Power To Be Happy: Journey of Healing, Together

What is regret? It’s not accepting the fact that you are a human being and that you can make mistakes. Yes, there are things you and I would do differently, given the chance, but let me ask you this – did you make the best decision that you could make at the time, given what you knew then? If so, could you still blame yourself for what you did wrong? We get ourselves in trouble when we allow these could haves, would haves and should haves wreck our life today. Not on purpose, obviously – who in their right mind would do that? But somewhere, at the back of your mind, there it is, eating away at you… You would never, under any circumstances, treat someone in this way, and yet we do this willingly to ourselves?! This is the reason why we need to pull back the curtains on our past so we can live forward, with clear conscience and without looking back. Check out the video version of today’s episode for more: If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:

When I get angry at something my wife said, I stop thinking. The only words that come are the stupid “it’s just like the last time” and “here is what I should have told her.” All I can feel is the sweltering heat of emotion, and I hate every second of it. I hate losing control and I know it!! It’s when I want to say stupid, hurtful things that I know I’ll regret… This is not me, not the me that I am proud of. Because go into this emotional bubble where nothing can get through, I find the one way to break out is to thank or acknowledge someone else, immediately. In a weird way, it takes the focus away from you and forces you to look outside of yourself! Check out the video version of today’s episode for more:   If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:

When I was in primary school, my two best friends turned on me. There was no or explanation. It started with tricks, little nasty things you could almost pass off as an accident. And I did, it’s what I wanted to believe at the time, but it spilled into the open. They’d trip me up, push me over, mock me. There was no end to it at all! Kids in our class looked on with pity. It’s a feeling I did not like, but I felt helpless, unable to make sense of the situation, or worse, do anything about it. I felt bad when my mum found out, but somehow, she put a stop to it. Maybe she spoke with their parents? In any case, this learned a great deal about friendship from the early age and how fragile and uneven it can be. When I talk about friends who disappeared me during cancer, I notice how people listen. They go quiet, entranced almost. But that’s not so surprising, is it? Friendship is sacred and any kind of inquest is considered taboo. And yet, is there anyone out there who was not let down? Who did not feel hard done by, betrayed or cast aside? We should be able to talk about it – open and honest, without feeling weird or awkward in any way. Just like an argument with your spouse, the goal is never to apportion the blame, but figure out the best way forward. Here are some practical ideas to help you get the support you want from people around you and avoid any confusion or misunderstanding that your friends might have when you’re in trouble. Check out the video version of today’s episode:   If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:

Have you felt that you are so caught up in the everyday struggle that you can’t lift even relax? And you wonder – where did it all go, and how am I going to get back to doing things on a whim and smiling just because… Because it feels RIGHT, and you don’t have to worry about tomorrow because you’re living the life that you want, today. But it can be so hard to lift yourself up when you’re doing it tough and so today I’m sharing what I have learned about dealing with the struggles of daily life. In today’s episode you are going to get some practical ideas on welcoming a sense wonder and joy back into your life. Check out the video version of today’s episode: If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:

When was the last time you got angry and said something that you regret without even realising that it happened in the first place? Or maybe there was a story on the news that set you off down the spiral of doom, and you could not stop thinking about it, leaving you empty, hopeless and drained? There is no running away from the fact that powerful emotions can leave you hanging, but what if you could find better ways to deal with how you feel to lead a happier, more fulfilled life? James Gross, leading expert on emotion regulation from Stanford University, comes to the rescue to shed the light on how to manage your emotions in a way that serve you and your way of life. Here is what we discuss in this conversation today: How to recognise your emotions without judgement Five types of emotion regulation strategies Applying emotion regulation strategies in everyday life How to change what you think to make you feel better If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:

Imagine you come in (or dial in) to work and your inbox is flooded with emails from people thanking you for your support. Meetings are sharp, short and to the point – no one is trying to show off, or upstage anyone, or take up time for no reason. You work on things that make the biggest difference and no one is trying to shift responsibility onto you. You finish the day feeling like something has gone right in the world today. Does this sound your typical day at the office? For many of us, this is but a pipe dream. We make tough choices, untangle messy conversations, pick our battles, and go off to lick our wounds when the day is done. But work should not have to be a struggle! There are challenges and that’s a part of life we can’t turn away from, but it should never feel like a punishment or something you hate… When unreasonable situations (or expectations) are weighing me down, I try to work through in a logical way to stop it from making me angry or worked up about it. It does help though – hope you can find something in there for yourself! Here is the video version of today’s episode: If you are looking for a pick me up, check out my brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:

Have you ever felt trapped in the work that you do? When there’s pressure, and you’re doing your absolute best, but it’s just never enough… And there is no one to listen, or give you a hand, and you never seem to catch a break or get a time out! We don’t think of burnout as an occupational disease, and yet many of us have struggled with it in our lives. How do you recognise early signs of burnout? How can we rebuild trust and respect when we are under pressure? What of the organisational challenges we are going to face beyond COVID? For all this and more, I am talking to Michael Leiter, the world’s leading expert on burnout: Check out brand new book on thriving in times of uncertainty:

So many things race through your mind when you have a choice to make – what if I get this wrong, I don’t know what I’m doing, why does it have to be me, and how did it even come to this?! You feel lost, scared, don’t know what to do… So how do you put these emotions aside to make rational decisions you won’t regret? When I had to make a decision about the type of cancer treatment I need to have, I was torn – every choice had its pros and cons and it just didn’t add up… Until I sat down and mapped it out in front of me on a piece of paper so I could see what’s right for me and my way of life. To this day, I use this simple approach to make light of a complicated situation – why don’t you try it out for yourself? I’m laying it out step by step in this episode of The Happy YOU! Here is the video version of this episode:       Check out brand new book:

Believe it or not, what I get asked about in my talks the most is this – how do I open up about a difficult time in my life? And it’s only natural because talking about your worries, troubles or the past is never easy. It’s hard to find the right words or the right time to bring it up, even with someone you trust. And yet, most of us think it’s a personal trait of some kind. You either have it, or you don’t… But is that really true? Sharing my struggles is second nature for me now, but only because I figured out how to do it in a way that doesn’t seem weird, or needy, or too much. Anyone can do it – and I’m laying it out step by step in this episode of The Happy YOU! Here is the video version of this episode:     Check out brand new book:

How do you know you lost confidence? When you ask yourself these negative questions like: does what I’m doing even make sense? Is this situation even going to work out? What if these people don’t even like me? When you are in trouble and things don’t go your way, you start second guessing yourself and doubting everything that you do. And it’s tough because you get so wound up and you can’t even tell what set you off… It’s tough – so how do you get yourself out of it? The only way that I know is to ask a different quality of questions so that you are expecting more good things to come your way. Here is the video version of this episode:   Check out brand new book:

Isn’t it tough to change your ways even when you know that you must get it done and there is absolutely no way around it? Even when your health, your sanity, your way of life is under threat, and you go hard at losing weight, cutting down the drink, getting your finance in order or sorting out the mess at work or with the people around you. I should know, I’ve tried it all! But good habits never stuck, until I ran into cancer. I realised that forcing yourself to change is a losing game and there is an easier way to kick a bad habit. I hope that what I share in this episode of The Happy YOU will serve you- if like me, you have tried to change things for the better, but for whatever reason, it just didn’t work out. Here is the video version of this episode:     Check out brand new book:

This episode will ring true for you if you had people in your life who let you down or are not living up to your expectations. Today, I’m going deep on making meaningful connections with people because it’s so easy to lose sight of it in the challenging world of today. Many of us are struggling with worry and isolation on top of life that is packed to the rafters as it is with work, family commitments and chores… Now more than ever, it is crucial to build true friendships based on mutual trust and respect and forge even stronger bonds with people you care about the most – and here I’m sharing what helps me stay on top of it today. Here is the video version of this episode:   Check out brand new book:

Hey my friend, welcome to the show!! Here we talk about finding happiness if you’ve been to the place of struggle. Each week I am sharing what I learned from dealing with cancer, anxiety and daily challenges. These experiences don’t have us to back and we can try as we might to figure out our best way forward! This week, I’m going deep on purpose because it’s so easy to lose sight of it in the challenging world of today. There are so many worries and so much uncertainty at every turn… But we can rediscover that sense of purpose by looking into that which is most important to us now as we move forward to find the place where we belong. Here is the video version of this episode: Check out brand new book: