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First off, Danielle and Adam have come a long way since they recorded the first episode about the Mental Load almost two years ago. However, the progress has definitely been incremental, and they still have work to do. What starts out as a calm conversation quickly turns defensive and competitive as they list off responsibilities, stresses, emotional tolls, and physical hardships they each endure in life and parenting. Danielle does not understand how Adam can possibly think they are 50/50 household, and despite absolutely no scientific data to back up the idea that women are somehow better equipped to care for their kids and family, Adam feels like there definitely must be some truth in this longstanding societal norm. When things get heated, the couple pauses the mics and proceeds to speak privately, and then comes back to finish the conversation. Danielle breaks down into tears, proving that while they have definitely made strides, it's still an extremely sensitive topic in their marriage. Ultimately, the two realize that there is more work to be done, and another episode will need to be recorded to update everyone on their progress. If you are looking for more Mental Load episodes, download #56, #108 and #137. Don't forget to head to marriageandmartinis.com to get the corresponding Mental Load "Date Night Questions," and to sign up for all future questions in the "Friday Five" email.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

After the overwhelming response to their first episode with Jodie Utter from last February, Danielle and Adam finally had the chance to continue their conversation with her. Where is she now in her journey of healing and forgiveness after her husband's infidelity? Is she able to trust again? How does she deal with the inevitable feelings of pain that come flooding back at any given moment? Is self-forgiveness harder than forgiving someone else? What advice does she have for others going through a similar situation? This is a must-listen for anyone who has dealt with any form of betrayal, not just infidelity. Jodie provides us all with a feeling of hope, understanding, acceptance, and peace. She is gentle, incredibly vulnerable, honest, and reveals all in her quest for no one to feel alone during their healing process. It is important to note that listeners definitely should listen to her episode from February, 2019 in order to hear the first part of her story.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

One of the most common messages Danielle and Adam receive from listeners is that they and their partner mismatched libidos. Truthfully, 80% of couples experience one partner having a higher libido than the other. We all think that we're the only ones struggling with this, and we tend to take it personally when our partner isn't in the mood as often (or ever). But there are so many misconceptions and myths surrounding sex drives and compatibility. This episode breaks down some of those misconceptions, and sheds light on the issues in Danielle and Adam's own marriage that have led to little or no sex over extended periods of time.Make sure you sign up for the "Friday Five" to get this week's corresponding Date Night Questions at marriageandmartinis.comPurchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We are taught from a young age that doing for others is what makes us good, generous people. We are conditioned to say "yes" even when we're faced with something we really don't want to do. Obhave overtaken so many of our lives, that we have run out of time to do the things that truly matter to us. Our dreams and goals have been put on hold. But HOW do we say no? What's holding us back and how can we overcome it? "Recovering People Pleaser," Natalie Lue talks us through why we need to stop associating "saying yes" with "goodness" and "generosity." She also walks us through her famous practice of "unsent letters" and why this is a tool that can cleanse us all from so much of our baggage. If you are looking to lighten your load and reclaim your time and value, then you definitely want to listen to this episode.Follow Natalie Lue on instagram @natluePurchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Adam and Danielle have had some week, between Adam working 24/7 and the kids being off from school and trapped in the house due to snow. Let's just say there wasn't a ton of prep time for this episode, but sometimes being unprepared can lead to some serious laughs and unplanned hilarity. That is exactly what happens in this episode. Adam and Danielle start off with some innocent conversation about a few recent episodes and some listener's messages and questions. Things go south really fast though when Danielle and Adam have to give each other compliments they've never told one another in the spirit of Valentine's Day. Why did Danielle apologize to Adam? For what sexual act does Danielle say Adam is impressively focused, despite usually having a very short attention span? What compliment is Adam hesitant to give Danielle? Buckle up, because this episode takes all kinds of unforeseen turns and is definitely sprinkled with some unplanned inappropriate commentary.Head to marriageandmartinis.com to sign up for this Friday's special Valentine's Day "Date Night Questions."Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danielle and Adam could have kept talking to Bryde and twelve hours. They had so much to ask them, and the conversation just kept evolving and branching off into so many different directions. They discuss being a poly couple who is very curious, adventurous, and open-minded. What was their journey from monogamy to polyamory? How have they kept their jealousy in check? How has Jeremie's chronic illness affected decisions about their relationship? Why they live in separate houses and what is that like? How did upbringing affect their sexual identities? This conversation is as interesting as it is important, and it will answer a lot of questions many people have concerning some more "unconventional" lifestyles. Check out Bryde and Jeremie on their podcast, "Turn Me On."Subscribe to our email at marriageandmartinis.com to get the corresponding date night questions to this episode.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Note: This is episode is just two people sitting down to try to get acquainted with kinks and fetishes. This episode will be followed up by several others with experts as well as couples who are already immersed in the kink culture. Adam and Danielle are open about the fact that they sometimes participate in kink-adjacent activities. However, there is a whole world out there about which they know very little and would like to become more comfortable with so that it can be spoken about and experienced without share, guilt, or embarrassment.A brief history of kinksThe differences in the two terms, kinks and fetishesWhat are some things couples can do just to spice things up a bit if they don't want to get too risquesome kinks or fetishes they would be interested in"Hard no's" for both of themWhy is there so much shame surrounding the topicsHow do we make our partners become confident enough to try new, exciting acts in the bedroomPurchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So many of us are feeling like we have hit the "pandemic wall." We're exhausted, emotionally drained, and we're surrounded by our kids 24/7. Living in sweatpants and never getting a proper date night can definitely take its toll on romance, and at the end of the day, we just want to fall into bed and not be bothered. Sex and intimacy coach Leah Carey helps Danielle and Adam understand what baby steps we can take to bring that connection back, and try to keep the frustration and distance we feel with our partners down to a minimum until life resumes as we once knew it (or as close to that as possible). We discuss how medication, alcohol, job loss, and monetary worries are all affecting people's sex drive. It's definitely normal, and it's happening to more couples than you think. This is definitely one of those very relatable episodes, and as always, Danielle and Adam are completely honest about the state of things and how they might be willing to take steps to change them.Sign up for the Friday five weekly newsletter at marriageandmartinis.comSign up for Leah's Girls Talk about Sex PJ party at Leahcarey.comPurchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

(SKIP AHEAD TO 17:45 TO HEAR JUST THE ADVICE PORTION OF THE EPISODE) If there's one thing Adam and Danielle make very clear all the time, it's that they are not experts in pretty much anything. However, on this episode, Adam and Danielle first discuss their own history with therapy, and then they take a chance and answer listeners questions about certain issues with marriage and life. Using their own twenty years of experience in marriage, the two of them try their best to give insight on physical connection, in-law relationships, fetishes, and dealing with stubborn spouses. While everything they say should be taken with a grain of salt, Adam and Danielle loved having the opportunity to dive in and give a husband/wife perspective on issues that affect tons of couples. This is something they will definitely be doing more often on the podcast.To submit your own questions about marriage, parenting, or life in general to Adam and Danielle, send an email with the subject "Dear Abby" to [email protected] the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This year has been such insanity that there really is no way to even explain it. However, Danielle and Adam sit down to dissect and discuss it all in the style of which only the two of them are really capable. After 12 months of sheer chaos, we're all feeling emotionally and physically depleted. But that doesn't mean there aren't plenty of laughs to be had when we really think about how inexplicable it all really is. Sit back and start 2021 with a chuckle, a feeling of pride, hopefulness, and maybe even some gratitude after all we've been through.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Original Airdate: October 21, 2019It's incredible how the roles and careers we choose to partake in as adults turn out to be nothing like we expected, and how little we were warned what is truly involved in life at work and at home. In this episode, Danielle discusses how shocking it is that being a stay-at-home-mom is not at all how she pictured it, and she's constantly feeling like a failure because she's terrible at the aspects of being a "homemaker" that she never thought about. She also discusses how she spent years being a high school teacher, and that job too came with so many unexpected responsibilities that they don't warn you about when getting your degree. Adam discusses the physical aspects of being an adult that are beginning to wear him down, and the shocks of parenting that are still thrown at him all the time. On the other hand, Danielle and Adam talk all about the awesome things involved in being "grown-ups" and how cool it is to have the freedom that comes with getting older. No matter your role or career, if you ever feel like you had no freaking clue what was coming your way, you'll definitely want to listen to this episode.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses alcohol and other substances. If this is a topic that is sensitive or triggering to you, please skip this one.Adam and Danielle both have a history with indulgence, and sometimes can tip the scale to the excess when it comes to having a good time and living life to the fullest. This episode explores the unhealthy behaviors in which so many of us partake, because they make us feel better and can often lead to great nights and memories. But of course they all come with a price, AKA. the next day (or four, depending on your age). Adam and Danielle discuss some of these behaviors and how they've impacted their lives, and also polled their community to find out about their favorite indulgences in life. They also discuss obscure but popular hangover cures, some interesting facts and stats about alcohol, and Danielle reveals why she feels she has been overlooked as a prodigy in life. While obviously some of these can become serious issues and Adam and Danielle have covered the more serious sides of these substances and indulgences in the past, this episode explores more the lighter, jovial aspects indulgence. This is a great episode in which to listen while you are running around for the holidays and need a stress reliever.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Not only are we almost ten months into a pandemic (and 82% of our community said they're definitely facing pandemic fatigue), but we are about the go into the holiday season, causing even more stress and pressure. How can we keep our dwindling energy up to get through what feels like is about to be a very tough winter? How can we practice self-compassion? How can we keep our family on board with staying safe and finding the most in the current situation despite the disappointments and anxiety? What are some ways we can support one another and really be a team to ensure none of us feels like we are in this alone? Danielle and her guru/sister sit down to discuss so many of these issues about which Life Coach Amy is a trained expert: work, family-life, and self-care. If you could use a boost or a small supercharge to get through the next month or two, you definitely want to listen to this episode.For more of Life Coach Amy Alpert's expertise, sign up for her FREE weekly Newsletter, "Just Keep Going."https://www.amyalpert.com/newsletterPurchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this fun episode, Adam and Danielle discuss all the ridiculous decisions they've made over the years, as individuals, as parents, and as husband and wife. Recently, Danielle has been using the excuse, "but it's a pandemic," to rationalize some crazy behavior and over-indulgence. They also discuss the insanely young age Danielle first started smoking, how Adam risked his life multiple times hitchhiking, the large purchases they've made even though they had absolutely no business making them, and so much more. At a time when life feels complicated, busy, and uncertain, this is a perfect episode to just laugh, relate, and definitely feel better about yourself and your own decision-making.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Following up on Mia's episode on unconditional acceptance, Danielle and Adam got a lot of requests for an episode with just the two of them discussing what unconditional acceptance means to them. Danielle gets vulnerable discussing what she felt she was maybe not so accepted about while growing up and even today. The two discuss if there is anything their children could do to make them not accept them. Adam reflects on whether he feels unconditionally accepted by Danielle, and how toxic their relationship was for a long time because they kept attempting to change one another. Danielle also does her best Matthew McConaughey impression and talks more about her "acceptance" idol, Andrew Solomon, and what she has learned from him.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danielle and Adam are taking you back to when it all first started: meeting, re-meeting, wedding planning, those first few years of marriage, and everything in between. Anyone engaged or newly married will definitely want to hear this episode. Anyone who was married at a younger age will understand how there are so many aspects of their wedding that they would do so differently now. Why was Danielle hesitant about their relationship in the beginning? What regrets do they have about those first few years? What advice would they give younger listeners or their own kids in preparation for tying the knot? It's all here, and as always, they do not hold back in the retelling of their not-so-fairytale love story.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dana Suchow is an eating disorder survivor, and an award-winning speaker and body empowerment coach. Her goal is to teach parents how to raise kids to have a healthy, balanced relationship with food and exercise. In this episode, Dana tells her personal story of overcoming her trauma concerning food and her body image, and reflects on how diet culture has completely manipulated parents and kids into thinking they are never enough. She helps Danielle understand how some of her own parenting tactics and practices concerning food and diet are actually a mirror into her own upbringing, and how she can avoid passing down these dysfunctional views of how we are supposed to look. Dana and Danielle discuss girls AND boys and how we can instill a solid love of their appearance and identity despite all the factors that make kids believe that they are falling short in the beauty department.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Gary John Bishop, bestselling author of "Unf*ck Yourself," talks all about his unique philosophy and why we are the only ones standing in the way of us and what we want. What does it mean to be "wise as f*ck?" How did he learn to REALLY love the people in his life unconditionally? What can we do to really start living as our authentic selves?Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode is by far one of the most personal and vulnerable of the Marriage and Martinis podcast yet. In this special episode, Adam and Danielle's oldest child, 15-year-old Mia Silverstein comes on to discuss her experience grappling with sexual identity, and what she wants kids and parents everywhere to know about self, family, and social acceptance as someone in the LGBTQ community. What was "coming out" like for her? How has social media both helped and hindered her experience with self-confidence and establishing her identity? Why have movies, TV, and books been such a source of solace and connection for her, and which have had the most impact on her experience? Mia's hope in doing this episode is that people will feel more comfortable and less alone in whatever they are going through concerning sexual identity, and also to help parents everywhere with some tips and advice from the perspective of a teenager who is truly in the thick of growing up. Send this episode to family, friends, or anyone you know who might benefit from some open and honest conversation with someone from the next generation, who also happens to be the generation who just might save the world.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Callie and Jeff are fellow married podcasters, and they are about to have their first baby. Adam has a blast "initiating" Jeff into the world of parenthood with stories of "choose your own adventure"c-sections and instilling a good, healthy fear of living without sleep. Callie and Danielle share their stories about being on anxiety medication during pregnancy, decisions to bottle or breast feed, and Adam and Danielle let Callie and Jeff in on all the hidden gems of an elongated hospital stay. Plus, Jeff reveals his plan if anyone attempts to convince Callie to do something with which she's not comfortable concerning herself and the baby. If you are pregnant, are having a baby, or know someone who is, this is an episode you definitely don't want to miss.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danielle and Adam cover a lot of different conversations in this episode that just happened to flow really freely. What happened when Danielle planned an overnight date night for the two of them but then got angry with Adam? What did Adam reveal about why he was being so short-tempered and irritable all week? What did they do on their date night that they have never done before? How does Danielle react to a new secret that Adam reveals? If you've been feeling disconnected from your partner due to the pandemic and all the stresses right now, you will definitely relate to this fun but sometimes serious episode.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Eve Rodsky has committed her life to help couples achieve a happier and more fulfilling life as partners tackling the domestic and household responsibilities. Not only did she interview hundreds of couples and research for years about the stress of "the mental load," but she has come up with real solutions. Especially now, during the pandemic, moms are feeling the overwhelming stress of home, work, and school all coming together in one forum, and the burden at times feels like too much to bear. How can both spouses in a marriage ensure a more equal role? How can we communicate these issues without causing fights and divisiveness within a relationship? Eve is an extraordinary woman who is on a mission to make it better. And it's working. We highly recommend you listen to this episode with your partner, or have them listen separately and then discuss.Follow @fairplaylife and @everosky on instagram. Visit fairplaylife.com to learn more and order the book.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Denmark consistently ranks in the top three countries in regards to happiness and fulfillment among its residents. Danielle speaks to distinguished writer and psychoanalyst Iben Sandahl about what they're doing differently from other countries, and what we can learn and implement into our own daily parenting in an attempt to achieve some of this same positivity. In this informative episode, they talk about everything from the importance of "free play," the danish family practice of "hygge" (togetherness), the beauty of boredom, and the balance between being honest and real with our children while still maintaining a sense of calm and safety when communicating with our children in the face of the pandemic. Obviously these methods aren't something most of us can realistically emulate in their entirety overnight. However, we can sprinkle many of the practices and values into our own behaviors within our households and hopefully reap some of the extraordinary benefits that come with their philosophies.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

New home, new school year, new attitudes?? Adam and Danielle discuss how they would like to do things differently this time around financially, as parents, and as individuals. How does Danielle think she needs to change her attitude concerning difficult circumstances? What are they hoping to achieve concerning their relationship now that they are attempting to "start fresh?" What does Danielle hope Adam will help with more than he has been recently concerning their kids? This episode is relatable to anyone who has a tendency to fall back into old habits and is constantly trying to break negative cycles in their life.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danielle and Adam have been very honest about their issues with mental health, ADHD, and addiction. But what else in life do they feel has held them back? What experience did Danielle have in college that still affects her to this day? What does Adam think has been his biggest hurdle in terms of buckling down and really taking care of responsibilities? How has the pandemic only made everything even more complicated? Listen to hear their always real and raw take on life's obstacles and how hard it has been to move past them.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

While Danielle and Adam are always open and vulnerable, this episode takes certain things to a new level. What will Danielle not do because she's worried that at 41 years old she'll still disappoint her dad? What sexual position does she despise? What are Adam's serial killer tendencies? Why is he embarrassed about his bathroom habits? They both reveal insecurities that are not easy to admit. If you are easily offended or uncomfortable, this will definitely NOT be the episode for you.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

People in Danielle and Adam's life know them to be....how shall we say...."serial movers." They're currently getting ready to move into their sixth home together, and especially during a pandemic, to say this has been stressful is an understatement. People are asking, why the move again? What mistakes have they made that has led to so many relocations? How do they deal with big change and uncertainty? What advice to they have for people going through big readjustments in life? How do they deal with the speculation and judgment from acquaintances who can't wait to find out why they've made this decision. If you're thinking about making hard changes sometime in the near future, this is definitely an episode to which you'll want to listen.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danielle and her mom, Linda, sat down to talk about ways parenting has changed since the 1960s. How did parents in the 1960s explain how babies are made? Why did moms in the 80s leave their kids in the car while they food shopped for an hour? In this funny, revealing conversation about "who had it tougher," one thing was definitely determined: parenting has always been ridiculously confusing and overwhelming.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What makes a person sexy? How has Danielle and Adam's ideas of sexiness changed over the years? Turn offs? How does body image affect their sexual identity and confidence? This episode covers so many different aspects of sexiness, lust, compliments, and all the things we try to keep going throughout the years of our relationship. Plus, what's the sexiest place Danielle and Adam have ever been, sexiest movie they've ever watched, etc.Mentions in the episode:Erika Lust's TED TalkMarta Meana study of female desire50 Shades of GreyOutlanderPurchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Who would win in a face-off of questions about anything from personal details about their life, politics, science, history, and so much more. In this hilarious episode, Danielle and Adam try to stump one another by asking questions about things like Danielle's bra size, how many sexual partners Adam has had, where they lost their virginity and so much more. This episode is pretty explicit from the beginning, so be ready to be shocked, but also be ready to laugh.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We are halfway through 2020 and it feels like it's been an entire lifetime already. Parenting through the pandemic has made Danielle a tad feisty and impatient, but she is hopeful for what the second half will bring. Adam is back to work at his retail business, and this is his first afternoon off in almost two months. How are the two coping as a couple? How has life changed, and what are they hoping will stay the same even after things return to "normal?" How have the current political and social issues affected their life as parents and individuals? How has their sex and romantic life changed? This episode is relatable, relevant and definitely brings up a lot of issues so many couples and parents are facing today.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tiffany Aliche is America's favorite financial educator. The way she breaks things down, makes money issues so relatable, and provides countless simple tips for achieving financial freedom is so refreshing. She credits her parents and their practices implementing lessons about savings and budgeting all throughout her childhood for her comprehensive and realistic sense of how to be responsible when it comes to money. Tiffany also offers so many ways to teach kids about the appreciation for and value of every dollar. This episode is jam-packed with so much knowledge and insight about finances.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danielle and Bethany sat back towards the beginning of quarantine to discuss balance, body neutrality, and taking time for ourselves in the midst of all the craziness happening all around us. Bethany identifies as queer, non-binary, and uses they/them pronouns. Their confidence, positive outlook and undeniable acceptance of humans no matter their identity or experience is truly infectious. Check out their lifestyle program, The Become Project.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danielle and Adam were so excited to sit down with Marlo and Phil to discuss all things marriage related. After forty years of marriage and talking to forty celebrity couples for their new book, "What Makes A Marriage Last," Marlo and Phil definitely had a lot of insight concerning everything from jealousy, to lust, to trust. Plus, Danielle and Adam give Phil and Marlo the "Tik Tok Couples' Challenge," and Danielle fangirls over Marlo pretty hard.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Now that the conversation about race and Black Lives Matter has come to a forefront, it's important that we understand how we can each keep it going within our homes and communities. Danielle asks Charnaie all about having a dialogue about racial injustice with our kids, whether they are young or teenagers, ways we can incorporate cultural awareness into our households on a daily basis, and looking inward (and around us) to become true advocates and allies to the Black Lives Matter movement. Also, why not everyone needs to advocate in the same way, and what Charnaie hopes will happen from this moment forward to become a more equal and just society. While this conversation is just the tip of the iceberg concerning the questions that need to be asked and answered, it is a good point from which to begin, and covers many relatable topics about which so many of us are hoping to begin to acknowledge and understand. If you are looking to become a more socially aware and culturally conscientious parent, this is definitely an episode you don't want to miss.Links for Charnaie Gordon:http://hereweeread.comhttp://instagram.com/hereweereadhttp://facebook.com/hereweereadhttp://twitter.com/hereweereadPurchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.http://instagram.com/50states50books Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danielle and Adam have so many crazy stories through the years that it almost seems as if they must be embellishing the truth. But....they're not. While they often have contrasting memories about exactly what took place, the awkwardness, discomfort, hilarity, and absurdity of the stories is real. In this episode, Adam and Danielle pick a few of their favorites to tell, including one about one of the worst moments from Danielle's OCD, one from a vacation with friends, the birth of their second child, the night they met, and more. With all of the heaviness happening in the world, this is just a quick episode to decompress.Please head to marriageandmartinis.com to sign up for emails on the homepage in order to receive the upcoming guide Danielle and her team is putting together to help get involved and fight for Black Lives Matter. Make sure you are following @marriageandmartinis on instagram to receive updates on tools and resources we can all use, and subscribe to the podcast to hear the episode to help talk to our kids about race, tolerance, and being an ally (coming soon).Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Women get better with age," is something about which Tova Leigh and Danielle definitely agree. The two sat down in New York City to discuss literally everything, from growing up under the impression that we need to be "good girls," to gaining success in the unlikeliest of ways, to sexual bucket lists. The two mesh so well, as they are both completely open and honest about their struggles and experiences. F*cked at 40 is a book all about empowerment, support, truth, and grow as a woman, and the episode definitely touches on all of those points. Check out Tova Leigh at tovaleigh.com and buy her book, "F*cked at 40" wherever you get your books.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

After more than twenty years together, you would think that Danielle and Adam would be over some of the same disagreements they have had over and over a trillion times. But, that's definitely not the case. In this episode, they discuss ways in which they definitely don't see eye to eye, including such things as tipping, cleaning, college, TV and movie watching, and so much more.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danielle, Erica, and Jamilah were so happy to be reunited in NYC at the end of March. Even though this convo took place pre-pandemic, this is the type of "girl talk" we all need in our lives right now. These moms talk about EVERYTHING, from growing up with traditional values, to what they each hope their kids look for in a partner, religion, good vs. mediocre sex, and so much more. They don't hold anything back, and what ensues is an incredibly authentic, often hilarious talk about the aspects of life so many of us think about, but hardly ever are given the opportunity to really discuss. If you're missing your best friends right now, this episode is one you will be so happy you downloaded.Want more discussion with "Good Moms, Bad Choices?" Check out episode #81Follow Us!InstagramFacebookTwitterThe Friday 5!Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Adam and Danielle get drunk and don't remember what they talked about...Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Although Danielle and Stephanie sat down to discuss their love of teachers back in January, the details they bring up are still very relevant right now.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens when two of the most inappropriate, honest, vulnerable, funny marriage podcasts sit down (virtually) together to talk about literally everything, from getting pregnant as a teenager, to infidelity, to sex (and lack thereof)? One hilarious episode that no one wants to miss. Danielle and Adam had a blast chatting with Sara and Sterling of the podcast and Instagram account Not The Worst Marriage. It helped pass the time during quarantine and provided many much needed belly laughs. Definitely take the time to listen to this raw, so-wrong-it's-almost-right, discussion among good friends as they reveal way more than they probably should.What happened with Sara became pregnant while still in high school?How did they manage being young parents while going to school and trying to support their new family?What led them both to cheat, and how did they come back from it?Why is sex such a critical part of their relationship?What advice would they give their own kids about choosing a partner?What is the greatest hurdle of their marriage?Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danielle had the incredible privilege of talking to one of the nation's most respected experts concerning tweens and teens. Dr. Lisa Damour is a top parenting columnist for the New York Times, a regular contributor on CBS News, and a profound public speaker. In this episode, she and Danielle discuss tactics for parents to use when navigating adolescents and the world of social media during quarantine, what rules and boundaries we should have concerning privacy, how sleep is playing a critical role for kids during the time of the pandemic, and so much more. Dr. Damour is both calming and no-nonsense when discussing her philosophies on teenagers. She explains viewpoints in a manner that makes so much sense and can help all parents feel like we can absolutely get through this and communicate with our kids in a way that is firm yet understanding. Right now, her guidance is so incredibly valuable, and Marriage and Martinis is so grateful to be able to share her insight with their community.Sign up for the Friday Five for this week's Date Night Questions and supplemental information for this episode at marriageandmartinis.comPurchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Like everyone else, Danielle and Adam and are just trying to figure out how to parent through a pandemic day by day. With three kids ages 8, 11, and 14, they are very much wondering what the current steps are in order to make this ordeal as "normal" as possible for their kids. They ask Dr. Becky everything from how to deal with homeschooling, to what our expectations should be for our kids during this time, to how much of this trauma will affect our kids in years to come, and so much more. No matter the ages of your kids, if you feel like you want some great strategies and insight about parenting while quarantined, this is definitely the episode for you.Sign up at marriageandmartinis.com for our Friday Five emails to get the supplemental questions for this episode.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ahhhhh, quarantine. What can Adam and Danielle say about it that hasn't already been said? A lot, actually. The two discuss polls from their instagram community, including questions about sex during quarantine, people's crazy dreams, who is thriving and who is definitely not, and so much more. Where do Danielle and Adam fit in all of these scenarios? Plus, what is Danielle's new Quarantine nickname for Adam, and how are the two getting along being together 24/7? Leave the news and stress of everything going on behind for an hour and listen to a lighter conversation about the world's problems. Just make sure you wash your hands (and probably your soul) afterwards.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Now, more than ever, our communication skills are critical to helping the people around us who need to be heard and understood. We may not be able to be there physically for one another, but we can still be a huge source of comfort, support, and consistency for those in our life who rely on us. Our kids are used to having several adult influences throughout the day, and now they are basically reliant on us for all their learning and communication needs. Our partners usually leave and have other connections and shoulders on which to lean. We are taking on a new huge role with them, as well (and they are with us). In this episode, "deep listening" expert Oscar Trimboli discusses several useful, simple strategies we can all use on a daily basis to become more effective listeners, and show up for our people in ways we may not have been before. Only about 2% of the population is skilled in listening, and the rest of us think we know what it means to be active listeners, but really, we have very little understanding about its true meaning. Oscar's goal is to turn 100 million people into better listeners. Danielle and Adam were so excited that he agreed to help them and their audience become some of those people. Some topics in this episode include:How Oscar became so obsessed with listening, and why he thinks it's the key to success in business, at home, and in society.What are some ways we can better listen to young children?What are some ways we can work on keeping calm and not jumping in when having a discussion with our spouse?What is the 125/400 rule and why is it so crucial?What are the different levels of deep listening?How do we show up for the people in our lives who are struggling and truly need someone to be there for them as a listening ear?Make sure to sign up for "The Friday Five" to get this week's supplementary "Date Night Questions" at marriageandmartinis.comCheck out Oscar at oscartrimboni.comPurchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

One of the greatest gifts we can embrace in times like this is the power of humor and how it can physically and mentally calm and soothe us. Laughter has always been a huge part of Danielle and Adam's lives, and while everyone is navigating these unchartered times, the connection we can all still make through comedy and relatability is invaluable. In this episode, Danielle and Adam also talk about how the current situation has impacted them personally. What has changed in the past week even since their last episode, and what they are attempting to keep consistent even with this storm swirling all around. Don't forget to sign up for the Marriage and Martinis "Friday Five" emails for the supplemental Date Night Questions. Episode Sponsors:Hunt A Killer Promo Code: MARRIAGEFealsRitualsPeanut AppPurchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Paige and Catherine are founders and directors of the incredible Motherhood Center in New York City. They are ensuring that pregnant women, new moms, and their partners have plenty of support, therapy and guidance while facing difficult times with anxiety and all mood disorders. Together with Danielle and Adam, they discuss why moms should not feel guilty about not feeling a "motherly instinct," how much more common anxiety is in new dads than is oftentimes discussed, Danielle's story with PPD and how everything might have been different if The Motherhood Center had existed back when she was a new mom. Right now, so many of us are feeling anxious, and just hearing Paige and Catherine's voices and gentle, knowledgable stories will make anyone feel better and more understood. If you are pregnant, a new mom, went through postpartum, or are the partner of anyone going through any of those stages, this is definitely an episode to which you should listen. Send it to friends who might be going through a rough time with anxiety, are new parents, or just want to hear more about what is being done to help women get the attention and professional help they all deserve without shame or embarrassment. The Motherhood CenterSign up for our "Friday Five" on marriageandmartinis.com to receive the supplemental "Date Night Questions" for this episode. Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's tough to concentrate on anything else right now when the Coronavirus seems to have overtaken every realm of our being, including work, home life, and the media. While there's tons of coverage concerning the physical symptoms and effects, we need to remember to figure out how we can best get through the next few weeks while staying sane and keeping our family as comfortable and mentally stable as possible. We may be stuck in limited settings with a great deal of uncertainty swirling around us, but there are still some things we can control and handle in the most positive and beneficial way possible. Life Coach Amy and Danielle discuss so many of these topics in this episode, including:- How to deal with disappointment for ourselves and our kids (cancelled sporting events, parties, celebrations, etc.)- Setting a family meeting to plan and prepare for the weeks to come.- Figure out ways to focus on things other than the excessive coverage that might be detrimental to our well-being.- Transitioning from work to working from home (especially with kids around).- Being more forgiving of ourselves about things like allowing more screen time, cereal for dinner, and allowance on perks/luxuries we might not usually allow for ourselves.- Turning negative thinking into more positive circumstances. For more and our famous supplemental "Date Night Questions," make sure you're signed up for our "Friday Five" emails at marriageandmartinis.comPurchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Trigger warning: this episode discusses different types of discipline. Please take care if this is a topic which is sensitive to you. This might be the most sensitive topic in Danielle and Adam's current relationship. Having a high schooler, middle schooler, and elementary schooler is tricky in terms of navigating the subject of discipline, and Danielle and Adam are hoping to improve their current strategies. Exploring discipline in the households in which they grew up, in the schools they attended, and their overall current practices, they are attempting to get to the bottom of this issue before it becomes even more of a problem between them. While Danielle and Adam both know they are raising empathetic, compassionate humans, they worry that they're not doing enough to really emphasize the importance of responsibility. Don't forget to head to marriageandmartinis.com and sign up for the "Friday Five" emails to get this episode's supplementary "Date Night Questions." Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.