Strawberry Letter

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 32 year old female currently dating a 35 year old male and we’ve known each other for years. When he was married, I was his sidepiece. When he got divorced, I was married and he was my sidepiece. I got divorced and we decided it was time to stop playing games and become a couple. We got together and made it official four months ago. He is everything I ever wanted in a man but he has some trust issues................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and it was really good for the first year. We spent a lot of quality time together and got to know each other by going on great dates. Now that we’ve been together a while and he’s started saying that he loves me, he feels it’s enough to make me happy. He won’t do the things he did in the beginning. I don’t get flowers anymore and he doesn’t take me to lunch like he used to................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, this is my fourth time writing you so I pray you respond this time. My daughter is leaving home for college in the fall and I’ll be an empty nester. I got divorced 12 years ago so mama is single and ready to mingle. I’ve been praying for God to send me a man and then I heard your show one morning and you were talking to your longtime friend that’s on the show about how he needs a woman.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a young, healthy and wise beyond my years single woman, that is a leader to my peers. At my young age, I have found the most handsome and amazing man of my dreams. He is respectful, has a great job, a beautiful home and he treats me like a queen. But here is the problem… well, it’s not a problem for us, it’s more of a problem for our friends and family. I am 22 years old and he is 42 years old. Now I know you are also shocked by our age difference, but I love him and believe age has nothing to do with it........... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I really need your advice for this issue I’m having. I have fallen for someone that I have never met in person. I have heard him speak almost everyday and I'm not sure if he is single, but I would love to meet him in person. I am single and ready to mingle with him if he is available. This guy makes my toes curl when I hear his voice and the icing on the cake is that he is very funny and quite handsome................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Good morning Steve and Shirley, I am 50 year old divorced lady with a 28 year old lover. We’ve been together for two years but I met him when he was in college with my son. He came home a few weekends with my son and he started calling me mom back then. After college, he continued to hang out at the house with my son, so I got used to him being around. Well on Easter Sunday, 2017, things changed in an instant, when he rubbed up against me in the kitchen and I felt some kind of way............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband acts like an absolute child at times and I can’t deal with it. It’s like having a third child and I am so tired of him embarrassing me. The most recent incident went down over the weekend at my Pastor’s house. We were invited to a barbeque and the pastor was a little late because of a wedding he had to do. There was plenty of food on the grill and we always let the elders of the church eat first. The first lady fixed the pastor a plate and sat it to the side and covered it with saran wrap............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 55 year old mother of 3 handsome boys. My youngest son is getting married, but I have an issue with his fiancé and I feel very guilty about it. I hate to be rude, but the girl he is marrying is just not that attractive at all. I know it’s none of my business because he’s the one that has to live with her, but my son is very handsome and I feel like he could do a lot better................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 39 year old Latino woman, married to a 53 year old black man. We’ve been together for 7 years and we’ve been married for 3 years. We met at church and we’re both in the church choir. When we started dating, I saw an edgier side of him. He rode a motorcycle, drank Hennessey on the weekends and he cursed whenever he talked to his friends. It was different from the church man I met, but I liked it. He told me that he didn’t want to scare me away because I was his queen.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am in my early 30s and I'm dealing with a guy in his mid 30s. We hung out for a couple of months and he was ready to get serious, which meant it was time for me to give up the cookie. From the time I met him, I had a problem with his so-called best friend, who is a female. I’ve tried to understand the relationship and he says it’s nothing, but she spends the night at his house and he will stay at her house................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been with my girlfriend for 10 years and we’re having our first major issue. When I met my girlfriend, she was new in town, so I introduced her to my group of friends and their wives. There are 4 couples that hang out and we’ve all known each other since college. The wives were all nice enough to my girlfriend but they’ve never included her in “girls night out” or invited her to brunch with them................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 27 year old woman and I have a 1 year old son. I met his father almost 2 years ago. When we met, I assumed he was single because he approached me and spent a lot of uninterrupted time with me. Come to find out, he has been in a relationship for 8 years. It was too late to cut him off because I was already pregnant. We argued over and over again about how he lied to me and he said he never lied, he just didn’t tell me that he had a girlfriend.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married for 25 years and last weekend, my wife and I took a road trip to see my wife’s dad. My wife’s mom passed away 3 years ago so her dad is still adjusting to being alone. Her dad was so happy to see us and he asked my wife to cook his favorite dinner. So when my wife started cooking, my father-in-law slipped outside and was talking to an older lady that had pulled up.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, you are not going to believe this. I am 30 years old and my longtime girlfriend has an identical twin sister. I can barely tell them apart sometimes. They both have short curly afros, they both have dimples in both cheeks and their bodies are the same. My girlfriend and her twin love to prank me and confuse me since they look so much alike. Their little pranking went too far and now I want in on the fun.......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married for 15 years and my husband is an associate pastor. He has office hours at the church and the church secretary is there from 9am-5pm. I started working part-time because I wanted to buy new furniture. I work in an artsy area of town at a craft store and there are several restaurants in the area. On 2 separate occasions, my husband called me to say he’d be in the area having lunch with some people from church................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, 2 years ago, I met the man of my dreams and he loves me, motivates me, and we can’t get enough of each other sexually. We've been talking about marriage and starting a family soon. There’s just one problem. Recently, I’d been thinking a lot about my ex-boyfriend and I decided to call to see how he’s been doing. I also wanted to let him know that I’d found happiness again............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m in my early 50s and my husband and I have been married for 7 years. Since the beginning of our union, he knows that I’m able to manage all of our household expenses and he has taken advantage of it. I’ve funded a lot of hair-brained business schemes he’s invested in and lost a lot of money fooling with him. He’s had a string of jobs in leadership positions that I’ve helped him get, but the longest he’s stayed at one company is two years.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I was in a relationship with a man for 6 months, but we fell in love quickly and we were living together. He is 36 and I’m 31. He was going through a divorce when we met so I made him wait until the papers were signed before we had sex. He told me that his wife divorced him because he cheated on her multiple times. He told me that he cheated, simply cause his wife had stopped having sex with him............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, a while back I met a man on a dating app and it was supposed to be just a one-night stand. He came over and we had the most explosive sex! After that, we talked all night. He lives out of town and when he got back home, we talked daily and spent hours getting to know each other. He came back to visit me because he was dying to have sex with me.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley I’m a 32 year old married woman and I’d normally never write in to you, but I heard you cover a topic that I’m going through so I’m turning to you for help. It’s about an issue I’ve been having with my husband since the quarantine began. He and I were having sex more than usual and it was getting boring. I wanted to spice things up with role-playing.......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 40 year old black man with a lot of weight in my community. I’m a very well-known businessman and former professional football player. I’ve been married for 10 years and I have 3 children. My wife is very sweet and we never argue or have any issues with our children. Everything is great, except for our sex life. My wife is a good woman that is very reserved in the bedroom............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m 29 years old and my boyfriend is 30 and he’s an idiot. We have been together for 4 years and his ex-girlfriend and I were close friends before her man chose to be with me instead of her. I might have been wrong for dating him, but it felt like the right thing to do at the time. In the beginning, she tried to fight me 3 times and she showed up at my job once and I had her arrested. About a year ago, she started dating a new guy and she left us alone............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m 40 years old and my boyfriend is a 45 year old, successful businessman. He’s divorced and has one kid from his marriage. We’ve been dating for 7 months and I love his kid and I get along well with his ex-wife. A few weeks ago, his ex and I were chatting in the driveway when she dropped their child off. She asked me if my boyfriend had revealed his big secret to me yet. I asked her what she was talking about and she assured me that it wasn’t about him cheating or anything like that, but it’s very strange and it was the cause of their divorce. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband and I got married in January and I relocated to be with him, after the wedding. We dated for 2 years in a long-distance relationship before we got married. When I moved in with him, I found out he has a split personality. To my surprise, he used cocaine recreationally and he’s a binge drinker. I never saw this side of him when we were dating. The truth came out on our wedding day. He started drinking mid-day and looked like he was high.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been in a relationship for almost two years and when I think about the things this man has shown me sexually and mentally, I am floored. He literally takes my breath away. But there are a few problems with our relationship. We’ve never spent a night together and I’ve never met his family, except for his twin daughters and their mother. It was a quick “Hi” and “Bye” when we ran into them at Target.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a single female and I moved to a new city 3 years ago, for a new job. I did not have any family or friends in the city, but I instantly bonded with a male co-worker and we’ve become really close. He was really great at helping me get settled and showing me around town. He has a girlfriend of 8 years and a child and I’ve always respected that. We would get flirty here and there but it was always harmless, at first............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 37 year old divorced man and I'm in a one hell of a situation. I have a 5 year old son that has a lot of health issues, so my ex-wife and I decided it was best if we were all on lockdown together. I have custody of my son but she helps me out a lot with his medical care, so she moved back in with us temporarily. Everything was cool at first, but by mid-April, my ex was up to her old tricks............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 37 year old man and I’m in love with the perfect woman and I want to marry her. I am financially secure and I love taking care of my family. I bought a new home 5 years ago and I made sure I had a separate space for my mother to live comfortably. She has her own entrance from the garage, so she’s still independent. She does most of the cooking and I am happy to have her with me............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 29 year old female in a confusing dating situation. We’ve been dating for almost 2 years but I waited for 4 months before we had sex, to make sure his last relationship was totally over. He has 3 kids by three different women, but the youngest child’s mother has been a problem in our relationship. My boyfriend lived with her when we met, but now he lives inside his RV, that’s parked in her driveway.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 45 year old black man. My fiancé is 56 and she’s a great woman, but I’m worried about marriage. We like to kick back and relax and drink wine and alcohol. It depends on our mood, so sometimes it’s wine and sometimes it’s the hard stuff. We pretty much drink every day after work. I’m more relaxed and mellow when I’ve had a few drinks, but she is the opposite of me. She likes to get angry, cuss and fuss and bring up a bunch of old stuff, trying to start an argument................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been in a relationship for 5 years with a man that thinks we are exclusive. I’m in my late forties and my sex drive has been through the roof lately. My boyfriend is 53 and he’s a beast in the bedroom, but he’s not enough for me and he’s not as kinky as he should be. For the first time in my life, I am a cheater. I’ve been having sex with a 30 year old neighbor and it is fun and spontaneous and he gives me the fire that I desire. This is not the only man I’m seeing on the side though............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 38-year-old married woman and my husband and I have lived downtown in a nice condo for the past six years. We get along well with all of our neighbors but a couple months ago, a single young man moved into the condo next door to us and now we’re having a big issue with him. Since we’ve all been quarantined, our neighbor has been into porn and it’s driving my husband and I crazy.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been dating someone special for four months and so far, he is amazing. He loves the Lord and he has a great personality and a great career. When we first started dating he did not want to rush sex, so we waited a little beyond 90 days to become lovers. Since things were going so great, I took him to meet my parents. He fit in like a glove and they both told me that he just might be the one for me.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been dating a guy for six months and he’s one of the sweetest men that I have ever met. This weekend, he disclosed some information to me and I need your opinion. He and I met when I moved out of my condo. He was the supervisor of the moving company that I used and he was very professional and handsome, so when he asked me out, I accepted. We started out as friends and now we’re in relationship................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am the pretty young thing that wrote you about my lover that is the same age as my father. I took Shirley’s advice and asked my lover if the relationship was going anywhere or if it was just a fling. He told me that in due time our relationship would get to the next level. I didn’t like his answer, so I broke it off with him. Two days later, he sent flowers to my job and my house. I still ignored him.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 27 year old single female and I’m in need of advice. I’ve had a male best friend since high school and he is an active duty officer in the military. He’s been away for nine months and he came home in April. He got married while he was stationed in Hawaii and I was excited to meet his new wife and to see him. He planned a small welcome home party in the backyard and it was just like old times............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m ready to call off my engagement but I need your advice first. My fiancé and I are both divorced and our first marriages were terrible. I’ve been working on my issues so I can be a better wife this time. My fiancé, on the other hand, does not think he has anything to work on, but he admitted to cheating on his first wife, so he’s got some baggage. Now after 5 years of being with him, I think he’s cheating on me............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m 22 years old and I recently graduated from college, so I’m quarantined at my parents’ house. They have been married for 37 years and the marriage has been rocky since I was a little girl, but they are still together. My father works out of the country for two months every year, so that gives my mother a break from him. In late March, I found out that my father was not only working while he was overseas, he had started a whole new life............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband and I are having some real marital issues right now and I blame it on Covid-19. We haven’t been stuck together for this long, without being able to go to work or to play tennis or go shopping. My husband says I irritate him all day long and I’m sick of seeing him sitting up all day watching TV. We had a big fight that got really ugly and as my husband left the room, he mumbled that he couldn’t wait to get back to his baby. I asked him to repeat it, but he wouldn’t.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband and I have been married for 15 years and we have 2 children. I was helping my daughter with a home school video 3 weeks ago and my husband’s phone is top of the line so I was using it. I saved the video and when I went in to edit it, I saw a lot of pictures of breasts, booties and feet in my husband’s phone. It seems that I’m married to a real creep that randomly takes pictures of women when they are not looking...................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I can hardly believe what I’m about to tell you and I need some advice. I have been with my girl for almost 3 years and I proposed to her. Her family lives out of state so I have not interacted with them much, but her mom comes to visit often and we get along very well. Her father is deceased and she is an only child. Since we’re getting married, we’ve been talking more about family dynamics and how we were raised................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I am torn to pieces over my breakup. I was dating an old friend for two years. I am 52 and he is 45. We talked about marriage and we were in the process of buying a home. We were a picture perfect couple and then things started changing. I would see him throughout the week and on weekends, but, lately he has been busy on weekends............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 25 year old female that has been dating a 55 year old man for 2 years. He is the same age as my father and he’s very established and he takes good care of me. He has 3 children that are around my age and they don’t seem to have a problem with us dating. I don’t want to have any kids and he doesn’t want anymore, so that’s not an issue............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I hope my husband is listening today because I have a problem with him and he thinks it’s no big deal. My problem is that my husband is obsessed with an ex-girlfriend that he dated 35 years ago. She was very beautiful and popular when she was in high school and he was the star football player. When he went off to college, she married a wealthy older guy that owned several businesses in town. Then she moved to Texas and my husband lost contact with her..................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 30-year-old man and my wife is 28. I was recently laid off due to the pandemic, so money has been a little tight. Because of it, my wife is making me feel like less than a man. We have a 2 year old child and she is a stay-at-home mom so I am the sole breadwinner. My wife’s attitude has been horrible for weeks so I have been avoiding her, to avoid arguing with her................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 30 year old divorced female and I’m working on my master’s degree in nursing so I wasn’t focused on dating after my divorce. But, 6 months ago, I met an amazing 25 year old man that was heaven sent! He’s tall, dark and handsome with a nice house, car, and two jobs. He is my everything and he takes good care of me. He pays bills, cooks, cleans, everything. There is just one big problem that I have with him and I need your advice to see if it’s a dealbreaker.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m in love with a woman that has carried herself like a garden tool all of her life. In other words, she’s been “loose” since high school when we started dating. I dated her into my early 20s and after we broke up, I found out that she cheated multiple times. Here we are, 15 years later and she’s married now and she’s cheating on her husband with me. I have a connection with this woman and I can finally admit, after years of fighting it, I am in love with her........................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 28 year old engaged female and my wedding was put on hold because of the pandemic. My fiancé and I are living together for the first time because he thought it would be fun to be quarantined together. I’m very grateful that he moved in because I’m learning a lot about him and it’s quite shocking. He is smart, a great provider and he’s got a great personality, but he is straight from the ghetto and sometimes it’s too much for me to handle............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been with my boyfriend for eleven years and he’s eleven years younger than I am. When we met, I had two children from a previous marriage and he said he always wanted to have his own child with me. Well, we never got around to having children together and now I can’t have kids. I suspected that women his age would eventually get his attention, but I never expected him to cheat on me multiple times................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.