Strawberry Letter

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 29 year old single female and my dad is a well-known pastor. I moved back home after college and I’ve been a big part of the church family since then. I help out with the youth ministry and I get along well with the youth minister. He is five years older than me and he’s married. The youth minister and I always had great faith-based talks and I looked up to him as a spiritual mentor, until recently.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I prayed and asked God to send me a great man. It took ten long years but my prayers were answered and I got an amazing man. We're getting married this month but there's just one problem. I was taught that you should watch how a man loves and treats his mother because it will show you what kind of man he is. Well, I recently learned that my fiance does not respect his mother at all............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, Four months ago I married the love of my life. So far, our marriage is great. I'm a head chef at a high end restaurant and I love my job, but I work long hours. There are a lot of beautiful single female servers and bartenders that work at the restaurant and it seems like since I got married these women have started to show me a lot of attention. A couple of the girls have asked me to hang out after work. The other day, a girl slid her phone number and address in my pocket and said I was welcome to stop by............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been married to a wonderful man for almost 30 years. He's an excellent father and provider, but over the years I've spent a lot of time alone in my marriage. At one point I was very lonely. There was a lot of love and kindness but no passion. A neighbor and I would talk occasionally and he picked up on my extreme loneliness and saw that I was vulnerable. He used it to his advantage and we ended up having sex. I'm not placing all of the blame on my neighbor because I am a grown woman and I knew better.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm newly married and my husband told me that he was a freak when we started dating. He is loving and supportive, a hard-working family man and a great father, but he is constantly stressing me out over sex. He's an awesome lover but I can’t seem to keep up with his sex drive lately. I guess I’m in an open marriage because I’m sure he’s having sex outside of our marriage. I knew his sex drive was off the charts, but I thought I could handle him.................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Auntie Shirley and Uncle Steve, I have a problem with my real family members, so I want to be your niece instead. Here’s my problem… I’m a 28 year old woman that was raised by three uncles that were like father figures to me and I’m very close to all of them. One of my uncles is getting on my last nerve though. I’m really close with his daughter, my cousin, and she’s sick of him too. We grew up staying at grandma’s house and we watched my uncles have lots of different women around the house............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 42 year old woman and I have been seeing a man for 6 months and we go out several times a week and we’ve started having sex. The intimacy is good, but he was a bit aggressive at first, so I had to get him to settle down a bit. But that’s not the problem I have with him. There are times I can’t reach him and when he’s non-responsive, he tells me he’s out with a friend. It became clear to me who his friend might be, when he invited me to go shopping and I ended up feeling like the third wheel................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, My fiance and I have been together for four years. When we were dating I would sneak and go through his phone to see his text messages and call logs. He didn't have a password on his phone at the time. One day I went through his phone and I found exactly what I was looking for. I saw that my man had been texting his child's mom for a month and the texts to her were sexually explicit. She had sent him multiple pictures of herself and they called each other baby on the messages............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am happily married and my wife and I have two kids. The problem is I have a female friend from college. My female friend is also married with two kids and she lives in another state. We hardly ever see each other, but we do keep in touch. Over 15 years ago, she and I had sex. My wife knows we were intimate in the past because we all went to the same college. The other day I was talking to my friend on the phone, we chatted about reality TV shows, I congratulated her on her anniversary and we talked about our children............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been dating a man for 15 months and we are in a monogamous relationship. He’s 57 years old and I’m 49 years old and we’re both divorced. We get along well, but I need your advice. This past weekend, I stayed over at his house on Friday night, all day Saturday and Saturday night. On Sunday morning, we woke up and cooked breakfast and then we lounged around and watched football. He got up and changed his clothes and told me he was headed to the gym. I thought it would be the perfect time to take a nap before I cooked dinner............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married for 13 years and 6 years ago my husband cheated on me and had a child by the lady he had an affair with. I had a hard time getting past this, but I did. We went to counseling and now I have a sweet stepdaughter to spoil. That happiness lasted a short period of time, because three years later, my husband cheated again................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hello Steve and Shirley, I need your advice on an issue between my husband and I. We have been married for a year and he’s a wonderful husband, but we are not seeing eye to eye on how he reacts to well-endowed women. When we were dating, he always had a thing for admiring women in my presence. He didn’t care if they had two heads, but if they had big boobies or a big ole butt, his head was on the swivel and he would just stare. Lucky for him, I’m not insecure and I never made a big deal of it............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, my mother and I are very close and live together. We recently relocated to a new city a few months ago because of my new job. My mother is retired and loves to go play bingo and she goes to the casino weekly. She also likes to date and entertain men that are too young for her. My mother is in her late 60s and I’m in my late 40s. The guy is 36 years old and they spend a great deal of time together. He’s a cook at the bingo hall that she goes to and she says they hit it off instantly............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I really need your help and advice with an embarrassing problem. I’m a 28 year old, healthy black male and I am single. Since I was 14 years old, I have been having frequent erections. I have been to several urologists and a specialist and each doctor told me that I’m completely normal. I have talked to my male friends and older men and they all say that it does not sound normal but it also does not sound like a big problem................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 28 year old female and I have a 57 year old male mentor that I work with. He has given me great advice and helped me through some obstacles in my life. This is the first man that has ever treated me with respect and did not try to sleep with me. He is like a father figure to me and I call myself his play daughter. The only problem is his wife. He knew that I did not have any plans for Thanksgiving dinner, so he invited me to his home. He never talked much about his wife, but I figured she would be just as sweet as he was.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have a problem and I've been praying over it for years but I can’t seem to get over it. I married a man when I was 26 years old and he was 41 years old. We had a great married life, a nice big home and three lovely children. I thought our fairytale would never end, but it did. We were married for 8 years and on his birthday, he asked me for a divorce and served me papers. I was shocked that he already had the papers drawn up. Six months after our divorce was final, my sister gave birth to a beautiful baby girl................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hello Shirley and Steve, I am a 20 year old black woman who comes from a very loving and caring family that carries themselves in a very classy and respectful way. I’ve been taught since I was a little girl that men will treat you the way you allow them to treat you. I am coming to you all because I need help. I can’t find a man that wants to be in serious relationship with me and I know about 90 percent of the blame can be put on me................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 30 year old beautiful and successful woman and I’m in love with a 44 year old, well-educated hunk that swept me off of my feet. When I met him, he told me that he was seeing someone in a long-distance relationship, but I still started dating this man, despite the news. After six months of dating, I did some research and found out that he proposed to this woman and she has set a wedding date. I never confronted him about it but it tore me apart emotionally............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 28 year old wife and mother. My husband is 32. We’ve been together 10 years and got married 2 years ago. I don’t have any major complaints about my marriage, but my husband’s behavior is kind of strange lately. My husband and I met in college and we did what college couples do, we had sex every day or as much as we could. Now that I’m older and we have more responsibilities, I’m too tired to have sex everyday or as often as I’d like to............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a loving and respectable married man that likes to flirt. My wife knows I’m a flirt and she just tolerates it because she knows nobody else wants me. I flirt occasionally at work and it gets me a couple of laughs and eyebrows raised and the ladies flirt back. I have a real-life work wife that I work closely with and my wife has met her so it’s no big deal. What my wife did not know is that my work wife really likes me, but she respects the fact that I’m married. We have younger interns that work with us seasonally............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m just going to jump right in and get to it. I’m married and he’s married. We both have families. I have 3 kids and he has 4 kids. One of my kids is his. Our affair had been going on for 11 years and now we have a 2 year old son. He left me when I told him that I was pregnant. We both agreed for me to terminate the pregnancy, but he refused to give me the money, so I changed my mind because deep down I wanted another child. I know it’s his son but he questioned it............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 30 year old married woman and my husband and I need your advice on an issue with our closest friends. Our friends are first time parents and their daughter is a toddler now. Since the child was born, we’ve been in a group text with the couple and 15 other people. My husband and I both hate text groups, but we humored the couple because they are really nice people. The couple started the group chat so they could send us pictures of their newborn daughter........... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been in a long-distance relationship with a great guy for the past six years. We live an hour apart so it’s not far at all and we see each other regularly. When we spend time together, it’s wonderful and we have a lot of sex to make up for the times we’re apart. Although we have a lot of sex, it is never the romantic experience that I crave, because I’ve never seen my man naked from the waist down. I have never touched any part of his body, from the waist down. He will let me rub on his chest and that’s it........... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley,I’m in my late 50s and I’m still a bachelor. I don’t have a problem meeting beautiful women and I don’t have a problem getting the cookie. I own a carpet business so I’m the person that goes to the customer’s home to do the initial meeting and get measurements. Three months ago, I went to a customer’s house and she was gorgeous.... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 35 year old woman dating a 41 year old man. We’ve been dating for about 5 months and we had sex a few times before we actually decided to be in a relationship. The sex was always normal, nothing out of the ordinary and after the encounter, we wouldn’t talk for a while. Now we live together and I have come to realize that this man is a straight up nympho. It doesn't matter what I'm doing, every time we're in the bedroom at the same time, he is ready to get it on. He will drop everything he's doing just to get a little something............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have two children with my high school sweetheart. We both come from seriously dysfunctional families and we were all each other had. Shortly after we graduated, I got incarcerated for 18 months on a drug possession charge. During this time, my kid's mother met an older guy and he began to take care of her and my kids. He bought her a new car and moved her and the kids into an upscale apartment. I’m not a fool, so I know there was give and take in this situation, but I was locked up, so what could I say? I’ve been out of jail for about 9 months and he has continued to cover all of my family’s expenses.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married for 7 years and we have two young children. After having my second child, my desire to have sex decreased and it was a big problem in my marriage. My husband is a great dad and my best friend so I felt bad for him. I started back having sex with him, but I was never really into it like I had been in the past. I confided in my sister because she has a newborn too. Her child’s father broke up with her while she was pregnant, so she’s going through her own issues. I wanted to support my sister, so I told her to go out with her girls and I would babysit for her............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I am engaged to a 63 year old man that acts a lot older than he is. His thoughts on sex and life in general shock me and I need some advice. I’m only 59 years old and I still enjoy sex and have tried to be patient with my man. He thinks I’m a freak because I try to initiate sex daily. He likes to grind and do a lot of kissing, but we rarely go all the way. I like to take care of him in other ways, if you know what I mean, but when it comes to me, he says that his mouth is designed to eat food and nothing else.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been married a little over a year now and this is my second marriage. Since the wedding, my husband and I had been searching for a new church home that we mutually agreed on. We visited churches and settled at a church close to our home, with a good stern pastor. We loved his preaching style and felt really welcome there, until one Sunday when the pastor’s message was so crazy that it sent my husband into a frenzy................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I need your help. I am 27 years old and I have lived with my fiancé for two years. We bought our first house together and everything was great until recently, when my fiancé’s brother moved in with us temporarily. His brother is going through a divorce and he has lived with everyone in the family. He’s worn out his welcome everywhere, so I didn’t mind him staying with us for a couple of weeks till he got on his feet. The couple of weeks have turned into two months and I want him out of our house. He is the nastiest man I have ever seen............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve worked with a guy for over 6 years and over time, we became attracted to each other. We went out a few times and had several passionate kisses, but nothing more. He explained to me that he is in a dead-end marriage for 20 years and he lives in an apartment in the city and his wife lives in their house in the suburbs. I am divorced and my grown kids live with me. The married guy and I enjoy each other’s company but I told him we can’t have sex until he’s divorced. He says he loves and respects me, so it’s not a problem............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been dealing with an older man for a year. He’s 66 years old and I’m 30 years old, so I guess you can call him my sugar daddy. I also have a boyfriend that is my age. We’ve been dating for three years and he knows about the older guy and he doesn’t mind, because I told him that he is my uncle. The older guy takes me to and from work every day because my boyfriend works an overnight shift. The older man gives me tons of money and pays my cell phone bill and my boyfriend never has questioned it............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I recently met a wonderful man and we instantly had a connection. I am a widow and his wife died earlier this year. When we met, he looked familiar to me, but I thought that it was just a coincidence. After a few dates, we talked more about his wife that had died and he told me her name. I knew his wife and when I put two-and-two together, I realized why he was so familiar to me. His deceased wife was the sister of one of my good friends.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 36yr old female in a long-distance relationship with a man in his early 40s. Things are good between us, and honestly, I am ready to take things to the next level. I only have one problem and I’m hesitant to move to his hometown if he can’t fix the problem. We have been in a committed relationship for 2 years and when we are intimate, he is very gentle and loving in the bedroom. He has kept this same routine the entire time. He does not do anything freaky or exotic and he’s very passionate.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married for 17 years to a man who I thought was trustworthy, honest and a good Christian man. We are both in our 40s and been together for 25 years total. For the last 4 years, he has been friends with a basic girl that he met at work. I call her basic because that’s what she is. I always have expressed how displeased I am with their friendship, but he insisted that I was worrying for no reason. We hung out with her and her basic husband often and my husband always made me feel like I was crazy for being suspicious of this friendship................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have a problem that’s bugging me. My husband has always been attracted to big butts and a smile, and his girls before me were very ratchet. Recently, he’s been telling me that he is taking “odd jobs” across town for extra money. He’s a carpenter by trade and a handyman on the side. I haven’t seen any of the “extra” money, so I got suspicious. I know he likes the company of other women, but I thought that was in his past. Well one evening when I was lying in bed, I noticed a few black spots on his pillow and along the top of our bed........... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 52 year old woman and I need for my best friend to have an open mind. I’ve known her for most of my life and she’s divorced with a grown son. Her son was raised by her ex-husband so I have not spent a lot of time with her son. I was having dinner with my best friend and joined us for dinner to say hello. He sat with us briefly and talked about his dance studio in town and since I love to dance, I was intrigued by him. He told us about his new Latin dance classes.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am in a crazy love triangle and I met my man through his wife. She was supposed to be my best friend but we always argued over stupid stuff and then finally had a big blow out and stopped talking. The entire time, our other friends tried to get us to be friends again, but nothing worked. I ran into my best friend’s husband one day and he told me that it’s best to end the friendship because his wife never really liked me to begin with.......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I attend a prominent mega church and I’m very active in my church. The church threw a back-to-school bash for the children at the church and we had a pool party in our indoor pool. I volunteered to help around the pool and watch the smaller kids. Shirley, I have been losing weight for the last year and I wanted to show off my body in my swimsuit, but with a nice coverup on over my swimsuit. My husband told me I was going too far by wearing it to the church event, but I wasn’t showing any body parts.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I got a divorce four years ago and I gave myself time to heal so I would not go into a new relationship with baggage. A year ago, I met a great guy and we fell for each other quickly. He paid all of my bills and he was super attentive to my needs. We went on two lavish trips and he promised me that we would travel the world together. He attended my church often and we prayed together. This man was so good, he even did most of the cooking......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have a friend that can be self-centered and a bit loose when it comes to men. We’ve been friends for 13 years but I’ve never had an issue with her until recently. She likes to flirt with other women’s men and boasts that she can take any man from his woman. I just never thought it would happen to me. I started seeing a new guy and he invited me to a house party so I invited my friend to meet us there......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a divorced 58 year old black woman dating a 61 year old white man that I met on a dating website for black people. I thought it was strange that he was on a site that is for blacks, but I guess he likes what he likes. This man fell head over heels for me on the first date. He got up and kissed me at least four times that night, while we were at dinner. Since then, he sends me texts throughout the day, at least 10 a day, to tell me he is thinking about me and he misses me............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I met a man at church recently when he was visiting from out of town. He lives three hours away from me so in the beginning, we enjoyed video chatting and talking on the phone for hours. After only two months, we really like each other and want to spend all of our time together. He is ready to take our relationship to the next level and he is planning to move to the city I live in. We are an older couple so we don’t want to waste time by talking on the phone all the time...................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 31 year old single woman and I met the man of my dreams two years ago on a dating website. He lives in Tampa and I live in Philadelphia. A few months after we met online, he came to visit me. I immediately noticed that he lied about his height. He's short. He is an inch or two shorter than me and I like tall men. I had hoped he looked a little bit better than his pictures online, but he looks exactly the same in person. He’s not handsome at all................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 29 year old single guy and I have been attracted to a 27 year old beautiful woman for 4 months and I finally got the nerve to ask for her number. When I met her, I did everything in my power to sweep her off of her feet. I am a police officer and I work the night shift, so I’m home during the day. She is my mail carrier and it was an instant attraction when I saw her. I wait each day for her to come by.......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 36 year old single woman and my new next door neighbor has me concerned. She's a pretty girl in her late twenties and she was nice enough when I met her. Here’s my problem. Her bedroom window faces my bedroom window so I have to keep my blinds closed for privacy. She always keeps her window cracked and night after night, usually during the week, I can hear very loud moans and whimpers coming from next door............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 50 year old with 3 children and I have been married for 14 years. All of the children are grown and are on their own, so my husband and I have the house to ourselves. I love my alone time with my husband, but his sister is causing big problems in our marriage. His sister gets on my last nerve. She is an unstable mother and she drops her kids off at my house with no warning............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, For the past five years I've been dating a man that is nine years older than me and I really love our relationship and how well he treats me. I recently started living with him and I have a problem that I need your help with. My boyfriend loves to get a big bowl of ice cream most evenings as a treat after dinner. I try not to be overbearing because he could be drinking alcohol or have another bad habit, but his ice cream addiction is killing me slowly. You see my boyfriend is lactose intolerant, therefore, I cannot sleep peacefully in the bed with him at night.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.