Private Parts Unknown: Sex & Love Around the World

For the 3rd episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome relationship coach & author Matthew Solomon to discuss his new book Man School: Relating with Women in the #MeToo Era. We chop it up about the "actually" guys, the emotional labor of explaining the #MeToo movement to men who don't get it, the friend zone, how to handle & reframe rejection logically, the safety factor for women, why toxic masculinity hurts boys/men as much as girls/women, the danger in perpetuating gender roles, redefining what it means to be a provider, chivalry, tantra, magick with a "k" & so much more! For more Matthew Solomon: Order Man School: Relating with Women in the #MeToo Era Check out coachwithmatthewsolomon.com to learn more about his relationship coaching practice Follow him on Twitter @mattytheglue Follow him on Instagram @mattytheglue If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 2nd episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome standup comedian & host of the Ignorance is #Blessed podcast Jessica Michelle Singleton to talk about her new solo show Codependent Arising, which will be playing at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival August 2nd through 26th. We get into her last horrible breakup, the Eat Pray Love moment that inspired the show (going on 10-day silent meditation retreat), breakups in general, growing up with an alcoholic parent, abandonment issues, codependency, the quality of road dick for female comics & self-imposed celibacy (sort of). For more Jessica Michelle: Get tickets to her show if you're going to the Edinburgh Fringe! Listen to her podcast Ignorance is #Blessed Follow her on Twitter @JMScomedy Follow her on Instagram @jmscomedy If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 1st episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, along with new co-hosts Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome relationship self-help gurus & real-life married couple Greg Behrendt & Amiira Ruotola to discuss their new book How to Keep Your Marriage From Sucking. Greg & Amiira are also the bestselling authors of He’s Just Not That Into You, It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken & It’s Just a F***ing Date. They drop so much tried & true wisdom in this episode – it's a must-listen to set yourself up for wedded bliss! For more Greg & Amiira: Order How to Keep Your Marriage From Sucking Listen to their podcast Maybe It's You Follow Greg on Twitter @gregorybehrendt Follow Amiira on Twitter @MsAmiirica If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

*We apologize for the delay in releasing this final episode. There was an issue with Wade's sound that we were hoping to fix, but alas, this is the best we could do. Also maybe we didn't want it to be over. ;) Enjoy! REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 22nd (& final!) episode of season 3, the duo are thrilled to welcome their significant others, comedian & Who's Your Sign? podcast co-host Julia Loken & restaurateur Wade, to discuss meet cute stories, early relationship misfires, the monogamy vs. boyfriend/girlfriend conversation & what it's like when your partner has a sex & dating podcast. This episode is brought to you by the Fab Skin, Hot Bodies with Dr. Jeannette Graf podcast & FabFitFun (go to fabfitfun.com & use code REALITY to get $10 off your first FabFitFun box). And if you like good eats, check out Wade's restaurants: Horsethief BBQ at Grand Central Market, Cafe Birdie in Highland Park & – coming soon – Ma'am Sir in Silver Lake. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 21st episode of season 3, the pair welcome actress Joy Nash (Dietland, Twin Peaks) for a deep ep about the lessons death teaches you about life, why it's so important to nurture a great relationship with yourself, dating app fatigue, her ideal beau (rhymes with Mavid Marber) & her amazing Dietland casting story – plus Courtney & Steve share their high school sexploits. This episode is brought to you by FabFitFun (go to fabfitfun.com & use code REALITY to get $10 off your first FabFitFun box). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 20th episode of season 3, the duo chat with porn actor & debut author Logan Pierce on his new book of autobiographical fiction Between the Sheets: Rise of a Working Stiff (under the alias J.R. Verlin), why he chose to use a pen name, the 1st time he saw sex onscreen, how he took practical steps to accomplish his dream of becoming a porn performer, moving to Hollywood, what happened when his parents finally found out, why he's found it easier to date within the industry, meeting his current girlfriend on-the-job, the widespread use of Viagra on porn sets, what it's like to bomb as a porn performer, society's incorrect stereotype of women in sex work, his role as a male cheerleader & how he keeps a lid on objectifying women, why he decide decided to write a book about his experiences in porn & his favorite part of the book (hint: gang bang) – plus Courtney & Steve talk aging, forgiveness & masturbation habits. This episode is brought to you by the Fab Skin, Hot Bodies with Dr. Jeannette Graf podcast. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 19th episode of season 3, the pair welcome comedian & writer Riley Silverman for a great chat about growing up with a lack of a queer conversation, crossdressing at a young age, shifting on the Kinsey scale post-transition, the crucial role of transgender women of color in the Stonewall riots, what it was like to wear a dress in public for the first time, being a standup comic coming out "on the job," dating a fan, the long journey to a swift shift in media inclusivity, the timing factor in relationships & no-fault breakups – plus Courtney & Steve talk period sex, mismatched libidos & the worthwhile work of a relationship sex. NOTE: Riley's gender confirmation surgery was unfortunately cancelled at the last minute by her insurance company - do better insurance companies! Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 18th episode of season 3, the duo chat with former host of Dinner and a Movie & current host of the Mental Illness Happy Hour, Paul Gilmartin, about what inspired him to start the hit podcast, how to be a good partner to someone struggling with depression, abusing drugs & alcohol & the crutch of self-medication, how suicidal thoughts at the height of his success made him realize it was time to get help, intimacy issues & emotional incest, getting sober & dealing with divorce – plus some of his favorite episodes of his show. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 17th episode of season 3, the pair chop it up with filmmaker, photographer & musician Tao Ruspoli (who also happens to be the son of an Italian prince & the ex-husband of Olivia Wilde) about his new documentary Monogamish, featuring Dan Savage, Esther Perel, Stephanie Coontz & many other prominent figures in that field. We deep dive into the project's conception, his interesting childhood, different shades of non-monogamy (open relationships, polyamory, etc.) & how to manage the paradox of monogamy – plus Courtney & Steve discuss the Lena Dunham/Jack Antonoff split. This episode is brought to you by the Fab Skin, Hot Bodies with Dr. Jeannette Graf podcast & FabFitFun (go to fabfitfun.com & use code REALITY to get $10 off your first FabFitFun box). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 16th episode of season 3, the duo welcome photographer extraordinaire Maggie West back to the show for her 3rd interview – except this time she brings her bangin' hot sexbot Luci 6000, created for a holiday installation at the Museum of Sex in NYC, on now through February 15th. We talk the overhyped millennial sex slump, smartphones as a breeding ground for casual coitus (or not), media satire, Luci's little black book & how pretty much everyone is sprung on the idea of robot sex – plus Luci shares her pro sexting tips. This episode is brought to you by the Fab Skin, Hot Bodies with Dr. Jeannette Graf podcast. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 15th episode of season 3, the pair go deep with D'Lo, queer/transgender Tamil-Sri Lankan-American actor/writer/comedian & co-producer of Disoriented Comedy, on growing up in Lancaster, being Hindu in a Baptist Christian school, the horror of having to wear a dress on special occasions, the gender flexibility of hiphop fashion, the first time he kissed a girl, late night rendezvous with his college dorm RA, coming out (twice), avoiding arranged marriage, social justice spoken word, his dope queen, transitioning, to T or not to T, his second puberty, the power of testosterone against tears & the evolving media landscape – especially in terms of queerness & gender identity. This episode is brought to you by the Fab Skin, Hot Bodies with Dr. Jeannette Graf podcast. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 14th episode of season 3, the duo sit down with comedian & skateboarder Whitmer Thomas on going through a breakup, therapy, honesty, high school relationships, hooking up on being what it once was, the perks of being a delivery boy, being from 'the wrong side of the tracks,' pure love, co-dependence, romanticism as a worldview, Instagram as a dating app & just wanting to get back to fucking all his friends. MERRY CHRISTMAS, EVERYONE (if you don't celebrate the religious or commercial holiday, we wish you secular good vibes)!!! This episode is brought to you by the new gay dating app Chappy (head over to the app store & download Chappy today) & the Fab Skin, Hot Bodies with Dr. Jeannette Graf podcast. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 13th episode of season 3, the pair sit down with Alix M., host of the Swipe Out podcast & Director of Content Strategy at GIPHY Studios, to talk faux relationship mindfucks, how cupid killed season 1 of her podcast, manifesting one's perfect partner through a list of ideal attributes & falling in love with "good vibes" Gabe – plus Courtney gets into an accident & Steve recorded his album (!!!). This episode is brought to you by the new gay dating app Chappy (head over to the app store & download Chappy today). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 12th episode of season 3, the duo are thrilled to interview author, sex educator & feminist activist Jaclyn Friedman about her new book Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power, and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All. Thank you to The Pleasure Chest in West Hollywood for hosting this live show. They are also offering a great deal on Unscrewed, so buy a copy for yourself & give it as the gift that keeps on giving this holiday season: thepleasurechest.com/unscrewed.html! This episode is brought to you by the new gay dating app Chappy (head over to the app store & download Chappy today) & BarkBox (visit barkbox.com/reality for a FREE EXTRA MONTH when you subscribe to a 6 or 12-month plan). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 11th episode of season 3, the pair sit down with very funny comedian, former Playboy columnist, current Cheetahs dancer & host of the Kasey's Freek Show podcast Kasey Koop to chat about stripping as her favorite job everrrrr, hipster bitches being annoying up in da club, alcoholism, sex addiction, suicidal thoughts, sobriety, the fact that social media is a drug, managing our mental health demons, mommy issues, co-dependence, doing the hard work of making healthy relationships work & changing cultural tides on sex work – plus Courtney & Steve talk Thanksgiving & escape fantasies. Angelenos, you are formally invited to our live show tomorrow Thursday 11/30 at 8pm with very special guest Jaclyn Friedman, author of Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power, and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All, at the Pleasure Chest in West Hollywood. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 10th episode of season 3, the duo welcome Barbara Gray (very funny comedian & Lady to Lady co-host) & Alana Hope Levinson (deputy editor of MEL Magazine) to unpack the long-time sexual harassment & assault epidemic that has been sweeping the headlines lately – as well as discuss dating in the BDSM community, courtship in NY v. LA, toxic attraction v. compatibility & share some good old-fashioned dating horror stories. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 9th episode of season 3, the pair chat with comedian, animator & Bechdel Cast co-host Jamie Loftus about wanting to be a surrogate, body issues, dating apps, the bliss in establishing clear romantic v. platonic intentions, her quest to lose her virginity before turning 18 (& go on to create a hit show about it), the struggle to correctly identify & treat mental illness & "I want to kill myself" as a sort of safeword in the ER. This episode is brought to you by Casper (get $50 toward any mattress purchase by visiting Casper.com/BYTES & using BYTES at checkout). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 8th episode of season 3, the duo welcome birth doulas & reproductive health educators Natalia Hailes & Ashley Spivak of Cycles + Sex on male PMS, why the word mucus needs rebranding, benefits of a vaginal birth & how to make the best use of the signals your body is sending you – plus Steve confronts Courtney about being a texting nerd. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 7th episode of season 3, the pair welcome standup comedian & writer Sara Schaefer on identifying & confronting her internet troll, going through the stages of divorce, long-term relationship touch-ups & her recent series Woman Online – plus Courtney tells on herself, Steve reviews Dan Gill's wedding (congrats GillCon!!!) & we all solve the sexual harassment epidemic. This episode is brought to you by BarkBox (visit barkbox.com/reality for a FREE EXTRA MONTH when you subscribe to a 6 or 12-month plan). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 6th episode of season 3, the dynamic duo welcome very funny stand up comedian Eli Olsberg to wax polyamorous about physical v emotional jealousy, whether people are born poly or made poly, compersion, classifying polyamory as an identity or a lifestyle, SEX PARTIES, the surprisingly safe sex of swingers, queerness, biphobia & his monthly show at the Pleasure Chest aptly named Performance Anxiety – plus Courtney tells a story about double dating with a old couple & Steve shares the hype about his dope new career accomplishment (hint: Sarah Silverman). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 5th episode of season 3, the pair welcome stand up comedian, actress & filmmaker Atsuko Okatsuka on her new marriage, why her husband didn't take her last name, the long-time Weinstein rumors, couple voices, love languages, limerence, emotionally abusive relationship dynamics & how her parents met on a Japanese game show – plus rave reviews for Whitney Bell's I Didn't Ask For This: A Lifetime of Dick Pics show. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 4th episode of season 3, the duo welcome standup comedian, actor & co-host of the Groomzillas podcast Dan Gill on asking his soon-to-be father-in-law for his fiancée's hand in marriage, how he proposed to his long-time girlfriend, wedding planning tips from the groomzilla's POV, modern day mate expectations & what it's like to be getting married in 16 days! Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 3rd episode of season 3, the pair welcome guest Andy Haynes - a standup comedian, TV writer & actor who happens to be a single, sober serial monogamist - for a wax sesh on skipping town as means of breaking up, bad relationship patterns, being open to dating against type, entering into an open relationship without really talking about it, post-divorce adulting, the entitlement of modern sexuality & so much more. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. The duo are back for episode 2 of the 3rd season with best friends & return guests Amber Rose Slutwalk photographer/installation artist Maggie West & The Dick Pic Show founder Whitney Bell (aka Kidd Bell) on their upcoming shows & the feminist statements behind them, why street hollering sucks, the strain of ambivalent friendships, how to make friends as an adult & what it's like to live in a deluge of unsolicited dick pics. This episode is brought to you by Astroglide O (try a free sample at astroglide.com/purepleasure) & Audible (get a free audiobook with a 30-day trial at audible.com/REALITY). For tickets to the Amber Rose Slutwalk on Sunday, October 1st in DTLA visit amberroseslutwalk.com & use promo code ThankYouReebok to waive the fee. For more information on how to attend I Didn't Ask For This: A Lifetime of Dick Pics on October 6th & 7th, check out thatdickpicshow.com. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez (they made it official!!), produced in partnership with JASH. The duo debut the show's 3rd season with couple Jac Cron & Penny O'Brien on their love story from summer camp thespians to #RelationshipGoals lesbians & the winding road in between, how Facebook helped bring them together, conflict styles between couples & a primer for how to fight with your partner - plus Courtney & Steve talk moving in with their boos. This episode is brought to you by Casper (get $50 toward any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/bytes & using offer code BYTES). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. Standup comedians & guest co-hosts Sofiya Alexandra & Steve Hernandez help Courtney close out the 2nd season with this 27th episode featuring men's mag writer Alana Hope Levinson (@alanalevinson) on her insidious, newly dubbed subsect of fuckbois called cuckbois, mansplaining, dating multiple people at the same time, #RelationshipGoals, how to sext better & social media best practices for couples. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. The 26th episode of season 2 features sisters Paulina Lopez Velazquez & Bricia Lopez-Maytorena of the Supermamas podcast & La Guelaguetza restaurant (buy their delicious, award-winning mole at ilovemole.com!) on their Oaxacan roots, Planned Parenthood pseudonyms, falling in love with their husbands, the importance of trust in sexual exploration, sex tips/picks, the often under-acknowledged strength in female energy & the inside scoop on Tony Robbins' Date with Destiny. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. Andrew Ti, the hilarious host of Yo, Is This Racist?, is back to guest co-host this 25th episode of season 2 featuring the super funny/super feminist political comedian & actor Jenny Yang on her favorite dating app, Cyrano-ing her friends’ OkCupid profiles, the mystique of availability & flirting as occupational currency, sexual work-arounds of the pious, hugging & consent culture, queer-adjacent politics & the fascinating premise of the book Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. Comedian/regular co-host Steve Hernandez is back for the 24th episode of season 2 with standup comic & Transparent actor Ian Harvie on the 1st time he met a trans man, the transcendent hotness of Buck Angel, the 'queer adjacent' identity, his amazing partner Sarah, the spectrum of gender, the fact that some dudes have pussies & his #1 illegally downloaded standup special May The Best Cock Win. This episode is brought to you by Audible's new Hot Mic podcast with Dan Savage, starting August 8th. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. Comic/guest co-host/BFF Sofiya Alexandra is back for the 23rd episode of season 2 featuring the other half of Nerdist’s The Jackie & Laurie Show, super funny standup & Conan writer Laurie Kilmartin on her unexpected pregnancy at age 40, grieving the loss of her father (buy her album 45 Jokes About My Dead Dad), coping with her live-in mom, raising a kid in today’s hyper tech world & dating pre-son v. post. This episode is brought to you by Audible's new Hot Mic podcast with Dan Savage, starting August 8th. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. The 22nd episode of season 2 features hilarious standup comic & OG podcaster (The Dork Forest, Nerdist's The Jackie & Laurie Show) Jackie Kashian on growing up in Wisconsin, dating fellow standup comedians, meeting her now-husband online, marrying her 1st serious boyfriend, trying to be gay & larping as treatment for sexual trauma. This episode is brought to you by Lola tampons (go to mylola.com & enter promo code BYTES for 60% off your 1st purchase) & Audible's new Hot Mic podcast with Dan Savage, starting August 8th. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. Standup comics & friends Sofiya Alexandra & Steve Hernandez sit in as co-hosts for the 21st episode of season 2 with guests Jake Kroeger (head of the Comedy Bureau) & Felicia Folkes (very funny comedian) on what it's like to be a mid to late-20s virgin, whether or not it's necessary to disclose virginity to dating prospects, demisexual jerk off material, the weight loss/libido correlation, romantic role models & what it would take to give it up. This episode is brought to you by Lovepop. Visit lovepop.com/REALITY for a chance to win 50 3D birthday cards. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. Standup comic/regular co-host Steve Hernandez is back for the 20th episode of season 2 with comedian & host of the Be Here for Awhile podcast Rachael O'Brien on her 1st time being single & lovin' it, dating multiple people, growing up in the town Goonies was shot, getting cut from Kindergarten Cop as a kid, having an adolescent ugly duckling phase, how she almost became an NFL WAG, the advantage of apathy in dating & the secret to being good in bed. This episode is brought to you by Talkspace (go to talkspace.com/reality & enter promo code REALITY for $30 off your 1st month) & Winc (head over to trywinc.com & enter promo code REALITY for $20 off your 1st order). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. The 19th episode of season 2 features author & filmmaker Stephen Elliott (The Adderall Diaries, About Cherry, The Rumpus) on growing up in group homes, BDSM as an entire sexuality, sex work, negotiating consent in kink relationships, dating outside the BDSM community, his new web series Driven & "the jazz of kink." This episode is brought to you by the Fab Skin, Hot Bodies with Dr. Jeannette Graf podcast & Talkspace (go to talkspace.com/reality & enter promo code REALITY for $30 off your 1st month). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. Standup comic/regular co-host Steve Hernandez is back for the 18th episode of season 2 with hilarious comedian Solomon Georgio on entering into his 1st long-term relationship at age 35, learning how to talk himself out of stupid reasons to breakup, saying "I love you" 1st, being gay in the black community, coming out, early online dating via MySpace & the importance of punctuality compatibility. This episode is brought to you by Talkspace (go to talkspace.com/reality & enter promo code REALITY for $30 off your 1st month). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. Comedian/resident polyamory guru Steve Hernandez co-hosts this 17th episode of season 2 with standup comic & Becoming Poly blogger Christina Walkinshaw on being a Tinder early adopter, falling in love after staying single for 6 years, how she's navigating her 1st polyamorous relationship, warm feelings toward former hookups & who should pay. This episode is brought to you by the Fab Skin, Hot Bodies with Dr. Jeannette Graf podcast & Talkspace (go to talkspace.com/reality & enter promo code REALITY for $30 off your 1st month). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. Standup comedian/friend of the show Steve Hernandez co-hosts this 16th episode of season 2 with guest writer/actor/filmmaker Brittani Nichols on being a romantic at heart, whether of not she believes in marriage, power dynamics in queer relationships, race in dating, her type, career entitlement & envy & self-funding her new indie flick Suicide Kale (find, buy & watch it now!). This episode is brought to you by Talkspace (go to talkspace.com/reality & enter promo code REALITY for $30 off your 1st month), Warby Parker (head to warbyparker.com/reality for your free, no obligation home try-on kit) & the Bold Type, premiering July 11th on Freeform. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. Standup comic/West Covina’s finest Steve Hernandez co-hosts this 15th episode of season 2 with Playboy sex columnist Bridget Phetasy on her 7 Orgasm Rule, why July is peak horny season, her Ashley Madison “research,” pegging, penis envy, eating ass, divorce & what she learned in her first 48 hours on Tinder. This episode is brought to you by Lola tampons (go to mylola.com & enter promo code BYTES for 60% off your 1st purchase) & the Bold Type, premiering July 11th on Freeform. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. Standup comic/Courtney's bestie Sofiya Alexandra co-hosts this 14th episode of season 2 with guests & newlyweds comedian/tv writer (Parks & Rec, Brooklyn Nine-Nine, Broad City, etc.) Gabe Liedman & poet/Everything Is Awful and You're a Terrible Person author Daniel Zomparelli dishing on their relationship - meeting on Twitter, taking it offline, dating long-distance, a surprise proposal & what it's like to be married - all over a bottle of Winc wine. To try Brethren Of The Road Riesling or any of their other delicious selections, head over to trywinc.com & enter promo code REALITY for $20 off your 1st order. This episode is brought to you by the Bold Type, premiering July 11th on Freeform. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. The 13th episode of season 2 features comedian Nicole Aimée Schreiber of Oxygen's Funny Girls on self-imposed celibacy, dating comics, not wanting kids & dick pics (solicited & otherwise). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. We welcome back previous guests of the show & bosom friends Jane Marie, host of Tinder's DTR podcast, & Andrew Ti, host of Earwolf's Yo, Is This Racist?, for the 12th episode of season 2 to ponder their high school personas, preferences v. racism & prenups - plus a thrilling game of Would You Rather? - all over a bottle of Winc wine. To try One From the Quiver or any of their other delicious selections, head over to trywinc.com and enter promo code REALITY for $20 off your 1st order. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. The 11th episode of season 2 features writer Chris Zeischegg (aka Danny Wylde) on his 8-year porn career, the widespread use of ED meds among male porn actors, the unconventional way he met his current girlfriend (former guest Maggie West!), what he's been writing & his foray into the hot sauce world. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. The 10th episode of season 2 has super funny standup comedian, recurring guest co-host & West Covina's finest Steve Hernandez back to help interview Dr. Anna Arrowsmith, who was Britain’s first female porn director (nom de porn Anna Span), then went on to earn her Ph.D. in masculinities from the University of Sussex, and is now a professor of gender & sexuality studies at the University of California, Santa Barbara. She also runs WeConsent.org, a site that promotes the rights of sex workers. Her recent book, Rethinking Misogyny: Men's Perceptions of Female Power in Dating Relationships, challenges common feminist assumptions about men’s and women’s sexual power. This episode's conversation runs the gamut from post-structuralism v. feminism, the #YesAllWomen hashtag, pickup artistry, how maybe it's hard to be a man right now & the importance of representation in media. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. The 9th episode of season 2 features married couple & co-hosts of Buffering, the fantastic Buffy the Vampire Slayer podcast, singer-songwriter Jenny Owen Youngs & LGBTQ activist Kristin Russo on coming out, their meet cute, pre-breaking up, the importance of a good deadline & what it's like to work together... plus Jenny sings a recap song (!!!). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. The 8th episode of season 2 features writer/performer Charlene deGuzman & comedian/snack star Tracy Marquez on their Internet-founded friendship, the importance of self-care, the process of recovering from sex & love addiction & their shared obsession with RuPaul's Drag Race. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. The 7th episode of season 2 features Search Party actor & Drag Teen author Jeffery Self on growing up gay in Georgia, early 20s mistakes, acting a fool post-breakup, NY v LA (we solved it!), his foreign guy fetish & pretty unequivocally NOT WANTING KIDS (until he's filthy rich). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. The 6th episode of season 2 features author/#neilcake activist Sara Benincasa & Internet singleton/co-host of the Best of Friends podcast Erin Mallory Long on sorta kinda pretending to not be married, our IG personas, consciously uncouping with one's perp & other boozy discourse. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. The 5th episode of season 2 features Kira & Tyler Cook on making their OkCupid love match, how they went from not-looking-for-anything-serious to husband & wife, the disquieting era of Craigslist dating, the joys of pregnancy & what it's like to wait for baby (WELCOME TO THE WORLD, ROWAN SPENCER COOK!). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. The 4th episode of season 2 features writer, radio producer, host of Tinder's DTR podcast & mother Jane Marie on her "type," the seductive world of public radio, sexual fluidity & everything they don't tell you about having a baby until after (WARNING: may require surgery). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. The 3rd episode of season 2 features an eggcellent interview with married couple Matt Mira, writer on The Goldberg's & co-host of The Nerdist Podcast, & Doree Shafrir, journalist & author of Startup: A Novel, about their new podcast Matt & Doree's Eggcellent Adventure, which chronicles their quest to have a baby despite having "old eggs & dumb sperm" (their words; medical diagnosis: male factor infertility), meeting on Tinder, going public about fertility struggles in front of Sir Patrick Stewart (like you do) & how they keep the romance alive. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices