Heal Your Codependency with Marshall Burtcher

#Reinforcement Episodes: The Two Commitments You Must Make With YourselfCOMMITMENT ONE: Honesty with yourself and safe others. This involves being willing to acknowledge what you feel, what you are experiencing, and what is actually happening. This involves the end of fantasy making and toxic hope.This means acknowledging the pain you're feeling, their abusive and neglectful behavior, and any habits of denying the patterns of behavior and impact in the relationship.This also includes confronting fantasies of changing them, of their potential, and it means being honest with what is actually happening.COMMITMENT TWO: Loyalty to your well-being and safety first. Relationships do not require the loss of your Self, your well-being, your sanity. The real work in healthy relationships is building connection and understanding. This starts with loyalty to yourself. Put your well-being first, respect your pain, choose according to what adds to your well-being, say no to what doesn't, and stay loyal to your boundaries and values.***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Submit questions for the YouTube Live Friday Question Sessions. Submit them here: https://ask.freetheself.com***Connect with me on YouTube, Instagram, my Podcast, and via email: https://links.freetheself.com***COURSES & MEMBERSHIPSYour first step: The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. This 8-week course teaches you the 8 fundamental practices and concepts necessary for achieving real, lasting well-being and happiness after codependency and toxic relationships. It is available in self-study format and live-class format. Start today: https://echt.freetheself.comInto Self-study? Get the Self-Study Library and heal your trauma bond, nurture your needs, end loneliness, build healthy relationships, build real self-trust, and know, love, and be who you are. The Self-study Library gives you deeply affordable access to my 6 primary healing courses that you can take 24/7 at your leisure. Learn more here: https://solo.freetheself.comSeeking Live-taught classes, live support groups, and deep healing with Marshall and your follow codependents? Get the Heal Your Codependency Membership. Learn more here: https://membership.freetheself.com

How To Empathize Without Violating Your Well-beingMany of us struggle with a sense of conflict between caring for ourselves and caring for the other person. This is especially pronounced when the other person is also the person who harmed us. One's trauma bond with a harmful person along with one's natural care and empathy can create a divide within the codependent that is trying to navigate feeling empathy and concern for the other person while also trying to prioritize and care for themselves.The solution to this conflict I call, "Boundaried Empathy".What is Boundaried Empathy?It is the practice of acknowledging the care we feel towards the other person while staying clear of their yard and any responsibility to regulate or fix that person's pain, problems, or consequences.Put another way, it is learning how to empathize without fixing. Learn how in today's episode!***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.comSubmit questions for the YouTube Live Friday Question Sessions. Submit them here: https://ask.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***Ready to finally end your dependency on codependency and start living from your power, wholeness, and innate worth? Check out my courses here: https://courses.freetheself.com

Is Being "Too Much" A Real Thing?Have you been told you're "too much" by someone?Have you questioned your own level of needs, desires, and wants due to that?Have you felt shame, confusion, doubt, or guilt for what you want or need, and how much of it you want or need?This is a very, very common impact we feel from others. It can be especially painful if we're repeatedly told we're "too much" and shamed for it. Conversely, you may also be told you're "not enough", too, creating a mass of confusion and inner conflict.Learn how to navigate this in today's episode!***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.comSubmit questions for the YouTube Live Friday Question Sessions starting Friday, June 2nd, 2023. Submit them here: https://ask.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***Ready to finally end your dependency on codependency and start living from your power, wholeness, and innate worth? Check out my courses here: https://courses.freetheself.com

Consequences are key to learning, to growing, and to maturing. When we interfere with a consequence someone chose through their behaviors, we are interfering with their ability to grow and mature.Learn more about how consequences are actually love in action.***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.comSubmit questions for the YouTube Live Friday Question Sessions starting Friday, June 2nd, 2023. Submit them here: https://ask.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***Ready to finally end your dependency on codependency and start living from your power, wholeness, and innate worth? Check out my courses here: https://courses.freetheself.com

Are You Being Selfish? Or Is Your Self-Interest Being Weaponized?"You're selfish" or "Stop being so selfish" or "You have to share!" These are phrases I heard a lot in response to me saying no, to having a boundary, or wanting to keep something of mine, mine. I was also raised to believe that sharing was the ideal and that having boundaries or saying no meant I was doing something "selfish" or mean because it "deprived someone else of something they wanted".This kind of treatment of our autonomy and boundaries taught us to feel shame and to discount and ignore our self-interest, boundaries, and desires.Learn how to start freeing yourself from this trap of inverted power and begin to occupy your sovereign space and autonomy in today's episode!***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.comSubmit questions for the YouTube Live Friday Question Sessions starting Friday, June 2nd, 2023. Submit them here: https://ask.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings Starts May 14, 2023]This LIVE 8-week training is for codependents, people-pleasers, and perfectionists that:- Feel like there's something crucial they're missing in their healing work- Are stuck in a circle of relapse and "trying to not be codependent"- Feel lost and frustrated not knowing what to do to get real peace and healingThere are 8 necessary factors that create lasting healing and freedom from codependency:- Safety- Sanity- Personal Sovereignty- Trust Yourself- Know Yourself- Love Yourself- Be Yourself- Share YourselfI will be teaching the essential skills and knowledge in each of these factors starting May 14, 2023 in my 8-week course, "The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings".This includes:- Origin of Codependency & Nervous System Care- Capacity & Emotional Care- Foundations of Personal Power- Foundations of Self-Trust- Fantasy and Reality- Foundations of Worth- Foundations of Knowing Yourself- Detecting Safe People & Building ResourcesThese eight trainings give you the crucial knowledge, tools, and practices needed to transition your codependent habits into healthy relating habits that create well-being, peace, and happiness FOR YOU.You'll be empowered to create these results because:- You'll be able to identify and neutralize your codependent fantasies and connect with reality- You'll be able to soothe and care for your anxiety, pain, grief, and other emotions- You'll be cultivating trust in yourself- You'll be discovering your real worth- You'll be starting to really know and distinguish yourself from others- You'll be able to detect and build connection with safe peopleStudents that have learned these skills report:- Feeling big relief from trying so hard to fix themselves- More confidence in being able to acknowledge what they feel, what is happening, and act from that knowledge- More peace because they can see what is really happening- Relief because they know what to do instead of their codependency!Course Details:Here's the Class Details:Class start date: Sunday, May 14, 2023 @ 12pm Mountain TimeClass times: Sundays @ 12pm Mountain TimeWhere: Via zoomEnd date: July 2nd, 2023Recordings of each class available the evening of class day.Comes with 2

The One Question That Reveals Compatibility Fast"How would you define compatibility in relationships? What could I look for to determine if he is compatible with me?"This question comes to me a lot, especially in Focus 6 of the Codependency Healing System where I teach students the fundamentals of healthy relating.Much of what is taught about compatibility centers around mutual values, interests, and even lifestyles. Yet, I've learned personally these are poor guages of actual, real-life compatibility. Learn how I define compatibility and the one question that helps me determine compatibility in all my relationships in today's episode!***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.comSubmit questions for the YouTube Live Friday Question Sessions starting Friday, June 2nd, 2023. Submit them here: https://ask.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings Starts May 14, 2023]This LIVE 8-week training is for codependents, people-pleasers, and perfectionists that:- Feel like there's something crucial they're missing in their healing work- Are stuck in a circle of relapse and "trying to not be codependent"- Feel lost and frustrated not knowing what to do to get real peace and healingThere are 8 necessary factors that create lasting healing and freedom from codependency:- Safety- Sanity- Personal Sovereignty- Trust Yourself- Know Yourself- Love Yourself- Be Yourself- Share YourselfI will be teaching the essential skills and knowledge in each of these factors starting May 14, 2023 in my 8-week course, "The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings".This includes:- Origin of Codependency & Nervous System Care- Capacity & Emotional Care- Foundations of Personal Power- Foundations of Self-Trust- Fantasy and Reality- Foundations of Worth- Foundations of Knowing Yourself- Detecting Safe People & Building ResourcesThese eight trainings give you the crucial knowledge, tools, and practices needed to transition your codependent habits into healthy relating habits that create well-being, peace, and happiness FOR YOU.You'll be empowered to create these results because:- You'll be able to identify and neutralize your codependent fantasies and connect with reality- You'll be able to soothe and care for your anxiety, pain, grief, and other emotions- You'll be cultivating trust in yourself- You'll be discovering your real worth- You'll be starting to really know and distinguish yourself from others- You'll be able to detect and build connection with safe peopleStudents that have learned these skills report:- Feeling big relief from trying so hard to fix themselves- More confidence in being able to acknowledge what they feel, what is happening, and act from that knowledge- More peace because they can see what is really happening- Relief because they know what to do instead of their codependency!Course Details:Here's the Class Details:Class start date: Sunday, May 14, 2023 @ 12pm Mountain TimeClass times: Sundays @ 12pm Mountain TimeWhere: Via zoomEnd date: July 2nd, 2023Recordings of each class available the evening of class day.Comes with 24/7, unlimited access to the recordings and all current and future live classes.You get UNLIMITED ACCESS TO:

Self-doubt caused by gaslighting, lying, and betrayal leaves us highly vulnerable to harm and leads us to question if we know what is real and what is not real. We are left to struggle to understand what is happening and what "right" choices to make. We turn outward towards others to define reality, and often towards those that are gaslighting and harming us, as we want to feel safe with them. We must return to sanity and knowing what is real if we're to experience lasting freedom from codependency, toxic relationship patterns, self-doubt, and the pain these things bring.Learn the 3 patterns I teach my students to watch for and how they create reliable sanity and reality in their daily lives in today's episode!***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings Starts May 14, 2023]This LIVE 8-week training is for codependents, people-pleasers, and perfectionists that:- Feel like there's something crucial they're missing in their healing work- Are stuck in a circle of relapse and "trying to not be codependent"- Feel lost and frustrated not knowing what to do to get real peace and healingThere are 8 necessary factors that create lasting healing and freedom from codependency:- Safety- Sanity- Personal Sovereignty- Trust Yourself- Know Yourself- Love Yourself- Be Yourself- Share YourselfI will be teaching the essential skills and knowledge in each of these factors starting May 14, 2023 in my 8-week course, "The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings".This includes:- Origin of Codependency & Nervous System Care- Capacity & Emotional Care- Foundations of Personal Power- Foundations of Self-Trust- Fantasy and Reality- Foundations of Worth- Foundations of Knowing Yourself- Detecting Safe People & Building ResourcesThese eight trainings give you the crucial knowledge, tools, and practices needed to transition your codependent habits into healthy relating habits that create well-being, peace, and happiness FOR YOU.You'll be empowered to create these results because:- You'll be able to identify and neutralize your codependent fantasies and connect with reality- You'll be able to soothe and care for your anxiety, pain, grief, and other emotions- You'll be cultivating trust in yourself- You'll be discovering your real worth- You'll be starting to really know and distinguish yourself from others- You'll be able to detect and build connection with safe peopleStudents that have learned these skills report:- Feeling big relief from trying so hard to fix themselves- More confidence in being able to acknowledge what they feel, what is happening, and act from that knowledge- More peace because they can see what is really happening- Relief because they know what to do instead of their codependency!Course Details:Here's the Class Details:Class start date: Sunday, May 14, 2023 @ 12pm Mountain TimeClass times: Sundays @ 12pm Mountain TimeWhere: Via zoomEnd date: July 2nd, 2023Recordings of each class available the evening of class day.Comes with 24/7, unlimited access to the recordings and all current and future live classes.You get UNLIMITED ACCESS TO:- Live attendance (includes all future live versions)- The r

Stacey and Marshall discuss the origins of codependency, how needs are factored in, and how to actually heal and be free of your codependency.You can follow Stacey Steinmiller here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCCy1EfJy-VR8XI9yEO6gaw***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

Dating Again? Boring Is The Green Flag You're Looking ForHealing your codependency means you're evolving your nervous system's attunement to choose something different. Put another way, as you heal, you will become more attracted to what your brain may call "boring" because it lacks intensity, threat, and unrealibility. Learn why boring is the green flag you are looking for in today's episode!***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com

Do you avoid positive outcomes because of pain?This is really, really, really, normal.Healing your codependency involves learning how to receive joy again, especially in things that you really want and carry a lot of loss trauma in them, like relationships and love.Learn how this was formed and how to navigate receiving what you've lost in the past and adapting to having it in your daily life in today's episode.***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts. I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.Specifically, you will learn:1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoyYou will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.Here are the workshop details:Date: April 26, 2023Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)Investment: FreeReplay Availability: The replay will be available April 27, 2023Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

The Essentials: Restoring SanityIs Fantasy Sabotaging Your Relationships And Your Life?In codependency, fantasy is a core element of how we cope with relationship systems that are not changing, yet we feel deeply dependent on for our sense of well-being, safety, connection, and worth.The brain creates fantasy as a way of giving us direction and something to hope for, especially when we do not have the resources or the capacity to confront what is really happening.Often, these fantasies start very early in childhood. We might hope that one day the parent will change into the parent we need if we love them just right or just enough, or if we're good enough.Learn a few of the major fantasies we have in codependency, how to detect them, and what to do when you notice a fantasy happening in today's episode!***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***The Everything Forever Program is open for limited enrollment! You can get all the courses, live classes, and support calls I offer FOREVER for $1500 (normally it is $3000). Get everything I have created, am creating, and will create with a single investment of $1500.27 out of 30 spots remain (as of 4/12/2023), and enrollment closes April 18th. Join here: https://forever.freetheself.com***[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts. I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.Specifically, you will learn:1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoyYou will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.Here are the workshop details:Date: April 26, 2023Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)Investment: FreeReplay Availability: The replay will be available April 27, 2023Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Do you feel like there are "people" in your head that tell you what you should be doing, must be doing, or else?Do you feel like others are watching or scrutinizing you?When you go to make a decision or do a thing, do you find yourself evaluating if it is the "right" thing to do or find yourself fixated on what others may think or feel about it?Do you feel like you don't have a right to make choices for yourself, but instead should be following a rule?These are expressions of internalize oppression of your personal authority. This is typically injected into your mind and body through "being obedient".You see, obedience is the idea that we must conform our behaviors to a set of regulations and rules set by a supposed authority outside ourselves. This is often how schools, family, and social systems work. Obedience is paired with fear and threats. That is where obedience gets its "power".IN codependency, obedience becomes the avenue for gaining a sense of acceptance, inclusion, approval, and safety. This comes at the cost of our personal power, autonomy, and really knowing ourselves.Obedience becomes a power trap, keeping you conforming to others in exchange for your vital needs of inclusion and love.Learn how to break yourself from this trap in today's episode.Breaking Obedience Practice v1:Step One: Build awareness of the obedience impulse. Use the PAO tool here: https://pao.freetheself.comStep Two: When you're aware of the obedience impulse, acknowledge it. "Ah, I see. I feel like I have to obey. What would I do if I trusted, just a bit, in my own authority to direct my actions?"Step Three: Acknowledge the answer to that and do it. Observe and record the results.Sometimes anxiety, fright, panic can emerge in this. I recommend regulation. Get the Daily Regulation Practice here: https://drp.freetheself.comSometimes shame or guilt emerges. Clear on those emotions using the clearing tools here:Shame: https://youtu.be/3Uij0WNG0_8Guilt: https://youtu.be/WoU3HTFAJUs***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts. I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.Specifically, you will learn:1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoyYou will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.Here are the workshop details:Date: April 26, 2023Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)Cost: FreeReplay Availability: The replay will be available April 27, 2023Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

The Essentials - Sanity: Do You Struggle To Believe Yourself?In abusive, harmful systems, we are taught to doubt ourselves and question our feelings, senses, and lived experiences. This is gaslighting in action. To heal our codependency, we must restore sanity back to our daily life.What is sanity?Sanity is the act of being consciously in contact with the facts in reality and operating from one's own lived experience and senses so one can make decisions that are accurate to their reality.Learn how to do this in today's episode! ***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts. I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.Specifically, you will learn:1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoyYou will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.Here are the workshop details:Date: April 26, 2023Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)Investment: FreeReplay Availability: The replay will be available April 27, 2023Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Get More Loving Relationships & Friendships With This ShiftThe shift is simple: My responsibility is to love and care for myself and choose connections with people who show they love and care for me.I am not responsible for getting people to love me, choose me, respect me, or value me. Learn how to start implementing this in today's episode!Caring for yourself: - Emotional warmth, respect, and valuing your pain and your pleasure.- Respecting your lived experiences, senses, and awareness- Respecting and following through with your boundaries- Following your values and principles- Loving yourself despite rejection, success, failure, acceptanceSignals others give off that they care about you:- Respect boundaries and shares their boundaries kindly, clearly- Responsive to complaints, requests, and corrections- Treats you with positive warm regard (doesn't assume the worst about you)- Connects with you where you're at- Shares their own feelings and perspectives kindly- Seeks consent- Expresses gratitude, concern, and mindfulness of you***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts. I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.Specifically, you will learn:1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoyYou will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.Here are the workshop details:Date: April 26, 2023Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)Investment: FreeReplay Availability: The replay will be available April 27, 2023Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

What To Do When You Have Big Resistance To Your PainResistance to pain is often vilified. It is seen as a block, a problem, a thing to solve. It becomes the problem, the hindrance that is preventing your healing and success!What if resistance was a teacher? What if it was a protector? What if it was a signal for the need for more safety?Discover how resistance is an ally in your healing and not a problem to solve in today's episode!***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts. I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.Specifically, you will learn:1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoyYou will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.Here are the workshop details:Date: April 26, 2023Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)Investment: FreeReplay Availability: The replay will be available April 27, 2023Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts. I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.Specifically, you will learn:1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoyYou will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.Here are the workshop details:Date: April 26, 2023Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)Investment: FreeReplay Availab

End The Judgment Trap: "I love you anyway" PracticeWe fix, pursue, chase and try to create healing. We are stuck in transactional relationships with our healing, ourselves, and others. Often in an effort to have worth and feel lovable. This is the trap of transactional love.Let's start breaking of this with the approach of loving ourselves anyway. Learn how in today's episode!***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts. I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.Specifically, you will learn:1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoyYou will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.Here are the workshop details:Date: April 26, 2023Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)Investment: FreeReplay Availability: The replay will be available April 27, 2023Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Real Healing vs Transactional Healing*** Bluntcake Episode ***Watch after checking with your capacity and availability for hearing information that can be confronting.***Often, we get into the healing work in order to try to fix, prevent, or cause something else to happen. This fast becomes a trap, as we start expecting specific results from our efforts. When those do not materialize, we get angry with our emotions, our efforts, ourselves, or others.It leads to a sense of defeat, frustration, and seeking different "instant healing" solutions.This is transactional healing.To really heal, we must identify and interrupt this habit and begin practicing real healing.Learn how in this episode!***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts. I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.Specifically, you will learn:1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoyYou will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.Here are the workshop details:Date: April 26, 2023Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)Investment: FreeReplay Availability: The replay will be available April 27, 2023Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

The Essentials: Warmly Welcome EmotionsToday we will practice welcoming emotions warmly and what to watch out for.***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts. I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.Specifically, you will learn:1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoyYou will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.Here are the workshop details:Date: April 26, 2023Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)Investment: FreeReplay Availability: The replay will be available April 27, 2023Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

The Rush To Forgive is A Rush To FixThe rush to forgive is a rush to fix. This is the fawn impulse driving us to regulate our distress and discomfort with their feelings, as well as try to prevent more harm happening by rescinding the accountability the other person inherited with their behaviors. Learn how I address this and help nurture more safety and personal allyship to my emotions and experience in today's episode.***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts. I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.Specifically, you will learn:1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoyYou will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.Here are the workshop details:Date: April 26, 2023Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)Investment: FreeReplay Availability: The replay will be available April 27, 2023Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Are You Ultra-Independent?Do you say, "I don't need anyone!"You are in a trap. The trap called "counter-dependence".Counter-dependence develops as a reaction to the enmeshment experience of codependency. For many, enmeshment and connection are confused with each other. The deep sense of being highly close or engulfed by another feels intense. It is often draining, overwhelming, scary, with moments of ecstacy and euphoria. It can be very, very painful.They give everything to the relationship, believing that is was is required, and that it will be reciprocated. "This is what love does!"Then that is betrayed, discarded, or goes unrecognized. This ends up hurting them deeply emotionally and relationally, and often financially. They may lose everything they've built and be left exposed, unprepared, and dealing with big challenges.This can motivate a person to move towards never "needing anyone" or "depending on anyone". This is a means to safety, to control, and to protection of one's self from the big harm and loss they've experienced.The person becomes very empowered financially and materially. They also isolate socially and emotionally, keeping opportunities at arm's length and avoiding vulnerability and connection.This is a trap, as we are left starving for emotional, physical, social, and psychological connection.Learn how to identify this trap and how to get out of it in today's episode!***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings Starts March 12, 2023]This LIVE 8-week training is for codependents, people-pleasers, and perfectionists that:- Feel like there's something crucial they're missing in their healing work- Are stuck in a circle of relapse and "trying to not be codependent"- Feel lost and frustrated not knowing what to do to get real peace and healingThere are 8 necessary factors that create lasting healing and freedom from codependency:- Safety- Sanity- Personal Sovereignty- Trust Yourself- Know Yourself- Love Yourself- Be Yourself- Share YourselfI will be teaching the essential skills and knowledge in each of these factors starting March 12, 2023 in my 8-week course, "The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings".This includes:- Origin of Codependency & Nervous System Care- Capacity & Emotional Care- Foundations of Personal Power- Foundations of Self-Trust- Fantasy and Reality- Foundations of Worth- Foundations of Knowing Yourself- Detecting Safe People & Buliding ResourcesThese eight trainings give you the crucial knowledge, tools, and practices needed to transition your codependent habits into healthy relating habits that create well-being, peace, and happiness FOR YOU.You'll be empowered to create these results because:- You'll be able to identify and neutralize your codependent fantasies and connect with reality- You'll be able to soothe and care for your anxiety, pain, grief, and other emotions- You'll be cultivating trust in yourself- You'll be discovering your real worth- You'll be starting to really know and distinguish yourself from others- You'll be able to detect and build connection with safe peopleStudents that have learned these skills report:- Feeling big relief from trying so hard to fix themselves- More confiden

Does Approval Equal Permission For You?Codependency has our authority and personal power attached to other people's perspectives, feelings, and ultimately their approval and rejection responses.This is why we often fixate on and try to control someone's approval of us. We believe it grants us permission for certain things.This permission can pertain to one's worth (I'm worthy because they love me). It can pertain to permission to do or have certain things (They like this, so it is safe for me to have).This is an externalization of our power and a centering of the other person in our personal power. They become the authority.To heal and be free of codependency, we must liberate our power by taking ownership of it.Learn how I do this in today's episode.***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings Starts March 12, 2023]This LIVE 8-week training is for codependents, people-pleasers, and perfectionists that:- Feel like there's something crucial they're missing in their healing work- Are stuck in a circle of relapse and "trying to not be codependent"- Feel lost and frustrated not knowing what to do to get real peace and healingThere are 8 necessary factors that create lasting healing and freedom from codependency:- Safety- Sanity- Personal Sovereignty- Trust Yourself- Know Yourself- Love Yourself- Be Yourself- Share YourselfI will be teaching the essential skills and knowledge in each of these factors starting March 12, 2023 in my 8-week course, "The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings".This includes:- Origin of Codependency & Nervous System Care- Capacity & Emotional Care- Foundations of Personal Power- Foundations of Self-Trust- Fantasy and Reality- Foundations of Worth- Foundations of Knowing Yourself- Detecting Safe People & Building ResourcesThese eight trainings give you the crucial knowledge, tools, and practices needed to transition your codependent habits into healthy relating habits that create well-being, peace, and happiness FOR YOU.You'll be empowered to create these results because:- You'll be able to identify and neutralize your codependent fantasies and connect with reality- You'll be able to soothe and care for your anxiety, pain, grief, and other emotions- You'll be cultivating trust in yourself- You'll be discovering your real worth- You'll be starting to really know and distinguish yourself from others- You'll be able to detect and build connection with safe peopleStudents that have learned these skills report:- Feeling big relief from trying so hard to fix themselves- More confidence in being able to acknowledge what they feel, what is happening, and act from that knowledge- More peace because they can see what is really happening- Relief because they know what to do instead of their codependency!Course Details:Here's the Class Details:Class start date: Sunday, March 12, 2023 @ 12pm Mountain TimeClass times: Sundays @ 12pm Mountain TimeWhere: Via zoomEnd date: May 7th, 2023Recordings of each class available the evening of class day.Comes with 24/7, unlimited access to the recordings and live classes.You get UNLIMITED ACCESS TO:- Live attendance (in

Do You Feel Lost Without A Relationship? Here's Why and What To Do About ItCodependency has us orienting ourselves around other people, places, and things as a means to creating safety, connection, and a sense of worth. It does this as it is a reaction to chronic unsafe relationships.If this starts in childhood, we never really learn how to orient to ourselves and become self-directed. Instead, we become lost in the worlds of others. We center our lives around them, their wants, their needs, their experience, and fail to come to know ourselves.This is one primary reason narcissistic brains and codependent brains pair up. The narcissistic brain demands to be the center of the universe. The codependent brain agrees and orbits them.When we leave that relationship, we feel lost, empty, and undefined - like we don't exist.The solution is to know yourself, and that starts with centering yourself in your life.Learn how I make this happen in today's episode:***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings Starts March 12, 2023]This LIVE 8-week training is for codependents, people-pleasers, and perfectionists that:- Feel like there's something crucial they're missing in their healing work- Are stuck in a circle of relapse and "trying to not be codependent"- Feel lost and frustrated not knowing what to do to get real peace and healingThere are 8 necessary factors that create lasting healing and freedom from codependency:- Safety- Sanity- Personal Sovereignty- Trust Yourself- Know Yourself- Love Yourself- Be Yourself- Share YourselfI will be teaching the essential skills and knowledge in each of these factors starting March 12, 2023 in my 8-week course, "The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings".This includes:- Origin of Codependency & Nervous System Care- Capacity & Emotional Care- Foundations of Personal Power- Foundations of Self-Trust- Fantasy and Reality- Foundations of Worth- Foundations of Knowing Yourself- Detecting Safe People & Buliding ResourcesThese eight trainings give you the crucial knowledge, tools, and practices needed to transition your codependent habits into healthy relating habits that create well-being, peace, and happiness FOR YOU.You'll be empowered to create these results because:- You'll be able to identify and neutralize your codependent fantasies and connect with reality- You'll be able to soothe and care for your anxiety, pain, grief, and other emotions- You'll be cultivating trust in yourself- You'll be discovering your real worth- You'll be starting to really know and distinguish yourself from others- You'll be able to detect and build connection with safe peopleStudents that have learned these skills report:- Feeling big relief from trying so hard to fix themselves- More confidence in being able to acknowledge what they feel, what is happening, and act from that knowledge- More peace because they can see what is really happening- Relief because they know what to do instead of their codependency!Course Details:Here's the Class Details:Class start date: Sunday, March 12, 2023 @ 12pm Mountain TimeClass times: Sundays @ 12pm Mountain TimeWhere: Via zoomEnd date: May 7th, 2023Recordi

Bluntcake: People-pleasing sabotages connection and belongingNote: Bluntcake episodes are more direct and firm information that can be confronting, especially when looking at one's own behaviors. Please check in with your capacity before listening or watching. Doing so helps you make an informed choice about listening to information that may bring some activation to your body. This allows you to take responsible action on your behalf on what you take into your daily experience and how it affects you.People-pleasing is the habit of doing things for others that we believe will cause them to like or choose us. It is a form of worth-seeking that is driven by a fear that rejection defines one's worth.It is one of the six core expressions of codependency. It's opposite is being yourself, asking directly for what you want, and receiving the outcomes.Learn what to do to disengage people-pleasing and make asking and sharing yourself safer and easier in today's episode!***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings]There are 8 necessary factors that create lasting healing and freedom from codependency: Safety Sanity Personal Sovereignty Trust Yourself Know Yourself Love Yourself Be Yourself Share YourselfI will be teaching the essential skills and knowledge in each of these factors starting March 12, 2023 in my 8-week course, "The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings".These eight trainings give you the crucial knowledge, tools, and practices needed to transition your codependent habits into healthy relating habits that create well-being, peace, and happiness FOR YOU.You'll create these results because:- You'll be able to identify and neutralize your codependent fantasies and connect with reality- You'll be able to soothe and care for your anxiety, pain, grief, and other emotions- You'll be cultivating trust in yourself- You'll be discovering your real worth- You'll be starting to really know and distinguish yourself from others- You'll be able to detect and build connection with safe peopleStudents that have learned these skills report:- Feeling big relief from trying so hard to fix themselves- More confidence in being able to acknowledge what they feel, what is happening, and act from that knowledge- More peace because they can see what is really happening- Relief because they know what to do instead of their codependency!Come join us and master the essential skills and knowledge that set you free from codependency.If so, join us! Here's the Class Details:Class start date: Sunday, March 12, 2023 @ 12pm Mountain TimeClass times: Sundays @ 12pm Mountain TimeWhere: Via zoomEnd date: May 7th, 2023You get UNLIMITED ACCESS TO:- Live attendance (includes all future live versions)- The recordings of the live classes- The course guide, tools, and practices- Unlimited online community support and email supportPrice is normally $297.00, but you can enroll for $149.00 till March 11th, 2023 (payment plans available)Enrollment closes March 11th, 2023 for the live class version!You can enroll here: https://hcet.freetheself.comYou can heal. All you need is the right knowledge, the right practices, with the right support, at the right time.

Capacity is the most often overlooked, underdiscussed element of safety in healing work. It is mentioned, but its role is not emphasized or prioritized.What is capacity? It is the amount of something a person can receive or contribute.Codependency creates a habit of exceeding one's capacity by ignoring it entirely due to how capacity is treated by entitled persons. It is often vilified as a terrible "limit" that is making one "selfish". It is seen as a flaw and a problem that must be fixed. Fundamentally, one's capacity is a boundary, one that promotes well-being, peace, energy, and personal prosperity when acknowledged, trusted, and followed.Learn how to detect your capacity and begin trusting it in today's episode!***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings Starts March 12, 2023]This LIVE 8-week training is for codependents, people-pleasers, and perfectionists that:- Feel like there's something crucial they're missing in their healing work- Are stuck in a circle of relapse and "trying to not be codependent"- Feel lost and frustrated not knowing what to do to get real peace and healingThere are 8 necessary factors that create lasting healing and freedom from codependency:- Safety- Sanity- Personal Sovereignty- Trust Yourself- Know Yourself- Love Yourself- Be Yourself- Share YourselfI will be teaching the essential skills and knowledge in each of these factors starting March 12, 2023 in my 8-week course, "The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings".This includes:- Origin of Codependency & Nervous System Care- Capacity & Emotional Care- Foundations of Personal Power- Foundations of Self-Trust- Fantasy and Reality- Foundations of Worth- Foundations of Knowing Yourself- Detecting Safe People & Building ResourcesThese eight trainings give you the crucial knowledge, tools, and practices needed to transition your codependent habits into healthy relating habits that create well-being, peace, and happiness FOR YOU.You'll be empowered to create these results because:- You'll be able to identify and neutralize your codependent fantasies and connect with reality- You'll be able to soothe and care for your anxiety, pain, grief, and other emotions- You'll be cultivating trust in yourself- You'll be discovering your real worth- You'll be starting to really know and distinguish yourself from others- You'll be able to detect and build connection with safe peopleStudents that have learned these skills report:- Feeling big relief from trying so hard to fix themselves- More confidence in being able to acknowledge what they feel, what is happening, and act from that knowledge- More peace because they can see what is really happening- Relief because they know what to do instead of their codependency!Course Details:Here's the Class Details:Class start date: Sunday, March 12, 2023 @ 12pm Mountain TimeClass times: Sundays @ 12pm Mountain TimeWhere: Via zoomEnd date: May 7th, 2023Recordings of each class available the evening of class day.Comes with 24/7, unlimited access to the recordings and live classes.You get UNLIMITED ACCESS TO:- Live attendance (includes all future live versions)- The recordings o

Doubt That Your Feelings Matter Or Are Valid? Here's What To DoThe Essentials: How To Feel Emotionally Safe Again - The Necessity Of Believing Your Emotions Are Valid And RealGaslighting and abuse cause us to doubt ourselves in core areas of our reality: our lived experience, our senses, our memory recall, our perception, and the validity of our emotions.When we do not believe that our feelings are legitimate or real, we begin to question our lived experiences and perceptions that cause us to feel like we're crazy.We also begin to believe that our emotions are signals that we're broken, wrong, or need fixing.This leaves us open to being manipulated and further harmed by unhealthy relationships and systems.The solution to this starts with the believing that our emotions are both real and valid. I call this practice, "legitimization".Learn how it works in today's episode!Today's tool: The A-L-I Practice. Get it here: https://ali.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts. I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.Specifically, you will learn:1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoyYou will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.Here are the workshop details:Date: February 22, 2023Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)Investment: FreeReplay Availability: The replay will be available February 23, 2023Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

"I'm not supposed to care what people think"Do you try to get yourself to stop caring about what others think about you?Do you feel like a failure when you inevitably start feeling that anxiety about what they think about you?Does it feel impossible to stop caring about what other people think about you?Congrats! You are normal!Caring what others think about us is a result of being part of an interdependent experience. We survive and thrive in collectives, not in isolation, so we have a natural concern around other people's feelings and thoughts about us.But in codependency, what others think takes on significant weight and power as we tend to enmesh our identity, worth, and safety with the approval or rejection of others.Learn what to do about this and how to properly orient your concern about what others think about you so it works for you rather than against you in today's training!***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings]There are 8 necessary factors that create lasting healing and freedom from codependency: Safety Sanity Personal Sovereignty Trust Yourself Know Yourself Love Yourself Be Yourself Share YourselfI will be teaching the essential skills and knowledge in each of these factors starting March 12, 2023 in my 8-week course, "The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings".These eight trainings give you the crucial knowledge, tools, and practices needed to transition your codependent habits into healthy relating habits that create well-being, peace, and happiness FOR YOU.You'll create these results because:- You'll be able to identify and neutralize your codependent fantasies and connect with reality- You'll be able to soothe and care for your anxiety, pain, grief, and other emotions- You'll be cultivating trust in yourself- You'll be discovering your real worth- You'll be starting to really know and distinguish yourself from others- You'll be able to detect and build connection with safe peopleStudents that have learned these skills report:- Feeling big relief from trying so hard to fix themselves- More confidence in being able to acknowledge what they feel, what is happening, and act from that knowledge- More peace because they can see what is really happening- Relief because they know what to do instead of their codependency!Come join us and master the essential skills and knowledge that set you free from codependency.If so, join us! Here's the Class Details:Class start date: Sunday, March 12, 2023 @ 12pm Mountain TimeClass times: Sundays @ 12pm Mountain TimeWhere: Via zoomEnd date: May 7th, 2023You get UNLIMITED ACCESS TO:- Live attendance (includes all future live versions)- The recordings of the live classes- The course guide, tools, and practices- Unlimited online community support and email supportPrice is normally $297.00, but you can enroll for $149.00 till March 11th, 2023 (payment plans available)Enrollment closes March 11th, 2023 for the live class version!You can enroll here: https://hcet.freetheself.comYou can heal. All you need is the right knowledge, the right practices, with the right support, at the right time.

Are you hoping someone chooses you? Are you seeking to be chosen?In codependency, these impulses to get someone to choose us is a reflection of how unchosen we were growing up.Sometimes we feel chosen by parent, but not by peers. Sometimes it is both. Sometimes it is peers, but not a parent.When this is prominent, it creates a profound sense of being less-than and that we have to compensate for this perceived lack by trying to get people to see us, value us, and choose us.People-pleasing, perfectionism, and being a high achiever are ways we try to get that to happen.Learn how to end the habit of chasing love, inclusion, and approval and what to do to get the attention, care, and inclusion you seek in today's episode.***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts. I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.Specifically, you will learn:1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoyYou will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.Here are the workshop details:Date: February 22, 2023Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)Investment: FreeReplay Availability: The replay will be available February 23, 2023Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

The Essentials: How To Feel Emotionally Safe Again - The 3 Habits That Are Causing you more painThere are three habits we do with emotions that tend to trap and inhibit their natural flow and movement through our bodies:1) We analyze them. This happens with both painful and pleasurable emotions. We do this thinking if we can understand their cause, we can stop them from happening, or create them over and over again2) We resist them. This happens with both painful and pleasurable emotions, and it is a signal that we have low capacity and high discomfort with the emotion3) We attach to them. This also happens with both painful and pleasurable emotions. This habit has us trying to keep the emotion close, alive, and constant, either as a form of protection against feeling other things, or having to navigate the loss of the emotion as it fades.These three habits create emotional paralysis and stagnation, trapping us in loops of trying to control emotions.Learn what to do instead that creates peace and emotional relief, and ends these three habits at the same time in today's episode!TOOL: Using the Pause-Acknowledge-Observe Tool will assist you in going deeper in welcoming your emotions. Get it here: https://pao.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts. I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.Specifically, you will learn:1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoyYou will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.Here are the workshop details:Date: February 22, 2023Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)Investment: FreeReplay Availability: The replay will be available February 23, 2023Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

The Essentials: How To Feel Emotionally Safe Again - Part OneCreating and nurturing safety is the first and highest priority in the healing of codependency.We need to have safety in three areas if we're to thrive in our creative and playful ambitions:1) Physical Safety2) Emotional Safety3) Relational SafetyToday is all about Emotional Safety.Codependency has us believing that safety depends on external factors, namely the physical environment and the people we interact with. This has us seeking safety through either controlling these factors or avoiding them all together.What if real safety was found within? What if real safety were a result of how we respond to the unsafe experiences we encounter?These questions led me to discover how I can resource my safety emotionally, physically, and relationally.Emotional safety is how safe one feels in:- Acknowledging their own emotions- Feeling those emotions- Acknowledging and feeling what comes after those emotions move through- Expressing or sharing those emotions- Acknowledging the emotions others communicate- Witnessing the emotions of others- Staying boundaried in their responses to the emotions of othersLearn how to start cultivating this and how to navigate the paradox of feeling safer not feeling safe in today's episode!The Tool: https://pao.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts. I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.Specifically, you will learn:1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoyYou will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.Here are the workshop details:Date: February 22, 2023Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)Investment: FreeReplay Availability: The replay will be available February 23, 2023Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Do You Struggle to "Believe In Yourself"?I did. For most of my life.I would try to talk myself up, build my self-esteem, praise my skills and achievements, only to have it collapse in the face of failure, uncertainty, or criticism.This is because believing in one's self isn't the solution. It is the result.Learn the real cause of belief in one's self and what to do to have it for yourself in today's episode!***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts. I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.Specifically, you will learn:1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoyYou will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.Here are the workshop details:Date: February 22, 2023Class Time: 11am and 6pm Mountain Time (I teach it twice for your convenience)Investment: FreeReplay Availability: The replay will be available February 23, 2023Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

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The 2-day Indomitable Worth Discovery Workshop happening January 25th - 27, 2023: https://iww.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing codependency and low self-worth? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how you can have happier relationships, prosperity, and peace without the pain of people-pleasing, perfection, being "nice", or trying to earn love: https://links.freetheself.com

The 2-day Indomitable Worth Discovery Workshop happening January 25th - 27, 2023: https://iww.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing codependency and low self-worth? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how you can have happier relationships, prosperity, and peace without the pain of people-pleasing, perfection, being "nice", or trying to earn love: https://links.freetheself.com

Are You Trying To Be Emotionally Perfect?Emotional perfection is the habit of trying to force ourselves to feel certain ways and NOT feel other certain ways.This habit is created by the belief we have to show up a certain emotional way in order to be valued, loved, cared for, or nurtured.This habit shows up as "I shouldn't feel this way" or "I should feel differently!". Somatically, it feels like pressure and force to feel different than we actually do.The way out of this trap starts with acknowledgment, then endorsement or legitimization of our emotional states.Learn more about how to do this in today's training! The 8 Factors The Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop: https://workshop.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how you can have happier relationships, prosperity, and peace without the pain of people-pleasing, perfection, being "nice", or trying to earn love: https://links.freetheself.com

The 8 Factors The Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop: https://workshop.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how you can have happier relationships, prosperity, and peace without the pain of people-pleasing, perfection, being "nice", or trying to earn love: https://links.freetheself.com

The 8 Factors The Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop: https://workshop.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how you can have happier relationships, prosperity, and peace without the pain of people-pleasing, perfection, being "nice", or trying to earn love: https://links.freetheself.com

The 2-day Indomitable Worth Discovery Workshop happening January 25th - 27, 2023: https://iww.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing codependency and low self-worth? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how you can have happier relationships, prosperity, and peace without the pain of people-pleasing, perfection, being "nice", or trying to earn love: https://links.freetheself.com

Indomitable Worth Workshop: https://iww.freetheself.com***Seeking deeper self-worth? Join the I.W. Community: https://community.indomitableworth.comSeeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how you can have happier relationships, prosperity, and peace without the pain of people-pleasing, perfection, being "nice", or trying to earn love: https://links.freetheself.com

Indomitable Worth Workshop: https://iww.freetheself.com***Seeking deeper self-worth? Join the I.W. Community: https://community.indomitableworth.comSeeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how you can have happier relationships, prosperity, and peace without the pain of people-pleasing, perfection, being "nice", or trying to earn love: https://links.freetheself.com

Indomitable Worth Workshop: https://iww.freetheself.com***Seeking deeper self-worth? Join the I.W. Community: https://community.indomitableworth.comSeeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how you can have happier relationships, prosperity, and peace without the pain of people-pleasing, perfection, being "nice", or trying to earn love: https://links.freetheself.com

Indomitable Worth Workshop: https://iww.freetheself.com***Join the I.W. Community: https://community.indomitableworth.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how you can have happier relationships, prosperity, and peace without the pain of people-pleasing, perfection, being "nice", or trying to earn love: https://links.freetheself.com

Indomitable Worth Workshop: https://iww.freetheself.com***Join the I.W. Community: https://community.indomitableworth.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how you can have happier relationships, prosperity, and peace without the pain of people-pleasing, perfection, being "nice", or trying to earn love: https://links.freetheself.com

Indomitable Worth Workshop: https://iww.freetheself.com***Join the I.W. Community: https://community.indomitableworth.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how you can have happier relationships, prosperity, and peace without the pain of people-pleasing, perfection, being "nice", or trying to earn love: https://links.freetheself.com

Indomitable Worth Workshop: https://iww.freetheself.com ***Discover how much codependency is influencing your daily life with my Codependency Assessment: https://ayc.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how you can have happier relationships, prosperity, and peace without the pain of people-pleasing, perfection, being "nice", or trying to earn love: https://links.freetheself.com***Community link: https://community.freetheself.comCommunity rules: https://rules.freetheself.com

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***Discover how much codependency is influencing your daily life with my Codependency Assessment: https://ayc.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how you can have happier relationships, prosperity, and peace without the pain of people-pleasing, perfection, being "nice", or trying to earn love: https://links.freetheself.com***Community link: https://community.freetheself.comCommunity rules: https://rules.freetheself.com