It's My Pleasure

It’s easy to blame the “big” culprits for our lack of desire or intimate pleasure - things like crazy schedules, hormones, a partner who is being an a-hole. But what about the little things? The way that you are behaving that is unconsciously depleting you and cutting you off from your body?This week we talk about the yes’s that are having a direct negative impact on your body, your desire and your intimacy. Not the all over, full body “hell yes!” but the habitual ways we say yes to others and expectations. Understanding the way we unintentionally hide our ’true’ self in the name of showing up the way we are expected to. How we start saying yes to avoid conflict and get approval - aka people pleasing.In this episode we dive into the world of people pleasing, but in a way that will allow for more compassion AND motivate change. I want all women to feel incredible in their bodies and sex lives and having acute awareness around our socialization to please is the key to that.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:What people pleasing REALLY is and the ways you might not even know you are doing it.How distinguish people pleasing from helping and being in service.The top 5 ways your saying yes will harm your overall pleasure and why its so important to understandThe first step in changing your behavior FOR your own goodFeatured on the Show:FREE mini-course now available: FRESH - making your long time lover feel new again. Get it NOW: https://www.daniellesavory.com/join-fresh Tangled opens soon - get on waitlist NOW: https://www.daniellesavory.com/groupcoachingwaitlist Episode #130: 5 habits That Keep You From Receiving & How To Open Up MoreEnjoying the podcast?Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting [email protected]!

For high achieving women, especially leaders, pleasure and rest tends to be seen as irrelevant to the important work and impact they are creating in the world. On this week’s episode, former client and leadership coach, Emily Feairs shares why we’ve got it all backwards.Emily is The Feminist Leadership Coach. She has spent years as a leader in politics and knows from experience how overwhelm and perfectionism can get in the way of the most determined woman. She shares her own knowledge from years studying the brain with her lived experience leaning into more pleasure to show women how focusing on being pleased is key to being the badass you want to be in the world.This conversation challenges the norms we’ve been taught and will demonstrate exactly why pleasure is vital to our success.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:How your ability to lead ties to your ability to receive pleasureWhy ‘pleasure’ can feel so ‘ick’ for high achieving women and what you can do to move past itThe importance of understanding how the patriarchy has kept women from pleasure and the impact of dissolving this thinking can have on your personal and professional lifeFeatured on the Show:FREE mini-course now available: FRESH - making your long time lover feel new again. Get it NOW: https://www.daniellesavory.com/join-freshTangled opens soon - get on waitlist NOW: https://www.daniellesavory.com/groupcoachingwaitlistEmily Feairs: https://emilyfeairs.comEmily’s instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emilyfeairs/Share, subscribe and review “It’s My Pleasure!” To make it easy follow THIS link to leave a review now: https://lovethepodcast.com/5KH8dZHave ideas, questions or topics you want to here addressed on the show? Please email [email protected] the podcast?Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting [email protected]!

Mismatched desire is one of the main sources of frustrations and tension in sexual relationships. However most of us might label the different levels of desire as ‘mismatched’ when in fact that isn’t what is going on - which is exactly what we talked about in last week’s episode 152.But what do you do if you have determined that it is in fact mismatched desire you are experiencing? Well tune in this week to find out. Sometimes it seems as though there is nowhere to go, but but there is actually a lot both partner’s can do to alleviate the tension and get back to pleasurable play.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:What mismatched desire is an isn’t.Why emotional responsibility is essential.How to determine non-negotiable and where to go from there.Featured on the Show:FREE mini-course now available: FRESH - making your long time lover feel new again. Get it NOW: https://www.daniellesavory.com/join-fresh It’s My Pleasure episode 152: Is Mismatched Desire a Problem?Share, subscribe and review “It’s My Pleasure!” To make it easy follow THIS link to leave a review now: https://lovethepodcast.com/5KH8dZ Have ideas, questions or topics you want to here addressed on the show? Please email [email protected] the podcast?Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting [email protected]!

Mismatched desire is one of the main sources of frustrations and tension in sexual relationships. Mismatched desire is the term used when one person may want more than the other. This is the most common thing I clients will bring to me, however with further investigation most women will realize that there isn’t actually a problem with mismatched desire at all.This week I want you to understand what mismatched desire is and isn’t, because how we handle this and move forward looks very different in either case. Learning more about yourself and about your partner will help both of you have much more satisfying sexual experiences - which is of course my aim! Listen on and find out if you truly are experiencing mismatched desire or perhaps the way desire is presenting itself is outside what media depicts.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:The importance of labels and why calling it sex ‘drive’ can be problematicSexual urges vs sexual desiresThe misrepresentation of desire in the media and how that can impact your relationshipWhy a difference in how desire is experienced is more commonly the issue NOT mismatched desireFeatured on the Show:S.O.U.L. Centered Communication w/ Maggie Reyes Episode #114: https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/114-s-o-u-l-centered-communication-w-maggie-reyes%2F Share, subscribe and review “It’s My Pleasure!” To make it easy follow THIS link to leave a review now: https://lovethepodcast.com/5KH8dZ Have ideas, questions or topics you want to here addressed on the show? Please email [email protected] the podcast?Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting [email protected]!

Lets do something different in 2023, let’s embark on the actual PRACTICE of pleasure. Without the shame, without the guilt, with out the feeling that we are doing something selfish.When pleasure is your AIM, when it becomes the goal everything in your life changes. In this episode learn why practicing more pleasure this next year is a worthy endeavor and how it can impact all the other goals you may have in your life. 2023 is your year, to feel good, to create at a higher level, to become truly turned on. What You’ll Learn from this Episode:Why the pursuit of pleasure is not only a worthy endeavor, but a necessary one.How your conditioning keeps your from pursuing pleasure and the mindset needed to set your self up for successThe impact that practicing pleasure will have on your other goalsActionable steps to take to make sure your life is infused with pleasureFeatured on the Show:Undressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressed Interested in having me as your personal coach? Are you a 6/7 figure earner with a lot on your plate, but still want to see your busy life infused with more joy and pleasure?! Then consider a 1:1 coaching to utilize your time and have your whole body feeling alive. Apply and let’s have a conversation about what pleasure coaching could do for you. Prized raise in 2023 so take advantage now of the current openings. https://www.daniellesavory.com/coaching

I talk to loads of women every single week about increasing our desire - that wanting, that longing. You want to WANT it more and I get it, it can be jarring going a time in your relationship when looking forward to intimacy with your partner seemed effortless to wondering how the hell you were going to get yourself in the mood. And despite the fact that we talk about other ways to create that desire, you may feel like it is a game of mental gymnastics to get there.In this episode we take a look at ‘natural desire’ and our longing to create more of that. Plus don’t forget that the holiday special with sexy gift guide is available now for free - your way to make your holidays more pleasure! Join for free at https://www.daniellesavory.com/tow-holidayWhat You’ll Learn from this Episode:What does natural desire even mean and why its important we have a working definition of it.The impact of hormones on your desire and what can be even more influential in you wanting it.How putting sex in a special category of motivation harms our ability to experience the desire we are wantingThe best way to create more desire and how to make this easier as time goes on.Featured on the Show:Get the Turned on Woman Holiday Plan right now! This totally free 5 day email sequence packed with strategy, tools and your go to thinking to create the most fun, playful and orgasmically pleasing holiday! Sign up HERE: https://www.daniellesavory.com/tow-holidayUndressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressedInterested in having me as your personal coach? Are you a 6/7 figure earner with a lot on your plate, but still want to see your busy life infused with more joy and pleasure?! Then consider a 1:1 coaching to utilize your time and have your whole body feeling alive. Apply and let’s have a conversation about what pleasure coaching could do for you. Prized raise in 2023 so take advantage now of the current openings. https://www.daniellesavory.com/coaching

Let’s make this the most pleasurable holiday - filled with gifts that will actually LIGHT you up. Have you ever wanted to buy something for the holidays to add to your pleasure, your intimacy or feeling more turned on? Then look no further! Whether you want some fun and creative experience ideas or a few toys from your own ‘naughty’ list this episode will cover it all.I have also included a shopping guide with links to ideas of some of the gifts mentioned on the podcast in the Turned on Woman Holiday Plan - This is my free gift for you - 5 day emails series that will give you exact tools and strategies to keep leaning into your turned on woman self, daily fun challenges and now your juicy gift list! Join for free at https://www.daniellesavory.com/tow-holiday and let's get you all holiday spiced up.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:Ways to invest in your pleasure and passion this holiday season.Some toys you might never of heard from that you can check out.How to turn on YOUR mind with resources and educationWays to make your bedroom a pleasure sanctuaryCreative gift ideas that won’t cost you a thing to give!Featured on the Show:Get the Turned on Woman Holiday Plan right now which includes a list of gift recommendations with links and ideas. This totally free 5 day email sequence packed with strategy, tools and your go to thinking to create the most fun, playful and orgasmically pleasing holiday! Sign up HERE: https://www.daniellesavory.com/tow-holidayUndressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressedInterested in having me as your personal coach? Are you a 6/7 figure earner with a lot on your plate, but still want to see your busy life infused with more joy and pleasure?! Then consider a 1:1 coaching to utilize your time and have your whole body feeling alive. Apply and let’s have a conversation about what pleasure coaching could do for you. Prized raise in 2023 so take advantage now of the current openings. https://www.daniellesavory.com/coaching

Look we don’t need to kid ourselves that the holidays are NOT a busy time of the year. The month of December brings on different things that will fill up your calendar - traditions, social gatherings, volunteering, baking, gift buying etc. Prioritizing pleasure is tricky in REGULAR time, let alone during the holidays - especially because we are socialized to put everyone else’s needs and feeling FIRST. Listen, I promise no one wins when you put your pleasure on hold - not you, not your family, not your partner. And during the holidays when the obligations and requests from others are running high it is important to get intentional about how you WANT to experience the holidays. The holidays are magical and fun and an incredible time of year - let’s make sure that is YOUR experience this year.Here are my 5 tips for the most ecstatically enjoyable holidays. PLUS make sure you sign up for the FREE 5 day Turned on Woman Holiday Plan - your 5 day emails series that will give you exact tools and strategies to keep leaning into your turned on woman self. Join for free at https://www.daniellesavory.com/tow-holidayWhat You’ll Learn from this Episode:Why it is important to decide what we WANT our holiday to look like ahead of timeWhere we have energy and time leakageWhy guilt has no space in you declining requests and bowing out of invitationsWhat self-loving boundaries look like and why they are even MORE important during the holidaysE.L.F. and other tools you will receive in the free Turned On Woman Holiday PlanFeatured on the Show:Get the Turned on Woman Holiday Plan right now! This totally free 5 day email sequence packed with strategy, tools and your go to thinking to create the most fun, playful and orgasmically pleasing holiday! Sign up HERE: https://www.daniellesavory.com/tow-holidayREVIEW It’s My Pleasure NOW and be entered to win 2 life changing coaching session with Danielle, the course Undressed or a $100 gift card for some pleasure enhancers. Plus every review that is submitted in the month of November will generate $10 donation to Iranian American Women Foundation helping raise the visibility of women’s rights being threatened in Iran. Find out all the details about how to submit your review for eligibility for the donation and drawing HERE. (https://summerlovin.my.canva.site/giveaway)Undressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressedInterested in having me as your personal coach? Are you a 6/7 figure earner with a lot on your plate, but still want to see your busy life infused with more joy and pleasure?! Then consider a 1:1 coaching to utilize your time and have your whole body feeling alive. Apply and let’s have a conversation about what pleasure coaching could do for you. Prized raise in 2023 so take advantage now of the current openings. https://www.daniellesavory.com/coaching

Being too tired is one of the main reasons that I hear women dismissing an invitation for intimacy or putting off pleasure for another day - when they think they might have more energy. And I get it, I too have experience lots of tired nights when sex is the last thing my mind says I want. But in this episode I want to offer you a very radical perspective . . . what if being tired is the exact reason we need to be having MORE sex? What if it is actually the antidote to having more energy?Well my friends, this isn’t just a theory - when we look at how orgasms and sensual pleasure support the body and the brain you will quickly see how orgasmic pleasure might be the ‘caffeine’ boost we all need, but even more nourishing because it helps create actual rest and ease in the body. Pls when you learn how to put pleasure at the top of your list, instead of the bottom, the way you show up will have the added bonus of giving you more energy to begin with.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:The impact of coaching 1:1 with me and how you can get two free sessions.How our mindset about sex will make it seem like an added effort instead and how to change thatThe importance of understanding what is draining energy in your lifeHow pursuing sensual pleasure will have you showing up in a way that revitalizes your whole beingThe impact that orgasms can have on a more restful sleepFeatured on the Show:REVIEW It’s My Pleasure NOW and be entered to win 2 life changing coaching session with Danielle, the course Undressed or a $100 gift card for some pleasure enhancers. Plus every review that is submitted in the month of November will generate $10 donation to Iranian American Women Foundation helping raise the visibility of women’s rights being threatened in Iran. Find out all the details about how to submit your review for eligibility for the donation and drawing HERE. (https://summerlovin.my.canva.site/giveaway)Undressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressedInterested in having me as your personal coach? Are you a 6/7 figure earner with a lot on your plate, but still want to see your busy life infused with more joy and pleasure?! Then consider a 1:1 coaching to utilize your time and have your whole body feeling alive. Apply and let’s have a conversation about what pleasure coaching could do for you. Prized raise in 2023 so take advantage now of the current openings. https://www.daniellesavory.com/coaching

I was being interviewed awhile back by the producer for Red Table Talk (a story for another time) and she asked, “so what do you think is the main reason women aren’t having much sex or it isn’t that good” and without hesitation I answered . . . Because we are tired. And this was in March 1, 2020 - before the pandemic hit - before we had experienced the level of fatigue most of us our experiencing now.But despite the fact that we have every reason in the world to BE tired, it doesn’t mean our desire and sexual should suffer because of it. In this two part podcast on tiredness and fatigue we explore a simple mindset shift and speaking tip to help you begin to break out of the cycle of fatigue.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:How our mindset about fatigue and tiredness impact our physical sensation of itThe importance of breaking out of the habitual beliefs around tirednessHow to use our approach to fatigue to gain more energyFeatured on the Show:REVIEW It’s My Pleasure and help spread the word for more women to feel freedom in their body. Every review that is submitted in the month of November will generate $10 donation to Iranian American Women Foundation helping raise the visibility of women’s rights being threatened in Iran, Plus be entered for a drawing for some very pleasurable prizes. I SO appreciate each and everyone of you listening and taking the time, let’s work together to spread the word. Find out all the details about how to submit your review for eligibility for the donation and drawing HERE. (https://summerlovin.my.canva.site/giveaway)Undressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressedInterested in having me as your personal coach? Are you a 6/7 figure earner with a lot on your plate, but still want to see your busy life infused with more joy and pleasure?! Then consider a coaching intensive to utilize your time and have your whole body feeling alive. Apply and let’s have a conversation about what pleasure coaching could do for you. https://www.daniellesavory.com/coachingEnjoying the podcast?Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting [email protected]!

Women. Life. Freedom - What does that mean to you? Today we talk to Mahsa Darabi, Iranian immigrant, mother, business owner, inspirational powerhouse and one of my favorite humans in the whole world. Mahsa speaks candidly about what it has been like living as an Iranian-American woman watching the protests happening in Iran as women fight for their rights against a violent regime.We discuss the intersection of our own internal work around pleasure and sexuality and how that relates to the fight for women’s liberation globally.Don’t miss this important conversation about the importance of creating powerful internal change and the impact that has on our community, future generations and women’s sovereignty at large.Also make sure write and share a review to get direction involved in helping raise awareness for Iranian women and be eligible to be gifted the Undressed course, private 1:1 sessions with me or a Pleasure Package. Follow the instructions below to have us make a donation on your behalf and enter you to win these prizes!What You’ll Learn from this Episode:What it was like growing up as an Iranian woman in America and how Mahsa’s life has been impacted by the current protests.The conversation Mahsa had with her father that immediately shifted sexual shame for herWhy the intersection between women’s liberation at large with her own personal liberation has been confusing at times.How to get involved and why it matters.Featured on the Show:REVIEW It’s My Pleasure and help spread the word for more women to feel freedom in their body. Every review that is submitted in the month of November will generate $5 donation to Iranian American Women Foundation helping raise the visibility of women’s rights being threatened in Iran, matched by another $5 from Mahsa to help the local protests of Free Iran PDX. Plus be entered for a drawing for some very pleasurable prizes. I SO appreciate each and everyone of you listening and taking the time, let’s work together to spread the word. Find out all the details about how to submit your review for eligibility for the donation and drawing HERE. (https://summerlovin.my.canva.site/giveaway)Connect with Mahsa on IG @themoodypersian or stop by her website to order her new Moody chai and see what other yummy endeavors she is up to at https://www.moodypersian.comUndressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressedInterested in having me as your personal coach? Are you a 6/7 figure earner with a lot on your plate, but still want to see your busy life infused with more joy and pleasure?! Then consider a coaching intensive to utilize your time and have your whole body feeling alive. Apply and let’s have a conversation about what pleasure coaching could do for you. https://www.daniellesavory.com/coachingEnjoying the podcast?Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting [email protected]!

YOU already have self-awareness. You already are conscious of many of the thoughts that are getting in the way of you having more pleasure, you notice how you feel in your body when it is a “yes” or a “no”, you understand what your current sex life is like and where you ware wanting it to go. But did you know there is so much more to self-awareness? That there are multiple layers of our awareness and when we unlock each layer the sex just keeps getting better and better? In this episode we talk about what you might be missing in your self-awareness journey and exactly what to watch out for so that you don’t get stuck in your pursuit for more pleasure.Also make sure to tune in to a special drawing that is going on in the month of November when you rate & review the podcast! You may be eligible to be gifted the Undressed course, private 1:1 sessions with me or a Pleasure Package. Follow the instructions below to become eligible!What You’ll Learn from this Episode:What self-awareness is and how it helps you up-level your sex life.The two ingredients required for effective self-awareness practice.How your initial self-awareness around your goal and what is standing in the way will catapult you into action.The most common and detrimental barrier to your success and how reverting back to self-awareness is key skill to utilize in this moment.Featured on the Show:REVIEW It’s My Pleasure and help spread the word for more women to feel freedom in their body. Every review that is submitted in the month of November will generate $5 donation to Iranian American Women Foundation helping raise the visibility of women’s rights being threatened in Iran. Plus be entered for a drawing for some very pleasurable prizes. I SO appreciate each and everyone of you listening and taking the time, let’s work together to spread the word. Find out all the details about how to submit your review for eligibility for the donation and drawing HERE. (https://summerlovin.my.canva.site/giveaway)Undressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressedInterested in having me as your personal coach? Are you a 6/7 figure earner with a lot on your plate, but still want to see your busy life infused with more joy and pleasure?! Then consider a coaching intensive to utilize your time and have your whole body feeling alive. Apply and let’s have a conversation about what pleasure coaching could do for you. https://www.daniellesavory.com/coachingEnjoying the podcast?Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts,Stitcher,RSS, or follow on Spotify.It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting [email protected]!

Have you ever thought “Ugh I just don’t feel sexy” or something along those lines and it has kept you from getting it on?! Yup, me too. I think we all have before. Not feeling good in our bodies or feeling confident about our bodies is a complete desire killer. But it doesn’t have to be, in fact the reason this even shows up is because of the way we learned about sex and what we taught about our bodies, especially in the realm of desirability.This inevitably becomes one more way we inadvertently keep ourselves from feeling good. Let’s change that. In this episode you will learn how to rewire this mental obstacle and take actionable steps to never having your thoughts about your body keep your from enjoying some sensual pleasure.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:How our socialization regarding what sex is all about, has us measuring up our body in the first place.Why acknowledgement of why this is showing up is the first step in our changing it.The ways perfectionism, reward and beauty standards keep us from enjoying sensual pleasure.The two relationships you want to focus on changing to prevent this from happening in the future.A strategy and actionable steps to take for next time this inevitable pops up.Featured on the Show:Undressed: new course that will rewrite your relationship with your sexuality AND with your body and have you opening up and experiencing more pleasure than you ever have before. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressedPlease write a review! It means so much to me and helps the podcast reach a wider audience. Check out the ‘how to’ below

Have you wanted to improve your sex life and just noticed that you honestly don’t have that much desire FOR it? So you get stuck, like how am I actually supposed to make this better if I can’t even get in the mood to start with? Wanting sex, not feeling tired for it or not being in the mood seem to be the main hindrances for most women in having a more pleasurable sex life. Like I want to really want it, but how? Don’t worry, I got you. Desire is one of the most fascinating topics for me and one I absolutely LOVE studying both scientifically and with my clients and find new ways to think about it and approach it. You might also be wondering if developing more desire is even worth it and spoiler alert, not only is it a skill you will look forward to developing, but it is wildly important for you well-being and beyond.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:How our socialization around desire will help you understand why this isn’t a skill most women have.The difference between desirability and desire and how they influence one another.Understanding the type of desire is to help you gather information, not dictate what’s possible.3 steps to help you begin developing more desire right nowWhy desire is a skill set worth working on and the impactful impact it has beyond the bedroom.Featured on the Show:It’s My Pleasure episode #99 https://www.daniellesavory.com/blog/103-the-411-on-foreplay%2FUndressed: new course all about YOUR pleasure. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressedNeed a pleasure bestie for your journey? Email [email protected] and we will work hard at finding you a match!Please write a review! It means so much to me and helps the podcast reach a wider audience. Check out the ‘how to’ below

Wanting to do something to change your sex life is an AMAZING first step, but often times it isn’t enough to actually get us taking the action to shake things up. Desire is part of the equation, but our desire is often times enough to overcome some of the unconscious fears and doubts that we ALL have. In this episode I share some real client stories as well as some of my deeply personal fears I had about improving my sex life. You will find actual practices to do at home at the end of this less to hope you lean more into that desire. I hope this is the exact thing you need to hear to create more safety for yourself and create the fun and playful sex life you want.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:A real client story of someone who had a lot of anxiety and fear and how she ended up with doing this workThe necessary equation we need to make momentum towards change.How this realm of personal growth can bring up a whole lot of shit and what to do with it.Practices for you to do right now to start shifting yourself into taking the steps towards your pleasure you wantFeatured on the Show:Undressed: new course all about YOUR pleasure. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressedNeed a pleasure bestie for your journey? Email [email protected] and we will work hard at finding you a match!Please write a review! It means so much to me and helps the podcast reach a wider audience. Check out the ‘how to’ belowExistential Kink by Carolyn Grace Elliot

Are you afraid you are taking to long to get aroused and orgasm? Listen, if so, you are so not alone. This is one of the most common worries among women when it comes to their sexual ‘performance’ is how long things are taking and how to move things along. In this episode you will learn if you are in fact taking too long and if so how to move things along to the orgasmic outcome you are hoping for.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:The assumptions we make about the length of time it takes for arousal and how this can actual make us take longerThe importance of identifying where we are starting our sexy session from and how to create a more erotic vessel to facilitate arousalWhat it means to slow down to speed upThe way to approach orgasmic goals DURING sexFeatured on the Show:Brand new course UNDRESSED is available for purchase right now. go to daniellesavory.com/undressed Bring a friend for half price and start de-stigmatizing conversations around female pleasure and open yourself up to feeling lit up in your body.Questions? Email [email protected]

Have you ever decided you really want to have something in your life or have your life look differently than it does right now, but then wonder why it doesn’t happen the way you imagined? Well this episode is for you - where I will explain to you the concept of being proactive in creating what you want and specifically why it is crucial we learn how to be proactive with our pleasure if we want to lead a sexually satisfied and pleasured life.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:What being proactive actually is, how it relates to the brain and why it is so important in creating the future you want.The way we inadvertently mix up different types of pleasure and keep ourselves from being more proactive in this realm.What Proactive Pleasure is and why its crucial to an orgasmic future.A brand new course that you are going to want to get in on right away and a special offer just for you!Featured on the Show:The Life Coach School Podcast Episode #181: ProactivationUndressed: new course all about YOUR pleasure. https://www.daniellesavory.com/undressed Use code: pleasurebesties for buy1 get one 1/2 offNeed a pleasure bestie for your journey? Email [email protected] and we will work hard at finding you a match!Please write a review! It means so much to me and helps the podcast reach a wider audience. Check out the ‘how to’ below

Hey have you ever had a great time, like legit good sex, but then afterwards you started second-guess it? You start being judgey about what went down and ruin the celebratory sex you had because all the sudden your brain convinces you that it wasn’t actually that good for x, y or z reasons?? Kind of like the walk of shame. It felt good, your body loved it and YET your brain wants to de-legitimize your pleasure because perhaps it wasn’t what you have unconsciously decided is ‘aspirational’ sex. Listen to this episode to see how you may be poo-pooing on your pleasure and inadvertently keeping yourself from the mind-blowing sex you want.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:How we inadvertently poo-poo on the pleasure we already hadThe secret hierarchal sex flavors that may be inciting shameHow to help yourself find those hidden shaming thoughtsFeatured on the Show:Please write a review! It means so much to me and helps the podcast reach a wider audience. Check out the ‘how to’ belowGet on the email list so you don’t miss out on some fun new offers coming up inside the Turned On Woman at https://www.daniellesavorycoaching.com/subscribeWant to work with me 1:1 in person on a retreat or in a traditional coaching container? Then shoot me an email at [email protected] and I will send the details over to you.

It is easy to imagine yourself basking in juicy sensual pleasure when you have the time, the space and the connection. But it is a whole other thing when that is NOT what you are currently experiencing. To really experience the pleasure you want isn’t about waiting until the star are aligned, but instead learning HOW to be the kind of woman who experiences being turned on and pleasured - right now - as things are - in your everyday life. And this episode will share with the first (and crucial) mindset shift that will catalyze you taking more sexy action and experiencing more pleasure.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:The #1 Mindset shift you need to start experiencing more pleasure in your life right nowHow it is important to see how we are unintentionally holding ourselves back from the growth we wantWhat to do when NOT pursuing pleasure seems like the best, most logical optionFeatured on the Show:Please write a review! It means so much to me and helps the podcast reach a wider audience. Check out the ‘how to’ belowGet on the email list so you don’t miss out on some fun new offers coming up inside the Turned On Woman at https://www.daniellesavory.com/subscribeWant to work with me 1:1 in person on a retreat or in a traditional coaching container? Then shoot me an email at [email protected] and I will send the details over to you.

Listen, sex can be super awkward for a variety of reasons - first of all - it is two naked bodies trying to entangle in a pleasurable way - awkward. Not to mention the different personality types, desires and skill & comfort levels when it comes to sexual intimacy. So if you have ever felt awkward, consider yourself to BE awkward or know that trying certain things would ring in the awkward bell - then this episode is for you.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:How awkwardness can impede on our sexual pleasureWhy its so important to get clear on WHAT exactly makes you feel awkwardExact steps you can take to ease the awkwardness out of your sex lifeFeatured on the Show:Please write a review! It means so much to me and helps the podcast reach a wider audience. Check out the ‘how to’ belowGet on the email list so you don’t miss out on some fun new offers coming up inside the Turned On Woman at https://www.daniellesavory.com/subscribeWant to work with me 1:1 in person on a retreat or in a traditional coaching container? Then shoot me an email at [email protected] and I will send the details over to you.

We come to the sheets with so many ’sorries’ as women and it is time we put an end to it, enter Unapologetic Sex.Have you ever notice there is this subtle, slump of the shoulders and dumpy energy that you can bring to the bedroom sometimes. Like “oh I am sorry its taking me so long to cum” if you orgasm at all. Or ugh, I am sorry I am so wish-washy, awkward or I don’t know what I want. It feels ick and it for sure doesn’t make a fun and pleasurable experience for you OR your partner.In this episode we talk about stepping INTO having unapologetic sex - uninhibited, fully accepting, perfectly imperfect sex - ummm yes please!What You’ll Learn from this Episode:Ways we have been conditioned for ’sorry’ and how you might identify your apologetic energyWhat it truly means to be unapologetic and ways you can start right nowThe benefits of showing up for unapologetic for sexFeatured on the Show:Please write a review! It means so much to me and helps the podcast reach a wider audience. Check out the ‘how to’ belowGet on the email list so you don’t miss out on some fun new offers coming up inside the Turned On Woman at https://www.daniellesavory.com/subscribeWant to work with me 1:1 in person on a retreat or in a traditional coaching container? Then shoot me an email at [email protected] and I will send the details over to you.

They say distance makes the heart grow fonder and it is true, it really does - plus it gives a good ole’ boost to that desire for your lover. But perhaps, like me, you don’t always have the option to be away from your partner.In this episode we will explore four important lessons that we can learn from what distance offers us and exactly how it increases desire. And then what are some things we can do to recreate those same sort of experiences so that even if you are with your partner 24/7 you can benefit from what “distance” may offer.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:How distance DOES really increase our desireThe ways when we are with someone we don’t always have the chance for erotic wantingLessons and practical applications for you to implement right now to recreate what occurs during ’distance’ and increase your own desire for you partner, even if you are with them all the timeFeatured on the Show:Please write a review! It means so much to me and helps the podcast reach a wider audience. Check out the ‘how to’ belowWant to work with me 1:1 in person on a retreat or in a traditional coaching container? Then shoot me an email at [email protected] and I will send the details over to you.

I am always up for a little mind trick hack, one that is easy to remember in the moment and helps me move forward on my long-term goals and aspirations. And ‘maybe’ my friends is just the mindset hack you have all been wanting. Quick and easy to remember and a simple habit you can implement right now. Use maybe to experience more pleasure, open up to curiosity or simply to set some much needed boundaries around your time and body.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:How I recently used maybe to say ‘no’ even though it went against an intention I have been working on all summer.The way ‘maybe’ buys you time to make a sound decision of both body and mind.How to use your body to make better decisions.The use of the word ‘maybe' when your brain is doubtful, anxious or flat out rude so that you can keep going with curiosity,Featured on the Show:Want to work with me 1:1 in person on a retreat or in a traditional coaching container? Then shoot me an email at [email protected] and I will send the details over to you.

Have you ever noticed how nature can immediately help you feel more at ease? Or even for me, I have had experiences where it feels like my pain and discomfort are lifted the moment I immerse myself in nature. I don’t think anyone would argue how energizing and calming being in nature can feel.But is it just in our minds or is there science to support it?In this weeks episode not only do we dive into the scientific studies of the profound impact nature can have on our overall well-being, but also how nature then can improve your sensuality.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:The particular ways that nature helps release stress & why to keep this in mind if you have some sexy time scheduledThe surprising discovery that was made when working with ADHD children and the impact nature had on their attentionHow are experience of emotional connection can be improved by natureWhy filling our 5 senses is so important for our pursuit of pleasure and what role nature plays in thisFeatured on the Show:Ready to immerse yourself in nature, with me and do some deep dive coaching? 1:1 in person on a retreat or in a traditional coaching container now available. Then shoot me an email at [email protected] and I will send the details over to you.

We’ve all had it, bad sex. And it is something that we all try to avoid? But at what cost?!?Trying to avoid bad sex could actually be holding you back from the mind-blowing sex you ARE wanting to have. In this week’s episode we explore what tends to happen when the boot knocking isn’t lighting anyone up and how we can actually learn and improve our sex lives by the willingness to have more bad sex!What You’ll Learn from this Episode:How to handle when you things don’t go as plannedThe importance of recognizing the story this may be playing into vs what is actually happeningWhat discomfort you SHOULD pay attention tooWhen and how to evaluate after the factThe one thing to work on next timeFeatured on the Show:Want to work with me 1:1 in person on a retreat or in a traditional coaching container? Then shoot me an email at [email protected] and I will send the details over to you.Get on the mailing list - are you a coach or other practitioner? I have some information packed and PLEASURABLE trainings coming up for you to lead your business with more ease and help your clients reach their goals. Plus just tips on how to live a more pleasurable life as a human https://www.daniellesavory.com/subscribe

Do you ever feel closed off from receiving? Like something in you makes it so hard to open up to receiving compliments, help, pleasure or even money? Like somehow you are just repelling all the the good stuff instead of bringing it in?This is such a normal experience, especially for those socialized as women.We tend to have a knack for giving, sometimes to the point of depletion, but receiving? Um not so much.In order to actually experience pleasure in your life, pleasure in your sexual experiences and pleasure in your relationships then receiving is a key skill to develop.This week you will learn the unconscious habits that are keeping you from receiving and how to actively open up to taking in the juicy bits. Discover where exactly you are keeping yourself from the good stuff and how cultivating this skill is the key to creating your most orgasmic life.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:Why cultivating the skill to receive is so important for your overall well-beingHow to identify the habits that are keeping you from opening upWhat you miss out on by not actively receiving - including how it impacts the other personAnd how we can get both our minds and our bodies on board to be more open to receptionFeatured on the Show:Get on the mailing list - are you a coach or other practitioner? I have some information packed and PLEASURABLE trainings coming up for you to lead your business with more ease and help your clients reach their goals. Plus just tips on how to live a more pleasurable life as a human https://www.daniellesavory.com/subscribe

Do you feel like it is hard to fully lean into a new way of being when you aren’t exactly sure WHAT that even looks like? You aren’t alone. Often times when When we are trying to create MORE of something in our future that we aren’t experiencing right NOW it can be challenging to grapple with what that actually looks like, feels like and who we would be acting from that place. Using contrast and opposites is an incredible tool for giving us more insight into exactly HOW to do that.This week you will learn exactly how directing your attention to the opposite or contrast experience of what you want can actually be incredibly revealing for your next steps to create the future you WANT. Find out exactly where you can create greater awareness by looking at specific contrasting experiences, then I will take you through the exact process of using this tool to help you catapult your growth.And as always I absolutely love to hear if you are enjoying this podcast, if you can take two minutes to write a review I would so appreciate it ( seriously, if you like this please review, it means the world to me and I read every one!)What You’ll Learn from this Episode:The importance taking a look at contrast to bring a sense of gratitude and appreciation for where we are now.How contrast and opposites can give you a direct line access to what you actually WANT to create.The step by step process in how using the tool of contrast can benefit your personal growth in pleasure, desire and all areas of your life.Specific opposites you can look at that will immediately increase your awareness so you can start making more intentional choices.Featured on the Show:Alter Your Life Podcast with Alissa Alter http://alissa-alter.com/podcast/Summer of Lovin’ the most FUN way to tap into your playful, sensual and passionate self this summer, offered exclusively inside the Turned On Woman. You don’t want to miss out on the hottest summer ever. Learn more HEREGet on the mailing list - are you a coach or other practitioner? I have some information packed and PLEASURABLE trainings coming up for you to lead your business with more ease and help your clients reach their goals. https://www.daniellesavory.com/subscribe

Last week we started a conversation around the extra challenging circumstances that many mothers face and how these can can put a damper on the sex life. And to be honest, I got fired up, because these are just a handful of the OVERLOOKED ways that mother’s put pleasure on the backburner and I am tired of it. Not in a balmy - I am tired you are acting this way - more like I am tired we have been dealing with this for so long and we don’t even realize there is a BETTER more juicy way TO BE LIVING. When we are in the constant swirl of motherhood, with nervous systems on simmer just waiting to be triggered at any moment, disconnected from our bodies and despite doing all the things - STILL not feeling like we are measuring up - something has GOT to change. In this part 2 episode we recap some of the ways we are overlooking why pleasure feels out of reach and actual steps you can start taking right now to change this. Because a pleasured woman is an empowered woman, and MAMA - you are wired for so much pleasure - not to mention how it will just make life easier and more fun when you start tapping into it. Please SHARE this episode with your mama friends - it is an important message for us all. And if you have your own podcast or a group that reaches a bunch of mamas I would be honored to talk to your audience about the importance of pleasure in motherhood - just shoot me a message at [email protected] and we can get an interview or teaching class set up.And as always I absolutely love to hear if you are enjoying this podcast, if you can take two minutes to write a review I would so appreciate it.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:The importance in understanding these overlooked reasons SO that you can start off with more understanding for your self.Why to-do lists can make things worse and what type of list to make insteadHow self-compassion is more than just a cheesy sentiment and how to start practicing it in order to access more joyWhat to do with the mama-fried nervous systemWhat self-connection time is and how to start doingFeatured on the Show:Summer of Lovin’ the most FUN way to tap into your playful, sensual and passionate self this summer, offered exclusively inside the Turned On Woman. You don’t want to miss out on the hottest summer ever. Learn more HEREGet on the mailing list - are you a coach or other practitioner? I have some information packed and PLEASURABLE trainings coming up for you to lead your business with more ease and help your clients reach their goals. https://www.daniellesavory.com/subscribe

As summer is upon on (at least when this episode was recorded) I am reminded often what we take on as mothers. From coaching clients who are mamas to being one myself I find so many similarities in how we approach our pleasure and the impact that motherhood has on our sex life.There are of course obvious ways that our sex life is impacted - late nights, sleep deprivation, pregnancy/post-partum, privacy issues etc. But I wanted to spend some time focusing on some of the overlooked ways that mother hood can take a toll on our sex life.In this part episode we will focus on the top 4 Overlooked Reasons for this phenomenon and then in part 2, the steps you can take to break this cycle.Whether or not you are a mama I think you will find this episode useful as it touches on many of the ways we are socialized as women, the labor we take on and how this impacts our sexual pleasure.And as always I absolutely love to hear if you are enjoying this podcast, please send this on to a mama in your life and if you can take two minutes to write a review I would so appreciate it.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:The importance in understanding these overlooked reasons SO that you can start off with more understanding for your self.What invisible labor is and the role it plays with our nervous system and receptivity to touchThe narrative that most mamas have that keep you from intimacyLack of time boundaries and how this ultimately serves no oneFeatured on the Show:Summer of Lovin’ the most FUN way to tap into your playful, sensual and passionate self this summer, offered exclusively inside the Turned On Woman. You don’t want to miss out on the hottest summer ever. Learn more HEREGet on the mailing list - are you a coach or other practitioner? I have some information packed and PLEASURABLE trainings coming up for you to lead your business with more ease and help your clients reach their goals. https://www.daniellesavory.com/subscribe

However, GETTING to the place of working on your sex life is hardly easy. And it isn’t because the process is hard, it is because so many beliefs we have about sex actually make WORKING on our sex life harder than it needs to be. In this episode I share with you some of the pervasive beliefs I see that keep us from creating the most orgasmic intimate connection.Whether you are already dedicated to improving your sex life or are just curious about it, this episode will offer you a totally different perspective. You’ll be inspired to start dropping some of these old beliefs and taking action towards more pleasurable experiences.If you want to be part of a movement of women who are ready to increase their pleasure in and out of the bedroom then The Turned On Woman is for you. This membership offers you actionable steps, weekly coaching, guided practices and in-depth trainings to help you feel more ALIVE in your body. Ummm, yes please!And as always I absolutely love to hear if you are enjoying this podcast – please leave a reviewWhat You’ll Learn from this Episode:Why educating ourselves on sex is so hardHow we unintentionally block ourselves from growth in this areaHow to borrow the mindset when development of other skill sets and apply it your pleasureWhy we are so afraid of ‘practice’Featured on the Show:Summer of Lovin’ the most FUN way to tap into your playful, sensual and passionate self this summer, offered exclusively inside the Turned On Woman. You don’t want to miss out on the hottest summer ever. Learn more HERE

Have you ever wondered why changing your thinking is NOT making a huge difference in how you feel in your body? Like despite how much effort you make in trying to get your brain on board with the possibility of pleasure it still doesn’t seem to FEEL much different in your body?This happens a lot. Mostly because we don’t talk about the influence that the body has on the mind. Mindset and thought work can only take us so far when it comes to the experience of pleasure.In this episode I explain in detail how the mind influences the body and also how the body will influence the mind. And you will learn how bringing awareness to your habitual patterns will give you so much more opportunity for choice and creating the orgasmic conditions you crave.If you want to take these concepts, apply them and start to experience a whole new world of pleasure then you have to join The Turned On Woman. In this membership you will have an opportunity to get coached by me, be part of a supportive community talking about ALL things sex/pleasure/relationships and more, plus have access to a whole library of learning, practices and guided meditations for you to feel lit up and vibrant in your sex life AND beyond.What You’ll Learn from this Episode:Where I have been and what I’ve been up to!The impact your mind has on your bodyHow your body impacts your mindHow habitual patterns of mind AND body will show up and hold you back from pleasureHow you can work with your habitual patterns to create more pleasureFeatured on the Show:Summer of Lovin’ the most FUN way to tap into your playful, sensual and passionate self this summer, offered exclusively inside the Turned On Woman. You don’t want to miss out on the hottest summer ever. Learn more HERE

On this episode of the It’s My Pleasure podcast we break down 5 steps to help you create real change in your sex life.Making REAL change is different than being half assed about it, you are saying “oh yeah, that’d be nice” you are saying “I am ready for things to be different” and mean it.The challenge is change isn’t easy, meaning it requires effort. No it isn’t because you're lazy or you aren’t all the way committed, it simply because the brain resists making changes because it takes energy. And the brain wants to conserve as much energy as possible.Plus its way easier staying with the familiar, even though the familiar might suck, it doesn’t require you being or doing anything differently than you are right now.I help women make REAL changes and these are the 5 steps I recommend for anyone ready to stop messing around and wishing things were better, but actually MAKE them better.

On this episode of the It’s My Pleasure Podcast the brilliant Elizabeth Salazar joins me in conversation about how impactful small shifts of the mind can be and her experience of participating in Better Sex in 90 Days.Elizabeth reminisces about listening to this podcast with her husband a few months back and reflecting on how different things are now in her sex life vs. back then.She shares some of her own big ah-ha moments and the mental shifts she made that created orgasmic results. Not to mention the impact she believes doing this work will have on her daughters.Enjoy this candid conversation. Email additional questions to [email protected]

On this episode of It’s My Pleasure Podcast I answer some of the questions I have received from you - the listeners!I chose these questions as I feel they are most relevant to many of you and I hope you are able to gain a new perspective on each topic.Listen in this week as I dive into how to become more playful, what to do if you feel like you are taking to long to become aroused and how to handle having a sex life when you are simply too tired (this listener from young kiddos).Links mentioned in this episode:Episode #104 Motherhood & Sex: Overcoming Obstacles To PleasureEmail additional questions to [email protected]

Working on your sex life can be loads of FUN!Despite the fact that sex and pleasure tend to be is taboo topics, tied to shame and guilt, growing in this area doesn’t have to be miserable. Talking about sex, connecting with our bodies and our partners, can be a lot of fun! In this episode, I bring on two recent graduates of the Better Sex In 90 Days program, Brittany and Lindsay. In our conversation, we talk about why they chose to do this work, some of the impacts it has had on them both in and outside of the bedroom, as well as the safety, joy, and compassion of a group coaching experience.Sexy Revamp is HERE {Free 5-Day Live Online Event}Ready to work with me directly and get access to training, practices, and meditations to help you feel a juicy connection with your body, and feel more pleasured?!Join the first every Sexy Revamp! A free 5-day live online event to kickstart your sexy!5 days of training, private facebook group and pop up podcast with guided practices and replays of the trainings.If you’ve been wanting to reignite your desire, this is the best opportunity to see what is possible for you. To register or learn more, go to: https://bit.ly/thesexyrevamp Topics In This Episode:Prioritizing pleasure in your life when it doesn’t seem importantWhy we put off pursuing our pleasureYou can have amazing sex, even if you are tiredBeing vulnerable in a group settingLearning from other’s experiences, even if they are different from usThe fun and lightness that is translated from the group experience to the bedroomWhat it looks like when pleasure is a priority

On this episode of It’s My Pleasure Podcast I share how isolating it can feel in our struggles with sex and pleasure. Pain and suffering are a universal experience yet when we are in the midst of challenges, especially when it comes to our sex lives, it can feel like we are on an island all alone. In this episode, I discuss loneliness, it’s impact on our pleasure, and how we can peel back from the “otherness” so that we can connect with ourselves and create the result of being a pleasured woman. Topics In This Episode:How sex being “taboo” to talk about can make our isolation more maginifiedAssumptions of what “normal” looks likeHow we “other” ourselves, and how that “otherness” keeps us from our resultThe curse of the lone unicornClean pain versus dirty painWant to ask me a question?! The first listener Q&A is underway and I want to hear from you.Maybe you have some burning questions and you’re afraid to ask someone else. Send those questions my way! This is a safe place for you to get answers. Nothing is TMI or too taboo. All your information will be anonymous. Send your questions to [email protected].

Perfectionism and pleasure are oil and water. They don’t mix! Perfectionists set impossible standards for ourselves, and when we are unable to meet these expectations, we are in our heads and say mean things to ourselves. And this certainly is not an environment where pleasure can enter. I am a recovering perfectionist, and despite all the work I have done in this area of my life, it is still there. The key is to be able to identify those thoughts and create awareness so that we can love ourselves through it. In this episode, let’s take a deeper look at identifying those thoughts, the different areas of our lives where it can disrupt our pleasure, and what we can do about it.Topics In This EpisodePerfection is subjectiveWhat would perfect even look like? Is it even realistic?When perfectionism keeps you from setting goalsThe physical impact that damaging self-talk can have on youHolding on to this idea of perfect does not serve youCreating a container for pleasure to thrive inWhen we extend our perfectionism and expectations to our partnersA quick note! I am planning an upcoming Q&A episode on the podcast. If you have a question you would like for me to answer, send an email to [email protected] and use the subject, “Podcast Q&A”. I want to assure you that these will be kept completely anonymous. This is your opportunity to ask me anything. Nothing is TMI or off-limits. As always, it’s been my absolute pleasure to share this conversation with you about perfectionism in the world, and how it wreaks havoc on our pursuit of pleasure. Take a look at it for you. When you notice that you are berating yourself, it’s a chance to be aware, and show yourself love. Are you ready to not feel this way anymore? If you’re ready, make the decision to work on your perfectionism for the sake of your pleasure.

On this episode of It’s My Pleasure, one of my all time favorite clients Leigha May joins me to talk about her time working with me 1:1. Growing up in an extreme conservative Christian culture Leigha had already known that there were beliefs from her upbringing holding her back in her sexuality. But having done a lot of work around healing her past already there was still this sense of, ‘I guess this is as good as it gets’. Leigha had been following me on social media and listening to the podcast for a while. She knew she had yet to create the sex life of her dreams and was beginning to question if what she wanted was possible when it came to her sexuality and relationship with her partner. There was a lot of fear of even trying this work, afraid of what it might mean about her relationship and her sexual identity. She is a life coach and had invested time in upleveling her life in other ways, and believed in the power of coaching and was hoping to create growth in this area as well. In our conversation, you’ll hear Leigha talk about what she thought the work was and that it turned out to be something completely different, and it opened her up to so much more.I am also going to have a limited number of spots for one-on-one coaching, so if that is something you are interested in and want to know more about, please email me at: [email protected] In This EpisodeThe relationship between our self-image and our pleasureLong lasting effects of our upbringing, even when we think we’ve worked through it allWhen you uplevel one area of your life, the possibilities are endless!Fears and hesitations in pursuing this area of coachingThe difference between what she thought the main issue was, versus what it actually turned out to beIt’s way easier to blame our partners than to own our shitWhy we settle in our relationships and with our pleasureGaining a sense of understanding of her sexuality, and how it fits into her relationshipConnectInstagram: @lmaycoachingWebsite: https://www.leighamaycoaching.com/

When it comes to sex, how many times a week is considered “normal”? This is one of the most common questions I get in my DMs on social media. So many people want to know what is considered normal, or how often most people are having sex, so that they can use this as a way to see how they measure up. A lot of my clients come to me because they feel like they aren’t having sex enough, either for their own preference, or that of their partners, and they think that this means something about who they are as a person. In this episode, I introduce the importance of exploring our motivations behind wanting to have sex, separating any meaning from the frequency of sex sessions, and yes, I even give you a number. The next cohort of the Better Sex in 90 Days program is starting soon! If you are someone who is unhappy with the frequency of your sex life and you are looking to make a change, I invite you to join us in the group program. This is just one of the many topics we explore in this group. Email us at: [email protected] Topics In This Episode:Recommendations if you’re experiencing pain during sexThe mind-body connection, and the relationship between our thoughts and our physical bodiesPhysical changes you may experience when you begin to prioritize your pleasureWhat studies show for average frequency when it comes to sexThere is a difference between the sex you may or may not be having, and what you are making it mean about you, your partner, and your relationshipLooking at quantity versus quality. Frequency doesn’t matter if it doesn’t feel good!Ask yourself: why is this important to you?Benefits of sex, both partnered and solo sex sessionsWhere to start, if you aren’t at the recommended number, or if you aren’t happy with the frequency As always it’s been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. Remember to be grounded in love and to be open to your partners feelings. Create a safe space for them and for you to be able to talk about this topic, which can be difficult and scary. Good luck in your conversations and I can’t wait to talk with you next week.

So you’ve been listening to this podcast for a while now, and you want to take this work to the next level and it’s time to bring your partner into the conversation. Talking about pleasure and your sex life can be taboo and a bit of a minefield when bringing this up with your partner. Sex has a way of making us feel vulnerable in a way that nothing else can. In this episode, I share with you how to bring this up with your partner, whether you are the one who wants to take this work to the next level, or, if you are wanting your partner to engage in this work. I talk about creating a safe space for both of you, conversation starters, and what a successful outcome looks like. If you’re listening to this podcast and you’re enjoying the content I’m putting out there, I would love it if you would share, rate, and review this show! The more that you can share how this is helping you allows other women to come to this podcast and learn as well. As many of us know, this topic can be very scary and vulnerable, and the first place people go when they’re deciding to listen to something is to look at the reviews, and by sharing your ah-ha moments and how this show has helped you, it can begin to help others. To help other women find this show and create more pleasure in their lives, leave a review! Click here to go to Apple Podcasts and follow the steps below. Topics In This Episode:Looking at your role in this conversationCreating a safe space for both you and your partnerWhen to bring up this topic and have the conversationPreparing yourself for this conversation and understanding why it is important for youAvoid focusing on the problemNavigating through miscommunication and misinterpretationAre you seeking permission? If so, why?Enrollment for Better Sex in 90 Days is coming up in September for the next cohort. I have so many additions for this upcoming cohort. Plant the seed on why you want to do this. If you have any questions, reach out to me at [email protected] As always it’s been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. Remember to be grounded in love and to be open to your partners feelings. Create a safe space for them and for you to be able to talk about this topic, which can be difficult and scary. Good luck in your conversations and I can’t wait to talk with you next week.

What if there was a simple tool to help you and your partner be able to communicate better, and be able to talk about sex better? That’s the exact thing that Maggie Reyes is here to talk about today! She is a dear friend of mine and a marriage coach, who helps high-achieving women have five-star marriages. In our conversation today, we talk about just how crucial communication is for a marriage and the sex within that relationship. Maggie breaks down soul-centered communication, how to identify when you or your partner are in the stress cycle, and really how to prepare and have productive conversations with your partner around sex. I really enjoyed this conversation with Maggie and know that this will be so helpful for you when it comes to pursuing your pleasure. Topics In This EpisodeHow you can make change in your marriage/partnership when only YOU are doing the workWhat is SOUL-Centered Communication?How to use this powerful tool right now to have vulnerable or challenging conversations about sex with your partner.The difference between making requests vs demandsHow prioritizes yourself impacts those around you.The worst time to problem solve with your partnerWhy safety is key when communicating to your partner about sex and how to do thisConnectMaggiereyes.comInstagram: @themaggiereyesPodcast: The Marriage Life Coach PodcastBook: Questions for Couples Journal

On this podcast we usually talk about what we can do with our brains in order to tap into our pleasure, but I’m also interested in sharing with you other ways we can accentuate our bodies to experience greater pleasure. What if you could make some changes to your diet and it would allow you to have more pleasure and better sex? This is the exact thing that I talk about with my guest on this episode, Christine DeLozier. She is an acupuncturist and holistic nutritional counselor, and she recently wrote a book on the research she has done to answer the question about the effects of diet on our sexual health. She talks about some of the physiological indicators for better sex, the truth about aphrodisiacs, and even shares her date night menu if you’re looking to have better sex tonight. Topics In This EpisodLooking at the root of the problem, not just the symptomsEvaluating a good sexual experience psychologically versus physiologicallyThe 3 key physiological factors that contribute to better sexThe role omega-3’s, antioxidants, and potassium has, and good sources of these nutrientsOf course blood flow is important for men, but what about for women?Planning our meals around sex sessions Connect with ChristineWebsite: dietforgreatsex.comBook: https://www.amazon.com/Diet-Great-Sex-Female-Sexual/dp/173554521XRecipe videos on Instagram and TikTok: @dietforgreatsex As always, it has been my absolute pleasure to share this episode with you. As a total brain nerd, I found this information to be fascinating! I hope that this was helpful for you to see that in addition to examining our thoughts and our beliefs around our sex lives, there are other ways we can make it better outside the bedroom. Not only are these foods good for our bodies, they are good for our sex too. Have fun trying new recipes and having better sex!

When you have the thought, “All he wants is sex from me, so I should want to have sex with him,” how does that feel in your body? Does that allow you to feel pleasure and lit up and turned on? Absolutely not! So many women come to me with this belief that all their partners want is sex, or that there’s a problem with them because they don’t have the same level of desire as their partner. They then assign meaning to it which creates negative emotions and feelings, none of which create space for pleasure. The belief that our partners want to have sex with us is a totally neutral situation. However, so often we assign meaning to this that only allows for guilt and shame, which do not allow for pleasure. In this episode, let’s look at these thoughts about our partner’s desire and explore how we can shift away from obligation and frustration to a place of excitement and desire, for you. This is the exact process we work through in Better Sex in 90 Days, the group program where we dive into the beliefs that keep you from pleasure. We take these thoughts and see how it’s impacting you, and step-by-step, we re-wire this belief to become a more positive experience. You gain more awareness around how to wake your body up to being available for more pleasure and the opportunity for more desire. Join us at: https://daniellesavory.com/group/ Topics In This Episode:The origins of our emotions and how we can change themFeeling negative emotions on a physiological levelExploring the impact of feeling obligated or pressured when it comes to sexSomeone else’s desires don’t have to mean anything about youEvaluating different types of connections with our partnersReminding ourselves of why we are doing this workAs always, it has been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. Your thoughts about your partner’s desire can and the way we perpetuate these beliefs is keeping us from owning our pleasure. At the end of the day, if you’re wanting sex or not, when you believe that your partner only wants one thing from you, how do you feel? Does it allow for you to feel loved and connected? If not, then drop it! Look at how these thoughts are manifesting in your brain and decide to see it as something neutral and take back your pleasure.

How about a quickie?? In this short episode, I wanted to get right down to it and share 5 really quick things you can do to activate your sex life. In this podcast, I like to focus on helping you really build your mind-body connection and teach you how to use your brain to understand your mindset and the beliefs you have. We also take a look at how to create new thoughts that allow for you to feel more connected to yourself and your partner. However, in this episode, I really want to share 5 behaviors and action steps you can take to really start to tap into your pleasure today and feel more pleasure.Topics In This Episode:The quickest way for you to access pleasureScheduling sex isn’t boring!How to build anticipation.Foreplay begins way before the bedroomThinking about our partners as our lovers, not just our roommatesBuilding desire and eagerness for our partnersThe relationship between sex and the stress cycle, and how to break itAs always it’s been my absolute pleasure to share these five tips to help you reignite and improve your long-term partner sex life to the next level. If you are ready to take all these tips further in a loving, supportive community of women, Better Sex in 90 Days is open for enrollment. Not only do we work on each of these five things from a place of taking action, but you’ll also know exactly how to do this by creating the belief system and mindset to get you into action. To learn more and join, go to https://daniellesavory.com/group/

I hear from clients and women all the time that they are unhappy with their sex lives, but they are afraid to do this work because of what they may find out about themselves, and how it could possibly negatively affect other areas of their lives. This was also true for my client Whitney, who has come on the podcast this week to share with you the powerful transformation she experienced through facing her fears and really setting her relationship with herself as a priority in a whole new way. In our conversation, she shares the total empowerment she now gets to feel on a daily basis, in the bedroom and in all aspects of her life, as a result of learning the tools that I share in the Better Sex in 90 Days program. To learn more about this group coaching program, go to https://daniellesavory.com/group/Topics In This EpisodeApproaching the shame around sex and overcoming itOrgasms are not the same as pleasureWhen we are holding ourselves back from exploringThe power in getting support. You don’t have to go it alone!Untangling the codependence of pleasure with a partnerFinding liberation from letting go of things that are not your responsibilityCreating safety and compassion for yourself, and how it serves you in all areas of your lifeSeeing sex as a barometerConnect with WhitneyInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/whitneyuland/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@whitneyulandPodcast, The Abundant Artist: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-abundant-artist/id1512877614

I know you have heard me talk about the transformations that my clients get, but there is something so powerful about hearing from the clients themselves and having them on to share their stories. And that is why I have invited Morgan on the podcast this week! She is a graduate of my Better Sex in 90 Days program and I have continued to see her grow through the ongoing community calls I offer to my clients, in order to help with continual support. She came to the program as a bit of a skeptic. After previously seeking therapy for past sexual trauma and it not being very helpful for her, she knew that she wanted to see change in her sex life, but she wasn’t sure if coaching and my program was going to be a fit for her. In this episode, she shares why she decided to go for it, some of the biggest transformations she experienced, and how it has impacted her work as a coach.Better Sex in 90 Days is now open for enrollment! If you’re ready to feel sexy, fully whole, and wildly playful, then I invite you to join us. You will learn how to identify all of the shit that is holding you back from pleasure, and how to compassionately connect with your body in a loving and juicy way so that you can be present in your sex life and all of the areas of your life. To join, go to https://daniellesavory.com/group/. And if you have any questions about this program, or if you want to make sure that it is a good fit for you, I invite you to set up a few minutes to speak with me. I like to hop on the phone with anyone to help talk through what you’re going through and really make sure this is the right solution for you. You can email me at [email protected] In This Episode:How Morgan knew that she still needed help with her sex life, even after seeking therapyIdentifying the results she wanted to createHaving problems with your sex life isn’t only for people who are married with childrenThe next-level growth she received from the group environment, as opposed to one-on-one coachingWhat it looked like when she was able to love herself moreMorgan’s biggest transformation

I am surrounded by high achieving women who are taking it to the next level in all areas of their lives. I have clients and listeners who are expanding and growing their businesses, raising children, are actively involved in their communities, yet, they feel like something is missing. Many women have reached out to me and told me just how exhausted they are, and I get it! In this special episode I want to share with you an upcoming training on how to become a turned on woman.Being turned on doesn’t have to only apply to what happens in the bedroom. When you become turned on, it has a ripple effect on every area of your life and how you’re showing up in the world. When you feel turned on, it makes everything feel different. You feel more juicy, more creative, more alive.This training is going to take you through the direct process that, until now, has only been available to my clients in my program, Better Sex In 90 Days. During this 90 minute training, you’re going to get to understand your unique path forward to becoming a turned on woman: understanding what is blocking you, and the steps you need to take to feel more alive. To join, head to: http://bit.ly/TurnedOnWomanTrainingTopics In This EpisodeWhat it looks and feels like when I’m not connected with the turned on version of myselfBeing turned on sets the tone for everything elseIt’s not effortless, but it can become that wayHabits that make all the differenceThe neuroscience of being a turned on womanExamples from my clients and what it looks like for them to be turned on womenAs always, it has been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. If you are really looking to learn how to start this work and apply it to every area of your life, I highly encourage you to join me in this training. It’s damn good, and you deserve it!The training is only $6 and it takes place on Thursday, June 10th, 2021 at 5pm Pacific Standard Time. It will be recorded if you can’t watch it live.

Sexual fantasies can be a lot of fun as something to incorporate into your pleasure and maybe even something you share with your partner. However, for many of the women I work with, fantasies bring on feelings of shame and judgement. A lot of clients are worried about what their fantasies might say about them and who they are, especially if it is out of alignment with how they view themselves. Let’s really take a look at understanding where these fantasies come from and how to remove the guilt and shame so that they can be used to spark your desire and your pleasure and help you become a more turned on woman. I just recently created a new module for my group program. Better Sex in 90 Days, focusing on how to use fantasies as a path to your pleasure. If you are looking to connect with your desire and become a more turned on woman, I encourage you to join right now. I am amazed by the women in the group and the results they are creating, and I can’t wait for you to join. To learn more and apply, go to: https://daniellesavory.com/group/Topics In This EpisodeThe inherent vulnerability in opening up about our desiresLooking at what our fantasies are at their base, and what they become when we assign meaning to themWhen your fantasies don’t line up with who you think you areThe responses in our bodies when we feel shame, and the effect that has on our pleasureHow to approach our fantasies so that we can learn from themWhat does your fantasy show you, especially beyond the surface level?Examining two of the most common fantasies that I hear from clientsAs always it’s been my absolute pleasure to share this episode with you that is all about sexual fantasies and how you might start to look at them differently so that you can proceed and help them become a purposeful path to you having some mindblowing sex.

Your inner bitch. We’ve all got one. You know, that voice tells you you aren’t good enough, that makes you doubt yourself, and is so judgemental about your every move. Not only is she saying things to you when you’re having a sex session that can take you out of the moment, but also impacting your pleasure even when she is chirping in about your parenting or procrastinating or whatever else. In this episode, I share with you some of the things my inner bitch has said to me in the past, help you identify and separate her voice from your own, and share with you why its important to show her love and be able to take the power back with your thoughts to be able to continue to prioritize your pleasure. Topics In This Episode: How our inner bitch’s thoughts become our beliefs about ourselvesWhat it means when our stress cycle is triggeredTaking a look at how it feels in our bodies when we listen to our inner bitchThe first step in order to create a container for pleasureWhere she is showing up, outside of the bedroomTelling her to “f*** off” doesn’t actually workWhat does our inner bitch need?As always, it has been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. I hope that you are able to see more about why it is so important to treat ourselves with kindness, and that it begins with speaking to ourselves with love, compassion, and acceptance. And that acceptance applies to all of us, not just parts of us.

I don’t know about you, but now that it is spring, I have been spending a lot of time in my garden recently. This has really got me thinking about the metaphor that I got from a mentor of mine that our minds are like gardens. If left unattended, weeds and plants can grow and sprawl out in ways we never imagined, causing damage and preventing our gardens from being what we truly want them to be. In the same way, old thoughts and beliefs, if not tended to, can also have this same effect. In this episode, let’s investigate how unchecked thoughts can hold us back and how we can begin to plant new thoughts in order to live the pleasured life we desire.This is exactly what I help my clients do in Better Sex in 90 Days. With my step-by-step process, we weed out the thoughts that we no longer want to believe and create a fertile ground to get to planting the thoughts that will create the sex life we want to have. Enrollment is now open. To learn more, go to https://daniellesavory.com/group/Topics In This Episode:Getting to choose the thoughts that you want to thinkAsking ourselves: is it time for an overhaul?Shifting the way we think about negative thoughtsWhy our brains have a negativity bias, and how to identify itInvestigating where our beliefs come fromComments that become beliefs, which hold you back from what you’re really trying to createIt has been my absolute pleasure to share this with you today. Think about the garden of your mind when it comes to your pleasure and your sexuality. There is a whole bunch of shit that is in there that you had no say in, whatsoever. Whether they were planted on purpose, or through societal pressures, they are there. So tending to your mind and weeding out the thoughts that do not serve you and hold you back is key in order to create the results you want.To help other women find this show and create more pleasure in their lives, leave a review! Click here to go to Apple Podcasts and follow the steps below. Editing and show notes by Roth Media