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We've all heard the adage that you are the average of your five closest friends. I don't take that too literally but I do know that when I surround myself with powerful people, life changes. There was a time in my life where I lacked any real intentionality about who I surrounded myself with and the results (or lack thereof) showed. Since those days, I'm made a deliberate and strategic decision to find people who are thriving in ways I want to thrive and put into action some strategies that have connected me with New York Times Bestselling Authors, elite warriors and athletes, multi-millionaire business owners, and, frankly, some of the most successful people on the planet. The reason I want you to listen very closely to this episode is that I'm not particularly anything special. There are a lot of men out there who believe that the reason I've been able to connect with these people is because I'm successful. Guys, that just isn't true. I may be experiencing some success now but when I started Order of Man, I had absolutely no track record of success. I've simply figured some things out and executed relentlessly. So this isn't something only extraordinary people can do. Whether you're achieving huge levels of success of none at all, everyone can implement the five steps I'm going to share with you and do the same thing I've done. The first point I need to make is that all of these five steps have the foundational element of adding value. I want you to focus on serving others and enhancing their lives. That's it. At it's most basic level, that is how you succeed and position yourself in the company with the right people. But let's break this down even further. www.orderofman.com/FFN095 Please leave us a rating and review!

Higher education seems to be quite the topic these days. With the rising costs of education and the debate as to whether or not students are learning applicable skills, it seems inevitable that we'll see a shift away from traditional higher education to something more practical and affordable. I've been an advocate for trade schools and apprenticeships programs for some time now but my guest today gives us yet another option to the challenges our young men and women face on the road to higher education. My guest today is the founder of MissionU, a one-year higher educational program that gives students the skills and experience to succeed after college. Today we talk about the rising cost of education and what can be done about it, how education institutions and students can and should work together towards solutions, bringing back the human element to schooling, and the future of higher education. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Why traditional higher education is becoming less relevant The future of higher education Enhancing the human element to higher education The rising cost of college and how to reduce it How to create win-wins between educational institutions and potential employers Utilizing technology to make education more efficient The power of teaching "soft skills" in college How colleges have an obligation to teach applicable skills Where traditional education is falling short How educational institutions and students can work together for solutions The power of investing in student's education ADAM BRAUN My guest today is Adam Bruan. Adam is a New York Times Bestselling author, an entrepreneur, and a speaker. He is the founder of Pencils of Promise, a "for-purpose" organization dedicated to building schools around the world. In fact, they have now built over 400 schools. What's even more impressive is that he took $25 and turned it into this organization that has generated $30,000,000 of funds raised. Since then, he has turned his attention to the challenges surrounding higher education and has dedicated himself to creating solutions to some of the world's most challenging problems. You're going to hear the passion and excitement in his voice as Adam and I have a conversation everyone would agree needs to be had about where to go with our post-secondary education. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/152 Website: http://orderofman.com

It is amazing to me how quick we are to talk to other people about their issues and their problems yet we seem to be incapable of recognizing the problems in ourselves. It's sad because we spend so much time and attention and energy on changing something that is completely outside of our control when the real power comes from changing the thing that is entirely within our control – ourselves. I get it. It's easier to focus our attention elsewhere than it is on us. If we flip the mirror around and take a look at where we're falling short, it leads to work and effort to do something about it. www.orderofman.com/FFN094 Please leave us a rating and review!

Fear is something that every single one of us experiences but the reality is that most of us don't know how to adequately face it when it rears its ugly head. Your ability to understand your fear and how to use it to your advantage may be the difference between life and death. Today, I'm joined by Tony Blauer with Blauer Tactical System in a conversation every man needs to hear. We talk about handling confrontation effectively, when violence is the answer, how to become what Tony calls a "courageous bystander," and how you can become more powerful by knowing your fear. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS How to handle confrontation How to improve your "respons-ability" How the brain learns What is the survival response system How the "startle-flinch response" helps you Why some people don't fight back When is violence the answer Four critical moves in dangerous circumstances How we overestimate our own abilities The three-step process for handling threats How to become a courageous bystander What to do when you're punched in the proverbial face Four steps to managing fear more effectively TONY BLAUER My guest today is Tony Blauer. Tony is a self-defense expert and the creator of the SPEAR system which stands for Spontaneous Protection Enabling Accelerated Response. I know that's a mouthful but what he's been able to learn, develop, and teach is how to harness the body's natural defense mechanisms to respond to a threat of violence effectively. He's been training special forces and LEOs since the 80's and is one of the only experts who has successfully affected training across all the combat-related communities: self-defense, combat sports and the military & law enforcement sector. Today, you're going to hear the passion in his voice as he talks with us about stepping into the role of protector for ourselves, our families, and our communities. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/151 Website: http://orderofman.com

Men are providers. Period. And, there's more than one way for us to provide: Financial, Mental, Emotional, and Spiritual. Today, I share an excerpt from my new book, Sovereignty: The Battle for the Hearts and Minds of Men, regarding how we, as men, can step more fully into our calling to provide for ourselves, our families, and our communities. If you enjoy this excerpt, I ask that you consider picking up a copy of my new book, Sovereignty: The Battle for the Hearts and Minds of Men. And, if you already have, please leave us an Amazon review so we can get the message of masculine sovereignty out to the world. Enjoy the excerpt. www.orderofman.com/FFN093 Please leave us a rating and review!

There are two days you have no control over - the day you're born and the day you die. Every other day in life represents an opportunity to choose how you decide to live it. My guest today, Dakota Meyer, calls this "Own the Dash." The dash is all the days between your date of birth and your date of death. Dakota Meyer is a retired Marine and the recipient of the highest military honor one could earn, the Medal of Honor. Today we talk about how he views the events that earned him that recognition, overcoming an attempted suicide, how he has redefined himself through living in service of others, and how he owns the dash. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS What it means to "Own the Dash" Turning adversity into opportunity The value of service to others in overcoming struggle How humility allows you to thrive Not using PTSD as an excuse to self-destruct Overcoming a suicide attempt The power of owning your failures How to make better decisions How to find and connect with the right people Implementing a team in your life How legacy can drive you to do great things DAKOTA MEYER Wow guys, this has got be one of my favorite episodes to date. My guest, Dakota Meyer is a Marine, a Medal of Honor recipient, a New York Times Bestselling author, a business owner, and probably one of the most humble men I've had the privilege of meeting. In 2009, he and his squad were ambushed by Taliban insurgents where he learned some of his team members were missing. He went back to find them and, in the process, rescued 12 wounded and provided cover for another 24 Marines and Soldiers. I was absolutely blown away with his perspective on those events (which was not what I expected) and the subsequent depression and failed suicide attempt that followed. Since then, Dakota has gone on to found a successful construction company and has now dedicated himself to serving others and allowing others to use his platform to share messages of inspiration across this nation. Sit back and buckle up. Dakota is one of the most real humans I've ever met as he shares some of his personal stories (good and bad) that have made him who he is today. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/150 Website: http://orderofman.com

There's a term that's being tossed around these days that's really been bothering me the more I think about it. The term is "toxic masculinity." The reason that term bothers me is because, frankly, it does not exist. It's not real. And, to perpetuate the term is to do injustice to what it means to be a man in the first place – which is probably why it's pushed with such a heavy hand. I think there's a growing movement to undermine masculinity and the term, "toxic masculinity (and others like it)" is just one way to spread the propaganda that somehow masculinity is bad, or evil, or toxic. It just isn't the case. Masculinity, by its very nature is good. It's strong. It's assertive. It's productive. It's caring. It's compassion. It's charitable. And, I've even go so far as to say it's loving. www.orderofman.com/FFN092 Please leave us a rating and review!

Everyone these days wants to be an entrepreneur and while I applaud their desire to go out and create something from nothing, too many men are in it for the wrong reason. Today, I'm joined by my friend and founder of Origin USA to talk about the meaning of entrepreneurship. This one is unlike a lot of the podcast you see on entrepreneurship where you'll hear the ten tactics every entrepreneur needs to know. We go deep into why entrepreneurship is so important, why you should and shouldn't go into business for yourself, why vision is so critical, ethical responsibilities and obligations, and why creating a business without compromise is so critical. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS The value of entrepreneurship Why someone should become an entrepreneur Why someone should not become an entrepreneur Why striping away your ego is critical to your success Developing a belief in yourself How to develop more confidence How to use faith to take more calculated risks Our moral and ethical responsibilities as business owners The value of resourcefulness How to find new pathways How to revive old ways of doing things and "modernizing" them The value of a challenge and competition Why creating a business "without compromise" is a huge competitive edge How to connect with influential people using timing and value PETE ROBERTS Gentlemen, today I am joined my my friend, entrepreneur, and founder of Origin USA, Mr. Pete Roberts. I came across what Pete was doing through Jocko (who is Pete's partner) and was immediately inspired by his story and message behind him and his company, Origin. This man is not just an entrepreneur but someone who has meaning and significance about the work he's doing to bring manufacturing back to his hometown and create a product that is entirely made in the US, without compromise. More than anything, today you're going to hear why he does what he does, where his idea of vision, ingenuity, and discipline come from and how the notion of business ownership ties into our responsibility as men to protect, provide, and preside in our homes, our businesses, and our communities. Again, this isn't a checklist-type interview of everything an entrepreneur should know and do but a conversation about ideas, responsibility, and creativity. Listen to the stories and the message Pete has to share, implement it, and I guarantee you'll live a more fulfilled life and help those you come in contact with along the way do the same. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/149 Website: http://orderofman.com

One topic I see talked about more than just about any other is that of building confidence. It seems that more and more men are lacking the confidence they desire in their lives. I think there's a lot of reasons for this so today, I thought I'd share with you why we seem to be experiencing more of that, and give you some very quick and actionable tips in order to develop confidence and, of course, the results that stem from it. More than anything, you've got to understand that you are not entitle to confidence. I know you may think you know that but it's amazing to me how many men seem to think confidence is something men are born with and that some men are just inherently confident. I think that has some truth to it. Some men are born with a predisposition to be more confident in their lives but I believe the bigger variable to building and developing confidence is the ability to take action despite fear. www.orderofman.com/FFN091 Please leave us a rating and review!

It's that time of the year again when the masses begin their new year's resolutions. Fitness, exercise, and nutrition is always at the top of people's New Year's Resolutions but all too often people fail within the first couple of weeks or months to stick to their plans. Today, I am joined by my friend and fitness coach, Josiah Novak, to talk about nutrition and exercise and why people fall short of their objectives. We cover why they fail, how to create the right environment for success, how to get back on track when you fall off, and how to create a true transformation in your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Why people fail with their health resolutions Why we look for the magic pill Common health challenges to overcome How to create the right environment for success The basics of establishing healthy nutrition and exercise habits Why health is usually the first thing to go How to develop more discipline How to get back on track when you fall off Identifying your values to keep you on track Why you should focus on the process rather than the results How to find the correct motivators How to maintain consistency and focus Best tips for exercise and nutrition JOSIAH NOVAK Gentlemen, I'm stoked to introduce you to my guest today, Mr. Josiah Novak. I met Josiah through a mutual friend a little over a year ago and through getting to know him over the past year, I can tell you he is the real deal. I think it's easy for us to assume that these fitness guys have always had the perfect physique but what I admire about Josiah is that he has gone through his own transformation of losing over 80lbs and is now dedicated to helping men around the world do the same in their lives. You're going to hear that he's not all marketing and hype and another one of "those guys" but a real person who has learned to take a practical no-nonsense approach to the way we move, how we exercise, and what we eat. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/148 Website: http://orderofman.com

Most of you know by now that we have live meetup in Nashville coming up January 26th and 27th. It is going to be an absolutely killer event and I want you there with us. So today, I thought I'd pull back the curtain a little bit and share with you some of the details so you know what we're up to. If you've been to one conference, you've been to all of them but what we wanted to do here is create something truly incredible because the last thing I want to do is sit in a hot, stuffy room for two days and be talked at. I can't imagine you'd want to do that either. So, at the risk, of giving away all of our ideas on how to run an effective meetup for men (unlike a lot of these conferences), let me break down eight things about this event you're going to want to a part of. www.orderofman.com/FFN090 Please leave us a rating and review!

Self-mastery is something I talk about a lot. There are a ton of external sources that seem to be fighting against us at any given time but, even worse than that, is that we seem to be our own worst enemy at times. The best way to combat that is to learn to master your natural tendency to do things you know you shouldn't. Today, I'm joined by my friend, John Dudley, to talk about archery which, at first glance, doesn't seem to have to do with self-mastery. But that couldn't be further from the truth. The amount of dedication and discipline this man has towards become a master of his craft is inspiring and something we can all learn from. We talk about becoming a more well-rounded man, the power that comes from honing a craft, why coach-ability is critical, becoming a lifelong learner, and how to master yourself through bow hunting. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Connecting with nature through bow hunting Becoming more a well-rounded man Taking ownership of your life The power that comes from honing a craft Why coach-ability is critical Ethical responsibilities we have The value of knowing where your food comes from Where training comes into play The relationship between want and waste Why repetition is so important Being a lifelong learner Holding yourself to a higher standard JOHN DUDLEY Guys, I'm stoked to bring you this conversation with one of the most qualified men to talk with you about mastery and discipline. I recently picked up archery and, in fact, I harvested my first deer earlier this year. I underestimated what it would take to make that hunt a success but a lot of what I learned, I learned from my guest, John Dudley. He's been involved in archery since he was 10 years old (he talks about his first hunt) and since went on to shoot professionally for 20 years with over 120 events worldwide including gold and silver medal with the US archery team. He's dedicated his life to archery and you're going to hear the passion in his voice as he is striving to become a master in his and show us how to master ours. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/147 Website: http://orderofman.com

Most of you know by now that we have live meetup in Nashville coming up January 26th and 27th. It is going to be an absolutely killer event and I want you there with us. So today, I thought I'd pull back the curtain a little bit and share with you some of the details so you know what we're up to. If you've been to one conference, you've been to all of them but what we wanted to do here is create something truly incredible because the last thing I want to do is sit in a hot, stuffy room for two days and be talked at. I can't imagine you'd want to do that either. So, at the risk, of giving away all of our ideas on how to run an effective meetup for men (unlike a lot of these conferences), let me break down eight things about this event you're going to want to a part of. www.orderofman.com/FFN089 Please leave us a rating and review!

I want you to take a serious, truthful look at your life. When is the last time you went on an adventure? I'm not talking about a date with your wife, or trying a new restaurant, or you happened to take a new way to work. I'm talking about a real adventure that scared you, pushed you, and made you feel alive? Today I'm joined by adventure enthusiast, Laval St. Germain to talk about why it's critical we "step out, and shove off." Today we cover establishing new perspectives for life challenges, why most men are content with living vicariously through others, the danger of cognitive distortions, and how to live a life of adventure. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS What calls a man to adventure Overcoming excuses Eliminating discomfort Weight risk vs. reward Creating a new perspective for life's challenges Why we have a desire to prove ourselves The concept of practicing misfortune Mental preparation The danger of cognitive distortions Rising to the level of our training Finding experts Why living vicariously through others is never enough Avoiding comparison What exactly is delayed activation LAVAL ST. GERMAIN Today, I'm joined by adventurer and explorer extraordinaire, Laval St. Germain. This man is so qualified to talk with us about living a life of adventure. His resume includes being the only Canadian to climb Everest without supplemental oxygen, climbing an skiing Iraq's highest peak, the fastest ever crossing North Atlantic solo row, climbing the highest peaks on 6 of the 7 continents among other amazing accomplishments. He spent 53 days rowing across the Atlantic, and lost three fingers to frostbite. He's a mountaineer, an endurance athlete, and a pilot. What more can I say about this guy? He's incredible and inspiring. I know you'll walk away inspired to live your own life of adventure. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/146 Website: http://orderofman.com

I'm looking at a few of my investment accounts this morning and one of the things I've invested in this year is cryptocurrency. As of this recording, Bitcoin is over $17,000. But, what I want to talk with you about today has nothing to do with the financial markets. The only reason I bring that up is because I'm amazed at how often people are willing to speculate in something as volatile as Bitcoin and, yet, when you ask them how they're investing in themselves, all you hear is crickets. Now, I don't know where Bitcoin and other cryptocurrencies are going to be in the next 12 months and longer. Depending on when you're listening to this, it could have skyrocketed even higher or completely crashed and burned. But, what I do know is that finding a way to invest in yourself this year will always prove to be a good investment. So, today, I thought I'd cover six ways you can and should invest in yourself. Again, this is not going to have anything to do with any financial markets. I am a financial advisor by trade but I don't want to talk about that. I want to talk with you about the best asset you'll ever have – yourself. And, if that's truly the case, you're going to want to invest more heavily in yourself than you have in the past. This year alone (2017), I will have invested roughly $30,000 in myself. Some of you may think that's low and some of you will think that's high. Either way, it's all relative. The more you can invest in yourself the better. In fact, I recommend earmarking funds from your paycheck each month to invest in yourself – at least 10%. So let's talk about 6 ways to invest in yourself. www.orderofman.com/FFN088 Please leave us a rating and review!

Finances is such a huge component of living your life to the fullest. But in my experience, it's often one of the most overlooked. Not because men don't believe it's not important but because it's often complex and challenging to get your money to work for you. One of the most commonly asked questions I get is, "What book would you recommend for personal finances?" Although there's a ton to choose from, there hasn't been one that I consistently feel good about recommending. That is until now. My friend, Deacon Hayes, the author of You Can Retire Early joins me to talk about developing a personal financial plan, how to sift through all the financial noise, three investment vehicles to consider (including a quick conversation on Cryptocurrency), and how you too can retire early. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS What is "retirement" and how is it changing The importance of finding your why Knowing the right time to retire How to develop a personalized plan When and if to hire a financial advisor Three must-avoid pitfalls of financial planning Software available to help you build wealth Why Cryptocurrency should fall into your plan How to sift through all the noise The most effective way to pay off debt Three investment categories you should invest in The power of the right environment How to deal with financial setbacks Commonly held financial myths DEACON HAYES Today, my guest is personal finance blogger and author Deacon Hayes. I actually met Deacon years ago when I launched my first podcast many of you don't even know about. We've since had the opportunity to talk about blogging, podcasting, and of course money (which is something we're both passionate about). Deacon has been featured in Yahoo Finance, US News, Investopedia, CNN Money, and many more and has recently wrote a book, You Can Retire Early. You're going to hear in this conversation why Deacon is well-qualified to talk about money and finances and learn through his approach that the financial conversations and planning needed aren't really as complex as many institutions would have you believe. Get the note pads and your dusty old financial plans out and learn how you can retire early. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/145 Website: http://orderofman.com

Whether it's the argument that you got in with you wife, the way you treated your children, how you may have handled a situation at work, or with a client, there's no doubt that all of us have faced guilt in our lives. This is natural and, actually, a productive emotion to experience. I know a lot of you, when I say that guilt is productive, are wondering what exactly I'm talking about but I firmly believe that the range of emotions we experience – even the negative emotions are helpful. Negative (as well as positive emotions) are simply indicators of our lives. They tell us what's going well, what's not going well and where we need to focus our attention and energy in order to produce new outcomes. It's when we dwell on these emotions or allow them to cripple us from doing the work we know we should be doing that it becomes a problem. And, I see this time and time again with the men within The Order. They make a mistake they regret and, rather than learning from it, they wallow in their own self-pity and completely incapacitate themselves and their ability to move on and improve as a result of their mistake. Look, I get it. I've made mistakes that I haven't been proud of but dwelling on the past does nothing to enhance your future and there certainly isn't anything you can do about it other than you those mistakes as fuel to alter the course of your life moving forward. And, that's what I want to talk with you about today. I want to talk with you about three very simple steps you can use to overcome the destructive power of unchecked emotions. Let me be clear though, I'm not talking about hiding emotions or just getting over it. I'm talking about using these powerful feelings we all experience to do the work of a man. See, there seems to be two sides of the fence on this. One side says, "Men don't express emotions." The other side says, "Men need to be vulnerable." I don't sit fully with either camp. I think there's a time and place for everything. There's a time I can and need to be vulnerable and a time, where I need to simply get over it and re-engage in the work that needs to be done. www.orderofman.com/FFN087 Please leave us a rating and review!

When I talk about "reaching your full potential," it's a challenge because reaching your full potential is pretty difficult to define, and it's a moving target. Once you think you've reached it, you realize you've only scratched the surface on what you can do. Today, I talk with someone who is striving every day to do some amazing things in his life and helping you do the same. This is a powerful, powerful episode where we deep dive into some uncomfortable conversations about taking charge of your life and producing big. We cover the excuses we like to tell ourselves, learning how to take imperfect action, how to dominate and crush competition, and striving to reach your full potential. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS What is the American Dream Overcoming your excuses Learning to take imperfect action How to dominate and crush the competition The difference between being broke versus being poor How to thrive on disadvantage Increasing ambition Finding your hidden genius The power of mentorship How to find and add more value Tapping into your fullest potential Developing self-confidence Building a proper relationship with money Becoming more decisive BEDROS KEUILIAN Men, I am so honored to introduce you to our guest today, Mr. Bedros Keuilian. He's a coach. He's a mentor. He's an author. But, more importantly he is an owner in several multi-million dollar business including the owner and founder of Fit Body Bootcamp which is one of the largest and most successful franchises in the world. You're going to hear the tremendous odds this man overcome including migrating to the US, eating out of dumpsters, having lice washed out of his hair by his mother with fuel, and so much more. He's been featured in Inc, Entrepreneur Magazine, Dr. Oz, Huffington Post, and so many more publications and today he's here to talk with us about reaching our full potential. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/144 Website: http://orderofman.com

It's been said that, "The man who does not read has no advantage over the man who cannot read." I believe that's true. We have so much access to the world's greatest minds and thinkers and all we have to do is tap into those minds through the power of their written words. I didn't always think so highly of reading. In high school, I would do whatever I could to get out of reading and doing book reports. In fact, the only book I remember reading was The Old Man and the Sea which is, of course, a classic. But now, I read at least 50 books per year. I make it an objective of mine to read one per week. I get a lot of questions about how I'm able to do this and, although that's not the subject of today's podcast, I do want to tell you it's very simple. I commit to reading for at least 30 minutes per day. Every single one of us have 30 extra minutes in the day and, if there's one thing you can do to spend that time most effectively, it's reading. Again, you're tapping into the most powerful minds and ideas in the history of this planet. Incredible. So, with that said – and just in time for the holidays and last minute Christmas shopping – let me share with you five books that are an absolute must on that list of 50 I would suggest you read. Keep in mind that these are in no particular order. www.orderofman.com/books2018 Please leave us a rating and review!

Every time I bring up a conversation about style as it relates to masculinity, I'm met with hesitation because, "real men don't care about what they wear." And, while that sounds good to say, it just isn't true. If it were, we'd all walk around naked or a baggy t-shirt and sweat pants everywhere we go. Besides, your style is a powerful tool in building influence, gaining confidence, and creating opportunities for yourself. My guest today is my good friend, Tanner Guzy with Masculine Style. I've learned more from him about what I wear, what it says about me, and how it's perceived by others in the last couple years than I have the rest of my life. And while it's hard to quantify the results dressing well produces, there's no doubt there's a connection between what I look like and my income, confidence, and influence. SHOWNOTES The difference between power and appeal How your clothing communicates to others Tactics vs. strategy in what you wear The 3 style archetypes 6 factors to choosing your style How to focus on meaning versus just looking good Where confidence stems from How to improve your style without having to wear a suit How to maintain practically and still look good How to overcome the need for validation in the way you look How to develop and maintain influence with others Why every man should focus on improving his style TANNER GUZY Gentlemen, my guest today is my friend Tanner Guzy. Tanner and I met years ago. In fact, he was the second guest I ever had on the show. I used to balk at the idea of dressing well because I thought it was more about what's inside a man than what he's wearing. And, while there is validity to that, our style says a lot about who we are. Tanner is a deep thinker (which I appreciate) and goes well beyond how to wear a suit and what shoes go best with what pants. He delves deep into the why and the psychology of what we wear and how it produces results in our lives. And, that's what we're all about here - producing results. And, if I can take learn just one thing about what I wear that will help me in my life, you can bet that I'm going to do it. Tanner is going to show us how. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/143 Website: http://orderofman.com

This one is a little different for you today. Normally, on Friday, you get to listen to me talk about some things that have been bouncing around in my brain but, today, you get to listen to an on-the-spot conversation between me and my friend Collin Cottrell. Collin and I went on a hunt together about a month ago. This was my very first hunt and I thought you'd enjoy hearing about it and the lessons that I learned along the way. So, I asked Collin (again, my friend and founder of Activate the Hunt) to interview me and, of course, I interview him about what goes into a successful hunt and why he does what he does. www.orderofman.com/FFN085 Please leave us a rating and review!

Running a business can be a challenge. I know, I own two of them. At times, things seem to be firing on all cylinders and at other times, it seems like I'm just barely hanging on. Regardless of where you are with your business (and even if you're an employee of a business), there is always something to be learned in how to run the operations more effectively. My guest today, Cameron Herald, grew 1-800-Got-Junk from $2,000,000 in revenue to over $106,000,000 in just six short years among other amazing business accomplishments. We talk about developing a board of advisors, attracting top-quality talent, creating work/life balance, the art of delegation, and how to develop, operate, and expand a business. SHOWNOTES How to inspire a team Developing a management style Scaling business operations Running team meetings effectively and efficiently Attracting top-quality talent Developing a board of advisors Finding work/life balance Starting the morning off right The power of delegation 4 rules for a powerful business meeting Creating a vivid vision Utilizing a Chain of Command CAMERON HERALD My guest today, Cameron Herald, is a speaker, author, and business coach working with Chief Executive Officers and Chief Operating Officers around the world. What I like most about Cameron is his no-B.S approach to building and scaling businesses. He has such an ability to cut the heart of the matter and eliminate anything that keeps businesses from growing. As you heard earlier, Cameron grew 1-800-Got-Junk from $2,000,000 in revenue to $106,000,000 and has led and operated multiple other $100,000,000 business. You'll see why that is as you hear Cameron and I talk about scaling businesses, the things that keep a business from thriving, and how to make the most of every single minute to maximize results within employees, officers, and the organization as a whole. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/142 Website: http://orderofman.com

The other day, I had made a comment in our Facebook Group about being a Patriarch. Someone suggested I put that phrase on a shirt but I thought it would be better to explain it here. Very simply, a Patriarch is the male leader of a family. It's becoming painfully obvious that we are lacking male leadership in the home. Divorce rates are on the rise as they have been for some time and the amount of young boys and girls who are growing up without fathers is scary to even think about. And, I don't even think we've begun to see the fallout from the leaderless homes. Already, we see young boys and girls confused about their gender, we see violence, addiction, and the fact that the sexual misconduct perpetuated by men is seemingly climbing. I can't help but think that a lot of these problems could be addressed by worthy and honorable male leadership in the home. I don't think all of this would go away but if more men would lead their families the way they're meant to be led, much of the negativity we see in society today would dwindle. I want to be really clear here. I know there are situations in which the mother is responsible for leading the home. Maybe dad is out of the picture for whatever reason. But, regardless, a man's influence in the home cannot be replicated. Men and women are different. Where women are great in certain areas, men fall short. And, where men are great in certain areas, women fall short. This is why it is so crucial that there be both a masculine and feminine presence in the home. Specifically, I want to talk about the masculine presence in the home because that's where we as a society seem to be falling short. Look, if you're a father and/or a husband, your job is to lead. Period. You are designed to lead. You were born to lead. And, what's really fascinating is that the majority of women I talk with who tune into what we're doing here are craving men who lead with honor, strength, and integrity. So today, of all the factors that make you and I the Patriarchs of the family we've been called to be, I want to talk with you about three specifically. www.orderofman.com/FFN084 Please leave us a rating and review!

There was a time in my life when I felt as if I was living for everyone else. I woke up to a marriage that was in shambles, a business that was failing, a bank account that seemed to be in the red more often than it was in the black, and a lifestyle I hated. That has all changed for me. My guest today, Hunter McIntyre, although taking a different path, was also living a life other than what he really wanted. That was until he found Obstacle Course Racing and the passion for life you'll hear in his voice. Today, we're going to talk about how that discovery changed his life, how to identify where you need to grow most, the power that comes in trying new things, and how to life life on your terms. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Identifying where you need to grow most The value of meditation and self-talk Developing story lines that serve you How to refine who you are The power of trying new things Why selfishness isn't always a bad thing How to shine your light for others Discovering what the world needs from you Learning to let go of things that no longer serve you Cultivating the right attitude for life How to keep the your fire burning HUNTER MCINTYRE Guys, today I have the privilege of introducing to you Hunter McIntyre. Hunter is a Professional Obstacle Course Racer, a two-time winner of Steve Austin's Broken Skull Challenge, and is one of the highest paid Obstacle Course Racers in the world. What's even more interesting is that what we might recognize in Hunter today was nowhere to be found when he was younger. Most of his younger years were spent doing drugs and getting drunk, run-ins with the law, and several rehab stays. Eventually, he found his way into modeling working with J. Crew and Abercrombie and Fitch. But, it wasn't until he found Obstacle Course Racing that he truly transformed his life. I just watched this guy compete in the Spartan World Championships in Tahoe. He is the real deal. He is loud. He's in your face. But, there is no doubt he thinks big and lives life on his terms. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/141 Website: http://orderofman.com

I wasn't going to talk with you about gratitude because everyone is going to be talking about it with Thanksgiving and it seems to be a little played out but that thought goes against what makes gratitude so powerful in the first place. I truly have so much to be grateful for and, regardless of your station in life right now, so do you. When, we overlook (like I was about to this year) all that we have to be thankful for, we forget that we already have so much in our lives and life is good. www.orderofman.com/FFN083 Please leave us a rating and review!

4 years ago, I was fat, out of shape, and miserable. My relationships were suffering. My business was falling apart. And, I was at a complete loss on how to turn my life around. That was until I began to take better care of my body and focused on making the most of the machines that are my body and mind. Today, I am joined by the founder of FitLifeTV, Drew Canole. We talk about his transformation as well as mine, the most powerful way a man can start his morning, how to embrace and learn from your mistakes, the power of a clear vision, and how you too can live the fit life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS The best way to start your morning The role of creation vs. victim How to embrace your mistakes The law of attraction Building the structures and systems for a healthy life Mastering your mindset Why juicing is such a powerful way to get your nutrients Why we do the opposite of what we know we should What besides nutrition goes into living a fit life Finding congruency in your life To cheat or not on your meals The power of vision DREW CANOLE Gentlemen, I've been looking forward to introducing you to my guest and friend, Drew Canole for some time now. I've been following his work with FitLifeTV and Organifi for years and we when were able to finally connect and get him on the show, I jumped at the opportunity. You're going to hear this guys' excitement for life as we discuss all things health related (which goes well beyond exercise and nutrition). He is a bestselling author and, as I said before the Founder and CEO of FitLifeTV where he has reached millions of people across the planet on the topics of health, fitness, healing, and longevity. Get your notepad out as Drew and I have an incredible conversation on living the fit life. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/140 Website: http://orderofman.com

Whether you're trying to win the girl, get a job promotion, or get new clients, it's critical that you wrap your head around the idea that you are a marketer. Today, I'm going to share with you why this mindset is so important, some of the pitfalls we should avoid, and some very simple strategies you can implement to help you get more in your life. I know there's a lot of guys who think that they're not marketers or that somehow this is a shady way of looking at things but I can assure you it's not. If you have a product (whether it's you or some service or offering you have), you have an obligation to bring it to the market and share it with the world. www.orderofman.com/FFN082 Please leave us a rating and review!

"Deep in his heart every man longs for a battle to fight, an adventure to live, and a beauty to rescue." This is one of my favorite quotes about masculinity and, if you've been following us for long, you've heard it from me a thousand times. Today, I am honored and have the privilege of talking with the author of that quote and one of my top 5 most recommended books on masculinity (Wild at Heart), John Eldredge. We talk about the secret to a man's soul, the single question every man needs to have answered, society's attack on gender, how to embrace authentic masculinity, and why every man is wild at heart. SHOWNOTES The secret to a man's soul The single question EVERY man needs answered Society's attack on gender How to embrace authentic masculinity How masculinity is earned How to overcome being a poser Pornography and the disintegrating family's effect on men and society How to find out who you are Why rites of passage are so important How to focus more on your internal world than your external world The collapse of gender Permission to be men The masculine virtues JOHN ELDREDGE I am honored to introduce you to my guest today, Mr. John Eldredge. When I set out on this journey to become a better man, his book Wild at Heart was one of my go-to resources for an understanding of who I am as a man and how men show up in this world. At the time, I never thought I'd actually have the chance to have a conversation with him but after some back and forth and getting our schedules pinned down, we were finally able to lock something in. John is an author, a counselor, and a teacher. He's been working with men and teaching them how to transform their lives for more than two decades. It's interesting to see that the book, Wild at Heart still strikes a nerve with men across the world more than 15 years after he wrote it. This is a testament to John's understanding of what we, as men, are really after in our lives and how to become the men we are meant to be. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/139 Website: http://orderofman.com

A lot of men seem to believe that arrogance is what makes you strong. It's not true. An over-inflated ego opens up to all sorts of blindspots. Where arrogance makes you weak, humility makes you strong. www.orderofman.com/FFN081 Please leave us a rating and review!

Gents, today is a different kind of podcast and it's unlike everything we've ever done before. Last month I had the opportunity to head to the Spartan World Championships in Tahoe and was able to sit down with my friends, Sal, Adam, and Justin from MindPump Media. They are a fitness company but we don't talk about anything fitness related as we sat down for an hour or so to talk about political correctness, the future of technology including planned communities and cryptocurrency, capitalism, and just about everything in between. Sit back, relax, and enjoy a conversation about everything and nothing with the guys. SHOW NOTES The plague of offense and political correctness Why we're wired to look for bad news The value of analyzing objective data Understanding reality vs. what others are trying to portray How capitalism creates harmony State of current affairs The future of planned communities and commerce Why listening to opposing views is critical for growth The advantages and disadvantages of modern technology The relationship between gun ownership and gun violence How to shut down bad ideas The pitfalls of the two-party system The future of cryptocurrency The negative effects of artificially raising minimum wage SAL, ADAM, AND JUSTIN WITH MINDPUMP I've got three guests for you today, Sal Di Stefano, Adam Schafer, and Justin Andrews. They are the founders of MindPump Media which is a media company dedicated to giving accurate and entertaining information about the media industry, what works, what doesn't, and how you can get control of your health. These guys have a combined experience of over 40 years in the industry and, although we don't talk a thing about fitness today, you can tell but the depth of the conversation we do have, these guys are very intelligent and extremely well-informed. In a world that seems to regurgitate the same basic health information over and over again, Sal, Adam and Justin are extremely entertaining and bring a whole new perspective to the way we look at fitness, nutrition, and health. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/138 Website: http://orderofman.com

Take a look around society. We see a lot of weak people. Mentally, people allow the smallest of circumstances to get ahold of them and dictate their actions. Emotionally, they their emotions to get the better of them and, physically, people are unhealthy. If you have any hope of becoming the man you are meant to be, you are going to need to learn to develop strength in each of those areas. And, the only way to get physically, mentally, and emotionally, is to embrace discomfort. www.orderofman.com/FFN080 Please leave us a rating and review!

Today, I've got a different podcast for you today. My guest is Tim Ballard and he is the founder of Operation Under Ground Railroad, a non-profit organization designed to save children around the world from child sex trafficking. My wife initially introduced me to Tim's work and, after following him for sometime, I'm inspired by the good he's doing in the world in the wake of some horrific atrocities more men need to know about. Today, we talk about stories of his team's rescues, how these young children are being helped to recover, how to find a calling in life, how to avoid "the flinch" when undercover, and the fight against child sex trafficking. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS The seriousness of child sex trafficking Stories of children rescues "Aftercare" and helping children recover How to find a calling in life How to avoid the "flinch" when undercover The men behind these rescues How meaningful work changes a man How to rally people around a cause Identification and extraction tactics and efforts How you can get involved TIM BALLARD My guest today is Tim Ballard, the founder of Operation Underground Railroad, a non-profit designed to rescue the victims of child sex trafficking. To date, Tim and his team have rescued 745 victims and assisted in the arrest of 365 traffickers around the world. Originally, Tim worked for 12 years as a Special Agent with the Department of Homeland Security but became frustrated with the red tape and inability he had to actually remove these children from the horrible situations he was responsible for investigating. In 2013, he left the department and founded Operation Underground Railroad. Today, we're going to talk about that process, the good he's now doing in the world, how to take action on the problems you see in the world, and how you can get involved in this fight. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/137 Website: http://orderofman.com

The following podcast is an excerpt from our new book to be released February 2018. If you would like to be among the first to know when the book is available, register here. www.orderofman.com/FFN079 Please leave us a rating and review!

Recognizing that we, as men, wear masks might just be one of the most difficult self-evaluation processes we can go through. It's difficult because sometimes we've been wearing a mask for so long that it actually becomes part of who we are and how we define ourselves. My guest today, New York Times Bestselling Author Lewis Howes, joins me to talk about why men are failing so many benchmarks, how to recognize and confront what is holding you back, why the masks we wear hinder our personal growth, and the 9 masks of masculinity. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS What is the Mask of Masculinity Why men are underperforming in every benchmark The 9 masks we as men tend to wear How to recognize which mask you might be wearing The common thread between all the masks How to confront the things that hold you back How to stop defining yourself by the mask you wear How our masks hinder personal growth How to embrace discomfort and vulnerability How to avoid overcompensating for weaknesses How to better understand your emotions Which mask I tend to wear LEWIS HOWES My guest today is New York Times Bestselling Author, Mr Lewis Howes. I know a ton of you are already familiar with his work and what he's up to with his own company and podcast (which is listened to millions of times per month), The School of Greatness. We had Lewis on the show a while back but since then, he has released his newest book, The Mask of Masculinity. What I enjoyed a lot about this book is that Lewis really pulled back the curtain in his own life and you can tell by the way he's analyzed who he is and what makes him tick that this is a process he doesn't just talk about, this is a process that he's actually gone through and uncovered for himself. Lewis Howes had a lot of success as a professional athlete (which hints at the mask he was wearing) only to find himself injured and wondering how he could redefine himself and tap into who he really is. Gentlemen, gear up, prepare to challenge some thoughts about who you are, and let's unpack the idea of the mask of masculinity. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/136 Website: http://orderofman.com

As a lot of you already know, I interviewed Navy SEAL and New York Times Bestselling author, Jocko Willink, earlier this week. One thing that he said that really stuck out to me was the difference between former military members who are able to maintain their discipline after the service and those who aren't. I have personally seen both. I've seen veterans who make a seamless transition into civilian life and I see those that really flounder and I've often wondered what the difference was as well. What Jocko said is that the difference between the two is whether or not they've found a new mission. During my time in the military, the mission was always very clear to me. We were instructed on the objective, given our marching orders, then left to carry them out. But, when you transition out of the military, there's no one to give you any marching orders and you're left on your own to figure it all out. What's interesting to me is that one of my favorite authors, John Eldredge (who, by the way, just agreed to come on the podcast) happens to be the author of one of my favorite quotes. He says, "Deep in his heart, every man longs for a battle to fight, and adventure to live, and a beauty to rescue." I want to focus the conversation today on the first component of that quote, a battle to fight. Men are warriors. Not all warriors have to be battle proven in war but I do believe it's in our nature to look for problems, to be on the lookout for the enemy or, at a minimum, a threat to our livelihood and the people we have a responsibility for. I look around in society today and I see men who have no real sense of direction or purpose. I know you do to - maybe it's you. You look into their eyes and you can see that all the enthusiasm and excitement they may have once had is all but gone. I would argue it's because these men, as Jocko would say, have no mission or, as John Eldredge would say, they have no battle to fight. So today, I'm going to encourage you to pick a fight – to pick a battle. I don't mean a literal fight with someone or a group of people. I mean that I want you to take a look around at society and engage in a cause worth fighting for. This could be a career calling, a fitness journey, the family you're working to provide, protect, and preside for. I really don't care what it is but I do want to give you four steps to engaging in the fight of your life. As I talk about these four steps, I'm going to give you a lot of questions as opposed to answers. I can't decide what your battle is. You have to decide that for yourself and the best way for me to help you do that is to give you some questions to ponder and consider. IDENTIFY THE ENEMY The first step in picking a battle to fight is to talk a look around society and identify what you see as being wrong with the world. Write down everything that comes to mind. In a way, you're identifying the enemy. Not a literal enemy but the thing you're going to fight against. For men, 3 years ago, I saw that there was a real problem with the state of affairs for men. Like I mentioned before, I've seen too many men who have lost the spark of life and don't know where to turn. Couple that with the fact that society in general doesn't like or approve of masculinity (until they need men to do something) and it became painfully obvious that there was a problem. In many ways I set out to solve my own problems as I was one of the men to which I'm referring. What bothers you? What injustices do you see in the world? What problems do you have in your personal life? What could be better about this life? The answers to those questions will help you identify the battle you may have been born to fight. Remember, you're not limiting yourself here. You're just brainstorming. RECON Once, you've identified some problems with the world – the ones that are meaningful to you, you're probably going to find a common theme between them. There are probably a few that overlap or stand out to you. If that's the case, I'd recommend you start doing some reconnaissance. Who is already addressing this problem? What solutions are already available? How has this problem been addressed in the past? What gaps are there in the solution to this problem? When you start answering questions like these, you start giving yourself the power to do something about the problems you see with the world. BATTLE PLAN Once you've identified the enemy and you've done some recon regarding the battle already being wages and the gaps that need to be filled, you can start planning your battle. What solutions will you offer? How will you offer them? What assets do you need? What in your life do you need to improve in order to be the champion of this cause? Who do you need to know in order to bring the fight? Once you know the answers to these questions, you should then ask yourself, what is the next first step? ENGAGE You don't have to have this all mapped out. You just need to know what the next step is because the next

There is no shortage of motivational events, courses, seminars, quotes, and memes. Don't get me wrong, motivation has its purpose but discipline is a far greater asset on your path to accomplishing big things in your life. Where motivation falls short, discipline picks up the slack. Today, I'm joined by a man that needs no introduction, Jocko Willink, to talk about connecting future ambitions with present actions, why every man must find his mission, how to overcome fear and procrastination, and his mantra, "Discipline Equals Freedom." SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Why discipline equals freedom Key military tactics that translate into civilian life Anticipating the delayed results of discipline The pros and cons of focusing on strengths vs. weaknesses Where Jocko's discipline comes from How to connect your future ambitions with your present actions The importance of defining your path How to develop mental strength Why every man needs a mission The role of accountability when it comes to being more disciplined How to overcome procrastination Rasing kids to be strong and disciplined How to overcome your fear Where to start: mental preparation or physical action JOCKO WILLINK Gentlemen, I am stoked to introduce you to my return guest, Jocko Willink. I'm sure that you know Jocko but in case you've been living under a rock the past 4-5 years or so, let me introduce you to him. He is a Former Navy SEAL and commander of Task Unit Bruiser (the most decorated special forces unit of the Iraqi War), a recipient of the Bronze and Silver Star, a Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Blackbelt, a New York Times Bestselling author of three books, and arguably one of the most disciplined men on this planet. I, like you, have been following him ever since I ran across his book, Extreme Ownership, in Barnes & Noble and have been fortunate enough to develop a close enough relationship with him and his team that I when I heard he was coming out with a new book, Discipline Equals Freedom: Field Manual, I was able to get a message to him and get him back on the show. Gentlemen, strap in, get your notepads out, and get ready to tune into one of the most qualified men I know to talk about how discipline will give you the freedom you're after. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/135 Website: http://orderofman.com

In October of 2016, Todd Orr was hiking in the mountains of Montana when he spotted a grizzly bear. He made eye contact and the bear ran off with her cubs over a crest in the distance. Only a few minutes later, Todd turned around to find the bear charging towards him. He pulled out his bear spray, fired, then collapsed as he found himself in a life and death struggle against a grizzly bear. Not only did Todd survive, on his way back to his vehicle, he was attacked by the same bear again in a second life or death struggle. www.orderofman.com/FFN077 Please leave us a rating and review!

At times, we tend to get into our own heads and become our own worst enemies. We often write off anyone who happens to disagree with us, puts us down in any way, and label them as "haters." But it's our natural tendency - especially as high achieving men - to be our harshest critics. It's valuable at times and drives us to do great things and, other times, it creates unnecessary barriers to our success. My guest today, Gary John Bishop, author of Unfu*ck Yourself joins me to talk about how to redefine yourself by becoming unrealistic, how to uncover the narratives we tell ourselves, the difference between knowing something and being aware of something, and how to get out of your head and into your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS How to get out of your head How to develop a no-nonsense approach to life The critical difference between affirmations and personal assertions Why self-help is inferior to self-development and growth How to uncover the narratives you tell yourself Understanding the study of Oncology and how it applies to your growth The difference between being wrong and being inaccurate How to become more present in your life The power of telling yourself you're an asshole Why we should not concern ourselves with the past and the future The difference between knowing something and being aware of something How to redefine yourself by being unrealistic How to interrupt the notion of who you already are GARY JOHN BISHOP Gentlemen, my guest today is Gary John Bishop. He is a personal development expert and the author of Unfu*ck Yourself - which is a book I just picked up to read a couple weeks ago. In reading it, I can appreciate Gary's no-nonsense approach to human development, and high-powered mentoring. And, I knew right away I had to get him on the show. He's worked with top athletes and Fortune 500 executives in his personal development career. This guy is real. He's raw. He tells it like it is and pulls no punches which is exactly what we, as men, might just need in order to come to some realizations about our own lives, how to get out of our own heads, and out of our own way. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/134 Website: http://orderofman.com

Everywhere you turn you'll find another "motivational guru" attempting to inspire the masses to take action. If you're like me, you've attended conferences, purchased courses, and poured over endless quotes and memes in a feeble attempt to get motivated enough to do what you already know you should be doing. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing particularly wrong with motivation, other than it doesn't last. We've all left that conference feeling inspired only to get back into the grind and lose the excitement within 24-48 hours. Like a drug-user hooked on cocaine, we're constantly on the lookout for the next conference that promises to inspire, amaze, and motivate us yet again. We go. We spend the time, the energy, and the money. And, we even get motivated for another 24-48 hours, until our next fix is needed. And that's the problem. We become dependent when we seek motivation from outside sources. And those that host these conferences know that and bank on the fact that you'll have to come back next year. I'm not suggesting you don't attend these motivational conferences. I'm encouraging you to dig deeper than the surface-level B.S. that seems to be so prevalent in today's society. But rather than beat my chest and shout a catchy little tagline that "Motivation is B.S.", let me share five strategies you can start using today to become your own source of inspiration and, more importantly, action. PLANT YOUR FLAG We live in a world where everything is promised immediately. Through Amazon, you can be reading a book I recommend in the next couple minutes. We're promised immediate results from the latest fat-loss hack. Even podcast like this one allow us to listen to any subject on demand free from any need to wait for or on anyone. In most cases, this access to information, products, and services is a beautiful thing. The unintended consequence, however, is that our attention span and patience has been greatly diminished. That's too bad considering that your success in any area of life requires an insane amount of consistency over long periods of time. If you're looking for immediate results in your life, motivation might just cut it. But if you're interested in maintaining a healthy, wealthy, and successful life, you're going to have to wrap your head around taking action for a lifetime. BE A MAN OF YOUR WORD Planting your flag requires you to be a man of your word. If, for example, you've committed to working out 5 days a week, every day you miss makes you a liar – to put it bluntly. Sure, we can sugarcoat it and make excuses for why we missed our workouts but at the end of the day, you did not do what you said you would and that, by definition, makes you less than a man of your word. It's a good thing then that the idea of doing what you say you will is a skill set that can be learned. All it takes is effort and consistency. Even the smallest of task and the smallest of promises count. If you tell your wife you're going to take out the trash, take out the trash. If you tell your son you're going to play catch with him after school, play catch with him after school. If you tell a neighbor you'll be there to help him move, be there on time to help him move. Every time you fail to keep your word, a little piece of your soul dies. It's no wonder then why so many men seem to be miserable. They can't keep their promises to themselves, let alone to others. When you wake up early in the morning to work out, don't question whether or not you should. Question whether or not you're going to be a man of your word today. After all, the promises you make to yourself are the most important you can make. SYSTEMS AND PROCESSES Part of being a man of your word is about creating systems and processes to ensure you are. Let's use the workout example again. If you tell yourself you're going to work out in the morning, set your clothes out the night before, get your pre-workout drink ready, and know what your workout is going to be. These are three simple systems that will keep you on track when you don't want to be on track. Calendars, daily rituals, evening routines, task lists, electronic reminders, Field Notes journals, coaching, and masterminds are all examples of systems and processed you can implement to get your work done. REVIEW YOUR PROGRESS Out of all the systems we could talk about, I want to focus on the idea of reviewing your progress. Most men don't. We tend to identify the task, do it (or don't), then move right to the next task. This process of reviewing your actions, conversations, projects, interactions, and day is a critical component of diving deeper than simply being motivated. I learned the after-action review in the military which is a series of five questions you can ask yourself to review your work and get you pointed in the right direction every day. For the sake of time, I'm not going to share the questions but if you're interested, you can get a copy of the After-Action Review at www.orderofman.com/af

Every single one of has fallen a time or two in life. And, everyone of us knows a man who has failed to get back up from that fall. It's not an easy thing to overcome the wounds of failure, but if we want to thrive, it's a requirement. My guest today, Champion Muay Thai Fighter Chris Romulo, joins me to talk about finding the fight in us, the difference between ego and confidence, living by the mantra, "Fall seven times, stand up eight," and how to develop the fighter's mindset. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS • What is the "Champions Uprising" • The fight that changed everything for Chris • How to find your rhythm and flow in life • Why timing is critical • The importance of settling into life • How to change your mindset • How to find the fight in us • The difference between complacency and getting comfortable • How to overcome the pushback • How to develop of fighter's mindset • 7 factors of an uprising • The difference between ego and confidence • Living by the mantra, "Fall seven times, stand up eight" CHRIS ROMULO Gentlemen, I am stoked to be introducing you to my guest today, Chris Romulo. You're going to hear how impressive this man is in my interview today but you're also going to hear the humility that has turned Chris into a champion multiple times over. Chris is a 6-time Muay Thai champion, and the author of his new book, Champions Uprising. He is also a fighting coach and the owner of CROM fitness where he teaches men and boys the how to fight, develop grit and determination, and the fighter's mindset both inside the ring and out. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/133 Website: http://orderofman.com

I typically like to frame these discussions in a positive perspective but I do think it's important that we occasionally look at the other side. Most people are more than willing to talk about what will make a man a success and, while I agree that's an important subject to cover, just as important is the discussion of what is going to keep you from accomplishing what you want. So today, in an attempt to keep you from falling into some of the same traps this humble man has fallen into a time or two, I'll share with you 6 reasons why men fail and, in doing so, help you find a new path to thriving in what we call the Quadrants (yourself, your relationships, your health, and your wealth). PRIDE COMES BEFORE THE FALL The number one reason most men fail, and the reason I fail from time to time is pride. I've talked about it before but we have been led to believe that if you don't have the answer, you're an idiot or less of a man. It's unfortunate that's the case because it drives us to go at it alone, to figure out things the hard way, and to struggle, when all we really have to do is reach out to someone who may know a few things more than we do. The solution is simple: recognize you don't have it all figured out and ask for help from someone who does. Want to get in shape? Ask someone what you should do to get in shape. Want a promotion? Ask someone to help you with the project that will help you secure your promotion. Want to shore up the relationship with your wife? Ask someone who has a great relationship. The solution, again, is ask. Humble yourself and reach out YOU DON'T HAVE AN INFORMATION PROBLEM; YOU HAVE A DISCIPLINE PROBLEM When I started Order of Man in early 2015, I knew there wasn't a lot of new information I could share with men. But what I recognized is that information isn't really the problem. You have access to more information in the palm of your hand than the most educated minds had a hundred years ago. Information isn't the problem. Action (or lack thereof) is. And, more specifically, sustained action. Motivation doesn't cut it. Accountability doesn't cut it. The only thing that will yield the results your after is consistent action towards your objective. When that alarm goes off in the wee hours of the morning, it's time to fight. It's time to engage. It's time to battle. All you need is to DECIDE. FEAR IS YOUR ENEMY We've all heard the acronym F.E.A.R. (False Evidence Appearing Real). I disagree. Fear is real. It's designed to keep you alive. Running from the things that scare you, or worse, pretending it doesn't exist will not get you closer to your goal. Facing the enemy that is fear will. When you're scared, acknowledge it. Recognize it for what it is and use the fear to equip and arm yourself with the tools, mindset, skill set, and resources to look it in the eye and drive on. It's likely that the thing you fear the most won't kill you. It's simply going to make you feel a little uncomfortable. Be okay with that. Discomfort is your friend, fear is your enemy. ACTING FOR ACCEPTANCE In my experience, one of the biggest dangers we fall into is trying to be accepted by others. The way we run our marriages, our businesses, our workouts, and our lives is so centered around what other people think. I know personally there have been times in my life where I've wondered whose life am I living. The answer is someone else's. We're constantly bombarded by stimuli from magazines and books, to this podcast and mainstream media. And, we believe that the way one person does it is the way we should do it. Add to that the environment of political correctness in which we live and you're likely to withhold the way you really feel or alter your message or actions based on the perceived criticism you'll receive from others. If you truly want to thrive, you'll work on overcoming what other people think about you. EXCUSES ARE LIES Regardless of how you choose to paint it, the excuses you craft are nothing more than cleverly disguised lies. And, what's worse is you've been lying to yourself for so long that you're actually starting to believe your own B.S. When something doesn't go according to plan, I'd encourage you to say, "This didn't go well because I did or didn't ____________." Sure, there may be other people that have a part to play in the failure of your objective but there's nothing you can do about another human being – only yourself. SITTING THE SIDELINES The excuses you tell yourself lead into the last point I want to make with you today. Because you've been feeding yourself lies, it's caused you to stop in your tracks. It's caused you to question your ability to drive on and maybe even your desire to do so. The reason a lot of men fail is because they're so concerned with all the other reasons I shared with you today at the expense of the very action that will help them succeed in the first place. If you want to thrive, you need to take action. You're probably going to mess up. You're probably

Someone asked me several weeks ago, "If you could have one super power, what would it be?" To which I responded, "The ability to read people's minds." As it turns out one doesn't need to be a superhero in order to possess the ability to understand what other people are thinking and, to a degree, use that knowledge to produce desired outcomes. My guest today, the founder of Ellipsis Behavior Laboratories and the author of The Ellipses Manuel, joins me to talk about reading body language and thoughts, becoming a human lie detector, how to activate trust in others, and how to decode and decipher human behavior. CHASE HUGHES Chase Hughes (@thechasehughes) is a Navy veteran and an author and speaker on behavior analysis, body language and behavior engineering. He founded Ellipsis Behavior Laboratories in 2011 and has since developed the Behavioral Table of Elements which, after pouring over this, is probably the most extensive behavioral analysis tool I've ever seen. Chase is also the creator of other life-saving systems such as 'The Hostile Hospital' and 'Tactical Psychology'. And, if that's not enough, Chase is also in the process of developing new programs for the US Government. He volunteers his skills by training members of anti-human trafficking teams around the world and has published two books on human behavior and over 29 articles and papers on behavior and behavior analysis. Chase Hughes is here today to talk about the concepts from his new book, The Ellipsis Manual: Analysis and Engineering of Human Behavior. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/132 Website: http://orderofman.com

What exactly is "The Drift?" The Drift is the natural tendency we have as men to coast, and in a way, take our hands off the steering wheel of life and allow ourselves to be controlled and put ourselves at the mercy of all that life offers. The fact is that there are forces at work against us that keep us from accomplishing what we truly want in life and, unless, we're actively engaged in the process of intentionally living our lives, it's very easy for us to get off course. Today, I'm going to share with you why this happens but, more importantly, 3 measures you can take to ensure you maintain the course you are meant to maintain. www.orderofman.com/FFN074 www.orderofman.com

Everywhere you turn, you'll find men living what I call the sedated life. Like robots on an assembly line, these men wake up at the same time, eat the same food for breakfast, drive to work the same way every day, do the same menial tasks for 8-9 hours, drive home, kiss the wife and kids, eat dinner, watch some TV, go to bed, and do it all over again. My guest today, former Navy SEAL and wingsuit base-jumper Andy Stumpf is the exact opposite of that. And, while we can't all be Navy SEALs, jump of really high mountains and structures, and travel the distance of 18 miles in a wingsuit, we can all take some calculated risks that make us feel alive. Today we talk about finding something worth fighting for, eliminating emotions in the decision-making process, why people fail in the application of their goals, and how to live life on the edge. ANDY STUMPF Andy Stumpf (@andystumpf77) is a former Navy SEAL with SEAL Team Five and later joining the most elite counter-terrorism unit in the military, SEAL Team Six. He is also 5.11 and Black Rifle Coffee Company sponsored athlete, and has an affinity for jumping off really tall mountains and perfectly good airplanes. As impressive as that sounds, he refers to himself as a "professional gravity enthusiast" and rightfully so. He's completed wingsuit jumps lasting more that 18 miles at speeds of 161 mph. He is the recipient of 5 Bronze Star Medals (four with valor), the Purple Heart, the Joint Service Commendation Medal, the Navy and Marine Corp Commendation Medal with Valor, three Navy and Marine Corp Achievement Medals, and two Combat Action Ribbons. In other words, the man is a genuine Bad-A and today's he's here to talk about living life on the edge. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/131 Website: http://orderofman.com

I think it's safe to assume by now that you probably - at least to some degree - understand that having a coach is such a valuable strategy towards becoming great, whether that's improving your golf swing, enhancing your public speaking skills, building a solid relationship with your wife, or growing your business. But, it amazes me how often men recognize the value of coaching in elite performers yet underestimate the power of having a coach even if you're not at the elite level or competing on the global stage. Today I talk about why you should consider hiring a coach and what to look for. www.orderofman.com/FFN073 www.orderofman.com

If you're anything like me, you are what I refer to as a "starter." I've never been at a loss for figuring out how to start things. Getting things done is a completely different story. Today I am joined by New York Times Bestselling author, Jon Acuff. If you have a problem with finishing what you start, this is the episode for you and, I'm not going to lie, I needed this one more than most. We talk about the developing a tolerance for imperfection, why "strategic incompetence" is a powerful tool, how to overcome what Jon calls "noble obstacles," a new spin on SMART goals, and how to finally finish what you started. Jon Acuff Guys, I am so stoked to be introducing you to my guest today, Mr. Jon Acuff. I've read all four of his books and I've been trying to get him on the show for two years. The time finally came with the release of his new book today (if you're listening to this the day it is being released), Finish: Give Yourself the Gift of Done. The other books I've read are Do Over, Start, and Quitter. All of which have been instrumental in helping me launch the podcast you're listening to right now. He's a New York Times Bestselling Author. He's worked with companies like Home Depot, Staples, and The Dave Ramsey Team. He's been featured on CNN, Fox News, and other major media outlets. This guy is intelligent, he's funny, and he's here to drop some serious knowledge on the art, science, and skill of finishing what you start. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/130 Website: http://orderofman.com

Today, I thought it would be a good idea to address something that has impacted millions of people over the last several weeks and that is the nightmare in Houston created by Hurricane Harvey. As I've thought about what those people must be experiencing and what we've seen online and on TV, I can't help but think of a couple glaring lessons we should all look to when it comes to how we conduct ourselves as men. I see some areas of improvement and I see some areas that, from what I can tell are absolutely amazing to see in the wake of such a horrific situation. So, let's get into these lessons today. www.orderofman.com/FFN072 www.orderofman.com

Politics - just the mention of the word infuriates most and has the ability to split up marriages and lifelong friendships alike. What a shame, since our political environment literally permeates every single element of our lives - taxes, defense, infrastructure, education, economics, and so much more. Today, I am joined by my good friend and mentor Sean Whalen. Sean is currently running for congress in the third congressional district in Utah. You're going to love some of what this man has to say and, I'm sure a lot of you are going to hate what he has to say. But, regardless, I encourage you to listen with an open mind so we can prove to the world that it is possible to hold a civil and intelligent political conversation. SEAN WHALEN Gentlemen, today I get to introduce you to one of my favorite repeat guests, Mr. Sean Whalen. Sean is a friend and mentor of mine and, although I don't agree with him on everything, I have always admired his candor and ability to hold true to his convictions. He has done everything from MMA fighting to real estate mogul to off-road truck driver. He's talked about it all from hitting rock bottom through a bankruptcy and nasty divorce to what has become an incredible movement with Lions Not Sheep. And, if that's not enough, he's adding Congressional Candidate to the never-ending resume that can only be Sean Whalen's. Gentlemen, buckle up, listen up, and let's talk about men and politics. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/129 Website: http://orderofman.com

You may have heard the Latin phrase, "Memento Mori" which quite literally means "remember that you have to die." That phrase has also been used to describe an object that serves as a reminder of death, like a skull or any other object that has that connotation. Now, the reason I want to talk with you about this because, just prior to hitting record on this podcast, I booked a flight and hotel to go see my father who, just a couple days ago, had a heart attack. I don't know whether he is going to live or die but, unfortunately, right now, things don't look good. I'm sure by the time this podcast is released we'll know if he has passed or if he's in the clear. As I think about all that's gone on for me physically, mentally, and emotionally over the past 48 hours, I can't help but think about the prospect of my own death. www.orderofman.com/FFN071 www.orderofman.com

So many men are afraid to even talk about style. In my experience, they believe that it's just not that important when it comes to being a man or they don't want to be viewed as anything less than manly. I get it. I used to be the same way. That was until I understood the power of dressing well and leveling up your presence. Dressing well isn't about a well-tailored suit, fancy shoes, and overpriced jeans. It's about being deliberate and intentional about sharing with the world who you really are. My friend, Ryan Magin joins me today to talk about what role style plays in masculinity, why men are afraid to elevate their style, something he calls "enclothed cognition" and the "halo effect," and how to use your style to have more and be more. RYAN MAGIN Gentlemen, my guest today is my good friend, Ryan Magin. I met Ryan three years ago as I was launching Order of Man and the StyleCon conference. I'll admit, I'm not one who is very good when it comes to what I wear and how I look. But, I've learned a ton from Ryan about the way you look has proven to not only increase confidence in yourself but confidence from others too. Ryan dresses well, he looks good, and his game is on-point (although I will say his style is very different than mine). But, that's the point he makes today. Is that in order to look and feel good, you have to find a style that works for you. And, that's exactly what I've seen him do over the last three years for himself as I've watched what he's done for himself, his business, and his clients. Guys, take notes, listen to this with an open mind, and learn how to use your style as another tool to get what you want. Please leave us a review at http://orderofman.com/itunes Shownotes: http://orderofman.com/128 Website: http://orderofman.com