Pirate Monk Podcast

On this episode: Nate fixes wiring. Aaron is stranded at home. They discuss emotions in the church and the shortcomings of online friends. Our Guest: Stephen McWhirter - musician, minister, husband, and father. Stephen shares his story of being a preacher's kid and recovered drug addict. Your story [of healing] matters. Jesus didn’t heal people the same way twice. Jesus is real, despite your experiences. Stories of redemption. Everyone has emotions. Everything is trying to emotionally manipulate you. What are you going to tune into? Links: Stephen McWhirter Books: The Case for Christ Sponsor: Life Works Counseling Annual Retreat: 2023 Samson Annual Retreat If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate and Aaron don’t have time for buffoonery. Our Guest: Zachary Wagner, an American in England, writer, researcher, and ordained minister. We look at how was Jesus’ masculinity shaped the narratives of the church. Understanding myths about the need for sex. Replacing the purity paradigm with learning. Turning immature image of sex into mature understanding. Discussing sexual abuse crisis in culture and the church. Reflecting on how Jesus had intimate, nonsexual, relationships with both males and females. Links: Book: Non-Toxic Masculinity, Contact: Zachary Wagner Sponsor: Lifeworks Counseling and Coaching Events: 48 Hours of Frankness - Colorado Samson Summit If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate and Aaron are back from England. Aaron has realizations and understands his feet. And a mysterious guest host is on the show. Our Guest: Cathy Loerzel:, author, coach, speaker, wife, and mother. Cathy, Co-founder of the Allender Center, talks about her next steps in life. Discussing loyalty and false loyalty: staying due to fear of being alone. Francis Weller’s premise of grief: “everything you love will die”. Growing when there wasn’t a plan B, while honoring and grieving your past. God calls us to spiritual and emotional maturity. Finding community with other survivors. Links: Contact, Coaching, Speaking, etc. Books: The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred work of Grief Sponsor: Lifeworks Counseling and Coaching Events: 48 Hours of Frankness - Colorado Samson Summit If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Aaron has end of high school anxiety. Nate is old enough to have a grandchild graduating college. Our Guest: Dr. Craig Cashwell is a professor at William and Mary College and trauma counselor. Competent and ethical integration of spirituality into the counseling process. Understanding spiritual bypass. What you resist, persists. Discussing “need shame” and toxic positivity. Underneath anger is fear. Undoing gender stereotypes. You can’t be real with a partner if you aren’t real with self. “We are all on the hot mess express!” Once you are real, you can’t be ugly except to those people that don’t understand. The courage to be vulnerable. Links: Bio and contact The Harbor 2023 Samson Annual Retreat If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Aaron paints a challenging image of himself. Nate engineers again. Both discuss medicating with work. Our Guest: Ron Williams: a pirate monk and coach shares his story that landed him in prison; the healing and hope that resulted; how his experiences have helped himself and other men grow; helping churches with their internal policies related to sex offenders. Links: Ron's coaching site, Ron's email 2023 Samson Annual Retreat If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Aaron unfriends on facebook. Nate listens to a new book. Our Guest: Blaine Hogan: actor, director, author, husband, and father. You know you have succeeded as a parent, if your kids go to therapy for different reasons than you did. You can’t understand where you are going, if you don’t know where you have been. Free people free people! Composing your future is much like composing a song. Understanding your past, future, and present using narrative therapy. Renewing of the mind, seeing through a new filter. Your stains becoming your greatest strengths. Your stories are epic. Links: Blaine Hogan Book: Exiting the Cave Book: No More Mr. Nice Guy 2023 Samson Annual Retreat If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Aaron markets the virtues of living in a sauna and learns about FOMO. Nate reads 6 books on an Alaskan cruise. Our Guest: Sam Black: a pirate monk, meeting host, author, journalist, and reporter. Sam educates pastors and church leaders on understanding pornography addiction, how it happens, early exposure, trauma and drama, and the volume of males and females consuming. How sharing your story opens the door to others opening up and sharing their stories. Explaining how Covenant Eyes uses AI to increase effectiveness and accountability reporting. Links: [email protected] Covenant Eyes Books: Healing Church, The Porn Circuit Victory App: Apple, Android 2023 Samson Annual Retreat If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Aaron is excited and gets to shop. Nate will pop in. Our Guest: John Eldredge: author, counselor, minister, husband, and father. Be cautious of the cascade effects of trauma. How to practice benevolent detachment and release. You can have freedom or control, control kills. Anxiety and depression rise in direct correlation to the use of social media and news. Be intentional! Links: Wild at Heart, Books, podcast, App 2023 Samson Annual Retreat If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate and Aaron provide updates and ask for help on “the redneck frat house” (The Harbor). Our Guest: Russ Johnson: former pastor, consultant, podcaster, author, husband, and father. Sharing the good news. If it can be quantified, it can be faked. “You are held by a love that will never let you go!” Allowing those you minister to determine the direction they need to go. The problem is never in the mirror, it's the “thems”. Links: Contact, Podcast, Call, etc. 2023 Samson Annual Retreat If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate - McCreary’s Pub is stalking him. Aaron - own your own share. Our Guest: Paula Jauch, speaker, podcaster, trauma overcomer, survivor, author, wife, and mom. Overcoming with 2 addicted parents, eating disorder, addiction, gangs, and more. “Trauma is the greatest mission field of the 21st century, but the most misunderstood.” “Water seeks its own level." "Your picker is broken.” Links: Website, Contact, Podcast, Book 2023 Samson Annual Retreat If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss the first ever event at the Harbor House. Our Guest: Cathy Loerzel: Co-founder of the Allender Center, author, urban farmer, coach, speaker, wife, mother. “Every single person causes harm, every single person causes delight.” Continue learning despite what degree you do or don’t have. Moving from danger to beauty. Links: Contact, Coaching, Speaking, etc. Books: Redeeming Heartache, Brain Talk If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate and Aaron reach into their sack and pull something out, answering mail. Our Guest: John Pulley, consultant. Vengeance is easier than grace. “I touched my wiener, so God can no longer love me.” The church has an honesty problem. “How’s your heart doing?” Learning to open up in a safe and healthy environment. There are consequences for your actions, even under grace. Links: John Pulley If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate continues to have low quality internet. Aaron discourages WEeing on each other. Our Guest: Jarrett Samuels, minister, podcaster, husband, father, friend. What is a man? All men are insecure and emotional. Becoming who God created us to be. Your presence matters. Taking Responsibility. Community not innovation. Links: Contact, Podcast, Events, Tribe, Etc. If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate enjoys Amelia Island with his grandkids. Aaron has an indefinite future. Our Guest: Mo Isom is an athlete, author, speaker, home coming queen, and LSU grad. She discusses growing up in a home with a sex addict. Childhood exposure to p*rn that started a 10 year addiction. How much can I get away with and not go to hell?. Healthy Sexual Conversation for Women and Families. Links: Books, contact, speaking, other resources If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate inquires about Aaron’s home repair updates. Aaron preaches about fake fruit. Our Guest: Jason George: minister, podcaster, life coach, husband, and dad. Jason shares his story of growing up in a broken family including abuse, being raised by siblings, early p*rn exposure and addiction. He also discusses being kinda Christian. Even believers can fall back into sin. Healing takes community. Learning good healthy pleasure and replacement. It's important to replace, not just stop doing an unhealthy thing. I’m one step away from stupid. Links: The Griz Podcast, Narrow Trail If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate confesses his love for WhataBurger, and Aaron fills his jugs at his neighbors house. Our Guest: Joe Ryan. Podcaster, coach, Italian and Irish, New Yorker, former bartender and comedian. Sober from drugs and alcohol. Joe hosts a podcast: Its Not You, Its Your Trauma. Owning your actions and apologizing. Having Compassion for yourself. Links: Joe Ryan: Podcast, Youtube, Instagram, Contact, Coaching Book: The Body Keeps the Score If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Aaron is getting his home repaired. Nate holds Aaron accountable for going to England on The Path Retreat. Nate invites you to go on the Path Retreat too (deadline for signup Mar 31, 2023). Our Guest: Brody Holloway, co-founder and lead pastor of Snowbird Wilderness Outfitters in Andrews, NC. Adrenaline and fear break down walls. Shared experiences are critical for leading and investing in others. Sin management versus holiness. To live in Jesus is to live in the purity effect. Links: Snowbird Outfitters Book: Life Together by: Dietrich Bonhoeffer If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate is home, energized, and has internet. Aaron announces all the announcements. Our Guest: Wendell Moss: therapist, minister, educator, and speaker. There is not always a side to take - just listen. Sometimes the response to abuse is more abusive than the abuse itself. My feast will never fulfill you. Upcoming Events: 48 hours of Frankness (Illinois), Walking The Path in England (June 11-17, 2023) Links: Wendell at the Seattle School of Theology & Psychology, Wendell at the Allender Center If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Aaron and Justin answer a listener's letter and offer support. Nate has junk internet in Florida. ***Silas training April 15, 2023. Look for more info soon.*** Our Guest: Robert Bruce Angle III, president & CEO, counselor, minister, achiever, striver, @$$hole, type A and enneagram 8. Former director and expert of small groups. We commonly experience love to the degree we can trust. Love: giving and receiving of needs being met. What love does: sees, soothes, is safe, is secure. Protecting weaknesses and supporting strengths. Relationship with God is not about doing. I am not useful to God, but I am delightful. God has designed us to grow through the context of relationships. Three steps in building relationships. Ask the next question, and the one behind that one too. Links: Contact, books, and other resources Our guest this week was booked via The Expert Bookers www.expertbookers.com. If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Aaron tells an embarrassing story of his maturity. Justin takes his kids to the park. Our Guest: Duane Osterlind, therapist, podcaster, and husband. Duane brings many years of personal and professional experience to the addiction recovery community. When listening to others, the reply is never: “its worse for someone else”. Compassion for the human. We heal through the eyes of others; we need others to see us and lets us know its ok. You can be confused and have hope. The world needs the compassionate and the @$$holes. Links: Contact and podcast If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss the truths behind the 1985 book: Amusing Ourselves to Death. Our guest: Sathiya Sam, coach, author, podcaster, preacher’s kid. “If you are unaware, you cannot repair.” There’s no faith without unbelief. Knowledge is potential; knowledge with action is where real power comes from. He who is most vulnerable, heals the quickest. Learning to articulate your inner life. Prevention: confess a temptation before needing to confess a mistake. Community doesn’t bring change, it sustains it. Links: The Last Relapse Book Unleash The Man Within Podcast: Podbean, Apple If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Our THREE hosts: Erin, Nate, and Aaron. Erin takes a break from a road trip. Nate has a prophecy. Aaron gets butt dials. Our guest: Jean Masukevich, mom, yogi, spiritual director, trauma informed. Topics: Enjoy a guided relaxation exercise and meditation. Learning to connect the body to the mind. Listening to your body and responding with love. “What are you running from, and what are you running toward?” Links: Sow That, email If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss God’s will. Our Guest: Michael Basta, clinical social worker, certified Gottman method couples' therapist. Michael conveys hope for relationships, using science. History can predict the future of the relationship, but it is not set in stone. We can change the future, despite past wounds and trauma. The Four Horseman of the apocalypse, and the nine factors of relationship success. Forming a culture of appreciation. Links: Michael Basta The Gottman Institute Books: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work What Makes Love Last? If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: McCreary’s follows Nate around. Aaron watches Hallmark movies. Our guest: Dr. Quincee Gideon, clinical psychologist. Topics discussed: Loading the language: creating language inside a group that separates and excludes. Being safe within yourself. Religious trauma, denial of human experience. Stepping into a larger life that isn’t filtered, or second guessed, is grander, is at peace, and is safer. Feeling generally safe within your body, relationships, and environment. Sharing specifics with the correct audience. Contact info: https://www.quinceegideon.com/, tiktok, instagram If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate prepared for the greatest thanksgiving dinner of his life. Aaron loses 12 pounds. Our Guest: Marnie C. Ferree, recovering addict, director of Bethesda Workshop, therapist (CSAT, IITAP). Topics include: Reframing hope. Expertise, in helping others, from experience. It's never a bad thing to re-up with God. “Despite all the pain, anger, grief, I’m living my best life.” The importance of support systems. Women in sexual recovery (too). Bethesda Workshops, resources, and contact: Marnie C. Ferree If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate has a full house. Aaron shares expertise on Autobots and Decepticons. Our Guest: Dr. Juli Slattery, clinical psychologist, mom, wife, author, follower of Christ. God puts the resources in place when we follow His calling. God has given husbands and wives unique areas of power, and they are based on needs and desires. None of this is control, it is power; Influence, not control. The zone of power is understanding your spouse's needs. Hardness of heart will kill marriage and relationship with the Lord. The 4 pillars of a healthy marriage: faithfulness, intimate knowing, sacrificial giving, passionate celebration. There is always hope; God loves to breathe life into dead things. Books, resources, and contact: Dr. Juli Slattery Other Resources: Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas Rosenau If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate and Aaron talk about their favorite kitchen gadgets and go-to meals. Our Guest: Author, Relationship Counselor, Speaker, Teacher Topics include: Listening is loving, hearing vs. listening, Emotional safety, evaluating trust. Listening: creating intimacy in a relationship. Learning what emotional intimacy looks like. What does it feel like to be connected? Intimacy specifics for males and females. Reflecting on what you are saying no to when you say yes to something else. Books: Emotional Safety: Honoring Yourself While Creating Trust and Presence to Experience Meaningful Relationships 40 Forms of Intimacy: Integrating Daily Connection Into Your Couple Relationship Three Thoughts Couple Devotional: Engaging the Power of Our Minds and Hearts to Cultivate a Lifestyle of Intimacy If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate cleans before the house cleaner arrives. Aaron knew a fella. Our Guest: Andrew Susskind, clinical social worker, therapist, author, podcaster, and blogger. Discussion includes: not just sobriety, finding life. Reclaiming childhood longings. “Social media is basically lite porn,” or other ways we escape. Sexual blueprint, sexual health and sexual discussion. More connection and less shame. The masculinity of yearning. Book: Its Not About the Sex: Moving from Isolation to Intimacy after Sexual Addiction Andrew Susskind’s: contact, podcast, blog, practice. If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate is concerned about getting his @ss kicked. Aaron draws conclusions with Disney’s Pocahontas. Encouraged by the relapses of the saints. When and what qualifies you in ministry with returning guest Tullian Tchividjian. “If we aren’t attracting the same people as Jesus attracted, we aren’t preaching the same message Jesus preached.” The Sanctuary Church, Jupiter, FL Fallen and Free Conference Feb. 17-19, 2023 If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Aaron interrogates Nate. Nate sings a very heartfelt song. The guys talk to guest Andrew Bauman, speaker, therapist, writer, and author. “The owning of your *ssholeness doesn’t lead to toxic shame. It leads to humility not humiliation.” How to define narcissism. Addressing couples work AFTER a lengthy period of sobriety. Andrew J. Bauman Book: How Not to Be an *ss: Essays on Becoming a Good & Safe Man Film: A Brave Lament Christian Counseling Center for Sexual Health and Trauma If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Nate feels gratitude. Aaron remembers a super cool smoking trick learned during Shakespearean acting classes. The guys have a deep discussion with George Bitar about healthy couples' communication despite traumatic backgrounds. Learning to discuss disconnection cues and trigger moments in emotionally focused couples therapy work. How to repair and reconnect. Feeling delight and joy in the relationship. Tapping into emotions to point to our needs and values. Providing hope for healing and growth emotionally. https://connectcouplestherapy.com/ Books: Hold Me Tight The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Other Resources: https://www.thisamericanlife.org/261/the-sanctity-of-marriage/act-one-1 https://connectcouplestherapy.com/are-you-a-pursuer-withdrawer-or-a-bit-of-both/ http://carolinaeft.com/pdf/Where_Does_Love_Go_Wrong.pdf https://www.gottman.com/blog/what-is-the-sound-relationship-house/ If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On this episode: Aaron caps that. Nate shops Amazon. The guys interview Chris Bruno, counselor and author of Sage: A Man's Guide into His Second Passage and Man Maker Project: Boys are Born. Men are Made. Nate shares his experiences from the Italian Samson retreat. “The task of the second passage, is to find the boy within the man, and bring him home.” “When we are hijacked in this phallic state, we are not looking for sex, we are looking for connection.” “The more we dissociate, the more it’s a flight from the goodness of God.” "It's not because the sage knows all the answers to all of the things. The sage is not a sage because he has good advice." If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Q&A How did Jason Gray get chosen as the musical guest? Any worries about losing the mission of the Samson Society with the scope of ministry expanding? Can we have some focus for single guys at the next retreat? What alternate format meetings have you seen that have been successful? How do you handle a situation where someone abuses your trust or vulnerability within Samson? How can I cast a vision for a Samson group for guys who are not necessarily dealing with sexual brokenness? Is there a place or need for a "group conscience meeting" in the context of Samson? How can I discern when it's time to make a change in my recovery plan? Is there a place for women who need something like Samson Society? Are there materials available for how to be a Silas? Where can fathers whose children also deal with addiction connect to share and encourage each other? How can we better incorporate Marco Polo in our community? If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

"Porn is like the junk food of healthy sex and relationships." Aaron and Rob interview Ian Henderson, founder of the Naked Truth Project. about how he got involved in this work of opening eyes and freeing lives from the damages of porn. While Naked Truth is based in Manchester, UK, they work with people all over the world. The "open eyes" aspect focuses on education to combat the normalization of porn by presenting in schools and elsewhere to raise awareness of the dangers of porn. The "freeing lives" portion focuses on those who have already been trapped in addiction, and also help for their partners. The work goes well beyond just stopping the behavior, moving individuals to healthy growth and reclaiming what was lost. If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Nate and Aaron interview Andrea Ashley, host of the Adult Child podcast, about the trauma of growing up in a dysfunctional alcoholic family, the maladaptive coping mechanisms she chose, such as alcohol and unhealthy dating relationships, and her path to recovery. If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Nate and Aaron interview Juris S, author of Happy, Joyous and Free: One Man's Journey and Guide to Ultimate Spiritual Health. Topics include: bullying, alcoholism, and integration of faith and recovery. If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

"I want to empower my partner to show up freely, not disempower her by withholding data that might affect the choices she makes and how she shows up." "If you don't have a shared understanding of the past, you cannot have a shared trajectory for the future." "The human brain is wired so that even a perceived threat to a primary attachment relationship registers as a survival issue." We welcome Jake Porter of Daring Ventures to the show. Topics include: secondary addictions, couple-centered recovery, the importance of attachment, and power imbalance in the relationship. ([email protected]) If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

We welcome back a great friend of the show, Michael Cusick to talk about trauma, whether addiction exists, and attachment in all areas of life. You can also check out more about Michael's Restoring The Soul Weekend Intensive. If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

"You cannot become masculine until it's given to you." Aaron and Justin have a fun conversation with Roe Hunter, therapist and son of previous guest, Roane Hunter (Episode 330). We get to hear the other side of the story as they discuss topics like forgiveness and repair, family recovery, the critical nature of brotherhood, and the transition to manhood. (Note: the episode that Aaron referenced with Scott Dente is actually Episode 115.) For more on Roe's practice, visit https://lifeworks.ms/roe-hunter-lpc-csat To sign up for the Virtual Samson Retreat on Dec 8-9, 2022, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-virtual-retreat-dec-2022. If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Nate and Aaron have a fascinating conversation on topics of Story, Attachment, and Attunement with Adam Young, therapist and host of "The Place We Find Ourselves" podcast. If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

"We have this work to do with God around our stories, around our hurt and our pain...Every person is in the pain management business whether they know it or not...If I don't have a relationship and walk with God where I can process that hurt and pain in a healthy way - an appropriate, truthful, redemptive, kingdom way - then I process my pain in unhealthy ways...We learned to use sex as a primary pain management tool of our life...using sex to seek emotional equilibrium." Nate and Aaron drop some big news about a couple of exciting happenings within the Samson House community that you won't want to miss. Then they welcome guest Tony Ingrassia of The Power of Purity ministry, who shares his story of the practical importance of the gospel in community. If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

"We want to Re-Solution people with Biblically-based, research-informed answers to their hurts and struggles." The guys open the show with a great discussion about the importance of knowing and sharing our stories in community. Then guest Ben Bennett shares his story of faith, multiple addictions and the solutions that he has found. You can learn more about Ben and his ministry at resolutionmovement.org. If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

"We're shoving more knowledge into our heads and we're becoming more and more stupid. There's just no inner wisdom." Nate, Chris and Aaron have a great visit with guest Eli Machen, one of the pioneers in sex addiction recovery, as they discuss sobriety and its role in recovery, understanding the truths we already know, and how to rebuild trust in relationship. You can access Eli's videos on the Show Up 365 channel on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Showup365. If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

"I don't know of a more discombobulating, imprisoning power on the earth than shame. To me, shame is personalized demonization." "Here's the good news: When you really get the proper diagnosis, Grace becomes all the sweeter. You're never going to shock the Father. You may know 4% of your sin - He's taken on the other 96% as well." We've got another Pirate Monk roundtable with Nate, Chris, Rob and Justin on the topic of emotional triggers, followed by an interview with a man who played a key role in the founding of the Samson Society - Scotty Smith. Nate and Scotty have a great conversation about Shame, Grace, and Healing. You can connect with Scotty at https://twitter.com/scottywardsmith and https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/scotty-smith/. If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

We start the episode with a Pirate Monk roundtable with Nate, Chris, Rob and Justin going deep quickly using a couple of probing questions. Then Nate interviews singer/songwriter Jason Gray about his story of vulnerability through his speech handicap, divorce, and the importance of our language. Stay tuned at the end as Jason shares a couple of challenging songs with us. Jason joined us in person at the Annual Retreat in Eva TN in November 2022. You can share in that experience by attending the Virtual Samson Retreat. To sign up for the Virtual Samson Retreat on Dec 8-9, 2022, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-virtual-retreat-dec-2022. If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

"The antidote for shame is chronic exposure to love and acceptance." "I get under emotional distress and I want to go back to the maladaptive coping behavior that I learned early on that works for me. And it's the emotional distress and the emotional dysregulation that we've got to begin to work with." - Roane Hunter Nate and Aaron speak with Roane Hunter, CSAT and co-author of Sex, God & the Chaos of Betrayal about a range of topics, including Roane's preferred term for addiction: "distress reduction behavior". Roane, along with his wife Eva and son Roe, who are also both CSATs, will be the featured speakers at our Annual Retreat in Eva TN on November 5-7, 2022. For more on the Hunter's practice, visit https://lifeworks.ms/roane-eva-hunter To sign up for the Virtual Samson Retreat on Dec 8-9, 2022, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-virtual-retreat-dec-2022. If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

"You can say, 'I look at porn 20 times a day', but that is inconsequential to me...The big question is 'Why?'" "You better damn well trust that therapist that you're sitting across from...You've got to feel safe to investigate shame." "In the context of relationships, we're all responsible to get our own needs met. That doesn't mean we go meet our own needs - we've seen how destructive that can be - but we do have to learn how to ask for those needs to be met." Kaka Ray returns to the podcast to discuss the importance of growing up your brain - it doesn't just happen but must be intentional. You can find out more about Kaka's practice at tnnfb.com. If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

Nate is away, so Aaron spends an hour with Burlap to Cashmere's Steven Delopoulos talking about his story growing up in NY and NJ in a very Greek family, the nature of God, songwriting, storytelling, and his latest passion project related to Simon & Garfunkel. For more about Steven, visit his website. If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

In today's episode, Eddie Capparucci returns to talk with Nate about his most recent book, Why Men Struggle to Love. They discuss some of the relational blindspots that many men have in making connection. For more on Dr. Capparucci, please visit Abundant Life Counseling-Coaching. If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

“Open men's hearts, heal the pain, and change the world.” In a world filled with talk of toxic masculinity, author and speaker Dan Griffin (dangriffin.com) talks to the guys today about what he calls "Conscious Masculinity" - where men make enlightened choices to pursue what it means to truly connect with the full spectrum of what it means to be a man. If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.