Private Parts Unknown: Sex & Love Around the World

For the 23rd episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome Jenna Birch, author of The Love Gap: A Radical Plan to Win in Life and Love & co-founder/CEO of the new dating app Plum, which launches December 1st. First: The triad raves about the Doc Johnson factory tour, including meeting their Leonardo da Vinci of dildos, artist Anjani Siddhartha. Courtney & Sofiya share how fun it was to get their pussies molded, while Dave "Sad Dick" Rankin relives one of his top 3 most awkward moments – aka the erotic horror story of getting his penis molded – & reveals his unsuccessful "Big Dick Daddy" self-talk. Then: Jenna explains the impetus for her book, the interview process involved in its writing, the definition of "End Goal" woman & the types of men she's likely to encounter in the dating pool, the correlation between feminism & hypermasculinity, her relationship status & the unique features of her new dating app Plum (download it on December 1st!!!). Plus, Dave shares his San Diego theory. For more Jenna Birch: Read The Love Gap: A Radical Plan to Win in Life and Love Download the Plum dating app Follow her on Twitter @jennabirch Follow her on Instagram @jennabirch If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 22th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome the hosts of the HowStuffWorks podcast The Daily Zeitgeist Jack O'Brien (who also co-founded Cracked.com) & Miles Gray to talk becoming a dad & finally being with someone who challenges you, respectively. First: The triad gives a glowing review of the "Beastie Boys Book: Live & Direct" tour, Dave fills us in on his new apartment & we talk about sleepover expectations for hookups vs. relationships. Then: The Daily Zeitgeist fellas go deep with us about Jack proposing to his now wife, their wedding announcement rejection from The New York Times, how having kids has deepened their relationship, the ways fatherhood has changed him, the growth Miles has unlocked by being with a partner who challenges him, talking to his mom about #MeToo, his days in a rap group with Shia LaBeouf (!!!), the importance of being true to yourself in a relationship, the intangible effects of your parents staying together vs. splitting, the concept of "the one" & the derivatives of tech-induced loneliness (cuddle parties, sugar babies, podcast communities, etc.). Plus, Miles busts a rhyme! This episode is brought to you by Solmar Hotels & Resorts. Check out solmar.com for booking & more information! For more Jack O'Brien & Miles Gray: Listen to their podcast The Daily Zeitgeist Follow Jack on Twitter @jack_obrien Follow Miles on Twitter @milesofgray If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 21st episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome power couple Reza Aslan (religion scholar & author of God, Zealot & more) & Jessica Jackley (co-founder of microlending company Kiva.org & author of Clay Water Brick). First: The triad talks about women still being defined by their attachment to a man despite advances in gender equality & the decision whether or not to change your last name. Then: Reza & Jessica open up about being introduced via email, their TED Talk "Higher Love," raising boys with consent culture, challenging previous relationships, serial monogamy, dating after a sexless relationship, sowing wild oats, Reza's 1st three trigger-happy engagements, Jessica's post-divorce Eat Pray Love phase, realizing they wanted to commit to each other, getting pregnant right away, their surprise wedding (to the 3rd power), marriage counseling, being an interfaith couple, fostering a multifaith family, the distinction between religion & faith, traveling around the world with their kids & how they talk to their kids about sex & sexuality (hot tip: get the book It's So Amazing! by Robie H. Harris to start the conversation). This episode is brought to you by Solmar Hotels & Resorts. Check out solmar.com for booking & more information! For more Reza Aslan & Jessica Jackley: Watch their TED Talk "Higher Love" Read their blog Around the World in 80-ish Days Check out Reza's website Check out Jessica's website Follow Reza on Twitter @rezaslan Follow Jessica on Twitter @jessicajackley If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 20th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome Delanie Fischer, co-host of The Self-Helpless Podcast & founder/CEO of Dicks by Delanie. First: Courtney & Sofiya check in on the blowjob challenge. Dave is blown away by their updates! We also talk about going to bed at the same time as your partner. Then: Delanie does a deep dive with us on finding her way into a happy relationship after being single for a long time, her hit podcast’s origin story, favorite podcast moments including interviewing Brian Regan (the nicest comedian ever), her fuckboy days, turning a hookup into a LTR, her self-help journey, being really in love for the first time, moving in together, getting comfortable, growing up in Simi Valley, being homeschooled during high school & having older friends, her party days, starting standup, then realizing she wanted to quit, the awkwardness of a career identity shift, limiting beliefs about work & money, quitting her corporate job to draw dicks full-time, her art aspirations coming full circle, masturbating with her #1 favorite sex toy the Hitachi Magic Wand, Whiskey clit, landing a numbers guy from the Midwest & deciding whether or not to have kids. This episode is brought to you by Ritual vitamins. Check out ritual.com/reality to try Ritual – happiness guaranteed, or your 1st month's on them! For more Delanie Fischer: Listen to The Self-Helpless Podcast Order a personalized penis mug from Dicks by Delanie Follow her on Instagram @delaniefischer Follow her on Twitter @DelanieFischer If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 19th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome Tito Bonito, aka "the Cuban Missile Crisis of burlesque," a male burlesque performer & hilarious emcee. First: The triad talks about their stripper fantasies, nude work experience & shared obsession with 80s masterpiece Dirty Dancing – plus pay homage to Jennifer Grey's original nose. Then: Tito spills the tea about the burlesque scene in LA & across the United States, how dropping out of Columbia College led to trying drag for the 1st time, why drag wasn't his thing, finding his voice in burlesque, playing with masculinity & femininity on stage, consent as it applies to crowd work, the difference between the comedy in standup and burlesque, audience feedback, flirting with straight guys after shows, his favorite costumes including Batman's Robin, a boy scout & his "problematic" Elián González character, when he realized he was gay, coming out to his Cuban family, his relationship status (hint: single AF), being demisexual, his type & the joys of having of a prostate. For more Tito Bonito: Check out his website Follow him on Instagram @cubanmissilecrisis Follow him on Twitter @TitoBonito If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 18th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome writer & comedian Travon Free. First: The triad talks about the spectrum of sexuality, that we're all a little gay & how male bisexuality is discouraged in our culture. Then: Travon waxes poetic & hilarious about the unnecessary sexualization of the term bisexual, his new series in development with Issa Rae & HBO called Him or Her, what it's like to be the Jackie Robinson of bi guys in Hollywood, the bi double standard: why is it okay or encouraged for women, but not for men?, the fact that a lot of straight male culture is actually pretty gay, the book Not Gay by Jane Ward, publically coming out via a blog post in 2011, the changing media landscape in terms of LGBTQ+ issues, the slower shift towards acceptance in less liberal communities, gay-straight alliances in high school, the invisible B, leaning into your partner’s identity, his first relationship with a man which inspired him to come out to his family and pursue TV writing, landing his 1st big job on The Daily Show, staying friends with exes, religion & sexuality, coining the term "bignostic" for bisexuals' natural tendency to be agnostic & his type. For more Travon Free: Follow him on Twitter @Travon Follow him on Instagram @Travon If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 17th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome senior editor & Playboy Advisor Anna del Gaizo. First: Sofiya challenges Courtney to a 7-day blowjob challenge to prove who's the most "not like other girls." Then: Anna spills the tea about how New York City kids grow up fast, her high school drug dealer, practicalities of the female condom (hint: not recommended unless your life is on the line), why Chlamydia is NBD, attending the AVN Awards, queefing v. farting, insecurities around sex, falling in love with Gia at the Spearmint Rhino, her current relationship status, Playboy parties, Connor Hefner assuming Hef's throne & posing for Playmate of the Month as a source of female empowerment. REMINDER: DOC JOHNSON GIVEAWAYS ALL WEEK – watch our IG @realitybytespod to enter! For more Anna del Gaizo: Read her Playboy Advisor column Follow her on Instagram @thisannaisbananas Follow her on Twitter @AnnaDelGaizo If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 16th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome Chad Braverman (COO & Chief Creative Officer) & Erica Braverman (Head of Communications & Consumer Marketing) from Doc Johnson, a Los Angeles-based manufacturer of pleasure products. This brother-sister duo run the largest sex toy company in the world with their dad Ron Braverman, who co-founded Doc Johnson in 1976. First: Dave gives us the 411 on his 1st sex toy experience (with the Mood Thrill ULTRASKYN stroker) & an update on his relationship status with pizza, Courtney shares a mortifying story about masturbating in a CVS parking lot, Sofiya & Courtney give their iWand testimonials & talk about being #MasturbationTwins. PLUS, DOC JOHNSON GIVEAWAYS ALL WEEK – watch our IG @realitybytespod to enter! Then: Chad & Erica tell us how their dad hid the truth about family business when they were kids, how they finally figured it out, what it was like to grow up in a sex-positive bubble, the shifting cultural conversation surrounding sex, Sex in the City making vibrators mainstream, each person's individual sexual fingerprint, how they assess "holes" in the market at Doc Johnson, the biggest cocks they make (but rest assured, their sales indicate women actually prefer average dicks!), Doc Johnson's 50 Shades of Grey-inspired bondage collaboration with BDSM fetish site kink.com, Chad's c-ring triumph with the OptiMALE line, Erica's success in spreading the good vibes among major publications & what it's like to talk about sex in the boardroom. For more Doc Johnson: Shop for your next sex toy on their website Follow them on Instagram @docjohnsonusa Follow them on Twitter @TheOriginalDoc If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 15th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome Michael Feldman & Michael Rachlis to chat about their web series inspired by their real-life relationship, Michael And Michael Are Gay. We delve into their meet-cute on the dance floor at The Abbey in West Hollywood, Rachlis' boyfriends (plural) at the time, being a late bloomer, going down on girls in high school, realizing you're gay & coming out in one fell swoop, a casting couch true story, musical theater-loving Jewish dads, coming out to their dads first, the proposal, their Michael-themed wedding, the lowdown on Burning Man sex, the evolving rules of their open relationship, dealing with jealousy, the danger of hooking up with friends & Feldman's love of happy endings – plus Sofiya gives a SURROGATE UPDATE! For more Michael Feldman & Michael Rachlis: Watch Michael And Michael Are Gay on YouTube Follow Feldman on Instagram @michaeljfeldman Follow Rachlis on Instagram @michaelrachlis Follow their joint Instagram @x2michaels Go to Feldman's demented Fairy Tale Theatre: 18 & Over whenever you get the chance! If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 14th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome Emma Koenig to fill us in on her latest book, Moan: Anonymous Essays on Female Orgasm (foreword by Rachel Bloom!). We dig into the anthology's origin story as a popular blog entitled How to Make Me Come, the blog-to-book publishing strategy, her approach as a "fan of sex" vs. an expert, contradictions among the spectrum of sexuality, childhood shame surrounding public masturbation (fair enough), meeting her boyfriend as soon as she finished the book & tips for anyone who wants to better communicate with their partner(s) about how to get them off – plus Emma issues a listener challenge. Also, DFR shares an update on his depression journey & the squad raves about the benefits of journaling. This episode is brought to you by Ritual vitamins. Check out ritual.com/reality to try Ritual – happiness guaranteed, or your 1st month's on them! For more Emma Koenig: Order Moan: Anonymous Essays on Female Orgasm Follow her on Twitter @emjuko Follow her on Instagram @emjuko If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 13th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome the hosts of the HowStuffWorks podcast Ethnically Ambiguous Anna Hossnieh & Shereen Lani Younes to talk about the complexities of growing up with Iranian-American & Syrian-American identities (respectively). We go deep into what it’s like to grow up with strict, immigrant parents, the inexplicable ways of Anna’s Zumba instructor cousin, Anna meeting her surfer bro boyfriend at Meltdown Comics, IRL implications of the travel ban, tattoos, coming out, what NOT to say to someone during a breakup, what’s up with exes who still watch your IG stories (!!!), the temptation to rewrite history after things end badly, Arabic analogies for explaining sex to kids, putting virginity on a pedestal, parents around the world just don’t understand, covering your hair, gender-based power inequities in the Middle East & crying while tripping – plus, our reaction to the Blasey Ford/Kavanaugh hearing (literally day of). This episode is brought to you by Motorbunny. Visit motorbunny.com & use code REALITY to save $50 on either the starter kit or the Motorbunny LINK bundle. For more Anna & Shereen: Listen to their podcast Ethnically Ambiguous Follow Anna on Twitter @annahossnieh Follow Shereen on Twitter @shereenwhy If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 12th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome two guests. First, sociologist & author of Exposure: A Sociologist Explores Sex, Society, and Adult Entertainment Dr. Chauntelle Tibbals unpacks the invisible economic discrimination against sex workers & how Motorbunny took ride-along sex saddles from niche to accessible. Then humor writer & essayist Riane Konc joins us from the Midwest (Cincinnati, Ohio to be exact)! She tells the hilarious, tortured tale of meeting her now-husband at age 13, recognizing she would want to be with him someday, but NOT wanting to date him yet – thus leading to a decade-long rejection before they got married & had a kid. We also talk about attending a small religious college, how to evade income tax by having 12 kids, using God as a manipulation strategy, LiveJournal for poets, pregnancy, baby colic, star-based poems, hormones, depression, advice she would give her younger self prior to having a child, her New Yorker Shouts & Murmurs piece "How to Dismiss Harassment Like a French Woman," what it's like when French Twitter comes for you & a friendly reminder that this too shall pass (& we'll all be dead soon) – plus the crew chats fuck machines. This episode is brought to you by Motorbunny. Visit motorbunny.com & use code REALITY to save $50 on either the starter kit or the Motorbunny LINK bundle. For more Dr. Chauntelle Tibbals: Order Exposure: A Sociologist Explores Sex, Society, and Adult Entertainment Follow Dr. Chauntelle on Twitter @DrChauntelle Check out her website For more Riane Konc: Follow Riane on Twitter @theillustrious Follow Riane on Instagram @the_illustrious Check out her website Read "How to Dismiss Harassment Like a French Woman" If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 11th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome standup comedian, writer & Queery podcast producer Sierra Katow to talk about her college relationship blossoming into adulthood. We also chat about her starting standup in high school, party culture at Harvard, her season on Last Comic Standing, turn-ons, tips for keeping the peace & post #MeToo comedy comebacks – plus Courtney & Sofiya rant about the dismissive responsive to Dr. Chistine Blasey Ford's allegations against Judge Brett Kavanaugh & the ugly fact that our society doesn't believe women (while DFR supports them like a good ally). This episode is brought to you by Ritual vitamins. Check out ritual.com/reality to try Ritual – happiness guaranteed, or your 1st month's on them! For more Sierra Katow: Follow her on Instagram @sierrakatow Follow her on Twitter @sierrakatow Sign up for her newsletter! If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 10th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome actor, writer & creator of Comedy Central's How to Be Broke Biniam Bizuneh to give us tips on broke dating. We chop it up about gender parity in paying for dates, feminism's financial double standard, disposability in modern romance, love languages, practice relationships, defense mechanisms, the spark v. making a choice to fall in love, not wanting to date other comedians, unironic Jack Johnson fandom & what Biniam finds attractive – plus DFR dishes on his Jumbo's Clown Room date(?) & Sofiya gives a surrogate update. For more Biniam Bizuneh: Watch How to Be Broke on YouTube Follow him on Twitter @biniambiz Follow him on Instagram @biniambiz If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 9th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome standup comedians, internet personalities & married couple Adrienne Airhart & Aristotle Georgeson to give us the download on their relationship built on the crucial compatibilities of sex, drugs & rock n' roll. We also chat about their comedy club meet cute, Adrienne getting arrested the night they met, fucking on the 1st date, Aristotle's ad agency days, moving out to LA together, Twitter in the age of Trump, taking a step back from social media, deciding to get married post-ayahuasca trip, the most chill wedding ever, roasting each other in their vows, not wanting kids, quitting weed & why their relationship works – plus the crew shares updates on their friend Stacey's wedding, DFR's prostate, Sofiya's surrogate (fingers crossed!) & Courtney's thirst trapping. This episode is brought to you by Motorbunny. Visit motorbunny.com & use code REALITY to save $50 on either the starter kit or the Motorbunny LINK bundle. For more Adrienne Airhart & Aristotle Georgeson: Follow Adrienne on Twitter @craydrienne Follow Adrienne on Instagram @craydrienne Follow Aristotle on Twitter @BlakeVapes Follow Aristotle on Instagram @bottleofstotle Follow Aristotle's Blake Webber account on Instagram @blakewebber If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 8th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome standup comedian & star of Oxygen’s Funny Girls Ester Steinberg to give us the 411 on her foray into polyamory, which (spoiler!) didn't work out because now she's monogamous, engaged & writing a romcom about the whole ordeal. We get into how Ester wore her now-fiancée down, her giant fucking engagement ring, their podcast meet cute, their attempt at an open relationship, The Ethical Slut, her musician side piece, why previous guest Nicole Aimée Schreiber deserves the good friend award, what's it like when your partner is uber-successful in a similar field, WGA health insurance, infatuation, orgasms, cumming with intention, manifesting her 1st commercial, moms who party & Cheryl Strayed's amazing Dear Sugar column "The Ghost Ship That Didn't Carry Us" – plus Sofiya shares a surrogate update. This episode is brought to you by Ritual vitamins. Check out ritual.com/reality to try Ritual – happiness guaranteed, or your 1st month's on them! For more Ester Steinberg: Check out her website Follow her on Twitter @EsterKay Follow her on Instagram @ester.steinberg If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 7th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome comedian, writer & host of the Nerdificent podcast Dani Fernandez to get nerdy with us about all things sex, relationships & dating. This episode opens with a MUST-LISTEN story about Dave's virgin butt getting turned out by Dr. Alvaredo during his 1st prostate exam (spoiler: he liked it like a lot!), plus we talk about eating ass and butt sex in general, as well as issue a Man School song apology to Dave's sister (who happens to be a long-time listener – we love you, Deb!). Then we GET. INTO. IT. with mega babe Dani (trust us, you're gonna want to peep her IG) about losing her virginity in the OC, how sexy women are perceived in comedy, being too sexually eager as a turn-off, marrying her college sweetheart at age 24, getting divorced a year later, preserving her amazing wedding pics in the best way possible, dating in the entertainment industry, her last long-term relationship, the loneliness of breakups, what it's like to live with chronic illness, porn search history & our backstory/dialogue preferences. For more Dani Fernandez: Listen to her podcast Nerdificent Follow her on Twitter @msdanifernandez Follow her on Instagram @msdanifernandez If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 6th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome creator of the viral Instagram account @byefelipe & host of the V Single podcast Alexandra Tweten to discuss her new book Bye Felipe: Disses, Dick Pics, and Other Delights of Modern Dating. We get into how she started the account, reflect on her (& Dave's!) decade of dating in LA, the hilarious fact that hookups are DM-ing her to see if they’re in the book, the relationship status of being monogamous with your career, the phenomenon of forgetting you went on a date with someone when you run into them later, a review of the Field app (formerly Thrinder), Alexandra's discerning dating style, the legend of Ryan, dudes who like to be humiliated about their small dick size (get at us, we wanna talk to you!!), what constitutes a good date, tips for men & women trying to date on the Internet, Google reserve image search & the story of Dave getting catfished by a “London DJ.” For more Alexandra Tweten: Order Bye Felipe THE BOOK!!! Listen to her podcast V Single Follow @byefelipe on Instagram Follow @alexandratweten on Instagram If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 5th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome comedian & Grindr meme god Zach Noe Towers to discuss his new LGBTQ standup special OUT on Stage. We chat about Zach's (& Dave's!) high school a cappella group, being such a dreamboat he had a legit fan club, his type, his transition from twink to otter, gay nomenclature, dating on Grindr, the obsession with masculinity & repressed misogyny & homophobia within the gay community, little v. big spoon preference, choosing career over a relationship, the effect of seeing monogamy modeled successfully & sugar baby fantasies – plus we talk about trying to find personal space when you live with your partner in a tiny apartment. This episode is brought to you by Ritual vitamins. Check out ritual.com/reality to try Ritual – happiness guaranteed, or your 1st month's on them! For more Zach Noe Towers: Check out his website Follow him on Twitter @ZachNoeTowers Follow him on Instagram @zachnoetowers If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 4th episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome comedian & chanteuse Scout Durwood to chat about her new musical comedy album Take One Thing Off. Our conversation runs the gamut, touching on topics including: the history of burlesque, Dita Von Teese, solving a 6-year mystery for Dave, testing your sexuality, lesbian clothes swapping, body shaming your partner (don't do it!), the correlation between homosexuality & intelligence, pansexuality as a universe baseline, breakups, learning to let go, turning heartbreak into art, the lost art of setting up single friends, marriage, monogamy & acknowledging that most relationships end – plus Sofiya fills us in on their search for a surrogate. For more Scout Durwood: Buy her album Take One Thing Off Watch her in our trailer for The Clapback Follow her on Twitter @scoutdurwood Follow her on Instagram @scoutdurwood If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 3rd episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome relationship coach & author Matthew Solomon to discuss his new book Man School: Relating with Women in the #MeToo Era. We chop it up about the "actually" guys, the emotional labor of explaining the #MeToo movement to men who don't get it, the friend zone, how to handle & reframe rejection logically, the safety factor for women, why toxic masculinity hurts boys/men as much as girls/women, the danger in perpetuating gender roles, redefining what it means to be a provider, chivalry, tantra, magick with a "k" & so much more! For more Matthew Solomon: Order Man School: Relating with Women in the #MeToo Era Check out coachwithmatthewsolomon.com to learn more about his relationship coaching practice Follow him on Twitter @mattytheglue Follow him on Instagram @mattytheglue If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 2nd episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome standup comedian & host of the Ignorance is #Blessed podcast Jessica Michelle Singleton to talk about her new solo show Codependent Arising, which will be playing at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival August 2nd through 26th. We get into her last horrible breakup, the Eat Pray Love moment that inspired the show (going on 10-day silent meditation retreat), breakups in general, growing up with an alcoholic parent, abandonment issues, codependency, the quality of road dick for female comics & self-imposed celibacy (sort of). For more Jessica Michelle: Get tickets to her show if you're going to the Edinburgh Fringe! Listen to her podcast Ignorance is #Blessed Follow her on Twitter @JMScomedy Follow her on Instagram @jmscomedy If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the 1st episode of season 4, your fearless triad – Courtney Kocak, along with new co-hosts Sofiya Alexandra & Dave Rankin – is thrilled to welcome relationship self-help gurus & real-life married couple Greg Behrendt & Amiira Ruotola to discuss their new book How to Keep Your Marriage From Sucking. Greg & Amiira are also the bestselling authors of He’s Just Not That Into You, It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken & It’s Just a F***ing Date. They drop so much tried & true wisdom in this episode – it's a must-listen to set yourself up for wedded bliss! For more Greg & Amiira: Order How to Keep Your Marriage From Sucking Listen to their podcast Maybe It's You Follow Greg on Twitter @gregorybehrendt Follow Amiira on Twitter @MsAmiirica If you love this episode, please leave us a 5-star rating & sexy review! xo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

*We apologize for the delay in releasing this final episode. There was an issue with Wade's sound that we were hoping to fix, but alas, this is the best we could do. Also maybe we didn't want it to be over. ;) Enjoy! REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 22nd (& final!) episode of season 3, the duo are thrilled to welcome their significant others, comedian & Who's Your Sign? podcast co-host Julia Loken & restaurateur Wade, to discuss meet cute stories, early relationship misfires, the monogamy vs. boyfriend/girlfriend conversation & what it's like when your partner has a sex & dating podcast. This episode is brought to you by the Fab Skin, Hot Bodies with Dr. Jeannette Graf podcast & FabFitFun (go to fabfitfun.com & use code REALITY to get $10 off your first FabFitFun box). And if you like good eats, check out Wade's restaurants: Horsethief BBQ at Grand Central Market, Cafe Birdie in Highland Park & – coming soon – Ma'am Sir in Silver Lake. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 21st episode of season 3, the pair welcome actress Joy Nash (Dietland, Twin Peaks) for a deep ep about the lessons death teaches you about life, why it's so important to nurture a great relationship with yourself, dating app fatigue, her ideal beau (rhymes with Mavid Marber) & her amazing Dietland casting story – plus Courtney & Steve share their high school sexploits. This episode is brought to you by FabFitFun (go to fabfitfun.com & use code REALITY to get $10 off your first FabFitFun box). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 20th episode of season 3, the duo chat with porn actor & debut author Logan Pierce on his new book of autobiographical fiction Between the Sheets: Rise of a Working Stiff (under the alias J.R. Verlin), why he chose to use a pen name, the 1st time he saw sex onscreen, how he took practical steps to accomplish his dream of becoming a porn performer, moving to Hollywood, what happened when his parents finally found out, why he's found it easier to date within the industry, meeting his current girlfriend on-the-job, the widespread use of Viagra on porn sets, what it's like to bomb as a porn performer, society's incorrect stereotype of women in sex work, his role as a male cheerleader & how he keeps a lid on objectifying women, why he decide decided to write a book about his experiences in porn & his favorite part of the book (hint: gang bang) – plus Courtney & Steve talk aging, forgiveness & masturbation habits. This episode is brought to you by the Fab Skin, Hot Bodies with Dr. Jeannette Graf podcast. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 19th episode of season 3, the pair welcome comedian & writer Riley Silverman for a great chat about growing up with a lack of a queer conversation, crossdressing at a young age, shifting on the Kinsey scale post-transition, the crucial role of transgender women of color in the Stonewall riots, what it was like to wear a dress in public for the first time, being a standup comic coming out "on the job," dating a fan, the long journey to a swift shift in media inclusivity, the timing factor in relationships & no-fault breakups – plus Courtney & Steve talk period sex, mismatched libidos & the worthwhile work of a relationship sex. NOTE: Riley's gender confirmation surgery was unfortunately cancelled at the last minute by her insurance company - do better insurance companies! Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 18th episode of season 3, the duo chat with former host of Dinner and a Movie & current host of the Mental Illness Happy Hour, Paul Gilmartin, about what inspired him to start the hit podcast, how to be a good partner to someone struggling with depression, abusing drugs & alcohol & the crutch of self-medication, how suicidal thoughts at the height of his success made him realize it was time to get help, intimacy issues & emotional incest, getting sober & dealing with divorce – plus some of his favorite episodes of his show. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 17th episode of season 3, the pair chop it up with filmmaker, photographer & musician Tao Ruspoli (who also happens to be the son of an Italian prince & the ex-husband of Olivia Wilde) about his new documentary Monogamish, featuring Dan Savage, Esther Perel, Stephanie Coontz & many other prominent figures in that field. We deep dive into the project's conception, his interesting childhood, different shades of non-monogamy (open relationships, polyamory, etc.) & how to manage the paradox of monogamy – plus Courtney & Steve discuss the Lena Dunham/Jack Antonoff split. This episode is brought to you by the Fab Skin, Hot Bodies with Dr. Jeannette Graf podcast & FabFitFun (go to fabfitfun.com & use code REALITY to get $10 off your first FabFitFun box). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 16th episode of season 3, the duo welcome photographer extraordinaire Maggie West back to the show for her 3rd interview – except this time she brings her bangin' hot sexbot Luci 6000, created for a holiday installation at the Museum of Sex in NYC, on now through February 15th. We talk the overhyped millennial sex slump, smartphones as a breeding ground for casual coitus (or not), media satire, Luci's little black book & how pretty much everyone is sprung on the idea of robot sex – plus Luci shares her pro sexting tips. This episode is brought to you by the Fab Skin, Hot Bodies with Dr. Jeannette Graf podcast. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 15th episode of season 3, the pair go deep with D'Lo, queer/transgender Tamil-Sri Lankan-American actor/writer/comedian & co-producer of Disoriented Comedy, on growing up in Lancaster, being Hindu in a Baptist Christian school, the horror of having to wear a dress on special occasions, the gender flexibility of hiphop fashion, the first time he kissed a girl, late night rendezvous with his college dorm RA, coming out (twice), avoiding arranged marriage, social justice spoken word, his dope queen, transitioning, to T or not to T, his second puberty, the power of testosterone against tears & the evolving media landscape – especially in terms of queerness & gender identity. This episode is brought to you by the Fab Skin, Hot Bodies with Dr. Jeannette Graf podcast. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 14th episode of season 3, the duo sit down with comedian & skateboarder Whitmer Thomas on going through a breakup, therapy, honesty, high school relationships, hooking up on being what it once was, the perks of being a delivery boy, being from 'the wrong side of the tracks,' pure love, co-dependence, romanticism as a worldview, Instagram as a dating app & just wanting to get back to fucking all his friends. MERRY CHRISTMAS, EVERYONE (if you don't celebrate the religious or commercial holiday, we wish you secular good vibes)!!! This episode is brought to you by the new gay dating app Chappy (head over to the app store & download Chappy today) & the Fab Skin, Hot Bodies with Dr. Jeannette Graf podcast. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 13th episode of season 3, the pair sit down with Alix M., host of the Swipe Out podcast & Director of Content Strategy at GIPHY Studios, to talk faux relationship mindfucks, how cupid killed season 1 of her podcast, manifesting one's perfect partner through a list of ideal attributes & falling in love with "good vibes" Gabe – plus Courtney gets into an accident & Steve recorded his album (!!!). This episode is brought to you by the new gay dating app Chappy (head over to the app store & download Chappy today). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 12th episode of season 3, the duo are thrilled to interview author, sex educator & feminist activist Jaclyn Friedman about her new book Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power, and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All. Thank you to The Pleasure Chest in West Hollywood for hosting this live show. They are also offering a great deal on Unscrewed, so buy a copy for yourself & give it as the gift that keeps on giving this holiday season: thepleasurechest.com/unscrewed.html! This episode is brought to you by the new gay dating app Chappy (head over to the app store & download Chappy today) & BarkBox (visit barkbox.com/reality for a FREE EXTRA MONTH when you subscribe to a 6 or 12-month plan). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 11th episode of season 3, the pair sit down with very funny comedian, former Playboy columnist, current Cheetahs dancer & host of the Kasey's Freek Show podcast Kasey Koop to chat about stripping as her favorite job everrrrr, hipster bitches being annoying up in da club, alcoholism, sex addiction, suicidal thoughts, sobriety, the fact that social media is a drug, managing our mental health demons, mommy issues, co-dependence, doing the hard work of making healthy relationships work & changing cultural tides on sex work – plus Courtney & Steve talk Thanksgiving & escape fantasies. Angelenos, you are formally invited to our live show tomorrow Thursday 11/30 at 8pm with very special guest Jaclyn Friedman, author of Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power, and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All, at the Pleasure Chest in West Hollywood. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 10th episode of season 3, the duo welcome Barbara Gray (very funny comedian & Lady to Lady co-host) & Alana Hope Levinson (deputy editor of MEL Magazine) to unpack the long-time sexual harassment & assault epidemic that has been sweeping the headlines lately – as well as discuss dating in the BDSM community, courtship in NY v. LA, toxic attraction v. compatibility & share some good old-fashioned dating horror stories. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 9th episode of season 3, the pair chat with comedian, animator & Bechdel Cast co-host Jamie Loftus about wanting to be a surrogate, body issues, dating apps, the bliss in establishing clear romantic v. platonic intentions, her quest to lose her virginity before turning 18 (& go on to create a hit show about it), the struggle to correctly identify & treat mental illness & "I want to kill myself" as a sort of safeword in the ER. This episode is brought to you by Casper (get $50 toward any mattress purchase by visiting Casper.com/BYTES & using BYTES at checkout). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 8th episode of season 3, the duo welcome birth doulas & reproductive health educators Natalia Hailes & Ashley Spivak of Cycles + Sex on male PMS, why the word mucus needs rebranding, benefits of a vaginal birth & how to make the best use of the signals your body is sending you – plus Steve confronts Courtney about being a texting nerd. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 7th episode of season 3, the pair welcome standup comedian & writer Sara Schaefer on identifying & confronting her internet troll, going through the stages of divorce, long-term relationship touch-ups & her recent series Woman Online – plus Courtney tells on herself, Steve reviews Dan Gill's wedding (congrats GillCon!!!) & we all solve the sexual harassment epidemic. This episode is brought to you by BarkBox (visit barkbox.com/reality for a FREE EXTRA MONTH when you subscribe to a 6 or 12-month plan). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 6th episode of season 3, the dynamic duo welcome very funny stand up comedian Eli Olsberg to wax polyamorous about physical v emotional jealousy, whether people are born poly or made poly, compersion, classifying polyamory as an identity or a lifestyle, SEX PARTIES, the surprisingly safe sex of swingers, queerness, biphobia & his monthly show at the Pleasure Chest aptly named Performance Anxiety – plus Courtney tells a story about double dating with a old couple & Steve shares the hype about his dope new career accomplishment (hint: Sarah Silverman). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 5th episode of season 3, the pair welcome stand up comedian, actress & filmmaker Atsuko Okatsuka on her new marriage, why her husband didn't take her last name, the long-time Weinstein rumors, couple voices, love languages, limerence, emotionally abusive relationship dynamics & how her parents met on a Japanese game show – plus rave reviews for Whitney Bell's I Didn't Ask For This: A Lifetime of Dick Pics show. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 4th episode of season 3, the duo welcome standup comedian, actor & co-host of the Groomzillas podcast Dan Gill on asking his soon-to-be father-in-law for his fiancée's hand in marriage, how he proposed to his long-time girlfriend, wedding planning tips from the groomzilla's POV, modern day mate expectations & what it's like to be getting married in 16 days! Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. For the 3rd episode of season 3, the pair welcome guest Andy Haynes - a standup comedian, TV writer & actor who happens to be a single, sober serial monogamist - for a wax sesh on skipping town as means of breaking up, bad relationship patterns, being open to dating against type, entering into an open relationship without really talking about it, post-divorce adulting, the entitlement of modern sexuality & so much more. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez, produced in partnership with JASH. The duo are back for episode 2 of the 3rd season with best friends & return guests Amber Rose Slutwalk photographer/installation artist Maggie West & The Dick Pic Show founder Whitney Bell (aka Kidd Bell) on their upcoming shows & the feminist statements behind them, why street hollering sucks, the strain of ambivalent friendships, how to make friends as an adult & what it's like to live in a deluge of unsolicited dick pics. This episode is brought to you by Astroglide O (try a free sample at astroglide.com/purepleasure) & Audible (get a free audiobook with a 30-day trial at audible.com/REALITY). For tickets to the Amber Rose Slutwalk on Sunday, October 1st in DTLA visit amberroseslutwalk.com & use promo code ThankYouReebok to waive the fee. For more information on how to attend I Didn't Ask For This: A Lifetime of Dick Pics on October 6th & 7th, check out thatdickpicshow.com. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & Steve Hernandez (they made it official!!), produced in partnership with JASH. The duo debut the show's 3rd season with couple Jac Cron & Penny O'Brien on their love story from summer camp thespians to #RelationshipGoals lesbians & the winding road in between, how Facebook helped bring them together, conflict styles between couples & a primer for how to fight with your partner - plus Courtney & Steve talk moving in with their boos. This episode is brought to you by Casper (get $50 toward any mattress purchase by visiting casper.com/bytes & using offer code BYTES). Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. Standup comedians & guest co-hosts Sofiya Alexandra & Steve Hernandez help Courtney close out the 2nd season with this 27th episode featuring men's mag writer Alana Hope Levinson (@alanalevinson) on her insidious, newly dubbed subsect of fuckbois called cuckbois, mansplaining, dating multiple people at the same time, #RelationshipGoals, how to sext better & social media best practices for couples. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. The 26th episode of season 2 features sisters Paulina Lopez Velazquez & Bricia Lopez-Maytorena of the Supermamas podcast & La Guelaguetza restaurant (buy their delicious, award-winning mole at ilovemole.com!) on their Oaxacan roots, Planned Parenthood pseudonyms, falling in love with their husbands, the importance of trust in sexual exploration, sex tips/picks, the often under-acknowledged strength in female energy & the inside scoop on Tony Robbins' Date with Destiny. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. Andrew Ti, the hilarious host of Yo, Is This Racist?, is back to guest co-host this 25th episode of season 2 featuring the super funny/super feminist political comedian & actor Jenny Yang on her favorite dating app, Cyrano-ing her friends’ OkCupid profiles, the mystique of availability & flirting as occupational currency, sexual work-arounds of the pious, hugging & consent culture, queer-adjacent politics & the fascinating premise of the book Not Gay: Sex Between Straight White Men. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. Comedian/regular co-host Steve Hernandez is back for the 24th episode of season 2 with standup comic & Transparent actor Ian Harvie on the 1st time he met a trans man, the transcendent hotness of Buck Angel, the 'queer adjacent' identity, his amazing partner Sarah, the spectrum of gender, the fact that some dudes have pussies & his #1 illegally downloaded standup special May The Best Cock Win. This episode is brought to you by Audible's new Hot Mic podcast with Dan Savage, starting August 8th. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

REALITY BYTES is a show about sex, love, relationships & dating in the digital age, hosted by Courtney Kocak & produced in partnership with JASH. Comic/guest co-host/BFF Sofiya Alexandra is back for the 23rd episode of season 2 featuring the other half of Nerdist’s The Jackie & Laurie Show, super funny standup & Conan writer Laurie Kilmartin on her unexpected pregnancy at age 40, grieving the loss of her father (buy her album 45 Jokes About My Dead Dad), coping with her live-in mom, raising a kid in today’s hyper tech world & dating pre-son v. post. This episode is brought to you by Audible's new Hot Mic podcast with Dan Savage, starting August 8th. Please rate & review to tell us what you love! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices