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Fitness expert and celebrity trainer Holly Del Rosso learned a lesson in resilience very early in her childhood, when her mom left their family when Holly was 12 years old, and she and her brother went to live with her Italian great aunt, who showed her what it was to "take the reigns" and work hard. Since then, Holly has tapped into that resilience again and again as she fought to build a business and career that married her love of fitness, her activism, and her desire to change lives. On this episode, Holly openly shares her winding road filled with moments of disappointment, failures and bad waitressing, and how this all led her to creating a life where she is finally able to truly follow her dream. As an expert who has appeared Dr. Oz, in Shape and SELF, Holly shares her morning routine, how to be healthy on your own terms, and how you can help her spread a little girl power to young women in South Central and East Los Angeles. On this episode you'll learn… The importance of having someone in your corner who tells you to get back out there and fight.When you do what you love to do, people notice.How to build your client list and show people your passion.What people misunderstand about the fitness industry.Why going above and beyond is a key to success.What working out does for women entrepreneurs.3 top tips for getting fit and eating healthy in a way that makes sense for you and your lifestyle.How a devastating moment in your life may be the best blessing for you.How business coaches and mentors should be a part of your team. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | MASTERMIND SIGN UP FOR OUR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL LIST AND GET EXCLUSIVE CONTENT AND ACCESS TO PRIVATE EVENTS WITH GAME-CHANGING WOMEN ENTREPRENEURS! [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

April McKoy Robinson's success story as principal and founder of the award-winning UA Gateway School of Technology high school in New York City is an unlikely one. As an immigrant from Jamaica, April's time in school once she came to America heavily influenced her. While she flourished due to attentive and brutally honest teachers in elementary school, she struggled at Bronx Science -- her high-achieving high school. Not because she wasn't bright, but because of a system that largely ignored the brilliance of her and the other children of color attending. April graduated and went on the college at Hampton University and grad school at NYU in spite of this. And today, she dedicates her life to leveling the playing field for her students, preparing them in meaningful ways for life and their futures, and recognizing the brilliant light in each of them. Hear why April passionately believes that a child's demography should not dictate your destiny, the best thing about teaching and the must-read books that she recommends for every educator. On this episode you'll learn… 3 Tips for successfully opening and running a schoolStereotype Threat and how it affects studentsThe dangers of adultifying young peopleThe importance of modelingThe power of having a growth mindsetTaking a chance on yourself, even if you're not certain that you can do itThe thing about difficult conversationsWhy educators need to be uncomfortableWhy it's ok – and even empowering – to cry at workWhy you must approach everything with radical sincerity Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | MASTERMIND SIGN UP FOR OUR SUPPORT IS SEXY EMAIL LIST AND GET EXCLUSIVE CONTENT AND ACCESS TO EVENTS WITH GAME-CHANGING WOMEN ENTREPRENEURS! [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I almost didn't make it. It's an annual trip my girls – my best friends from my college days at Hampton University – and I take to Martha's Vineyard each August for the past 3 years. But this summer, I was going to skip it. Why? Because I didn't have the space for it. Or so I thought. I convinced myself just a week out from the trip that I needed to sit this year out and stay cramped up in my 2-bedroom apartment in Brooklyn working, hard, on my podcast, on my business, on everything else that I am creating. I saw this as the sacrifice I needed to make to "make things work." How could I allow myself to take a trip now with so much on the line? Doing so would mean I'm not serious about this work. Right? Thank God, that those same best friends weren't having it. They respectfully supported my decision, but each in their own way nudged me to make a different choice. And that choice, as you will hear in this episode has done more for me and my business than I ever could have imagined. All because I gave myself some much needed space. On this episode you'll learn the importance of giving yourself the space to… Be you and exploreBe around people who lift you upBe with people who allow YOU space to do what you need to doBreak shitTo ask questionTo not know the answers and to LIVE the questionTo see just how far your business will take you and see it in action Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! VISIT Elayne at elaynefluker.com Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

At 40, as a mom and a longtime executive in digital publishing, Djenaba Johnson-Jones became very interested in fitness, going especially hard with lifting weights and "working out with the guys." This new passion led her to get her fitness certification and sparked the idea for a fitness concierge business; but when she wanted to look into preparing food for her clients, she discovered something: an opportunity. Today, Djenaba spends her time working on her concept for her new business, The Hudson Kitchen, which is a commercial kitchen space in New Jersey that provides services for food entrepreneurs, including workshops, storage space, networking opportunities and kitchen rental. We caught up with Djenaba as she's in the process of settling into her new space and talked to her about perfecting your business pitch and moving one step closer to your dream each and every day. On this episode you'll learn: How to perfect your business pitch -- what to do and what to avoid.Why working out helps you handle stress.The importance of putting your goals and how you'll get there on paper.First steps to start your food business.How to market your food business.Why you need a rock-solid team.The best ways to push your self to network. Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Moshay Laren's start in radio was no fantasy. In fact, before her first time on the mic, she had to run to the bathroom she was so sick with nervousness. But what she didn't do was back down from the challenge--and she never has. After her 18 years in the business came to an abrupt end, Moshay is now passionate about building her real estate empire along and educating people of color about opportunities they may never have considered. More than that, she has tapped into her "why," and is aligning herself with passion, purpose and being truly fulfilled. Moshay talks to us about getting clear on your mission, jumping into the deep end, and what you need to know about the real estate market. On this episode, you'll learn: How to be effective without being confrontational.How to battle the bitch label with grace.The importance of surrounding yourself with women who are a few steps ahead of you.Be ready (even before you're ready) to go for it when the opportunity shows up in front of you.Why you have to stop putting so much energy into your fears.How to let go of perfection.The importance of partnerships, especially in real estate.How your passion can evolve over time.Determining what platform fits your mission.Remembering your WHY. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A trip to Cuba changed everything for former film marketing executive Dee Poku. While on holiday during a busy, chaotic time for her industry, Dee realized it was time for her to make a transition and strike out on her own, even though she didn't know exactly what that would look like. Eventually, after being invited to an exclusive event with a room full of powerful women who came together to network, share information and build new relationships, Dee realized she wanted to create a way for all women to have access to such a room. The result? WIE (Women, Inspiration, Enterprise) Network, co-founded in 2010, which hosts symposiums to support ambitious career women, and that has attracted high-caliber speakers, such as Arianna Huffington, Diane Von Furstenberg and Rosario Dawson. In 2015, after attending a one too many male-heavy music festivals, Dee was struck with another idea and a way to reach a new set of women emerging in the professional space. In order to serve millennials, who are launching their own businesses and embracing entrepreneurship, she created a women-driven music event -- The Other Festival, which held its inaugural event in summer 2016 -- featuring women artists, vendors, makers and more. In this episode, Dee talks about the evolution of her vision to empower women, how to host a powerful event no matter what scale, what you need to know about African women, and the beauty of being The Other. On this episode, you'll learn: The benefits of a gap year.When it comes to your passion you don't have to have it all figured out.The power of content and of cultural leaders to influence when partnered with content.Opportunities come when you're open.What it really takes to be successful.The importance of friends who love you through the highs and the lows without judgement.You'd be surprised who will say yes if you ask in the right way. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A power(ful) walk on the beach with masterful motivator Tony Robbins and 100 other people in the Bahamas could change anyone's perspective. But for fitness expert and Intensati founder Patricia Moreno, it changed everything. At the time -- as a longtime fitness instructor, who new the pains of yo-yo dieting and struggles with weight -- Patricia wanted to create a workout that really transformed people physically and spiritually for the long-term; not for the moment. And it was on that beach that the idea she had been searching for, and open to, became clear to her. But Patricia quickly realized that she couldn't just talk about it, she had to be about it. As she says, "you can't sell it if you don't own it." So she set out on a quest to build followers of her new workout style, called IntenSati, which involves an explosive combination of positive affirmations and powerful movements. In this episode, Patricia talks about how inspired action led her to form a business that aligned with her purpose, how you can you have to put your "musts" before your "maybes," and how being a spiritual badass sets you up for success. On this episode you'll learn: How to live the right question!Your determination to find the solution opens you up to possibility.How changing your mindset and how you identify helps you change your lifeThe power of "I am."It's ok to be scared, just be courageous as well.Why you don't have to have a solution, you have to be determined to find it.You can't get the idea until you've set the intention and asked the question.Be thirsty!Take "try" out of your vocabulary. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Let's face it, ladies, there's something about that time of the month that makes us crazy, crampy, irritable, sleepy, creative, horny, hungry… and that barely scratches the surface. For most of us, the emotions and discomfort are something we just deal with, even if it causes us great pain and totally throws a wrench in our days. Such was the case for years for Stasha Washburn, aka The Period Coach, who endured severe cramps and fainting spells caused by her periods. Eventually, Stasha, formerly a dancer, had enough and decided that there must be a way to heal herself and to stop simply accepting her symptoms as "normal." Through research, adjusting her diet and establishing new daily routines, such as her thai-chi practice, she discovered what worked best for her. And when she shared her story with other women, she learned that she wasn't alone. With the help of a straightforward business coach, Stasha realized that calling herself, at first, a hormonal balance expert, wasn't her thing. She decided her mission is to end the taboo around menstruation and to do so as The Period Coach. In this episode, Stasha tells us how to approach our periods, how to be empowered to ask for what we need and how to continue to prosper by learning the ways your flow affects your business. On this episode you'll learn: The top 3 issues most women entrepreneurs have because of their periodsIs your "bitchiness" bad for business?How your flow affects your…flow.How changing your perspective of your period can empower you to make better decisions.The four phases of your cycle and what questions you need to ask during each phase.Figuring out what your passion is by asking what pisses you off. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When Nicole Aguirre graduated from college in 2008, she was a young woman with a plan and a high-level position lined up with the Department of Defense in Washington, D.C. But the economy had other plans, and after a hiring freeze, Nicole -- always a creative -- had to get creative. The longtime photographer got busy creating her own project, a DC-based fashion magazine called Worn, and was on her way doing something that she loved. Until reality -- and lack of revenue -- changed her trajectory once again. Nicole had an epiphany, and decided it was time to pivot and reinvent her brand. Now, as CEO of Worn Creative, a digital agency that empowers women to lead and has worked on projects for Michelle Obama and Marriott hotels, Nicole has found the perfect fit. Worn works with brands that support women or are lead by women, and the agency hosts events that encourage women to say F* It and go for their dreams. Here, Nicole talks about the blessing of a dream detoured, the power of the pivot and why girl power means saying "F* it" a lot more often. On this episode you'll learn: 3 top tips for reinventing your brand to generate revenueHave moments to be still and get clear on what you want.The power of visualization.Knowing when it's time to pivot.How to let go of what's not working and focus on what is.Why setting goals is not necessarily the answerWhy every entrepreneurs needs someone they can be real with. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For private chef, author and TV personality Bren Herrera, everything happens in the kitchen, and it always has. Since Bren was a child growing up in her Cuban family in Washington, D.C., the kitchen was always the epicenter for family, friends and gatherings--where she remembers all were physically and spiritually nourished. Today, Bren brings this same spirit to her own culinary creations as she continues to build her business around food, travel and lifestyle. An award-winning food blogger since 2008, Bren now has a cookbook of 100+ recipes on the way this fall, and appears regularly doing food segments on the Today show and on Univision. But, as Bren shares in this episode, business wasn't always bubbling, and there were times early on when she thought she'd have an entirely different career. Eventually, thanks to an observation from an outsider that she was open to receiving, she found her sweet spot. Hear the lessons Bren learned along the way, and why, as they say, it takes 10 years to become an overnight success. On this episode you'll learn: Why consistency is key.The secret to getting more people to your web site.Why you should never delete content from your blog or web site.Don't get married to what you think is best for you.If it hasn't worked out, it just means you have work to do.Your pivotal moment may be provoked by someone from the outside.The importance of having an exploratory phase.Find and serve your niche.Why your support circle needs to evolve as you evolve.The importance of spiritual showers Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | MASTERMIND Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you ever started a business -- one that you absolutely love, but that has yet to make any money and that you can't quite figure out? Have you ever thought, maybe I'm not on the right track, or maybe I am, who's to say?! In this conversation with Teju Owoye, CEO of Sulte Group and host of Teju.TV, she tells about the importance of continuing to experiment until you get it right, whether that's with your current business or some other iteration of it. You want to have a plan, but you never know exactly how it's going to work out, because going from point A to point B rarely happens in the real world of entrepreneurship. Instead it's more like A, Z, X, K...and then who knows? Before figuring out what worked for her, Teju ended up going broke and moving back in with her parents. Her zig-zagged journey to discovering her own zone of genius included considering grad school, reading a ton of books, modeling the behavior of those who were doing what she wanted to to, and tinkering along the way. Another thing Teju did? Leapt! And on this episode she goes into the lessons she learned on the way down (and how she tried to make a parachute out of a straw and a watermelon). On this episode, you'll learn: Entrepreneurship is an art.Ask yourself some key questions to help you figure out what you're supposed to be doing.What do I feel like I should be contributing to the worldWho am I?What's the ideal day for you?Who's already doing what you want to do?What's the next best step you can take?When creating a product, determine what problem you're solving for your customer. What are they struggling with?Get to your MVP ASAP.Learn the art of surrender in business.The importance of partnerships. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | MASTERMIND Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Stylist and image maker Rachel Johnson has been featured in the New York Times, ESPN and countless other publications for the impeccable way she creates new looks for her gentleman clients. She has been credited with "making over" the NBA and bringing a new style awareness to a number of top athletes. Her work has helped land longtime clients LeBron James on the covers of Vogue and GQ, Victor Cruz as the new face of Givenchy, Amar'e Stoudemire in front rows next to Anna Wintour, and others, such as Cam Newton and JR Smith, in the fashion spotlight that once steered clear of athletes. Rachel's life has been a whirlwind of client meetings, fashion shows, exclusive events, designer relationships, travel and clothes--plenty of clothes. Now, after 16 years in such a fast-paced business and being wherever she was supposed to be next, Rachel says she is finally savoring the now. For so long, she says, she had been living to work; and now she is living to live. In this episode, Rachel speaks candidly about the ins and outs of the styling business: the allure people get caught up in and what they often misunderstand. She also gives advice to future celebrity stylists (by speaking to her younger self), and tells what not-so-pretty pitfalls to avoid. On this episode you'll learn: Everything begins in the mind.What people misunderstand about styling.What has been the key to her success.Why styling is about letting your work speak for itself.3 tips for getting into the styling business.The trust factor.Why relationships are crucial, and how you should foster them.The importance of celebrating yourself.Why she doesn't subscribe to the no-new-friends rule.Surround yourself with career bitches. Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What's your story? We all have one – a story of where we began, how we got to this point, what we've encountered along the journey so far. Now, consider this: How might the story that you've been telling yourself -- whether true or not -- be holding you back? More than that, how is it stressing you out? This is what career and personal development strategist Victoria Geller helps her clients navigate: learning to let go of the story that no longer serves you, and how to recognize when it may become harmfully stressful or create a barrier between your goals and your success. Victoria knows firsthand what it's like to experience this. As a single mom, who began her career in marketing as an administrative assistant, she worked her way up to a corner office on Madison Avenue during her last 17 years in corporate America. It wasn't easy, and there were times when her jobs in the past literally made her sick. But what was even more trying was that she also knew that this wasn't it – or at least not all of it. Victoria wanted to offer more, to help other people feel unstuck in their careers and their lives by sharing her experiences and the techniques that she has used successfully to create change in her own life and career. So in TKTKT YEAR she formed her company LOAMLife, which offers Career Transformational Coaching is for young professionals, entrepreneurs and executives. Here, Victoria shares those tips with us, and tells you how to leave that old story behind. On this episode, you'll learn: Why having a bridge job is a smart, strategic move.Explore the possibility of being an intrapreneur within your organization.How to solicit feedback and get support in your blind spots.Most of have a story that we need to leave behind in order to succeed.3 ways to move beyond your story.The power of asking, "and then what?"How to know when it's time to get help when your job pushed you to breaking point.Be selfish about who you let in your world. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | MASTERMIND [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mitzi Miller has been focused on choosing happy since she was a little girl. If whatever it was didn't seem like it would make her happy, she walked away. But as an adult, with a high powered editor-in-chief position at a magazine she long admired, she was unhappy, felt stuck and was making herself seriously ill. As an 18-year liver transplant survivor, Mitzi's body was beginning to succumb to the stress of her job and reject her organ. Even though she had known for some time that this position was no longer for her -- and she had had great conversations with a friend about a future in television -- she was trapped by the "golden handcuffs." Thanks to a determined doctor and a lonely Thanksgiving, she finally released herself and made the leap. Today, Mitzi -- who is also author of five books, including The Vow, which was made into a TV movie for Lifetime -- is Head of Development for Rainforest Entertainment, and she's co-executive producing a new series for BET airing this fall called The Yard. She lives in LA, she loves the work she does, she is healthy, she is happy. And as she shares in this episode, she wants you to know that you can walk away and be okay. On this episode, you'll learn: When it's time to remove the golden handcuffs.Difference between being exhausted from working hard and being joyless.How chance encounters can change everything.How to know when you're coming to the end of a part of your journey.The value of having people around you who are making courageous decisions all the time.Doors open, but only if you open your mouth.Don't take on someone else's baggage before you make a leap. (You'll have plenty of your own.)People underestimate what stress can do to your body. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | MASTERMIND Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You've seen her on The View, Today show, E! and more, she was the first woman of color to be beauty director of Seventeen magazine, has graced the pages of many others and has been a host on the red carpet at the Grammy's, the Oscars and more. Her clients include P&G, Cover Girl and Walmart, and she is a style ambassador for brands like InStyle. But what's grand about Tai Beauchamp is how grounded she is and how committed she remains to empowering young women with love and style. And you will experience all of that in this conversation with her. Raised in Newark, New Jersey, and greatly influenced by her beloved grandmother, Tai has created a business, Tai Life Media, that marries social impact, marketing and style for several initiatives, such as My Black is Beautiful. In 2015, Tai launched her fashion, beauty and lifestyle web site, TheTaiLife.com, that is another avenue for her to reach young women. With all that she has accomplished, and with more in the works such as a new TV show (stay tuned!), Tai reveals in this episode the not-so-glamorous parts of her journey, the moments that are sometimes lonely and the empowering epiphany she had around support. On this episode you'll learn: The importance of being open to signals from the Universe.Recognize your calling, when start to open up and happen -- listen.The benefits of having a partner in business and in life.The importance of keeping some things off social media.The importance of showing up every time.Utilizing your platform to have social impact.Realize when it's time to cut the fat.Why you don't have to be superwoman.Know when to make room for a partnership. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In 2015, Fila Antwine's job was making her sick -- literally. She was stressed every Sunday night and was often brought to tears just thinking about going to work on Monday. Doctors diagnosed her with IBS, likely caused by the stress. Eventually, she had enough, so she quit, and that's when her real work began. Today, Fila owns a relationship and life coaching business where she empowers and instructs women on how to practice self care, heal from hurtful experiences of the past and have loving, healthy relationships. She is the author of two books -- Strengthening Her Essence and the children's book Curiously Coiled -- and has appeared as an expert on television and in outlets, such as The Wall Street Journal, the NY Post and MSN.com. It is work that is deeply important to her -- as she openly shares in this episode -- being a woman who has personally experienced sexual abuse and abandonment as a child, and who, today, brings her lived experiences to the work with she does with other women. Listen to hear how Fila moved through the traumas of her childhood, and how you can use your experiences -- and even your pain -- to create a business that serves and nourishes you as much as it does your clients. On this episode you'll learn: The importance of having spiritual staminaWhy you must develop a healing practice of your own.Knowing when to stop, shut everything down and take care of yourself.That you don't move past your experiences, you move through them.How to ensure you're taking a holistic approach to your business to make it successful.How to determine if you need to adjust your messaging or your program to reach your clients.The importance of transparency in your relationshipsWhy you are the sun, and if you're not ok, your universe suffers Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | MASTERMIND Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Shoe designer Jessica Perdomo is not only an example of resilience and determination ("I can't tell you how many stores I got kicked out of," she says), she is also an example of someone who is not afraid to take inspired action. Or maybe, at times, she is afraid, but she does it anyway, and this makes her courageous as hell! Jessica is the founder of the incredibly gorgeous footwear line, J.J. Gray, which features riding boots and oxfords made exclusively by a family of third generation artisans in the south of Spain. She launched the line with just $800 in 2014 (just enough to cover legal fees for her business), and has since received coveted mentions in fashion biz powerhouse publications, such as Vogue and Footwear News. Raised without many resources by her Dominican grandparents in Queens after her mother passed away, Jessica started working at age 13, and hasn't stopped since. But it's the story of the shoe -- both at the early start of her career and as the spark that ignited her business -- that has been pivotal in her journey. What I love most about Jessica from the moment I first spoke with her is her grit and authenticity, not only in how she is building her business, but in how she is clearly creating a space for herself and for other young people who may have grown up in tough situations and never been exposed to the possibilities of entrepreneurship. Jessica says she plans to change that. I believe her. I believe you will, too. On this episode, you'll learn: Thoughts become things.Your past does not define your future.The importance of heeding the signs the universe sends your way.Why it's a good idea to test your market -- even if you start with family and friends."If you can't control your emotions, you can't control your money." (Jessica's favorite quote from Warren Buffet.)Know when you're onto something, and take inspired action!How getting press coverage doesn't necessarily move the needle for your business.How trunk shows and boldly knocking on doors (even when not invited) can be crucial to your business as a designer. Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For Michelle Burford, a New York Times bestselling ghostwriter and collaborator, the journey from growing up in a tight-knit family in Phoenix, Arizona, to a small magazine publishing company in Colorado Springs, to walking the halls of Essence, to sipping cocktails with Oprah was all a result of something her mother taught her: Be excellent, and never cut corners. In this epic (and I mean epic) episode, choc full of "aha moments" and powerful insights about life and the publishing industry, Michelle shares the winding course she took to doing the work she now loves and is passionate about—which is capturing the compelling life stories of celebrities and public figures like Gabrielle Douglas, Michelle Knight and Amy Purdy, and turning them into top-selling books. Listen to this episode to hear how Michelle embodies hustle, heart, grace and not being afraid to let folks see you sweat! On this episode you'll learn: Why, everyday, you should push yourself to do one brave thing.The importance of doing a good job on what's right in front of you.How to make powerful, authentic connections.Why sometimes it's about knowing what is not working and that what you are doing is notHow your peers can be your best mentors.What you should do when you have the wind at your back.Learn how to capture your magic.Stop playing it cool and let them see you sweat.Don't be afraid to take a second look at things.Even when you don't know the answer, know that the answer is NOT "I don't know." Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! FOLLOW SUPPORT IS SEXY FACEBOOK | TWITTER | INSTAGRAM | MASTERMIND Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Connie DaSilva is all about making women feel good inside and out. In 2012, after frustrations with not being able to find the perfect plant-based skincare products and an impromptu brainstorming session with her closest friends, Connie launched her natural skincare line, Whole Clarity (which, by the way, has the best natural deodorant and a coconut pulling oil that I swear by). Now, the homemade line is a frequent top seller on Amazon. This summer, Connie launched her latest venture, Headgame Pro, which is a sexy new coaching program that helps women master their game (and fully embrace their sexual confidence) in bed and beyond! In this episode, along with insightful tips on how to launch your beauty products and sell successfully on Amazon, Connie shares her own experiences as a headgame pro and a sensual masseuse – so, if you're listening to this on speaker around little ones, maybe put your earbuds in. :) On this episode you'll learn: Share your ideas with the world and the support will show upWhen you have ideas, write them down, and share them powerfullyMaking the most out of selling on Amazon.com – what you need to know and what Connie wishes she knewDon't ask why something is happening, ask, "How am I going to make it work?"Ask empowering questionsIf people are getting your ideas, consider how you're presenting them. Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jennifer Love is the CEO of One More Woman -- a fast-track, high-performance, educational and advisory community helping women entrepreneurs take the stress out of the money equation so they can effectively raise, make, manage and give money. As a serial entrepreneur with 17 years of experience, Jennifer has consulted with and helped companies raise more than $100 million, including one client that have landed a deal worth $600,000 on the hit TV show Shark Tank. Her ongoing mission? To help increase the number women entrepreneurs in the world create and effectively manage businesses that have at least $1 million in revenue or more in a year. How? By helping 20 million women over the next 10 years to get access to capital, learn how to scale their businesses, and know how to confidently walk into any room of potential investors--no matter who's in that room--and own it while knowing their self worth. Jennifer also talks the importance of owning your gift and your purpose -- that thing that keeps calling you or presenting itself to you. For her, it was about the need for her to step up and support women on their entrepreneurial journey. Listen to this episode for more great insight from Jennifer on embracing your power, and getting support for your business. On this episode you'll learn: How to handle it when investors cross the line (insults, sexual harassment and more).Why it's one thing to believe you can do it or what you're pitching, but it's another to fully feel it.The strategy of using "Yes, and..." when faced with questions from investors about your business.Why, as women, we underestimate our abilities, and we need to say, "Yes, I can do this," more often.How to turn what others see as failure into a lesson that helps get you where you want to go.How to find inspiration in unexpected places. Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, click here to leave us a Rating & Review on iTunes! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

By age 25, Tanya Alvarez's first business, Blink Ads, generated more than $1 million in revenue within the first year, and she was already thinking about launching her next ventures. She went on to successfully launch two other companies – Spokesmoms and La Cosmopolatina -- but even with that success, the Miami native, who had already worked at four startups by then, said that comparison mode made her think she still hadn't done enough, and she began to consider how much time and commitment it would take to continue to grow her businesses, and whether or not she wanted to sacrifice her personal life to achieve that. In this conversation, Tanya openly shares how she made tough decisions, and walked away from her businesses, to create the life she wanted, how she set aside ego to truly see what kind of business would fuel her. Now Tanya is committed to helping other entrepreneurs reach their highest through her new company OwnersUp, which is an online accountability platform for entrepreneurs. And guess what, Tanya schooled me on the importance of having a support network even for your dating life, people who hold you accountable for swiping right when your default (and fear) would usually cause you to swipe left. *Mind blown On this episode you'll learn: Knowing whether you're driven by what you want or by egoWhy you should always test things out before you use technologyThe power of niching down and serving your audience in ways others are notThinking of ways to have big impact by starting smallThe importance of higher listeningHow comparison mode can skew your judgmentThe benefits of looking for someone you can partner withWhy you need champions and someone to encourage you out of your comfort zoneShow notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please leave us a review and share with your friends! [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Cheryl Gentry and her event management company, Glow Media -- which has been in business for 18 years strong -- has planned conferences, events and summits around the world with some of the most prestigious clients. But during a recent event, as her team scrambled to work around glitch-y apps they were using to get things organized, Cheryl had an epiphany: there needed to be one tool that allowed planners to access and sync everything they needed, especially on the day of the event when things are the most hectic. On that day, Cheryl's new event management product, OnSite Planner, was born – sort of! Always practical, resourceful and thorough, Cheryl did her research on the market and decided to raise funds for the development of the tool via Kickstarter – and that's where the fun began…sort of. :) Here, Cheryl shares the honest ins and outs of crowdfunding, how to crush it on Kickstarter and the ways she's scaling her business. On the episode you'll learn: Top 3 tips for a successful Kickstarter campaignWhat works and what doesn't when it comes to crowdfundingWhy launching a new product could be an important extension of your businessThe importance of enrolling people in your vision and your missionThe difference between PR and event management Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please leave us a review and share with your friends! [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sian Morson is a tech superstar, and yet one of the most grounded people you'll ever meet. Sian is founder of the tech company Kollective mobile, which develops apps and web sites for brands. She speaks and lectures at major technology conferences, such as SXSW, she has been featured in Forbes, Wall Street Journal, Ebony and on NPR, and she has been named one of the top women in tech to follow on Twitter. In 2014, Sian launched her latest app, called Cast Beauty, which recommends personalized beauty products based on the weather and your skin and hair type. She's all about supporting other women, especially in her field, and making sure we have a space at the table when it comes to the future of technology. On the episode you'll learn: The importance of travel and exploration – personally and in your businessChanges in the mobile tech industry.3 Tips for launching a successful app.When it may be best to fire your clientsWhat being in business teaches you about patternsShow notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please leave us a review and share with your friends! [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Say "yes." Spiritual teacher Barbara Biziou has taught me, and thousands of her students around the world (Donna Karan and Gabby Bernstein among them), many things over the years, but one of the most powerful for me is embracing the possibility of "yes." Barbara says we, as creative women looking for experiences, say it far too little. Barbara is a student of global culture and rituals who uses "practical spirituality" to support you in creating an extraordinary life. I met her in 2010 during a time I said "yes" when, after a dinner in NYC, I agreed to walk a friend of mine to one of her events. I had never heard of her – or vision board workshops – but after standing there and hearing what it was all about, I said "yes," even though I didn't know exactly what it was. I've been creating vision boards with Barbara every year ever since – for my personal life and for my business. On the episode you'll learn: While you reap what you sow, it won't grow overnight.Vision boards are not magic.The power of rituals, language and speaking in the present with "I am..."Why you should write down your goals. Write. It. Down.The importance of deciding what you commit to being, giving and doing.How, when you are worried about that big contract, project or opportunity, Barbara's mantra will help set you at ease. Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please leave us a review and share with your friends! [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Karen Taylor Bass is a small business coach who has nearly three decades of experience in strategic public relations, branding and marketing. She has helped gain national press for celebrity clients like Jill Scott and D'Angelo at the starts of their careers and for her personal clients. Karen also has been featured as a PR expert on Dr. Oz, CNN and BET, and in Entrepreneur, Essence and NY Daily News. More than that, Karen is beautifully honest about where she is in her entrepreneurial journey, and the bumps on the road (and on the head), that she encountered to get here. You'll be inspired by her clarity, and moved by her infectious energy! On the episode you'll learn: Why life is like a basketball game—and the changes represent different quartersHow having a coach pushes you to dream bigger and can change your lifeThe important difference between your passion and your giftWhy the goal is quality of clients over quantityThe importance of reinventing yourself – especially for mompreneursWhy boundaries. Matter. Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ Thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please leave us a review and share with your friends! [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

When Amanda Miller Littlejohn was on maternity leave from her journalism job after the birth of her first son in 2008, she was told that she and several other writers were being laid off. Instead of panicking, she decided that this was the perfect opportunity for her to strike on her own and create her own business. The first step was to determine what she was good at, how she could package it, and how to offer it as a service. Her PR agency was born. Today her business has evolved to her coaching individuals on personal branding, and helping them discover their own gifts and package their genius. On this episode, you'll learn: How to find your clients and reach out to themDetermining the needs of your clients and making an emotional connectionHow to package your genius3 Tips for building your personal brandGetting clear on who you are and what you want to be known forWhen it may be time to shift your messageThe importance of taking a moment to stop and celebrate your selfHaving the audacity to follow your dreamsEnjoy, and thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please leave us a review! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Denene Millner can, as she says, write her face off! She is the author and co-author of 25 books -- four of which are New York Times bestsellers, including Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, which she co-wrote with Steve Harvey. In 2016, Denene will release the latest two books she co-authored — the Taraji P. Henson memoir, Around the Way Girl, and Cookie Johnson's Believing In Magic. Her novels, Love Don't Live Here Anymore, In Love & War and A Love Story, were co-written with her Pulitzer Prize-winning husband Nick Chiles, and her novel The Vow (co-authored with Angela Burt-Murray and Mitzi Miller) debuted in 2015 as the Lifetime Television movie, With This Ring, starring Regina P. Hall, Jill Scott, Eve and Gabrielle Union, who was also executive producer. And wait until you hear what she has planned for 2017! Denene, who lives in Atlanta with her husband and their two daughters, is so open in the episode -- beyond her many accomplishments -- and I can't thank her enough. There's so much power in sharing our truth and vulnerability. (Thank you, Denene.) In addition to what you'll learn below, Denene speaks about recognizing her own worthiness, trusting herself and being real about her feelings, plus the importance of choosing to be happy and whole. Trust, you will be inspired. On this episode you'll learn Not to fall victim to the fear that no other opportunities are going to show up if you pass on that current "good thing."Why writing is way more than putting words on a pageWhat your duty is as a writerDoing what entrepreneurs do when they don't see what they need in the market – they create their own!The power of evolving and recognizing your worthinessand Why Taraji P. Henson will always be known as Yvette!!! J Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ Enjoy, and thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please leave us a review! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Kaira Akita is an artist, thinker and maker. As an actress, she has appeared in films such as Tyler Perry's Why Did I Get Married? and The Family That Preys, and she is a creative who writes, produces, directs and designs several projects. More than that, Kaira is, as she says, "always unfolding," and her vision for what she wants to create in this world continues to evolve. On this episode you'll learn: The importance of knowing your authentic self and how that affects your workThe parts of Hollywood that thrives on fearHow understanding that what you think is "wrong" with you is actually makes you, youBeing aware of whether you're being committed to a false identity of yourselfThe importance of doing self work (something that I am a big proponent of)Getting comfortable in what Kaira calls the "inspired interim" Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at www.elaynefluker.com/podcast Enjoy, and thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please leave us a five-star review! [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ouidad is a name synonymous with curly hair care. 30-plus years ago, however, she was a hairstylist from Beruit, Lebanon, who fought (literally in some cases!) to have people recognize the value and beauty of women with curly hair. In 1984, she became a pioneer in the hair care industry when she opened the first salon in the United States that was exclusively for curly hair. People told her she was crazy, what they didn't realized was that she was determined. Since then, Ouidad has created a trademarked cutting technique for curly air, opened hundreds of salons around the country, and has a line of beloved hair care products that are top-rated by her customers and by many beauty and hair editors. Now, after 30 years in the business, Ouidad is focused on giving back and sharing her wisdom and support with entrepreneurs around the world, including the Support is Sexy audience! On this episode you'll learn: The challenges and rewards of traveling the unpaved road as a pioneer in your industryWorking with a partner—especially a spouse—and how to draw those important linesExpanding your brand by creating productsThe importance of your commitment to asking for supportThe value of integrity, and why it's a state of mind Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ Enjoy, and thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please leave us a review! [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Lynnette Khalfani Cox a.k.a. The Money Coach®, is a personal finance expert, television and radio personality, and the author of numerous books, including the New York Times bestseller Zero Debt: The Ultimate Guide to Financial Freedom. Lynnette once had $100,000 in credit card debt, before paying it all off in three years and turning her financial life around. Since then, she has appeared on such shows as The Oprah Winfrey Show, Steve Harvey, The Today Show, Dr. Phil and Good Morning America sharing her success story and teaching millions about proper money management. And I've had the great pleasure of working with her when I was executive editor of a financial web site. She is such a joy and truly brilliant! On this episode you'll learn: How a layoff may be just the push you need to start your businessThe powerful lessons Lynnette learned about branding and entrepreneurship from her dad, who was an actor and shoe shine manHow to set boundaries if you are in business with your spouse and the very real compromises you should discussWays to ensure that if the business fails, the marriage will notWhy debt is reaching record-breaking highs and what Lynnette plans to do about itSome of the biggest money mistakes that entrepreneurs makeAlso, a special thank you to you, Lynnette, for sharing a personal side of yourself that we don't necessarily see on CNBC or in the Wall Street Journal when you're giving us all of that awesome financial advice. I so appreciate you for sharing your journey, and know so many will be inspired! Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ Enjoy, and thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please leave us a review! [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Visit Lynnette at AskTheMoneyCoach.com, her free financial advice site for consumers. DISCOUNT FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY LISTENERS: Sign up for Lynnette's brand new video course on Winning College Scholarships and get 50% off! The course is designed to help students -- and their parents -- get free money for college and avoid student loans. FOLLOW THE LINK TO "WINNING COLLEGE SCHOLARSHIPS" ABOVE TO UDEMY.COM AND USE THE CODE: SUPPORTISSEXY Coupon Code: SUPPORTISSEXY Her NY Times bestselling book: Zero Debt: The Ultimate Guide to Financial Freedom. Her latest book: College Secrets: How to Save Money, Cut College Costs, and Graduate Debt Free Follow Lynette… Twitter: @TheMoneyCoach Facebook: TheMoneyCoach Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

JLove Calderon is a social entrepreneur, activist, author and conscious media maker, who has spent more than two decades working on issues of social justice, race and gender. She is an executive producer of documentaries and docu-series, and she is co-executive producer of the new series "M1 The Message." JLove is also a speaker, transformational strategist and coach, who helps people get out their dreams. I met JLove last year at an event and was immediately drawn to her, how down to earth she is, and how committed she is to seeing you win! On this episode, she openly shares her truly harrowing journey with you--from being down with the Crips as a teenager to creating conscious content for television today--so you can boldly go after your own dreams no matter your circumstance. Another thing to love about JLove? She does not mince words. She speaks frankly and candidly about her journey, and we thank her for that! But if you have sensitive ears in the room, go ahead and pop those earbuds in. On this episode you'll learn: Making the choice to change3 Ps of social entrepreneurshipWhat is conscious content and how to use it to challenge the status quoHow to create content that's smart AND sexyAligning your passion with your purposeWhy you can't just be an artist -- you need to handle your business!Difference between compromising and getting CREATIVE!Show notes, links, contacts and resources for this episode may be found at http://elaynefluker.com/podcast/ Enjoy, and thank you for listening! And hey, if you love it, please leave us a review! [Music: "Someone Else's Memories" by Revolution Void] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast hosted by Elayne Fluker! Finally, a place where women can get real about their entrepreneurial journeys! Monday through Friday, Elayne interviews smart and successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share true stories of how they are handling their business, loving their lives and inspiring you to do the same. On this first episode, Elayne shares a little about her 20-year background in media, the ups and downs of her own entrepreneurial journey and why she wanted to create a podcast for YOU that is all about women supporting women by boldly telling our stories and being transparent about the wins and the whoa-I'm-never-doing-that-again moments of entrepreneurship! Her goal is to have guests who will give you actionable strategies for success, tips for building your support network, pitfalls to avoid and important lessons learned that will motivate you to take your business, and your life, to the next level! Make sure to subscribe to the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, then visit elaynefluker.com, sign up for our email for updates and inspiration, and always remember: having it all doesn't mean doing it all alone! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices