Support is Sexy

Leslie Bradshaw is the proud descendant of six generations of Oregon trail pioneers and a family of farmers, so she knows intuitively how to make her own way. She also knows when to move on to new territory, and when it's time to let the land lie fallow until the nutrients return to the soil. For Leslie, a now Managing Partner of Made by Many -- a digital product and ventures company, that moment came after six grueling years of building a startup as co-founder with her then-boyfriend, working 100 hours a week, having her health deteriorate and enduring a toxic relationship. The burnout and fatigue led Leslie to Miami, where she made the brave decision to step away from it all, replenish and then re-entered the job market. On the episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, Leslie speaks candidly about that tumultuous time in her life and career, and about getting over her addiction to work, knowing when to step back to move forward, creating your "job/career universe" and why strong is the new sexy. On this episode you'll learn: Importance of curiosity and finding your tribe.The benefits approaching business like a team sport (especially softball).The value of the UNconference.Why you shouldn't go straight from college to running your own biz.How a step back different than a set back.How to recognize a toxic business relationship.The dangers of the "personal brand."The importance of doing the doing.How to create your ideal "job/career universe."Why strong is the new sexy.Why, as a doer, you MUST get your voice out there.And a super cool way to pay it forward. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://supportissexypodcast.com [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you willing to give up what you have to have what you don't? In order to create space for the things we want in our lives -- new experiences, new opportunities, new people, new beginnings -- this is something we have to consider. It's what I considered, among many other things, when I finally decided to make the move from New York to Atlanta, even though I was -- am still am -- nervous about doing so and unsure of what to expect. The things is, I have decided to go into it with no expectations, to remain focused on WHY I am making this move and to be willing to give up what I have in New York to create the life I envision. In this episode I talk about the how to give up what you have and make space for what's next, and why it's something you should consider as well. Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://supportissexypodcast.com [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"I am a radical believer in reinvention," says life coach and Self-Help Socialite founder Rachel Tenebaum, who believes one of the most important things we can do in our lives is "live our truths." For Rachel, seeking support by way of finding coaches of her own and shifting her network helped her discover her own truth: that she is both an extrovert and an introvert who loves to curate her life around travel and extraordinary experiences while empowering women through her mastermind group, Extraordinary Life 360. In this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, Rachel talks about the importance of being a "serial grower," the power of masterminds and the way to know if you're on the right path. On this episode, you'll learn: How to shift your view of failure to refinement.How to give yourself permission to research your own interests and ways of being in order to determine what you really want.How to handle the pressure of job security.The power of shifting your network. How to get over the fear of being seen.The importance of "space."3 tips for determining whether you're on the right path. Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at supportissexypodcast.com. [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's a slippery slope: Many of us, especially as entrepreneurs, get caught up in the fast lane -- appearing "busy" -- because we think it shows the world that we're up to something. Being busy must mean that we're gettin' busy when it comes to business, right? Not necessarily. In the past week, I was reminded of this while listening to author and Good Life Project founder Jonathan Fields, who was a guest on several of my favorite podcasts recently, discussing his book, How to Live a Good Life, and this idea that being busy and being seen has become a priority for many of us, and, as a result, a distraction. In this episode I open up about moments I've gotten caught up in the fast lane, rushing and being busy and how it has cost me -- figuratively and literally. I also offer tips on ways that you can be conscious of what lane your traveling in, and how to make the switch. Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://supportissexypodcast.com [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What's the real reason that you're afraid to do that thing? Be honest with yourself when you ask the question. Be honest with yourself when you say the answer. I had to confront this question recently and share that experience -- and the answer -- in this episode. When we get to the bottom of the WHY of our fears, it creates space for us to confront it, and often, to realize just how silly (and small!) it is. Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://supportissexypodcast.com [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kathryn Finney, founder of Digital Undivided, is someone I consider an O.G. -- the flyest O.G. -- in the technology space. Kathryn, who grew up in the midwest learning about computers from very early on, started one of the first big fashion and lifestyle blogs, The Budget Fashionista, back when Google was "a baby," as you'll hear in the episode. She later sold the blog and the brand, and has since moved on to really be an advocate for other women in the technology space. Today, as head of Digital Undivided, Kathryn provides programs and resources -- such as her BIG accelerator program in Atlanta -- to empower women in technology and give them access to the vital tools, knowledge and support they need to build successful, sustainable companies. On this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, Kathryn talks about how to level the playing field when it comes to the number of Black and Latina women who receive investment, the kind of support network -- and romantic relationships -- entrepreneurs should consider, and how to build a badass brand that people may want to buy. On this episode, you'll learn... What entrepreneurs looking for love should consider.How becoming a parent empowers you to say no and mean it.The shift to the 1099 economy.Her advice for consultants looking to work with big corporations.How she built and sold her blog, The Budget Fashionista.The drawbacks of aligning your brand with yourself.3 ways to decouple yourself from your brand so that it can stand alone.4 reasons that people buy into a tech brand.How to change the disparity in how few Black and Latina women tech founders get investment.Why you should only take investment to get growth not to get started.Other ways your family and friends can invest in you that you may never have considered.And the POWER of asking for support.Why support networks -- especially with people who aren't afraid to tell you about yourself -- are key to your success. Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://supportissexypodcast.com [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The moment Christy Haussler realized it was time to make the leap and become an entrepreneur, she was in her car, driving to work, listening to podcasts to pass the time. Christy spent hours commuting back and forth to an office for a job that didn't fulfill her, and decided it was finally time for her to make a move and give her own business a try. The first thing she did? Take the first step, and then another and then another. Today, Christy's company -- Team Podcast -- provides production and strategy for more than 40 shows and produces about 200+ episodes a month. Her business is steadily growing, she lives in a city she's happy to call home and she spends her time doing work she loves. On this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, Christy talks about the importance of taking that first step toward your dream, having the right mindset, building and engaging your audience in multiple ways and making the most of your podcast -- beyond money. On this episode you'll learn... How to recognize that you're on the right trackKnowing that you are one decision away from a completely different lifeWhy you have to be brave enough to walk awayYour network is your key to successHow podcasts offer new opportunities no matter your industryWhat you need to know about podcastingThe importance of marketing to increase your list and your engagementDon't get caught up in downloads3 common podcasting mistakes many women makeWhy podcasting isn't just for monetizingHow to engage your audience and make them feel invested in your productShow notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://supportissexypodcast.com [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Maya S. Penn is remarkable -- and that is an understatement. I have been a virtual fan and supporter of the now-sixteen-year-old for several years via social media, with a true appreciation of her hard work and her clear vision at such a young age. To have the opportunity to speak with her more in depth now? I am completely blown away, and I believe you will be, too! The Atlanta-based teenpreneur started her own business, Maya's Ideas, when she was just eight years old. By the time she was 13, the business was generating six figures. And today, she is a designer, social entrepreneur, activist, author and environmentalist. Among her many accomplishments, Maya has given three TED Talks (so far) and is author of three books, including her latest, You Got This: Unleash Your Awesomeness, Find Your Path and Change Your World (Simon & Schuster). Here, Maya shares her vision for the future of her business, how she's working to impact the lives of girls around the world, and her advice for becoming, being and growing as an entrepreneur -- no matter your age. On this episode you'll learn: What parents can say and do to encourage children who have interests in entrepreneurship (straight from the mouth of a teenager who began her business at age eight!).The first step to launching your business (at any age).Her advice for kidpreneurs.Ways that we can all give back through out businesses.What she's doing to empower young girls around the world.The value of idea journals.Why it's imperative to have mentors and an advisory board as you scale your business.No matter how old you are, it's important for you to take a break.Why meditation and breathing space are vital to decision-making.What can be learned from failure.The importance of doing it afraid.What Maya believes every entrepreneur has a responsibility to do. MAYA IS OFFERING A SPECIAL GIFT TO SUPPORT IS SEXY LISTENERS FOR 20% OFF OF ALL ORDERS $50 OR MORE ON MAYASIDESA.COM! USE THE DISCOUNT CODE: SUPPORTISSEXY [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When all goes wrong -- where does your mind go? Does the issue stop you in your tracks, or do you figure a way to keep it movin'? If not, you should! In the past couple of days, I had the pleasure of having my web site elaynefluker.com going down (ACK!!!) and my mind's initial response was to spiral into all the reasons this was a disaster. Was it a bad 48 hours? Yes. Was it the end of the world? No. Was it something that was going to stop me completely? Hell no! You gotta keep it going. On this episode I talk about eight ways to keep it moving when problems arise in your business, or in your personal life. Have a listen, let me know when you think, and let me know if you have other advice! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://supportissexypodcast.com [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Some designers do not know how to sew, sketch or tell you the way a fabric will function on the body. Fashion designer Ashaka Givens is not one of those designers. Thanks to the powerful women in her family, the upstate New York native learned very early on how to use a sewing machine and make her own clothes, watched fashion shows at her mom's side, and eventually attended one of the most prestigious fashion institutions in the country – New York's Fashion Institute of Technology. And since then, she has been designing a career in fashion that is completely her own. Today, Ashaka works with Grammy award-winning artists, such as Erykah Badu, creates custom gowns for brides, dresses celebrities for red carpet events, serves as costume director for film and TV projects and designs her own line of clothing and accessories. On this episode, she talks about advice for remaining relevant in the fashion industry, the importance of expansion and why being a fashion alchemist sets you apart. On this episode, you'll learn: Why knowing the basics of design help you be a far better asset to your client.How you take this glam idea down into an actual physical garment.The importance of being open to opportunities that feels right.Knowing the art of professionalism.Why you can't get caught up in the social media hypeThe dangers of being mediocre.Mistakes are good.Her advice for young designers.Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://supportissexypodcast.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hey, you! Whaddya want? No, really. What do you want? Seriously. Have you given that some real thought lately? Beyond your to-do list, what's your vision for what you want, the life you want to create, what you want to spend your time doing each and every day, and with whom you want to do it? These questions are floating around in my head more frequently these days -- perhaps because it's a new season, or we're closing in on the end of the year, or perhaps because I have another birthday rolling around early next year. Blame it on the 40s. :) Recently, while recording my free audio training on "How to Make Brave Decisions," I spoke about getting clear on what we want, daring to verbalize that dream that we barely believe is possible. In this episode, I go into more detail. Have a listen! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://supportissexypodcast.com [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

From very early on in her childhood, Abiola Abrams learned the importance of finding her own voice, being herself and creating her own path. As the daughter of immigrant parents who came to the United States from Guyana, Abiola and her family were often bullied and mistreated by some of the other families in their New York neighborhood for being "different." Rather than being crushed by this cruelty, Abiola says this part of her journey taught her how to be resilient. And that resilience -- and her spirituality -- continues to carry her forward today. Now, as a proud "multi-hyphenate," Abiola is an author, coach, speaker, media maven and creator of the Sacred Bombshell brand, and she teaches other women how to find their authentic voice and create a business that allows them to follow their own path as spiritpreneurs. In this episode, Abiola shares her journey to accepting herself as a spiritpreneur (and what that means), reveals a few defining -- and sometimes embarrassing -- moments from her career and business, and gives insight on why healers sometimes stumble when it comes to compensation. On this episode you'll learn: What a spiritpreneur is, and why you should be compensated appropriately for being one.How to get clear about what you offer, whom you serve and how you add value to people's lives.The importance of listening to your audience and asking them what they need.Why an audience that is not targeted is an irrelevant audience.How to sell people what they want and give them what they need.Why owning your own list is crucial to your business.How to avoid being a "wounded healer."How to get over people pleasing at a micro and macro level.Ways to start over again after a public failure.How to avoid the sunk-cost fallacy.The business mistake she made that she has never shared before.Why you work become richer because of the challenges.Why you can't bitch about it you have to be about it.Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://supportissexypodcast.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This weekend, or whatever day it is that you happen upon this episode, be sure you have some YOU time in your schedule. YOU time is your time to replenish, to have some breathing space, to meditate, to hear your own thoughts -- or to not think at all, time to just be. As entrepreneurs and women who are creating something super sexy in the world, I get it, you're busy. You have a lot to do -- probably too much to do -- and you simply can't stop now! But, here's the thing: you MUST. Otherwise, you will crash, you will burn, and everything that you say your sacrificing your YOU time for will not matter in that moment. Instead, take care of YOU! You will be a better entrepreneur, a better leader, a better woman for it. On this episode, I've rounded up the parting wisdom of some of our previous guests from our first 70 episodes -- women who not only offer keys to success, but keys to your well being. Pause for a moment, just under 10 minutes, and have a listen. You deserve this. It's all for YOU. Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://supportissexypodcast.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

fayemi shakur is a rebel, a quiet rebel, but a rebel nonetheless. Artistic as a child from the very beginning, hip hop, photography, art and an interest in social justice shaped her life early on, but it was learning about -- and reaching out to -- political prisoners while in college and reading the autobiographies of Assata Shakur and Mumia Abu-Jamal that changed everything and shifted her awareness. Since then, fayemi, who was just appointed Executive Director of Newark's City Without Walls Art space, has infused all of her love of the arts and her passion for social justice into her work in her Newark, New Jersey community, making sure that there is a space for art to exist and to be expressed in a way that moves conversations forward, and potentially changes lives as it did for her. On this episode, fayemi talks about the importance of doing the work, staying focused on community (rather than social media) and why radical self care is its own form of activism. On this episode you'll learn… Why doing the work and staying focused is key.Taking stock of how your work is having an impact (or not) on your community.The empowering effect of art on communities.The power of beginning your day with affirmations.The importance of self care.Building yourself up along your journey so you can be prepared for that next opportunity.How art can be your "art cry."What it takes to be an artist and make it to a gallery.Why artists deserve to be respected as professionals.The importance of women supporting women.Why even as a boss, the world needs to witness your vulnerability.And why Solange is an example of a the perfect artist for this moment.The three most important feelings you must have when speaking things into existence. Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://supportissexypodcast.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When Monique Alvarez was in college pursuing a degree in communications, she knew one thing: It wasn't for her. The Syracuse, New York, native dreamt of moving to New York City and getting a career in fashion, which she did -- leaving college in her third year, and working from the bottom up in the fashion industry. Thirteen years later, rising through the ranks at luxury brands such as Valentino and Alexander McQueen and traveling to Europe for fashion shows, Monique knew something else: It was time for a new chapter. That new chapter is her new luxury consignment and vintage boutique, Lifestyle Statement, located in Brooklyn, New York -- a chapter she hadn't planned, but that she could feel was the right one. On this episode, Monique talks about paying attention when things align on your path, how to create a meaningful experience for your customers and why confidence is everything. On this episode you'll learn… The importance of tapping into your personal and professional network for support with your new business.How to make sure your customers have a beautiful experience.Paying attention when things begin to align.The importance of going with the flow and planning.How to find your clients.What truly makes a piece vintage.How consignment works.The importance of participating in events with likeminded businesses.Why confidence is everything.Monique's one key of advice for those considering a pop up shop or boutique. Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://supportissexypodcast.com [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"For now is not forever..." This is a new mantra I've adopted thanks to the wisdom of one of my best friends, Erica, who said this phrase to me when I spoke to her about my trepidation about a move I'm planning to make. I've been having some ambiguity about the decision and going back and forth about whether it's the "right" thing to do. But the truth is: Who knows?!!! The only thing we can do is make the best. Next. Move. The decision that, based on what information we have available to consider at the moment, feels right. In this episode, I explore moments and circumstances where we can call on the "for now is not forever" mantra, and when it can be pretty powerful to use it as your go-to for big decisions. Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://supportissexypodcast.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Julie Chan did everything she was supposed to do. She grew up on New York's Lower East side with hardworking parents who were immigrants from China and very focused on education for their children, so Julie studied hard and went to Yale University and graduated with a B.A., and then went on to MIT a graduated with a Master's degree in City Planning. She got a great job working with the city of New York. But still, "something was missing," and she had a sense that whatever that was, she'd have to create it for herself. And that meant finding her true purpose. A self-described introvert, Julie went through her own transformation -- and tons of resistance -- of becoming more in touch with her gifts, her calling to speak (and sing!) in front of audiences, and eventually the creation of her business, Build My Purpose, where she helps her clients find their purpose and tap into their own intuitive senses. On this episode, Julie talks about the spiritual experience that pushed her to ask all the deep questions and why being clear on our purpose helps us move forward with important clarity on decisions in our businesses and our lives. And hey, you may feel this is a little too woo woo for you and you might be skeptical -- I understand -- that is until Julie gave me a personal reading of my own, which I included in this episode. Let's just say I'm a believer. Check it out! On this episode you'll learn... How to tap into your power as an introvert.The importance of realizing and acting upon your purpose.Giving yourself permission to pursue your purpose.Realizing only fear and resistance is holding you back.Defining what you want to share in the world.Aligning your purpose with your vision for your business and your life.Getting over your ego mind and self chatter.Why tapping into your purpose helps you make important decisions about future projects.Why your expression of your purpose evolves.5 Ways your purpose affects your life.Thank you for listening! If you love it, please leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources from this episode may be found at http://supportissexypodcast.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We all love a little something sexy... I don't care who you are. Something sexy is that thing that turns you on, that lights you up. And at the end of each Support is Sexy podcast episode, when I say "go out there and create something sexy," I mean it! A sexy life, a sexy relationship, a sexy business, a sexy contribution, sexy results -- you deserve it all and then some! But how? How do we create something sexy? I don't pretend to know all the answers -- not by a long shot. But I do know that I'm determined to have a sexy life and business, daring to dream it's possible and doing the work to see it become a reality by co-creating what I envision with the Universe. Sound too woo woo for you? Ok, then have a listen to six things I've learned so far about what it takes to create something sexy. Then go out there and get some! :) Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to resources, events and a community of ambitious, generous and brilliant women entrepreneurs. FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | JOIN OUR MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you're like me, you have areas of your life where, yes, you've gone big, and yes, you've accomplished some, and sure, you're proud of that. But you also have areas where, if you're really honest with yourself, you know you can go BIGGER. What's holding you back from going bigger? Is it that you're afraid of failure? Or could it be you're afraid of success? Are you avoiding the warmth of a spotlight that, deep in your heart, you know you're meant to step into? Could be. And in this episode we explore these questions and more. On the episode you'll learn: Why you should go BIGGER.What "going bigger" really means.Reasons you might be avoiding the spotlight and how to get over that and into your purpose.Why being impressive may be just the thing that's holding back.How to go from ambition to meaning, and from success to significance. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to resources, events and a community of ambitious, generous and brilliant women entrepreneurs. Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://supportissexypodcast.com FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"Never let them see you cry..." was some of the worst advice that conscious business coach Julie Zuzek says she has ever received during her 20-year corporate career. Instead of being the "tough guy" in her corporate gig, Julie realized that what she needed to do was get in touch with her divine feminine energy -- which has nothing to do with being female and everything to do with being grounded in compassion, community and empathy. This evolution and personal development is the kind of insight that Julie offers to her clients through her business, The Corporate Yogi, where she supports them from both the strategic and spiritual side. On this episode, Julie talks to us about building a conscious business, how to navigate the conflict between your head and your heart, how to find your dharma, and why entrepreneurship is the most intense personal development you will ever experience. On this episode you'll learn… How to build a conscious business.What role personal development plays in your entrepreneurial journey.3 ways the ego tries to sabotage you.Why you have to let go of the how.Why you shouldn't keep your dreams a secret.Why having a coach to "lean into" is vital to getting out of your comfort zone.3 tips for shifting your mindset.The importance of standing in your power, especially as a woman.How to get to the root of why you're procrastinating. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://supportissexypodcast.com CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to resources, events and a community of ambitious, generous and brilliant women entrepreneurs. FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For Kelly Roach, CEO of Kelly Roach Coaching, the word "no" is not the ending, it is just the beginning. Since she was a little girl growing up with her big family in Pennsylvania, Kelly says she heard "no" a lot due to limited resources and knew that if she wanted to make something possible, she'd have to work hard and figure out how to make adjustments to achieve her goals. This tenacity and perseverance continued to be a part of Kelly's life in college (where she worked three jobs), through her successful career in sales (where she was a top earner) and eventually when she decided to make the leap and become an unstoppable entrepreneur. On this episode, Kelly, who is now an international bestselling author, talks about how you can achieve rapid growth and become an unstoppable entrepreneur, why you shouldn't compare your chapter one to someone else's chapter 20 and why you're entitled to nothing but you can have absolutely anything. On this episode you'll learn... Why time is our most valuable resourceful.The signs that it's time to move on from your full-time.What blocks you from a growth mindset.How your money mindset holds you back in your business.3 tips on how to up level your mindset.Why gratitude is an important daily practice.How imperfection creates trust.How to become an unstoppable entrepreneur. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://supportissexypodcast.com CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to resources, events and a community of ambitious, generous and brilliant women entrepreneurs. FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Filmmaker Nefertite Nguvu first fell in love with film when her mother took her to see Gordon Parks's classic film, The Learning Tree, at a local film festival when she was a child. Since then, the Newark, New Jersey, native has known that utilizing the powerful medium of film to reflect the images and experiences of people of color was something she was destined to do. Despite a few detours, she is now passionately pursuing that dream. Today, Nefertite is now the director of the 2013 award-winning independent film In the Morning, and of the new mini documentary from artist and Academy Award winner Common called Love Star. In the episode, Nefertite talks about her commitment to illustrating the stories of women and their experiences in and out of love, the power of art as a tool of cultural change and how, as an independent filmmaker, the most important thing you can do is figure out a way to get out your dreams -- by any means necessary. On this episode you'll learn… What it takes to be an independent filmmaker.The process for making an independent film.How to get back on track after a career detour.The importance of doing the work.How art can be used as a tool of social change.One thing Nefertite says all new or aspiring filmmakers need to do. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://supportissexypodcast.com CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to resources, events and a community of ambitious, generous and brilliant women entrepreneurs. FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When it comes to decisions in your business, in your career, in your life, in your relationships, are you making it about an either/or choice? Have you even considered the possibility of a both/and experience? If not, why not?! This is something I have asked myself recently when reflecting on some recent decisions related to my business and my career in media, which I share here in this episode. No beat up -- just being conscious of what type of decisions I make and why I make them. In this episode, I talk about the benefits of you making a both/and decision, how it opens up opportunities, how it could grow your business and how it may open up space for important relationships in your life outside of your business. On this episode you'll learn… What is both/and decision making.The benefits of both/and in your business.Why fear sometimes causes us to make either/or decisions.How either/or decisions relate to limiting beliefs.Recognizing if your decisions are a reflection of your fears.How to operate from a space of abundance.How considering the both/and can open up space for important relationships outside of your business. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to resources, events and a community of ambitious, generous and brilliant women entrepreneurs. FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | JOIN OUR MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Yaba Blay takes this work seriously. Very seriously. And she creates content that celebrates the beauty and joy and being of Black women and girls decidedly. Purposely. Dr. Blay -- who holds her BA in Psychology (Cum Laude) from Salisbury State University, M.Ed. in Counseling Psychology from the University of New Orleans, M.A. and Ph.D. in African American Studies from Temple University and is currently the Dan Blue Endowed Chair in Political Science at North Carolina Central University -- is the creator behind the beloved new video series Professional Black Girl, airing on YouTube. She is also creator of the social media movement #PrettyPeriod and author of the book (1)ne Drop: Shifting the Lens on Race. Her work, as both an academic and as a creative, has always been driven by her love of Black women -- their experiences, their forms of expression and who they be -- and it was informed in large part by her own formative years of soaking up the images of powerful women on Black television shows. On this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, Dr. Blay talks about her passion for inspiring people to think not only in the classroom, but through content, why she considers her self the anti-academic academic, and why radical self care -- and being joyful -- is more important now than ever. On this episode you'll learn... How imagery plays an important role in how we see ourselves.Why going to college may not be the move for you.The truth about what that Ph.D. means (and doesn't mean).Why you always get a second chance.Focus on doing the work.The importance of having a team.How to find balance between your work and your world.The truth about trolls.The importance of self care.Why happiness is your birthright. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to resources, events and a community of ambitious, generous and brilliant women entrepreneurs. FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | JOIN OUR MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For Abbey LeVine, being an entrepreneur means you have to be in a constant state of creation, a constant state of evolution and a constant state of love and surrender. Love of what you're doing is what will carry you through the low times, the moments of rejection and self doubt. And for Abbey, a self-described rebel, surrender is what has carried her through in creating her own business as a content creator, television producer, leader of her own non-profit and host of her own podcast, LeVine Intervention. On this episode, Abbey talks about a transition in her life that finally puts her in front of the camera and the mic, and what it takes to get your inner rebel to realize, you know what, you need support. On this episode you'll learn... The power of surrender.The importance of training people properly in ways they can support you.The smart reasons that you should delegate and surrender the things that don't turn you on.What you can learn in times of crisis.How to know when your calling is telling you it's time for a change.Why moving around from job to job, and allowing yourself to be pulled into a new direction, is a great way to move up in media.Getting over impostor syndrome.Allowing yourself to "go big!"Getting through the tough financial challenges that make you think you need to give it up.Everything is easy.Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to resources, events and a community of ambitious, generous and brilliant women entrepreneurs. FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | JOIN OUR MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Anita Belle knew just two years into her professional career that events and event planning was her passion -- something that she'd love to do -- but it was 12 years before she decided to make a jump and open her own events company, AJB Events. While some of the messaging out in the world today is about job shaming and jumping ship as soon as you find your passion to start a business, there's something to be said for taking your time. Not stalling, taking your time. On this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, Anita tells the truth about making the transition from full-time employee to founder, how showing and proving is the way to build your events business, and the power of strategic networking and "light stalking." :) On this episode you'll learn… The benefits of using college to figure out where your true passion lies.Tips for strategic networking.How to find the best networking events relative for your field.The power of partnerships and collaborations.Why it's important to lead with intention, not expectation.Entrepreneurs using an event to tell their brand's story.3 Things to know before launching your events business.The value of mentors and a solid .Why you should toot your own horn more often.Why you should be straightforward about needing help. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to resources, events and a community of ambitious, generous and brilliant women entrepreneurs. FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | JOIN OUR MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For Neha Choudhary, her journey to becoming an entrepreneur based in Dubai all led back to one thing: family. After attending college at Northwestern University in Chicago, and then working as an analyst with JP Morgan Chase in Singapore, Neha -- who grew up between Bahrain and Dubai -- eventually returned to Dubai to be near her family. What she also did was leave her corporate job and finally take the leap to pursue her entrepreneurial dreams. The result: Her new video platform, Making Waves, which features video interviews with entrepreneurs in Dubai and which she hopes will shine a light on the burgeoning startup community in the region -- a community that Neha feels is largely ignored by the outside world. On this episode, Neha talks about the misconceptions about Dubai, misconceptions about women doing business in Dubai, industries that are booming in the region and her mission to let people know that "the Middle East is about more than oil." She also speaks candidly about the challenges of being a solopreneur, and how new entrepreneurs can get through those tough moments that are bound to come. On this episode you'll learn... Why perceived risk is more than actual risk.How to handle the ups and downs of entrepreneurship.The importance of your emotional wellness, and allowing yourself down days.How to create a routine for yourself.Finding an offering that doesn't already exist in your market.How to decide the best platform for your business.The kind of videos that work best for business.Realizing that it's ok to fail.The benefits of bringing in a co-founder who has strong points different than yours. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to resources, events and a community of ambitious, generous and brilliant women entrepreneurs. FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | JOIN OUR MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

There is a moment within this episode where I talk about how not accepting support has pushed some of us so far that we end up doing things to hurt ourselves.............. There is a long pause after the first time I say this. It shook me up when I vocalized it. I listened to that segment again and again in editing and debated whether I should take it out. When I began wiping tears away, I decided to leave it in. I began this episode talking about a recent, courageous video that Necole Kane (formerly of NecoleBitchie.com) released where she spoke through tears about struggles she's going through in her business and in her life after making some big moves and transitions, and I share how much I can relate. But know this, this episode is about YOU. I want YOU to get the support you need in all areas of your life -- whatever that looks like. Your job is to stop being resistant, to ask, to accept, and to let support show up for you in all the ways it wants to and in all the ways you need. To not allow support is selfish. And you are not selfish, you are up to something, you are BIG, you have purpose, and support is there to see you through. On this episode you'll learn… The importance of asking for support -- for real!How to face down resistance.Giving up "I got it" syndrome.Why support is sexy for your mental health.Why not asking for support is selfish.Why you must surround yourself with people who push through your resistance. Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to resources, events and a community of ambitious, generous and brilliant women entrepreneurs. FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | JOIN OUR MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Author, investor and serial entrepreneur Lauren Maillian has always been about deciding what matters and doing her best to make it work. Whether it was deciding that she wanted autonomy over her own money at age 11 so she set up a lemonade stand, deciding to buy 100+ acres of land in Virginia at age 19 and eventually turning it into an award-winning winery, or deciding now to travel the world and speak at conferences, corporations and events, empowering other young women and sharing her experiences as someone who built three successful businesses by age 30. On this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, Lauren, co-star of the Oxygen docuseries Quit Your Day Job, talks about how she's handling business, staying ready, taking care of herself, and --what matters to her most -- being a single supermom to her beautiful children. On this episode you'll learn… How to pivot when someone else beats you to the market.Common mistakes women entrepreneurs make when pitching investors.How to stay ready.The importance of deciding what matters.The best ways to effectively manage your time.How to go where you have the most leverage -- in business and in your personal life.The value of being consistent.Why you should only compete with yourself. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to resources, events and a community of ambitious, generous and brilliant women entrepreneurs. FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | JOIN OUR MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"I can twerk and not be judged, because that's part of my workout and it's making me sweat!" There lies the genius in Akinah Rahmaan's hit fitness lifestyle brand, Banana Skirt Productions. In her workout classes -- which have grown from two classes per week to 20 classes per week since 2014 -- students get to grind it out (in a good way!) by learning the dance routines from performances and videos of their favorite pop stars. Beyond fitness, it's all about fun, and for Akinah, it's about inspiring people to feel good and "let go." On this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast podcast, Akinah talks about the importance of experimentation to discover where your passion lies, having a vision for your business and how you want it to grow and, most important, what she loves most about being a mom. On this episode you'll learn... Looking at what you're already good at and channeling that into your business.How to be clear on your brand's DNA and its impact.The importance of working with strategic partners.How to use social media effectively to help build your business.Starting where you are, using what you have, doing what you can.The importance, as a mom, of letting your children see you create something that you're really proud of. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to resources, events and a community of ambitious, generous and brilliant women entrepreneurs. FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | JOIN OUR MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In January of this year, Doreen Oliver went through a period of her life where she felt "dead inside," like she was not doing what God had put her on this earth to do – create. With a successful career as a producer of film, television and theater productions, Doreen's life had changed dramatically after she became a wife and mother, with new schedules and the needs of the family, including additional care for one of her sons who has autism. When Doreen realized that she had lost herself, and that she needed to get back to what she loved, she decided it was time to have a few difficult conversations, and to, again, start creating. The result: her widely praised one-woman show, Everything is Fine Until It's Not. On this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, Doreen talks about getting back to your goals after motherhood, telling your family the inconvenient truth and having space to create something that's all about you. On this episode you'll learn: How to recognize when it's time for a change of pace.The benefits of getting back to your goals after motherhood.Finding that thing that lights you up and is just for you.How to be an advocate for yourself and your needs as a mom.Don't be afraid of inconveniencing those you love.Have realistic expectations for yourself and others.Share your goals with other people – you'll be surprised that support will show up where you least expect it.Why it's important for your children to see you do something that you're passionate about. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to resources, events and a community of ambitious, generous and brilliant women entrepreneurs. FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | JOIN OUR MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

From the time she spent a semester abroad in Madrid during her years of undergrad at Vassar college, Sienna Brown knew that one day, she was going to make that move. After graduating, and even though she loved her life and her blossoming career in marketing and communications while living in Brooklyn, the New York native decided that time had come. She made the move to Spain three years ago, and has looked back only to encourage more people to do the same, and to provide them with the resources, information and community to do so. Today, Sienna's web site, community, travel and events company Las Morenas de Espana -- which began as an online resource for women of color living in or wanting to move to Spain -- has reached every single country in the world. On this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, Sienna talks about evolving her business into a movement, building a community of passionate explorers, inspiring others to live the good life in more ways than one and how living abroad has shifted her perspective of what it means to be an entrepreneur On this episode you'll learn: Following the call when it tells you it's time to make a move.3 things you should know before making a move abroad.The benefits of immersing yourself in a culture to learn the language.Why living outside of the "big city" may be the best idea.How to keep an open mind and remain creative when starting over in a new country.Using social media and social gatherings to make new friends and new connections.The importance of integrating within the community and creating your own space.Evolving your business as your community evolves, while staying true to your mission.Utilizing partnerships to grow your business.Creating events as an extension of your brand and your community.Being conscious of the people you have in your inner circle. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at supportissexypodcast.com Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to resources, events and a community of ambitious, generous and brilliant women entrepreneurs. FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | JOIN OUR MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What's your ripple? We all have one. But there are times, right, when we forget that? Don't. You MATTER. Your voice MATTERS. The business you're creating MATTERS. The work you're doing MATTERS. The love you show your children, your family and your friends MATTERS. And you and your work cause a ripple. That infectious something that supports one person, then the next, then the next -- all stemming from what you've put out into the world. You may never know this, and you may have moments when you think what you're doing isn't moving anyone anywhere. That's why I recorded this episode: to remind you to recognize, respect and remember your ripple. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to resources, events and a community of ambitious, generous and brilliant women entrepreneurs. FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | JOIN OUR MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For MissNowMrs.com CEO Danielle Tate, failure was just a part of the process -- an opportunity to see, well, the opportunities! When she graduated with a degree in biology from college, but failed to get into medical school by just three seats, it lead her to a great opportunity. When she tried to change her name to the newly married last name and failed (three times, thanks to a clunky process!) yet another opportunity. When she failed to find a book that spoke to her and her experiences as a first-time woman entrepreneur in her 20s who didn't have business experience or an MBA, but had plenty of ideas -- yep, opportunity. Today, as the founder of her multi-million dollar name-change company and author of the Amazon bestselling book, Elegant Entrepreneur: The Female Founders Guide to Starting & Growing Your First Company, Danielle travels the world sharing the journey of building a business (which has more than 300,000 customers and is in two countries) and empowering other women entrepreneurs. On this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, she gives incredible tips on how to shift your perspective on failure, how to market and grow your business, and how to dispel the mean-girl myth. On this episode you'll learn… 3 tips for women on how to research your target market.Insider tips on how to grow your business.How to protect yourself from copycats.The importance of meet-ups and authentic connections.Why you need to slow down.How to own it as an entrepreneur.Why she who dares wins. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

From the time she was 5 years old and stealing pieces of foil from her mom's kitchen so she could craft pieces of jewelry and save them for the "business" she planned to open, Tamiko White knew she was meant to be an entrepreneur. And from the moment she saw (four times, that is) Stephanie Mills bring it "Home" during her performance in The Wiz on Broadway, Tamiko also knew that impacting people through the arts was also meant to be a part of her journey. Today, as a style ambassador, branding expert, speaker, model, actress and educator who works with several global fashion brands, Tamiko is -- in one all-encompassing term -- storyteller. Between meetings and appointments as she gears up for New York Fashion Week, we talk to the NYC native about the business of fashion, the evolution of fashion week and what designers, stylists and students all need to know before getting in the game. On this episode you'll learn... 3 things you need to do to be a leader in the fashion business.What you need to know to make a pivot.The key element for building a fashion brand.How the fashion industry (and Fashion Week) have changed and why it all makes sense.Who really has the power in fashion.In business, the kind of support you need evolves.The remedy for "doing it all." Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to resources, events and a community of ambitious, generous and brilliant women entrepreneurs. FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | JOIN OUR MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

"I don't want to learn as I go. I want to learn...and then go!" For Aliya S King, the word "entrepreneur" was always a scary, foreign thing. So after graduating college at Rutgers University, even though she always wanted to be a writer, the East Orange, NJ, native played it safe and became a teacher. And while she now realizes that she greatly impacted the lives of the students she taught for those couple of years, Aliya knew at that time that writing was her true calling. Ten years later, now a New York Times bestselling author and writer of award winning features, she realized it's also her business. On this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, Aliya talks about her journey to create her new venture, WritewithAliya.com, recognizing your value, realizing the vital importance of self care, and how, at times, moving in slow motion makes a lot of sense. On this episode you'll learn about... Getting over your perfectionism problem.The importance of tenacity.Why younger generation don't have the same drive and don't need it.Why researching your subjects as a writer levels up your interview.Making adjustments as your industry changes.Knowing your market.Recognizing when what you offer for free is of value to others,The importance of moving forward even when you're afraid,The benefits it's of moving slowly.Partnering with other orgs.The importance of your self-care support network. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to resources, events and a community of ambitious, generous and brilliant women entrepreneurs. FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | JOIN OUR MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I admit it: I've got some hangups. And as a woman entrepreneur, and someone who is on a journey of self discovery, I realize these hangups stand in my way. Until recently, I think I owned them -- dare I say embraced them -- as something that were just a part of me and who I am. But they don't have to be. I get to decide the kind of woman I want to be, and that kind of woman is one who doesn't let hangups about support and or fear of success stand in her way! How did I come to this realization? As I mentioned, it's a journey, but along this journey it's people like the cool-as-hell radio show host Abbey Levine of LeVine Intervention, who hold up that all-so-important mirror and make me ask myself the tough questions. When I was a recent guest on Abbey's radio show, she dug in, and pushed me to see that yes, I am successful, and yes, I do deserve to be seen and yes, I deserve support because, hell, support is sexy! I loved the interview so much that I asked Abbey if I could share it with you all on the Support is Sexy podcast, and she agreed. You'll hear me dive into where I think my hangups come from and what challenges I face, and hear me get vulnerable about my discomfort with being seen. Even what Abbey wrote in her description of my episode: "Elayne is a superwoman, reaching global audiences as CEO of Chic Rebellion Media, on the verge of Oprah-like status," made me recoil a little bit. I love it, sounds great! But who? Me??? Abbey's intervention helped me realize I gotta get over this, now, and that there are ways that this could be standing in my way not only of success, but, as I later realized, of helping others. I meditated on our conversation and what it revealed to me is this: My success means I will be able to be of more service to more people. Have a listen, and let our conversation be of service to you... On this episode you'll learn... The importance of asking yourself: "What would this look like if it were easy?"Let go of the how.Realizing when you're playing small.How fear of success and fear of being seen will hold you back.Contemplating what would be possible if you got your blockages out of the way.How to meditate on your success.Realizing there's no magic in perfection.There is no "they."Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Let's face it: Your inner critic is loud af. She means no harm; in fact, she's there because she wants to keep you safe. But what she ends up doing is keeping you small. Your whisper, on the other hand, is affirming. She quietly encourages you to go big. Super big. Scary big. She knows it's what you need, she's clear that your magic exists outside of your comfort zone. Your whisper tells you to go there. She knows you can do it. She asks, why not you, and why not now? On this episode, I share moments that we might encounter both of these voices, within our businesses and within our lives, and how to respond in those moments. Be aware of what you're paying the most attention to, where you're placing the most value. Trust your whisper -- she has your back. On this episode you'll learn... The difference between your inner critic and your whisper.What your inner critic says vs. what your whisper says and how to know the difference.Your bicycle will become a motorcycle.For now is not forever.Ask empowering questions.How your mistakes make you stronger. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to resources, events and a community of ambitious, generous and brilliant women entrepreneurs. FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | JOIN OUR MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For transformation coach Sylvia High, entrepreneurship was part of her life's journey. After many years of crushing it in corporate sales and reaping all of the perks of that success (the bonus checks, the company car, etc), Sylvia finally accepted her truth: This wasn't it, and there had to be something more. She didn't know the answer to what that more was, but she knew the question: Why am I here? On this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, Sylvia -- now an author, CEO of Aiming High, a speaker who has appeared at events for Oprah Winfrey and Tyler Perry, a consultant and coach to individuals, groups and companies around the world, and creator of the I Am Woman Conference -- dives deep on the importance of asking the empowering questions, and the moves you need to make when you get the answers. Plus she tackles knowing the difference between a good idea and a God idea. Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! On this episode you'll learn... How to respond once you have the answers to the big questions.Realizing you're the common denominator when issues continue to ariseThe importance of operating in integrity with what matters to me.Determining when you're most alive.How to kick your addiction to answers.How lack of discovery affects your business.How to ask powerful, empowered questions.How to have a good relationship with conflict.How to create a next level life.Know that you have a choice in all things in your life.You are the author of everything. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to incredible resources, private events and a community of ambitious, generous and badass women entrepreneurs! FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For Sydney Campos, it's all very simple: She wants "people to be happy and to have fun." It's what she has wanted from the very beginning, since the time she was a little empathic girl growing up in San Francisco. Today, now thriving off the energy of New York, Sydney has created a business that has a similar vibe with her new company Make Only Magic. By combining marketing and branding support with coaching and holistic practices, Sydney helps her clients -- who she calls "conscious creators" -- realize pathways to compassion and connection through their brands and within their lives. On this episode, Sydney talks about how to redefine and embrace the word magic; the shift in the business landscape that now has companies knowing how important it is to have more meaning; and how to create a business that taps into a mission bigger than itself. On this episode you'll learn… 3 tips for women entrepreneurs to embrace their magicWhy, if you're in college, you should take courses that inspire you, not for a job you think you'll have the rest of your lifeHow to thrive in the new economyWhy going through recovery was a transformative part of her journey to spirituality and self-love.The power of going into a job, position or opportunity knowing what you want to learn from it.The importance of knowing when it's time to move on.Knowing that you have the option to say "this isn't a good fit for me," especially if it literally makes you sick.Beware of the curse of knowledge.Operating with an abundance mindset.How to have fun, even when it's scary. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to incredible resources, private events and a community of ambitious, generous and badass women entrepreneurs! FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For Juliana Marulanda, CEO of ScaleTime, her mom provided an early example of hustle that the then 7-year-old would never forget. Before Juliana realized it, she was learning important lessons about business, knowing your market, managing the money and more while she and her recently-laid-off-mom sold aguardiente -- a traditional Colombian liqueur -- in the streets of Queens, New York. What she learned the most was the importance of realizing that opportunities are around you no matter what's happening in the market, and that your job is to figure out how to solve a problem and be of service to people. Since then, Juliana has looked at the best ways that she can serve her clients of entrepreneurs, who are scaling their businesses. On this episode she talks about the importance of delegating, how to avoid burnout, how to manage your time and why, as an entrepreneur, you need to get a life! On the episode you'll learn… How to recognize the smart hustle.The importance of being aware of the user's experience.Why you shouldn't start a business out of ego.How to determine what your market needs and what problem you're solving.Why working 24 hours a day is NOT a badge of honor.Her 3 time-management hacks for entrepreneurs.Being aware of time suckers and rabbit holes.The importance of metrics and timelines for solopreneurs.The dangers of "thoughting" vs. executing.How to get over your fears about pricing. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Pamela Macklin always knew she was meant to be three things: a leader, a creative and an educator. Over the past 20+ years in the fashion industry – as a style director for Essence magazine and an image maker, who has created looks for — and told the stories of — some of the most iconic people in the entertainment industry, she has been able to explore all of those parts of herself. Most recently, the Fashion Institute of Technology instructor celebrated her latest creation, an event called #TALKINGBEAUTY, which evolved from an idea that came to her one afternoon while lounging in her place in New Jersey. The event brings together women for food, fellowship and honest conversation about beauty and what they want from the products they use. On this episode, Pamela talks about what putting on the event taught her about overcoming fear, taking inspired action, the importance of partnering and the beauty of expansion. And Pamela's key question that kept her motivated? "Why not??? DO!" On this episode you'll learn… The importance of getting over our own "stuff" and pushing boundaries.People are always watching.The power of being your honest, authentic self.How unplugging and being aware of life opens the door to opportunities.How to be flexible, not rigid, and expand.How working in retail helped her transition into the fashion industry.Why you must know what you're great at!Experiment to learn what you love and to discover your gifts.Why we all need a big fan and a big critic.What it means to know that you are a brand and what message you're sending.What gets in our way as women. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to incredible resources, private events and a community of ambitious, generous and badass women entrepreneurs! FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Wow! Episode 40! What an amazing ride, and this is just the beginning! It has been an honor to interview and share space with the women we've featured thus far on the Support is Sexy podcast! I cherish the opportunity I've had to learn so much more about them and from them. Beyond tips about business or strategies for success, these creative women drop jewels in the form of life lessons, many of which I have already incorporated into my own life! So, recognizing the importance of celebrating the wins along this journey, I am sharing four life lessons I've learned from the first 40 episodes! And a big thank you to you for being along with us for the right! More to come! Embed Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! On this episode you'll learn… The importance of discovering your gifts.Why you should say "yes!"The right questions.The truth about you WHY. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | JOIN OUR MASTERMIND Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Anne Chertoff is the woman you want to help get you down the aisle. Sort of. Since she was younger, Anne has always loved throwing parties and events, and as she matured and began her career as a magazine editor, she fell into bridal and fell completely in love. Today, in addition to being a busy mom of two, Anne consults a bevy of brides on the details of their weddings, works with companies, such as Vera Wang, covers bridal for several publications and web sites, appears on television giving bridal tips and is the founder and editor-in-chief of the wedding web site TwirlWeddings.com. Though she isn't a wedding planner (and doesn't want to be), Anne talks about the benefits of knowing the ins and outs of the wedding business, finding your niche, doing what you love, getting help and why you should consider her your wedding "best friend." On this episode you'll learn… The importance of having a team, especially as a consultant.The benefits of finding a niche that allows you to do a little bit of everything.The joys of doing what you love.How the weddings business works.Why national weddings magazines are closing and local markets are thriving.The truth about weddings reviews (and what you need to know).Some of her favorite weddings resources.What she wishes she knew before her own wedding.Her top favorite (and least favorite) bridal trends.And why she's not trying to be supermom. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | JOIN OUR MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you're going to talk about Eden Duncan-Smith, make sure you get her name right. In response to the dude from TMZ who mispronounced her name when revealing how much money the 16 year old made when she co-starred in the 2014 movie, Annie, Eden says the first thing she thought was: "Boy, you need to get my name right!" Eden, pronounced eh-den, first fell in love with acting when she was 9, but when she was younger and auditioning, she didn't take it seriously. Until Lion King changed everything. After seeing the play and having friends who appeared in it, the self-described whimsical girl decided to get focused. At age 10, out of 500 kids auditioning for the role of young Nala, she got a call back that same day. Today, as a triple threat performer, Eden realizes she has experienced so much more than the average teenager since she has been in the entertainment business. She has had to manage up, perfect her interpersonal skills and learn how to have thick skin, all by age 16. Now she says it's "second nature," and it's a skill that we all need for life, not just acting. On this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, Eden talks about her journey from the early days of starring in the Tony-award-winning revival Fences with powerhouse actress Viola Davis, her mentor, to her upcoming project, Roxanne, Roxanne, with another mentor, actress Nia Long, and she openly shares the real deal on what it means to be a child actor, how to get into the business, and how to stay grounded in an industry that can easily get you caught up. On this episode you'll learn… Eden's advice for young black actorsHow to stay focused on what's importantWhy you need to have the talent then cultivate itThe first step to getting into the businessThe benefits of "cattle calls"How to stay grounded as a young woman in the entertainment industryWhat you need to be aware of about social mediaWhat people misunderstand about the businessWhy her activism is around getting more girls to love themselves Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | JOIN OUR MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Decisions. They are a part of our lives, day in and day out. Yet we often agonize over them each time we have to face one that we think really matters. But they all matter, don't they? Our decisions shape our lives. I heard Tony Robbins say in a recent interview with Tim Ferriss that, "It's your decisions, not your conditions, that shape your life." And whether the decision is right or wrong, it doesn't even matter. What matters is: was it the best choice you knew to make at that time? Was it the next best move? If so what more can you ask? I've had moments where I've been paralyzed, or on autopilot just doing what I've always done, because of indecision. Whether it was because I was comfortable, confused or complacent, I admit there are times when I have avoided making a decision for fear of making the wrong choice -- or, more accurately -- the winning choice. As entrepreneurs, as women, as ambitious go-getters, the "winning" choice is always on our minds. How do I win? You may phrase it as, "How do I make this happen?" But what you're really experiencing, in most cases is, how do I win at this? Or how do I avoid getting hurt? Or how do I avoid disappointing anyone? How do I avoid regrets? How do I avoid rejection? How do I make a decision, but still play it safe? That's the thing. With most decisions, especially those that have the potential to change your condition or the trajectory of your life, you cannot play it safe. Sure, you want to be smart, you want to take care of yourself. But you if you want to experience the magic, something new, something inspired, something that could move you forward, you have to skip safe and see what it's like outside of your comfort zone. And yes, it's sometimes scary AF out there. But that's where you belong, where you thrive, where you show the world -- and most importantly yourself -- what you're made of and what matters to you. Make the decision! On this episode of the Support is Sexy podcast, you'll learn... Five things I've recently come to realize about decisions. How mine have impacted my life.How I plan to take a new approach to my decision-making moving forward. The importance of "maintaining fidelity to your purpose."The power of deciding what matters and what doesn't. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Author and personal development coach Zara Green didn't realize until she was in her mid 20s that every person who influences you, whether positively or negatively, is influencing you for a purpose. She came to this realization when she accepted that the difficult relationship she had with her mother when growing up was because of their disparate personalities and not because of something that she personally did wrong. This truce with her mom helped Zara become much more accepting of herself. Today, as co-founder of the relationship education company The Grown Zone, Zara teaches women, especially, that they dare not shrink in the face of a man (or anyone!) who tells them who or what they are supposed to be. On this episode, Zara tells us how to close our personal growth gap, how to make our next decision better and why our relationships should be based on H.E.R. On this episode you'll learn… Realizing that everybody is not going to like you.Be honest with yourself about what your relationship is with a person.How to be who you're meant to be.The power of permission.We all have good, bad and ugly.Why mistake is a myth, and failure is fiction.How to not beat yourself up about past decisions.Why happiness, wealth and fulfillment is an inside job.How your nature can trip you up.What it means to be "out of control."Why you have to stop believing the lies that hold you back! Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Subscribe to Support is Sexy podcast on iTunes or on Stitcher Radio! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to incredible resources, private events and a community of ambitious, generous and badass women entrepreneurs! FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | JOIN OUR MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I've interviewed 30+ women for the Support is Sexy podcast -- entrepreneurs, leaders, creatives visionaries -- and I am moved by them all, inspired by them all, in love with them all, with their gifts and with their willingness to share. I always leave each conversation with some nugget of wisdom that I can use, and I often go back and listen to episodes again and again just to feed myself that positivity. So, today, on what I'm calling "Feel Good Friday," I'm offering you a few servings of positivity from some of our previous beautiful and badass women who have appeared on the show and who, in each episode of the podcast, leave us with a parting piece of advice. Take some time to digest this, and savor it into your weekend and beyond. Featured on this episode of #FeelGoodFriday... Sian Morson, Founder of Kollective Mobile. Patricia Moreno, creator of the Intensati workout. Nicole Aguierre, CEO of Worn Creative agency. Tanya Alvarez, Founder and CEO of Owners Up. Amanda Miller Littlejohn, Founder of Package Your Genius. Teju Owoye, Founder and CEO of Sulte Group. Ouidad, Founder of Ouidad global haircare brand. Moshay Laren, Real estate agent and Investor, Partner of Kimber Group Investments Denene Millner, New York Times Best Selling Author and owner Denene Millner Children's Books. Karen Taylor Bass – Marketing and Publicity Strategist. Dee Poku, Founder of WIE Network and The Other Festival. Kaira Akita, Actress, artist, creative. Mitzi Miller, Television executive, Head of Development at Rainforest Entertainment. Jessica Perdomo, Creator of JJ Gray Shoes. Fila Antwine, Relationship and Life coach. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As women, and as entrepreneurs, it's easy for us to get caught up in what's not working. Is it just me, or do you do that, too? If so, know that you are not alone. When you're an ambitious, results-driven person (as most of us are!) who wants to check things off your must-do list, it can be frustrating to think that you're not making a dent in whatever is standing between you and your dream in that moment. I've been there, and that sort of negative thinking is a slippery slope. It's time for a mind shift! What I make sure I do in those moments is to remember to pause, take a deep breath, and celebrate the small wins. In this episode (recorded at 3:33 in the morning, so...be gentle) I speak about the power of us intentionally celebrating ourselves and how small wins actually lead to major progress. Have a listen, take on the celebrate-the-small-wins challenge that I mention, and remember, you got this! On this episode you'll learn... The importance of celebrating the small wins!Why small wins lead to major progress.Why you have choice when it comes to focusing on what's "wrong."How you can shift your mindset to remember what's working right now.Gratitude makes a world of difference.What are you celebrating about yourself today? Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL and get access to resources, events and a community of ambitious, generous and badass women entrepreneurs. FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When Camara Aunique Helps first met superstar stylist June Ambrose, she was working at the makeup counter at Lord & Taylor, and June—the creator of unforgettable looks for some of the biggest names in entertainment--was just passing through. But Camara had something she needed the legendary stylist to know, and that something was that she would do a skeptical-but-kind June's makeup one day. That someday is today. As we conduct our podcast interview, Camara -- now an in-demand celebrity makeup artist for stars like Chloe and Halle and Andra Day -- fields text messages from June (whose makeup she did, indeed, do and does, seven years after that encounter at Lord & Taylor) and from a list of other celebrity clients. Hear Camara talk about her journey from makeup counter to making celebrities beautiful for red carpets, TV appearances, films and more, and how she made many sacrifices to keep her promise not only to June, but also to herself. On this episode you'll learn… The truth about the not-so-glamorous side of the makeup business.What it takes to break into the business.How to build your clientele.How far humility gets you.The importance of taking the time to learn how to be a better artist.What you need to know about working with celebrity clients.The importance of staying connected and staying ready.Surviving the slow season.How to handle slow seasons and manage your money.Why being an assistant and consistent learning makes you a leader in your industry. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | MASTERMIND SIGN UP FOR OUR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL LIST AND GET EXCLUSIVE CONTENT AND ACCESS TO PRIVATE EVENTS WITH GAME-CHANGING WOMEN ENTREPRENEURS! [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices