Good Is In The Details

In 1990, 55% of American adults reported having sex weekly. By 2024 that number had fallen to just 37%, and among adults aged 18–29, the share reporting no sex at all in the past year has doubled, from 12% to 24%. We are in the middle of a sex recession. And most of us have no idea why, or what to do about it. In this special episode of Good Is In The Details (recorded live at Podapalooza, a one-day podcast matching event) host Gwendolyn Dolske sits down with Xanet Pailet: nationally recognized sexuality educator and coach, somatic sexologist, and bestselling author of Living an Orgasmic Life: Heal Yourself and Awaken Your Pleasure, a former NYC healthcare lawyer who lived in a sexless marriage for over two decades before experiencing her own sexual healing and dedicating her career to helping others do the same. It's philosophy of intimacy, and genuinely useful psychology all in one conversation. What we explore in this episode: What's actually driving the sex recession, from smartphones and "bedtime procrastination" to the collapse of in-person socializing (young adults in 2024 spend less than half as much time with friends as they did in 2010) and what it means for our relationships. Why inadequate sex education and overexposure to pornography are creating unrealistic expectations and disconnecting people from genuine intimacy, and what healthy sexual education actually looks like. How bad early sexual experiences create lasting somatic patterns that shut people down, and what it takes to heal them. The common thread running through every healthy, intimate long-term relationship, and why most couples never talk about it. How to get unstuck in a long-term relationship that has lost its spark: practical, evidence-based, and compassionate strategies from a coach who has helped hundreds of couples. Why sexual expression is inseparable from emotional needs, and what happens to both partners when those needs go unaddressed for years. Whether you're in a long-term relationship that's lost its spark, navigating your own relationship with desire and intimacy, or simply trying to understand why an entire generation seems to be opting out of sex, this episode will give you a new framework for thinking about one of the most fundamental human experiences. About the format: This episode was recorded at Podapalooza — a live podcast matching event where hosts and guests connect in real time, no pre-research, no prepared talking points. What you hear is a genuinely spontaneous conversation. Sometimes the most honest episodes are the unplanned ones. Guest: Xanet Pailet: nationally recognized sexuality educator and coach, bestselling author of Living an Orgasmic Life, certified Somatica Sex and Intimacy Coach, Somatic Sexologist, Holistic Pelvic Care Practitioner, Tantra Educator, and Somatic Experiencing Trauma practitioner. Faculty at 1440 Multiversity, Ecstatic Living Institute, and the Somatica Institute. Based in Asheville, North Carolina. Good Is In The Details is hosted by Gwendolyn Dolske, Ph.D. and Rudy Salo — a philosophy, books, and ideas podcast exploring the examined life in the spirit of Socrates. Learn more about Xanet's work: https://www.passionateintimacyretreats.com Join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/c/GoodIsInTheDetails Get your copy of Interview with Intention on Amazon Get starting on your own podcast with Gwendolyn's class on thinkific: "How to Create Your Podcast" Get in touch: https://www.goodisinthedetails.com

Every time you turn on your phone, you're building a case against yourself. You just don't know it yet. Your Ring camera. Your Google searches. Your Alexa. Your 23andMe DNA. Your fitness tracker. The apps running silently in the background. Every one of these generates data, and every one of them can be accessed by police and prosecutors with a warrant. And warrants, it turns out, are easy to get. In this episode of Good Is In The Details, Gwendolyn Dolske and Rudy Salo sit down with Professor Andrew Guthrie Ferguson — Professor of Law at George Washington University, national expert on surveillance technology and the Fourth Amendment, former public defender, and author of Your Data Will Be Used Against You: Policing in the Age of Self-Surveillance (NYU Press, 2026) — for one of the most urgent conversations we've ever had on this show. The central problem Professor Ferguson identifies is one that should concern every person who owns a smartphone: technology has outpaced the law by a generation. The Fourth Amendment, designed to protect against unreasonable search and seizure, was written for a world that could not have imagined the Panopticon we've voluntarily built around ourselves. In Philosophy of Law, Political Theory, and Philosophical accounts of Ethical Uses of Technology, themes concerning autonomy, public good, and individual rights vs the rights of the state underscore this contemporary topic. What we get into in this episode: Why smart devices are surveillance devices and what that means for how you think about every gadget in your home. How apps, Ring cameras, AI, Google searches, and DNA databases like 23andMe are already being used as evidence in criminal prosecutions What "probable cause" means in a world where law enforcement can access months of your location history, your heartrate during a protest, and your late-night search history Why the Fourth Amendment's current limits tilt the balance of power too far toward prosecutors and police — and what it would take to fix it. The philosophical question underneath all of it: what does privacy even mean anymore — and is it worth fighting for? Why creating data and having that data used against you are not the same thing — and why that distinction is the most important legal argument of our digital moment. What you can actually do to minimize your exposure and why Professor Ferguson believes we can still advocate for something better Whether you're interested in law, technology, civil liberties, ethics, philosophy of privacy, or simply want to understand what's actually happening to your data — this episode will change how you think about every device you own. Guest: Andrew Guthrie Ferguson — Professor of Law, George Washington University Law School. Author of Your Data Will Be Used Against You (2026) and the PROSE Award-winning The Rise of Big Data Policing (2017). Featured in the New York Times, Washington Post, NPR, CNN, Time, and The Atlantic. 💛 Support the show: patreon.com/goodisinthedetails Learn more about Professor Guthrie's work: https://www.law.gwu.edu/andrew-guthrie-ferguson Get in touch! https://www.goodisinthedetails.com Subscribe to Rudy's Substack: The Commute

What is it like to be a brain surgeon? How much of our personality is determined by brain structure? Do we truly have free will or is it an illusion created by neural processes? Will there ever be a cure for dementia? And could artificial intelligence replace neurosurgeons? In this episode of Good Is In The Details, hosts Gwendolyn Dolske, Ph.D., and Rudy Salo sit down with renowned neurosurgeon Dr. Theodore Schwartz, author of Gray Matters: A Biography of Brain Surgery, to explore the intersection of neuroscience, philosophy, medical ethics, and culture. Dr. Schwartz offers a rare, inside look at what it means to operate on the human brain: the organ that houses memory, identity, personality, and consciousness itself. From the evolution of brain surgery to cutting-edge research, he explains how the brain functions, how structure shapes behavior, and why understanding neuroplasticity is essential to both medicine and human development. The conversation moves into the philosophical debate of free will vs. determinism. If our thoughts, impulses, and decisions arise from neural circuitry, do we truly choose — or are we the product of biology? Is the "mind" something distinct from the brain, or is it an emergent property of physical processes? Drawing on pop culture references like Star Trek, Memento, and Gattaca, this episode connects neuroscience with questions long explored in philosophy and science fiction. The discussion also addresses: How brain injuries alter personality The future of dementia research The promise and limits of neuroplasticity Why AI is unlikely to replace human neurosurgeons What makes brain surgery uniquely human Dr. Schwartz explains why, despite advances in artificial intelligence, neurosurgery requires intuition, judgment, and embodied skill that cannot be automated. This episode is essential listening for anyone interested in: medical ethics neuroscience and consciousness the philosophy of mind free will and determinism dementia and brain health how identity is shaped by the brain The brain is the seat of personality, memory, and moral agency. Understanding how it functions challenges our assumptions about responsibility, autonomy, and what it means to be human. Through thoughtful dialogue, Good Is In The Details bridges philosophy and real-world expertise, offering listeners tools to think more deeply about science, ethics, and the nature of consciousness. Learn more about Dr. Schwartz's work and get a copy of his book. https://www.theodorehschwartzmd.com Join our Good Is In The Details community, book club, and support the pod. https://www.patreon.com/c/GoodIsInTheDetails Get in touch! Media, Speaking, Pod Topics: https://www.goodisinthedetails.com Get your copy of Interview with Intention. Amazon link here.

In this episode of Good Is In The Details, hosts Gwendolyn Dolske and Rudy Salo are joined by philosopher and author Bill Tomlinson to explore the foundations of critical thinking and the practice of philosophy. Drawing from his book Dialogues with Artificial Intelligence: On the Tools of Philosophy, the conversation offers an accessible introduction to how philosophers think — and how anyone can develop clearer, more rigorous reasoning. What is philosophy, and how do philosophers approach complex questions? What is the difference between inductive and deductive reasoning? How do definitions, distinctions, and paradoxes shape philosophical thinking? This episode addresses these commonly asked questions while guiding listeners through the essential tools used in philosophical inquiry. The discussion also explores a timely question: Can artificial intelligence support critical thinking rather than replace it? Tomlinson explains how students, educators, and curious learners can engage with AI as a tool for reflection, questioning, and deeper reasoning — without surrendering the work of thinking itself. Listeners will explore: what philosophy is and how philosophical thinking works the foundations of critical thinking and clear reasoning inductive vs. deductive reasoning explained what a paradox is and why paradoxes matter in philosophy how making distinctions improves understanding and argument how educators and students can use AI to strengthen, not replace, thinking Blending philosophy, education, and accessible explanation, this episode offers a clear introduction to philosophical inquiry while inviting listeners to think more carefully about how they reason, question, and understand the world. Get your copy of Bill's book: Dialogues with Artificial Intelligence: On The Tools of Philosophy Support the pod and join our community on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/GoodIsInTheDetails Get your copy of Interview With Intention Get in touch! Questions, Partnership opportunities, Speaking Inquiries: https://www.goodisinthedetails.com

In this special mini-episode of Good Is In The Details, hosts Gwendolyn Dolske and Rudy Salo step away from their usual expert interview format to pause and reflect on the current cultural and political climate and the emotional weight many of us are carrying right now. Rather than taking a political position, this conversation acknowledges something more fundamental: the news, public discourse, and lived reality are affecting all of us, including those of us who spend our time thinking, teaching, and talking about ideas. With particular attention to what's unfolding in Minnesota and ongoing conversations around ICE, Gwendolyn and Rudy share a candid, intentionally unpolished dialogue about how they themselves are processing what they're seeing and hearing. The focus of this episode is critical thinking as a lived practice. Together, the hosts explore: how observation and context shape understanding why considering multiple causal factors matters how bias — conscious and unconscious — influences interpretation and what it means to think carefully in emotionally charged moments This episode offers listeners concrete tools for engaging the news thoughtfully and for navigating difficult conversations with others — not by retreating from complexity, but by slowing down and paying closer attention to how meaning is constructed. Good Is In The Details is dedicated to helping us learn what we didn't know we didn't know. This conversation is an invitation to think together — honestly, imperfectly, and with care — when clarity feels hardest to come by. For getting in touch, media, speaking, and sponsorship opportunities: https://www.goodisinthedetails.com

On this anniversary of the Space Shuttle Challenger disaster, Good Is In The Details revisits one of history's most consequential moments in engineering, ethics, and public trust. On January 28, 1986, the Challenger broke apart just 73 seconds after liftoff, killing all seven crew members and shocking the world. In this encore episode, Gwendolyn Dolske, Rudy Salo, and Engineering Professor Phil Rosenkrantz explore what really happened behind the scenes, the technical causes of the catastrophic O-ring failure, and the deeply human decisions that led NASA and its contractor to proceed with launch despite known risks. We dive into engineering ethics and professional responsibility, discussing how engineers' concerns were raised and then overruled, and what that teaches us about risk, organizational pressure, and moral reasoning in high-stakes contexts. Whether you're interested in spaceflight history, engineering ethics case studies, or the broader public philosophy of how societies make and justify risky decisions, this episode offers a thoughtful, philosophically framed examination of one of the most studied disasters in aerospace history. 🎧 Listen as we unpack the technical details, ethical dilemmas, and lessons for leaders, engineers, and citizens alike. Get in touch: https://www.goodisinthedetails.com

What did the Aztecs believe about ethics, virtue, and the good life? How does Aztec philosophy compare to Aristotle's ethics? And what can Aztec moral thought teach us about community, responsibility, and flourishing today? In this episode of Good Is In The Details, we explore the philosophy and ethics of the Aztecs with philosophy professor Sebastian Purcell, author of The Wisdom of the Aztecs and The Outward Path. Together, we examine how Aztec moral philosophy challenges modern assumptions about individualism, happiness, and success. Rather than grounding ethics in individual achievement or rational perfection, Aztec philosophy emphasizes balance, struggle, and communal responsibility. Purcell explains how Aztec thinkers understood human life as inherently fragile and why moral excellence was cultivated through shared practices, rituals, and social roles. We place Aztec ethics in dialogue with Aristotle's Nicomachean Ethics, contrasting Aristotle's focus on individual virtue and rational activity with the Aztec view that flourishing emerges from belonging, contribution, and endurance within a community. Listeners will learn: What is Aztec philosophy and how did the Aztecs understand ethics? How does Aztec ethics differ from Greek philosophy and Aristotle? What does Aztec moral thought say about happiness, struggle, and meaning? How can Aztec ethical ideas be practiced in everyday life today? This conversation offers concrete examples of how Aztec ethics can inform modern life, especially in times of uncertainty, by shifting our focus from individual success to mutual support, resilience, and shared responsibility. If you're searching for Aztec philosophy explained, ethics in Aztec culture, or comparative philosophy between Aristotle and Indigenous traditions, this episode offers a thoughtful, accessible introduction grounded in scholarship and lived application. Learn more about Professor Purcell: https://sebastianpurcell.com Get in touch for media inquiries and links to our publications: https://www.goodisinthedetails.com Get more Good Is In The Details content and support the pod: https://www.patreon.com/c/GoodIsInTheDetails

Who was Socrates, and why does he still matter today? In this short episode of Good Is In The Details, Gwendolyn explore Socrates' understanding of wisdom and virtue through Plato's Apology, and why philosophy sees critical thinking as a path toward the good life. Gwendolyn gives an accessible introduction of what critical thinking is, why it matters beyond the classroom, and how we've practiced public philosophy throughout 2025 with our guests. This episode is perfect for listeners searching for philosophy podcasts, educational podcasts, public philosophy, or a deeper understanding of how learning to think well can shape a meaningful life. Join our Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/GoodIsInTheDetails Get our latest publication: Interview With Intention Get discussion questions and classroom ideas for more in depth analysis of Philosophy and thinking well in a noisy world: Philosophy Unplugged Let's connect: https://www.goodisinthedetails.com.

Gwendolyn and Rudy welcome founder/president of Leaders of Tomorrow Youth Center, Dr. Dermell Brunson. In this episode we focus on the importance of the arts in education, how it contributes to creative skills, connection with community, and self-esteem. Dr. Brunson debunks the myth that the arts are tangential to a good education. Quite the opposite! Students learn the value of discipline through the process of artistic expression and this paves the way for improved mental health and career opportunities. We address several common questions like: How does arts education benefit children? Is arts education linked to academic success? What skills do students learn from arts? How do the arts support social and emotional learning? Learn more about Dermell's work: https://www.ltyc.net/our-history Get your copy of Philosophy Unplugged: Classroom Guide to Good Is In The Details. Philosophy Podcast Discussion Questions Get in touch: https://www.goodisinthedetails.com Join our Book Club on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/GoodIsInTheDetails Get your copy of Interview with Intention.

Gwendolyn Dolske and Rudy Salo welcome Psychology Professor Dr. Bruno De Oliveira to unpack the real problems with the modern self-help industry. Why does self-help culture thrive despite offering oversimplified advice? How does it ignore the structural forces that shape mental distress? And what does evidence-based psychology actually say about wellbeing? We discuss the rise of pseudo-psychology, the limits of mindset-based advice, and how institutional practices, social inequality, and lived experiences contribute to mental distress. A thoughtful conversation for listeners interested in critical psychology, philosophy, ethics, and the science behind wellbeing. Drawing from critical community psychology, critical realism, and interdisciplinary research, Dr. De Oliveira explores how institutional practices, social inequality, and lived experiences, especially among those facing homelessness or welfare systems, challenge the myth that personal mindset alone determines success. We examine: limits of positive thinking, pseudo-psychology in the self-help space, the wellness industry vs. scientific psychology, how social economics shape mental distress, and why individualistic advice often fails marginalized communities. Learn more about Dr. Bruno: https://www.chi.ac.uk/people/dr-bruno-de-oliveira/ Get Dr. Bruno's Book: The Self Help Industry: Is The Self-Help Industry Really Helping or Are We Being Mislead? Interview like a Pro! Get Dr. Dolske's book for podcasters: Interview With Intention Join our Patreon and get extra GIID + a copy of Philosophy Unplugged when you join the 2nd tier Get in touch: https://www.goodisinthedetails.com.

In this solo episode of Good Is In The Details, Gwendolyn Dolske, PhD explores the lives, ideas, and philosophical impact of four remarkable twentieth-century thinkers: Iris Murdoch, Elizabeth Anscombe, Philippa Foot, and Mary Midgley. Drawing inspiration from Benjamin J.B. Lipscomb's The Women Are Up To Something, the episode examines how these philosophers reshaped modern moral philosophy and offered a powerful alternative to earlier approaches to ethics. Who were these four women philosophers, and why are they so influential in the history of philosophy? How did they challenge dominant ethical theories of their time? What is virtue ethics, and how does it differ from rule-based morality? Through biography, history, and philosophical reflection, this episode answers these commonly asked questions while revealing how Murdoch, Anscombe, Foot, and Midgley transformed the way we think about ethics, moral responsibility, character, and human life. Listeners will explore: the philosophical relationship between Murdoch, Anscombe, Foot, and Midgley how twentieth-century moral philosophy shifted away from strict rule-based ethics what virtue ethics is and why it remains influential today how biography and historical context shaped their philosophical ideas why these women were pivotal figures in a traditionally male-dominated field Blending history, philosophy, and accessible explanation, this episode makes complex ethical ideas understandable and meaningful for students, educators, and curious listeners alike. Whether you are new to philosophy or deeply interested in ethics, this discussion offers insight into how moral thinking evolved — and why these thinkers continue to matter today. Learn more about Professor Libscomb's work: https://www.houghton.edu/staff-members/benjamin-lipscomb/ Support the pod and get extra content: https://www.patreon.com/c/GoodIsInTheDetails Get in touch: https://www.goodisinthedetails.com

Gwendolyn Dolske and Rudy Salo talk with Professor Neil McArthur (University of Manitoba) about his work on the ethics of sexbots. Are sexbots the future of human connection or a threat to it? Explore the fascinating intersection of ethics, technology, and intimacy. Together, they unpack cultural anxieties, philosophical implications, and the surprising ways AI companions might actually be good for society. From the film Ex Machina to real-world robotics, this conversation examines what it means to be human when machines start to mimic love, emotion, and desire. Whether you're curious about AI ethics, the philosophy of technology, or how innovation challenges our moral compass, this episode invites you to think deeper. What you'll learn: Why fears around sexbots may be misplaced, how technology redefines intimacy and autonomy, and what philosophy teaches us about love, consent, and machine ethics. Follow GIID on Instagram: @GoodIsInTheDetailsPod Join our Patreon & support the pod: https://www.patreon.com/c/GoodIsInTheDetails

Gwendolyn Dolske and Rudy Salo invite Physicist Samir Varma (The Science of Free Will) to discuss how AI reveals our understanding of the classical philosophical debate: Free Will vs Determinism. What are the possibilities with AI and how can it be useful without disrupting our humanity? Are we purely material beings interacting with an "alien" intelligence? If all of our actions and thoughts are caused does that necessarily mean we are not free? Critical Thinking + Practical Philosophy + Science. Get Samir's book: The Science of Free Will. Join our Patreon for more Good Is In The Details and bonus content: https://www.patreon.com/c/GoodIsInTheDetails Subscribe to our Substack: https://giitd.substack.com Check out the pod's Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/GoodIsInTheDetails Pod music by Rich Balling.

Gwendolyn and Rudy welcome author of Human is the New Vinyl, Micah Voraritskul. How can the metaphor of vinyl help us understand our humanity? What can humans do that leave AI underwhelming? How should we interact with AI and keep our humanity in tact? Practical Philosophy and Critical Thinking is employed to appreciate the uniqueness of our being and the role of AI in our lives. Learn more about Micah and get his book: https://www.micahvoraritskul.com Thank you to Rich Balling for the pod music! Join our Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/GoodIsInTheDetails Follow us on Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/GoodIsInTheDetails

Gwendolyn Dolske and Rudy Salo welcome philosophers Dr. Alex Madva and Dr. Daniel Kelly, co-authors of the book Somebody Should Do Something. Together, we explore one of social psychology's most famous concepts: the fundamental attribution error. How does misunderstanding human behavior, responsibility, and government investment lead us to the wrong solutions for the world's biggest problems? Why do we so often blame individuals instead of recognizing the systems, structures, and environments shaping their actions? And why do so many attempts at social change fail when they focus solely on individual choice rather than collective action? This episode examines: • The psychology behind blaming individuals • Why structural problems require structural solutions • How small choices and large systems interact • Practical ways to design meaningful, long-term social change • Why philosophical thinking matters for public policy and everyday life If you've ever wondered "How do we actually change society?", "Why do people behave the way they do?", or "Why do good solutions fail?", this conversation offers insight, clarity, and a fresh way to understand the complexity of social life. Perfect for listeners interested in philosophy, social psychology, bias, ethics, behavioral science, and critical thinking. Learn more about Dr. Madva and Dr. Kelly and get their book! Read Dr. Madva's OpEd in The NY Times: Guest Essay Join our Patreon for more GIID content: https://www.patreon.com/GoodIsInTheDetails

Gwendolyn Dolske and Rudy Salo explore the rise of Red Pill content, the "anger economy," and modern dating myths with guest Rafael Gomez, creator of the Women on Men podcast. We break down the narratives shaping online masculinity, why certain influencers profit from outrage, and how these messages impact real relationships. What exactly is Red Pill ideology? Why is it so effective at keeping audiences angry and engaged? And how do gender stereotypes, dating expectations, and the myth of the "alpha male" distort how men and women relate to one another? Together, we discuss: The psychology of the anger economy Misogyny and gender essentialism in Red Pill spaces Why outrage-based content keeps people hooked Modern masculinity and cultural expectations What women actually say they want in dating How critical thinking helps us navigate online gender narratives Strategies for healthier conversations around dating and relationships Perfect for listeners interested in gender studies, modern masculinity, psychology of online culture, philosophy, and critical analysis of social media narratives. Listen to Rafael's podcast: Women on Men Join Good Is In The Details on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/GoodIsInTheDetails Instagram: GoodIsInTheDetailsPod TikTok: ProfDolske Get your copy of Philosophy Unplugged. Thank you to our sponsor: http://www.avonmoreinc.com Pod music by Rich Balling.

Gwendolyn and Rudy welcome back friend, third time guest of the pod, expert in Fitness, Education for Sports Medicine, Rich Fahmy (National Academy of Sports Medicine). We dive into the world of influence, social media, and marketing tricks that intentionally mislead consumers. From our Critical Thinking tool box, Rich breaks down the importance of science based research for health and how we can distinguish truth from rhetoric. Learn more about Rich Fahmy: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rich-fahmy/ Bioethicist mentioned in the Introduction: Evan Thornburg. Shoutout to our friend & podcast guru, Greg Wasserman: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gregwasserman/ Music for GIID by Rich Balling. Get more of GIID: https://www.patreon.com/c/GoodIsInTheDetails Thank you to our sponsor: http://www.avonmoreinc.com

Gwendolyn Dolske and Rudy Salo welcome journalist Matthew Hongoltz-Hetling (The Ghost Lab). What does it mean to be in the paranormal space? How do we understand belief, religion, and spirits? What cultural and economic factors are considered when we examine mediums, Tarot, Ghost Hunters, and all things UFO? What does Rudy really think about aliens? Learn more about Matt's work and get his book: https://www.matt-hongoltzhetling.com Check out Rudy's Substack: https://thecommute.substack.com/?utm_medium=podcast Check out the pod's new Pinterest page! https://www.pinterest.com/GoodIsInTheDetails Join our Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/GoodIsInTheDetails Thank you to our sponsor: http://www.avonmoreinc.com