OFF STAGE with Lisa O'Neill

This week's Energy Wisdom lesson is all about spiritual energy and beliefs. Some people were told what to believe, but I was raised by an atheist father and Presbyterian mother, so I got stuck in the middle and got to choose, which is actually a gift.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

Iris Apfel says, "You don't find out who you are unless you work at it." The greatest project we ever work on is ourselves, and you're not a $5 note so don't find yourself. Try different things and reinvent yourself every two years instead of becoming forgetfully the same.

This week's Energy Wisdom lesson is all about mental energy, the stuff that either makes you mental or stops you from being mental and how much clarity you have when your brain feels fuzzy, scattered, muddy, or crunchy.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

I get concerned about all the energy going into people being stressed and hating. Here's the recipe for an amazing life: stay present to where your feet are and find ways to enjoy every moment, hour by hour infusing your world with fun because it's hard out there.

nspiration is energy and if you feel uninspired, it's because you've abandoned yourself doing boring shit instead of living. Make a list of what inspires you. Movies, recipes, podcasts, sunsets, everyday people doing good human shit and go find some wow this week.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

We are awake for 100 hours a week: 30 hours to be human, 40 hours of work, leaving 30 hours, but where does it actually go? Keep a tally this week because the Buddha says "the trouble is you think you have time" and maybe you haven't.

Today's question is: how youare you? Are you at the epicentre of you or miles away from it? Look at what you're wearing. Is it the you or just the cleanest shirt? You're an unrepeatable person, so how can you be 100% you today?

I just found the most gorgeous poem, Dear Body, written by Jan Brierton. It really aligns with my view on our bodies and how we need to look after them and love them and make friends with them.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

I don't know who said it, but someone famous said that we die twice. We die the first time when our heart stops beating and the second time we die is when people no longer mention our name, when they stop talking about us.

People don't really know what makes them happy and people don't know how to get happy. And I've spent a lot of time thinking about this, and I reckon there's ten steps that we have to go through to get happy.

In the Energy Book, I wrote about the five major contaminators that we can come across. The Drama Queen, the Human Dumpster, the Control Freak, the Virtuous Victim, and the Mighty Narcissist. In this episode, I'm sharing with you how to handle each and what they're teaching you. You've always got power: journal, practice "fuck off" in the car, and remember it's not your job to fix them.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

This week, the quote on my planner is a Brené Brown one of choosing courage over comfort. Outside of the comfort zone is the stretch zone. Courage means to be scared and do it anyway. and that's where you have to step into courage.

Today's quote is Emily Dickinson's "I dwell in possibility" and I love that hope is the thing with feathers that perches in your soul.

Taking responsibility for your body means investigating what's wrong, asking why it's happening, making informed decisions, being proactive with tests, and not just outsourcing everything to doctors without understanding what's going on.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

If you're a high capacity human, you will often attract low capacity people. You give other people permission to be an underdoer and you over function.

My greatest piece of advice this week is organise, don't agonise by Nancy Pelosi. Whatever you're stressed about, organise it.

Re-mattering and re-membering are about rejoining yourself (reconnecting with your soul's desires) and reclaiming your importance (teaching yourself and others that you matter again).The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

Maya Angelou wrote that we need to treat life as art because the routines we follow, we often forget that life is an ongoing adventure. The sooner we realize that, the quicker we'll be able to treat life as art, to bring all of our energies to each encounter, to remain flexible enough to notice and admit when what we expected to happen did not happen. We need to remember that we are created, creative.

Marty Supreme got me thinking about Rabbi Simcha's teaching: carry two pieces of paper saying "I'm everything" and "I'm dust." This year, I'm committed to being intentional, asking "what is my intention?" in every moment, knowing what deserves my all-in commitment and what deserves letting go.

Energy isn't something that happens to you. It's the result of conscious (or unconscious) decisions you make every single day about what you eat, wear, surround yourself with, and do.The Energy Club is for anyone who wants to take responsibility for their energy. People who want support, accountability and inspiration. Sign up now at lisaoneill.co.nz

I'm taking my five words (authentic, creative, responsible, thoughtful, kind) and applying them to what they look like to myself, to my people and in my business. Five words, three categories. That's a little matrix that I'm playing with.

I'm filming a brand new podcast with my friend Peter Cook. It is a podcast to support business owners because it's hard out there being one. We want to add some inspiration and a few ideas out there into the world of business.

I've always been very keen on people having power. I have five different ways for reclaiming personal power: saying no, creating a daily spiritual practice, auditing relationships, receiving help, and caring for your physical body. Go get your power back.