Private Parts Unknown: Sex & Love Around the World

For the 41st episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra drop the 4th episode of our "Comedians of OnlyFans" series, featuring comedian & podcaster Nika Lomazzo. She's a self-confessed former political candidate with a coke problem from Rhode Island, now based in NYC & she's so fucking funny. She also brings the trans perspective. Out-of-work comedians have been flocking to OnlyFans to help pay their bills during the coronavirus pandemic. This series explores the intersection of comedy, sex work & COVID-19. For more Nika Lomazzo: Subscribe to Nika's OnlyFans onlyfans.com/nikazhara Follow Nika on Twitter @NikaLomazzo Follow Nika on Instagram @nikalomazzo Check out Nika's Best Mistakes podcast with her bestie Anya Volz (who happens to be last week's guest) Psst, Courtney has an OnlyFans too: onlyfans.com/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Lorals are the world's first oral sex panties; they're single-use natural latex panties designed to be worn during oral sex and rimming. Get 15% off your first Lorals purchase at mylorals.com with code Private. Valentine Couples Box: Like A Kitten is offering our listeners 20% off AND free shipping when you go to LikeAKitten.com/Private OR enter code Private at checkout. Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown & Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with hosts Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak & Sofiya @thesofiya on Instagram & Twitter. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 40th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra drop the 3rd episode of our "Comedians of OnlyFans" series, featuring NYC-based comedian, podcaster & nonbinary bad bitch (pronouns: she/her/her highness). And hail to the queen because she's currently in the top 1.3% of OnlyFans creators. Out-of-work comedians have been flocking to OnlyFans to help pay their bills during the coronavirus pandemic. This series explores the intersection of comedy, sex work & COVID-19. For more Anya Volz: Follow Anya on Twitter @anyavolz Follow Anya on Instagram @anyavolz Check out Anya's Best Mistakes podcast with her bestie Nika Lomazzo Psst, Courtney has an OnlyFans too: onlyfans.com/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Sakara is a wellness company rooted in the transformative power of plant-based food. Sakara is offering our listeners 20% off their first order when they go to Sakara.com/PRIVATE or enter code PRIVATE at checkout. Dipsea is an audio erotica app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions designed to turn you on. Dipsea is offering a 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/private. Intensity by Pour Moi is an intimate health and stimulation device. Pour Moi is offering our listeners an additional $25 off of Intensity when you go to PourMoi.com and enter code Private at checkout. You can use this code along with any code on their website. Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown & Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with hosts Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak & Sofiya @thesofiya on Instagram & Twitter. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 39th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra drop the 2nd episode of our "Comedians of OnlyFans" series, featuring Los Angeles-based comedian, cannabis pro & linguistics expert Adrienne Airhart, who happens to be crushing it in the top 1% of OnlyFans creators! Out-of-work comedians have been flocking to OnlyFans to help pay their bills during the coronavirus pandemic. This series explores the intersection of comedy, sex work & COVID-19. For more Adrienne Airhart: Subscribe to Adrienne... er, CRAYdrienne's OnlyFans onlyfans.com/craydrienne Follow Adrienne on Twitter @craydrienne Follow Adrienne on Instagram @craydrienne Check out Adrienne's website craydrienne.com Psst, Courtney has an OnlyFans too: onlyfans.com/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Lorals are the world's first oral sex panties; they're single-use natural latex panties designed to be worn during oral sex and rimming. Get 15% off your first Lorals purchase at mylorals.com with code Private. Dipsea is an audio erotica app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions designed to turn you on. Dipsea is offering a 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/private. Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown & Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with hosts Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak & Sofiya @thesofiya on Instagram & Twitter. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 38th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra drop the 1st episode of our "Comedians of OnlyFans" series, featuring Atlanta-based comedian & musician Samm Severin (aka Janet Television). Out-of-work comedians have been flocking to OnlyFans to help pay their bills during the coronavirus pandemic. This series explores the intersection of comedy, sex work & COVID-19. For more Samm Severin: Subscribe to Samm... er, Janet's OnlyFans onlyfans.com/janettelevision Check out Samm's comedy EP Stoned and Sad on Spotify Follow Samm on Twitter @waitressboner Follow Samm on Instagram @tvfan420 Follow Janet Television on Twitter @JanetTelevision Psst, Courtney has an OnlyFans too: onlyfans.com/cocopeepshow Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Trivia Star is a FREE mobile quiz game that’s entertaining and challenging. Trivia Star is offering 2,500 coins and 500 gems when you download and play. Just go to the Apple or Google store and search for Trivia Star. Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown & Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with hosts Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak & Sofiya @thesofiya on Instagram & Twitter. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 37th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra take you back to Helsinki for a previously unreleased episode about being out & proud in Finland. We explore how American & Finnish romance differ, Cristal's experience dating in NYC (aka the original Carrie Bradshaw), the linguistic connotations of dating vs. coffee in Helsinki, the lack of Finnish gay icons, being a queer role model, the importance of living an honest and liberated life, Hannu's experience coming out late in life (after 25 years of marriage & 3 kids), reactions from family, parents & children, being half of the 1st gay couple to get married in Finland, leaving the closet doesn’t mean automatic happiness, being honest about who you are yields rewards even if it seems risky, how to foster diversity in travel, why everybody should be celebrated not tolerated, why not "making a fuss" about being gay is dangerous & the feeling we want all straight men to have — plus, updates from Hannu & Caroline! Thanks to the following people for lending us their voices & teaching us about their culture. Follow them on Instagram to learn more about them & their work: Cristal Snow – @iamcristalsnow Hannu Virtanen – @lifeof2men Caroline Suinner – @carolinesuinner Also, go back and listen to the 1st four episodes in our Helsinki series if you haven’t already, including our companion episode: Gay Marriage in a Baby Gay Country. Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Trivia Star is a FREE mobile quiz game that’s entertaining and challenging. Trivia Star is offering 2,500 coins and 500 gems when you download and play. Just go to the Apple or Google store and search for Trivia Star. Dipsea is an audio erotica app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions designed to turn you on. Dipsea is offering a 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/private. Sakara is a wellness company rooted in the transformative power of plant-based food. Sakara is offering our listeners 20% off their first order when they go to Sakara.com/PRIVATE or enter code PRIVATE at checkout. Intensity by Pour Moi is an intimate health and stimulation device. Pour Moi is offering our listeners an additional $25 off of Intensity when you go to PourMoi.com and enter code Private at checkout. You can use this code along with any code on their website. #MyHelsinkiResidence creator residence program hosted our stay in Helsinki. Check out myhelsinki.fi to plan your visit & follow @myhelsinki for beautiful pics of local hot spots! Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown & Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with hosts Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak & Sofiya @thesofiya on Instagram & Twitter. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 36th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra take you back to Helsinki for a previously unreleased episode about the legalization of gay marriage in Finland & how that's impacted the lives of queer residents. We cover the overwhelming response to the initial petition, the recent history of how the law passed, a classically Finnish wedding proposal, coming out later in life, what it was like to be the 1st same-sex couple to get married in Finland, the legislation's impact on LGBT+ acceptance & more! Thanks to the following people for lending us their voices & teaching us about their culture. Follow them on Instagram to learn more about them & their work: Aino Pursiainen – @ainopr Hannu Virtanen – @lifeof2men Caroline Suinner – @carolinesuinner (Also, go back and listen to the 1st three episodes in our Helsinki series if you haven’t already!) Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Trivia Star is a FREE mobile quiz game that’s entertaining and challenging. Trivia Star is offering 2,500 coins and 500 gems when you download and play. Just go to the Apple or Google store and search for Trivia Star. Pour Moi is offering our listeners an additional $25 off of Intensity when you go to PourMoi.com and enter code Private at checkout. You can use this code along with any code on their website. https://www.pourmoi.com/ref/Private/ #MyHelsinkiResidence creator residence program hosted our stay in Helsinki. Check out myhelsinki.fi to plan your visit & follow @myhelsinki for beautiful pics of local hot spots! Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown & Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with hosts Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak & Sofiya @thesofiya on Instagram & Twitter. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 35th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra share our favorite sex toys & pleasure products for this holiday season to either get yourself off, give the gift of pleasure, OR BOTH! Curvy 1+, Curvy 2+, Curvy 3+, Double Joy, Love Triangle, and Royal One: Satisyfer is offering our lucky listeners 40% off (THEY INCREASED THE DISCOUNT!) & free shipping for all app-enabled devices when you go to Satisfyer.com & enter code Private40 at checkout. Ultra Bullet and Booster Rabbit: You can get 20% off of our favorite FemmeFunn products when you go to FemmeFunn.com/Private AND enter code Private at checkout. Naughty or Nice Box: Like A Kitten is offering our listeners 20% off AND free shipping when you go to LikeAKitten.com/Private OR enter code Private at checkout. Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode was brought to you by our sponsors, but we tested the products & the endorsements we gave were our honest opinions. Let’s be friends on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown & Twitter @privatepartsun. Connect with hosts Courtney Kocak @courtneykocak & Sofiya @thesofiya on Instagram & Twitter. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 34th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra welcome comedy writer Georgia Shenk for a special COVID-19 breakup story. Georgia shares her experience consciously uncoupling with her ex-boyfriend while living together during the 'rona lockdown... plus, reconnecting with someone from her past. This touching & hilarious pandemic tale has it all! For more Georgia Shenk: Follow Georgia on Twitter @GeorgiaShenk Follow Georgia on Instagram @georgiashenk Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Trivia Star is a FREE mobile quiz game that’s entertaining and challenging. Trivia Star is offering 2,500 coins and 500 gems when you download and play. Just go to the Apple or Google store and search for Trivia Star. Pour Moi is offering our listeners an additional $25 off of Intensity when you go to PourMoi.com and enter code Private at checkout. You can use this code along with any code on their website. https://www.pourmoi.com/ref/Private/ We want to connect with you on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown & Twitter @privatepartsun. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 33rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra speak to an Ashley Madison member going by the alias of "Nikki" & do a deep dive into why women cheat. We also chat with Ashley Madison's Chief Strategy Officer Paul Keable, as well as their Communications Director Isabella Mise, who coauthored "The Good Wife Study" on female infidelity. You're gonna want to check your presumptions at the door for this one! Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Intensity by Pour Moi is an intimate health and stimulation device. Pour Moi is offering our listeners an additional $25 off of Intensity when you go to PourMoi.com and enter code Private at checkout. You can use this code along with any code on their website. Dipsea is an audio erotica app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions designed to turn you on. Dipsea is offering a 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/private. We want to connect with you on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown & Twitter @privatepartsun. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 32nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra welcome standup comedian & artist Greg Edwards for an interesting look at his redline art series. We dig into the inspiration for his series & the conversations that have come from it, the reality of racist lending practices, if you eat pussy you're on the right side of history, interracial dating & how you can scar little kids with grownup prejudice, why listening is the key to being a better ally & more. For more Greg Edwards: Check out Greg's art website gregedwardsart.com Follow Greg on Twitter @GregtheGrouch Follow Greg on Instagram @gregcomedy Check out Greg's comedy website gregcomedy.com Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Dipsea is an audio erotica app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions designed to turn you on. Dipsea is offering a 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/private. Trivia Star is a FREE mobile quiz game that’s entertaining and challenging. Trivia Star is offering 2,500 coins and 500 gems when you download and play. Just go to the Apple or Google store and search for Trivia Star. We want to connect with you on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown & Twitter @privatepartsun. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 31st episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra welcome writer/podcaster/activist/sex worker extraordinaire Selena the Stripper for a primer on how racism operates at your local strip club. We explore the nuances of discrimination within sex work (i.e. how racism works at strip clubs vs. racism in escorting), the complexities of labor organizing within the sex industry, being a sex worker & also a sex client, the coded search terms women seeking happy ending massages need to know (pelvic work, yoni massage, tantric work, etc.), a hot tip for screening your happy ending masseuse, erotic massage as a way to heal sexual trauma, how powerful it is for femmes to command their own sexual pleasure, Selena's experience with interracial dating, how to be a better ally & more. For more Selena the Stripper: Follow Selena on Instagram @prettyboygirl Listen to the Heaux in the Kneaux podcast Subscribe to Selena's Patreon /therealprettyboygirl Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Dipsea is an audio erotica app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions designed to turn you on. Dipsea is offering a 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/private. Trivia Star is a FREE mobile quiz game that’s entertaining and challenging. Trivia Star is offering 2,500 coins and 500 gems when you download and play. Just go to the Apple or Google store and search for Trivia Star. We want to connect with you on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown & Twitter @privatepartsun. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 30th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra welcome podcaster Miles Gray for a funny & empowering conversation about how you can participate in the anti-racist movement of liberation in small ways that actually have a big impact. We dig into the power of language & word choice, if you see or hear something racist, say something, leveraging your privilege for good, the definition of white privilege: choosing comfort over conflict at the expense of others, the problematic Michael Scott mentality, The Office as a metaphor for how white supremacy works, the harrowing story of J Dilla making his Donuts album, sampling as a Black art form & what makes sample-based music so dope, what Miles has learned from dating white women, the importance of empathy in dismantling systemic racism & more. For more Miles Gray: Listen to The Daily Zeitgeist podcast Listen to 420 Day Fiance Follow Miles on Twitter @milesofgray Follow Miles on Instagram @milesofgray Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Dipsea is an audio erotica app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions designed to turn you on. Dipsea is offering a 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/private. Trivia Star is a FREE mobile quiz game that’s entertaining and challenging. Trivia Star is offering 2,500 coins and 500 gems when you download and play. Just go to the Apple or Google store and search for Trivia Star. We want to connect with you on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown & Twitter @privatepartsun. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 29th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra welcome actor, comedian & podcaster Jacquis Neal for a briefing on the way racism works at your favorite improv theater, probably. We explore the systemic racism built into even well-intentioned institutions like UCB, the extra hurdles you have to clear as a Black improviser, the reality that a good artist doesn't necessarily make for a good business person (or coach), the brilliance of the TV show Martin, roasting as an important part of Black culture, the complicated perceptions of interracial relationships, why someone needs to make a "Google is free" t-shirt & more. For more Jacquis Neal: Listen to the Culture Kings podcast Follow Jacquis on Twitter @jacquisneal Follow Jacquis on Instagram @jacquisneal Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Dipsea is an audio erotica app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions designed to turn you on. Dipsea is offering a 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/private. We want to connect with you on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown & Twitter @privatepartsun. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 28th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra welcome comedian & writer Ashley Ray for some lowkey Seven Mountains/Life Goals University CHURCH about why you shouldn't give your money to Shaun King — plus, what to do instead! We also discuss scammers more broadly, OG pegging (pre-Broad City), leading her school's GSA, Big Lesbian Organizer Energy, her mom coming out in her 60s, founding the FB group Hoe Summer, the genius of Michaela Coel's I May Destroy You, Beyoncé's Lemonade as a love letter to Black women & so much more. For more Ashley Ray: Subscribe to Ashley's Patreon for the full Shaun King PowerPoint patreon.com/theashleyray Read Ashley's "I'm Not Going To Let You Cancel Jessica Kirson" ashleyray.substack.com Follow Ashley on Twitter @theashleyray Follow Ashley on Instagram @theashleyray Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Dipsea is an audio erotica app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions designed to turn you on. Dipsea is offering a 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/private. Manscaped, #1 in men’s below the belt grooming. Manscaped offers precision-engineered tools for you or your man’s family jewels. Get 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code PRIVATE at Manscaped.com. We want to connect with you on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown & Twitter @privatepartsun. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 27th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra welcome poet & professor Bridgette Bianca for a celebration of Black art & endurance. We dig into her process as a poet, the power of repetition, the going beyond the inspiration of Langston Hughes, the importance of having intraracial conversations (as well as interracial conversations), the sad hilarity of Confederate statues, the pathetic bullshit of "allyship fatigue," what Black people mean when they say "I've been angry" & more. For more Bridgette Bianca: Buy her new book be/trouble Follow Bridgette on Instagram @bridgettebianca Follow Bridgette on Twitter @thebridgebianca Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Manscaped, #1 in men’s below the belt grooming. Manscaped offers precision-engineered tools for you or your man’s family jewels. Get 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code PRIVATE at Manscaped.com. Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients. Our listeners get 10% off and free shipping when you use my code PRIVATE at UberLube.com. We want to connect with you on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown & Twitter @privatepartsun. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 26th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra welcome audio producer & Your Fave Is Problematic co-host Kristen Bennett to talk about racism, media & relationships. We get into SO MUCH in this episode: the problematic nostalgia of John Hughes movies, Dave Chappelle’s new standup special 8:46, Tina Fey’s weird racial streak, the inevitability of the white people in your life eventually proving themselves problematic, revisiting Drake, can Black Americans appropriate African culture?, cop shows & police depictions on TV, racism is the reason we don’t have universal healthcare, Southern racism vs. California racism & more. For more Kristen Bennett: Listen to Your Fave Is Problematic Follow Kristen on Twitter @anniewokely Follow Kristen on Instagram @killthemoonlight Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Manscaped, #1 in men’s below the belt grooming. Manscaped offers precision-engineered tools for you or your man’s family jewels. Get 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code PRIVATE at Manscaped.com. Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients. Our listeners get 10% off and free shipping when you use my code PRIVATE at UberLube.com. We want to connect with you on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown & Twitter @privatepartsun. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 25th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra bring you the happy ending & finale episode to our Tokyo, Japan series. We explore what it was like to buy sex for the first time as women, what it takes to make it as a male happy ending masseuse among over 2,000 applicants, our experience at an S&M bar (shout-out Black Heart in Ginza!) & how paying for sex opened our minds on so many levels – open relationships, our perception of sex work clientele, sexual healing & its potential to deepen your connection with yourself & your partner. Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: You can join mygirlfund.com for free, and for a limited time you can become a lifetime premium member for less than $5 with discounted credits and bonus interaction features for life when you go to mygirlfund.com/private. We want to connect with you on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown & Twitter @privatepartsun. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! —> ratethispodcast.com/private Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 24th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra, welcome reporter Hiroko Imai & video producer Marina Yajima Taylor for the 3rd episode from our Tokyo, Japan series. Hiroko (@hirokotv) is a 32-year-old freelance producer & reporter for Asian Boss who grew up in Japan & lives in the Tokyo area. Marina (@marina__taylor) is a twentysomething video producer & recent transplant from Seattle to Tokyo. Marina’s mom is Japanese, so she was raised having a strong familiarity with the culture. We chop it up about gender equality in Japan, the endearing term of "loser dog" for unmarried women over 30, the 5 levels of Japanese sex & intimacy work, inadvertently discovering that friends are sex workers, “I’m sorry for hurting you” divorce pay-outs, deeply entrenched discrimination against people perceived to foreign in such a homogenous society, the M-curve, how understanding of the kanji for girl power changes as girls get older & so much more. Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients. Our listeners get 10% off and free shipping when you use my code PRIVATE at UberLube.com. You can join mygirlfund.com for free, and for a limited time you can become a lifetime premium member for less than $5 with discounted credits and bonus interaction features for life when you go to mygirlfund.com/private. We want to connect with you on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown & Twitter @privatepartsun. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 23rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra, welcome cultural translator Chris Wells for the 2nd episode from our Tokyo, Japan series. Chris (@chriswellstokyo) has lived in Japan for over 25 years. He's a founding member of the Tokyo Comedy Store, he co-owns Japan's first improv studio dedicated to long-form improv & method acting along with his husband Jun & he's the voice of the JR train (!!!). We dig into the evolution of gay acceptance in Japan, what it's like to be gay in Japan as a foreigner vs. as Japanese person, "gay marriage light" (aka relationship registration with no legal rights), the kind of 50s-style workplace sexism that results in "famous working mothers" & how their shame-based culture works differently than our guilt-based one. Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients. Our listeners get 10% off and free shipping when you use my code PRIVATE at UberLube.com. You can join mygirlfund.com for free, and for a limited time you can become a lifetime premium member for less than $5 with discounted credits and bonus interaction features for life when you go to mygirlfund.com/private. We want to connect with you on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown & Twitter @privatepartsun. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 22nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra, welcome Keio University subcultures researcher Joe McReynolds & sex worker/model/columnist Yuki for the 1st episode from our Tokyo, Japan series. We explore the different levels of sex and intimacy work in Japan (most of it legal), how common cheating is in Japan, the Mad Men culture at old-school Japanese companies, the jaw-dropping amount of money made by Roland the most popular male host in Japan, why young Japanese women aren’t getting married, the economic triangle of sex work in Japan that keeps most of the money in-house, how cheap liquor licenses have allowed intimate businesses in micro-spaces to flourish, swingers clubs (aka happening bars), soaplands, the international image of Japan as the home of weird sex & weird technology, how common it is to seek a father figure in a sexual partner… even if you had a good dad & more. Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients. Our listeners get 10% off and free shipping when you use my code PRIVATE at UberLube.com. You can join mygirlfund.com for free, and for a limited time you can become a lifetime premium member for less than $5 with discounted credits and bonus interaction features for life when you go to mygirlfund.com/private. We want to connect with you on social media! Follow the show on Instagram @privatepartsunknown & Twitter @privatepartsun. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 21st episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra, welcome Nova Scotia-based married couple & co-hosts of the Turn Me On podcast – Jeremie Saunders & Bryde MacLean – for a really interesting episode about their journey opening up their relationship & becoming polyamorous. We also dig into how living with a life-shortening illness has impacted their trajectory, how they forged the relationship dynamic they truly wanted without having a model, relationship contracts, how their new partners fit into their daily lives, having different money values, separating finances, how their parents feel about the lifestyle, poly jealousies not being what you’d think & more. For more Jeremie Saunders & Bryde MacLean: Listen to the Turn Me On podcast Follow Turn Me On on Instagram @turnmeonpodcast Follow Jeremie on Instagram @jeremiesaunders Follow Bryde on Instagram @brydemaclean Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Looking for the perfect Valentine’s Day gift for you or your partner? We-Vibe creates some of our favorite sex toys & they are known for their couples vibrators, including their brand new couple’s vibrator: Chorus! Get 5% off any product with code PRIVATE at we-vibe.com. Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients. Our listeners get 10% off and free shipping when you use my code PRIVATE at UberLube.com. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 20th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra, welcome one-name wonder Smoove, co-owner of a very special queer bar called The Back Door, for the 2nd installment in a 2-part series from Bloomington, Indiana. We get into the origin story of The Back Door, its impact on the local LGBTIA community, how they fostered an impressive drag & burlesque scene, former governor Pence, the rollback of gay rights, the incredible “Periods for Pence” campaign, online dating in a small city like Bloomington & so much more. For more from Smoove: Visit The Back Door website bckdoor.com Follow The Back Door on Instagram @bckdoor Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: LOLA is a female-founded company offering a line of organic cotton tampons, pads, liners and all-natural cleansing wipes. For 30% off your first month’s subscription, visit mylola.com and enter private when you subscribe! Uberlube is a luxurious, high-grade silicone lubricant made from clean, body-friendly ingredients. Our listeners get 10% off and free shipping when you use my code PRIVATE at UberLube.com. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 19th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra, welcome our favorite keeper of sexual artifacts, Kinsey Institute curator Rebecca Fasman, for the 1st installment in a 2-part series from Bloomington, Indiana. We go deep into the archives to talk about George Platt Lynes & his little-known collection of male nudes, the Comstock law, community standards for erotic material, struggling with the a male gaze as a feminist curator, the state of the union for contemporary queer artists, WWII slut-shaming drops, the legacy of Alfred Kinsey, idealistic differences in the mediums of painting vs. photography & homemade sex toys. For more Rebecca Fasman: Visit the Kinsey Institute website kinseyinstitute.org Follow Rebecca on Instagram @rfasman Follow Rebecca on Twitter @rfasman Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Simple Health is the simplest way to get birth control, with online prescriptions and free home delivery. Our listeners can try Simple Health for free. Just go to simplehealth.com/private and use code PRIVATE at checkout. Dipsea is an audio erotica app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions designed to turn you on. Dipsea is offering a 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/private. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 18th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra, welcome our favorite mother-son duo, Karen Lee & Cameron Poter, co-hosts of the Sex Talk With My Mom podcast for a holiday how-to about coping with loss. We go deep into grieving process, how losing a partner & father respectively impacted them romantically & otherwise, recreating traditions in order to move on, reframing tragedy as a springboard for personal growth, superstition, spiritual messages & communicating with the dead — plus, Karen gives tips for cougars trying to get back out there & Cam explores his new mime-based sexuality. For more Karen Lee & Cam Poter: Listen to the Sex Talk With My Mom podcast sextalkwithmymom.com Follow the show on Instagram @sextalkwithmymom Follow Karen Lee on Instagram @karenleepoter Follow Cam on Instagram @singlecamcomedy Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Simple Health is the simplest way to get birth control, with online prescriptions and free home delivery. Our listeners can try Simple Health for free. Just go to simplehealth.com/private and use code PRIVATE at checkout. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 17th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra take you on a quick trip to Mexico City for the 2nd installment in a 2-part series about romance, sexuality, gender & life in general in the largest city in North America. In this episode, we interviewed two Mexican artists — Alma Garcia Gil, a lesbian performance artist & Evelyn Excess, a trans/gender non-binary collage artist — who give us an inside look into their radical artwork & what it’s like to be unapologetically queer in Mexico City. Find out more about these talented babes & follow them on social media: Alma Garcia Gil almagarciagil.com; twitter.com/gardeaamador Evelyn Excess evelynexcess.blogspot.com; instagram.com/evelyn_excess Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: BlueChew offers men a performance enhancement confidence boost for the bedroom. If you like sex, you’ll love BlueChew. Get your first order — just pay $5 shipping — when you use promo code PRIVATE at bluechew.com. Dipsea is an audio erotica app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions designed to turn you on. Dipsea is offering a 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/private. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 16th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra take you on a quick trip to Mexico City for the 1st installment in a 2-part series about Mexican romance, sexuality, gender & life in general in the largest city in North America. On the 1st day of Día de Los Muertos, we delve into our experiences on a food tour through La Merced Market & a bike tour to the Frida Kahlo Museum (Casa Azul, the Blue House). While in CDMX, we interviewed three local gentlemen who generously lent us their voices & taught us about their culture. Follow these fellas on Instagram & GO ON THEIR TOURS: Gevany Castillo was our fearless leader on the bike tour, giving us historical context & sweet, sweet patter in equal parts. Ubish Yaren (instagram.com/ubishyaren) gives AMAZING food tours through his company Mexico Undergound & hosts the Culinaria Nacional podcast. Alejandro Ruano (instagram.com/alteregoderuano) is a photographer, aspiring filmmaker & gift from the universe conjured in our Frida Kahlo wet dream. Gevany & Alejandro both give super fun bike tours for Pedalea Mexico (www.instagram.com/pedaleamexico). Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: BlueChew offers men a performance enhancement confidence boost for the bedroom. If you like sex, you’ll love BlueChew. Get your first order — just pay $5 shipping — when you use promo code PRIVATE at bluechew.com. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 15th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra take you inside Raising Hell, a super sexy & informative event thrown by Soldiers of Pole, the California exotic dancers union that we featured in our very 1st episode! We get into the passage of California labor bill AB5, why strippers need the same protections & workers’ rights as other physically demanding jobs, the fact that sex work is work, how to undo the industry’s long-time stigma, the dope community these dancers have created for themselves & the isolation a lot of strippers experience when they 1st start out — plus, Jacq the Stripper tells a hilarious story about auditioning for strip club owners & so much more! All hail the following queens for lending us their voices & stories: Jacq the Stripper jacqthestripper.com Antonia Crane antoniacrane.com AM Davies instagram.com/thequeenofsexy Selena the Stripper instagram.com/prettyboygirl (& check out her podcast Heaux in the Kneaux) Megan Therese Rippey (aka Reagan) instagram.com/meganrippey Coco Ono instagram.com/coco.ono Onyx Black instagram.com/onyxblackdance Valerie Stunning valeriestunning.com Here are some links to help educate yourself further: Of course, make sure you follow Soldiers of Pole on Instagram @soldiers_of_pole_ and check out their website soldiersofpole.com. This is the radio story Courtney did on AB5 for KCRW, featuring Antonia Crane of Soldiers of Pole. And a more recent update on the status of AB5, as of September 2019. Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: BlueChew offers men a performance enhancement confidence boost for the bedroom. If you like sex, you’ll love BlueChew. Get your first order — just pay $5 shipping — when you use promo code PRIVATE at bluechew.com. Manscaped, #1 in men’s below the belt grooming. Manscaped offers precision-engineered tools for you or your man’s family jewels. Get 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code PRIVATE at Manscaped.com. Dipsea is an audio erotica app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions designed to turn you on. Dipsea is offering a 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/private. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We want to turn you on to a hot new podcast: Artemis is a lesbian retelling of the classic Greek myth of Artemis, Goddess of the hunt, from the original story written by Svetlana Ivanova. If you're mythology nerds like us, you're going to want to check out the rest of the Artemis series. The first five parts are available anywhere you listen to podcasts. But you can listen to all 16 parts now on Himalaya+. Here’s how: Download the Himalaya app: https://www.himalaya.com/artemis Search Artemis, and click "Become a Member" Enter promo code ARTEMIS to get the entire story for FREE! If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Also, check out the video teaser from our trip to Helsinki at youtube.com/privatepartsunknown or click here. Don't forget to like, comment & subscribe. :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 14th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your host Courtney Kocak is flying solo to honor International Sex Abortion Day with a special episode featuring seven advocates & women who’ve had personal experiences with abortion & gone on to speak publicly about it. We cover the current legal lay of the land for reproductive rights in the U.S., how close Roe v. Wade is to being overturned, what a post-Roe America would actually look like, the fact that we’re already there in some states, the prevalent shame & stigma, how we change societal views & so much more. Thanks to the following women for lending us their voices & stories: Lizz Winstead, Abortion Access Front founder & chief creative officer & The Daily Show co-creator aafront.org Amelia Bonow, co-founder of the #ShoutYourAbortion movement & co-editor of Shout Your Abortion shoutyourabortion.com Robin Marty, author of Handbook for a Post-Roe America Danielle Perez, comedian thedanielleperez.com Kelly Fitzgerald-Junco, writer sobersenorita.com Molly Gaebe, comedian mollygaebe.net Jenny Zigrino, comedian & actress jennyzigrino.com Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Dipsea is an audio erotica app full of short, sexy stories and guided sessions designed to turn you on. Dipsea is offering a 30 day free trial when you go to dipseastories.com/private. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 13th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra welcome another pair of sex-positive podcasters, Amy Baldwin & April Lampert, co-hosts of the Shameless Sex podcast. We talk shop about how they met, their industry experience as sex educators & sex toy salespeople, the most common listener question they get, their earliest respective memories of being turned on, their self-identified kinks & sexual preferences, the community service of being the cool stepmom with a sex podcast & how they’re working to banish STD, herpes & other sexual stigmas by sharing their personal stories — plus what they wish they could go back in time & tell their teenage selves about sex. Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Manscaped, #1 in men’s below the belt grooming. Manscaped offers precision-engineered tools for you or your man’s family jewels. Get 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code PRIVATE at Manscaped.com. For more Amy Baldwin & April Lampert: Listen to the Shameless Sex podcast shamelesssex.com Follow the show on Instagram @shamelesssexpodcast Follow the show on Twitter @shameless_sex If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 12th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra welcome another duo of female filmmakers — Dionne van den Berg & Pooja Tripathi — who created, wrote & star in the upcoming web series Amsterdam Ave about following your dreams, especially if they take you abroad (aka international apartment swapping between New York & the Netherlands!!!), loosely based on their friendship & real-life experiences. We get into how their meet-cute at a club in Saint-Tropez turned into a long-distance friendship before evolving again into a creative partnership, their cosmic pizza connection, bullshit cultural stereotypes (plus some that kinda hold up) & dating as 20-something women in NYC & around the world — plus the beauty of not having time for anything but your career & your ride or die BFF. For more Dionne van den Berg & Pooja Tripathi: Watch the Amsterdam Ave teaser on YouTube Check out their website for more info on screenings amsterdamave-theseries.com Follow the show on Instagram @amsterdamave.theseries Follow Dionne on Instagram @dionnevandenberg Follow Pooja on Instagram @winne_thepooj Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. Buy tickets to Soldiers of Pole's RAISING HELL event on September 30th at The Federal Bar in LA. Sign up for the EarBuds Podcast Collective, a weekly podcast recommendation newsletter with five episodes based on a different theme and guest curated by a different person each week. If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 11th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra drop the final dispatch from their recent trip to New York. For this NYC edition, we're joined by dominatrix and healer Aleta Cai, who tells us about her entrée into the BDSM world after growing up in a traditional Chinese home. We chop it up about the intersection of BDSM and healing, why she doesn’t usually see women in her practice—except sex workers, the tendency towards submissiveness in Chinese culture, what happens in subspace, the radical confidence that came when she started domming, what her clientele has in common, falling in love with one of her slaves & why 50 Shades of Grey was annoying. Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of the Pleasure Podcast network. This episode is brought to you by: Coconu organic lubricant. Have better sex. Naturally. Save 15% at coconu.com with promo code PRIVATE. Clone-A-Willy & Clone-A-Pussy allow anyone to make an exact replica of a penis or vulva into a functioning sex toy at home. Use promo code PRIVATE for 20% off at cloneawilly.com. For more Aleta Cai: Check out her website aletacai.com Buy her book PRO-DOMME: How to Become a Professional Dominatrix If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 10th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra are back with another dispatch from their recent trip to New York. For this NYC edition, we're joined by hilarious comedian Wendi Starling, who gives us a glimpse into the world of sugaring & what it's like to be a sugar baby... it's probably a lot hotter & more feminist than you'd expect. This episode is brought to you by: Clone-A-Willy & Clone-A-Pussy allow anyone to make an exact replica of a penis or vulva into a functioning sex toy at home. Use promo code PRIVATE for 20% off at cloneawilly.com. Coconu organic lubricant. Have better sex. Naturally. Save 15% at coconu.com with promo code PRIVATE. For more Wendi Starling: Listen to the Pussy Fart Gang podcast Follow her on Twitter @wendistarling Follow her on Instagram @wendibird82 If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 9th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra return with a dispatch from their recent trip to New York. For this NYC edition, we're joined by crazy/sexy/cool/freaky/funny comedian Billy Procida, host of The Manwhore Podcast. We met Billy at a standup show in Brooklyn and wound up interviewing him the next day in Dumbo about his foray into sex parties, his home club Hacienda, having a gender-fluid ex, organizing gangbangs (3 in 6 months!!!), his long-standing identification with non-monogamy, commons misconceptions about polyamory & why he won't call himself a feminist. This episode is brought to you by: The Shame On You podcast. Listen here for their unapologetic journey to zero f*cks. Coconu organic lubricant. Have better sex. Naturally. Save 15% at coconu.com with promo code PRIVATE. Clone-A-Willy & Clone-A-Pussy allow anyone to make an exact replica of a penis or vulva into a functioning sex toy at home. Use promo code PRIVATE for 20% off at cloneawilly.com. For more Billy Procida: Listen to The Manwhore Podcast Follow him on Twitter @TheBillyProcida If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 8th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra are back with the 3rd & final installment in our 3-part series featuring men talking about their personal experiences with abortion. For this edition, we're joined by two more guys — first, standup comedian & podcaster Jeff May (@heytherejeffro) who shares his story about supporting his ex-girlfriend through her decision to get an abortion, despite not liking the choice she made at the time. Then we talk to an anonymous father of two whose heartbreaking story touches on the genetic abnormality component to the issue. For this 3-part series, we flipped the script & asked dudes to shout their abortions. Many thanks to the five men who shared their nuanced stories with a humility & vulnerability so often missing from this hot button issue. People in Alabama, Georgia, Missouri, and Louisiana need our help. Please consider a donation to https://yellowhammerfund.org/, https://www.plannedparenthood.org/, https://abortionaccessfund.org/, or any other reputable organization engaged in this fight for reproductive justice. If you know someone who you think would benefit from hearing this, please share! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 7th episode of Private Parts Unknown, your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra are back with the 2nd installment in our 3-part series featuring men talking about their personal experiences with abortion. For this edition, we're joined by two guys — first, former youth pastor/current standup comedian Derrick Murray (@drokcomedy) & then filmmaker/writer/VR extraordinaire Christopher Morrison (@Reality_Plus_) — who exemplify how subtle religious indoctrination can manifest in surprising ways as the shame & stigma surrounding the issue are processed. As you learned in the last episode, Matt Monroe's Instagram post made us realize how rare it is to see men we know speak publicly about their abortions. Busy Philipps started the viral hashtag #YouKnowMe & a flood of women shared their experiences. But obviously #YouKnowHim too. So we flipped the script & asked dudes to shout their abortions for this 3-part series. Many thanks to the five men who shared their nuanced stories with a humility & vulnerability so often missing from this hot button issue. People in Alabama, Georgia, Missouri, and Louisiana need our help. Please consider a donation to https://yellowhammerfund.org/, https://www.plannedparenthood.org/, https://abortionaccessfund.org/, or any other reputable organization engaged in this fight for reproductive justice. If you know someone who you think would benefit from hearing this, please share! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 6th episode of Private Parts Unknown, comedian/engineer Matt Monroe (@heymonroe) joins your hosts Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra. He tells the story behind his recent social media post that began “And now, an abortion story... “ followed by his personal experience after he got a casual hookup pregnant at the age of 25. Matt made us realize how rare it is to see men we know speak publicly about their abortions. Busy Philipps started the viral hashtag #YouKnowMe and a flood of women shared their experiences. But obviously #YouKnowHim too. So we flipped the script & asked dudes to shout their abortions for this 3-part series. Many thanks to the five men who shared their nuanced stories with a humility & vulnerability so often missing from this hot button issue. People in Alabama, Georgia, Missouri, and Louisiana need our help. Please consider a donation to https://yellowhammerfund.org/, https://www.plannedparenthood.org/, https://abortionaccessfund.org/, or any other reputable organization engaged in this fight for reproductive justice. If you know someone who you think would benefit from hearing this, please share! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 5th episode of Private Parts Unknown—the 3rd in our Helsinki series—your favorite commuter companions, Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra, are thrilled to introduce you to feminism in Finland & how it got that way. We explore how World War II helped pave a foundation for feminism to thrive in Finland, their world-famous maternity package, the influence of grandmas & sisters on our interviewees' personal lives & businesses, young female entrepreneurship in Helsinki & the subtle significance of having older women depicted in art. Thanks to the following people for lending us their voices & teaching us about their culture. Follow them on Instagram to find out more about their dope lives & businesses: Pirjo Suhonen – @ivanahelsinki Caroline Suinner – @carolinesuinner Elisabeth Rundlöf – @elisabeth.rundlof Emma Lumme – @jotainlainattua Minna Parikka – @minnaparikkashoes Cristal Snow – @iamcristalsnow (Also, go back and listen to our 1st two Helsinki episodes if you haven’t already!) This episode is brought to you by #MyHelsinkiResidence. Check out myhelsinki.fi to plan your visit & follow @myhelsinki for beautiful pics of local hot spots! If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 4th episode of Private Parts Unknown—the 2nd in our Helsinki series—your favorite commuter companions, Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra, are thrilled to introduce you to dating & romance in the capital city of the happiest country in the world: Helsinki, Finland. We delve into the “classic Finnish” quirks that inform how they approach dating, romance & happiness, including their hatred of small talk, their pursuit of self-improvement in the name of efficiency & their collective island fantasy. We also learn about popular first dates in Helsinki, explore the recent phenomenon of Finnish women “importing” foreign men for relationships & struggle with the difference between being alone and being lonely. Thanks to the following people for lending us their voices & teaching us about their culture. Follow them on Instagram to find out more about their dope lives & businesses: Aino Pursiainen – @ainopr Pirjo Suhonen – @ivanahelsinki Hannu Virtanen – @lifeof2men Caroline Suinner – @carolinesuinner Elisabeth Rundlöf – @elisabeth.rundlof Emma Lumme – @jotainlainattua Minna Parikka – @minnaparikkashoes Cristal Snow – @iamcristalsnow (Also, go back and listen to our 1st Helsinki episode with Finnish therapist & relationship expert Tony Dunderfelt if you haven’t already!) This episode is brought to you by #MyHelsinkiResidence. Check out myhelsinki.fi to plan your visit & follow @myhelsinki for beautiful pics of local hot spots! If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 3rd episode of Private Parts Unknown—the 1st in our Helsinki series—your favorite commuter companions, Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra, are thrilled to welcome psychologist, author, relationship expert & on-set therapist for the Finnish version of Married at First Sight, Tony Dunderfelt. We couldn't be more excited to kick off our Helsinki series with a primer from Tony! He teaches us the 30-second rule, the six levels of sexuality, how to make sure all three suns of love (loving care, attraction & sexuality) are generating heat in your romance, tips for diagnosing your relationship rut & the difference between Finnish vs. American Married at First Sight. This episode is brought to you by #MyHelsinkiResidence. Check out myhelsinki.fi to plan your visit & follow @myhelsinki for beautiful pics of local hot spots! For more Tony Dunderfelt: Check out his website tonydunderfelt.com If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 2nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, your favorite commuter companions – Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra – are thrilled to welcome Samantha Allen, author of the new book Real Queer America: LGBT Stories from Red States, as well as Love & Estrogen, & senior reporter for The Daily Beast. First: Your bestie hosts are super excited to be back weekly, effective immediately. Our 1st Helsinki ep drops next week, so now we're looking ahead to upcoming destinations: namely, New York & Tokyo. In the meantime, we fell in love with Samantha Allen's new book, so we had to have her on the show. Then: Samantha gives us a tour of the thriving LGBT communities in Middle America she discovered on her six-week road trip, which was the basis of Real Queer America. She (& her delightful wife, Corey!) shares how Trump was an unintended source of inspiration for the book, why more letters of the LGBT acronym hang out together in rural areas vs. the cliquey-ness of many urban queer hot spots, the beautiful connections that can be borne out of oppression & opposition, the impact of Mormonism on her gender identity & how her & Corey's love story began in the Kinsey Institute bookstacks! For more Samantha Allen: Buy Real Queer America + Love & Estrogen Check out her website samanthaleighallen.com Follow her on Twitter @SLAwrites If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 1st ever episode of Private Parts Unknown, your favorite commuter companions – Courtney Kocak & Sofiya Alexandra – are honored to welcome the badass stripper-activists – Antonia Crane, Domino Rey & Naomi Amadeo – behind the newly-formed California Exotic Dancers Union, Soldiers of Pole. First: Your bestie hosts wax nostalgic about their recent trip to Helsinki, Finland. It was the best experience ever & we can't wait to share what we learned in future episodes, but for now, we just give you a lil taste. ;) Then: The Soldiers of Pole give us the scoop on their brand-spankin' new strippers' union, how they all met, the Dynamex California Supreme Court case that confirmed their classification as employees vs. independent contractors, their supportive Strip Talk series, the impact of SESTA/FOSTA, how the stigma & shame surrounding sex work complicates the unionization effort, reports of exploitation by club owners from the front lines: forged paychecks, contracts that force dancers to sign away their rights, bribery, intimidation, retaliation & other classic union-busting techniques, tips from Antonia's recent MEL Magazine article "A Regulars' Guide to What Happens When Your Favorite Strip Club Unionizes" & of course, info on tonight's Wildcat Strippers' Strike outside Crazy Girls Hollywood! ***SUPPORT THE CALIFORNIA EXOTIC DANCERS UNION, SOLDIERS OF POLE, FOR THEIR WILDCAT STRIKE TONIGHT, FRIDAY 2/22, FROM 9PM-12AM OUTSIDE OF CRAZY GIRLS IN HOLLYWOOD.*** For more Soldiers of Pole: website soldiersofpole.com Instagram @soldiers.of.pole, @antoniacrane, @dominoinla & @naomi_amadeo If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 31st episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome hilarious actress, improviser & comedian Laci Mosley. First: The triad reveals that this is the very last episode ever of Reality Bytes... BUT Courtney & Sofiya will be back by Valentine's Day with an all-new show: Private Parts Unknown, for which we'll be traveling to uncover stories of love & sexuality around the world. Our 1st stop is Helsinki, Finland! Since DFR is in Coupletown, population 2, he's going to be holding down the fort in LA & checking in occasionally as our male correspondent. Then: Laci has us in stitches as she explains how she knew it was time to leave NYC, the sad reality of colorism in LA dating, her penchant for scamming, the Fyre Festival documentaries, her dating app experiences on Bumble & Raya (where you at, Ben Affleck?!), her budding bisexuality, the eating ass trend, the single person’s fear that maybe there’s no one out there for them, Tyler Perry’s archetype of a strong black woman, Southern courtship, what’s going down in her DMs (P.S. it’s a little bit scary), the stage of singlehood where you fantasize whole romantic relationships with acquaintances, dating someone with the same name as her for material & why it's hard to decide if she wants to be half of a power couple or an alpha monolith with an adoring beta. For more Laci Mosley: See her perform at UCB LA – she's on Leroy for Harold Night & MAMA for Maude Night Follow her on Instagram @divalaci Follow her on Twitter @divalaci If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 30th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is down a Dave, but nonetheless thrilled to welcome Brittani Louise Taylor, YouTube star & author of the new book A Sucky Love Story: Overcoming Unhappily Ever After. First: Courtney & Sofiya reflect on their past experiences in toxic & abusive relationships. Then: Brittani delves into the real-life romance that inspired the book – meeting on Tinder, losing her virginity (in her early 30s), getting pregnant, navigating life as a new mom, winding up in debt & out $100K... then finding out her fiancé is a complete con artist. She emphasizes the importance of looking out for red flags & trusting your gut when things feel wrong. She also shares her advice on when & how to leave an abusive relationship, why it’s important to document instances of abuse, the insidiousness of mental & emotional abuse & how she discovered the deception of her (now former) partner & baby daddy. Plus, we loved her stories about finding strength in her mom & her adorable son Rex. For more Brittani Louise Taylor: Buy A Sucky Love Story: Overcoming Unhappily Ever After Check out her YouTube channel Follow her on Twitter @brittanitaylor Follow her on Instagram @brittanilouisetaylorpics If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 29th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome Rachel Sam Evans, Snarled senior content manager & host of Dark 5, as well as co-host of the Best of the Rest wrestling podcast. First: The triad is hella sprung on Rachel's conspiracy theory/pro-wrestling/satanism/masturbation energy/carnival vibe, so we just get right into the interview. Then: We get into Rachel's latest Instagram post of her beautiful ass, putting out BDE on IG, the benefits & drawbacks of thirst-trapping (there should only be benefits!), subtle ways women can be held back professionally because of social optics or a wife's jealousy, developing before her classmates, getting her period at age 9, her 1st time masturbating, the ring rat & chuckle fucker labels, her type (FREAKS, BABY!!!), her 1st job at Noise Haus, sneaking out of the house to have sex as teenager, her very cool mom who will 100% listen to the podcast (hi, Aunt Vicky!), tryna date French boys, comedians vs. wrestlers, the dope ass indie wrestling scene in Los Angeles, Satanism (it doesn't mean what you think it does) & how to perform your very own magick masturbation sigil. For more Rachel Evans: Watch her show Dark 5 on Snarled Listen to her podcast Best of the Rest Follow her on Instagram @rachelsamevans Follow her on Twitter @rachelsamevans If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 28th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – does their 1st foray into guestlessness (don't worry, we'll be back with a guest next ep!) to review the personal & professional strides each has made over the past year, along with some goals for 2019. Among the revelations: Dave (finally!) has a girlfriend, Sofiya gives her best surrogate update yet & Courtney's rejection resolution was a big success. We also talk about our favorite interviews of the season: Michael Feldman & Michael Rachlis, Reza Aslan & Jessica Jackley, Greg Behrendt & Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt, Ryan Singer, Ester Steinberg, Biniam Bizuneh, Jack O'Brien & Miles Gray of The Daily Zeitgeist... gah, all of our guests have been so amazing, it's really hard to choose! For more Reality Bytes: Follow Reality Bytes on Instagram @realitybytespod Follow Reality Bytes on Twitter @realitybytespod Like Reality Bytes on Facebook @realitybytespod Follow Courtney on Instagram @courtneykocak Follow Courtney on Twitter @courtneykocak Follow Sofiya on Instagram @thesofiya Follow Sofiya on Twitter @thesofiya Follow Dave on Instagram @ddranks Follow Dave on Twitter @saysdaverankin If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 27th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is down a Dave, but nonetheless thrilled to welcome Alexandra Fine, the co-founder & CEO of Dame Products, a Brooklyn-based sex toy company. First: Inspired by reading "5 Sex Trends You Totally Don't Have to Like (or Even Try!)" on Dame's aptly-titled blog "The Horizontal," Courtney & Sofiya unpack their personal preferences for five different sex trends – anal sex; threesomes, group sex, polyamory & other sorts of open relationships; intense stimulation (DOUBLE YES!!); shower sex; BDSM & heavy kink play. Then: Alex fills us in on Dame's origin story & her trajectory into the women's pleasure profession. We also talk about conversations surrounding sex in the workplace during the #MeToo movement when sex IS your business, sexual harassment vs. humans are innately sexual beings, advertising's gender bias, marriage, the necessary work of cultivating the erotic energy in a long-term relationship, our natural addiction to newness, nonmonogamy, terminology to better explain & explore modes of pleasure (orbiting, layering, edging & grounding – thanks OMGYes!) & the company's Kickstarter success. This episode is brought to you by Dame Products. Visit dameproducts.com & use code REALITY to save $10 off your order! For more Alex Fine: Follow Alex on Instagram @afinehuman Follow Alex on Twitter @afinehuman Follow Dame Products on Instagram @dameproducts Follow Dame Products on Twitter @dameproducts If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 26th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome the hosts of the Love in Limboland podcast Kudzi & Tiffany. First: The triad discusses our tendencies to stay friends with exes vs. banishing them to the dark side of the moon. We also talk about jealousy & the chillness that comes from being secure in your relationship. Then: We get into it with Kudzi & Tiffany about cultural differences between South Africa & the United States, the contrasting tone of race relations in both places, living in the bubble of Los Angeles, being work friends before starting their podcast, bringing a date to the holiday party gone wrong, Watergate: The Great Manners vs. Independent Woman Debate, who should pay for the 1st date, being bad a texting as a dating dealbreaker, how to keep the momentum going without wasting a ton of time texting, the importance of taking it offline as soon as possible, qualities they're each looking for in a potential partner, how long it takes to feel comfortable being vulnerable in a relationship, the riskiness of saying 'I love you' 1st, finding the right crazy-stable ratio in relationship dynamics, dating multiple people & their LA dating horror stories. For more Kudzi & Tiffany: Listen to their podcast Love in Limboland (Courtney's on the latest ep!) Follow Love in Limboland on Instagram @loveinlimboland Follow Kudzi on Instagram @iamkudzi Follow Tiffany on Instagram @tiffstips If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 25th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome standup comedian & host of the Me & Paranormal You podcast Ryan Singer to talk about his new comedy album Free Love (now available for free!!!). First: The triad talks about that super annoying phenomenon where neurotic people (aka us) will take a little offhand comment someone makes & blow it completely out-of-proportion in their minds. Then: Ryan shares why he calls his podcast a mindcast (thus inspiring us to start calling Reality Bytes a genitalcast), his experience with a lowkey STD called Molluscum (whaddya know, Dave's also had Molluscum!), how he's overcoming his fear of intimacy & abandonment issues, his foray into a serious relationship for the 1st time in seven years, how to stay friends with exes & former hookups, why our society's weird POV on male/female friendship is so wack, a hot tip for younger men, the difference between dark mystery vs. fun mystery, why The Notebook is actually a fucked up standard for romance, the real-life implications of depicting women characters as nagging bitches in film & TV, the dangerous impact of social media & dating apps on social skills when it comes to dating & relationships, exhibitionism as a kink & how he got kicked off Tinder. For more Ryan Singer: Download his comedy album Free Love (for free!) Listen to his podcast Me & Paranormal You Follow him on Twitter @rysing Follow him on Instagram @rysing If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 24th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome the hosts of the Almost 30 podcast Krista Williams & Lindsey Simcik. First: The triad got a very poignant, special message from a fan this week (thank YOU, you know who you are). We talk about feeling lost, the journey of finding oneself again, and the church of Cheryl Strayed (praise be!). Then: Krista & Lindsey share their most impactful Almost 30 interviews to date (hello, Dan Savage & John Wineland), a more sympathetic way to think about infidelity, what it's like to change at different rates within a relationship, the excitement & fear of having babies, the influence of their parents' relationships on their own, how they reframe sexual harassment & #MeToo-type situations without adding shame, the stifling effect of outrage culture, how they knew right away their connection was special, what it's like to work together & the keys to a successful partnership. This episode is brought to you by Ritual vitamins. Check out ritual.com/reality to try Ritual – happiness guaranteed, or your 1st month's on them! For more Krista Williams & Linsey Simcik: Listen to their podcast Almost 30 Follow Almost 30 on Instagram @almost30podcast Follow Krista on Instagram @hundredblog Follow Lindsey on Instagram @lindseysimcik If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices