Stop Parenting & Start Coaching

"Stop Parenting & Start Coaching." Yeah, we know it's a bit provocative. Yes, we know it turns some people away. But for the high achieving parents and their teens that we work with, it makes perfect sense.Give us a few minutes and we'll tell you exactly what it means to us and why it could just be what you need to reduce the friction in the conversations and relationships with your teen athlete or performer. Let's go MVPs!Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We have created a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us:Please follow us and connect with us: Search "Steve Galley" on LinkedIn.Let’s gooooooooo moms and dads–you got this!-Nate & Steve

Character architects. Decision makers. Putting the fun and joy back back into playing sports. Yeah, let's do this. In today's special guest episode we talk with Erin Sarles and Thomas Roe, the dynamic duo and cofounders of Bluechip to Blueprint. You're gonna love this one moms and dads! Erin Sarles brings 20+ years of corporate executive expertise to the youth sports arena, where she saw firsthand—as both a professional and a mother of competitive athletes—the devastating impact of performance-based identity. As CEO and co-creator of Blueprint to Bluechip's proprietary CADI Framework (Character Over Clout, Accountability Over Excuses, Discipline Over Motivation, Integrity Over Image), Erin addresses the character crisis in youth sports with the same systematic rigor she brought to developing corporate leaders.Thomas Roe co-founded Blueprint to Bluechip after spending decades building and repairing bodies—and witnessing the character crises that come when physical development outpaces personal development. As founder of TRoe Fitness-Sports Rehab & Recovery, Thomas has trained athletes at every level, from professionals to weekend warriors & every athlete in between. Thomas understands that sustainable success in sports requires more than physical strength.You can get in touch with Erin and Thomas here: Let's Talk! You can also find them on LinkedIn, Instagram, and Facebook. Search for Blueprint to Bluechip.The Timestamps00:00 Introduction to the Journey01:58 The Athletic Experience and Its Impact05:23 The Birth of Blueprint to Bluechip07:47 Dysfunction in Youth Sports14:19 Character Development in Sports19:11 Becoming Character Architects22:51 Navigating Challenges in Sports and Life25:12 Consequences of Careless Decisions26:24 Character Development in Sports27:40 The Dilemma of Specialization28:51 Supporting Your Child's Dreams31:34 The Risks of Single-Sport Focus35:14 Aligning Goals with Reality38:55 The CADI Framework for Decision Making42:35 Encouragement for ParentsHey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us:Please follow us and connect with us: Search "Steve Galley" on LinkedIn.Let’s gooooooooo moms and dads–you got this!-Nate & Steve

Parents, this episode is personal. Steve makes a big confession that gets right to the heart of coaching, parenting, pride, and the mindset shifts that can either help your teen grow or quietly hold them back. So...let's get right to the truth. Are you helping your teen think for themselves, or are you still stuck giving advice that no longer lands? In this episode, we unpack the difference between coaching and consulting, why human connection matters, and how better questions can create real growth at home.The Timestamps00:00 The Misconception of Coaching Worth03:12 Understanding the Barriers to Coaching06:02 The Importance of High-Level Coaching08:27 The Distinction Between Coaching and Consulting11:07 Encouraging Independent Thinking in ParentingTakeawaysWhy Everyone Deserves Coaching (Why Steve was Wrong!)How pride and ignorance hinder coachingThe difference between coaching and consultingThe importance of human connection in coachingThe role of follow-up questions in effective coachingParenting strategies to develop kids' thinking skillsHey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us:Please follow us and connect with us: Search "Steve Galley" on LinkedIn.Let’s gooooooooo moms and dads–you got this!-Nate & Steve

What if your teen does not need more pressure, more reminders, or more to-do’s, but better clarity? In this conversation, we fire some easy fastballs down the middle and then unleash a curveball that's gonna make your knees wobble a bit! Let's face what your teen is facing if their schedule is packed tighter than a dugout with 25 stinky baseball players. Le'ts also step up to the plate and learn how The Question Only Conversation can help you guide their decisions with better communication that gets built upon playing the long game with trust! Let's go Most Valuable Parents--you got this! The Timestamps00:00 The Badge (& Burden) of Busyness03:18 Balancing School, Sports, and Social Life05:57 The Importance of Honest Conversations08:49 Introducing the Curveball: The #4 Category10:43 Navigating Priorities as a ParentTakeawaysTeens can only be GREAT in 2 of these 3 areas: school, sports, social life.Honest conversations about priorities build trust and clarity.Adding a job can teach valuable life skills but compromises them and increases stress.Parents should use targeted questions to guide teens' decision-making.Clarity about priorities leads to better time management, productivity, and well-being.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us:Please follow us and connect with us: Search "Steve Galley" on LinkedIn.Let’s gooooooooo moms and dads–you got this!-Nate & Steve

If you’ve ever contemplated a school transfer for your high school son or daughter and asked “Should we stay… or should we go?” you’re not alone! In this episode, we interview Rob Geertsen, a proud and present father and an experienced coach. Rob tells his son Zack's high school transfer story—what they did before any paperwork, how they evaluated the new environment, and why academics and “culture fit” mattered as much or more than the athletics.If you are mulling over whether transferring is the right thing for your son/daughter, Rob will share what requires serious consideration before making the move. Let's go Most Valuable Parents!!!Want to talk to Rob personally about your transfer questions? Contact him at [email protected]. We guarantee that he will find time for you if you are genuinely interested in an honest and straightforward conversation!The Timestamps00:00 Introduction to Zack Geertsen's HS Transfer Story02:57 The Decision to Transfer Schools06:57 Defining Success for Zack11:33 Culture is Critical14:57 Involving Zack in the Decision-Making Process18:50 Due Diligence Before the Transfer23:26 Exit Conversations and Integration into New Team30:14 The Commitment of a Dedicated Parent33:58 Navigating Challenges of Transfer Decisions36:51 Building Relationships in a New Environment42:24 The Reality of Making the Transfer45:07 Advice for Parents Considering Transfers49:25 The Risks of Transferring for the Wrong Reasons55:06 Reflecting on the Journey and Future Aspirations57:34 Wrapping Up with Wisdom and Humor59:09 OUTRO Video BK 2025 FINAL.mp4Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us:Please follow us and connect with us: Search "Steve Galley" on LinkedIn.Let’s gooooooooo moms and dads–you got this!-Nate & Steve

Here’s the truth: sleep is a system, not a character issue. So if your plan is “hope they choose better,” you’ll keep getting the same results. In this episode, we ask the questions you need to build a practical sleep system with mutual agreements. Using our Question Only Conversation approach will increase buy-in and cooperation that will help you both sleep well--like a baby (that doesn't wake up all night!).And if you stick around to the end you'll get the 3-2-1 framework, a simple system to help you create a high performance sleep habit!! Let's goooooooooooo................................to sleep! Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.The Timestamps00:00 The Importance of Sleep Conversations02:47 Understanding Sleep as a Biological Need05:24 Empowering Teens to Own Their Sleep08:12 Effective Communication Strategies for Parents10:07 The Question-Only Conversation Technique12:28 Challenging the Grind Mentality14:50 Creating a Sleep Agreement17:45 The 321 Sleep FrameworkKey Topics-Sleep is a system, not a character issue.-Mutual sleep agreements and conversations must happen.-The tried and true 3-2-1 sleep framework!-Question-only conversations to influence teen behavior.- The impact of sleep on performance and mental health.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us:Please follow us and connect with us: Search "Steve Galley" on LinkedIn.Let’s gooooooooo moms and dads–you got this!-Nate & Steve

Teen sleep isn’t just “discipline”—it’s biology. We unpack the teen brain, circadian shifts, recovery, and why inconsistent schedules sabotage energy and focus. We also talk school start times and the ripple effects on mental health and performance. Then we translate it into practical routines you can actually implement by sharing our Sleep Starter Pack with you. Let's go Most Valuable Parents!!!!The Timestamps00:00 The Importance of Sleep for Performance03:12 Understanding Recovery and Brain Development05:55 Equipping Teens for Better Sleep08:43 The Impact of Sleep on Mental Health and Injury Prevention10:57 The Role of Consistency in Sleep Patterns13:13 Advocating for Later School Start Times15:35 The Sleep Starter Pack: Practical Tips for ParentsTakeaways-Equipping kids with energy is crucial for performance.-Sleep is essential for brain development and recovery.-Teens need 8 to 10 hours of sleep for optimal health.-Sleep problems can lead to emotional and mental health issues.-Inadequate sleep increases the risk of injury in teens.-Consistency in sleep schedules is vital for teens.-School start times should be later to benefit students.-Parents should engage in conversations about sleep with their teens.-Creating a sleep starter pack can help facilitate discussions.-Understanding the biological needs of teens can improve sleep habits.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us:Please follow us and connect with us: Search "Steve Galley" on LinkedIn.Let’s gooooooooo moms and dads–you got this!-Nate & Steve

In this episode--the third in a series about playing time--we get blunt and right to the truth about the fact that parents struggle to stay neutral. Confirmation bias creeps in and rescuing becomes a habit. What follows is pressure and tension in every conversation or or coach bashing ensues. You love them so much and your intentions are pure, but why is this not working? Much of it is the proximity of you to them and the emotions swirling around in this relationship. So we give you a better play: protect the sacred parent-teen relationship with “relationship insurance.” Learn how to communicate without escalating and how to support emotionally without performing as their designated sport coach. As well as understanding that a neutral, outside voice is the smartest move you can make for your teen’s development—and your connection.The Timestamps00:00 The Challenge of Coaching Your Own Kids02:23 Understanding Parental Bias in Youth Sports05:10 The Impact of Emotional Proximity07:56 The Role of Outside Voices in Mindset Coaching10:45 Navigating Status Panic and Expectations13:09 Building Relationship Insurance with TeensTakeaways-Parents often struggle with neutrality when coaching their own children.-Confirmation bias can cloud parents' judgment regarding their child's performance.-Rescuing behavior can undermine a teen's ability to handle challenges independently.-Neutrality is essential for effective mindset coaching.-Outside voices can provide valuable support and perspective for teens.-Parents should focus on emotional support rather than performance pressure.-The relationship between parents and teens is sacred and irreplaceable.-Bringing in outside voices helps maintain a safe and supportive environment for teens.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us:Please follow us and connect with us: Search "Steve Galley" on LinkedIn.Let’s gooooooooo moms and dads–you got this!-Nate & Steve

Playing time is a pressure cooker because it pokes at every parent trigger: fairness, status, control, fear, and helplessness. And if we’re honest, it can feel personal—even when it isn’t. In today's conversation, we deliver a fantastic "reframe" to help you model a healthy response to non-preferred outcomes so your teen learns the real life skill: dealing with disappointment without losing identity, effort, or connection. You’ll learn how to spot your “yeah, buts,” reset your expectations, and have the kind of calm, clear conversation that builds trust—especially when your teen is already on edge.Let's gooooooooooooo Most Valuable Parents!!The Timestamps00:00 Navigating Playing Time and Parental Pride03:23 Understanding Control and Helplessness in Sports06:29 Expectations and Communication with Teens08:43 Life Lessons from Sports and Non-Preferred Outcomes11:42 The Duct Tape Analogy: Managing Emotions14:40 The 24-Hour Rule: Emotional Recovery16:18 Reframing the Parent-Teen DynamicTakeaways-Playing time can induce trauma for both parents and teens.-Understanding what is within our control is crucial in handling "playing time."-Parents should model healthy emotional responses to outcomes.-The 24-hour rule helps in managing emotional reactions.-Identifying 'yeah, buts' can clarify our emotional responses.-Being an anchor for our teens is more important than rescuing them.-Life skills are learned in sports by responding well to non-preferred outcomes. Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve GalleyLet’s gooooooooo moms and dads–you got this!-Nate & Steve

Newsflash! Life isn’t fair. Yep, we all know it! And high school sports and competition are no exception. "It's not fair!" -- the common refrain heard among parents and players and yes, even coaches! And guess what? You are probably right when you're screaming "that is NOT fair!"But your teen athlete or performer doesn’t needs a parent who coaches them into Blaming, Complaining, Defending and Explaining. This perpetuates a victim mindset! In this episode, we coach you through the two things you can always control: your perspective and your response. We’ll unpack why complaining feels productive (but usually backfires), how to keep connection strong when emotions run hot, and how to lead like a calm, mild manager instead of an angry, perturbed prosecutor. If you want your teen athlete to build resilience and confidence under pressure, this starts with how you handle “it's not fair!!”The Timestamps00:00 The Fairness Addiction03:14 Playing Time and Parental Perspectives05:59 The Poison of Complaining08:45 Understanding Coaches' Decisions11:34 Perspective and Emotional Discipline13:30 Important Questions for Parents16:02 The Prosecutor vs. Manager Mindset18:59 Modeling Behavior for TeensTakeawaysFairness can become an addiction that affects our mindset.Complaining about unfairness can lead to negative outcomes.Life is inherently unfair, and we must learn to accept that.Parents should focus on what they can control in sports.Understanding the coach's perspective can help mitigate feelings of unfairness.Modeling emotional discipline is crucial for parents.Questions can help parents gain perspective on their child's situation.It's important to avoid labeling coaches negatively without understanding their decisions.Parents should strive to be managers rather than prosecutors in sports situations.Maintaining a positive outlook can benefit both parents and athletes.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve GalleyAnd, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% -Nate & Steve

Here’s the hard truth: the moment your teen feels evaluated, the conversation gets worse—and so does your influence. In this episode, we help you build emotional safety without lowering standards, and teach you how to stay calm when your teen isn’t. You’ll get simple, real-life ways to respond when things get tense--when you start feeling "judgy"--plus actionable steps you can use today to reduce conflict, strengthen connection, and support your teen athlete’s mindset the smart way.Hang in there because we're going to drop The 5 Second Lane Test, a simple tool you'll want to have in your Parental Toolkit when you are about ready to make a communication error. This tool is dynamite and will help you blow up the old you and allow you to parent from a neutral position!! Let's goooooooooooo!The Timestamps00:00 Navigating Parenting Challenges02:58 The Role of Non-Parental Coaches05:51 Building a Safe Home Base08:33 Understanding Emotional Regulation11:29 The Importance of Neutrality14:04 Action Steps for Parents16:29 The Five Second Lane TestHey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve GalleyAnd, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100%-Nate & Steve

Here’s the hard truth: your teen athlete/performer might be hiding struggles because they don’t want your common reaction. You tend to activate full-blown Fixer Mode! This doesn't make you a "bad parent" but there is a better way to approach this situation and the opportunity for growth and improved connection is waiting for you.In our bantering and discussion in this episode we call out the mistake we ALL make as parents because we love our offspring so much! We want to FIX their problems for them when sometimes they just want and need us to listen in a way that creates some safety and space to get something off their chest. Asking questions that allow them to be open and honest sets you up to coach your teen athlete/performer into creating their own solutions and building confidence. All without turning every moment into a lecture or a fix it session.Let's gooooooooooo Most Valuable Parents!The Timestamps00:00 Understanding Teen Struggles02:33 The Role of Parents as Fixers05:30 Listening vs. Fixing: The Emotional Safety08:13 Effective Communication Strategies10:57 The Detective Approach to Parenting14:00 Supporting Teen Growth and IndependenceTakeaways-Teens may hide struggles to avoid parental "fixing."-Parents often jump into problem-solving mode too quickly.-Emotional safety is crucial for open communication.-Listening is more important than providing immediate solutions.-The "curse of knowledge" can hinder effective parenting.-Asking questions can empower teens to find their own solutions.-Parents should adopt a "detective" approach to understand situations better.-Fixing problems can sometimes damage the parent-teen connection.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve GalleyAnd, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100%-Nate & Steve

Wanna know how to pause, find the “why” behind your reaction, and respond like a calm, high-performance coach—not a panicked or crazed bleacher creature?! Stick with us in this episode because we have some burning questions for you along with a few simple preemptive strikes you can launch before the next competition, plus some communication moves that protect connection with your high achieving teen athlete or performer, especially when emotions run red hot!The Timestamps00:00 The Common Parental Mistake03:18 Understanding Emotional Reactions05:17 The Impact of Highly Emotional Reactions on Relationships08:00 Navigating a Coach's Substitutions and Your Teen's Mistakes10:22 The Importance of a Big Picture Perspective12:33 Preemptive Strike Strategies for Parents Before the CompetitionTakeaways-Reactions can create blind spots that hinder understanding.-Parents often react without realizing the impact on their children.-Emotional attachment can drive irrational responses.-It's crucial to pause and reflect on a proper response vs. a knee jerk reaction.-Understanding the 'why' behind reactions can prevent misunderstandings.-Parents should focus on what truly matters in competitive situations.-Preemptive strike strategies can help manage emotional responses.-Communication is key to maintaining healthy relationships with teens.-Parents should strive to be aware of their emotional triggers.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve GalleyAnd, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100%-Nate & Steve

If you’ve ever thought, “Why isn’t what worked in business working at home?” you’re not alone. Today we unpack how successful parents can accidentally bring the wrong playbook into parenting their high achieving teen athletes and performers. You’ll leave with simple, introspective coaching questions that expose blind spots and rebuild trust with your teen athlete or performer.The Timestamps00:00 Exploring Imperfection and Safety in Parenting03:11 Understanding Blind Spots in Parenting05:29 The Complexity of Parenting and Teen Relationships07:02 Assumptions and Their Impact on Parenting09:51 Navigating Different Parenting Styles11:43 Questions for Reflection and Growth in ParentingTakeaways-Teens have a high awareness of their flaws.-Creating a safe space for imperfection is crucial.-Blind spots in parenting can lead to misunderstandings.-Understanding a teen's perspective is essential.-Assumptions can negatively impact parent-teen relationships.-Communication should focus on feelings, not just facts.-Self-awareness is key in parenting.-Parents should reflect on their motivations for corrections.-The complexity of human relations makes parenting challenging.-Identifying blind spots can improve relationships with teens.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve GalleyAnd, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100%-Nate & Steve

PARENTS: In Part 4 of 4 of our "specialization series" we tackle the hard questions and attempt to get you thinking about your thinking on WHEN is the time right, if it's right!Exclusive grind with no guardrails? Mmmm, not the way to go. BUT, and this is a big BUT...specialization isn’t automatically “bad”—it can protect joy when the timing is right and the environment is supportive. We give you clear criteria to decide: Is your teen choosing this with energy? Do they have clarity and support? And just as important—do they have an identity beyond being “the athlete”? This is parenting teen athletes with a coaching mindset: connection first, performance follows.The Timestamps00:00 The Debate on Specialization in Sports03:13 When Specialization Becomes Harmful06:09 Criteria for Healthy Specialization08:49 The Importance of Timing and Support11:40 Identifying the Red Flags13:47 Final Thoughts on SpecializationTakeaways-Specialization can protect joy but can also be harmful.-Timing is crucial; specialization should be later in teens.-Joy in sports is essential for healthy development.-Parents should focus on their child's happiness, not just rankings.-Overuse injuries and burnout are risks of early specialization.-A supportive environment can mitigate the pressures of specialization.-Athletes should have multiple identities beyond just being a player.-Criteria for specialization include joy, clarity, and support.-The focus should be on the child's experience.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve Galley-Nate & Steve

NOTE: This is Part 3 of 4 in a series on Specialization! You want your teen to succeed—and love the journey while they do it. In this episode, we uncover the secrets behind self-driven performance, fewer injuries, and the joy of playing sports for fun. It all starts with seeing your teen in a whole new way: through the lens of strengths. We’re talking about how to spot your teen’s real strengths, what to do with them, and why the “Strengths Snapshot” tool could change the game for both of you.The Timestamps!00:00 Identifying Teen Strengths03:00 The Strengths Snapshot Tool05:49 Durability and Health in Sports08:15 Self-Initiation vs. Parental Push11:11 Secondary Sports and Holistic Development13:50 Guardrails for Youth Sports16:39 Long-Term Development and Enjoyment19:00 Rec Ball vs. Competitive Sports21:45 Conclusion and Future TopicsTakeaways-Identifying strengths is crucial for teen development.-Clarity in understanding strengths leads to better outcomes.-The Strengths Snapshot tool helps assess teen capabilities.-Durability in sports is linked to fewer injuries and better performance.-Self-initiation in practice is more valuable than forced participation.-Parents should observe their teens' self-driven activities.-Balance organized sports with free play for holistic development.-Rec ball can be a valuable outlet for enjoyment and skill development.-Avoid over-specialization to prevent burnout and injuries.-Engaging in multiple sports can enhance overall athletic performance.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve Galley-Nate & Steve

If you’re like most driven parents of teen athletes, you’ve been told you’ll “miss the boat” if your kid doesn’t specialize early, that early success proves their long-term trajectory, and that more hours always mean more results. In this episode, we unpack and debunk those dangerous myths, show you what college coaches actually look for, and explain why multi-sport focused experience and unstructured play often beat year-round exclusive grind. You’ll walk away with a clearer, saner game plan to protect your teen’s body, joy, and long-term performance. Let's goooooooooooooooooo!NOTE: This is Part 2 of 4 in a series on Specialization!The Timestamps!00:00 Debunking Specialization Myths in Youth Sports09:52 Understanding Early Success vs. Long-Term Trajectory15:02 The Value of Varied Experiences in Youth Sports16:00 Debunking the Myth of More Hours Equals More Success18:24 Understanding Organized Sports and Risk Management19:07 The Reality of College Coaches' Preferences20:51 The Importance of Unstructured Play21:51 Recognizing Warning Signs in Young Athletes24:43 Clarity as the Key to Athletic CommitmentTakeaways-Specialization myths can put teens at risk.-Early specialization leads to higher injury rates.-Multi-sport participation promotes long-term physical and mental health.-Parents often mistake early success for long term trajectory.-College coaches prefer well-rounded athletes, not just specialists.-More practice hours do not guarantee success.-Kids need unstructured playtime for healthy development.-Monitoring mood changes in athletes is crucial.-Clarity of purpose in a given activity is king!The Research:Sports-Specialized Intensive Training and the Risk of Injury in Young AthletesJayanthi NA et al. Am J Sports Med. 2015.Overuse Injuries and Burnout in Youth Sports: A Position Statement from the American Medical Society for Sports MedicineDiFiori JP et al. Clin J Sport Med. 2014.Associations of Early Sport Specialization and High Training Volume With Injury Rates in NCAA Division I AthletesAhlquist S et al. Orthop J Sports Med. 2020.Early Sport Specialization Is Not a Prerequisite for Elite Success (AOSSM Consensus)LaPrade RF et al. Orthop J Sports Med. 2016.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve Galley-Nate & Steve

If you’re like most high-achieving parents, you’ve probably heard, “If your teen doesn’t choose one sport now, they’ll fall behind.” In this episode, we slow that conversation way down and begin a walk through what specialization actually is, where it helps and where it hurts.We know this is a big deal and you're right in the thick of it. The clock is ticking on your teen's formative years. We get it--we've been there and know what you're experiencing. And we're going to address all angles of the specialization debate in a 4 part series. By the end, you’ll possess more clarity on what’s right for your son or daughter regardless of what everyone else on and off the court, field or stage is doing! Let's get started. Should your teen specialize or sample?!The Timestamps!00:00 The Specialization Discussion (& sometime debate) Begins02:10 Defining Specialization in Youth Sports04:20 Cautionary Tales: The Risks of Over-Specialization07:12 The Pressure of Performance: Parental Expectations09:59 Focus vs. Exclusive Grind12:51 Individual Sports & Specialization15:26 The Impact of Burnout on Young Athletes18:36 Awareness and the System: Navigating Youth Sports21:27 The Importance of Recreational Sports24:20 Finding Balance: Exposure vs. Development27:15 Concluding Thoughts: The Path Forward for ParentsTakeaways-Specialization in youth sports is a nuanced topic.-Many parents may not openly admit they are pushing specialization.-Over-specialization can lead to burnout and loss of joy.-Parental expectations can create pressure on young athletes.-It's important to define what specialization means.-Rec sports provide a less stressful environment for kids.-Burnout is a significant risk for young athletes.-Self-awareness and awareness of the system is crucial for parents.-Exposure to various sports can benefit long-term development.-Finding balance between focus and variety is essential.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve GalleyAnd, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!-Nate & Steve

Ever felt trapped in the "machine" of high performance?! Is that machine raging against you?! Today we explore the complexities of high performance in family dynamics, particularly in the context of youth sports with our ambitious, high achieving teen athletes and performers. We will discuss the risk that is present with ambition but also why you as parents should not necessarily run away from it. Communication and agreements will help you mitigate the risk--they are two critical components to help you avoid the traps in the high performance "machine." Through metaphors of ocean waves and lifeguarding, we will illustrate the need for proactive parenting and the value of regular check-ins to navigate the challenges of highly competitive environments. Let's gooooooooooooooo!The Timestamps!00:00 Raging Against the Machine: High Performance and Family Dynamics03:25 Navigating the Waves: Understanding High Performance Expectations05:56 The Silent Tension: Communication Gaps in Parenting09:00 Preparing for the Unexpected: Conversations with Teens11:45 Lifeguard Parenting: Being Proactive in High Performance SituationsTakeaways-High performance creates pressure and expectations.-Parents often unintentionally place their teen athletes in challenging situations.-Communication gaps can lead to silent tensions in relationships.-It's important to prepare teens for potential risks in high performance.-Regular check-ins can help parents understand their teens' pressures.-Expectations should be replaced with agreements for better understanding.-Understanding the risks and underlying dynamics of high performance environments is crucial for effective parenting.-Parents can act as lifeguards, helping their teen athletes navigate challenges.-Being proactive can prevent kids from getting overwhelmed.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve GalleyAnd, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!-Nate & Steve

NOTE: This is Part 2 of our conversation with Andrea. Check out Episode 121 for Part 1! In this episode with Dr. Andrea Mata we knock out gentle parenting and expose it's major flaws while exploring and defining how to parent well in this Gen Z world. Andrea ("Dr. Dre") spells out the simple ways we can authoritatively parent and lead better.If you are the ambitious parent of a go-getter teen athlete or performer, this episode is custom built for you. We hope you enjoy it--let us know what you think by commenting or sending us feedback at [email protected]. THANKS!All the links and places to find and connect with Dr. Andrea Mata are listed after the show notes below!The Timestamps!00:00 Intro -- This is Part 2--listen to EP 121 for Part 102:31 Emotional Regulation Strategies for Teens12:20 The Debate on Gentle Parenting18:45 Balancing Authority and Connection in Parenting21:41 Common Pitfalls in Parent-Teen Connections26:08 Embracing Natural Consequences in Parenting27:26 The Impact of 'Be Careful' on Child Development29:37 Understanding Obsessive Compulsive Disorder in Teens31:47 The Importance of Allowing Struggles for Growth32:39 Connecting with Dr. Andrea Mata: Resources and Social Media34:38 Thriving with the Stars--Charity/Dance Experience!37:18 Ohio State Football & Michigan '24: A Diehard Fan's Perspective43:52 Encouragement for Overwhelmed ParentsTakeaways-Emotional regulation is essential.-Emotional regulation skills is best taught during calm.-Modeling behavior beats lecturing.-Gentle parenting is not the way.-Setting high expectations is the way!-Listening beats lecturing!-Natural consequences are critical.-"Be careful" can hinder children's ability to assess risks.-Parents can always develop new skills to improve their parenting.Andrea's TedX Talk--From Murder to Mission: How I Found My Life's CallingAndrea's LinkedInAndrea's YouTube ChannelAndrea on the Tamron Hall ShowThe No. 2 Parenting Book: Practical Tips for the Pooped Out ParentHey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. New episodes drop every MONDAY.Please SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve Galley-Nate & Steve

"Our bad!" We should've recorded this episode years ago! All kidding aside, "my bad" stinks and we'll tell you why in today's episode where we explore the concept of apologies! Particularly focusing on the phrase "my bad" and its implications. We'll discuss the sincerity behind admitting fault and "apologizing," the importance of genuine change, and introduce "The Repair Loop" as a tool for better, more effective apologies. And it will all come down to the role of parents in modeling sincere apologies for their teens and the need for actionable change following an acknowledgment of mistakes.The Timestamps!00:00 The Meaning of Apologies03:13 The Impact of Language on Apologies06:18 The Psychology Behind 'My Bad'09:18 The Repair Loop: A Tool for Genuine Change12:08 Modeling Behavior for Your Teens13:14 Real-World Examples of Apologies in Action15:20 Focusing on Your Standards and Values17:52 Creating Meaningful ChangeTakeaways-Apologies can often be insincere and merely lip service.-The phrase 'my bad' is a weak apology.-Sincerity in apologies is crucial for genuine change.-The Repair Loop consists of acknowledging, analyzing, and acting to repair mistakes.-Modeling proper apology behavior is important for parents.-Teens often mimic their parents' apology styles.-Concrete actions following an apology validate the sincerity of the statement.-Understanding the underlying values can enhance the effectiveness of apologies.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve GalleyAnd, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!-Nate & Steve

NOTE: This is Part 1 of 2 with Andrea.What does it take to break cycles, beat the odds, and build something better—for yourself and your family? In this episode, we sit down with "Dr. Dre" a.k.a. Andrea D. Mata, PhD—clinical psychologist, founder of BrightSpot Families, and unapologetic straight shooter. And should I mention, funny as all get out! From growing up in a gang-ridden neighborhood on Chicago’s south side to reshaping how families fight anxiety, Dr. Dre shares the raw truth about resilience, parenting, and mental health. Get ready for no-filter wisdom! Dr. Dre is in the house!The Timestamps!00:00 Introduction to Dr. Andrea Mata and Her Mission02:06 Dr. Mata's Journey and Background04:01 The Impact of Dr. Mata's TED Talk05:17 The Unique Approach of Dr. Mata's Book07:52 Transitioning to Sports Psychology09:54 The Importance of Composure Training12:52 Emotional Regulation in Sports18:38 Managing Parental Behavior at Games21:26 Modeling Emotional Regulation for Teens25:42 Navigating the Conversation FlowLOOK FOR PART 2 with Dr. Andrea Mata, Ph.D coming soon within the next few weeks! In the meantime if you're looking for more from Dr. Dre here is where you may find her (and if you really want the Coop the Poop bookmark, connect with Andrea on LinkedIn and order the book directly from her--you can also get the book minus the bookmark on Amazon ("The No. 2 Parenting Book: Practical Tips for the Pooped Out Parent":https://andreadmata.com/https://www.brightspotfamilies.com/https://www.youtube.com/@drdrematahttps://www.linkedin.com/in/andrea-mata-ph-d-278765225/Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve GalleyAnd, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!-Nate & Steve

If you’ve ever said, “My teen needs to be taken down a notch,” this episode is your wake-up call. We break down why that mindset crushes confidence and how a coaching approach actually develops humility, strength, and real independence. You’ll learn how to use love, challenge, and questions—not control or shame—to raise high-performing, emotionally healthy teens.In this episode, we dive into how humiliation, even when subtle, can derail your teen’s confidence and passion. Instead, we offer some powerful questions to guide your teen’s growth through thoughtful challenges, encouragement, and conversations that fuel both their character and their performance (even if they're a bit defiant!).The Timestamps!00:00 Introduction to Parenting Philosophy02:15 The Concept of Taking Down a Notch04:48 The Emotional Cost of Humiliation07:40 Challenging Overconfidence in Teens10:18 Healthy Alternatives to Humiliation12:49 Encouraging Growth and Confidence15:14 Conclusion and Call to ActionTakeaways-Taking your teen down a notch can be harmful.-Humiliation has staggering emotional costs for kids.-Parents should foster confidence in their children.-Redirecting defiance is more effective than punishment.-Asking questions can help teens reflect on their behavior.-Love is a stronger motivator than fear.-Modeling humility is essential for parents.-Encouraging service can teach gratitude and humility.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve GalleyAnd, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!-Nate & Steve

Think your teen’s success starts with better training or coaching? Think again. It starts at home. The strongest teen athletes and performers come from families that operate like teams, playoff teams centered around clear communication, shared accountability, and mutual respect. Today we explore practical ways to build that kind of culture: from a united front to weekly huddles and making repairs in front of our teen athletes and performers. Because if your family functions like a playoff team, your teen will thrive wherever they play.The Timestamps!00:00 Family as a Playoff Team03:25 Contradiction Audit in Family Dynamics06:16 Modeling Teamwork in Parenting08:57 Non-Negotiables for Effective Parenting12:05 Implementing Family Huddles and DebriefsTakeaways-Approaching family dynamics like a playoff team can enhance overall well-being.-Parents must model positive behavior for their children.-A "contradiction audit" can reveal harmful family dynamics.-Team sports serve as a foundation for life skills.-Parents should focus on controllables in their teen's sports.-Weekly family huddles can strengthen teamwork.-Modeling reconciliation teaches children valuable lessons.Leading discussions without blame or victimhood is a must!Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve GalleyAnd, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!-Nate & Steve

Parents, here’s the hard truth: growth doesn’t happen where honesty is avoided. In Episode 118, we dive deep into why facing the truth—especially the uncomfortable kind—creates the breakthrough moments your teen athlete or performer needs. You’ll quickly learn how to apply our “3 Reframing R’s”—Reflect, Refocus, and Recommit—to transform your approach from typical parental reacting to coaching with clarity and power.Moms and dads--we believe in you and we believe you CAN handle the truth!The Timestamps00:00 The Importance of Truth in Growth02:15 Keys to Confronting the Truth07:59 Personal Stories of Truth and Growth12:46 The Three Rs: Reflect, Refocus, RecommitTakeaways-When you uncover more of the truth, the faster you grow.-All progress starts with the truth. Rinse and repeat that!-Be curious, not judgmental, when confronting the truth.-Specificity helps focus on facts, not feelings.-The 3 Reframing R's: Reflect, Refocus, & Recommit are a must!-Consistency wins in all areas of life.-Coaching can help identify blind spots.-Accepting the truth opens doors for growth.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve GalleyAnd, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!-Nate & Steve

PARENTS—your words carry weight. If you're coaching a high-achieving teen, "linguistic intentionality" isn't optional—it's essential. In this episode, we break down why how you say something matters just as much as what you say. The way you communicate can build confidence, resilience, and trust—or do the opposite. This one’s packed with practical insight to help you level up your parenting (ahem, coaching) game. Let’s get into it.The Timestamps!00:00 Understanding Linguistic Intentionality00:37 The Importance of Words in Communication02:52 The Story of Finn: A Teen Athlete's Struggles03:44 E + R = O: Event, Response, Outcome04:40 Introducing The Controllable Compass07:47 Role-Playing: Finn's Dad's Perspective10:42 Emotional Responses and Self-Talk13:07 Focus Management in ConversationsTakeaways-Linguistic intentionality is crucial for effective communication.-Words have a significant impact on relationships.-Self-talk influences our emotional responses.-E + R = O: Event + Response = Outcome.-The Controllable Compass helps focus on responses.-Clear purpose is essential in conversations.-Maintaining a big picture perspective is important.-Emotional awareness aids in better communication.-Focus management helps prioritize what matters most.-Preparation is key for intentional conversations.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve GalleyAnd, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!-Nate & Steve

Steve goes on the hot seat!! Sizzle! This week's episode is a replay of a LinkedIn LIVE session where Nate plays himself (a high performance coach) and Steve plays a high achieving parent of a teen athlete or performer. It's time for Steve to "get radically honest!"Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve GalleyAnd, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!-Nate & Steve

High-achieving parents! You’ve got the ambition, the goals, and the work ethic. But tech doesn’t care. Tech and social media is working against you and your best efforts, pulling your high performing teen away from purpose into danger, anxiety, and crippling identity issues.Nicole Runyon, a licensed psychotherapist, keynote speaker, wife, mother, and author of the book: Free to Fly: The Secret to Fostering Independence in the Next Generation, joins us to share the wisdom and necessity in reclaiming your role as a parent—not with your hands off the wheel or ruling with an iron fist—but as a true leader modeling high standards and setting firm, loving boundaries!Grab Nicole's amazing book on Amazon!https://www.amazon.com/Free-Fly-Fostering-Independence-Generation/dp/1637633777/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3EGOODJ8EUI4E&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9._fX6I-u-FL4rocER5klg1g.q_jCFmZGbRL10f_wepkc7HBOC99Hr5t6LwETUpAukwE&dib_tag=se&keywords=nicole+runyon+free+to+fly&qid=1758574177&sprefix=nicole+runyon%2Caps%2C168&sr=8-1Like audio? Get Nicole's book here on Audible:https://www.audible.com/pd/Free-to-Fly-Audiobook/B0FNNRVJCT?source_code=ASSGB149080119000H&share_location=pdpNicole is most active on Linkedin. Find and follow her there: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicolerunyonlmsw/The Timestamps00:00 Intro to Nicole Runyon04:52 Nicole's Massive Shift!09:18 The Role of Therapy & Parental Influence11:25 Modeling Behavior18:01 Navigating Discomfort & Resilience22:17 Real-Life Examples of Parenting Challenges29:30 Technology's Impact on Parenting& Boundaries31:56 The Dangers of Roblox33:05 Establishing Tech Boundaries for Families40:19 Age-Specific Recommendations for Device Use45:11 Addressing Parental Denial & Resistance48:36 Building Connection with Resistant Teens52:12 Self-Awareness in Parenting58:50 Encouragement for ParentsPlease SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. Our channel is named after our show -- The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!New episodes drop every MONDAY. We also post valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve Galley-Nate & Steve

PARENTS: Please join us at a special LINKEDIN Live event just for you. "RADICALLY HONEST" are the words we'll be wrestling with! 30 minutes, short and sweet, 100% complimentary, and you, a Most Valuable Parent will be one of the stars! Click the link below to register!RADICALLY HONEST, September 22nd @ 7:00 pm MSTHey parents—what if the very thing you’re trying to fix in your teen isn’t actually the problem? In this episode, Steve and I dive into a powerful shift: moving from parenting strategies that control to coaching strategies that connect. We share how coaching the person, not the problem, can unlock massive growth—for your teen and for you.Every breakthrough starts with honesty—and in this episode, we show you why. We break down how our nique hybrid coaching model transforms family dynamics, fosters connection, and gets measurable results. Whether your teen is an athlete, performer, or just trying to find their path, this is where real growth begins...with you!The Timestamps!00:00 Understanding the Unique Approach to Parenting Coaching03:13 The Power of Elevating Parents05:59 The Importance of Honesty and Clarity08:47 The Hybrid Coaching Model11:41 Measurable Growth and Family Dynamics14:03 Join us on our September 22nd LinkedIn LIVE!Takeaways-We're not here to fix problems.-All progress starts with the truth--RADICAL HONESTY required!-We coach the parent and the teen athlete/performer, not the problem.-When you focus on getting better, everything gets better.-Our hybrid coaching model unleashes the multiplier effect.-A proven method gives us coaching confidence.-You can make it happen if you're willing to get to the truth.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve GalleyLinkedIn LIVE September 22nd, 2025And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!-Nate & Steve

PARENTS--Let’s get radical! Let's get honest! We might as well get RADICALLY HONEST!! Traditional parenting often breaks down when your teen starts to compete or perform at a higher level. What they need isn't more control, it's a shift from your best parenting to skilled coaching. We dive into what radical honesty really means, how to reset communication, and why your own growth as a parent is the key to unlocking theirs. It’s not about pushing harder—it’s about connecting deeper. Let's go MVP's!!You're cordially invited to join us on a LinkedIn LIVE on Monday, September 22nd at 7-7:30 pm MST. It will be informative, interactive, and it's 100% free (really). And did I mention it will be a lot of fun?! See you there! NATE & STEVE: LINKEDIN LIVE--The RADICALLY HONEST Conversation for crazy busy high achieving parents of high performing teen athletes!The Timestamps00:00 The Need for Coaching Beyond Youth03:20 Parental Growth and Connection06:16 The Impact of Expectations on Performance08:35 The Importance of Radical Honesty10:48 Transitioning from Parenting to Coaching12:45 Invitation to the PRIME your MIND for PARENTS LinkedIn LIVETakeaways-Coaching is essential for both teens and parents.-Parents often stop seeking coaching as they grow older.-The demands of parenting require continuous personal growth.-Parental growth can significantly impact teen performance.-Controlling the controllables is crucial for parents.-Teens often struggle with external expectations.-Radical honesty is the foundation for growth.-Shifting from parenting to coaching reduces conflict.-Parents should seek coaching to better support their teens.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also hang out and spread our message on LinkedIn. Please follow us and engage with us there: LinkedIn Steve GalleyAnd, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!-Nate & Steve

"Nobody needs coaching" (say it in a bit of a whiny voice for added effect). While that is a common "hot take" out there in the coaching space, we 100% go against the grain on that statement. Those are fightin' words to us!After 55ish combined years of coaching, parenting, and marital (mostly) bliss...we strongly contend that while everyone may not want a coach or aspire to be coached, Everyone Needs a Coach!! Tune in to this short but hard punching episode where we will present the arguments against the "nobody needs coaching" statement and throw a few haymakers in presenting our case for the necessity of coaching.Are you ready for coaching?!Takeaways-Everyone needs a coach to help them grow.-Individual athletes often have coaches to address blind spots.-A great coach acts as your externalized prefrontal cortex.-Coaching accelerates the rate of improvement. Go further, faster with coaching!-Parents should shift from parenting to coaching their teens.-Coaching is not just for professional athletes; it's for everyone.-Coaching helps in elevating all areas of life consistently.-EVERYONE NEEDS A COACH.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve GalleyAnd, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!-Nate & Steve

Parenting is the hardest job and there's not a close second. So what if you just decided to focus on getting "M.A.D.?!" We do what we do because we want to be M.A.D. 24/7/365 if at all possible. Tune in to find out why being a M.A.D. parent will help you to help your high performing teen to soar! If you model this yourself as a high achieving mom or dad, your teen is likely to become a M.A.D.M.A.N. or M.A.D.W.O.M.A.N. too!The Timestamps00:00 Exploring the Why Behind Our Actions02:58 The Impact of Mentorship on Youth05:46 The Joy of Coaching and Making a Difference10:58 Creating a Unique Coaching ModelTakeaways-Understanding our motivations can lead to personal growth.-Every child needs coaches and mentors outside of their parents.-Coaching is about making a difference in lives.-The joy of coaching comes from seeing others succeed.-Life lessons learned through sports are invaluable.-Authentic connections in coaching enhance learning.-Parents can elevate their coaching skills for better outcomes.-The be mad philosophy emphasizes making a difference.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve GalleyAnd, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!-Nate & Steve

Raising high-achieving teens is not about pushing harder—it’s about aligning better. We reveal how you can use coaching strategies that keep your teen motivated, connected, and resilient—even when the inevitable, emotional potholes appear. And teens face dozens of emotional potholes in an average school day. It's easy for them to get out of alignment quickly which in turn can create alignment problems with you as a parent. We've faced this pothole/alignment issue as dads, coaches, and teachers. Let's take this whole pothole thing head on and explore some practical solutions that you can implement with your teen right away!The Timestamps00:00 Understanding Alignment in Relationships03:03 Emotional Potholes and Their Impact06:00 Navigating Values and Goals08:17 The Importance of Check-Ins11:07 Closing Thoughts on AlignmentTakeaways-Alignment is crucial in relationships, not just for cars.-Teens face bigger and faster emotional swings than parents.-Parents and teens often share the same goals but can misalign.-Emotional potholes knock teens out of their alignment.-Values play a significant role in maintaining alignment with goals.-Regular check-ins can help assess emotional states.-Parents should focus on relationship value over achievement.-Strong connection helps teens get back on track faster.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve GalleyAnd, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!-Nate & Steve

If you’ve ever felt your heart race while watching your teen compete or perform, you’re not alone. We’ve been there—sitting in the stands, palms sweaty, wondering if I’ve done enough to prepare them for this moment. We've also been a little shaky at times before an crucial conversation or uncomfortable situation.Confidence as a parent isn’t something we’re born with—it’s something we intentionally build. In this episode,we use the metaphor of a pre-flight checklist to shifting from "parenting" to “coaching.” You’ll discover how to prepare for high-pressure moments so you can show up calm, ready, and modeling confidence your teen can mirror. Let's go Most Valuable Parents!The Timestamps!00:00 The Confidence Question02:31 Building Confidence Through Evidence05:13 The Role of Systems in Parenting08:02 Shifting from Parenting to Coaching11:21 Preparing for High-Pressure MomentsTakeaways-Confidence comes from doing and having evidence of success.-Build a "pre-flight checklist" to prepare for parenting challenges.-Shifting from parenting to coaching can enhance confidence in both parents and teens.-High performance habits can help parents feel more confident in their roles.-It's important for parents to recognize their own high-pressure moments.-Asking great questions can help parents coach teens effectively.-Confidence needs to be continuously cultivated.-Parents should model preparation for high-pressure situations to their kids.-Feeling nervous while watching kids perform is common and can be managed.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We're also posting valuable content on LinkedIn. Please follow us and connect with us: LinkedIn Steve GalleyAnd, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!-Nate & Steve

What is the most important relationship? We've got our answer. Do you have your answer? We won't really fight you over this, but we absolutely, positively believe it is the parent-teen relationship. And...parenting a teen athlete or performer isn’t just another stage of life—it’s a high-stakes job with an expiration date! Let's get real about what it takes to win in this short window of time that you get with your high achieving teen. If you're tired of your traditional parenting tactics that fall flat, you’re going to want to hear how coaching can change everything—especially implementing the high performance habit of influence.The Timestamps!00:00 The Most Important Relationship in the World03:26 Identity Development in Adolescence06:18 Modeling Behavior and Future Relationships09:15 The Role of Influence in Parenting12:14 Emotional Regulation and Vulnerability13:47 Growth Mindset and Parental GrowthHey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We also are posting valuable content on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/steve-galley/And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!-Nate & Steve

When your high achieving teen starts tuning you out, it’s a warning sign—not a "drive off the cliff" moment. It’s a chance to upgrade your approach. A welcome chance to shift from parenting to coaching.In this commuter-friendly--"I'm too busy to listen to long form podcasts"--conversation, we explore how a traditional parenting strategy fails miserably—and how coaching habits rooted in connection, curiosity, and courage can unlock your teen’s highest potential.The Timestamps00:00 The Power of Listening in Parenting07:49 Influence and Expectations in Child Development11:22 Finding Balance: Communication and ConnectionTakeaways-Talk less, smile more is a powerful approach to connecting.-Listening > lecturing.-Influence decreases as parents talk more!-Fewer words and better timing can enhance communication.-Letting teens sit in uncomfortable emotions can be beneficial.-Asking good questions leads to deeper conversations.-Parents should avoid giving unsolicited advice.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you!And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Click here to pick up our 100% Free Thinking Tool: The Question Only Conversation. Give it a whirl today and watch your relationship with your teen athlete or performer trend upward!-Nate & Steve

PARENTS: Is your playbook outdated? Discover how questions—not commands—empower your teen athlete. You’ve worked hard to give your teen every opportunity for success—but is your parenting actually helping them thrive or holding them back? In today’s episode, we dive into why shifting from advice-giver to question-asker could be the most powerful move you make.Timestamps00:00 Shifting from Parenting to Coaching02:52 Relationship Building is Where It's At!04:25 Understanding the Role of Expectations07:27 The Power of Questions in ParentingTakeaways-Realizing the old parenting playbook isn't effective is crucial.-The relationship with teens is paramount for effective parenting.-Understanding expectations can alleviate pressure on teens.-All progress starts with the truth in relationships.-Asking questions fosters autonomy in teens.-Communication should shift from advice-giving to inquiry.-Empowering teens through questions is essential for their development.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you!And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!). -Nate & Steve

Parents! CHAOS alert! Ever feel like you're drowning in the chaotic shuffling of schedules, calendars, practices, carpools, uniforms, and GPS instructions?! Well, you probably are! Let's throw you a rescue donut (and maybe a chocolate one, too) and help you create some clarity and control. Want to know how you can turn your family scheduling chaos into "organization on the go?" OK, we've got something for you that you'll wish you had yesterday!In this week's episode, Zoya Lehrer, co-founder of Orgo--the shared calendar app for crazy busy sports parents--shares the origin story of this amazing app. While on her journey as a supermom managing the messiness of scheduling and organization with three very athletic and active daughters, she and her hubby, and her girls were NOT feeling the joy. They were feeling the pain! The Lehrer family eventually reached a point where the chaos--and we're talking CHAOS in all caps--was as Zoya puts it: untenable!! So she decided to leave the fin-tech corporate world and is now on a mission to help parents just like her, and YOU, to calm the chaos.Tune in to hear Zoya discuss the fascinating and essential concept of "time literacy," and why we as moms and dads (along with our kids) MUST understand it!This is a must listen for your crazy busy parents smack dab in the middle of those precious, youth sports and teenage years!!The Timestamps!00:00 The Chaos of Family Sports Scheduling09:28 Understanding Time Literacy19:14 The Emotional Toll of Parenting Kids in Sports28:39 Building a Support Team at ORGO37:55 Navigating the Balance of Activities & Choices37:06 Family Values and Measuring Success39:45 The ORGO Approach to Family Organization47:12 Finding Calm in the Chaos of Parenting Your Young Athletes & Performers49:39 Getting Started with ORGO--Let's Keep it Simple for YouHey there Most Valuable Parents!We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you!-Nate & Steve

Hey there high achieving moms and dads! Are you ready to fill your parenting and coaching pan with some gold nuggets?! Simon Timms is in the house and he's got 30 years of parenting wisdom to share. As an experienced father, husband, and licensed therapist Simon knows the ins, outs, ups, and downs of communicating and connecting with teens, especially when the stakes are high and the going is tough! You're going to love this one!The Timestamps!Chapters00:00 Introduction to Parenting Challenges00:57 Simon Timms: Background and Experience07:57 Understanding Teen Pushback10:49 The Importance of Validation in Parenting16:42 Navigating Expectations and Communication22:13 Addressing Negative Core Beliefs in Teens27:01 The Role of Non-Parental Adults in Helping our Teens28:26 Building Resilience in our Teens31:07 Understanding Insecurities in Parenting33:01 Radical Acceptance and Self-Awareness35:36 Mindfulness and Self-Care Practices39:04 The Role of Martial Arts in Self-Discipline44:07 Creating a Safe Haven for Teens47:31 Transitioning from Parenting to Coaching52:17 Recognizing When to Seek TherapyHey there Most Valuable Parents!We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you!-Nate & Steve

Whooa parents! Here's a must listen if you want to simplify the complexities of the recruiting process for your young athlete! David Hitz and Athlete Narrative to your rescue!! Let's get real and learn the importance and best practices of personal branding, your role as a Most Valuable Parent, and how technology can become your athlete's trusted guide in recruitment.Tune is as we engage with David and discuss the common mistakes parents and athletes are making in their efforts to reach out to coaches and colleges! Listen to some success stories that inspire hope for your young athlete! And to make it all even more amazing, learn how EXTREMELY affordable this is for YOU and the masses! Athlete Narrative is changing the recruiting game one athlete at a time!The Timestamps!00:00 Introduction to Athlete Narrative04:05 Simplifying the Recruiting Process08:36 The Importance of Finding Opportunities11:36 The Numbers Game in Recruiting13:02 Affordable Solutions for Families13:51 When to Start the Recruiting Process15:11 Parental Involvement in Branding17:17 Signing Up for Athlete Narrative19:26 Building Your Radar Page21:15 Emailing Coaches Effectively22:43 Navigating the Conversation: Technical Challenges and Solutions23:33 Exploring Personal Branding and NIL in Sports23:54 The Role of Coaches in Athlete Recruitment24:53 Simplifying the Recruitment Process for Coaches26:50 Common Mistakes Parents Make in Recruitment28:08 The Evolution of Recruitment Strategies30:46 Affordable Solutions for Aspiring Athletes33:29 The Importance of Hope in Recruitment38:07 Success Stories: Real Impact of the Service42:43 Connecting with Athlete Narrative: Final ThoughtsHey there Most Valuable Parents!We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you!-Nate & Steve

We’re asking a powerful question: Is "it" optional or essential? What is "it?" Tune it to find out as we explore how the concept of "NECESSITY" can help you lead your teen more effectively, especially if they’re navigating high-stakes performance in sports or the performing arts. You’ll leave with tools that shift your mindset from transactional to transformational and from parenting...to coaching!We’re diving into the deep end of the pool to get a bit uncomfortable. Yep, in the deep water we'll find out how the high performance habit of necessity creates clarity and most importantly, a deeper, better connection with your teen. This episode will challenge and encourage you to rethink what it means to be a high-performing parent.The Timestamps00:00 Is "it" Optional or Essential?02:33 Understanding Purpose in Parenting05:22 Exploring the 'Why' By Going Several Levels Deep08:25 The Importance of Self-Reflection11:19 Transformational vs. Transactional Parenting14:08 The Golden Circle--Simon Sinek16:40 Practical Exercises for Parents19:20 Engaging with Your TeenTakeaways-What is really essential?-Understanding your purpose as a parent is crucial.-Courage is needed to confront personal shortcomings.-Focusing on progress (the gain) is important.-The 'why' behind parenting choices shapes actions.-Transformational parenting builds deeper connections.-Transactional parenting can create pressure on children.-Going several "levels deep with 'why' questions leads to deeper insights.-Engaging with your child's perspective is valuable.-Self-awareness enhances parenting effectiveness.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you!And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).-Nate & Steve

If you're serious about high performance—not just for your teen, but for yourself as a parent, this conversation may be your wake-up call. We dive head first into the real reason our communication and connection with our teens often falls flat: low energy. There are some simple and strategic ways to turn this around!Walk with us in this discussion on how we can better generate energy. That's right. We have the power (pun fully intended) to create energy rather than viewing it as a supply we have no control over. We touch on the four pillars that affect how you show up—sleep, nutrition, exercise, and mental wellness—and how you can take simple steps to bring your best energy every day. Let's go moms and dads. We can win at work and at home!The Timestamps!00:00 "Leftovers" and Parenting Dynamics 02:27 Energy Management for Parents 05:00 The 4 Energy Pillars 08:11 Practical Strategies for Generating Energy 10:58 The Energy Connection 14:04 Showing up Better 16:55 Energy Audits and Self-Management19:36 Simple Strategies for Parents 22:30 Awareness of our Energy LevelsTakeaways-Leftovers can be a metaphor for the energy parents have left to give their teens.-Energy management is crucial for effective parenting and leadership.-The four pillars of energy are sleep, nutrition, exercise, and mental wellness.-Simple strategies can help parents manage their energy better.-"Release tension and set intention" to prep for better interactions.-Awareness of energy levels is key to improvement.-Small tweaks can lead to significant changes in energy production.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you!And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).-Nate & Steve

If you're a high-performing parent trying to raise a high-performing teen, you know this already—it takes courage. Not always the “run-into-the-fire” kind, but the quiet, everyday kind: letting go of control, staying consistent, and having the hard conversations. In our milestone 100th episode, we celebrate YOU—the brave moms and dads who courageously shift from parenting to coaching on your quest to create magical relationships with your teens!Sure, we're pumped we've published content for you every Monday for 100 weeks, but what we're most excited about is you and teaming with you to elevate your performance.Here are a few questions to further help you level up your bravery as a parent:How can you demonstrate quiet courage on a consistent basis?What do courageous parents do that others don’t?What does "brave parenting" look like to you?Gold Nugget Timestamps00:00 The Courage to Let Go02:39 Celebrating Parenting and Milestones05:51 The Journey to 100 Episodes08:35 Understanding Courage in Parenting11:36 Courage in Everyday Actions14:27 Defining Courage: What It Is and Isn't16:14 The Impact of Small Acts of Courage19:03 Questions to Foster Courage in Parenting21:55 Demonstrating Courage TogetherTakeaways-Courage in parenting involves letting go of control as children grow.-Happy BELATED Mother's Day and Happy Father's Day!-Our journey to 100 episodes required commitment and courage.-Courage is often found in small, consistent actions.-Asking for help is a courageous act, especially for single parents.-The parent-child relationship is argubly the most important one in society.-Parents should reflect on their actions and how you can step up more.-Defining what brave parenting looks like is a coaching supermove.-Recognizing and counting wins as a parent helps build confidence.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you!And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).-Nate & Steve

Going first can be scary! But, your teen is watching. If you’ve ever wished your teen would just change their attitude, their habits, or their mindset—this episode flips that desire on its head. We unpack the powerful metaphor of the "first penguin" and challenge you to step up and model the behaviors you want to see from your teen athlete or performer. From emotional resilience to authenticity, this episode dives deep into why going first isn't just brave—it's necessary. Are you ready to be the first penguin? Let's gooooooooooo!The Timestamps!00:00 The First Penguin Dilemma02:16 Modeling Behavior as Parents05:02 The Importance of Authenticity08:04 Going First in Emotional Regulation10:54 The Shift to Coaching from Parenting14:05 The 2 Big Coaching Stoppers16:36 Powerful First Penguin QuestionsTakeaways-The first penguin metaphor illustrates the fear of being first in challenging situations.-Parents must model emotional resilience for their teens.-Teens are adept at detecting inauthenticity in adults.-Modeling behavior is crucial for teaching teens about habits and attitudes.-Parents should be conscious of their actions--you are always being observed by your teens.-Going first as a parent can lead to meaningful conversations about struggles and growth.-Parents should seek coaching and show their willingness to learn to set an example for their teens.-Overcoming personal barriers to change is essential for effective parenting.-Asking for feedback can help you identify areas for improvement.-It all starts with parents modeling changes.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you!And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!). -Nate & Steve

Parents, what is the #1 High Performance Habit? Where does it all start? it’s time to swap confusion for clarity. Ah, clarity! In this powerful episode, we unpack the King of the High Performance Habits: CLARITY. This isn’t just a concept—it’s a parenting and coaching superpower and one you've gotta get right if you want to improve your own performance and that of your teen. Let's get crystal clear on this. Ready? Let's gooooooooo!The Timestamps!00:00 Understanding How our Own Uncertainty Affects Teen Growth02:43 Clarity-- Is it a Destination?04:59 Questions for Parents to Foster Clarity07:35 Practical Tips for Achieving Clarity10:03 Seeking Clarity as a Family13:06 The Journey of Clarity and Continuous ImprovementGold NuggetsUncertainty as parents can limit a teen's growth.Clarity is essential for high performance.Parents should identify their core values, vision and roles.Clarity is a continuous process, not a destination.Creating family clarity fosters better relationships.Regular check-ins on clarity are beneficial.Clarity leads to increased happiness and confidence.Engaging in family discussions about values creates clarity.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you!And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).-Nate & Steve

Discover how leadership, love, and trust transformed an autistic teen’s life, and how it can change yours and your most important relationships! Parents, this episode is a Can't Miss, Don't Miss opportunity! Coach Jim Johnson doesn’t just talk about winning, he talks about leading with heart and he walks that walk in his own life!Coach's story of the miracle that took place on February 15th, 2006 in Rochester, New York is nothing short of stunning. On that night Jason McElwain ("J-Mac"), a young autistic team manager made sports history. And J-Mac's story is more than inspirational—it’s a lesson in what happens when we lead with love, build trust, and coach instead of control. This conversation will move you to connect more deeply with your teen, which is not always an easy task!Let’s be real: parenting a teen athlete or performer can feel like walking a tightrope. But what if the key isn’t more discipline—it’s more coaching? What if you became a better leader? Beyond the J-Mac story, Coach Johnson shares the 7 leadership principles that he has developed over his legendary career. He continues sharing this wisdom today in his books, his motivational keynote speeches, his podcast, and his everyday conversations with people everywhere.Let's go!! It is time for LESSONS with the incomparable Coach Jim Johnson.The Timestamps!00:00 The Journey of Coach Jim Johnson11:24 The J-Mac Miracle Story18:27 Leadership Lessons from Coaching19:27 Embracing Vulnerability in Leadership20:27 The Power of Team Unity21:53 A Memorable Senior Night23:40 Jason's Journey to the Spotlight26:13 The Essence of Teamwork28:15 Overcoming Challenges and Building Momentum31:25 Proud Moments in Coaching33:17 Fostering Connection Over Performance Pressure36:56 The Art of Questioning in Leadership44:31 Building Relationships with Parents47:26 The Limitless Leadership Lounge Podcast51:28 Building Skills and Team Philosophy51:59 The Seven Keys to Leadership53:12 Clarifying Vision and Personal Mission54:33 Building Trust in Leadership56:23 Creating an Edge and Effective Communication01:00:27 Leading by Example01:01:51 The Importance of Servant Leadership01:02:41 Influential Leadership Books and Their Impact01:05:16 Key Skills for Emerging Leaders01:09:16 Advice for Parents of Struggling AthletesWant more from Coach Jim Johnson? Here are a few places you can find him:coachjimjohnson.comThe Limitless Leadership Lounge PodcastLinkedInPlease SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our YouTube channel is: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!And check out what we're up to at createtransformbecome.com. There you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool (The Question Only Conversation!). -Nate & Steve

Silent contracts filled with expectations usually lead to disappointment and communication breakdowns. This is gonna lead to some "A words!" You know, we could probably name this episode "The A Words!"What "A" words you ask? Agreements (oh yeah, much better!) and Awareness (ok, now we're talking!). In this episode we're going to discuss how to use Awareness so you can cancel those bad silent contracts and more toward creating powerful Agreements!Let's go parents! Let's stop parenting and start coaching!!The TakeawaysSilent contracts can create misunderstandings in relationships.Assumptions often lead to negative outcomes in communication.Agreements are more sound than flimsy assumptions.Awareness of past silent contracts can help in parenting.Constant communication is essential for aligning expectations.Parents should ask their teens about their perceived expectations.Effort in communication can save time and reduce guilt when expectations are not met.Aligning expectations with teens can empower them to succeed.Canceling silent contracts can build trust in relationships.Open dialogues can help clarify assumptions and expectations.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you!And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).-Nate & Steve

Parents, what scoreboard are you using to measure your teen's success—and is it hurting more than helping? And, what scoreboard are they using to measure success—and is it creating momentum or stress in their lives?Do you ever wonder if your teen is chasing results just to keep you happy—or worse, to feel worthy? We’re digging into that "silent contract" so many families carry without talking about it. You’ll walk away with tools to separate your teen’s performance from their identity, and strategies for helping them craft a scoreboard that reflects who they really want to become.Find the Stuff You Want!00:00 Defining Success: Momentum vs. Stress01:59 Reflective Questions for Parents06:01 Understanding Silent Contracts in Success09:59 The Importance of Identity in Success13:54 Different Scoreboards: Aligning Definitions of Success19:59 Opportunities in Meltdowns: Growth Mindset23:56 The Scoreboard Course--Creating Your Own Scoreboard for SuccessThe Takeaways!-The way we define success can create momentum or stress.-Reflective questions help parents understand their own definition of success.-"Silent contracts" can exist in relationships without being discussed.-It's crucial for teens to separate their identity from their performance.-Parents should encourage their kids to define success for themselves.-Meltdowns can be opportunities for growth and understanding.-Creating a personal scoreboard helps measure success in a meaningful way.-Chasing results can lead to dissatisfaction and a never-ending pursuit.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We'd be even more grateful (if that's possible) if you would like, review, comment or SHARE an episode wherever you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents like yourselves--thank you!And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).-Nate & Steve

Parenting teens isn’t about talking more — it’s about asking better. Discover the Question Only Tool today. Every parent wants their teen to succeed. But success doesn’t come from micromanaging — it comes from ownership. In this episode, we show you how to use The Question Only Conversation to guide your teen toward greater autonomy, confidence, and motivation — all while strengthening your bond.Chapters00:00 Understanding Teen Wisdom03:51 The Shift from Parenting to Coaching07:55 Empowering Teens Through Questions10:02 The Power of Inquiry-Based Conversations11:53 Real-Life Examples: Jason's Track Success15:01 Maya's Dance Audition Journey17:58 Lessons from Phil Jackson's Coaching Style20:58 Implementing The Question Only Conversation (QOC)Gold Nuggets-Teens often possess wisdom that parents may overlook.-Shifting from parenting to coaching can enhance relationships.-Asking questions can empower teens to express their thoughts.-Unsolicited advice can hinder a teen's sense of autonomy.-Question Only Conversation is a powerful tool for parents.-Building a relationship based on respect leads to better communication.-Teens need to feel ownership of their successes.-Self-determination theory emphasizes autonomy, mastery, and connection.-Effective communication can prevent breakdowns in relationships.-Parents should act as mirrors to help teens process their experiences.Hey there Most Valuable Parents! We are creating a world-class podcast for parents of teen athletes and performers on YouTube. We can also be found on the other usual places you get your podcasts like Apple Podcasts and Spotify.New episodes drop every MONDAY.We would be most grateful if you would SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel where our unique show for parents of teen athletes and performers resides. The name of our podcast is the same name as our YouTube channel: The STOP PARENTING & START COACHING Podcast!We'd be even more grateful if you would like, review, or comment or SHARE an episode from any of the platforms where you find us. This helps us to become more visible to other Most Valuable Parents--thank you!And, there’s more–there always isn't there?! If you’ve read this far you probably are totally nerdy and giddy about helping teen athletes and performers to excel. Well, we do too and that’s why we’re creating parent, uh coaching tools/courses/coaching at createtransformbecome.com. Check it out where you can pick up our 100% Free QOC Tool for parents (The Question Only Conversation!).-Nate & Steve