Rewrite the Mother Code with Dr. Gertrude Lyons

In this episode, I speak with Hayley Mullins, the inventor of the Joeyband and a passionate advocate for newborn safety, about the complexities of redefining the early days of motherhood. As a dedicated founder and mother of two, Hayley opens up about the personal challenges and triumphs that have shaped her philosophy on trusting your intuition and doing what works for you.Hayley shares insights into how she redefined her relationship with traditional baby carriers after a terrifying experience with the startle reflex, navigating the delicate balance between launching a product and raising small children. Our conversation explores the process of questioning societal expectations, the importance of supportive maternity leave, and how embracing skin-to-skin contact leads to deeper connections for the whole family, including non-birthing partners.We delve into actionable practices for living authentically, from taking control of your birth experience to the importance of sharing ideas without waiting for perfectionism. Hayley emphasizes the importance of modeling resilience for her daughters, inspiring others to break free from limiting beliefs and rewrite the Mother Code.You'll also hear about: (03:01) The journey to inventing the Joeyband after a newborn startle reflex incident (07:32) The influence of skin-to-skin care on clinical outcomes and exclusive breastfeeding (14:13) Rewriting the birth experience and supporting mothers during C-sections or physical limitations(19:31) Navigating entrepreneurship, family growth, and the benefits of a 12-month maternity leave (27:18) Actionable practices for new business builders to overcome perfectionism (33:43) Hayley's reflections on rewriting the Mother Code and nourishing your babyDon't miss Hayley's inspiring perspective on finding alignment between personal truth and newborn care!Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Hayley Mullins:Learn more about JoeybandFollow Joeyband on InstagramConnect with Hayley on LinkedInFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this episode, I speak with Sonni Abatta, an award-winning and Emmy-nominated journalist, about the complexities of redefining personal narratives and navigating the modern media landscape. As a dedicated media professional and mother of three, Sonni opens up about her transition from spending 15 years in traditional media to creating a digital platform that informs women without the overwhelm.Sonni shares insights into how her highly expressive Italian-American upbringing shaped her emotional intelligence and deep communication skills. Our conversation explores the process of connecting with the inner child, recognizing how early coping mechanisms can transform into powerful adult strengths like discernment and self-soothing.We delve into actionable practices for living authentically, from intentionally consuming news across the ideological spectrum to holding opposing viewpoints without feeling attacked. Sonni emphasizes the importance of not parenting from your own trauma and raising children with the capacity to set boundaries, inspiring others to honor generational strength while rewriting the Mother Code.You'll also hear about:(03:50) The journey from traditional media to digital spaces (08:20) The profound impact of inner child work and family dynamics (14:59) Building emotional intelligence and the ability to self-soothe (24:16) Navigating charged global topics with nuance and multiple perspectives (31:29) Avoiding the trap of parenting from your own childhood trauma (39:46) Blending news and lifestyle with a 25% serious, 75% fun approach (41:22) Sonni's reflections on rewriting the Mother Code through generational strengthDon't miss Sonni's inspiring perspective on finding alignment between personal truth and conscious media consumption!Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Sonni Abatta:Learn more about Sonni Follow Sonni on InstagramSubscribe to her Youtube channelFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this episode, I speak with Amy Briggs, a licensed speech and language pathologist and the visionary founder of Aviva, about the profound weight of the "mental load" and how we can reclaim our capacity for joy in parenthood. As a mother of two daughters, Amy shares her journey from clinical practice in public schools to creating a revolutionary tool designed to take the burden of family scheduling off parents' plates.Amy shares insights into how the invisible labor of parenting often clouds the most important part of the journey: the connection we build with our children. Our conversation explores the systemic "codes" and scripts that leave parents feeling like they are never doing enough, and how we can begin to prioritize "being" and presence over the endless cycle of "doing".We delve into actionable perspectives on reclaiming parental intuition, from recognizing the distracting influence of social media to creating scalable solutions for household labor. Amy emphasizes the importance of viewing technology as a true "team member", allowing parents to focus on the "big enchilada" of parenthood rather than the clutter of management.You'll also hear about:(06:05) Amy's journey from speech pathologist to focusing on family capacity (13:03) Dismantling the harmful scripts and invisible labor placed on mothers (16:42) Creating a "life raft": The birth of Aviva as a household team member (27:12) How the Aviva app works to automatically manage family scheduling (36:02) Normalizing the need to offload tasks and ask for help (45:18) Modeling achievement and setting an example for her children (50:42) What it means to rewrite the Mother Code and align with intuition Don't miss Amy's inspiring perspective on finding alignment between efficiency and heart!Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Amy Briggs:Learn more about AvivaConnect with Amy on LinkedInFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this deeply thoughtful and expansive conversation, Dr. Gertrude is joined by Rebecca Thompson, MD—family physician, writer, and author of Held Together, a shared memoir exploring motherhood, medicine, and what she calls “imperfect love.”Rebecca’s path to this work began long before the book—rooted in a lifelong relationship with storytelling, and later shaped by her experiences both as a physician and as a patient navigating pregnancy loss and medical complexity. What emerged is a powerful body of work that weaves together her story with the voices of 21 other women, offering a rare and intimate look at how we make sense of our lives through story.Together, Gertrude and Rebecca explore the intersection of motherhood and medicine, the role of community in times of crisis, and how we begin to redefine what it means to mother—far beyond biology or expectation.This conversation is an invitation to slow down, to listen more deeply, and to consider how we choose to make meaning of our lives—even, and especially, when things don’t go as planned.In this episode, you’ll hear:(01:00) Rebecca’s lifelong connection to storytelling—and how writing became her way of making sense of the world(03:40) The moment everything shifted: becoming a patient while training as a physician(06:30) The deep need for community during crisis—and why we don’t have to share the same story to feel less alone(10:00) Redefining support: how community looks different for every woman and every experience(14:00) Growth through challenge—and how our hardest experiences shape who we become(16:30) Inside Held Together: how Rebecca co-created 21 deeply personal stories over a decade(20:00) Why this is not an anthology, but a truly collaborative and interwoven narrative(24:00) “Extraordinary moments in ordinary lives”—and the power of listening to everyday stories(28:00) Expanding the definition of motherhood beyond biology, and making space for grief and choice(36:00) Finding meaning in the ordinary—and why awe is something we can practice(39:00) Fear, discomfort, and curiosity: what scuba diving reveals about how we move through life(42:00) Where to find Rebecca and how she’s bringing narrative medicine into healthcare spaces(45:00) What it means to “rewrite the mother code”: choosing what meaning we make from our livesRate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Connect with Rebecca Thompson:Get her book Held Together: A Shared Memoir of Motherhood, Medicine, and Imperfect Love.Visit Rebecca's Website Follow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this high-energy and empowering episode, I am joined by Lynn Smith, a nationally recognized media and communication expert, former news anchor for NBC, CNN, and MSNBC, and the creator of the Authority Collective. Lynn shares her journey from the intense, fast-paced world of national news to founding her own business dedicated to helping high-level leaders and entrepreneurs own their voices and amplify their impact.We dive into the "Media Mindset" and how the skills used in the newsroom, clarity, confidence, and concise communication, are the same skills needed to lead a family or a business. Lynn opens up about her own "pivot" moment, the challenges of balancing a high-profile career with motherhood, and how she transitioned from being the face of the news to the architect of her own life.Our conversation also touches on the importance of teaching these communication and confidence skills to the next generation. Lynn shares practical frameworks for parents to help their children navigate a world of constant influence and how to "unwind" dysfunctional wiring to give our children more space and potential.You'll also hear about:(02:22) Lynn’s transition from national news anchor to media consultant and the "aha" moment that sparked the Authority Collective.(08:15) The reality of the newsroom: Lessons learned from the front lines of NBC and CNN about resilience and presence.(14:40) Defining the "Media Mindset": How to communicate with authority in every room you enter, from the boardroom to the living room.(21:10) The "Pivot" Framework: Lynn’s strategy for navigating major life and career changes without losing your North Star.(28:55) Motherhood in the spotlight: Navigating the unique pressures of raising children while maintaining a public-facing career.(35:20) Confidence as a skill: Why we need to stop waiting to "feel" confident and start practicing the behaviors that create it.(42:45) Teaching influence to the next generation: How to support children in recognizing and navigating the "wiring" of social influence.(51:15) Lynn’s definition of Rewriting the Mother Code: Moving from dysfunctional legacy patterns to intentional, empowered leadership.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Connect with Lynn Smith:Visit Lynn's website: lynnsmithtv.comFollow Lynn on Instagram: @lynnsmithtvFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this deeply moving episode, I sit down with Kristin Mundy, a birth, postpartum, and bereavement doula, and the founder of The Doula Life. Kristin’s journey is one of profound resilience, having navigated the heart-wrenching loss of multiple pregnancies, including her daughter Vienna and son William, before welcoming her Earthside daughter, Senna.We explore how Kristin’s identity was shaped as the only girl among four brothers, where she first discovered her "mother’s helper" energy. This early calling eventually led her to become a doula, a word that literally translates to "mother’s helper", long before she faced her own path through baby loss.Kristin shares the painful reality of being a mother in "limbo", feeling the transformation of motherhood while society fails to recognize that identity without a child on Earth. We discuss her mission to help women remember they are more than their loss stories and the essential work of "mothering oneself" through unimaginable grief. This conversation is a testament to the fact that healing and motherhood can, and do, coexist.You'll also hear about:(02:22) Kristin’s "winding road" from a large family in Niagara to her current life near Toronto.(08:15) Facing the "lightning strike" of repeated late-term losses and the struggle to be seen as a mother by the world.(14:40) Defining the "Mother Code": How Kristin had to expand her definition of motherhood beyond raising an Earthside baby.(21:10) The transition from serving all mothers to specializing in bereavement and pregnancy after loss.(28:55) Reclaiming intuition and rebuilding trust in one's body after it feels like it has "failed".(35:20) The concept of "mothering the sky" - how to continue parenting and loving babies that are no longer here.(42:45) Navigating the "flames" of trying to conceive again and the unique anxiety of pregnancy after loss.(51:15) Kristin’s definition of Rewriting the Mother Code: Giving yourself permission to act out motherhood in your own perfect, unique way.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Connect with Kristin MundyVisit The Doula Life WebsiteListen to the Rainbow Connection podcastFollow Kristin on InstagramFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this powerful and vulnerable episode, I am joined by Summer Koeste, an award-winning writer, artist, cultural anthropologist, 20-year Alaskan educator, and mother. Summer describes herself as a "nonconformist" who has lived many lives, navigating everything from life-threatening health challenges to living abroad in the high mountains of Argentina and the dancehall reggae world of Jamaica.We explore Summer’s unique perspective on deprogramming the cultural scripts that no longer serve us, a theme she explores deeply in her newsletter, The Feral Stack. She shares how her background in anthropology and her experiences outside of white American culture have given her a "tourist gaze" on our society's values and behaviors, allowing her to question why we adhere to systems that don't help us thrive.Summer also introduces us to the concept of being an "artivist", combining art and activism, which she embraced through songwriting to process her deep "justice sensitivity". From the separation of families at the border to the challenges of mothering a neurodivergent child in an underfunded education system, Summer’s work is a testament to the power of using one’s creative voice to demand collective liberation.You'll also hear about:(02:22) Summer’s "many lives" and how facing a fear of death through asthma and writing shaped her perspective.(08:15) Her upbringing in 1980s Juneau, Alaska, where worth was defined by physical capability.(14:40) Discovering "coded" gender expectations while living as an exchange student in Northern Argentina.(21:10) How Summer used a more masculine persona to find freedom of movement in conservative spaces.(28:55) Her time studying Latin American and Caribbean cultures and becoming immersed in the dancehall reggae world of Jamaica.(35:20) The "Pura Arepa" business in Costa Rica and her experience navigating a dangerous, psychologically abusive relationship.(42:45) Rebuilding a life in Alaska and researching why American culture repeats behaviors that don't lead to happiness.(51:15) Defining the "Artivist": Using songwriting and performance to advocate for justice and collective liberation.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Connect with Summer Koester:Learn more on her WebsiteFollow her on InstagramSubscribe to her SubstackConnect with her on LinkedInFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this enlightening episode, I am joined by the talented Chellie Carlson, a premier stylist who has turned the art of dressing into a modality for deep healing and self-discovery. Chellie shares her remarkable journey, from growing up on a farm in Missouri to founding her own styling business at the age of 40, just two weeks before the world changed in 2020.We explore why the act of getting dressed is about so much more than just looking "pretty." Chellie discusses her background in the lingerie industry, where she spent 20 years learning how to create safety for women in their most vulnerable moments. This experience laid the foundation for her unique approach to styling, which she views as a form of "body love" and a way to help women outwardly express their most authentic selves.I also share my own personal experience working with Chellie, including the "style trauma" I carried from my past and how her process helped me navigate those old filters to step into a new, empowered identity. Whether you think you need a stylist or not, this conversation will change the way you look at your closet and your reflection.You'll also hear about:(02:22) Chellie's upbringing on a Missouri farm and how her mother's love for fabrics and sewing influenced her path.(08:15) The transition from a 20-year corporate career in the lingerie industry to founding her own styling business at age 40.(14:40) Lessons from the fitting room: Learning to create a "container of safety" for women to confront body shame.(21:10) Why personal styling is a transformational modality rather than a superficial or "materialistic" pursuit.(28:55) Dr. Gertrude shares her personal "style trauma" and how working with a stylist helped heal old filters of identity.(35:20) Using Human Design and Gene Keys as tools to help clients align their internal essence with their external wardrobe.(42:45) The concept of "Dressing for the woman you are becoming" vs. the woman you used to be.(51:15) The generational shift: How Dr. Gertrude's daughter utilized Chellie's services to navigate her own career transition.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Connect with Chellie CarlsonFollow Chellie on InstagramLearn more about Chellie on her WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this deeply mystical and grounding episode, I welcome Canadian author and dream worker Toko-pa Turner. Toko-pa shares the journey behind her award-winning books, Belonging and The Dreaming Way, exploring how our personal search for belonging is often a reflection of a collective epidemic of alienation. We discuss how belonging isn't just an external place to find, but a skill and set of competencies we weave from the inside out.We delve into the profound world of dream work, moving beyond simple interpretation to viewing dreams as "nature naturing through us." Toko-pa explains the Jungian approach to dreams, asking where a wound is taking us rather than just what caused it, and shares her own touching story of how her dreams "parented" her during a difficult youth.Our conversation also touches on the impact of technology on our ability to dream, the importance of "idle moments" for creativity, and a vulnerable share about my own dream regarding my father's passing. Toko-pa closes with a powerful perspective on the "Death Mother" archetype and the necessary work of "remothering" ourselves when healthy models were absent.You'll also hear about:(04:19) The origin of Belonging: How a personal search for connection revealed a collective wound of alienation.(13:44) The difference between Freud and Jung: Freud asks "what happened to you?" while Jung asks "where is this trying to take you?".(15:53) How dreams can "parent" us: Toko-pa's experience of finding guidance from within when she left home at a young age.(20:29) Reframing dreams: Viewing dreams not just as neurological processes, but as nature expressing itself through us.(29:27) Dr. Gertrude's vivid dream about her father after his passing and Toko-pa's validation of visitation dreams.(36:37) The "echo chambers" of social media and how technology exacerbates our sense of alienation.(51:17) The necessity of "idle moments": Why pauses and boredom are essential precursors to creativity and wisdom.(57:13) The "Death Mother" archetype and the lifetime work of "remothering" oneself from the foundations up.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Toko-pa TurnerVisit Toko-pa's WebsiteFollow Toko-pa on InstagramFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this heartfelt solo episode, Dr. Gertrude Lyons reflects on the transition from a monumental year of birthing her book and TEDx talk in 2025 to a year of deep nurturing in 2026. Recording from her sanctuary in Mexico, she shares her personal experiences with slowing down, the pressure of new year resolutions, and the profound lessons she's learned about planning, solitude, and self-mothering.Dr. Gertrude opens up about the "liminal space" of post-creation, feeling lost yet guided by intuition and trusted advisors to embrace a "nurture mode." She discusses the difference between linear "spreadsheet planning" and "dreaming planning," encouraging listeners to trust their desires as a form of strategy. She also shares a vulnerable story about taking four days of solitude in Mexico, initially questioning its necessity, only to discover how critical that space was for her well-being and connection to the environment.This episode is an invitation to explore how we can better nurture ourselves and our creations. Dr. Gertrude also gives a sneak peek into her upcoming retreats in Mexico and Ireland, designing containers for women to drop deep, heal, and connect with the elements and each other.You'll also hear about:(00:32) "Tales from the Tub": Dr. Gertrude's new Substack musings and the joy of different creative mediums .(04:56) Declaring 2026 as a "year of nurturing" for herself, her book, and her community after a year of intense creation .(07:36) Overcoming the fear of media exposure and receiving affirmation from experts like Lynn Smith and Nicole Bigley to step into bigger visibility .(12:44) The two types of planning: "spreadsheet planning" vs. "dreaming planning," and why following your desires is a valid strategy .(15:12) The power of solitude: Dr. Gertrude's experience taking 4 days alone in Mexico and why we often resist giving ourselves necessary space .(18:19) Why retreats are essential for women: creating a container to be tended to, nurtured, and deeply connected to oneself and nature .(20:00) Upcoming retreats: Spring Equinox in Mexico (March) involving temazcal and water work, and two retreats in Ireland (May & October) focusing on the ancient landscape and silence .Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Follow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this vibrant and deeply insightful episode, I sit down with best-selling author and "happiness expert" Karen Salmansohn. Karen shares her fascinating journey from a high-powered career as an award-winning creative director in advertising to becoming a leading voice in personal development and behavioral change.We dive into her latest book, Your To Die for Life, which explores how embracing our mortality can actually help us live more fully and joyfully. Karen opens up about the pivotal moment of her father's passing and how writing his eulogy inspired her to reverse-engineer her own life to minimize regrets. She introduces powerful concepts like "emotional diversity", the idea that a full life requires a range of emotions, not just happiness, and her unique "mortality marble jar" ritual for visualizing time and prioritizing what truly matters.Our conversation also touches on the power of identity-based habits, the importance of "best mode" over "beast mode," and Karen's experience as a later-in-life mother. She shares practical tools, humorous anecdotes (including a bagel-chewing call with Marisa Tomei!), and her refreshing perspective on rewriting the rules of life and motherhood.You'll also hear about:(06:54) Karen's bold decision to leave a successful advertising career to pursue her dream of writing books .(12:32) The incredible story of how she bypassed her agent to get her manuscript directly to Marisa Tomei .(19:30) How her father's death and writing his eulogy sparked a realization about living intentionally to avoid regrets .(22:06) The research-backed concept that embracing death leads to living more boldly and authentically .(28:33) "Emotional diversity" (emodiversity) and why a life of pure bliss without challenges wouldn't be meaningful .(33:00) The "To-Die List" vs. the To-Do List: focusing on core values and identity-based habits .(35:12) The 7 core values to avoid the top regrets of the dying: Authentic, Brave, Curious, Discerning, Empathic Love, Fun, and Grateful .(51:23) The "Mortality Marble Jar" visual tool for tracking time left and ensuring monthly highlights .(01:03:22) Karen's personal take on "Rewrite the Mother Code": proving that energetic, vibrant motherhood is possible later in life .Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Karen SalmansohnVisit Karen's main website: notsalmon.comLearn about her new book and coaching: yourtodieforlife.comFollow Karen on Instagram: @notsalmonRead her Substack: The Stand Up PhilosopherFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this inspiring episode, I sit down with Courtney Boylan, the founder of LeiLolo, a brand dedicated to revolutionizing the postpartum market by turning sterile, clinical accessories into beautiful, empowering essentials. Courtney shares her personal journey from corporate life at Target and Amazon to becoming an entrepreneur, driven by her own postpartum struggles and the desire to feel like herself again after childbirth.We discuss the genesis of LeiLolo, which started with a simple frustration over losing clear nipple shields and evolved into a mission to honor new mothers. Courtney opens up about the vulnerability of launching a business while raising young children, the invaluable support of her husband, and the parallels between birthing a baby and birthing a brand.Our conversation delves into the importance of self-mothering, establishing rituals like journaling and early morning connection, and the cultural shift needed to prioritize the mother's well-being alongside the baby's. Courtney passionately advocates for normalizing all aspects of the female body and postpartum experience, reminding us that "there's no one who deserves pretty accessories more than a new mom."You'll also hear about:(03:37) The "nipple shield epiphany": how losing clear shields led Courtney to design beautiful, colored alternatives .(04:25) Why postpartum products are often "stale and sterile" and make moms feel like patients rather than creators of life .(09:08) The pivotal role Courtney's husband played in pushing her to follow her dream and the emotional journey of taking that leap .(14:05) Breaking the stigma around female bodily functions and products, like hiding tampons or nursing pads .(19:34) Courtney's philosophy that LeiLolo is a "company for moms," regardless of how they choose to feed their babies .(29:48) The power of journaling as a release and self-connection tool during early motherhood .(31:44) Establishing a morning routine with her husband at 5 AM to connect before the chaos of the day begins .(40:08) Letting go of rigid visions for the future and learning to be present in the messy, beautiful "now" of motherhood and business .(45:03) The funny story behind the name "LeiLolo" and its accidental perfect meaning .(46:15) Courtney's definition of "Rewrite the Mother Code": living authentically, following your dreams, and believing in your power as a woman .Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Courtney Boylan & LeiLoloVisit LeiLolo WebsiteFollow LeiLolo on InstagramFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this inspiring episode, I sit down with my friend Susie Transou, founder of Hearth and Soul, a unique retail concept that feels more like a home than a store. Susie shares her fascinating journey from growing up in the beer industry and running a large beverage distributorship with her husband to launching a completely new venture at age 50.We discuss the pivotal moment at a birthday party where a life coach's vision sparked the idea for Hearth and Soul, and how Susie turned that spark into a reality within 48 hours. Susie opens up about the transition from corporate life to entrepreneurship, highlighting the importance of community, hospitality, and the courage to ask for help, both professionally and personally.Our conversation delves into the challenges of self-care for high achievers. Susie shares the concept of "the goose and the golden egg," emphasizing that to continue producing, one must take care of oneself. We also touch on the power of vulnerability, sharing our struggles, and the profound impact of her mother's openness about addiction on Susie's own comfort with sharing her story.You'll also hear about:(03:40) The birthday party retreat and life coaching session that planted the seed for Hearth and Soul .(05:27) How Hearth and Soul was born in 48 hours with a vision of a "kitchen" gathering place for community .(10:00) Susie's realization that asking for help is a strength, not a weakness, and crucial for success in work and motherhood .(17:00) The three core pillars of Hearth and Soul: Home, Friend, and Family, and how they shape the customer experience .(29:51) The "goose and the golden egg" analogy for self-care: why taking care of yourself is essential for sustaining achievement .(36:59) A therapist's assignment for Susie to sit still with her daughter for 15 minutes a day, and the challenge of simply "being" .(43:08) Susie's definition of "Rewrite the Mother Code": being open to new and different ways to mother beyond traditional roles .Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Susie Transou & Hearth and SoulShop online at hearthandsoul.comFollow Hearth and Soul on Instagram Follow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this inspiring episode, I sit down with Harper A. Bailey (the pen name of Teosha Bailey), a public health leader, speaker, and author of the powerful new memoir It Was Her. Harper shares the deeply personal and spiritual journey of bringing her book to life, a process she describes as a "co-creation with God and my ancestors."We discuss how the idea for her memoir came to her four years ago as a "God idea," and how a vivid dream on her birthday finally pushed her to commit to writing it. Harper opens up about the vulnerability of sharing her story, particularly the heavy first chapter about her mother's transition, and the writer's block she had to overcome. She reveals her unique writing process, which included creating a sacred shrine with photos of her ancestors, using music and scents to set the mood, and dedicating time for writing retreats around the world, from Hawaii to Rome.Our conversation also touches on the healing power of storytelling within families. Harper shares how her book has sparked profound conversations with her son, aunt, and cousins, allowing them to see her in a new light and uncover hidden family histories. We explore the concept of "self-mothering" through the creative process, the importance of celebrating small milestones (like hitting word counts with ice cream!), and the profound realization that wholeness is our birthright.You'll also hear about:(03:52) The vivid dream that finally pushed Harper to write her book after being stuck for a year and a half .(04:14) How Harper gifted herself a writing retreat at a hotel and left with a complete outline for her memoir .(07:59) Her "YOLO Mother's Days" tradition: traveling to Rome with her aunts instead of doing the traditional "pancakes and construction paper" routine .(15:37) The detailed "shrine" Harper created for her writing sessions, featuring photos of her ancestors to remind her she wasn't alone .(18:10) Using the four elements (earth, air, fire, water) and sensory details like music and incense to create a sacred writing space .(26:37) How her book has opened up new dialogues with her family, including her son realizing what she was going through as a mother .(29:59) Harper's core message for readers: "Wholeness is your birthright," and you have the power to reclaim your narrative .(41:20) Her definition of "Rewrite the Mother Code": being authentically who you are, mothering in any season, and learning how you want to be mothered yourself .Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Harper A. BaileyBuy her memoir, It Was HerFollow Harper on Instagram Learn more about Harper on her WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this profound episode, I sit down with Chameli Ardagh, a yogini, mystic, and founder of Awakening Women. Chameli shares her powerful personal journey, beginning with a childhood in Norway deeply connected to nature but marked by family volatility. She recounts her early escape into spirituality as a way to transcend suffering, only to realize later, through a pivotal moment of reckoning, that true spiritual awakening requires full embodiment and confronting our own internal "warfare".Our conversation delves deep into the concept of the Divine Feminine and how patriarchal structures have historically co-opted or erased goddess wisdom. Chameli illuminates how ancient myths, from the Greek god Apollo to the Norse god Odin, reflect a pattern of conquering and stealing feminine wisdom rather than honoring it. We explore the transformative power of women gathering in circles, leaving dogma at the door, and using embodiment practices like dance and song to reconnect with their innate spiritual authority.Chameli passionately describes her work in creating spaces, both online and through retreats in Greece, where women can reclaim their "golden mead" of wisdom without needing a middleman. We discuss the critical need for a new way of living that honors the "mother code" at the center of existence, moving from power-over to power-with, and birthing a future rooted in balance and love.You'll also hear about:(04:05) Chameli's upbringing in Norway and her early spiritual seeking as an escape from suffering.(07:46) Her "9/11 moment" of realizing her internal state mirrored the warfare in the world, leading to a shift from transcendence to embodiment.(14:33) Meeting the goddesses as a "hall of mirrors," revealing that all expressions, even anger and lust, can be holy.(20:48) How mythology illustrates the "top-down, exploitive energy" of the left brain conquering the body and feminine wisdom.(30:36) The story of Odin stealing the "golden mead" of wisdom from a giant goddess, a metaphor for patriarchal appropriation of feminine knowledge.(34:39) The importance of not burning down the old structures but "walking away" to create new, life-affirming systems.(40:36) Chameli's Summer Goddess Ashram in Corfu, Greece: a space for women to refill their inner wells through dance, ritual, and connection.(53:23) Chameli's definition of "Rewrite the Mother Code": a reclamation of the mother principle as the center of life and a rewriting of our future in partnership with evolution.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Chameli ArdaghLearn more on Chameli's WebsiteListen to the Living Goddess PodcastFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this powerful episode, I sit down with Whitney Walker, a licensed marriage and family therapist, recovery coach, spiritual guide, and host of the Women Waken podcast. Whitney shares her incredibly raw and vulnerable journey, from a childhood marked by an absent father and an emotionally immature mother to struggling with debilitating low self-esteem, addiction, and eating disorders in her 20s.She opens up about hitting rock bottom, a moment where she realized "time's run out" on the chaos and just wanted peace, and how that catalyzed her profound transformation. We explore the concept of addiction as a symptom of not feeling safe or "enough" and the societal conditioning that breeds fear and competition instead of connection.Our conversation delves deep into the power of the Divine Feminine, contrasting it with the "force" of masculine energy, and how embracing flow, intuition, and collective care can heal both individuals and society. Whitney passionately discusses the need for women to trust their inner wisdom, stand their ground with clarity (like the Queen of Swords in Tarot), and create new systems based on love rather than fear.You'll also hear about:(04:03) Whitney's "brutal yet beautiful" 20s, marked by addiction and insecurity, and finding peace and power turning 40.(09:44) Addiction as a search for soothing in a world where we don't feel safe or believe we are our own source of healing.(14:38) Growing up with an emotionally absent father and the impact of conditional love on a child's sense of worth.(17:39) The simplicity of the solution for humanity: knowing we are safe and loved.(27:57) How we "play by the rules of the game that we choose to play" and the power of disengaging from dysfunctional systems.(36:01) The "Queen of Swords" energy: deliberate action, clarity, and setting boundaries without malice.(40:30) Being wary of gurus who claim their way is the only way, and trusting your own intuition.(47:19) Whitney's beautiful definition of "Rewrite the Mother Code": recognizing that we all have the ability to mother—to love, nurture, and see others—regardless of whether we have children.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Whitney Walker:Learn more on Whitney's WebsiteFollow Whitney on Instagram (DM her to connect!)Listen to the Women Waken PodcastFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this insightful episode, Dr. Gertrude Lyons welcomes Emily Paulsen, an award-winning entrepreneur, brand strategist through her studio Electric Collab, and host of the Curious Life of a Child-Free Woman podcast. Emily is dedicated to shining a light on the often-overshadowed child-free by choice perspective.Their conversation centers on the powerful collision of the "mother code" world with the child-free narrative, demonstrating that the essence of mothering is universal, regardless of motherhood status. Emily shares her deep personal passion for empowering women, describing "girlfriends" as her love language. This passion for female community is what Dr. Lyons connects to the core of self-mothering, explaining that while the spark begins within, the "blaze" is ignited and kept alive in sisterhood.They discuss how patriarchal and over-masculine value systems have historically sought to disempower women by splitting them up and pitting them against each other. The episode also tackles the intense societal judgment placed on women, referencing the shocking death threats received by a woman who dared to write about "regretting having children". Emily also details her work with Electric Collab, which is focused on helping women entrepreneurs and founders articulate their unique value and "secret sauce" to the world through premium branding.You'll also hear about:(03:08) The challenge for women to define themselves beyond statistics (job, marital status, kids) .(03:25) Emily's lifelong passion for female community, calling "girlfriends" her love language.(03:30) Her frustration as a cheerleader that their job was to root for boys, not celebrate the women's own accomplishments.(05:10) Emily's continued commitment to female community through college and career, and her current work to professionally and personally build other women up.(06:00) Dr. Gertrude Lyons's distinction between mothering (universal) and motherhood (choice), and the critical importance of self-mothering.(07:18) Why the self-mothering flame is amplified in community and how the separation of women is a tool of disempowerment.(07:53) How patriarchal and over-masculine value systems intentionally split and pit women against each other to disempower them.(20:19) The profound and hostile reaction, including death threats, a woman received for sharing her truth about "regretting having children".(29:51) How the word "selfish" is weaponized against women on both sides of the parenting divide—whether for not having kids or for having them.(38:40) The importance of normalizing child-free lives beyond celebrities like Oprah and Dolly Parton to show that it is a valid, happy path for everyday women.(42:23) The workplace bias that assumes child-free women have unlimited free time and should pick up the slack.(49:40) Why parents should include child-free friends in kid-centric events rather than assuming they don't want to attend to avoid creating an "echo chamber".(51:40) Emily's work with her brand studio, Electric Collab, to help women entrepreneurs articulate their unique "secret sauce" and value.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Emily Paulsen:Learn more on Emily's WebsiteListen to the Curious Life of a Child-Free Woman PodcastFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this deeply moving episode, I speak with Ronit Plank, a writer, teacher, editor, and host of the Let's Talk Memoir podcast. Ronit is the author of the award-winning memoir When She Comes Back, which chronicles the loss of her mother to the guru Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh and their eventual reconciliation.Ronit shares her powerful story of growing up with a mother who left her and her sister to follow a guru in India, and her father who then became a single parent. We explore the profound impact of abandonment, the role of the "parentified" child, and how Ronit navigated these wounds into her own motherhood journey.Our conversation delves into the transformative power of memoir writing as a tool for healing. Ronit explains how writing her story allowed her to reframe her narrative, understand her parents as complex individuals rather than villains, and move from a place of victimhood to one of agency and acceptance. We discuss the nuances of forgiveness versus acceptance, the importance of taking responsibility for our own patterns in relationships, and why sharing our authentic, messy stories is a vital act of connection and self-mothering.You'll also hear about:(01:39) Ronit's childhood: born on a kibbutz in Israel, moving to the US, and her mother leaving for India to follow Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh.(04:55) The experience of being a "parentified" older daughter and the lasting impact of early abandonment.(08:09) How memoir writing helps reframe personal history and create a "redemptive narrative".(20:19) Why Ronit prefers the concept of "acceptance" over "forgiveness" when healing family relationships.(25:43) Understanding our own role in family dynamics and taking responsibility for our coping mechanisms.(33:07) The varied reactions of Ronit's family members to her memoir, including her father's surprising feedback.(43:18) Exploring the "mother who leaves" archetype with compassion and understanding the complex reasons behind such choices.(52:07) Ronit's definition of "Rewrite the Mother Code": tuning into intuition and not abandoning oneself while nurturing others.Join us for this insightful conversation about the power of story, the complexity of family, and the healing journey of rewriting our own narratives.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Ronit Plank:Learn more on Ronit's WebsiteConnect with Ronit on LinkedInListen to the Let's Talk Memoir PodcastFollow Ronit on InstagramFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this powerful episode, I sit down with Diane Ortega, a Certified Nurse Midwife and co-founder of the first nurse-midwife-owned freestanding birth center in Arizona. Diane shares her personal journey from being an office manager to becoming a midwife, a path inspired by her own "profoundly different" and empowering birth experience with midwives after a conventional hospital birth.Our conversation is a deep dive into the philosophy of midwifery as an act of "mothering the mother". We discuss the "medical-industrial complex" and how the current system often disempowers women through fear-based tactics, taking away their choices in a process that should be empowering. Diane challenges the "healthy mom, healthy baby" narrative, pointing out that it often dismisses the emotional trauma a mother may experience during birth, which she then has to process while navigating new motherhood.Diane also introduces her podcast and coaching brand, "The Midwife Life" , which expands the concept of midwifery beyond childbirth to support all women "midwifing something in their life" —whether it's new motherhood or a midlife career change. We explore the critical need for a "village," a community of support that is often missing for modern women, and how she is building programs to help women find that connection.You'll also hear about:(01:32) Diane's work making out-of-hospital birth accessible to more families by accepting almost all insurance.(03:30) How she views midwifery and mothering as "very similar, if not the same".(13:15) The fear-based culture surrounding birth and how it disempowers women from trusting their bodies.(22:21) Why birth is "not a medical event until it is," and how hospital protocols are often based on tradition, not evidence.(23:20) My personal story of choosing a home birth, which was sparked by the simple, primal desires to be able to eat and control the lighting.(27:57) The loss of the "village" for modern mothers and the isolation that comes from being a "transplant" without family support.(38:23) The one cultural mother code Diane would rewrite: the "ridiculous" expectation that women should "bounce right back" after giving birth.(43:52) My update on my TEDx talk being censored for including information on the high U.S. maternal mortality rate and the "hostile takeover" of birth from midwives.(49:43) Diane's final definition of "Rewrite the Mother Code": "releasing the societal norms" and "put[ting] our oxygen mask on first".Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Diane OrtegaLearn more on her WebsiteFollow her on InstagramListen to her PodcastLearn more about her Coaching ProgramFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this deeply personal and full-circle episode, I sit down with my dear friend, creative collaborator, and "sister-daughter," Megan Taylor. I was blessed to be one of Megan’s first-ever life coaches when she was in her 20s, and our relationship has beautifully evolved into a rich, mutual friendship and powerful partnership. Most recently, Megan was the visionary producer behind my Rewrite the Mother Code book tour.Megan is a globally recognized DJ, music strategist, and producer of transformational retreats, known for her unique ability to fuse sound, frequency, and energy into unforgettable experiences.Our conversation explores the "mothering journey" of our relationship, from me as her coach to her becoming a mentor in her own right who I now learn from. We pull back the curtain on the book launch, discussing the "come-to-Jesus" moments , the masculine structure required to birth a creative vision , and the unexpected, magical moments along the way (like meeting Beanie Man at Fox News).Megan also shares her powerful experience attending my Ireland retreat, a journey she helped co-create. She speaks candidly about her initial resistance to "self-mothering" (preferring to "outsource it") , the "hunger" for this nourishment she now sees in the world , and how she worked through her "knee-jerk reaction" to be overly responsible for others—a key part of her own mothering journey.You'll also hear about:(01:42) Megan's story: from being my life-coaching client in her 20s to a globally recognized DJ and transformational experience producer.(05:38) My reflections on the "mothering journey" of a mentor: watching a mentee excel beyond you and the relationship evolving into a mutual, adult exchange.(08:44) Megan's deep-seated, life-long desire to be "mothered" and her process of getting that need fulfilled.(11:10) The "first-time motherhood" experience of launching a book and Marianne Williamson's advice to just "be excited about it and have fun".(16:40) The vulnerability of DJing: Megan shares the terror and aliveness she feels, and her process of navigating that energy without seeking approval.(21:20) Why the timing of Rewrite the Mother Code felt like a "cosmic birth".(31:10) Megan's experience on the Ireland retreat: the "mystical" energy of the land , connecting with the "primordial goddess" , and realizing the world's deep "hunger" for self-mothering.(36:01) Her resistance to the concept of self-mothering because she "wanted to outsource it".(41:07) Working through the "knee-jerk reaction" to be overly responsible for others' experiences as part of her own healing.(50:22) Megan's definition of "Rewrite the Mother Code": becoming aware of the "programmed paradigm" and having a "choice point" to create your own relationship with motherhood.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Megan TaylorLearn more on Megan's WebsiteFollow Megan on InstagramFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this inspiring episode, I sit down with Anna Lozano, a mom, founder, investor, and host of the Prosperity Playground podcast. Anna shares her powerful story, beginning with her upbringing as a Polish immigrant in Canada, where she was programmed to "work hard, study hard, get good grades, [and] climb that corporate ladder".She followed that path to an Ivy League business school and a "soul-draining" corporate job , which she intuitively knew was not her purpose. Anna recounts her pivot into network marketing—to her father's dismay, who called it a "pyramid scheme" —where she discovered her love for entrepreneurship and personal development . This led her to co-found Love Powered Company , a brand that brought affirmation cards for children into homes, with the goal of introducing mindfulness to the whole family.After selling her company , Anna took her family to Mexico for what she thought was a one-month reset. This trip became a profound "initiation" —a period of "deep and uncomfortable" inner work —forcing her to recalibrate her "masculine, very driven" energy. She connects this drive to her immigrant "survival" programming and shares how she consciously learned to balance it by embracing her feminine energy and leading with intuition as the "CEO of all the decisions".You'll also hear about:(03:30) Quitting her "soul-draining" corporate job after an intuitive nudge that she was not living her purpose.(04:43) Co-founding Love Powered Co. to bring affirmation cards and mindfulness to children.(06:19) Selling her company and moving to Mexico for a "nervous system reset".(06:57) Her journey of recalibrating her "masculine, very driven" energy and healing her immigrant "survival programming".(18:59) Why Anna believes conscious parenting is the "biggest work" and how our children mirror our unhealed wounds.(22:25) The power of apologizing to our children after reacting and the importance of repair.(24:40) Dr. Gertrude's discussion of the "Carpenter vs. Gardener" parenting analogy.(27:11) How Anna is now applying the "gardener" approach to herself by trying new things, like pickleball.(31:30) Making "crazy aligned decisions" based on her core value of "freedom".(40:35) The importance of only taking advice from mentors you truly admire (like her "mentors from afar," Sarah Blakely and Jamie KernLima).(48:58) Anna's beautiful definition of "Rewrite the Mother Code": "parenting your little self first".Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Anna LozanoLearn more on Anna's WebsiteFollow Anna on InstagramConnect with Anna on LinkedInListen to The Prosperity Playground PodcastFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this solo episode, Dr. Gertrude Lyons returns to the mic after a couple of months away to reflect on the sacred spaces that shape us - our homes, our communities, and the fires that keep us connected.Broadcasting from her Chicago home after time in Ireland, Gertrude shares stories from her 2 retreats in Ireland, her 95-year-old mother traveling to Ireland, and even returning to her childhood home in St. Clair, Michigan. These experiences ignite today’s reflection on the symbolism of fire, the interconnectedness of community, and the truth that self-mothering happens in relationships.Through the metaphor of the hearth, Gertrude explores how our individual flames burn brightest when tended by others—and how discernment, courage, and honesty are essential when choosing the communities that nurture us. She also opens up about her TEDx experience, what she learned about censorship and integrity, and how she’s choosing to fan her own flame through writing, connection, and upcoming retreats.You’ll also hear about: (00:35) Returning to solo episodes (01:20) Two months in Ireland and completing the family home (03:20) Revisiting her Michigan hometown after 18 years (05:00) The magic and limits of small-town connection (06:50) The hearth as a spiritual center (09:30) Celtic fire traditions and shared flames (11:10) Self-mothering in community (13:00) How our flame grows in relationship (15:00) Choosing supportive communities (17:00) Lessons from the TEDx experience (19:40) Reclaiming her voice and moving to Substack (22:00) Upcoming retreats in Mexico and IrelandLet’s keep tending each other’s flames. Tune in and reflect on what lights your inner fire - and how the community keeps it burning.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Follow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s SubstackOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this episode, I sit down with the wonderfully multifaceted Stephanie Sprenger—a writer, podcaster, producer of live storytelling and comedy shows, and single mom to two teenage girls. Stephanie shares her journey from being an early childhood music therapist to reclaiming her identity as a writer, a path that led her to create vibrant communities for women to find and share their voices.Our conversation dives deep into the power of storytelling as a form of self-mothering and community-building. Stephanie, the executive producer of Listen to Your Mother Boulder, explains why sharing honest, unfiltered stories about motherhood—complete with the guilt, ambivalence, and messy moments—is a radical act that combats isolation and challenges the myth of the perfect mom.Stephanie also opens up about her late-in-life ADHD diagnosis, a revelation that occurred while writing her forthcoming memoir. She describes this discovery as finally getting the right "operating system manual" for her brain, allowing her to reframe her struggles with the practical demands of motherhood and embrace her strengths with newfound compassion. We also touch on her dive into the world of stand-up comedy as a form of healing and the importance of finding supportive, women-centered spaces to take creative risks.You'll also hear about:(03:44) Stephanie’s career pivot from music therapy to writing and creating communities for women storytellers like the Her Stories Project and Listen to Your Mother.(09:34) Why sharing our honest, unfiltered stories is a crucial act of self-mothering that builds community and combats isolation.(10:25) The importance of being the "main character" in your own life, especially as a mother.(24:16) Stephanie’s journey to an adult ADHD diagnosis and how it helped her understand her experience of motherhood.(28:58) How her ADHD diagnosis felt like being a "lefty in a right-handed world" and finally getting the right operating system manual for her brain.(35:34) How hitting a wall as a solo single mom forced her to let go of the "do-it-all-yourself" code and embrace outsourcing.(41:53) Her experience using stand-up comedy as a healing tool, especially within the supportive "womb" of all-women comedy groups.Join us for an inspiring conversation about reclamation, self-trust, and the profound freedom that comes from telling your own story, your own way.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Stephanie SprengerLearn more on Stephanie's WebsiteConnect with Stephanie on LinkedinFollow her on Substack at The Reclamation EraListen to her podcast, Perry NormalFollow Stephanie on InstagramFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s WebsiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s NewsletterOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this fascinating and vital episode, I speak with Dr. Greer Kirshenbaum - a neuroscientist, doula, infant and family sleep specialist, and author of The Nurture Revolution. Greer is leading a movement to revolutionize mental health by focusing on the profound impact of caregiving in the earliest stages of life. Her work combines cutting-edge neuroscience with the ancient wisdom of nurturing to empower parents and transform our world.Our conversation begins with Greer’s own birth story and how the trauma of being separated from her mother planted the seeds for her life's work. We dive into the science that debunks long-held, harmful parenting myths, particularly the idea that you can "spoil a baby." Greer explains how early experiences create implicit memories that shape our brain circuitry for life and offers powerful insights into healing our own birth imprints. We also discuss how the act of mothering is a deeply transformative, neuroplastic experience for the parent, offering a unique opportunity for our own healing and growth.You'll also hear about:(05:24) How Greer’s own traumatic birth experience—being separated from her mother for hours—became a powerful catalyst for her life's work.(08:26) Why the myth that "babies don't remember" is false, and how early experiences create implicit memories that shape our brains for life.(12:17) A powerful healing technique: re-imagining birth trauma to create a new, embodied sense of safety and trust.(26:32) The surprising and harmful origins of the "spoil your baby" myth and why science proves the opposite is true.(40:32) The "brain bath": How holding your baby releases a cocktail of beneficial neurochemicals for them and rewires your own brain for empathy and self-regulation.(48:36) Why modern mothers are disempowered by the loss of community modeling and what we can do to reclaim that wisdom.(51:36) The "Chrysalis" metaphor for early motherhood: a messy, gooey phase of transformation that allows you to emerge as a beautiful butterfly.This episode is a must-listen for anyone who is a parent, plans to be one, or is on a journey to heal their own inner child.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Dr. Greer KirshenbaumLearn more on Greer's WebsiteBuy the book: The Nurture RevolutionFollow Greer on InstagramListen to the Spoil your baby PodcastFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with my dear friend Joey McCune, a visionary entrepreneur, sacred space designer, and portal guide. Joey is the founder of the stunning Sound Healing Tulum and Cenote Sagrado sanctuary in the Yucatan jungle, as well as the leader of Sakred Journeys, a platform for transformative retreats to sacred sites around the world.Our conversation centers on Joey's own journey of learning to receive care after years of being a constant giver and "mother" to others. She shares the powerful story of how she followed a channeled message to build a sound temple, the lessons she learned in trusting the universe during the pandemic, and what led her to a point where she knew her own cup was nearly empty. We explore the profound medicine of sisterhood, the bittersweet healing that can come from simple acts of care, and how allowing herself to be "mothered" on my Ireland retreat sparked a period of profound creative expansion in her own life.You'll also hear about:(01:57) How a powerful channeled message in the middle of the night led Joey to sell everything and birth a sacred sound sanctuary in the Yucatan jungle.(04:49) Why Joey, a retreat leader herself, recognized her own cup was nearly empty and made the intentional choice to receive mothering.(09:45) The profound and bittersweet experience of being "tucked in" for the first time, and how this simple act revealed a deep mother wound.(15:12) The pattern of over-mothering her own children to fill a void from her childhood, and the sense of loss she felt when they left home.(17:50) How allowing herself to be filled up sparked a massive creative rebirth and expansion in her own life and work.(20:19) The realization that sisterhood is not just a support system, but a "divine puzzle piece" essential for self-mothering and spiritual evolution.(39:03) Joey's 20 years of dharma work leading sacred, transformative journeys through the temples of Egypt.Join us for this beautiful exploration of what it means to be a creator, a mother, and a woman willing to be held, and discover why the act of receiving is just as sacred as the act of giving.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Joey McCuneFollow Joey on InstagramLearn more about Joey's Retreats at Sakred JourneysFollow Sound Healing Tulum on InstagramFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this powerful episode, I am joined by Valerie Jones, author of The Selfish Year, host of The Selfish Woman podcast, and founder of The Selfish Woman Movement. Valerie shares her incredible journey from being a chronic people-pleaser, conditioned to be the "good girl," through two difficult marriages that ultimately led her to a profound breaking point. In a radical act of self-preservation, she embarked on a year-long experiment to be selfish—a decision that changed everything.Our conversation is a deep dive into what it truly means to be selfish, redefining it not as a dirty word, but as the sacred act of being "full of self." Valerie introduces the beautiful concepts of the "First Girl"—the exuberant, authentic version of us before the world told us who to be—and the "Hurt Girl," the protector who emerges to keep us safe. We discuss the immense cost of people-pleasing, the patriarchal programming that conditions women to be selfless, and the two stages of reclamation: first, learning to put yourself first so you can give from abundance, and ultimately, arriving at the freedom of prioritizing yourself simply because you are worthy.You'll also hear about:(03:23) Valerie’s journey as a chronic people-pleaser through a 24-year marriage that ended in divorce.(06:36) How an externally perfect life in Spain led her to a breaking point and the decision to start her "Selfish Year" experiment.(13:23) The first crucial lesson Valerie learned: in order to be truly selfish, you must first get to know yourself.(15:38) Redefining selfish as being "full of self" and learning to mother the parts of ourselves that are scared and afraid.(21:04) The concepts of the "First Girl" (our true, unconditioned self) and the "Hurt Girl" (our protector self) and how to integrate them.(27:08) The high cost of being a "good girl"—including resentment, depression, and patterns of self-abandonment.(40:58) The two stages of embracing selfishness, from a "Trojan horse" for the brain to the ultimate freedom of prioritizing yourself, full stop.Join us for this liberating conversation and discover why Valerie’s message is so vital: "You are not broken. You are becoming."Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Valerie Jones:Learn more on Valerie's WebsiteBuy the book: The Selfish YearListen to The Selfish Woman PodcastFollow Valerie on InstagramFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

Episode Title Options:Should We Listen to Our Mothers? A Legacy of Love and Strength with Jackie TantilloThe Golden Thread of Motherhood: Lessons from a Large Family with Jackie TantilloRewriting the Mother Code Through Communication and Forgiveness with Jackie TantilloGrowing Up with Seven Siblings: A Story of Family, Creativity, and Connection with Jackie TantilloIn this episode, I have the pleasure of speaking with Jackie Tantillo, the host and executive producer of the award-winning podcast,Should Have Listen to My Mother. Jackie shares the beautiful and dynamic story of her upbringing as the youngest of seven children and the profound impact of her mother, Linda—a trailblazing, creative, and forward-thinking woman who worked for the Rockefeller Foundation in Peru before raising her family.Our conversation explores the "golden thread" that connects us all through our relationship with our mothers, whether that bond was a source of strength or a challenge to overcome. Jackie reflects on how her mother’s love for music and conversation inspired her own four-decade career in broadcasting. We also discuss the vital importance of family rituals, the lessons learned from having five older sisters, and how her mother modeled challenging the status quo, both in her community and her faith. After six seasons of her podcast, Jackie shares her biggest takeaways on motherhood, forgiveness, and the power of truly listening.You'll also hear about:(04:32) How Jackie's mother, Linda, and a house filled with music inspired her career in radio.(07:09) The incredible story of Jackie's mother, a forward-thinking linguist and world traveler who raised seven children.(13:34) The common paradigm of mothers who encourage their children but struggle to give themselves the same love and support.(24:14) The power of nightly family dinners (with no TV!) to foster deep connection and conversation.(32:45) What it was like growing up with five older sisters who acted as "second mothers".(37:21) Key lessons Jackie has learned after six seasons of listening to guests share stories about their mothers.(45:39) Jackie’s powerful interpretation of "Rewrite the Mother Code" and the importance of apologizing to your children.Don't miss this heartwarming and insightful exploration of family, legacy, and the enduring influence of our mothers.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Jackie TantilloListen to Should Have Listen to My MotherVisit her Website Connect with Jackie on LinkedInFollow Jackie on FacebookFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this episode, I speak with Linda Brand, a transformational coach and host of the Worthy and Abundant podcast, about her powerful journey of healing and self-discovery. Linda shares her story of overcoming a childhood rooted in scarcity and fear, navigating a debilitating illness that became a major awakening, and making the courageous leap from a career in real estate to founding her own coaching practice.Our conversation delves into the critical importance of self-love and self-worth as the foundation for a successful and fulfilling life. Linda explains how a lack of self-love leads to seeking external validation and offers practical tools to begin the practice of unconditional self-acceptance, including journaling, mirror work, and affirmations. We also explore powerful healing modalities like EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), the connection between unprocessed trauma and physical health, and the importance of reparenting our inner child.You’ll also hear about:(01:23) Linda’s journey of overcoming a childhood of scarcity and fear.(03:08) How a debilitating illness became her biggest spiritual awakening.(07:39) The power of Kabbalah as ancient wisdom for modern life.(16:04) Why self-love is essential to stop seeking external validation and feel whole.(19:34) Practical tools for developing self-love, including mirror work and compassionate inner talk.(20:51) The connection between ADHD in women and intense self-criticism.(39:50) How to use EFT (tapping) to release energy blocks and imposter syndrome.(43:32) Dr. Gertrude’s profound experiences with dynamic breathwork and its ability to unlock cellular memory.Don't miss Linda’s inspiring perspective on rewriting your past to create a truly worthy and abundant future!Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Linda Brand:Learn more on Linda’s WebsiteListen to Linda’s PodcastListen to Manifest + ChillFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this episode, I sit down with Tracy Ftacek - serial entrepreneur, manifestation coach, and host of Manifest + Chill - to explore what it really means to release perfectionism, let go of hustle culture, and step into a life of joy, ease, and alignment.Tracy shares her powerful story of growing up in Alaska, building businesses in the beauty industry, selling her company, and navigating the disorienting question of identity that followed. She takes us inside her journey of discovering meditation, manifestation, and visualization practices, and how these became not just tools but lifelines for creating a new way of living.We also dive into Tracy’s transformative experience at one of my retreats, where she confronted and began healing her mother wound through a powerful water birthing ceremony. Tracy reflects on how rewriting her story allowed her to release generational patterns, embrace her wholeness, and model a new way of being for herself and others.This conversation is filled with wisdom, laughter, and deep healing, an invitation for all of us to “manifest + chill” while building lives we actually love.You’ll also hear about:(04:30) Growing up in Alaska, loss of her father, and early lessons in independence(06:45) Choosing career over family, then building businesses on her own terms(08:20) Selling her company and the disorientation of losing titles and identity(12:10) Relearning self-care through meditation, manifestation, and coaching(16:00) Why hustle culture keeps women stuck in burnout, and how to flip the script(20:15) The “manifest + chill” philosophy and integrating ease into ambition(22:00) Creating her beauty app and finding alignment through entrepreneurship(25:20) Attending her first retreat and overcoming the fear of showing up alone(28:30) Launching her new business at the retreat and signing her first client there(31:00) Retreat reflections: healing in community and feeling deeply supported(32:30) Healing the mother wound through a water birthing ceremony(34:40) Realizing the soul’s choice in family dynamics and releasing blame(36:20) Transforming anger into gratitude and acceptance(39:00) Embracing joy, play, and authenticity in both business and life(42:15) Building a business model around fun, alignment, and sustainable growth(48:00) Final reflections on rewriting generational narratives and choosing joyDon’t miss Tracy’s inspiring perspective on how to release the hustle, embrace healing, and manifest a life filled with intention and joy.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Tracy Ftacek:Learn more on Tracy’s WebsiteFollow Tracy on InstagramConnect with Tracy on LinkedinListen to Manifest + ChillFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Mary Ella Wood, physician, medical director, and new mother, to explore her path from general surgery to integrative medicine, and how her personal journey of motherhood has deepened her approach to healing.As the Medical Director of the Osher Center for Integrative Medicine at Northwestern, Dr. Wood blends evidence-based functional and holistic practices - nutrition, herbal medicine, yoga, Ayurveda, and mind-body medicine - into patient care. She shares how her experiences during COVID, residency, and high-risk obstetrics shaped her passion for whole-person healing.We also dive into her transformative journey through pregnancy and birth, navigating unexpected complications, and the raw realities of postpartum life. Dr. Wood opens up about breastfeeding struggles, resilience, and the miracle of welcoming her son, all while continuing her groundbreaking work in integrative medicine.This conversation is both deeply practical and profoundly human, offering insights into how we can honor the science of medicine while holding space for the feminine, relational, and soulful dimensions of care.You’ll also hear about:(04:34) Dr. Wood’s transition from surgery to integrative medicine(07:42) What integrative and functional medicine really mean(12:00) The importance of whole-person, individualized care(20:50) Reflections on delivering babies as a physician and as a mother(25:30) Her personal birth story and navigating unexpected complications(35:25) Postpartum challenges, breastfeeding struggles, and rediscovering herself as a new mom(37:50) The balance of motherhood, medicine, and the joy of family life(42:10) The role of midwives, medicalization of birth, and advocating for informed choice(50:15) How environment, beauty, and stress impact healing and birth outcomes(57:40) Rewriting narratives around women’s bodies and medical studiesDon’t miss Dr. Wood’s powerful reflections on blending professional expertise with lived experience as a mother, and how integrative care can transform both medicine and motherhood.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Dr. Mary Ella Wood:Learn more on Mary’s WebsiteFollow Mary on InstagramConnect with Mary on LinkedinFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterOrder Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this moving solo episode, Dr. Gertrude Lyons shares tender reflections from her time in Ireland. Fresh off her book launch, book tour, and the release of her TEDx talk, Gertrude opens up about the chaos and beauty of building a home abroad, preparing for her first Ireland self-mothering retreat, and welcoming her mother into this new sacred space.She takes listeners behind the scenes of a whirlwind summer - navigating construction delays, partnering with her husband through stress and gratitude, and receiving the support of her team and community to bring it all together. From honoring her mother’s courage at 95 years old to holding space for five women in retreat, Gertrude weaves a story of resilience, surrender, and sacred creation.This episode is both an intimate life update and a powerful reminder that mothering ourselves often means softening in the midst of chaos and choosing gratitude as we grow.You’ll also hear about:(00:50) The whirlwind of creation - Mexico, Ireland, retreats, and family visits(03:20) Letting go after the book launch and noticing signs of depletion(05:00) The surprise of arriving in “organized chaos” instead of a finished home(06:50) How Gertrude and her husband leaned on each other to create a welcoming space(09:40) The gift of gratitude and reframing stress as sacred preparation(12:10) Hosting her 95-year-old mother with courage, presence, and care(15:00) Learning to sit with relationship instead of staying busy(16:50) The launch of her TEDx talk, censorship challenges, and the call to share(18:40) The first Ireland self-mothering retreat and the transformation it brought(19:50) A closing reflection: where do you need to stop managing and start mothering?Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Follow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this lively and heartfelt episode, Dr. Gertrude Lyons welcomes Laura Conley—certified life and weight coach, and the dynamic force behind The Yummy Mummy. Their conversation begins with the serendipity of meeting at Gertrude’s book launch event in Los Angeles and quickly flows into Laura’s inspiring personal story.After becoming a mother, Laura found herself consumed with thoughts about losing weight—so much so that it interfered with her ability to be present with her child. Determined to break free from the diet culture messaging she had internalized, Laura embarked on a transformative journey to heal her relationship with her body, food, and self.Now, through The Yummy Mummy program, she helps other moms create a new paradigm—one that honors physical health while also nurturing emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. Together, Gertrude and Laura explore what it takes to create sustainable change, the importance of addressing the whole self, and how to mother ourselves in the process.You’ll also hear about:(01:55) How Gertrude and Laura first connected at the book launch event(04:20) Laura’s wake-up call: realizing her focus on weight was stealing her joy as a new mom(08:15) The personal journey that led Laura to become a certified life and weight coach(12:30) Why traditional diet culture fails mothers—and what to do instead(16:50) The pillars of The Yummy Mummy program and how they address body, mind, and spirit(22:10) Stories of transformation: lasting change without the crash-diet cycle(27:30) How self-connection leads to healthier relationships—with yourself and your children(31:45) Reframing success beyond the number on the scale(35:20) Encouragement for moms to rewrite their own “mother code” around body image and self-worth(39:00) How to navigate setbacks with compassion and curiosity(45:15) Building a supportive community for lasting transformation(51:10) Laura’s final advice for mothers ready to reclaim joy and body confidenceThis episode is a permission slip to release outdated beliefs, reclaim your energy, and approach your health from a place of love and sustainability.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Laura Conley:Learn more on Laura's WebsiteFollow Laura on InstagramConnect with Laura on LinkedinFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this episode, I speak with Amy Schutte, an entrepreneur, writer, and host of the Business, Origin, Stories podcast, about her journey of leaving a stable corporate career to launch her own strategic communications and branding agency after becoming a mother. Amy shares how motherhood awakened an intuitive part of her that led to a major life pivot, driven by a desire for a life and career that felt more in alignment.Our conversation explores the "Karman Line," a powerful metaphor Amy uses for the personal thresholds we face and the new operating systems we need to cross them. We delve into her trademarked "Origin Stories" framework, a four-phase, mother-coded process for building sustainable and authentic brands. Amy emphasizes the importance of building a "fertile business" that supports your current season of life, rather than succumbing to hustle culture. You'll hear actionable insights on trusting your intuition, the necessity of creating space for yourself, and how to consciously co-create a life that feels true to you.You'll also hear about:(01:47) The journey from a secure corporate job to purpose-driven entrepreneurship(07:57) How listening to a podcast about Sarah Blakely sparked a pivotal moment(11:37) The Karman Line: A metaphor for crossing personal growth thresholds(16:23) Navigating relationship changes and losing friends during transformation(22:56) The "Origin Stories" framework for building a resonant brand(32:28) Self-mothering practices and the importance of asking for support(37:01) The concept of a "productivity fast" and learning to embrace pleasure(42:29) What it means to create a sustainable and "fertile" business(45:00) Discussing the collective recovery from the pandemic experience(47:41) Amy's definition of what it means to "Rewrite the Mother Code"Don't miss Amy's inspiring perspective on building a business and life that are deeply aligned with your personal truth!Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Amy Schutte:Learn more on Amy's WebsiteFollow Amy on InstagramConnect with Amy on LinkedinListen to the Business, Origin, Stories PodcastFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

Episode Title Options:The Unveiling: Dr. Gertrude Lyons on Her Book Launch JourneyBeyond the Book Launch: Navigating the Marathon of New Beginnings with Dr. Gertrude LyonsRealities of a Book Launch: Lessons in Self-Mothering with Dr. Gertrude LyonsFrom Sprint to Marathon: Dr. Gertrude Lyons Reflects on Her First BookBody:In this episode, I share an honest reflection on the journey of my first book launch. While the initial sprint of events and media has concluded, I delve into the unexpected parallels between launching a book and new motherhood. It’s a powerful, potent time, marked by both excitement and the unforeseen challenges that often remain unseen on social media.I talk about the invaluable advice from Marianne Williamson and Margaret Nielsen on navigating this new territory, emphasizing the importance of presence and joy over overwhelming commitments. This episode is an exercise in self-mothering, acknowledging the moments of stress and disappointment while finding gratitude in unexpected downtime.You'll also hear about:(01:59) – Equating the book launch journey to new book motherhood.(02:46) – Discussing the unique experience of a first-time author and navigating the unknown.(06:48) – Margaret Nielsen's advice on not saying yes to everything and prioritizing energy.(09:25) – Jessica Zwag's analogy of the "sprint" and "marathon" phases of a book launch.(10:40) – The feeling of downtime after the initial rush and the fear of everything ending.(12:46) – The contrast between social media's portrayal of perfection and the reality of book launch challenges.(14:13) – Sharing anecdotes about things that didn't go well, like logistical issues and canceled appearances, and how they became exercises in self-mothering.(18:20) – Discussing unexpected challenges like persistent rain during book tour and adapting to unforeseen circumstances.(25:30) – Discussing the concept of finding freedom and joy in letting go of expectations.(30:05) – Encouraging listeners to share their own experiences and reflections on new beginnings.This solo episode offers a candid look at the emotional landscape of bringing a significant project to life, reminding us to embrace the full spectrum of the experience.Follow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this rich, heart-centered conversation, Dr. Gertrude Lyons speaks with family law attorney and equity partner Katy Mickelson about following a nonlinear career path, parenting through IVF, and how real life—not law school—became her greatest teacher. Katy shares what it means to bring creativity into a traditionally rigid field, why she values mentorship, and how raising teens has taught her as much as any courtroom.They discuss balancing ambition with presence, how fertility struggles shaped her perspective on motherhood, and why authenticity is her superpower in both law and life. This episode is an honest, energizing reminder that there is no one way to lead—or to mother.You’ll also hear about:(01:55) Mentoring future women in law and creating soul-aligned workplaces(05:40) Public relations, late pivots, and starting law school at 29(10:50) Combining creativity and law: why it doesn’t have to be boring(15:10) Gender dynamics in the legal field and carving a new path(19:20) Listening as a lost art in law, and why it matters most(24:45) IVF journeys, difficult diagnoses, and the shock of unexpected fertility challenges(30:50) Motherhood after 35 and the feisty embryo that made it against the odds(36:00) Parenting teens and what it means to watch your children become themselves(40:30) Guilt, growth, and the myth of perfect parenting(44:50) Real-life experience as an undervalued but essential skillThis episode is for anyone navigating career shifts, parenting complexity, or the unpredictable paths we take to become who we are.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Katy Mickelson:Visit her WebsiteFollow her on InstagramConnect with her on LinkedInFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this insightful conversation, Dr. Gertrude Lyons sits down with entrepreneur, leadership coach, and podcast host Emily Bronaugh. Together, they unpack what it means to lead with intention, hire with care, and mother a business without losing yourself in the process.Emily shares her journey from burnout to business ownership, and how she learned to build systems, delegate with trust, and create space for both feminine values and effective leadership. They explore the cultural narratives around control, responsibility, and what it truly means to ask for help.Whether you run a household, a business, or both, this episode will help you challenge your assumptions and redefine what it means to lead.You’ll also hear about:(01:55) Emily’s backstory: early motherhood, military life, and career pivots(06:30) Why hiring feels so daunting, and how to overcome the fear(09:50) The balance of masculine structure and feminine leadership(12:45) Burnout, decision fatigue, and the power of boundaries(16:00) Systems that support creativity without suffocating it(21:35) Rewriting the "boss" narrative and healing leadership wounds(26:20) How emotional charge shows up in hiring and delegation(30:40) The mother energy in business: boundaries vs. over-identification(34:15) Encouraging autonomy and rethinking the team as family(39:50) Letting go of control and hiring with trust(44:10) What it means to grow a business that grows without youThis episode is a permission slip to build and lead in a way that aligns with your values—with space, support, and sustainability at the core.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Emily Bronaugh:Visit her WebsiteFollow her on InstagramConnect with her on LinkedInTake the Leadership Journey QuizFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this powerful and unapologetic conversation, I sit down with Sonali Fiske—TEDx speaker, creative coach, former radio host, and fierce advocate for cultural equity and representation. We explore the intersection of creative expression, sacred rage, and self-mothering, and the courage it takes to tell the truth in a world built to silence it.Sonali shares her journey of moving from invisibility to global visibility, and why anger became the alchemical force that transformed her life and leadership. We also reflect on the behind-the-scenes process of crafting a TEDx talk that disrupts the status quo—and the backlash that often comes with saying something that matters.If you’ve ever felt like your story wasn’t welcome, this episode is a bold invitation to claim your space, your voice, and your sacred yes.You’ll also hear about:(01:55) The origin of Sonali’s mission to amplify BIPOC women’s voices(07:04) How sacred listening and self-mothering become acts of revolution(13:30) Feelings buried alive: intergenerational grief and what Sonali did with her rage(18:20) Why we need safe spaces for women to express full-spectrum emotions(23:45) Her first TEDx talk, audience discomfort, and the power of not diluting your message(30:10) How that talk led to her global radio show and 9.5M+ listeners(35:40) The challenges of sustaining visibility, and knowing when to pause(39:25) Producing the most diverse TEDx events in the U.S.(44:50) The radical act of turning anger into creativity, service, and collective healingThis episode is for anyone ready to stop shrinking, start telling the truth, and create from the places we’ve been told to hide.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Sonali Fiske:Visit her WebsiteFollow her on InstagramConnect with her on LinkedInFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this solo episode, I reflect on the emotional swirl of launching my first book, Rewrite the Mother Code, and everything that came after the sprint. From excitement and fulfillment to overwhelm and uncertainty, I open up about the full spectrum of the experience, and why it reminds me of new motherhood.This is a conversation about truth, creativity, vulnerability, and the deep work of staying present. I share the beauty, the mess, and the moments of grace that made this journey real.If you’ve ever launched a project, stepped into a new version of yourself, or tried to savor a moment while holding a thousand details - this one’s for you.You’ll also hear about:(01:55) The emotional rollercoaster after book launch and letting go of the sprint(05:01) Advice from Marianne Williamson and the call to have fun and be present(07:04) Why self-mothering means saying no to things that drain you(09:56) The shift from sprint to marathon and the fear of losing momentum(14:56) Social media, perfection, and the unspoken stress of event logistics(17:50) Self-care in New York and what didn’t go according to plan(21:05) Money fears, rainstorms, and the little love shots that kept her going(24:03) Doubt, darkness, and choosing to keep showing up anyway(26:12) Invitations, outreach, and asking for continued support(29:04) Shifting from shyness to pride and standing behind your work(31:00) Future offerings, community engagement, and what Gertrude wants to create nextThis episode is a love letter to the entire experience, not just the polished launch photos, but the rain, the setbacks, and the heart-opening moments of truth.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Follow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this soul-expanding episode, I sit down with artist, composer, writer, and TEDx speaker Gregg Stewart to explore creativity as both a path of healing and a lifelong act of becoming. From music to novels, parenting to presence, Gregg invites us to step into our creative selves with curiosity, compassion, and the audacity to do it anyway.We talk about the emotional labor of sharing your truth on a TEDx stage, the fear and joy of co-parenting, and the inner transformation that comes with giving yourself permission to create. Gregg's wisdom is both practical and poetic, and this conversation is a love letter to creative expression in all its forms.You’ll also hear about:(01:55) The magic of sharing the TEDx stage and how Gregg ended up the “wild card”(06:00) Gregg’s journey through music, writing, film, and his upcoming novella(10:10) Creativity as a form of subconscious processing and personal truth-telling(13:45) The deeper value of creativity beyond capitalism and performance(17:05) Why you don’t need to be a professional to benefit from a creative life(22:30) How fear and curiosity helped Gregg stay connected to his daughter after divorce(29:20) The radical parenting lesson of meeting your child brand new each time(34:00) Creative expression as an antidote to self-judgment(37:40) Letting go of childhood wounds around singing, art, and voice(41:25) Reclaiming joy in creativity after years of disconnection(45:50) The power of community, reflection, and staying open to being surprised(50:10) Why presence, not polish, is the soul of all creative work(54:20) How art helps us mother ourselves and meet the moment with heartGregg's philosophy reminds us that creativity is not about perfection - it’s about presence, honesty, and the willingness to show up for ourselves and each other.Learn more about Gregg Stewart:Follow him on InstagramOrder his BookWatch his TEDXTalkFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In Part Two of our conversation, Jen Pastiloff shares from the beating heart of her new book, Proof of Life - a work that was birthed through grief, trauma, beauty, and a fierce devotion to truth. This episode is a masterclass in living unfiltered, trusting the body, and speaking the unspeakable.We go deeper into her creative process, the limitations of traditional wellness spaces, and what it means to parent while unlearning self-abandonment. Jen offers an invitation not to perform or perfect, but to pause. To feel. To say what is real.This conversation is for the humans who are doing their best to stay in their bodies and live from a place of honest belonging.You’ll also hear about:(01:55) Why she almost didn’t give her TEDx talk and what happened next(05:30) Her relationship to voice, silence, and speaking from the body(09:35) Why she tells her son: “You can be mad at me and I still love you”(14:20) The energetic power of writing and her new book Proof of Life(18:35) How she reclaims motherhood, worthiness, and creative identityJen reminds us that healing is not about fixing what’s broken — it’s about remembering who we are underneath the noise.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Jen Pastiloff:Visit her WebsiteFollow her on InstagramFollow her on FacebookPre-order Proof of LifeFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this deeply embodied conversation, I speak with Jen Pastiloff - bestselling author of On Being Human, creator of the Shame Loss Movement, and a radically honest voice in the world of healing and presence. Jen brings her whole self to the mic: her deafness, her grief, her humanness, and her fierce belief in truth-telling as a path to freedom.In Part One of our conversation, we trace Jen’s journey through early loss, chronic self-doubt, and the internalized belief that she had to hide or perform her way through life. We explore the beauty and brutality of becoming present in a body, and what it means to bear witness to others without fixing or fleeing.This episode is for anyone learning to stay. To grieve. To listen. And to belong.You’ll also hear about:(02:10) Jen’s experience growing up with hearing loss and how it shaped her worldview(06:35) Why she calls herself a “listener” instead of a teacher(13:12) Her early grief after losing her father and how it shaped her longing(19:45) The origins of the Shame Loss Movement and the audacity to take up space(27:20) Her writing and workshop work as acts of presence and permissionJen invites us into the sacred messiness of being human, reminding us that shame cannot survive being spoken, and that our bodies are wise, worthy places to come home to.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Jen Pastiloff:Visit her WebsiteFollow her on InstagramFollow her on FacebookPre-order Proof of LifeFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this raw and powerful episode, I sit down with Allie Casazza—author, coach, and founder of the “Becoming Her” movement—for a deeply honest conversation about the messy, miraculous process of breaking open and rebuilding.Allie shares her journey from building an 8-figure business rooted in minimalism to experiencing a profound unraveling of her personal and professional life. We talk about the self-betrayal that can accompany success, the silence of shame, and how illness, burnout, and trauma cracked open the parts of herself that had long been hidden.What emerged from that dark night of the soul is not just a new business model, but a new way of living, parenting, and leading—with truth, presence, and deep self-respect.You’ll also hear about:(01:00) How Allie built a massive brand while suppressing her truth(05:45) The illness and emotional fallout that came from not speaking up(11:15) Navigating divorce, trauma, and the unraveling of her identity(17:00) Her breaking point, and how she rebuilt her inner world(23:20) The healing power of hypnotherapy, EFT, and energetic work(29:45) Choosing truth over performance in parenting and business(36:10) Living the mother code in real time with her four kids(42:25) Rewriting everything and reclaiming her power as a woman and creatorAllie reminds us that being a good mother isn’t about perfection—it’s about presence. It’s about modeling healing, honesty, and the courage to become who you truly are.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Allie Casazza:Visit her WebsiteFollow her on InstagramListen to her PodcastSubscribe to her Youtube ChannelFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this episode, I sit down with Nina Mongendre—author, guide, and family constellations practitioner—for a deeply spiritual and nourishing conversation on inner child healing, ancestral connection, and reimagining the healing journey through archetypal wisdom.Nina shares her path from Kundalini yoga teacher and spiritual seeker to integrating shamanic practices, constellation work, and ancestral healing in a more embodied, emotionally attuned way. We discuss her forthcoming book Reclaiming Your Inner Child: A Journey of Childhood and Ancestral Healing, and how the journey of self-mothering begins with reuniting with the parts of ourselves we’ve left behind.From creating her oracle deck to guiding others through “The Chamber of the Mother,” Nina’s work is a loving invitation to approach our pain with reverence, creativity, and compassion.You’ll also hear about:(00:55) Nina’s background and upcoming book Reclaiming Your Inner Child(05:20) Her personal journey through spiritual dogma and rediscovering embodiment(12:40) The importance of emotional honesty and working with grief(18:10) Family constellations and the power of witnessing our inner child(25:30) How to approach healing safely and creatively through symbolism and objects(31:45) Archetypes of the Magical Child, Divine Child, and historical inner child(36:50) The “Chamber of the Mother” as a sacred, liminal space for healing(41:00) Rethinking the Hero’s Journey and embracing the wisdom of our shadowNina reminds us that true healing isn’t about bypassing or perfection—it’s about remembering who we are, creating sacred containers for change, and meeting our inner children with awe and tenderness.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Nina Mongendre:Visit her WebsiteFollow her on InstagramConnect with her on LinkedInSubscribe to her Youtube ChannelFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this deeply personal solo episode—recorded exactly two weeks before the release of my first book, Rewrite the Mother Code—I invite you into the tender and powerful space I found myself in as I prepared for one of the most meaningful transitions of my life.Now, as the book officially launches into the world, this recording captures the rawness, the reverence, and the inner preparation that took place behind the scenes—not just for the celebration, but for the becoming.This episode is not about the party. It’s about what this moment represents. It’s about remembering the deeper meaning, the sacredness of showing up fully, vulnerably, and lovingly.I reflect on what it means to mother myself through this threshold, how I’m calling in ancestral and collective support, and how I’m living out the very code I’ve spent years rewriting.This book is a labor of love. A ceremony. A summoning.And this episode is an invitation—to bear witness, to pause, and to join me in honoring this sacred passage.You’ll also hear about:(00:54) Why the book launch feels like a wedding—and why it matters(03:14) What self-mothering looks like in real time before a major milestone(06:18) Reclaiming emotional transparency and giving ourselves permission to feel(08:51) Setting intentions for connection, intuition, and creative flow(12:42) Why nothing can “ruin” what’s already perfect in love and presence(16:14) How this book is encoded with meaning, love, and a call to riseThis episode is for anyone about to cross a threshold, anyone who’s been holding something sacred inside and is finally ready to bring it to the world.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Follow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Julia Krankl—a Harvard-educated physician, UCLA-trained psychiatrist, TEDx speaker, author of The 21st Minute, and mother—for a deeply enriching conversation on mental health, emotional wellness, and the complex, sacred unraveling of the postpartum experience. Dr. Krankl brings both clinical insight and lived wisdom to our dialogue, drawing from her extensive training and personal journey.Julia shares insights from her new book, The 21st Minute: Everything You Wish Doctors Explained About Mental Health, a resource she created to empower individuals with accessible, practical tools for navigating their emotional lives. We explore the inspiration behind the book’s title, the reality of postpartum anxiety, and the essential role of community when raising children.Together, we dive into how perfectionism impacts parenting, the truth about emotional regulation, and how being “good enough” is more powerful than perfect.You’ll also hear about:(02:15) Julia’s TEDx experience and forming instant community(08:47) The origin and purpose of The 21st Minute(16:22) What we’re getting wrong about postpartum mental health(22:50) Why emotional regulation is key to parenting and healing(34:18) Rewriting the perfectionism code as mothers(45:12) How the “village” model of parenting can change everythingJulia reminds us that mental wellness isn’t about perfection—it’s about honesty, self-awareness, and giving ourselves permission to grow through the process.Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Learn more about Dr. Julia Krankl:Visit her WebsiteWatch her TEDx TalkFollow her on InstagramConnect with her on LinkedInFollow Dr. Gertrude: Learn more on Dr. Gertrude’s websiteFollow Dr. Gertrude on InstagramStay in the loop and sign up to Dr. Gertrude’s newsletterPre-order Dr. Gertrude’s new book “Rewrite the Mother Code”