Strawberry Letter

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 53 year old man and I have been married for going on 25 years. My wife and I use to have an active sex life, but for the past few years the magic has been happening less and less and now we do it once or twice a year. I’ve talked to her about it but she always seems to make up excuses. The one I hear the most is that she’s not in the mood because I’ve made her mad about something............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been dating an amazing guy for two years and I feel like I have finally found my future husband. He is great with my kids and my family loves him. I couldn’t have asked for a better man to enter my life, but there’s just problem. It’s his ex-girlfriend that won’t go away. He was honest about a crazy ex that he had a bad breakup with and he’s been trying to end all of the communication with her, but she seems to be slow and does not understand when he says to leave him alone................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I love my husband to death although he and I are different in a lot of ways. They say opposites attract and we are living proof of that. He’s very successful and very frugal to the point that he won’t shop for himself so I have to do it. When I met him, I started shopping with him and for him and he always complained about prices. He’s also a practical man so he likes to have the newest gadgets around the house for repairs and home improvement so he doesn’t have to hire anyone to do it.................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m 36 years old and recently divorced. I met a guy 8 months ago and he just got divorced too. We bonded over our divorce dilemmas and he was open and honest about his breakup. He told me that he was controlling and they had a rough marriage because she liked to fight him and throw stuff at him. He told me that he had to restrain her a lot, but he never laid a finger on her. He told me that he even took a domestic violence class to try to fix his marriage................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m 28 years old and I met a great man a year ago and things progressed quickly in our relationship and it seemed like he was the one. I waited till the 3rd date to have sex with him and it was all of that and more. He’s an amateur boxer and I started going to see him practice and I would join some of his workouts. He was definitely an Alpha male and I felt secure in his arms. After 6 months of dating, he told me that it’s time for us to move in together..................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 29 year old hard working mother of 2 and I’ve been engaged for almost a year. I won’t set a date with this man because he’s not the man I thought he was. My fiancé is for the streets and he’s disrespectful with it. When we first started dating 3 years ago, I developed a great relationship with his mom and sisters but recently they take up for him when he’s messing around on me.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Martell Holt, reality TV star of Love and Marriage Huntsville, on the OWN Network joins us LIVE. Martell is here to get advice on his very public scandal involving infidelity and an impending divorce. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am in a struggle right now and I need a little advice for a big problem. I have a male friend that I’ve known since 1st grade and we’re almost 40 now. I’m divorced and dated a lot of men after my divorce. One day recently, I had a revelation that my soulmate is someone I have known all of my life. My good male friend and I hang out all of the time, but he’s not who I had in mind if I were to date someone I’ve known a long time............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been asked to stand with my friend in his wedding. I’m a female, so I can’t be a groomsman but I’ll be at his side at the wedding. Why am I not a bridesmaid, you ask? The future wife is controlling and she doesn’t want him to keep any of his female friends. My friend and I are so close that he officiated my wedding and now he and my husband are the best of friends. I’ve had mixed feelings from the beginning about this wedding so it’s no secret that I don’t think it will last........................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, My fiance and I have been together for a while but we don't live in the same city so we do everything we can to keep the spice in our relationship. We send flirty texts and explicit pictures and when we're together it is on and poppin'. The texts and pictures we send are so raunchy, risque and vulgar that a pornstar would blush. We can't help it.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 44 year old married woman and we have new neighbors across the street. They moved in during the pandemic, so we see them in passing, but we haven’t formally met them. Two Saturdays ago, I was upstairs reading and resting. Our bedroom is on the front of the house and I had the windows raised so I could feel the breeze. I kept hearing noises like there was a wounded animal close by, so I asked my husband to check the front yard.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been married 2 years to a man that is my everything. Things were great for the past 2 years but now the marriage may be over. I found out that I’m married to a prostitute! A week ago, my husband and I went to purchase two new tires for my car. My husband claimed he was testing out the new tires and he sped out of the parking lot and onto a service road. There was a policeman on the lot, so he flashed his lights for my husband to pull over. I thought my husband would get a warning for speeding or a speeding ticket................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I need your help on how to resolve a big mess with one of my girlfriends. I have a non- profit organization for homeless women and I provide clothing and toiletries for the ladies. I’ve been using part of my living room to sort donations. An old friend of mine recently lost weight and donated her old clothes to my organization. I went by her house to pick up the items and I was happy to see that she had two big black garbage bags full of clothes.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband's father just passed away so we went to his parents’ home to make the arrangements with his mother and his sisters. With everything that his mother and sisters wanted for the funeral, it was going to be over $35,000. His father did not have life insurance, so the $35,000 would be coming from the family’s pockets. My mother passed away 5 months prior and I received a nice lump sum of money. Because my husband knew I had the money, he sat there and told his mother and sisters that ‘we’ would pay for everything......................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 31 year old married woman and my marriage is basically over. A year ago, a 24 year old female called me and said she’d been sleeping with my husband and sent me a picture of him in her bed. Right after that, I had to be quarantined with this man, so I made the best of it. By December, I had started having virtual counseling sessions with my pastor. He was one of the first to be vaccinated in our community, so he encouraged me to do face-to-face sessions................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I met the love of my life 7 years ago and I was 21 years old at the time. He’s 3 years older than me and had already had a child. He was my first everything and he influenced everything I did. I overlooked a lot of things he did because I was young and crazy in love. He would be intimate with the mother of his child and he didn’t try to hide it. It made me feel like I wasn’t good enough or skilled enough at sex because he kept on having sex with her............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m 38 and I married my beautiful wife 5 years ago. We both have great jobs and we bought a big house for our family. When we got married, she came with 3 kids and her nephew that she’s raising for her sister. No problem, I did not have children and I loved being a father all of a sudden. I have a job that involves a lot of travel and for the past year, I’ve been out working overseas and I came home as much as possible.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been married for 2 years and when I met my husband four years ago, he had just gotten divorced and he was in a bitter custody battle with his ex-wife. His daughter is very sweet and she loves her dad, but the ex-wife is dead set on her not having a relationship with her dad. When we met, he had to limit communication with his ex because she told everybody he kept calling her to work things out and he wanted his family back............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 36 year old married woman and my husband just turned 40 so we went on a weekend getaway to Las Vegas with another married couple that we have known for years. We got to our hotel suite and we were drinking and eating and having a good time, just the 4 of us. The guys went down to the bar around 11pm for a nightcap. I was so tipsy and tired, that I decided to lie across my bed until my husband came back. I woke up around 3am and my husband was not in the bed................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 34 year old woman grieving the loss of my 77 year old best friend and sugar daddy that had been in my life since I was 19. He was also my father’s closest friend so we kept our relationship a secret for obvious reasons. When it all started, he was married to a woman that I looked up to. She was beautiful and classy and he turned me into her, with all of the nice gifts and trips he sponsored for me. We didn’t have sex until I was 23 years old and he never pressured me for sex........................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 28 year old woman and I’ve been having bad luck on the dating scene. Finally, I met someone and thought he was great. Emotionally, he fulfilled my needs and he planned the best dates. We formed a bond over the fact that we were both tired of dating and being disappointed. After dating for 2 months, we decided to take things to the next level and we had sex.......................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been with my girlfriend for close to a year and she has a problem with talking behind my back. I noticed a change in how her friends greeted me and acted around me but I didn’t think much of it, until I found out why they were doing that. One night my girl got an attitude with me because I was playing a video game and she wanted to argue about it. She started texting somebody back-to-back and when she fell asleep, her phone was still dinging............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married for 12 years and my husband and I are in our mid 30s and are regulars at a local bar by our house. We’ve met a lot of great people at this bar and look forward to seeing them weekly for karaoke night. I like the sense of community we have there and we can hang out with the other couples we’ve befriended............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 29 year old woman and I’ve been engaged for 2 years. I’ve never questioned my man’s loyalty to me and in the 5 years total that we’ve been together, I don’t think he’s ever cheated on me. We live together and I have all of his passwords to his phones, social media accounts and his checking account. He has all of mine too............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been friends with a great guy for three years and we have become the best of friends with the best sexual chemistry. Our sex is off the chain. He dates other women but he’s always said that he wouldn't get in a relationship without letting me meet the female and giving him my blessing. We never talked about us being in a relationship so I gave up hope early on. He found out I was dating a guy once and he got very upset and wouldn’t answer my calls for a whole week.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, about a year ago I left my home church to join another church. I was dating the church’s drummer and he invited me to join. I fell in love with the atmosphere of the church and the senior pastor was really good. When I joined, I was asked to help put together a praise dance team. I enlisted the help of the associate pastor to help me. The associate pastor is only 3 years older than me and we connected on so many levels................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I may need Tommy and J to offer some advice with this one, if you don’t mind, since they’re the side piece experts on the show. I have been a proud side chick to a married man for over 7 years. I knew what was up when we met and I was fine with it. I was happy to provide laughter, fun times and a lot of great sex once or twice a week. For the most part, I’ve held up my end of the deal. Now that we’re getting older, he’s been expecting more from me...................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I was a single and attractive, 34 year old woman, losing hope at finding love. I grew tired of the dating cycle and I decided that I would not have sex again until I was married. I prayed and practiced celibacy and a year later, I met the man of my dreams. He is handsome, educated, gainfully employed and he loves the Lord. I fell hard for this man and a year after we met, we got married. I was so excited for my wedding night because it would be our first time making love. He is blessed with the proper equipment, but it’s his skillset that’s lacking.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I worked from home as a corporate sales leader for 5 years. In February, I quit my job to do a podcast with 2 of my best girlfriends. Let me give you a little backstory… My husband and I met in college and got married when we were 24 and started a family. We had our first child when we were 25 and our second child on my 27th birthday. I have a degree in Mass Communications and I’ve always wanted a radio job, which is why I want your advice...................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 32 year old single mother with one child and I’m pregnant with my second child. I’m pregnant by my best friend, who happens to be married. We’ve been friends with benefits for almost to 10 years and his wife thinks we’re just best friends, so she’s accepted me as part of the family. She’s aware that I’m pregnant but thinks it’s my ex-boyfriend’s baby. I’ve told her husband that it’s time for us to stop messing around and be serious now because we have a baby on the way................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am in need of some sound advice. I got married 6½ months ago after reuniting with my man. We had an on and off relationship for years and he started seeing a woman that catered to his big personality. She dumped him and he came running back to me. After he begged me to give him another shot, I took him back and we got engaged. As soon as he put the ring on my finger, his personality started to change, but I married him anyway.................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 27 year old single female and I just moved to my own place and started a new job. I like my job and I have a few associates that I hang out with after work. There’s one guy that I’m the closest with. He’s 47 and married but unhappy at home. We created a bond and we could tell each other anything, without judgment. The first time we made love, he made me feel like a princess................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m going to jump right on in. I cheated on my wife two years ago with a woman that constantly threatened to call my wife when she didn’t get what she wanted. This went on 2 years until I ran out of money and decided to end the affair. This woman called my wife a few days later. I was out, cutting the yard when she called my house and my wife answered.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 40 year old black female and I’m an office manager at a small business. The owner of the business is an old family friend of my parents. He’s getting pretty old and has had some health issues, so his twin brother is helping out with the day-to-day operations. This older gentleman is in his 70s and he’s very sweet and pleasant. He comes to work overdressed daily in his suit and tie and cologne............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been dating a guy for about a year and a half now and I’m concerned that he isn’t motivated to better himself. The first time I spent the night at his house, I made some comments about his neighborhood being kind of ghetto and then I commented on how none of the yards have grass and the houses have burglar bars on the windows and doors. I thought to myself there’s no way I’m staying here, but he assured me that he would protect me, so I stayed over................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married for five years and it is a second marriage for us both. My issue is my 46 year old step daughter that has been inviting her mother everywhere for years. My husband divorced his first wife in 1987 and his daughter is still including this woman in all of our family functions. The ex-wife is the daughter’s best friend and they do everything together. I don’t have a problem with them being best friends, but I draw the line at her coming to family functions that I throw................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, after 18 years of knowing my fiancé, she cut the fool. I’ve been divorced for 21 years and my 4 children are all grown. She’s divorced too so there was never any pressure to get remarried, but I proposed recently because she’s the perfect woman in every way. She was getting her house ready to be sold and move in with me. Her kitchen sink leaked and the disposer didn’t work, so I asked my oldest son to take a look at it................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I believe my wife is tripping for no reason. The other day, we were in the grocery store going down the aisle and there were two women shopping together in front of us. They both had carts full of groceries so as we passed them, I noticed all of the stuff in their baskets. We turned onto the next aisle and my wife pinched me and said she saw what I was staring at. I have to admit that I noticed the women’s huge butts, but I zoomed in on all of the groceries that they had piled up............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, for the past year I have been sleeping with my best friend's little sister. When I went to college, I lost all contact with her until we reconnected last year at her brother's 4th of July party. I hadn't seen this woman since she was a young girl and my oh my God she’s aged like fine wine. I’m 14 years older than her but we’re all grown now. The Lord took his time with that body.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I need help getting back on track with my girl. My girl makes a big deal about Valentine’s Day even though I spoil her all year long. I’m a true romantic and I love this woman. I also have 2 female friends that I’ve known for many years and my girl is friendly with them. This Valentine’s Day, I went all out and prepared filet mignon, lobster tails, garlic mashed potatoes and a Greek salad for my girl............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 42 year old single man and I have a good job and my own place. My brother is a married man with 3 children and many mistresses. He always brings his mistresses to gatherings with the boys and I told him that’s probably not a good idea because most of them are baaad and the boys try to holler at them. I talked to him many times about the cheating because he’s always using me as his alibi. Two months ago, I was out with my brother and one of his mistresses was there............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, in high school I liked a girl and she liked me. We talked on the phone and hung out together all the time and her mom and my mom were close too, so she was always at my house or I was at hers. By the time we graduated from high school, we were even closer and I told her that I wanted her to be more than my friend. She’s always been really close to her mom and tells her everything, so she told her mom that she and I were dating................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, in high school I liked a girl and she liked me. We talked on the phone and hung out together all the time and her mom and my mom were close too, so she was always at my house or I was at hers. By the time we graduated from high school, we were even closer and I told her that I wanted her to be more than my friend. She’s always been really close to her mom and tells her everything, so she told her mom that she and I were dating.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married for 17 years to a man who I thought was trustworthy, honest and a good Christian man. We are both in our 40s and been together for 25 years total. For the last 4 years, he has been friends with a basic girl that he met at work. I call her basic because that’s what she is. I always have expressed how displeased I am with their friendship, but he insisted that I was worrying for no reason. We hung out with her and her basic husband often and my husband always made me feel like I was crazy for being suspicious of this friendship................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a relatively successful entrepreneur and I have had a lot of help along the way. I believe in returning the favor and helping other minorities advance any way I can. To that end, about year ago, I hired a 26 year old black female that graduated at the top of her class. I set her up with an excellent starting salary and her own office. I noticed she was not much of a team player and worked better alone and that was fine with me because she was very smart and didn’t need a lot of direction............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been in a relationship with a man for at least 12 years and we’ve known each other since we were children growing up in the church. We are the perfect couple. We have great memories and we always planned to spend the rest of our lives together. The only thing that’s coming between us is the woman he lives with. My man was in prison for 14 years but I was faithful to him the entire time.................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 46-year-old woman and I need your advice on dealing with the man I’m dating. He was the first in his family to graduate college and now he is a successful doctor with his own private practice. I am a doctor too and I work in a public health clinic, which is not in the safest community. My boyfriend loves to joke about me working in the hood. He is opinionated and arrogant at times and it drives me crazy.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have known my baby daddy since high school. When I was 20, I got pregnant and we moved in together, but he cheated a lot, so when my son was 6, we broke up and my mom offered to let him live with her temporarily. My son is 16 now and my baby daddy still lives with my mom. My mom has 7 sisters that are very messy and they’ve always joked with my mom about having a fine young man living with her................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 32 year old single woman and one of my best friends recently got engaged to a man she’s known for less than a year. I have a close-knit group of girlfriends and we were all single before the quarantine, but one of our girlfriends got bored and started talking to a guy she met in the airport. We think she got lonely at home alone with nothing to do and the little man filled that void................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m married to a man that can’t control his mother. We’ve been married for 2 years and I have dealt with this since I met him. His mother went through a late-life crisis and has started shopping at Forever 21 and hanging out at cafes at night. I have warned her about Covid but she says alcohol kills the virus. If that’s the case, she won’t need the vaccination because she is always a little tipsy when we see her...................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.