if she wanted to make it to the other side. This season of loss, grief, and abandonment stretched her behind her wildest imagination. It impacted her body, her sleep, and her peace. Her story is going to open your eyes to the challenges so many people go through without our awareness. But it will give you hope in your own dark time. I know this on-air session with Christine will challenge you. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Christine Caine on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: ZocDoc & Faithful Counseling Get matched with a licensed counselor in 24 hours! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Matt Chandler. Pastor Matt is the senior pastor of the Village Church, and his mental health came to a head recently as he faced an concerning emotional block in his life and feelings of burnout that started to impact everything. It took an intentional shift to face his childhood wounds to begin the process of healing. Pastor Matt Chandler shares is story with us today of facing his childhood wounds. I loved his honesty and no-filter demeanor in this conversation. It was truly one of my favorite conversations and I know it will inspire you as well. I know this on-air session with him will challenge you. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Pastor Matt Chandler on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: ZocDoc & Faithful Counseling Get matched with a licensed counselor in 24 hours! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. *Trigger warning* For those of you who have struggled with one or more suicide attempts, suicidal ideations, thoughts, or intentions - the content in today's podcast may be difficult to hear. Please listen with caution and be sure you have the support of a professional counselor.* Today's session is with Kayla Stoecklein. Kayla and her family went through a horrific season of darkness, when her husband Andrew - an incredible pastor and leader of a mega-church, died by suicide in 2018. Kayla talks us through Andrew's difficult journey with mental illness and suicide, as well as her own journey in the process - as a spouse of someone with a mental illness. She has an important message to share, reminding us of the great need to understand mental health issues- because it's truly life or death. I know this on-air session with him will challenge you. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Kayla Stoecklein on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens & Faithful Counseling Get matched with a licensed counselor in 24 hours! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session with Natalie Grant is SO hopeful. A top Christian female vocalist, she has been through her own journey with anxiety and panic in the most unexpected places. She hit her low point in her depression, where she literally couldn't get up to shower or care for herself and needed the people in her life to carry her through. Her story will remind you that you are not alone, that you don't have to be okay, and that there is room for Jesus, therapy AND medication in your life. All of the above. I know this on-air session will challenge you. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Natalie Grant on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens & Faithful Counseling Get matched with a licensed counselor in 24 hours! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. We're opening this series by re-airing episodes from Season 1, beginning with one of my favorite leaders....Pastor JP Pokluda. One thing that really sticks out to me about JP is his blunt and point-blank approach to life. For him, nothing is off limits to talk about. And nothing to dark for Jesus to shine his light. And this conversation is no different. I know this on-air session with him will challenge you. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and enjoy this vulnerable conversation with Pastor "JP" on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series on the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens & Faithful Counseling Get matched with a licensed counselor in 24 hours! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're wrapping up a series we started in February called Couples Therapy! I've invited four courageous couples to join me on the podcast for on-air counseling sessions. We're going behind the curtain of marriage, and giving you a sneak peek of all the things married couples are actually going through behind the scenes. Because marriage takes work, and it's important to understand that - but it's also important to have the tools you need to do that work, and the hope you need to see that it's always worth it in the end. Today's couple is Carlos and Ashley. After a lighting fast dating and engagement, they're finding themselves stuck in the area of expectations and norms in marriage. They come from very different cultural backgrounds, and now their differences are coming to a head. Carlos comes to marriage with certain expectations of gender roles in marriage, and Ashley comes from the exact opposite perspective. Will they be able to get on the same page, even with their different views? How does their past, childhood, and culture impact what they think and believe about marriage? How do you sort through what's right and what's wrong? What does it look like to create a NEW culture in their marriage, rather than try to replicate the old? Today we unpack all of that!!! If you've ever struggled with difference in your expectations or cultural norms, you'll want to tune into this couple's therapy session. And friends - this series has been such a huge hit! My podcast was in the top 100 of ALL religion and spirituality podcasts last week, so thank you for listening, sharing, and leaving your review because it helps get the word out about this important series. And now, tune in this powerful episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Faithful Counseling Get matched with a licensed counselor in 24 hours! Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out these Bestselling books mentioned today. Also mentioned on the couple's therapy episodes: The Married Sex Conference! Use Code Debra15 for 15% off and sign up for the conference today! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're in the middle a series through the month of February called Couples Therapy! I've invited four courageous couples to join me on the podcast for an on-air counseling session. We're going behind the curtain of marriage, and giving you a sneak peek of all the things married couples are actually going through behind the scenes. Because marriage takes work, and it's important to understand that - but it's also important to have the tools you need to do that work, and the hope you need to see that it's always worth it in the end. Today's couple, Ben and Kelsey, have been married for almost 9 years. They're finding themselves stuck in the area of sexual intimacy, but could there be more going on underneath the surface? In our counseling sessions, Kelsey has revealed that she has a past history of abuse from childhood. She also shared that she's had two emotional affairs that have really set them back in their marriage. Today we unpack the concept of triggers - in the fact that Ben identifies both of them to be "trigger-avoidant" people. We talk through a new way to look at triggers, that not only helped them but I believe it will challenge you as well. I know many of you will relate to this couple, and the fact that sometimes what's going on in TODAY is really a reflection of hurts that happened in the PAST that haven't been fully dealt with. We have to get to the roots if we want true freedom. So tune into this final part of my sessions with Ben and Kelsey. And friends - this series has been such a huge hit so far. My podcast was in the top 100 of ALL religion and spirituality podcasts last week, so thank you for listening, sharing, and leaving your review because it helps get the word out about this important series. And now, tune in this powerful episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens and ZocDoc Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out these Bestselling books mentioned today. Also mentioned on today's episode: The Married Sex Conference! Use Code Debra15 for 15% off and sign up for the conference today! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're in the middle a series through the month of February called Couples Therapy! I've invited four courageous couples to join me on the podcast for an on-air counseling session. We're going behind the curtain of marriage, and giving you a sneak peek of all the things married couples are actually going through behind the scenes. Because marriage takes work, and it's important to understand that - but it's also important to have the tools you need to do that work, and the hope you need to see that it's always worth it in the end. Today's couple, Ben and Kelsey, have been married for almost 9 years. They're finding themselves stuck in the area of sexual intimacy, but could there be more going on underneath the surface? In our counseling sessions, Kelsey reveals that she has a past history of abuse from childhood. She also shares that she's had two emotional affairs that have really set them back in their marriage. They both deeply love the Lord and one another - so how is it that they got to this place? Is there hope for their marriage moving forward? What does it look like to get to the roots of what might be going on in their marriage? That's what we're going to talk about today. I know many of you will relate to this couple, and the fact that sometimes what's going on in TODAY is really a reflection of hurts that happened in the PAST that haven't been fully dealt with. We have to get to the roots if we want true freedom. And friends - this series has been such a huge hit so far. My podcast was in the top 100 of ALL religion and spirituality podcasts last week, so thank you for listening, sharing, and leaving your review because it helps get the word out about this important series. And now, tune in this powerful episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens and GetFaithful Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out these Bestselling books mentioned today. Also mentioned on today's episode: The Married Sex Conference! Use Code Debra15 for 15% off and sign up for the conference today! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're in the middle a four part series through the month of February called Couples Therapy! I've invited four courageous couples to join me on the podcast for an on-air counseling session. We're going behind the curtain of marriage, and giving you a sneak peek of all the things married couples are actually going through behind the scenes. Because marriage takes work, and it's important to understand that - but it's also important to have the tools you need to do that work, and the hope you need to see that it's always worth it in the end. Today's couple, Ben and Kelsey, have been married for almost 9 years. They're finding themselves stuck in the area of sexual intimacy, but could there be more going on underneath the surface? In our counseling sessions, Kelsey reveals that she has a past history of abuse from childhood. She also shares that she's had two emotional affairs that have really set them back in their marriage. They both deeply love the Lord and one another - so how is it that they got to this place? Is there hope for their marriage moving forward? What does it look like to get to the roots of what might be going on in their marriage? That's what we're going to talk about today. I know many of you will relate to this couple, and the fact that sometimes what's going on in TODAY is really a reflection of hurts that happened in the PAST that haven't been fully dealt with. We have to get to the roots if we want true freedom. And friends - this series has been such a huge hit so far. My podcast was in the top 100 of ALL religion and spirituality podcasts last week, so thank you for listening, sharing, and leaving your review because it helps get the word out about this important series. And now, tune in this powerful episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens and Abide Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out these Bestselling books mentioned today. And sign up for our FREE EVENT: The Married Sex Book Club on February 16th! Also mentioned on today's episode: The Married Sex Conference! Use Code Debra15 and sign up for the conference today! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're in the middle a four part series through the month of February called Couples Therapy! I've invited four courageous couples to join me on the podcast for an on-air counseling session. We're going behind the curtain of marriage, and giving you a sneak peek of all the things married couples are actually going through behind the scenes. Because marriage takes work, and it's important to understand that - but it's also important to have the tools you need to do that work, and the hope you need to see that it's always worth it in the end. Today's couple, Eric and Ashley, have been married for almost 2 years. But they're both feeling like something is blocking their intimacy. As we dove into their situation, Eric identified that he feels like his sexual past is getting in the way of their ability to connect both emotionally and physically in the present. He has a significant sexual history, and when he became a Christian he thought his sexual past was gone for good...until it started coming back up in his new marriage. He's haunted by his sexual past, and in need of hope to break free. I know many of you can relate to Eric's journey - and I know this episode is going to inspire, challenge, and encourage you to deal with some of those hard things in your own life! Let me know what you think of this couples therapy series by leaving a review on your podcast app! And now, tune in this powerful episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: American Blossom Linens and Abide Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out these Bestselling books mentioned today. And sign up for our FREE EVENT: The Married Sex Book Club on February 16th! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're starting a four part series through the month of February called Couples Therapy! I've invited four courageous couples to join me on the podcast for an on-air counseling session. We're going behind the curtain of marriage, and giving you a sneak peek of all the things married couples are actually going through behind the scenes. Because marriage takes work, and it's important to understand that - but it's also important to have the tools you need to do that work, and the hope you need to see that it's always worth it in the end. Today's couple, Justin and Tracy, have been married for 11 years and have two children. They find themselves stuck in an unhealthy pattern - she feels like he's always pulling away, he feels like she's always putting him down. It got so bad, at one point she was considering divorce. In this powerful conversation, we're going to unpack the dynamic they're struggling with in their marriage, get to the roots of why, and find solutions to help them move forward. But more than that, we're going to help them find hope! I hope this session inspires and encourages you to do the work in your own life and relationship. Let me know!! Leave a review on your podcast app, and let us know how you're enjoying this podcast and this series. And now, tune in this powerful episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Zoc Doc and Abide Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you physically healthy? Before you quickly answer, let me remind you that Physical health is not what you think. In my book Are You Really OK? I walk you through aspects of physical health: nutrition, diet, exercise, and how to set boundaries and avoid burnout. In today's episode, we're doing a deep dive into one of those areas - and I think it's going to challenge your perspective on physical health. We're in the middle of a four-part series where I'm asking YOU to answer the question: Are you really ok? We're talking through emotional, mental, spiritual and physical health week by week- because there's no better way to start the new year than by stopping to really take inventory of how you're doing! At the end of the series, I'm hosting a ARE YOU REALLY OK? BOOK CLUB!!! It will be a two-hour zoom meeting where I'll be taking all your questions, hearing your stories, and helping you process the things you're learning in the book. To join the book club, all you need to do is listen to this four-part series, buy a copy of Are You Really OK? and commit to reading through it, and then sign up for our FREE BOOK CLUB January 26th!! I can't wait to connect with you face to face and talk through all these things. But for now, tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens & American Blossom Linens Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you spiritually healthy? Before you quickly answer, let me remind you that Spiritual health is not what you think. In my book Are You Really OK? I walk you through three aspects of spiritual health: what you believe about God, what you believe about yourself, and what you can find out about your spiritual health from assessing your relationship with others. In today's episode, we're doing a deep dive into one of those areas - and I think it's going to challenge your perspective on spiritual health. Because it has much less to do with what you're doing, and so much more to do with what you believe about God. We're in the middle of a four-part series where I'm asking YOU to answer the question: Are you really ok? We're talking through emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical health week by week- because there's no better way to start the new year than by stopping to really take inventory of how you're doing! At the end of the series, I'm hosting a ARE YOU REALLY OK? BOOK CLUB!!! It will be a two-hour zoom meeting where I'll be taking all your questions, hearing your stories, and helping you process the things you're learning in the book. To join the book club, all you need to do is listen to this four-part series, buy a copy of Are You Really OK? and commit to reading through it, and then sign up for our FREE BOOK CLUB January 26th!! I can't wait to connect with you face to face and talk through all these things. But for now, tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens & American Blossom Linens Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mental health involves three areas: Your thought life, your past experiences, your chemical makeup. In my book Are You Really OK? I discuss each of those in detail! But today we're zooming in on your thought life, and how your thoughts impact your life. We're in the middle of a four-part series on emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical health - because there's no better way to start the new year than by stopping to really take inventory of how you're doing! At the end of the series, I'm hosting a ARE YOU REALLY OK? BOOK CLUB!!! It will be a two-hour zoom meeting where I'll be taking all your questions, hearing your stories, and helping you process the things you're learning in the book. To join the book club, all you need to do is listen to this four-part series, buy a copy of Are You Really OK? and commit to reading through it, and then sign up for our FREE BOOK CLUB January 26th!! I can't wait to connect with you face to face and talk through all these things. But for now, tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: American Blossom Linens & GetFaithful Counseling Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emotional health. What is it? And how do you know if you are emotionally healthy? Before we jump into 2022....we're going to take some time to stop and get healthy from the inside out. Today we're starting a four part Are You Really OK? Series about getting healthy from the inside out. We're focusing on emotional health, mental health, spiritual health, and physical health and helping you do a quick assessment of your own health and how to take next steps! Emotional Health In today's episode we're talking about the three parts to emotional health, and why sometimes your New Year's Resolutions end up falling flat by the end of January. Because so much of why we do what we do stems deeper than our behaviors - and goes down to the roots of our emotional and mental health. This series is going to be so important, and we want everyone to tune in!! So at the end of this four-part series, we're offering a FREE ARE YOU REALLY OK? BOOK CLUB!!! All you have to do to join the book club is listen to the four parts, order a copy of Are You Really OK? and commit to working through it! Then, grab a ticket to join our Book Club on January 26th where I'll be taking your questions and hearing your personal stories and processing the book together with you! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: American Blossom Linens & GetFaithful Counseling Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"You should never have to convince someone that you're worth loving." (Tweet it!) That's exactly what I told the caller on today's episode of the show. After getting burned by a lady he's been getting to know, he finds himself wondering how on earth is a person supposed to read the opposite sex and find out whether or not someone is interested? Are there signs to be on the lookout for? Why, yes...yes there are. 10 different signs to be exact. But here's the key: you have to be willing to recognize them, and then accept them. And I'm going to talk through all this and more in today's interesting show!! If you've ever been in a relationship where you wondered whether or not they felt the same way about you as you felt about them (whether dating or even in marriage) - then this episode is for you. Give this short episode (25 minutes) a quick listen, and then leave your 5-star rating and review on iTunes! It helps to get the word out and challenge others to move toward God's best for relationships...because you should never have to convince someone that you're worth investing in (tweet it). Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: GetFaithful Counseling Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Resources Mentioned: 10 Signs He/She Is Not That Into You Does He Like Me? 7 Clues He's Interested Does She Like Me? 7 Clues She's Interested Learn how to attract and keep a healthy dating relationships in True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life Find out choices you can make today, to build a better marriage for tomorrow in Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Good communication isn't something you're born with. It's not even a gender thing. It's something you have to learn (CLICK TO Tweet it!) I was on a talk show where I was talking about the importance of good communication in relationships. The host of the show stopped me to ask, "Debra, do you mean to tell me you expect men to be good communicators?" Why, yes. That is absolutely what I am saying. To be honest, I was really frustrated with that question. Because I rebel against the stereotype that men can't be good communicators. I think it's insulting, and unfair, and sets us up for less than God's best in our relationships. We need to expect more, and teach both our sons and our daughters the importance of healthy communication... It has to be practiced. And even when you're married and in love...you'll still have communication issues to work through. Take me for example: a wife of 11 years, licensed counselor and relationship expert. But just recently my husband and I had one of those "communication mishaps" that we had to work through....(don't worry, I'll tell you aaaaaallllll about it!) because communication is something you have to practice. On this episode, I talk to a young man who is struggling to communicate well, and wants some suggestions on how to get to the next level with expressing himself, especially with his emotions. Because in order to express our feelings, we have to first acknowledge them. Good Communication Skills Are Up For Grabs In this podcast, we talk through some practical steps to good communication, and cover these important topics: Why communicating and expressing emotions isn't a male/female thing. The four levels of communication and why they matter. How our family background and culture can influence our ability to communicate. Some suggestions in learning to acknowledge our emotions and feelings. Why it takes practice to get to a better place with our communication. How to learn good communication even long before you're in a romantic relationship. Learning to recognize the WALLS (barriers to good communication) that you have whether or not you realize it - because they're keeping you from healthy communication. This concept has really changed my life and I write all about it in Choosing Marriage, but today I'm sharing it with you on the show! And of course, a few candid conversations about my relationship with John and some of our most recent communication mishaps! If you want some practical advice to mastering the art of communication, then episode is SO SO SO SO important for you to listen to! Because good communication isn't something you're born with. It's something you have to learn. (TWEET IT!) Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: GetFaithful Counseling Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question...

Am I toxic? What if I'm the toxic one in the relationship? Because I think the problem is me. That was the unique question that came into the podcast hotline, and I knew I had to answer it right away. Am I toxic? That's a question people don't often ask. It's not common for someone to identify themselves as the person in need of change in the relationship, and I was so grateful for this man's insight and willingness to listen to advice and consider next steps for change. Am I toxic? As you listen to this insightful conversation, I want you to ask yourself this: Am I toxic in any way, shape, or form? Or what about this: Could you be the one in the relationship in need of change? It's so easy to look at what others need to fix and change, without really looking inward at our own problems, past baggage, unhealthy behaviors, and bad habits. But I want you to ask yourself: could I be the toxic one? Is there anything I need to change in my life? Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Imperfect Foods & GetFaithful Counseling Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Compatibility is key to a healthy relationship. Just because you're a Christian, and just because someone else is a Christian - doesn't mean you're going to be a good match when it comes to being in a relationship. Compatibility is a huge piece to the puzzle of relationships, and it's one that often get's ignored or overshadowed in the conversation of what makes a healthy relationships. When it comes to understanding compatibility in a relationship, there are certain things that have to "fit together" well, just like putting a puzzle together. This isn't about finding an exact replica of yourself, it's about finding someone who is going to be a good match for your life. In order to find a good match, you've got to know your shape, and your colors. Compatibility Looks Like... There are certain big picture topics where it's important to make sure you have compatibility when you're in a relationship. Today on the podcast, we're talking through those topics! You can also dig deeper into accountability in my book, Love In Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: GetFaithful Counseling Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever found yourself oversharing in a relationship? You know what I mean, right? I'm talking about those conversations where you find yourself saying WAY too much, WAY too soon? Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking, why on earth did I say all that? Or maybe you know someone, someone who you're in a relationship with, who tends to overshare. What is it about oversharing, and why do we do it? How can we draw the line between being authentic, but also not saying way more than we need to? How do we apply this to the world of dating and relationships? Oversharing in Relationships Today's caller is a Melissa - a woman who is struggling with oversharing. She's wondering why she overshares, and how to know when she's shared too much. Specifically, she's dealing with oversharing about her sexual history - finding herself always leading the way with that conversation. On today's episode, she's calling in today to talk through some of the issues this has brought up in her relationships. "Because your sexual history may shape you, but it doesn't define you." 10 Things NOT TO SHARE early on There are a few reasons why people overshare, and specifically when it comes to our past, we need to understand why we overshare, what's important to share, and where we need to tone it down. I talk through some reasons we overshare in this episode, because just like I tell Melissa: "It's not healthy to dive into the deep end of a relationship, before you've walked through the shallow end." So after my conversation with Melissa, I'm talking you through some practicals: 10 things NOT to talk about too soon in a relationship - especially when you're first getting to know someone in a dating relationship (or even in the early stages of a friendship). Who Should I Share With? And lastly, on this episode I'm talking through the three groups of people in your life, how to categorize them, and understand how much to share with each group. Whether you're dating, single, or navigating friendships, tune in to Episode 016 of the Love + Relationships Podcast, to listen to this important conversation about oversharing! Episode Highlights: What does oversharing look like? Why do we overshare in relationships? What are some subjects we should stay away from? When do we share mental health issues? Sexual history? 10 things NOT to talk about early on in a relationship. How to recognize who to share with, and who not to. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Everlywell and GetFaithful Counseling Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: How do you deal with trust issues, when they seem to come up again and again? In today's show, I talk to Latoya, who finds herself struggling with trust issues with her soon-to-be-husband. Little by little, we find out how her past is influencing the feelings she's having, and I give her practical steps to help her overcome the grip that the past is having on her life. If you've ever struggled with issues from your past having an impact on your present relationships - then this episode is for you. We talk through these trust issues today, and how to identify if the problem is coming from within you - or if the problem points to something happening in the relationship. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Imperfect Foods Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"I never imagined I'd be single in my 30's"... Today's caller is looking for some encouragement and trying to assess whether or not she should continue to hold on to hope when she finds herself single in her late 30s - something she never imagined. What does it look like to hold on to hope when life's timeline doesn't look like what you expected? No matter what age you are, I believe this favorite episode is going to encourage you to take the next steps. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Everlywell, ABIDE, and Olive + June Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Hey Debra, you always say that what you believe about yourself determines the kind of relationships you believe you deserve...how do I help my kids begin to establish a healthy identity? So much of our identity is formed and shaped in our childhood years - and what we do, and say, and teach as parents matters. How do you begin to help your kids see themselves as God sees them? Fight off the cultural lies? Feel confident in who they are? Build a healthy identity? Today, my good friend and amazing podcaster, Jamie Ivey - joins me for this important conversation. Jamie is a mother of four amazing kids, in the thick of their teen years. I loved chatting with her about this concept, and even if you don't have kids, I think this important conversation will get you thinking about your own childhood and the things that shaped your healthy identity along the way. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: ZocDoc & Trade Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: What is your best advice for a couple considering marriage? Marriage is a big decision. I think we can all agree to that. But what sets apart marriages that succeed from marriages that don't? Today, I'm joined by Pastor Cal, one of the spiritual advisors and coaches from the reality TV show called Married At First Sight. On this show, they literally match up two potential candidates for marriage based on a series of psychological tests - and then they meet and marry on their wedding day. Let me just say, it's a crazy premise - but if nothing else, it's a fascinating look into some of the stages of a relationship: the honeymoon stage, followed by conflict and tension, followed by learning resolution, forgiveness, and reconciliation. Today, we talk a little bit about the show, and then dive into some key areas that make a marriage work, and things to be on the lookout for as you're considering marriage! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Girlfriend Collective & Nutrafol Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: How can singles restore a healthy view of sex when they've been hurt by purity culture? Friends - we're talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this important question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, in honor of our new book Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (CLICK TO PRE-ORDER TODAY!!!!), we're taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this final episode of this series: The Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today's question comes from a couple a man who wants to know how to restore a healthy view of sex, after he's been hurt by some of the messages from the purity culture. So how do you strike a balance between taking the good - and leaving the harmful when it comes to some of the messages of the purity culture? Gary and I tag-team this question on today's episode of the Sex Series! So tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Everlywell & Abide FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Are you ready to take your sex life to the next level! Order Married Sex Today!! ATTN MARRIED COUPLES: check out the upcoming Married Sex Online Conference! 25+ seminars about sex, 12 months to stream, plus a FREE copy of our book Married Sex! Register Today!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: What do you do when one of you wants oral sex, but the other doesn't like it? Friends - we're talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this important question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, in honor of our new book Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (CLICK TO PRE-ORDER TODAY!!!!), we're taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today's question comes from a couple who has different preferences when it comes to oral sex. So how do you strike a balance of differences in sexual preferences when there are two people to respect in the marriage? Especially with a sensitive issue like oral sex. Gary and I tag-team this question on today's episode of the Sex Series! So tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Trade & ZocDoc FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Are you ready to take your sex life to the next level! Pre-Order Married Sex Today and Get The Couple's Guide To Talking About Sex, as well as the first few Audiobook Chapters FREE that you can start listening to, TODAY! ATTN MARRIED COUPLES: check out the upcoming Married Sex Online Conference! 25+ seminars about sex, 12 months to stream, plus a FREE copy of our book Married Sex! Register Today!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: How do I help my wife get turned on? Friends - we're talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this important question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, leading up to the book launch of Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (CLICK TO PRE-ORDER TODAY!!!!), we're taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today's question comes from a man who wants to do his part in helping his wife get turned on during sex. So how do you arouse your wife and get her turned on? We're covering tips, advice, and suggestions to focusing in on the wife on today's episode of the Sex Series! So tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Everlywell & ABIDE FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Are you ready to take your sex life to the next level! Pre-Order Married Sex Today and Get The Couple's Guide To Talking About Sex, as well as the first few Audiobook Chapters FREE that you can start listening to, TODAY! ATTN MARRIED COUPLES: check out the upcoming Married Sex Online Conference! 25+ seminars about sex, 12 months to stream, plus a FREE copy of our book Married Sex! Register Today!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Quickie Sex or Not So Quickie? That's today's topic! Q: Sometimes I'd enjoy something spontaneous, but my wife prefers to wait until the end of the night so she can unwind. How can we honor each other's preferences? Friends - we're talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this important question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, in celebration of the new book launch of Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (It's officially available TODAY!!!! CLICK HERE TO ORDER!!!!), we're taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today's question comes from a man who would like sex to be spontaneous every once in a while with quickie sex, but his wife prefers to wait until the end of the evening so she can wind down (and after the kids are in bed!) and enjoy not-so-quickie sex. So what's the balance of meeting the different needs and preferences that come up with sex? How do you honor each other when you have different desires? Is there any way to meet in the middle? Gary and I tag-team this question and talk about some practical ways to honor your spouse even when you have different preferences between quick and spontaneous sex, vs. scheduled or longer sexual experiences. I also include a couple practical suggestions for those in the life stage of keeping your sex life alive even when you've got little kids at home (...because I can speak from experience!!!) Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: ABIDE & Everlywell FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Are you ready to take your sex life to the next level? Order Married Sex AVAILABLE Today!!!! ATTN MARRIED COUPLES: check out the Married Sex Online Conference! 25+ seminars about sex, 12 months to stream, plus a FREE copy of our book Married Sex! Register Today!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Any advice to keeping sex fun when you're trying to get pregnant? Friends - we're talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this important question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, leading up to the book launch of Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (CLICK TO PRE-ORDER TODAY!!!!), we're taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today's question comes from a couple who is struggling with fertility issues and trying to get pregnant. Sex can often seem like more of a chore, and lose it's fun and excitement when you're trying desperately to get pregnant. The pressure of getting pregnant can oftentimes outweigh the joy of intimacy. So how do you strike a balance, navigate fertility issues, and keep your sex life healthy during those seasons? Gary and I tag-team this question and talk about keeping sex fun when you're trying to get pregnant on today's episode of the Sex Series! So tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Trade & ZocDoc FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Are you ready to take your sex life to the next level! Pre-Order Married Sex Today and Get The Couple's Guide To Talking About Sex, as well as the first few Audiobook Chapters FREE that you can start listening to, TODAY! ATTN MARRIED COUPLES: check out the upcoming Married Sex Online Conference! 25+ seminars about sex, 12 months to stream, plus a FREE copy of our book Married Sex! Register Today!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Is it wrong to want to try something I've seen in porn, even though I know that porn itself is wrong? Friends - we're talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this courageous question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, leading up to the book launch of Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (CLICK TO PRE-ORDER TODAY!!!!), we're taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today's question comes from a man who is curious if it's okay to try something he's seen in porn, even though he knows porn is wrong. Something I've Seen in Porn? This is an important question, because pornography impacts many people and many couples. It's a question a lot of people might be thinking, but aren't asking. That's why we need to talk about it!! This episode is straight-forward, honest, and probably not totally what you expect. So tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Girlfriend Collective & BlueLand FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Are you ready to take your sex life to the next level! Pre-Order Married Sex Today and Get The Couple's Guide To Talking About Sex, as well as the first few Audiobook Chapters FREE that you can start listening to, TODAY! ATTN MARRIED COUPLES: check out the upcoming Married Sex Online Conference! 25+ seminars about sex, 12 months to stream, plus a FREE copy of our book Married Sex! Register Today!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're talking about sex tips and tricks for Newlyweds (and not so newly weds) Q: My wife and I are newlyweds, and right now sex is a little bit of a struggle and seems forced. Any advice or suggestions? Friends - we're talking about sex! Over the course of the next few weeks, leading up to the book launch of Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life, we're taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today's question comes from a newlywed couple looking for advice and sex tips to overcome some of the struggles of being a new-to-sex. But the advice we give them today doesn't just apply to newlywed sex! If sex has been a little bit of a struggle lately, then this episode is for you. We talk about the #1 tip to making sex better for both parties, some obstacles that come up as newlyweds and beyond, as well as some other sex tips and tricks along the way!!! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Faithful Counseling! Are you ready to take your sex life to the next level! Pre-Order Married Sex Today and Get The Couple's Guide To Talking About Sex, as well as the first few Audiobook Chapters FREE that you can start listening to, TODAY! ATTN MARRIED COUPLES: check out the upcoming Married Sex Online Conference! 25+ seminars about sex, 12 months to stream, plus a FREE copy of our book Married Sex! Register Today!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're talking about sex today...but not in the way you expect. This time, we're talking about being sex-less. What do you do when you're single and living in a sex-filled world? How do you save sex for marriage when everything inside of you and around you is telling you otherwise? How do you honor God, and still have a healthy awareness and understanding of your sexual desires? How does the purity culture impact our beliefs about sex for both good and for bad? Today I'm talking with my single friend, Kat Harris, who has been learning about the journey for herself. We're answering this caller question: I'm committed to saving sex for marriage. I do believe it's God's best for my life. But the struggle is real! What tips, advice, or suggestions do you have for me as I'm trying to remain sexless, in a sex-filled world? So, let's talk about sex!! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! (And then, check out this #3 most downloaded episode about Sex Drive and the Single Life as well!) FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Faithful Counseling! Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What's it like to care for your mental and emotional health in the world of professional sports? In today's podcast, I talk with NFL veteran Rashad Johnson about life in the NFL, and what it looks like to practically care for yourself when the focus tends to be on physical performance. We talk through a hard season he went through, the difficulty of transitioning out of the NFL, and ways he's learned to take care of his mental health along the way - out of necessity. It's a powerful conversation that will challenge you to stop and care for yourself right where you're at. I'm also joined by co-host and fan favorite, Chad Johnson for this amazing conversation. Don't miss it!!! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: BlueLand Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices