Private Parts Unknown: Sex & Love Around the World

For the 21st episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra, welcome Nova Scotia-based married couple & co-hosts of the Turn Me On podcast – Jeremie Saunders & Bryde MacLean – for a really interesting episode about their journey opening up their relationship & becoming polyamorous. We also dig into how living with a life-shortening illness has impacted their trajectory, how they forged the relationship dynamic they truly wanted without having a model, relationship contracts, how their new partners fit into their daily lives, having different money values, separating finances, how their parents feel about the lifestyle, poly jealousies not being what you’d think & more. For more Jeremie Saunders & Bryde MacLean: Listen to the Turn Me On podcast Follow Turn Me On on Instagram @turnmeonpodcast Follow Jeremie on Instagram @jeremiesaunders Follow Bryde on Instagram @brydemaclean Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Looking for the perfect Valentine’s Day gift for you or your partner? We-Vibe creates some of our favorite sex toys & they are known for their couples vibrators, including their brand new couple’s vibrator: Chorus! Get 5% off any product with code PRIVATE at we-vibe.com. Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients. Our listeners get 10% off and free shipping when you use my code PRIVATE at UberLube.com. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 20th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra, welcome one-name wonder Smoove, co-owner of a very special queer bar called The Back Door, for the 2nd installment in a 2-part series from Bloomington, Indiana. We get into the origin story of The Back Door, its impact on the local LGBTIA community, how they fostered an impressive drag & burlesque scene, former governor Pence, the rollback of gay rights, the incredible “Periods for Pence” campaign, online dating in a small city like Bloomington & so much more. For more from Smoove: Visit The Back Door website bckdoor.com Follow The Back Door on Instagram @bckdoor Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: LOLA is a female-founded company offering a line of organic cotton tampons, pads, liners and all-natural cleansing wipes. For 30% off your first month’s subscription, visit mylola.com and enter private when you subscribe! Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients. Our listeners get 10% off and free shipping when you use my code PRIVATE at UberLube.com. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 19th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra, welcome our favorite keeper of sexual artifacts, Kinsey Institute curator Rebecca Fasman, for the 1st installment in a 2-part series from Bloomington, Indiana. We go deep into the archives to talk about George Platt Lynes & his little-known collection of male nudes, the Comstock law, community standards for erotic material, struggling with the a male gaze as a feminist curator, the state of the union for contemporary queer artists, WWII slut-shaming drops, the legacy of Alfred Kinsey, idealistic differences in the mediums of painting vs. photography & homemade sex toys. For more Rebecca Fasman: Visit the Kinsey Institute website kinseyinstitute.org Follow Rebecca on Instagram @rfasman Follow Rebecca on Twitter @rfasman Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Simple Health is the simplest way to get birth control, with online prescriptions and free home delivery. Our listeners can try Simple Health for free. Just go to simplehealth.com/private and use code PRIVATE at checkout. Dipsea is an audio erotica app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions designed to turn you on. Dipsea is offering a 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/private. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 18th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra, welcome our favorite mother-son duo, Karen Lee & Cameron Poter, co-hosts of the Sex Talk With My Mom podcast for a holiday how-to about coping with loss. We go deep into grieving process, how losing a partner & father respectively impacted them romantically & otherwise, recreating traditions in order to move on, reframing tragedy as a springboard for personal growth, superstition, spiritual messages & communicating with the dead — plus, Karen gives tips for cougars trying to get back out there & Cam explores his new mime-based sexuality. For more Karen Lee & Cam Poter: Listen to the Sex Talk With My Mom podcast sextalkwithmymom.com Follow the show on Instagram @sextalkwithmymom Follow Karen Lee on Instagram @karenleepoter Follow Cam on Instagram @singlecamcomedy Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Simple Health is the simplest way to get birth control, with online prescriptions and free home delivery. Our listeners can try Simple Health for free. Just go to simplehealth.com/private and use code PRIVATE at checkout. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 17th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra take you on a quick trip to Mexico City for the 2nd installment in a 2-part series about romance, sexuality, gender & life in general in the largest city in North America. In this episode, we interviewed two Mexican artists — Alma Garcia Gil, a lesbian performance artist & Evelyn Excess, a trans/gender non-binary collage artist — who give us an inside look into their radical artwork & what it’s like to be unapologetically queer in Mexico City. Find out more about these talented babes & follow them on social media: Alma Garcia Gil almagarciagil.com; twitter.com/gardeaamador Evelyn Excess evelynexcess.blogspot.com; instagram.com/evelyn_excess Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: BlueChew offers men a performance enhancement confidence boost for the bedroom. If you like sex, you’ll love BlueChew. Get your first order — just pay $5 shipping — when you use promo code PRIVATE at bluechew.com. Dipsea is an audio erotica app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions designed to turn you on. Dipsea is offering a 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/private. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 16th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra take you on a quick trip to Mexico City for the 1st installment in a 2-part series about Mexican romance, sexuality, gender & life in general in the largest city in North America. On the 1st day of Día de Los Muertos, we delve into our experiences on a food tour through La Merced Market & a bike tour to the Frida Kahlo Museum (Casa Azul, the Blue House). While in CDMX, we interviewed three local gentlemen who generously lent us their voices & taught us about their culture. Follow these fellas on Instagram & GO ON THEIR TOURS: Gevany Castillo was our fearless leader on the bike tour, giving us historical context & sweet, sweet patter in equal parts. Ubish Yaren (instagram.com/ubishyaren) gives AMAZING food tours through his company Mexico Undergound & hosts the Culinaria Nacional podcast. Alejandro Ruano (instagram.com/alteregoderuano) is a photographer, aspiring filmmaker & gift from the universe conjured in our Frida Kahlo wet dream. Gevany & Alejandro both give super fun bike tours for Pedalea Mexico (www.instagram.com/pedaleamexico). Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: BlueChew offers men a performance enhancement confidence boost for the bedroom. If you like sex, you’ll love BlueChew. Get your first order — just pay $5 shipping — when you use promo code PRIVATE at bluechew.com. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 15th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra take you inside Raising Hell, a super sexy & informative event thrown by Soldiers of Pole, the California exotic dancers union that we featured in our very 1st episode! We get into the passage of California labor bill AB5, why strippers need the same protections & workers’ rights as other physically demanding jobs, the fact that sex work is work, how to undo the industry’s long-time stigma, the dope community these dancers have created for themselves & the isolation a lot of strippers experience when they 1st start out — plus, Jacq the Stripper tells a hilarious story about auditioning for strip club owners & so much more! All hail the following queens for lending us their voices & stories: Jacq the Stripper jacqthestripper.com Antonia Crane antoniacrane.com AM Davies instagram.com/thequeenofsexy Selena the Stripper instagram.com/prettyboygirl (& check out her podcast Heaux in the Kneaux) Megan Therese Rippey (aka Reagan) instagram.com/meganrippey Coco Ono instagram.com/coco.ono Onyx Black instagram.com/onyxblackdance Valerie Stunning valeriestunning.com Here are some links to help educate yourself further: Of course, make sure you follow Soldiers of Pole on Instagram @soldiers_of_pole_ and check out their website soldiersofpole.com. This is the radio story Courtney did on AB5 for KCRW, featuring Antonia Crane of Soldiers of Pole. And a more recent update on the status of AB5, as of September 2019. Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: BlueChew offers men a performance enhancement confidence boost for the bedroom. If you like sex, you’ll love BlueChew. Get your first order — just pay $5 shipping — when you use promo code PRIVATE at bluechew.com. Manscaped, #1 in men’s below the belt grooming. Manscaped offers precision-engineered tools for you or your man’s family jewels. Get 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code PRIVATE at Manscaped.com. Dipsea is an audio erotica app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions designed to turn you on. Dipsea is offering a 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/private. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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For the 14th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your host Courtney Kocak is flying solo to honor International Sex Abortion Day with a special episode featuring seven advocates & women who’ve had personal experiences with abortion & gone on to speak publicly about it. We cover the current legal lay of the land for reproductive rights in the U.S., how close Roe v. Wade is to being overturned, what a post-Roe America would actually look like, the fact that we’re already there in some states, the prevalent shame & stigma, how we change societal views & so much more. Thanks to the following women for lending us their voices & stories: Lizz Winstead, Abortion Access Front founder & chief creative officer & The Daily Show co-creator aafront.org Amelia Bonow, co-founder of the #ShoutYourAbortion movement & co-editor of Shout Your Abortion shoutyourabortion.com Robin Marty, author of Handbook for a Post-Roe America Danielle Perez, comedian thedanielleperez.com Kelly Fitzgerald-Junco, writer sobersenorita.com Molly Gaebe, comedian mollygaebe.net Jenny Zigrino, comedian & actress jennyzigrino.com Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Dipsea is an audio erotica app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions designed to turn you on. Dipsea is offering a 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/private. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 13th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra welcome another pair of sex-positive podcasters, Amy Baldwin & April Lampert, co-hosts of the Shameless Sex podcast. We talk shop about how they met, their industry experience as sex educators & sex toy salespeople, the most common listener question they get, their earliest respective memories of being turned on, their self-identified kinks & sexual preferences, the community service of being the cool stepmom with a sex podcast & how they’re working to banish STD, herpes & other sexual stigmas by sharing their personal stories — plus what they wish they could go back in time & tell their teenage selves about sex. Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Manscaped, #1 in men’s below the belt grooming. Manscaped offers precision-engineered tools for you or your man’s family jewels. Get 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code PRIVATE at Manscaped.com. For more Amy Baldwin & April Lampert: Listen to the Shameless Sex podcast shamelesssex.com Follow the show on Instagram @shamelesssexpodcast Follow the show on Twitter @shameless_sex If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 12th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra welcome another duo of female filmmakers — Dionne van den Berg & Pooja Tripathi — who created, wrote & star in the upcoming web series Amsterdam Ave about following your dreams, especially if they take you abroad (aka international apartment swapping between New York & the Netherlands!!!), loosely based on their friendship & real-life experiences. We get into how their meet-cute at a club in Saint-Tropez turned into a long-distance friendship before evolving again into a creative partnership, their cosmic pizza connection, bullshit cultural stereotypes (plus some that kinda hold up) & dating as 20-something women in NYC & around the world — plus the beauty of not having time for anything but your career & your ride or die BFF. For more Dionne van den Berg & Pooja Tripathi: Watch the Amsterdam Ave teaser on YouTube Check out their website for more info on screenings amsterdamave-theseries.com Follow the show on Instagram @amsterdamave.theseries Follow Dionne on Instagram @dionnevandenberg Follow Pooja on Instagram @winne_thepooj Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. Buy tickets to Soldiers of Pole's RAISING HELL event on September 30th at The Federal Bar in LA. Sign up for the EarBuds Podcast Collective, a weekly podcast recommendation newsletter with five episodes based on a different theme and guest curated by a different person each week. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 11th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra drop the final dispatch from their recent trip to New York. For this NYC edition, we're joined by dominatrix and healer Aleta Cai, who tells us about her entrée into the BDSM world after growing up in a traditional Chinese home. We chop it up about the intersection of BDSM and healing, why she doesn’t usually see women in her practice—except sex workers, the tendency towards submissiveness in Chinese culture, what happens in subspace, the radical confidence that came when she started domming, what her clientele has in common, falling in love with one of her slaves & why 50 Shades of Grey was annoying. Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Coconu organic lubricant. Have better sex. Naturally. Save 15% at coconu.com with promo code PRIVATE. Clone-A-Willy & Clone-A-Pussy allow anyone to make an exact replica of a penis or vulva into a functioning sex toy at home. Use promo code PRIVATE for 20% off at cloneawilly.com. For more Aleta Cai: Check out her website aletacai.com Buy her book PRO-DOMME: How to Become a Professional Dominatrix If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 10th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra are back with another dispatch from their recent trip to New York. For this NYC edition, we're joined by hilarious comedian Wendi Starling, who gives us a glimpse into the world of sugaring & what it's like to be a sugar baby... it's probably a lot hotter & more feminist than you'd expect. This episode is brought to you by: Clone-A-Willy & Clone-A-Pussy allow anyone to make an exact replica of a penis or vulva into a functioning sex toy at home. Use promo code PRIVATE for 20% off at cloneawilly.com. Coconu organic lubricant. Have better sex. Naturally. Save 15% at coconu.com with promo code PRIVATE. For more Wendi Starling: Listen to the Pussy Fart Gang podcast Follow her on Twitter @wendistarling Follow her on Instagram @wendibird82 If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 9th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra return with a dispatch from their recent trip to New York. For this NYC edition, we're joined by crazy/sexy/cool/freaky/funny comedian Billy Procida, host of The Manwhore Podcast. We met Billy at a standup show in Brooklyn and wound up interviewing him the next day in Dumbo about his foray into sex parties, his home club Hacienda, having a gender-fluid ex, organizing gangbangs (3 in 6 months!!!), his long-standing identification with non-monogamy, commons misconceptions about polyamory & why he won't call himself a feminist. This episode is brought to you by: The Shame On You podcast. Listen here for their unapologetic journey to zero f*cks. Coconu organic lubricant. Have better sex. Naturally. Save 15% at coconu.com with promo code PRIVATE. Clone-A-Willy & Clone-A-Pussy allow anyone to make an exact replica of a penis or vulva into a functioning sex toy at home. Use promo code PRIVATE for 20% off at cloneawilly.com. For more Billy Procida: Listen to The Manwhore Podcast Follow him on Twitter @TheBillyProcida If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 8th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra are back with the 3rd & final installment in our 3-part series featuring men talking about their personal experiences with abortion. For this edition, we're joined by two more guys — first, standup comedian & podcaster Jeff May (@heytherejeffro) who shares his story about supporting his ex-girlfriend through her decision to get an abortion, despite not liking the choice she made at the time. Then we talk to an anonymous father of two whose heartbreaking story touches on the genetic abnormality component to the issue. For this 3-part series, we flipped the script & asked dudes to shout their abortions. Many thanks to the five men who shared their nuanced stories with a humility & vulnerability so often missing from this hot button issue. People in Alabama, Georgia, Missouri, and Louisiana need our help. Please consider a donation to https://yellowhammerfund.org/, https://www.plannedparenthood.org/, https://abortionaccessfund.org/, or any other reputable organization engaged in this fight for reproductive justice. If you know someone who you think would benefit from hearing this, please share! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 7th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra are back with the 2nd installment in our 3-part series featuring men talking about their personal experiences with abortion. For this edition, we're joined by two guys — first, former youth pastor/current standup comedian Derrick Murray (@drokcomedy) & then filmmaker/writer/VR extraordinaire Christopher Morrison (@Reality_Plus_) — who exemplify how subtle religious indoctrination can manifest in surprising ways as the shame & stigma surrounding the issue are processed. As you learned in the last episode, Matt Monroe's Instagram post made us realize how rare it is to see men we know speak publicly about their abortions. Busy Philipps started the viral hashtag #YouKnowMe & a flood of women shared their experiences. But obviously #YouKnowHim too. So we flipped the script & asked dudes to shout their abortions for this 3-part series. Many thanks to the five men who shared their nuanced stories with a humility & vulnerability so often missing from this hot button issue. People in Alabama, Georgia, Missouri, and Louisiana need our help. Please consider a donation to https://yellowhammerfund.org/, https://www.plannedparenthood.org/, https://abortionaccessfund.org/, or any other reputable organization engaged in this fight for reproductive justice. If you know someone who you think would benefit from hearing this, please share! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 6th episode of Private Parts Unknown, comedian/engineer Matt Monroe (@heymonroe) joins your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra. He tells the story behind his recent social media post that began “And now, an abortion story... “ followed by his personal experience after he got a casual hookup pregnant at the age of 25. Matt made us realize how rare it is to see men we know speak publicly about their abortions. Busy Philipps started the viral hashtag #YouKnowMe and a flood of women shared their experiences. But obviously #YouKnowHim too. So we flipped the script & asked dudes to shout their abortions for this 3-part series. Many thanks to the five men who shared their nuanced stories with a humility & vulnerability so often missing from this hot button issue. People in Alabama, Georgia, Missouri, and Louisiana need our help. Please consider a donation to https://yellowhammerfund.org/, https://www.plannedparenthood.org/, https://abortionaccessfund.org/, or any other reputable organization engaged in this fight for reproductive justice. If you know someone who you think would benefit from hearing this, please share! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 5th episode of Private Parts Unknown—the 3rd in our Helsinki series—your favorite commuter companions, Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra, are thrilled to introduce you to feminism in Finland & how it got that way. We explore how World War II helped pave a foundation for feminism to thrive in Finland, their world-famous maternity package, the influence of grandmas & sisters on our interviewees' personal lives & businesses, young female entrepreneurship in Helsinki & the subtle significance of having older women depicted in art. Thanks to the following people for lending us their voices & teaching us about their culture. Follow them on Instagram to find out more about their dope lives & businesses: Pirjo Suhonen – @ivanahelsinki Caroline Suinner – @carolinesuinner Elisabeth Rundlöf – @elisabeth.rundlof Emma Lumme – @jotainlainattua Minna Parikka – @minnaparikkashoes Cristal Snow – @iamcristalsnow (Also, go back and listen to our 1st two Helsinki episodes if you haven’t already!) This episode is brought to you by #MyHelsinkiResidence. Check out myhelsinki.fi to plan your visit & follow @myhelsinki for beautiful pics of local hot spots! If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 4th episode of Private Parts Unknown—the 2nd in our Helsinki series—your favorite commuter companions, Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra, are thrilled to introduce you to dating & romance in the capital city of the happiest country in the world: Helsinki, Finland. We delve into the “classic Finnish” quirks that inform how they approach dating, romance & happiness, including their hatred of small talk, their pursuit of self-improvement in the name of efficiency & their collective island fantasy. We also learn about popular first dates in Helsinki, explore the recent phenomenon of Finnish women “importing” foreign men for relationships & struggle with the difference between being alone and being lonely. Thanks to the following people for lending us their voices & teaching us about their culture. Follow them on Instagram to find out more about their dope lives & businesses: Aino Pursiainen – @ainopr Pirjo Suhonen – @ivanahelsinki Hannu Virtanen – @lifeof2men Caroline Suinner – @carolinesuinner Elisabeth Rundlöf – @elisabeth.rundlof Emma Lumme – @jotainlainattua Minna Parikka – @minnaparikkashoes Cristal Snow – @iamcristalsnow (Also, go back and listen to our 1st Helsinki episode with Finnish therapist & relationship expert Tony Dunderfelt if you haven’t already!) This episode is brought to you by #MyHelsinkiResidence. Check out myhelsinki.fi to plan your visit & follow @myhelsinki for beautiful pics of local hot spots! If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 3rd episode of Private Parts Unknown—the 1st in our Helsinki series—your favorite commuter companions, Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra, are thrilled to welcome psychologist, author, relationship expert & on-set therapist for the Finnish version of Married at First Sight, Tony Dunderfelt. We couldn't be more excited to kick off our Helsinki series with a primer from Tony! He teaches us the 30-second rule, the six levels of sexuality, how to make sure all three suns of love (loving care, attraction & sexuality) are generating heat in your romance, tips for diagnosing your relationship rut & the difference between Finnish vs. American Married at First Sight. This episode is brought to you by #MyHelsinkiResidence. Check out myhelsinki.fi to plan your visit & follow @myhelsinki for beautiful pics of local hot spots! For more Tony Dunderfelt: Check out his website tonydunderfelt.com If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 2nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, your favorite commuter companions – Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra – are thrilled to welcome Samantha Allen, author of the new book Real Queer America: LGBT Stories from Red States, as well as Love & Estrogen, & senior reporter for The Daily Beast. First: Your bestie hosts are super excited to be back weekly, effective immediately. Our 1st Helsinki ep drops next week, so now we're looking ahead to upcoming destinations: namely, New York & Tokyo. In the meantime, we fell in love with Samantha Allen's new book, so we had to have her on the show. Then: Samantha gives us a tour of the thriving LGBT communities in Middle America she discovered on her six-week road trip, which was the basis of Real Queer America. She (& her delightful wife, Corey!) shares how Trump was an unintended source of inspiration for the book, why more letters of the LGBT acronym hang out together in rural areas vs. the cliquey-ness of many urban queer hot spots, the beautiful connections that can be borne out of oppression & opposition, the impact of Mormonism on her gender identity & how her & Corey's love story began in the Kinsey Institute bookstacks! For more Samantha Allen: Buy Real Queer America + Love & Estrogen Check out her website samanthaleighallen.com Follow her on Twitter @SLAwrites If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 1st ever episode of Private Parts Unknown, your favorite commuter companions – Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra – are honored to welcome the badass stripper-activists – Antonia Crane, Domino Rey & Naomi Amadeo – behind the newly-formed California Exotic Dancers Union, Soldiers of Pole. First: Your bestie hosts wax nostalgic about their recent trip to Helsinki, Finland. It was the best experience ever & we can't wait to share what we learned in future episodes, but for now, we just give you a lil taste. ;) Then: The Soldiers of Pole give us the scoop on their brand-spankin' new strippers' union, how they all met, the Dynamex California Supreme Court case that confirmed their classification as employees vs. independent contractors, their supportive Strip Talk series, the impact of SESTA/FOSTA, how the stigma & shame surrounding sex work complicates the unionization effort, reports of exploitation by club owners from the front lines: forged paychecks, contracts that force dancers to sign away their rights, bribery, intimidation, retaliation & other classic union-busting techniques, tips from Antonia's recent MEL Magazine article "A Regulars' Guide to What Happens When Your Favorite Strip Club Unionizes" & of course, info on tonight's Wildcat Strippers' Strike outside Crazy Girls Hollywood! ***SUPPORT THE CALIFORNIA EXOTIC DANCERS UNION, SOLDIERS OF POLE, FOR THEIR WILDCAT STRIKE TONIGHT, FRIDAY 2/22, FROM 9PM-12AM OUTSIDE OF CRAZY GIRLS IN HOLLYWOOD.*** For more Soldiers of Pole: website soldiersofpole.com Instagram @soldiers.of.pole, @antoniacrane, @dominoinla & @naomi_amadeo If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 31st episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome hilarious actress, improviser & comedian Laci Mosley. First: The triad reveals that this is the very last episode ever of Reality Bytes... BUT Courtney & Sofiya will be back by Valentine's Day with an all-new show: Private Parts Unknown, for which we'll be traveling to uncover stories of love & sexuality around the world. Our 1st stop is Helsinki, Finland! Since DFR is in Coupletown, population 2, he's going to be holding down the fort in LA & checking in occasionally as our male correspondent. Then: Laci has us in stitches as she explains how she knew it was time to leave NYC, the sad reality of colorism in LA dating, her penchant for scamming, the Fyre Festival documentaries, her dating app experiences on Bumble & Raya (where you at, Ben Affleck?!), her budding bisexuality, the eating ass trend, the single person’s fear that maybe there’s no one out there for them, Tyler Perry’s archetype of a strong black woman, Southern courtship, what’s going down in her DMs (P.S. it’s a little bit scary), the stage of singlehood where you fantasize whole romantic relationships with acquaintances, dating someone with the same name as her for material & why it's hard to decide if she wants to be half of a power couple or an alpha monolith with an adoring beta. For more Laci Mosley: See her perform at UCB LA – she's on Leroy for Harold Night & MAMA for Maude Night Follow her on Instagram @divalaci Follow her on Twitter @divalaci If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 30th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is down a Dave, but nonetheless thrilled to welcome Brittani Louise Taylor, YouTube star & author of the new book A Sucky Love Story: Overcoming Unhappily Ever After. First: Courtney & Sofiya reflect on their past experiences in toxic & abusive relationships. Then: Brittani delves into the real-life romance that inspired the book – meeting on Tinder, losing her virginity (in her early 30s), getting pregnant, navigating life as a new mom, winding up in debt & out $100K... then finding out her fiancé is a complete con artist. She emphasizes the importance of looking out for red flags & trusting your gut when things feel wrong. She also shares her advice on when & how to leave an abusive relationship, why it’s important to document instances of abuse, the insidiousness of mental & emotional abuse & how she discovered the deception of her (now former) partner & baby daddy. Plus, we loved her stories about finding strength in her mom & her adorable son Rex. For more Brittani Louise Taylor: Buy A Sucky Love Story: Overcoming Unhappily Ever After Check out her YouTube channel Follow her on Twitter @brittanitaylor Follow her on Instagram @brittanilouisetaylorpics If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 29th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome Rachel Sam Evans, Snarled senior content manager & host of Dark 5, as well as co-host of the Best of the Rest wrestling podcast. First: The triad is hella sprung on Rachel's conspiracy theory/pro-wrestling/satanism/masturbation energy/carnival vibe, so we just get right into the interview. Then: We get into Rachel's latest Instagram post of her beautiful ass, putting out BDE on IG, the benefits & drawbacks of thirst-trapping (there should only be benefits!), subtle ways women can be held back professionally because of social optics or a wife's jealousy, developing before her classmates, getting her period at age 9, her 1st time masturbating, the ring rat & chuckle fucker labels, her type (FREAKS, BABY!!!), her 1st job at Noise Haus, sneaking out of the house to have sex as teenager, her very cool mom who will 100% listen to the podcast (hi, Aunt Vicky!), tryna date French boys, comedians vs. wrestlers, the dope ass indie wrestling scene in Los Angeles, Satanism (it doesn't mean what you think it does) & how to perform your very own magick masturbation sigil. For more Rachel Evans: Watch her show Dark 5 on Snarled Listen to her podcast Best of the Rest Follow her on Instagram @rachelsamevans Follow her on Twitter @rachelsamevans If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 28th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – does their 1st foray into guestlessness (don't worry, we'll be back with a guest next ep!) to review the personal & professional strides each has made over the past year, along with some goals for 2019. Among the revelations: Dave (finally!) has a girlfriend, Sofiya gives her best surrogate update yet & Courtney's rejection resolution was a big success. We also talk about our favorite interviews of the season: Michael Feldman & Michael Rachlis, Reza Aslan & Jessica Jackley, Greg Behrendt & Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt, Ryan Singer, Ester Steinberg, Biniam Bizuneh, Jack O'Brien & Miles Gray of The Daily Zeitgeist... gah, all of our guests have been so amazing, it's really hard to choose! For more Reality Bytes: Follow Reality Bytes on Instagram @realitybytespod Follow Reality Bytes on Twitter @realitybytespod Like Reality Bytes on Facebook @realitybytespod Follow Courtney on Instagram @courtneykocak Follow Courtney on Twitter @courtneykocak Follow Sofiya on Instagram @thesofiya Follow Sofiya on Twitter @thesofiya Follow Dave on Instagram @ddranks Follow Dave on Twitter @saysdaverankin If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 27th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is down a Dave, but nonetheless thrilled to welcome Alexandra Fine, the co-founder & CEO of Dame Products, a Brooklyn-based sex toy company. First: Inspired by reading "5 Sex Trends You Totally Don't Have to Like (or Even Try!)" on Dame's aptly-titled blog "The Horizontal," Courtney & Sofiya unpack their personal preferences for five different sex trends – anal sex; threesomes, group sex, polyamory & other sorts of open relationships; intense stimulation (DOUBLE YES!!); shower sex; BDSM & heavy kink play. Then: Alex fills us in on Dame's origin story & her trajectory into the women's pleasure profession. We also talk about conversations surrounding sex in the workplace during the #MeToo movement when sex IS your business, sexual harassment vs. humans are innately sexual beings, advertising's gender bias, marriage, the necessary work of cultivating the erotic energy in a long-term relationship, our natural addiction to newness, nonmonogamy, terminology to better explain & explore modes of pleasure (orbiting, layering, edging & grounding – thanks OMGYes!) & the company's Kickstarter success. This episode is brought to you by Dame Products. Visit dameproducts.com & use code REALITY to save $10 off your order! For more Alex Fine: Follow Alex on Instagram @afinehuman Follow Alex on Twitter @afinehuman Follow Dame Products on Instagram @dameproducts Follow Dame Products on Twitter @dameproducts If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 26th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome the hosts of the Love in Limboland podcast Kudzi & Tiffany. First: The triad discusses our tendencies to stay friends with exes vs. banishing them to the dark side of the moon. We also talk about jealousy & the chillness that comes from being secure in your relationship. Then: We get into it with Kudzi & Tiffany about cultural differences between South Africa & the United States, the contrasting tone of race relations in both places, living in the bubble of Los Angeles, being work friends before starting their podcast, bringing a date to the holiday party gone wrong, Watergate: The Great Manners vs. Independent Woman Debate, who should pay for the 1st date, being bad a texting as a dating dealbreaker, how to keep the momentum going without wasting a ton of time texting, the importance of taking it offline as soon as possible, qualities they're each looking for in a potential partner, how long it takes to feel comfortable being vulnerable in a relationship, the riskiness of saying 'I love you' 1st, finding the right crazy-stable ratio in relationship dynamics, dating multiple people & their LA dating horror stories. For more Kudzi & Tiffany: Listen to their podcast Love in Limboland (Courtney's on the latest ep!) Follow Love in Limboland on Instagram @loveinlimboland Follow Kudzi on Instagram @iamkudzi Follow Tiffany on Instagram @tiffstips If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 25th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome standup comedian & host of the Me & Paranormal You podcast Ryan Singer to talk about his new comedy album Free Love (now available for free!!!). First: The triad talks about that super annoying phenomenon where neurotic people (aka us) will take a little offhand comment someone makes & blow it completely out-of-proportion in their minds. Then: Ryan shares why he calls his podcast a mindcast (thus inspiring us to start calling Reality Bytes a genitalcast), his experience with a lowkey STD called Molluscum (whaddya know, Dave's also had Molluscum!), how he's overcoming his fear of intimacy & abandonment issues, his foray into a serious relationship for the 1st time in seven years, how to stay friends with exes & former hookups, why our society's weird POV on male/female friendship is so wack, a hot tip for younger men, the difference between dark mystery vs. fun mystery, why The Notebook is actually a fucked up standard for romance, the real-life implications of depicting women characters as nagging bitches in film & TV, the dangerous impact of social media & dating apps on social skills when it comes to dating & relationships, exhibitionism as a kink & how he got kicked off Tinder. For more Ryan Singer: Download his comedy album Free Love (for free!) Listen to his podcast Me & Paranormal You Follow him on Twitter @rysing Follow him on Instagram @rysing If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 24th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome the hosts of the Almost 30 podcast Krista Williams & Lindsey Simcik. First: The triad got a very poignant, special message from a fan this week (thank YOU, you know who you are). We talk about feeling lost, the journey of finding oneself again, and the church of Cheryl Strayed (praise be!). Then: Krista & Lindsey share their most impactful Almost 30 interviews to date (hello, Dan Savage & John Wineland), a more sympathetic way to think about infidelity, what it's like to change at different rates within a relationship, the excitement & fear of having babies, the influence of their parents' relationships on their own, how they reframe sexual harassment & #MeToo-type situations without adding shame, the stifling effect of outrage culture, how they knew right away their connection was special, what it's like to work together & the keys to a successful partnership. This episode is brought to you by Ritual vitamins. Check out ritual.com/reality to try Ritual – happiness guaranteed, or your 1st month's on them! For more Krista Williams & Linsey Simcik: Listen to their podcast Almost 30 Follow Almost 30 on Instagram @almost30podcast Follow Krista on Instagram @hundredblog Follow Lindsey on Instagram @lindseysimcik If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 23rd episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome Jenna Birch, author of The Love Gap: A Radical Plan to Win in Life and Love & co-founder/CEO of the new dating app Plum, which launches December 1st. First: The triad raves about the Doc Johnson factory tour, including meeting their Leonardo da Vinci of dildos, artist Anjani Siddhartha. Courtney & Sofiya share how fun it was to get their pussies molded, while Dave "Sad Dick" Rankin relives one of his top 3 most awkward moments – aka the erotic horror story of getting his penis molded – & reveals his unsuccessful "Big Dick Daddy" self-talk. Then: Jenna explains the impetus for her book, the interview process involved in its writing, the definition of "End Goal" woman & the types of men she's likely to encounter in the dating pool, the correlation between feminism & hypermasculinity, her relationship status & the unique features of her new dating app Plum (download it on December 1st!!!). Plus, Dave shares his San Diego theory. For more Jenna Birch: Read The Love Gap: A Radical Plan to Win in Life and Love Download the Plum dating app Follow her on Twitter @jennabirch Follow her on Instagram @jennabirch If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 22th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome the hosts of the HowStuffWorks podcast The Daily Zeitgeist Jack O'Brien (who also co-founded Cracked.com) & Miles Gray to talk becoming a dad & finally being with someone who challenges you, respectively. First: The triad gives a glowing review of the "Beastie Boys Book: Live & Direct" tour, Dave fills us in on his new apartment & we talk about sleepover expectations for hookups vs. relationships. Then: The Daily Zeitgeist fellas go deep with us about Jack proposing to his now wife, their wedding announcement rejection from The New York Times, how having kids has deepened their relationship, the ways fatherhood has changed him, the growth Miles has unlocked by being with a partner who challenges him, talking to his mom about #MeToo, his days in a rap group with Shia LaBeouf (!!!), the importance of being true to yourself in a relationship, the intangible effects of your parents staying together vs. splitting, the concept of "the one" & the derivatives of tech-induced loneliness (cuddle parties, sugar babies, podcast communities, etc.). Plus, Miles busts a rhyme! This episode is brought to you by Solmar Hotels & Resorts. Check out solmar.com for booking & more information! For more Jack O'Brien & Miles Gray: Listen to their podcast The Daily Zeitgeist Follow Jack on Twitter @jack_obrien Follow Miles on Twitter @milesofgray If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 21st episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome power couple Reza Aslan (religion scholar & author of God, Zealot & more) & Jessica Jackley (co-founder of microlending company Kiva.org & author of Clay Water Brick). First: The triad talks about women still being defined by their attachment to a man despite advances in gender equality & the decision whether or not to change your last name. Then: Reza & Jessica open up about being introduced via email, their TED Talk "Higher Love," raising boys with consent culture, challenging previous relationships, serial monogamy, dating after a sexless relationship, sowing wild oats, Reza's 1st three trigger-happy engagements, Jessica's post-divorce Eat Pray Love phase, realizing they wanted to commit to each other, getting pregnant right away, their surprise wedding (to the 3rd power), marriage counseling, being an interfaith couple, fostering a multifaith family, the distinction between religion & faith, traveling around the world with their kids & how they talk to their kids about sex & sexuality (hot tip: get the book It's So Amazing! by Robie H. Harris to start the conversation). This episode is brought to you by Solmar Hotels & Resorts. Check out solmar.com for booking & more information! For more Reza Aslan & Jessica Jackley: Watch their TED Talk "Higher Love" Read their blog Around the World in 80-ish Days Check out Reza's website Check out Jessica's website Follow Reza on Twitter @rezaslan Follow Jessica on Twitter @jessicajackley If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 20th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome Delanie Fischer, co-host of The Self-Helpless Podcast & founder/CEO of Dicks by Delanie. First: Courtney & Sofiya check in on the blowjob challenge. Dave is blown away by their updates! We also talk about going to bed at the same time as your partner. Then: Delanie does a deep dive with us on finding her way into a happy relationship after being single for a long time, her hit podcast’s origin story, favorite podcast moments including interviewing Brian Regan (the nicest comedian ever), her fuckboy days, turning a hookup into a LTR, her self-help journey, being really in love for the first time, moving in together, getting comfortable, growing up in Simi Valley, being homeschooled during high school & having older friends, her party days, starting standup, then realizing she wanted to quit, the awkwardness of a career identity shift, limiting beliefs about work & money, quitting her corporate job to draw dicks full-time, her art aspirations coming full circle, masturbating with her #1 favorite sex toy the Hitachi Magic Wand, Whiskey clit, landing a numbers guy from the Midwest & deciding whether or not to have kids. This episode is brought to you by Ritual vitamins. Check out ritual.com/reality to try Ritual – happiness guaranteed, or your 1st month's on them! For more Delanie Fischer: Listen to The Self-Helpless Podcast Order a personalized penis mug from Dicks by Delanie Follow her on Instagram @delaniefischer Follow her on Twitter @DelanieFischer If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 19th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome Tito Bonito, aka "the Cuban Missile Crisis of burlesque," a male burlesque performer & hilarious emcee. First: The triad talks about their stripper fantasies, nude work experience & shared obsession with 80s masterpiece Dirty Dancing – plus pay homage to Jennifer Grey's original nose. Then: Tito spills the tea about the burlesque scene in LA & across the United States, how dropping out of Columbia College led to trying drag for the 1st time, why drag wasn't his thing, finding his voice in burlesque, playing with masculinity & femininity on stage, consent as it applies to crowd work, the difference between the comedy in standup and burlesque, audience feedback, flirting with straight guys after shows, his favorite costumes including Batman's Robin, a boy scout & his "problematic" Elián González character, when he realized he was gay, coming out to his Cuban family, his relationship status (hint: single AF), being demisexual, his type & the joys of having of a prostate. For more Tito Bonito: Check out his website Follow him on Instagram @cubanmissilecrisis Follow him on Twitter @TitoBonito If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 18th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome writer & comedian Travon Free. First: The triad talks about the spectrum of sexuality, that we're all a little gay & how male bisexuality is discouraged in our culture. Then: Travon waxes poetic & hilarious about the unnecessary sexualization of the term bisexual, his new series in development with Issa Rae & HBO called Him or Her, what it's like to be the Jackie Robinson of bi guys in Hollywood, the bi double standard: why is it okay or encouraged for women, but not for men?, the fact that a lot of straight male culture is actually pretty gay, the book Not Gay by Jane Ward, publically coming out via a blog post in 2011, the changing media landscape in terms of LGBTQ+ issues, the slower shift towards acceptance in less liberal communities, gay-straight alliances in high school, the invisible B, leaning into your partner’s identity, his first relationship with a man which inspired him to come out to his family and pursue TV writing, landing his 1st big job on The Daily Show, staying friends with exes, religion & sexuality, coining the term "bignostic" for bisexuals' natural tendency to be agnostic & his type. For more Travon Free: Follow him on Twitter @Travon Follow him on Instagram @Travon If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 17th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome senior editor & Playboy Advisor Anna del Gaizo. First: Sofiya challenges Courtney to a 7-day blowjob challenge to prove who's the most "not like other girls." Then: Anna spills the tea about how New York City kids grow up fast, her high school drug dealer, practicalities of the female condom (hint: not recommended unless your life is on the line), why Chlamydia is NBD, attending the AVN Awards, queefing v. farting, insecurities around sex, falling in love with Gia at the Spearmint Rhino, her current relationship status, Playboy parties, Connor Hefner assuming Hef's throne & posing for Playmate of the Month as a source of female empowerment. REMINDER: DOC JOHNSON GIVEAWAYS ALL WEEK – watch our IG @realitybytespod to enter! For more Anna del Gaizo: Read her Playboy Advisor column Follow her on Instagram @thisannaisbananas Follow her on Twitter @AnnaDelGaizo If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 16th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome Chad Braverman (COO & Chief Creative Officer) & Erica Braverman (Head of Communications & Consumer Marketing) from Doc Johnson, a Los Angeles-based manufacturer of pleasure products. This brother-sister duo run the largest sex toy company in the world with their dad Ron Braverman, who co-founded Doc Johnson in 1976. First: Dave gives us the 411 on his 1st sex toy experience (with the Mood Thrill ULTRASKYN stroker) & an update on his relationship status with pizza, Courtney shares a mortifying story about masturbating in a CVS parking lot, Sofiya & Courtney give their iWand testimonials & talk about being #MasturbationTwins. PLUS, DOC JOHNSON GIVEAWAYS ALL WEEK – watch our IG @realitybytespod to enter! Then: Chad & Erica tell us how their dad hid the truth about family business when they were kids, how they finally figured it out, what it was like to grow up in a sex-positive bubble, the shifting cultural conversation surrounding sex, Sex in the City making vibrators mainstream, each person's individual sexual fingerprint, how they assess "holes" in the market at Doc Johnson, the biggest cocks they make (but rest assured, their sales indicate women actually prefer average dicks!), Doc Johnson's 50 Shades of Grey-inspired bondage collaboration with BDSM fetish site kink.com, Chad's c-ring triumph with the OptiMALE line, Erica's success in spreading the good vibes among major publications & what it's like to talk about sex in the boardroom. For more Doc Johnson: Shop for your next sex toy on their website Follow them on Instagram @docjohnsonusa Follow them on Twitter @TheOriginalDoc If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 15th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome Michael Feldman & Michael Rachlis to chat about their web series inspired by their real-life relationship, Michael And Michael Are Gay. We delve into their meet-cute on the dance floor at The Abbey in West Hollywood, Rachlis' boyfriends (plural) at the time, being a late bloomer, going down on girls in high school, realizing you're gay & coming out in one fell swoop, a casting couch true story, musical theater-loving Jewish dads, coming out to their dads first, the proposal, their Michael-themed wedding, the lowdown on Burning Man sex, the evolving rules of their open relationship, dealing with jealousy, the danger of hooking up with friends & Feldman's love of happy endings – plus Sofiya gives a SURROGATE UPDATE! For more Michael Feldman & Michael Rachlis: Watch Michael And Michael Are Gay on YouTube Follow Feldman on Instagram @michaeljfeldman Follow Rachlis on Instagram @michaelrachlis Follow their joint Instagram @x2michaels Go to Feldman's demented Fairy Tale Theatre: 18 & Over whenever you get the chance! If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 14th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome Emma Koenig to fill us in on her latest book, Moan: Anonymous Essays on Female Orgasm (foreword by Rachel Bloom!). We dig into the anthology's origin story as a popular blog entitled How to Make Me Come, the blog-to-book publishing strategy, her approach as a "fan of sex" vs. an expert, contradictions among the spectrum of sexuality, childhood shame surrounding public masturbation (fair enough), meeting her boyfriend as soon as she finished the book & tips for anyone who wants to better communicate with their partner(s) about how to get them off – plus Emma issues a listener challenge. Also, DFR shares an update on his depression journey & the squad raves about the benefits of journaling. This episode is brought to you by Ritual vitamins. Check out ritual.com/reality to try Ritual – happiness guaranteed, or your 1st month's on them! For more Emma Koenig: Order Moan: Anonymous Essays on Female Orgasm Follow her on Twitter @emjuko Follow her on Instagram @emjuko If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 13th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome the hosts of the HowStuffWorks podcast Ethnically Ambiguous Anna Hossnieh & Shereen Lani Younes to talk about the complexities of growing up with Iranian-American & Syrian-American identities (respectively). We go deep into what it’s like to grow up with strict, immigrant parents, the inexplicable ways of Anna’s Zumba instructor cousin, Anna meeting her surfer bro boyfriend at Meltdown Comics, IRL implications of the travel ban, tattoos, coming out, what NOT to say to someone during a breakup, what’s up with exes who still watch your IG stories (!!!), the temptation to rewrite history after things end badly, Arabic analogies for explaining sex to kids, putting virginity on a pedestal, parents around the world just don’t understand, covering your hair, gender-based power inequities in the Middle East & crying while tripping – plus, our reaction to the Blasey Ford/Kavanaugh hearing (literally day of). This episode is brought to you by Motorbunny. Visit motorbunny.com & use code REALITY to save $50 on either the starter kit or the Motorbunny LINK bundle. For more Anna & Shereen: Listen to their podcast Ethnically Ambiguous Follow Anna on Twitter @annahossnieh Follow Shereen on Twitter @shereenwhy If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 12th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome two guests. First, sociologist & author of Exposure: A Sociologist Explores Sex, Society, and Adult Entertainment Dr. Chauntelle Tibbals unpacks the invisible economic discrimination against sex workers & how Motorbunny took ride-along sex saddles from niche to accessible. Then humor writer & essayist Riane Konc joins us from the Midwest (Cincinnati, Ohio to be exact)! She tells the hilarious, tortured tale of meeting her now-husband at age 13, recognizing she would want to be with him someday, but NOT wanting to date him yet – thus leading to a decade-long rejection before they got married & had a kid. We also talk about attending a small religious college, how to evade income tax by having 12 kids, using God as a manipulation strategy, LiveJournal for poets, pregnancy, baby colic, star-based poems, hormones, depression, advice she would give her younger self prior to having a child, her New Yorker Shouts & Murmurs piece "How to Dismiss Harassment Like a French Woman," what it's like when French Twitter comes for you & a friendly reminder that this too shall pass (& we'll all be dead soon) – plus the crew chats fuck machines. This episode is brought to you by Motorbunny. Visit motorbunny.com & use code REALITY to save $50 on either the starter kit or the Motorbunny LINK bundle. For more Dr. Chauntelle Tibbals: Order Exposure: A Sociologist Explores Sex, Society, and Adult Entertainment Follow Dr. Chauntelle on Twitter @DrChauntelle Check out her website For more Riane Konc: Follow Riane on Twitter @theillustrious Follow Riane on Instagram @the_illustrious Check out her website Read "How to Dismiss Harassment Like a French Woman" If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 11th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome standup comedian, writer & Queery podcast producer Sierra Katow to talk about her college relationship blossoming into adulthood. We also chat about her starting standup in high school, party culture at Harvard, her season on Last Comic Standing, turn-ons, tips for keeping the peace & post #MeToo comedy comebacks – plus Courtney & Sofiya rant about the dismissive responsive to Dr. Chistine Blasey Ford's allegations against Judge Brett Kavanaugh & the ugly fact that our society doesn't believe women (while DFR supports them like a good ally). This episode is brought to you by Ritual vitamins. Check out ritual.com/reality to try Ritual – happiness guaranteed, or your 1st month's on them! For more Sierra Katow: Follow her on Instagram @sierrakatow Follow her on Twitter @sierrakatow Sign up for her newsletter! If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 10th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome actor, writer & creator of Comedy Central's How to Be Broke Biniam Bizuneh to give us tips on broke dating. We chop it up about gender parity in paying for dates, feminism's financial double standard, disposability in modern romance, love languages, practice relationships, defense mechanisms, the spark v. making a choice to fall in love, not wanting to date other comedians, unironic Jack Johnson fandom & what Biniam finds attractive – plus DFR dishes on his Jumbo's Clown Room date(?) & Sofiya gives a surrogate update. For more Biniam Bizuneh: Watch How to Be Broke on YouTube Follow him on Twitter @biniambiz Follow him on Instagram @biniambiz If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 9th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome standup comedians, internet personalities & married couple Adrienne Airhart & Aristotle Georgeson to give us the download on their relationship built on the crucial compatibilities of sex, drugs & rock n' roll. We also chat about their comedy club meet cute, Adrienne getting arrested the night they met, fucking on the 1st date, Aristotle's ad agency days, moving out to LA together, Twitter in the age of Trump, taking a step back from social media, deciding to get married post-ayahuasca trip, the most chill wedding ever, roasting each other in their vows, not wanting kids, quitting weed & why their relationship works – plus the crew shares updates on their friend Stacey's wedding, DFR's prostate, Sofiya's surrogate (fingers crossed!) & Courtney's thirst trapping. This episode is brought to you by Motorbunny. Visit motorbunny.com & use code REALITY to save $50 on either the starter kit or the Motorbunny LINK bundle. For more Adrienne Airhart & Aristotle Georgeson: Follow Adrienne on Twitter @craydrienne Follow Adrienne on Instagram @craydrienne Follow Aristotle on Twitter @BlakeVapes Follow Aristotle on Instagram @bottleofstotle Follow Aristotle's Blake Webber account on Instagram @blakewebber If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 8th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome standup comedian & star of Oxygen’s Funny Girls Ester Steinberg to give us the 411 on her foray into polyamory, which (spoiler!) didn't work out because now she's monogamous, engaged & writing a romcom about the whole ordeal. We get into how Ester wore her now-fiancée down, her giant fucking engagement ring, their podcast meet cute, their attempt at an open relationship, The Ethical Slut, her musician side piece, why previous guest Nicole Aimée Schreiber deserves the good friend award, what's it like when your partner is uber-successful in a similar field, WGA health insurance, infatuation, orgasms, cumming with intention, manifesting her 1st commercial, moms who party & Cheryl Strayed's amazing Dear Sugar column "The Ghost Ship That Didn't Carry Us" – plus Sofiya shares a surrogate update. This episode is brought to you by Ritual vitamins. Check out ritual.com/reality to try Ritual – happiness guaranteed, or your 1st month's on them! For more Ester Steinberg: Check out her website Follow her on Twitter @EsterKay Follow her on Instagram @ester.steinberg If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 7th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome comedian, writer & host of the Nerdificent podcast Dani Fernandez to get nerdy with us about all things sex, relationships & dating. This episode opens with a MUST-LISTEN story about Dave's virgin butt getting turned out by Dr. Alvaredo during his 1st prostate exam (spoiler: he liked it like a lot!), plus we talk about eating ass and butt sex in general, as well as issue a Man School song apology to Dave's sister (who happens to be a long-time listener – we love you, Deb!). Then we GET. INTO. IT. with mega babe Dani (trust us, you're gonna want to peep her IG) about losing her virginity in the OC, how sexy women are perceived in comedy, being too sexually eager as a turn-off, marrying her college sweetheart at age 24, getting divorced a year later, preserving her amazing wedding pics in the best way possible, dating in the entertainment industry, her last long-term relationship, the loneliness of breakups, what it's like to live with chronic illness, porn search history & our backstory/dialogue preferences. For more Dani Fernandez: Listen to her podcast Nerdificent Follow her on Twitter @msdanifernandez Follow her on Instagram @msdanifernandez If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 6th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome creator of the viral Instagram account @byefelipe & host of the V Single podcast Alexandra Tweten to discuss her new book Bye Felipe: Disses, Dick Pics, and Other Delights of Modern Dating. We get into how she started the account, reflect on her (& Dave's!) decade of dating in LA, the hilarious fact that hookups are DM-ing her to see if they’re in the book, the relationship status of being monogamous with your career, the phenomenon of forgetting you went on a date with someone when you run into them later, a review of the Field app (formerly Thrinder), Alexandra's discerning dating style, the legend of Ryan, dudes who like to be humiliated about their small dick size (get at us, we wanna talk to you!!), what constitutes a good date, tips for men & women trying to date on the Internet, Google reserve image search & the story of Dave getting catfished by a “London DJ.” For more Alexandra Tweten: Order Bye Felipe THE BOOK!!! Listen to her podcast V Single Follow @byefelipe on Instagram Follow @alexandratweten on Instagram If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 5th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome comedian & Grindr meme god Zach Noe Towers to discuss his new LGBTQ standup special OUT on Stage. We chat about Zach's (& Dave's!) high school a cappella group, being such a dreamboat he had a legit fan club, his type, his transition from twink to otter, gay nomenclature, dating on Grindr, the obsession with masculinity & repressed misogyny & homophobia within the gay community, little v. big spoon preference, choosing career over a relationship, the effect of seeing monogamy modeled successfully & sugar baby fantasies – plus we talk about trying to find personal space when you live with your partner in a tiny apartment. This episode is brought to you by Ritual vitamins. Check out ritual.com/reality to try Ritual – happiness guaranteed, or your 1st month's on them! For more Zach Noe Towers: Check out his website Follow him on Twitter @ZachNoeTowers Follow him on Instagram @zachnoetowers If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 4th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome comedian & chanteuse Scout Durwood to chat about her new musical comedy album Take One Thing Off. Our conversation runs the gamut, touching on topics including: the history of burlesque, Dita Von Teese, solving a 6-year mystery for Dave, testing your sexuality, lesbian clothes swapping, body shaming your partner (don't do it!), the correlation between homosexuality & intelligence, pansexuality as a universe baseline, breakups, learning to let go, turning heartbreak into art, the lost art of setting up single friends, marriage, monogamy & acknowledging that most relationships end – plus Sofiya fills us in on their search for a surrogate. For more Scout Durwood: Buy her album Take One Thing Off Watch her in our trailer for The Clapback Follow her on Twitter @scoutdurwood Follow her on Instagram @scoutdurwood If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices