High Vibes Living with Jennifer

This podcast and article are about the people who manipulate, blame, shame, intimidate, and issue ultimatums to you to get you to do what they want. Everyone has this kind of person in their life or has an experience of them. They are impossible to deal with, they cause drama, trauma, and chaos, they refuse to consider anyone else’s needs or position and they can be very mean when they do not get their way. Their ‘my way or the highway’ attitude lets you know that they only value you to the extent you are useful to them and your needs do not matter at all and especially not more than theirs. But you do have options and solutions so let’s talk about the my way or the highway people in your life, what they can teach you, and how to remove them and their influence from your life. Why is this important to you and what does it have to do with spirituality, energy, congruence, and energetic sovereignty, topics that you usually hear me speak and write about? Because these people and situations are your biggest, most frustrating, and most obsessive energy drains. They are your energetic black holes, where you pour energy into them hoping for a transformation. They are your biggest emotional black holes, where you have so much emotional energy invested in the outcomes you want and the connections and transformations you want to happen that they trigger you into saying and doing things that are not in your best interests or highest good. Understanding the process of aggressive ultimatums and people and situations that have the potential to create so much drama, trauma, and chaos in your life is your first step into unraveling the energetic and karmic ties that bind you to them. What do you do when you try hard to please someone and no matter what you do they refuse to see things your way or to compromise with their position? They want their way, no matter what and they want you to honor their path, fears, desires, and needs no matter how outrageous or difficult they are or how much it costs you in terms of time, energy, or emotions. No matter how many times you tell them you are not available, it is inconvenient for you, you simply cannot do what they want, they ignore your protests and act as if you said yes. They are a basket of needs, steamrolling through your life, upsetting your plans, and status quo, demanding that you make them a priority in every situation. They must always be the center of attention, at the forefront of every consideration, and you must be willing to drop everything and respond to their whims. Or you must give them what they ask for or want, no matter how inconvenient it is, you do not want to, or it just will not work for them. I’m not exaggerating here because these kinds of people do exist and you may have known one or more of them in your life. In fact, you may know a few of them right now. They can be anyone – family, friends, your children, your partner, husband, or wife. They can be a manager or boss or another employee at work. They can be a customer in your business. It’s always ‘my way or the highway’ with them and you seem to have no way to escape their overpowering energy and incessant demands. Read the entire article at Jennifer's blog at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

June ended with a strong new moon that set the energy for July and it’s all about karma endings, timeline shifts, and freedom. Not surprisingly, we get this in a month whose theme in the US is independence and freedom. We get a big dose of freedom this month, whether we are willing to do the release work or not. It’s time for us to get comfortable with transformation and the energy consequences that accompanies our intention for joy, freedom, peace, and love. We enter the month on a path for embodying our self ideation, one of the themes of 2022, and we have the US and global second Pluto return, a more stable and grounded 4 numerology, and a lot of energy supporting July’s themes of freedom, acceptance, karmic booms, and decisions. The big theme in July is freedom – freedom from karma, freedom within ourselves, the state of being free and the opportunity to choose freedom. We can always choose freedom and release ourselves from what limits us but we are not always willing to bear the consequences of our actions. Other July energy themes are karmic endings, decisions and acceptance and they are all tied to freedom, the state of being free and having choices for freedom. Pay attention to those nuances because they are important. There is always an option for freedom in any situation – we can simply say no and leave but the decision to have freedom is another matter entirely.We want it all – freedom to do what we want, to have great relationships with people who are incapable of having those with us, at least at this time, no guilt and shame, and the validation and acknowledgement of our long standing efforts at healing those in our karmic circles and soul groups.But we are asking for the impossible and we now have to choose something else. While nothing is impossible in the Universe, we all have free will and energetic sovereignty, and the ability to choose our path. But no matter how wonderful we think the healing path is, to someone who doesn’t want to heal or to achieve wholeness or congruence, who is happy living in the 3D density of their world, it is not an option they want to consider.Read the rest of this article on the blog at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

Have you noticed how things that were once only part of the small spiritual community are now becoming much more mainstream? During a commercial advertising a new movie, I heard the announcer say ‘Everyone will resonate with this film.” That really got my attention, not because I think the film is good but because they used the word ‘resonate’. Once reserved for the spiritual or new age communities, it is now part of the vernacular and used in everyday language. And getting people to think about the idea of resonance and energy connections is a good thing.Let’s not make the mistake of putting resonance into the spiritual basket and then calling it good because ‘all things spiritual are good’. Resonance simply refers to an energetic alignment and synergy and nothing else, it is not good or bad. We resonate with what is aligned with our energetic frequency and includes what we need to feel good, to be happy, to heal, to feel complete, and to feel recognized, valued, authentic, and acknowledged.We resonate with our fears, our joy, our success, and our failures. Depending on what we are willing to allow into our lives, we will bring in everything that we resonate with to make our intentions a reality and create the life of our dreams or of our nightmares.To casually portray resonance as something positive, alluring, and simple is preventing us from understanding how resonance can take us down the path of victimhood, grief, and fear if we do not pay attention to what we are resonating with, and why. We can resonate with what causes us pain as well as what brings us joy. The majority of what we resonate with is aligned with our life lessons and learning and that’s why resonance should be used with clarity and discernment. There is a difference between resonating with what we want to be aligned with and resonating with what we can be or are actually aligned with. Understanding that can help us understand why we make choices in the short term that do not work out for us in the longer term and why we make what we later call ‘bad choices’ because what we resonate with is exactly and perfectly aligned with our energy in each moment. But underneath our desire for joy or peace or love or abundance is an even deeper need to resonate with something else that meets our need to be validated, acknowledge, safe, secure, loved, and appreciated. And that is what we resonate with and what really drives our choices.Here’s an example. You say you resonate with success and financial security so you set your intention for a good job with a fancy title, a great salary and upward career mobility. You work harder than anyone else and you become very successful. Now you have lots of money to spend, a fancy title and all of the benefits, and you feel great about your outer life. But you work too hard, put in too many hours, and you have no free time. You are afraid of losing your job to competitors and office politics, and you no longer like your job but you stay at it for the salary. You are not happy and that’s disappointing because you thought all of that hard work would be it for you, you would have ‘made it’ and you would have the ‘lived happily for ever after’ life.You may say ‘I do not resonate with this job any more’ but that would not be true. The job was not what you resonated with at all and that is why you are now having ‘resonance dissonance’ because what you really resonated with was having status, financial security, and not being poor.You thought that getting the great job and big salary would solve your problems but they created problems of their own because the great job and big salary were a stop gap measure that did not address far deeper fears and anxieties.Read the rest of the article on the blog at this link. How do you change this? By being aware of what you are really resonating with and shifting your intention to that. By honestly assessing your needs and realizing what it is that makes you feel safe, secure, protected, and in control of your reality. At some level, we all resonate with those things and ultimately, that is what we want to create in our lives with every intention we set. Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

Welcome to June with a new vibe and an opportunity to get creative with the energy that was stirred up in the 11 month of May 2022. This month we have a rare astro aspect, Mercury goes direct, Saturn starts its annual 5 month retrograde, Pluto retros back to the 27.38 degree of the US (and global) Pluto return, and we are going to see more awakening and action taking. We have gotten through May’s 11 vibration and have been through a lot this first half of the year. Now it’s time to jettison the ballast, raise the anchor, and open our wings wide to see how far we can fly.Are you as glad to see May end as I am? It was not an easy month. If you have been following the story of the flooding damage to my house that happened in late January, in May I had the restoration crew out to my house 5 times to fix unfinished or improperly repaired work. I think they are finally finished. I hope so. It has been a difficult project for them mainly because everything went wrong and they never seemed to be able to finish. I am not sure why but I tend to bring that out in companies. If there are holes in their process or issues with training or performance, my project will be the example of everything that is wrong. From being the person who could always (and does still) find bugs in software in my tech days to the person who has been the victim of terrible content and IP theft and has become the voice of public revelation and condemnation for these illegal activities, I must be the Portal Keeper for out of synch energies in the corporate world. Maybe that’s why I just could not get the hang of the corporate world and my corporate career ended after having six layoffs in eight years. Read the rest of this article on the Enlightening Life Blog at this link. Quite frankly, I am getting a little tired of this and if you know this is true about yourself, you probably are too. It just seems to be something that I am wired to do. Do you have the same experience with people and in certain situations? Do you see the out of synch energies, energy gaps, and situations that are not congruent? Do you notice that you attract the people who need help, healing, support, and advice for their problems? Is this a long term trend in your life? Are you ready to change it? If it is what you are ‘wired to do’ you can be complete with that mission and instead, connect with people who support and nurture you. If you’re ready for that June is a great month to get started.Are you ready to take a different path? Is it time for a big change in how you work, who you work for, what kind of work you do, and doing work you really enjoy and are passionate about? If you have been looking for a life change or expanding into something new or even taking something you’re doing now in a different direction, you will get support for it in June. I have a lot of experience in this area and am completing a project to help you with that so stay tuned and watch for details in the coming days.June moves us our of the difficult 11 master number of May into a more creative and harmonious 3 of June 2022 (6 + 2 + 2 + 2 = 12 and 1 + 2 = 3). 11 months are always tough because while 11 is one of the master numbers, it is the number of the initiate, the beginner. As beginners in any new cycle we have to create new energy pathways and let go of the old ones that won't be appropriate for our new path. Have you noticed that when we have a month with an 11 number vibration there are a lot of changes and upsets, bigger energy downloads, more ascension symptoms and fatigue, and it is full of challenges? That’s because we are being shown where things in the status quo have to go and we sure have seen a lot of that during the past few years.Sometimes we become aware of these by ourselves and other times they make themselves very obvious. Either way, it is our choice to shift the vibe and let go or not but we do not always have full control over that process. Sometimes things let go of us no matter how much we want them to stay and we can’t do anything to get them back. As I always say, we are not in control of others’ energy or choices. Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

I used to think that being bored meant having nothing to do, so if I had things to do and I was bored, it meant that I was being irresponsible or lazy. But that is not what boredom means. It is a sign that there is an energetic misalignment between the life we are on and new paths, opportunities, and potentials that our soul is trying to open our awareness to.When I was growing up my mother gave us extra chores to do if we were bored so we made sure to always act and look busy because we didn't want to do extra work. But hiding our boredom, especially from ourselves, is not a good thing to do because boredom serves an important purpose in letting us know that our energy tank is out of gas and we need a new vibe and a refill to get motivated and move forward.Boredom is a tug of war between the mind and the spirit, an invitation to find another way to ‘be’, instead of finding something else to do. (Why you’re seeing a photo of my bathroom is explained at the end of the article).Our needs change over time and we feel stuck and frustrated because the energy that is creating the path that we are on is not giving us the results we want. The energy we have used to create our current reality will only fuel that reality. If we want to create something else, we need to use different energy. And that is the message that our boredom is trying to give us.Read the rest of the article on the blog at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

I would call myself a motivated person in the sense that I am energetic, positive, accomplished, efficient, and I am very results oriented. But that is according to the generally accepted definition of the word ‘motivation’ and it does not do justice to the concept of motivation. When we look at motivation clearly we have to ask the question, ‘why are you doing this’ because the true definition of motivation is your reason for doing something. And that is not always the reason you are telling yourself. it is the underlying, deep, true reason for your actions and when we investigate our motivations and motives we can find that we can have more than one and they are often not aligned or working together.There is an external reason and an internal reason for everything that we are motivated to do.What is my reason for how I work and live my life? I am a learner, I love learning new things, exploring new adventures and being able to get things done. I enjoy the sense of accomplishment that accompanies starting and finishing a new task. I have over 100 pairs of shoes. I love being outside, gardening, bicycling, and hiking. I am an accomplished musician and I enjoy playing music. I am also a celebrated author and podcaster and I love interacting with people from all over the world.That is my external reason for my motivation. And that is what really serves as a motivator which is something I know now but I did not know for many years. And I was driven to do things that I did not understand or know why they were so important.Read the rest of the Motives, Motivation, and Timelines article on the blog at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

I always start my May Energy Reports (I have been writing these energy reports since 2008) with a reminder that the month’s name can be both a declarative and an interrogative, I may or May I, and how we use the word ‘may’ determines the path our lives take. If we’re always asking for permission (May I) we will spend a lot of time waiting for someone to agree with our course of action before we take action. But if we step into our energetic sovereignty and declare our intention (I may), we have to be willing to face the consequences of our actions if others disagree with us. Either way, self awareness, self confidence, and self reliance are going to be important in navigating the month of May where different choices, fresh starts, completion, and closure work together to create transformation.May begins with the echo of the April 30 new moon solar eclipse with its strong spiritual and healing signatures. This balance of spiritual wholeness and healing our areas of energy incompleteness is going to be a theme in May and we will find ourselves going back and forth between celebrating a victory and being reminded of its cost in terms of pain, suffering, and loss. No matter how well intentioned, clear, or determined we are in our need to let go, move on, and start fresh, everything we let go of is accompanied by some degree of regret and a desire for a different outcome.Isn’t this what we face with every transformation? To get something we have to give up something else – we have to give up our desire to heal everyone to walk powerfully on our own path. We have to give up our expectations of love to let someone go who cannot love us that way. We have to give up our belief that anything can be transformed and everyone wants to have joy to free ourselves of the burden of feeling that we are not entitled to joy when there are unhappy people in the world.Remember the old song ‘Though April showers may come your way, they bring the flowers that bloom in May’? Last month was tough and there may have been a lot of tears and upset that will compel you to create a blooming transformation in May. What do you want to bloom in your life and what part of the past can be composted to be used as fertilizer for your fresh start.Read the rest of the article on the enlighteninglife.com blog at this link. Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

I am not a big fan of the phrases ‘give your power away’ or ‘take back your power’ because they do not adequately describe a very important process that can involve important lessons which we must understand to be able to fully own and use our own power. So we are going to address the issues of repossessing our power by looking at why we feel we have to disown our power by giving our power away, who we give it to and why, and what we need to do to repossess it which begins with owning and claiming it. Notice the focus on how this happens is clear – we give our power away all by ourselves. Why do we ignore our power, give it away to others, or refuse to own and claim it? There are so many reasons so I will group them into 3 main areas and I go into greater detail in the podcast:1. We want others to like and value us so we pretend to be less powerful to fit in with them. Now before you think it sounds silly, admit that it is true. If you want to belong to a group you’ll try to fit in with them. So you’ll make yourself appear more like them and that includes matching their levels of energy and power. If having a relationship means you must hide your true power, diminishing it, or that is what you will do.2. We are embarrassed at being powerful and are afraid of the potential of our power. This is more true than many will admit. They think that being powerful is a liability and are afraid that they might misuse or abuse their power, or have it used against them or used against others. So they hide their abilities and their power from others. Included in this reason is the abuse and misuse of power in former lifetimes, especially in lifetimes of royalty or great wealth and privilege. 3. We believe others are more competent than we are so we give our power to them. Sometimes this is required of us in relationships, other times it arises from our belief that we are not powerful or capable of handling our own power and creating our reality. Maybe we are struggling with guilt and shame – how many of you have been shamed for your power by being called ‘different’ or been told to stop shining (in one way or another), or have been made to feel guilty because you are more accomplished than others? Maybe we feel that we have too many failures, missteps, or missed opportunities and we just can’t get our life right. We also want to meet others’ expectations and serve them by becoming their healer so we give them our power to help them on their path. Which of these reasons do you resonate with and don’t be surprised if there is more than one. We tend to give our power away or relinquish it, pretending it does not belong to us, when we feel it is going to lead to unwanted consequences like rejection, persecution, abandonment, or betrayal. And we have a lot of history to support those beliefs because remember we are dealing with lifetimes of soul cycles and karmic experiences with the people who challenge our power and who engage in power struggles with us.To repossess means to take possession of something you own. Think about that for a minute. You take back the power you already own when you repossess it. What do you think about that? You already own the power, you have always owned it, you allowed someone else to use it and now you are going to take possession of it so you can use it in your own life and for yourself. Whatever you are setting an intention for, planning, want to do, dream of, envision, or want in your life is something that is already part of your field of potential. And it requires your power to make it happen. The power you need to do that is already yours, you just have to name it and claim it and then repossess it, take possession of it, so you can use it in your life.Read the rest of the article on the Enlighteninglife.com blog at this link. Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

April starts and ends with a new moon, 30 days to move from beginnings to endings to beginnings again. Its theme is ‘rise and shine’ – notice that the word ‘rise’ comes first. We can shine without rising but it is so much more effective to rise and shine our lights at a higher frequency and with a brighter light. Another April theme is ‘repossession’ which is one step above the concept of ‘taking back’, it means to claim ownership. To possess something is to own it, so when we repossess our power, we are reclaiming what we own and bringing it back into our energy field and our reality. What do you need to repossess now? What aspects of your power have you given away, not claimed, let others borrow, use, or take? Your joy, peace of mind, heart, and spirit, your confidence, your self esteem? April is a good month to repossess your energy. You’ll need it to take intentional, inspired action this month.We will also experience rejection and rebalancing in relationships this month, a recalibration of our own energy, and how we use and share it. No more Martyred Healer pathways, it’s time for us to embrace, name, and claim our Empowered Mastery. Rejection is a response to energetic misalignment. Did you consider that those who reject you are very aware that they are not energetically aligned with you?We cannot help those who are not willing to be helped, who do not want our help, and who think we are being rude, overbearing, and imposing our will on them when we try. Listen to the podcast to hear my experience of this. It was a great lesson to me that it is not in my best interests to point out errors or inconsistencies that someone is making, even if it makes them look foolish, uneducated, and wrong.Read the rest of the article on the enlighteninglife.com blog at this link Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

Why do we resist change? The simple answer is that it upsets the status quo, takes us out of our comfort zone, we don’t know what’s going to happen when we do change, and we’re scared. I think if we acknowledge the simple truth that we are scared of change because just don’t know if we can deal with it or what is going to happen to us, we would stop trying to pretend to be brave about it and look at change as a step by step process instead of a chaotic mess that we can avoid by being resistant to change.You know the expression ‘what we resist persists’ and that is not necessarily true. What we resist doesn’t happen but that doesn’t mean that the spark of a new awakened potential doesn’t still beckon us to consider it as an option. We can have that light of an awakened potential blinding us with its brilliance but if we are scared we are going to close our eyes and ignore it as long as we can. What does it mean to resist? The word resist means to ‘remain standing’ or to oppose an action. So when we resist we are in opposition and that is a good position to be in when we feel we do not have enough information to say yes to change and no to the status quo. We rather like the status quo, it’s what we know, where we can anticipate the future, and it is where we can feel that we are in control.Sometimes we resist out of a desire to affirm our control even if that is not the best option.Sometimes we resist because we don’t trust ourselves to handle the change.We can resist because we are more afraid of success and of what it will do to our lives than we are of staying where we are or experiencing failure.And we resist for a myriad of personal reasons, many of which have to do with being afraid. A few weeks ago my weekly article and podcast was on the subject of truth and consequences and I said that we allow ourselves to acknowledge a truth to the extent that we are willing to accept its consequences. If the consequences are too scary, big, life changing, or control impacting, we will resist that truth, even if we know it is true.Take the example of one of my clients, I’ll call her Maria, who had come to me about a relationship that she was desperately trying to keep together. I told her the man was cheating on her, lying to her, and would eventually leave her for someone else. She told me I was wrong, I didn’t understand him, they were in love, etc. The truth was that Maria was afraid of being alone, had abandonment issues, and thought that she could change this man into a loving, committed partner. I heard from her occasionally over a 2 year period and my answer was always the same while she was still trying to keep the relationship together in spite of being treated with great disrespect and a huge lack of consideration. Eventually the man did leave and Maria was devastated. When she called me again she acknowledged that she had worked so hard, much too hard, to keep the relationship together and had resisted my advice, as well as that of everyone she knew, to let him go. But she resisted out of fear and a desire to turn a sow’s ear into a silk purse, as the saying goes. This man could have been anyone and the situation was the same. Her fear of facing her life alone was the reason she held on to the relationship for so long and resisted letting it go even though she had many reasons to. In fact, she was willing to overlook all of his bad behavior because she was so resistant to change.Read the rest of the article on the blog at this link.Get my book The 5 Priorities of Soul Energy Mastery here. Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

It would be so nice if ascension was a ‘done for you’ process so you could just sit back, relax, and it would all happen. But that is not the way it works and even with the best, strongest, most aligned, and powerful intentions, we are still part of a process that is partially dependent on the actions and energies of others. And we have agreed to stay within an energy range to participate in that process even though it slows our own ascension process down.Confused? Surprised? Don’t be. If you’re here as part of your soul mission, and most of you are, then you agreed to participate in this ascension cycle and you also agreed to a few stipulations so you would stay within an energy frequency range so you could actually work at the 3D level and not float off into the energetic stratosphere. I call these people Portal Keepers and they have an important mission of ascension protection. They also have a sacred contract to participate in ascension and ensure its success, whatever it takes. They are not here to do all of the ascension work, just make sure that it gets done, the energy is here to achieve it, and that there is support for our ascension journey.So to be clear, no one is here to rescue, save, or magically transition us into 5D. No matter how much we wish that was true, it is not. We are in it for the long haul and that will be as long or as short as we make it. While it is true that we do not leave anyone behind, we also do not get to forge ahead of everyone at supersonic speed because we are still part of the collective ascension cycle. No one gets to get out too far ahead of the collective and you’ll hear why on the podcast version of this article.Read the rest of the article on the blog at this link. Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

I love the month of March because it is the only month that is an action word. March 4th is my favorite date because every time I say it I am reminded that no matter what has happened in the past, the way out of a challenge is to take one step towards a new beginning. I remember the old saying ‘March comes in like a lion’ and this one certainly does with a blast of a new moon on the second and strong energy aspects to keep us moving forward with courage, clarity, and confidence all month.March themes include awareness, alignment, acceptance, and acknowledgement. It’s a big energy month but that is what we need for the times. If we’re ready for some action March will deliver it in very big ways.March is a 9 energy vibration, the number of completion and endings which also prepares us for new beginnings. We can get stuck in the endings by looking longingly at what is no longer part of our lives and forget that endings simply mean that we have run out of energy road, as I always say, in that situation. Every ending precedes a beginning unless we drag out the endings because we feel the loss more than we see the gain. We have had so many endings in the past few years, many of them accompanied by disappointments that someone could behave in such inconsiderate ways but what the past few years has shown us is what is in someone’s true heart of hearts, what they really feel and most of all, what they fear the most. It is hard to watch people we once thought of as rational to act so irrationally but we have also never seen so much fear promoted to so many people. If you remember a few months ago I talked about how the energy cycle we thought ended in 2012 actually began so 2021 was the end of that cycle. And I also said we were now in Ascension 2.0, a new ascension cycle, as of January 2022 when the Ascension cycle that began in April 2003 ended.Read the rest of the article on the blog at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

The soul is somewhat of a mystery, an enigma, and we want to know more about this presence in our lives that is the source of our joy and at times of our pain. What is the role of the soul, what does it do for us, and how do we connect with, work with, and embody it? It’s a delicate balance that we need to perfect over our lifetime, not giving it too much or not enough power, attention, and space in our lives. Learning to create the soul-self partnership, establishing the boundaries of our co-creative partnership, and learning to align with the soul’s energy is something that we learn for ourselves as we establish the role of the soul in our lives.The soul is the new spin engine for coaches, pundits, instagram influencers, and people who are looking for that next conversation starter since they have moved away from the laws of abundance and attraction, and other topics. There is a lot of information out there now about how we connect with the soul. We can be ‘soul sourced’, ‘soul led’, ‘soul driven’, and ‘soul focused’. There is a lot of emphasis on divinity, the soul’s mysteries, the soul’s purpose, soul mastery, and soul alignment. What is wrong with all of these topics? They give the power to the soul, they put the soul in charge and make the conversation all about the soul. And that is wrong. We are the energy containers for the soul’s energy and no matter how much we want the soul to be in charge that is never going to happen.The soul is our partner, not our leader. If we were taking a road trip with the soul it would be sitting in the passenger seat, not the driver’s seat. If we were running a company with our soul it would be our chief financial officer, not the CEO. It is going to tell us when we have overdrawn our bank account but it will not put money in it.Read the rest of this article on the blog at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

When my children were young I had no problem getting them to do what I asked because there was always a motivating factor. Sometimes it was money, other times it was a special activity or a special treat that they wanted. Once their chores were done they got the reward. If they did not do their chores, no reward. Depending on what the reward was, they were usually very quick to do the work. And it only took one time of not getting the reward to let them know that it was a motivator for their effort and they were expected to make the effort. We need that kind of motivating factor too because intention is not enough. If we set an intention without a motivator we are going to be disappointed in the results or the result may take a lot longer than we want it to. We are driven by motivation and sometimes that motivation is a serious situation that forces us to take action because we are in trouble. Other times we simply don’t want to do something and even the motivation of a dire consequence is not enough to get us excited about our intention or the outcome. And from another angle, our motivation can be based on what someone else wants or our desire to impress, manipulate, or convince someone that we are worthy of their attention, love, and acknowledgement. No judgment here but if you carefully dissect your motivation, it can be far different from the grand and glorious statements of spiritual purpose that we like to think motivates us to take action. To get our intention to work we need a motivator, a valid reason to accomplish something and we tend to put that responsibility onto our purpose, which we interpret to mean the overarching reason that we are alive and in our reality.But we take the word purpose out of context and give it an important spiritual meaning, one that we may never be able to achieve, and then we use that to judge ourselves and our journey. No wonder we always find ourselves lacking and think we are not on the right path. Sometimes our motivation is not very spiritual, it is weak and needy, fearful, selfish, and even unrealistic or illogical.How do we take our intention and give it a purpose that motivates and inspires us? We use the most important word in our intention vocabulary and that is the word ‘because’. This is the word that takes our intention out of the lofty real estate of our head and heart and moves it into the stark truth of our reality. I want to eat because my body needs nourishment is far different from I want to eat because I am hungry and that is the stark reality. When do we eat? When we’re hungry.Read the full article on the blog at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

January went by rather quickly and it was a very eventful month. You may not have felt that there was a lot going on but we need to consider what is happening energetically, the activity below the surface of our awareness, whose results are not immediately obvious to us but that are creating powerful undercurrents for transformation. During the last few days of January the Sun was very active with dozens of solar flares erupting, sending us bright rays of encouragement and the high vibe energy that will empower February’s huge potential for awakening, transformation, and restitution. It’s also the Chinese New Year and we usher in the year of the Tiger, a very fitting mascot for this month.February opens with a powerful new moon on February 1 and features all of the personal planets, Mercury, Venus, and Mars, in Capricorn, which has housed Pluto since 2008. I have been writing about the interaction between these planets and Pluto since October 2021 because it is such a powerful metaphor for what is happening in the world. It’s truly a ‘power to the people’ moment and a shift in the balance of power from global tyranny to global solidarity for freedom and justice. If you have been watching the Canada convoy with more than 50,000 road warriors in their majestic trucks, crossing the country to protest in the capital, it is truly a sight to behold. And it is being echoed around the world. We’re watching the 3D paradigm of control, domination, power over, competition, separation, disconnection, and tyranny dissolve to be replaced with the 5D energies of community, connection, collaboration, cooperation, and creativity. Don’t let the pushback by the darkest agendas against this force for the light intimidate you.The February 1 new moon highlights that 5D energy and it’s in Aquarius, which is the sign that governs 5D integration. It is also aspecting both Saturn and Uranus, which both rule Aquarius. I think that’s some 5D encouragement, do you? It is interesting to note that there is so much community interaction happening all over the world and one of Aquarius’ aspects is community.Read the rest of the February Energy Report on the blog at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

Yes you can create and you can predict your future. In fact, you do it every day with each decision you face and the choices that you allow to be part of that decision.Predicting the future is less about intuition than it is about considering your potential and possibilities and what you will surrender to, or allow to happen.You could be presented with the most wonderful opportunities for a fabulous future but if you do not allow them to become possible, nothing will happen.Predicting the future involves several aspects:knowing that there are two paths to every futureunderstanding how the possibilities bridge worksknowing where your point of power pivot is and when it is happeningawareness of the connection between energy and potential.Read the rest of the article on the blog at enlighteninglife.com Get Jennifer's books at jenniferhoffmanbooks.com and your free bonuses Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

You probably do not think about being self indulgent as part of our spiritual path but it is one of the most important aspects of our spiritual growth that we overlook and even avoid. Being indulgent is seen as engaging in acts that are selfish excessive, and exorbitant. But indulgence actually means to be lenient, permissive, soothing, and having mercy. How does this fit into the intention process? Let’s look at the whole process and all of its steps because you cannot single out one aspect without seeing how it fits in with all of the other aspects.In the intention process we have to first look at the inner work that is necessary, I call this in-vision because you have to have an inner vision of what you’re intending and the outcome you’re creating in order to be fully engaged in and on board with what you’re doing. If you have ever put flat pack furniture together, like anything from IKEA, you know that you cannot do it without the picture (or it is not very easy to do). That picture on the instructions gives your mind the vision of what the finished product is supposed to look like.Then with the vision firmly in our minds we can set the intention. You cannot set an intention without a vision or an idea of what your outcome is going to be. How many of you order from a menu based on the picture or something you have seen another diner order? I know I have. In fact, why do you think restaurants put pictures on their menu or in their advertisements? Remember the saying ‘A picture is worth 1000 words’?Then we have to be inspired to maintain the momentum towards the outcome and the flow of energy. The word ‘inspire’ literally means ‘in spirit’. When we are inspired we are acting from our spirit, engaging spiritually and using our energy resources to empower our intention. It doesn’t happen any other way. Anyone who tells you that it’s as easy as setting an intention and sitting back and waiting for it to happen is not being honest and they’re deliberately sabotaging the process. Nothing happens without your engagement and continuous inspiration.And finally we have indulgence, which is the process of allowing yourself to receive your blessings. What happens if you do not let this final step happen? You’re setting intentions for things you will never allow to manifest for you. You are limiting the flow of energy into your life and you will never manifest what you want. You’re creating blocks around receiving for reasons that you may not even be aware of. What are some of them?Read the rest of the article on the blog at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

I would like to say that we begin 2022 with a clean slate and a fresh start but that would not be true. We start this year with a lot of carryover energy from 2021 and 2020. This is a very pivotal year and what happens this year will determine how this ascension cycle progresses and what happens between now and 2025 and 2030. I think I can say that after the last two years many people are looking forward to a new year and new energies. We have been through a lot since 2020 and we’re ready for a new vibe, new energies, more peace, and a lot less chaos.Every year has an energy theme and if we look back at the themes of the last two years they have focused on topics like congruence, harmony, wholeness, and aspects that created energetic cohesiveness. That continues through this year because the one thing that will serve us in our ongoing ascension process is to maintain our energetic integrity. That’s why in this year the focus shifts from being the source of healing, light, and energy to being the inspired source for those who choose that option and to learn to shift some of our energy to our own needs.One of the energy tools that will be very useful and helpful in 2022 is discernment, which means to separate, differentiate, distinguish, and discriminate. When we use discernment we look at people, situations, events firstly as to how they fit or align with us and our path and our energy. We look at intention, agendas, purposes, and meanings. Rather than saying ‘yes’ to taking on new healing paths or responsibilities or commitments, we consider the cost to us and our energy, we look at whether this is something we want to do and whether it is an asset to our overall intention and energy potential or whether it is a liability, something that will drain us of our joy, peace of mind, and peace of heart. We need to move forward and spend a lot less time on healing ourselves and especially, healing others or wanting to heal the world.Since 2000 we have been in a battle between the dark and the light – look at what happened in 2001. And we have seen a lot of examples of the darkest of 3D energies at work in the past 2 years, and they are not over yet but we have an advantage because light always overtakes darkness.Read the rest of the 2022 Annual Predictions on the blog at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

While it’s the beginning of the calendar year, the solar year begins in March with the Spring Equinox so if you’re not really feeling the new year rush of ‘newness’, don’t worry, we have a lot of energy to process from 2021 this month as well as some old cycles that are ending and new ones beginning. Buckle up, it’s a big month and a big start to a new year.We begin the new year with a 6 vibration, much more settled and calm than the awkward 5 vibration of 2021.But this is not an ordinary 6 as it comes from the 2+2+2 which we only get once in a millennium and it underscores one of the big themes of this year which is energetic congruence and divine harmony. The number 2 is a pair, a couple, things that go together, resonance, sameness, and balance. And with January as a 1 month we have a 7 number vibration for this month, which is the number of spirituality, introspection, and creating balance within. With a 7 vibration we have the wisdom and power to weed out the distractions, sources of chaos, and things that do not contribute to our forward movement. And as the first month of this new year, it’s a good time to start thinking about who and what you want to accompany you in the new year and how you want your year to manifest. Some big energy movements in January include the lunar node changing sign on January 19. Now this is a big deal because this happens every 2 years and in 19 year cycles. With this one we have to look at April 2003, when the previous lunar node in Taurus cycle started and at August 2012, when the lunar node went into Scorpio. In December 2012 we had the big 12-12-12 date which everyone thought was going to be the end of the world and which, it appeared, turned out to be nothing. But was it? I don’t think so. It was the beginning, not the end, of a huge transformation cycle which we saw happening in 2021, 9 years later. And we now have the midpoint of that cycle happening with the lunar nodes, happening with the very important US and global Pluto return in February. More on that in the 2022 Predictions Report.Read the rest of this article on the blog at this link enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

Why do we get so blindsided by certain people? Why do we think we can trust someone and then we are shocked when they betray us? How can we know someone so well and then be surprised by their behavior? Why do people break their promises to us? What is wrong with them?If you’re really resonating with this or this describes nearly every relationship in your life, don’t worry. It is something that everyone experiences and it is not your fault, so to speak but it is your doing. Every relationship we have, with everyone in our life, will disappoint, betray, abandon, or surprise us in some way and how badly that turns out to be depends on us because we secretly disagree on some very important relationship parameters, namely promises, expectations, and assumptions. Relationships are such a significant part of our lives and having strong, loving, fulfilling, and supportive relationships is something we all strive for, long for, and try very hard to achieve. For something that we want so much why do we have to work so hard to get it and why is it so hard to hang onto? If we are very honest with ourselves, we will acknowledge that one of the things we do in relationships is ‘fill in the blanks’ when someone gets close to us. Have you ever done that? Of course you have. It is what happens when we overlook habits, actions, and the things we don’t like and use a ‘weighted system’ to ignore their shortcomings or worse, we think they will change in time.The real problem is that we do not honestly assess how determined we are to make something work that really should be left alone and, in our need for a relationship we set our standards and then expect others to meet them. I am not being cruel or unkind here, this happens all of the time and we have all done this.If we want wonderful relationships we have to be willing to ask hard questions, make tough choices, and to be very clear about how we contribute to the bad behavior we often see in our relationships because we do not manage our own energy and how we deal with promises, expectations, and assumptions. This is what I call the PEA assessment and it is an uncomfortable examination that reveals how we sabotage our ability to have strong relationships and how we work hard to create relationships out of connections that do not exist. Read the rest of this article on the blog at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

And here we are at the end of the year, this is the final month. As we look back on the events of 2021 I think we can agree that we never could have imagined many of the things that happened. But they did and the next question is, where do we go from here? What does moving forward look like? How do we rise above the chaos and believe in the traditions and structures we feel have failed us (badly). The energy themes of December include activating your self ideation triad - self awareness, self reliance, and self empowerment. Other themes include consequences, inspiration, and truth. Do nothing blindly - Trust, but verify. Pray for sun and carry an umbrella. Be open to following a new path and make sure you’re the one driving the car.December is either an enjoyable ending or a mad rush to tie up loose ends because it marks the end of the year. This December ushers in an 8 vibration, which some will say is the sign of infinity and it is. But it also represents the endless loop of karma and healing cycles, the lifetimes of commitments and promises we make until we decide we no longer want to do that. We can either break the karmic chain or take a few more turns around its path and the energy to do that arrives with the powerful transformational energies of December. In December we can break free from the old cycles that limit our soul alignment, growth, and joy and move into the creativity of the 5D path. But before you jump on board with that remember that the 4D bridge is the point of no return. Once you step on it, you can never go back. And once you release those energies, things, thoughts, beliefs, and everything else that prevents you from taking that first step onto the 4D bridge, you can never get them back either. If you have ever wondered what prevents you, or anyone else, from making this commitment, this is it. It’s a big commitment. read the rest of this article on the Enlightening Life blog at this link. Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

It’s so easy to get lost in the chaos of what is going on in the world today. With so much fear and uncertainty swirling around we’re uncomfortable and we’re scared too. Our first response to that fear is to want to fix it, to remove it, to take care of the people who are causing or feeding it, to make it go away, to fight it, to shine more light on it, or to hide somewhere and hope that it goes away. If we did our work so well why is ascension such a mess? Well, we did our work well and our job was to create the energy foundation that allowed the groundswell of awakening to happen. And all we have to do now is to take care of our own business, which is not changing the world or the people in it, it is taking care of ourselves and our life path and soul mission.You have heard me say this so many times before, while it is great and noble to want to help others, it is not something that we can or should do without using a great deal of discernment and self restraint. You can read the rest of the article on the blog at this link. Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

I know that everyone reading this can think of a life situation where someone treated them badly and they are still angry, hurt, or upset over it. If that person is someone they interact with regularly the hurt is replayed in excruciating detail everything you see them or even think about them. People say we should forgive the other person in these situations and let it go. Maybe we should but it is hard to do for a lot of reasons, all of them valid. Forgiveness is a choice we can make much more easily when we understand and validate the reasons why we don’t, can’t, or won’t forgive, and then use the forgiveness process in a way that doesn’t make us feel like we’re betraying our own emotions and giving someone else a free pass for their bad behavior.Here are 5 reasons why forgiveness is so hard, and then I’ll tell you how you can forgive with grace and ease and feel like a winner.1. We want validation of our emotions and our pain from the person who was responsible for creating it. We all feel this way, no matter who we are or how spiritually enlightened we are. When someone does something that requires us to consider forgiveness, it involves inconsiderate, mean, rude, or otherwise bad behavior. And we want them to admit that they caused us pain. Of course we probably won’t get it but that doesn’t mean we don’t want it.2. Our anger empowers us and becomes our purpose. Anger may be limiting in some ways but it is empowering in other ways and if we’re angry enough about something we can use that anger to move forward to prove someone wrong. Who doesn’t remember the scene in the movie Gone with the Wind where Scarlett O’Hara vows that she ‘will never be hungry again’ or in the movie The Mirror Has Two Faces, where Barbara Streisand’s character uses her anger at being rejected by her husband to lose weight and create a new image? Anger can a powerful motivating tool that we can use to show someone that we’re going to succeed in spite of what they have done to us or to keep us locked into victim mode to compel acknowledgement of our pain. And if we forgive them we have to let go of our anger and we lose access to it as a source of power. 3. We grieve the unfulfilled expectations that are now lost forever. Every relationship has some level of expectations connected to it, which is what we use to create our plans and map out the future we believe we have with this relationship. And the more expectations we have, the more we suffer the blow back when the relationship ends. Can we forgive someone for destroying our carefully made future plans and projects? What do we use to fill in the gap that is left when our expectations aren’t realized? 4. We cannot accept that someone’s behavior towards us is actually aligned with who they are and we take it personally. We cannot forgive them, in the context of forgiveness as a process of release and the completion and closure that goes along with it, because we believe that it is about us when it is not, it is about that person.We also do not acknowledge that our light and energy are what compels people to reject us. It simply does not occur to us that there is a mismatch in our energetic frequency that makes someone so uncomfortable that they will engage in behavior that forces a separation. Our intentions are good, noble, and are in their best interests. We want them to see the light, to be happier, to have more joy, and to expand into the potential that we see in them and that we believe is right and best for them. While it is a wonderful gift to hold 5. We think we have to forgive everything without any benefit to us and mistake the term forgiveness for excusing bad behavior as though it did not exist or the situation did not happen. Then we have to allow that person or situation to victimize us again.Because the process of forgiveness is defined in such a general way, implying that we should just let everything go and ‘forgive and forget’, we think that by giving forgiveness we become the victim of something we have no control over, now or in the future. It’s like an endless replay of the movie Ground Hog Day, where we never get out of the victim cycle, we never get the respect we want and deserve, and we are subject to behavior and abuse that never ends. Unless we view forgiveness in a different way, it is rather unappealing and disempowering. No wonder it is so hard for us to see it as empowering and beneficial for us. Everyone has a situation in their life, whether it is happening now or has happened in the past, that they feel was unfair, mean, rude, or abusive, And the energy echoes of that situation stay with us, even if we forgive. We do not forget anything. And to force us into that just goes against the way our mind works. But if we view forgiveness differently, in a way that does empower us, we can see it as a step on our path to empowerment, breaking free of a limiting and painful past and take control over our relationships and our life. Read the rest of the a

If you have not figured out by now that this is a critically important year in the history of humanity then you have been on vacation off planet all year. In a year whose main theme was energetic sovereignty we certainly got our lessons in what that means, probably not as we imagined it would happen. Is this really the ascension process and are we going to make it? The answer to those questions is yes and yes and we have some interesting things happening this month as well as some carryover from last month.November ushers in the 7 energy (1 + 1 + 2021) which is the number of spirituality, introspection, higher thought, and awareness. October was a 6 energy which brought in energy from the Descension process (heaven to earth) and with a 7 vibe in November we get to think about how we’re going to use that energy and what it means to us. This is going to tie into the energy of November rather well, providing us with an energy toolbox to make more enlightened, intentional, and aware decisions and choices we are faced with after the chaos of October. More on that later in this article/podcast.The biggest news of the month, even bigger than the eclipses, is that November 1 begins with Mars at 0 Scorpio, entering into its sign of historical rulership. Before Pluto was discovered in 1930 Mars was the designated ruler of Scorpio. If you remember from the October 2021 Energy Report, the October 20 full moon was at 27 Aries, which was the degree and sign of Mars on January 1, 2021. Mars is highly significant this year and its movements offer a lot of insight into what is happening around us. Everything is significant now and everything is connected, so we can’t disregard any of the clues and signs that point us in the direction of achievement and success on this journey.Pluto was assigned rulership of Scorpio at the beginning of the atomic age, in the early 1930s. While the atomic bomb wasn’t dropped until 1945, there was already early work being done in the area of nuclear science in the 1930s. And I know this because the man who wrote the book ‘The Making of the Atomic Bomb’, Richard Rhodes, was my neighbor in Kansas City and he hired me to transcribe the interviews he did of all of the scientists who were involved in the Manhattan Project and earlier nuclear projects. I got quite an education about the history of the nuclear movement by transcribing hundreds of hours of interviews at my kitchen table in 1983. Read the full article on the Enlightening Life blog at this link. Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

We are living in challenging, confusing, and troubling times, on a personal and on a global scale and portals for transformation are opening in every direction. On a personal level we can feel like we are being forced to accept and adopt changes that we are not ready for and maybe didn’t want. Our resistance to change can be high and sometimes we refuse it entirely. It’s not a character flaw to want to maintain the status quo but rather than looking at what we are not moving towards, I think it is more beneficial to look at what we are trying to hold on to and why, rather than blame, shame, criticize, and judge ourselves for not being able to release it. Why do we hang onto something even if we know it isn’t useful, helpful, or know that the situation or person is not going to change? And we will go so far as to sabotage ourselves if we venture too far away from the status quo, doing anything to avoid change.Whether we open that portal to change or it is opened for us because a situation ends or someone decides they are ready to move on, our resistance to change can surprise us. We can become very feisty when we feel we’re backed into a corner and we are convinced that we need to hang on to what we have even though it is not working for us, we aren’t happy, and we don’t see a future in it.There is no way we can explore the benefits of transformation if we believe we are not willing or ready to make changes. And contrary to opinion, everything we hang on to does serve us, it just doesn’t serve us in ways that help us move forward. Instead, it serves our need to be validated, vindicated, to be right, to be acknowledged, to not lose, and to avoid failure.Read the rest of the article on the blog at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

I don’t like tomatoes, everyone knows that. But I can admire the beautiful, perfect symmetry and rich red color of a ripe tomato. I think that heirloom varieties are beautiful and perfect too, like yellow and red striped tomatoes, or my favorite Cherokee purples. While I think they look perfect, they are not my favorite food so I would not call a plate of tomatoes that I would be expected to eat, a perfect meal. But I can agree that they are perfect. So what is perfect and what is perfection and how do we relate to it?I think it is as hard to wrap our heads around the concept of perfectionism as it is to accept acceptance. It requires a form of emotional distancing and discretion that is hard to embody especially when you’re talking about superlatives, things you feel very strongly about. When you say something is perfect, to you it embodies the highest achievement you believe is possible. Perfection implies, well, perfection. It says to the world that there is absolutely nothing wrong with it and it is as good as something can get. Until it isn’t perfect any more.What happened to perfection when it is no longer perfect? Was it ever perfect? Were we wrong?Nothing happens to perfection, it is just that our perception of perfection changes and shifts all the time. We think perfection is permanent but it isn’t, and we just have to acknowledge that and allow for shifts in perfection that accompany our own shifts in perception.Read the rest of this article on the blog at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

Can you believe it’s October and the year is nearly over. Like 2020, this year has been marked with dis-integration, chaos, and ‘things that make you go hmmmm’. These are dark times indeed but they are surrounded by an increasing amount of light and the delays and blocks of the last 6 months will finally give way to new movement, some of it surprising, as we enter a new month that promises more stability, truth, and energetic support for our continuing ascension journey. October’s theme is onward and upward with balance, truth, justice, and integrity.Just the numerology of October is a welcome change from last month. We move from the unbalanced, open ended 5 of September 2021 to the descension energy of the 6 of October 2021 (10 + 2 + 2 + 1 = 15, 1 + 5 = 6). When did we have another 6 month this year? In January, when this new adventure began. October comes full circle from what began in January as cycles close and we have opportunities to advance in new directions. Not with the baggage of the past, that has to go and this month, and we are ready to release it.As I write this I am noticing that my computer works faster and its hard drive is much cleaner as over the weekend I deleted hundreds of old files that I have been keeping for years. I didn’t need them, they were just taking up space, and I wasn’t going to be using them. So they got deleted. I didn’t plan to do this but when I looked up a file that I needed, the great purge began. I had been meaning to do this for months as my hard drive contains a lot of content from the 17+ years I have been writing, teaching, channeling, and sharing messages. I knew those old files needed to go, I jus tnever got around to reviewing the files. But this weekend I did and they are now gone.That is typical of what happens when a lot of energy moves or we are preparing for another shift in this ascension cycle, we get the urge to purge, to clean out, re-organize, get rid of things, and lighten our load. What we do in our physical space is a mirror of what is happening with us energetically. I have laughingly said that we are going to have the cleanest and most organized houses and closets when this ascension cycle is over, as much cleaning and organizing as we do. This isn’t just happening on the physical level, it is emotional and mental too. So don’t be surprised with what ends or releases itself from you now.Since late April we have been under the pressure of heavy retrograde energy, starting with Pluto, until now, when all of the outer planets are retrograde. Pluto’s direct motion on October 4 starts the loosening of this energy and this is a big move because Pluto has been the powerhouse of transformation since late 2008, when it first entered Capricorn.Now if you have been reading my monthly Energy Reports you know that I have been sharing a lot of info about Pluto in Capricorn for the past two years because it has been such an important aspect of what has been going on in the world. In 2020 the infamous Saturn/Pluto conjunction stirred up the chaos we all experienced. Pluto exerts a generational influence because it moves so slowly and while its consequences can be personal, it also has a global impact.You can read the rest of the article on the website at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

Do you remember the last time someone hurt you, betrayed you, or you discovered something about them that made you realize they were not your friend, were not on your side, and that their actions were deliberate? You may want to avenge your honor, make them pay, get revenge, show them how it feels to be treated that way, and get them to acknowledge your pain and then apologize for it.You want retribution, a punishment that matches the damage and harm they caused you. You want resolution, to fix the situation and move on, often with them not repeating their behavior.You want restitution, for them to give you something to make up for what they did and for what you lost.While you are fully justified in feeling this way and in wanting revenge so that your pain is boomeranged right back to its originator, it’s a waste of your time and energy and it won’t have the effect you want.No matter how hard you try, how much effort you make, and how noble your efforts are or how well supported they are by the facts, you won’t have any effect on the person who caused your pain. Because they do not care about your pain or about causing you pain.For two reasons, one because they want to cause you pain and second because your pain is their revenge against you. Read the rest of the article on the blog at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

Our call to serve is not an edict to perform for the universe. It is part of our larger soul mission we came here with and when we get the call, which can arrive in many different ways, it is just an activation of this mission and a sign for us to get started on that path. Now this doesn’t mean we don’t have a choice, we do, to a point. And we can ignore it, deny it, or pretend we are not listening. We may not be ready at that time, we may need more time to adjust our beliefs to accommodate it, we may think we just are not the right person for the job (as I did) and we need a little more encouragement.But the main point I want to make is that this call to serve is not random occurrence, it is an invitation to step into more of our power and divinity and start expanding our energy. We already have the gifts, talents, and abilities, we already have the tools we need to do the work. We just need to get started.But it comes at a cost and I think at a soul level we know that, which is why we resist or deny that it’s time for us to serve. Our call to serve demands faith and trust, in ourselves and in the Universe. We do not get to escape the challenges and trials that others experience. In fact, we often have to experience them ourselves so we can learn compassion and assist those who suffer, who grieve, who are hurt, wounded, and who have lost their way. Uriel always says we teach from what we know, so what we experience becomes our platform for inspiring others. You can read the full article on the blog at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

Well, here we are in the ninth month of the year. Are you tired of the drama yet? If we had not imagined what being a warrior for the light entailed, we are certainly getting an education about it now. From watching the absolute tyranny that is happening in certain countries around the world to the imposition of restrictions we thought we would never see happening in the world again after their disastrous consequences 80 years go, we are living in epic times. This is the battle between the dark and the light, between good and evil, between the 3D paradigm of domination, control, competition, separation, and tyranny and the 5D paradigm of connection, collaboration, cooperation, creativity, and community. Whew, it has been quite the roller coaster ride and it is not over yet but we are approaching the point of transition and it’s happening this month. And we’re coming full circle from 2012 and 2003, which were also 5 vibration years. The primary energy theme of September is balance and sometimes we need to experience the full spectrum of imbalance or out of balance so we can decide where our balance will be.September has a double 5 vibration – we’re in a 5 year (2021) and 9 + 5 = 14, 1 + 4 = 5.We also had this double 5 vibration happening in our previous 5 year, 2012, and the one previous to that, 2003. What happened in those years, especially in 2012? We thought the world was going to end, the Mayan prophecy was going to happen and we’d all be taken away to a much happier, easier place. Well that didn’t happen and in its place we have had nearly 2 years of absolute tyranny and a state of dystopia that we thought was just a fictitious narrative written by George Orwell.In September we arrive at the midpoint of the energetic cycle that we began over 18 months ago. Don’t look at the number of months, think of the energy. 5 is the midpoint of the number line where 0 to 5 is the beginning of the journey and 6 to 10 is the end. What did we not know from 0 to 5 that we know now? How will we use this information after we pass the midpoint threshold? That’s the theme of September, achieving the threshold, resolution, restitution, and retribution. I’ll explain those in a minute but first I wanted to review the energy themes of 2021, which I wrote in each month’s energy report.You can go to enlighteninglife.com to read the full blog. Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

How many times do you struggle with making a choice because you just don’t know what to do or all of the choices seem to be bad choices or you can’t imagine having to live with the choice you are making forever. Surprise! Can I tell you that you may be looking at this all wrong? There is a new and much better way of making choices that gives you freedom and many options and it involves seeing choices and decision making as a process and adds an extra step.One of the big rewards of our 5D ascension path is more awareness which gives us more options, access to expanded energetic bandwidth, and that opens us to new portals of potential. With so much available to us you would think that we would be thrilled at the prospect of so many choices but we’re not. We get stuck with doubt, fear, guilt at being so blessed, shamed by our good fortune, and one more thing that keep us stuck forever.The reason we have so much trouble making a choice is that we lump all of our hopes, dreams, solutions, rescue, and transformation on a single choice. We don’t just want to make the best choice, we want to make the choice that will free us from forever having to make a life altering choice again.We want to make the choice that is going to solve all of our problems forever.We want to make the choice that is going to make us happy, free, and successful forever.We want to make the choice that no one will guilt, shame, judge, or criticize us for.We want to make the choice that everyone will approve of and will be happy with.Sometimes we don’t want to make a choice so we delay the process hoping that the choice will make itself.Or we don’t make a choice because we hope that someone else does something that makes the choice obvious and painless.And with all of that baggage attached to our choices, we can’t come up with a single choice because there is no choice like that.Read the rest of the article on the blog at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

Before I begin speaking about this topic I want to ask you this. What do you think your energy is? Is it how you manifest, create, live your life, and how you get motivated. What if there was another way to define your energy, one that gave it deeper meaning and value to you? What if you saw yourself as a steward of divine energy and as that steward, it was your job to protect, support, use, and expand it in the best way possible. Would that change how you view your energy? Keep that in mind as we talk about who or what controls your energy.If I asked you who controls your energy you would probably say that you do. But is that really true? While you are in control of your energy, as its steward, whoever or whatever has control over it in any moment depends on many factors such as distractions, guilt, shame, past experiences, current fears, and your beliefs about success, deserving, worthiness, and how much you trust yourself.That is what is in control of your energy and while you may have control in theory, you relinquish your control every time you second guess yourself, limit your options, or doubt your abilities. You also relinquish control as soon as you allow your guilt to make your choices or your shame group to manipulate your energyTo fully engage in any transformation you have to be in control of your energy and not let distractions, fear, or anything else take over the process of how you focus, direct, channel, and use your energy.When it comes to your energy, how do you maintain control? What energy tools can you use to ensure that you have access to and control of all of your energy. Now remember this doesn’t mean that people will respect your energy boundaries or accept your decision to be in control of your energy. You will be challenged by people who have been using your energy to power their lives and who do not want you to change that setup. But with strong energy tools in place you will be able to withstand and ignore the challenges that you face whenever you decide to transform your life and shift your energy use methods.To really be in control of your energy you need tools that will help you be in charge and learn to use your energy to your benefit and for what it was intended, like manifesting, creating miracles, empowering new potentials, becoming more aware, and transforming your life in new ways. Read the rest of the article on the blog at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

Welcome to August, the 8th month of the year and this month is full of surprises and new opportunities to expand our energetic sovereignty. Just remember that this doesn’t mean you can change the world, it means that you can use the energy to change your world. Our life path is created by the interaction of our thoughts, beliefs, actions and intention. If you’re not living a life you love August energy may provide the clarity, confidence, and creativity you need to make course corrections. This month’s themes are energetic sovereignty, venerability, eminence, and majesty. In July we were at the starting line, this month we get to plot our course to the finish line. August is a month with a 13 and 4 vibration which implies stability, planning, and covering all of the bases. How many bases does a baseball player have to cover after hitting the ball to make a run? Four and all of the bases have to actually be touched on his way around the field, no skipping or it doesn’t count. What does this have to do with August energy? Well, we have a tendency to want to take shortcuts and skip over the hard bits and this isn’t the month to do that. In fact some of the choices we have to make will be the kind we don’t want to think about but we have to do them anyway.You may be faced with some ‘do over’ choices in August, things you have put off in the past or have avoided until now. These choices often have other consequences, connections, and involve multiple layers of transformation. They ripple out into many areas of our life, some of which we don’t want to have disturbed. But they will be because those are the choices that are creating that stuck, anxious, cloudy, and unsettled feeling. What types of choices am I talking about? You may think it’s the choice to ‘let go of everything and see what happens’. Not at all. It’s the choice to be free, to live in joy, to have freedom of intention, alignment, and manifestation, to stop trying to make everyone happy, to stop being blocked by your fear of guilt and shame. If you remove those elements from your choices, the choice you want becomes clear and the decision is obvious.Read the rest of the article on the blog at this link.Register for the Alpha Omega Freedom Portal webinar at this link. Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

Fear is a word that we use many different ways, as a noun, a verb, an adjective, and a modifier in how we speak and in how we live. But as you have heard me say often, fear is not a thing. We do not fear ‘fear’, we fear consequences. And those consequences are very real – these things have happened to us but they do not have to keep happening to us and that is why learning to leverage fear is so important now. We can use our fears as stepping stones to greater potential when we learn the value of resistance and the true nature and potential of our fears.Have you ever been afraid of something that you just cannot explain? Do you find yourself making excuses or making allowances for your fears automatically? Not sure what I am talking about? Here is an example – my fear of the cold in the podcastIs there something you deliberately avoid for reasons you cannot explain? Do you avoid going near water because you’re afraid of drowning? Here is a somewhat funny but true way this manifests – story of mom and flash floods Here’s another way fear manifests – as anger you cannot explain or control. Does something ‘set you off’ and drive you ‘round the bend’ in ways that can sometimes embarrass you or make you wonder how you could react that way? I have quite a few examples of that with my clients, listen to the podcast for examples.So what is going on here? Why are fears so important if everyone tells us they are limiters, we need to get over them, ignore them, pretend they don’t exist, make them the responsibility of the ego, release them, and move on anyway? Fears represent consequences from the past, whether we remember them or not. Fears are how we warn ourselves of upcoming dangerous situations that put our well being at risk. Fears remind us that we need to be cautious, reconsider, reorganize, reframe a situation, or retreat. Fears are not bad when used as a lever to lift us out of pain and suffering. But we misunderstand, underestimate, and misuse our fears so they become our controlling influences instead of a stepping stone on our path.Read the rest of the article on the blog at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

There is a flow of energy and outcomes that happens once we set out on the clarity path to get knowledge and understanding. We want knowledge because it’s what is going to help us get to the next step and to get unstuck. We want understanding because we want to know why things happen the way they do. Frankly, I believe that it is our quest for knowledge and understanding that is the reason we get stuck in the first place. Our desire to know why without being willing to follow the clarity – truth – consequences path will always be a revolving door of healing, with frustration, disappointment, and limitations or blocks preventing our progress. I think we ask for clarity without understanding exactly what that entails and what happens when we do get clarity. As I have written and said before, clarity just makes things clear. It does not solve anything. We want clarity because we want the truth, we want to know what is happening. But is that the truth? No, we don’t really want to know the truth, we want to know why something is happening to us, what others’ motivations are, what is wrong with us and why we are being betrayed, rejected, abandoned, or disrespected in some way. We want to know why others seem to get what they want and we do not. We want to know why our mother didn’t love us (I hear this a lot from clients) or loved our sister or brother more. We want to know why our partner left us, broke our heart, betrayed us, or took advantage of us.We want to know why our loved ones prefer to live alone in their darkness than to be with us in our light. We want to know why our sacrifices yield no results except more pain and suffering. We want to know why Source allows our suffering while we believe that we have been promised a joyful life. We want to know why we aren’t happy while we’re trying to do everything the right way.We want to know the ‘why’ of everything because then we will understand our challenges and can figure out how to end them. This will get us unstuck and we can move forward. And we think (and are sometimes told) that clarity is the answer. But that is not quite true.Read the rest of the article on the blog at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

A few weeks ago I shared my thoughts about how our 3D/5D ascension integration compels us to redefine our ‘life purpose’. Instead of a search for purpose, our focus must now become a personal intention for accessing our potential so we are not constantly looking for validation of our being-ness and instead, celebrating our creative power and abilities. There is another aspect of our 3D life journey that is equally troubling and difficult and that is the topic of destiny, which is described as the fated path our lives will follow and we’re not in control of how that unfolds. But what if we are. What if our ability to turn our search for purpose into an alignment with a new potential also includes turning our fated destiny in an ascended process that shifts the destiny path into something more fulfilling and joyful?Let’s look at the density of destiny and see how we can turn it into something more purposeful, intentional, and aligned with our ascension path into 5D living.What is our destiny? We know that it is closely aligned with our karma, the ongoing journey of retribution and atonement that we undertake with each lifetime. It is a never ending cycle of I did/you did in our attempt to get others to embrace the light and raise their frequency or to make up for the pain we believe we have caused them.Within our karmic journey are stories of abandonment, betrayal, unrequited love, unrepentant cruelty, and our desire for validation, vindication, and victory for the light. It is a heroic battle but one that we can never and will never win, as we define winning and victory.Destiny is our life path; it is the life instructions we are born with which also determines our mother, father, family, and every other aspect of our life at birth. Destiny doesn’t start when we’re 18 years old or when we are born. We make those choices when we choose to be born, the moment our spark of light touches the earth plane. If we look at our life through the lens of destiny it is a rather depressing and limited perspective. Our life becomes an effort to overcome what we believe we cannot change – the need to atone for what we believe we may have done or vindicate what was done to us without ever moving beyond that as a life purpose.read the full article on the enlighteninglife.com blog at this link. Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

This is another year where the first half of the year will be different from the second half and we’re entering the second half now. If you feel like everything is a struggle right now, that’s because it is. The ‘dark side’ has been in control for a long time and it will not give up without a fight but that cannot deter us from forging onward and upward. Remember energy expansion is not linear, it is spherical. It expands in all directions which is why linear progress is not always obvious. Look in all directions to see where the light is shining brightly and transformation is occurring.Nothing can stop the 3D/5D ascension integration and the light we carry from reaching even the darkest corners as the collective frequency and vibration continues to rise as humanity awakens to its divinity and the fulfillment of our 2021 mission, claiming our energetic sovereignty. And whether your personal fight against the density of darkness is a critical family, disapproving children, friends who no longer speak to you or your own hesitation, anxiety, and doubt, July is a clarion call to bold action and strong confidence. So let’s take it beyond the limits and see how high we can soar.July moves us out of the 11 spiritual initiation vibration of June to the 3 vibration (7 2015) which is a highly creative and less difficult frequency. Yes 11 is a master number but mastery numbers are full of lessons, challenges, and difficult choices. We can no longer coast between the temptation to become ‘more ready’ and to do more healing and urge to break free of our limitations and fears. All we need is an intention and an action plan because it’s time to start our engines and burn rubber – leave tracks as you jump out of the starting gate. This month’s themes are rigor, resolution, and re-orientation and we’re going to apply them to our forward movement so we are moving in a forward direction with clarity, confidence, and congruence and without the questions about our worthiness or need for approval, acknowledgement, and validation.Rigor refers to the discipline to stay on our ascension path and follow the call of our soul mission for divine congruence, joy, and harmonious fulfillment. Resolution refers to the true aim of healing, completion and closure with the finality of knowing that our truth always leads us in the right and best direction. Every relationship is not destined to lead to joyful fulfillment and endings are always a consideration.Re-orientation refers to our ability to plot a new course for joy as we use acceptance to maintain our energetic integrity. The need for security and stability can keep us mired in ruts of fear and when we realize that we can make course corrections without regret, guilt, or shame.Read the full article on the blog at enlighteninglife.com. Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

I cringe when I hear the phrase ‘find your purpose’ or when someone asks me to tell them what their life purpose is. I cringe because I know why they are asking that question and that it is causing them a lot of grief. To seek purpose is a burden on us because it implies that we are not doing things right, following the right path, and we’re wasting our time and energy. We are working as hard as we can and not getting any results or joy. There is no purpose other than whatever we are doing right now and it’s much more fulfilling and potential focused to think about our mission, rather than our purpose. What is your life purpose? Have you ever asked yourself that question, especially when you’re feeling a little depressed, unfulfilled, and unhappy? We generally worry about our life purpose when we feel less than purposeful, we are not happy with our lives or satisfied with our progress. We may even feel we aren’t making any progress at all, so we want to explore our purpose because if we were doing the right and best thing we would not feel this way.When we look at purpose in this way we are really referring to a life definition, a meaning, validation, and a justification. We want a better definition of how our gifts, talents, and abilities fit together to create joy and since we are not finding it in the present moment. We want validation of who we are and what we are doing and that it is being recognized, appreciated, and getting some kind of result. We want to feel worthy, valuable, and meaningful. A quest for purpose is a quest for meaning in the context of how we matter in the world.But when we ask the purpose question we are not just questioning our purpose, we are questioning our very being.Read the rest of the article on the blog at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

You'll really relate to this episode if you're one of the many who have not been able to sleep lately, who are up around 3AM for a few hours, or who are not sleeping at all. What has happened to our ability to fall asleep and stay asleep? Well, we're doing a lot of energy work at night and bringing in big energy downloads. And at night, when everyone else is asleep, there is less energetic interference. In this podcast you'll hear about how this phenomenon is impacting so many people around the world so you are not alone, what we're doing when we're awake at night, and some tips to help avoid getting frustrated and how to get back to sleep.Read the full article on the blog at Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

We start June with a lot of carryover energy from May. We have a number of important retrogrades, strong spiritual support, and we are at the halfway point between two powerful eclipses. That may sound like an omen of doom and gloom but it isn’t because in June we can rebuild from the ‘mayhem, mastery, and miracles’ of May. June’s energy themes include resets, upsets, reversals, and resurgence. And if you remember that one of the main themes of 2021 is energetic sovereignty (link to gps2021 program) as I described in my gps2021 predictions, you have foundation for understand the bigger picture of what is happening this year.To read the full article visit the blog at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

To fully understand the 3D/5D ascension integration process we have to rethink what so many people wrongly said about ascension. It’s not a leap into lala land where everything glitters with fairy dust and unicorns dance in the streets. If you have been part of this process for the last 15 to 20 years, you know this isn’t so. It has been some of the most challenging, grueling, painful periods in our life. But it does get better when we understand the 5D energies and how they are being integrated into 3D. Remember as I always say, ascension is an integration, not a takeover. It’s called creating ‘heaven on earth’, not destroying earth so heaven can take over.Let's look at the 3D energies that we are integrating light into:The dominant energies of 3D are competition – being the best, having the mostcontrol – being the one who holds all of the energypower over – telling people what to do, having dominion over people with no energetic sovereigntydomination – Being the strongest and using that power to control othersgreed – the idea that abundance is limited and one person or group should have it allsingularity – the cult of ‘me’ being the most important, being disconnected from Source and spiritwin/lose – there can only be one winner and everyone else loses.The dominant energies of 5D are what I call the 5Cs of 5DCommunity – The co-existence of the individual within the group, the collective of humanityConnection – the inter-relatedness of all things with light and energyCollaboration –working together on a shared ascension goal –Creativity – energetic sovereignty and self awarenessCooperation – recognizing the value of everyone’s gifts and talents that play an important part in the ascension cycleThese are our guidelines for how we will process ascension energy in our lives. The full article is available on the blog at https://enlighteninglife.com/5c5d Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

What are expectations? They are the anticipated behaviors that you or someone else thinks will happen in a situation. We have expectations of others just as they have expectations of us. From our standpoint, we expect certain behaviors from people depending on who they are in our lives and what we want from them. From the labels they have, such as mother, father, sister, brother, partner, friend, we create a set of expectations. And when those expectations are not met we feel betrayed, disappointed, and rejected, depending on the situation.What about others’ expectations of us? They expect certain behaviors of us too, depending on their relationship with us and what they want from us. And if we do not meet their expectations they feel betrayed, abandoned, and rejected. Can you see a pattern here?Read the full article on the blog at enlighteninglife.com/blog Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

May is going to have its moments but we have come through a lot so far this year and in May we get to experience the miracles we have earned, as well as some mayhem, and there will be opportunities to step into our mastery. Miracles, mayhem, and mastery are the themes for May. Let the games begin.Read the full article on the blog at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

Now we are not forced to do anything by the Universe but when the energy moves as quickly and as much as it is right now, we can get a definite shove into taking care of our energy misalignment, misuse, or under utilization. And this is one of those times when we can explore the potential that an energetic housecleaning is necessary and maybe even consider an energy divorce.Is it Time for an Energy Divorce?We all have relationships and life situations, past or present, where there is a definite energy misalignment between us and someone or something. You know what I’m talking about, those situations where you give and give and give and wait for a return on your investment. Or where you have high expectations of someone or something, you invest 100% of your time, energy, and effort, and nothing happens. Or where you take a stand for someone until they can use their own energy resources and they never seem to take that initiative.We have a decision to make here – we’re either going to continue providing energy in this situation or we’re going to get an energy divorce.It is very noble to act as others’ healers but it does come to a point where we need to look at the investment of our time, effort, and energy and the ROI (return on investment) we’re receiving and we come to a crossroads – something has to change because we can no longer continue to leak energy, drain our resources, and give to a situation that doesn’t give back to us.Read the rest of the article on the blog page at enlighteninglife.com Created, narrated, and produced by Jennifer Hoffman.Artwork by Jennifer Hoffman.Copyright (C) 2004-2026 by Jennifer Hoffman, all US and international rights reserved.Visit enlighteninglife.com for more information.Please note our policies regarding copyright infringement, content misuse, and theft of intellectual property. We prosecute all infringers and have a ZERO TOLERANCE POLICY for abuse, infringement, misappropriation, and illegal use of our content. You can read our full Terms of Use at enlighteninglife.comemail [email protected] with questions

I remember the many times the Universe has tried to prevent me from doing something that I wanted to do anyway. No matter how many obstacles were put in my path I forged ahead, determined to succeed at all costs. And I paid the price in time, energy, and heartache. Why did I not see the clues I was receiving for what they were, warnings that the path I was on was not the best one for me, that it was not aligned with the outcomes I wanted in my life? What made me forge ahead with my plans, determined to plow through whatever obstacles were in my way, no matter what it took (and sometimes it took a lot)! The clue phone rings often in my life and I don’t pick up because I don’t want to hear the messages, but I have learned to listen and then wait for more information because the clue phone always tells me exactly what I need to hear.I think that being an Aries has something to do with it — I can be very stubborn and keep fighting until the bitter end, but there is also an element of fear present in my unwillingness to abandon my obsessions. What if there was nothing else beyond what I saw as my only option? If this didn’t work I would have to start over again and I had invested way too much time, energy, and effort in this particular outcome to give up before I got what I wanted (sound familiar?). So when the clue phone starts ringing, in the form of events, situations, signs, and hints from every direction, asking me to look in another direction, I just pretend to be deaf and blind and ignore them.One situation stands out in my mind as a great example of this. I wanted to work for a company and had managed to contact the CEO and get an interview. This was a leading edge technology company I admired and respected and I really wanted this job. A few weeks later I had the interview with the CEO and the department head I would be working with. I just knew that my strong technical background, years of software research, development, implementation, and troubleshooting experience and great project management skills would be an asset to the company. I had a strong resume and great experience, what else did I need? The CEO was impressed but the other man was a little nervous because I was more experienced and qualified than he was. I noticed he kept looking at me and I could tell that he was very uncomfortable with my presence. (Clue number 1)Intuitively, I could feel his discomfort and I knew this was going to be a problem as I had faced this situation before. Even though I didn’t want his job, he probably wasn’t convinced and the tech industry is extremely competitive.But since I had impressed the CEO, I was sure I had the job. So I kept in contact and waited for the offer letter. Meanwhile, I got several other interview offers but turned them down because I knew that I was going to get this job. When I called the department head’s office he was never around and he never returned my phone calls (Clue number 2).Then I called the CEO and he said it was out of his hands, it was up to the department head (so the CEO wasn’t going to support me, Clue number 3). This was going to be a problem because the CEO who had offered me the job initially was now obviously not going to override the opinion or choice of the man who was already nervous about me and I had not even started yet and he would not talk to me.I had some software that this company produced and one day, a month after my interview and after making another call to the company to find out when I would be receiving the offer letter, I opened my desk drawer to get the product CD and it had broken in half. How that happened is a mystery because I always kept the CD in that drawer, along with others and it was the only one that was broken. (Clue number 4). Do you know much force it takes to break a CD in half? I tried one, it was not easy.So I called the company, which was located in my city, to ask for a replacement and they said I could stop by to get one. I drove to the office and walked up to the door, waved to the receptionist and pulled on the handle when I heard the buzzer. But the door would not open. The receptionist tried to buzz me in a few times but the door was stuck shut. Finally she got up to open the door for me and it wouldn’t open for her either (Clue number 5). I was trying to pull it open from the outside, she was pushing it from the inside and it just wouldn’t open. After several tries (she said that had never happened before) the door finally opened, I got my CD and went home. The message was clear, the door to that job was stuck shut and I needed to look elsewhere. It had only taken me a month, several dozen phone calls, a lot of frustration and passing up some other opportunities that may have been better options but I gave them a miss because I thought that this job was mine. To be honest, I wanted it to be mine – it was my dream job (or so I thought).The clue phone had been ringing loudly but I wasn’t listening. I wanted that job and did eve

It feels like I just wrote the March Energy Report and we’re starting a new month. I’m kidding, March was a long month that never seemed to end. Challenging times always seem to drag on and we have seen quite a few in the past few years. But cheer up, April is a new vibe and we have some rare supportive energy this month that should put a smile on everyone’s face, especially those who have been waiting for the Go sign to start moving forward.April’s themes are ACTion, alignment, and renewal. This month we are encouraged to take action and with so much fiery Aries energy you might think that it is the busting out of the gate and doing as much as possible quickly kind of action. But this is a highly unusual month with the kinds of energy aspects we don’t see very often. It’s spring and that typically means new growth, gardening, tulips and daffodils, and a chance to re-emerge from the dark, cold days of winter. Spring represents renewal, rebirth, re-emergence, re-awakening, and re-starts as we watch nature awaken to its annual cycle of growth. Last month I shared a photo of the beautiful white Bradford pear trees in full bloom and now they are all covered with green leaves. My garden is awakening as the plants that were dormant in the winter are now rising to greet the sun and warmer temperatures.And we’re doing the same as we move away from the drab, cold, dark days of winter into the warmth and vibrancy of spring ( in the northern hemisphere). But there is a new vibe to the energy this month that is going to springboard us into a fresh start and it begins on April 4 and ends on the 15th.I have been writing about the April 11 new moon with some excitement because it comes with a rare bonus – all of the personal planets are in Aries, along with some of important asteroids like Ceres and Chiron. Some might point out that Mars is not in Aries and it isn’t but it is in Gemini and Gemini’s ruler Mercury is in Aries so these two planets are in mutual reception – they are in each other’s signs. So Mars is supporting this new moon that is going to be a powerful motivating force for action.But there is another aspect to this new moon and all of its support which is like an energy potluck, where each planet brings something to the table for everyone to enjoy. The Sun and Moon are called the two ‘lights’ of the sky, Mercury adds communication, karmic healing, and movement; Venus adds beauty, balance, and joy, Mars, from its Gemini placement, adds thoughtful action and karmic endings, Chiron adds healing, and Ceres adds the energy of growth, fertility, and abundance. Add a supportive aspect from benevolent Jupiter and we have a new moon period that not even cranky Pluto can disrupt.Usually when people think of Aries they see bold, brash energy that is quick to move and slow to finish. Aries are known for being the pioneers but they are not much for detail or the fine finish work. But with this new moon the Aries energy is strongly supported by a lot of other energies that can fine tune the rough edges and create a path of considered, intentional, inspired action that does pay attention to detail and has a firm grasp on its intention and energy boundaries. Think of this month’s energy like a potluck dinner – everyone brings something to the table and there is a variety of energy that everyone can use and find useful. This will come as a relief to everyone who has been struggling with the strong Saturn/Pluto conjunction of 2020 and the ongoing Saturn/Uranus square of 2021 which has been a roller coaster of energy ups and downs. It has taken a lot of faith and trust to get through these past few years and that kind of commitment always gets rewarded – eventually. Now it’s time to claim our reward.The 9 energy of April 2021 is not an ending, it is the beginnings that arise from endings and the endings that give birth to beginnings. Think of how the number 9 is written, with a 1 and a 0, this is the alpha and the omega, the circle of completion that means a cycle has been concluded and it is time to begin a new cycle – not in the same place, but from a new level of energy.I have written that we transcend into ascension, it is not a big leap from one place of being to another. There is a process of crossing over – that’s the 4D bridge – from one state of being to another and that is transcension. The entire process can be short or long, depending on our own lessons and how we respond to energy but it is a journey across, not a leap from one place to another. While we would like for it to be that way, that is not how it happens.There is always an exchange of energy with ascension – the transcension bridge is a toll bridge – we have to be willing to give something up in order to cross it. That could be a belief, a limitation, a fear, our guilt and shame, a Portal Keeper role, our Martyred Healer karmic contracts – we must be willing to release whatever has been holding us back until this moment in order to transcend into the ne

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Have you ever been in that ‘I’m so done with this’ space and you are ready to embark on a full out healing journey, doing a drastic energetic house cleaning, toss out everything that you aren’t resonating with, and moving into a new paradigm? You want to be happy, feel good, have no more problems and you’re willing to go all the way to achieve it? I have been there before and occasionally I have done that but always regretted it later because in my haste to get rid of everything, I didn’t consider what I was getting rid of and whether it was a momentary thing or something I really needed to give more thought. There was a price I was willing to pay but I didn’t consider the full cost of my actions and I couldn’t – I was so ready to get out of the pain space that I thought I was ready to go full scorched earth to get there. And in that moment I was, it was after the dust had settled that I had to consider what it was going to take to get my life back together and back to normal.And the problem with acting too hastily is that we don’t have a clean release so these things start creeping back into our lives.But what’s more important is the price we must pay and the cost we must bear of our healing journey. It isn’t without some degree of discomfort and regret and anyone who doesn’t tell you that or prepare you for it is doing you a huge disservice.Unlike other spiritual teachers and mentors, I don’t paint a rosy picture of the healing journey. While it can have a fantastic outcome, the process is often less than rosy and it can be quite uncomfortable. Because there is a price for healing – which is the actions we must take, and a cost we must bear – which is what we’re willing to get rid of, to arrive at the healing outcome we want.And while we tend to look at the price and cost in terms of others, the real price and cost are at an inner level, the things that we must transform in ourselves, to arrive at our destination.Let’s look at price and cost in terms of our outer transformation because this is where we see the proof of our willingness to transform, right? While the transformation is reflected there, unless there is an equal amount of effort and attention given to our inner landscape, the outer transformation won’t last too long because it is a reflection of our inner selves.Our outer transformation is usually the product of what I call ‘false congruence’ when we haven’t done the inner transformation work. It’s a reality that is pieced together with sticky tape and twine, consisting of anything we can attract that will prove to us that we are lovable, deserving, worthy, and can have what we so desperately want and are secretly afraid that we will never have or be able to get.I see this so often in clients who say they want to change, they want something new, and they’re willing to jump in with both feet, without giving the inner work any consideration. That’s the hard part – the outer transformation is easy. Change the cushions, slap on a coat of paint and a fixer upper becomes the next big real estate success. But if the foundation is cracked, the walls have termites, and there is mold everywhere, you just covered up a real estate disaster that will become a money pit of problems for the new owners.One client came to me for relationship help. She was tired of dating men who didn’t make her happy, who were selfish and inconsiderate, who didn’t meet her needs, and wanted to transform that. I suggested we coach through my Raise your Love Vibes program but all she wanted to know was when the next person was coming around. Over the next 5 years she would call me for advice about her next ‘new partner’ and I would always tell her the same thing, it will last 6-9 months then you’ll be hurt and disappointed and it would end. She got so angry she quit calling me although she knew I was right because every relationship ended the same way. Then one day I got a tearful call asking for my help after her 11th (yes 11th) relationship had died a painful death. She was now ready to do the inner work.In her mind, the price of a new relationship meant being willing to take another risk on getting her heart broken, which she did. But she was not willing to pay the cost, which was being alone with herself until she understood why she was attracting such miserable relationships.But the real cost was to do her own healing work so she stopped attracting the same kind of person over and over again. Until she was willing to pay the cost to have the relationship she said she wanted, she would never get it. Let’s look at another example of price and cost – parents will relate to this. My youngest son wanted to move out of the house, to have freedom, to be on his own, never have to clean his room or make his bed, stay out as late as he wanted. He eventually moved out and then a week later I got a phone call from him saying that his refrigerator was empty. I told him he had to go to the grocery store to buy more food. But, he said, th

How do we know when it’s time to stop in a relationship or a situation which we realize is not working out, draining our energy, or, to be blunt, a waste of our time and effort? How can we stop without feeling like we failed or quit without throwing a frustration tantrum?The key is in knowing the difference between stopping and quitting and using that information to let go with empowered grace.When is it time to stop in a relationship or situation where we realize we’re just spinning our wheels, wasting our time or worse, being used, abused, or taken advantage of?In the best of worlds we would stop right away but it’s more complicated than that. The decision to pull back and leave a situation or relationship depends on so many other things:1. how vested or committed we are to winning 2. when it becomes personal – it’s about you, not about them or the situation3. how much time and energy we have invested in the relationship4. what our expectations are5. what other options we have6. who we think is watching, waiting for us to fail7. how many times we think we have failed before8. how much we want to believe that it is our mission or purpose to succeed in this effort9. how much potential we believe is in that person or situation and how committed we are to bring it out and make them become what we see in themOK so how many of you see yourselves in the above list? How many times have you given something ‘one more chance’ because you just know that this time is it and you are going to succeed, to get the outcome you want, that you will change that person and they will be so grateful, that you will become the hero or heroine?And how many ‘one more chance’ opportunities have to happen before you get discouraged, despondent, disappointed, and realize that no matter how much you try this is simply not going to work out.So you decide you’re going to quit, hang it up, throw in the towel, and ‘never do that again’. You have lost, failed, not succeeded, missed an opportunity, didn’t prove yourself, etc. AGAIN. And you feel bad about it, you’re ashamed, angry, and feel like a failure.Is this why it is so hard to stop because we associate it with failure and do we really believe that every single situation must turn out to be some kind of success or have positive potential?But wait, there is another way to do this and to step away from and let go of a situation with empowered grace and dignity.There is a way to let go and walk away from these kinds of situations with your head held high, proud of your efforts and equally proud of your ability to know when it’s time to go. As Kenny Rogers sang, ‘you have to know when to hold ‘em, know when to fold ‘em, know when to walk away and know when to run’How do you walk away or run with empowered grace and dignity? You know the difference between stopping and quitting – one implies control and the other implies shame and powerlessness.Do you want to guess which is which?The decision between stopping and quitting can mean the difference between holding your head high because you know you made a powerful decision for yourself or blaming and shaming yourself for not succeeding once again, for failing, for not trying hard enough, for giving up too soon (again), and for being utterly worthless at everything you try to do. Can you add anything else here?You see when you decide to stop you are making an informed decision to surrender, which doesn’t mean to give up, it means to stop resisting the process. You have looked at the situation from your viewpoint and decided that it is not right for you. You took stock of what you were giving and receiving in return, how much time, energy, and effort was involved and whether the return was adequate. “I am going to stop now” is a powerful way to step away with grace and dignity, and to have completion and closure with the situation.The choice to quit is much different. When you quit you give up, you have had enough of the resistance and lack of support and acknowledgement for your efforts and you’re going to show everyone how much it bothers you – you are just going to quit and then let them try to get along without you.Quitting is a choice you make from a position of weakness, loss of control, and disempowerment. You quit because you feel that you have failed. You quit because you are angry, frustrated, and annoyed with the situation or the person. Maybe you are even a little passive aggressive because quitting always has a side door attached to it . Will your very public, usually loud, and dramatic quitting encourage someone to try to get you back? Will they finally realize how much they need and want you and give you what you want to come back? Will they finally acknowledge how much you have done and that they cannot live or continue or succeed without you?When we decide to stop we are in control. When we decide to quit we are trying to look like we’re in control while secretly acknowledging that we are not.When we decide to stop we have compl

Alignment Abundance Authenticity are key areas of spiritual awareness and understanding and we need to get these right be able to use them in the right way, which means that they work in our lives to our benefit instead of to our detriment.How can these spiritual principles operate to our detriment?Let me explain:1. When we do not know how they work all of the time instead of working in ‘good’ ways. Universal energy is non-judgmental, there is no good or bad. It is all neutral or equal, there is no better or worse, more or less. 2. When we make judgments about what these concepts represent rather than understanding them as universal principles and then criticize and judge ourselves for not being able to meet these high universal standards. 3. When we try to skip over steps in our healing and growth process and try to negotiate with the Universe to get ahead or to make our lives better in some way by trying to implement these spiritual principles in the wrong way. For example, thinking that focusing on manifesting a better life will succeed even if we do not believe it is possible for us. Let’s talk about AlignmentAlignment means things are lined up and working togetherWe think alignment exists in good ways, we are out of alignment when things are not going so wellThe truth is we are always aligned with everything in our life, all of the timeWhen we want something different we have to create new level of alignment with new energy. Unless we change the energy our alignment keeps moving forward, in the same direction, in the same way. When we feel stuck we’re out of alignment with our current reality and in the process of bringing in new energy to create a new one, we’re in an energy gap and we’re not aligned with anything, which gives us a feeling of being stuck, can’t move forward, and we’re unsure of what to do next. The worse thing we can do in this case is to think we have done something wrong or are being punished. We are not, we’re just in an energy gap, in a space between two different levels of alignment The keys to understanding alignment are:1. You’re always aligned with everything in your life all of the time. There is no better or worse alignment.2. When you’re ready for a new level of alignment with new energies nothing feels right or works for you.3. A new level of alignment is created by setting a new intention for your life and reality and then bringing in the energy to allow it to happen.4. Surrender to the alignment that is now out of synch with you and prepare for something new to create a new level of alignment.Stop judging and criticizing yourself for being ‘out of alignment’ whenever things go wrong or you think you’re not doing things right because they are not working. Let’s talk about AbundanceSo much misunderstanding about abundance because we think it means only good thingsWe have abundance when we have money, freedom, good things, and blessings and if we don’t then we have no abundance.But we always have abundance in everythingThe universal law of abundance states ‘there is abundance in all things’You can have an abundance of problems, bad health, money issues, sadness, and unhappinessYou can have an abundance of joy, love, laughter, miracles, and things you really likeThere is always unlimited abundance in your life – to change the kind of flow you have to change the kind of abundance you are manifesting which means to change your alignment The keys to understanding abundance are:1. Understand that abundance exists in all things, everywhere, all of the time2. You connect with, attract, and receive the kind of abundance that resonates with your own energy frequency3. Whatever you have a lot of in your life exists in abundance4. Changing your level of abundance depends on your own energy frequency and vibration – abundance follows beliefs and beliefs create alignment There are two keys to abundance:1. In a universe that exists in unlimited abundance there can be no concept of lack, where there is nothing. Unlimited abundance is unlimited abundance. 2. The opposite of abundance is not lack, it is limitation. So if your life is not feeling abundant in ways that you want, it is not because there is nothing there for you, it’s because you are limiting the flow of the kind of abundance you want into your life Let’s talk about AuthenticityAuthenticity is the state of being genuine or real, it is not a state of honesty, morality, or good behaviorWhen we say someone is not being authentic that is not true – they are being themselves – we are always being exactly who we areIn this case, that person is not in alignment with our beliefs about honesty, morality, or good behavior – that does not make then not authentic, it makes them themselvesWe spend too much time thinking we have to be authentic – we are always authentic, just like we always have abundance and we are always aligned with what is in our reality They keys to authenticity are1. Everyone is always their authentic self, at all time