Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Today we're talking toxic relationships both in dating and in marriage. Q: When it comes to general relationships, how do you know when a relationship is worth working on, and how do you know when it's time to walk away? A: When it is time to walk away from an unhealthy relationship? That's a question we're diving in to today. Christians tend to really struggle with the idea of walking away from relationships, even when they get to a place where they're harmful or even dangerous. I'm joined by my friend and bestselling author, Gary Thomas, to tag-team this question today because he just finished writing all about toxic relationships, and it's a conversation we need to bring to the surface. Toxic Relationships In today's episode we're covering: Why is it actually biblical for us to walk away from toxic relationships? What are some key motivators to remember when it comes to making the choice to walk away from a toxic relationship? How do we recognize a relationship that's hurting us? How to handle toxic relationships in dating as well as in marriage. And so much more! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Top 10 Relationship Killers. Small Things That Cause Big Problems. Is There Such A Thing As "The One"? And Why My Husband And I Disagree. MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: We're struggling through the reality check of marriage. It's not always as easy as we imagined it to be. Do you have any tips or advice for us? I often talk about the differences between our expectations of marriage , vs. the reality of what marriage. But today, I'm excited to tag team this question about the reality check of marriage with my friends Jeremy and Addie Camp. Jeremy Camp and Addie are so real and raw about their own marriage, the struggles they've been through, and the victories they've had. In this episode we talk about the reality check of marriage in their own lives, as well as practical things they do to keep their connection strong and nurture their relationship. It's packed with encouragement and practical advice, and I know it will encourage you whether you're married or one day hoping to be. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Check out Jeremy and Adrienne's book: In Unison For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever been through a hard time in your life where you thought to yourself, "This is not what I wanted my life to look like. This is NOT what I expected." What happens when life doesn't turn out how you planned? How do you navigate those hard times of hopelessness and discouragement, when you feel stuck in a life that you never expected. Maybe your hard time is that you just went through the heartbreaking loss of a failed or broken relationship. Maybe you're single, and your hard time is that you thought FOR SURE you'd be married by now, but find that instead, you're struggling with loneliness and discouragement. Maybe your hard time right now is walking through grief, or loss, or illness...and you find yourself asking why. Today's guests went through their own difficult journey of asking why. After the tragic untimely deaths of their respective spouses, Brittany Price and Daniel Brooker each found themselves as a young widow/widower - dealing with their own individual journey's of grief, and pain, and heartache, and loss...a loss that ultimately brought them together in remarriage. This is an incredible story of two broken hearts, who never let go of Hope. Their story encouraged me during one of my darkest times and I know it will encourage you. When Life Doesn't Turn Out How You Planned In this special episode we cover: The details of their journey of grief and loss and the heartbreaking experience of losing their first loves. (I about lost it, hearing their stories you guys!) Their honest and candid truths about the hardest part of remarriage and blending families. Their best advice for anyone who is considering remarriage. Some incredible encouragement for ANYONE who is dealing with a hard time in life. How the past can be paralyzing, and the importance of taking steps to move forward in healing. Learning to shift your perspective from WHY to WHAT as a way to deal with grief and loss. The importance of gratitude in the midst of suffering. Why mentorship is a critical part of the healthy life. Learning to trust God and cling to His Word in the midst of hard times. Remembering God's faithfulness and goodness through it all - and how he can redeem every story and every situation. Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. Bring the tissues. Grab your notebook, and get ready to write down the nuggets of truth from this inspiring and challenging episode. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to learn more. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Connect with Brittany and Daniel on Instagram @BrittanyPriceBrooker and @DanielOBrooker. Brittany was so sweet to give a shout out to my book, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me. I'm so grateful to hear how it's encouraged her on this journey of marriage, and I pray it will encourage your heart as well as you learn to give out of your overflow. Pick up a copy for you or someone you know who needs some perspective and encouragement on what it looks like to choose marriage on a daily basis, and why it's worth it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: "Hey Debra, I'd love to hear your thoughts about if and how birth order impacts a relationship". A: Are you the oldest child, middle child, or the baby of your family? Believe it or not, how you answer that question will actually have a significant impact on the type of person you turn out to be - as well as how you do relationships. Your birth order can have a significant impact on your love life, so it's important to understand the dynamics that are at play. In this episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST, I'm joined by two of my friends and leading marriage voices in the country, Dave and Ashley Willis from Marriage Today. Together, Dave, Ashley and I talk through what we know about birth order - why it's an actual thing, and how we've seen it impact relationships. In this episode, we talk through: Birth Order Episode: We cover the characteristics of a first born child (or only child), including strengths and weaknesses. The three of us talk through characteristics of a middle child, including strengths and weaknesses. We discuss characteristics of a the baby of the family, including strengths and weaknesses. What it's like to be a first born married to a first born (Interesting to note, everyone on this episode is a first born!) A hilarious story of how the Willis' totally played into the middle child stereotype with their middle child. Some interesting look at an informal survey I took revealing the birth order we tend to be attracted to in relationships. How to deal with opposite characteristics of birth order in relationships, because this is an issue that often comes up. The caveats that need to be addressed when discussing birth order. Tune in today for a super fun and informative episode, so I hope you'll take the time to tune in to our conversation and find out the strengths and weaknesses of YOUR specific birth order - and how it might be impacting your closest relationships. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Dave and Ashley Willis have become some of America's most trusted teachers on marriage. Their books, blogs, videos and speaking events reach millions of couples worldwide. They are part of the team at XO Marriage and MarriageToday, which is the largest marriage-focused ministry in the USA. Dave and Ashley have four young sons and live near Dallas, Texas. For another incredible resource check out Dr. Lehman's book: The Birth Order Book, and get an in-depth look at the intricacies of birth order. For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships - 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon BOOKS BY DEBRA- Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me, True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life, or Love In Every Season. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team...

When you think about communication in marriage, what comes to mind? When I was gathering data for my book, Choosing Marriage, I asked singles to tell me how much time they thought married couples spend in quality communication each week. Then, I surveyed married couples asking them how much time they spend in quality communication each week...and the different answers that came in were almost laughable (I tell you all about the stats it in this episode and why married couples aren't actually talking!) There was such a drastic difference between what singles thought communication in marriage looked like, vs. what married people actually reported communication in marriage to be. But there are so many things that get in the way of communication in marriage. Life. Jobs. Kids. If we're not constantly trying to move together in marriage, we'll find ourselves moving apart. MARRIAGE COUNSELORS TALKING ABOUT REAL COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGE In today's episode, I'm joined by my dear friend and marriage counselor, Dr. Kim Kimberling. We cover some of these issues that can come up with communication and connection in marriage. We talk about our own respective marriages, some of the challenges and successes we face when it comes to communication in marriage. We talk about child-centric homes, why they're dangerous to marriage, and what to do about it. How to set some boundaries with your kids so you can enrich your marriage. We talk about some steps you can take to build your marriage or restore it when you're feeling off-track. Why most married couples aren't spending enough time together, and how to make it happen. We talk about the importance of the first 10-minutes of contact with your spouse. We talk about who should initiate communication and why it matters. We also share some ways we stay connected to our spouses and some practices that you can apply to your marriage to stay connected....and so much more! This episode is so full of amazing conversation and insight. You're going to love it! Whether you're single, or married, or somewhere in between - take the time to tune into today's episode. Resources Mentioned on the Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Be sure to connect with today's guest, Dr. Kim Kimberling and all his encouraging marriage resources at AwesomeMarriage.com. And be sure to check out his new book, 14 Keys To Lasting Love: How To Have The Marriage You've Always Wanted Learn more about communication by checking out this article: You Have Walls, And They're Keeping People Out. The Truth About Communication in Marriage. BOOKS BY DEBRA- Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me, True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life, or Love In Every Season. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe it's your relationship with food. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ Today's conversation is for anyone who struggles with negative or worst case scenario thinking. This type of thought process is usually rooted in something deeper - and this insightful conversation with Roosevelt will help you get to the roots in your own life. I'm believing this conversation will not only open your eyes, but help you begin to break free from these types of thoughts. Tune in today! _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life. Purchase your copy TODAY anywhere books are sold! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ Today we talk to a couple with a remarkable story. After years of functioning in an unhealthy marriage, they reached the lowest point... and ultimately got a divorce. During that period of time, things begin to change and shift. And as God healed them on an individual level... They were eventually reunited again in marriage. Their story is powerful, and a testament to God can do when we trust him with our individual healing. If you are struggling in relationships today... The best thing you can do is get yourself healthy, standing alone. Take some time to listen to this incredible story... and be inspired to reset in your own life. RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ Today I am talking with Toni Collier about resetting from trauma! If we don't address it, the trauma from our past will end up making its way into our present. We find ourselves living out of a place of pain, rather than a place of power. Tony has some serious trauma history that ended up ultimately destroying her life from a broken marriage, to addiction, and everything in between. Today we walk through the journey of healing with her, reminding you that healing as possible for you as well!!! If there is any level of trauma in your life, this episode will encourage and inspire you. _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe it's your relationship with food. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ Insecurity is one of those things a lot of people battle, but it's some thing we rarely discuss out loud. Today I am talking with Nanette, a woman who has struggled with deep insecurity for much of her life. In our conversation today we trace back the roots of where her insecurity began, why it's continued into her adulthood, and then I give her practical suggestions to walk in freedom and confidence today. If you've ever struggled with insecurity or question your value and worth... This episode is for you. _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ In this weeks episode, I had an incredible conversation with my friend and mentor Christine Caine. We talk about the subtle influence of negative thinking, tracing it back to the roots of the past. Christine shares some of her story and her tendencies to struggle with negative thinking, as well as how she has learned to overcome those things and live in God's truth. It's a Powerful episode that will help you reset from negative thinking. _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe it's your relationship with food. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ Today I'm talking with Sabrina about resetting from grief... Sabrina and her husband have gone through loss after loss in the form of miscarriage, but through our conversation today she realized that the way she has been grieving, has actually brought more heartache into their lives. We can't make grief go away, but how we respond to grief will make or break our lives. If you have ever felt stuck in grief, whether grief of things lost, dreams that have never come into fruition, or the loss of a loved one... This episode will challenge and encourage you. _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life. Purchase your copy TODAY anywhere books are sold! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ In today's episode, I'm having an important conversation with Levi and Jennie Lusko about resetting from bad marriage advice. Throughout life, couples, hear a lot of advice, and it can be hard to sort through which is the good advice and which is the bad advice so today we are processing through some of those things, and how to change your overall mindset about marriage in order to thrive in your relationship. Whether you've been married for one month or for years, It's time to RESET these different areas of our lives and heal from the inside-out. Tune into today's important episode! _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe it's your relationship with food. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ In today's episode, I'm having a conversation with a man named Josh who is really struggling with his negative thinking. He is constantly feeling down and depressed about himself and his situation. I take the time to dig a little deeper, and help him identify that there may be some significant things going on underneath the surface that are impacting his thought life. Tune in to this important conversation about negative thinking. _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ As a Professional Counselor, I spend a significant amount of time counseling men and women (porn is not just a "male" problem) who are struggling with the use of pornography and porn addiction. The use of pornography is having a detrimental impact on so many individuals and damaging many relationships. It's time to RESET! In today's episode, I'm having a conversation with Matt and Sathiya-two men who have found freedom from porn. Tune into today's important episode about how to RESET from porn, how to get to the roots of the underlying feelings and beliefs that keep you stuck to porn, and how to finally break free. Learn more about hitting the RESET button in this area of your life in my new book, Reset! Or check out my Porn No More Course and Workbook. Matt Cline is the founder and director of Restored Ministries, focused on leading men and women out of sexual bondage and into a life of freedom and impact. Matt is a leading speaker and coach in Canada on the topic of sexual brokenness and has seen countless lives radically changed all around the world. You can learn more about Restored Ministries at www.restoredministries.ca Sathiya Sam is a coach and speaker that helps men live with confidence and integrity. A recovered addict himself, Sathiya is the creator of DeepClean - a research-based and Bible-backed system for overcoming porn addiction and author of The Last Relapse. This work has helped everyone from college students to medical doctors regain control of their lives and walk in greater levels of freedom. Based out of Toronto, Canada, Sathiya is happily married and a die-hard basketball fan. Listen to Sathiya's podcast, Unleash The Man Within www.unleashthemanwithin.com _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches...

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ In today's episode, we're talking about something you probably haven't thought about before. Did you know there's such a thing as being TOO POSITIVE? It's called toxic optimism. Toxic Optimism is when we use "positivity" or Christian platitudes to bypass difficult feelings rather than allow ourselves to face and feel the difficult things. But what we're actually doing is burying the trauma, the grief, and the pain - instead of dealing with it. And ironically, when we bury it, we end up prolonging the pain because the best way to preserve something is to bury it. Today I'm talking with Courtney, who struggles with this very thing. Her whole life she's tried to be "tough, and positive" and make all the right choices in hopes of pleasing God and the people around her...but she's at a place where all that is on the backburner because she's feeling really burnt out. We talk through this today, in a raw and honest conversation about her toxic optimism, where it began, and how she uses it to keep from actually dealing and healing. It's an eye opening conversation with her, and I think it will be for you as well. It's time to RESET these different areas of our lives and heal from the inside-out. Tune into today's important episode about toxic optimism. And learn more about toxic optimism in my new book Reset! _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ In today's episode, I'm having an important conversation with Irene Rollins, pastor's wife and ministry leader, about her secret battle with alcoholism behind closed doors. Irene battled with addiction for six years before everything came to a head. Her story is eye-opening, because it reminds you of the dangers of hiding and escaping from pain instead of dealing with it. This conversation is so honest and necessary for any of us who might have some things in our life that are moving towards addictions. Whether it's screen time, gaming, pornography, alcohol or a substance...addiction is subtle until it's serious. It's time to RESET these different areas of our lives and heal from the inside-out. Tune into today's important episode! _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe it's your relationship with food. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ In today's episode, I'm having an on-air session with Erin, who wants to change her relationship with food. Erin is a newlywed who has gained a lot of weight over the past few years, and finds herself defaulting to eating and particularly eating out and indulging in unhealthy foods. She wants to get to the bottom of why she struggles with this, so she can begin breaking this cycle and choosing to be physically healthy. You're going to love this conversation, and I really believe it will challenge you to begin to get to the root of your default beliefs as well. _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ In today's episode, I'm having an important conversation with Alex Seely, co-pastor of The Belonging Co. Have you ever wanted to reset your view of God? Today we're talking to Alex about the negative view of God that she previously carried and how her past trauma and difficult experiences impacted the way she viewed God for many years - but also how she was able to RESET in this area of her life. So many times we transfer our experiences with others onto our expectations of God. We unpack some of her past, and the steps she took in order to heal, grow, and transform her view of God to what it is today...and what a journey!!! It's such a powerful and healing conversation for anyone who has been hurt by the people of God - and will really challenge you to consider your own beliefs about God - and WHY. It's time to RESET these different areas of our lives and heal from the inside-out. _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's BOOK LAUNCH DAY!! In this exclusive bonus episode, I'm sharing my heart behind my new book RESET, as well as some of my personal favorite parts of the book. I'm talking you through the concept and idea behind the book, some unexpected twists and turns along the way, and why real change can only happen from the "inside-out". This is an episode you're going to listen to, and also want to share with someone in your life in need of a RESET!! It's not every day you get TWO episodes of the podcast in one day - so enjoy this bonus episode where I share my heart and story with you...and then I say a special prayer for YOU at the end. I love you all, and I am so thankful for your love and support. But most of all, I am so expectant of what God is going to do through this new message - in your life!!! We're ready for a RESET!!! (Check out my Instagram page today @DebraFileta to follow along on the book launch day celebrations!) RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ In today's episode, I'm having an on-air session with Felix, who wants to reset from unhealthy relationships. Felix has had a history of unhealthy relationships both before coming to Jesus, as well as after - and he wants to get to the bottom of how to do it differently. We unpack Felix's story, and trace it back to some old beliefs that he's been holding onto from childhood - that are coming up in his relationships today. You're going to love this conversation, and I really believe it will challenge you to begin to get to the root of your default beliefs as well. _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! As the first episode in our RESET series, I wanted to do something a little special today on the podcast. I had the joy of reading this book on audio myself, and so I wanted to share with you the first few pages of the book so you could hear it first right here before anyone else on the podcast! So sit back and take a listen to RESET: powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life. _______ RESET comes out in just one short week on March 14th! Right now, if you pre-order RESET you'll be entered to win a $1,500 package of 10 sessions with our counselors network, and get a FREE ticket to our live online seminar called RESETTING FROM unhealthy habits! Just go to DebraFileta.com/RESET to grab your copy and enter your information to get all these preorder bonuses! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey Today's on-air couples therapy session is with Abigail and Daniel, a couple who is trying to balance their every day needs, as well as the needs of their 18 month old first child - and not take out their stress and emotions on one another!! Which is unfortunately how the pattern has been going so far. It's the fourth and final episode of our February Couples Therapy Series and know you're going to love this conversation, and likely relate to it in many ways! But is their conflict just about their needs in the here and now? Or is it a little deeper. You know what I'm going to say - it's always deeper than what's happening right here and right now!! I want to help this couple get to the roots, and help them recognize what it looks like to be deliberate about not taking out our feelings, hurts, and struggles on our spouse. And what to do instead with all those real and important needs and emotions. Tune in to today's episode of Couples Therapy on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast because we have some great things coming up! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCAST - iHEART RADIO Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey Today we're digging into part two and childhood wounds, with our second couple in our COUPLES THERAPY PODCAST...Nikki and Russel. They are a young couple who are feeling disconnected emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Today we're digging into some of the things from their past that are making their way into their present. Because our childhood wounds end up coming back up in our grown-up relationships if we don't take the time to heal. Today we're going on a journey to their childhoods, and helping them see how they are acting out on some of those roles even today as adults in their marriage. It's a powerful episode, watching them learn, and connect, and have empathy for one another in a way they didn't before. We all have childhood wounds that will come up in how we interact in our marriage. I hope you'll listen and learn from this courageous couple. Tune in to today's episode of Couples Therapy on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast because we have some great things coming up! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey I want to introduce you to the second couple in our COUPLES THERAPY PODCAST...Nikki and Russel are a young couple who are feeling disconnected emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Coming into marriage, they had some different expectations - and hadn't talked in depth about what to expect. Their false expectations, specifically around sex and marriage, came from the church and purity culture. When they got into marriage and things didn't match what they expected - they didn't know what to do. Their wedding night didn't go as planned, and they have been truly struggling every since. And so, they've avoided intimacy every since - physically, emotionally, and even spiritually. In today's episode they reveal a big secret they've never shared with anyone...and now they are here, trying again, wanting to heal and see if there's a way to reconnect in their marriage on every level and deal with the big secret. Tune in to today's episode of Couples Therapy on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast because we have some great things coming up! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey Today we begin the MOST POPULAR series of the podcast - COUPLES THERAPY!!! Over the next four weeks, I've invited couples to join me on the podcast for ON-AIR couples therapy sessions, where we pull back the curtain on marriage, and talk through the hard things in order to get to the other side! You will love this series, and you will be inspired by these courageous couples and their stories. The conversations are raw, real, and authentic...for a look into marriage you've never had before. Today's couple is Ben and Mary. Between the demands of his job, and the demands of family - this couple finds themselves feeling disconnected and looking for ways to connect again before it's too late. We talk about barriers to their emotional connection - and it get's DEEP. I can't wait for you to hear this incredible and inspiring episode!!! Tune in to today's episode of Couples Therapy on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast - because we have some great things coming up in 2023 including on-air COUPLES THERAPY which starts next week!! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey We are on the fifth of a five-week series about CHECKING IN and asking...Are You Really OK? Over the month of January, we're taking the time to check in on our emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical health - and learning how they all work together. Healing is holistic, and we can't fixate on one aspect of health all while neglecting the others. This podcast series "Checking In" will help you come up with a plan for how we're going to thrive and get healthy this coming year. If you haven't yet, grab yourself a copy of my book Are You Really OK? and read along with us as we go through these four important areas of health! And maybe you'll find out that you're not as healthy as you think you are - and it's time to do something about it. Today we're talking about physical health - oftentimes can go to extremes in either fixating so much on our bodies/and our relationship with food and exercise - or neglecting it all together. Today we're talking about a few different aspects of physical health and checking in to see how we're doing in this area, because the body-mind connection is so real and so powerful. Tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast - because we have some great things coming up in 2023 including on-air COUPLES THERAPY which starts next week!! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey I think it's so important that we take the time to do a check in and ask ourselves how we're REALLY doing. We are on the fourth of a five-week of CHECKING IN...Are You Really OK? Over the month of January, we're taking the time to check in on our emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical health - and learn how they all work together. Healing is holistic, and we can't fixate on one aspect of health all while neglecting the others. This podcast series "Checking In" will help you come up with a plan for how we're going to thrive and get healthy this coming year. If you haven't yet, grab yourself a copy of my book Are You Really OK? and read along with us as we go through these four important areas of health! And maybe you'll find out that you're not as healthy as you think you are - and it's time to do something about it. Today we're talking about the importance of checking in with our mental health and the different components that impact our mental health, including our life, events and stressors, past trauma, and physical chemistry. Just because you're a Christian, doesn't mean you are immune to the struggles of depression, anxiety, and mental health. In this episode, we will talk about mental health, and the best ways to treat mental health struggles. Tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast - because we have some great things coming up in 2023!! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? ,Married Sex and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey I think it's so important that we take the time to do a check in and ask ourselves how we're REALLY doing. We are on the third of a five-week of CHECKING IN...Are You Really OK? Over the month of January, we're taking the time to check in on our emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical health - and learn how they all work together. Healing is holistic, and we can't fixate on one aspect of health all while neglecting the others. This podcast series "Checking In" will help you come up with a plan for how we're going to thrive and get healthy this coming year. If you haven't yet, grab yourself a copy of my book Are You Really OK? and read along with us as we go through these four important areas of health! And maybe you'll find out that you're not as healthy as you think you are - and it's time to do something about it. Today we're talking about spiritual health - oftentimes we transfer the hurts of our past onto our beliefs and expectations about God. Tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast - because we have some great things coming up in 2023!! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey I think it's so important that we take the time to do a check in and ask ourselves how we're REALLY doing. We are on the second of a five-week of CHECKING IN...Are You Really OK? Over the month of January, we're taking the time to check in on our emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical health - and learn how they all work together. Healing is holistic, and we can't fixate on one aspect of health all while neglecting the others. This podcast series "Checking In" will help you come up with a plan for how we're going to thrive and get healthy this coming year. If you haven't yet, grab yourself a copy of my book Are You Really OK? and read along with us as we go through these four important areas of health! And maybe you'll find out that you're not as healthy as you think you are - and it's time to do something about it. Today we're talking about emotional health and getting to the root of some of the pressure that is going on underneath the surface that ends up, impacting our lives. In this episode, I talk about the volcano analogy of how there is all this pressure and stress building underneath the surface that has to find a way out! Tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast - because we have some great things coming up in 2023!! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey It's the beginning of a New Year! And at the start of every year, I think it's so important that we take the time to do a check in and ask ourselves how we're REALLY doing. Are You Really OK? Over the month of January, we're taking the time to check in on our emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical health - and learn how they all work together. Healing is holistic, and we can't fixate on one aspect of health all while neglecting the others. Join us on this five-week journey of CHECKING IN...and coming up with a plan for how we're going to thrive and get healthy this coming year. If you haven't yet, grab yourself a copy of my book Are You Really OK? and read along with us as we go through these four important areas of health! And maybe you'll find out that you're not as healthy as you think you are - and it's time to do something about it. Today we're talking about the Better Than Average Effect, a social experiment that shows us we often have a tendency to think that we're doing better than we actually are, and how to have a more accurate view of ourselves. Tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast - because we have some great things coming up in 2023!! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever found yourself in one-sided relationship where you are doing ALL the work? Where you are giving, and giving, and giving - and getting little to nothing in return? Why do you find yourself one-way relationships again, and again, and again? The simple answer is this: You attract the type of relationship you think you deserve. (Tweet it!) So how do you change that narrative? How do you start believing that you're worth more? How do you block out the lies that tell you you're not capable, able, deserving, or worthy? Why am I always in a one-sided relationship? On today's episode, I talk to a woman who is struggling with one way relationships in every aspect of her life: from dating, to friendship. She finds that she is in a pattern of putting in all the effort, but getting nothing back in return. I also talk through the three types of relationships you need to have in your life, because learning to recognize which type of relationship you are in will let you know whether or not it's time to WALK AWAY from a one sided relationship. Friends - this episode is SO JAM PACKED WITH AMAZING INFORMATION!!! Give this episode a quick listen, and then leave your 5-star rating and review on iTunes! It helps to get the word out and challenge others to move toward God's best for relationships...because you always attract the type of relationship you believe you deserve! (Tweet it) Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. Tune in to today's show to hear licensed counselor, Debra Fileta, as she answers her caller through this unscripted conversation in this podcast episode on the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Learn to let go of the labels in Section 1 of, True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life Read some more about How To Deal With One Way Relationships in this TLD Article! Let go of the labels and cling to God's truth about who you are in Christ. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

These 10 relationships killers may seem small, but they're deadly (if you ignore them). These things can slowly creep in and hurt our relationship. Big marriage problems don't start big. They start with the little things that we neglect and ignore, that culminate into bigger things. That's why it's important for us to start recognizing these relationship killers - little things that can cause big damage - long before they start to impact your marriage. Whether you're single, dating, or marriage - there is something for you to take away from this episode because many of these things either impact you today, or will impact you in the future. So tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast - because we have some great things coming up in 2023!! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're talking junk food relationships. Relationships that are easy to get, but end up hurting you more than helping you. Q: Why do I always end up in relationships that are convenient but not good for me? That's essentially the question from today's caller on the hotline. She finds herself in relationships with guys who live nearby, but aren't good for her. She's wanting to break the cycle of convenience and pursue something different. Just because a relationship is convenient, doesn't mean it's healthy. We talk about the concept of "junk food relationships" - and how some things are convenient and easy, but not necessarily healthy. We help get to the roots of some of the real reasons she's going to these type of relationships, and how to do something different. It's such a great conversation, and you might just be able to see a little of yourself in her story and situation. So tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast - because we have some great things coming up in 2023!! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have questions you've always wanted to ask the opposite sex? When it comes to dating in this generation, it's inevitable to find yourself wondering what the opposite sex is thinking! And you're not alone. It can be really hard to read/understand the opposite sex at times, especially with all of the underlying assumptions we bring to the table about the opposite sex. Today on the podcast, we give our singles a chance to ask the opposite sex questions they've always wondered, and never asked! Our singles are back in Part 3 of our SINGLES PANEL SERIES. We're getting into the minds of Christian singles from across the country, asking them all about the dating scene, the single life, and everything you wanted to know about the opposite sex but never wanted to ask over the next three episodes. Today we're opening up the lines of communication, and giving the singles a chance to ask each other questions on their mind about the opposite sex, how they think, their underlying motivations, and everything in between. It's a really fun conversation, addressing issues we may have otherwise not had the chance to address. I can't wait for you to hear this episode, and get to know our singles panel! So tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast - because we have some great things coming up in 2023!! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. GET TO KNOW OUR SINGLES PANEL Michael Szapkiw: Nashville, TN @michaelszapkiw (Instagram) @crownofstrength (Instagram) https://CrownOfStrength.com Michael Szapkiw says he's just a real guy who wants to love God, love people and fight for those who need it. Lover of outdoor adventures, world and domestic travel, trying all the foods, fitness, and good health, Michael is always ready to share a good laugh, encouragement, or the latest in digital marketing. Visit CrownOfStrength.com for his latest podcast and content to encourage you on your Christian journey. Andrew Kelley: Lancaster, PA Instagram: @andrewtkelley I am from Waynesville, NC, and I moved to Pennsylvania almost 10 years ago. I work as a music director in Lancaster, PA at a church Hove with a team I love! I'm passionate about seeing Jesus' church built, and strengthened, and I've loved that He's allowed me to be a part of that through this season of my life. Joshua Barucky: Cleveland, Ohio Instagram: @joshua8646 I'm like if a tree trunk came alive, developed an offbeat sense of humor, and started serving God. When I'm not serving or developing my start-up, you'll find me traveling, staying active, or chasing my cat around the house. Breauna Nichole: Dallas, TX @breaunanichole I'm excited...

Where on earth can you meet Christian singles these days? Today we talk about great places - and not so great places - to meet Christian singles. Our singles are back in Part 2 of our SINGLES PANEL SERIES. We're getting into the minds of Christian singles from across the country, asking them all about the dating scene, the single life, and everything you wanted to know about the opposite sex but never wanted to ask over the next three episodes. Today we're talking about practical places to meet Christian singles, what has worked, and what hasn't worked. Our singles share their experiences of meeting people in today's dating scene. I can't wait for you to hear this episode, and get to know our singles panel! So tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. GET TO KNOW OUR SINGLES PANEL Michael Szapkiw: Nashville, TN @michaelszapkiw (Instagram) @crownofstrength (Instagram) https://CrownOfStrength.com Michael Szapkiw says he's just a real guy who wants to love God, love people and fight for those who need it. Lover of outdoor adventures, world and domestic travel, trying all the foods, fitness, and good health, Michael is always ready to share a good laugh, encouragement, or the latest in digital marketing. Visit CrownOfStrength.com for his latest podcast and content to encourage you on your Christian journey. Andrew Kelley: Lancaster, PA Instagram: @andrewtkelley I am from Waynesville, NC, and I moved to Pennsylvania almost 10 years ago. I work as a music director in Lancaster, PA at a church Hove with a team I love! I'm passionate about seeing Jesus' church built, and strengthened, and I've loved that He's allowed me to be a part of that through this season of my life. Joshua Barucky: Cleveland, Ohio Instagram: @joshua8646 I'm like if a tree trunk came alive, developed an offbeat sense of humor, and started serving God. When I'm not serving or developing my start-up, you'll find me traveling, staying active, or chasing my cat around the house. Breauna Nichole: Dallas, TX @breaunanichole I'm excited about what's to come! I'm putting in the work now to ripple into my family and rewrite what it looks like to be whole spiritually, emotionally and generously serve and give and reach others. Sandra Romero: Bradenton, Florida Instagram @color.bliss.designs Sandra is enjoying one of the best stages of her life as a single mother. For Sandra, the trauma of an unwanted divorce in the hands of Jesus, has resulted in true surrender to God, healing of past wounds, restored hope, self awareness and new dreams for the future. She believes in actively partnering with God in the pursuit of...

What is your dating mentality? Because what you think effects how you date. Because your mentality is so important when it comes to dating. It's really mind over matter. Your thought life impacts your dating life. And sometimes, the thoughts are much more subtle than you realize. I'm so excited to talk more about your dating mentality...and even more excited to have a panel of SINGLES (scroll down to meet them!) joining me for the next few episodes of the podcast in our SINGLES PANEL SERIES. We're getting into the minds of Christian singles from across the country, asking them all about the dating scene, the single life, and everything you wanted to know about the opposite sex but never wanted to ask over the next three episodes. Today we're talking about how your MENTALITY impacts how and who you date. It's a mindset that you bring in with you to dating, and the health of your mindset determines the health of your dating life. I can't wait for you to hear this episode, and get to know our singles panel! So tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. GET TO KNOW OUR SINGLES PANEL Michael Szapkiw: Nashville, TN @michaelszapkiw (Instagram) @crownofstrength (Instagram) https://CrownOfStrength.com Michael Szapkiw says he's just a real guy who wants to love God, love people and fight for those who need it. Lover of outdoor adventures, world and domestic travel, trying all the foods, fitness, and good health, Michael is always ready to share a good laugh, encouragement, or the latest in digital marketing. Visit CrownOfStrength.com for his latest podcast and content to encourage you on your Christian journey. Andrew Kelley: Lancaster, PA Instagram: @andrewtkelley I am from Waynesville, NC, and I moved to Pennsylvania almost 10 years ago. I work as a music director in Lancaster, PA at a church Hove with a team I love! I'm passionate about seeing Jesus' church built, and strengthened, and I've loved that He's allowed me to be a part of that through this season of my life. Joshua Barucky: Cleveland, Ohio Instagram: @joshua8646 I'm like if a tree trunk came alive, developed an offbeat sense of humor, and started serving God. When I'm not serving or developing my start-up, you'll find me traveling, staying active, or chasing my cat around the house. Breauna Nichole: Dallas, TX @breaunanichole I'm excited about what's to come! I'm putting in the work now to ripple into my family and rewrite what it looks like to be whole spiritually, emotionally and generously serve and give and reach others. Sandra Romero: Bradenton, Florida Instagram @color.bliss.designs Sandra is enjoying one of the...

Q: I have been caught in a cycle of using porn on again off again for most of my life. I'm truly wanting to break free of this struggle. What advice to you have for me, to help me break free? We're taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We're doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I'm getting to know them! Today's question comes from Mike from Colorado, who wants to break free from his struggle with pornography. Porn is everywhere, and the roots of why some people struggle with porn more than others run deep. Because porn use and sexual struggles are a reflection of something deeper - our need for connection. Our sexual struggles are often a reflection of a deeper need to connect in healthy ways. A deeper need to connect with God, self, and others. Today, I tag-team this question with Tony Hasaballa (BOOK A SESSION WITH Tony). Tony is a pre-licensed counselor on our team, who is passionate about helping men and women heal from the struggle with both porn and/or sexual addictions. Tony talks about how sexual addictions are really an intimacy disorder, and we talk about what it means to get to the deeper issues that fuel our unhealthy and harmful behaviors. It's such an important episode. So tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: I have a history of trauma from my past, but I never realized how much I do today stems from what I've been through in the past until I started reading Are You Really OK? What are some sings that I have unprocessed trauma from the past I need to deal with? We're taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We're doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I'm getting to know them! Today's question comes from Ann from Pennsylvania, who wants to know the signs and symptoms that she may have unprocessed trauma in her past that she needs to deal with. In other words, what are some signs you need to DEAL WITH YOUR TRAUMA. It's amazing how many people believe that their "personality" or struggles or the way they do things is just who they are - rather than seeing the impacts from the experiences of their past. What you do in your PRESENT is often a result of what you experienced in your PAST. Today, I tag-team this question with Sandy Wilda (BOOK A SESSION WITH Sandy). Sandy is a trauma specialist, and today she and I talk through the the impacts of trauma, how it can effect your life in the present, some signs that you have unprocessed trauma, as well as how to actually heal from your past. Sandy is an incredible counselor, and I'm so looking forward to you getting to know her today as we talk about signs you need to deal with your trauma. So tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: What are some of the biggest mistakes couples make in conflict? We're taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We're doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I'm getting to know them! Today's question comes from a woman who wants to know the mistakes we make when it comes to conflict. Conflict in a relationship is inevitable - so how do you deal with it in a healthy way? What are some signs you're not handling it well? What are some steps to take in the right direction instead? You learn how to manage conflict by default - meaning, you do what you've seen done in the past, usually from your family of origin. But sometimes the way it's been modeled isn't the healthy way. Today, I tag-team this question with Brad Aldrich (BOOK A SESSION WITH Brad). Brad and I talk through a few mistakes we see people make in conflict, and then offer you practical advice on what to do instead!! Even if you're not in a romantic or marriage relationship, this is information you need to know because conflict comes up in all our relationships. And you have to know how to handle it and recognize the mistakes couples make in conflict. So tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: How do I let go of "what if's" from my past relationships so I can move forward into future ones? We're taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We're doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I'm getting to know them! Today's question comes from a woman who wants to know how to let go of the ruminating about the past - the what ifs. What if it would have been different? What if I said something, did something, tried something different? What if things would have worked out? The list of what ifs is never ending. So how do we deal with them? How can we be set free to move forward? Today, I tag-team this question with Anna Pavlov (BOOK A SESSION WITH Anna). Anna and I get to the root of some of the unhealthy underlying thinking that comes with what ifs, teach you how to recognize it, and then what to do about it as well as what to think INSTEAD. So tune in on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: We're thinking about getting married and want to make sure our relationship is as healthy as it can be. How do we identify relationship blind spots that we might have? We're taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We're doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I'm getting to know them! Today's question comes from Lindsey, who's wondering how to recognize relationship blind spots as they're looking toward getting married. Today, I tag-team this question with Dr. Christina Salama (BOOK A SESSION WITH Dr. Christina), one of the amazing counselors on my team! Dr. Christina is passionate about marriage, and helping people assess the blind spots and problem spots that will inevitably come up in relationships. Together we talk about some important topics that often get missed, and some practical ways you can identify and work through relationship blind spots. This episode is so important for those who are dating and married. So tune in on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: Right now our marriage feels hopeless. What encouragement would you give to a couple in Crisis? - Andy from Florida We're taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We're doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I'm getting to know them! Today's question comes from Andy, who's wondering what hope and encouragement we would give for a couple in crisis. Today, I tag-team this question with Larinda Horton (BOOK A SESSION WITH LARINDA), one of the amazing counselors on my team! Larinda is a wife and mother of four, and is very passionate about helping couples get their marriage to a healthy place. Together we talk about our approach to helping couples heal, recognizing a couple in crisis, and helping them by dealing with both the things in the present as well as the wounds from the past. We give some practical steps of what it looks like to get yourself and then your marriage to a healthy place, and I end the podcast with 12 signs your marriage needs attention!! This episode is so important for couples in all seasons! So tune in on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: How do I get over rejection and lacking the confidence to try again? - Joey from Texas We're taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We're doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I'm getting to know them! Today's question comes from Joey, who wants to know how to get over rejection especially when it stings. It's hard to face rejection whether it be in dating or even in friendship. It can cause you to question and doubt what you believe about yourself and impact your motivation to move forward. Today, I tag-team this question with Bri Franklin (BOOK A SESSION WITH BRI), one of the amazing counselors on my team! Together we talk about how rejection hurts, but the important ways we need to approach it in order to be able to move forward with confidence rather than allow it to mess with our heads. You can get over rejection in a healthy way!! We'll show you how. This episode is so good! So tune in on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're spending the last few reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #1. This episode was the most popular episode of the year and it comes from a four-part series we did about getting healthy from the inside out called the Are You Really OK? Book Series! where I tackled the four areas of health including emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical. In today's episode we're talking about the three parts to emotional health, and why sometimes your New Year's Resolutions end up falling flat by the end of January. Because so much of why we do what we do stems deeper than our behaviors - and goes down to the roots of our emotional and mental health. This series is going to be so important, and we want everyone to tune in!! If you haven't yet grabbed your copy of Are You Really OK? Book and started reading through it, there's no better time to start than now!!! It will help guide you through Emotional Health, as well as all the other areas. Don't wait another day to start getting healthy from the inside out. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emotional health. What is it, and how do you know if you're emotionally healthy? We're spending the next few weeks reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #2. This episode was the most popular episode from the COUPLES THERAPY series we did in February, on-air counseling with couples from across the country. Today's couple, Justin and Tracy, have been married for 11 years and have two children. They find themselves stuck in an unhealthy pattern - she feels like he's always pulling away, he feels like she's always putting him down. It got so bad, at one point she was considering divorce. In this powerful conversation, we're going to unpack the dynamic they're struggling with in their marriage, get to the roots of why, and find solutions to help them move forward. But more than that, we're going to help them find hope! I hope this session inspires and encourages you to do the work in your own life and relationship. Let me know!! Leave a review on your podcast app, and let us know how you're enjoying this podcast and this series. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: My wife and I are newlyweds, and right now sex is a little bit of a struggle and seems forced. Any advice or suggestions? We're spending the next few weeks reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #3. Friends - we're talking about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today's question comes from a newlywed couple looking for advice and sex tips to overcome some of the struggles of being a new-to-sex. But the advice we give them today doesn't just apply to newlywed sex! If sex has been a little bit of a struggle lately, then this episode is for you. We talk about the #1 tip to making sex better for both parties, some obstacles that come up as newlyweds and beyond, as well as some other sex tips and tricks along the way!!! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: How do you know if someone is as interested in you as you are in them? Or what if you're in a relationship and you're just not feeling it? We're spending the next few weeks reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #4: "You should never have to convince someone that you're worth loving." That's exactly what I told the caller, Scott, on today's episode of the show. After getting burned by a lady he's been getting to know, he finds himself wondering how on earth is a person supposed to read the opposite sex and find out whether or not someone is interested? Are there signs to be on the lookout for? Why, yes...yes there are. 10 different signs to be exact. But here's the key: you have to be willing to recognize them, and then accept them. And I'm going to talk through all this and more in today's interesting show!! If you've ever been in a relationship where you wondered whether or not they felt the same way about you as you felt about them (whether dating or even in marriage) - then this episode is for you. Give this short episode (25 minutes) a quick listen, and then leave your 5-star rating and review on iTunes! It helps to get the word out and challenge others to move toward God's best for relationships...because you should never have to convince someone that you're worth investing in (tweet it). Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: How do you know if you're compatible with someone? We're spending the next few weeks reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #5. Compatibility is key to a healthy relationship. Just because you're a Christian, and just because someone else is a Christian - doesn't mean you're going to be a good match when it comes to being in a relationship. Compatibility is a huge piece to the puzzle of relationships, and it's one that often get's ignored or overshadowed in the conversation of what makes a healthy relationships. When it comes to understanding compatibility in a relationship, there are certain things that have to "fit together" well, just like putting a puzzle together. This isn't about finding an exact replica of yourself, it's about finding someone who is going to be a good match for your life. In order to find a good match, you've got to know your shape, and your colors. Compatibility Looks Like... There are certain big picture topics where it's important to make sure you have compatibility when you're in a relationship. Today on the podcast, we're talking through those topics! You can also dig deeper into accountability in my book, Love In Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: With all the pressure our culture puts on body image, being "Instagram ready" and picture perfect at all times, how can we resist the urge to fixate too much on our physical appearance and stay body positive in a world that's constantly critiquing our appearance? This is a conversation WE NEED TO HAVE. Today on the podcast we're talking about body image! Our listener question said it best - how can we resist the urge to fixate and remain body positive in world that's dragging us the other way? Whether you're a male or female, this is a topic that impacts you because appearance is constantly made to be the forefront in our culture. Today I'm joined by Jess Connolly, who wants to help men and women find freedom and stay body positive with no filters!!! It's such an important and inspiring conversation - and most of all, it's a necessary one because body image is such a foundational topic. So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! ***If you need help with body image issues, or struggling to have a healthy relationship with food - connect with a counselor from our Counselors Network and book a session with one of them to get started on your journey of healing!!** __________ FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Q: How can we take better care of our physical health and in what ways does that impact our mental and emotional health? Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health - with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we're talking about physical health!! It's a topic that's overemphasized in culture, but underemphasized in the church. But caring for your physical health overflows into other parts of your life including your mental and emotional world! My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Katie Anne Church! Katie is a Figure World Champion and a coach, and she's been on both sides of the physical health spectrum - from a season of obsessing over her body, to now being in a healthy place of honoring God with her body. Today we talk through the top ways to keep your body healthy and strong, and it's a conversation that inspired and challenged me personally. So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ Ready to do the work of getting healthy from the inside out? Start reading Are You Really OK? Today! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices