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The ManTalks Podcast - 63: Joe Solmonese Joe Solmonese is a fighter. Just ask President Obama (we talk about this in the interview). Under Joe Solmonese's leadership, the Human Rights Campaign (the largest LGBT civil rights organization in the United States) became the model other organizations look toward to create effective social and political change. By using the anger raging from the social injustices he was witnessing, the anger of his adversaries and his followers, HRC was instrumental in passing landmark national legislation such as the Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr., Hate Crimes Prevention Act; repealing “Don't Ask, Don't Tell”; and passing marriage equality acts in eight states. How did Solmonese do it? In our interview Solmonese tells Roger that for him, the key to success was learning to harness his anger. Essentially it's just a form of energy. Channeled, it can keep you moving forward on a long journey. But uncontrolled, it can blow everything up. Subscribe on iTunes, SoundCloud, Stitcher Radio, TuneIn For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.comFacebook | Instagram | Twitter Some questions Roger asks: What is Joe’s defining moment as a man? (18:56) What was in your past that lead you to fight for these causes? (21:11) Can you describe your book? (24:39) Did you have a time in your life when anger was proving to be detrimental in your life? (28:42) How can you channel your anger when you fail? (47:59) How is the world dealing with anger in our present day? (54:03) What's the legacy you want to leave? (58:03) Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on iTunes or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks community! Thank You to the Team: Editing & Mixing by: Aaron Johnson Theme music by: Parlange & Latenite AutomaticSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know you can learn the best time to eat lunch, ask for a raise, have sex, write a novel, take your meds and more? In this episode Roger talks to Dr. Michael Breus. Dr. Breus is a sleep specialist and has written a new book called The Power of When - its currently the #1 book on Amazon in the Time Management category. In The Power of When Dr. Breus talks about chronotypes. What is a chronotype? Your body has been programmed to function much better at certain times of the day than others. Based on general morningness and eveningness preferences, different people fall into different classifications, called "Chronotypes”.There are four Chronotypes (Dolphin, Lion, Bear, and Wolf), and most people fit into the “Bear” category. You can even take a free quiz to learn which of the four chronotypes you are. Subscribe on iTunes, SoundCloud, Stitcher Radio, TuneIn For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.comFacebook | Instagram | Twitter The ManTalks Podcast Some questions Roger asks: What is Michael’s defining moment as a man? (2:30) What is your book about, and who is the book for? (4:36) What is a Chronotype? (6:34) What are the different types of Chronotype? (9:05) What your partner is a different Chronotype, how can you make that work together? (14:04) Is the best thing you can do as a manager is to get your co-workers to take Michael's Chronotype quiz? (16:10) What is some advice for working with co-workers with different Chronotypes? (17:21) Should we feel guilty about getting extra sleep? (20:27) Do Chronotypes change throughout a person's life? (21:24) What would you say our current sleep state is as a society? (23:02) Do naps work better for certain Chronotypes then others? (25:41) How could meditation help certain Chronotypes? (28:21) What's the legacy you want to leave? (36:50) Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on iTunes or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks community! Thank You to the Team: Editing & Mixing by: Aaron Johnson Theme music by: Parlange & Latenite AutomaticSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a huge episode! Its going on the "did we really just get to talk to him?" shelf. If you have never heard of Mark Manson before then get ready. For decades we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. But those days are over. “Fuck positivity,” Mark Manson says. “Let’s be honest; sometimes things are fucked up and we have to live with it.” For the past few years, Manson—via his wildly popular blog—has been working on correcting our delusional expectations for ourselves and for the world. He now brings his hard-fought wisdom to this groundbreaking book and we talk all about it (plus dig into Mark's life) on today's episode. Subscribe on iTunes, SoundCloud, Stitcher Radio, TuneIn For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.comFacebook | Instagram | Twitter The ManTalks Podcast Some questions Connor & Roger asks: What is Mark’s defining moment as a man? (3:25) How has your shift in thinking show up in your own life? (5:50) What be some advice you would give to guys going through transitional phases in their life? (8:33) Could you give us a little overview of your book? (11:10) What is the #1 thing you'd like people to take away from reading your book? (13:03) Why did you start your blog? (14:57) What are some of the things growing up that helped to shape your voice? (18:35) What was the process like taking some ideas from your blog and putting them into a book? (26:00) What would you suggest to people on how to find fulfilment in their lives? (35:38) What is one thing you haven't shared with other podcasts about the book? (42:27) What's the legacy you want to leave? (47:13) Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on iTunes or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks community! Thank You to the Team: Editing & Mixing by: Aaron Johnson Theme music by: Parlange & Latenite AutomaticSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Michael Olpin (author Unwind!: 7 Principles for a Stress-Free Life) shares with Roger how you can optimize your body, heart, mind, and soul, recognizing that any and all of these dimensions of your life affect your anxiety level. Its an awesome interview that shows you how to take charge of your life and how to make better choices that will prevent stress in the first place. Subscribe on iTunes, SoundCloud, Stitcher Radio, TuneIn For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.comFacebook | Instagram | Twitter The ManTalks Podcast Some questions Roger asks: What is Michael’s defining moment as a man? (2:45) How did you become an expert in stress & what is it? (7:30) Could you give us an overview of the book? (15:20) In this modern world, are we more stressed out about things that didn't exist before? (20:20) How are men doing dealing with stress? (35:30) How do you insure you're not too far out of the 'now' in your thoughts? (38:30) What's the legacy you want to leave? (43:23) Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on iTunes or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks community! Thank You to the Team: Editing & Mixing by: Aaron Johnson Theme music by: Parlange & Latenite AutomaticSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordan Bower is a strategic storyteller and corporate intimacy expert. In his role he helps companies build a clear, human and emotionally powerful story that purposefully and strategically connects, motivates and inspires. In this week's episode of the ManTalks podcast we tap into Jordan's expertise to help you deepen your relationships and craft your story by learning all about Jordan's walk (yes, walk...) from Vancouver to Mexico. Subscribe on iTunes, SoundCloud, Stitcher Radio, TuneIn For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.comFacebook | Instagram | Twitter The ManTalks Podcast Some questions Connor asks: What is Jordan’s defining moment as a man? (3:35) How do you think being a ‘nice guy’ played into the separation? (7:32) What are some of the things you learned from the end of relationship? (9:10) How have your relationships shifted since your journey? (12:50) You walked from Vancouver to Mexico! What were some of the highlights from the trip? (18:15) Would you recommend that people walk the 3,000km like you did? (23:10) Along the way on your trip, what were the moments that were awe-inspiring (26:03) What are you doing now? (31:50) What are some tools you’d give your clients? (37:40) What is the legacy that Jordan wants to leave in the world? (40:55) Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on iTunes or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks community! Thank You to the Team: Editing & Mixing by: Aaron JohnsonTheme music by: Parlange & Latenite AutomaticSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can you imagine being in the 6th grade and learning that your mother has been murdered? Fast forward to when you are an adult. Can you imagine not only forging the killer but save his life? Then can you imaging inviting him on stage with you in front of hundreds of people? Today's guest did all of this and it is a true honour to get a chance to speak with him on the ManTalks Podcast. This week we talk to forgiveness expert Dean Smith who shares with us his journey to forgive, reconcile with and help save the life of the man that murdered his mom and how his story was made into an award-winning, internationally distributed documentary entitled Live to Forgive. Subscribe on iTunes, SoundCloud, Stitcher Radio, TuneIn For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.comFacebook | Instagram | Twitter The ManTalks Podcast “The difference between true forgiveness and forgive and forget is I can remember it, but not be shackled to the bitterness of it.” Some questions Connor asks: What is Dean’s defining moment as a man? (4:13) Does he still talk to his Mother's killer? (13:40) What keeps him busy in the world now? (20:08) Why did he become a high performance coach? (22:09) What are some of the things he sees as crossovers in his roles? (24:09) What does he think is one of the biggest misconceptions of forgiveness? (26:34) What does he tell people to move from angry to forgiveness? (31:05) Does angry still effect him? (34:45) What is the legacy that Dean wants to leave in the world? (39:00) Learn more about: Live to Forgive Og Mandino “I can use the memory of my mother's murder to help other people.” FOLLOW DEAN Og Mandino Leadership Institute | Linkedin You may also like these episodes: John Nieuwenburg - What Depression Looks Like and What Should You Do? Shea Emry - Overcoming Adversity Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on iTunes or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks community! Thank You to the Team: Editing & Mixing by: Aaron JohnsonTheme music by: Parlange & Latenite AutomaticSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We love talking about Success on the ManTalks Podcast. In today’s episode Connor talks with Steve Sims. If you have never heard of Steve he is the founder of Bluefish, a very successful, exclusive luxury concierge service for the elite. His daily life includes helping clients craft incredible experiences including a live underwater tour of the Titanic, a flight to space, red carpet events and supersonic military jet flights in Russia. Subscribe on iTunes, SoundCloud, Stitcher Radio For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com Facebook | Instagram | Twitter The ManTalks Podcast “We shouldn’t be talking about authenticity like it’s the ability to breath air. It should be real.” Some questions Connor asks: What is Steve’s defining moment as a man? (2:20) What is BlueFish? (7:17) Who are the raddest people Steve has had the fortune to meet? (9:16) What is Steve awesome at? (10:32) Why does Steve feel like ‘no BS’ authenticity is so important? (13:35) Has Steve found himself more successful since making the shift to authentic relationships? (18:05) What are Steve’s secrets to adding value? (22:20) What are some of the keys to success in the concierge industry? (29:04) What does Steve see possible for BlueFish? (35:05) Can you tell us about your motorcycle fleet? (36:46) Where did Steve’s passion and drive come from? (38:15) What is the legacy that Steve wants to leave in the world? (44:28) In This Episode, You Will Learn: Steve’s defining moment as a man (4:17) What you can do if things aren’t going as planned (5:20) The value of being completely open to being “tailor made you” (6:26) What BlueFish has become famous for (7:50) You can find greatness anywhere (9:43) What ‘wealth’ really is (10:10) Steve’s secret sauce (12:05) Why our current mode of validation is so confusing (15:25) How the reptilian brain takes over (19:42) A startling moment for Steve, that he was being fake (20:30) What to do if you have good people around you (24:20) The biggest line of bullshit Steve has ever heard (26:10 What your obligation/destiny is (27:20) Some of the crazy things that BlueFish has done for their clients (29:29) BlueFish has just been named the official partner with Sir Elton John for his famous Oscar Party (30:40) How Steve does all these crazy things (31:45) What Steve wants in life (36:05) What true wealth meant for Steve (39:18) Where the name BlueFish came from (42:29) Steve’s awesome responses to Connor’s rapid fire questions (45:12) One experience everyone should try #1 trait of modern day success The book he take if you were stranded on a desert island The movie he would take if you were stranded on a desert island The single biggest lesson Steve has learned with BlueFish The most influential person of all time Learn more about: Bluefish What Steve looks like The Chug Test Elton John Aids Foundation Uglysims.com Steve’s recent article in Forbes “At the end of the day, you aren’t dating me, you want me to do something for you.” FOLLOW STEVE Facebook | Twitter | Linkedin “Business is 100% personal.” You may also like these episodes: Jason Connell - Navigating Life’s Transitions Graham Young - Disruptive Performance Coaching Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on iTunes. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks community! Thank You to the Team: Editing & Mixing by: Aaron JohnsonTheme music by: Parlange & Latenite Automatic We’re live in Miami - you can grab your tickets here See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Giovanni Marsico is a talent scout, social entrepreneur, and connector of superheroes. He is the founder of Archangel, a private membership community filled with mission-driven entrepreneurs who are passionate about philanthropy. Giovanni discusses predictions in the entrepreneurship space for the next 10-15 years, how people can find their own personal superpower, and so much more! Key Takeaways: [3:35] What was a defining moment as a man for Giovanni? [5:45] Giovanni has had many mentors throughout his life. Most recently, Philip McKernan made a big impact on him. [8:15] What is Giovanni up to right now? [10:30] What inspired Giovanni to get into social entrepreneurship? [12:05] As a social entrepreneur, how does Giovanni 'get over' or fight criticism of making money for the purposes of giving back? Isn't that what nonprofits are for? [13:40] How did Giovanni come up with the idea for Archangel Academy? [17:55] Does Giovanni believe that social entrepreneur will be the norm in the future? [20:05] Giovanni believes desk jobs are going to disappear. [20:50] What advice does Giovanni have to already-established business who are looking to switch to a more social enterprise format? [22:35] Giovanni replaces the world client with family, because his clients have so much lover for one another. [23:40] How can people tap into their own superpower? [25:40] Giovanni literally built his Archangel business model with the X-Men comics in mind. [28:00] How do you build a thriving community? What do people need to be aware of? [34:30] What kind of community has Giovanni built? [40:25] If you want to build a thriving community, understand that it's not about you. It's always about creating something much bigger than you. [40:40] What kind of results or impact would Giovanni like to see when people attend the Archangel event? [44:00] What legacy would Giovanni like to leave behind? Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ [email protected] www.philipmckernan.com/ www.giftedentrepreneur.com/ www.archangelacademy2017.com/ www.archangelsummit.com/ Lovemarks by Kevin Roberts Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Derek Kief is an astronomer at H.R. MacMillan Space Centre, located in British Columbia, Canada. Both Connor and Roger sort of nerd out on this podcast with their guest, but it provides the listeners with some great knowledge as to what's out there―beyond our planet. Derek says that our space programs are the only things that countries from all over the world agree on. He believes that when we eventually colonize Mars, we'll begin to see more diplomacy in the world as everyone works towards a common goal. Key Takeaways: [0:50] There are some fantastic things happening in ManTalks. Connor gives a quick update. [3:45] Derek talks about his defining moment as a man. [8:15] It took Derek some time to figure out that he didn't have to conform to a stereotype. He can be who he is. [9:35] What does Derek do? [11:25] Who inspired Derek to become an astronomer? [13:30] Be prepared! The guys geek out a little bit. [13:50] What are we close to discovering out there? [19:15] Where does Derek stand in the science community? Is he like the Patch Adams of science? [24:25] Why was the discovery of gravitational waves important? [25:40] Why are gravitational waves important for the everyday or average person? [30:00] Let's talk about Mars. Can we colonize it? [31:55] Will travelling outside of our planet allow for more diplomacy? Can men of all different types and backgrounds finally work together? [35:15] How does Derek stay curious? [39:05] What are some of the best advice Derek has received? [42:00] What is Derek's stance on quantum computing? [42:30] What does success look like for Derek? [44:55] What exciting things are happening at the Space Centre right now? Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ [email protected] www.spacecentre.ca/ Email Derek: [email protected] Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tim JP Collins is an expert on anxiety and runs The Anxiety Podcast. His mission is simple: less anxiety, more life. Tim used to suffer regularly with anxiety and panic attacks, but understood that he had to move past this as it was draining him mentally and physically. Now, he teaches those around him how they can overcome their anxiety, with or without prescription medicine. Key Takeaways: [4:00] Anxiety can consume your every waking moment. [5:50] We often need pain in our life to see what's possible and to make changes. [7:00] Tim talks about a woman who has been suffering from anxiety for 35 years. [8:20] As people become more successful and have more people rely on them, anxiety starts to creep in and take a hold of them. [8:55] What makes Tim the person that he is today? [11:40] What are some of the biggest myths about anxiety? [12:20] For a lot of people, medication for anxiety only covers up the problem. [13:30] How did anxiety come into Tim's life? [15:05] What can people learn about anxiety? [17:45] If you get your life into alignment again, anxiety goes away. [22:00] What can people do to treat their anxiety? [23:40] Put yourself first. [24:45] Are there any benefits to taking cold showers? [27:50] What legacy does Tim want to leave behind? [29:20] Should you take anxiety medication? [31:20] What is the one experience Tim would recommend to anyone? [32:15] What is the most underrated trait for modern day success? [33:25] What is the one movie Tim would take if he was stranded on an island? [33:40] What is the single biggest lesson Tim has learned in the corporate world? [34:15] Who is the most influential person in Tim's life? Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ [email protected] www.timjpcollins.com/ The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferris Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Zachary Stockill is an award-winning Canadian researcher, writer, podcaster, and educator. Zachary is the author of Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy and discusses with Roger a lot of the shame men experience when trying to find resources or help to overcome their irrational jealousy. Zachary knows the subject all too well because he too was once a man who obsessed over his then-girlfriend's past. Discover more about the unhealthy and obsessive habits jealous men often fall into. Key Takeaways: [2:20] What was one of Zachary's defining moments? [5:05] What does Zachary do? [4:50] Zachary unpacks what 'retroactive jealousy' means. [7:00] Out of nowhere, Zachary came up with ridiculous scenarios about his then-girlfriend and became jealous. [8:00] Despite realizing his jealousy, Zachary couldn't find the right resources that would address this issue for him. [8:20] Both men and woman experience this equally. [9:35] Men tend to have extreme double standards towards women who have done the same sort of sexual activities men have done in the past. [10:05] A lot of men try to figure out a woman's past to see if it's in line with their ideal values. [10:45] Male insecurity goes back a long way. [11:40] Stop talking with your partner about their past - for now. You stop the cycle by doing this. [13:00] What do you value in your relationship and what do you value in your partner? [14:50] Sometimes people lie about their past just to sooth their partner. [15:30] Own your problem. This is not your partner's problem. [17:40] Some men might believe that if they hooked up with an angel of a woman, then their relationship would be so much better. Of course, this is just not true. [19:10] There's a lot of shame around jealousy. Zachary still feels ashamed by the way he used to act. [19:15] What can men do to open up this conversation? [19:25] A lot of men don't have real friends. [20:10] The problem doesn't resolve on its own. You have to step in and do the work. [21:00] Keep focusing on personal development. Focus on your insecurities. [21:30] Meditation is huge! [22:25] The reality is we're never going to be perfect. The learning never stops. [23:05] How does Roger stay off depression? [24:20] Make an effort to be friends with older men. Seek out worldly people. [27:55] What gets Zachary out of bed every day? [29:25] When Zachary first wrote the book, he wrote it under a pen name. Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ [email protected] www.zfstockill.com/ www.retroactivejealousy.com/ www.travelsinmusic.com/ Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Julian Treasure is a sought-after and top-rated international speaker. Collectively his five TED talks on various aspects of sound and communication have been viewed an estimated 30 million times. His latest talk, How to speak so that people want to listen, is in the rare group that has over 10 million views on TED alone, putting it in the top 20 TED talks of all time. Julian discusses how to become a better listener and the bad habits people have when they try to listen. Key Takeaways: [2:15] What was Julian's defining moment? [6:35] If we all start listening a bit better, then we start to understand each other better. [7:25] What can men do to enhance their listening skills? [9:40] Silence is important when trying to improve your listening skills. [13:40] Julian breaks down what the RASA acronym means. [17:40] Women often feel like men aren't listening to them. There are different types of listening modes you can switch to. Julian explains further. [21:45] What are some bad habits people do when trying to listen? [24:15] Being right can be extremely damaging. [28:20] Great sales people will tell you it's not the speaking that gets the sale, it's the listening. [29:25] What legacy would Julian like to leave behind? Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ [email protected] www.juliantreasure.com/ Julian Treasure on TED Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Connor Beaton does a solo show to answer some of his listeners’ common questions. He discusses how he prepared for his TED talk, the elements of what makes a good talk, and then dives further into how he and his team built such a strong community at ManTalks. Towards the tail end of the show, Connor reminds the audience on the importance of staying focused and limiting your distractions as you try to achieve great things. Key Takeaways: [4:04] How did Connor prepare for his TED talk? [6:10] If there's a way to invite the organizers of an event (TED talks) to hear you speak, then do it. [6:35] Have a sticky idea? Share your idea with close mentors and friends, and get feedback. [8:15] Connor breaks down how you format a Ted talk and make it memorable. [9:40] TED talks are ideas worth spreading because they're based in facts. You need concrete evidence to back it up. [11:35] Practice your public speaking skills. [12:05] Let your message do your work and allow the slides in the background to back up and re-enforce that. [12:25] What motivates people to change? What's the conclusion of your talk? [16:00] Practice standing in one place. [16:15] How do I handle my nerves? Connor says there’s no 'not being nervous' to this. [16:25] The more prepared you are, the better you will feel about being able to run through it. [19:25] Record yourself. Listen to how you sound. It's one of the most powerful things that you can do. [20:05] If you have more questions, feel free to email Connor. [20:20] How do you build a tribe/community? What's the secret? [21:10] Who are you serving? [22:00] Don't try to please everybody. Don't make a community that's for 'everyone'. [25:00] Come from a place of giving, not getting. [25:50] How can you go above and beyond to really create a connection and solve a problem? [26:25] How do you allow your community to help each other? [30:45] Connor discusses why you need to eliminate your distractions. [32:25] How do you build a band of brothers? [33:20] Half of men over the age of 25 can not identify a best friend. The good news is you can fix it! [35:25] Think big on a daily basis, but act small. What does that mean? [37:45] Great things are happening with ManTalks! Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ [email protected] Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World with Cal Newport How to Find and Build Your Band of Brothers with Stephen Mansfield Quit Half Assing Lewis Howes – Achieving Greatness Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Arthur P. Ciaramicoli is a licensed clinical psychologist who has been treating his clients for more than 35 years. He is the Chief medical Officer of Soundmindz.org and has lectured at Harvard Health Services. Arthur is the author of several books including The Stress Solution and The Power of Empathy, which both Arthur and Connor discuss on today's show. Discover the need for empathy in your daily life and learn how to apply it in today's episode. Key Takeaways: [3:45] What was a defining moment for Arthur? [7:15] Empathy slows down the process during intense moments or conversations. [10:15] 50% of people wake up during the middle of the night due to stress. [10:40] Stress is produced often by misconceptions. You can use empathy to calm the emotional brain. [13:15] What are some of the causes of stress? [16:15] How can we combat stress? [17:00] The most successful people in life have a wide emphatic range. [18:55] Remember, empathy is different than sympathy. [21:40] Take the time to see beyond the service. Use empathy to understand the other person's perspective. [25:25] When we are stressed, we’re far less likely to eat well. [27:45] Often times what holds us back are our limiting beliefs and our past. [29:15] Good friends give us what we need, not what we want. [30:25] How do they rewrite their story? [32:25] A lot of us suffer from performance addiction. We believe achieving a certain status will gain love and respect. [34:00] What really sustains us is who we are, not what we achieve. [36:00] People who give are much healthier than takers. [37:25] What kind of legacy would Arthur like to leave behind? [38:55] The hatred that's in the world is incredibly disturbing to Arthur. [39:35] Arthur talks about someone he works with regularly. [42:20] What's the one experience Arthur recommends anyone to do? [43:50] What is the most underrated trait for modern day success? [45:40] What question should we ask to be more emphatic towards others? [46:15] What book would Arthur take if he was stranded on an island? One of Dalai Lama's books. [46:25] Who is the most influential person of all time? Jesus. Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ www.balanceyoursuccess.com/ www.soundmindz.org The Curse of the Capable by Arthur P. Ciaramicoli The Stress Solution by Arthur P. Ciaramicoli The Power of Empathy by Arthur P. CiaramicoliSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Neil Pasricha is a New York Times bestselling author of The Book of Awesome and The Happiness Equation. Neil has spent the last decade of his life as the Director of Leadership Development at Walmart, which he left this year to pursue his writing projects. He is also the writer and creator of the 1000 Awesome Things blog, which has won Best Blog in the World two years in a row. Connor sits down with Neil to discuss some of the secrets to happiness and why it is so hard to find. Key Takeaways: [2:25] Grab a pen and paper for this episode! [3:10] What was Neil’s defining moment? [6:00] What was it like giving a TED Talk? [8:35] Beautiful things come out of darkness. [9:15] Are you building a business on the side? Neil says don’t quit your day job. [10:05] Neil was not a confident person, but when he started his side business, he gained more confidence. This lead him to being promoted at his full-time job. [11:25] Despite Neil’s success, he didn’t leave his full-time job at Walmart until this year. [11:55] Connor completely understands as he just left his corporate job 6 months ago. [12:30] Let’s talk happiness! What are some of the secrets of happiness? [13:40] We want happiness, but we can’t seem to get it. [15:00] How can we give our children happiness if we ourselves aren’t even happy? [15:25] The Happiness Equation is a personal letter to Neil’s child. [16:25] You have to be happy first in order to find success. It’s not the other way around. [17:35] You live 10 years longer if you’re happy. [19:15] When Connor was experiencing a dark time in his life, what really pulled him out of it was gratitude journaling. [20:35] Never retire! [22:00] Find a reason to get out of bed every morning. [22:40] Retirement is dangerous and it creates loss of purpose. [23:55] Neil talks about the four S – Social, Structure, Stimulation, and Story. [25:35] What are the biggest misconceptions about happiness? [28:25] How do you overcome criticism? Do it for you. [30:45] Would you do this task for free? If the answer is no, you’re on the wrong track. [32:20] What happens if you’re ‘too busy’? How can you not be ‘too busy’? [40:40] Let’s talk about mindset and why it’s so important. [43:15] When your day is going south, remember that you’ve already won the lottery. You have it good. [48:00] All you have to do is write down 5 gratitudes a week and you’ll see an improvement in your happiness. [50:25] Recognize you’re in a bad mood, recognize that it will end, and recognize that those two things are okay and you will feel good again. [53:15] Who is the most authentically happy person Neil has ever met? [54:00] What is the one experience Neil recommends to anyone? [54:25] What is the most underrated trait in modern day life? [54:40] What is one book Neil would take when stranded on an island? [55:00] What was the single biggest lesson Neil learned at Harvard? [56:25] Who is the most influential person on happiness? Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ www.1000awesomethings.com/ The Book of Awesome by Neil Pasricha The Happiness Equation by Neil Pasricha Neil’s TED Talk – The 3 A’s of Awesome The Nun Study by Julia Cameron www.headspace.com/ www.10percenthappier.com/ www.calm.com On the Shortness of Life by Seneca Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Srinivas Rao, founder of The Unmistakeable Creative website and podcast, and author of Unmistakable, has interviewed over 600 thought leaders and people from all walks of life on his show. Today, he joins Connor on the show to discuss creativity, a bit of his background, where he found his drive, and why we should always learn from others, but not mimic them. Srinivas says that we do not need more copies - we need originals, willing to travel the road that's never been traveled before, because true success is work that no one else can replicate. Key Takeaways: [1:40] Let's talk creativity on today's show. [3:15] Famous on the internet? This concept is amusing to Srinivas. [4:45] What does Srinivas's name mean? [7:10] Who is Srinivas? [8:55] Srinivas downloaded Snapchat for the first time yesterday. [10:15] Everyone should get on Snapchat? Everyone should start a podcast? No! [11:00] Srinivas loves the platform 'Medium'. [11:35] Find one platform/thing and then get really, really good at it. [12:40] What was Srinivas's childhood like? [14:55] Srinivas always looks for things he can be exceptional at, not average at. [19:30] Srinivas is never satisfied. [22:45] Where does creativity actually come from? How is it cultivated? [27:10] What kind of action steps can people take to feel more creative? [29:15] Be the only option for what you do, not the best, the only one. Srinivas explains. [31:35] Why do you want to be like Tim Ferriss? Why? [32:40] Learn what other people have done, but do not mimic them. [35:00] Srinivas talks about his book, Unmistakable. [40:30] True success is creating work that no one else can replicate. [46:45] Srinivas talks about crowdfunding. [48:45] Community is tremendously important and plays so many different roles in our lives. [51:00] Do you have somebody to call at 2:00 am in the morning? [51:30] Srinivas talks about the 'impact zone' and how waves in the ocean come in sets. [57:05] What was Srinivas's favorite interview that he's done for his podcast? [58:25] One experience Srinivas recommends? Catch a wave. [58:35] Underrated trick for modern day success? The ability to unplug. [58:35] What book would Srinivas take if he was stranded on an island? Hard to answer. [59:00] What movie would he take? Blow with Johnny Dep. [59:20] Who is the most influential creative person of all time? Walt Disney. [1:00:15] What legacy would Srinivas like to leave behind? Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ www.unmistakablecreative.com/ Srinivas on Twitter www.sethgodin.com/ www.garyvaynerchuk.com/ www.medium.com/ Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Phil T Mistlberger is an expert on masculinity and brotherhood and has worked in this space for over 30 years. He is the author of four critically acclaimed books on the subject of men's work and is the founder of The Samurai Brotherhood. Phil discusses the differences between men today vs. back 20-30 years ago and what the men of today's generation are seeking the most. Key Takeaways: [2:40] Who is Phil and how did he get started? [7:00] Phil discusses Robert Bly's book, Iron John and the deep connection men need to have. [7:20] Men have not been around to raise their sons. They've been raised by mothers. [8:45] What do men currently struggle with the most? Has this trend changed over the last 30 years? [10:10] The way men communicate has been disrupted by technology. [12:15] Do Millennial men lack grit? [13:15] There's a weird mix of resentment and entitlement in the average Millennial man. [16:40] Millennial men are seeking more of their masculine side when they come to Phil. [21:30] The ideal is to have both male and female traits. Values from the mother and grit from the father. [23:35] How does Phil help with developing grit? [30:05] Men are inclined to be loners, so Phil recommends joining a community to build a stronger bond with others. [32:10] Where does your self-worth come from? For men, it's tied up in activities and what they can do for other people. [35:25] Young men tend to have less competition with older men. [39:10] What’s the importance of being challenged? [41:45] Where is masculinity headed? It's going beyond blind competition. [46:50] Men's work tends to be much more open these days and more people are aware of it. [49:10] What does legacy look like to Phil? Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ www.samuraibrotherhood.com/ www.ptmistlberger.com/ Iron John by Robert Bly Paradise Lost by John Milton Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Michael Bungay Stanier was banned from his high school graduation for "the balloon incident", was sued by one of his Law School lecturers for defamation, and has held a number of jobs where he had little or no impact. Through his experiences, he founded Box of Crayons, a company that helps organizations do more great work. On today's show, he discusses his latest book with Roger, The Coaching Habit and how you can say less, ask more, and change the way you lead others. Key Takeaways: [1:45] What was Michael's defining moment? [6:45] What is Michael up to these days? [8:20] Michael talks about his latest book, The Coaching Habit. [13:30] Slow down on giving advice, but stay curious for longer. [17:00] If Michael could pick one type of person to read his book, it would be the busy manager. [20:30] Did you know that boys are much more emotionally expressive than girls are in early childhood? [22:00] There are seven essential questions you need to ask yourself. Michael explains further. [25:40] Believe it or not, people do not learn when you give them really great advice. [25:55] People really learn when they have a moment to reflect on what just happened. [28:30] The Coaching Habit has been the #1 coaching book on Amazon since it launched 9 weeks ago. [29:40] What legacy would Michael like to leave behind? Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ www.boxofcrayons.biz/ www.thecoachinghabit.com/ The Coaching Habit by Michael Bungay Stanier www.mankindproject.org/ Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jason Connell is a speaker, former magician, and a writer on personal development. Jason discusses with Roger and Connor on today's show about successfully moving through life transitions and accepting the new challenges that come from taking action. Jason also talks on the subject of manhood and some of the key things our everyday modern man struggles with in a society littered with social media. Key Takeaways: [1:35] What was Jason's defining moment as a man? [4:00] It's hard to follow/discover a path you were meant to follow. Many people wake up to a 9-5 job they hate. [5:40] Millennials are feeling much more disconnected with others. [7:40] Jason talks about his career as a magician. [9:25] You don't have to follow the same path for the rest of your life. [10:40] Men suffer from the 'lack of money' barrier. [12:15] Jason is slowly winding down on his 8-year company, Ignited Leadership. [15:20] We're prone to stick with what we know – even if it makes us unhappy. [17:20] Your own brain is often not enough. You need to take action. [20:00] Transition is hard. So give yourself some slack. [21:25] What does a strong support system look like to Jason? [23:00] One piece of advice to modern men? Stop being so strong and break down. [25:15] What kind of things do Millennials struggle with? [28:35] Keep in mind you can fail and it's no big deal. [31:00] Want to change but not sure how? Get a coach or a psychologist. [35:00] When you're more authentic with yourself, you become more attractive to women. [37:25] Sex, money, or status does not validate your manhood. [38:30] What kind of legacy would Jason like to leave behind? Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ www.ignitedleadership.com www.jasonconnell.co/ The Power of Myth by Joseph Campbell Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Frank Warren is the founder of PostSecret.com, where he publishes some of the secrets strangers have mailed to him on postcards. Frank has received over 500,000 postcards since November 2004. Some of these postcards are funny, shocking, littered with confessions, sexual desires, and more. Frank discusses why such a novel idea has turned viral and why people need a confessional outlet on today's show. Key Takeaways: [2:25] What was Frank's defining moment as a man? [4:15] How did PostSecret get started? [7:45] Frank has given his real home address for people to send postcards to. [8:10] What is the magic that happens when someone reveals a secret to Frank? [10:50] What men decide to reveal and conceal defines them every day. [11:45] Frank reads some anonymous secrets. [15:45] Despite so much technology that helps us to connect, there's still a lot of loneliness and isolation. [16:05] Are we posting too much on social media? [19:00] Frank used to work on a suicide prevention hotline. How does he deal with all the heaviness? [21:25] Roger used to live at a fraternity house where he couldn't show his true emotional struggles. [26:25] Did you know you could mail potatoes if it has an address on it? [26:40] Frank talks of his least favorite/most haunting postcards. [29:15] What's next for Frank? Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ www.postsecret.com/ [email protected] Frank on TED Mail Frank: 13345 Copper Ridge Rd Germantown, Maryland, 20874 Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Chris Guillebeau is the New York Times bestselling author of The $100 Startup, The Happiness of Pursuit, and other books. On today's show, Chris discuses how you can find your dream job and do work you were meant to do. You can learn more by listening to this podcast and by checking out Chris's book on the subject entitled, Born for This. At the end of the show, Roger mentions that if you're feeling alone in your journey, don't be! Chris has a huge community of people searching for their dream as well, so feel free to visit Chris's website to find out more. Key Takeaways: [0:45] ManTalks has officially launched in Toronto and LA! [3:00] Please keep spreading the word about ManTalks. [5:10] What was Chris's defining moment as a man? [7:10] Why did Chris write The $100 Startup and Born for This? [8:45] Are you dissatisfied with the traditional path? Then Chris's book is for you. [9:55] How can you hack the job of your dreams? [10:25] If you're working for a company, you should think about yourself as leasing your talents to that organization. [11:15] Chris explains the difference between hard skills vs. soft skills. [12:10] Life's too short to hate the work you're doing. [12:20] What are some of the signs that someone is in the wrong job/career/thing? [12:45] You don't need to know your life purpose at age 20. Most people don't even know that at age 30. [13:15] How do you know if you've found your dream job? Well, if you had to ask... [14:50] How do you move closer to what your purpose is and make money? [18:25] Chris dives a little bit into his background. [19:45] We gain confidence through mistakes and trying different things. [20:55] What's the most popular question Chris gets asked at these events? [22:45] Chris dives a little deeper into what he means by 'side hustle'. [24:20] What kind of legacy does Chris wish to leave behind? [25:10] Do you think you're alone in this? Go to Chris's website. Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ www.chrisguillebeau.com/ The $100 Startup by Chris Guillebeau Born for This by Chris Guillebeau Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam Fankuchen is the founder of Golden, a company that makes it easy to volunteer as well as helps non-profits manage their volunteers. Golden now has an app you can download directly to your phone where you can work for a non-profit that is aligned with your mission and purpose. Sam says that 25% of Americans volunteer every year, but the impact could be much greater if there was an easier way to manage the gap between non-profits and volunteers. Find out more about Sam's story in today's episode. Key Takeaways: [0:30] Connor and Roger welcome Sam on to the show, the founder of Golden. [0:35] What is Golden? An app that helps to make volunteering effortless. [2:10] Why is Golden so important? We all want to give back. [2:50] What was a defining moment for Sam? [5:10] Sam explains what Golden is. [6:25] Why would a non-profit need this? [6:45] Staffing is the most costly expense for a non-profit. [8:05] There's only a few core things that help drive our happiness. Volunteering is in that list. [9:15] Why did Sam want to help the volunteering space? [10:55] Volunteering is surprisingly complicated. [12:30] 24-25% of Americans volunteer every year. [13:25] There are tremendous benefits to volunteering. [15:00] How can someone volunteer most effectively? [18:00] What do volunteer coordinators need to do to make sure their volunteers feel valued? [21:40] What's one piece of advice Sam would give to companies who want to be more active in the community? [24:45] What does Sam see in the future for non-profits and charities? [25:50] Sam shares a case study. [29:00] Where does Sam see Golden being in the next five years and how can people help? [32:00] What kind of legacy would Sam like to leave behind? Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ www.goldenvolunteer.com/ Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Greg McKeown is the author of Essentialism and the CEO of THIS Inc., a leadership and strategy design agency located in Silicon Valley. Greg tells the audience that if you want to break through to the next level and contribute more to your life, you must go big on fewer things. If you say yes to everything, you will simply stretch yourself too thin and exhaust yourself. Key Takeaways: [2:55] Don't forget ManTalks is hosting another event! [4:25] What was Greg's defining moment? [7:00] Our failures lead to some of our biggest lessons. [8:10] The only time we really learn is when we have expectation failure. [9:05] True wealth is the ability to be present at any given moment. [9:20] Don't let a defining moment in your life pass you by. [10:00] Are you just too busy living to think about life? [10:30] Greg believes there's only two kinds of people in this world – the people who are lost and the people who know they're lost. [10:50] To be in the second category requires humility, self-awareness, and courage. [11:45] Don't run on auto pilot. [17:15] The first part of the book goes into the mindset of an essentialist. [20:15] How can we accomplish more things that are important to us? [21:05] An essentialist explores their options. [21:55] An essentialist is very aware they have the ability to choose. [26:45] Who really spends years working on a single masterpiece project? [31:15] Our society is very achievement-based and we've been rewired to accomplish it all. [32:00] What's possible when you start practicing the principles of essentialism? [34:05] If you say yes to everything, you cannot contribute to your highest ability. [34:25] If you try to do it all, you'll just do it averagely well. [35:45] When given the choice, people will choose fewer things done better. [38:50] What legacy would Greg like to leave behind in the world? Mentioned in This Episode: www.vancitybuzz.com/ www.mantalks.com/ www.gregmckeown.com/ Essentialism by Greg McKeown Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Brad Lomenick is a strategic advisor and leadership consultant. He has written two books on the subject of leadership, The Catalyst Leader and, his latest book, H3 Leadership. Brad discusses the three big Hs that every leader needs in order to inspire and propel them to the next level. He also not only talks about why millennials are different but offers some compelling advice to anyone who is just beginning their career or journey. Key Takeaways: [0:35] Thank you to our sponsor Vancity Buzz. [2:45] What was Brad's defining moment as a man? [6:30] So many aspects of Brad's story have been built on the shoulders of other people who have helped him. [6:40] What does Brad currently do? [8:00] Brad wants to impact the next generation. [9:10] Brad focuses on building strong leaders. [12:40] What is the secret sauce to creating a movement? [16:45] As soon as you're feeling big, you need to go back to the same thinking you had when you first started. [17:15] How do you influence a millennial? [18:55] Millennials believe they can change the world. They are incredibly positive. [19:25] Millennials have such high expectations that reality can throw them off guard. [20:00] Go find something right now, even if it's not your life calling, and go crush it. [20:15] Be the best you can be with what you're doing today. [22:45] Millennials are the generation with options. [23:45] It doesn't matter how old you are now, it matters what you can do and what you know. [24:30] Brad talks about his latest book, H3 Leadership. [26:30] If you feel like you're a humble leader, then you're probably not. [30:30] Every team knows their leader's flaws. [31:20] You have to lead with your true self. [32:20] Always stay hungry. [34:55] Great leaders are often the most curious. [37:25] What is hustle? [40:45] You have to create a bit of margin in your life in order for you to hustle at the right times. [42:25] Generosity has to be part of your hustle. [43:30] One of the most difficult lessons for leaders is to let go. [44:40] Your job is to replace yourself. [46:50] Brad talks about the young influencers list. [48:45] Brad currently loves what Caitlin Crosby is doing. [51:10] What legacy does Brad wish to leave behind? Mentioned in This Episode: www.vancitybuzz.com/ www.mantalks.com/ www.bradlomenick.com/ The Catalyst Leader by Brad Lomenick H3 Leadership by Brad Lomenick www.thegivingkeys.com Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jonathan Becker founded Thrive Digital, a company dedicated in user acquisition, lead generation, and more. Jonathan is a serial entrepreneur and has a lot of advice to share for others who are looking to break out and thrive on their own. One piece of advice Jonathan gives to other aspiring entrepreneurs is to quit while you're ahead and use your newly learned skills to build something even better. Key Takeaways: [2:50] What was Jonathan's defining moment? [4:45] What does Jonathan currently do? [6:45] Jonathan offers his best online marketing tip for someone who is trying to break into the marketing industry. [11:30] SEO is much more difficult today than it was a couple of years ago. [12:25] Don't invest massive amounts of money on an unproven idea just yet. [12:45] Good businesses are doing something exceptional. [13:45] Jonathan talks about the online porker company he tried to start. [16:25] Jonathan couldn't tell his parents about what he was doing. [19:10] Don't be afraid to quit while you're ahead. [22:50] Jonathan has always wanted to be in business. [23:40] Thrive Digital is the fourth/fifth company Jonathan has started. [27:15] What's the dark side of entrepreneurship? [30:00] Jonathan loves Uber because they're disrupting the industry. [34:25] How can you add value to your team and employees? [38:40] What does success look like on both an entrepreneurial and personal standpoint? [40:45] What legacy does Jonathan want to leave? [41:25] What's Jonathan most excited about? Mentioned in This Episode: www.vancitybuzz.com/ www.mantalks.com/ www.thrivedigital.co/ www.twitter.com/jzbecker www.linkedin.com/in/jonathanzbecker Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lee Eisenberg was the editor-in-chief of Esquire magazine for two decades. In 1995, he joined Time Inc. as a consulting editor and helped launch a series of new initiatives such as Time.com, Time for Kids, and The Time 100. In 2006, he published The Number, which became a national bestseller. Today, Lee talks to Connor and Roger about his latest book, The Point Is, and why having a personal narrative is so important for our life journey. Key Takeaways: [0:30] As of today, we're in Toronto, L.A, and Vancouver. [0:35] If you're in any of those cities, come out to our event. [2:55] What was a defining moment for Lee as a man? [4:25] How do we really build a life story for ourselves? [5:00] Why did Lee write The Point Is? [7:15] Why do we endure certain memories and re-write others? [8:50] Personal narrative requires a lot of self-reflection. [9:00] Were there any commonalities in how people saw themselves? [10:35] Lee has only kept a diary once in his life. [12:20] When you record events in real time, you really don't know what they'll stand for later. [12:50] Virtually no one is keeping a diary. [16:25] Lee is a bit cynical about talk therapy; however, it can help reexamine past traumas and bad memories and help you rewrite your life story. [17:35] Most people feel like they're not using their creative channel efficiency. [18:45] It's important to uncover your story as well as share your story. [20:10] You don't necessarily tell your story to others, but at the very least tell your story to yourself. [20:20] Why do we remember certain things so strongly and why do we attach so much importance to certain things? [20:55] How can people dive into their personal story a bit more? [22:25] We create personal myths for ourselves. What is your personal myth? [23:30] What novel genre would your life story be? [27:50] The power of narrative is why we can go through life and make some sense of it. [28:55] Do people get their personal narrative mixed up with other people's view of them? [30:25] What legacy would Lee like to leave behind? Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ www.leeeisenberg.com/ The Number by Lee Eisenberg The Point Is by Lee Eisenberg Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tim Urban is the creator and blogger of Wait but Why, a website that is anti-click bait and extremely informative. Tim originally started his website on a bet because he knew deep down that other people, too, craved for meaningful and substantial content on the web. The idea worked! Not only does his content go viral, but he was able to get the attention of people like Elon Musk, and more. Key Takeaways: [2:35] What was Tim's defining moment? [5:40] Those who have a fall back plan, fall back but that didn't apply to Tim. [6:10] Even though Tim had a fall back plan, he was still very desperate to achieve his creative dream. [6:20] You need to have a runway, a game plan that you're able to carry out in a certain amount of time, but it also has to be realistic. [6:55] Some people work best when they burn their other options, others do not. [7:15] Why did Tim create Wait but Why? [11:20] Tim had an advantage where he could work 60 hours a week focusing on nothing but blogging. [11:45] Connor never read blogs until he stumbled upon Tim's blog. [13:45] Tim knew he didn't have a staff, so he had to find a way to work with his strengths instead. [14:50] Tim shares his one piece of advice for any endeavor. [15:45] What makes Elon Musk so unique? [17:35] Don't be the cook that copies the recipe, be the chef who creates them. [18:45] How does Tim get over the 'no one is going to read this' fear? [19:35] Trust yourself. You can be great. [21:15] What was it like to prepare for the Ted Talk? [24:55] What was it like to meet Elon Musk? [27:20] Get ready for a series of rapid fire questions. [27:25] Why did Tim visit North Korea? [27:40] What does curiosity mean to Tim? [28:10] What was Donald Trump like in person? [28:30] What legacy would Tim like to leave behind? [29:40] What is Tim most excited about? Mentioned in This Episode: www.mantalks.com/ www.waitbutwhy.com/ www.waitbutwhy.com/2015/11/the-cook-and-the-chef-musks-secret-sauce.html Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shea Emry is a former Canadian football player who played eight seasons in the CFL. When Shea experienced a serious concussion back in 2011, he struggled with depression and was left feeling unsure about who he was outside of being a pro-athlete. He has since taken the journey to rediscover who he is as a person and is a huge advocate on redefining masculinity. His mission is to break down social stereotypes on the definition of hyper-masculinity and to help support and guide young male youth. Key Takeaways: [0:55] ManTalks is moving to Toronto! [4:15] What was Shea's defining moment? [5:50] Shea had an incredibly bad concussion in 2011 and has battled back and forth between retirement, ever since. [6:50] It was hard for Shea to walk away from sports because he identified so strongly as an athlete. [7:30] What was it like to be a pro-athlete? [10:25] How did Shea get into pro sports? [12:15] Shea talks about his concussion and how he recovered from it. [19:10] How can parents, spouse, or friends help support someone suffering from a concussion? [21:30] Are you currently having an identity crisis? You'll want to listen in to hear how to overcome it. [22:45] It gets easier with time. You will find yourself again. [23:00] What's Shea's purpose? To challenge hyper-masculine stereotypes. [23:15] What does hyper-masculinity mean to Shea? [25:35] Shea briefly talks on the three organizations he's currently a part of and what they stand for. [32:50] Shea wants male youth to feel comfortable with expressing themselves. [33:45] How does Shea support the women in his life? [34:35] There needs to be a communicative environment in order to lend a hand and support the women in a man's life. [35:00] Shea supports his wife by putting his phone down and listening to what she is saying. [35:45] One of the most masculine things we can do is just be present. [38:40] What legacy would Shea like to leave behind? [41:35] Save the date! April 18th ManTalks will be live from Toronto. Mentioned in This Episode: http://www.vancitybuzz.com/ http://mantalks.com/ http://tedxtalks.ted.com/video/An-Adventure-Within-How-to-Beco https://twitter.com/sheaemry http://wellmen.org/ Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com – lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Clint Emerson is a retired Navy SEAL and the author of 100 Deadly Skills. In his book, Clint shares how you can be an overall badass and detect threats from people who are armed. You will learn how to escape a locked trunk, evade a kidnapping, and so much more in Clint's book. Clint talks on what must-have items you should keep in your car at all times and how to detect someone trying to follow or stalk you, in today's show. Key Takeaways: [2:55] Clint shares one of the more intense stories he has experienced while he was a navy SEAL. [6:45] Why did Clint want to be a SEAL? [8:45] What kind of tests did Clint have to go through? [17:35] What is the 100 Deadly Skills book about? [20:35] You can put a razor in the sole of your shoes and use it to get out of some handcuffs. [21:55] Key things to look out for in a bad guy? [25:35] What are some of the key things for infiltration? [31:35] What should people carry in their vehicle? [33:15] How do you build your own compass? [39:20] What were some of the things Clint had to do during his initiation into the SEALs? [41:40] What should you know about surveillance? [43:10] Clint talks about night vision. [44:55] In order to pick a lock, you need to understand how a lock works. [48:20] What's life like after the Navy SEALs? [50:30] What are some of the biggest challenges Clint has faced now that he is out? [53:35] What legacy would Clint like to leave behind? [54:50] Clint is working on book number two, so look out for that in the future. Mentioned in This Episode: 100 Deadly Skills by Clint Emerson https://100deadlyskills.com/optin https://twitter.com/100deadlyskills Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com – lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oren Klaff has raised over $400 million of investor capital from high net-worth individuals and financial institutions. He is also the author of Pitch Anything, and he teaches others on how they can get the competitive edge in any negotiation scenario. Oren talks about how you can frame a negotiation to your advantage and how to get a buyer's interest in 150 words or less. Key Takeaways: [2:20] What was Oren's defining moment as a man? [3:30] How did Oren discover that monogamy was what he wanted? [5:05] What does Oren do? [6:20] What's Oren's book, Pitch Anything, about? [7:40] The strength of your status and quality of your presentation = the amount of attention you get. [8:30] Nobody is going to listen to you for 3 hours. People are busy. [8:50] Pitch Anything is about how to raise your status so people will pay attention to you. [11:00] The human mind is built to protect you in social situations. [11:35] It's natural to act nice in high-risk situations to lower tensions, but it hurts you in negotiations. [13:00] It can only go two ways. Either you're superior or the buyer is superior in terms of status. [13:15] Most buyers assume they're superior due to them holding the money. [13:40] Reframe the meeting so that the buyer has to earn your attention. [15:25] Trying to get a raise at your job? Listen to Oren's advice here. [17:40] How do you sell the story? [20:55] NPR knows how to tell a story, Fox News doesn't. [24:10] Oren shares two of his 150 word pitches. [29:35] Look out for Oren's second book coming out soon. [31:45] What legacy would Oren like to leave behind? Quotes: “Your strength of your status and quality of your presentation = the amount of attention you get.” “The buyer is the commodity, not you. Money is the commodity, not you. The buyer has to earn your attention.” “If you do something of value that will stand the sands of time, that’s a good legacy.” Mentioned in This Episode: http://www.vancitybuzz.com/ http://mantalks.com/ http://pitchanything.com/ http://pitchanything.com/mantalks Pitch Anything by Oren Klaff Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com – lateniteautomatic.com) za2mxqz4See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

UJ Ramdas is a passionate entrepreneur who incorporates practical psychology into easy-to-use products. He is the creator of The Five Minute Journal and The Productivity Planner. UJ explains why he and his team created The Five Minute Journal and The Productivity Planner and also shares why gratitude can make you a more successful person. Key Takeaways: [2:00] What was UJ's defining moment? [3:45] What does UJ do? [6:30] Why did UJ want to study behavioral science? [9:30] You use business as a vehicle to help create a bigger impact in the world. [10:10] UJ explains the difference between the conscious mind and the unconscious mind. [13:55] Why would you want to use The Five Minute Journal? [15:55] Why does The Five Minute Journal work? [20:30] Why should you journal? Every journal has a purpose. [23:55] What is the Productivity Planner about? [29:45] What's UJ most excited about in the upcoming months? [31:30] So many people want to be productive, but they don't know how to measure it. [32:05] What legacy would UJ like to leave behind? Quotes: A business is a creative vehicle for the impact that you want to have in the world. A lot of the time, we bite off more than we can chew on a daily basis. Injecting more awareness into your daily task flow is going to help you. Mentioned in This Episode: http://www.vancitybuzz.com/ http://www.ujramdas.com/ www.fiveminutejournal.com/ http://www.productivityplanner.com/ Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman http://www.intelligentchange.com/ Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com– lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mark Brand opened his first restaurant in 2007 and went on to restore Save On Meats, a butcher shop founded in 1957. Save On Meats is not like any other butcher shop or lunch counter, because Mark has created a sustainable business model that serves the community. Mark states that by creating a business that stands for something, not only does that help the community as a whole, but he has seen fewer turnovers from his staff because they also believe in the bigger picture. Key Takeaways: [1:45] Thank you Vancity Buzz for sponsoring us! [2:45] What was Mark's defining moment? [6:55] How did Mark get started in the hospitality industry? [9:20] Mark had an addiction problem, but he decided that wasn't going to be his story. [10:10] Mark opened his restaurant in a bad neighborhood and everybody told him it was a bad idea. [15:25] Mark talks about the reality show he was a part of. [18:10] Save on Meats isn't just a restaurant; it has a big social component too. [21:45] What's one piece of advice Mark can share with those who are looking to start a non-profit? [25:40] Mark has created a model where people can see how their dollar impacts others. [30:55] What are some of Mark's core values? [32:35] How does Mark define success? [34:55] Mark shares a few statistics. [36:45] Why should business owners care about the bottom line? Because it's the right thing to do! [38:40] Millennials are looking for purpose-based businesses. [39:30] Where does Mark see himself in ten years? [41:30] Mark talks about the kind of legacy he would like to leave behind. Mentioned in This Episode: http://www.vancitybuzz.com/ http://mantalks.com/ http://www.markbrandinc.com/ http://saveonmeats.ca/ Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com– lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lewis Howes is a lifestyle entrepreneur, business coach, author, and podcaster. He is also a contributing writer for Entrepreneur magazine and Yahoo.com, and has been featured in Forbes, Men's Health, and The New York Times. Lewis shares with us why he has such a passion for greatness and how being a pro athlete has made him not only a better entrepreneur, but a better person as well. Key Takeaways: [1:30] ManTalks is hosting an event on April 9th, 2016. [2:25] What was Lewis's defining moment? [3:25] How did Lewis take his power back? [4:50] Ask your friends where your blind spots are. [6:40] The greatest leaders in the world learn how to connect in intimate and vulnerable ways. [8:25] Where did Lewis's passion for greatness come from? [13:05] Lewis talks about the 'seasons' in his life. [15:10] What lessons did Lewis learn when he was a pro athlete? [17:45] What does a champion's mindset look like? [19:30] Your results are your credentials. [19:50] Belief carries you to the championships. [21:55] What does hustle mean to Lewis? [28:20] What does Lewis plan to talk about at the ManTalks event? He gives us a teaser. [29:55] Lewis talks about what he's excited about these days. [30:25] You get a free copy of Lewis's book if you join the ManTalks event. Mentioned in This Episode: http://www.vancitybuzz.com/ http://mantalks.com/ http://lewishowes.com School of Greatness by Lewis Howes Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com – lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stephen Mansfield is a bestselling author and a leadership coach. Stephen has written a number of books including The Faith of George W. Bush, Killing Jesus, and Mansfield's Book Of Manly Men; which has inspired men's events worldwide. He is currently working on a new book to help accompany Mansfield's Book Of Manly Men titled Building Your Band of Brothers, and sheds some light on how men can build better relationships with other men. Key Takeaways: [1:40] Thank you Vancity Buzz for being a sponsor! [2:15] What was a defining moment for Stephen. [5:10] What is manhood? [7:15] What kind of values should a man look for? [7:55] Take responsibility for your actions. [9:25] Men in the Western world are mostly walking alone. [12:20] How can men become more vulnerable amongst each other? [14:55] Stephen shares a story on how his band of brothers has helped him. [18:15] How can you build accountability and responsibility within a group? [23:15] What kind of guys should you surround yourself with? [26:40] Should you have boundaries with your band of brothers? [29:10] What other virtues are important aside from responsibility? [32:15] Stephen talks about his mentors and key influences in his life. [34:45] Stephen tells us about his new book, Building Your Band of Brothers. [35:45] Military men often do not have a support system due to their constant traveling. [39:05] What kind of challenges or pitfalls do men face? [42:45] What kind of legacy would Stephen like to leave behind? Mentioned in This Episode: http://www.vancitybuzz.com/ Mansfield's Book of Manly Men by Stephen Mansfield Building Your Band of Brothers by Stephen Mansfield http://stephenmansfield.tv/ Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com – lateniteautomatic.com) https://twitter.com/MansfieldWritesSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Chris Bailey has conducted countless productivity experiments on himself and has interviewed several successful CEOs and business professionals on the subject of productivity. He has condensed everything he has learned into a 300 page book titled The Productivity Project. Listen to this interview to find out what productivity is -really- about and how you can use it to your full potential. Key Takeaways: [2:03] Thank you Vancity Buzz for sponsoring the podcast! [4:03] What was Chris's defining moment? [5:38] Who is Chris? [6:58] Why is Chris interested in productivity? [8:18] How did Chris find the courage to start The Productivity Project? [9:23] Follow your passion now. The time is now. [10:58] Measuring and defining productivity was difficult for Chris. [12:23] Productivity isn't about how much we produce; it's about how much we accomplish. [13:18] Productivity is a combination of balancing time, attention, and energy. [14:03] Has Chris met the most productive person in the world yet? [14:58] The most productive people, ironically, teach meditation and mindfulness. [18:58] Being in a flow state of mind is a combination of productivity and energy. [19:33] Work on one thing at one time. [22:58] How can people start being productive? [28:33] What does Chris mean by 'striving for imperfection'? [31:13] What does success look like to Chris? [35:03] How can you get yourself back on track when you stop becoming productive? [39:58] What's the difference between men vs. woman on productivity? [43:13] What is Chris most excited about these days? [44:13] What kind of legacy would Chris like to leave behind? Mentioned in This Episode: The Productivity Project by Chris Bailey http://alifeofproductivity.com/ Getting Things Done with David Allen I Know How She Does It by Laura Vanderkam Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com– lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dan Millman is a former world champion athlete and the author of several books including: Way of the Peaceful Warrior, The Life You Were Born to Live, and many more. Dan talks about his latest book, The Four Purposes of Life, and what it really means to 'live a life of purpose'. Key Takeaways: [0:30] Thanks to our sponsor Vancity Buzz. [0:45] What's cool in Vancouver that people should check out? [2:15] What was a defining moment for Dan Millman. [5:55] Dan talks about his book, The Four Purposes of Life. [7:30] Dan briefly explains the four purposes in life. [8:40] How can we accomplish these four purposes? [9:10] Why does Dan write books? [10:00] It's impossible to fail at anything as long as we learn a lesson from it. [10:35] What is personal growth? Dan explains the 12 concepts. [13:15] 'What am I here to do?' [15:05] Our career's primary focus is to provide an income for us. [16:20] You don't have to love your work all the time. [17:10] How can you discover your calling? [20:15] Choosing a career people should do vs. want to do. [22:25] How can we find our life's path? [25:30] What does Dan mean when he says there's no such thing as a future decision? [30:05] We make a decision when we act, not when we think. [31:40] What does success look like to Dan? [34:35] What legacy would Dan like to leave behind? Mentioned in This Episode: http://www.vancitybuzz.com/ http://www.peacefulwarrior.com/ The Four Purposes of Life by Dan Millman. Way of the Peaceful Warrior by Dan Millman. The Life You Were Born to Live by Dan Millman. http://www.lifepurposeapp.com/ http://www.peacefulwarrior.com/ Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com – lateniteautomatic.com) * * * If you want to support the show and help others find the show please LEAVE US AN ITUNES REVIEW! http://bit.ly/22HyGqv Connect with the show on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ManTalks.ca/ , Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mantalks/ and Twitter: https://twitter.com/mantalks. * * *See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Zander is a writing coach and a ghost writer. He helps his clients bring out their best stories to better serve and help their audience. Zander speaks on how someone can discover their own story, refine it, and write it in a way that benefits others. Zander is also a father of two and talks about the kind of legacy he wants to leave behind. Key Takeaways: [1:30] Please help us out by reviewing us on iTunes. [2:20] What does Zander do? [4:00] What is a ghost writer? [8:10] How can someone refine their own story? [15:35] Ask yourself: What were your defining moments last year? [17:30] What happened in your life that really shifted/changed you? [20:30] Take small steps. Start a journal. [24:25] The way you tell your story needs to help the reader. [29:00] How does Zander define success? [34:25] Don't visualize it, do it! [40:00] Zander recommends The War of Art by Steven Pressfield [47:30] What kind of challenges do men face today? [50:05] Zander loves being a dad, but it's also the hardest thing to do. [53:40] If Zander could leave one legacy in the world, what would it be? Mentioned in This Episode: http://zanderrobertson.com/ The Truth by Neil Strauss The War of Art by Steven Pressfield Gates of Fire by Steven Pressfield Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com – lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

John Lee Dumas is the host and founder of Entrepreneur on Fire. He produces a podcast 7 days a week and his business podcast has been awarded Best of iTunes. John talks about his new product launch, The Freedom Journal, which focuses on achieving your goals in the next 100 days. Key Takeaways: [2:10] What is John's favorite part about being a man? [2:40] Who is John? [4:30] What is The Freedom Journal about? [6:30] Check out The Freedom Journal’s KickStarter campaign. [7:15] At the time of the recording, John's campaign had 1,932 backers. [8:00] John is a big believer in F.O.C.U.S. [8:50] John breaks down how the program is planned out. [10:45] Focus on one goal at a time. [11:40] What was John's #1 challenge? [13:00] John's business has grown to 7 figures. [13:50] Goal setting isn't a solo task. You need a strong support system. [13:55] Who are John's mentors? [15:30] How did John come up with the idea to host a podcast 7 days a week? [18:10] What does success look like to John? [20:45] How do you know you're on the right track? [21:45] Be authentic with yourself. [22:50] John recommends The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson. [24:45] Why did John choose 100 days to achieve a goal? [26:45] Every time John hits a funding goal in KickStarter, he will donate $25k to build a school in a developing country. Mentioned in This Episode: http://www.eofire.com/ http://www.eofire.com/tfjoptin/ https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/eofire/the-freedom-journal-accomplish-your-1-goal-in-100 http://eventualmillionaire.com/ http://podcastanswerman.com/ The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com– lateniteautomatic.com) * * * If want to support the show and help others find the show please LEAVE US AN ITUNES REVIEW! http://bit.ly/22HyGqv Connect with the show on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ManTalks.ca/ , Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mantalks/ and Twitter: https://twitter.com/man_talks. * * * See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Calvin Newport is an Assistant Professor of Computer Science at Georgetown University and has authored four books. Cal's latest book, Deep Work, touches on the ability to focus intently on cognitively demanding tasks without distractions. Cal explains how we can use different methods to develop this deep work skill in order to become our most productive selves. Key Takeaways: [2:10] What does Cal do? [3:35] Cal talks about his latest book, Deep Work. [4:25] How does Cal personally use 'deep work'? [7:45] What's the difference between deep work and state of flow or focus? [9:05] Deep work is a skill. You have to practice deep work to get better at it. [10:55] Chronic multi-taskers have lost their ability to completely focus 100% on a single task. [12:20] How does Cal get into a deep work state? [14:10] Cal shuts down his professional thinking in the evening. [15:45] What kind of agreements does Cal have with his wife? [19:10] Having a ritual or a routine helps you get into the right mental state. [21:05] Cal briefly touches on four rules that can help with your habits. [25:10] What kind of challenges does Cal face? [28:50] What does Cal mean by embrace boredom? [31:30] What is deep work versus what is not deep work? [33:25] How can someone apply deep work in an office setting? [38:00] How can managers effectively teach deep work in an office setting? [39:30] Why does Cal write books? [40:20] What drives Cal? [41:50] What's the best advice Cal has received? [43:45] What kind of legacy would Cal like to leave behind? [44:10] What does it mean to be a man today? Mentioned in This Episode: http://mantalks.com/ So Good They Can't Ignore You by Cal Newport. Deep Work by Cal Newport. Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com– lateniteautomatic.com) * * * If want to support the show and help others find the show please LEAVE US AN ITUNES REVIEW! http://bit.ly/22HyGqv Connect with the show on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ManTalks.ca/ , Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mantalks/ and Twitter: https://twitter.com/man_talks. * * * See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Paul Davidescu is the co-founder of Tangoo Entertainment Inc. Tangoo is both a web and mobile app that takes moods, occasion, and social graph, to craft the perfect outing of restaurants and venues tailored to social contexts. The app has also been featured on Global TV, CTV, and the Dragons' Den. Paul talks to the guys on the subject of setting authentic goals for yourself and how you can bring value to others. Paul is also the ManTalks ‘Man of the Week’ – which you can read all about here. Key Takeaways: [2:35] What does Paul do? [4:55] How did Paul get started as an entrepreneur? [7:10] What are the key things you need to become a successful entrepreneur? [11:00] How can you bring people together in memorable ways? [13:50] Validate that what you think is a problem, is indeed a real problem for others. [15:10] Paul has never really set goals before. [16:00] Some people need goals, whereas others don't. [19:40] Paul shares on how he discovered a reliable way for him to set and stick to his goals. [24:30] How do you plan goals ten years ahead? [27:25] Sometimes plans change, so have a vision and set 1 – 5 year goals. [29:55] Very strict goals can be counteractive. [36:15] How do you show up for your team? [40:05] Say no to people who won't bring you value. [41:55] Paul talks on how you can bring value to other people. [54:30] It's a big mistake trying to withhold your great idea. [56:10] What does it mean, for Paul, to be a man today? [1:01:20] What kind of legacy would Paul like to leave behind? [1:03:55] What is Paul excited for in the upcoming months and the new year? Mentioned In This Episode: http://mantalks.com/ https://tangoo.ca/ The Lean Startup by Eric Ries Bold by Peter Diamandis and Steven Kotler * * * If want to support the show and help others find the show please LEAVE US AN ITUNES REVIEW! http://bit.ly/22HyGqv Connect with the show on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ManTalks.ca/ , Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mantalks/ and Twitter: https://twitter.com/man_talks. * * * See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Roger and Connor catch up on their year with ManTalks and talk about why every man should do a reflection on the year past. Connor recommends a couple of key questions the audience can ask themselves to provide better insight on how their year went. Roger and Connor also talk about their goals with ManTalks, as well as their personal goals for the New Year. Key Takeaways: [0:35] For this episode, Roger and Connor will be reflecting on their year. [2:15] Get rid of programs and phone apps that aren't serving you. [2:55] Why is reflection important? [3:45] What is Connor’s process of reflection? [9:15] Where do you thrive the most? [10:05] Where have you struggled the most? Reflect on this so that you don't fall into the same trap. [12:25] High achievers carry a lot of guilt when they don't accomplish their year-end goals. [13:40] Roger plans to color more in 2016. [14:20] Why do you have the goals that you have? Is it just for ego? [16:00] Who are the people in your life that you're thankful for? [18:15] You don't have to stop life just because you're going into a new year. [20:20] Connor has flexible goals. [24:50] What can people look forward to from ManTalks in 2016? [27:20] Feel free to email us guest recommendations. [28:40] Roger recommends Think and Grow Rich to develop a healthy goal mindset. [29:35] What will it cost you to achieve your goal and are you willing to pay the price? [30:25] Be honest with yourself. [31:00] What will your vision statement for 2016 be? [32:45] Take the next week off to reflect on your year. Mentioned In This Episode: http://mantalks.com/ https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/school-greatness-lewis-howes/id596047499?mt=2 The School of Greatness by Lewis Howes [email protected] https://twitter.com/man_talks https://www.facebook.com/ManTalks.ca/ Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com– lateniteautomatic.com) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There is no quick fix for anxiety, which is why Tim JP Collins is the host of The Anxiety Podcast. He is also a life coach and provides peer support about anxiety using his own personal experiences. He talks to Connor and Roger on the topic of anxiety, how to cope with it, and why it's such a passionate topic for him. Key Takeaways: [1:20] Why did Tim become a life coach? [9:30] What is anxiety? [12:00] Can anxiety be 'cured'? [16:50] Stress vs. anxiety? [22:45] Humans have a natural negative bias. [24:25] How can men handle sexual performance anxiety? [26:45] What's Tim's coaching process like? [36:10] Everybody struggles with something. You're not alone. [40:10] Tim talks about his podcast. [42:50] What does it mean to be a man today? [44:40] A man will have the tough and uncomfortable conversations. A boy will not want to talk about it. [46:00] What's Tim's definition of success? [50:45] 70% of CEOs don't have MBAs. [51:10] What kind of legacy would Tim like to leave behind? Mentioned In This Episode: http://www.timjpcollins.com/ http://www.timjpcollins.com/podcast Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com– lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ryan Michler is the founder of Order of Man, a website designed to help men succeed in business, family, and everything in between. Ryan was inspired to create this valuable resource for men, because he grew up without a strong father figure in his life. Ryan talks to both Connor and Roger on what it was like growing up with unreliable step-fathers, men's desire to be constantly challenged, and why the military's structure can sometimes be a good thing. Key Takeaways: [1:00] What does Ryan do? [1:35] Ryan never had a male role model growing up. [3:55] Why has the father figure become more and more absent in young boys' lives? [5:10] What's the biggest challenge for a man today? [7:25] In order to grow, men need to be challenged. [9:45] When did Ryan realize something was missing in his life? [11:20] You become a man when you accept personal accountability and responsibility for your own life. [14:20] Ryan talks about the military. [16:45] Exercise and reflection are the two most important elements every man should incorporate. [18:40] Your decisions are going to carry over into other aspects of your life. [20:50] Number one book: Resilience by Eric Greitens [25:10] Ryan talks on why he started his podcast. [27:40] Who are Ryan's mentors? [30:20] What are Ryan's core beliefs? [36:50] Have clarity for what you want to do or else you'll fill your life with miscellaneous stuff. [39:00] Listen to your gut. [40:30] What legacy would Ryan like to leave? Mentioned in This Episode: http://www.orderofman.com/ http://mantalks.com/ [email protected] The One Thing by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan Resilience by Eric Greitens http://www.artofmanliness.com/ http://michaelhyatt.com/ Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com– lateniteautomatic.com) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jayson Gaignard is the founder and talent scout for MastermindTalks.com. He has had incredible guests like Tim Ferriss, Guy Kawasaki, and Lewis Howes deliver inspirational and motivational talks at his event. Jayson talks on the importance of creating meaningful connections and relationships with others, as well as shares a bit of his life story on how he was able to get out of massive amounts of debt. Key Takeaways: [1:40] ManTalks is still looking for a social media expert. [2:40] How did Jayson get started? [4:50] How did Jayson get into debt? [7:00] With very little money, Jayson doubled down and started investing in himself. [10:15] The integrity of your word is very important. [12:45] Jayson became successful because he took risks. [14:25] Who taught Jayson that making connections is important? [19:45] Are you surrounding yourself with the right people? [20:05] How did Jayson turn his life around? [23:55] Think about the worst case scenario all the time. [25:35] Why is networking important to men? [29:45] How can you develop better connections with others? [31:25] Do your research on how you can deliver value to others. [34:00] Connor does a quick recap. [36:20] Relationships are sometimes like a bank account that you want to always keep investing in. [40:30] When you play for the applause, you put your happiness in the hands of somebody else. [41:50] How does Jayson make sure the people attending his event are of high value? [48:00] Community is incredibly important for creating a great product. [49:05] Jayson recommends several books. [50:35] What does it mean to be a man these days? [53:20] What legacy would Jayson like to leave behind? [55:20] Jayson talks about the exciting things happening in his life right now. Mentioned in This Episode: http://mantalks.com/ [email protected] http://www.mastermindtalks.com/ Never Eat Alone by Tahl Raz Seeking Wisdom by Peter Bevelin Four Hour Week Work by Tim Ferriss Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com– lateniteautomatic.com)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

JuVan Langford is a YouTube Influencer and the founder of Mentors Making Major Moves Inc.; a non-profit organization that introduces foster youth to inspiring mentors from all walks of life. JuVan lost his father to leukemia at a young age and lived in foster care. JuVan shares his story on what it was like growing up without a father, what it means to be a man, and shares so much more insight on the subject of masculinity. Key Takeaways: [01:40] What does Juvan do? [03:15] Juvan was raised in a foster home. [04:00] How has not having a father impacted Juvan? [09:55] What is the best part of being a man? [16:25] Sometimes just showing up is enough. You don't always have to -do- something. [20:50] What are Juvan's core beliefs? [22:00] Juvan talks about Mentors Making Major Moves [24:50] What inspires Juvan? [27:00] What does it mean to be a man? JuVan explains the AIM acronym. [29:30] Integrity is about being real with yourself. [31:05] Our greatest shame shows up in every aspect of our life. You have to control it. [32:25] Take risks! [33:45] JuVan talks about his mentor, Michael Gates. [36:45] What legacy would JuVan like to leave behind? [38:00] What's JuVan excited about these days? Mentioned In This Episode: http://mantalks.com/ [email protected] https://www.youtube.com/user/themrjlangford http://www.mxfour.org/ Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com– lateniteautomatic.com) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Graham Young was sick and tired of the same impractical advice in the self-help industry, so he decided to disrupt it by creating the 'Disruptive Performance Coaching' method. He helps people by using a practical and science-based approach to their personal development. His main goal is to give people the freedom to control their lives. Graham talks on our fear of introspection, his definition of success, and so much more. Key Takeaways: [0:20] Roger is flying solo as Connor prepares for the ManTalks one day event. [1:00] Who is Graham Young? [3:15] Graham wasn't happy with the self-help material out there. [4:20] Graham talks about his mom and mentor passing away. [7:15] What's Graham's process when working with a new client? [10:00] Why do men fear introspection? [14:20] What is the definition of a coach? [16:25] Graham shares a client success story. [21:10] Our brain is hardwired to be negative. [22:35] What's Graham's definition of success? [26:40] Graham talks about Marc Benioff [31:22] What's Graham's core beliefs? [36:35] Graham talks further about his mentor who committed suicide. [39:30] What does it mean to be a modern day man? [43:20] What is Graham most excited about today? Mentioned In This Episode: [email protected] http://mantalks.com/ https://www.gystrategies.com/ Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com– lateniteautomatic.com) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Dai Manuel's parents were going through a divorce, he found solace in food. By the time Dai was 14-years-old he weighted nearly 200lbs and decided enough was enough. This defining moment made Dai realize that he was the only person who was in complete control of himself. Now at the age of 38 going on 39, it's Dai's passion to empower others and help them develop a healthy, more active lifestyle. Key Takeaways: [0:35] ManTalks is hiring! [1:10] ManTalks is coming to Toronto next year. [2:35] How does Dai wake up at 5am everyday? [4:55] Why fitness? [7:45] How did Dai get his start in the fitness industry? [12:40] Connor's mentor was 81-years-old. [13:40] What's Dai's definition of passion? [18:00] Make a plan and then work towards it. [18:25] Dai became an accidental blogger. [20:55] Dai explains his goal setting process. [25:00] What are the key things around health and fitness? [31:00] Remember we have a full one day event on Nov 7th! [34:30] Connor likes to watch anime and workout. [39:00] Community is key to keeping you on track. [40:00] What does Dai do when he gets off course? [43:30] Best advice Dai has ever received? [47:20] What does it mean to be a man today? [50:15] Best part about being a man? [55:30] Where did the nickname 'Moose' come from? [58:15] Dai will be having a weekly periscope session with his followers. [1:00:00] Thank you for listening and please subscribe/review on iTunes! Mentioned In This Episode: [email protected] http://mantalks.com/ http://www.daimanuel.com/ Double Double by Cameron Herold. http://www.wholelifefitnessmanifesto.com/ Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com– lateniteautomatic.com) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Todd Henry is the host of The Accidental Creative podcast and the author of three books, The Accidental Creative, Die Empty, and Louder Than Words. Todd's mission is to help others discover their authentic voice. Todd talks on how to find your true identity, define the kind of freedom you want, and to disrupt your patterns. Key Takeaways: [0:45] Connor talks about their exciting new partner/sponsor. [2:30] What does Todd do? [3:20] Why does Todd do what he does? [5:50] What does an authentic voice really mean? [8:00] What does freedom look like for you? [9:50] Don't just drift through your days, stop and notice the patterns. [10:20] Todd describes why you should write your manifesto. [12:50] Pay close attention to your patterns. [15:50] Todd talks about vulnerability. [19:15] It's almost easier to do it alone, but that doesn't scale. [20:15] ManTalks will be hosting a one day event on Nov 7th. [24:10] We depend on others. [26:40] Why is Donald Trump resonating with the crowd? [30:35] We can tell when someone is being authentic or not. [32:00] What's Todd most excited about right now? Mentioned In This Episode: http://www.toddhenry.com/ http://www.vancitybuzz.com/ http://mantalks.com/ http://www.toddhenry.com/collective Music Credit: Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com– lateniteautomatic.com) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Brian Scudamore is the founder of 1-800-Got-Junk?, a franchise that operates in 180 locations in Canada, the United States, and Australia. Brian talks to Connor on why he dropped out of college and how he went from a small business to a large franchise. Brian tells the audience that he has a very slow hiring process, because he really wants to know he's got the right people for his company on staff. Key Takeaways: [0:25] Connor introduces Brian. [2:20] How did 1-800-Got-Junk? started? [5:20] What kind of challenges did Brian face? [6:30] What was Brian like as a kid? [9:00] How did Brian go from a small business to a big franchise? [12:00] Brian was slow to hire and quick to fire to make sure he really had the best person. [16:15] You have a socially responsibility to give back. [17:40] What's Brian's definition of success? Mentioned In This Episode: www.1800gotjunk.com/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Adam Nagy and Julian DeSchutter are the co-founders of Chasing Sunrise, a community designed to empower members to chase after what they want and to break out of the unconscious routine. Adam and Julian speak on their failures, their mentors, core lessons they try to teach in the Chasing Sunrise community, and what kind of legacy they'd both like to leave behind. Key Takeaways: [1:30] Who is Adam? [2:35] Who is Julian? [5:40] How did Chasing Sunrise start? [9:50] Make conscious choices that aligns with who you are. [11:30] What has the response been like for Chasing Sunrise? [14:55] How do you build a thriving and self-sustainable community? [20:00] Who are Adam's and Julian's mentors? [24:35] What core lessons has the Chasing Sunrise community learned? [29:15] ManTalks will be hosting a one day event. Save the date! Nov 7th. [35:00] What kind of challenges have Adam and Julian seen people overcome? [39:30] Favorite part of being a man? Brotherhood and leadership. [42:15] Brotherhood is an integral part of being a man. [43:35] The guys talk about failure. [49:40] Connor shares one of his failures. [52:30] Take a step back from your failure and ask yourself, “What's the bigger picture?” [55:15] What kind of legacy would the guys like to leave? [57:30] We're afraid to say 'I don't know'. [58:55] What are the guys excited about today? Mentioned In This Episode: http://chasingsunri.se/ https://instagram.com/chasingsunrise/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices