Psychologically Speaking with Leila Ainge

We often assume interviews are a way of capturing what people already think. But qualitative psychology suggests something different. Interviews can be active sites of meaning-making, where thoughts are not just shared, but formed in real time.Drawing on ideas like the double hermeneutic from Anthony Giddens and reflexive approaches to qualitative research, I reflect on what it means to ask questions that might shift how someone understands their own experience.As an insider researcher studying online communities I belong to, this raises a deeper question: what trace does research leave behind?This episode explores:Why interviews are not neutral data collection toolsHow questions can shape reflection and self-understandingThe role of reflexivity in qualitative researchThe ethical tension between insight and influenceWhat happens when someone thinks something for the first time… out loudIf you’re a researcher, writer, coach, or simply curious about how we make sense of our experiences, this episode invites you to listen a little more closely to the pauses.

“I refuse to hate myself in any way… I hope women reclaim ageing as a gift.”When everything shifts at once, home, body, identity, what does it take to rebuild a sense of safety and self? Leila Ainge and Emma Seville explore menopause, midlife transitions, and the psychology of starting over.In this episode of Psychologically Speaking, psychologist Leila Ainge speaks with menopause coach Emma Seville about navigating unexpected life changes, financial precarity, ADHD, and the psychological impact of midlife transitions. Together, they explore agency, belonging, and how women can reclaim ageing as a powerful, identity-shaping experience.

Hi, I’m Leila, and I’m currently doing a PhD exploring the experiences of women who are independent workers, including entrepreneurs, freelancers, and the self-employed, who use online communities as part of their working lives.My first study is collecting data through a series of interviews with women and community hosts across two online communities where I’m also a paying member. These are spaces I didn’t join as a researcher, but as someone looking for connection, support, and belonging in independent work.Alongside the research itself, I’ll be keeping a series of blog posts as part of my reflexivity practice. These posts will sit under a little series I’m calling Field Notes (from the Inside) reflections on researching communities I belong to, in real time.

In this episode of Psychologically Speaking, Leila Ainge speaks with entrepreneur Femke Harris about the unexpected twists that shape our lives. From growing up as a third-culture kid in Hong Kong to managing operations on a NATO base in Afghanistan, Femke’s career path has been anything but predictable.Together they explore the psychology of resilience, identity and adaptation when life doesn’t follow the plan we imagined. Femke shares how major life transitions – moving countries, career pivots, motherhood and COVID-era uncertainty – ultimately led her to create the Merry-go-round Club, a sustainable baby equipment rental service designed to support parents and reduce waste.This conversation explores how unexpected change can strengthen confidence, reshape identity and open the door to meaningful work.Topics include resilience, entrepreneurship, motherhood, community support, and the psychology of adapting when life throws curveballs.Femke Harris: "I'm a third culture kid, mother, founder and former international operations lead. I’ve lived and worked across Hong Kong, Belgium, the UK, Afghanistan and France including senior roles managing sales strategy in APAC and logistics contracts in complex environments. Along the way I’ve navigated motherhood, global relocations, and major life transitions, and more recently founded my own business. My path has been defined less by planning and more by adaptation.”https://merrygoround.club/

What if one of the most powerful mental health tools was already in your garden?In this episode, I’m joined by horticultural therapist Kendall Marie Platt to explore the science behind soil, why getting your hands in the dirt can change your mood, and how gardening might help us regulate stress in ways modern life often forgets.And in many ways, Kendall’s story captures the spirit of this season’s theme: expect the unexpected. From forensic science labs to flowers and soil, her journey is a reminder that sometimes the paths we never planned are the ones that reconnect us with what really matters.Kendall Marie Platt is a horticultural therapist and founder of Adventures with Flowers. She combines horticultural therapy with sensory-led garden design to help people use gardening as a practical antidote to burnout. Through her membership The Seed, 1:1 programmes and garden-along sessions, she helps people create restorative spaces that support both body and mind.She is a writer, speaker and facilitator who has appeared on This Morning, BBC Radio and in publications including The Independent, The Telegraph, Happiful and Reclaim. www.adventureswithflowers.com/aboutkendallLeila Ainge is a psychologist, researcher and coach who helps people use psychology to work with more clarity, confidence and joy. Her work brings together research, reflection and practical insight so you can use evidence in ways that make sense for you.More details at www.leilaainge.co.uk

In this episode of Psychologically Speaking, Leila Ainge checks back in with coaches Emma Thomas and Lucy Green a few months after they set ambitious business goals. The conversation reveals how real progress unfolds.Emma shares how a community project had to pause due to unforeseen circumstances and teases us with a new book project!. Lucy reflects on launching her programme Good Company, which sparked strong interest but fewer sales than expected, leading her to adapt the offer and rethink how clients take their first steps into corporate work.Across the conversation, a common theme emerges: the process of pursuing goals generates insight, momentum, and new opportunities. Both coaches discover that experimentation, reflection, and small pivots are valuable.The episode explores the psychology behind this, including anticipated failure, experimentation, and the role of community and accountability in sustaining progress. Ultimately, the takeaway is simple when you pursue a goal, the real reward is often what you learn along the way.

In this episode of Psychologically Speaking, Leila is joined by three Goal Sprint participants, Hannah Isted, Jen Vaughan and Darren Scotland, for an honest progress check-in just weeks into the year.Together they explore:• Why momentum matters more than motivation• How perfectionismblocks progress (and how to move anyway)• The psychology of getting out of your comfort zone from running faster to showing up online• Why community support accelerates confidence and behaviour change• How small actions create belief, not the other way around• Letting go of “gatekeepers” and reframing rejection• Using goals as direction, not pressureYou’ll hear:Hannah share how pushing past “safe effort” transformed her running Jen open up about visibility fears, tech discomfort, and building connection in business from the ground up.Darren reflect on perfectionism, creative momentum, community collaboration and turning setbacks into progress.Leila weaves in psychological insights around effort, behaviour change, self-criticism, resource conservation, social comparison and why progress rarely looks linear.If you’ve ever:• Set a goal and felt stuck straight after• Waited to feel confident before acting• Struggled with perfectionism or fear of visibility• Wondered why progress feels slower than expectedThis episode will help you understand what’s really happening in your brain and how to work with it rather than against it.

What actually happens to your confidence once you start pursuing a goal?In this episode of Psychologically Speaking, psychologist Leila Ainge checks back in with three creatives who set goals on the podcast weeks earlier, Graphic Designer Bhavini, Animator Duncan and Documentary Maker Dany. Instead of tidy success stories, you’ll hear what goal pursuit looks like in real life, confidence rising and dipping, perfectionism showing up, comparison creeping in, and plans changing shape.Through honest reflection and psychological insight, this episode explores why confidence doesn’t grow in a straight line, how visibility reduces fear over time, and why setbacks and pivots are often signs of progress rather than failure.If you’re navigating imposter feelings, struggling with comparison, or wondering why motivation feels inconsistent, this episode offers reassurance and a more realistic picture of change.

Why do resolutions wobble just when we think they should be working?This episode explores avoidance crafting, impatience, burnout, and how goals, habits, and mental distance shape real progress especially in January.In this episode of Psychologically Speaking, Leila explores the intricacies of human behavior, particularly focusing on the themes of resolutions, goals, and habits. She discusses the common pitfalls of New Year's resolutions, the importance of understanding the difference between resolutions and goals, and how habits play a crucial role in achieving these goals. Leila also delves into the impact of social comparison on our progress and introduces the concept of mental distance as a strategy to combat burnout and maintain motivation. The episode emphasizes the importance of community support and self-compassion in the journey towards personal development.takeawaysJanuary often feels like the longest month of the year.Resolutions are declarations linked to identity and values.Goals provide structure and direction for achieving resolutions.Habits require time to show their impact and rewards.Impatience can lead to negative feelings about progress.Social comparison can intensify feelings of uncertainty.Mental distance can protect against burnout.Avoidance crafting can be a strategic approach to stress.Community support can enhance motivation and accountability.Self-compassion is crucial in the goal-setting process.Leila's Research Services. From fast-turnaround, tailored insight report for freelancers, founders, and thoughtful doers who want evidence-backed answers, to retained services to support your PR messaging as you launchYou bring the questions and curiosity, I bring back a bespoke, research-informed insights packed with plain-language psychology, strategic prompts, and deep, usable clarity. It’s not theory for theory’s sake. It’s practical insight you can apply immediately.head to www.leilaainge.co.uk

Why do goals that feel exciting at first suddenly become exhausting even when we care deeply about them?In this episode of Psychologically Speaking, I explore why goals often become unsustainable not because of a lack of motivation or discipline, but because they’re designed for ideal conditions rather than real life.Drawing on psychology, environmental thinking, and embodied cognition, we look at how our physical and emotional environments quietly shape what we’re able to sustain long before willpower ever comes into play.You’ll be introduced to the concept of solastalgia, a term that describes the distress we feel when the places we call home change in ways that feel out of our control. Originally coined by environmental philosopher Glenn Albrecht, solastalgia helps us put language to a sense of discomfort many of us feel right now — at home, at work, and in the wider world.We also explore:Why goal-setting advice often assumes a resource-neutral worldHow embodied cognition explains the link between clutter, noise, uncertainty and mental fatigueWhy living in a brittle, anxious, non-linear environment (often described as BANI or VUCA) quietly drains our capacityHow Conservation of Resources theory reframes burnout, confidence loss, and stalled momentumWhy sustainability isn’t the opposite of ambition — it’s the condition that allows momentum to existRather than asking “How much more can I push?”, this episode invites a different question:What can my current environment realistically support without depletion?You’ll leave with two practical reflections to help you:Name your real working environment (without minimising it)Redesign your goals so they create more resources than they consumeThis episode is especially relevant if you’re:Feeling stuck or depleted despite caring about your goalsParenting, creating, caregiving, coaching, or leading in uncertain conditionsQuestioning whether the problem is you — or the system you’re operating withinFind out more about booking me as a researcher for hire at www.leilaainge.co.uk

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In this deeply honest and energising episode of Psychologically Speaking, Dany Johnston — data & AI consultant, documentary filmmaker, and PhD researcher — shares her most ambitious and vulnerable goal yet: to create and release a new documentary filmed during a once-in-a-lifetime expedition to the Arctic Circle.Dany’s story is one of dual passions: 25 years in business transformation and data, and a lifelong pull toward storytelling, creativity, and human rights. Her PhD bridges those worlds, exploring how data harvesting and AI shape the human rights landscape — and how documentary can help everyday people join conversations that usually happen behind closed doors.But 2026 isn’t about theory. It’s about exposure.The kind she’s avoided for years.Dany openly shares her “abject fear of judgment,” the reason projects from New York still sit on a hard drive, and why this year must be different. Her measure of success? Not just making a film — but submitting it to the festival circuit.

In this episode of Psychologically Speaking, Emma returns to share her 2026 goal — and it’s one that will resonate with anyone whose business has grown faster than their systems.Emma describes the year ahead as a “cupboard under the stairs” moment — the kind of messy-but-essential reorganisation that requires everything to come out before the clarity goes back in. We talk about the three strands of her work (Managing the Menopause, The Triple Shift coaching practice, and Holding Up the Sky) and the emotional labour of running a multi-offer business while supporting women in some of life’s most demanding seasons. Why her goal isn’t just tidying — it’s coherence, identity, and focusHer habit of “shiny object syndrome” and the insecurity that sometimes sits beneath itHow under the surface, the real 2026 goal is growing her corporate coaching practiceThe tension between doing what feels easy (reorganising) vs what moves the business forwards (sales & outreach)Why a focus group may be the missing piece in her coherence puzzleEmma shares the three actions she’ll take by the end of JanuaryThis is a thoughtful, honest conversation about visibility, intentionality, and the very human temptation to do the parts of business that feel soothing instead of the ones that feel stretching.If you’re navigating growth, clarity, or identity shifts in your business, this one will feel like a cup of tea, a deep exhale, and a nudge forward.

A conversation about creative confidence, goal setting, and how sharing your work builds self-worth. Designer Bhavini joins Leila to explore fear, visibility, and growth.In this episode of Psychologically Speaking, Leila Ainge sits down with creative designer Bhavini (B81 Designs) to explore the psychology behind creative confidence, self-worth, and setting goals that stretch you.Bhavini shares the now-iconic story of her childhood Peter Rabbit — the rainbow-drenched sculpture her mum repainted white — and how that moment shaped her creative identity decades later. It becomes a powerful metaphor for self-expression, suppression, and the courage to show the work you’re proud of.💡 What’s inside this episodeHow childhood experiences quietly shape creative identityWhy sharing your work feels terrifying — even when clients love itThe difference between confidence, self-esteem, and self-worthHow fear of rejection stops creatives from posting their workThe “imagined audience” and why visibility feels riskyPractical strategies for building a habit of sharingWhy accountability, community, and collaboration matterHow one difficult client situation derailed Bhavini’s motivation The value of starting a goal that’s really about self-worth, not perfection🎯 Bhavini’s 2026 GoalTo share more of her design work online ,consistently, visibly, and beyond her comfort zone , and to build self-worth by doing the thing she’s been avoiding.With tools like the Rejection Challenge, a bingo card of self-sabotage phrases, and reframing portfolio updates as self-worth time, the episode shows what it looks like to set a goal that genuinely grows you.🧠 Why this episode mattersIf you’ve ever hesitated to show your work, doubted your abilities, or worried about being judged online, this conversation will land deeply. It’s about identity, self-expression, and the quieter psychology behind creative careers.🔗 MentionedB81 Designs (Bhavini)Doing It For the Kids CommunityBeing FreelanceLiz Mosley & The Rejection ChallengeHannah Isted🚀 Join the 2026 Goal SprintWant your own ambitious, exciting 2026 goal — the kind that assumes you can grow from day one? Join Leila’s 60-minute live Goal Sprint.www.leilaainge.co.uk/goalsprint

In this episode of Psychologically Speaking, Leila talks with marketer, community-builder and marathon-in-training Hannah Isted, about her 2026 goals. Together, they explore how ambitious stretch goals like scaling a marketing membership and finishing the London Marathon in a faster time, require the same core ingredients: consistency, accountability, community, and strategic planning.This conversation blends the worlds of business growth, running, and mindset coaching, showing how transferable skills like contingency planning, habit building, and overcoming self-sabotage can fuel both entrepreneurial success and marathon training.Hannah shares the motivation behind her bold business goals, the momentum built over four years of consistent work, and the commitment to focusing solely on membership growth. She also talks about how a strong community, from her business audience to her running partners, keeps her accountable and inspired.Switching gears into marathon training, Leila and Hannah explore the running mindset, the role of audiobooks and podcasts in staying motivated, the importance of “time on feet,” and why you don’t need to reinvent the wheel in training. They discuss everything from speed work, consistency, and progress tracking to the quiet ways self-sabotage can creep into big goals.Whether you're an entrepreneur scaling a community, a runner training for a marathon, or someone trying to build better habits in your everyday life, this episode is full of practical insights, inspiring stories, and grounded strategies.

In this episode of Psychologically Speaking: The Goal Experiments, Lucy shares her 2026 goal, not just for her business, but for the women who benefit when she succeeds.We talk about what it means to set a goal that has social impact. Lucy’s ambition is grounded in something practical: helping more women secure meaningful contracts and build financially independent businesses. This is a grounded, thoughtful conversation about the kind of goal that changes not just a business, but the people around it. If you’re setting your own 2026 intentions, Lucy’s clarity and ambition might be exactly the nudge you need.SOCIAL MEDIA & WEBSITE LINKSwww.lucygreen.nethttps://www.instagram.com/lucygreencoaching/

In this episode of Psychologically Speaking: The Goal Experiments, animator and filmmaker Duncan Catterall-Mason talks to Leila Ainge on what it really takes to build a sustainable freelance career in the creative industries. They talk about ambition and burnout when you’re raising a family and trying to carve out time to network.Duncan shares his 16-year journey in animation and visual effects, why he’s shifting toward a premium service model, and what launching a new showreel by December will unlock for his growth in 2026. We dig into the psychology of social proof, the realities of client outreach.If you’re a freelancer, creative, or independent figuring out success on your terms — with fewer clients, better boundaries, and a clearer plan — this episode will leave you feeling seen.

Why do some goals stick while others fade?In this episode, psychologist Leila Ainge explores the psychology behind effective goal-setting — blending insights from real conversations with three guests and research on motivation, social identity, and resilience.You’ll hear how Rebecca, Jen, and Darren each navigate creative ambition, self-belief, and belonging, and how their stories reveal the deeper psychological forces shaping success.Expect practical reflection points on:The difference between approach and avoidance motivationWhy flexible four-week check-ins outperform rigid plansHow your social identity shapes confidence and actionWhat it means to design goals that fit who you’re becomingThis is your psychology-backed guide to setting goals that work with your identity, not against it.Ready to stop guessing what’s driving your goals?Download your free Goal Reflection Log — the first exercise from my psychology-backed coaching framework — and start your next check-in, not check-up.Create space to think before the new year rush and design goals that actually fit who you’re becoming.👉 www.leilaainge.co.uk/coaching

Designer and illustrator Darren Scotland, founder of Ace of Place, joins psychologist Leila Ainge to talk about creative ambition, belonging, and the self-doubt that often comes with growth.Darren’s 2026 goal is to grow his business from a solo studio into a collaborative creative brand — one that celebrates homes, buildings, and the stories that make them meaningful. Together, he and Leila unpack what it means to balance ambition with authenticity, to manage fear of failure, and to build systems strong enough to hold a bigger vision.This conversation explores:How our sense of place shapes identity and purposeWhy flexibility and structure are both essential for creative growthThe inner voice that whispers “Who do you think you are?” legitimacy, belonging, and self-belief in businessIf you’ve ever tried to scale a business, start a creative project, or make your work feel real in the eyes of others, Darren’s story will resonate.🎧 Listen for practical insight, honest reflection, and a reminder that success isn’t just built — it’s believed.

In this first conversation of The Goal Experiments, psychologist and researcher Leila Ainge speaks with yoga teacher Jen Vaughan about the tension between giving and receiving, authenticity and marketing, nurture and profit.Together, they unpack what happens when care is your craft: how to claim space, ask for fair payment, and show up as your whole self without feeling like you’ve lost something in the process.We follow Jen as she sets her first 2026 “goal-resolution”:Claim space and set clearer boundariesAsk for testimonials and feedbackExperiment with authentic marketing that reflects who she really isIf you’ve ever found it uncomfortable to be paid for the work you love, this episode offers a grounded, compassionate look at the psychology behind self-worth and the art of being visible.Key themesThe psychology of pricing and self-worthFeminine identity in business and creative workAuthentic marketing vs. performanceBalancing nurture with ambitionSetting goals that feel true to youCall to ActionLeila’s goal for 2026 is to double the number of listeners who tune in each week.Share this episode with two friends or colleagues and ask them:“What’s your goal for 2026?”www.leilaainge.co.uk/coaching

In this episode of Psychologically Speaking, psychologist and researcher Leila Ainge talks with Rebecca Slater, who’s setting a powerful goal for 2026: to write her first book.Together they explore what it really takes to move from wanting to doing — overcoming procrastination, creating time, and building habits that last. Rebecca shares how shifting her mindset, using community support, and redefining success are helping her take the first steps toward authorship.This episode looks closely at the psychology of writing goals, the myth of the “perfect time,” and how accountability and self-compassion can turn creative aspirations into action.Plus, stay tuned for a sneak preview of next week’s guest, Darren Scotland, who shares his big ambition for 2026Key ThemesGoal setting and mindset shiftsOvercoming procrastinationTime management Writing habits and creative disciplineAccountability and community supportwww.leilaainge.co.uk

In this episode, psychologist and researcher Leila Ainge explores the quiet tension many women experience in business — the space between ambition and the pressure to be “good.” Drawing on findings from Good Girl Economics, her research collaboration with Nicky Denson-Elliott, Leila examines why conversations about profit, visibility, and ambition can feel uncomfortable for women, even in supportive entrepreneurial spaces.Listeners will hear how gendered expectations and internalised narratives shape pricing decisions, confidence, and self-presentation — and why women often soften their ambition in order to belong. Leila highlights the gap between what women say they value and how they behave in practice, revealing how context, impression management, and identity dynamics influence those choices.This episode explores:The cultural scripts that link likability with being underpaidWhy “being nice” can quietly undermine business growthHow impression management and belonging shape what women say (and don’t say) about moneyThe emotional labour of performing goodness in businessHow psychological safety influences conversations about profit and successAnd as a bonus, listeners also get a first sneak preview of the two goal-setters joining Leila for Season 4 of Psychologically Speaking, where she follows real people working towards their 2026 goalsreferences and links Mazzei, L. A. (2003). Inhabited Silences: In Pursuit of a Muffled Subtext. Qualitative Inquiry, 9(3), 355–368.Morison, T., & Macleod, C. (2014). When veiled silences speak: reflexivity, trouble and repair as methodological tools for interpreting the unspoken in discourse-based data. Qualitative Research: QR, 14(6), 694–711www.leilaainge.co.uk/research

Welcome to my favourite field, yes.. you heard that right. In this episode I'm talking about the suprising benefits of noticing a tree, field or bit of nature near to you.

What’s the real difference between joy, fulfilment, and striving? In this episode, psychologist Leila Ainge explores the psychology behind our endless chase for more—and why true joy often hides in life’s quieter moments. Drawing on research into hedonic adaptation and flow, Leila unpacks how to tell the difference between healthy ambition and the anxiety of overstriving. You’ll learn how to savour success, sustain motivation, and find balance between progress and peace.Plus—Leila shares exciting news about Season 4 of Psychologically Speaking and a live Joy Experiment you can join to put the science of joy into action.

What does it really mean to be seen? In this episode of Psychologically Speaking, I sit down with Karen Staniland- Platt, a Manchester-based photographer and writer who’s passionate about capturing women as they truly are.We talk about what happens when women step in front of the camera: the nerves, the joy, the shift in self-image that can follow. Our conversation ranges from the pressures of social media filters to the liberation of candid photography, and why authenticity is such a powerful antidote to perfection.Karen also shares the story behind the Passion and Purpose Club, a community she created to bring women together during the isolation of COVID a space that’s grown into a source of connection, courage, and inspiration.This episode is about more than photos. It’s about women reclaiming visibility, finding freedom in aging, and choosing to show up as ourselves even when the world is telling us otherwise.What you’ll hear in this episode:How photography can help women be seen and celebrated authenticallyWhy Karen built the Passion and Purpose Club and how it continues to empower womenThe double-edged impact of social media on self-imageHow candid shots can unlock genuine joy and self-acceptanceWhy visibility matters so much for women in life and businessThe unexpected freedom that comes with aging and self-reflectionThe role of community in breaking isolation and boosting confidenceKaren is a photographer working exclusively with women across the UK who are following their passions, be it running their own business, a cause or a creative pursuit. A fierce feminist, she loves to challenge both how we show up in the world and how we as women are viewed in it, and uses photography to empower women to embrace who they truly are. In 2021 she founded a community for women called the Passion & Purpose Club that brings women together to inspire each other and get fresh photos on a monthly basis, increasing their visibility together. Clubs are now operating across the North of England and London with more to come. Find out more at www.withpassionandpurpose.co.uk

Leila and Hannah explore the themes of joy, productivity, and marketing strategies. They discuss the importance of celebrating small wins, the awkwardness of creating B-roll content, and the psychological aspects of anticipation and joy. Hannah shares her journey of developing a 10-minute marketing approach, emphasizing the power of timers and gamification in overcoming procrastination. The discussion also touches on the significance of nostalgia in marketing and the impact of seasonality on business strategies. Ultimately, the conversation highlights the importance of finding joy in both personal and professional endeavors.Hannah Isted is the founder of HI Communications, supporting small business owners with their marketing.She is the author of The Best 90 Days Ever, an Amazon bestselling book and marketing membership. It shares a quick, daily prompt that shows businesses how to promote what they do in just 10 minutes a day and make it simple, easy and fun. She has worked with hundreds of small business owners, helping them to increase their online presence through her membership, courses and workshops. In her email newsletter and podcast The Best Marketing Podcast Ever, she shares marketing advice to help product and service businesses get out of their own way and consistently promote themselves. Find her on Instagram @hicommunications_ or her website www.hicommunications.co.uk.

Wow, There's a big debate around being a generalist vs niching down, but this conversation with Katie proves that it takes specialist knowledge about specific industries and types of organisations to be a generalist in HR. I loved this chat so much. Katie Elliott is a CIPD qualified HR consultant and the founder of HR Katie. She has spent more than a decade working in HR, starting in recruitment before moving into a generalist role where she gained experience in every aspect of people management, from onboarding and supporting managers with complex issues to leading projects for senior teams.In 2021, Katie set up her own consultancy after realising her passion for working with start-ups and small businesses. Through HR Katie, she now helps founders and business owners feel confident about their responsibilities as employers and create workplaces where people are happy, supported and able to thrive.Katie’s approach is hands on and human, with a focus on values led culture and practical HR that makes sense in the real world.For more information, head to www.leilaainge.co.uk or https://www.hrkatie.co.uk/

In this short episode, I’m taking you with me, literally, on a run. 🏃‍♀️I share some reflections on mindset, what it really takes to do hard things, and how I’ve been finding my way back to the joy of running after losing it for a while.If you’ve ever felt stuck, slowed down, or unsure how to keep going, this one’s for you. Think of it as a moving conversation, part psychology, part personal update, and hopefully a gentle nudge for your own goals too.Listen now and run, walk, or sit with me for under ten minutes.

Ever feel like the imposter experiences are stealing your joy? In this episode of Psychologically Speaking, Leila Ainge unpacks the link between imposter phenomenon (known as syndrome) and joy, and why feelings of being a fraud can leave us drained instead of delighted. Drawing on psychology research and coaching practice, she explores the role of self-promotion, comparison, and community support, and shares practical, psychology-backed strategies you can use to fuel momentum. This episode ends with a feminist call to action: let’s stop letting the imposter run the show and start reclaiming joy togetherTakeaways Imposter experiences are contextual and can be influenced by our environment.The imposter cycle includes over-preparing, over-achieving, and feeling relief instead of joy.Self-promotion can be challenging for women due to societal expectations and fear of backlash.Peer comparison often leads to negative emotions like envy and irritation.Communities can transform peer relationships into supportive connections.Reframing comparison can turn threats into sources of inspiration.Joy should be viewed as a fuel for motivation, not a reward to be earned.Turning envy into curiosity can help mitigate negative feelings.Supporting other women's successes can create a safer environment for all.Recognizing and celebrating joy is essential for personal growth and empowerment.

Hello, in this episode you are getting a joyful mixed bag including the latest research on autistic joy, what we can take from two pictures in the National Portrait gallery. Leila delves into the concept of joy, distinguishing it from happiness and exploring its complexities. She discusses various psychological theories of joy, including the broaden and build theory, flow theory, and self-determination theory, while also highlighting the limitations of these theories, particularly in relation to neurodivergent experiences. Ainge introduces a new perspective on autistic joy, emphasizing the importance of creating environments that allow autistic individuals to thrive. The episode also reflects on the emotional weight of joy, using art as a lens to explore how joy coexists with responsibilities and challenges. There are coaching prompts at the end of the episode. To access all of the podcast resources visit www.leilaainge.co.uk/joy

In this conversation, Leila and Lisa explore the themes of joy, personal spaces, and the impact of nature on wellbeing. They discuss the importance of creating environments that spark joy, the connection between nature and mental health, and the significance of community and connection in both personal and professional lives. Lisa shares her journey of transitioning from a corporate career to interior design and mentoring, emphasizing the value of slowing down to appreciate life's moments. Lisa Honiball started her career in the corporate world, spending 10 years at Microsoft before a health scare prompted her to re-assess and re-train. She ran her own design practice – and has over 14 years’ experience working on residential and commercial projects.. Five years ago, she pivoted again - this time to support other designers through mentoring, coaching, and her online membership, Interior Design Insiders. Lisa’s mission is to help interior designers build businesses that support them financially, practically, and creatively - without the burnout. She encourages a shift toward a calmer, more sustainable way of doing business—rooted in clarity, collaboration, and joy.http://www.interiordesigninsiders.com/http://www.leilaainge.co.uk

In this opening episode of The Joy Experiments, Leila Ainge speaks with brand strategist Ange Friesen about the messy, beautiful process of chasing joy in the middle of change. From swapping city life in London for a countryside Airbnb (complete with cows and no coffee machine) to redefining work, routine, and identity, this conversation explores how joy doesn’t always look how we expect — and why that’s the point.Brand strategy is about the soul of who we are.Ideas want to come into the world and need to be nurtured.Lifestyle changes can lead to unexpected joy and creativity.Boredom can enhance creativity by allowing space for new ideas.Rituals and routines are essential for grounding and joy.The importance of a supportive environment for personal growth.Mindfulness is key in navigating life changes.Finding joy in small daily rituals can enhance overall happiness.Place and attachment significantly influence our identities.Embracing change can lead to personal and professional growth.https://www.beautifuluseful.co/https://www.leilaainge.co.uk

Welcome to Season 3 of Psychologically Speaking, hosted by psychologist and researcher Leila Ainge. This season, we explore joy not as a feeling to define, but as an experience that moves us, connects us, and shapes how we live and work. In this short teaser episode, Leila shares the story behind choosing joy as her word of the year, the psychology of positive emotions, and why joy matters more than ever in a world that often dismisses it as a distraction.We’ll explore:The science behind joy, including Broaden-and-Build TheoryHow joy supports identity, motivation, and social connectionReal stories, guest interviews, and solo episodes that dig into joy’s role in creativity, leadership, and everyday lifeIf you're curious about the psychology of joy, identity, and the subtle ways we shape our lives this season is for you.🎧 Listen now and subscribe to get weekly episodes on joy, work, creativity, and human behaviour.

In this Season 2 finale of Psychologically Speaking, Leila reflects on the space between intention and action the often messy, foggy middle that so many of us occupy quietly.She shares listener insights, one reader’s poetic take on language and liminality, and introduces the psychology of emotional granularity (via Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett) to help us name and navigate our emotional states with more clarity.Plus: practical tools for neurodivergent listeners, thoughts on joy as a breadcrumb—not a reward and a first look at Season 3: The Joy Experiments.If you’ve felt in-between lately… this one’s for you.

In this episode, I share a small but eye-opening story that begins with a single word: lacuna. What started as a moment of academic frustration turned into a reflection on the way we, as adults, often skim rather than fully engage — with words, ideas, and even our own decisions.I explore how our reading habits reflect something deeper: a psychological tendency to stay safe, to avoid uncertainty, and to hold ourselves back from fully stepping into new knowledge. Drawing on research around word retrieval, loss aversion, and socioemotional selectivity theory, I unpack what it means to sit in the space between knowing and doing – and why that space seems to grow as we get older.From my experience hosting Psych at the Mic for the British Psychological Society, to reading hilarious bedtime stories with my nine-year-old, I reflect on how curiosity, language, and even self-doubt shape the way we learn, lead, and show up in the world.This is an episode for anyone who’s ever felt overwhelmed by information, unsure whether they “know enough,” or stuck between intention and action. It’s also a quiet nudge to slow down, ask questions, and give ourselves permission to still be learners – even in the middle of our careers.Whether you're skimming, overthinking, or saying yes to too much (guilty!), there's something in here for you.www.leilaainge.co.uk

In this episode of Psychologically Speaking, Leila Ainge delves into the theme of tiredness, exploring its various forms and the impact it has on our lives. She discusses the emotional, social, creative, spiritual, physical, and mental aspects of tiredness, emphasizing the importance of understanding these different types to prevent burnout. Leila also highlights the significance of making intentional decisions and the role of rest in maintaining a fulfilling life. Through personal anecdotes and psychological insights, she encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences with tiredness and to prioritize self-care and self-compassion.takeawaysTiredness can stem from various sources, not just physical exhaustion.Emotional tiredness often arises from holding space for others and people-pleasing.Social tiredness can be exacerbated by overstimulation and group dynamics.Creative tiredness is common among those in creative roles or entrepreneurship.Spiritual tiredness relates to a loss of meaning or connection to purpose.Physical tiredness is often linked to disrupted sleep and illness.Mental tiredness can result from decision fatigue and overthinking.Rest is essential for maintaining energy and preventing burnout.Self-compassion can help us face our tiredness without the need to fix it immediately.Making intentional decisions can help manage the mental load we carry.tiredness, human behavior, psychology, emotional exhaustion, mental fatigue, decision making, self-compassion, entrepreneurship, identity, rest

How our need for external validation fuels overworksummaryIn this episode of Psychologically Speaking, Leila explores the intricate relationship between human behavior and the use of lists. She delves into why we love lists, the psychological benefits they provide, and the potential pitfalls that can lead to overwhelm. The conversation also touches on the unique challenges faced by individuals with ADHD when managing lists, the importance of structuring lists effectively, and the distinction between lists that serve to prove oneself versus those that promote genuine progress. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own to-do lists and consider how they can align their tasks with their true goals and values.takeawaysLists help us organize thoughts and create structure.Cognitive ease makes lists appealing for memory.Quick gratification from ticking off tasks is satisfying.Cultural conditioning influences our relationship with lists.Lists can simplify complexity and provide clarity.ADHD can complicate the effectiveness of lists.The serial position effect impacts memory of list items.To-do lists can become validation-seeking tools.Reflection on tasks can reveal true motivations.Balancing internal and external validation is crucial.

Episode Summary:In this episode of Psychologically Speaking, I reflect on a milestone moment delivering a leadership workshop on imposter phenomenon and the realization that I had already arrived. Inspired by Ilona Maher’s bold stance on owning success, I explore what it means to trust your expertise and step confidently into the spaces you’ve worked hard to enter.We also dive into Margaret Atwood’s poem The Moment, unpacking how metaphor shapes our understanding of confidence, leadership, and personal growth—essential insights for coaches, business leaders, and anyone navigating self-doubt.Plus, a sneak peek at my Adult Inset Day Easter webinar and a special shoutout to The Belonging Project Podcast with Fiorenza Rossini, where we had a brilliant conversation on success and belonging.

In this conversation, Leila Ainge discusses the importance of mental flexibility and resilience, particularly in the context of running and personal growth. She emphasizes the need to navigate self-doubt and challenges without succumbing to societal pressures for transformation. Leila advocates for starting from one's current position and using existing skills as a foundation for growth, rather than striving for a complete overhaul of oneself.takeawaysFlexibility of thinking is crucial for overcoming challenges.Mental resilience can be developed through activities like running.Self-doubt is a common experience, especially in a transformation-focused society.It's important to recognize the societal pressures on women regarding self-improvement.Transformation doesn't always mean complete change; start where you are.Using existing skills can serve as a springboard for growth.Staying in uncomfortable spaces can lead to clarity and understanding.Mind tricks can help maintain perspective during difficult tasks.The idea of transformation can often be misleading and burdensome.Practicing self-acceptance is a form of defiance against societal norms.

Transformation stories are everywhere—before-and-afters, glow-ups, success arcs. But what if real self-love isn’t about reinventing yourself—but about being present where you are, without pressure?This episode unpacks how social media, self-help culture, and gendered resilience narratives push us toward self-optimization at the cost of self-acceptance. We explore the psychology of storytelling (McAdams, 2001), the feminist critique of the "bounce-backable woman" (Gill & Orgad, 2018), and why emotional smoothing shapes how we retell our past.If you’re ready to stop waiting for the ‘perfect’ story and start sharing where you are, this one’s for you.Connect with Leila online at www.leilaainge.co.uk and subscribe to her newsletter for psychological insights direct to your inbox. to sign up for the FREE Webinar, head to www.leilaainge.co.ukPsychologically Speaking is produced by Buckers at Decibelle Creative / @decibelle_creative  

In this episode of Psychologically Speaking, host Leila Ainge sits down with Katie Cope, founder of Keppel Leopard Creative, to explore the intricate world of brand identity, storytelling, and the challenges faced by female entrepreneurs. Katie shares her journey from redundancy to building a branding agency that empowers women to embrace their authentic selves in business.The conversation dives into the psychology behind branding, the pressures women face in professional spaces, and how societal norms influence personal and business identities. Katie also reflects on her multicultural background, her unexpected career path through animation and TV production, and how creative problem-solving has shaped her approach to branding.Key topics include:The power of brand storytelling and personal identity.Challenges women entrepreneurs face in professional branding.The balance between authenticity and professionalism in online spaces.How Katie’s diverse cultural and career experiences inform her work.This episode is packed with insights on confidence, personal branding, and the psychological barriers that shape how we present ourselves to the world.

In this episode of Psychologically Speaking, Leila Ainge delves into the themes of human behavior, accountability, and personal growth. She reflects on her experiences with goal setting and introduces a new pod feature, a book review, looking at Neurodiversity Coaching, emphasizing the importance of clean language interviewing in coaching practices. The episode encourages listeners to explore their past selves and consider how they can apply those insights to their current challenges.

In todays episode I’m chatting to Tessa and Bre who, discuss their research at the University of California Santa Cruz, on body doubling, how folk – especially those with ADHD, use it as a tool for productivity and social interaction. Our conversation looks at the benefits of body doubling, its community-driven nature, different types of body doubling and of course cyber, the role of technology in facilitating these interactions.Leya Breanna Baltaxe-Admony is a technologist and researcher focused on advancing assistive and healthcare technologies. She has a multidisciplinary background in robotics engineering and human-centered design approaches. She recently graduated with a PhD in computational media from the University of California Santa Cruz, where her dissertation explored equitable engineering and design methods for collaborative development with disabled communities.You can find Bre on the internet @leyabreannaTessa Eagle is a researcher specializing in Human-Computer Interaction (HCI) and neurodivergent communities. Her research draws from Critical Disability Studies to study online support systems for neurodivergent individuals and push back on neuronormative technology research and healthcare practices. Her expertise lies in driving user-centered design by deeply understanding and engaging with the needs of diverse communities.

In this episode of Psychologically Speaking, Leila Ainge explores the intricate relationship between accountability and motivation through the lens of self-determination theory. She shares her personal journey of goal setting in running, emphasizing the importance of social support and relationships in achieving personal goals. The discussion highlights the psychological needs of autonomy, competence, and relatedness, and how they interplay with accountability. Leila encourages listeners to reflect on their own accountability networks and the role these connections play in their success.

"Snails, Distractions, and the Neuroscience of Drift"In this episode, we explore the surprising connection between spontaneous thoughts, and achieving your goals. Leila delves into how distractions and daydreaming can fuel creativity and productivity. Whether you're tackling New Year’s resolutions or just trying to stay focused, discover why mind-wandering might be the secret to success—and how to embrace it without getting lost in negative rumination. Plus, a tale of erratic gardening, greenhouse adventures, and tips for starting fresh with curiosity and spontaneity.

In this episode of Psychologically Speaking, Leila Ainge explores the unique psychological phenomena surrounding the liminal space between Christmas and New Year, discussing how our perception of time shifts during this period. She delves into the relationship between memory and goal setting, emphasizing the importance of understanding individual differences in how people visualize time and set goals for the new year. Through research insights, she highlights the significance of writing down goals and the impact of memory on our future planning.

In this reflective conversation, Leila explores the themes of regret, uncertainty, and unfinished business as they relate to personal growth and decision-making. Drawing inspiration from Dickens' A Christmas Carol, she discusses how psychological 'ghosts' can guide us in making better choices. Leila emphasizes the importance of embracing uncertainty, the potential of regret as a motivator, and the necessity of accepting imperfection in our lives. Through her own experiences, she illustrates how tackling unfinished tasks can lead to a sense of relief and momentum, while also acknowledging that not everything needs to be completed immediately. Ultimately, she encourages listeners to recognize their psychological ghosts and use them as tools for progress rather than obstacles.