Lessons from a Quitter

It's my 200th episode!! WHAT?!?! It blows my mind to think about the fact that I've been putting out a podcast every single week for 200 weeks. It got me thinking about what I had to have believed 4 years ago in order to jump blindly into this project that ended up changing my life.

This week I want to talk to you about your money mindset. I actually did an episode on this before but I realized I had a lot more to say so I needed to do another episode. In our society, we've been made to think that wanting a lot of money is bad and rich people are bad or evil. I thought this too, until I worked on those thoughts, and now I feel completely different. So this week I want to talk to you about how money is just a resource and how changing your thoughts about it can change your life.

This week I want to talk to you about the law of polarity, also called the law of duality. It's the idea that the only way you can experience something is because you have experienced the opposite of it. And if you've been around for awhile, you know I always talk about life being 50/50 - you can only experience the good, if you've experienced the bad. So this week I want to talk to you about how you don't have to be scared of those negative emotions and how you can use them to live the biggest, fullest life you want.

This week's episode is a replay of Episode 50: How Blogging Helped Leslie Samuel Get And Then Quit His Dream Career. It's hard not to smile while listening to today's guest talk about his journey and you'll see why. Leslie's story is something we can all learn so much from. Through determination and a genuine love of teaching biology, he managed to land himself his dream job as a biology professor without getting a Ph.D! Crazy, right? So many of us are stuck believing that we have to go the traditional route to pursue the things we love, but that really isn't the case anymore. Before Leslie landed his dream job, he started out as a high school teacher with a huge love for science and biology. Coincidently, in 2008, he also stumbled upon a way to make money online through blogging. He used his newfound skills to create a blog, Interactive Biology, where he taught Biology the way he wanted. He would make interactive, high-energy videos illustrating various concepts like how an action potential works. It was this very blog that ultimately landed him his dream job. By chance, he had received an email one day about an open teaching position in a doctoral program. Was he qualified? Absolutely not. Did it stop him from applying? Not even in the slightest. Leslie interviewed for the job and made it very clear that he wasn't qualified, but he showed them his blog that was evidence of his knowledge and teaching style. Within an hour of leaving that interview, he received a phone call saying he got the job. Leslie's story is living proof that you don't have to do everything the traditional route. You can feel (and be) unqualified for the job or position that you want, but if you truly love something enough and you put in the work, the opportunities will come! But the best part of Leslie's story is the fact that blogging opened up a whole new world of impact for him. He realized how many lives he was changing by teaching other people how to grow and monetize their blogs. He ultimately decided to leave his dream job as a professor to focus exclusively on his latest blog, Become A Blogger, where he is taking on the mission of "Changing The World One Blog At A Time." Here is what we chat about in this episode: Why you should make a change in your life if you're unhappy. Why you don't need to pursue things the traditional way. How everyone has something they can share with other people. How the technology today makes it easy to start a side hustle. And so much more! Where to find Leslie: Website Resources Mentioned: Interactive Biology YouTube

This week I want to talk to you about the compare and despair cycle so many of us find ourselves in, myself included. We scroll through Instagram, envious of what we see others post, forgetting that social media is a highlight reel. However, comparison and jealousy aren't always bad. If you learn to harness it correctly, it can lead you to the life you want. In this podcast, I detail how to stop the endless comparison and how to utilize your jealousy to figure out what you actually want.

On this week's episode, I talk with Deepa Purushothaman, a former partner at Deloitte turned author and speaker. In her book released earlier this month, Deepa draws on conversations she had with hundreds of women of color about their experiences in the workplace. I think her work is so important and is just the beginning of the change we can create in Corporate America. In this episode, we talk about: How to exercise your power and show up for yourself How colleagues can be advocates and allies to women of color How to find community during a pandemic And so much more Find Deepa here: Website: https://www.deepapuru.com/ To purchase her book: https://www.deepapuru.com/author

This week on the podcast, I'm answering your questions! As you may know, I have a button on my website that lets you leave me a voice message--any burning question you have, any topic I haven't yet covered-- you can record it right there and I'll answer it on the podcast. Today's episode is our first listener Q&A! I'm taking a few of the questions that I haven't answered on the podcast yet and diving in! If you like this episode and want to hear more or you have your own question you want me to answer, go to lessonsfromaquitter.com/podcast and leave me a message!

This week I want to talk to you about my six month group coaching program, Pave Your Path. I'll tell you all about the program - who it's best for, who it's not best for, all the things. I'll also answer some of the commonly asked questions I get during each launch. Doors are currently open now through Friday, March 18th. Join me, I'd love to have you! Sign up at lessonsfromaquitter.com/paveyourpath

This week on the podcast, I have my former student, Cynthia. Before joining the program, Cynthia had been working at the same company for five years, was over-worked and stressed all the time. She worked nights and weekends and was missing out on time with her family. Right before the program began, Cynthia's mother suddenly passed away and she was scared to email her boss to ask for time off. That was the breaking point for her and she knew she couldn't stay stuck in this job anymore. Cynthia is now working a part-time job she loves, she has a four-day weekend every week and enrolled in a course to widen her skill set. But more than that, Cynthia's mindset has totally changed and it's so incredible to listen to her story.

This week on the podcast, I have my former student, Lisa McFadden. From a young age, Lisa knew she wanted to be a writer but let other people talk her into a more stable career path. Burnt out and at her wits' end, she was absolutely miserable when she signed up for my 6 month program. During the program, Lisa had a major a-ha moment that changed her life completely. Since finishing the program, she has resigned from her corporate job, moved states and started her own coaching business helping writers overcome writer's block and develop their own process. Most importantly, she's overcome her own writer's block and is able to make a living doing what she loves. Lisa claims my 6 month program changed her life, listen to the episode to find out how. Find Lisa here: Instagram: @TheWritersMindset Facebook: Lisa McFadden Website: Lisa McFadden Film

Anxiety seems to be more present in our modern lives than ever before. But I think that is partly due to the fact that we fundamentally misunderstand anxiety, which prevents us from reducing it. In this week's episode, I break down what anxiety actually is and what steps to take to help you manage it.

This week I want to talk to you about finding your purpose. Most of us have this notion that there is one purpose to our lives and we should be deeply fulfilled and if we're not, then something is wrong. So we go out and try to find our purpose, but how do you even know if you've found it? This week, I explain the problem in finding your purpose and offer my thoughts on how to reframe this major issue.

This week, we're talking about self-trust. This is the foundation of where our self-confidence comes from. And, yet, along the way, we adopted the false belief that we can't trust ourselves. So we run around asking everyone else to make decisions for us, hoping they have the answer. Because if it doesn't work, now we have someone else to blame. I don't have to tell you that is a terrible plan. And it only comes from a lack of self-trust. So this week, we're diving into how we build up that self-trust again and put an end to the blame/shame cycle.

One of the biggest misconceptions about quitting is that you can only do it if you're miserable. After all, if it's not terrible, why leave? Don't be ungrateful. Other people would kill for this job. Don't risk all of the uncertainty, regret, and judgment. Suck it up. And if these are the thoughts you're operating under, you're going to sabotage your own life in an attempt to have an "excuse" to quit. You'll start focusing on all the terrible things about your situation. You'll complain about it non-stop to your co-workers, spouse, friends…hell, anyone who will listen. You'll refuse to find ways to be happy exactly where you are. You'll start snowballing everything that is wrong in order to justify leaving. Here's the truth: You don't need any justification. You get to quit just because you want to. Even if everything is ok. Because you want growth. Because you want new adventures. Because you want to try something else. In fact, that is the BEST place to quit from. Because you're not doing it out of desperation. Because you know you could be happy either way. Because you're not waiting for some new circumstance to make you happy (spoiler alert: it never will long term) So if you're putting off your own happiness because of the hope of changing your situation, stop. Make yourself happy exactly where you are. And then decide to quit because you want to. This week on the podcast I go more in-depth about how to view quitting so you can still be happy where you are.

This week, we're going to dive into how we can take 100% responsibility for our lives. Even when we've been dealt a bad hand, even when things aren't turning out the way we wanted, even when other people won't just act the way we think they should. Ultimately, only you are responsible for your own happiness. If that triggers you into wanting to resist or reject this notion, then today's podcast is definitely for you. This is the hardest work I've ever done but it has been life-changing and I want to share it with you.

This week I want to talk to you about how you view your work and why it matters. If you've been around for a bit, you know that life is always 50/50 and that's true about work too. Your thoughts create your reality and impact your experience. So many of us are adding to our own unhappiness simply because of our own expectations. Today we dive into why that is and what we can do about it.

This week's episode is a replay of Episode 60: How Peter Glatz Quit His Dental Practice At 65 To Start a Second Career In one Of America's Best Restaurants. How many times have you wanted to start over? How many times have you started thinking about the possibilities only to follow them up with the thought, "but it's too late in my life to do this"? If you're human, then you've probably had this discussion with yourself a million different times, and that's okay, we all have those moments. However, even though you may feel like it's too late to start over, it doesn't mean that it is. Today's guest, Peter Glatz is essentially the holy grail when it comes to that myth. At 60 years old, Peter left his dentistry career of over 40 years in order to pursue cooking. He began his journey into the culinary world by reaching out to well-known chefs offering to work for free! (Who says you have to immediately start making money off of something you love? Just start!). Listen to how his journey led him to eventually landing a dream job as a link cook at Nonesuch in Oklahoma City, Bon Appetit's 2018 Best Restaurant in America. Despite working long, 12 hour days at a physically taxing job, Peter has never been happier. I love so many things about his story. There are so many people who count themselves out when they reach a certain age because they believe it's too late for them to pivot their path. But Peter's story is really a testament to the fact that there is always time to try something new! Not only that, but he didn't let his lack of formal experience stop him from feeling confident enough to reach out to those well-known chefs. There are just so, so many wonderful lessons to learn from Peter and his journey. Here is what we chat about in this episode: How it's never too late to start over. How if you want something different you should do something about it. Why you should create a vision and then take action. And so much more!

This week's episode is a replay of Episode 31: How Shinah Chang quit the straight path of law for Crooked Calligraphy. And stick around for an update from Shinah at the end! Shinah is a whiskey-loving, curse-word slinging, Harvard-trained former corporate attorney who left everything behind to find her passion. Shinah spent her entire life on the straight, "proper" path. She went to an Ivy League college, then a prestigious Law School, then worked her butt off as a corporate attorney for a big international law firm. But, after one too many days of uninspiring work and nights of sleeping under her desk, she decided she wanted to reclaim her life! She quit her job and explored so many creative avenues - knitting, woodworking, drawing, graphic design. But CALLIGRAPHY is what she fell in love with. Shinah needed plenty of inspiration along the way, but the usual sugary, sincere stuff about beauty and dreams didn't reflect what she was really feeling. So she created Crooked Calligraphy to spread creativity, courage and honest, gritty life inspiration through calligraphy. Crooked Calligraphy has worked with huge brands like Disney, Anthropologie, Jo Malone, and Dom Perignon, but Shinah's favorite work is teaching calligraphy and encouraging her students to look their fears in the face and move toward a life that will make them happy. Here is what we chat about in this episode: How she spent her childhood working towards the predictable path to "success" including getting a 1600 on her SATs and getting into Harvard How affirmation and praise can become a drug that keeps you in doing things you hate How she started realizing that she wanted to quit her job as a corporate lawyer and what steps she took before quitting How she quit law without having any idea of what to do next What she did in order to figure out what her next steps would be The importance of exploration and experimentation in finding your passions How she found calligraphy and how it turned into a business How she figured out her unique brand and voice with Crooked Calligraphy

As we're coming close to the end of 2021, I spend this episode doing a recap of my year. While we tend to wait and start the new year with goals and resolutions, I'm excited to share the goals I've set for myself (that I started on a random day in December). As always, I want you to see that you can set big goals and not meet them but still accomplish something along the way. I hope my year is an example of how you can make small changes and still see growth. Happy New Year!

We're all overwhelmed. All the time. And we think it's just the way it is. "There is just too much to do." That's a lie. For the past year, I've delved into how to overcome my own overwhelm...in building a business, in raising my kids, in surviving a pandemic. And it's been the most eye-opening experience.

This week I want to talk to you about guilt. As we're heading into the holiday season, I'm sure that we're all feeling obligated to do certain things. And I just want to offer that you don't have to do anything. So today I want to talk to you about where that guilt comes from and how to reframe those thoughts so you're not saying yes out of obligation but rather choosing what you want to do intentionally.

This week's episode is a replay of Episode 115: Life Is Both Good And Bad. On this week's episode, we talk about the duality of life, the good and the bad. Life is always going to throw curveballs at us and we need to deconstruct the idea that we need to be happy all the time. Owning our dissatisfaction and working toward goals that allow for small wins will help us be more fulfilled.

This week, we're talking about mini-experiments. So many people come to me because they have no idea what they want to do. They either stay stuck forever or decide to go all-in on the next thing that they pick. Both can be a disaster. I'm going to teach you how to start test driving a new job, hobby, or industry, before you jump in.

On this week's episode, I'm sharing the lessons I learned from my photo booth business. While I knew this business wasn't what I was passionate about, I'm so grateful to my past self for starting it because I learned so much and it eventually led me to exactly what lights me up.

"Do you regret going to law school?" I get this all the time. Why would I waste a single second regretting something I can't change? No matter how much I replay it, beat myself up, blame other people, think about how much better my life would be if I didn't go... It won't change the fact that I went to law school. So instead of wasting my time on something I can't change, I focus on what I want to do with my life from here on out. That doesn't mean that I can't learn from my past decisions. I look back and evaluate why I choose to go: ➤ where was I abandoning myself for other people's approval? ➤ where was I seeking validation instead of listening to my gut? ➤ where was I simply doing what I was told instead of questioning it? I do all of that so that I can make better decisions in the future. But that doesn't mean I ever spend the time regretting my decision. Because it is done. And I had my reasons (even if I wouldn't choose those reasons now). And I can have self-compassion for the old me who didn't know any better. And I gain nothing by torturing myself with regret. Because regret comes from a thought. The thought: "If I hadn't made that decision, my life would be so much better." And that's a lie. I have no idea how my life would have turned out. So I choose not to think that thought. And you can choose the same thing. Because regret is a choice.

I'm so excited to have my student, Christina, on the podcast this week! I want you to understand the huge impact learning how to manage your mind has on every part of your life. Christina's story is the perfect example! Since taking my 6 month program, she has gone from being scared to talk in front of other people to signing up for an improv class, having no idea what else she wanted to do to enrolling in a 10-week real estate rookie boot camp, and having no idea how to manage her emotions to helping coach those around her. But the most amazing part of her journey is she was able to completely stop taking her anxiety medication. Her anxiety was such a crippling part of her life that she missed out on annual girls trips for years. Not anymore! She went on this year's trip and they're already planning the next one. She really is the poster child for how managing your mind can create a ripple effect in your life. Make sure to listen to the episode to see how she shifted her mindset to start getting massive results in her life.

This week I want to talk to you about being delusional. And my little secret is that we're all delusional, we just don't call it that. We have fancy terms like imposter syndrome, which is feeling like a fraud despite all the evidence to the contrary. It's ignoring everything you've achieved to instead believe that you have no idea what you're doing. It's quite literally being delusional. The truth is that we're fine with being delusional as long as it is with negative thoughts. When it comes to positive thoughts -- thinking we can achieve our goals, believing the best about ourselves-- then we draw the line. So today I want to talk to you about why you should delusional in the biggest, most expansive way.

This week I talk to you about a hard truth: if you're telling yourself you don't know what you want to do, it's just a lie your brain is telling you. You do know, you're just scared. Being stuck in I don't know is safe while actually trying something is terrifying. But if you're ready to start taking action and get past the I don't know, I have five tips to help you start uncovering what lights you up.

This week I have my friend, Bevin Farrand, on the show. I've been waiting awhile to have her join because her story is so powerful. In 2019 after being laid off for the third time in her career, Bevin thought enough of putting my financial health in the hands of someone else. In addition to her full-time job, she had been coaching on the side so she decided to give it a go full-time. A few months later, Bevin experienced a totally unexpected tragedy when her husband suddenly passed away in his sleep. They had just come back from a 5-day whirlwind, once-in-a-lifetime, totally "unreasonable" trip to France to reconnect. Her husband's untimely passing made her realize that we don't have the luxury of waiting to do those crazy, important things in our lives. It pushed her to launch Take the Damn Trip to help other people go after the biggest life possible. Bevin is definitely a force of nature but using her DAMN Framework has allowed her and her clients to start businesses, grow businesses and overcome loss. In this episode, we talk about: starting with your yes and your why being present in the moments, not the minutes taking the damn trip and so much more Find Bevin here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/takethedamntrip/ Website: https://takethedamntrip.com/

This week I talk to you about shifting your paradigm, your worldview, your set of beliefs. Our society has focused so much on winning and losing and that's why so many of us suffer. Life is not a test. You literally cannot fail at it. So stop telling yourself that you can. When you start changing your paradigm to view your life in a different lens you free yourself to explore, experiment, and show up fully. This week, I'll teach you how.

On this week's episode, I talk with MBA turned actor, Vishesh Chachra. Vishesh left a lucrative finance career to pursue his life-long dream of becoming an actor. And his passion coupled with his persistence and dedication to honing his craft has led him to success in an industry that is notoriously difficult to break into. Over the past 8 years, he has appeared in 13 TV shows and 8 feature films. He currently recurs on a CBS primetime sitcom. While Vishesh is clearly talented, we dive into how his mindset has helped set him apart from so many others that pursue the same dreams. In this episode, we talk about: why it's important to pursue your passions how putting in the work to learn enables your success how reframing and mindset can change everything and so much more Find Vishesh here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/v_chachra/ Website: http://www.vchachra.com/ IMDB: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm5189387/

On this episode I talk about why you should be doing personal development, what it's for and what it's not for. Spoiler alert: if anything you're doing is to feel more worthy, you're doing personal development wrong.

This week on the podcast, I talk about why you shouldn't quit your job.. at least not yet. I'm not saying you need to stay in your job and just learn to be happy in it, but if you don't manage your thoughts and maybe set some boundaries, the reasons you're unhappy now will follow you from one job to the next.

This week I want to talk to you about Mom Guilt. Fair warning that I'm not sure if I have my thoughts fully formed on this but I think this is an important topic to discuss. Also, while I talk a lot about moms, the same ideas apply to all of us dealing with a misogynistic, patriarchal society. Over the past seven years, I've been really observing how moms are constantly put in lose-lose situations. Whether at work or at home, we're made to feel as though we're always failing. And, unfortunately, we internalize those thoughts and use them against ourselves. While systemic change is absolutely needed, if we don't liberate ourselves from our own thoughts that keep us in shame and guilt, we'll never be able to go after the lives we deserve. One of the biggest blessings of thought work for me is that I no longer operate from a place of shame and I give myself incredible amounts of self-compassion. So for all the moms and the non-moms, I just want you to understand that you can lift that burden of the should's and really check in with what you want to do. And the more we do that, the more we show the next generation and our peers that it's okay to show up fully as yourself and still be a kick-ass mom. So let's dive in.

In this week's episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Jordan Ramsey. Jordan's wife, Shannon, is a student of mine and enrolled in the Impossible Goal Setting workshop back in January. Little did she know, Jordan was eavesdropping on all of the lessons. Jordan took what he learned in that workshop and began implementing in his life to go after all of his dreams. Since then, he has self-published two books, launched a Kickstarter campaign for a board game he created with his childhood best friend, and recently got promoted at work! Jordan is the perfect example of how changing your mindset can change your life. In this episode, we talk about what shifted for him through the Goal Setting workshop to allow him to overcome that fear of failure and start going after all of his dreams. Make sure to check out Jordan here: His Boardgame's Kickstarter Campaign: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/bountyrush/bounty-rush Website: www.tophatgeeks.com Instagram: @jordannotgordonramsey and @bountyrushgame

It's been 3 years since I launched this podcast (WAHOOOOO!) Hindsight is an interesting thing. It's obvious now that I made the "right" choice to publish the podcast I had been thinking about for 2 years. I now have an amazing community and business I love. But I remember the week before I hit publish...I couldn't sleep. I cried every single day. I thought I was going to throw up. These were the thoughts I had playing on loop: "This is insane." "Everyone's going to judge you." "Who are you to put out a podcast?!" "You have no idea what you're doing." "Do you want to be branded a 'quitter' for the rest of your life?!" "You're going to regret this." I was terrified. I wanted to change my mind. I hadn't published it yet. It wasn't too late to scrap the whole crazy idea. Well, I didn't. And I'm so grateful to past me for feeling like I was going to die and hitting publish anyway. It's been an amazing 3 years and I can't wait to see what the next 3 years brings. Since we're all about lessons over here, this week on the podcast I go into the 3 biggest lessons I've learned from 3 years in podcasting.

Catastrophizing is when you assume the worst will always happen. Listen, it's normal. Your brain is trying to keep you alive. And if it can anticipate all the things that could go wrong, it can keep you safe. Your brain loves to replace the uncertain with the awful. But, in our modern world, you're not at risk of dying all the time. It just ain't that serious. So you need to learn how to get a handle on that doomsday brain of yours if you're ever going to do anything worthwhile. In this episode, I give you simple steps to overcome your catastrophizing so you can get out and experience this world!

This week on the podcast, we dive into one of the most crucial life-skills we're never taught. Handling criticism. If you instantly get defensive, angry or hurt when someone points out a "flaw", this episode is for you. I take you through my step-by-step process to understand why you get defensive and how to get over it.

So many of you are stuck because your parents, friends, or co-workers simply don't understand why you want to take this "risk". Here's the truth: They don't have to support you. And you still get to make the decision you want for your life. Would it be nice if everyone saw the world the way you did and could fully understand your dreams? Yes, of course it would be. Do you need that before you actually take the jump? Absolutely not. The real reason you feel like you need their support is because if they believe in you, it's easier for YOU to believe in YOU. When other people express doubt, it triggers the fear and insecurity you already have in this big decision. So you become defensive and spend all of your energy trying to convince them it's the right choice. But what you're really doing is trying to convince yourself. If someone else can see your vision, then it helps reassure that part of your brain that is also screaming "This is insane! We're going to regret it!" They don't have to understand what you want to do. YOU have to understand what you want to do. They don't have to believe in you. You have to believe in you. You will still have doubt. Hell, you can even agree with them that it's a crazy decision. And you still get to make it. If you struggle with this, this week's podcast is for you. I dive deeper into this concept and explain how you can start moving past needing everyone's support.

So many of you ask me how to navigate family and spousal support when making huge changes in your career. I figured it might be interesting to hear it from the spouse's perspective. While our experience is unique to us, I think it can help you in approaching these subject.s In this episode, we talk about. What his experience was of me walking away from my legal career How he thought the podcast was the wrong move for me (WHAT?!?) How I stopped seeking his permission and instead asked for what I needed. The best part of this journey. And so much more.

So many of us are paralyzed at making even the simplest decisions. We revert to asking everyone else's opinions, we ruminate and drain ourselves going back and forth, we make pros and cons lists, and we stay stuck year after year. In this episode, I teach you why you have such a hard time making decisions and how to move past it.

I remember wishing I would get laid off during the 2008 recession. I was to scared to quit so I wanted them to force my hand. Empowering, huh? They didn't. And I ended up spending another 7 years doing a job I hated. On this episode, I talk about what it looks like to take responsibility for your life. Often we mistake responsibility with fault. They are not the same thing. In this episode, I talk about difference between fault and responsibility, why taking 100% responsibility will change your life, and how to go about doing that.

Why do you want to find your "dream" career? Do you even know? Most would answer with something like:So I can feel excited and motivated about going to work. So I can feel like I'm doing something that is worthwhile. So I can feel less stressed and overwhelmed. All of our answers boil down to one thing: we are after a feeling. Ultimately, you want that dream career because you want to feel happy and fulfilled. Given that we spend ⅓ of our life at work, it's easy to see how that can affect our feelings. And while I'd LOVE for you to find your dream career (and would love to help you do that), it's not going to happen overnight. So the question becomes: how can you have that feeling you want in your life right now? And that's what we dive into on the podcast episode today! I'll give you actionable tips on how to create a fulfilled life without changing much else.

Destination Addiction. The constant striving to get to some destination that you're certain holds all of your happiness and the solution to your problems. The stealer of current joy. The enabler of hustle culture. So many of our problems are born out of this, often unconscious, belief that it is better "there" than here. We put our happiness and joy on hold with the promise that it will be even better at this unforeseen destination. And, yet, we just keep moving the goalposts. On today's episode, I dive into just how harmful destination addiction is and how to overcome it. Also mentioned on today's episode: A FREE 4-day challenge to get you UNSTUCK and on the road to your dream career. Register here: www.quitterclub.com/unstuck

On to today's episode. I want to talk to you about an extremely important concept that I don't think most people don't implement in their life. It's called the Compound Effect. What most of us typically do is pick a huge goal, go after it with everything we have, get burned out, and stop. Understanding the Compound Effect will change all of that. It'll allow you to start making lasting changes without all of the effort and drama. It is the difference between having a life where you can constantly grow and one in which you won't. In this episode, I go into what the Compound Effect is and how to start implementing it into your life today.

I'm so excited to bring you this week's episode with the amazing Janelle Nicole Christian. After nearly 6 years in BigLaw, Janelle transitioned into the career and digital media field through her company, SideBiz SMART, and her platform, Hey J. Nicole. Janelle's mission is to help 6-figure employees start and stabilize successful side businesses in order to ditch corporate America and begin living healthier, wealthier, and more fulfilled lives as entrepreneurs. After scaling her business to multiple six-figures in under a year and helping her clients do the same, Janelle's work focuses on helping miserable millennials understand the value in decentralizing work (particularly corporate structures) and building a life around their personal priorities, gain clarity on their values, address and remove limiting beliefs regarding income and success, create a clear plan to define their life work, and guides them through any necessary pivots towards their dreams. In this episode, we discuss: - how Janelle discovered what really lights her up. - why it's important to just get started, even if you don't know what you want to do. - how she replaced her legal income in less than a year. - and so much more.

This week I have a super exciting topic that completely changed the way I thought. It's the concept of clean pain versus dirty pain, and it really helped me manage my mindset. This topic, which was first coined by Dr. Stephen Hayes, described the suffering we add to our human experience. We constantly make up narratives about ourselves that cause all of this unnecessary self-inflicted pain. It is crucial to understand when you're doing this so you can stop it. Join me as I dive deeper into this topic and discuss ways you can work around it.

This week I'm finally addressing one of the biggest blocks for most people: Overcoming The Fear of What Others Think. There is a reason that so many of keep falling into patterns of doing what others expect of us even if it makes us miserable. We're evolutionarily wired to want to be accepted by our tribe. But while it is natural it doesn't mean we have to keep living this way. In this episode, I break down how to push past the fear of what other people think about you and start living a life on your own terms.

Want to know the secret to my success? I stopped pretending that I had it all together. The more I share my mistakes, my failures, my insecurities, the more people are attracted to me. The more I stop pretending like I have it all together, the more I allow myself to show up exactly as I am. The more I show up and take imperfect action, the more successful I become. There is a reason that "vulnerability" and "authenticity" are such buzzwords right now. We're all sick of curated. We're all sick of perfect. We crave more humanness. Just think about the people you follow online. Do you love following people who act like they have it all figured out, are breezing through life, and have no problems?!? I'm guessing no. It's boring and fake. We love following people who share their struggles. Who show us that they're just figuring it out just like the rest of us. And, yet, so many of you are still stuck trying to look perfect in your lives. Trying to pretend like you have it all together at work. Trying to portray that you're not struggling with parenthood. Trying to put on a brave face. I want you to know that perfect is boring. Nobody wants perfect. Be human. Let people in. It'll lighten the load and make the experience so much more fun.

This week's episode is all about doing difficult things. Somewhere along the line, a lot of us adopted the mistaken belief that there is an easy way to have our dream life. But that's false, there are no shortcuts. When we adopt that mentality, we end up making it so much harder on ourselves. We fall short on certain goals, or we bypass certain milestones because we're hyperfocused on having an easy life. But hard things challenge us to grow and learn and live a life far beyond ourselves. We can do hard things, stop wishing your way out of them.