Mindset Money Success

From Partner to Squatter: Surviving Financial Abuse and a Broken SystemIntro In this episode of Mindset Money Success, Loraine Marshall shares her harrowing journey of rebuilding her life at 65 after the sudden end of an 11-year relationship. Moving from being a partner to being labelled a "precarious tenant" in the blink of an eye, Loraine explores the "legal advice trap" she encountered in Spain. She details how conflicting professional guidance, language barriers, and a legal system that reduced her long-term relationship to a mere property dispute left her vulnerable to post-separation and financial abuse.4 Best MomentsThe "Discard Speech": Loraine recalls the devastating moment in August 2020 when her relationship was ended by "four sentences," instantly transforming her status from a life partner to a squatter in her own home.The Hidden Evidence: Despite having a 26-minute recording of verbal aggression, gaslighting, and humiliation, Loraine describes the frustration of working with a first lawyer who failed to understand the nature of the abuse.The Settlement Sabotage: A powerful moment detailing how, after reaching a signed handwritten agreement for a financial settlement, her ex-partner unilaterally changed the terms before the agreement was formalised to ensure payment would only occur upon "vacant possession".The Realisation of Manipulation: Loraine describes the "ping" in her mind when she received a vindictive email threatening the arrival of the Guardia Civil, finally recognising that these threats were part of a calculated psychological manipulation designed to keep her in fear.4 Key TakeawaysAvoid Shared Legal Counsel: Engaging with a solicitor who previously represented both parties or communicating directly with the "enemy's" legal team can be a significant mistake that compromises your position.The Reality of Financial Abuse: Research indicates that 99% of domestic abuse cases include financial abuse; in Loraine’s case, this included the retraction of promised retirement security and the sabotaging of her earning capacity.The "Invisible" Abuse: Abuse is often not physical; psychological manipulation, verbal aggression, and coercive control are "hidden" forms of abuse that are frequently overlooked by civil court systems.Systemic Failure in Civil Courts: Even with documented evidence of financial intentions and a previously signed settlement agreement, the civil legal system may ignore the context of a relationship, reducing complex domestic situations to simple eviction hearings.Connect on other platformsCheck all the links https://linktr.ee/loraine_mms

Intro: What if the only thing standing between you and a million-dollar business isn’t capital or a degree, but your own response to challenges?. In this episode of Mindset, Money, Success, host Loraine Marshall breaks down the exact blueprint for using AI as leverage to build a storefront in minutes. Drawing inspiration from self-made millionaire Isabella (Baddie in Business), we explore how to bypass years of struggle by entering existing demand and solving high-value problems. Whether you are starting over or looking to scale, it’s time to fix the mindset that keeps most people broke and start building your digital empire.4 Best MomentsThe 16-Year-Old Millionaire's Start: A look at how Isabella began with nothing but a Twitter account and inspirational quotes to connect with business owners, proving you don't need a massive initial investment.The 10-Minute Storefront: Discovering how tools like Hostinger’s AI builder can generate a professional website in minutes, allowing you to take control of your profit without high platform fees.The "Huge Ball" Analogy: A powerful lesson on consistency: building a business is like pushing a heavy ball up a hill; if you stop halfway, you risk it rolling back to the bottom.Spying for Success: Shifting from "guessing" to "modelling" by researching what is already gaining traction on TikTok and Instagram to find proven market demand.4 Key TakeawaysPrioritise Profit Over Passion: Speed comes from solving urgent, painful problems (income, status, health, or time) that people are already searching for, rather than trying to create new consumer behaviours.The Digital-First Advantage: The fastest scaling model in 2026 is the digital asset—eBooks, guides, and tools—which require low overhead and can be sold for 5 to 10 years after being built.You Don’t Need "Fame": You can succeed using faceless content strategies by focusing entirely on the value of the solution rather than your personal identity.Wealth Starts in the Mind: Your bank account will eventually meet you where your mentality is; learning to control your emotions and reactions solves 90% of business challenges.Action Step for This Week: Spend 30 minutes with an AI tool like ChatGPT or Gemini to identify one urgent problem you can solve with a digital guide. Don't overthink it, taking action makes the task feel smaller, while overthinking makes it feel like a mountain.Links Mentioned:Hostinger Hosting - AI Website Builder .Free AI Guide Links to other paid resourcesConnect on other platforms and Check all the links https://linktr.ee/loraine_mmsSupport the Podcasthttps://buymeacoffee.com/successwithloraineDon't forget to hit the subscribe button and start building your small business empire today!.

Episode Overview In this episode of Mindset, Money, Success, host Loraine Marshall explores the transformative concept of skill stacking. At 65 years old, Loraine shares her deeply personal journey of rebuilding her life after an 11-year "manipulationship" and five years of legal intimidation. She discusses how she is combining her 1999 background in charitable trust fundraising with the high-tech AI tools of 2026 to reclaim her voice and financial independence. This episode is a powerful testament to the fact that old skills are never wasted; they await new tools to liberate them.4 Best MomentsThe 65th Birthday Audit: Loraine candidly shares her "failure" moment on her 65th birthday, only to realise she had actually fought off seven false allegations, avoided prison, published a book in two languages, and became a trauma-informed coach—all while learning to broadcast her message.Bridging the 27-Year Gap: A nostalgic look back at 1999, where Loraine used spreadsheets and Microsoft Office to win community grants. She explains how AI is now supercharging those exact research and creation skills.The Statute Finder Breakthrough: Loraine highlights a life-changing AI tool, Statute Finder, created by a survivor that helps victims locate specific legal codes and statutes of limitations. She explains how this tool empowers people to walk into police stations with the legal authority they need when solicitors let them down.Resilience in Real-Time: When her original show ending was corrupted, Loraine didn't give up. She used the moment to demonstrate resourcefulness, recording a new ending to prove that when things break, we rebuild.4 Key TakeawaysSkill Stacking is a Secret Weapon: You don’t need to be the absolute best in the world at one thing; you need to combine your existing knowledge with new opportunities and lifelong learning.AI as a Digital Assistant: AI does not replace your human experience; it enhances and liberates it. It is especially useful for those with low energy or high anxiety, as it handles the "heavy lifting" of research and creation.Tech for Justice: For those caught in the legal system, tools like Perplexity and Statute Finder can bridge the gap in legal advice, helping survivors navigate complex cross-border laws and coercive control.Financial Holes are Not Dead Ends: Whether it's through print-on-demand, crowdfunding, or venture capital pitches, there are always modern ways to raise funds and rebuild a business from the ground up.Resource Mentioned: Grab Loraine’s Free AI Resource Guide via the link in the show notes, featuring the tools she uses daily to manage her business and legal research.Connect on other platformsCheck all the links https://linktr.ee/loraine_mms

Intro In this episode of Mindset Money Success, host Loraine Marshall shares a deeply personal and legal look into the world of cohabitation through an excerpt from her upcoming book, After the Discard - No Divorce Required. Loraine explores the "sudden termination" of relationships, the discard, and the precarious legal positions many women find themselves in when living together without the protections of marriage. Drawing from her own harrowing experience in Spain and the UK, she discusses the gaps in current laws regarding property, inheritance, and the systemic reality of economic abuse.4 Best MomentsThe Reality of the Discard: Loraine recounts her personal experience of being "discarded" in Spain, left in a property she helped build but was not legally named on, eventually facing the termination of her water and electricity.The "Ravine" in the Law: A striking look at how current legislation fails to recognise non-earning contributions, such as homemaking and caretaking, leaving women disproportionately disadvantaged during a breakup.The Universal Tactics of Abuse: Loraine explains that while legal borders exist, the tactics of an abuser, specifically the systemic dismantling of a partner's financial security, are universal across the UK, Spain, and beyond.The Double-Edged Sword of "No Divorce Required": The realisation that while an abuser doesn’t need a courtroom to end a cohabiting relationship, the survivor is also denied the automatic asset-division protections that a divorce court provides.4 Key TakeawaysTrust is Not a Legal Contract: Many couples live their relationships on trust, but without a cohabitation agreement or being named on property deeds, that trust offers zero legal protection if the relationship ends or a partner dies.The Cohabitation Gap in the UK: There are no automatic rights to property, pensions, or inheritance for cohabiting couples, regardless of the length of the relationship or the number of children.Navigating Spanish Law: Couples in Spain can register as a pareja de hecho (civil union) to gain some legal recognition, but this does not automatically guarantee any property or asset claims.Economic Abuse Recognition: While the UK Domestic Abuse Act 2021 finally recognises economic abuse as a statutory crime, civil and cohabitation laws still lag, often failing to provide the financial remedies needed for survivors to survive after leaving. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------If you found these insights valuable, consider supporting the podcast via Loraine’s Buy Me A Coffee page or booking a mentor clarity session to help navigate your own post-separation transitionConnect on other Platforms and find all links here.https://linktr.ee/loraine_mms

Intro In this episode of Mindset Money Success, host Loraine Marshall explores the "radical, strategic alternative" to the silence of psychological abuse: healing out loud. For many women over 40, post-separation abuse often lives in the shadows of legal documents and depleted bank accounts. Loraine discusses how the act of vocalising your truth serves as the ultimate antidote to gaslighting, helping you transition from a state of constant alarm to a life of peace, clarity, and eventually, financial independence.4 Best MomentsThe Survival Station: Loraine offers a powerful reminder that if you are standing in the wreckage of your life, you are in survival mode—but "survival is a station, and it's not your destination".The Filing Cabinet Analogy: A striking metaphor for the disjointed fragments of trauma. Loraine describes the confusion of recovery as a filing cabinet that has been emptied onto the floor, leaving the survivor to decide which memories to keep and which to "throw in the trash".Calming the Brain's Alarm System: An insightful look at the science of recovery, noting that putting feelings into words can diminish the response of the amygdala, helping the nervous system finally calm down after years of chronic stress.Internalising the Truth: A raw segment where Loraine contrasts the abuser’s negative voices (e.g., "you are nothing without me") with the empowered mindset shifts (e.g., "I am capable of finding my financial independence") necessary for post-traumatic growth.4 Key TakeawaysPrioritise Safe Environments: While vocalising your story is transformative, it must occur in safe spaces—such as with a trauma-informed therapist or a trusted inner circle—to avoid further harm or re-traumatisation.Shift from Internal Doubt to Objective Reality: Journaling and documenting specific incidents help survivors recognise hidden patterns of manipulation like love bombing and blame shifting, validating that their experiences are real.The Power of Mindset in Healing: Recovery involves "deliberate cognitive restructuring" to unlearn ingrained beliefs of worthlessness and replace them with a growth mindset that leverages the brain’s neuroplasticity.Economic Empowerment is Possible: Economic abuse creates a mindset of fear and scarcity. Moving toward financial independence involves acknowledging the abuse, seeking financial literacy, and believing you deserve security and independence. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------If you are looking for personalised strategic guidance to help you navigate this transition, you can book a mentor clarity session via the link in the show notes.Connect on other Platformshttps://linktr.ee/loraine_mms

In this moving episode, Loraine Marshall shares her personal journey of rising from the ashes of a decade-long "manipulationship" that cost her her home, business, and financial security. Now 65 and living a life of freedom in Spain, Loraine explains that recovery begins with internal alignment, not external safety nets. She provides a roadmap for releasing past betrayals and tuning your life's "radio dial" to the frequency of abundance.4 Best Moments1. The True Definition of Forgiveness: Loraine reframes forgiveness as a gift to oneself, stating it isn't about letting an abuser off the hook, but rather "taking the hook out of your own heart" to allow for expansion.2. The Ho'oponopono Mantra: A look at the ancient Hawaiian practice of self-forgiveness using four simple phrases—"I’m sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you"—to clear the emotional rubble.3. Reframing 10,000 Failures: Using Thomas Edison as an example, Loraine explains how to neutralise the sting of failure by viewing it as "raw data" and feedback rather than a reflection of your identity.4. The "Up Until Now" Pattern Interrupt: Loraine introduces three magic words—"Up until now"—to instantly break the loop of self-limiting beliefs and reclaim power in the present moment--------------------------------------------------------------------------------4 Key Takeaways1. Vibrational Frequency: Freedom and resentment cannot exist on the same frequency. To attract abundance, you must release the "lower vibration" of revenge and resentment.2. The 42% Advantage: Writing down your goals isn't just "positive thinking"; it is neurobiology. You are 42% more likely to achieve a goal by writing it down, as the physical act engages both brain hemispheres and sends an electrical signal through your nervous system.3. Feed the Expansion Wolf: Based on a Cherokee legend, we all have two "wolves" battling within us—Constriction (fear/greed) and Expansion (joy/love). The one that wins is the one you feed with your daily thoughts and actions.4. The Necessity of "Now Actions": Transformation only lives in the present. Crossing the threshold to a new life requires a "now action"—like making a call or creating a budget—even when your biology hits "DEFCON 1" and screams at you to stay in your comfort zone.For more insights, Loraine invites listeners to book a mentor clarity call to identify the paradigms holding them back and to support the show via "Buy Me A Coffee"Connect on other platformsBook a call https://linktr.ee/loraine_mmsHo‘oponopono Mantra for self-love and forgiveness. https://youtu.be/93oql29IN4c?si=JcSmaMv9ef18rV65

In this episode of Mindset Money Success, host Loraine Marshall exposes the financial traps that keep 50% of the population at the bottom of the money pyramid. We move beyond the exhausting "hustle culture" to embrace the MSI (Multiple Sources of Income) mindset. This episode serves as a guide to transition from being an employee, trading time for a paycheck, to becoming an architect of self-sustaining income streams that flow into your bank account regardless of your physical presence4 Best Moments1. The 2020 Wealth Paradox: Loraine highlights the shocking reality of March 2020; while the world shut down and single income streams vanished, five million new millionaires were created because they utilised "MSI Technology" on autopilot.2. The $100 San Francisco Challenge: A deep dive into Robert Allen’s legendary feat, where he entered a city with only $100 and no wallet, yet managed to buy seven properties in 72 hours by focusing on "Don't-Wanters" instead of traditional sellers.3. The "Money While You Sleep" Distinction: A powerful clarification that if you must be physically present for money to flow, you haven't built an MSI; you have simply bought yourself more work.4. The 18-Plate Spinner Analogy: A visual lesson on wealth management—start by getting one "plate" (income stream) spinning until it is automated before attempting to add more, ensuring you never exceed the Three Project Limit4 Key Takeaways1. Shift to the M3 Strategy: While 96% of the population uses the M1 strategy (trading time for money), the top 1% use the M3 strategy, which focuses on multiplying time by setting up dozens of automated "scripts" or assets.2. Master the Law of Compensation: Your income is governed by a universal law and is in direct proportion to the need for what you do, your ability to do it, and the difficulty in replacing you.3. Apply the MONEY TREE Filter: To ensure an income stream is a high-value asset, it must pass the MONEY TREE formula: Multiple, Outstanding, Nothing Down, Employee Resistant, Yield, Trend, Residual, Essential, and Enthusiasm.4. Follow the 30% Success Rule: Statistics indicate you are 30% more likely to succeed if you build your side hustle in parallel with your day job, using your salary to fund your financial educationReady to take the next step? If you need a "paid thinking space" to decide your next move without burning bridges, Loraine is now offering one-to-one mentor sessions. Find the link in the show notes or visit: successwithloraine.com/mentor-sessions/Connect on other Platformshttps://linktr.ee/loraine_mms

Welcome to Mindset Money Success with your host, Loraine. In this episode, we explore the legendary teachings of Bob Proctor’s "You Were Born Rich". We dive into the idea that wealth is not something you "get," but something you "tune into" by discovering the unlimited potential already within you. If you’ve felt stuck, it’s time to rearrange your mental jigsaw pieces and start vibrating on the frequency of the life you were meant to live.4 Best Moments1. Meet the "Stickperson": Loraine breaks down Bob Proctor’s famous graphic to explain the mind. While the Conscious Mind chooses thoughts, the Subconscious Mind is the emotional powerhouse where your "Paradigms" live, ultimately controlling your results.2. The Thermostat Analogy: A powerful realisation that if your subconscious is programmed for scarcity, you will stay broke. Like a thermostat set to 60 degrees, your internal programming will always pull you back down until you reset your "set point" for wealth.3. The 10-20-70 Financial Strategy: Loraine introduces a practical "action planner" based on the Babylonian Law. By allocating 10% to wealth, 20% to debt, and 70% to living, you create an "orderly mind" that allows for the creative process to thrive4. The Vacuum Law of Prosperity: A fascinating look at how nature abhors a vacuum. To signal to the universe that you are ready for more, you must first make space by clearing out old clothes, limiting beliefs, or even giving away money to keep it flowing4 Key Takeaways1 Master the "Servant": Success requires a fundamental shift in your relationship with money. You must love people and use money as an "obedient, diligent servant" rather than hoarding it out of fear.2 Vibration Dictates Results: Everything in the universe vibrates, including your body. To change your financial situation, you must adopt the vibration of a wealthy person before the money shows up, as the universe gives you what you are, not just what you want.3 Use the Image Maker: The subconscious mind cannot distinguish between a visualised image and physical reality. By using an Image Card with a specific gratitude statement, you can imprint your financial goals directly into your subconscious4 Ignore the "Doom and Gloom": To protect your new mindset, you must reject external influences and news cycles focused on lack. Instead, listen to the quiet voice within and act as if you are already your most successful selfReady to take the next step? If you need a "paid thinking space" to decide your next move without burning bridges, Loraine is now offering one-to-one mentor sessions. Find the link in the show notes or visit: successwithloraine.com/mentor-sessions/Connect on other Platformshttps://linktr.ee/loraine_mms

In this episode of Mindset Money Success, host Loraine Marshall shares powerful transformation strategies inspired by her time at Tony Robbins’ "Time to Rise" event. The discussion focuses on mastering your internal world to achieve external success, covering foundational rituals, emotional mastery, and the shift from being a business operator to a true owner.4 Best Moments• The 10-Minute Ritual: Loraine discusses Tony Robbins’ belief that "if you don't have 10 minutes for your life, you don't have a life," highlighting the necessity of a daily priming routine to shift your biochemistry.• The Science of Suffering: A deep dive into why suffering is a choice; while emotions last chemically for 90 seconds, anything beyond that is caused by ruminating on the thought.• Adapting for Trauma Survivors: A poignant reflection on why traditional gratitude can feel dangerous for those in "survival mode" and how to use "I am" affirmations and protective visualisations instead.• The "C.A.N.I." Philosophy: Exploring the concept of Constant and Never-Ending Innovation and why success comes from doing more for others than anyone else.4 Key Takeaways• Priming Your Nervous System: Start your day with a 10-minute ritual: one minute of "breath of fire," three minutes of heartfelt gratitude, three minutes of blessing/guidance, and three minutes to visualise three goals as already accomplished. This wires your Reticular Activating System (RAS) to spot new opportunities.• The 90-Second Rule: To stop stress or anger from taking root, use the Acknowledge, Observe, Breath, and Release method. By observing the stress without "believing it" and using slow breaths, you can calm the nervous system and let go of the thought.• Business Map vs. Business Plan: Traditional plans are often too rigid for modern markets. A Business Map allows for agility, helping you stay committed to your decisions while remaining flexible enough to pivot your approach when necessary.• Owner vs. Operator Mindset: To have a true business rather than just a job, you must have an exit strategy. A successful business is designed to make money even when the owner is not physically present, allowing you to work on the business rather than in it.Find out more about My Journey and connect on other platforms.https://linktr.ee/loraine_mmsSupport the Podcasthttps://buymeacoffee.com/successwithloraineInvitation To Join Skool As A Creatorhttps://successwithloraine.com/go/skool-sign-up/

In this week's episode, we’re going to explore the profound mindset shifts that can turn a challenging time into your greatest comeback story. We are talking about escaping a debt trap and knowing the difference between "smart debt" and "foolish debt".4 Best Moments• The Metamorphosis of Randy Gage: Discover how Gage transitioned from a major business failure to building a library of over 1,000 books to understand how thoughts shape reality. His journey proves that rock bottom is not a story of failure, but a necessary metamorphosis.• Reframing "Financial Crystal Meth": A sobering look at "foolish debt"—the debt of instant gratification. Gage describes it as a temporary high that results in a brutal comedown of regret, energy leaks, and a diminished sense of self-worth.• The Radical "Naked Truth" Step: The moment of true liberation begins with radical honesty. Host Loraine Marshall discusses the necessity of pulling every statement and creating a master list, leaving no place for your fear to hide.• The Police Line-up Analogy: A powerful reminder that wealth without connection is hollow. Gage asks the rhetorical question: What is the joy in earning millions if your children couldn’t pick you out of a police line-up? Success must be tied to relationships and well-being4 Key Takeaways• Distinguish Between Smart and Foolish Debt: Not all debt is equal. Smart debt acts as leverage to acquire income-producing assets, while foolish debt acts as a "silent drain" on your confidence and abundance.• Execute a Strategic Escape Plan: Breaking free requires a relentless roadmap. This includes prioritising the highest interest rates, negotiating with creditors to lower APRs, and committing to accumulating no new bad debt.• Play the "Infinite Game" of Wealth: Shift your philosophy from "earning money to do good" to "doing good while earning money." This creates an expanding cycle of prosperity where more resources allow for more positive impact.• Focus on the Person You Become: The ultimate reward of financial independence isn't the bank balance; it’s the personal growth required to achieve it. Building wealth is a journey of upgrading your identity to someone who lives above debt, not under itReady to move from trauma to transformation? Visit the SuccessWithLoraine website to learn more about her new mentor programme, specifically designed for women reclaiming their agency.Support the Podcasthttps://buymeacoffee.com/successwithloraineInvitation To Join Skool As A Creatorhttps://successwithloraine.com/go/skool-sign-up/

Intro Welcome to Mindset Money Success with your host, Loraine Marshall. Today, we dive into the journey of reclaiming your power after the "three Ds": Divorce, Death, or Discard. For women navigating life at 40-plus, these aren't just relationship endings; they are traumatic events that require a total reconstruction of the soul. Learn how to move from a state of survival to one of transformation by becoming the master of your own mental architecture.4 Best MomentsDefining the Three Ds: Loraine identifies the specific traumas of divorce, the death of a partner, and the abrupt discard, explaining how these moments can leave us paralysed by uncertainty.The Literal Mind: A powerful realisation that the brain has no sense of humour; it takes phrases like "this is killing me" literally and may create physical illness or panic attacks to "protect" you from the perceived danger.The "I Am Enough" Breakthrough: Exploring how the most simple instruction—repeatedly telling your subconscious "I am enough"—can rebuild a sense of worthiness that has been shattered by betrayal or loss.The Shift to Abundance: Learning to stop the "contraction" of fear regarding finances by focusing on visual cues and the deliberate choice to say, "I am having that" instead of "I can't afford it".4 Key TakeawaysYour Mind Follows Instructions: Your subconscious is a tool that does exactly what it thinks you want it to do. It responds specifically to the pictures you construct in your head and the words you say to yourself.Choose Empowering Language: Switch from catastrophic language to words that generate energy. Instead of "I have to," try "I have chosen to" or "I am on a mission of discovery," which flips the switch from resistance to empowerment.Make Self-Praise Familiar: Many people are experts at self-criticism, making it their "natural state". To transform, you must make self-praise incredibly familiar and treat criticism as something entirely "unfamiliar" that you no longer accept.Focus on Destination, Not Current Lack: Your mind’s "creative search engines" shut down when focused on lack and fear. To find new opportunities, you must focus on where you are going rather than your current bank balance, using tools like vision boards to prime your mind for abundance.Are you ready to move from trauma to transformation? Book a call with Loraine’s mentor programme to wire in the habits of the unstoppable. Video mentor sessions are 1:1 or appear on my podcast, Mindset, Money, Success. I’ll spend forty minutes with you to help guide you or listen to your story. Invitation To Join Skool As A Creatorhttps://successwithloraine.com/go/skool-sign-up/Support the ChannelLifeChangeplans Affirmations - YouTube

In this episode of Mindset, Money, Success, host Loraine Marshall provides a raw and revealing look at the "emotional tax" of business deals gone sour. Drawing on her recent four-week struggle with a "cash for keys" standoff, Loraine exposes the reality of dealing with bullies who move goalposts and the psychological resilience required to hold your ground. From living without running water since 2023 to facing the threat of 17 years in prison during criminal litigation, she shares how she finally secured a new start in 2026.Best Moments• The Pyjama Gate Encounter: Loraine recounts the shocking moment she was sick with the flu, only to find the new property owner at her gate with an envelope of 50-euro notes, demanding she vacate the home she had occupied for years within 7–10 days.• The Three-Hour Manipulation Marathon: A look into a circular, manipulative text argument where the buyer refused to provide an advance for a deposit, essentially pressuring a 64-year-old vulnerable woman to "make herself homeless" before receiving any relocation funds.• The Removal Company Standoff: The dramatic turning point where the removal team intervened, threatening to unpack the van and leave unless the buyer paid immediately. This forced the "bully buyer" to back down after he had attempted to make Loraine sign contracts under duress.• Channeling Pain into Paper: Loraine’s powerful closing announcement regarding her upcoming book, Deceptions and Illusions Embroidered with Truth. She reveals that every penny of the royalties will support a non-profit project to help other women facing economic and legal abuse.Key Takeaways• Mindset is the Ultimate Ground: Even when legal systems fail or opponents move the goalposts, they cannot take the ground you have won in your mind. Refusing to be silenced is a key step in surviving economic abuse.• Recognising DARVO: The sources highlight the importance of identifying the DARVO tactic (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender), which bullies and abusers use to frame themselves as the victim while intimidating their targets with litigation.• The Power of Community Support: When the buyer refused to assist with relocation costs, it was a neighbour’s personal loan and the solidarity of the removal workers that allowed Loraine to break the cycle of intimidation and secure a new home.• Advocating for Legal Reform: The episode underscores a critical need for changes in domestic abuse laws in both Spain and the UK to ensure non-married women are not treated as "second-class citizens" by biased or misogynistic court systems.Tips and donations are welcome and greatly appreciated!! 🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏https://buymeacoffee.com/successwithloraineInvitation To Join Skool As A Creatorhttps://successwithloraine.com/go/skool-sign-up/Connect on other platformshttps://linktr.ee/loraine_mms

IntroductionIn this episode of Mindset Money Success, host Loraine Marshall introduces a concrete, actionable 12-month blueprint designed to take you from broke to building real wealth. Tailored especially for women over 40 who are rebuilding after trauma or financial loss, the episode explores the 7-Step Recovery Plan based on the legendary investor Charlie Munger’s own experiences. Moving beyond "motivational garbage," this "battle-tested" plan focuses on execution and the psychological shift required to transform a negative net worth into a solid foundation.4 Best MomentsThe "Broke Advantage": Munger argues that starting with nothing is a unique strategic starting point. Unlike the wealthy, those at zero have the freedom to take calculated risks because they have nothing left to lose and their financial mistakes serve as "cheap tuition" rather than catastrophic losses.Munger’s Personal Resilience: The episode highlights Munger’s own "rock bottom" in 1962. At 38, he was divorced, drowning in debt, and facing the death of his son—a story that serves as ultimate proof that starting from zero can be a launchpad for success.The Harsh Reality of "Deserving": A pivotal moment occurs when addressing the desire for luxuries while broke. Marshall shares Munger’s blunt perspective: "The only thing you deserve when you’re broke is to stop being broke".The Final Hurdle of Discipline: As the year closes, the episode warns against "holiday inflation" in November. While most people squander their progress on gifts and travel, the blueprint demands unwavering discipline to protect your hard-won savings.4 Key TakeawaysConduct a Ruthless Financial Audit: January is the month of radical accountability. You must "stop the bleed" by cutting expenses to the bone, including selling liability cars with high payments and eliminating all non-essential subscriptions.Aggressive Income Stacking: You cannot invest your way out of poverty with small amounts. The goal is to stack multiple income streams—primary, evening, and weekend work—to save your first £5,000 by April, which shifts your mindset from "broke person" to "investor".Build the "Emergency Wall": Before entering the stock market, you must save an additional £10,000 (totalling £15,000). This cash acts as a buffer against fear-based decisions, providing the stability needed to find better career opportunities rather than settling for desperate ones.Prioritise Self-Investment: The highest yield asset is your own earning ability. Munger recommends partitioning £5,000 of your savings to invest in new skills, certifications, and networking that directly increase your hourly value.Connect on other platformshttps://linktr.ee/loraine_mmsSupport the Podcasthttps://buymeacoffee.com/successwithloraineInvitation To Join Skool As A Creatorhttps://successwithloraine.com/go/skool-sign-up/

In this episode of Mindset, Money, Success, host Loraine Marshall reflects on the eighth anniversary of a day that irrevocably changed the course of her life. On 26 December 2017, what seemed like a peaceful retirement in a Spanish villa was shattered by a brutal confession that exposed a nine-year lie. Loraine shares her harrowing journey through betrayal trauma, financial weaponisation, and the systemic failures of the legal system, ultimately discussing how she turned her "shattered dream" into a mission of discovery and healing for others.4 Best MomentsThe "Wednesday Girl" Confession: The chilling moment on a sofa in Spain when Loraine’s partner casually revealed a secret life he had maintained since 2009, leading to a scream of pain so physical it damaged her throat.The Clinical Presentation of Grief: A look at the "sadistic control" exerted by the abuser when he used a formal presentation to "educate" Loraine on the stages of the bereavement cycle while he was the active cause of her grief.Financial Leashes and "Collateral Damage": Loraine recounts being told she was "just a bit of collateral damage" and the way her ex-partner weaponised payments as a tactic of economic control, demanding she not "bite the hand that’s feeding you”.The 2024 Legal Victory: The moment of ultimate reclamation when seven malicious criminal allegations—which carried a combined threat of 17 years in prison—were completely dismissed.4 Key TakeawaysIdentifying DARVO and SLAP: Understanding these tactical abuses is vital. DARVO (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender) and SLAPP (Strategic Litigation Against Public Participation) are often used to silence victims through the court system.The Physical Reality of Trauma: Emotional abuse is not "invisible." It manifests physically, leading to debilitating panic attacks and cognitive dissonance as the body "keeps the score" of the psychological environment.Forgiveness as Self-Liberation: Drawing on the wisdom of Nelson Mandela, Loraine highlights that forgiveness is not about condoning the abuser’s actions, but about refusing to let their "poison" kill your spirit.Turning Pain into Purpose: The ultimate act of survival is reclaiming your narrative. By writing her book and starting a foundation, Loraine demonstrates that rebuilding from the rubble is the beginning of a new, independent path.Resources Mentioned:• Book: Post-Separation Abuse, Betrayal and Abandonment by Loren Keeling.• Website: lifechangeplans.comHappy New Year To all Our Listeners

In this episode, Loraine discusses the five shocking truths behind narcissistic future faking, often referred to as the soulmate illusion. Future faking is the illusion of 'someday,' where a partner paints a vivid, perfect picture of a life together, while their current actions leave you feeling hurt, ignored, and devalued. If this sounds familiar, you have likely encountered this sophisticated manipulation, which serves as a cornerstone of narcissistic abuse. This tactic involves making grand promises about the future solely to gain power and control over you in the present. We uncover the insidious truths that lie behind this behaviour.Best Moments from the Episode The narcissist’s promises are a desperate attempt to soothe their own deep psychic pain. Psychologists agree that narcissism is rooted in profound self-hatred and shame, not self-love. By manipulating you into believing their fantasy, they gain a fleeting feeling of power and relief from their own sense of weakness.Narcissists are master manipulators who use a tactic called narcissistic mirroring. They encourage deep conversations early in the relationship to get you to reveal your most heartfelt desires, hopes, and dreams for the future. They then mimic your dreams back to you, making the connection feel magnetic and uniquely perfect, leading you to believe you have met your soulmate.Future faking is a powerful tool used throughout the entire abuse cycle, not just during the initial love bombing phase. They may dangle the future you crave only to snatch it away as punishment, perhaps by stating an engagement or vacation is on hold because you "ruined the mood".The constant mismatch between loving words about the future and harmful actions in the present creates a profound psychological discomfort known as cognitive dissonance. Personal Example of Future Faking: Loraine recounts a personal experience involving future faking where, after talking about a dream to live in Spain, the partner purchased a property there. However, shortly after the purchase, the partner revealed he had made a "huge mistake," leaving the speaker feeling deflated and upset.Key TakeawaysFuture Faking is a Tool of Control: It is a sophisticated manipulation used to gain power and control over you in the present, fueled by the abuser's own self-hatred and need for fleeting relief.You Are Trapped by Your Own Hopes: The narcissist uses narcissistic mirroring to sell you a future built exactly upon your own most heartfelt dreams, making the connection feel uniquely perfect. Designed to keep you emotionally invested and trapped.The Dissonance is Deliberate: The painful paradox of hearing someone plan your future home while they devalue you right now is a tactic designed to keep you disoriented through cognitive dissonance. You are kept busy trying to reconcile their conflicting behaviours rather than seeing the abuse for what it is.To break free, you must stop focusing on empty promises and start looking at the hard evidence of present-day actions. Your nervous system often registers the danger before your mind can name it, so listen to your body—if you feel tense, unsure, or small in their presence, trust that physical response as honest data.Link to the free trial for the School content platform.Loraine also offers Zoom, coaching, and mentoring calls, drawing on 11 years of lived experience in a manipulative relationship.

IntroductionWelcome to Mindset Money Success. Host Loraine Marshall speaks with Tina Woods, a coach dedicated to helping individuals recover from narcissistic abuse and unlock trapped trauma. Tina recounts her entry into this field after leaving a 24-year advertising career and navigating her own journey through complex trauma (CPTSD), addictions, burnout, and a highly abusive relationship with a covert narcissist. She now works in her purpose of empath empowerment, assisting women to transform lessons learned and move from victim mode into their highest frequency. This episode delves into the deep psychological trap of the trauma bond, the strategic nature of narcissistic abuse, and practical self-help steps for recovery.3 Best MomentsUnderstanding the Trauma Bond: Tina explains that the trauma bond is a "serious, serious addiction" and is fundamentally a "spiritual, a physical, a mental, psychological trap" that is extremely difficult to break.Abuse Starts with Love Bombing: It is crucial to understand that the manipulation and abuse cycle begins not with the devaluation or discard, but with the love bomb phase. Narcissists are highly strategic; they plot their victims and look for supply by weighing up their wounds, such as isolation or self-love issues, making the love bombing the beginning of the abuse.Harnessing Anger for Healing: Tina advocates for releasing anger, describing it as her "kill Bill stage," rather than repressing or suppressing it, which can cause sickness. Techniques she used for release included joining kickboxing and self-defence, as well as bouncing on a mini trampoline, shaking, and dancing.4 Key TakeawaysEmbrace Deep Honesty and the 'Ik-List': To begin breaking the trauma bond, the first step is to come into deep, painful honesty about both the abuser's behaviours and your own attachment patterns. Tina suggests creating an 'ik-list' (a tip she borrowed from Dr Ramani) detailing all the awful things the abuser said and did, so you can clearly see the truth when they attempt to 'hoover' you back in.De-centre the Abuser and Reclaim Self-Love: Recovery requires understanding your codependency and recognising that seeking validation from a toxic person reflects a lack of self-love and self-worth. You must de-centre the narcissist and the relationship story to go on a deep journey of reclamation, which often involves reviewing childhood patterns and behaviours.Implement the 360 Approach for Complex Trauma: When dealing with complex trauma (CPTSD), a self-help strategy should address the mind, body, and soul. For the soul, focus on raising your frequency through faith, prayer, cord cutting, or walking in nature. For the body, prioritise nervous system safety through somatic exercises, yoga, breathwork, and nourishing food.Listen to Your Intuition: Your intuition is activated when you start spotting the abuser's patterns of behaviour. When you find yourself having the same conversation multiple times or noticing flare-ups around certain times, this may lead to the realisation: "maybe it's not all me," which is a powerful starting point for moving forward.Contact Talia Coaching https://www.taliacoaching.co.uk/ From your hostConnect on other platformsSupport the PodcastInvitation To Join Skool As A Creator

In this week's episode, Loraine Marshall aims to challenge and completely dismantle conventional financial advice that often leaves people feeling stuck. Our guide on this journey is Rob Moore, a self-made millionaire, property investor, and host of the Disruptors podcast, known for building his fortune on contrarian thinking. Loraine extracts some of Rob Moore's valuable insights, offering a blueprint for building wealth by exploring the money lies that keep you poor, and revealing the hidden rules of the financial game. 4 Key Takeaways1. Lie number one suggests that saving your money in the bank is responsible, but Rob Moore argues this is a dangerous myth. Due to inflation—which he calls the biggest legal money scam—leaving your money in the bank is not saving it; it is eroding and degrading its value, resulting in a guaranteed loss of purchasing power over time.2. Inflation is a quiet theft of your money and a systematic feature of the modern financial system. The only effective defence is to own assets that rise in value as currency devalues, such as property, stocks, businesses, and precious metals (like gold and silver coins), which store value better than cash.3. The wealthy understand a critical distinction: bad debt (borrowing for depreciating consumer items like a new car or designer clothes) keeps people on a treadmill, while good debt can make you richer. Good debt involves strategically borrowing money, like using a mortgage on a rental property, to acquire an asset where the financial return is higher than the debt's cost.4. The supposedly secure job is one of the riskiest financial strategies because your entire income stream depends on one employer, meaning you are not in control. Since even saving money is a risk due to inflation, true financial security comes from taking calculated, educated investment risks to build assets that you control. 4 Best Moments1. Ex-financial advisor Chris Roll provided a brilliant analogy, explaining that the Monopoly game rules state that if the bank runs out of money, it can simply write some more on a piece of paper and use that. This perfectly illustrates how the modern financial system and central banks create currency out of thin air.2. In a rant about modern consumer culture, Rob Moore highlighted the absurdity of spending £55 on a trendy water bottle when the same money could purchase a one-ounce silver coin, which is a real, tangible asset that stores value. This powerfully symbolises society's broken financial priorities.3. This insight captures the power shift when dealing with high-level finance and leverage: "If you borrow a million pounds from the bank, you have a problem. If you borrow 100 million from the bank, they have the problem".4. Blueprint for Your First £10,000. Rob Moore provides a simple, diversified plan for asset growth: 40% into the stock market (e.g., Vanguard Life Strategy Fund), 30% in physical gold, 20% in physical silver, and 10% in calculated high-risk crypto (e.g., 80% Bitcoin, 20% Ethereum). This strategy hedges against economic uncertainty while investing in long-term growth.Connect on other platformsSupport the PodcastInvitation To Join Skool As A Creator

In this episode, Loraine explores opportunities for finding and securing funding for your Dream Business Startup.Best Moments1. The discussion highlights the systemic challenges in traditional venture capital, noting that while almost 40% of startup owners in Europe are women, companies founded by women receive only 2.4% of total venture capital funding. However, this statistic is reframed as "permission to stop playing a game that wasn’t designed for you".2. We examine the internal hurdle of a "scarcity mindset" the deeply ingrained belief that there isn't enough opportunity or support. This paralysing mindset leads to risk aversion and accepting limitations. The powerful counterpoint is introduced: "poverty loves foot dragging," while speed, decision, and action are the habits of abundance.3. Listeners are encouraged to shift from passive worrying to an active, opportunity-focused state of doing. The principle "money loves speed" is explained as a law where acting on an idea as fast as humanly possible creates an energy that helps attract more money, echoing the concept that "the universe loves speed".4. Grants are highlighted as the best kind of funding because they are a primary source of debt-free money—meaning founders don't give up equity and do not have to pay the money back. Corporate partners like Poker Power, BOTOX® Cosmetic, Visa, and Caress have created major grant programs through IFundWomen (IFW).5. The most efficient strategic move a founder can make is to fill out the IFundWomen Universal Funding and Grant Application. This single action places the founder in a central database, which IFW uses to match founders with opportunities when they partner with brands.Key Takeaways• Mindset is your most powerful asset: Acknowledge that the funding gap is real, but recognize that shifting your mindset from scarcity to abundance is the critical foundation for success.• Embrace Immediate Action: Apply the principle that "money loves speed" by taking immediate, decisive action on your ideas instead of waiting for the "perfect" moment.• Tap into the Diverse Ecosystem: Don't focus solely on VC; instead, tap into the rich ecosystem of grants and supportive organisations like IFundWomen, Female Founders Rise, Ladies Who Launch, and the Tory Burch Foundation.• Take One Concrete Step Today: The only wrong choice is inaction. Your homework is to take immediate action, such as filling out the IFundWomen Universal Application or exploring the Tory Burch Funding Finder to give your dream the momentum it deserves. Follow on more platformsSupport the PodcastInvitation To Join Skool As A Creator

Welcome to another episode of Mindset Money Success! Host Loraine Marshall introduces guest Carolyn Ann Wood, a mindset mentor and hypnotherapist. Carolyn specialises in an "amazing modality called heart healing," which literally heals the heart. She shares her journey of becoming a certified heart healer and quitting her day job to pursue her successful business, currently travelling and living out of two suitcases. Her personal purpose is focused on freedom, love, and connection.Loraine and Carolyn discuss the profound power of the mind and how unconscious beliefs, often formed in early childhood, can silently drive reality. Lorraine recalls her own experience growing a property management business based on a simple written goal: "double the income in the first three months, double the income in the next three months". The conversation also touches upon Lorraine's challenging experience navigating years of overlapping litigations, from an ex-partner, and the importance of managing anger and rebuilding self-worth while tackling external pressures.Carolyn emphasizes that true transformation is not a "one and done" event but requires a holistic approach involving mind, body, heart, and soul work, along with dedicated nervous system regulation.Best MomentsOn the Nature of Heart Healing: "The crazy thing is, the beliefs aren't about the experiences themselves. They are about the other people who were involved in the experiences". Heart healing targets the root belief formed in childhood, often related to the primary caregiver, to address the feeling of "not enoughness".Affirmations vs. Deep Beliefs: If you are repeating affirmations like "I'm a millionaire" but not seeing results, it is likely because an underlying, unconscious belief is running silently in the background, saying, "no, you’re not a millionaire". To fast-track success, you must get to the root of these negative beliefs.Self-Love as the Key: Unconditional self-love and self-acceptance are the key to joy, happiness, success, and wealth. When you love yourself, you have the confidence to make decisions that suit you, and if things don't go as planned, it doesn't "knock you back"Key TakeawaysMindset Requires Clearing Blocks: While repetition of education and motivational content (like Jim Rohn's tapes) is helpful, true, rapid transformation requires clearing the deep, unconscious beliefs that prevent affirmations from becoming reality.Holistic Work for Lifestyle Change: Mindset work is a lifestyle choice; it is not achieved through a single session. It involves working with your mind, body, and heart (and soul) simultaneously, much like losing weight requires diet, exercise, and mental pre-planning.Nervous System Regulation is Core: Nervous system regulation is "absolutely core for everyone". Carolyn recommends breathwork and EFT tapping to intentionally regulate the nervous system, especially since dysregulation sends internal signals of instability and unsafety.Achieving success by shifting your mindset is like being a skilled gardener: affirmations are the seeds you plant every day, but unless you consistently clear the deep, unconscious weeds (the negative beliefs and unregulated nervous system), those seeds struggle to fully blossom.https://carolynannewood.com/shopwithmeSupport the PodcastInvitation To Join Skool As A Creator

Host Loraine speaks with Marie, owner of Vesta Hypnotherapy, based in the UK. Marie’s business is centred on creating alignment throughout oneself rather than focusing solely on working harder, stressing the need for balance between strategy, mindset, spirituality, and belief in yourself. Loraine and Marie explore how different elements govern different areas of life —from managing emotions (Water) to cultivating passion and purpose (Fire) —and how understanding these energies is key to personal success and money alignment.4 Best Moments1. Marie explains that the order of the four elements (starting with Fire, moving to Earth, Air, then Water, and cycling again) represents a clear development cycle. Living in tune with these elements means living in tune with the cycles of life, birth, rebirth, and death. The elements are the basis of everything.2. The conversation highlights that two elements are masculine (Fire and Earth) and two are feminine (Air and Water). Entrepreneurial women, particularly those with strong business backgrounds, may find themselves operating heavily in the male energy, making it crucial to focus on balancing the feminine aspects for overall alignment3. Loraine and Marie agree that for deep-seated wounds, simple affirmations often act as a "band-aid" or cover, not completely removing the root of the issue. Hypnotherapy, however, is a well-proven modality that claims to go directly to the point and change the subconscious mind.4. Emotion is the Language of the Subconscious: Marie notes that the main way to change the subconscious is through emotion. Strong, overwhelming emotions (like fear) lodge patterns and beliefs into the subconscious. Reprogramming requires creating a more powerful, positive emotion connected to that same belief. Coaches like Tony Robbins successfully use massive energy shifts (moving, music) to immediately raise emotional energy from a low vibration (like fear and uncertainty) to a higher one.4 Key Takeaways1. Success does not come from focusing on a single modality (like pure business strategy or just spiritual manifesting). Money, success, and personal development are closely linked and require a balanced approach across all elements. 2. Not everyone is out of balance in the same place. People tend to over-give in one element and ignore another they dislike; focusing on that neglected element can make a massive difference to overall alignment.3. If you lack belief in what you are doing, you won't succeed. Belief in yourself, self-worth, and passion provide the energy and motivation needed to create something meaningful, which is represented by the Fire element.4. Marie is releasing four micro-journeys (10-minute hypnotherapy sessions) targeted at specific element imbalances.Fire: Deals with imposter syndrome and self-confidence.Earth: Addresses overwhelm and procrastination.Air: Focuses on opening to clarity and putting oneself out there.Water: Helps with managing fear.https://www.vestahypnotherapy.com/category/all-productsInvitation To Join Skool As A CreatorSupport the Podcast

In this episode of Mindset, Money, Success podcast, host Loraine speaks with virtual business manager (VBM), Nadia, based in Melbourne. Nadia, who started her business seven years ago, just three months after her baby was born, shares her journey from feeling "terrified" to achieving sustainable growth. She explains how she provides administrative, marketing, and operational support to growth-ready women in business, helping them transition from the kitchen table to success. Nadia sought to create a venture that allowed her the freedom and flexibility to progress her career while remaining a present mother.Best MomentsOvercoming the Fear: Nadia reveals that she was "literally terrified" when she first launched her business. She started, creating her website on a laptop while sitting on her couch, unsure if she would secure her first client. Attending her first networking event was scary, as she had to tell the world about the business she had created.Wearing All the Hats to CEO: Nadia emphasises the struggle entrepreneurs face juggling life, family, and business while wearing multiple hats (marketing manager, bookkeeper, customer service officer). Her service is designed to handle "all the chaos behind the scenes", enabling clients—service providers, creatives, and coaches—to move from wearing all the hats to focusing solely on the CEO role.Global Confidence: After beginning her business journey, Nadia gained confidence as she started working with clients internationally, including those in the U.S. and Germany. This exposure and continuous learning helped her develop her business over seven years, supporting clients with streamlining their admin, marketing, and operations.AI as a Tool for Busy Mothers: Nadia shares how Artificial Intelligence (AI) is a valuable tool for efficiency, helping her get things done quicker. Specifically, she uses tools like (ChatGPT) to help plan her week and create a schedule that allows her to work around school drop-offs and pick-ups for her two boys. AI acts as a starting point, particularly when feeling stuck or lacking creativity.Key TakeawaysMindset and Belief are Key: Having a strong, positive mindset and believing in yourself and your vision are essential to overcoming fears and achieving goals. Nadia noted that her passion and strong urge for freedom needed to be stronger than her fear.Positive Network: It is crucial to surround yourself with positive people who encourage you and share similar goals. If you aim for a six-figure business, you need to surround yourself with six-figure business owners. Negative people can drag you down and make the task seem impossible. Networking is a huge step when starting out.Sustainable Growth: Entrepreneurial women often get stuck at a certain level because they are too involved in the day-to-day running of the business and have not learned to delegate. Outsourcing processes, such as hiring a VBM, simplifies operations, reduces overwhelm, and provides the necessary time to focus on marketing and growth.Monetisation Block: The transition from employee (who expects money at the end of the week) to entrepreneur (who must work long periods before income is generated) is challenging. Many women face a block regarding sales and monetising their services, sometimes opting for free coaching sessions instead. Reading books on mindset can help address these blocks.Support the Podcast and Loraine's recovery Buy Me Coffee Invitation To Join Skool As A Creator

Loraine welcomes Laura, a Somatic Trauma Informed Coach and Narcissistic Abuse Specialist, to Mindset, Money, Success. Laura is helping women who have escaped narcissistic abusive relationships by guiding them out of anxious thought patterns and back into their bodies to process feelings, regaining control, confidence, and calmness. The episode explores the role of somatic healing in trauma recovery, the emotional energy spiral, and tools for processing difficult emotions like anger and grief. Both the host and guest share their commitment to supporting women who often lack resources after leaving abusive situations.Invitation To Join Skool As A Creator - For coaches, trainers, and creators sharing content and building recurring revenue. Best Moments Laura explains that if the body has been in survival mode for extended periods, it learns to remain in a stressful state (stiff posture, shallow breathing). Healing involves telling yourself a new story (mindset) while also giving the brain safe experiences in the body (somatic work), such as slowing down shallow breathing, to rewire the brain's patterns and signal safety.A discussion of how anger is a natural part of the grieving process when recovering from abuse. Laura provides a practical somatic exercise: pushing your hands together or pushing against a wall to release anger, allowing the body to move back into balance rather than suppressing the emotion. Healing from narcissistic abuse is different from healing from a standard breakup. Survivors must process the deep grief of realising that the life and person they believed in were almost entirely fake. The realisation that they were in an abusive relationship often helps survivors define and process their experiences. Laura notes that she was inspired to become a specialist because she personally lacked support when she was going through her own experience, leading to a strong urge to help other women in the same situation. Loraine echoed this sentiment, expressing awe at the support Laura provides, which she did not have when she was left in 2020. Key Takeaways For recovery, it is essential to focus on both the mind (therapy, education, journaling) and the body (somatic work, breath-work ). Somatic coaching teaches skills to regulate emotions that can be applied to future life challenges. Narcissistic abuse erodes self-esteem, impacts the emotional vibration, potentially leading to the "no will to live" stage. Tools to release anger, learning new skills, truth-telling, or engaging in free activities like singing, dancing, or listening to music can help. Abuse often involves gaslighting and silent treatment that are hard to spot until after the fact. Abuse often results in isolation, loss of community and family connections, and financial devastation due to the abuser's entrapping and sabotaging the victim's opportunities. Various physical activities can aid healing, weights to rebuild strength, or simply moving your body by dancing to loud music. For deep emotional processing, survivors can practice mindfulness (e.g., while brushing teeth). Connect for Support: Finding other people in various healing stages and sharing stories is incredibly validating and helps survivors realise they are not alone and that their situation won't define them moving forward. To connect with Laura, find her work at https://salltsisters.com Support the Podcast and Loraine's recovery Buy Me Coffee

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and we're dedicating this episode to a critical, yet often unseen, aspect of abuse: coercive control and its devastating financial aftermath.While the UK and Spain have introduced progressive laws—the UK's Controlling or Coercive Behaviour offence (Serious Crime Act 2015) and Spain's pioneering gender violence legislation (Law 1/2004)—recognising psychological manipulation as a severe form of abuse, the gap between the law's intent and practical use is huge. In this episode, your host shares her five-year survivor's ordeal navigating legal intimidation and litigation abuse within the Spanish system. Exposes how an abuser's financial power and flawed judicial ruling can lead to re-victimisation and poverty, as civil property laws often override the safety and welfare mandated by gender violence legislation.Key Takeaways Coercive Control is a Pattern, Not an Incident: Effective prosecution requires proving a "course of conduct"—a sustained pattern of psychological and financial abuse. When the justice system reduces a long-term pattern of control to a single, minor offence, it allows the severe abuse to escape proper classification.Financial Power Weaponises the Law: Abusers use litigation abuse (legal bullying) in civil courts to continue control post-separation. Financially powerful perpetrators can overwhelm survivors, forcing them into resource-intensive legal battles where courts prioritise property rights over the underlying context of gender violence.The Systemic Failure to Implement Law: Both the UK and Spanish legal systems struggle with low conviction rates. This stems from a lack of in-depth professional training for police, prosecutors, and judges on coercive control theory. This failure grants abusers impunity while leaving survivors broken and often destitute.The Necessity of Documentation: Since perpetrators often leave no physical evidence, gathering comprehensive evidence is crucial. The survivor documented their journey using emails, texts, and diary entries to highlight the gaps and failures in the system.Best Moments "The UK law was introduced to fill a *gap in the legal system**. Campaigners... argued that [traditional laws] failed to capture the insidious, sustained pattern of non-physical abuse that defines coercive control." "My experience highlights the gap between the law’s intent and its real-world impact. While the law itself was a huge step, its practical implementation has faced significant challenges." "The legal system (particularly the civil courts) often defaults to traditional interpretations of property rights and financial contracts over the survivor’s welfare and safety mandated by the 2004 law." "For the survivor, the process itself... becomes a devastating act of state-sanctioned re-victimisation."ResourcesIf you are experiencing institutional sexist violence, the Observatory of Institutional Gender Violence Against Women (OVIM) provides a channel to document cases and stories anonymously.For more information on coercive control, consult organisations like Women’s Aid and Refuge (UK), and SEA Surviving Economic Abuse.

Welcome to another episode of Mindset Money Success. Host Loraine welcomes Dr. Cornelia Kawann, an electrical engineer turned Personal Energy Strategist. Cornelia works to show busy women how to manage their energy—their most precious asset—instead of merely focusing on time management. They discuss the power of energy hacks, the challenges of writing a book quickly, and why addressing energetic blocks is essential for long-term success. Cornelia explains that by managing their energy, women can ensure they have the vitality needed to follow their goals, make an impact, and live the life they truly desire. Best MomentsScience of Personal Energy: Cornelia, a scientist by background, explains she found many similarities between electric energy principles, like Ohm’s law and resistance, and personal energy, leading her to experiment and develop her energy strategies. Rapid Writing Process: After figuring out it made sense to compile her developed exercises into one place, Cornelia completed the first draft of her book in just 16 weeks. However, she found that the editing, formatting, and publishing process took just as long, if not longer. Overcoming Blockades: The guest highlights that long writing processes often result from "energy blockades" and limiting beliefs (like shame or fear of failure) holding authors back. She stresses the importance of looking into and removing these internal blocks to allow flow. Heart-Brain Exercise: Cornelia shares a practical, easy energy hack for achieving an optimal state of efficiency: place your left hand on your heart and your right hand on your forehead, and state, "I bring my heart and brain into coherence now." This exercise helps synchronise the heart and brain cycles to "calibrate the system". Healing Trauma Without Reliving It: Cornelia notes that her energy work is particularly effective for people with traumas because the method focuses on removing problematic frequencies and stored emotions without requiring the client to re-enter the difficult situation, thus avoiding re-traumatisation. Key Takeaways Energy Management: If you feel miserable, focusing solely on time management is ineffective. Energy is your most precious asset, and managing it ensures you have the power to live the life you want. Root Cause: Affirmations and positive beliefs can raise frequency, but they often act as a "band aid" over underlying limiting beliefs. For a sustainable shift, it is necessary to identify the root cause of the problem—which manifests as a low frequency—and remove it from your energy system. Internal Blockages: If things are not working out as expected in life or business (such as publishing delays), it's important to look inward and address internal fears or energies that may be preventing progress. Links To Connect to Dr Cornelia Kawann Check out my book “Change Your Energy – Change Your Life”Get my complementary e-book: Energetic Stress Management - The New Way to Deal With StressWebsite LinkedInPodcast Host Loraine Support My Recovery and Content Creation on Buy Me CoffeeInvitation To Join Skool As A Creator

In This weeks episode Loraine covers Mindset shift (Permission to start over), Practical strategy (The zero-based restart), and New beginning (Taking confident action).5 Best MomentsRedefining Your Enough: Loraine shares that recovery isn't about dwelling on what you've lost, but about redefining your enough. Instead of focusing on past numbers, we must redefine success based on a feeling of security and peace, identifying our "current enough" starting today.The Forced Financial Declutter : Financial setbacks should be viewed as a forced financial declutter, not a failure. The upside is gaining total clarity and the wisdom of experience, which becomes a vital asset.The Wisdom Bank and Zero-Based Approach : The concept of the Experience and Skills Audit, or "Wisdom Bank," is introduced. This involves thinking about skills unconsciously mastered over the past 40 years—through employment, hobbies (like gardening or cooking), or creative pursuits—which can be monetised by becoming a niche content creator.Low-Cost Launch Strategy : The true zero-based approach involves getting started with a low-cost launch, utilising tools you already possess, like your mobile phone camera and existing knowledge. The only investment required is time and consistency.AI as Your Digital Mentor : Loraine suggests using AI tools (like Gemini, Google, or Perplexity) as a free business mentor and problem solver, providing clarity and guidance to overcome blocks. A powerful prompt example is shared to analyse time tracking against 90-day goals and suggest effective changes.5 Key TakeawaysPermission to Start Over: When facing financial devastation, emotional thinking is often driven by fear and uncertainty, screwing up decision-making capacity. Grant yourself permission to let go of the past and start over, moving away from dwelling on what you’ve lost.Success via Small Decisions: Success is achieved through a series of consistent small decisions made daily, not through one big leap or single finish line. Use a Decision Audit to ensure your daily actions are moving you closer to your goal of consistent monthly income ("your current enough").Monetise Your Expertise: Leverage your unique experience, resilience, and knowledge—your most valuable assets—and turn them into shareable content. There are many ways to monetise, even before reaching traditional follower counts, such as offering coaching or selling digital products.Strategic Content Batching: Plan your daily actions in advance and schedule them. A practical step is to choose one day per week to batch create short videos (7, 15, or 60 seconds) to ensure you have a week's or month's worth of content scheduled and ready to post.Define and Achieve 90-Day Goals: Clarity on what you want to achieve in the next 90 days makes it easier to determine the necessary actions you should be taking on your journey toward financial security. The goal is to use the clarity gained from the zero-based restart to fuel intentional movement towards your new financial goal.LINKSSupport My Recovery and Content Creation on Buy Me A CoffeeInvitation To Join Skool As A Creator

IntroductionOn this episode of Mindset, Money, Success, host Loraine Marshall tackles the journey of recovering from emotional, psychological, and financial abuse. Drawing on her own story and others, Loraine explores post-separation "litigation abuse," the systemic challenges survivors face, and how to turn trauma into a powerful force for advocacy and change.5 Best MomentsThe Vow to Write: The night her relationship ended, Loraine made a vow: "I'm going to write the book". She shares how this pivotal decision was the first step in reclaiming her story, leading to her book's publication.Vindication in Court: Loraine recounts her stunning legal victory in a Spanish court, where she faced serious criminal allegations that carried a potential 17-year prison sentence. She reveals the moment of ultimate triumph when all charges were completely dismissed.The Birth of an Advocate: Learn the inspiring story of Tina Swithin, who started her blog "One Mum's Battle" in 2011 to document a decade-long family court struggle. Discover how her personal battle transformed into a global educational resource, helping thousands of women.The Unmarried Woman's Plight: Loraine exposes a critical legal loophole, explaining how family laws in the UK and much of Europe often fail to protect unmarried women. This legal gap leaves many financially devastated after a long-term, controlling relationship ends.From Survivor to Coach: An empowering call to action reveals how lived experience with trauma is a valuable asset. Lorraine explains how survivors can channel their journey into positive action, becoming certified coaches and advocates to help others who are struggling.5 Key TakeawaysEmpowerment Begins with Education: Abusers often work to destroy a partner's self-esteem. Reclaim your independence by educating yourself through books, online courses, or volunteering to gain new skills, increase earning potential, and rebuild your self-worth.Recognise the Multiple Faces of Abuse: Abuse isn't just emotional; it often involves financial entrapment that makes leaving feel impossible. After separation, it can become "litigation abuse," where the legal system itself is weaponised to maintain power and control.Your Story Has Power: Sharing your experience through a blog or book, as both Lorraine and Tina Swithin did, is a profound form of healing. Your story can create a community and become a vital educational resource for others who feel alone.Understand the System's Shortcomings: Be aware that family courts are often ill-equipped to handle cases involving parents with personality disorders who manipulate the process. If you are unmarried, you may lack the financial and legal protections given to married couples in the UK and much of Europe.Transform Your Trauma into a Positive Force: Your lived experience is an asset that can be transformed into something positive. With training and support, you can use your unique insights to become a certified coach or advocate, helping other women overcome the very traumas you have survived.Support My Recovery and Content Creation Invitation To Join Skool As A Creator

In this episode, your host, Loraine Marshall, covers the subject of post-separation abuse, drawing on her own experiences over the last five years. Loraine structures the episode by asking and answering seven questions, exposing what this form of abuse looks like, who is most at risk, and its profound impact on a survivor's life.5 Best Moments1. Loraine contrasts a typical breakup with post-separation abuse. Most couples can negotiate terms through discussion or mediation, but post-separation abuse occurs when a dominant, high-conflict personality is determined to use litigation and control from the outset, offering their ex-partner no say in the matter. It's their way or no way at all.2. Loraine shares how she only realised her own relationship had been abusive at its end. The most shocking point was when her lawyer advised her to file a complaint of gender violence with the police, a moment that was a "massive shock" and highlighted the hidden nature of coercive control.3. Loraine offers a transformative perspective on the psychological aftermath of abuse. She argues that post-traumatic stress (PTS) from emotional, psychological, and financial abuse should not be seen as a "disorder". Instead, it should be classified as a "personal injury"—a natural response to trauma, just as a broken bone is an injury from physical violence.4. The manipulative tactic abusers use is known as DARVO: Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender. Loraine explains how abusers deny any wrongdoing and attack the real victim, twisting the narrative so completely that the victim is portrayed as the abuser. She shares that she was personally caught up in this type of situation.5. How the legal system can re-traumatise survivors. Loraine highlights how some solicitors advise women not to mention the abuse in family court proceedings, leaving them unable to speak about what happened. This, combined with a lack of understanding of high-conflict personalities by judges and legal professionals, can lead to prolonged litigation abuse that traps women for five to ten years.5 Key Takeaways1. The period after a breakup can be the most dangerous time for a victim of a controlling relationship. The abuser's need for control can heighten when they feel they are losing their "possession," leading to escalated aggression, threats, and intimidation.2. The legal disparity between married and unmarried couples. In the UK and across much of Europe, cohabiting partners are not covered by family laws for financial settlements unless they have a prior written agreement. This leaves the economically weaker party, often the woman, with little legal recourse.3. Post-separation abuse is not a single act but a pattern of behaviour. It can include intimidation through texts and emails, stalking (both in-person and online), threats of litigation, and financial coercion through derisory settlement ultimatums with no room for negotiation.4. The chronic stress from post-separation abuse has severe consequences for a survivor's well-being. It can lead to psychological impacts like loss of self, PTSD, and anxiety, as well as physical manifestations such as a weakened immune system and heart or stomach issues.5. Survivors are often stuck in "survival mode" and cannot begin to rebuild their lives until all litigation is over. The constant stress erodes self-confidence and affects memory, making it incredibly difficult to find employment, manage finances, or even perform daily tasks like getting out of bed.Support My Recovery and Content Creation Invitation To Join Skool As A Creator

Host Loraine Marshall returns after a break, revisiting a chapter from her first book. She shares the transcript of a deeply personal meeting held five years ago. What was intended as a discussion about financial proposals after a breakup quickly escalated, leading to civil and criminal litigation for various offences, including defamation, harassment, and theft. Loraine reflects on this harrowing experience, highlighting the one-sided nature of the meeting and the verbal aggression she endured.Key Moments & TakeawaysThe meeting was not a negotiation; it was an imposition of demands. From the start, Loraine's ex-partner shut down her alternative proposals, stating she "hadn't listened" to what he wanted. He then told her to "go away and think about it," despite her already having a detailed proposal prepared. This demonstrated his complete disregard for her input.Loraine reveals a history of control and verbal abuse that preceded the meeting. She reflects on her inability to communicate effectively with him, a pattern that began after he confessed to an affair. She realised he consistently used verbal aggression—raising his voice, saying "nasty" things, and getting angry—to silence her. This created a dynamic where her voice was suppressed.The severity of his behaviour was underscored when a Spanish solicitor, after hearing a recorded clip of the meeting, advised Loraine to file a gender violence complaint. In the clip, her ex-partner is heard using aggressive and threatening language, while banging his fist down on the glass table, shouting, "I'll make it the 15th of fucking November if I want to. Don't fuck about with me. I've told you 4 months.".Throughout the meeting, he employed threats and belittling remarks to maintain dominance. He warned her, "You've had one strike already," and told her to "just be careful how you tread," suggesting her future security depended on him. He further escalated his aggression by calling her a "fucking bleeding heart, post-menopausal, sad old bitch."This single meeting didn't bring about an amicable end to the relationship. Instead, it marked the beginning of legal intimidation for Loraine, who was left in confusion, fear, trauma, and financially vulnerable. She describes being left without work and limited savings, with her ex-partner referring to her as "collateral damage." The situation post-discard ultimately led to her ex-partner taking both civil litigation for eviction and criminal allegations for defamation, slander, harassment, revealing secrets, misappropriation, theft, and damages.Support My Recovery and Content Creation on Buy Me A CoffeeInvitation To Join Skool As A Creator

Listener discretion is advised *Language Warning* strong, potentially offensive language.In this deeply personal episode, Loraine shares her experience of psychological and economic abuse within an intimate relationship in Spain. Drawing on her lived reality and reflecting against the GREVIO report on Spain’s implementation of the Istanbul Convention, she uncovers the systemic failings of legal, judicial, and social support structures meant to protect women. From conflicting legal advice to court-appointed lawyers who failed her, and the trauma of eviction proceedings where her voice was silenced, Loraine exposes how women, especially foreign nationals, can be retraumatised by institutions meant to help them. This episode is a must-listen for survivors, advocates, and anyone seeking to understand the hidden dynamics of financial control and legal manipulation in abusive relationships.Best Moments“Stay in the property. Call the police if threatened. Negotiate.”— The legal advice Loraine received, which contrasts sharply with what she later learned about prohibited mediation in abuse cases.“You’ll leave with nothing.” A chilling shift from an agreed financial settlement to hostile legal actions by her ex-partner.“I was denied a voice to speak.” Loraine’s description of the eviction hearing, where, despite securing a translator, no one asked her to testify or present her evidence.“Imagine you’re struggling in the sea…” A powerful metaphor captures the despair of economic abuse, likening it to an abuser snatching away a lifeline while watching the victim drown.“He said: ‘Your future security depends on having me on your side." A direct quote that exemplifies coercion, power imbalance, and the emotional manipulation central to economic violence.Key Takeaways Legal Systems Often Fail to Protect Survivors - inconsistent legal representation, poor communication, and ignorance of international conventions leave survivors vulnerable.Economic Abuse Is a Hidden, Ongoing Form of Control - Post-breakup financial manipulation—like withdrawing settlement offers or initiating costly litigation—can trap survivors in prolonged trauma.Mediation in Abuse Cases Is Prohibited—But Still Happens - Despite Article 48 of the Istanbul Convention, survivors are often pushed into negotiation with abusers under the guise of “amicable” settlements.Being a Foreigner Adds Layers of Vulnerability - Language barriers, lack of support networks, and discriminatory treatment from legal and social systems increase risks for migrant women.There Must Be Accountability and Continuity in Legal Support - Survivors need consistent legal help from professionals trained to identify abuse patterns—not just procedural conflict, so they are not silenced or misrepresented.Research Documents“Spain – Istanbul Convention Action against violence against women and domestic violence”STUDY OF ECONOMIC VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS WITH PARTNERS OR EX-PARTNERS PDFSEA: https://survivingeconomicabuse.org/Tips and donations are welcome and greatly appreciated!! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Will The Real Victim Please Stand Up? How can professionals tell who is the real victim after a relationship with the Narcissist ends?In this powerful episode, Loraine looks at the aftermath of narcissistic abuse—how professionals, courts, and even loved ones often struggle to identify the "real victim" when a toxic relationship ends.Let me tell you about Skool. https://successwithloraine.com/skool-sign-up Narcissists are master manipulators, rewriting history, gaslighting, and playing the victim to evade accountability. Meanwhile, actual survivors are left traumatised, isolated, and struggling to articulate their pain. Drawing from personal experience, expert insights (like Dr. Ramani’s), and harrowing case studies, we expose the stark differences between a "false victim" (the narcissist) and an "actual victim" (the survivor). If you’ve ever wondered why victims aren’t believed—or how abusers weaponise the system—this episode is for you. Best Moments from the Episode: 1. Dr. Ramani’s Stark Truth: "All domestic abusers are narcissistic. Zero empathy, incredible arrogance—that’s narcissism." 2. The Survivor’s Fog: Why true victims often sound "chaotic" when recounting abuse, while narcissists deliver smooth, calculated lies. 3. DARVO Exposed: How narcissists *Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender* to manipulate professionals. 4. Courtroom Betrayal: The shocking reality of how survivors are re-traumatised by legal systems that dismiss covert abuse. 5. Life After Abuse: Why true victims isolate themselves, while narcissists move on instantly—new relationships, social media bragging, and no remorse. Equality Now - Human Rights Issues https://equalitynow.org/news_and_insights/weaponizing-defamation-lawsuits-against-survivors-violates-international-human-rights/ Key Takeaways: 1. Spot the Patterns: True victims show PTSD symptoms (anxiety, confusion); false victims appear detached, entitled, and hyper-articulate. 2. Trauma vs. Tactics: Survivors self-blame and grieve; narcissists weaponise victimhood to "win" at all costs. 3. Systemic Failure: Courts often mistake a survivor’s anger for instability while believing the narcissist’s charm. 4. Silence Isn’t Consent: Many victims don’t report abuse due to fear, trauma bonds, or shame—not because it didn’t happen. 5. Healing is Possible: Recovery starts with therapy, community, and the realisation that you were never the problem. Support the Mission: Help raise awareness of hidden abuse—share this episode, grab a copy of my book, or donate to support survivors. 💛 #justiceforsurvivors Buy My BookWhat Type Of Man? The updated 2024 Version.Amazon US : https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B1RVQQDHIf you live in the UK https://amzn.to/3NBlQbxSupport LifeChangePlans https://donorbox.org/support-life Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Narc Narc Who's There - Podcaster and Author Dana Diaz. In this powerful episode, Loraine sits down with bestselling author, podcaster, and speaker Dana Diaz to discuss the harrowing yet transformative journey of surviving narcissistic abuse. From childhood trauma to toxic relationships, Dana shares her story of resilience, healing, and reclaiming self-worth. This conversation is a must-listen for anyone who’s experienced manipulation, gaslighting, or emotional abuse—and seeks the strength to break free.5 KEY TAKEAWAYS:Narcissistic Abuse Follows a Predictable CycleLove-bombing, devaluation, and discard phases keep victims trapped in hope and confusion.Childhood Trauma Sets the StageDysfunctional upbringing (e.g., parentification, emotional neglect) primes individuals to tolerate abuse in adulthood.The Physical Toll of AbuseProlonged stress can manifest as autoimmune disorders, chronic illness, or extreme weight loss (Dana’s lung syndrome).Financial Control as a WeaponNarcissists exploit financial dependence to maintain power, then blame victims for "using" them.Healing Requires Rebuilding Self-TrustSetting boundaries, therapy, and writing (like Dana’s journal-to-book journey) are critical to recovery.5 BEST MOMENTS:"He was trying to kill me without getting his hands dirty."Dana’s chilling realization about her ex-husband’s psychological warfare."I internalized the words: ‘Nobody will ever love you.’"How childhood verbal abuse shaped Dana’s vulnerability to toxic relationships.The COVID Journal of SurvivalDana hid a journal under the couch during lockdown, fearing her ex would murder her and stage it as an accident."If my daughter told me this, I’d rescue her—yet I stayed."Dana's reflection on the disconnect between self-worth and protecting loved ones."Abuse is abuse, and an a-hole is an a-hole."The blunt truth about narcissists’ universal playbook, regardless of geography or laws.You can discover more at https://danasdiaz.com/Tips and donations are welcome and greatly appreciated!! 🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏https://buymeacoffee.com/successwithloraineSuccess By Loraine Merch is Sold on AmazonNarcissist Aware and SelfCare Collectionshttps://successwithloraine.com/merch/Zoom coaching sessions are 1:1 or appear on my podcast.I’ll spend forty minutes with you to help guide you or listen to your story.Or join me on Mindset, Money, SuccessLet's chat & record a Podcast Episode together. Let's Go!https://buymeacoffee.com/successwithloraine/e/385914Connect on other Platformshttps://linktr.ee/loraine_mms Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Loraine shares her four-year battle with a legal system that failed her as a survivor. Through her lived experience, she reveals misguided legal advice and legal barriers faced by women seeking justice. If you’ve ever felt silenced by the system, this episode is for you.Survival Funds - Support the Podcast5 Key Takeaways: Legal Systems Often Fail Survivors: How victims are frequently dismissed, given conflicting advice, or pressured into actions they’re uncomfortable with. Advocacy: Without a lawyer who truly listened or advocated for her needs, survivors face bureaucratic dead ends—highlights the critical need for trauma-informed legal representation. Hidden Abuse Goes Unrecognized: Her case was downgraded from psychological abuse to minor verbal abuse by the courts, exposing how systems minimize non-physical violence. Financial Coercion as a Weapon: Manipulation continued through broken financial promises (reneged offers for a monetary settlement), a tactic many survivors face. :Staying Strong: Despite setbacks, Loraine persisted—researching laws, writing a book, and fighting for her rights—proving survival is possible even when systems work against you. 5 Best Moments: Solicitor’s Shocking Advice (0:13–4:12) The lawyer insisted she file a gender violence complaint, ignoring her plea for negotiation—a pivotal failure in the system. Triggering Legal Threats (10:47–11:17) The gut-wrenching email from her ex’s lawyer: "The judge will order your eviction—you have no rights in this country."Courtroom Betrayal (19:02–20:21) A lawyer dismissed evidence, reducing years of abuse to "one minor verbal incident"—a stark example of systemic failure. Appeal Denied (22:44–23:48) The free lawyer wouldn't appeal —another institutional failure. Systemic Failures (26:09–26:26) “These are the systemic failures in the system. There should be a set process in place so that when someone presents with the issue, they can go through this or that. There should be a flow chart of how to proceed.” Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Wellness, Writing, and Winning: A Conversation with Katie Gauthier #mindset #money #success In this episode of Mindset Money Success, host Loraine Marshall sits down with Katie Gauthier, an international bestselling author, wellness coach, and yoga teacher. Katie shares her journey of co-authoring the book Becoming the Manifesting Diva: Making Ripples While You Flow, which became an instant bestseller across multiple countries. Together, they dive into the power of mindset, overcoming trauma, and how to reframe limiting beliefs to create a life of success and fulfilment. Katie also opens up about her unique approach to coaching, blending yoga and mindset work to help clients release emotional blockages and thrive. Tune in for an inspiring conversation about resilience, collaboration, and the importance of moving forward, no matter the setbacks.5 Key Takeaways:Mindset is Everything: Katie emphasizes that most challenges stem from negative self-beliefs or mindset blocks. By addressing these, individuals can unlock their potential and create lasting change.Trauma-Informed Coaching: Katie’s approach combines mindset coaching with yoga to help clients release emotional and physical blockages, especially those rooted in trauma.The Power of Collaboration: Katie’s journey as a co-author highlights the importance of collaboration and how working with others can lead to incredible opportunities, like becoming an international bestselling author.Reframing Setbacks: Both Loraine and Katie discuss how setbacks can be reframed as opportunities for growth. By asking, “What is this trying to teach me?” you can turn challenges into stepping stones.Resilience in the Face of Adversity: Loraine shares her personal story of overcoming trauma and legal battles, emphasizing the importance of persistence and self-belief in the face of life’s toughest challenges.5 Best Moments:Katie’s Bestseller Journey: Katie shares how she became a co-author of an international bestselling book, Becoming the Manifesting Diva, and the serendipitous connections that made it possible. (00:02:00)The Intersection of Yoga and Mindset: Katie explains how she blends yoga with mindset coaching to help clients release emotional blockages and reconnect with their true selves. (00:10:00)Loraine’s Story of Resilience: Loraine opens up about her traumatic experiences, including a toxic relationship and legal battles, and how she found the strength to keep moving forward. (00:25:00)Reframing Limiting Beliefs: Katie discusses her process of helping clients reframe limiting beliefs, turning self-doubt into empowerment. (00:15:00)Celebrating Failure: Both Loraine and Katie talk about the importance of learning from failure and how it can be a powerful tool for growth. (00:40:00)Find Katie on Instagram @therealkatieofalltradesTips and donations are welcome and greatly appreciated!! 🙏❤️🙏❤️🙏Support the Podcast - https://buymeacoffee.com/successwithloraineAmazon Merch - https://successwithloraine.com/merch/Connect on other Platforms: https://linktr.ee/loraine_mmsIf you’re interested in being a guest on the podcast or booking a 1:1 Zoom session with me, head over to: https://buymeacoffee.com/successwithloraine/e/38591 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Loraine emphasizes the key role of mindset in achieving financial freedom, particularly for women over 40 facing life-altering events. Drawing from her personal experiences of financial insecurity after betrayal and loss, Loraine identifies common blocks such as fear, lack of financial literacy, emotional trauma, and financial dependency. Loraine then offers practical steps and mindset shifts to overcome these obstacles, encouraging listeners to adopt an abundance mindset, hold onto courage, take financial ownership, and develop self-worth. An encouraging guide for women seeking to rebuild their lives and achieve financial independence by focusing on internal strength and proactive steps.5 KEY TAKEAWAYS:* Mindset is the fundamental key to achieving financial freedom, especially for women over 40 navigating significant life changes like divorce, loss, or betrayal. Financial freedom encompasses how we think, believe, and act, not just the amount of money we have.* Overcoming financial trauma involves recognizing and addressing common blocks such as fear and self-doubt, lack of financial literacy, emotional trauma from events like betrayal and loss, and being financially dependent on others.* Shifting your mindset is crucial for building financial independence. This involves moving from a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset, from fear to courage, from dependency to ownership of your financial decisions, and from self-doubt to self-worth.* There are practical steps you can take to shift your mindset for financial security, including using journaling prompts and daily affirmations, building a supportive network, and actively improving your financial literacy.* No matter your current circumstances, you have the power to change your financial story by making a conscious decision to shift your mindset and take control of your future. Even amidst trauma and setbacks, focusing on skill development and future plans can be empowering.5 BEST MOMENTS:* Loraine's opening, where she shares her personal experience of her planned secure financial future vanishing, immediately highlights the real-world importance of mindset in the face of unexpected life changes.* The article's direct acknowledgment that fear in these situations can stem from external sources beyond negative thoughts, adding a layer of complexity to the common advice to "feel the fear and do it anyway".* The powerful and relatable statement: "Betrayal, abandonment, and loss can shatter our sense of security and self-worth", which underscores the significant emotional impact on financial well-being.* Maya Angelou's impactful quote: “You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them,” offering a message of resilience and empowerment in the face of adversity.* The inclusion of concrete, actionable steps like specific journaling prompts and practical tips for improving financial literacy, providing listeners with tangible ways to start their journey towards financial freedom.Tips and donations are welcome and greatly appreciated!! 🙏❤️Merch is Sold on AmazonNarcissist Aware and SelfCare CollectionsConnect on other Platforms Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Mindset, Money, Success, host Loraine Marshall dives into the inspiring story behind her Amazon Merch t-shirt collections under the brand Success With Loraine. With two powerful collections—Narcissist Aware and Self Care—Loraine shares her personal journey of overcoming emotional and financial abuse, and how she turned her pain into purpose. These collections, available on Amazon ES, UK, and US, are more than just apparel; they are wearable messages of empowerment, awareness, and self-care. Tune in to learn how Loraine created these collections to support her podcast, YouTube channel, and website while raising awareness about hidden forms of abuse.5 Key Takeaways:Raising Awareness Through Wearable Messages: Loraine’s t-shirt collections, Narcissist Aware and Self Care, are designed to spark conversations about hidden forms of abuse, such as emotional, psychological, and financial manipulation.Personal Healing Through Creativity: After experiencing a toxic relationship, Loraine channelled her pain into creating slogans like "Not A Possession, Not A Plaything, I'm A Person" to empower victims and help them recognize their worth.Multiple Streams of Income: Loraine emphasizes the importance of diversifying income streams, especially for those rebuilding their lives after trauma. Her merch collections are one way she supports her podcast and online presence.The Importance of Boundaries: One of the slogans, "Boundaries Begin Here," highlights the need for setting clear boundaries in relationships to protect oneself from emotional harm and manipulation.Self-Care as a Path to Healing: The Self-Care collection encourages victims to prioritize their well-being through activities like journaling, yoga, and painting, reminding them that happiness is the highest form of success.5 Best Moments:The Story Behind "Not A Possession, Not A Plaything, I'm A Person": Loraine shares how this powerful slogan reflects her experience of being treated as an object in an abusive relationship and how it resonates with many victims of hidden abuse.Creating the Narcissist Aware Collection: Loraine discusses the emotional process of designing t-shirts like "Narcissists Destroy Lives" and "Enough is Enough," which reflect the pain and empowerment of leaving toxic relationships.The Importance of Multiple Income Streams: Loraine opens up about her financial struggles after leaving her business and how creating the merch collections became a way to rebuild her life and support her podcast.The Healing Power of Self-Care: Loraine explains how the Self-Care collection was born out of her own healing journey, with slogans like "Remember You Are Amazing" and "Happiness is the Highest Form of Success."A Message of Empowerment: Loraine closes the episode with a heartfelt reminder that victims of abuse are stronger than they think, and every small step toward self-care and self-love is a step toward reclaiming their power.Don’t forget to check out the Narcissist Aware and Self Care collections on Amazon ES, UK, and US, and support Loraine’s mission to empower victims of hidden abuse.Tune in to next week's episode. Loraine is covering "Why Mindset is the Key to Financial Freedom" Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Loraine shares her personal journey of overcoming significant setbacks, including betrayal, legal battles, and emotional trauma. She offers practical advice and key lessons on how to stay motivated even when progress feels slow. Loraine emphasizes the importance of focusing on your "why," celebrating small wins, reframing setbacks, building a support system, and taking things one day at a time. Key Takeaways:1. Focus on Your "Why": Remembering your core reason for pursuing your goals can serve as an anchor during tough times. Loraine shares how her "why" kept her motivated through legal battles and emotional trauma.2. Celebrate Small Wins:Acknowledging and celebrating small victories, no matter how insignificant they seem, can boost your confidence and keep you motivated. Loraine celebrated moments like publishing her book and successfully delaying eviction.3. Reframe Setbacks as Opportunities:Instead of seeing challenges as obstacles, view them as opportunities for growth. Loraine reframed her legal battles as tests of her strength and determination.4. Build a Support System:Surround yourself with supportive people who understand your journey. Loraine found strength in online communities and support groups, which helped her feel less isolated.5. Take It One Day at a Time:Focus on the present moment and take small, manageable steps. Loraine emphasizes the importance of breaking down goals into daily tasks to avoid feeling overwhelmed. Best Moments:1. Loraine's Personal Story of Betrayal and Resilience: Loraine opens up about the emotional and financial betrayal she faced from a former partner, setting the stage for her journey of overcoming adversity.2. Reframing Setbacks as Opportunities: Loraine discusses how she turned her legal challenges into opportunities to learn Spanish law and take control of her situation, proving her strength and determination.3. Finding Support in Online Communities:Loraine highlights the importance of finding support through online groups like "Griefhab," which helped her connect with others and even contributed to a collaborative book.5. The Power of Affirmations and Visualization: Loraine shares how she used affirmations and attended motivational seminars to stay positive and focused during her recovery journey.Practical Tips:• Create a daily routine with small, achievable goals.• Use affirmations and visualization to stay positive.• Keep a journal to track progress and reflect on your journey.• Seek inspiration from books, podcasts, coaches, or mentorsMotivational Quote:"It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop"Support the Podcast: Support at buymeacoffee.com/successwithloraine to help upgrade her Apple Mac laptopCheck Out Loraine's Merch: Visit [successwithloraine.com/merch] to explore Loraine's Self-Care and Narcissist Aware t-shirt collections, designed to spread awareness about hidden forms of abuse and the importance of self-care.Next Episode Teaser:In the next episode, Loraine will share the story behind her slogan t-shirts on Amazon Merch and how they tie into her mission of raising awareness about hidden forms of abuse and the importance of self-care. Stay tuned!Engage with the Podcast: If you enjoyed this episode, please like, comment, and share it with someone who might need a boost of motivation. Don’t forget to tune in next week for more inspiring content on Mindset Money Success! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Loraine focuses on managing stress and improving mental well-being. She explores the negative impacts of stress on physical and mental health, offering practical advice such as exercise, diet, journaling, and meditation to alleviate it. The creator also discusses the importance of positive affirmations and mindful responses to criticism, promoting self-improvement and the Law of Attraction. The piece concludes by suggesting seeking professional help if needed.Key TakeawaysStress Reduction is Essential: Stress can negatively impact both mental and physical health, potentially leading to depression, anxiety, and physical ailments like heart disease. Managing stress is crucial for overall well-being and achieving personal goals.Multiple methods for stress relief:  Physical exercise, a healthy diet, journaling, social interaction, setting boundaries, and meditation. A combination of these strategies may be the most effective.Mindset Matters: Maintaining a positive mindset and focusing on what is important in life can help to navigate stressful situations. Reframing negative thoughts and practising gratitude can reduce stress and improve emotional well-being.Dealing with Criticism Constructively: Learning to accept criticism and using it as an opportunity for growth can be beneficial. When facing criticism, it's important to consider the source, ask for factual evidence, and avoid reacting emotionally.Self-Awareness is Key: Recognizing when stress is overwhelming and seeking help from professionals, such as therapists, can be beneficial. Understanding one's emotional state and identifying the need for support is crucial in managing stress effectively.Best MomentsThe Importance of Movement: Physical activity as a potent stress reliever. Even small amounts of exercise, like chair yoga or dancing, can help to release tension and increase energy levels.The Power of Journaling: Focusing on the positive and gratitude, when journaling, can shift your mindset from negative to positive. This practice is noted as a tool for reducing stress and anxiety.The "I Am" Affirmations: The "I am" affirmations, combined with meditation or deep breathing exercises, can be a powerful way to circulate positive energy throughout the body.The Value of Social Connection: Having strong social ties can provide support during stressful times and reduce anxiety. Socialising can include meeting new people in person, networking online, or engaging in group activities.The Need to Say "No": Setting boundaries and avoiding overcommitment is a way to control stress and prioritise one's well-being. Learning to say no when your workload is too much is crucial. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mindset Money Success.Finding Love Again – Healing, Growth & Attracting the Right Relationship- Finding love again after loss or abandonment.- It is absolutely possible to find love again, and not just any love, but the right love.- identifying the kind of relationship you truly want- feel hopeful, empowered, and ready to take your next step toward love.- The Impact of Trauma on Relationships- Shifting the Mindset: Believing in Love Again- Your past does not dictate your future.- The right relationship is about quality, not quantity.- Healing doesn’t mean waiting for someone to rescue you.- “What do I need to do to prepare myself for the right relationship?”- "What Type of Relationship Do You Really Want?"- Practical Steps for Dating After Trauma- Love is possible for you.- The most important step? Believe in yourself first.- Takeaway for today: Write down three qualities you truly want in a partner and three ways you can start preparing yourself for that kind of relationship.If you found this episode helpful, share it with someone who might need to hear this message!And if you’d like to support my work, Buy Me A Coffee - Help Start A Non-Profit AssociationWatch Three D's in Relationship EndingsPodcastMerch Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Title: The Trauma of Being Falsely Accused: My Journey Through False Allegations and Post-Separation Abuse.My Journey Through False Allegations and Post-Separation AbuseBeing falsely accused can shatter a person’s sense of self, creating waves of emotional, mental, and even physical trauma that linger for years. I know this all too well. As an author who dared to share my truth through my self-published book, Post Separation Abuse, Betrayal and Abandonment, What Type of Man?, I never imagined the level of retaliation I would face.5 Key Takeaways:* The Devastating Impact of False Allegations – Being falsely accused can lead to severe emotional, psychological, and financial distress, often leaving victims trapped in a legal nightmare.* The Role of the Legal System in Re-Traumatization – Navigating the courts while dealing with trauma is overwhelming, especially when lawyers and professionals dismiss or ignore key evidence.* Emotional and Social Isolation – Facing accusations can result in PTSD, emotional dysregulation, and being ostracized by the community, leaving victims feeling abandoned and powerless.* Post-Separation Abuse as a Form of Control – False accusations are often used as a tactic by abusers to maintain control, discredit the victim, and inflict further harm long after the relationship ends.* The Importance of Advocacy and Support Networks – Finding the right support system, raising awareness, and speaking out about post-separation abuse can help survivors reclaim their power and heal.5 Best Moments:* The Moment of Betrayal – Discovering that a former partner had fabricated multiple criminal allegations, weaponizing the legal system as a means of revenge.* Standing Before the Court – The emotional turmoil of facing a judge while knowing the accusations were baseless, yet feeling powerless in a flawed system.* The Impact on Mental Health – The sheer exhaustion, anxiety, and trauma of fighting for justice while struggling with PTSD and isolation.* A Small Victory Amid the Chaos – The relief of having allegations dismissed, yet grappling with the long-term consequences of the ordeal.* Turning Pain Into Purpose – Using the experience to raise awareness about post-separation abuse, advocate for survivors, and inspire others to fight for justice.Grab a copy of the recommended reading: How Many More Women?https://amzn.to/42BmgXOMore Recommended Reading:https://lifechangeplans.com/shop/Read "Silencing Survivors Through Defamation"https://lifechangeplans.com/silencing-survivors-through-defamation-lawsuits/🎧 Listen now and join the conversation on how we can support survivors of false accusations and post-separation abuse.Subscribe to the Video Podcasthttps://youtu.be/k7odfQ1ETvA?si=CbBOvTM3DvDLCLw7No 1 in Self-Help For Abuse. October 2024Post Separation Abuse. Betrayal and Abandonment. What Type Of Man? Loren KeelingAvailable on Amazon UK: https://amzn.to/3NBlQbxOr Amazon US : https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B1RVQQDH(This content contains affiliate links. We may earn a commission if you use these links to purchase something. Thanks.) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The unlevel playing field and power imbalances.Are these power imbalances an indication of something more sinister going on?A high-conflict personality will rather litigate divorce and separation than come to the table to discuss things in a civilised adult manner. They will hide behind the legal process and have the lawyer do all the work, abuse by proxy. The high-conflict personality will have deep pockets they don’t mind spending on legal fees as they want to win at all costs. They lack empathy, have zero morals, and refuse to accept any responsibility for the abuse and psychological damage they are causing. If you do happen to engage them in mediation if the mediator is not knowledgeable about “coercive control” or “narcissistic abuse” then they will manipulate the mediator and will move the goalposts on the offers made before you can even sign an agreement they will have changed their mind again and gone one step backwards. It is so frustrating for everyone.QuoteIt is not just another high-conflict divorce or separation. There are people who can ruin your life. They will destroy your reputation, your self-esteem or your career. High-conflict personalities will think nothing of leaving you emotionally and financially devastated.https://lifechangeplans.com/not-another-high-conflict-divorce-or-separation/One Moms Battlehttps://www.onemomsbattle.com/aboutNo 1 in Self-Help For Abuse. October 2024Post Separation Abuse. Betrayal and Abandonment. What Type Of Man?Available on Amazon UK: https://amzn.to/3NBlQbxOr Amazon US: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B1RVQQDHStory Time Podcasthttps://youtu.be/Anu758ffGJkMy recommended readingInvisible Bruises: How a Better Understanding of the Patterns of Domestic Violence Can Help Survivors Navigate the Legal Systems.Amazon: https://amzn.to/4e54y1cIT’S NOT “HIGH CONFLICT” IT’S POST-SEPARATION ABUSE: When Abusers Weaponize the Courts as a Form of Retaliation Amazon: https://amzn.to/3YjID0d(This content contains affiliate links. We may earn a commission if you use these links to purchase something. Thanks.) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SummaryIn this podcast episode of 'Mindset Money Success', host Loraine Marshall shares her personal experience regarding a protracted legal battle following a relationship breakdown. Loraine details events starting from January 2022, when she received an email from her former partner regarding property matters. She describes how she sought legal advice and faced eviction proceedings in Spain. Loraine explains the complexities of her situation, including the challenges of navigating Spanish legal systems, dealing with allegations from her former partner, and her efforts to negotiate a settlement. She discusses the emotional impact of these events, particularly regarding the timing of eviction notices and their connection to personal anniversaries. Loraine also shares her plans to start a nonprofit organization to help others in similar situations, detailing her business plan and funding needs. Throughout the episode, Lorraine emphasizes the importance of legal protections for non-married couples and the challenges dependent partners face in property disputes.Initial Contact and Legal ThreatsLoraine describes receiving an unexpected email from her former partner on January 6, 2022, regarding property viewing arrangements. After consulting a relationship coach, she emailed the former ex-partner to agree to accommodate the viewing under the condition that he would honour his initial financial proposal of 50% of the property value. Shortly after, she received threatening communications about potential eviction.Property Negotiations and ChallengesLoraine explains the failed property sale negotiations in mid-2021, including a three-hour meeting with her former partner. She discusses how the prospective buyers backed out due to concerns about potential eviction proceedings.Ongoing Legal Battle and Future PlansLoraine discusses the ongoing legal battle, including two attempted eviction dates in 2024 that were suspended due to social services intervention. She shares her plans to start a nonprofit organization and details her business strategy, including funding needs and project goals.Loraine's Action ItemsPlans to raise 2,400 euros to establish a nonprofit organizationIntends to launch a new business venture related to her experiencesAims to complete her second book and expand her online presence through various platforms.Continues to document her story and raise awareness about legal protections for non-married couples.When Four Months Turns Into Four Years.Join Loraine In A No Cost, Zero Commitment Support Community For Women https://successwithloraine.com/free-group/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, we delve into the inspiring journey of Candice Mason, founder of Mother Cuppa, a herbal tea brand dedicated to women's health. Candice shares how her personal experiences, including early menopause, motivated her to create a business that empowers women through wellness-focused teas. She discusses her challenges, launching a brand in her 40s, and offers insights into her crowdfunding event when she successfully raised over £7,000 towards launching a new blend for Mother Cuppa and building a purpose-driven business.5 Key Takeaways:Mother Cuppa is a brand of herbal tea that supports women's health; Candice originally took up a UK business start-up loan to get started.Candice wanted to launch a new herbal tea blend in her product range. Asking for help from the customer base to find out what they would like. Crowdfunding was the way forward, as Candice didn't like the idea of angel investing.Support came from her husband, who assisted with the management of the rewards-based side of the campaign where there were nearly 60 female entrepreneurs who offered products and services to be sold during the campaign. Success. The target of £7,000 was achieved within two days of the end date. In fact, they exceeded the target.Candice highlights that she did not have vast numbers of followers on her Social media when she launched her crowdfunding campaign. It was all organic marketing. 5 Best Moments:Being a female founder is a bit more tricky. There are barriers for women finding funding in a more male-dominated business world.Candice launched three options to get involved in crowdfunding, straightforward donations, pre-sales and orders, and rewards offered for sale, donated by other female business founders and coaches.The crowdfunding got off to a really good start; it made £1,500 in the first three hours on launch day.Candice opens up on how she had to overcome her fears of failure before she launched. The original launch plan was January 2024. The launch opened in October 2024. The strategy was organic marketing, social media, and a teaser to pique people's interest. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Mindset, Money, Success, Loraine explores how to turn dreams into reality, focusing on the mindset and actions needed to build her vision of a transformative Country Park. She shares 8 effective strategies to move from dreaming to doing, along with insights into her plans for a sustainable motorhome campsite and a trauma-to-transformation retreat. This inspiring conversation will help you align your vision, strategy, and action to achieve your goals.5 Key Takeaways:Clarify Your Vision: Define your dream and solidify your “why” to stay motivated.Set a Deadline: A clear timeline turns dreams into actionable plans.Take Daily Action: Consistent effort builds momentum and keeps you on track.Overcome Doubts: Address fear, procrastination, and negativity with strategies to stay focused.Review and Adjust: Adapt your plans as you progress to ensure alignment with your evolving vision.5 Best Moments:Loraine explains why knowing your “why” is the key to overcoming criticism and negativity.A powerful discussion on managing fear and self-doubt through visualization techniques.Loraine’s step-by-step breakdown of creating realistic timelines and seeking investments.Sharing her personal vision for the Country Park and its dual purpose for winter travellers and women’s retreats.An invitation to join her free support group for women over 40, offering a safe space to heal and rebuild.LinksAmazon Merch Collections Free Support Group Country Park Vision Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Loraine describes her harrowing experience of post-separation abuse after the end of an 11-year relationship. She details the systemic failures she encountered within the justice system and the lack of support she received from organizations meant to help survivors of gender-based violence. Loraine shares how she was pressured to accept an unfair financial settlement, faced threats and intimidation, and endured a prolonged legal battle marked by false allegations and manipulative tactics from her ex-partner.Best Moments:● Loraine's powerful account of her ex-partner's "four-sentence discard speech" after he moved their belongings to Spain.● The chilling description of the escalating threats and intimidation she faced, including the arbitrary four-month deadline set by her ex-partner.● The audio clip from the recorded meeting where her ex-partner's controlling and abusive behaviour is audible.● Loraine's persistent efforts to navigate the legal system, seek help from various organizations and fight for her rights despite numerous setbacks and conflicting advice.● The ultimate dismissal of all charges against Loraine and her determination to share her story to raise awareness and advocate for change.Key Takeaways:● Post-separation abuse is a serious issue that often goes unrecognized and unsupported.● The legal system can be a challenging and even hostile environment for survivors of abuse, especially when dealing with emotional and psychological abuse.● It is crucial to document all instances of abuse and seek support from trusted sources.● Women in cohabiting relationships may face unique legal challenges and receive less protection than married women.● Speaking out about abuse and advocating for systemic change is essential to improving the experiences of survivors. Success With Loraine Merch Self-Care and Narissist Aware Collection★☆★ Follow Me Here ★☆★Clip – from the recorded meeting post-separation. Language Warning.Loraine is dedicated to creating a supportive community for women over 40 who are dealing with trauma or grief from relationship endings, providing a safe space for connection, resources, and transformation. Buy Me A Coffee - Help Start A Non-Profit Association Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Loraine describes her experience of post-separation abuse by her former partner in Spain. She details the legal battles she endured, including accusations of defamation and the "precarious" eviction process she faced. Loraine highlights the emotional toll of the abuse, emphasizing the manipulative tactics used by her former partner, including emotional devaluation and financial control. She shares her personal journey of healing and self-discovery, offering support and resources for others experiencing similar situations.Link to SLAPP litigations Link to Weaponising DefamationKey Takeaways● Post-separation abuse is a serious issue. The story illustrates the different forms this abuse can take, including legal threats, financial manipulation, and emotional abuse.● The legal system doesn't always protect victims. Despite clear evidence of abuse, Loraine was forced to fight a lengthy legal battle and was advised to file a gender violence complaint, which she was reluctant to do.● Emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse. Loraine describes the "emotional devaluation" she experienced, highlighting the insidious nature of this type of abuse.● Forgiveness can be exploited by abusers. Loraine's attempt to forgive her partner was met with continued manipulation and control.● Recovery and empowerment are possible. This journey demonstrates the importance of speaking out, seeking support, and reclaiming one's identity after experiencing abuse.Best Moments ● The moment Loraine learns the criminal case against her was dismissed. A powerful moment to emphasize relief and vindication.● The revelation of the partner's confession and his ongoing affair. This moment highlights the emotional abuse and manipulation experienced.● The description of the partner's angry outburst during their recorded meeting. Sharing the audio clip in the podcast makes this moment even more impactful, illustrating the intimidation and threats Loraine faced.● The decision to publish the recording on YouTube and include the transcript in her book. This showcases her courage and determination to expose the abuse and empower other victims.● The book's success, written under the pen name Loren Keeling, reached Number 1 on Amazon UK in the "Self Help for Abuse" category. This is a triumphant moment, signifying her resilience and the positive impact she's making.Success With Loraine Merch Self-Care and Narissist Aware Collections★☆★ Follow Me Here ★☆★Buy Me A Coffee - Help Start A Non-Profit Association Supportive community for women over 40 who are dealing with trauma or grief from relationship endings, providing a safe space for connection, resources, and transformation. No Cost, Zero Commitment, Support Community for Women over 40. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Loraine delves into the manipulation and gaslighting she experienced from the person who was part of her life for eleven years. Apart from not being able to negotiate, he controlled the process by dangling the offers while at the same time threatening to leave me with nothing while reducing the offer from €115,000 to €13,000 or nothing at all.KEY TAKEAWAYSYou can not negotiate with me ´what Loraine's former partner had told her.Legal advice that told me to file a gender violence complaint.The former couple's joint solicitor was not very helpful, as he told Loraine she had no rights in Spain.Six failed attempts at trying to negotiate or mediate. Gaslighting and psychological abuse. As the former partner kept changing his mind.Introducing the new wife in July 2021, on the day we met to try and sort out a financial settlement. A red flag in the cycle of abuse is triangulation.BEST MOMENTSLoraine's former partner turned hostile after he ended the relationship.Loraine thought that her former partner would end things amicably. She was shocked by how he changed his behaviour very quickly.A meeting they had to discuss things turned into intimidation and threats of being thrown out of the door.Regarding the proposal Loraine made to her former partner, he said, "That's a terribly terribly terribly bad idea, and it's not going to happen."The eviction process was started by a Barcelona Solicitor in June 2021, yet Loraine obtained a signed agreement in July 2021.★☆★ Follow Me Here ★☆★https://linktr.ee/loraine_mmsSuccess With Loraine Merch Self-Care and Narissist Aware Collectionhttps://successwithloraine.com/merch/You can also join the Author in a no-cost, zero-commitment support community. Trauma to Transformation for women aged 40+https://successwithloraine.com/free-group/Buy Me A Coffee - Help Start A Non-Profit Associationhttps://buymeacoffee.com/successwithloraine Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Podcast Interview: Meet Jez Wood from Kove Properties this week! Failure is Part Of Success. #Mindset #Money #SuccessIn this episode, Loraine Marshall interviews guest Jez Wood. Jez shares his story of starting Kove Properties just before 2020 when he and his business partner were furloughed from their main employment. He explains how this gave him the impetus to create the business and move faster. Jez recognised that through fear and chaos, there was opportunity. They set up a remote business in different locations. They use their knowledge of the Northeast locations to offer property investments to individuals who are time-poor and seeking a stable investment and passive income type. Jez has a podcast called Beyond The Fail; he interviews other business entrepreneurs who speak about failures and acknowledge how failure is often seen as a taboo; there is a shame around debt and business failure, and Jez recognises that failure can be part of success. Jez covers the taboo of mental health and talks about how therapy has helped him since 2020. KEY TAKEAWAYS Seize Opportunity in Crisis: Moments of chaos can reveal new possibilities. Remote Work Can Be Effective: Location doesn’t limit business if you have the right expertise. Failure as a Learning Tool: Embrace and learn from failure as part of the entrepreneurial journey. Mental Health Matters: Seeking help is crucial for personal and business success. Stay Resourceful: Perseverance is essential in the face of setbacks and challenges.BEST MOMENTS Starting Kove Properties: Jez describes the decision to launch Kove while furloughed, turning a challenge into an opportunity. Remote Business Success: Insights on building a business remotely and leveraging local expertise for clients. Taboo of Failure: Jez’s views on why failure shouldn’t be stigmatized, sharing examples from his experiences. Mental Health Discussion: Jez opens up about therapy's role in his life since 2020. The Importance of Resilience: Jez reflects on resilience, growth, and pushing through fear.Kove Properties https://koveproperties.co.uk/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/jezwood/ Podcast Beyond The Fail https://www.youtube.com/@BeyondTheFailPodcast/videos Episode with Mark Lloyd - I Hit Rock Bottom https://youtu.be/PhINkXa_Dgk?si=6lxZZwhuTkTTF4HuBuy Me A Coffee - Help Start A Non-Profit Association https://buymeacoffee.com/successwithlorainePodcast YouTubehttps://www.youtube.com/@successwithloraine/podcasts “Discover Our Best-Selling T-Shirts” MERCH: https://successwithloraine.com/merch/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.