How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

Ditch the resolutions and set 'promises & intentions' instead. Helping children build their confidence is all about day to day behavioural changes. This is a super practical episode with a great free resource to get you started.Here are the highlights:(2:25) The top resolutions and who sets them (5:50) Let’s look at it differently(8:00) Why intention setting is so useful for the whole family(14:00) The Imagination Game(16:20) How would this feel?(19:35) Now let’s look at what this would mean on a daily basis(21:25) Service as an intention(22:25) The habit of reflection💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are chores causing arguments in your home? In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I'll explain the importance of shifting the language we use to encourage family members to work together in maintaining the home. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How should we respond to a child or teen who swears, is physical and aggressive when they experience big emotions? We might not recognise our child or teen in these moments. I will share my top tips of what to do in the moment to diffuse things, and how best to approach the education piece in order to distinguish future explosive outbursts.Here are the highlights:(2:15) Recap from Ep 134 (5:00) Explosive behaviours(7:50) Don’t be drawn into name calling or abusive language(10:40) Keep your voice calm and use few words(13:24) Create a safe environment – don’t sent them away!(15:48) Teach consequences for the behavioural choices(18:55) Try to identify your child’s triggers(21:00) Zoom out and reflect on your child as a wholeListen to Ep 134: Managing Big Emotions💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Learning to say no can be a game-changer. Do you often find yourself saying yes to everything and everyone, only to regret it later? Setting boundaries takes practice and can be challenging, but it's worth it. In this week's Bucket Emptying episode I share my tips on how to learn to say no and prioritise what matters most. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How a child or teen manages those 'big' emotions speaks volumes about their current well-being. I take a belts and braces approach covering why they may struggle with their feelings, how we ought to react in the moment, and how we can help them find more appropriate ways of responding.Here are the highlights:(3:15) What are big emotions?(6:00) 4 principles of emotional behaviour(11:10) Consider your child’s emotional stage not chronological age(15:45) 3 things to do in the moment (23:45) 3 lessons for after the outburst 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Happy Christmas everyone 🎄Are you feeling overwhelmed during this festive season? Don't worry, I've got you covered! In this week’s Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I'm sharing 3 tips to help you manage expectations and make the most of this wonderful time. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Independence is the foundation to self-esteem and confidence. Independent children have stronger social skills, greater academic success, and fare better in life. So how do we foster independence? I'll share my top five tops.Here are the highlights:(0:35) What do I mean by independence?(3:00) Reflect - what are you doing to model these skills?(3:28) Encourage your child to make mistakes(8:55) Give choices wherever possible(14:08) Give stage appropriate responsibility(16:30) Encourage your child/teen to have an opinion(19:50) Ensure your child’s foundations are solid – who are they?💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have your children started asking if Santa, the Tooth Fairy, or the Easter Bunny are real?Are you struggling with the dilemma of whether or not to tell your children the truth about these mythical figures?In this week's Bucket Emptying episode, I answer a listener's question on this very topic. Tune in to find out my take on this age-old parenting predicament. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It is aptly named the ‘silly season’ for a reason; all routine and rationale goes out the window. Unrealistic expectations and huge pressure to be one big happy of family can have us all pulling our hair out whether it's festive season or summer holidays. I'll share my five top tips to keep you sane.Here are the highlights:(3:00) Where are your flash points? (8:55) Have realistic expectations(14:00) What’s your exit strategy?(16:45) Try not to take things too seriously(18:40) Have the difficult conversations in advance💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As a CEO of your family, you might be wondering how much screen time is appropriate for your children. While there is no one-size-fits-all answer, you can guess I have an opinion. In this week's Bucket Emptying episode I'll help you work out your child's 'big rocks' to start the calculation.💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is it our responsibility to push our children so they achieve what they are capable of? Goodness knows where they'd end up if we didn't?!! I'll share why I think this approach is flawed and might actually back-fire. I'll also share what we should be doing instead.Here are the highlights:(2:20) Mistakes and failure (4:45) Two types of motivation(7:15) Three parental choices(9:50) Setting standards and expectations(14:00) Remember growth mindset(17:45) Mastery goals matter, not performance goals(20:35) Give children a sense of autonomy(23:15) Challenge them just enough💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As a parent, guilt can often feel like an unavoidable part of the package. It can be overwhelming, but it doesn't have to be. In fact, there are ways to manage parenting guilt. In this week’s Bucket Emptying episode I’ll share my top tips.💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We hear so much now about the importance of food and nutrition not only for our children’s physical health but also their emotional mental health. Lucinda shares her top tips and explains why ‘gut health’ is as important for children as it is for adults. You really are in for a treat!Here are the highlights:(2:30) Importance of gut health for teens and tweens(10:30) Lactobacillus is so important for neurotransmitters(15:20) Eat the rainbow(16:44) Zinc and the importance of breakfast(27:48) Healthy snacks(20:15) Children remember the emotional links to homemade food(35:00) 3 quick wins💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mealtime management is a crucial skill that can greatly impact the lives of all members of the family. Meals create not only an opportunity for our children to fuel their bodies, but time to connect with each other and learn great life skills.💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A must listen if you are struggling with sibling arguments and friction which is making life at home feel quite unbearable. The solution isn't just in how you deal with it in the moment it's in how your child sees themselves in your family.Here are the highlights:(1:25) Sibling rivalry is a natural part of family dynamics(3:39) How does your child feel about themselves?(5:31) What role does your child have within the family? (8:59) Birth order matters(10:50) Do you find one child easier to parent?(15:10) Don’t referee what you don’t see(19:25) Don’t tell you children they must love each other(22:21) Allocate time based on need, not equality💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Supporting children with an alcoholic spouse can be challenging, but there are steps you can take to help them cope wit this difficult situation.This week's Bucket Emptying episode answers a listener question about this sensitive situation and I'll share my 3 tips.💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1 in 5 children are described as neurodivergent; affecting the way they experience, understand and interact with the world. I'll share the common characteristics neurodivergent children share - whether they present with Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder, Autistic Spectrum Disorder, or Dyslexia - and most importantly the best behavioural strategies to support them.Here are the highlights:(1:20) Neurodivergence context(4:16) Characteristics of neurodivergence(15:30) Be quick with descriptive praise (20:24) Keep instructions short and succinct(22:04) Practice skills at home for social situations(25:26) Teach consequences(26:52) Remember there are strengths as well as challenges(28:00) Help your child build their toolkit💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Managing change can be a challenging task for anyone, including children. However, with the right guidance and support, children can develop effective strategies to cope with, and adapt to change.I'll share my tips to help.💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support.💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Doing what you are told and taking responsibility are two very different things. We all want children who take ownership for their decisions - it's a life skill they will forever use. How we instil it in them can seem very elusive but it actually lies in the little day to day things. I'll share my top 7 tips which work regardless of your child's age.Here are the highlights:(3:30) Make your bed – a simple, but profound responsibility(6:22) Encourage independence(9:50) Provide bigger choices (13:30) Teach consequences and follow through(16:24) Don’t rush to fix your children’s problems or emotions(19:40) Set expectations(23:00) Except they will fail💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Homework. Does that word fill you with dread?We often struggle to get our child to complete their homework, and sometimes end up doing it for them. I'll share my strategies on how to create a routine that prepares them for success.💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode is for you if you are finding tech and its use has become totally out of control in your family. Whether that's teens permanently in bedrooms or constantly on games consoles. I'll share what you can do practically to move away from constant battles to a little more calm. Here are the highlights:(4:23) Accept you’re now on a journey(6:00) You set the framework in your home(7:58) Audit your own tech use (8:50) Understand your child/teen’s use of tech(12.33) Start with the big rocks(16:40) Shift parenting from monitoring to mentoring(19:55) Help find new interests to run alongside tech(22:18) Remember to work as a family💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As the saying goes, ‘we all juggle multiple hats’ as parents and finding balance seems to be illusive to most of us. Some days we feel we’re acing it, yet I think I speak for most of us when I say we more often than not feel like we are constantly teetering on the edge of overwhelm. The struggle is real and in today's bucket emptying episode I'll share my tips to help you have a more balanced week.💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'll share my thoughts on this personality trait and what it means for children who we feel might be highly sensitive. There are always dangers in labelling children - least of all communicating their traits as fixed - so I will give you my honest advice on how best to navigate this new found knowledge. Here are the highlights:(2:00) Defining a highly sensitive person(6:25) Let’s put this in context(11:18) Please don’t label your child (14:45) Remember the brain is a muscle(19:30) It’s just one trait(21:13) Problem solve and encourage(23:51) Descriptive praise💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you a parent struggling to keep your children motivated during school holidays? Look no further! In this week's bucket emptying episode, I share my tips on how to turn grumble-inducing chores like food shopping, shoe shopping, and dentist visits into cheerful treats that your children will love. This simple strategy helped me keep my kids motivated when they were young, and they can work for you too!💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Resilient children have an ability to withstand or recover quickly from difficulties, they remain flexible and adaptable to life’s challenges and bounce back from setbacks. A resilient person still experiences stress and big emotions - they simply respond to them differently than people who aren’t resilient. I'll share the 7 C's of resilience and how we can foster these at home. Here are the highlights:(0.45) Why does resilience matter?(7:15) 7 C’s of resilience(11:48) Competence can’t be acquired theoretically (16:07) Confidence grows by tackling challenges(18:01) Connection strengthens our kid’s foundations(22:24) Values underpin character(24:26) Do they know their contribution is valued?(26:19) Self-soothing fosters the ability to cope with big emotions(29:07) Internal and external locus of control💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As parents, we want our children to grow up and be the best version of themselves. However, it's important to remember that children need to be challenged, but not to the point where they crack under the pressure. Finding the balance can be a delicate task. Let me talk you through my thoughts.For more help with confidence listen to Episode 2: Confidence 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s not easy being a boy. Social expectations of masculinity are everywhere - don’t cry, be strong, keep your emotions in check! I’ll share the five conversations we should be having with our sons, nephews, godsons and male friends. Here are the highlights:(1:03) Birth-rate for boys is higher than girls(3:00) Challenge male stereotypes(6:55) Mental health is as important as physical health (13:15) Be conscious of confidence comparisons(18:30) Risk-taking(22:18) Communication is crucial💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As parents, we all want our children to be bright and intelligent, but sometimes they can struggle with social etiquette. This week's listener's question raises a common issue: how to handle a child who won't stop interrupting despite being repeatedly told it's rude. While there's no one right answer, I’ll share some strategies that could be helpful.💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We’ve all been there right? Whether it’s because we’ve said ‘no’ to something, asked them to do something they don’t want to do, or called ‘time for dinner, bed, bath, school, homework etc ……. and they’ve totally lost the plot.Their reaction seems so disproportionate, you’d think we’d cut off a limb, and yet to them it’s the end of their world and to us we’re struggling to know what to say and how to keep our own emotions in check.Join me as I share the three main reasons why children struggle to manage their emotions, and what we can do to help support them.Here are the highlights:(2:15) The 3 main reasons your child is having a meltdown(4:19) Chronological and developmental age(7:00) Don’t meet their fire with your own (13:34) Discussion after a period of calm(16:30) Using a glitter jar to explain emotions(22:00) Hand breathing strategy – use in times of calm first!💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you a parent who recently discovered that your teen is vaping? You're not alone. In a recent listener question, a parent expressed concern over their teen's vaping habits. As a parent, it's crucial to have an open and honest conversation with your teen about the dangers of vaping and why they are choosing to do it. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There are very real issues girls face growing up, which negatively impacts their resilience. Being a ‘good girl’ limits their potential. I’ll share my top tips for raising gutsy women who are not afraid to take chances. Here are the highlights:(2:20) Brain facts for context(12:10) Language matters(14:40) Be aware of confirmation bias & hypervigilance(19:18) Shift the energy through action/movement(22:30) Play tricks with the mind (24:50) Praise bravery 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Struggling with a toddler who won't listen can be a challenging experience for any parent. A recent listener question asked for help with a 3-year-old who seems immune to traditional discipline methods like the naughty step and reward charts. If you're in the same boat, know that you're not alone! It can be tough to find the right approach that works for your child. Keep trying different methods and remember to stay patient and consistent. 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Warning: This episode contains personal experience of child loss, childbirth and grief.I thought it might be helpful to share my early parenting journey in as honest way as I can. As a heads up I am going to share experiences of loss and grief, which for some of you may trigger your own loss or grief. Go gently with yourself, and choose what is best for you - whether you listen or whether you skip this episode - be kind to where you are right now. Here are the highlights:(2:50) I had no experience with children(5:00) Setting the scene with my pregnancies(7:35) First child lessons(13:03) Context of my decisions(16:15) I wish I hadn’t obsessed about my birth plan(18:00) I wish I’d invested time in finding my tribe(21:48) I wish I’d accepted ‘good enough’(24:20) I wish I’d done the inner work(27:00) I wish I’d taken time to take care of me💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Warning: this episode briefly discusses types of pornography children may see online.As parents, we never know when our children will be exposed to adult content. A listener's 8-year-old son had stumbled upon pornography whilst on a friend's phone. I'll share my insights on how to approach this with your child, emphasising the importance of open communication and age-appropriate education. It's never too early to start these conversations and equip our children with the tools to navigate the digital world safely. If you'd like more information about this topic listen to Ep 29: Why we need to talk to our kids about porn NOW!💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1 in 5 children aged between 10-18 years is self-harming and the numbers being admitted into hospital is rising - particularly in younger children. As parents what do we need to know about self-harm? What causes it and how we can help our children and teens if they self-harm? Here are the highlights:(1:15) What is self-harm?(3:30) What are the signs to look out for?(6:30) 1 in 5 children is initially self-harming(7:55) Why do children and teens self-harm?(13:20) What to do in the immediate and short-term(21:00) Medium-term action points(24:20) Look at the fundamental roots of why they have self-harmed💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sleep is so important for children and yet we often have so many issues getting our children to bed. This episode responds to a listener question asking to how to help their child with sleep struggles.If you need more support with this topic please also listen to Episode 5: Bedroom Routines and Sleep💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Every family has a past which they want to shield their children from. It may be a relative with an addition, a past severe mental health issue, a criminal record or simply something you have not yet found the right way to talk to your children about. I will share my tips on if, when, and how we have these conversations with our children. Here are the highlights:(2:30) Why it’s important to share family information(6:45) Timing is everything(7:50) Try to avoid it being a big conversation (12:30) Plan explanations in advance so you don't panic (15.45) Give you child time to process the information and encourage them to ask questions when they're ready(19:00) Accept it's likely to open old wounds and everyone needs time to heal. Be kind to yourself!💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

One of the major contributors to filling our bucket is challenges around parenting with our partners. The biggest problem can be when we have different parenting styles to others involved in raising our children. Do you know your parenting style? Find out in the accompanying resource.💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A very candid and honest conversation with my daughter about her neurodiversity. She opens up about feeling different to her friends from an early age - they seemed to play very differently. She shares why a diagnosis helped her know herself, her experience of medication, and how she's navigating life day to day. There are also come parenting do's and don'ts. Here are the highlights:(2:30) Catherine shares her experiences pre-diagnosis(10:01) Let’s talk about the diagnosis (14:30) Helping parents understand how they may trigger anxiety(28:00) Social anxiety(33:20) Help your child celebrate their strengths and skills💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Daily gratitude will help empty your bucket!There is mounting evidence that the practice of gratitude not only makes us feel happier, but it also increases resilience, self-esteem, improves self-control and mental health. It’s even better if you write it down. You can purchase your Shine Planner here or a gratitude journal here  ADD HIGHLIGHTS💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm talking “Back to School’ and how we can prepare our children and teens to go back to school, start school for the first time, transition to junior school, senior school, boarding school or university.Whether you are listening to this before you child starts school or is well into the school term, the principles I share are helpful at any point in time when you need to reset patterns of being and behaviour which aren’t optimal for school and getting the best out of school and education. Here are the highlights:(00:49) Creating the right habits(04:29) Tailor a back to school plan for your child(09:03) Sleeping patterns go out of the window during holidays(14:45) Cultivating curiosoty through reading(19:05) How to deal with back to school anxiety(21:30) Maintain good social connections during school breaks💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week's bucket emptying episode addresses a common question: should 6-year-olds have phones? As a parent, I understand the temptation to give in to our children's requests, but in this case, it's important to consider the reasons behind it. In this episode, we explain why we believe that 6-year-olds do not need phones. Tune in to find out more! 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Everyone's got an opinion about parenting. The most irritating ones are the naive comments made by people who aren't parents themselves! At the least they are an irritant at their worst they are damaging to our wellbeing. Join me as I rant a little - then offer you some (hopefully) wise words to navigate more peacefully through them. Here are the highlights: (2:00) Parenting is one of the hardest things we’ll do(3:40) Naïve conversations about parenting(5:30) Gender stereotypes are harmful(9:43) We have more than 18 summers with our children!(15:14) Stay connected to what you know is true(17:55) Give yourself permission to feel emotions(22:07) Connect with your tribe💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Battles with our children at mealtimes can create stressful family situations. It’s helpful to identify why your child won’t eat, is it texture, specific food types or a phobia?Please trust your gut instinct as a parent and if you are concerned, please consult your GP for medical advice.If your child struggles with eating you might find these additional episodes helpful:Ep 9: The Link Between Children’s Emotional Wellbeing and Nutrition with Lucinda MillerEp 96: Nutrition for ADHD with Lucinda Miller💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I published this first episode about Anxiety in June 2021, and it has been hugely popular. I've recently had lots of requests for help around anxiety, so thought it was a great time to republish it. As they say 'repetition is the mother of learning, the father of action, which makes it the architect of accomplishment!'Even if you listened back in 2021, I think you'll find it useful to listen again, especially if your child is currently struggling with anxiety.In the episode I talk about what anxiety is, how you might know your child is struggling with anxiety, and what can you start doing now to help.Here are the highlights: (1:29) The scale of mental health issues(3:52) Imagine a seesaw(7:05) Think about it from your child’s perspective(9:00) The physical effects of anxiety(12:53) Managing the internal dialogue(14:57) The common signs of anxietyListen to Ep 10: Anxiety (Part 2)💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

One of the most important things we can do as parents is spend some time as a family, each week, taking time to check in and see what’s working and what we need to adjust going forward.Did you have a family planning meeting this week? 💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How can we use a chunk of time - usually the summer, but not always - to work on readying our child for something? This might be a school / nursery start, a transition, or simply learning to be independent and confident. I share my top five tips and a free resource to help you get your child on board. Here are the highlights: (3:10) Work with the end in mind(6:40) Focus on the overall skills that your child is learning rather than the specific task(14:43) Be creative in how your child may show those skills(18:45) Involve your child by using the Ladder Resource(21:20) Remember growth mindset!💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We simply ask our child to do something and repeatedly get the answer… No! It can be incredibly frustrating.We know our children naturally go phases of saying no, but what can we do to help minimise the repeated no answer? I’ll talk you through a few quick strategies which should help, whatever the age of your child.💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Whether it's your child pulling the age old nag "everyone else is / has", or you get caught in the parental comparison that "everyone else is, so maybe we should" I'll help you navigate this minefield from both sides. Here are the highlights: (3:10) Understand that the request comes from wanting to fit in(6:40) Acknowledge what the request means to your child(8:36) Avoid lecturing!(10:50) Focus your response around ‘every family is different’(17:08) Consider an allowance(22:30) Draw yourself back to the uniqueness of your child(26:30) Give yourself 48 hours(26:50) Ask yourself lots of ‘why’ questions(28:50) Reconnect with your family values(29:30) Connect with your tribePrevious episode mentioned:Ep 55: 6 Essential Skills Your Children Need You to Teach Them💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As parents we often find ourselves in patterns and cycles which have become habitual, and which don’t serve us, or our family. Maybe we tolerate behaviour because we’re too exhausted to make the change, or we know we are likely to encounter challenges, so we maintain the status quo to keep everyone happy?A good morning routine helps us step out of auto-pilot and more into conscious parenting.I challenge you to try my SHINE Daily Practice for one week! Let me know the difference you notice at [email protected] can purchase your own SHINE planner at https://drmaryhan.com/books/💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.