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Danielle and Hanif discuss the life events that impacted Hanif so greatly that he co-founded the Center For Equity and Inclusion. Born to a father of Indian descent from Tanzania, and a Mexican-American mother, Hanif breaks down how being a person of color has affected his identity in every space he's occupied in life. Also, how his parents' desire to have their children assimilate into American culture caused a lot of confusion concerning how he should feel about his mixed background. For these reasons and more, he became intensely set on teaching others how we can make schools, workplaces, homes, and communities feel more accepting and comfortable regardless of someone's gender, sexual orientation, etc. Danielle asks Hanif small, actionable steps we can all take immediately if we want to be a part of the movement towards inclusive spaces.Contact Hanif through the Center for Equity and Inclusion (https://ceipdx.com/).haniffazal.com Pre-Order links for An Other World -Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1774583313Barnes and Noble: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/an-other-world-hanif-fazal/1142911253Powells World of Books: https://www.powells.com/book/an-other-world-9781774583319 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danielle and Adam have the opportunity to choose one challenge for each other to complete in the next thirty days. They discuss how they came up with these challenges, how they think one another should go about doing the work to complete them, and what the ultimate goal is for each.Want to spend a weekend with Danielle, Leah, and other badass women, embarking on a virtual, groundbreaking journey from January 25th to 27th? We'll be exploring our true sensual and sexual selves at midlife, shedding old stories that no longer serve us, and rewriting our personal narratives as we learn how to truly fulfill our needs and desires.Register for Beyond Permission with Danielle & Leah here. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why is it so hard for us to get into a mindset that allows us to just feel contentment and happiness in the life we've created? In this episode, Danielle discusses the "guilt" she feels for not being able to fully embrace all of the new, positive aspects of life this move has brought their family. If happiness is the goal in life, why is it so difficult for us to feel that ultimate emotion over long periods of time? Adam and Danielle break down the thoughts of Brene Brown, the ways we've been conditioned to never actually get content in a state of happiness, and why maybe, just maybe, moments of pleasure and joy are the actual answers to that for which we're searching. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

After a whirlwind phase of chaotic life events, Danielle wants to take a moment and discuss how far she and Adam have come as individuals, as a couple, and especially as parents. But, the two realize that just stopping and living in the moment is difficult when there are still so many uncertainties. Still, the couple attempt to discuss the fact that it's necessary to stop and reflect on how much they've accomplished together over the past year and a half (and longer). Some things the two discuss:Why we all need to celebrate the moments that society might not deem "worthy" of an official celebration much more often.What Danielle and Adam did as parents that helped their kids through their most difficult times so far, and why it was so impactful.How Danielle's OCD has helped her to revel in the "small wins" in life more than the average person most likely does.Updates on" Mia's adjustment to college; How Danielle and Adam's attempt to sleep in the same bed is going; how the new house is coming along.If you enjoyed this (or any other) Marriage and Martinis podcast episode, please take a moment to support Adam and Danielle by rating and reviewing on Apple Podcasts and/or Spotify. It helps them so much, and, it's totally free and easy (just like Danielle). Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Three days ago, Danielle and Adam dropped their daughter, Mia, off for her freshman year at college. But getting to this point was nothing short of a rollercoaster of a journey. In this episode, Danielle and her sister, Life Coach Amy, discuss what they've both learned about preparing our kids (and ourselves) for the post-high school phase. Amy has sent her two kids off to college, and helps other moms deal with this transitional time of life filled with so much change and uncertainty. Some topics the two discuss are:How struggles are actually necessary and beneficial for our kids preparing to go away for school.Why it's essential that our kids concentrate on life skills that aren't taught in school or most extra-curricular activities. What one thing is making this whole process so much easier for Danielle, and why she wants every parent to understand how important it is to help our children follow their natural course.How Amy has navigated having a child at school who doesn't communicate as much as she would like.What essential skills should kids know before heading off to college or into "the real world?"How to find the good in each situation, even if it feels far from perfect.Subscribe to Life Coach Amy Alpert's amazing must-read newsletter, and follow her on substack. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For the majority of their relationship, Danielle and Adam have slept in separate bedrooms. So, what happens when, after all this time, they attempt to sleep together all through the night in the same bed? Why does Danielle feel like this is an important change to make in the relationship at this particular stage of life? How did they start sleeping in separate bedrooms in the first place? Adam and Danielle break down the history of their "sleep divorce" and all the reasons it may have worked for them in the past. Plus, is Adam ok with the only physical affection he gets being from Danielle and the kids? Does he wish his friends were more affectionate? For anyone who has anything "taboo" about their relationship, you will not want to miss this episode.Want to spend a weekend with Danielle, Leah, and other badass women, embarking on a virtual, groundbreaking journey from January 25th to 27th? We'll be exploring our true sensual and sexual selves at midlife, shedding old stories that no longer serve us, and rewriting our personal narratives as we learn how to truly fulfill our needs and desires. Register for Beyond Permission with Danielle & Leah here. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In an episode that Adam describes as, "one of his favorite we've ever recorded," the two discuss more concerning etiquette and how these unwritten "rules" have affected their lives. Adam goes deep into the frustration of owning a retail business and why "the customer isn't always right." Danielle talks about the workers who she thinks should be tipped ALL THE MONEY for what they are expected to do. They also talk about the hardships of teaching kids how to behave out in the world when over the last 18 months, there has been a whole lot of time at home. What "teachable moments" are important to Danielle regarding her kids, and how is she trying to make up for lost time during the pandemic when it comes to showing their kids how to be socially considerate and caring with people you know, and when it comes to strangers.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode of the podcast is brought to you by two people who desperately need sleep, don't have enough energy to make much sense, but really wanted to check in with everyone with a quick update. Danielle and Adam discuss finally being in their new home, why this was the most draining of all the moves, and how they're embracing their new small-town lifestyle. Danielle talks more about her guilt concerning moving the cats to a new home, and Adam is excited to talk all about his new lawnmower and weedwacker. Plus, how has this move made them think differently about the importance of life changes, especially while in their 40s? But mostly, this episode is a lot of rambling, and these two aren't even sure if anything they've said during the hour even makes sense. We recommend listening to the prior episodes about moving before listening to this episode. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It took two tries for Danielle and Adam to record this episode, because the first attempt ended in one of the worst arguments they've had in months. However, the second time, the conversation was one of the best and most honest talks about sex and intimacy on the podcast. However, this was after four hours of heated debate and fighting after Danielle opened up a "can of worms" that neither of them was expecting would result in such anger and frustrating on both their parts. In what Danielle claims was an "indicator of how fragile the male ego can be when it comes to feedback about sexual performance," the fight after the first (partial) recording brought up everything from Adam's famous statement in an episode back in 2018, "when I'm done, I'm done," the fact that men have never been taught to take women's pleasure seriously, that women are not strongly encouraged to take their own pleasure seriously (until later in life), and the truth about female pleasure is never truly researched and discussed by male partners. However, after clearing the air and finally calming down, they are able to have a truly productive and eye-opening discussion as to why their intimacy is better now than it ever was, and what secrets they can share about steps couples can take to become more compatible sexually and connect on a deeper, more passionate level. But first, they need to go back and acknowledge that their intimacy was definitely not always like that. Danielle and Adam both agree that this might be their favorite episode on the topic of sex they've ever done. Everyone should listen to this important, honest episode, no matter their relationship status.The two also discuss:Misconceptions about the clitoris and the female orgasm.Why women are so quick to fake an orgasm, and the reasons men just believe it's real.How girls really feel when making out with boys as teenagers.What they want their own kids to understand about female pleasure.Why men don't think to ask what they can do to better pleasure a woman.Why it's important to have these conversations consistently, rather than all in one session.Get the Date Night Questions Book!Want to spend a weekend with Danielle, Leah, and other badass women, embarking on a virtual, groundbreaking journey from January 25th to 27th? We'll be exploring our true sensual and sexual selves at midlife, shedding old stories that no longer serve us, and rewriting our personal narratives as we learn how to truly fulfill our needs and desires. Register for Beyond Permission with Danielle & Leah here. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In a society that glamorizes the idea of "doing it all," it's easy to get sucked in to the idea that if we aren't doing it all, we're somehow failing. But according to Kendra, AKA "The Lazy Genius," we absolutely do not need to and should not even attempt to do it all. In this episode, self proclaimed "hot mess mom" Danielle asks Kendra about everything from the secret to making a good "to do list," to how we can possibly stop feeling like laundry is taking over our lives, to how we know what's an essential task not to be ignored, and which things we need to put on the back burner. Want to be more productive by doing less? Then you don't want to miss this conversation.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this highly requested follow-up to last week's episode about moving into their seventh house, Danielle and Adam talk more deeply about how the stress is starting to manifest in ways that aren't so positive, and how the impending move is making them appreciate certain aspects of their current lives that they may have taken for granted. Also, what types of rituals, products, and habits are saving them right now, and making the whole process a little easier? Danielle talks new bras, clothing, and body image, and Adam talks about picking up old habits as a means to cope. Plus, where would they each move if money wasn't an issue, and what dream projects would they do in their new home?Tractive GPS is the world's most-trusted GPS tracker for pets. This small waterproof device gives you live location updates of your pet straight to your phone, no matter where you are in the world -- so you never have to worry while you're on a walk, on vacation, or leaving your dog with a sitter. Plus -- you can set virtual fences, track their activity and sleep like a FitBit, and more!Live in the New Jersey are and looking for a unique, delicious dessert truck to come and bring some unique excitement to your party? Check out Wandering Sweets.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this extremely vulnerable episode, Adam and Danielle divulge all the details concerning their move: why, where, and when. Plus, they go on some pretty crazy tangents about some TMI concerning Danielle's recent sexual craze, and Adam's ridiculous stress level. The two discuss how their relationship has changed since the last move, and how Adam's obsession with moving has completely transformed. Plus, what are they hoping to get from their new house and the town to which they're moving that they haven't gotten before?Every pet owner needs Tractive to give them peace of mind about their pet getting lost.Live in the New Jersey are and looking for a unique, delicious dessert truck to come and bring some unique excitement to your party? Check out Wandering Sweets.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's pride month, but it's always a good time to celebrate all the love. This episode has no shortage of real, honest, deep, intense love, and what beautiful things can happen when someone stops letting society dictate how their life should look, and starts looking inward to make big decisions. Danielle was so excited to catch up with her friend, Linda, to get caught up on the impactful and enormous changes that have occurred since she came out over two years ago. Danielle was even more thrilled that Linda's partner, Maddy, (who happens to be pregnant with Linda's ex-husband/co-parent's baby) was gracious enough to join the conversation. They catch up on the huge events that have taken place, including:How Linda and Maddy met and fell in loveWhat life looks like now, while they are living with Chris, Linda's ex-husband and their kidsWhat made them ask Chris if he would be willing to be the biological father of Maddy's baby, and what his response wasHow people react to their "atypical" familyWhat it's like living in Florida now that so much anti-LGBTQ legislation is being passed, and if they plan to moveWhat they will tell the new baby's older siblings concerning why their family looks different from other familiesHow they deal with negative looks, attention, and feedback concerning their unique lifestyleLinda and Maddy have recently been feature in People magazine and other media outlets to highlight their love story. But only on this episode will you get the raw, complete details of how it all happened.Check out Linda's instagram @fruitsofmotherhood to follow along their journey from here.Click here to purchase Tractive pet tracker and use code "Martini" for 20% off. Tractive is the #1 pet tracking device, and the only way to achieve true peace of mind as a pet owner.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danielle and Adam are finally reunited with Erica and Jamilah from the podcast, Good Moms Bad Choices, and in this episode they are going DEEP into what society gets wrong about relationships, and why they're shifting the narrative about what a "life-partner" can look like. These best friends discuss everything from how Erica had the courage to ask Milah to "be her friend," when they were both young single moms, and the incredible bond that has developed and evolved since then.In this episode:Why society needs to carve out a more important place for the role friends play in each other's lives.What happens when two single moms become best friends AND business partners.Why Erica and Jamilah want everyone to explore what our lives might look like if we acknowledged that "the rules are fake."How the two have dealt with one of them getting into a serious romantic relationship while the other friend is still "in limbo."In what ways none of them are the same as they were when they met five years ago.How their relationship resembles a marriage in so many ways, yet legally there's no way to benefit from this relationship.Why women need to start embracing one another for exactly who we are rather than sitting in judgment.How their bad choices actually are the reason they're so successful.Check out Erica and Jamilah's new book, A Good Mom's Guide To Making Bad Choices, on Amazon, Barnes and Nobles, or wherever you buy books.Follow Good Moms Bad Choices on Instagram.If you loved this episode, you'll also love episodes #81, #90, and #194.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So many couples go years without ever truly "checking in" with one another to discuss how things are going between them and which aspects of their relationship they need to focus on and improve, as well as which aspects of their relationship are going well. Danielle and Adam sit down to do a "relationship check-in" in real time. After looking for a "check-in" that suits their needs but not finding anything she really liked, Danielle creates one that she feels is more comprehensive and balanced. Here's some of what this discussion covers:How are they doing in terms of supporting one another?How is intimacy/sex and how can they improve?Parenting wins as well as what they could be doing better.FinancesFun/laughterGratitudeAny couple who feels they could benefit from a check-in with one another should absolutely listen to this episode, as it exemplifies what it means to take the time to focus on one another and remember that you are a team. It is filled with opportunities for positive discussion, while also leaving room to explore areas for growth.Sign up for Marriage and Martinis' emails here to receive a PDF copy of the "relationship check-in" created by Danielle for this episode.Want to take your check-ins to the next level and really discuss aspects of your relationship in a fun, intimate, and productive way? Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.Loved this episode? Then we think you'll also love episodes 220 (The PIVOT Episode Part One) and 221 (The PIVOT Episode Part Two). Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danielle has been extremely honest about her struggle with body image and self-acceptance. She was so excited to sit down and ask one of her biggest role models, Sarah Landry (aka The Bird's Papaya) all about her experience and journey towards unapologetic body confidence. The two discuss why a attaining a "goal body" isn't all it's cracked up to be, how they're trying to show up in the world even when they feel uncomfortable, and what they really think makes a person incredibly sexy. Sarah talks about the first time she let her husband really touch her stomach after being a "no-go" zone for so long. Danielle discusses a time when she unintentionally made her daughter self-conscious about her appearance, and what she has since learned from her mistake. Danielle and Sarah also commiserate about how clothing stores have taken the joy and excitement out of shopping, and instead made it an experience filled with exclusion and shame.Follow Sarah on Instagram.Check our Sarah's website and blog.If you enjoyed this episode, and/or any episode of the Marriage and Martinis podcast, please rate and review on Apple, and/or Spotify.Want to have a gentle, open discuss about body confidence with your partner but aren't sure how to go about it? Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.Really struggling to find inner peace and show up in the world in your body at this moment? Us too. That's why we wrote this guide and journal to taking steps towards more body confidence. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For the past four and a half years, there's one question that Danielle and Adam get pretty regularly: "why do you have to curse so much?" It's a fair question, and one that actually doesn't bother them, as long as it's asked in a f*cking respectful way. So, why do they curse so much? In what ways do they feel that the art of cursing is misunderstood? What are their rules as parents concerning their kids using profanity? What are their favorite lines from movies that involve cursing? Which of them curses more? If you love cursing, sit down, relax, and get ready for some fantastic facts about "F bombs."Love this episode or any other episode of Marriage and Martinis you've heard? Please take a moment to rate and review on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a moment and helps so much.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Warning: This episode discusses body image, disordered eating, and other complex relationships with food and exercise. Please take care while listening.This is Danielle's first solo episode in over three years. However, the response she's gotten to some more recent episodes in which she gets very vulnerable about body image and the all-consuming aspects of trying to attain a certain physique, made it clear to her that she needed to dig deeper into the topic by herself before tackling the the subject with Adam. Danielle discusses everything from what she was told about her weight growing up, to the numerous diet plans she's tried (and failed), to her biggest fears regarding body acceptance. This episode is raw, emotional, and will most likely be relatable to many who have endured the shame and scrutiny caused by diet culture. What does she want Adam (and so many partners) to understand? How does she want to live her life from this point forward? What struggles have exhausted her emotionally and physically? It's all in this episode. Listen, and then send it to someone else who might need a little more self-love and to feel less alone.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.Let Yourself Go Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The term "Estate Planning" is quite misleading. So many of us believe that "getting our affairs in order" is something reserved only for the wealthy. Yet it is absolutely necessary to our loved ones' futures that we sort out financial and personal details ASAP, no matter the status of our finances and assets, especially if we have children under the age of 18. But how do we approach such a monumentally confusing and overwhelming task? Danielle and Adam sat down with Estate Planning expert (who just happens to also be their VERY awesome brother-in-law) to ask all the questions, no matter how simple or naive. Danielle is pretty confident that they don't even have an "estate," (what does that even mean?!) and it's been around 15 years since they last updated their will (oops). Luckily, Gideon patiently addresses all of their (and your) concerns, and discusses his very personal experience with this subject, which caused him to pivot in his career. It turns out, there are people who are very passionate about estate planning (thank goodness).Some of the topics covered in the episode:The main documents that make up a basic estate plan.The reasons why parent(s) should have these documents in place, particularly when they have kids under 18 years old.Which of these documents you should have in place for your kids once they turn 18 years old.What information you should be getting, now, from your aging parents, before it is too late.Whether you're listening in hopes of talking to your parents or elder family members about your concerns for their late-in-life planning, or hoping to gain more insight into what steps you should take next in your own planning, this is one of those episodes that takes a scary topic and makes it not only relatable, but solvable. Send it to your family, friends, and anyone else who needs to a reminder that we aren't taking these steps only for our own peace of mind, but for the futures of those we love the most.For more information, visit Gideon's website.Looking for more guidance on having these meaningful conversations with your partner? Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to rate and review on Apple Podcasts and/or on Spotify. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What was supposed to be a light, fun episode of Danielle and Adam asking one another random questions about life turns into a deeper, more real discussion about frustrations and issues beneath the actual subject matter. How does Danielle feel about Adam's crypto obsession? Why does Adam feel like he doesn't need to take more of an interest in women's content? This is a fun episode that also tackles some unexpected marital issues that will most likely be relatable to tons of couples.Want to ask one another questions and have deep conversations? Purchase the wildly popular Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

After recently completing the college admissions process with their oldest child, Adam and Danielle knew they wanted to do a series of episodes for parents who might be anticipating or already immersed in the process. They asked their friend and seasoned admissions consultant, Peter Tilles, to sit down and answer their (and your) questions concerning all things college related. They also knew, however, that they wanted this series to be different than other podcasts that center on higher education in the fact that they want to emphasize the idea of "finding the right fit school" for each unique child.Topics discussed in this episode:How early do parents really need to start thinking about the process, and on what level?What to do if your child has absolutely no idea what kind of college they want and need?How many schools do you really need to go visit?Are students who don't know what they want to study at a disadvantage when applying?Why it's as (if not more) important to consider at which school our kids will want to STAY, not just get in to.How do we prepare our kids for the college admissions process without making it overwhelming?AND SO MUCH MORE!!Looking for help and guidance preparing for your upcoming college visits? Check out the FREE guide created just for Marriage and Martinis listeners.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

TW: All things "vice" related. Adam and Danielle make it no secret that they have some questionable life choices. Most people won't talk about the taboo aspects of coping mechanisms due to the shame and stigma. But guess what? Life is hard, and we're not all equipped with the healthiest and most acceptable tactics. This is a safe space for anyone who has at times felt shamed for resorting to vices that aren't "healthy" or socially encouraged. In part one of this series, Danielle and Adam discuss how they've walked the tightrope of edgy behavior, and how their privilege has allowed them to do so. They discuss compassion in a world where people are expected to be able to solve problems in a more "productive" and responsible manner. Plus, they go more in depth discussing a vice in which they've both partaken since a young age and how they were first introduced to this substance. If you are going to listen to this episode, please check your judgment at the door. It's a truly honest conversation about elements of life which about which are greatly shameful to speak.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Adam and Danielle discuss the concert of Sliding Doors and all the ways their lives would be different if they had made alternate momentary decisions.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is there any more uncomfortable subject to discuss in a real, educational way than porn? Probably not. Which is exactly why Danielle wanted so desperately to do this episode.Erika Lust is an award-winning, feminist, sex-positive director of adult cinema. Now, she’s made it her mission to educate parents about how we can have these incredibly hard discussions with our kids. Porn is ubiquitous these days. So why are so few people talking about it? Erika breaks down why we can’t wait any longer to dive into the topic and the ways we can do it so it’s not so damn uncomfortable.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danielle and Adam reflect on their household rules growing up (or lack thereof) and how these (non) rules impacted them in becoming the people they are today. They discuss how their "rules" around religion have changed, which societal rules we need to get rid of, and what the rules of their household are now that they're supposedly in charge. What's the only movie Danielle's mom ever made them walk out of and why? What were the rules living in the dorm at Adam's boarding school? What would their kids say are non-negotiable rules in their family?Have you enjoyed a Marriage and Martinis episode lately? Please take a moment to rate and review. It means so much and truly does help.Looking for the perfect Valentine's Day gift? Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.Also, there are still a few limited edition Valentine's Day Date Night Boxes, but hurry (US shipping included in the price). Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Very few couples are as honest and refreshing as Erinn and Oliver. In this episode, the two couples commiserate about everything from trust in marriage, to how hard consistency is in parenting, and why perfection is such a scam. Oliver gets real about what it was like coming clean to Erinn early in their marriage about his infidelity, how it almost broke him, and how they've been able to talk about it so openly now that they have such a strong, solid partnership. Erinn talks about what it was like to receive that shocking news, and how they were able to rebuild after this huge reveal. Their relationship is a testament to what can happen when two people decide to go "all in" and do whatever it takes to heal. Also, why it's so absurd that we say "til death do us part" in our vows, but neglect to discuss how committing to one person for our entire lives comes with inevitable hardships and mistakes.Listen to the Unconsciously Coupled podcast wherever you get your podcasts.Follow Unconsciously coupled on Instagram.Looking for the perfect Valentine's Day gift? Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ok, so Adam and Danielle are a little late with their New Year's episode, but hey, what else is new? 2022 was the year that felt like ten years. Adam and Danielle go deep about what stunk, what was great, what they learned, and what they are really hoping for in 2023. OUR BESTSELLING DATE NIGHT BOXES ARE BACK BY POPULAR DEMAND FOR VALENTINE'S DAY!! These went fast for the holidays so do not wait to claim yours!Limited Supply!!Get 15% off the Date Night Questions book with the promo code "MNMPODCAST" Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For the past few years, Danielle and Adam have done a lot of researching when it comes to ADHD. But they've really wanted to sit down and ask an expert all of their questions and the questions from listeners. In this episode, Danielle and Ryan (aka The ADHD Dude) talk about everything ADHD related when it comes to kids (especially boys). The two talk about how to get your child's teachers to better understand and how to seek their help. They discuss medication, handling tough situations like homework and chores, and also what not to do when dealing with a kid who has ADHD. This episode is incredibly informative and dives deep into finding solutions to oftentimes misunderstood problems surrounding ADHD.Follow Ryan instagram @theadhddudePurchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.Want to hear more discussion about ADHD? Listen to episode 230. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this light, fun episode just in time for the holiday season, Danielle and Adam ask the hosts of this popular "etiquette-ish" podcast about everything from tipping, to regifting, to what to do when you seriously just don't want to go to that party. Danielle reveals what weird thing happened when she neglected to send a thank you note to an older member of her extended family after having her first child, and Adam asks if it's ok for customers to just leave their crap all over the aisles. Are snail-mail thank you notes ever going to be a thing of the past? Is it rude to invite guests to a party that starts way too late at night? Listen to hear Danielle and Adam find out if their thoughts on these topics are appropriate, or just plain incorrect.Just in time for the holidays: the Date Night Questions BOOK is finally available IN PRINT and ready for all of your gifting needs (Limited quantities guaranteed for delivery by December 22nd so order now to lock in your copies)!! Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.Listen to Were You Raised By Wolves wherever you get your podcasts!! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

TW: Mention of suicidal thoughts.In one of their most vulnerable episodes, Danielle and Adam sit down to discuss the impact that ADHD has had on their family. While currently fully in the thick of this journey, opening up about this struggle was not easy, but it is something they know could help so many others. Having a daughter and a son who struggle, Danielle and Adam reveal the deep heartbreak that has fully consumed them as parents for the past year. However, they also feel so lucky and grateful to have the platform and connections to research and to advocate for their kids. They offer ideas and steps that will help other families who are also figuring out this oftentimes misunderstood diagnosis. Some of what they discuss:Adam's diagnosis at age 17 and how it affected him in school, and how it currently affects him as an adult.How their son and daughter's ADHD manifest in such different ways, and how that has made it all the more confusing to understand.The pain of watching kids struggle because of the lack of understanding and education concerning ADHD.What they want other parents, as well as kids' peers to understand about how to actively support, include and accept someone despite their differences.The other, more positive side of ADHD, and the incredible traits those who experience it oftentimes possess.Why a 504 or IEP won't necessarily help their son with his form of ADHD.Ways we can all be more empathetic, supportive, and inclusive humans to the Neurodiverse community.Whether a person is impacted personally by ADHD, raising a child who has been diagnosed or is awaiting an evaluation, or someone simply wants to better understand how to be an ally to those who present as "different" in some way, this is definitely an episode that is well worth the listen.Mentions/Resources:Understood.orgDr. HallowellThe Disruptors FilmChadd.orgPurchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danielle sits down with her good friend Leah Carey, who is a sex and intimacy coach and host of the podcast, "Good Girls Talk About Sex." The two discuss Leah's new ventures into pursuing an open relationship with her longtime partner. How did they know it was the right time to explore this lifestyle? What is different about their relationship now that allows them to trust one another enough to pursue sexual experiences outside of their relationship? What are the boundaries for these sexual encounters? What is the communication in most healthy open relationships a great example for all couples of how discussions and discourse around sex should take place? This episode is filled with important advice for any couple who feels like improved interactions could lead to deeper intimacy and a better, more fulfilling sex life.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode is by far one of the most personal and vulnerable of the Marriage and Martinis podcast yet. In this special episode, Adam and Danielle's oldest child, 15-year-old Mia Silverstein comes on to discuss her experience grappling with sexual identity, and what she wants kids and parents everywhere to know about self, family, and social acceptance as someone in the LGBTQ community. What was "coming out" like for her? How has social media both helped and hindered her experience with self-confidence and establishing her identity? Why have movies, TV, and books been such a source of solace and connection for her, and which have had the most impact on her experience? Mia's hope in doing this episode is that people will feel more comfortable and less alone in whatever they are going through concerning sexual identity, and also to help parents everywhere with some tips and advice from the perspective of a teenager who is truly in the thick of growing up. Send this episode to family, friends, or anyone you know who might benefit from some open and honest conversation with someone from the next generation, who also happens to be the generation who just might save the world.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How did we use technology in the past, and are we regulating it for our kids? Probably not.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Adam and Danielle discuss their history and current budgeting situation. It pretty much goes as you'd expect.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danielle and Adam have been very honest about the ups and downs of finances in their marriage. But from where does it all originate? The two go deep into their childhoods, uncovering imbalances between perception and reality concerning the money situation while they were each growing up. How has it impacted them as individuals and as a couple? When did it all go wrong? How has society set them up to fail? Any couple who has ever encountered hardships about money will not want to miss this episode.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.Episode 25: Keeping Up With The Joneses Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Jennifer Lincoln has become a tik Tok phenomenon. With 2.8 million followers, she's demystifying sex and taking the shame out of the conversations surrounding sex ed that our youth really need to be having and hearing. Tackling everything from periods, to puberty, to body parts, she's working hard to stop the stigmas and spread the real message that this is all natural and normal. Danielle asks all her questions as a mom of tweens and teens, and both sons and a daughter. How do we make our households a place that naturally makes these discussions and topics more comfortable? What do our kids really need to know before going off to college or wherever they might go after leaving the nest? Is there really an "age" when it's finally appropriate to have "the talk" or teach the real language for body parts and bodily functions? Dr. Lincoln tells it all exactly as it is, and makes us all feel more like we can feel good about tackling these topics.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For years, Adam and Danielle have done whatever possible to avoid facing "real life" situations. Now, as they get older and realize the impertinence of life, things have started to change. How are they embracing the here and now more than ever before? With their kids and pets getting older, there's a longing to make time slow down and really capture all of life's occurrences, whether good or bad. How did Adam go from wanting to escape every facet of the hard times, to totally being invested in the hardships of raising teenagers? What was Danielle's escape, and how was it more subtle? How can they make the most of this upcoming year and truly live in the now? For anyone who has ever felt like they want to embrace the present but have no idea what that even means or how to do it, this episode is one you don't want to miss.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Danielle chats with Ashley and Keri from the Momtourage Podcast about how each of them has navigated the pressures of doing things the way their parents and families did them while growing up, with figuring out how they each want factors such as tradition, spirituality, and religion to play a factor in their own adult lives and the lives of their kids. How does being in an interfaith marriage affect the decision-making process concerning tradition? Is there a way to honor our upbringing while still changing how our own family unit approaches aspects of religion and spirituality? How does one figure it all out when they didn't have real role models as children? Throughout the episode, the three women go off topic several times, and the conversation that ensues is both hilarious and relatable. Diversions include how pandemic parenting differed from "regular" parenting, getting periods for the first time, and fascinating ghost sex stories.Call and leave us a message with questions, comments, thoughts about ANYTHING and it may wind up in a podcast episode! Remain anonymous or leave your first name and where you're from!‪(848) 863-8134‬Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In the previous episode, Danielle and Adam discuss how their summer turned drastically wrong. During this episode (should be listened to after listening to the first one), they discuss how they handled the disappointment, frustration, and anxiousness that followed the unexpected July events. How did they deal with everything as parents and as a couple? In what ways did it all wind up being a blessing, and it what ways are they still trying to figure out what needs to be done to turn certain things around? If you have a child who has struggled or is struggling, or if you've faced unexpected tumultuous circumstances, this is an episode you won't want to miss.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.Let Yourself GoCall and leave us a message to play on our podcast!‪(848) 863-8134‬ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The beginning of Summer of 2022 was supposed to be "the time of Adam and Danielle...." sleeping in, relaxing, having romantic dinners, and doing the dirty deed whenever they felt like it. Because, the beginning of the summer, all three of their kids were supposed to be away, having fun in different parts of the country. Nothing went as planned. In fact, so much went wrong, that there almost isn't enough time to talk about it all. In this episode, Adam and Danielle break down what went wrong and how they were forced to quickly and reluctantly change course. What was supposed to be the best July ever turned drastically wrong. What was supposed to be the summer of romance turned into the summer of hardcore parenting. But, there were also good things that came out of it all. Lessons were learned, and a lot of growth wound up occurring for everyone. Still, the two are hopeful that the second half of summer will be smoother and steadier than the first half. In this episode, Danielle and Adam reveal a lot of personal details in hopes that other parents who are "going through it" will know that they absolutely are not alone.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.Let Yourself GoCall and leave us a message to play on our podcast!‪(848) 863-8134‬ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danielle's away for the night so I have to do this description thing. It was a fun episode, love you all, and hope you enjoy. Stay Orange (That will make sense after you listen). -AdamPurchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.Let Yourself GoCall and leave us a message with questions, comments, thoughts about ANYTHING and it may wind up in a podcast episode! Remain anonymous or leave your first name and where you're from!‪(848) 863-8134‬ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In the first-part of the follow up episodes to Danielle's solo episode, Adam is finally confronted with questions concerning how he really feels about Danielle's changing body. The two discuss the numerous and honest reactions to the solo episode, the miscommunication about self-esteem they've had for so long, and why Danielle feels the word, "laziness" is so problematic. Plus, why is sex based on connection so much better and deeper than sex based on physicality? What really turns them on about one another, and what do they need to work on in the future to ensure that neither of them feels self conscious? This episode is raw, real, and extremely vulnerable. It's also dedicated to any couples out there who are struggling with the harsh expectations we face concerning bodies and intimacy.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.Let Yourself GoDid you enjoy this episode? You might also enjoy, Episode 217, Episode 219Call and leave us a message with questions, comments, thoughts about ANYTHING and it may wind up in a podcast episode! Remain anonymous or leave your first name and where you're from!‪(848) 863-8134‬ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Warning: This episode discusses body image, disordered eating, and other complex relationships with food and exercise. Please take care while listening.This is Danielle's first solo episode in over three years. However, the response she's gotten to some more recent episodes in which she gets very vulnerable about body image and the all-consuming aspects of trying to attain a certain physique, made it clear to her that she needed to dig deeper into the topic by herself before tackling the the subject with Adam. Danielle discusses everything from what she was told about her weight growing up, to the numerous diet plans she's tried (and failed), to her biggest fears regarding body acceptance. This episode is raw, emotional, and will most likely be relatable to many who have endured the shame and scrutiny caused by diet culture. What does she want Adam (and so many partners) to understand? How does she want to live her life from this point forward? What struggles have exhausted her emotionally and physically? It's all in this episode. Listen, and then send it to someone else who might need a little more self-love and to feel less alone.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.Let Yourself GoDid you enjoy this episode? You might also enjoy, Episode 147, Episode 218, Episode 219Call and leave us a message with questions, comments, thoughts about ANYTHING and it may wind up in a podcast episode! Remain anonymous or leave your first name and where you're from!‪(848) 863-8134‬ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Danielle and Adam spend some time catching everyone up on their crazy recent adventures, including new kittens being born in their backyard, and how Danielle had to learn to trap the feral mama cat in order to get her spayed. Plus, what's on their summer bucket list, considering all three kids will be out of the house at the same time for almost three weeks. As always, life is nuts in the Silverstein household, but luckily it also makes for some hilarious conversation.We Have Awesome Pride Merch!!Purchase HerePurchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.Did you enjoy this episode? You might also enjoy Episode 197.Call and leave us a message with questions, comments, thoughts about ANYTHING and it may wind up in a podcast episode! Remain anonymous or leave your first name and where you're from!‪(848) 863-8134‬ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In what has quickly and unexpectedly become one of Adam and Danielle's favorite episodes, the two get to the bottom of why most conversations surrounding death are so serious, and why we should be able celebrate a person's life in the unique, personality-centered ways they deserve. This episode explores the role of Disney movies as a child's first impressions of death, how the couple wants to talk to their own children about the topic, and how Danielle and Adam each feel about "the afterlife." Plus, what characters' deaths have each of them never gotten over, and what do they want done at their own funeral?Merch: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/marriage-and-martinisPurchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.Did you enjoy this episode? You might also enjoy Episode 134, Episode 170, Episode 189.Call and leave us a message with questions, comments, thoughts about ANYTHING and it may wind up in a podcast episode! Remain anonymous or leave your first name and where you're from!‪(848) 863-8134‬ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Danielle sat down with author, journalist, and podcaster Jo Piazza, to talk all about the importance of hard conversations in relationships (romantic and platonic) and why we need to stop avoiding them. The two of them discuss Jo's new book, We Are Not Like Them, which Jo co-wrote with her friend, Christine Pride. The story follows tan interracial friendship which is tested in many ways when one of their husbands (a police officer), shoots a black teenage boy. Danielle asks Jo all about the writing process and how nerve-wracking it must have been to tackle such an intensely polarizing topic. They also discuss why this was such a topic to explore head on no matter how uncomfortable, and how the timing played a huge role. Danielle and Jo also talk about Jo's podcast, Under The Influence, and how Jo is now delving into the complexities of social media and how it affects women especially, and why these platforms are such a mixture of positives and negatives. According to Jo, we need to talk about all of these truths in society, no matter how much it makes us nervous and uncomfortable. You do not need to have read Jo Piazza's books or listened to her podcasts to enjoy this episode. However, after listening, we're pretty sure you'll want to.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.Did you enjoy this episode? You might also enjoy Episode 167, Episode 176, Episode 213Call and leave us a message with questions, comments, thoughts about ANYTHING and it may wind up in a podcast episode! Remain anonymous or leave your first name and where you're from!‪(848) 863-8134‬ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danielle and her sixteen-year-old daughter, Mia, sit down to talk all about the journey they've been on together for the last couple of years for Mia to get some answers about why she's always felt "different." What made her start wondering about how her brain functions? Why was she worried to tell her mom that she wanted to get evaluated? What was it like to be evaluated and ultimately, diagnosed? Listen to this heartfelt episode to hear all about the this teenager's experience with Autism Spectrum Disorder, ADHD, and an unspecified learning disability.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.Did you enjoy this episode? You might also enjoy Episode 140, Episode 145, Episode 166, Episode 191, Episode 192Call and leave us a message with questions, comments, thoughts about ANYTHING and it may wind up in a podcast episode! Remain anonymous or leave your first name and where you're from!‪(848) 863-8134‬ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danielle and Adam discuss the misconceptions about "happiness," why it's a multi-layered emotion. The two contemplate the connection between money and happiness, and if they felt "happier" after winning the jackpot in Las Vegas. When do they feel the greatest sense of happiness, and why is there so much pressure for happiness to be the ultimate goal in life?pompflowers.com promo code "Marriage15" for 15% offPurchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.Did you enjoy this episode? You might also enjoy Episode 155, Episode 160Call and leave us a message with questions, comments, thoughts about ANYTHING and it may wind up in a podcast episode! Remain anonymous or leave your first name and where you're from!‪(848) 863-8134‬ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Note: This is episode is just two people sitting down to try to get acquainted with kinks and fetishes. This episode will be followed up by several others with experts as well as couples who are already immersed in the kink culture. Adam and Danielle are open about the fact that they sometimes participate in kink-adjacent activities. However, there is a whole world out there about which they know very little and would like to become more comfortable with so that it can be spoken about and experienced without share, guilt, or embarrassment.A brief history of kinksThe differences in the two terms, kinks and fetishesWhat are some things couples can do just to spice things up a bit if they don't want to get too risquesome kinks or fetishes they would be interested in"Hard no's" for both of themWhy is there so much shame surrounding the topicsHow do we make our partners become confident enough to try new, exciting acts in the bedroomPurchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.Did you enjoy this episode? You might also enjoy Episode 157, Episode 177, Episode 193Call and leave us a message with questions, comments, thoughts about ANYTHING and it may wind up in a podcast episode! Remain anonymous or leave your first name and where you're from!‪(848) 863-8134‬ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Danielle was thrilled to have the chance to talk with esteemed teacher and teaching advocate, Nicholas Ferroni, to ask all the questions so many of us are wondering about the state of education and teaching nowadays. The two discuss:Why are so many teachers leaving the profession?How can we fix the issues with education and support our teachers and staff more?Why he couldn't keep quiet anymore concerning the struggles he and so many others face?What would he tell young people who want to have a career in teaching?Is he optimistic about the future of education?And so much more!After listening, go follow Nicholas Ferroni on Instagram, twitter, and tik tok. Then, go and thank as many teachers as possible and ask how we can best support them.Purchase the Date Night Questions Experience paperback book here. Use code "MNMPODCAST" for 15% off.Did you enjoy this episode? You might also enjoy Episode 101, Episode 136, Episode 166Call and leave us a message with questions, comments, thoughts about ANYTHING and it may wind up in a podcast episode! Remain anonymous or leave your first name and where you're from!‪(848) 863-8134‬ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.