Strawberry Letter

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 32 year old divorced woman, who filed for divorce after only 2 years of marriage. Right after we said “I do,” I noticed a change in my husband and he could go 3 weeks without having sex with me. He kept making excuses to leave the house and would be gone for up to an hour when he left to “run a quick errand.” Then about 8 months ago, I walked in on him as he washed himself off in our bathroom sink, after he claimed he went to Dunkin for a cup of coffee................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 53-year-old single female and I’ve been casually dating a man for 3 years. His wife died 6 years ago and he’s a single dad, raising a daughter. He lives in my complex and when we met, we instantly clicked and started dating. After a few months of dating, he told me he wanted to take a break so he could focus on his daughter. That was 3 years ago and I showed support by cooking for him occasionally and showing up at some of his daughter’s basketball games.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, for the past 10 years, I have lived with a really good female friend. Over the years, we’ve shared a bed at times and we’ve had sex when it was convenient. Other than that, it was more of a roommate type of arrangement. She dated other men and I dated other women. When we were at home, we were best friends that happen to sleep in the same bed sometimes. We never had our boyfriends/girlfriends sleep over.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 29 year old woman and I need your advice on how to help a friend. She’s been in quarantine alone so all I’ve been hearing is how lonely she is. Well, here’s why… She looks a hot mess all of the time and being inside for 3 months has made it worse. I know everybody has been looking crazy since we are stuck inside, but she’s put on a few pounds and looks like she hasn’t combed her hair since March................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am 36 years old and I’ve been in a great relationship for 4 years. A year ago, I noticed a change in my man and changes in our sex life. If I initiated sex, he made up excuses like he has acid reflux and he’s scared sex might give him a heart attack. Then I saw a text on his phone that said, “I love you too.” I asked about it and he said he texted her some relationship advice and was only responding to her................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 44 year old woman who's been with a man for 5 years and he has had the same complaint for 5 years. He always whines about me knowing too many men. I was raised in the city we live in and my father was a prominent businessman and my family is well-known. When my boyfriend and I would go out, I'd run into guys that I grew up with, guys I worked with, went to high school or college with, etc. These are men that I’ve never dated or had sex with.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve And Shirley, I am a beautiful black 29 year old woman and I’m in love with a deadbeat dude but I don’t know how to get him out of my system. He’s 36 years old and we currently live with his parents. When I met him, I was the side piece for a year. I got pregnant and had nowhere to live, so he let me live in his car. His parents found out about me and they let me stay with them. Now he's divorced and our relationship is complicated. I found him at a bar with a female recently and I poured his beer on him.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 48-year-old man and my wife and I have a 23 year old daughter that graduated from college and she moved back home. She asked her mom and I if one of her school mates could live in our basement for three months. I was hesitant, but my wife coerced me to let the young man stay temporarily. He was polite at first but then he started coming upstairs and trying to engage with our family................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband and I have been married for 3 years. Our marriage was going good until a year ago, when he told me he was having an affair. Shortly after we met, he told me about a female friend of his that lives out of town and she’s like a little sister to him. I met her 5 years ago when she came to town for homecoming. We got along great, but I don’t trust any females around my man............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m in my late 30s and I’m dating a man that I met at church. I found out that he talked to our pastor about me and the pastor hinted that he might be ready to propose. I got excited and decided it was time to take our relationship to the next level, meaning it was time for sex. We have been together for six months and we were friends for 2 years before we started dating. We haven’t had sex, but we sleep in the same bed a lot and I like to sleep in my underwear............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been with my husband for 6 years and we’ve been married for 2 years. I have myself to blame for what I’m going through now, because it was an issue before we got married. My husband has a problem with texting and talking to other females. When I’ve addressed the issue with him, he always says “Nothing is wrong with texting and talking, as long as I’m not crossing the line or trying to date anybody.” I believe that if one of the women he talks to or texts comes on to him, that he will take them up on the offer.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I feel like I already know my answer, but I want your advice anyway. My partner and I have been dating for 7 years. Yes, seven! We are both divorced and have adult children. He is 63 and I am 49. His ex-wife and I have become good friends and she has told me that he’s a good man, but a terrible husband. We live in a big beautiful home but it’s in his name only. He treats me like a queen in front of others, but behind closed doors, he’s a different man.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, about 6 years ago, I wrote in to get some advice about a woman I was messing with. You may not recall my letter, but I’m married and I was having an affair with a lady and it was getting out of control. I was very connected with this woman and I had started paying her bills and helping her take care of her children. The children had grown fond of me and had no idea that I was married and had another life with my wife................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I love my wife very much and she is the mother of my children, but I have another woman. My wife is very beautiful and smart, but she doesn’t submit to me like my mistress does. My wife wants me to be the man of the house all of the time and when I ask her for help on certain things, she huffs and puffs. I just want a partnership with her and raise our children together.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 43-year-old woman and I have a small group of friends who have all known each other since high school. We’ve all been strict about quarantining, so we agreed to meet once a week for drinks and dinner. It’s really helped us feel better and maintain a sense of normalcy with the craziness going on in the world. About a month ago another girl we went to high school with moved back into town............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m getting married soon and I need your advice. My fiancé and I met less than a year ago and we quickly fell in love. Within six months, he proposed. I called up my bestie and asked her to be my Maid of Honor. My bestie got married last year and she moved to another state. We’ve been friends since we were 5 and she was dying to meet my fiancé. Two weeks ago she came to town and I decided to throw a small dinner party and I invited everyone that’s going to be in the wedding............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband and I have been married 4 years and the sex is terrible. We dated for 2 years before we got married and we agreed to wait until our wedding night to have sex for the first time. I was focused on us having a great friendship as well as a spiritual connection, which would lead to a great sex life. He romanced me and did things to me physically that satisfied me so I just knew he was going to be a great lover................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 30 year old man and I’m 6 feet tall and I weigh 202 pounds. I work out and eat right and take care of myself. In February, I met a beautiful woman that is a few months younger than I am. She is 5’6” and she weighs 330 pounds. I like what I like, and that happens to be big girls. She is big and soft in the right places and she’s always fly and sexy................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been married for almost 2 years and I met my wife on a dating website. She was the most beautiful girl I’d ever seen and when we met in person, we quickly fell in love. I came with a little baggage and she admitted that she did too. We are in our mid-forties, so we agreed that our past was the past so that’s where we’d leave it. She works as a guest service manager at an elite country club, so I can golf at the club for free.................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 32 year old female currently dating a 35 year old male and we’ve known each other for years. When he was married, I was his sidepiece. When he got divorced, I was married and he was my sidepiece. I got divorced and we decided it was time to stop playing games and become a couple. We got together and made it official four months ago. He is everything I ever wanted in a man but he has some trust issues................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and it was really good for the first year. We spent a lot of quality time together and got to know each other by going on great dates. Now that we’ve been together a while and he’s started saying that he loves me, he feels it’s enough to make me happy. He won’t do the things he did in the beginning. I don’t get flowers anymore and he doesn’t take me to lunch like he used to................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, this is my fourth time writing you so I pray you respond this time. My daughter is leaving home for college in the fall and I’ll be an empty nester. I got divorced 12 years ago so mama is single and ready to mingle. I’ve been praying for God to send me a man and then I heard your show one morning and you were talking to your longtime friend that’s on the show about how he needs a woman.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a young, healthy and wise beyond my years single woman, that is a leader to my peers. At my young age, I have found the most handsome and amazing man of my dreams. He is respectful, has a great job, a beautiful home and he treats me like a queen. But here is the problem… well, it’s not a problem for us, it’s more of a problem for our friends and family. I am 22 years old and he is 42 years old. Now I know you are also shocked by our age difference, but I love him and believe age has nothing to do with it........... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I really need your advice for this issue I’m having. I have fallen for someone that I have never met in person. I have heard him speak almost everyday and I'm not sure if he is single, but I would love to meet him in person. I am single and ready to mingle with him if he is available. This guy makes my toes curl when I hear his voice and the icing on the cake is that he is very funny and quite handsome................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Good morning Steve and Shirley, I am 50 year old divorced lady with a 28 year old lover. We’ve been together for two years but I met him when he was in college with my son. He came home a few weekends with my son and he started calling me mom back then. After college, he continued to hang out at the house with my son, so I got used to him being around. Well on Easter Sunday, 2017, things changed in an instant, when he rubbed up against me in the kitchen and I felt some kind of way............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband acts like an absolute child at times and I can’t deal with it. It’s like having a third child and I am so tired of him embarrassing me. The most recent incident went down over the weekend at my Pastor’s house. We were invited to a barbeque and the pastor was a little late because of a wedding he had to do. There was plenty of food on the grill and we always let the elders of the church eat first. The first lady fixed the pastor a plate and sat it to the side and covered it with saran wrap............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 55 year old mother of 3 handsome boys. My youngest son is getting married, but I have an issue with his fiancé and I feel very guilty about it. I hate to be rude, but the girl he is marrying is just not that attractive at all. I know it’s none of my business because he’s the one that has to live with her, but my son is very handsome and I feel like he could do a lot better................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 39 year old Latino woman, married to a 53 year old black man. We’ve been together for 7 years and we’ve been married for 3 years. We met at church and we’re both in the church choir. When we started dating, I saw an edgier side of him. He rode a motorcycle, drank Hennessey on the weekends and he cursed whenever he talked to his friends. It was different from the church man I met, but I liked it. He told me that he didn’t want to scare me away because I was his queen.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am in my early 30s and I'm dealing with a guy in his mid 30s. We hung out for a couple of months and he was ready to get serious, which meant it was time for me to give up the cookie. From the time I met him, I had a problem with his so-called best friend, who is a female. I’ve tried to understand the relationship and he says it’s nothing, but she spends the night at his house and he will stay at her house................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been with my girlfriend for 10 years and we’re having our first major issue. When I met my girlfriend, she was new in town, so I introduced her to my group of friends and their wives. There are 4 couples that hang out and we’ve all known each other since college. The wives were all nice enough to my girlfriend but they’ve never included her in “girls night out” or invited her to brunch with them................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 27 year old woman and I have a 1 year old son. I met his father almost 2 years ago. When we met, I assumed he was single because he approached me and spent a lot of uninterrupted time with me. Come to find out, he has been in a relationship for 8 years. It was too late to cut him off because I was already pregnant. We argued over and over again about how he lied to me and he said he never lied, he just didn’t tell me that he had a girlfriend.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married for 25 years and last weekend, my wife and I took a road trip to see my wife’s dad. My wife’s mom passed away 3 years ago so her dad is still adjusting to being alone. Her dad was so happy to see us and he asked my wife to cook his favorite dinner. So when my wife started cooking, my father-in-law slipped outside and was talking to an older lady that had pulled up.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, you are not going to believe this. I am 30 years old and my longtime girlfriend has an identical twin sister. I can barely tell them apart sometimes. They both have short curly afros, they both have dimples in both cheeks and their bodies are the same. My girlfriend and her twin love to prank me and confuse me since they look so much alike. Their little pranking went too far and now I want in on the fun.......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married for 15 years and my husband is an associate pastor. He has office hours at the church and the church secretary is there from 9am-5pm. I started working part-time because I wanted to buy new furniture. I work in an artsy area of town at a craft store and there are several restaurants in the area. On 2 separate occasions, my husband called me to say he’d be in the area having lunch with some people from church................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, 2 years ago, I met the man of my dreams and he loves me, motivates me, and we can’t get enough of each other sexually. We've been talking about marriage and starting a family soon. There’s just one problem. Recently, I’d been thinking a lot about my ex-boyfriend and I decided to call to see how he’s been doing. I also wanted to let him know that I’d found happiness again............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m in my early 50s and my husband and I have been married for 7 years. Since the beginning of our union, he knows that I’m able to manage all of our household expenses and he has taken advantage of it. I’ve funded a lot of hair-brained business schemes he’s invested in and lost a lot of money fooling with him. He’s had a string of jobs in leadership positions that I’ve helped him get, but the longest he’s stayed at one company is two years.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I was in a relationship with a man for 6 months, but we fell in love quickly and we were living together. He is 36 and I’m 31. He was going through a divorce when we met so I made him wait until the papers were signed before we had sex. He told me that his wife divorced him because he cheated on her multiple times. He told me that he cheated, simply cause his wife had stopped having sex with him............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, a while back I met a man on a dating app and it was supposed to be just a one-night stand. He came over and we had the most explosive sex! After that, we talked all night. He lives out of town and when he got back home, we talked daily and spent hours getting to know each other. He came back to visit me because he was dying to have sex with me.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley I’m a 32 year old married woman and I’d normally never write in to you, but I heard you cover a topic that I’m going through so I’m turning to you for help. It’s about an issue I’ve been having with my husband since the quarantine began. He and I were having sex more than usual and it was getting boring. I wanted to spice things up with role-playing.......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 40 year old black man with a lot of weight in my community. I’m a very well-known businessman and former professional football player. I’ve been married for 10 years and I have 3 children. My wife is very sweet and we never argue or have any issues with our children. Everything is great, except for our sex life. My wife is a good woman that is very reserved in the bedroom............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m 29 years old and my boyfriend is 30 and he’s an idiot. We have been together for 4 years and his ex-girlfriend and I were close friends before her man chose to be with me instead of her. I might have been wrong for dating him, but it felt like the right thing to do at the time. In the beginning, she tried to fight me 3 times and she showed up at my job once and I had her arrested. About a year ago, she started dating a new guy and she left us alone............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m 40 years old and my boyfriend is a 45 year old, successful businessman. He’s divorced and has one kid from his marriage. We’ve been dating for 7 months and I love his kid and I get along well with his ex-wife. A few weeks ago, his ex and I were chatting in the driveway when she dropped their child off. She asked me if my boyfriend had revealed his big secret to me yet. I asked her what she was talking about and she assured me that it wasn’t about him cheating or anything like that, but it’s very strange and it was the cause of their divorce. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband and I got married in January and I relocated to be with him, after the wedding. We dated for 2 years in a long-distance relationship before we got married. When I moved in with him, I found out he has a split personality. To my surprise, he used cocaine recreationally and he’s a binge drinker. I never saw this side of him when we were dating. The truth came out on our wedding day. He started drinking mid-day and looked like he was high.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been in a relationship for almost two years and when I think about the things this man has shown me sexually and mentally, I am floored. He literally takes my breath away. But there are a few problems with our relationship. We’ve never spent a night together and I’ve never met his family, except for his twin daughters and their mother. It was a quick “Hi” and “Bye” when we ran into them at Target.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a single female and I moved to a new city 3 years ago, for a new job. I did not have any family or friends in the city, but I instantly bonded with a male co-worker and we’ve become really close. He was really great at helping me get settled and showing me around town. He has a girlfriend of 8 years and a child and I’ve always respected that. We would get flirty here and there but it was always harmless, at first............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 37 year old divorced man and I'm in a one hell of a situation. I have a 5 year old son that has a lot of health issues, so my ex-wife and I decided it was best if we were all on lockdown together. I have custody of my son but she helps me out a lot with his medical care, so she moved back in with us temporarily. Everything was cool at first, but by mid-April, my ex was up to her old tricks............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 37 year old man and I’m in love with the perfect woman and I want to marry her. I am financially secure and I love taking care of my family. I bought a new home 5 years ago and I made sure I had a separate space for my mother to live comfortably. She has her own entrance from the garage, so she’s still independent. She does most of the cooking and I am happy to have her with me............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 29 year old female in a confusing dating situation. We’ve been dating for almost 2 years but I waited for 4 months before we had sex, to make sure his last relationship was totally over. He has 3 kids by three different women, but the youngest child’s mother has been a problem in our relationship. My boyfriend lived with her when we met, but now he lives inside his RV, that’s parked in her driveway.................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 45 year old black man. My fiancé is 56 and she’s a great woman, but I’m worried about marriage. We like to kick back and relax and drink wine and alcohol. It depends on our mood, so sometimes it’s wine and sometimes it’s the hard stuff. We pretty much drink every day after work. I’m more relaxed and mellow when I’ve had a few drinks, but she is the opposite of me. She likes to get angry, cuss and fuss and bring up a bunch of old stuff, trying to start an argument................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been in a relationship for 5 years with a man that thinks we are exclusive. I’m in my late forties and my sex drive has been through the roof lately. My boyfriend is 53 and he’s a beast in the bedroom, but he’s not enough for me and he’s not as kinky as he should be. For the first time in my life, I am a cheater. I’ve been having sex with a 30 year old neighbor and it is fun and spontaneous and he gives me the fire that I desire. This is not the only man I’m seeing on the side though............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.