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In this season opener, Ellen sits down with Bill Storm — Peak Performance Strategist and veteran of both the Tony Robbins organization and the John Maxwell Leadership Team — for a candid conversation about what really happens to your relationship when you're deep in the work of building a company. Bill opens up about his own 25-year marriage, and the conversation gets real—fast!Part 1: The Blind Spot Business owners are wired for optimism. It's what makes us great at building companies — and it's exactly what makes us miss the warning signs in our relationships. Ellen and Bill talk about the pattern they both see constantly: the erosion that happens while you're heads-down in the business, right up until it's not okay anymore.Part 2: How Do I Even Start? One question Ellen hears a lot from married business owners is not "how do I fix my relationship" — it's "how do I even begin that conversation?" Bill asks it too. Ellen walks him through a simple, business-minded approach to opening that dialogue with your spouse — without it turning into a fight.Part 3: The Relationship SWOT Ellen introduces the first step of the 5-Step Relationship Operating System — a SWOT analysis for your relationship. Strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats. Bill uses his own marriage as the live example, and the result is one of the most honest and relatable conversations you'll hear about what it's really like to be married and building a business at the same time.Key Takeaways:You can't just hang in and hope things work out — relationships need a plan just like your business doesThe ego hit of a struggling relationship is real, but it's only useful if it leads to actionYou and your partner showed up with completely different rule books — and nobody told either of you that going inYour spouse is probably hoping you'll start this conversation — it won't be met with the resistance you're expectingCall to Action: Ready to take stock of where your relationship stands? Book a free Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com — it's quick, private and free.Closing Thoughts: If this episode hit close to home, you're exactly who this show is for. The good news is that the same skills that make you great at business can make you great at your relationship too. That's what this season is all about — and we're just getting started.Support & Resources: Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call. For immediate insights, take the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard: A fast free quiz to pinpoint relationship strengths and stressors, and identify priorities that need your attention. Find it at: MakeMoreLove.show/quiz All links can be found below.Share the Love: If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might benefit.Leave a Review for Make More Love: https://www.makemorelove.show/reviews/new/About the Host: Ellen Dorian is a relationship and business coach dedicated to helping high-performing business leaders truly create the business, relationship, and life that most entrepreneurs only dream of.Disclaimer: The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations."Love isn't something you just find. You have to make it. And that's my mission — to help you Make More Love, with Your Wife and In Your Life." — Ellen DorianMake More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

In this Valentine’s Day special episode, Ellen Dorian dives into the history, meaning, and modern-day pressures of the holiday. Whether listeners are diehard romantics or Valentine’s Day cynics, Ellen provides practical advice and creative ideas to help them plan a day that fits their relationship. From understanding their partner’s expectations to avoiding last-minute stress, this episode is packed with insights to make Valentine's Day a meaningful and stress-free experience.Part 1: Understanding Valentine's DayA look at the origins of the holiday, including its rebellious roots in ancient Rome.Why Valentine’s Day can feel commercialized and how shifting perspectives can help.The significance of aligning with or acknowledging a partner's attachment to the day.Part 2: Meeting Relationship ExpectationsThe importance of understanding a partner’s expectations for Valentine's Day.The consequences of ignoring the holiday if it's important to one partner.Two options: setting clear boundaries or using the holiday to strengthen the relationship.Part 3: Planning a Personalized Valentine’s DayStrategies for different types of relationships:Partners who are indifferent to the holiday.Partners who want something special but aren’t tied to traditions.Traditionalists who expect classic Valentine’s Day elements (roses, chocolates, fancy dinner).Key Takeaways:Understanding how a partner feels about romantic gestures can prevent miscommunication and disappointment.Thoughtful, personalized efforts go a long way in building a stronger, more affectionate relationship.Planning ahead ensures less stress, fewer mistakes, and a better overall experience.Call to Action:Listeners can download the Ultimate Valentine’s Day Planning Kit to get a head start on their planning. The kit includes a timeline, curated gift ideas, and a planner to keep everything organized.Get our Ultimate Valentine's Day Planning Kit:Download it nowClosing Thoughts:Ellen encourages listeners to take one small step to elevate their next Valentine’s Day, whether this year’s celebration is a hit or a lesson learned. Showing a partner that they are understood and appreciated strengthens intimacy, affection, and resilience in the relationship.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love with Your Wife and In Your Life.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

In this special holiday episode, Ellen Dorian reflects on the Spirit of Generosity, a concept she learned from her father and continues to embody in her coaching. Through heartfelt storytelling, she introduces the five aspects of generosity—emotional, relational, philosophical, action-oriented, and legacy-focused—and shares actionable ways to bring these into your relationships. This episode is a guide to creating deeper connections, fostering trust, and leaving a meaningful legacy for your loved ones.Part 1: A Holiday Story About GenerosityEllen shares a moving story about her father’s approach to Christmas and the lessons he imparted through the concept of Santa Claus as the embodiment of generosity.She recounts her dad’s final gift to her, The Gift of the Magi by O. Henry, and how it symbolizes selflessness, love, and sacrifice in relationships.Part 2: The Five Aspects of GenerosityEmotional Generosity: Giving time, attention, and love freely without expecting anything in return. Includes practical tips like using a “root cause analysis” approach to stay present during emotional conversations.Relational Generosity: Paying attention to your partner’s needs and stepping in to share the mental load. Features the “By The Clock” exercise to anticipate and address tasks proactively.Philosophical Generosity: Cultivating a mindset of abundance by focusing on gratitude and appreciation rather than scarcity or criticism.Action-Oriented Generosity: Doing what you say you’ll do, being reliable, and supporting your partner when it matters most, even when it’s inconvenient.Legacy of Generosity: Building a lasting impact through selflessness in relationships, modeled after her father’s example.Part 3: Holiday ReflectionsEllen encourages listeners to embrace the Spirit of Generosity during the holiday season and to pass it forward in their own lives.She reminds listeners that the greatest gift they can give their children is the example of a passionate and connected partnership.Key Takeaways:Generosity is More Than Money. True generosity lies in how you give your time, attention, and care to those you love. It’s about showing up fully and selflessly in ways that matter most.Emotional and Relational Generosity Build Connection.Trust and connection grow when you’re emotionally present and proactive in supporting your partner’s needs—whether by sharing the mental load or simply listening with focus and care.Your Legacy Begins in Your Relationships.The most impactful legacy you leave isn’t material; it’s the example you set in your relationships. Cultivating a passionate and connected partnership shapes how your children and loved ones approach their own connections.Call to Action:Feeling stuck in your relationship? Schedule a free 15-minute Relationship Reset Call with Ellen to identify key challenges and create a plan to move forward.Visit relationshipresetcall.com to book your spot.Closing Thoughts:Ellen closes with a heartfelt wish for joy, peace, and love during the holiday season. She invites listeners to embrace the Spirit of Generosity and leave a legacy their loved ones will treasure.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love With Your Wife and in Your Life.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

In this heartfelt bonus episode of the Make More Love Podcast, Ellen Dorian addresses the complex emotions that can arise during the Christmas season, especially for those who feel isolated, disconnected, or out-of-step with the festivities. Drawing from personal experiences and real client stories, Ellen offers compassionate strategies for coping with holiday loneliness, respecting individual traditions, and rebuilding meaningful connections—both with ourselves and those we love.Part 1: Navigating the Overwhelm and Outside ExpectationsEllen opens the episode by acknowledging the saturation and pressures of the Christmas season, emphasizing that not everyone celebrates—and for many, the unrelenting holiday messaging can feel isolating or invalidating. She shares her own childhood memories of cross-cultural celebrations and discusses how differing traditions, loss, and changes in family dynamics can leave people feeling invisible or alone.Part 2: Reclaiming the Holidays Through Intention and Small RitualsAfter describing her personal struggles with grief and holiday disconnect, Ellen outlines how she slowly rebuilt her relationship with the season by honoring her feelings, embracing gratitude and generosity, and establishing new, personally meaningful holiday rituals—like joining a caroling group, creating her own movie traditions, or starting small annual rituals just for herself.Part 3: Connection, Grace, and Taking Action—For Yourself and OthersEllen addresses the unique isolation that successful business owners and those in disconnected relationships may experience. She offers a powerful exercise: identifying and fulfilling a childhood wish for yourself (and possibly your partner) to foster reconnection and healing. The episode closes with an appeal for listeners to reach out to those who might be alone, and a reminder that support is available—both through community (like Andy Grant’s virtual hangout) and professional crisis lines.Key Takeaways:Holiday loneliness is real, whether you celebrate or not, and your feelings are valid.Small, intentional changes—like creating a new tradition or reaching out to someone else—can slowly restore a sense of joy and belonging.Giving yourself (and your partner) a “lost” gift from childhood can be a surprisingly meaningful way to reconnect with the spirit of the season.You are not alone—resources, supportive communities, and professional help are available if the season feels overwhelming.Call to Action: Share your own strategies for making the holidays more meaningful with Ellen Dorian by email or in the P3 Insider’s Community. If you’re struggling, consider booking a free Relationship Reset Call for personalized support, or take the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard at MakeMoreLove.show/quiz for immediate insights.Closing Thoughts: Your presence truly is your gift. No matter your circumstances this season, remember that you matter and that reaching out (for support or to offer it) can make a world of difference. Ellen Dorian encourages everyone to take small steps toward building connection, meaning, and, ultimately, more love.Support & Resources: Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one-on-one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.For immediate insights, take the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard: A fast free quiz to pinpoint relationship strengths and stressors, and identify priorities that need your attention. Find it at: MakeMoreLove.show/quizGet connected with Andy Grant's Christmas Day Virtual Hangout here:Realmenfeel.org/group U.S. Suicide & Crisis Lifeline You don't have to handle this alone.Help is available 24/7/365 Call or Text 988, or go to chat.988lifeline.org. All Other Links can be found below.Share the Love: If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might benefit. Leave a Review for Make More Love:https://www.makemorelove.show/reviews/new/About the Host: Ellen Dorian is a relationship and business coach dedicated to helping high-performing business leaders truly create the business, relationship, and life that most entrepreneurs only dream of.Disclaimer: The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations."Love isn't something you find. You have to make it. And that's my mission-- to help you Make More Love, with Your Wife and In Your Life.'"– Ellen DorianMake More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected]

The holiday season can transform what should be magical moments into stressful, pressure-filled events—especially for high-performing men balancing relationships, business demands, and personal fulfillment. In this insightful solo episode, host Ellen Dorian shares the practical "GGG Principles"—Gratitude, Generosity, and Grace—as anchors to help couples thrive and deepen connection through the holidays (and beyond).Part 1: The Reality of Holiday ExpectationsEllen explores how holidays often shift from childlike excitement to a time burdened with overwhelming expectations, emotional baggage, and pressure to deliver for loved ones—particularly if the relationship is already strained.Part 2: The GGG Principles for Relationship Success:Gratitude: Move beyond obligatory platitudes. Ellen suggests a personal practice focused on recognizing what you genuinely value about your partner. She provides thoughtful questions to guide listeners through recognizing meaningful attributes and experiences, and encourages using this awareness to foster connection and reduce reactivity.Generosity: True generosity isn’t about sacrifice or guilt, but about giving from surplus—whether that's time, money, energy, skills, or flexibility. Practical examples are shared on how to proactively support your partner and lighten their holiday load, without resentment.Grace: The antidote to perfectionism. Ellen shares how practicing patience, compassion, and forgiveness—even when mistakes happen—can transform your relationship dynamic and foster lasting trust.Part 3: Applying GGG PrinciplesListeners are encouraged to develop gratitude statements, create weekly generosity plans, and let go of rigid expectations. These steps provide real relief and renewed intimacy, keeping stress in check and making space for true human connection. Action Steps for Listeners:Try the grounding gratitude exercise and observe how it shifts your perspective.Make a generosity plan: Choose two stress points and match them to the partner with the right surplus.Practice grace by forgiving imperfections and celebrating best intentions.Key Takeaways:The real win with gratitude comes from genuinely feeling it, not just saying it—let actions follow heartfelt awareness.Generosity works best when you give what you have in abundance, not from scarcity, to avoid burnout and build goodwill.Grace lets go of perfection and nurtures authentic connection; no one gets it right all the time, and accepting this opens the door to real intimacy.Call to Action:Ellen encourages listeners to take the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard: A free, quick quiz to pinpoint relationship strengths and stressors (find it at MakeMoreLove.show/quiz).Whenever you are ready, you can reach out for deeper support: Free Relationship Reset calls, workshops, private coaching, and an Insider Facebook community for ongoing connection and resources. Links are below.Closing Thoughts:You don’t need to create a perfect holiday—just show up with presence, forethought, and a little grace. Small shifts in mindset and action can profoundly change your holiday experience and your relationship.Stay Tuned:Next week, Ellen Dorian will be back with a bonus episode addressing holiday stress when Christmas isn’t your thing. Until then, take care of each other!Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love with Your Wife and In Your Life.'" - Ellen DorianShare the Love:If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might benefit. Love isn’t just found—it’s made!About the Host:Ellen Dorian is a relationship and business coach dedicated to helping high-performing business leaders truly create the business, relationship, and life that most entrepreneurs only dream of. Disclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com 0:00:00 – Introduction

Ellen Dorian addresses the stress and conflict that holidays bring to high-performing business leaders, particularly business owners facing Q4 pressures alongside personal obligations. She introduces a strategic planning approach to transform the holiday season from a source of tension into an opportunity for connection. Through the story of client Bill and his wife Gina, Ellen demonstrates how joint planning, clear boundaries, and shared ownership can prevent the annual cycle of holiday resentment that often leads to January's "divorce season."Part 1: Understanding Holiday Pressure Points- Recognition that holidays arrive during Q4 chaos for business owners.- Identification of competing demands: closing deals, managing budgets, and handling staff needs.- Acknowledgment of seasonality impacts—some businesses face their busiest period while others experience dead zones.- The compounding effect of personal demands from partners, family obligations, and social events.- Pressure to appear joyful despite mounting stress.Part 2: The Planning Framework- Starting with baseline questions about what worked, what didn't, what was missing, and what to change.- The necessity of partner buy-in rather than unilateral decision-making.- Bill and Gina's story as a case study in initiating the planning conversation.- Three core elements: planning together, setting limits, and taking ownership.- Two essential ground rules: everything is open for discussion, and protecting the couple comes first.- Establishing a gatekeeping script for external pressures.Part 3: Building Your Holiday Strategy- Two approaches: blue ocean brainstorming or process of elimination.- Using post-it notes to map out events, tasks, and obligations visually.- Three key decisions: enthusiastic yeses, emphatic nos, and the desired outcome.- Establishing boundaries around time, money, travel, work, and special circumstances.- The chocolate mousse rule and the three-hour family visit boundary as practical examples.- Assigning ownership by category rather than individual tasks.- Weekly check-ins to adjust and maintain alignment.Key Takeaways:- Holiday conflicts repeat annually because couples fail to plan or fear disrupting established patterns.- Joint planning creates clarity and protects relationships from external pressures.- Boundaries and clear ownership prevent resentment and energy drain.- Breaking with tradition is necessary when current patterns aren't working.- A united front in public with private discussion space helps manage family pushback.- Regular check-ins keep the plan flexible and responsive to changing circumstances.Call to Action:If the planning process becomes contentious or confusing, Ellen offers a Relationship Reset Call to help work through the challenges. She emphasizes not letting issues drop only to face worse circumstances in January. Listeners can book a free call at relationshipresetcall.com.Closing Thoughts:Ellen previews the next episode's focus on gratitude, generosity, and grace—the "GGG of the holidays"—as tools for managing seasonal chaos. She reflects on recent episodes addressing out-of-control situations and invites listeners experiencing this to reach out. The goal isn't perfection but creating the best opportunity to enjoy life and maintain connection despite competing demands.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love with Your Wife and in Your Life." - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional. All content reflects my own opinions, experience, and research and isn’t guaranteed to be complete or accurate, so please don’t treat it as professional advice of any kind. 0:00 Intro1:00 Why Q4 Creates Perfect Storm for Couples3:03 Setting Goals for Different Holiday Experience5:05 Bill and Gina's Holiday Breaking Point7:08 The Three-Part Planning Framework Explained9:40 Three Key Decisions Every Couple Needs12:14 Setting Boundaries Around Time and Money14:46 Taking Ownership and Handling Family Pushback17:19 Three Key Takeaways for Holiday Success19:22 Spreading the Word About Make More LoveMake More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.

Ellen Dorian explores how business owners can strengthen their relationships by treating their partnership as the foundation that holds everything else together. Drawing from a Trevor Noah podcast quote about spending time with his father, she examines the cost of making unilateral business decisions without partner input. The episode provides a framework for integrating business and relationship priorities through structured communication, tiered decision-making, and weekly alignment meetings.Part 1: The Cost of Exclusion- Ellen shares a quote from Roy Wood Jr. about being along for the ride rather than truly included in his father's life.- Business owners often make rapid decisions without consulting partners who will be affected by the outcomes.- Top-down thinking creates resistance and undermines support, even when partners don't openly object.- Shared visions can drift apart over time, leaving couples working toward completely different outcomes.- The question "Are you running your business or is your business running you?" reveals a common trap.Part 2: The Juggling and Herding Problem- Most business owners have three competing priorities: work, family, and personal fulfillment.- Juggling means keeping balls in the air, but one is always falling—you can only hold two at a time.- Herding is attempting to control everything at once, like stuffing three cats in a bag.- Both approaches fail because they rely on one person being solely responsible for everything.- Business decisions directly impact partners whether they've agreed to them or not.Part 3: The Airplane Framework- Ellen introduces a new model: your relationship is the airplane, with two seats in the cockpit.- Everything else—business, kids, extended family, hobbies—belongs in the cabin as passengers.- Kids and business should not fly the plane or always come first.- Strong partnerships create the framework where everything else thrives.- Partners become copilots without becoming business partners.Part 4: Three Best Practices for Partnership Alignment#1 Weekly Business Review Meeting- Hold a short weekly meeting focused on decisions that touch shared life.- Cover four topics: what happened since last meeting, what's coming up, what needs joint decision, and what matters most this week.- Make it enjoyable with coffee, wine, or pancakes—call it whatever makes it fun.- Prevents the "I never heard that" or "you didn't tell me" conflicts.#2 Tiered Decision-Making Categories- Green zone: everyday decisions that don't impact shared life, just keep partner informed.- Yellow zone: give heads up and chance to weigh in, minimize surprises, maximize respect.- Red zone: decisions requiring full discussion before moving forward.#3 Red Zone Topics- Money: any shared resource at risk, new debt, contracts, personal guarantees, compensation changes.- Time: anything significantly changing availability, focus, or energy—major projects, expansion, increased travel.- People: hiring or firing key team members, bringing on investors, forming partnerships.- These decisions affect stress levels, time, and how you show up in the relationship.Key Takeaways:- Your relationship should be the context in which your business, family, and fulfillment exist, not just another competing priority.- The entrepreneur divorce rate sits above 60% because not everyone commits to this level of discipline and openness.- Your partner needs to be an important voice in your business without necessarily working in it.- Trying to control everything by yourself guarantees something will crash, taking everything else down with it.- Real work-life integration requires treating major business decisions as partnership decisions.Call to Action:Ellen encourages listeners to book a free Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com to discuss their specific situation. She also invites them to join the Passionate Partners Insider community on Facebook for exclusive content and resources.Closing Thoughts:Ellen emphasizes that she doesn't believe in work-life balance but in integration. The episode provides a playbook for real work-life integration that makes life easier, more connected, and more enjoyable. She challenges listeners to make the mindset shift—whether independently or with her guidance—to transform their relationships and businesses.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love with Your Wife and in Your Life." - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.Make More Love Show Website: www.make

Ellen Dorian shares insights from her 10th anniversary Viking river cruise, highlighting three key moves for long-lasting relationships: acceptance, longevity, and defaulting to yes.Part 1: Acceptance in Long Term Relationships- Recognizing and appreciating your partner's authentic self- Distinguishing between tolerance, resignation, and genuine acceptance- Example: Steve's acceptance of Ellen's coffee house visitsPart 2: Longevity and Vitality- Importance of physical, mental, and emotional health in relationships- Observations from the cruise demographic- Connection between personal vitality and relationship strengthPart 3: Defaulting to Yes- Overcoming the habit of saying no thanks- Benefits of staying open to new experiences together- Example: Hungarian street food cooking classKey Takeaways:- Relationships play out over decades, not days- Staying healthy and active contributes to relationship longevity- Defaulting to yes keeps relationships fresh and engagingCall to Action:Book a free Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com for personalized guidance.Closing Thoughts:Relationships, like the Danube, change over time but can keep moving along for years with the right approach.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

Ellen Dorian analyzes the movie "The Roses" as a case study for relationship decline, illustrating Make More Love's Hierarchy of Relationship Needs and Spiral of Decline models. She breaks down the film's plot, highlighting key disruptions that lead to the couple's downfall, and relates these to common relationship issues faced by high-performing individuals.Part 1: Introduction and Movie Analysis- Ellen introduces the episode's focus on "The Roses" as a relationship case study- Explanation of why this movie is an ideal example for the Make More Love model- Breakdown of the couple's initial connection and shared ambitionPart 2: Relationship Disruptions and Missed Opportunities- Identification of five major disruptions in the Roses' relationship- Analysis of how each disruption contributes to the spiral of decline- Discussion of missed opportunities for intervention and repairPart 3: Lessons and Application- Relating the movie's themes to real-life relationship challenges- Introduction of the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard tool- Encouragement for listeners to assess their own relationshipsKey Takeaways:- Shared ambition can be both a strong foundation and a potential pitfall in relationships- Major life events and role changes can significantly impact relationship dynamics- Ignoring relationship issues and failing to seek help can lead to a spiral of decline- Open communication and willingness to address problems are crucial for relationship healthCall to Action:Ellen encourages listeners to take the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard quiz at MakeMoreLove.Show/Quiz Or book a free Relationship Reset call at RelationshipResetCall.com.Closing Thoughts:Relationships require active maintenance and attention to thrive. Recognizing and addressing issues early can prevent the kind of decline depicted in "The Roses."Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love With Your Wife and in Your Life'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimers:The Roses is a 2025 feature film starring Benedict Cumberbatch and Olivia Colman, directed by Jay Roach, and distributed by Searchlight Pictures. All rights belong to the respective copyright holders. This episode offers commentary and analysis for educational and review purposes only.The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com Listen to Episode 4 Here: Simplifying Complex Relationship Dynamics

Ellen Dorian discusses strategies for managing conflict in relationships, introducing the concept of "passionate problem solving" as an alternative to cold war and hot war conflict styles. She outlines two pathways: early intervention and radical repair, drawing inspiration from kink and BDSM protocols and Japanese apology frameworks.Part 1: Understanding Conflict and Early Intervention- Esther Perel's three categories of conflict: power and control, respect and recognition, care and closeness- Recognizing personal "tells" that signal emotional escalation- Implementing kink-inspired protocols: safe words, negotiated agreements, and aftercarePart 2: Radical Repair for Full-Blown Conflicts- Step-by-step process for addressing conflicts after they've escalated- Naming the hurt, reflecting back, owning responsibility, and offering a radical apology- Reaffirming connection and attacking the problem, not each otherPart 3: Applying Passionate Problem Solving- Factors influencing success: meaning gap, relationship foundation, and personal skills- Importance of practice and commitment to transform conflict handling- Encouragement to seek outside help when neededKey Takeaways:- Early intervention focuses on self-control, not partner control- Repair matters more than being right in conflicts- Always attack the problem, not each other- Passionate problem solving requires practice and disciplineCall to Action:Ellen encourages listeners to book a free Relationship Reset call, join the Passionate Partners Insider community on Facebook, and spread the word about the Make More Love podcast.Closing Thoughts:Passionate problem solving is not a quick fix but can transform how couples handle conflict when practiced consistently.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love With Your Wife and In Your Life.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

Ellen Dorian explores hot war fighting tactics in relationships, discussing the escalation from Cold War to Hot War styles of conflict. She breaks down the spectrum of conflict, from bickering to brutality, and offers insights on recognizing and addressing unhealthy patterns.Part 1: The Spectrum of Conflict- Bickering as the turning point from Cold War to Hot War- Arguing as a conscious form of conflict- Fighting as a more aggressive, theatrical form of conflict- Brutality as the dangerous extreme of relationship conflictPart 2: Understanding Conflict Styles- Cultural and family influences on conflict styles- The impact of mixed conflict styles in relationships- The difference between intensity and intimacy in conflictsPart 3: Recognizing and Addressing Unhealthy Patterns- Four questions to assess your conflict style- The importance of seeking help for abusive situations- Channeling passion into problem-solving and connectionKey Takeaways:- Cold War and Hot War are points on a single scale of escalating conflict- Bickering is not harmless; it's the turning point to Hot War- Intensity is not intimacy, even with makeup sex involved- Conflict handled well can deepen connection and build trustCall to Action:Ellen encourages listeners to book a free Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com for personalized guidance on improving their relationship dynamics.Closing Thoughts:Conflict is inevitable, but how you handle it determines the health of your relationship. Learning to channel passion into building rather than destroying is key to a strong partnership.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love with Your Wife and In Your Life.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

Ellen Dorian explores the concept of "never fighting" in relationships, discussing various reasons why couples might claim they don't fight and the potential implications for their relationship health.Part 1: Reasons for "Never Fighting"- Disengagement and avoidance- Temperament and perceptions- Philosophy and healthy skillsPart 2: Analyzing "Never Fighting" in Relationships- Looking beneath the surface- Attacking the problem, not each other- Practicing conflict resolution on small issuesPart 3: The Importance of Healthy Conflict- Distinguishing between harmful avoidance and genuine compatibility- Building intimacy through constructive disagreement- Developing skills for incremental problem-solvingKey Takeaways:- "Never fighting" can indicate various relationship dynamics, both positive and negative- Healthy relationships often involve constructive conflict resolution- Incremental problem-solving can prevent major conflictsCall to Action:Take the Make More Love Relationship Dynamics Quiz for personalized insights into your relationship dynamics.Closing Thoughts:The absence of fighting doesn't necessarily indicate a healthy relationship. It's crucial to understand the underlying reasons and develop healthy conflict resolution skills.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

Ellen Dorian, host of Make More Love, shares insights from her unexpected vacation in Lisbon, emphasizing the importance of balancing structure and spontaneity in both business and relationships. She discusses the need for resilience, planned breaks, and creating systems that allow for personal time off without compromising business operations.Part 1: The Importance of Planned Breaks- Ellen's unplanned vacation in Lisbon highlights the need for breaks before burnout- Resilience as a core principle in Ellen's coaching model- The balance between planning and spontaneity in business and lifePart 2: Lessons from Lisbon's Lifestyle- Contrast between Lisbon's pace of life and typical American city life- The blend of structure and flexibility in Lisbon's culture- Airport workers' strike example: structure serving freedomPart 3: Business Implications and Relationship Intersections- The necessity of creating systems that allow business owners to take time off- Connection between business operations and personal relationships- Importance of scalability and delegation in business growthKey Takeaways:- Don't wait for burnout to take a vacation- Balance structure with flexibility in both business and personal life- Create systems that allow your business to function without constant supervision- Cultivate resilience through intentional planning and spontaneityCall to Action:Book a free Relationship Reset call at relationshipresetcall.com to address business and relationship challenges.Closing Thoughts:Running a successful business isn't about controlling every detail, but about cultivating resilience and finding the right balance between structure and flexibility.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love with Your Wife and In Your Life'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

Ellen Dorian addresses a listener's question about whether to end a long-term relationship, offering insights on recognizing emotional attachment, repairing relationships, and considering the hidden costs of divorce.Part 1: Analyzing Emotional Disengagement- Emotional clues indicating persistent attachment to a relationship- The significance of anger, bargaining, and seeking validation- Statistical insights on marital conflicts and desires for changePart 2: Strategies for Relationship Repair- Three-step approach to relationship improvement- Importance of committing to repair regardless of outcome- Shifting mindset and mapping out a strategy- Introduction to the Relationship Hierarchy of NeedsPart 3: Considering Divorce and Its Hidden Costs- Financial, social, and emotional impacts of divorce- Real-life example of post-divorce challenges and successes- Importance of inner work before making major relationship decisionsKey Takeaways:- Recognize emotional clues to determine readiness to end a relationship- Implement a three-step strategy to improve relationship dynamics- Understand and prepare for the hidden costs of divorce- Focus on solving the right relationship problems using the Hierarchy of NeedsCall to Action:Take the free Relationship Dynamics quiz at MakeMoreLove.Show/Quiz to identify the highest priority areas to improve in your relationship.Or,Schedule a Relationship Reset Call for a one on one walk through of your options at www.relationshipresetcall.comClosing Thoughts:Understanding when you are ready to end a relationship is never going to be easy. It's important to check in with yourself and follow the emotional clues that will show whether you are ready to move on. Whether you choose to stay or leave, focus on personal growth and healing. Your path forward should align with your values and long-term happiness.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com Here's the episode on the Relationship Hierarchy of Needs:https://www.makemorelove.show/episode-4-simplifying-the-complexities-of-relationship-dynamics/

Ellen Dorian discusses common mistakes made in restaurants that can ruin date nights, offering practical advice to enhance romantic experiences and strengthen relationships.Part 1: Restaurant Etiquette and Date Night Atmosphere- The importance of making reservations- Avoiding rudeness towards restaurant staff- Refraining from extreme menu customization- Handling complaints discreetlyPart 2: Financial Considerations and Tipping- Avoiding price audits and money talk at the table- Handling tipping gracefully- Checking menu prices online before the datePart 3: Enhancing the Date Night Experience- Being mindful of overstaying- Maintaining proper table manners- Keeping intimate behavior discreet- Respecting restaurant propertyKey Takeaways:- Plan the vibe and mood for your date night in advance- Be fully present and engaged with your partner- Treat restaurant staff with respect and kindness- Handle any issues discreetly and away from the table- Keep money discussions off the table during the date- Consider moving to another venue for dessert or nightcapCall to Action:Book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen to elevate your next date night and improve your overall relationship.Closing Thoughts:A successful date night can build momentum for daily intimacy and connection in your relationship.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love with Your Wife and In Your Life.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

Ellen Dorian discusses the importance of enjoying time with your partner and offers strategies to bring fun and playfulness back into relationships, especially for busy professionals.Part 1: Rediscovering Joy in Relationships- Ellen emphasizes the significance of simply enjoying being together- Introduces the concept of "affinity" from her relationship hierarchy of needs- Encourages listeners to reflect on their favorite activities with their partner- Addresses the challenge of relationships on autopilot due to busy lifestylesPart 2: Strategies for Rekindling Fun- Suggests recreating childhood summer memories as a date idea- Shares personal examples of fun childhood activities- Recommends asking partners about their favorite childhood memories- Introduces the concept of "bids for connection" and their importancePart 3: Overcoming Relationship Challenges- Addresses concerns for relationships in serious trouble- Introduces the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard quiz- Explains how to use childhood favorites as "bids for connection"- Emphasizes the power of small, consistent gestures in building strong relationshipsKey Takeaways:- Prioritize pleasure and enjoyment in your relationship- Use childhood memories to create fun, playful experiences with your partner- Small, consistent gestures are more effective than grand, infrequent gestures- Taking initiative to improve your relationship can lead to positive changesCall to Action:Take the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard quiz at makemoreloveShowQuiz.com and schedule a free one-on-one call with Ellen to review your results and create an action plan.Closing Thoughts:Relationships require active effort to maintain and improve. Incorporating playfulness and fun can reignite the enjoyment that brought you together initially.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

Ellen Dorian discusses the importance of balancing business growth with maintaining a healthy relationship. She emphasizes the risks of neglecting one's partnership while focusing solely on business success, and offers strategies to protect and nurture both aspects of life.Part 1: The Blind Spot in Business Coaching- Ellen shares insights from a recent business coaching conference- Highlights the common oversight of relationship health in business coaching- Introduces the concept of relationship autopilot and its pitfallsPart 2: Common Relationship Delusions for Business Owners- Explores five common misconceptions about relationships while building a business- Discusses the dangers of assuming partner contentment and postponing relationship focusPart 3: Strategies for Relationship Success- Presents five business growth strategies applied to relationships- Emphasizes the importance of strategic planning, resource management, and innovation in partnershipsKey Takeaways:- Investing in relationship support is crucial when growing a business- Recognizing and addressing relationship issues early can prevent catastrophic outcomes- Applying business strategies to relationships can lead to more effective problem-solvingCall to Action:- Take the Relationship Dynamics scorecard quiz at MakeMoreLove.Show/Quiz- Schedule a free one-on-one call with Ellen at RelationshipResetCall.comClosing Thoughts:Ellen compares neglecting relationships to "skipping leg day" in fitness, emphasizing the importance of maintaining balance between business and personal life for overall success and fulfillment.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

Ellen Dorian discusses the importance of intrinsic passion in relationships, focusing on sex and intimacy. She explores why passion fades, differences between men and women, and provides strategies to reignite passion.Part 1: Understanding Passion in Relationships- Sex as the "glue" of healthy relationships- Differentiating between sex, passion, and intimacy- Reasons for loss of interest in sex for men and women- Rejecting the idea that passion naturally fades over timePart 2: Rekindling Passion- Three core habits supporting intrinsic passion: Vitality, Intimate Intensity, and Prioritizing Pleasure- Five strategies to recharge passion:1. Take responsibility for your own passion2. Avoid keeping score3. Replace magical thinking with proven methods4. Let go of insecurities5. Stop tolerating and take actionPart 3: Practical Application- Immersing in passion-centered thinking- Creating micro-moments of flirtation- Planning connection-focused date nights- Emphasizing intentionality in small, consistent actionsKey Takeaways:- Passion is built into relationships from the start and can be rekindled- Understanding gender differences in passion can prevent misunderstandings- Small, intentional actions can significantly impact relationship passionCall to Action:Listeners are encouraged to try one strategy from the episode to reignite passion in their relationship and share their experiences.Closing Thoughts:Passion comes back by design, not by accident. Applying business growth strategies to relationships can lead to impressive changes.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love--With Your Wife and In Your Life.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

Ellen Dorian discusses intentional presence as a crucial element in building passionate partnerships. She breaks down this concept into three core habits: attentiveness, authenticity, and resilience.Part 1: Attentiveness- Keeping focus and paying attention to your partner- Active listening and remembering important details- Weekly planning meetings and daily check-insPart 2: Authenticity- Showing up as your true self and respecting your partner's truth- The importance of honesty and integrity in building respect- Avoiding the pitfall of not fully knowing your partnerPart 3: Resilience- Extending grace and giving the benefit of the doubt- Addressing conflict quickly and repairing breakdowns- Building emotional elasticity to handle relationship tensionsKey Takeaways:- Intentional presence involves attentiveness, authenticity, and resilience- Implement weekly planning meetings and daily check-ins to stay connected- Be your true self and allow your partner to do the same- Cultivate resilience by extending grace and addressing conflicts promptlyCall to Action:Take the Relationship Dynamics Scorecard quiz to identify areas for improvement in your relationship. Visit MakeMoreLoveShowQuiz.com or find the link in the show notes.Closing Thoughts:Building intentional presence takes work, but it's crucial for creating a strong, passionate partnership where both partners feel supported and understood.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love with Your Wife and In Your Life.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.

Host Ellen Dorian discusses the three core principles successful couples practice to maintain strong, lifelong relationships. She introduces the first principle, "Inclusive Purpose," and explains its importance in creating alignment and avoiding common relationship pitfalls.Part 1: The Three Core Principles of Successful Relationships- Inclusive Purpose- Intentional Presence- Intrinsic PassionPart 2: Exploring Inclusive Purpose- Definition: A harmonious sense of direction that honors both partners' values, dreams, and needs- Three supporting habits: Harmony, Unity, and ClarityPart 3: Implementing Inclusive Purpose- Identifying shared and conflicting values- Co-creating a future that accommodates individual dreams- Making explicit agreements and avoiding assumptionsKey Takeaways:- Successful relationships require alignment on values, agreements, and direction- Inclusive Purpose helps couples avoid growing apart and building resentments- Clear communication and explicit agreements are crucial for trust and connectionCall to Action:Take the free Make More Love Relationship Dynamics Quiz at MakeMoreLove.show/quiz to gain clarity on your relationship issues and receive personalized recommendations.Closing Thoughts:Bringing clarity into every aspect of your relationship fosters trust, respect, and genuine connection. It's a process that takes time and adjustment but leads to greater safety and freedom in the partnership.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love With Your Wife and In Your Life.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

Ellen Dorian challenges the popular notion that "all you need is love" in relationships, arguing that this oversimplified view can lead to failed marriages. She discusses why love alone isn't sufficient for building resilient partnerships and outlines what's truly necessary for long-term relationship success.Part 1: The Problem with "All You Need is Love"- Love is not enough to sustain long-term relationships- Believing love is all you need can cause you to ignore real issues- Love is not a strategy for solving relationship problems- This belief can lead to disillusionment when love doesn't solve everythingPart 2: What Love Really Is- Love is an ongoing choice to prioritize and care for another person- It includes affection, emotional intimacy, and shared investment- Real-world love requires multiple elements working togetherPart 3: Three Pillars of Successful Relationships- Inclusive purpose: shared values and goals while honoring individual dreams- Intentional presence: giving full attention and being attentive to your partner- Intrinsic passion: maintaining a consistent undercurrent of intimacy and attractionKey Takeaways: "All you need is love" is good for songs, not real life- Bad advice sets you up for failure when love doesn't fix everything- Smart couples invest in their relationship continually and seek expert helpCall to Action:Book a free Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com to address specific relationship issues and develop a customized plan.Closing ThoughtsRelationships need a customized foundation built on purpose, presence, and passion, supported by skills, systems, and strategies.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love With Your Wife and In Your Life'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

Host Ellen Dorian dissects dangerous relationship advice, offering insights on love imbalances, misguided solutions, and the importance of proactive relationship maintenance.Part 1: The Dangers of Unequal Love- Explores the advice: "Be with someone who loves you more than you love them"- Discusses the negative impacts of this approach on relationships and self-worth- Highlights the importance of mutual love and respect in partnershipsPart 2: Misguided Solutions for Relationship Problems- Analyzes common "radical" solutions people try when relationships struggle- Examines why these solutions often fail to address underlying issues- Emphasizes the need for internal repair before external changesPart 3: Debunking Myths About Relationship Help- Addresses the misconception that seeking help indicates serious problems- Explains the benefits of proactive relationship maintenance- Encourages viewing relationship help as strategic planning rather than crisis managementKey Takeaways:- Love should not be a power play; imbalanced relationships breed resentment- External fixes cannot solve internal relationship problems- Preventative maintenance is crucial for healthy, long-lasting relationshipsCall to Action:Ellen encourages listeners to identify and address any misguided ideas in their own relationships. She invites them to share other examples of bad advice they've encountered.Closing Thoughts:The episode emphasizes the importance of leadership in relationships, urging couples to address issues proactively rather than waiting for crises to occur.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love With Your Wife and In Your Life.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

Ellen Dorian dissects three pieces of bad relationship advice, offering insights on maintaining effort in marriage, handling conflicts, and the importance of apologizing. She provides practical strategies for nurturing long-term relationships and maintaining passion.Part 1: Debunking "You Don't Have to Impress Anyone After Marriage"- Marriage doesn't mean stopping self-care or effort- Continued investment in oneself shows respect for the partner- Maintaining attractiveness contributes to intimacy and desirePart 2: Addressing "Never Go to Bed Angry"- Misinterpretation of biblical advice- Forcing late-night resolutions can worsen conflicts- Respecting biorhythms and deferring discussions can be beneficialPart 3: Challenging "Love Means Never Having to Say You're Sorry"- Apologies are crucial for maintaining trust and connection- Five-step framework for crafting effective apologies- Importance of taking responsibility and committing to changeKey Takeaways:- Consistent effort and mutual respect are crucial in relationships- Avoiding difficult conversations can be more damaging than conflict- Sincere, timely apologies are essential for relationship repairClosing Thoughts:Relationships thrive on intentional effort, not perfection. Building a lasting partnership requires facing issues head-on and taking responsibility for mistakes.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

Ellen Dorian kicks off Season 2 of Make More Love by addressing bad relationship advice, categorizing it into vague, dumb, and wrong. This episode focuses on vague advice, highlighting its ineffectiveness and offering practical alternatives.Part 1: The Problem with Vague Advice- Ellen introduces three types of bad relationship advice: vague, dumb, and wrong.- She emphasizes the importance of proper diagnosis in relationship issues.- Ellen introduces the Make More Love Relationship Dynamics quiz as a diagnostic tool.Part 2: Analyzing Vague Advice- "Communication is key" - Ellen explains why this advice is insufficient without context.- "Your partner always comes first" - She discusses the challenges of balancing this with real-life obligations.- "Just be supportive" - Ellen highlights the ambiguity of this advice and offers better approaches.Part 3: Practical Solutions- Ellen provides specific questions to ask when facing relationship challenges.- She emphasizes the importance of defining what "putting your partner first" means in your relationship.- Ellen shares personal strategies for being supportive without defaulting to problem-solving mode.Key Takeaways:- Vague advice can lead to misunderstandings and frustration in relationships.- Clear communication and agreed-upon definitions are crucial for relationship success.- Balancing work and relationship priorities requires open dialogue and mutual understanding.Call to Action:Ellen encourages listeners to try her suggestions and share their experiences. She also invites them to take the Make More Love Relationship Dynamics quiz for personalized insights.Closing Thoughts:Ellen emphasizes the importance of moving beyond vague advice to create meaningful connections and understanding in relationships.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional.Support & Resources:Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

Welcome to Season 2 of Make More LoveThis is the relationship podcast for high-performing business leaders — where you won’t get the standard relationship advice. Why? Because the life you live demands more than the Average Joe.You carry more responsibility, navigate higher stakes, and solve bigger problems than most people ever will. But the traits that make you successful in your business life — decisiveness, focus, speed — can work against you in your love life.That’s why this show doesn’t give advice. It gives you something more actionable: A plan. A framework. A strategy that fits your life. Key Takeaways:🎯 In this Season 2 Trailer, host Ellen Dorian lays out:·      What makes Make More Love different — and necessary·      Why the “What do I have to do to make you happy?” conversation backfires·      What’s changing in Season 2 (more voices, broader topics, deeper perspectives)·      How to get the most out of this season — and your own relationshipCall to Action:🧭 Ready to get into it?Book your free 15-minute Relationship Reset Call to get clarity and a game plan — no charge, no pressure.🔁 Catch up on any Season 1 episodes you missed.📩 Subscribe now and share with someone who needs this.🎙 Season 2 drops next week.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

Today, we’re answering real listeners’ real questions—in real time. These aren’t hypotheticals. These are the exact moments real men are living through right now. From growing resentment during the grind of entrepreneurship, to being blindsided by a breakup, to feeling stuck in a sexless marriage—these stories are raw, honest, and painfully common.This episode offers direct insight and powerful next steps for three of the most frequent and emotionally charged issues I hear from high-performing men. If you’ve ever thought “This isn’t how I thought it would go,” this one’s for you.Part 1: The Business Is Thriving… But the Relationship’s Falling ApartTJ, a general contractor, shares how the early support in his marriage disappeared once the business got off the ground. His wife seems resentful of the very effort that’s keeping everything afloat.Ellen explains why this shift is common—and why operational silos at home create the same disconnect as they do in business. Learn how to reengage your partner using the same leadership skills you apply in your company.Part 2: Blindsided by a Breakup—And Unsure How to Move OnBZ, a startup CEO, thought he was doing everything right. But out of nowhere, his wife left. Now he’s questioning how he missed the signs—and how to prevent it from happening again.Ellen unpacks the damaging myth of the “good provider,” and shows how structure, discipline, and communication systems (yes, like in business) are essential to staying connected. You’ll also get a 3-part framework to rebuild trust, clarity, and intimacy in your next chapter.Part 3: From Hot to Not—When the Spark Fades in the BedroomJQ’s relationship used to be physically intense and fun. Now? It’s dead quiet. He still wants his wife, but she’s not interested—and he’s terrified that this is just how it’s going to be from now on.Ellen tackles this fear head-on by breaking down:The myth of spontaneityThe Four Thieves of DesireThe critical role of vitality—physical, mental, and emotional—and how modern couples are running too lean to sustain passionPlus: a bold, concrete suggestion most people never consider… but that might just be the key to restoring connection.Key Takeaways:Even strong relationships suffer when communication systems break down—just like in business.The “good provider” myth is deeply ingrained—and gets in the way of a passionate love life.Desire doesn’t perpetuate itself. You have to create conditions where it can thrive.If you're burned out, overextended, and running lean, don’t blame your relationship—fix your infrastructure.Call to Action:Feeling stuck, confused, or disconnected in your relationship? Book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen. It’s quick, private, and tailored to your specific situation. You’ll leave with clear action steps and a renewed sense of direction.Closing Thoughts:If any of today’s listener questions hit close to home, know that you’re not alone—and you’re not out of options. Rebuilding connection is possible when you know what you're up against and have the right tools to repair it. A few powerful strategies, can help you shift the dynamic and get back to a relationship that feels alive again.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com Get the 7 Date Types Report Here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1pnR-Dr4n1eMXb9uiTF6Gzm1kmYVzIzEO/view?usp=sharing

In the second part of this deeply personal interview, Ellen breaks down the real-life lessons behind Manny Wolfe’s extraordinary story — from surviving a cult to confronting addiction and rebuilding his life. But this episode isn’t just about extreme experiences. If you're a business owner/entrepreneur trying to understand the connections between love, money, and self-knowledge, this episode will speak directly to your experience.Ellen draws a direct line from Manny’s journey to the everyday challenges faced by high-performing men in relationships: solving the wrong problems, falling short of your own values, and overthinking instead of taking meaningful action. Whether you're struggling with relationship stress, emotional disconnection, or the pressure to succeed, this conversation offers raw insights and practical takeaways for creating a stronger, more connected partnership.Part 1: Fixing the Wrong ProblemManny and Ellen explore how high-performing men often try to solve relationship challenges by focusing on business success. They unpack the common trap of doubling down on work instead of addressing what your partner truly needs — presence, emotional connection, and attention.Part 2: Honor, Integrity, and Self-RespectThis section dives into the idea of the “moral man” — the part of yourself that knows what’s right but can’t always stop you from making poor choices. It breaks down the ways men unintentionally betray their own code of honor in relationships, and how that damages both the partnership and their self-worth.Part 3: Overthinking vs. ActionManny shares how personal growth work and spiritual reflection became a way of hiding from real-world change. They discuss the pattern of analysis paralysis. They discuss how to catch yourself when it's time to stop reflecting and start doing.Key Takeaways:Misplaced effort is common: Like many men, Manny tried to fix his relationship by making more money — but that didn’t meet his partner’s real needs.Integrity matters: If you repeatedly act out of alignment with your values — through cheating, disrespect, emotional neglect, or passive-aggressive language — you’re not just damaging your relationship; you’re eroding your self-worth.Overthinking is a trap: There’s a fine line between spiritual growth and navel-gazing. Sometimes the most powerful move is to knock that shit off and just do what needs doing.Money isn’t evil — or magic: It's a neutral tool that can amplify your character. If you believe it’s bad or unimportant, you may unconsciously sabotage yourself and your relationship.Relationships are growth containers: They’re not just about comfort — they’re where you confront your deepest patterns and either grow or stagnate.Call to Action:If Manny’s story made you reflect on your own situation — maybe it’s time for a conversation.Book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen and get clarity on your next step. It’s 15 minutes, one-on-one, and focused on solutions. Head to relationshipresetcall.com and grab your spot.Closing Thoughts:There’s real value in hearing another man’s story — not to compare, but to connect.You may not have grown up in a cult or battled the same demons Manny did, but I bet something in his story landed with you. Maybe it mirrored a quiet part of your own experience — a time you ignored your gut, broke your own code, or kept thinking about taking action instead of actually doing it.That’s why I share these conversations. Not because they’re dramatic, but because they’re true. And in that truth, there’s insight — the kind that can move you forward.Let this be more than just something interesting you heard today. Let it be a reason to stop and ask yourself what part of your life is ready for change.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset

In this first part of a two-part conversation, Ellen Dorian sits down with speaker, author, and coach Manny Wolfe to explore how early life experiences, unresolved trauma, and subconscious patterns can trap us in relationship dynamics that feel like endless loops. From cult survival to addiction recovery, Manny brings raw honesty and deeply reflective insight into how our past silently shapes our present — especially in love.This episode offers a candid look at how personal responsibility, emotional awareness, and a willingness to “do the work” can help us break those loops, even when the outcome is still uncertain.Part 1:Manny shares his upbringing in a cult, how that shaped his sense of identity and attachment, and how unresolved abandonment trauma created patterns in romantic relationships. Ellen and Manny unpack the way avoidant and anxious attachment styles often magnetize each other, and why so many of us unconsciously recreate the very pain we say we want to avoid.Part 2:They explore the story behind Manny’s viral post on the link between financial stress and relationship breakdown — and how some spiritual and psychological narratives can accidentally become excuses for avoiding action.Part 3:The conversation shifts toward taking full responsibility — not just for your healing, but for your choices. Manny shares the moment he realized that his “abandonment wound” might have been a red herring, distracting him from deeper, more practical issues. Together, they highlight how emotional insight and grounded strategy need to work together — not in opposition.Key Takeaways:Relationship patterns often trace back to unconscious childhood beliefs and unprocessed trauma.Avoidant and anxious attachment styles often attract each other — creating a painful but familiar dynamic.Financial issues are rarely just about money — but they're also not always about deep trauma.Healing is essential, but it’s not a substitute for taking real-world action.Long-term relationships are containers for growth — not just safe harbors.You can't force someone else to change, but you can be an influence and an inspiration.Call to Action:If this conversation struck a chord and you're ready to break your own loop — whether it’s emotional, financial, or relational — set up your free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen. In just 15 minutes, you’ll clarify your next move and leave with actionable steps that fit your real life.🗓️ Book now at: relationshipresetcall.comClosing Thoughts:Your past may explain your patterns — but it doesn’t have to dictate your future. When you see the loop, you can step outside it. And when you take personal responsibility, you stop waiting to be rescued and start building the love you actually want.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one-on-one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'"— Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com Read Manny's Book! The Tao of the Unbreakable Man

SummaryPart 1: Why Vacations MatterEllen shares why vacations aren’t just for rest—they’re essential to creative thinking, leadership clarity, and strong relationships. She explains how time away creates space for emotional reset, presence, and reconnection with your partner (and yourself).Part 2: Business, Boundaries, and BurnoutA reality check for entrepreneurs: If your business can’t run without you, it’s not scalable—or healthy. Ellen explains why systems, delegation, and leadership clarity are critical not just for growth, but for protecting your relationships and freedom.Part 3: What Actually Counts as a VacationFrom solo reboots to all-inclusive resorts, creative retreats to digital detoxes—Ellen walks through a range of vacation types that can meet your current needs. She shares tips for working vacations, hybrid getaways, and how to rebuild trust if your partner is tired of you “sort of” unplugging.Key Takeaways:Presence is the currency of connection—and vacation is one of the best ways to earn it back.Time off isn’t indulgent—it’s strategic. Don’t wait until burnout forces your hand.If your business falls apart without you, that’s not a strength. It’s a systems and leadership gap.A working vacation can work—if you plan it right and treat your partner with intentionality.Rebuilding trust after too many “half unplugged” trips requires honesty, structure, and follow-through.Not all vacations need to be two weeks in Europe—find the flavor that fits your life right now.Call to Action:If you know it’s time to get serious about both your business and your relationship being able to thrive without constant pressure on you—start by booking a Relationship Reset Call. It’s quick, private, free, and easy to schedule. And while it’s called a relationship reset, you should know: I work with business owners where the relationship issues and the business issues are tightly connected. Helping you untangle both—and find practical, strategic solutions at the point where they intersect—is my specialty. This is the first step toward building a life where your relationship is fulfilling, your business is sustainable, and you don’t have to carry the entire load alone.Closing Thoughts:Ask yourself:What kind of vacation do I actually need right now?Pick one. Plan it. Make it happen. Because your life—and your relationship—needs you in it, showing up in your full glory, not an exhausted shell of a man.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

SUMMARY:In this final episode of the happiness series, Ellen Dorian brings everything together—why happiness matters, what gets in the way, and most importantly, how to actually build it. This episode is divided into three key parts:A review of the series—Happiness in relationships, the barriers men face, busting the Happy Wife, Happy Life myth, and introducing the Relationship Energy SpectrumAn update on the Relationship Energy Spectrum.—How happiness, engagement, challenge and skills align, based on Jay Shetty’s insights on flow-state theory shared on the Diary of a CEO podcast. Five no-BS strategies to take control of your own happiness—without toxic positivity, gratitude journals, or generic self-help advice.Part 1: Why Happiness Matters & The Relationship Energy SpectrumHappiness isn’t a luxury—it directly impacts relationships and life satisfaction.The Happy Wife, Happy Life myth sets men up for failure by putting happiness outside their control.The Relationship Energy Spectrum (introduced in the last episode) helps men understand whether they’re engaged or disengaged in their relationship.Part 2: How Flow State Theory & Happiness AlignJay Shetty explained Flow State Theory on Diary of a CEO—happiness comes from being fully engaged in what you’re doing. He explained that the brain needs challenge and skill to be balanced—too much challenge creates stress, too little creates boredom.The Relationship Energy Spectrum aligns with Flow State Theory:Flow = Engaged & Positive → Challenge and skills are balanced. Battle Stations = Engaged & Negative → Too much challenge, not enough skill. Comfort Zone = Disengaged & Positive → Skills too high, challenge too low → leads to boredom. Loveless Limbo = Disengaged & Negative → No challenge, no skill → leads to emotional numbness.Key Reflection Question: Do you need to seek out new challenges or up-level your skills to improve your relationship?Part 3: 5 No-BS Strategies for Making More Happiness in Your Life1. Shift from Goal-Driven to Impact-Driven FulfillmentMen often fall into the Achievement-Happiness Loop—chasing bigger goals but never feeling fulfilled.Hedonic Adaptation means every success quickly feels normal, leading to temporary highs and inevitable letdowns.Dr. Gad Saad explains that creativity is a major driver of happiness—people who build, innovate, and create experience deeper fulfillment than those chasing trophies.Legacy is more than money—the impact you create and the relationships you nurture are what truly matter.2. Change Your Currency from Money to TimeOnce you quit seeking happiness through achievement, you need a new way to measure what truly matters. And if happiness is the goal, then the most valuable resource isn’t money, it’s time.A graph paper exercise helps visualize how many prime years of life are left—and how to use them wisely.The golf example: Golfers spend $10,000–$15,000 per year on the sport, but if they never have time to play, was that money (and time) well spent?Making decisions based on time gained, not money spent, leads to more freedom and happiness.3. Cut the Bottom 10%Inspired by Ellen's mentor, Leo Casey, who is a fractional CFO. Every year, cut the least valuable 10% of expenses, time-wasters, and commitments.Apply the Four Rs: Remove, Reassign, Relegate, or Rehabilitate to free up mental bandwidth and time.If your relationship is in the bottom 10%, don’t dump it—put it in rehabilitate mode and invest in making it a top 10% relationship.4. Reconnect with the Natural WorldThe average man spends 93% of his life indoors—and it’s making them tired, stressed, and disconnected. Science-backed ways to reset:Grounding: Walking barefoot rebalances the body's electrical charge → reduces stress, inflammation, and improves sleep.Forest Bathing: Trees release compounds that lower stress hormones and improve mental clarity.Salt therapy: Negative ions in ocean air improve breathing, mood, and sleep quality.Indoor solutions: Himalayan salt lamps, grounding mats, and NASA-approved indoor plants can replicate some of these benefits.5. Make Happiness a Daily PracticeHappiness isn’t a feeling—it’s a skill. The One-Minute Happiness SITREP rewires the brain:What made me feel even a little bit happy today?What’s one thing I can do tomorrow to get more of that?Over time, recognizing and creating happiness becomes second nature.Key Takeaways:Many men get blindsided by their partner’s unhappiness because they mistake the Comfort Zone for a healthy relationship.Call to Action:Want personalized help applying these strategies? Book a free Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com.Join the conversation in the Passionate Partners Insider Community on Facebook.Have thoughts on this episode? Email Ellen at [email protected] or connect with her on social media.Follow, Subscribe & Review to help more men access this content and strengthen their relationships.Closing Thoughts:This episode wraps up

In this episode of Make More Love, Ellen Dorian introduces the Relationship Energy Spectrum and shows how your emotional state shapes the quality of your relationship. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything “right” but still feel disconnected, this episode will help you identify the key obstacles to happiness and show you how to shift your energy to create a stronger, more fulfilling relationship.Part 1: Why Happiness is a Relationship ForceThe Relationship Multiplier Effect: Happiness isn’t just personal—it’s relational.Why men enter relationships seeking happiness, yet often feel unfulfilled.The Relationship Drive Matrix: Our core motivations for relationships—seeking pleasure, avoiding pain, wanting connection, and avoiding isolation.Part 2: Three Big Obstacles to Happiness for Men The Achievement Trap: Men are conditioned to believe success = happiness, but external success doesn’t automatically create internal fulfillment.Emotional Suppression: Many men are raised to suppress emotions, making it hard to even recognize happiness when it happens.Social Resistance: Expressing too much happiness can trigger negative reactions, reinforcing stoic or disengaged behaviors.Uncle Joe’s Story: A real-life example of how unchecked resentment and emotional suppression can impact a man’s life and relationships.Part 3: The Relationship Energy Spectrum – How Your Emotional State Shapes Your RelationshipFlow State (Engaged Positive Energy): The ideal—high engagement, positive energy, deep connection.Battle Stations (Engaged Negative Energy): High engagement, but in constant conflict—resentment, arguing, keeping score.Comfort Zone (Disengaged Positive Energy): Coasting along, no real problems, but no spark or growth either.Loveless Limbo (Disengaged Negative Energy): No engagement, no positive energy—emotional disconnection and slow deterioration.Key Takeaways:Many men struggle with happiness because they've been conditioned to link it to external achievements. Success doesn’t automatically lead to fulfillment, and chasing goals without addressing internal happiness can leave you feeling empty.If you can’t identify happiness, you can’t cultivate it. Decades of emotional suppression and societal expectations can make it difficult for men to recognize, express, and sustain genuine happiness.Mapping where you stand in the Relationship Energy Spectrum is the first step to change. Once you know whether you’re in Flow State, Battle Stations, the Comfort Zone, or Loveless Limbo, you can take intentional steps toward shifting your energy and engagement in the relationship.Call to Action:Over the next few days, pay attention to how you’re showing up in your relationship:Are you engaged or disengaged?Are you bringing positive or negative energy?No judgment—just observe.Need support? Set up a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen at relationshipresetcall.com to get a clear path forward.Closing Thoughts:So far in this series on happiness, we’ve covered some big ideas. We started with how happiness affects relationships—how your personal fulfillment fuels connection, intimacy, and long-term passion. Today, we tackled what happiness actually is and how to identify it, breaking down the obstacles that make it hard for men to recognize, express, and experience happiness in their relationships.Next week, we’ll get into the practical side—how to cultivate happiness for yourself, so you’re not just waiting for it to happen, but actively creating a life that feels fulfilling and energizing.I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. Is happiness an important topic for you? What questions do you have? What would you like to hear more about? Is there anything you agree or disagree with? I want you in on the conversation. Send me an email, drop into the P3 Insider’s Community, or set up a free Relationship Reset Call if you want to dig into your specific situation one-on-one.And don’t forget—if you’re enjoying the series, hit follow, leave a review, or share this episode with someone who needs to hear it.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email

In this episode of Make More Love, Ellen kicks off a new series on happiness—what it actually is, why it matters, and how it plays into having a fulfilling, passionate relationship.She tackles one of the biggest myths in relationships: "Happy Wife, Happy Life."What’s the real truth about happiness in relationships?Ellen introduces the Relationship Multiplier Effect, explaining why happier men tend to have happier wives. She shares client stories, expert insights, and real strategies for building happiness that fuels passion, connection, and fulfillment in relationships.Part 1: The Myth of “Happy Wife, Happy Life”Many men believe their role is to make their wife happy—and that doing so will result in a happy marriage.A 2014 study found that a wife’s unhappiness is more likely to lead to divorce, but a husband’s unhappiness doesn’t have the same impact.This leads to the wrong conclusion—that a man’s happiness doesn’t matter in a relationship.The truth: Men and women experience happiness differently. Men tend to compartmentalize and shift focus to work or hobbies when unhappy, while women connect their emotional well-being directly to the relationship.This misunderstanding is why so many men get blindsided by divorce.Part 2: The Cost of Living by This Myth (JQ’s Story)Ellen shares a real-life example from a client, JQ, who followed the "Happy Wife, Happy Life" model.He built the life his wife wanted, assuming that her happiness would bring them both fulfillment.The reality? He lost sight of what made him happy, working long hours to maintain a lifestyle that didn’t bring him joy.When he finally faced a personal crisis, he realized he no longer knew what happiness even looked like.Part 3: The Relationship Multiplier EffectHappier men tend to have happier wives.When you focus on your own fulfillment, you create a positive feedback loop in your relationship.Happiness spreads. Misery spreads. Which do you want in your relationship?A fulfilled man is more attractive, emotionally strong, and less demanding of validation.Happiness creates more presence, passion, and engagement, leading to stronger intimacy and connection.Key Takeaways:You can’t delegate happiness. You’re responsible for your own.Sacrificing your happiness doesn’t create a happy relationship—it creates burnout, resentment, and disconnection.Happiness in relationships is a multiplier—when you invest in your own fulfillment, it naturally strengthens your connection with your partner.Call to Action:What makes you happy?If you don’t know the answer, you won't want to miss the next episode. If you’re ready to take action in your relationship, book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen. Let’s get you moving in the right direction.Join the Passionate Partners Insider Community on Facebook for exclusive content and resources.All links can be found below."What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife." — Ellen DorianClosing Thoughts:Happiness isn’t a luxury— it’s the foundation of every thriving, passionate relationship.Your personal fulfillment is directly tied to the strength of your relationship. When you feel energized, when you feel engaged, when you feel alive—your relationship reflects that back to you.If you’ve spent years focused on making everyone else happy while ignoring your own needs, then your relationship is going to feel the weight of that. And at some point, your partner will, too.When was the last time you thought about what actually makes you happy? If you don’t know, that’s okay. That’s exactly what we’re tackling next time. Because before you can build a fulfilling life and relationship, you need to reconnect with yourself.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshi

Date night should be something you both look forward to—not a routine obligation that fizzles out over time. In this episode, we revisit the best strategies for making date night exciting, meaningful, and passion-fueled. Learn how to break out of the "dinner and a movie" rut, create unforgettable experiences, and make date nights work for your relationship dynamic.If you’re ready to level up your date nights and reignite that spark, this episode is for you!Part 1: Why Most Date Nights FailMany couples fall into a predictable routine that makes date nights feel like just another task.The biggest mistakes include:Repeating the same experiences without variety.Making date night feel like an obligation instead of an opportunity.Treating it as a bid for sex rather than a time for deepening connection.Solution: The key to better date nights isn’t just spontaneity—it’s thoughtful planning with the right emotional elements.Part 2: The Master Date Night FrameworkThree phases:Anticipation – Build excitement beforehand with playful teasing, surprises, and shared expectations.Experience – Stay present, minimize distractions, and focus on your partner’s enjoyment.Afterglow – Keep the emotional connection going beyond the night itself.The 5 Emotional Elements That Elevate Date Night:Fire – Create sexual tension and attraction.Intensity – Deepen emotional and physical connection.Immersion – Build a private "love bubble" where only the two of you exist.Resonance – Show your partner they are seen, heard, and understood.Harmony – Sync up with each other’s energy to create a natural flow.Part 3: The 7 Types of Dates & How to Plan ThemAvoid the same-old routine by mixing up date types:Romantic Date – Classic candlelit dinners, dancing, and celebrations.Relaxed Date – Low-key nights at home, movie marathons, cooking together.Reminiscing Date – Recreate your first date or revisit meaningful places.Recreational Date – Physical activity like hiking, biking, or dancing.Reaching Out Date – Volunteering or working on a cause together.Risk-Taking Date – Trying something new or adventurous.Reconciliation Date – Strategic dates to rebuild connection after conflict.Key Takeaways:Date nights don’t have to be extravagant—but they do need to be intentional.Vary your date types to keep the spark alive.Use emotional elements to elevate the experience and make your partner feel truly connected to you.Call to Action:Book a Free Relationship Reset Call – Need help improving your relationship? Grab a 15-minute strategy call at relationshipresetcall.com.Join the Passionate Partners Insider Community – Get exclusive content, resources, and support from like-minded individuals.Follow & Subscribe – Never miss an episode! Hit follow on your favorite podcast platform and leave a review to help spread the word.Closing Thoughts:Date nights can be a game-changer in your relationship—when done right. By incorporating these strategies, you can create dates that fuel connection, passion, and intimacy, bringing you and your partner closer than ever.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

Marriage is already an absurd idea when you think about it—so why do we get so serious about keeping it running smoothly? In this episode, Ellen introduces the Absurdity Principle of Relationship Growth and dives into three ways to inject more fun into your relationship.If your relationship feels routine, predictable, or just too serious, these approaches will break you out of your comfort zone, increase connection, and make your relationship more exciting again.Part 1: The Absurdity of Relationships & Why Fun DisappearsWhy long-term relationships naturally become too serious—and how that kills connection.The big mistake couples make when they try to fix a stale relationship with logic.The Absurdity Principle: Why embracing the ridiculousness of lifelong commitment is the key to making it work.Rate your relationship’s fun level—if it’s below a 7, you need this episode.Part 2: 3 Ways to Bring Back Fun & Playfulness1. The Surrender Date – Letting go of control leads to the best experiences.One partner plans everything—location, outfits, food, activities. The other just goes along for the ride.Why it works: Builds trust, creates surprise and excitement, and shakes up the usual relationship dynamic.Ideas to try: Blindfolded Outfit Challenge, Trying a Completely New Activity, or Over-the-Top Themed Date Night.2. Whose Line Couples Edition – Improv your way to better connection.Inspired by Whose Line Is It Anyway?, this game-based approach adds humor, novelty, and unpredictability into your relationship.Game options:Questions Only – Every response must be a question!Scenes From a Hat – Act out funny, flirty, or ridiculous scenarios.Props – Grab an object and invent as many crazy uses for it as possible.Want more scenes? Download the free list of 25 Couples Scenes From a Hat! [https://passionatepartnersproject.com/25-scenes-from-a-hat/]3. Try Something Physical – Movement boosts connection, attraction, and chemistry.Ideas include: Couples dance classes, roller skating, sexy partner workouts, or even body painting.Why it works: Moving together builds chemistry in ways that words can’t.Key Takeaways:People may not stop loving each other—but they often stop having fun together.You don’t just fall into playfulness—you have to create it.Trying something new together shakes up routines and reintroduces attraction.Call to Action:Pick one approach and try it this week. DM Ellen or tag her in the P3 Insider's Community with your best moment!Want more fun ideas? Grab the free Scenes From a Hat download at [YourLandingPage.com]!Need help making this work? Book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen at relationshipresetcall.comClosing Thoughts:"We all want fun, exciting, and playful relationships, but fun doesn’t just happen. You have to make space for it. You have to create it. And yeah, sometimes that takes effort. But wasn’t planning fun dates exciting when you first started dating? It was work, but it was high-reward work."Start small – Pick just one playful thing this week.Schedule it if you have to – Spontaneity is a myth; even early dating was planned.Push through the awkwardness – Fun feels weird at first, but it gets easier the more you do it.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations.Download 25 Scenes from a Hat for Couples Here:https://passionatepartnersproject.com/25-scenes-from-a-hat/ Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

SUMMARY:If you didn't listen to last week's Valentine’s Day Special—or you listened but didn’t take action—there’s a chance you’re going to be in the doghouse. And if that’s the case, you’re going to need a plan to get out.In this episode, Ellen breaks down what the doghouse really is (hint: it’s not just about being in trouble), why it happens, how to recognize the warning signs, and, most importantly, how to get out and stay out—for good.You’ll meet Bill, a VIP client who found himself in the doghouse without a clue. And, you’ll learn how to prevent disconnection, build stronger communication, so you can retire the doghouse dynamic from your relationship permanently.Part 1: What Is the Doghouse and Why Does It Happen?The doghouse isn’t just about being in trouble—it’s an emotional space where one partner withdraws due to unmet expectations, unresolved frustrations, or a perceived lack of priority.How disconnection builds over time and why it can sneak up on high-performing men who are laser-focused on their careers.The "Friend Test" analogy: How relationship withdrawal mirrors friendships that fade when effort isn’t reciprocated.Part 2: Case Study—Bill’s StoryBill, a VIP Client, shares his frustration about constantly ending up in the doghouse without knowing why.A deep dive into Bill’s missed bids for connection: an overlooked vacation plan and neglected smoke detector batteries—small actions that sent unintended messages to his wife.The realization: It’s often not about what you did, but what you didn’t do.Part 3: How to Get Out—and Stay Out—of the DoghouseEllen helps Bill align his actions with his intentions, track his commitments, and initiate a direct conversation to eliminate the doghouse dynamic.She lays out five actionable strategies to avoid disconnection and build a stronger relationship: 1) Recognize and respond to bids for connection. 2) Acknowledge and fulfilled promises. 3) Take immediate action on something small. 4) Open the conversation about the doghouse. 5) Establish regular check-ins. Key Takeaways:The doghouse isn’t a punishment—it’s a sign of disconnection.Small, repeated disappointments add up and push your partner to withdraw.The way out isn’t grand gestures—it’s consistent, meaningful action and open communication.You can’t fix what you don’t see, so learning to recognize your partner’s needs and following through is key to keeping your relationship strong. Closing Thoughts:So, as we wrap up this episode, ask yourself:What’s one small thing I can do today to reconnect with my partner?Where have I been missing bids for connection—and how can I start noticing them?How can I be more intentional about following through on my commitments? The doghouse isn’t just about being "in trouble"—it’s about disconnection. It happens when small disappointments, forgotten promises, and missed bids for connection pile up over time. If you’re in the doghouse, it probably didn’t happen overnight, and it won’t go away on its own. But you have the power to change it.You can’t read your partner’s mind, but you can show up consistently, pay attention, and follow through on the things that matter to them.Relationships aren’t about perfection—they’re about making each other feel seen, heard, valued and loved.Call to Action:If you're stuck the doghouse, you don’t have to stay there. Book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen at relationshipresetcall.com. In just 15 minutes, you’ll get clear on what’s going on in your relationship and walk away with one or two actionable steps to start making real progress. Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.And if you found this episode helpful, help us spread the word—hit subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with a friend who might need it.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Rese

In this Valentine’s Day special episode, Ellen Dorian dives into the history, meaning, and modern-day pressures of the holiday. Whether listeners are diehard romantics or Valentine’s Day cynics, Ellen provides practical advice and creative ideas to help them plan a day that fits their relationship. From understanding their partner’s expectations to avoiding last-minute stress, this episode is packed with insights to make Valentine's Day a meaningful and stress-free experience.Part 1: Understanding Valentine's DayA look at the origins of the holiday, including its rebellious roots in ancient Rome.Why Valentine’s Day can feel commercialized and how shifting perspectives can help.The significance of aligning with or acknowledging a partner's attachment to the day.Part 2: Meeting Relationship ExpectationsThe importance of understanding a partner’s expectations for Valentine's Day.The consequences of ignoring the holiday if it's important to one partner.Two options: setting clear boundaries or using the holiday to strengthen the relationship.Part 3: Planning a Personalized Valentine’s Day Strategies for different types of relationships:Partners who are indifferent to the holiday.Partners who want something special but aren’t tied to traditions.Traditionalists who expect classic Valentine’s Day elements (roses, chocolates, fancy dinner).Key Takeaways:Understanding how a partner feels about romantic gestures can prevent miscommunication and disappointment.Thoughtful, personalized efforts go a long way in building a stronger, more affectionate relationship.Planning ahead ensures less stress, fewer mistakes, and a better overall experience.Call to Action:Listeners can download the Ultimate Valentine’s Day Planning Kit to get a head start on their planning. The kit includes a timeline, curated gift ideas, and a planner to keep everything organized. Get our Ultimate Valentine's Day Planning Kit:Download it nowClosing Thoughts:Ellen encourages listeners to take one small step to elevate their next Valentine’s Day, whether this year’s celebration is a hit or a lesson learned. Showing a partner that they are understood and appreciated strengthens intimacy, affection, and resilience in the relationship.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

In the final episode of our Avoiding Divorce series, Ellen explores what happens when couples no longer want the same things in life. She breaks down the three main reasons this misalignment occurs, the emotional dynamics that make it worse, and the three principles to help get your relationship back on track. This is about rediscovering or even defining, for the first time, a shared vision for your future—one that keeps you and your partner aligned, connected, and moving forward together.Part 1: Why Couples Lose Their Shared VisionEllen explains how many divorces are driven by couples who say, "We just didn’t want the same things anymore."3 Reasons for misalignment:Goals and priorities diverge over time.There was never a shared vision to begin with.One partner drastically changes the trajectory of the relationship.Part 2: Emotional Dynamics That Worsen the ProblemLoss of respect undermines trust and collaboration.Loss of confidence in the plan can lead to pretending and disengagement.Emotional withdrawal (discussed in Episode 26, Dead Quiet: Is Stonewalling Killing Your Relationship?) creates distance that grows over time.Part 3: The Three Principles to Get Back in SyncPrinciple 1: Switch off Autopilot and Re-EngageLet go of magical thinking—your relationship won’t fix itself.Reflect on this question: What will my relationship look like in 10 years if nothing changes?Take control of your future and create the relationship you want.Principle 2: Create a Vision You Can Believe InIf you're uncertain about your relationship's future, progress will be hard.Paint a picture of a realistic future you and your partner would want to stay in.This vision needs to reflect both your dreams and your partner's.Principle 3: Co-Create a Shared VisionOnce you have clarity, collaborate with your partner to merge your visions.Sit on the same side of the table, working as a team to tackle alignment.You don’t need to agree on everything—find common ground and create a future you both feel excited about.Key Takeaways:You can reconnect with your partner if you’ve lost your shared vision.Start by taking action on your own—get clear on your own vision before involving your partner.Build a shared vision that balances both partners' dreams and goals, so you can work toward a future you both want to stay in.Call to Action:Book a Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com.Follow or subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss future episodes.Leave a review to help others find the show.Share this episode with someone who might need it.Closing Thoughts:Ellen reminds listeners that divorce season can become recommitment season—an opportunity to realign and rebuild a stronger, more connected relationship. Relationships aren’t bulletproof, but by cultivating passion, presence, and purpose, you can weather life’s challenges together.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

In this episode of Make More Love, Ellen Dorian explores the impact of betrayal on relationships and how it undermines trust, presence, and purpose—the key drivers of a passionate partnership. Ellen introduces the S*H*I*T Model, a practical framework designed to help listeners process betrayal, rebuild trust, and move forward, whether that means repairing the relationship or deciding to let it go.Part 1: Betrayals vs. DisappointmentsThe difference between disappointments and betrayals: Disappointments don’t usually erode trust, but a pattern of consistent letdowns can lead to betrayal.Betrayals involve forethought and perception, making them uniquely damaging to trust and connection.Part 2: The S*H*I*T ModelPhase 1: Crap or Get Off the Pot – Decide if you’re ready to rebuild trust or if it’s time to let go.Phase 2: Climb Off the Crap Pile – Let go of resentment and unrealistic expectations that keep you stuck.Phase 3: Compost That Crap – Turn lessons from betrayal into personal and relational growth through actionable steps.Part 3: Practical AdviceLearn how to let go of the “resentment story” and societal fairy tales about relationships.Focus on personal growth, rebuilding trust incrementally, and creating a shared relationship model.When necessary, seek guidance from a coach or counselor to work through unresolved issues.Key Takeaways:Not all letdowns are betrayals. Disappointments hurt but don’t usually erode trust, while betrayals strike at the foundation of the relationship.The S*H*I*T Model helps you decide if you’re ready to rebuild trust. It walks you through a process to determine whether you’re prepared to do the work.Decisiveness and letting go come first. Commit to staying or leaving, and release resentment before addressing the betrayal itself.Call to Action:Ellen created a free downloadable worksheet to guide you through the S*H*I*T Model. Use it to figure out where you stand and the steps you can take to move forward. If you need personalized support, book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen at relationshipresetcall.com.Closing Thoughts:Next week, Ellen will wrap up the Avoiding Divorce series with a discussion on regaining alignment in your relationship and how to create a shared vision for the future.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below.S*H*I*T Model Worksheet: https://drive.google.com/file/d/12u7PnW5OSu-ac28ckuoDCoryDW-Zl-vv/view?usp=sharing"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

Summary:Welcome to part two of our series on Divorce Season and how to avoid it. January is often called "divorce season," and we’re dedicating this month to helping you avoid becoming a statistic. In this episode, we tackle a crucial aspect of maintaining a thriving relationship: passion. We’ll explore the "Other Four Horsemen" that quietly erode intimacy and connection in relationships and, most importantly, how to overcome them. These hidden dynamics—Neediness, Childlike Behavior, Apathy, and Transactionalism—may be undermining your relationship more than you realize. Learn to identify these behaviors and take actionable steps to build a deeper, more meaningful connection with your partner.Part 1: Understanding the Other Four HorsemenOverview of "The Other Four Horsemen": Neediness, Childlike Behavior, Apathy, and Transactionalism.Why these unconscious behaviors erode intimacy and create distance in relationships.Part 2: Breaking Down Each HorsemanNeediness: Seeking constant validation and reassurance, which can exhaust your partner and kill attraction.Examples: Constant reassurance, clinginess, and overreacting to mistakes.Solution: Notice when you’re doing it, pause, and focus on meeting your own needs.Childlike Behavior: Failing to live up to the expectations of adult partnership.Examples: Leaving messes, weaponized helplessness, and acting immaturely.Solution: Read the room, take responsibility for key tasks, and emulate adult role models.Apathy: Neglecting to put effort into the relationship.Examples: Not being present, retiring romance, and losing empathy.Solution: Reconnect with gratitude, act with intention, and shift your perspective.Transactionalism: Treating the relationship as a series of quid pro quo exchanges.Examples: Conditional love, keeping score, and using gifts as leverage.Solution: Shift your focus from what you’re getting to what you’re giving, and communicate intentions openly.Part 3: Tools for TransformationRecognizing these patterns is the first step toward change.Small, intentional actions can have a big impact on reigniting passion and connection.Recommendations for additional insights:Episode 7: Master Date Nights to Refuel Your Relationship.Episode 23: Build A Bonfire: Steps to Reignite Your Relationship.Episode 24: A Modern Hero’s Guide to Making More Love.Episode 25: How to Make Your Partner Feel Loved and Get More Love in Return.Key Takeaways:The "Other Four Horsemen" are subtle but powerful barriers to intimacy.Identifying and addressing these behaviors can transform your relationship.Reigniting passion doesn’t require grand gestures—small, consistent actions matter most.Call to Action:If you’re ready to dive deeper, book a free Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com. Whether it’s a minor tune-up or a major overhaul, we’ll create a plan to help you move forward.Closing Thoughts:The foundation of a strong relationship is recognizing patterns that no longer serve you and committing to change. These small adjustments can pave the way for a more passionate and fulfilling connection with your partner.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

In this episode of The Make More Love Show, Ellen explores why January is often called "Divorce Season" and reframes it as the perfect time for a Relationship Wake-Up Call. She introduces the concept of the "Recommitment Season" and explores the reasons why this time of year is critical for relationships. Ellen discusses the warning signs of relationship trouble, the costs of divorce, and how gaining clarity can empower you to take control of your future.Part 1: Why January Is Known as Divorce SeasonEllen outlines the four key reasons January is known for a spike in divorces: the holiday letdown, business stress, financial reviews, and resolutions for fresh starts. These factors combine to make January a turning point for many couples.Part 2: Assessing Your RelationshipUsing the analogy of wine, vodka, or fish, Ellen helps listeners evaluate their relationship's current state. Is it improving, stagnant, or deteriorating? She explains how each state ties to the risks of divorce and what action steps might be appropriate.Part 3: The Emotional, Social, and Financial Costs of DivorceEllen emphasizes the devastating impact divorce can have emotionally, socially, and financially, particularly for business owners. She explains how the financial toll often starts years before divorce papers are filed, with overspending, poor financial decisions, and the stress of a deteriorating relationship.Key Takeaways:January is a pivotal month—use it to reflect on your relationship.Assess whether your relationship is like wine, vodka, or fish to understand where you stand.Gaining clarity about your options can help you make better decisions and take control of your future.Call to Action:If you’re considering divorce or feeling stuck in your relationship, take advantage of Ellen’s free Relationship Reset Call. This 15–20 minute session gives you a chance to brainstorm options and gain a fresh perspective. Schedule your call at relationshipresetcall.com.Closing Thoughts:"January doesn’t have to be Divorce Season—it can be your Recommitment Season. Whether you’re ready to rebuild your relationship or simply gain clarity about your options, I’m here to help you take the next step."Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only, and reflects the personal opinions and experiences of the host and guests. It is not a substitute for professional advice or guidance in specific situations. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

In this special holiday episode, Ellen Dorian reflects on the Spirit of Generosity, a concept she learned from her father and continues to embody in her coaching. Through heartfelt storytelling, she introduces the five aspects of generosity—emotional, relational, philosophical, action-oriented, and legacy-focused—and shares actionable ways to bring these into your relationships. This episode is a guide to creating deeper connections, fostering trust, and leaving a meaningful legacy for your loved ones.Part 1: A Holiday Story About GenerosityEllen shares a moving story about her father’s approach to Christmas and the lessons he imparted through the concept of Santa Claus as the embodiment of generosity.She recounts her dad’s final gift to her, The Gift of the Magi by O. Henry, and how it symbolizes selflessness, love, and sacrifice in relationships.Part 2: The Five Aspects of GenerosityEmotional Generosity: Giving time, attention, and love freely without expecting anything in return. Includes practical tips like using a “root cause analysis” approach to stay present during emotional conversations.Relational Generosity: Paying attention to your partner’s needs and stepping in to share the mental load. Features the “By The Clock” exercise to anticipate and address tasks proactively.Philosophical Generosity: Cultivating a mindset of abundance by focusing on gratitude and appreciation rather than scarcity or criticism.Action-Oriented Generosity: Doing what you say you’ll do, being reliable, and supporting your partner when it matters most, even when it’s inconvenient.Legacy of Generosity: Building a lasting impact through selflessness in relationships, modeled after her father’s example.Part 3: Holiday ReflectionsEllen encourages listeners to embrace the Spirit of Generosity during the holiday season and to pass it forward in their own lives.She reminds listeners that the greatest gift they can give their children is the example of a passionate and connected partnership.Key Takeaways:Generosity is More Than Money. True generosity lies in how you give your time, attention, and care to those you love. It’s about showing up fully and selflessly in ways that matter most.Emotional and Relational Generosity Build Connection.Trust and connection grow when you’re emotionally present and proactive in supporting your partner’s needs—whether by sharing the mental load or simply listening with focus and care.Your Legacy Begins in Your Relationships.The most impactful legacy you leave isn’t material; it’s the example you set in your relationships. Cultivating a passionate and connected partnership shapes how your children and loved ones approach their own connections.Call to Action:Feeling stuck in your relationship? Schedule a free 15-minute Relationship Reset Call with Ellen to identify key challenges and create a plan to move forward.Visit relationshipresetcall.com to book your spot.Closing Thoughts:Ellen closes with a heartfelt wish for joy, peace, and love during the holiday season. She invites listeners to embrace the Spirit of Generosity and leave a legacy their loved ones will treasure.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

[SUMMARY]Gift-giving during the holidays or special occasions can be a minefield, especially when it comes to significant others. This week, Ellen dives into a common mistake many partners make: giving a gift card without much thought—and how it can unintentionally hurt your relationship. She shares a real-life story from a client and offers practical, step-by-step advice on how to turn even a gift card into a meaningful experience that shows your partner how much you care.Part 1: Why Gift-Giving Feels So HardEllen breaks down the common frustrations and challenges of holiday gift-giving:Why partners with “everything” are difficult to shop for.How big-ticket items and personal preferences make gift-giving feel impossible.Why a gift card might seem practical but can come across as thoughtless.She also unpacks what the phrase “It’s the thought that counts” really means—and how partners interpret effort differently.Part 2: A Client’s Gift-Giving DilemmaEllen shares the story of her client, JT, who struggled to find a gift for his wife after past failures—including a gift card disaster that caused resentment. She explores why this scenario is so common and how frustration can lead to gift-giving procrastination or avoidance altogether.Part 3: The Solution—Make It an ExperienceEllen lays out a step-by-step plan for turning a gift card or shopping budget into a meaningful and personal experience:Create a beautifully wrapped certificate for a shopping day together.Plan ahead by contacting stores and arranging a curated selection within budget.Elevate the experience with lunch, dinner, or thoughtful details that show care and effort.She also provides ideas for scaling the experience to different preferences, budgets, and logistics.Key Takeaways:A great gift isn’t about the price—it’s about the thought and effort behind it.Focusing on an experience over a “thing” creates connection and shows your partner you value them.Planning even simple details, like arranging a private shopping experience, can make all the difference.Call to Action:If you’ve ever struggled with gift-giving, this episode is your chance to rethink your approach and create a meaningful moment with your partner. For more personalized advice, schedule a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen or join the conversation in the P3 Insider’s Community. Links are below!Closing Thoughts:Ellen reminds listeners that putting thought into a gift is about more than avoiding conflict—it’s about deepening your connection and showing your partner they matter."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianSupport & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below.PS: custom jewelry design info:https://www.instagram.com/dorianjewelers/"Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

[In this off-the-cuff episode, Ellen Dorian shares candid thoughts on handling frustrations and setbacks when things don’t go as planned. Using her own tech issues as an example, Ellen explores how to manage stress and prevent it from negatively impacting your relationships. She dives into three common problems and offers five actionable principles for maintaining emotional control and resilience during challenging times.Part 1: Understanding the Impact of FrustrationHow work frustrations can spill over into your relationship, even when your partner isn’t involved.The importance of recognizing how stress affects your behavior and the energy you bring home.Part 2: Identifying Common ChallengesLosing perspective under stress and why small glitches can feel enormous.Neglecting self-care and how it creates a vicious cycle, making stress harder to handle.Part 3: Five Principles for Managing FrustrationPause Before Reacting – Take a deep breath and respond intentionally instead of emotionally.Name It to Tame It – Identify and articulate what you’re feeling to regain control.Communicate Constructively – Share your frustrations with your partner in a way that fosters understanding, not conflict.Prioritize Self-Care – Small, intentional actions can build resilience and restore your emotional balance.Engage the Gratitude Factor – Reflect on what’s going well to reframe your mindset and counter negativity.Key Takeaways:Frustrations are inevitable, but they don’t have to damage your relationship.Emotional control during challenging times is a cornerstone of living an honorable life.Practicing self-care and gratitude can help you manage stress and show up as your best self.Call to Action:Ellen shares her personal commitment to these principles and encourages listeners to take a proactive approach to maintaining balance in their lives. Whether it’s a deep breath, a moment of gratitude, or reaching out for support, small steps can make a big difference in preserving both your peace of mind and the strength of your relationships.Closing Thoughts:Ellen reflects on the importance of handling frustrations with intention, especially when life doesn’t go as planned. She emphasizes that these moments, though temporary, can leave lasting impacts if we let them spill over into our relationships. By practicing emotional control, prioritizing self-care, and staying mindful of how stress affects those around us, we can navigate challenges more gracefully.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

In this episode, Ellen sits down with the dynamic Kylie Ryan, a performance coach specializing in helping entrepreneurs unlock their potential by tackling emotional and mental roadblocks. Together, they dive into a range of provocative topics, from emotional intelligence and societal conditioning to rage and relationships. This conversation is packed with insights on how to better understand and express emotions, fostering stronger connections in both personal and professional spheres.Part 1: Understanding Emotional ConditioningEllen and Kylie discuss how upbringing, societal norms, and biological differences shape the way men and women process emotions. They delve into why many men struggle with articulating emotions and how partners can work together to create a safe space for emotional expression.Part 2: Rage, Relationships, and SocietyThe conversation shifts to the increasing rage and anger seen in society, particularly in men, stemming from isolation, lack of appreciation, and unmet emotional needs. Kylie explores the impact of suppressed emotions and the role of societal structures in perpetuating dysfunctional coping mechanisms.Part 3: The Path to Emotional MasteryKylie outlines practical strategies for managing and expressing emotions constructively. Ellen and Kylie share personal anecdotes to illustrate how addressing emotional triggers and embracing vulnerability can lead to deeper intimacy and fulfillment.Key Takeaways:Managing and expressing emotions is a sign of strength and essential for building meaningful connections.Societal norms and upbringing shape emotional habits, but you can break free from these patterns through awareness and intention.Authentic connection and intimacy arise when you let go of pretenses and embrace vulnerability with your partner.Call to Action:Ready to take control of your emotions and enhance your relationships? Join Ellen’s private Facebook community, visit her website for more resources, or schedule a free Relationship Reset Call today at relationshipresetcall.com.Closing Thoughts:Ellen encourages listeners to reflect on how managing emotions can positively impact their lives and relationships. She emphasizes that taking small steps toward emotional mastery can lead to extraordinary changes in connection and intimacy.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

The holidays can be a time of joy, but they can also be a time of stress—especially for couples. In this episode, Ellen shares why holiday conflicts happen, the hidden risks that can quietly undermine your relationship, and 5 practical strategies you can use to avoid fighting and stay connected with your partner during this busy season. Whether it’s money stress, family drama, or unmet expectations, you’ll walk away with tools to navigate the holidays with more peace and connection.Part 1: The 8 Major Causes of Holiday ConflictEllen breaks down the top reasons couples fight during the holidays, including:Money: How differing spending habits can create tension.Family Dynamics: Navigating extended family expectations and obligations.Religious Differences: Balancing beliefs about how to celebrate.Political Differences: When core values clash.Conflicting Priorities: Misalignment on how to spend time.Unmet Expectations: Disappointments when reality doesn’t match ideals.Boredom with Holiday Traditions: Balancing new ideas and old favorites.Unresolved Relationship Issues: How pre-existing tensions escalate during the season.Part 2: The Hidden Risks That Fly Under the RadarEllen explores three sneaky risks that can quietly damage your relationship over the holidays:Overindulgence: How drinking, eating, or other excesses can amplify tensions.Unhealthy Coping Strategies: Avoidance tactics like burying yourself in work or escaping into hobbies.Infidelity: Why feelings of disconnection or loneliness can heighten the risk during this time of year.Part 3: Practical Strategies for Avoiding Holiday FightingEllen shares a tactical approach to de-escalating conflict and fostering connection during the holidays. The 5 strategies include:Lay the Foundation with Clear Priorities: Align on expectations before the holidays begin.Address Stress Before It Escalates: Check in with yourself and your partner regularly.Revisit Expectations During the Holidays: Be flexible and adapt plans as needed.Solve the Conflict in the Moment: De-escalate quickly with tactical steps like acknowledging emotions and setting boundaries.Reconnect and Rebuild: Schedule intentional alone time to repair and strengthen your bond.Key Takeaways:The holidays amplify relationship stressors like money, family dynamics, and unmet expectations. Recognizing these triggers can help you navigate them better.Hidden risks like unhealthy coping mechanisms and infidelity can quietly erode your relationship if left unchecked.Practical, tactical strategies can help you avoid fighting, de-escalate conflicts, and stay connected during the holiday season.Call to Action:If holiday stress is impacting your relationship, Ellen invites you to book a free Relationship Reset Call to brainstorm solutions and reconnect with your partner. Visit her calendar link below to schedule.Closing Thoughts:The holidays don’t have to be perfect to be meaningful. What matters most is how you handle the inevitable stress—with attentiveness, intention, and honor. Remember, you chose each other for a reason, and even in tough moments, there’s a path forward to repair and connection.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. For personalized guidance on a specific situation, set up a time for a free Relationship Reset Call via her calendar link.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

Do you dread holiday gatherings, family drama, or other obligations that test your patience? What if these dreaded moments could actually strengthen your relationship?In this episode, we’re exploring the relationship challenges tied to obligations—those moments when you’d rather be anywhere else but are expected to show up. We discuss why honoring these commitments matters, how avoidance strategies harm your relationship, and ways to turn these dreaded events into opportunities for deeper connection. This episode is your guide to building a stronger, more passionate partnership.Part 1: The Real Cost of Avoiding ObligationsDiscover the three common avoidance strategies: "The Hard Pass," "The Silent Protest," and "Blowing the Escape Hatch."Understand how these approaches erode Stability, Belonging, and Affinity in your relationship.Part 2: The Relationship Hierarchy of NeedsA refresher on the five stages of the hierarchy: Vitality, Stability, Belonging, Affinity, and Passion.Learn how repeated hits to these layers affect emotional, mental, and physical well-being.Part 3: Turning Obligations into OpportunitiesExplore practical strategies like assessing joy vs. pain, collaborative planning, setting boundaries, and finding creative ways to make obligations more enjoyable.Hear real-life examples, including how one couple transformed a chaotic Thanksgiving into their best family gathering in years.Key Takeaways:Time and Presence are the most valuable currencies in a relationship—invest them wisely.Avoidance harms your relationship foundation, impacting trust, connection, and emotional health.With intention and creativity, obligations can become opportunities to build trust and deepen connection.Call to Action:Feeling stuck in your relationship? Book a free Relationship Reset Call at relationshipresetcall.com to gain clarity and start making meaningful changes today.Closing Thoughts:The way you handle obligations is a reflection of how you’ll handle life’s toughest challenges. Use these moments to show up for your partner, build trust, and prove that you’ve got each other’s backs. Together, you can turn even the most dreaded events into a foundation for a stronger, more passionate partnership.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com

In this episode of "Make More Love," host Ellen Dorian challenges the traditional notion of work-life balance and the disadvantages of compartmentalization, advocating instead for work-life integration. She shares five key principles to help entrepreneurial men harmonize their business ambitions with personal relationships, ensuring a fulfilling life both at work and at home.Part 1: Rethinking Work-Life BalanceEllen critiques the outdated concept of work-life balance, highlighting its inefficiencies and the unrealistic separation of work and personal life. She introduces the idea of work-life integration as a more cohesive approach.Part 2: Five Principles of Work-Life IntegrationEllen outlines five principles: designing your world to fit your needs, embracing authenticity, avoiding the work-life triangle, practicing intentional presence, and leveraging business skills in personal relationships. She shares personal anecdotes and practical examples to illustrate these concepts.Part 3: Tips for Implementing ChangeEllen provides actionable steps for listeners to begin integrating these principles into their lives. She emphasizes starting slow, setting micro goals, and seeking support to ensure sustainable progress.Key Takeaways:- Work-life balance is not a useful concept. Integration offers a more effective approach for business owners.- Compartmentalization and multitasking interfere with authenticity and presence.- There are 5 principles one can apply in small, manageable steps that, along with expert support, will result in a more integrated, authentic approach to relationships and life in general.Call to Action:Listeners are encouraged to join the Passionate Partners Insider community, explore resources on the website, and book a free Relationship Reset Call with Ellen for personalized guidance.Closing Thoughts:Ellen emphasizes the importance of aligning business and personal goals to create a harmonious and rewarding life. She invites listeners to reflect on their current approach and consider the benefits of work-life integration.Support & Resources:Ellen invites listeners to share their thoughts, either in the P3 Insider's Community or directly with her via email. Or, for one on one brainstorming on a specific situation, listeners can set up a time on Ellen's Calendar for a free Relationship Reset Call.All links can be found below."Until next time, remember, 'What I want most in the world is for you to Make More Love in Your Life and with Your Wife.'" - Ellen DorianDisclaimer:The Make More Love show is for information and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for the guidance of a qualified mental health or medical professional. Make More Love Show Website: www.makemorelove.showParent Company - The Passionate Partners Project: www.passionatepartnersproject.comJoin Our Passionate Partners Insider Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/682764239165105Contact Me Directly: Email: [email protected] direct message me via social media:Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/ellen.dorian.7/LinkedIn:    https://www.linkedin.com/in/ellendorian/Take the free Relationship Dynamics Quiz: http://makemorelove.show/quizSet up a Free Relationship Reset Call with me:http://relationshipresetcall.com