Heal Your Codependency with Marshall Burtcher

Is This Misconception Sabotaging Your Healing?In the early days of my healing, I would try tools, concepts, approaches, and practices in hopes they would change things in my relationships, life, or solve my problems.I felt frustrated, discouragement, and even resentment when this didn't happen. This is due to a misunderstanding of what healing is really about and what the tools are actually doing for you.Learn how to use your tools and practices so that you succeed in today's episode.***NURTURE is open for enrollment. Heal loneliness and emptiness and build warmth and belonging. We start March 17, 2024. Enroll here: https://nurture.freetheself.comStart your freedom and healing work with my free guide here: https://guide.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Pain Not Healing? Try These 3 ThingsHealing one's pain is a difficult, nebulous concept until we start to actually get *experience* with it. This makes healing a bit of a catch-22. I've found that there are usually three habits that are keeping the pain locked in a loop in your body, perpetuating it's cycle.Once you can identify which of these is happening in your relationship to your pain, the pain will start to change. Sometimes it gets bigger or more intense first, then begins to gradually drop if you have the right processes in place to help the body do what it does naturally: integrate and bring to rest pain.Learn what these three habits are and what to do with them when they show up so your pain can begin to ease.***FOUNDATION: ON-DEMAND EDITION is open for enrollment. Join here: https://foundation.freetheself.comStart your freedom and healing work with my free guide here: https://guide.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

The Important And Necessary Step Of Being Open And AvailableBeing open and available enables your deepest healing and reconnection to yourself to emerge and become your normal. This allows you to be able to receive and contribute in a holistic, genuine away far outside the transactional, survival nature of codependency and narcissistic systems.Listen today to learn why openness is essential and how to begin nurturing it.***The Daily Regulation Practice (DRP): https://drp.freetheself.comFOUNDATION: ON-DEMAND EDITION is open for enrollment. Join here: https://foundation.freetheself.comStart your healing journey here: https://guide.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Isn't It Time To Stop Fixing Yourself And Start Knowing Yourself Instead?I discuss the importance between fixing yourself (something is broken in who I am) and knowing yourself (what is this trying to do for me?) when it comes to our behaviors, codependency, and becoming ourselves.****Join my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Healing happens in waves, stripping away layers of programming, bringing in deeper levels of sobriety.This can be intense.I'm going to share with you how I navigate this cycle so it creates more peace, keeps you in your capacity, and allows you to integrate your discoveries with care, honesty, and commitment.***Want to learn more about thriving beyond your codependency? Take my free workshop and discover the 3 secrets that unlock your freedom, peace, and self-worth. Sign up here: https://workshop.freetheself.comConnect with me here: https://links.freetheself.com

Got Capacity?This one element is central to your peace, healing, and freedomToday we discover the central element that determines how fast we heal, how safe we feel in relationships, and even how emotionally available we are.It gives life to our boundaries and directs us in our lives.Not knowing this central element leaves us feeling lost, burned out, and enmeshed with others.Discover this central element and how to know it in today's episode!***Enrollment closes this week for FOUNDATION! Get the details and enroll here: https://foundation.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Your Sense Of Emotional Safety Depends On This...Feeling safe emotionally requires that we are able to access, acknowledge, and receive whatever is present for us emotionally.More specifically, your pain.In today's episode, I show you how to do this and what results it gives us when we do this.***Enrollment closes this week for FOUNDATION! Get the details and enroll here: https://foundation.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

What Does It Mean To Belong?We need a sense of connection, inclusion, and belonging with others and ourselves. When this is not present, we are vulnerable to exploitation, to chasing unavailable relationships, and languishing in loneliness. Further, if we do not belong to ourselves, we do not get to define who we want to be and utilize our time, energy, and resources for creating what we value and desire in our lives.Discover more understanding and begin building this in your life in today's episode!***Learn about and enroll in the January 2024 Foundation Trainings here: https://foundation.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Self-Worth Sets You FreeCodependency has us sourcing our worth from outside ourselves. We chase it through approval and by avoiding rejection. We cultivate it through pleasing others, being perfect, and trying to prove our worth.And we lose ourselves when the other rejects us, discards us, or feels disappointed in us for whatever reason.Your freedom, peace, and self-love depend on you unblending your worth from this trap. Learn how this happens in today's episode!***Learn about and enroll in the January 2024 Foundation Trainings here: https://foundation.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Do You Have Emotional Safety?Our body needs to feel safe before it can advocate for itself.Specifically, it needs to feel safe enough to acknowledge and value it's own emotions and experiences so it can know what to advocate for.Codependency attempts to create this safety by pleasing others and/or being perfect.Liberating ourselves from codependency requries us to develop new means for emotional safety.Discover what this takes in today's episode!***Learn about and enroll in the January 2024 Foundation Trainings here: https://foundation.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Codependency is a reaction to unsafe, unreliable relationships. It required us to give up ourselves to secure three specific needs. This episode dives into these three needs, the biological cause of codependency, and the essential nature of resourcing and nurturing these 3 needs in specific ways to activate our advocacy response.Discover this key knowledge and begin the journey of experiencing more freedom, peace, and belonging in your life after codependency.***Learn about and enroll in the January 2024 Foundation Trainings here: https://foundation.freetheself.comJoin my communities here: https://links.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 70-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

For 15 years, I was focused on resolving my "mental blocks".This idea that something in me was blocking my abundance, my relationships, my love, my healing, was scary yet very tantilizing.It gave me a thing to blame, a thing to target, and a thing to fix. And yet, to this day, I have never resolved one single mental block.Why?Because mental blocks are not real.What, Marshall? WHAT?Yep. Learn what is really going on in today's episode!***Enroll in the January 2024 Foundation Trainings here: https://foundation.freetheself.comThe Library: https://library.freetheself.comBecome a member of my email community here: https://connect.freetheself.comFollow my work on Facebook, YouTube, and Instagram here: https://links.freetheself.comCheck out my courses here: https://courses.freetheself.comGet the 8 Essential Tools and Practices Missing From Your Therapy And Self-help: https://essentials.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 60-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Ever feel confused, flustered, and then suddenly anxious after someone is nice, kind or caring towards you?Do you feel the tension of negative anticipation building, like waiting for the "other shoe to drop"?This reaction tells the story of how unreliable and unstable kindness has been for you in the past. It boldly shares the experience of kindness being followed up with some kind of cost or harm.You see, your body is picking up on familiar signals that existed prior to a threatening or paniful event, and it is assuming those signals are reliable precursors to predicting future threats.This is what creates the triggers we have, and why they may not make any sense at all in different situations.That confusion and anxiety that shows up is the body telling you it doesn't know if it is safe or not, or if it can trust that person and the kindness to be real and consistent.Learn how to soothe this anxiety, empower your understanding of what is real, and engage with that person and your life proactively so you create more peace, freedom, and belonging in your life in today's episode!***Enroll in the January 2024 Foundation Trainings here: https://foundation.freetheself.comBecome a member of my email community here: https://connect.freetheself.comFollow my work on Facebook, YouTube, and Instagram here: https://links.freetheself.comCheck out my courses here: https://courses.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently in my free 60-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Codependency causes us to seek love, belonging, value, and safety outside ourselves. This happens because we've experienced profound rejections of ourselves that caused us to distrust and fear ourselves.This resulted in a low availability for ourselves and maxxed out availability for others.This leads us into deep states of feeling unlovable, drained, isolated, and burned out.Learn what to do when you find yourself facing the struggle of low availability for who you are and what you need in this episode!***Become a member of my email community here: https://connect.freetheself.comFollow my work on Facebook, YouTube, and Instagram here: https://links.freetheself.comCheck out my courses here: https://courses.freetheself.comHeal for real by learning the 4-Step framework that accelerates your healing, freedom, and peace after abuse, neglect, & codependency in my free 60-minute workshop here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Let's talk about trust in the work of healing from rejection trauma and codependency, specifically trusting yourself.What does it mean to trust yourself?In my work, trusting yourself means you regard your interpretations, senses, choices, and actions to be the best-at-that-moment options.This means that mistakes or errors are also trusted because they reveal more clarity and help you refine your accuracy and effectiveness.When I trust myself at this level, all my past choices that I would do differently now become assets to empowering today's different choices. I can feel the wisdom of my past guiding my present while also being free of any internal condemnation or judgment against myself. Learn more in today's episode!***The 2024 Freedom After Codependency Promotion Is Happening! Get my courses and save up to 50% while accelerating your freedom, peace, and healing. Check out the deals here: https://2024.freetheself.comJoin the my community: https://connect.freetheself.comJoin my Facebook Community: https://community.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Your Codependency Permanently in my free 63-minute workshop here: https://3sworkshop.freetheself.com

Fear drives much of our behaviors, keeps us stuck in loops of trying to escape it, and tends to cause us to believe that most of life is scary.This is understandable, considering you've lived through very scary events and patterns. Learn today what fear is trying to do for you and how to soothe it and use it to your well-being.***The 2024 Freedom After Codependency Promotion Is Happening. Save money and time on your healing, peace, and freedom. Check it out here: https://2024.freetheself.comJoin the my community: https://connect.freetheself.comJoin my Facebook Community: https://community.freetheself.comDiscover the 3 Secrets To Healing Your Codependency Permanently in my free 63-minute workshop here: https://3sworkshop.freetheself.com

5 Things I Do When Things Get DiscouragingDiscouragement is a real, valid part of the work of healing and growing towards things we value.It happens often when when outcomes aren't happening as we're hoping and working for.It happens when our resources start to run low and we're dealing with big uncertainties.It happens when we've been doing big, hard work and not seeing the benefits yet.This shows up in healing work as:- The same intense feelings showing up again and again- Efforts to make new friendship fails over and over- Dating results in lots of no's and rejections- Trying to find new direction for your life keeps hitting walls- When nothing *seems* to be working- When we get hit with problem after problemLearn the 5 things I do to navigate discouragement in a soothing, loving way in today's episode!***This month's BreakThrough Session - Break Through The Fear Of Disappointment: https://bts.freetheself.comFree Workshop: Tired of being stuck, lost, and hopeless in your efforts to actually heal and experience real peace, freedom, and progress in your life? Join my on-demand workshop, The 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently and discover how to unlock your natural ability to heal your codependency and thrive in confidence, peace, and freedom. Click here: https://3sworkshop.freetheself.comJoin my email community to get access to more episodes, tools, my writings, and more here: https://connect.freetheself.comJoin my Facebook community for more guidance, tools, and my insights: https://community.freetheself.comFollow me on Facebook, Youtube, Instagram, TikTok, and my podcast here: https://links.freetheself.comAsk me a question and I'll respond with an episode just for you: https://ask.freetheself.com***

Ask Marshall: How Do I Trust Myself and Believe Myself More?Belief and trust in ourselves was our first natural state. We were born naturally trusting our own senses, impulses, and experiences.Self-doubt was introduced into our thinking through the reactions of others - namely shaming, questioning, criticizing behaviors, or being dismissed or ignored in what we were sharing.When others did not trust our experience and senses, we learned not to trust them, too.This distrust within ourselves creates a massive sense of anxiety, vigilance, and externally oriented validation seeking. We end up relying on the view points of others to interpret and respond to our inward and outward lives.Then, when we start to work on healing our internalized self-doubt, we encounter a trap: the sense of it feeling unsafe to trust ourselves.This sense of unsafeness can be a bit complex.We feel unsafe trusting our senses due to our past experience of having our senses invalidated.And we also feel unsafe because trusting ourselves will start to rock the boat, change our boundaries, and could destabilize our connections.We start to lose a sense of social safety in this walk.So, how do we navigate this and successfully nurture self-trust again?Learn how today's episode!***Tired of being stuck, lost, and hopeless in your efforts to actually heal and experience real peace, freedom, and progress in your life? Join my on-demand workshop, The 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently and discover how to unlock your natural ability to heal your codependency and thrive in confidence, peace, and freedom. Click here: https://3sworkshop.freetheself.comJoin my email community to get access to more episodes, tools, my writings, and more here: https://connect.freetheself.comJoin my Facebook community for more guidance, tools, and my insights: https://community.freetheself.comFollow me on Facebook, Youtube, Instagram, TikTok, and my podcast here: https://links.freetheself.comAsk me a question and I'll respond with an episode just for you: https://ask.freetheself.com***

***Tired of being stuck, lost, and hopeless in your efforts to actually heal and experience real peace, freedom, and progress in your life? Join my on-demand workshop, The 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently and discover how to unlock your natural ability to heal your codependency and thrive in confidence, peace, and freedom. Click here: https://3sworkshop.freetheself.comJoin my email community to get access to more episodes, tools, my writings, and more here: https://connect.freetheself.comJoin my Facebook community for more guidance, tools, and my insights: https://community.freetheself.comFollow me on Facebook, Youtube, Instagram, TikTok, and my podcast here: https://links.freetheself.comAsk me a question and I'll respond with an episode just for you: https://ask.freetheself.com***

Essentials: Are You Blended Or Solid In Your Sense of Self?The fawn response focuses our mind and awareness outside ourselves. In my work, I call this the External Orientation. This means we're interpreting our reality through the lens of other people, places, or things. We are not associated with ourselves and not processing reality through our own perception and lived experience.This orientation can lead us to feel diffuse, fluid, or blended with others - especially their feelings, their opinions, and their priorities.We end up taking on things that we don't actually agree with, like, or are compatible with our personal, unique well-being design. This is how we either lose ourselves or never come to really know who we are.Somatically, or in our felt-sense, this shows up as feeling undefined, partially real, incomplete, "missing something", or feeling lost and confused.Mentally, we're hyper-focused on what the "right thing is to say or do", highly concerned about the other person's perceptions (especially about ourselves, as that tends to define our worth), and we believe that we have to figure out how to make things work.No wonder we don't know who we are!The solution to this habit is simple, yet not easy to implement. I call it, "Internal Orientation".Learn what this is and how to start implementing it in your daily life in today's episode!***Tired of being stuck, lost, and hopeless in your efforts to actually heal and experience real peace, freedom, and progress in your life? Join my on-demand workshop, The 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently and discover how to unlock your natural ability to heal your codependency and thrive in confidence, peace, and freedom. Click here: https://3sworkshop.freetheself.comJoin my email community to get access to more episodes, tools, my writings, and more here: https://connect.freetheself.comJoin my Facebook community for more guidance, tools, and my insights: https://community.freetheself.comFollow me on Facebook, Youtube, Instagram, TikTok, and my podcast here: https://links.freetheself.comAsk me a question and I'll respond with an episode just for you: https://ask.freetheself.com***

Essentials: Reclaim Yourself From Enmeshment Through Connecting To Your Innate SovereigntyCodependency externalizes our sense of authority, personhood, worth, and experience. It outsources these factors to people we feel connected to and dependent on for our sense of being real, being worthy, being lovable, and being "allowed".In other words, the fawn response that drives codependent behaviors has us believing that others have an inherent authority to define our worth, who we are, and what we're permitted to be, do, or have in our personal lives.This kind of enmeshment can show up in on specific areas for a person (like being lovable as a romantic partner), or it can be pervasive across the entire person's world (like it was for me - I thought others and their feelings and perspectives defined me, especially so if they were in a position of power or authority over me).Personally, I was not raised to taught that I had any kind of sovereignty or innate autonomy over my life. Instead, I was taught to please authorities over me in order to garner worthiness, power, and permission to receive things that mattered to me.I lived in terror, believing that my worth as a person was conditional, controlled by the pleasure of others, and that what I could have in my life was either allowed or denied by external authority.My healing journey brought me to know that I have what I called, "Innate Sovereignty" or "Natural Authority".Learn what that is in today's episode!***Tired of being stuck, lost, and hopeless in your efforts to actually heal and experience real peace, freedom, and progress in your life? Join my on-demand workshop, The 3 Secrets To Healing Codependency Permanently and discover how to unlock your natural ability to heal your codependency and thrive in confidence, peace, and freedom. Click here: https://3sworkshop.freetheself.comJoin my email community to get access to more episodes, tools, my writings, and more here: https://connect.freetheself.comJoin my Facebook community for more guidance, tools, and my insights: https://community.freetheself.comFollow me on Facebook, Youtube, Instagram, TikTok, and my podcast here: https://links.freetheself.comAsk me a question and I'll respond with an episode just for you: https://ask.freetheself.com***

Why Do I Push People Away?This is a potent question, and has many possible answers.It is one I explore myself. "Why do I push away people that like me? That love me?"Or "Why do I push away success? Praise? Recognition?"This is a nearly universal reaction for people who've been neglected, been harmed, or abused.Sometimes we think it is about love, or about worthiness, or about vulnerability.And, often those are part of the reason we push others away.But they aren't the deep cause.Learn what is in today's episode!***Join my email community to get access to more episodes, tools, my writings, and more here: https://connect.freetheself.comJoin my Facebook community for more guidance, tools, and my insights: https://community.freetheself.comFollow me on Facebook, Youtube, Instagram, TikTok, and my podcast here: https://links.freetheself.comAsk me a question and I'll respond with an episode just for you: https://ask.freetheself.com***

Do I Matter? How To Cultivate A Sense Of MatteringHaving a sense of mattering to others and to yourself is crucial for well-being and belonging.It is one of our core needs.In this episode, learn what really needs to matter first in the case of healing codependency and how to start fostering that with yourself.***Join my email community to get access to more episodes, tools, my writings, and more here: https://connect.freetheself.comJoin my Facebook community for more guidance, tools, and my insights: https://community.freetheself.comFollow me on Facebook, Youtube, Instagram, TikTok, and my podcast here: https://links.freetheself.com***

Are You Knowing Your Pain, Or Ignoring Your Pain?Pain is the most neglected, denied, and avoided aspect of our lived experience. It is also the gateway into actually feeling known, loved, seen, and valued - by ourselves and by others. Today, I speak on this, its vital importance to our freedom from codependency, and how to begin nurturing care and knowing of your pain.***Join my email community to get access to more episodes, tools, my writings, and more here: https://connect.freetheself.comJoin my Facebook community for more guidance, tools, and my insights: https://community.freetheself.comFollow me on Facebook, Youtube, Instagram, TikTok, and my podcast here: https://links.freetheself.com

What Replaces Codependency As You Heal?Codependency is a strategy the body creates in order to preserve a sense of safety, connection, and self-worth within a chaotic, unsafe, unreliable relationship.The sense of danger the relationship creates for the individual activates the body's natural fawning response (aka the please-and-appease response), prompting the person to do things that make themselves more appealing to the threat - all in hopes of reducing the risk of harm, abandonment, or replacement.But before this happened, your body naturally advocated for you. You may not remember it, but there was a moment your body protested what was going on, spoke up, and confronted things. There was a moment where the word, "no", came out of your mouth naturally, without trembling or fear. There were moments where you asked, without hesitation, for something you wanted, or shared something you liked, or asked questions. You instinctively explored, played, and wondered at the world. Learn what your inner advocate is and how to start reconnecting with it in today's episode!***Join my email community to get access to more episodes, tools, my writings, and more here: https://connect.freetheself.comJoin my Facebook community for more guidance, tools, and my insights: https://community.freetheself.comFollow me on Facebook, Youtube, Instagram, TikTok, and my podcast here: https://links.freetheself.com***[The The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings Is Back! We Start September 24, 2023]Stop codependency and ignite your natural inner advocate by healing the fawn response. I help you achieve this through my 8-week program, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. We start September 24, 2023. The course is 8 weeks long (8 live classes, 2 pre-recorded modules).Class is at 12:00pm, Mountain Time.You get lifetime access to the recordings and to the live classes for this course.$297 is the investment (3-month payplan available).Enroll here: https://echt.freetheself.com

Your Pain Tells The Story of Your Lived RealityMost of my life, emotional pain meant I was either sinning, in error, or expressing some kind of flaw in my nature.I learned to see my pain this way through the reactions I received from my parents and culture. They routinely responded to my pain with:- dismissal- claims that boys don't cry- shaming of the emotion (why do you feel that way???)- annoyance at the pain- sometimes outright rage- accusation that I feel this way due to some kind of error or sin I've done (what have you done to make yourself feel this way?)These reactions led me to believe my pain was a shameful, awful thing that I should hide and should try to stop or fix entirely.I developed deep self-hatred for my pain - because my pain was hated.I broke through this programming in 2009 when I started to view my pain as the somatic expression of a story - namely the story of what I had been living through. I had been seeing how my clients pain was telling a story, and it clicked that maybe mine was, too.Learn in today's episode how pain tells the story of our lived experiences and why this is essential and key to real, lasting healing.***Join my email community to get access to more episodes, tools, my writings, and more here: https://connect.freetheself.comJoin my Facebook community for more guidance, tools, and my insights: https://community.freetheself.comFollow me on Facebook, Youtube, Instagram, TikTok, and my podcast here: https://links.freetheself.com***[The The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings Is Back! We Start September 24, 2023]Stop codependency and ignite your natural inner advocate by healing the fawn response. I help you achieve this through my 8-week program, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. You are gently guided in nurturing more safety, more connection, and more self-worth while reducing your distress, panic, and pain with practices that take around 5-10 minutes a day to complete.This program is for you if:- You struggle to say no and keep it- You struggle with shame or guilt for saying no- You constantly question your own worth- You find yourself pleasing others when you really want to be doing other things- You are stuck in your efforts to feel more freedom, more peace, more restNone of these struggles are your fault. They're the struggles that show up when you don't have the right knowledge, right tools, or right support for your healing. Come learn the knowledge, tools, and support that creates real healing, real peace, and real freedom in your life.You'll gain the crucial skills of being able to:- Identify and neutralize your codependent fantasies and connect with reality- Soothe and care for your anxiety, pain, grief, and other emotions within minutes- Trust in yourself despite other people's perspectives- Know and feel your real, innate worth even when others reject you- Really know and distinguish yourself from others easily and quickly- Have real boundaries without lots of shame or guilt- Reduce your pain and increase your peaceThis won't take massive amounts of action or time, either. Successful students spend around 2 hours for the class and 30 minutes for the practices per week and report big drops in anxiety, shame, guilt, people-pleasing, and trying to be perfect.Students also report:- Feeling big relief from trying so hard to fix themselves- More freedom in having their own feelings, perspectives, and direction- Less anxiety, shame, and guilt- Increases in peace, rest, and confidence- Feeling more sane, clear, and hopeful- Reduction in need to people-please or be perfect- Hope and confidence in their f

What Is Freeze And How Do I Work With It?The freeze response involves a state of physiological and psychological immobilization, where the person may feel unable to move, speak, or take action. This response is often considered a form of dissociation, where the individual disconnects from their immediate surroundings or emotions as a way of coping with overwhelming stress or danger.In codependency, the Freeze response can promote the use of codependent habits like conflict avoidance, people-pleasing, and lack of boundaries because the person does not want to freeze or navigate that level of hypoarousal and collapse, as it is very painful.So, how do you know you're in a freeze response:Physically, your body will feel frozen or paralyzed. Breathing will become shallow, heart rate will reduce, you may experience a rise in tension, especially in the shoulders, jaw, and neck.Emotionally, you may experience a sense of emotional numbness or emotional detachment from the situation, dissociation, cognitive confusion where decisions and thinking are difficult, and a sense of helplessness about the situationYou may experience time distortion, memory gaps, or intrusive thoughts, along with a verbal communication dropping, avoidance of eye contact, and a withdraw from social contact.How do we respond to and care for the freeze response in the body?1) Acknowledge that you're frozen and that this response is ok. "I give my body permission to be as frozen as it needs to be". This helps it feel safer and assists in the body moving from frozen to thawing2) Establish if you're physically safe by assessing your physical environment. 3) If you're safe, begin gentle movement, like a walk in the yard, allowing your awareness to recognize what is around you4) Orient a little to your body by recognizing where your feet, arms, head, torso are5) Pause and acknowledge what you're aware of. Make sure to name what shows up, as that helps the brain and body reconnect.6) Begin a daily practice of regulation (use the Daily Regulation Practice here: https://drp.freetheself.com)7) Reach out to therapists and start the process of restoring safety and connection to your life***Join my email community to get access to more episodes, tools, my writings, and more here: https://connect.freetheself.comJoin my Facebook community for more guidance, tools, and my insights: https://community.freetheself.comFollow me on Facebook, Youtube, Instagram, TikTok, and my podcast here: https://links.freetheself.com***[The The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings Is Back! We Start September 24, 2023]Stop codependency and ignite your natural inner advocate by healing the fawn response. I help you achieve this through my 8-week program, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. We start in 11 days, September 24, 2023. The course is 8 weeks long (8 live classes, 2 pre-recorded modules).Class is at 12:00pm, Mountain Time.You get lifetime access to the recordings and to the live classes for this course.$297 is the investment (3-month payplan available).Enroll here: https://echt.freetheself.com

Anatomy of Codependency Series: Fawning - How To Start Healing ItFawning happens because your body does not feel safe enough to advocate for itself. This points us to what is required for your freedom and healing: increasing your sense of safety. This happens through focusing on three specific areas: safety emotionally, reliable connection, and real self-worth.Learn how this works in today's episode!***Join my email community to get access to more episodes, tools, my writings, and more here: https://connect.freetheself.comJoin my Facebook community for more guidance, tools, and my insights: https://community.freetheself.comFollow me on Facebook, Youtube, Instagram, TikTok, and my podcast here: https://links.freetheself.com***[The The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings Is Back! We Start September 24, 2023]Stop codependency and ignite your natural inner advocate by healing the fawn response. I help you achieve this through my 8-week program, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. You are gently guided in nurturing more safety, more connection, and more self-worth while reducing your distress, panic, and pain with practices that take around 5-10 minutes a day to complete.This program is for you if:- You struggle to say no and keep it- You struggle with shame or guilt for saying no- You constantly question your own worth- You find yourself pleasing others when you really want to be doing other things- You are stuck in your efforts to feel more freedom, more peace, more restNone of these struggles are your fault. They're the struggles that show up when you don't have the right knowledge, right tools, or right support for your healing. Come learn the knowledge, tools, and support that creates real healing, real peace, and real freedom in your life.You'll gain the crucial skills of being able to:- Identify and neutralize your codependent fantasies and connect with reality- Soothe and care for your anxiety, pain, grief, and other emotions within minutes- Trust in yourself despite other people's perspectives- Know and feel your real, innate worth even when others reject you- Really know and distinguish yourself from others easily and quickly- Have real boundaries without lots of shame or guilt- Reduce your pain and increase your peaceThis won't take massive amounts of action or time, either. Successful students spend around 2 hours for the class and 30 minutes for the practices per week and report big drops in anxiety, shame, guilt, people-pleasing, and trying to be perfect.Students also report:- Feeling big relief from trying so hard to fix themselves- More freedom in having their own feelings, perspectives, and direction- Less anxiety, shame, and guilt- Increases in peace, rest, and confidence- Feeling more sane, clear, and hopeful- Reduction in need to people-please or be perfect- Hope and confidence in their futuresWe start Sunday, September 24, 2024.Course is 8 weeks long (8 live classes, 2 pre-recorded modules).Class is at 12:00pm, Mountain Time.You get lifetime access to the recordings and to the live classes for this course.$297 is the investment (3-month payplan available).Get your seat here: https://echt.freetheself.com

Therapists and self-help will often tell you that codependency is the problem and is what requires healing, but here's why that is wrong: Codependency is actually a result of a deep biological threat response in the body called "the Fawn Response". This response is triggered by chornically unsafe, unstable relationships that a person cannot separate themselves from without fearing for their survival in some way.Specifically, their body feels their sense of safety, connection, or worth is at risk if they try to advocate for themselves, such as saying no, confronting problems, speaking up for themselves, having boundaries, or even simply being their own selves.This is why codependency is a SYMPTOM - not the problem. Fawning manifests itself in classic codependent behaviors, including:1) Creating discomfort in your world to hopefully please the feelings of an abusive or neglectful spouse, partner, friend, or parent (or avoid upsetting them)2) Assuming responsibility for their emotional reactions and responses to anything3) Focusing on their emotional regulation at the expense of yours4) People-pleasing5) Fixing or rescuing people from their problems6) Attempting to control their choices so you feel comfortable7) Denying your discomfort, complaints, pain, needs, and wants8) Changing your preferences to align with theirsThese behaviors come from somatic impulses, including:- feelings of affection towards an aggressor- smiling at a perpetrator- feeling small, demour, or submissive to a person- feeling sensations of anxiety, fear, and attraction towards a person- sense of guilt and sorrow in response things that are not harmful or hurtful In our next episode, learn the 3 Necessities must be restored to your daily life for your body to stop fawning and start advocating instead.***Join my email community to get access to more episodes, tools, my writings, and more here: https://connect.freetheself.comJoin my Facebook community for more guidance, tools, and my insights: https://community.freetheself.comFollow me on Facebook, Youtube, Instagram, TikTok, and my podcast here: https://links.freetheself.com***[The The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings Is Back! We Start September 24, 2023]Stop codependency and ignite your natural inner advocate by healing the fawn response. I help you achieve this through my 8-week program, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. You are gently guided in nurturing more safety, more connection, and more self-worth while reducing your distress, panic, and pain with practices that take around 5-10 minutes a day to complete.This program is for you if:- You struggle to say no and keep it- You struggle with shame or guilt for saying no- You constantly question your own worth- You find yourself pleasing others when you really want to be doing other things- You are stuck in your efforts to feel more freedom, more peace, more restNone of these struggles are your fault. They're the struggles that show up when you don't have the right knowledge, right tools, or right support for your healing. Come learn the knowledge, tools, and support that creates real healing, real peace, and real freedom in your life.We start Sunday, September 24, 2024.Course is 8 weeks long (8 live classes, 2 pre-recorded modules).Class is at 12:00pm, Mountain Time.You get lifetime access to the recordings and to the live classes for this course.$297 is the investment (3-month payplan available).Get your seat here: https://echt.freetheself.com

How To Empathize and Keep Your Boundaries In Three StepsEmpathy in codependency often causes a person to violate their own boundaries or allow unhealthy behavior to continue with an individual.Boundaries often feel harsh and conflicting while also empathizing with the pain that a person may be expressing in an ineffective way.Use these three steps to empathize with a person while keeping your boundaries:1) Recognize and name the pain you see they're expressing2) Express care and understanding about the *pain*3) Establish or state the boundary An Example:Context: Person A is upset that Person B told them no in response to a request for time personal time with them and Person A called Person B a a name.Person B: I see you're hurt and upset about me saying no. I totally understand how that feels. It really sucks.And if you call me names, I'll step away from this conversation till you've worked through the emotions you're feeling. I'm here to listen, but I am not here to be treated that way.Notice that the pain that Person A has is validated, understood, and witnessed while the behavior is what is boundaried. This separation helps the person understand that their feelings are valid, but certain behaviors are not tolerated by Person B. You can empathize while also establishing the behavior you will tolerate and not tolerate.*** ***Join my email community to get access to more episodes, tools, my writings, and more here: https://connect.freetheself.comJoin my Facebook community for more guidance, tools, and my insights: https://community.freetheself.comFollow me on Facebook, Youtube, Instagram, TikTok, and my podcast here: https://links.freetheself.com***[The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings Start September 24, 2023]This LIVE 8-week training is for codependents, people-pleasers, and perfectionists that:- Feel like there's something crucial they're missing in their healing work- Are stuck in a circle of relapse and "trying to not be codependent"- Feel lost and frustrated not knowing what to do to get real peace and healingThere are 8 necessary factors that create lasting healing and freedom from codependency:- Safety- Sanity- Personal Sovereignty- Trust Yourself- Know Yourself- Love Yourself- Be Yourself- Share YourselfI will be teaching the essential skills and knowledge in each of these factors starting September 24, 2023 in my 8-week course, "The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings".This includes:- Origin of Codependency & Nervous System Care- Inner Awareness- Capacity & Emotional Care- Differentiation and Knowing Yourself- Fantasy and Reality- Real Worth- Being Sovereign- Boundaries 101- Pre-recorded Bonus One: Safe-People and Resourcing- Pre-recorded Bonus Two: Self-Trust FoundationThese eight trainings give you the crucial knowledge, tools, and practices needed to transition your codependent habits into healthy relating habits that create well-being, peace, and happiness FOR YOU.You'll be empowered to create these results because:- You'll be able to identify and neutralize your codependent fantasies and connect with reality- You'll be able to soothe and care for your anxiety, pain, grief, and other emotions- You'll be cultivating trust in yourself- You'll be discovering your real worth- You'll be starting to really know and distinguish yourself from others- You'll be able build real boundaries- You'll be able to detect and disengage your people-pleasing and fawning behaviorsStudents that have learned these skills report:- Feeling big relief from trying so hard to fix themselves- More

What If Triggers Are An Ally, Not An Enemy?Triggers speak for the trapped parts of ourselves that are reliving a terror in the past. They give us moments to lean in, acknowledge, and legitimize our past lived reality. They invite us to add sanity to our reality through our listening and validation of what is there. And as we love and care for them through warmth, curiosity, and inquiry, their trapped energy begins to cycle into completion bit by bit. They're not signals something is wrong with us or that we're crazy. They're the voice of unprocessed, unacknowledged, unmet parts of ourselves. Meet them. Care for them. Love them. And the terror they carry will ease.***Join my email community to get access to more episodes, tools, my writings, and more here: https://connect.freetheself.comJoin my Facebook community for more guidance, tools, and my insights: https://community.freetheself.comFollow me on Facebook, Youtube, Instagram, TikTok, and my podcast here: https://links.freetheself.com***[The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings Start September 24, 2023]This LIVE 8-week training is for codependents, people-pleasers, and perfectionists that:- Feel like there's something crucial they're missing in their healing work- Are stuck in a circle of relapse and "trying to not be codependent"- Feel lost and frustrated not knowing what to do to get real peace and healingThere are 8 necessary factors that create lasting healing and freedom from codependency:- Safety- Sanity- Personal Sovereignty- Trust Yourself- Know Yourself- Love Yourself- Be Yourself- Share YourselfI will be teaching the essential skills and knowledge in each of these factors starting May 14, 2023 in my 8-week course, "The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings".This includes:- Origin of Codependency & Nervous System Care- Inner Awareness- Capacity & Emotional Care- Differentiation and Knowing Yourself- Fantasy and Reality- Real Worth- Being Sovereign- Boundaries 101- Pre-recorded Bonus One: Safe-People and Resourcing- Pre-recorded Bonus Two: Self-Trust FoundationThese eight trainings give you the crucial knowledge, tools, and practices needed to transition your codependent habits into healthy relating habits that create well-being, peace, and happiness FOR YOU.You'll be empowered to create these results because:- You'll be able to identify and neutralize your codependent fantasies and connect with reality- You'll be able to soothe and care for your anxiety, pain, grief, and other emotions- You'll be cultivating trust in yourself- You'll be discovering your real worth- You'll be starting to really know and distinguish yourself from others- You'll be able build real boundaries- You'll be able to detect and disengage your people-pleasing and fawning behaviorsStudents that have learned these skills report:- Feeling big relief from trying so hard to fix themselves- More confidence in being able to acknowledge what they feel, what is happening, and act from that knowledge- More peace because they can see what is really happening- Relief because they know what to do instead of their codependency!Course Details:Here's the Class Details:Class start date: Sunday, September 24, 2023 @ 12pm Mountain TimeClass times: Sundays @ 12pm Mountain TimeWhere: Via zoomEnd date: November 12, 2023Recordings of each class available the evening of class day.Comes with 24/7, unlimited access to the recordings and all current and future live classes.You get UNLIMITED ACCESS TO:- Live attendance (includes all future

Blunt Cake: Are You Trying To Heal By Getting Rid Of Your Emotions?I touch on this topic frequently, as it is that important to healing and well-being.Often we're taught that we have to purge, get rid of, or fix our emotions. We're taught to see our emotions as a problem, the enemy, or something to fix.This leads us to reject our emotions, fight them, deny them, and attempt to make them behave a certain way. We end up feeling stuck, deeper in pain, and lost as to how to find peace.Real healing, real peace, and real emotional freedom depends on us being warm and available to our emotions. This means that when an emotion comes up in our awareness, we respond with warmth and welcome. "Hello, I see you. I feel you. I notice you. I am grateful you are here."This is done with all emotions - painful or pleasurable - as all are valid and important expressions from within ourselves.This reduces resistance, judgment, rejection, and denial of our emotions and helps faciliate real care for them. This allows the emotion to move through its cycle into completion so rest and peace can be found.This is NOT an easy habit to master. I start students off with a gentle practice of acknowledging what they feel and endorsing it. This helps build a habit of receiving and accepting the emotion.Another way to do this is to respond to any emotion that shows up with, "And I love you..." ***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on social media and via email, and learn more about how I heal codependency permanently even when therapy and self-help efforts have failed you: https://links.freetheself.com***The On-demand How To Heal Your Codependency Workshop is open!This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts. I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.Specifically, you will learn:1) What the actual cause of codependent behaviors is and how that unlocks permanent healing2) The 3 Necessities that drive your well-being and happiness3) The 8 factors that end codependency permanently while creating a life you enjoyYou will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week foundation Live training, The Essential Codependency Healing Trainings. These trainings guide through implementing the essential practices and concepts that nurture the 8 Factors of Well-being in your daily life.Here are the workshop details:Available 24/7Class Length: 1hr 39 minutesInvestment: FreeStar today: https://workshop.freetheself.com

To Stop Pleasing & Appeasing Others, Focus On These 3 ThingsWonder why you automatically people-please, rush to fix things when there's a problem, panic at the idea of someone being upset with you, or feel an internal pressure to avoid disappointing others?This is the fawn response in action, and it is happening because your body is perceiving a threat or anticipating a threat.The body will react to the present based on your past, re-living that past experience through the feelings, sensations, reactions, and thoughts that flood you. When you've been threatened or harmed and your body has used the fawn response to survive it, it will do that again in the future because it worked.Disengaging this response involves:1) Restoring a sense of safety by nurturing capacity for those reactions, connecting with safe community and persons, and learning to regulate back into a window of tolerance through titrated experiencing of the sensations that show up2) Processing the pain, fear, and hurt that is stuck in a loop that was created in the previous threatening events. This will involve feeling the sensations in short, bit-by-bit moments over time. As the body begins to experience a reduction in the intensity, duration, and frequency of the intense sensations that come with fawning, it will start engaging in other responses to it, including inquiry, indifference, advocacy, and even fight or flight.3) Discovering safety and who you are without the fawning response. This will likely feel uncomfortable, confusing, liberating, and even empowering. You'll find yourself experiencing more rest, more confidence, more peace, and more clarity about what you want, what you feel, and your intuitive senses will arise.This is a core feature of the Codependency Healing System. Over 35 live-taught classes, you are nurtured through each of these phases of healing through live support, effective tools, and community.Your codependency developed in relationship. Your healing and freedom develops in relationship. We heal together. We thrive together.[Annual Enrollment in The Codependency Healing System Closes Saturday Till 2024]New payment options available! Check below!This is an invitation to codependents, people-pleasers, and perfectionists who've been doing therapy or self-help, are struggling to get lasting, consistent results, and are seeking greater self-worth, peace, and freedom in being who they are without trying to figure it all out or do it on their own.You will work along with me and 74 other students over a gentle 9 months as we increase your sense of safety, connection, and self-worth through:1) Increasing your emotional safety. 2) Connecting with reality and using it to build real connection. 3) Taking back and becoming your power. 4) Discovering and embodying who you really are through knowing your innate worth. 5) Reclaim your natural ability to create connection with others and build healthy, safe, playful bonds with your fellow humans. This is achieved through The Codependency Healing System 9-month, 36-module journey.To succeed in these areas, all you will need to do is:1) Watch the recorded trainings or show up to the live versions2) Do the practices 2 - 3 times a week3) Get support when you need it.The program supports you in doing that through:- Weekly live trainings hosted and taught by Marshall- Unrivaled live support facilitated by Marshall that includes:- Twice-a-week support calls to help you as you learn these concepts and master them in your daily life- Twice-a-week homework calls to help you do the homework, get help with tools, or have a space to do the work - Twice-a-month practice sessions to help you

Achieving Success In Your Healing: Are You Stuck In The "Start-Stop" Loop of Healing?Does this sound familiar?- You buy a course, feel a burst of relief, and never open the course again?- You get a big aha from something you've read, heard, or watched. It feels like something changed, yet the same behaviors and results show up again?- You try really, really hard to get engaged in your healing work, and you find yourself distracted by other things?- You feel pressure to "do it right" and when that doesn't happen, you deflate and retreat from doing anything else?- You're waiting to take action when it "feels right" or "you have the motivation"?If so, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.This is something I do a lot. In fact, it is part of how I heal. Sounds strange, right?"This is part of how you heal?"Yep. You see, when we step into something new (a course, therapy, coaching, etc), we will encounter the momentum of our previous path. This hows up as resistance and avoidance to the new thing we're attempting to integrate into our daily lives. It is that feeling of anxiety, discomfort, or ugh we feel when we step towards that new thing.*THIS IS NORMAL TO FEEL*Why? Because your body is used to a certain cadance and rhythm. It feels safest with what is known and is has a natural resistance towards new and unknown features. Accepting this as normal empowers you to navigate it to your advantage - specifically in making the new thing a normal thing.So, how do we do that?Learn in today's episode!***The Annual Enrollment for the Codependency Healing System is OPEN. We're accepting 75 individuals on this 9-month live training journey in nurturing and increasing our individual and communal safety, connection, and individual worth.Students will leave this journey knowing how to:- Create and nurture emotional safety, relationship safety, and physical safety- Identify and connect with compatible, safe, healthy people- Recognize, understand, trust, and follow their own voice- Identify, connect to, and embody their real worth- Recognize and embody their personal power- Heal their pain through reduction and resolution practices- Increase their confidence and worth through orienting to their innate value- Communicate clearly and understand others more deeply- Create and execute boundaries that foster connection and well-being- Soothe pain and anxiety- Increase peace, rest, and safetyHere are the details:Enrollment closes August 12, 2023. THIS IS THE LAST DAY YOU CAN ENROLL FOR 2023.Class starts Monday, August 14, 2023.Class ends Monday, May 20, 2024Live Class Time: 11am Mountain TimeRecordings: Released at 6pm Mountain TimeSupport Calls: Tuesdays at 5-7pm and Thursdays 10-12pm Mountain TimePractice Calls: Sundays 7pm Mountain Time two times a monthInvestment:You must have a membership to attend these classes. Lifetime Membership with 6 Months Personal, Private Support from Marshall: $2000 (comes with 6 months private support access to Marshall, along with the Self-trust Course, Indomitable Worth System, and the Breakthrough Sessions - $3500 value)Lifetime Membership $1500 (includes the Self-trust Course, Indomitable Worth System, and the Breakthrough Sessions - $2500 value)Annual Membership: $997 (includes the Self-Trust Course - $997 value)Monthly Membership: $125 (hardship/income aware pricing is available for this. Contact us with your situation and we'll get you options)75 students total for 2023 will be admitted.Where you can sign up: https://chs.freetheself.comSeeing this in the future? Get on the wait list: https://chs.freetheself.com

It's been called "idealizing others" or "putting them on a pedastal". This is where a person perceives another to be much better than they are, including being perfect, being "the one", or having some kind of special meaning. These are positive illusionsThis habit comes from the young parts of ourselves that idealized parents, peers, and authorities. This happens as a way to try to create safety and comfort anxiety, as well as eliminate doubt or uncertainty the child doesn't know how to navigate. In trauma bonding, this is doing excessively about a person's partner, creating massive illusions and disillusions in the relationship.This is how we learned to navigate the lack of safe people in our lives - we created illusions of them.This also leads us to giving them a lot of influence, power, and responsibility over us. Often, we tend to look to people we've idealized for all the solutions and answers to our personal problems and challenges. We look to be rescued. And when they show up as the human being they are, we feel betrayed, dismayed, shocked, and disillusioned.Often, that person hasn't done anything actually harmful or abusive. In one experience from my life, the person had said no to me. And that shocked me deeply. Another person turned out they didn't like what I did. So, what do we do when this is happening?1) Recognize and acknowledge to yourself that you may be idealizing someone, especially if you make them out to be perfect, flawless, or ignore their humanity in some way2) Notice how your body feels around them. Is there euphoria? Do you feel swamped with admiration or affection? Do you find yourself pushing away things that bother you or feel uncomfortable? 3) Notice what expectations you are putting on them. Are you expecting them to act a certain way? Are you imagining them being or doing things a certain way?4) Notice what fantasies are present. Do this person bring you some kind of rescue? Are they "the one" you've been looking for? Are you finally going to get or have a specific result because they're in your life?5) Notice if you're seeing them as a human being with limits, challenges, and a life of their own. Often in idealization, we do not acknowledge that the other person is literally just a human being like ourselves. 6) Begin to normalize the person by identifying with them as a fellow human being. See their limits. Acknowledge things you may not like about them. Acknowledge that they have no responsibility to your expectations or fantasies about them. Start to visualize them as an equal to you. You two are both human beings. No more, no less.7) Process your feelings of disappointment or hurt with a therapist or qualified mentor. This will help you to start seeing others and yourself more objectively and realistically.This starts the process of becoming more sober and connected with reality. Doing so empowers your ability to heal, to choose better relationships, and discover your own well-being and fulfillment.***The Annual Enrollment for the Codependency Healing System is OPEN. We're accepting 75 individuals on this 9-month live training journey in nurturing and increasing our individual and communal safety, connection, and individual worth.Students will leave this journey knowing how to:- Create and nurture emotional safety, relationship safety, and physical safety- Identify and connect with compatible, safe, healthy people- Recognize, understand, trust, and follow their own voice- Identify, connect to, and embody their real worth- Recognize and embody their personal power- Heal their pain through reduction and resolution practices- Increase their confidence and worth

These two commitments assist you in staying free of codependency impulses and help you orient back to your well-being. *** Workshop link: https://workshop.freetheself.com Codependency Healing System: https://chs.freetheself.com

How I Nurture Emotional Safety And You Can, TooEmotional safety is an essential factor in creating and sustaining your ability to heal and thrive in your daily life - especially beyond codependency.What is emotional safety? It is knowing that your emotions are safe to acknowledge, feel, and care for AND they'll be cared for and supported by those around you, too. it is a you-and-others experience (also known as interdependent experience).Emotional safety is the first core focus I teach in the Codependency Healing System. We spend 10 weeks on it alone!Learn how I resource this in my life in today's episode!***The Annual Enrollment for the Codependency Healing System is OPEN. We're accepting 75 individuals on this 9-month live training journey in nurturing and increasing our individual and communal safety, connection, and individual worth.Students will leave this journey knowing how to:- Create and nurture emotional safety, relationship safety, and physical safety- Identify and connect with compatible, safe, healthy people- Recognize, understand, trust, and follow their own voice- Identify, connect to, and embody their real worth- Recognize and embody their personal power- Heal their pain through reduction and resolution practices- Increase their confidence and worth through orienting to their innate value- Communicate clearly and understand others more deeply- Create and execute boundaries that foster connection and well-being- Soothe pain and anxiety- Increase peace, rest, and safetyHere are the details:Enrollment closes August 12, 2023. THIS IS THE LAST DAY YOU CAN ENROLL FOR 2023.Class starts Monday, August 14, 2023.Class ends Monday, May 20, 2024Live Class Time: 11am Mountain TimeRecordings: Released at 6pm Mountain TimeSupport Calls: Tuesdays at 5-7pm and Thursdays 10-12pm Mountain TimePractice Calls: Sundays 7pm Mountain Time two times a monthInvestment:You must have a membership to attend these classes. Lifetime Membership: $2000 (comes with 6 months private voxer mentoring with Marshall)Annual Membership: $997 (includes the Self-Trust Course)Monthly Membership: $125 (hardship/income aware pricing is available for this. Contact us with your situation and we'll get you options)75 students total for 2023 will be admitted. 50 seats are currently open.Where you can sign up: https://chs.freetheself.com

Not Sure What To Do? Use These 4 Questions To Get Direction.Four questions for codependents to ask themselves when encountering situations in their lives:1) What am I aware of in my body and senses?2) Who do I want to be in this situation?3) What principles do I want to prioritize in this situation?4) What outcome am I willing to live with?These help you interrupt the codependent impulses to please, fix, absorb, or perform. This interruption creates space to orient to yourself and inquire into your own wisdom, senses, and lived experience.Each question works best when you're practicing the habit of pause-acknowledge-observe (P-A-O). This helps you start to sense into and listen to your body and somatic/felt-sense wisdom.May this add to your journey.Note: Quick-lists & Infographics are snapshots on a concept or topic. They are, by nature, limited in their scope. It is entirely expected that the quick-list does not cover everything or may lack certain nuances. Keep that in mind while using them.Get it here: https://freetheself.com/library/library/the-4-questions/Find more on Instagram at @healyourcodependency #codependency #healing #trauma #relationships #boundaries***Join the How To Heal Your Codependency Permanently Workshop happening July 29, 2023 and get the roadmap to increasing your freedom, peace, and confidence while reducing people-pleasing, perfectionism, anxiety, and shame.Get your free seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on YouTube, Instagram, my Podcast, and via email: https://links.freetheself.com***Submit questions for the YouTube Live Friday Question Sessions. Submit them here: https://ask.freetheself.com

Do You See Yourself As A Real Person? Essentials: Taking Back Your PersonhoodAbuse and neglect rob us of being a person - a being that is recognized as having inherent worth, limits, boundaries, desires, dislikes, needs, and perspectives.We are often conditioned to see ourselves (and others to some degree) as objects that perform a function and a benefit.This kind of conditioning is especially pronounced in narcissistic family systems and cultural systems. The impact is that we are unable or partially able to access, understand, and execute our sense of being "who I am". Instead, we're seeking external queues and feedback to direct who we should be and shouldn't be. This creates perfectionism and people-pleasing behaviors and impulses.The work here is to take back your personhood - or more specifically:- Redirect your attention to your internal self- Prioritize your awareness and senses over what others prefer- Trust yourself first, especially your senses and awareness- Utilize your power to choose and act for your well-being first- Occupy space, disappoint others, and take action on what you need or want despite what others sayThis all starts with acknowledging your inherent legitimacy.Learn how to do this in this week's Heal Your Codependency episode!***Join the How To Heal Your Codependency Permanently Workshop happening July 29, 2023 and get the roadmap to increasing your freedom, peace, and confidence while reducing people-pleasing, perfectionism, anxiety, and shame.Get your free seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on YouTube, Instagram, my Podcast, and via email: https://links.freetheself.com***Submit questions for the YouTube Live Friday Question Sessions. Submit them here: https://ask.freetheself.com

Loving yourself is difficult because you've been trained to believe love is transactional, earned, and conditional.In my work, real worth and love of self doesn't have conditions. These are unconditional and independent of all rules or justifications.It is a radical concept to consider. And it is one that each person must discover for themselves. Learn the question I give each of my students that starts this discovery off in their personal life in today's 3-minute Insight.Join the workshop mentioned here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

Today a student had a question about healing in today's Homework Hours (a live call I offer my students in the Heal Your Codependency Membership).It inspired this dialog about the "layers of the onion" metaphor often used in healing work. What are these layers actually?I've found they tend to be three things:1) The coping mechanisms that we've used to tolerate and live with the pain and meaning we carry 2) The meaning we've created about why something has happened and what it may mean about ourselves and who we are3) The two pains: The pain we feel when we believe the meaning and the pain of the events we've experienced Knowing this can help you begin to understand what is showing up for you and help you better navigate it.Here's a starting point for this:1) For coping mechanisms, I recommend starting with pausing, acknowledging, and observing the impulse those mechanisms have. Allow yourself to get to know its features, its message, and what it is trying to do for you2) For meaning, I recommend pausing, acknowledge, and observing the meaning for a little while (like a week or so), and then begin to shift your relationship to the experience by describing it as an experience. For example: "I am alone because I'm not lovable" is a meaning. Shifting this to an experience viewpoint will show up as, "I feel unlovable because I've been alone so much. It hurts so much not to be included. I'm really sad."Notice the difference in how that feels. It can open your mind and body up to deep healing when we view our pain through the lens of it being an experience rather than a defining event.3) For the two pains, we start with pause, acknowledge, observe, and then move into legitimizing that pain and real, valid, and welcome. Then we let it take up space and be known in short bursts of exposure. This helps the pain reduce in intensity and duration. This is why healing typically feels very layered, complex, and a bit of a mess. There is a lot happening in the body and mind as we turn towards our pain and build warmth and safe-enoughness for it to begin processing and integrating.

Why Can't I Just Accept Myself?Have you struggled to "just accept yourself?"Do you feel a resistance, a judgment, or sense of "but I'm not acceptable!"?This is common for people who have suffered through frequent criticism, critiquing of themselves, and rejection from family, peers, or community.These patterns of rejection taught that person see themselves as unacceptable or unwanted.This becomes encoded in the body as sensations of shame, loathing, and resistance towards themselves.In the mental realm, habits of comparing yourself to others, magnifying the undesirable differences, and then telling yourself you should be "xyz" develop. This compounds the felt-sense of being "wrong" in some way. No wonder it is so darn difficult to accept yourself.So, how does one get to real acceptance?I start students off with acknowledging the PAIN they've experienced in being rejected, criticized and critiqued.Often that pain is laced with shame, fear, anxiety, and confusion. These are valid, natural reactions to repetitive rejection and criticism. This view of legitimacy can help you begin to shift your narrative about yourself from "I'm unacceptable because..." to "I felt unaccepted and it hurt. I felt shame about myself in response to their criticism and felt like hiding myself away."This is acceptance in action, as you're embracing your lived reality with warmth, care, and curiosity. ***Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly practices, tools, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on YouTube, Instagram, my Podcast, and via email: https://links.freetheself.com***Submit questions for the YouTube Live Friday Question Sessions. Submit them here: https://ask.freetheself.com***[The 8 Factors That Heal Codependency Permanently Workshop]This 1-day training is for codependents, perfectionists, and people-pleasers who have struggled to find healing in their private therapy or self-help efforts and are ready for indepth healing, peace, and freedom. I will show you why your efforts to heal from codependency haven't worked, why that is NOT your fault, and I will give you my proven strategy that makes ends your needs for codependency permanently.Specifically, you will learn:1) The real cause of codependency and how that is crucial to your lasting freedom and healing2) The three hidden needs codependency is trying to satisfy and how these play a central role in lasting healing3) The 8 factors you must have in your healing work to successfully end your dependence on codependent behaviors to survive and thrive4) My strategy that implements the 8 Factors with gentleness, warmth, and careYou will also receive your opportunities to enroll in my 8-week Live training, The Healing Codependency Essential Trainings, which help you begin to implement the 8 Factors in your daily life.Here are the workshop details:Date: Saturday, July 29, 2023Class Time: 12pm Mountain TimeInvestment: FreeReplay Availability: The replay will be available the evening of July 29, 2023Reserve your seat here: https://workshop.freetheself.com

This One Practice Unlocks Your Actual HealingOften we respond to our pain with judgment, with force, with denial.In fixing, we take on the pain as a thing to correct, alter, eliminate, or change.Warmth, curiosity, and care are the ways pain is received in my work.What does warmth mean?It means the person with the pain turns towards the pain concern and care (much like a parent does towards a hurting child or how one might treat a hurting friend, person, or pet). There's an interest in what is happening for that part of themselves and an openness and willingness to see, hear, and receive what is there.This warmth shows the body and your inward parts of self that they matter, they're heard, and they're valued. This creates more safety and more ease in the body and mind, empowering it to continue to process and integrate.This warmth is something I personally grant to all my emotions and feelings, including shame, guilt, resentment, anger, jealousy, envy and more. This has helped me feel safer with myself and safer being engaged in my own inner world. There's no threat of judgment or exile through rejection. It is ok.Learn more about this in today's episode!Ready to experience real healing for yourself?Come join us for eight weeks of training and practice in nurturing your healing, and then ongoing practice support beyond the classes themselves. This is all happening in the Actually Heal Trainings.We start July 9th. Enrollment closes Friday, July 7th.You've got two enrollment options: Course-only for $297. This includes ONLY the live classes, the recordings, the course guide, and the Codependency Healing Meditations & Tools Library. There are no practice sessions, support calls, or advanced trainings included.The Membership for the special Eggs-Are-Expensive Rate of $75 a month, $797 a year, or $1500 Lifetime Access (Rates return to the normal $125 a month, $997 a year, $2000 lifetime July 10th, 2023). This includes practice sessions, twice-a-week support calls, advanced trainings, and emotion processing sessions.Only 50 people will be admitted this round (next round is in December for this course).Check below for enrollment info!Get the details and enroll here: https://www.actuallyheal.com***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on YouTube, Instagram, my Podcast, and via email: https://links.freetheself.com***Submit questions for the YouTube Live Friday Question Sessions. Submit them here: https://ask.freetheself.com

Why Mindset Is Not Healing Your PainFrom 2003 through 2009 I was a mindset junkie. I was constantly working on changing how I thought, how I perceived things, and how I interpreted the experiences I had.I found this to be partially helpful, as it helped me learn how to nurture curiosity and begin to disconnect from reacting to all my thoughts as though they're real.But what didn't change was how my body was reacting to situations, nor the anxiety or shame I was drowning in. I wasn't actually healing.I was learning how to cope.In 2009, I started to comprehend through experience how it was the body that was the center of the pain and the healing. It was what needed care, nurture, and support in accessing, processing, and integrating what it had lived through at the body's level of reality (I call it the Somatic Realm).You see, the energy the body experienced through sensations, feelings, and impulses didn't get fully processed so it could reach a state of completion or resolution. Instead, it got stuck in a loop that created the anxiety that became my constant shadow, the shame that haunted and tormented me, and the fear that stalked me in my thoughts.The thoughts and perceptions in my mind were actually produced by this unprocessed energy, and when I started processing it and integrating it, the shame thoughts, fear thoughts, and constant anxiousness reduced overall and even began stopping entirely in certain focuses on my life. Then emerged a natural mindset of curiosity, playfulness, and openness. This is why mindset is not healing your pain - because it is the wrong tool being applied to the wrong challenge. Bring healing to the body and the mind will change.Ready to experience real healing for yourself?Come join us for eight weeks of training and practice in nurturing your healing, and then ongoing practice support beyond the classes themselves. This is all happening in the Actually Heal Trainings.We start July 9th. Enrollment closes Friday, July 7th.You've got two enrollment options: Course-only for $297. This includes ONLY the live classes, the recordings, the course guide, and the Codependency Healing Meditations & Tools Library. There are no practice sessions, support calls, or advanced trainings included.The Membership for the special Eggs-Are-Expensive Rate of $75 a month, $797 a year, or $1500 Lifetime Access (Rates return to the normal $125 a month, $997 a year, $2000 lifetime July 10th, 2023). This includes practice sessions, twice-a-week support calls, advanced trainings, and emotion processing sessions.Only 50 people will be admitted this round (next round is in December for this course).Check below for enrollment info!Get the details and enroll here: https://www.actuallyheal.com***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on YouTube, Instagram, my Podcast, and via email: https://links.freetheself.com***Submit questions for the YouTube Live Friday Question Sessions. Submit them here: https://ask.freetheself.com

Are You Emotionally Auditing Yourself?Are you trying to choose the "right" emotional response to what you're experiencing?When you experience something upsetting, activating, pleasurable, or emotional, do you find yourself wondering what the "right" emotion is and what you "should be feeling?"This comes from attempting to find the emotional response that will either please or regulate the other person.In chronically toxic relationships, this habit was essential to surviving and tolerating it. It is an expression of the fawn response.When healing, this habit keeps you lost to yourself and inhibits your ability to notice, process, and integrate your real, lived experience.You can't heal.Further, choosing the "right" emotional response divorces you from your innate awareness, intuition, and guidance. In my work, all responses are regarded as "good" and all are inherently legitimate and real. This premise allows you to access your personal experience and reality. Doing so helps you heal your access to yourself, personify yourself, and make your lived reality *real* to you.This unlocks your actual healing, as you're able to process, integrate, and then choose differently for yourself.NOTE: real healing includes new choices and actions, not just reduction or resolution of emotional pain.Ready to experience real healing for yourself?Come join us for eight weeks of training and practice in nurturing your healing, and then ongoing practice support beyond the classes themselves. This is all happening in the Actually Heal Trainings.We start July 9th. Enrollment closes Friday, July 7th.You've got two enrollment options: Course-only for $297. This includes ONLY the live classes, the recordings, the course guide, and the Codependency Healing Meditations & Tools Library. There are no practice sessions, support calls, or advanced trainings included.The Membership for the special Eggs-Are-Expensive Rate of $75 a month, $797 a year, or $1500 Lifetime Access (Rates return to the normal $125 a month, $997 a year, $2000 lifetime July 10th, 2023). This includes practice sessions, twice-a-week support calls, advanced trainings, and emotion processing sessions.Only 50 people will be admitted this round (next round is in December for this course). 44 seats remain as of today, June 27th. Check below for enrollment info!Get the details and enroll here: https://membership.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on YouTube, Instagram, my Podcast, and via email: https://links.freetheself.com***Submit questions for the YouTube Live Friday Question Sessions. Submit them here: https://ask.freetheself.com

How Do I Know I Am Actually Healing?Real healing has signals and milestones. These show up through the changes the mind and body have towards past, present, and future experiences. In the Actually Heal Trainings, we focus on four specific signals of real healing:1) The gap between where you were and where you are2) The reduction of pain, reactivity, or intensity a person notices after completing a processing session (usually noticed within a few days or weeks)3) A change in how you respond to, interpret, and handle stimulus (feelings, situations, events, etc)4) The resolution of the pain, leaving a sense of stillness, closure, peace, or indifference around the previously activating topic, situation, or eventLearn how to detect these signals in today's episode!***Ready to experience real healing for yourself?Come join us for eight weeks of training and practice in nurturing your healing, and then ongoing practice support beyond the classes themselves. This is all happening in the Actually Heal Trainings.We start July 9th. Enrollment closes July 7th.Enroll by getting your membership for the special Eggs-Are-Expensive Rate of $75 a month, $797 a year, or $1500 Lifetime Access (Rates return to the normal $125 a month, $997 a year, $2000 lifetime July 10th, 2023).Only 50 people will be admitted this round (next round is in December for this course). 45 seats remain as of today, June 27th. Get the details and enroll here: https://membership.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on YouTube, Instagram, my Podcast, and via email: https://links.freetheself.com***Submit questions for the YouTube Live Friday Question Sessions. Submit them here: https://ask.freetheself.com

Are You Doing The Spaghetti Approach To Healing?I call it: the spaghetti-healing approachThis is where you try out a series of random tools in hopes something sticks (or works). I did this for nearly 8 years of my healing journey, causing myself deep pain, anguish, fear, and frustration. I often wondered if something was wrong with me because these tools weren't doing anything for the pain, anxiety, shame, guilt, or trauma I was living with.But a part of me was sensing that it wasn't me, and it wasn't the tools. This is when I learned about having the right tools in the right order at the right time. You see, emotional healing requires certain conditions to exist within the person's mental and somatic/body realms to work.First priority is always safety, specifically, feeling safe enough to actually access, process, and integrate the energy and sensations of what one has lived through. When I introduced this into my own healing work, I experienced a sudden reduction in resistance to healing and changing, and started noticing my pain was reducing and staying in that reduced state as I used other tools in combination with nurturing that sense of safety.The second priority is curiosity, namely, curiosity about what you're discovering during and after processing. This step helped me eliminate the habit of outcome seeking and, instead, connect with what was really happening for me as I processed. The third priority is inquiry. Generally, we are made up of an internal family of selves, often called "parts". I refer to them as Aspects Of Self, as they comprise our sense of self. Actual healing depends on knowing what the aspects of self-involved need and want. Learning how to ask them, hear them, and communicate with them is key to long-lasting reduction and resolution of any persistent emotional pain.Fourth is care (sounds strange, right?) Care comes in play here because you'll know what is needed and what is happening. This way, your care has precision, meaning it creates the impact that you actually need. These four priorities create the structure that I use in all of my work to facilitate safe, resilient healing and change for students.This is what you'll master in the Actually Heal Trainings that start July 9th!Ready to experience real healing for yourself?Come join us for eight weeks of training and practice in nurturing your healing, and then ongoing practice support beyond the classes themselves. This is all happening in the Actually Heal Trainings.We start July 9th. Enrollment closes July 7th.Enroll by getting your membership for the special Eggs-Are-Expensive Rate of $75 a month, $797 a year, or $1500 Lifetime Access (Rates return to the normal $125 a month, $997 a year, $2000 lifetime July 10th, 2023).Only 50 people will be admitted this round (next round is in December for this course). 45 seats remain as of today, June 27th. Get the details and enroll here: https://membership.freetheself.com

#bluntcake This is one that took me a good while to embrace. Go gently.You are not entitled to anyone's acceptance. And you are not entitled to people's lack of disappointment with you.Accepting this was very difficult. It brought up a lot of anger, hurt, and fear."But then what happens to me? I'll be alone!"This statement from within myself speaks to the trauma of being stuck in transactional relationships. I had never known being liked, chosen, or valued for who I am. My relationship experience was mostly being useful to others.Through the processing of this pain, I gained enough embodied safety and capacity to actually embrace and understand that I could be chosen, valued, and loved for who I am. My work was to start doing that with myself, and then bring closer those that showed me that kind of love and acceptance, too.Creating this embodied safety and healing is the work we'll be starting in the Actually Heal Trainings that begin July 9th. Join us and create a happier tomorrow for you. Details here: https://membership.freetheself.com***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on YouTube, Instagram, my Podcast, and via email: https://links.freetheself.com***Submit questions for the YouTube Live Friday Question Sessions. Submit them here: https://ask.freetheself.com

Isn't it healthy to have certain expectations?In healing your codependency, your understanding of what expectations really are and how we use them to foster well-being and happiness must shift.For most, expectations seem like a logical, normal, healthy factor in relationships. In my work, expectations are the center of a lot of conflict, misunderstanding, and unnecessary pain. This stops when you shift from expectations to desires and standards.Learn what this means and how to do it in today's episode!***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Connect with me on YouTube, Instagram, my Podcast, and via email: https://links.freetheself.com***Submit questions for the YouTube Live Friday Question Sessions. Submit them here: https://ask.freetheself.com***[The Actually Heal Trainings Are Open For Enrollment]Discover how to stop fixing your pain and actually heal instead. This means feeling a noticible reduction in pain, and even resolution of hurts and traumas. This also means feeling more peace, more emotional and mental space, more confidence in yourself, more clarity about what you want and desire, more ease in taking action towards your desires, facing risk, and actually enjoying your life.I teach you how to do reduce and resolve the pain that's been in the way of your peace and happiness in my 8-week Actually Heal Trainings. Specifically, you will learn:- How to regulate and soothe the body to increase safety for healing- How to build warm capacity and space for your pain to be witnessed and cared for while feeling safer and within your window of capacity using the C.I.C. Framework- How to start believing that your feelings and lived experiences actually matter so you're able to actually heal- How to recognize, connect with, and understand your inner parts of yourself so they can get the healing and care they need- How to escape the fixing trap and stay clear of trying to control the outcomes of your healing efforts- How to master being your own warm witness to your pain and hurts- How to build safety through resourcing people, places, and things that contribute to your sense of safety- How to bring resolution to pain by fulfilling the action impulse the body has for that painYou will be supported throughout this process with:- Twice-a-month live group processing practices with Marshall and other students- Twice-a-week support calls for both the homework and life in general with Marshall and other students- Twice-a-month practice sessions where you can practice live with Marshall and other students the tools you're learning in the trainingsThis will be taught via eight trainings:Module One: Fixing Vs Actual HealingModule Two: Capacity-directed HealingModule Three: Believing Yourself AgainModule Four: Aspects of SelfModule Five: Inquiry & ResourcingModule Six: Warm Witness & CareModule Seven: Untangling Your Pain From MeaningModule Eight: Impulse Processing and Next StepsAnd you'll be supported through ongoing practice and processing sessions.These eight trainings give you the framework for actually healing your pain and hurts, and can be used with any toolset or modality you prefer (like EFT, EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, etc).Students that have learned these skills report:- Feeling big relief and peace- Relief from shame, guilt, and a sense of being broken- A greater sense of resolution to their pain and traumas- More resiliency and confidence as they know how to care of the pain the

"How Do You Manage Escapism, Marshall?"Firstly, what is escapism?It is the tendency to seek distraction and releif from painful realities. In codependency, escapism shows up as:1) Being hyperfocused on the realities of others, their feelings, and their lives (so you can escape your own emptiness, loneliness, or pain)2) Medicating emotional pain through food, sex, needlessness, work, productivity, and avoiding conflict3) Fantasies about finding "the one", being made complete in a relationship, or being rescued and finally loved a specific way4) Actively denying and ignoring your pain and your emptiness. Everything is "fine"5) Seeking to regulate and rescue others in hopes they'll rescue youWhat ways has escapism showed up for you?Now, what do we do to manage this? Escapism signals that you are low on resources to help you navigate pain and create more nurturing patterns in your daily life. Specifically, you will need to:1) Learn How To Sooth Pain: Learn how to bring soothing and care to pain and to distress in the body through nervous system care and emotional processing2) Build Connections: With support communities, play communities, friendships, and nurturing bonds3) Reconnection with Reality: Confront your fantasies, deconstruct them, and reconnect with what is reality through soberly acknowledging to the facts of your reality and acting appropriately from that information4) Build, practice, and master well-being skills: This involves creating new, lasting skills that soothe and care for your pain, nurture your needs and wants, and foster your well-being through community, purpose, and self-loyaltyI help you make this a reality in the Heal Your Codependency Membership.Our first training series starts July 9th: The Actually Heal Trainings.Care for and bring peace to your pain and hurts using the Curiosity-Inquiry-Care Framework. Enrollment opens June 26th. Get on the waitlist here: https://www.actuallyheal.com***Seeking help in healing codependency? Join The Heal Your Codependency Community and get access to weekly experiments, practices, and support in your healing journey: https://community.freetheself.com***Submit questions for the YouTube Live Friday Question Sessions. Submit them here: https://ask.freetheself.com***Connect with me on YouTube, Instagram, my Podcast, and via email: https://links.freetheself.com