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Why Powerful Women Always Get Called “Diva”

Apr 30, 20261h 26m

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Apr 16, 20261h 42m

Ep 145Most People Are Dating on Autopilot

You think your dating choices are yours… but there's invisible rules shaping your sex, love, and identity. However, there is a disruption that queer, kinky, and non-monogamous people are leading, exposing amatonormativity, and the fantasy of desire that isn’t actually yours. To break down how to unlearn, rebuild, and finally choose yourself, we put Feeld’s new Reflections tool to the test; because self-discovery shouldn’t feel like homework. The script stopped working. Now what? Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink CONTACT AIANO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aiano_/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queer_homemaking CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 intro 00:54 Do we make our own choices? 07:44 The bedroom crossover 16:54 Subliminal beliefs we hold 25:50 social rewards and punishments 34:01 ananormativity 29:44 grow out if it 44:49 compulsory heteronormativity 46:43 can't name it can't claim it 50:31 finding your true desires 53:11 scary things that won't kill you 57:39 are you happy? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Apr 2, 20261h 2m

Ep 144Why the Church Makes People Kinky

The Church might be one of the gayest institutions in history and no one’s talking about it. We’re diving into the hidden queer and kinky world inside religious life. From lesbian nuns to closeted clergy, and how centuries of repression shaped it all. Connecting history, theory, and lived experience to ask: does religion suppress desire, or secretly create it? Because once you see it, you can’t unsee it. Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer CONTACT RYLAN Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rylanstreight/ Salem: https://www.instagram.com/salemburns_/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Intro 00:59 Growin up with gay clergy? 06:00 Deep in it 11:45 All priests are gay 17:19 The nuns are gay too 21:25 All falling apart 33:08 The shame is too strong 40:53 What religion teaches us about sexuality 48:40 Saying goodbye to Jesus 53:19 Kink will save us 1:00:34 Morality is in question 1:08:02 Religion is Kink in cosplay Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Mar 26, 20261h 13m

Ep 143Men Are Losing Women (And They Don't Know Why)

Vox crowned 2025 the year of decentering men. But lesbians were doing it first. We’re unpacking whether “man-hating” is a dead-end, a coping mechanism, or a misread of a much older feminist strategy, with Olivia (aka Olisunvia). Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink CONTACT OLIVIA: Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@olisunvia Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/olisunvia/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@olisunvia CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Intro 01:00 Man-hating vs de-centering 05:39 Choice vs radical feminism 11:27 the real hate for men 24:13 Second wave feminism 34:15 The feminist manifesto 48:07 Ideal vs reasonable change 57:29 What's in our best interest? 1:07:39 Are women healthier without men? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Feb 26, 20261h 20m

Ep 142The Identity Even Progressive Spaces Get Wrong

Studs aren’t a vibe, they’re a lineage. We’re unpacking the history, politics, and lived reality of Black masculine lesbians at the crossroads of race, gender, and desire. From the swagger and softness, Harlem Renaissance sapphics, stud vs butch, AGs, Stud4Stud discourse, toxic masculinity, and why Black masculinity plays by different rules. Joined by Elisabeth Clarke, Nadine Wiltshire, and Kiké, we dig into stereotypes, erasure, dating myths, and the radical tenderness at the core of stud identity. oin Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 What is a stud? 05:00 The toxic expectations 12:11 Recreating masculinity 19:12 It's because you're black 24:31 Stud on stud clash 35:03 Who can be a stud? 1:03:04 Know your stud history 1:16:04 Black vs white lesbian division 1:31:21 What can femmes do better? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Feb 12, 20261h 37m

Ep 141The Gender Mystery Historians Still Can’t Explain

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The feral, gender-defiant life of a Canadian WWI veteran who ditched a wealthy upbringing, lived alone in the woods, enlisted three times, fought on the Serbian front as a man, got captured as a prisoner of war, fell in love in a prison camp, and spent decades confusing barbers and bureaucrats alike. We’re queering the Great War, unpacking gender outlaw survival, and asking the spicy question: early non-binary icon or radical dissident woman? Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Intro 01:19 Our hero's early life 07:27 The radical of it all 13:52 What was it like for women in 1900s? 21:00 How did a woman get into war? 27:54 Enlisting as a man 36:37 First love interest (as a man?) 43:43 Actually non-binary? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Jan 29, 202651 min

Ep 140Stone Top And Pillow Princess: The Lesbian S*x Dynamic People Don’t Understand

Stone butch lesbians. Pillow princesses. An erotic dynamic that fits like a deviant little puzzle and has been wildly misunderstood ever since. Syd and Addy give us all the details from their own personal experiences, tackle myths and misconceptions, and get radically honest about desire, boundaries, and sexual alignment. Join Our Patreon: https://patreon.com/QueerCollective?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink CONTACT ADDY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/princesslezbian/ CONTACT SYD Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hotboysyd/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 intro 00:49 what's a stone top? 07:41 what's a pillow princess? 13:33 can straight girls be a pillow princess? 20:59 myths and misconceptions 25:33 when it's used as an insult 30:35 are they asexual? 34:40 exploring outside the dynamic 42:34 melt the stone? 49:04 finding a partner 51:13 stone butch history 1:01:05 stone butch blues 1:08:22 pillow princess history 1:10:41 all about dating 1:18:31 is it viewed as negative? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Jan 15, 20261h 24m

Ep 139The History and Secrets of How Lesbians Have S*x

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We’re cracking open the secret, censored, and wildly creative history of lesbian sex. We’re digging through ancient poems, forbidden medical texts, barroom gossip, queer zines, and the techniques they definitely didn’t teach in sex ed. Tracing sapphic desire from Sappho’s bedroom to modern queer culture and exposing just how inventive lesbians have always been. Foxers: https://bekomando.com/ Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 intro 01:05 Why is lesbian research scarce? 06:25 do men have higher libido 21:05 ancient greece lesbians 27:24 ancient india lesbians 29:46 medieval lesbos 37:36 is using a dildo phallocentric? 41:21 sexy reddit strap stories 45:42 the arabs had the right idea 48:58 the "itch" 54:04 early modern lesbos 1:02:03 lesbian nuns 1:09:41 modern lesbians 1:12:32 birth of the leather dyke 1:20:49 bdsm kinky lesbians 1:23:11 prison dykes 1:29:15 crafty prison pleasure toys Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dec 11, 20251h 32m

Ep 138The Queer Community Is Tearing Itself Apart (Here’s Why) ft. Taha

Every corner of queer TikTok is on fire. Hot takes, call-out wars, and “LGB without the T” chaos, and suddenly the biggest culture war isn’t left vs. right, it’s inside our own community. We’re diving into the history of queer infighting, from Stonewall splits to homonormativity, moral panics, tender-queer discourse, and why assimilation vs. liberation is the eternal gay cage match. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 4 months FREE Surfshark: https://surfshark.com/queercollective Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTACT TAHA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tahalikesyou/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Intro 00:52 What is causing the divide? 07:19 Are we taking it too far? 11:50 The moral panic 16:51 Am I the problem? 23:31 The worst it's ever been 31:23 Save the children 41:44 Assimilation vs abolition 50:23 Which strategy will win? 57:38 This time is different 1:03:53 How tf do we move forward 1:13:14 What can I do today? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Nov 27, 20251h 17m

Ep 137The Bisexual Man’s Field Guide to Dating Men ft. Mark and Bobby Box

You’re bi (or gay), and honestly? You’ve got no idea what to do with your hands. We got you. Sex columnist Bobby Box and bi icon Mark Erenberg join us for a crash course in gay sex 101. From flirting with men and building confidence to actually being good in bed. We’re talking imposter syndrome, gay panic, and the do’s and don’ts of bottoming… all with a wink, a giggle, and a lube bottle. Think of it as your guide to queer pleasure, power, and sweaty first kisses. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 4 months FREE Surfshark: https://surfshark.com/queercollective Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTACT BOBBY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bybobbybox/ CONTACT MARK Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mark.erenberg/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ensider.mp3/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/disgustingparty/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Intro 01:11 First time with a man 10:42 Realizing you like men 16:07 Imposter syndrome for bi men 21:59 How do Gay men feel about bi men? 25:46 Will he leave you for a woman? 30:25 Gay vs straight dating 37:36 Consent in gay men spaces 43:06 You're getting more attention now 47:47 How to hit on a guy 56:24 Hard skills 1:00:08 Bottoming 1:07:40 What is side? 1:12:29 How about group sex? 1:15:00 Giving great BJ's 1:18:26 What if it's too big? 1:21:36 First time prep 1:25:41 Sexy smut Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Nov 13, 20251h 31m

Ep 136Is Bisexuality The Same As Pansexuality? ft. Leo And Taty

Pansexuality: it’s not just bisexuality with extra glitter. We’re tracing its wild origins from the BDSM underground to the free love 70s to the nonbinary explosion of the 2010s, because this label has range. We’re unpacking the bi vs. pan debate, the pan pride flag’s secret meanings, and why pansexuality has always been the sexy rebel of the LGBTQ+ alphabet. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTACT LEO 1st Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anne__alien/ 2nd Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/polterguy666/ CONTACT TATY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taty.wab/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Intro 01:34 Bi or pan? 10:26 Pan is the umbrella 14:55 What is a lesbian? 19:55 What does attraction look like for pansexuals? 24:02 History of pansexuality 31:38 Early examples of pansexuality 35:45 The kinky history 39:41 The evolution of pan 48:55 Sexuality is not fluid? 56:08 Pan challenges 01:05:37 Is pansexuality inherently political? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Oct 30, 20251h 12m

Ep 135The Lesbian Relationship Myths We Can’t Kill ft. Shannon

Do all lesbians think the same? We’re digging into the big three stereotypes. Emotional intensity, U-Hauling, and lesbian bed death, to see if Sapphics really do relationships differently. We’re breaking down where these tropes come from, what’s rooted in history, and what’s just straight-up lesbophobic myth. Joined by hopeless romantic & poet lesbian play boy poetry, we’re asking: are lesbians too intense, too fast, and too sexless, or just misunderstood? Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Banff Pride: https://banffpride.ca/ Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTACT SHANNON Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/lesbianplayboypoetry/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Intro 01:28 Are we more intense? 07:11 It's the hormones 17:20 Good or toxic? 28:35 U-hauling 44:18 Lesbian bed death 01:02:50 Frequency is the key Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Sep 25, 20251h 10m

Ep 134Bisexuality Isn’t 50/50 - It’s a Bi-Cycle ft. Kelc And Joe

Sexuality isn’t static, it’s a shuffle. Sometimes you’re feeling super gay, sometimes a little straight, sometimes both at once, and that ebb and flow is what we’re calling the Bi-Cycle. We’re breaking down why attraction shifts over time, the label confusion that comes with it, and how to navigate relationships when your desires don’t sit still. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW JOE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/princemannydingo/ FOLLOW KELC Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mixt.paints/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 intro 01:19 What is the bi-cycle? 01:50 First time experiencing it 09:38 Why does the cycle happen? 17:04 Are you confused? 25:03 Can you choose it? 31:12 Navigating it in relationships 39:30 Bi-cycle while monogamous 45:09 Are you missing out? 48:30 What's the hardest part? 01:02:38 Explain yourself Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Sep 11, 20251h 20m

Ep 133How to Hook Up With Your Friends ft. Syd And Zhané

Is sleeping with your friends a queer love language or just lesbian chaos theory? We’re spilling on crushes, cuddle hookups, and why queers can’t stop blurring the friendship line. With Zhané and Syd, we talk jealousy, intimacy, ENM vs monogamy, and every messy “oops, I made out with my bestie” scenario. Gay disasters, incoming. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW ZHANE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ziosaaa/ FOLLOW SYD https://www.instagram.com/hotboysyd/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 intro 01:44 Have you hooked up with friends? 09:20 Pros and cons of hooking up 25:39 What about the friendship? 40:10 Is it inevitable? 49:15 Making the first move 57:56 Intoxicated consent 01:04:18 Keeping a platonic vibe after 01:10:38 How to avoid problems 01:16:52 Role playing scenarios Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Aug 28, 20251h 25m

Ep 132The Epidemic of Masc Fragility ft. Ms. Myles And Danielle Lastres

Femininity: feared, fetishized, and slapped with a “no fems” dating bio. We’re pulling femmephobia apart with Ms. Myles and Danielle. From its colonial, patriarchal origin story to the high school boys who think they have to one-up each other in a contest to sound the most heterosexual. CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains mentions of SA. Please take care of yourself while listening, and feel free to skip to the next episode if it’s not the right time for you. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTACT DANIELLE Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/danielle.lastres/ CONTACT MS MYLES MUA IG: https://www.instagram.com/ms.mylesmua/ DJ IG: https://www.instagram.com/madame.myles/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Intro 02:25 Define femmephobia 05:28 How does society treat femmes? 15:06 Being a trans femme is something else 23:32 Origins of femmephobia 31:09 The misogyny mask 43:11 No femmes allowed 48:37 Unwavering queerness 53:23 Do you wanna be a boy? 58:15 Protect the dolls Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Aug 14, 20251h 4m

Ep 131“I’m Not a Lesbian Anymore, I’m Queer” ft. Tyra Blizzard And King

From Oscar Wilde to JoJo Siwa, the word queer has been called a slur, a theory, an aesthetic, and a whole damn vibe. We’re diving deep into the messy, sexy, defiant legacy of queerness with icons Tyra Blizzard and King a.k.a DJ Soundboi. Why are so many ex-lesbians saying “I’m queer now”? Can cis-hets be queer? Is “queer” just bisexuality in a trench coat?? We’re reclaiming, unpacking, and stirring the pot. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTACT TYRA Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/tyrablizz/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tblizzy CONTACT KING Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/king.charming9/ Barber IG: https://www.instagram.com/kingscuts99/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Intro 02:26 Queer as gender and sexuality? 10:04 Is queer just too vague? 21:21 The ex-lesbians 28:26 Can you be culturally queer? 41:26 History of the word queer 52:12 How has queer evolved? 01:00:08 Is gender queer just non-binary? 01:06:05 Do you need to question your sexual attraction? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Jul 31, 20251h 13m

Ep 130You’re Not Gay, You Struggle With Same-Sex Attraction ft. Luke Wilson

What do electric shocks, shame sermons, and fake science have in common? They were all used to “pray the gay away.” We’re diving into the twisted world of conversion therapy with survivor and scholar Lucas Wilson. From evangelical trauma to the ex-gay movement’s most delulu masc villains, we’re unpacking the pseudoscience, propaganda, and lifelong scars of this deadly practice, and how survivors are reclaiming their stories. Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW LUKE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lukeslamdunkwilson/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Intro 01:46 Did you grow up religious? 08:23 being gay AND christian? 19:03 Discovering conversion therapy 35:40 The indoctrination is strong 44:14 The science is clear 57:36 Should DL folks be outed? 01:02:49 But the bible says 01:07:11 rejecting religion's teachings 01:10:53 The long term harm Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Jul 17, 20251h 18m

Ep 129Relationship Anarchy Changed How I Love ft. Pat

Monogamy is optional. Hierarchies are fake. And ‘the one’ doesn't exist? We're diving headfirst into the world of Relationship Anarchy with queer academic and certified hottie Pat. From dismantling the dating rulebook to navigating multiple partners without losing your mind, this episode unpacks radical love, intimacy without ownership, and why friendship might just be the new forever. Queer Poverty Project: https://smuniversity.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_3ZO1JLxkZZC5E46 Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW PAT Therapy: https://allofyou.ca/Events Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allofyouwellnesscentre/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Intro 01:32 What is relationship anarchy? 10:50 How do you get into RA? 20:34 Positive impact of RA 27:20 Why choose RA? 41:45 Can it get more radical? 53:28 Building your own RA model 01:06:13 Dating challenges within RA 01:12:26 Creating clarity with multiple partners 01:19:06 Negotiating hierarchies Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Jul 3, 20251h 29m

Ep 128Is Black Masculinity Feared in Queer Spaces? ft. Haviah Mighty And DJ Blackcat

Black masculinity is feared, fetishized, and fiercely policed; so what happens when queerness enters the chat? We’re talking masc performance as survival, straight Black men’s discomfort with queerness, and why traditional masculinity is flopping in 2025. With Haviah Mighty and DJ Blackcat, we’re queering the blueprint and dragging patriarchy by the lacefront. Queer Poverty Project: https://smuniversity.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_3ZO1JLxkZZC5E46 Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Betterhelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/collective Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW HAVIAH Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/haviahmighty/ FOLLOW BLACKCAT Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/djblackcatt/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Intro 02:33 Black masculinity from childhood 11:18 Highschool scripts and stereotypes 16:03 Black masc women 21:52 Black women's standards 27:56 Black masculinity in queer spaces 39:38 Cis straight black men 50:59 Loving men 01:03:43 What is masculinity? 01:10:36 What is healthy masculinity? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Jun 19, 20251h 17m

Ep 127No Fats, No Femmes, No Asians: The Grindr Industrial Complex ft. Humza and Darynel

Gay dating can be messy. From hookup culture and emotional avoidance to Grindr’s racial hierarchy, we’re diving into the chaos with guests Darynel Weekly and Mango Lassi. We’re unpacking the trauma, the body standards, the “no fats no femmes,” and giving you tools to heal, find real connection, and maybe even enjoy the apps without losing your soul. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW HUMZA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_humzer/ FOLLOW DARYNEL Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/darynelweekly/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Intro 00:02:57 First time with a man 00:07:46 History of hookup culture 00:12:11 DL gays 00:19:57 Seeking validation in sex 00:28:21 Finding long term love 00:36:10 Is the gay community racist? 00:48:48 fetishization in gay community 00:54:46 Is it a personal preference? 01:04:22 Gay body standards 01:07:28 Best advice for dating Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Jun 5, 20251h 13m

Ep 126The Lesbian Identity Crisis: Trans And Non-Binary?! ft. Jay-Marie and Eirene

Think all lesbians are women? Think again. We're queering the label with trans and non-binary lesbians who are redefining what it means to love, resist, and rebel. From gender euphoria to TERF drama to navigating dating apps as a gender outlaw, this episode dives into the messy, sexy, revolutionary legacy of lesbianism. Featuring archival hot takes, community tension, and maybe even a little dyke drama. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW JAY-MARIE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pothound/ FOLLOW EIRENE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/slowmasc/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00:00 intro 00:02:34 What is a lesbian? 00:10:18 Being NB and Trans 00:16:29 Finding Gender Identity 00:25:58 Why identify as a lesbian? 00:31:41 What is a woman? 00:37:12 Queer phenomenology 00:51:29 Gender identity vs survival strategy 01:01:41 Who gets to be a lesbian? 01:18:48 Lesbian sentiment towards trans & NB 01:26:28 Dating and intimacy 01:37:36 Envy vs attraction to women 01:41:08 Advice for dating Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

May 22, 20251h 45m

Ep 125Asian Fetishization And Hyper-Sexualization ft. Ky and Charlotte

If you've ever been called “exotic,” or told you're one of the “good minorities” this one’s for you. We’re unpacking the fetishization of Asian bodies, the myth of the model minority, and the tension between queerness and cultural belonging. With personal stories from two badass artists, Charlotte and Ky, we explore femme fetish tropes, family pressure, and the art of de-centering whiteness, while staying hot and radical. VOTE FUNKYVERSE: https://cgtvote.votenow.tv/ Betterhelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/collective Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW KY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/oneofakynd27/ FOLLOW CHARLOTTE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charcarbone/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

May 8, 20251h 20m

Ep 124Born Intersex And Surgically Erased ft. Bailey Archer and Noise

You were told sex is binary, XX or XY, case closed. But what if we told you that’s just redhead math? We’re unpacking the intersex experience with two brilliant guests: Noise (the intersex karaoke witch) and Bailey (trans, intersex, and hot). We’re diving into the science, the history, the surgeries, the shame and why “normal” is a scam. Expect gay giggles, medical rage, and radical joy. Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW NOISE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thenoisewitch/ FOLLOW BAILEY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/baileyarcherofficial/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 intro 03:10 Finding out you're intersex 17:05 History of medicalization of intersex 26:41 Experiencing diagnosis 33:39 Existing in a binary world 41:24 Navigating dating 51:03 Advice for younger self Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Apr 24, 202557 min

Ep 123Do Queer Muslim Women Exist?! ft. Urvah Khan

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Betterhelp: betterhelp.com/COLLECTIVE Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA Queer. Muslim. Rockstar. Activist. Urvah Khan is all of the above, and she’s here to spill the tea on holding identities the world says don’t mix. We’re talking queerness, faith, feminism, and the fight for liberation, plus why the West needs to stop acting like all Muslim women are oppressed. Urvah breaks down her personal journey, the power of community, and how she’s reclaiming the Azaan with a mic in one hand and a middle finger in the other. It’s raw, rebellious, and deeply queer. Let’s get into it. FOLLOW URVAH Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/scrappylilbrowngal/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 intro 01:58 Queer and raised Muslim 12:12 Coming out to a Muslim family 19:17 Coming back to Islam as a queer person 28:16 Why continue to choose Islam? 35:30 Wearing the hijab 39:39 Finding queer Muslim community 45:39 Advice for queer Muslims 47:31 Queer Muslim joy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Apr 10, 202549 min

Ep 122The Secret to Sapphic Sex and Dating ft. Zhané and Eva Bloom

Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off https://splashblanket.com/en-ca Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA Losing your sapphic v-card? Terrified you’ll fumble the bag? We got you. This episode is your survival guide to sapphic sex, confidence, flirting, and ahem hands-on skills included. We’re joined by queer sex-ed pro Eva Bloom and sapphic dating expert Zhané to break down the do’s and don’ts of queer intimacy. From navigating your first time to mastering the art of the flirt, this one’s packed with hot tips (literally). Plus, we wrap things up with a round of Sapphic Smutty Mad Libs because education should always come with a little filth. FOLLOW ZHANE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ziosaaa/ FOLLOW EVA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whatsmybodydoing/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 intro 01:48 first time with a woman 14:54 ways to confirm your queerness 16:21 being a newbie means no one wants you? 18:21 Queer vs straight flirting 22:49 Sapphic vs straight sex 30:27 how to flirt with Sapphics 38:54 having Sapphic sex 47:59 Strapping advice 55:35 Top or bottom? 58:40 Trans femmes & neurodivergents 59:58 Sexy Sapphic Smutt Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Mar 27, 20251h 10m

Ep 121How to Open Your Relationship (and Actually Make It Work) ft. The Polyamory Therapy Collective

So, you wanna open up your relationship but don’t wanna crash and burn in a fiery mess of jealousy and regret? We got you. We’re joined by three queer, non-monogamous therapists from the Polyamory Therapy Collective to give you the ultimate survival guide to ENM—how to start the convo, avoid rookie mistakes, and actually enjoy the ride. We’re unpacking couples’ privilege, imposter syndrome, and why your gut is doing backflips every time your partner even mentions someone new. Whether you're non-monogamy-curious or in the trenches, this one's essential. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA The Polyamory Therapy Collective: https://allofyou.ca/Events FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Intro 02:11 What are open relationships? 07:24 Is ENM for you? 11:29 Is it ethical? 16:08 How to ask your partner to open up 23:57 What to discuss before opening up 29:38 What if it doesn't feel good for you? 33:13 Dealing with imposter syndrome 41:49 Is ENM NOT for you? 43:00 Don't make these mistakes 46:53 How to forgive those who hurt you 50:17 Couple's privilege 56:00 Staying in touch with an ex 01:01:16 If you feel distant from this conversation Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Mar 13, 20251h 3m

Ep 120The Great Lesbian Divide: Butch vs Femme ft. Pkat and Haviah Mighty

What does it really mean to be a lesbian? Is it a vibe? A gender? A political stance? We’re diving headfirst into the evolution of lesbian identity—breaking down butch and femme history, masculinity, queerness, and what it truly means to de-center men (spoiler: it’s liberating). With three wildly different lesbians at the table - Haviah, Pkat, and Karbon - we’re serving history, academic drama, and personal hot takes. It’s intellectual, it’s unhinged, and it’s very, very gay. Buckle up, baby dykes. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW PKAT Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p.kat.nye/ FOLLOW HAVIAH Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/haviahmighty/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 intro 05:18 the lesbian identity 12:17 the masculine/feminine dilemma 24:52 discovery of lesbianism 38:02 the lesbian sub-identities 50:48 white vs bipoc lesbians 01:05:46 is lesbian a queer identity? 01:13:37 femmes don't get enough credit 01:25:11 do mascs get more dates? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Feb 27, 20251h 35m

Ep 119Biohack Your Menstrual Cycle And Stop Suffering! Ft. Miranda of The Period Lab

What if we told you that your period pain isn’t just a fact of life — and that your 9-5 job might actually be making it worse? We’re hacking the menstrual cycle with Miranda Popen, hormone expert and founder of The Period Lab. We’re talking PMS myths, biohacking for better energy, and why the system was not built for menstruators (or trans folks on HRT). Plus, are your “healthy” foods actually wrecking your hormones? Your cycle is about to get an upgrade. Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW MIRANDA https://www.theperiodlab.ca/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theperiodlab/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theperiodlab?lang=en FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Intro 01:58 Why are we getting our period younger? 06:49 Period products that hurt you 11:02 What's impacting your period? 14:30 Is period pain normal? 18:13 Science wasn't made for you 21:38 Your 9-5 job is hurting you 25:50 How do we biohack our cycle? 31:19 What should you eat for a better period? 43:04 Symptoms you may experience 46:13 Sings you have hormone imbalance 50:33 How to find what's right for you 53:38 What if you're on HRT? 57:31 The #1 thing you can do now Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Feb 13, 20251h 1m

Ep 118Intro To BDSM: Creating A Dom Persona ft. Yaz

What if embracing dominance could unlock parts of yourself you never knew existed? We’re diving into the art (and magic) of crafting a Dom persona with our friend Yaz - the non-binary, bisexual, Middle Eastern powerhouse you may remember from our polyamory episodes. We're talking confidence, embodiment, and the kinky intersections of BDSM and gender exploration. Plus, Yaz spills their secrets on stepping into your power—whether in the dungeon or your daily life. Ready to get a little dominant? Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Intro 02:15 What is BDSM? 04:48 How did you get into BDSM? 07:22 Experience being a dom 10:34 What influences your dom persona? 12:27 Yaz's dom persona 19:11 Building your own dom persona 24:20 Core motivations of being dominant 33:01 How to develop dominance 42:26 What makes a competent dom? 47:44 Are there kinks that are wrong? 54:53 Considering safety and disclosure 01:02:42 Being a good submissive 01:09:29 Exploring gender through BDSM Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Jan 30, 20251h 16m

Ep 117Navigating Conflict in Polyamorous Relationships ft. Decolonizing Love

Polyamory with a sprinkle of chaos, a dash of queer magic, and a whole lot of deep questions? We’re tackling the juicy challenges of ethical non-monogamy—from jealousy to ADHD-induced impulsivity—and answering real audience dilemmas with expert guests Millie & Nick from Decolonizing Love. Plus, we explore the BIPOC experience in poly spaces, unpack the power of decolonizing love, and ask if polyamory is the gayest thing ever (spoiler: it might be). Use code QUEERCOLLECTIVE for 15% off Aisle: https://periodaisle.com/ Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Overview 01:46 Lacking stability 05:37 Fear of polyamory 10:59 Dealing with CPTSD 16:24 Imbalances in relationships 18:33 Navigating Jealousy 24:44 Balancing attention in group settings 30:07 Being neurodivergent 38:06 Asking to meet your partner's family 47:54 Dating someone with a long term partner 51:12 Being a better hinge 52:49 Managing conflict between metamours 01:06:09 Navigating non-monogamy for POCs 01:14:08 Hard feelings around race & ethnicity 01:18:06 Polyamory & decolonization 01:23:43 Challenging patriarchal norms 01:25:45 Is polyamory inherently queer? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Jan 16, 20251h 31m

Ep 116Why Is Queer Mental Health Worse Than Our Straight Counterparts? ft. June Lam of CAMH

Friend, foe, or messy ex, what’s psychiatry’s role in queer lives? This week, we sit down with Dr. June Lam, psychiatrist and trans healthcare expert, to tackle mental health disparities, navigating family drama, unpacking shame, and surviving the holidays. Plus, we dive into the politics of medical transitions, debunk “fast-tracking” myths, and confront detransition discourse with science (and sass). Whether you’re queer, questioning, or just chronically anxious, this episode’s here to hold your glittery, overwhelmed hand. CAMH: https://www.camh.ca/en/your-care/programs-and-services/rainbow-services-2slgbtq Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Overview 02:52 Why is queer mental health worse? 05:34 Is therapy and medication the solution? 12:58 tips on managing anxiety 16:05 Boundaries aren't one size fits all 22:19 Supporting someone who is struggling 27:43 What is CBT and DBT? 40:01 Free or low cost therapy 44:14 The role of psychiatry in medical transitions 54:16 Are you ready to transition? 59:39 Are youth fast-tracked into transition? 01:06:01 Regretting transitioning 01:12:39 Delaying Transitioning Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Dec 12, 20241h 19m

Ep 115Why Are There More Bisexual Women Than Men?! ft. Brock Boyne

Why are bisexual men the invisible icons of the LGBTQ+ community? In this episode, we’re joined by the fabulous Brock Boyne (they/he), a horticulturist-turned-bisexual icon, as we dig into the stigma, stereotypes, and societal pressures keeping bi men in the shadows. From first queer flirts to the intersection of masculinity, race, and fluidity, we explore what it really means to embrace bisexuality in a world that loves to keep men in boxes. Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW BROCK Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/letthemgrow.to/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Overview 02:28 First bisexual experience 05:40 straight men flirt with each other? 08:47 what held you back from embracing bisexuality? 14:04 What made you want to be out? 15:53 Signs you aren't straight 17:37 Overcoming toxic masculinity 21:57 Navigating queer spaces 31:27 Same-sex flirting and hookups 36:09 Getting in touch with the feminine side 40:53 Why are bisexual men in the closet? 47:27 Is there exclusion in the queer community? 50:30 Advice for bisexual men Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Nov 28, 202454 min

Ep 114What Does It Mean to Be Asexual and Aromantic? ft. Cody Daigle-Orians

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What if love and attraction aren't the same thing at all? In this episode, we’re joined by Cody Daigle-Orians, aka Ace Dad Advice, an asexuality educator, influencer, and author who’s here to help us break down asexual and aromantic identities with humor and heart. From discovering your ace identity to navigating relationships outside society's romantic and sexual norms, Cody offers insights, ally tips, and myths debunked. Buy Cody's Books: https://acedadadvice.com/books Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW CODY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/acedadadvice/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@acedadadvice?lang=en Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@AceDadAdvice/featured Website: https://acedadadvice.com/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Overview 02:19 How did you discover asexuality? 07:32 What does it mean to be asexual/aromantic? 09:48 What are the sub-categories of ace/aro 16:51 What are the signs you might be ace/aro 19:38 What is compulsory sexuality and amatonormativity? 23:50 Asexual or just low libito? 27:12 Common misconceptions 31:34 What can ace/aro teach us? 37:10 Relationships & sex 44:39 Queer platonic relationships 49:21 Managing partner expectations 52:02 Key to successful relationships 54:24 Advice for youth 01:00:55 Marginalization of ace/aro people 01:08:44 Health disparities for ace/aro folks 01:13:46 How can we be better allies? Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Nov 14, 20241h 16m

Ep 113Surrogacy: Everything You Need To Know But Were Too Afraid To Ask ft. Nici of Hive Surrogacy

The nitty-gritty of surrogacy—how it works, why it matters, and what the queer community needs to know. We’re joined by Nici, co-founder of Hive Surrogacy, who’s here to speak on queer birthing, the dark side of the global surrogacy industry, and what it’s like to be a surrogate herself. Is surrogacy empowering, exploitative, or a little bit of both? Let’s talk ethical baby-making, power dynamics, and why surrogates deserve way more credit (and probably cash). Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW NICI Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hivesurrogacy/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Overview 01:11 The role of a surrogacy agency 02:35 Who seeks surrogacy? 06:10 What's the surrogacy process? 13:03 Traditional vs Gestational surrogacy 15:05 How much does surrogacy cost? 22:05 Is exploitation a concern? 31:21 Can surrogacy be unethical? 34:35 Why not just adopt? 41:14 The good and bad of surrogacy 49:11 What makes a good surrogate? 1:00:33 Do surrogacy babies suffer trauma? 1:05:48 What supports do surrogates need? 1:07:27 Bonus audience question 1:09:02 Advice for couples seeking surrogacy Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Oct 24, 20241h 11m

Ep 112What Does It Mean to Be Indigenous & Queer? ft. Chelazon Leroux & Haley Robinson

Humanity’s oldest, most suppressed queer identities, 2-Spirit. Tiktok star Chelazon Leroux and actor/model Haley Robinson tear open the wounds of colonial erasure and reclaim the beauty of being both Indigenous and Queer. From navigating intergenerational trauma to confronting settler microaggressions, they expose the raw truth about what it means to exist at the intersection of queerness and indigeneity. This isn’t just a conversation, it’s a call to unlearn everything you think you know about queer history. Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW CHELAZON Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@chelazonleroux Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chelazonleroux/ FOLLOW HALEY Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@og.robinson Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/og.robinson10/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] 00:00 Overview 02:41 Growing up Indigenous 10:56 What is 2-spirit? 16:02 Is 2-spirit accepted in communities? 23:33 Being 2-spirit AND queer 27:36 Indigenous culture 32:21 Colonial and religious indoctrination 37:45 What intergenerational trauma destroys 41:50 long lasting impacts of trauma 51:12 How the government is at play 56:38 on reserve vs off reserve 01:05:58 microaggressions you might be using Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Oct 10, 20241h 11m

Ep 111The DARK History Of Women's Sports ft. Tyra Blizzard

Transvestigation conspiracy theories are targeting women athletes. Are trans athletes really threatening fairness in sports, or is this just another excuse for exclusion? We’re joined by pro-athlete and gender nerd Tyra Blizzard to break down the myths, misinformation, and the shady politics behind it all. From Olympic scandals to TERFs being TERFs, we’re here to give you the tea on trans participation in sports and why it matters. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW TYRA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tyrablizz/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tblizzy?lang=en FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Sep 26, 20241h 15m

Ep 110I Was Forced to ‘Prove’ I’m Queer To The Government ft. Latoya Nugent of Rainbow Railroad

What happens when your home turns hostile? We dive deep into the raw realities of LGBTQI+ refugees with activist Latoya Nugent, who fled Jamaica with the help of Rainbow Railroad. From persecution to queer liberation, learn about the global trends in anti-LGBTQI+ violence, how resettlement systems are failing refugees, and what it’s like to ‘prove’ you’re queer enough to escape. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA RAINBOW RAILROAD Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rainbowrailroad/ Website: https://www.rainbowrailroad.org/donate FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Sep 12, 202454 min

Ep 109Polyamory: The History You Never Thought to Ask

Was it agriculture, capitalism, or the patriarchy that pushed us into "pair bonding"? Are humans actually wired to stay faithful, or is cheating in our genes? We'll dissect scientific theories, challenge old-school narratives, and maybe even giggle a little about group sex and jealousy. Whether you’re team monogamy or polyamory curious, this episode is your ticket to understanding the wild, wonderful world of human connection. Get ready to rethink everything you thought you knew about love and human nature. Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Aug 29, 20241h 17m

Ep 108Dating Someone With HIV ft. Myles Sexton

The AIDS epidemic. There's a fierce stigma that still lingers, and the raw, real-life experiences of those living with HIV are often portrayed negatively. Our fabulous guest, Myles Sexton—a queer fashion nomad and HIV activist—shares their powerful journey, slaying myths and spreading love. From dating advice to radical vulnerability, this episode serves the tea with a side of empowerment. Let's break the stigma and discuss HIV/AIDS. Download DoorDash: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/doordash-food-delivery/id719972451 Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW MYLES Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylessexton/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Aug 15, 20241h 3m

Ep 107What Does It Mean To Be Non-Binary? Ft. Halal Bae & Gay Jesus

Society loves boxes, but what if they don’t fit? Dive into the fabulous world of non-binary identities! Featuring Heath V. Salazar, aka "Gay Jesus," and Halal Bae from Canada’s Drag Race, we explore gender beyond the binary, tackle misconceptions, and celebrate the joy of being non-binary. Whether you're new to the concept or living it, this episode is your gateway to understanding and embracing non-binary fabulousness. Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW GAY JESUS Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theirholiness/ FOLLOW HALAL BAE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/halal.bae/ FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Aug 1, 202452 min

Ep 106What Laws Do Sex Workers REALLY Want? ft. Jenna of Maggies

From indoor vs. outdoor work to the Nordic model’s pitfalls, we deep dive into the real sex worker experience. Discover why sex work is a queer issue and how allyship can transform lives. We explore what sex workers truly need from the law and society. Tune in for an enlightening, candid, and a bit cheeky conversation that shatters myths and celebrates sex worker resilience. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTACT MAGGIES Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maggiestoronto/ CONTACT JENNA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dejennarate/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Jul 18, 202438 min

Ep 105Are You Straight Or Is It Compulsory Heterosexuality? ft. Tyra Blizzard

Are we seeking male validation or is it all just comp-het? Unpack compulsory heterosexuality with Tyra Blizzard, the dynamic author and pro basketball player. We’ll explore queering relationships, smashing societal expectations, and Tyra’s own journey beyond the binary. Tune in and start deprogramming your comphet through an insightful talk into the heart of queer love and identity. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA The Gender/Sexuality Journal https://www.thegendersexualityjournal.com/ CONTACT TYRA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tyrablizz/?hl=en Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tblizzy IN Magazine: https://inmagazine.ca/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Jul 4, 20241h 0m

Ep 104Is It Too Late To Come Out? ft. Ralph & Eva Bloom

Coming out later in life can be both nerve-wracking and exhilarating. We dive into this journey with our fabulous guests, queer sex educator Eva Bloom and Toronto’s own sapphic pop diva, Ralph! From battling imposter syndrome to navigating intense first loves, we'll cover it all. Whether you're a "late bloomer" or simply queer-curious, this episode is packed with insights and a sprinkle of glitter. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTACT RALPH Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/songsbyralph/?hl=en CONTACT EVA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whatsmybodydoing/?hl=en CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Jun 20, 202450 min

Ep 103Can Men get Periods?! ft. Elgin And The Period Purse

We're diving headfirst into the question: Are periods solely a “women's issue”? Join the conversation as we explore the often overlooked world of trans menstruation. From unraveling the mysterious history of menstruation to empowering you with ways to degender your menstrual vocabulary, we're covering it all. Plus, we'll be sharing personal insights into the trans menstruation experience and shedding light on the critical intersections of period poverty thanks to our guest Elgin Pecjak (petz-yak) (he/him), who is a queer, trans researcher. He is finishing up his Ph.D. at University of Ottawa in Feminist and Gender Studies on the topic of reproductive technology use among transgender and gender diverse AFAB folks. Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTACT THE PERIOD PURSE Instagram:: https://www.instagram.com/theperiodpurse/ Website: https://www.theperiodpurse.com/links.html CONTACT ELGIN Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elgin-pecjak-395a6421b/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eapecjak/ Academia.edu: https://uottawa.academia.edu/ElginPecjak CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Jun 6, 202438 min

Ep 102What It’s Like To Be A Trans Woman In A Men’s Prison Ft. Moka Dawkins

The data is clear: LGBTQ2S+ people are overrepresented at every stage of the criminal justice system and this is especially true for trans people, who are subject to particularly inhumane conditions and treatment while incarcerated. Today we’re taking a deep dive into the experience of being trans behind bars. We’re using the Canadian correctional system & our guest Moka Dawkin's story as a case study, but this reality is all too common and often worse across the globe. In Todays episode you’ll hear Moka’s story of wrongful conviction, her trans incarceration experience, and we’ll be discussing the systemic criminal justice issues that are plaguing our community. Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA FOLLOW MOKA instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moka_dawkins/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

May 23, 202434 min

Ep 101Trans Fetishization & Dating. Lover or chaser? ft. Ms. Myles & King

We're getting vulnerable as we delve into the complex experience of dating as a trans person. Throughout this episode you’ll hear from King, a trans man and Ms. Myles, a trans woman, about their personal journeys and realizations. From navigating positives and negatives, to addressing issues of disclosure, fetishization and violence, we’re going to cover it all. & we hope you stay with us until the end, as we’ll be closing things off with some valuable advice. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA CONTACT OUR GUESTS King: https://www.instagram.com/king.https/ Ms. Myles: https://www.instagram.com/ms.mylesmua/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

May 9, 202449 min

Ep 100The Psychology of Kink ft. Pat

The world of kink. What is the psychology behind our deepest desires and fetishes? We are joined by academic Pat, an advocate for sex positivity and consent. From overcoming shame to exploring play parties, get ready for an eye-opening conversation. Discover the art of embracing taboo desires and forging connections in this exhilarating journey through Kink 101. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA Polyamory episode 2: https://youtu.be/BE1zSWobjQ8 Polyamory episode 1: https://youtu.be/wn9hVnP_haQ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Apr 25, 202456 min

Ep 99Are You Bisexual Or Heteroflexible? ft. Maceo of FEELD

What the heck is heteroflexible? we are joined by Maceo Paisley on a journey of self-discovery and celebration. We'll define this sparkly term, explore its roots in sexual exploration and debate its place in the LGBTQ2S+ community. From personal anecdotes to societal perceptions, discover the allure and complexities of identifying as heteroflexible. Download FEELD: https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/queer Vizzy Hard Seltzer: https://www.vizzyhardseltzer.ca/en-CA Is Bisexuality Queer Enough? https://youtu.be/Ey2eOg_kjiY?si=CX4LUU33AaHbHGr5 MACEO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maceopaisley/ CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Apr 11, 202435 min

Ep 98Are Your Fav Celebrities Queer Baiting?! ft. Shannon Burns

Shannon Burns, the vibrant host of Virgin Radio's midday show, joins us dive deep into the world of pop culture. From queer awakenings, to dissecting queer baiting, Taylor Swift and Sam Smith, we explore how pop culture shapes identities and ignites social change. Get ready for a dose of wit, wisdom, and a splash of rainbow as we navigate the fabulous intersection of music, movies, and queer empowerment. CONTACT SHANNON Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itsshannonburns/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@itsshannonburns CONTACT US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queer.collective/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@queercollectivepodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/queer.collective.to/ Website: https://www.queercollectiveto.com/ Email: [email protected] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Mar 28, 202447 min