Pirate Monk Podcast

Today, Nate and Aaron hang out, answer a listener question with the help of Christine Leahy, and then chat with Aaron's son Samuel about what it was like to be on the kid side of the equation, growing up and navigating a world saturated with sex. To check out the Braveful Summit Christine was talking about, head over to: https://www.bravefulsummit.com/?ac=jl68jqHR

Ever heard of codependency? Today Dr. Barbara Stephes shed some new light on the subject as she explores the topic with Nate and Aaron. Also, Aaron apologizes to the city of Tustin. As a more specific aspect of his apology, here are some words from a fellow Pirate Monk on the Subject. And thanks to Josh Manifold for picking some of the tunes the today's broadcast. "On the Nov 8 edition of the PM podcast, you made some pretty strong statements about the beautiful town of Tustin, CA (as it relates to the planned SoCal Winter 2020 mini-retreat). I quote you from the episode: "Tustin is nowhere" "Tustin is in the middle of ugly LA" "Tustin is not cool" I believe you may have Tustin confused with a more sketchy burg here in the greater LA area. So, as to not scare potential SoCal Pirate Monks away from potentially attending the mini-retreat out here in February 2020, allow me to correct some of your misguided Tustin comments: "Tustin is nowhere" Located just 11 miles up the 55 Freeway from Newport Beach, CA, neighboring the populous cities of Irvine and Costa Mesa, and situated in the heart of Orange County (population 3.1 million), we'd hardly agree that it's a "nowhere" town.... "Tustin is in the middle of ugly LA" It's in Orange County, not in LA. There's a difference. Also see point 1 above, and final point which is: "Tustin is not cool" Besides being 15 mins from Newport Beach, 9 miles from Disneyland, and having countless dining and entertainment options....the city was chosen in 2009 by Forbes as one of the top 25 towns to live well in America. Would you call that "not cool"? I think not. Apologies to the good city and people of Tustin indeed are in order! OK, I apologize! I do love the areas mentioned that surround the beautiful city of Tustin. I repent!

Today Nate and Aaron get Mondo back in the room, have a mini-meeting, and talk to Mondo's friend Ben about his journey into addiction and the path he found back to freedom.

Today Nate and Aaron are taking a slice of the weekend from Eva Tennessee to explore how we can integrate the Gospel into our lives and recovery, specifically and powerfully. Nate opens up a vulnerable door so that the men can journey with him towards the love of his Abba. All that is happening today, on the Pirate Monk Podcast.

Today Nate & Aaron chat with Nick Stumbo of Pure Desire ministries about Nick's story and how to understand the difference between arrival mentality and journey mentality in recovery, as we search for deeper maturity and more honest...honesty. Check out the happenings at Pure Desire Ministries by clicking: https://puredesire.org/

Pull up a chair, start up your lawnmower, or rev up your engine and take a ride with Nate and Aaron as they have a chat with Matt Dobber Dobschuetz, host of Porn Free Radio, on this episode of the Pirate Monk Podcast. Check out more of what Matt is up to by clicking on: https://recoveredman.com/ Music on Today's Podcast: Randy Dandy-O; Radio Nowhere (Bruce Springsteen); White City (Pogues); When I'm Gone (Anna Kendrick)

Today Nate and Aaron talk virtual meetings and follow up on some listener responses to last week's episode. You get that and a MINI MEETING, and it all happens today, on the Pirate Monk Podcast. Today's Music: Dive - Steven Curtis Chapman; Another Day - Steven Delopoulos; Said the Son to the Shine - Earth Suit; Blue Train - John Coltrane

Today, Nate and Aaron sit down with trauma specialist Kaka Ray to learn about how trauma affects addiction and what we can do about it. Kaka will be a workshop teacher at the upcoming retreat. To learn more about what she's up to, check out, http://www.kakaray.com/

Today, we've got it all! Unsolicited book reviews, witty banter, a mini-meeting, and the pièce de résistance, a conversation with BraveHearts Michael Leahy. He'll be chatting about his exciting new thoughts on how to use technology to put connection, recovery and growth on a steroid regimen that won't get you a 30 game suspension. We're talking about hacking the system today, on the Pirate Monk Podcast. https://www.bravehearts.org/michael-leahy

We've got a mini-meeting, we've got updates, and we've got our old friend Michael Johnson talking about dating with a bigger picture in mind and guarding your heart in the process. You might not be dating, but if you've got little kids, trust me, you'll want to think through this stuff. Log on, stay tuned, plug in, the pirates are on the air. To connect with Michael and his work, head on over to: http://f-m-u.com/

The boys are back in the same state and in the same room catching up...mini-meetings are rolling...and some lads from Texas describe how you can have an amazing retreat with your brothers without any permission from your mommies! It's all happening today, on the Pirate Monk Podcast.

This week Nate and Aaron discuss a blog about Game of Thrones, and read a question from a listener that needs your input. After that, Nate chats with Noel Bouche of Pure Hope. To find out more about Pure Hope or to check out Noel's podcast, head on over to: https://purehope.net/

Sit back, put up your feet, or start your lawn mower (Tom), and enjoy a chat with Andrew Osenga of the Normals and Caedmon's Call. He'll be talking through some of Nate's favorite songs and their stories off his newest album. If you would like to keep tabs on what Andrew is up to, check him out at http://www.andrewosenga.com/ At the beginning of the episode, the boys listen to a modern adaptation of the poem The Hound of Heaven written by Francis Thompson produced by Emblem Media LLC. The book was written by Brian and Sally Oxley, Sonja Oxley Peterson with Dr. Devin Brown. Illustrations by Tim Ladwig. Here is the link if you want to check it out in its full glory. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RXlgz4aBKt8&t=724s

Today Nate & Aaron get answers to one of their most asked questions. "What about the women?" "How can my wife get this kind of community?" To answer that question they've enlisted a bevy of lady travelers to talk about their journies. To find out more about getting involved, contact Erin at: [email protected] The administration would like to apologize for the audio during the first segment and makes all promises necessary to ensure that listeners believe audio problems will NEVER happen at ANY time EVER in the future.

Nate and Aaron chat about the Scotland retreat and play some audio clips from the experiences of its participants.

Today the boys chat with Dina Alexander MS, about how to talk with kids about technology and sex. Dina is the author of some great books that will help educate parents and get the conversations started. Check out her resources at: https://educateempowerkids.org/

Nate is out of town, so Aaron conscripted one of our favorite buddies Tom Ryan (Ashamed No More) to hang with Kathy Reynolds for part two of the conversation on the practical side of disclosure. Kathy and Tom give some real-world advice and real-life experience on the good, the bad and the ugly...and the beautiful, of disclosure. Check out the ministry Kathy serves with at: http://www.daringventures.com/ Check out Tom's book Ashamed No More at: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0830837930/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_taft_p1_i0 The music between segments was our friend Andy Gullahorn singing his song "Any Other Way" Check it out!

Today is part one of two conversations with coach Kathy Reynolds, who talks about her own journey of disclosure, loss, and redemption in her marriage. Stay tuned for part two when we get into the nitty gritty of what to do and not to do in the dangerous waters of full disclosure. As promised...a bit late, below is the poem Singing Warriors by Paige that was read a couple shows back. Singing Warriors By Paige The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in His love He will no longer rebuke you, But will rejoice over you with singing. Zephaniah 3:17 We serve a God who is a Warrior who sings. And, He enables us to be singing warriors. Just as he fights for us, he has invited us to join Him in the battle. And, the enemy is not our husbands. The enemy is the one who has ensnared our husbands. The one who has deceived them and blinded them. The one who is out to steal, kill, and destroy. The one who uses darkness and hiddenness. Who tempts and then, when the deed is done, Heaps on shame so that returning to God (and to us) feels unbearable. So, we find ourselves here in this place. In this battle that we didn’t see coming. That we didn’t sign up for. That has knocked us to the ground. And often leaves us as a puddle on the floor. But, again and again we rise up, Slowly, hesitantly. Inch by inch rising to take our place as warriors. To fight against the enemy. To fight for truth. To fight for health. We fight for our husbands. And, as we do so, we are fighting for our marriages. For our children. For future generations. But, even if the marriage is not restored. We choose to pray. We want to see every Christian man (and woman) Walk free of sexual brokenness. Welk free of hiddenness. Walk free of broken vows. Walk free of regrets. God also invites us to sing. To worship Him even as the all-too-familiar tears Find their paths down our faces once again. He invites us to cling to His goodness even in the midst of the storm. He invites us to join Him in the song He sings over our husbands. The song of redemption. The song of forgiveness. The song of resurrection. The song that calls out the spark that God put inside our men— That image of God that is there. That always has the potential to choose… Redemption, Hatred of sin, Recovery, Restoration, Empathy Coming out of isolation and Walking in community. We join this song because of love. Because even though we have been hurt more than we ever dreamed possible, We also believe in the man we fell in love with. We believe that he can be the man He was created to be. We believe he can walk in honesty. We believe he can resist temptation. We believe he can learn to love. We believe this because he is God’s beloved, too. We believe this because we know the God of the impossible. We believe this because we believe in the power of the gospel. Because we believe in both truth and grace. However, if the man we love chooses to remain… Remain in his lies Remain in the darkness Remain in his pattern of giving into temptation Remain in choosing death over life… We will still know that we have a Singing Warrior Who delights in us and who saves us. We know no matter what happens We are loved by the One who knows us best By the One who weeps when we weep And by the One who understands betrayal all too well.

Today EMT and firefighter Joshua Mast talks with the lads about brotherhood in the firehouse and how that translates to deeper community for us all. Every man is in a battle, but do we know how to support a brother in the fire?

Ever get frustrated with the younger generation and feel like you can't relate? How about you younger folks who think older guys have little or nothing to offer and just want to change you? Well, today's episode is for you. Nate and Aaron sit down and chat with Randall Thomas to get some understanding and hopefully practical tools that will help communities of men find love and authenticity across generational divides.

Today Nate and Aaron Chat with David Cassidy, Pastor of Christ Community Church in Franklin Tennessee, to chat about his book Indispensable: The Basics of Christian Belief. They discuss the invitation to the common table that binds all Christians of every denomination together.

The boys sit down with author, speaker, and Jesus pursuer Tony Kriz to look for some clarity about finding truth in a world bombarding us with truth tailored to suit our own desires. They also dip into the mailbag and answer a letter about relapses and slips.

Today Nate & Aaron sit down to hear Bill Garner and Jeff Howard tell their stories from both sides of the addiction journey. Bill and Jeff work to help those struggling with addiction at Harvest Church in Germantown Memphis Tennessee.

Live and in person, Nate and Aaron sit down with Jeremy Slayden to talk about his experiences as a professional baseball player, and how his need for coaching in his athletic career helped him to dive into seeking coaching in recovery.

Aaron and Nate reconnect after Aaron's big move across the country to Nate's neck of the woods, and Nate leads a mini-meeting with Pirates around the world.

Welcome to today's amazing episode where Pirate Monks from around the world participate in a mini-meeting and Nate and Aaron converse with counselor and certified sex addiction therapist Jim Cress. To find out more about what Jim is into and up to head on over to jimcress.com

Mondo joins Nate, Aaron, and a bunch of pirate monks for a special episode of the podcast recorded on Sunday morning at the 2018 "Another 48 Hours" fall retreat.

Today Nate & Aaron answer some mail and then run a conversation Nate and David Hampton had with CCM artist Russ Taff on his journey out of addiction and into forgiveness and healing.

Today, Jay Stringer, author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing, unpacks a story of great hope for those in the battle for victory. Check out Jay's website to learn more at: http://jay-stringer.com/

Today the three-part series on privilege wraps up with a conversation about things heterosexual people may not consider in their day-to-day lives. Nate & Aaron hope that these conversations have been useful and informative, but more than that encouraged you to engage in conversations that help you to understand and love the people around you better.

Do you ever feel your soul needs rest, but you feel the push to do more for Jesus? Curtis Zackery might have something to say to you on today's conversation with the boys. Check it out. Listen. Learn. Enjoy...

Today the series on privilege continues as Nate and Aaron chat with a few experts on being women... and so the conversation continues. What do other people mean when the word privilege is used.

Today Nate and Aaron begin a three-part series on privilege, a word that has taken on important and controversial new weight over the past few years. In this first installment, the boys speak with Pastor Kujanga Jackson and their old buddy Mondo to learn about what aspects of white privilege they have never considered before.

Tune in and hang out with some of the pirates leading virtual meetings. They might just answer a question you had running around in your mind.

Most Christians are caught in a belief that there are two poles in dealing with our flesh, master it, or indulge it. In this episode, Nate and Aaron chat with Michael about a third way to work through our flesh desires. Here is an Amazon link to the Lewis book on love that Aaron talked about. Included on the link is the audio version that was referred to. https://www.amazon.com/The-Four-Loves/dp/B0007OB5QM Free versions of the Four Loves are available on Youtube here: Storge. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m4hI638mskQ Philia https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3hM4izbColg Eros https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WReLIE08Dnc Agape https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dTYqrjmDJgE

On this episode, Nate and Aaron sit down with columnist and author Jonathan Merritt, to talk about his newest book Learning to Speak God from Scratch: Why Sacred Words Are Vanishing -- and How We Can Revive Them. Strap in and put your helmets on, because this will be a wild ride.

Aaron talks with Nate and his daughter Kristin about their recent father/daughter trip to Ireland and England.

Nate and Aaron hear about a cool new ministry Caleb and Larry have been working on, which will bring leadership and pastoral mentorship to folks around the world who do not have access to traditional schools and tools. To find out more, head on over to: leading-well.com This Episode's Music: The Quilty Hornpipe - Skip Henderson Everyday People - Sly & The Family Stone Peace of God - Insyderz Don’t Tell Them Jesus Loves Them - Steve Camp Plush - Stone Temple Pilots

Nate and Aaron touch base with Kirk Giles, president of Promise Keepers Canada and answer follow-up questions from a past podcast.

Hang out with OP (original pirate) David Bunker as he explores the strange tension we experience in corporate worship and how to discover an authentic emotional experience with our Abba.

Ever wondered what a truckin' man thinks about during all that alone time in the cab of his rig? Find out today as Nate and Aaron talk with Chad Bird, author of Night Driving, Notes From a Prodigal Soul. To find more of Chad's resources, head over to: chadbird.com

Today, Nate and Aaron sit down with Virginia and talk about her life and experiences as an exotic dancer and re-discovering the love of God.

The extra piratey Nate and Aaron open the mail bag today to talk through listener questions (and piratey suggestions), and then sit down to chat with Bryan Craig of Influencers Global Ministries. (Yes, they were standing for the first segment.) The Influencers have created a process by which men and women all over the world are experiencing deeper walks as disciples of Jesus Christ. Tune in, get inspired, and head out into the great adventure. For more information on the Influencers' ministry, check out: http://www.influencers.org/

Today Lynn Cherry, the wife of a recovering sex addict, talks about her own process of recovery from denial and anger. Lynn is the author of "Keep Walking: 40 Days to Hope and Freedom after Betrayal," a very helpful resource for anyone on a similar journey. Check out her website: https://lynnmariecherry.com/

Today Nate and Aaron, who is sitting next to a river on his phone, get a check in from Michael Cusick about his upcoming Surfing For God Intensive, and have a conversation with David Hampton about his book, After the Miracle. To grab a copy of David's book head over to: https://www.amazon.com/After-Miracle-Illusions-Along-Restoration/dp/1683505778/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1525477794&sr=1-2&refinements=p_27%3ADavid+Hampton And to find out more about Michael's intensive click: https://restoringthesoul.com/weekend/

Today the boys sit down with Lisa Eldred, a staff writer with Covenant Eyes, to chat about her new book Hobbies and Habits. Lisa is passionate about helping folks find joy and life during the walk towards sobriety. If you've felt like your struggle against the flesh has been one big dark hole, this week's episode is for you. You can download Lisa's book for free at: https://learn.covenanteyes.com/hobbies-and-habits/ and there are many more books available from covenant eyes, including Lisa's book More Than Single at: http://www.covenanteyes.com/e-books/

Catch up with the boys as they hang with Mondo, yes he's back, and then have a great conversation with author and all around smart guy Lance Ford. The discussion revolves around the dangers and development of hierarchical business model leadership structures in the western church, and how those models might not be the best way to foster community and the development of the gifts God gave His people. If you are happy sitting on the sidelines and accepting that pastors are the ones who should be in the game, make sure to not listen to this one. Tune in next week for, "I'm ok, You're ok."

Today Pastor Robbyn Abedi, a coach with Tin Man Ministries, talks with the boys about his story of hope in shame and gives some great insight into learning to be present instead of hiding in life's performance. You might even learn some practical things about masturbation that you were too afraid to ask...not practical "how to's"...but practical...whatever, just listen to the podcast.

Today, the lads sit down with Robert Beeson to talk about single parenting and his new book Going Solo. Robert has created a new format for creating support and community for single parents in your local church. Learn more at soloparentsociety.com.

Today the boys talk with Ben and Ann Wilson who share their inspirational story of hope in betrayal and God's love that fills in all the gaps of shame and guilt. Grab their book on Kindle for a special limited time price: https://www.amazon.com/Betrayed-Betrayer-Rescuing-Marriage-Affair/dp/0692414053