Girl Boner Radio: True Sex and Relationship Stories

A seemingly perfect date gone very wrong, powerful sex that involved no nakedness or penetration and a listener question on hands-free orgasms. A few things you'll learn about in the episode: Why we need to take care of ourselves after breakups The importance of feeling, rather than ignoring, our feelings The importance of feeling in your body, aka embodiment A simple breathing/energetic sex exercise A throw-back "think-gasm" story Hands-free orgasms tips Updated on 10-11-21: The original version of Dr. Megan's clip in this episode included three paragraphs from an article, without credit. Find that article, written by science writer, Benjamin Taub, here: https://www.iflscience.com/brain/give-yourself-orgasm-using-only-mind/all/ Learn more about breathwork app and download the Pause Breathwork app at pausebreathwork.com/app. Learn more about GS Youngblood at gsyoungblood.com. Explore the latest specials at The Pleasure Chest! thepleasurechest.com Check out Dr. Megan's latest Pleasure Picks: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks Support the show and get fun extras! patreon.com/girlboner More Girl Boner fun: augustmclaughlin.com

Have you ever felt frustrated, alone, anxious or depressed while using dating apps? Or wondered why swiping has led to a lot more swiping than actual dates? If so, you're far from alone and there are reasons (that have nothing to do with you!) for all of that. While some people do find healthy, happy experiences and relationships through the apps, Nancy Jo Sales asserts that the big corporations running them are more interested in getting you hooked than finding lasting romance or love—and that using these apps is actually nothing like meeting someone in a bar (as many folks suggest), unless that bar were racist, transphobic and dangerous. In her new memoir, Nothing Personal: My Secret Life in the Dating App Inferno, Nancy Jo shares her own experience using the apps starting at age 49 and investigates the impact of Big Dating. And she recently joined August to discuss its themes and happenings. A few things you'll learn about in the episode: A few of Nancy Jo's sex and dating via app experiences, from funny, sicy and fun to dark and terrifying The harm these apps can do if you keep on swiping How "technoference" impacts intimacy and relationships The impact of sexualization of girls from a young age Why Nancy Jo decided to write such an open, honest book and what she hopes readers will glean from it Learn more about Nancy Jo Sales: nancyjosales.com Check out Dr. Megan's latest Pleasure Picks: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks Support the show and get fun extras! patreon.com/girlboner Sign up for occasional email updates or submit a question: augustmclaughlin.com

If you've experienced unwanted pain during sex, you're far from alone. Take it from psychologist Dr. Nazanin, who knows a great deal about it from personal and professional experience. A few things you'll learn in the episode: What Dr. Moali learned about sex growing up in Iran How sexual pain started impacting her life and relationship How she found her way to more pleasurable, adventurous sex How sex therapy changed her life Common causes of sex-related pain Her advice for anyone going through similar sexual challenges Learn more about Dr. Moali: https://sexologypodcast.com Check out Dr. Megan's latest Pleasure Picks: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks Support the show and get fun extras! patreon.com/girlboner Sign up for occasional email updates or submit a question: augustmclaughlin.com

Amy Baldwin and April Lampert weigh in on genital praising! A few things you'll learn in the episode: What Amy and April learned about sex early on How their paths met (Hint: it involved April spanking herself in a kitchen!) What genital/pussy/penis praising is Benefits of this type of "dirty talk"/sexy talk Simple ways to get started What to do if you feel pressured or obligated to have sex routinely, despite your health issues and lower libido Automatically save 15% on your first Promescent order here: https://bit.ly/33z44hQ Check out Dr. Megan's latest Pleasure Picks: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks Support the show and get fun extras! patreon.com/girlboner Sign up for occasional email updates or submit a question: augustmclaughlin.com

Did you know the first fairy tales were written by women as feminist critiques? Fairy tales of all kinds can influence what we believe and experience around sex and relationships. Take it from August, a power dynamics expert/former dominatrix and a giantess dominatrix with over 20 years of experience. A few things you'll learn about in the episode: The original fairy tales, which were written as feminist critiques of patriarchy The storyline of the first fairy tale, by Baroness Marie Catherine d'Aulnoy How "Sleeping Beauty" parallels power struggles many women face today, with thoughts from Kashia Urbaniak How a Mother Goose story brought out kinky curiosity in Goddess Severa early on How Goddess Severa went from broke in NYC to a thriving dominatrix career, how her first session went down and what she loves about her work Explore the Pride Month specials at The Pleasure Chest! thepleasurechest.com Checked out Dr. Megan's Pleasure Picks! greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks Support the show and get fun extras, including bonus content for this episode! patreon.com/girlboner

Are you having the sex you desire, or has sex lost something over time - or perhaps seemed lacking to begin with? Ever wonder what actually happens in sex therapy? Whether you're having sex with a long-time partner(s) or having hookups, you have what Ian Kerner, PhD LFMT calls a sex script, both your own and one you co-create with your partner(s). And gaining awareness about your scripts can go a long way. A few things you'll learn about in the episode: Why Ian says to all of his sex therapy patients, So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex (which is also the title of his new book!) What a sex scripts entails How David and Kate, a couple in their mid-30s, found their way to pleasurable sex by unpacking their personal histories How Jonathan and Chris, a couple in their 40s, saved their relationship and sex life by cultivating a "rec-relational" style Dr. Megan Fleming's tips for finding an ideal therapist Automatically save 15% on your first Promescent order here: https://bit.ly/33z44hQ Check out Dr. Megan's latest Pleasure Picks: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks Support the show and get fun extras! patreon.com/girlboner Submit a question for August or Dr. Megan: augustmclaughlin.com/contact Preorder With Pleasure: Managing Trauma Triggers for More Vibrant Sex and Relationships, by Jamila Dawson and August McLaughlin https://www.chicagoreviewpress.com/with-pleasure-products-9781641605038.php?page_id=21

Sophie Saint Thomas, journalist and author of Sex Witch: Magickal Spells for Love, Lust, and Self-Protection, grew up in a sex-positive household and now embraces witchcraft and science. And she has a lot to say about cultivating the sex and love life you desire. A few things you'll learn about in the episode: How a penis candle spell she performed panned out What "love spells" in general are really about A powerful way to use tarot cards (that doesn't involve fortune-telling) Why monogamy and polyamory aren't your only relationship choices and how to choose your best format Sophie's take on post-breakup revenge Dr. Megan and August's thoughts for a listener whose demisexual boyfriend doesn't desire sex very often Follow Sophie on social media: Twitter: @TheBowieCat Instagram: @TheBowieCat Celebrate Masturbation May with a new toy from The Pleasure Chest! thepleasurechest.com Support the show and get fun extras, including bonus content for this episode! patreon.com/girlboner Have you checked out Dr. Megan's Pleasure Picks for May yet? greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks

Interested in starting a self-pleasure practice or getting more out of your single or dating life? Dr. Megan Stubbs', author of Playing without a Partner: A Singles' Guide to Sex, Dating, and Happiness, has so much to say about all of this! A few things you'll learn about in the episode: What Dr. Megan Stubbs was surprised to learn about sex early on Beginner's masturbation tips Why large dildos are so popular Casual sex tips and whether it's smart to add your COVID vaccine status to your dating profile, with thoughts from Dr. Megan Fleming Save 15% at Promescent automatically at checkout by clicking this link: https://bit.ly/33z44hQ Support the show and get fun extras, including bonus content for this episode! patreon.com/girlboner

"Claiming space is living your life unapologetically and bravely. And it sounds so much easier than it is." So says Eliza VanCort, and for good reason! The author, mentor and speaker speaks about her personal journey to claiming space and practical tips, particularly for women and anyone reared as a girl. A few things you'll learn in the episode: Childhood experiences that made Eliza especially passionate about claiming space The role posture can play in self-confidence and perception A few wonky messages we learn about gender How to claim space during sex Masturbation tips and products worth embracing Learn more about Eliza VanCourt and her book: https://www.elizavancort.com Dr. Megan's latest Pleasure Picks: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks Celebrate Masturbation May with a new toy from The Pleasure Chest! thepleasurechest.com Support the show and get fun extras, including bonus content for this episode! patreon.com/girlboner

If you've struggled to ask for what you want sexually or aren't even sure what to aim for, you are far from alone. Kait Scalisi, MPH, founder of Passion by Kait, grew up in a household where no conversation topics were taboo, but conflict was. She now helps others find freedom in pleasure. A few things you'll learn about in this episode: Positive versus negative messages about sex and conflict Kait absorbed growing up Kait's advice for figuring out what you actually want in bed Kait's thoughts on listeners' desires and how to bring them up A sex communication tip Kait feels is super impactful and underexplored Why slipping out during sex happens and what to do about it Learn more from Kait and her team and get awesome related resources at passionbykait.com! Save 15% on your first order of lube, arousal gel, delay spray and more at Promescent with promo code august15! Delayspray.com Check out Dr. Megan's FREE pleasure challenge: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasure Support the show and get fun extras! patreon.com/girlboner Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin, with transcript support from KM Huber.

Jordan Power discovered a family secret that changed the course of his life. Shana James realized she was bringing more to the bedroom than her body and desires. Dr. Megan weighs in for a listener who's curious about "dirty talk." How can you get started, years into a relationship? Learn more about Jordan on Instagram: @jpowercomedy Watch Shana's TEDx Talk: shanajamescoaching.com "Get sprung" with spring specials at The Pleasure Chest! thepleasurechest.com Check out Dr. Megan's FREE pleasure challenge: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasure Support the show and get fun extras: patreon.com/girlboner Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin, with transcript support from KM Huber.

Promescent CEO Jeff Abraham speaks about his sexual empowerment journey, benefits of delay spray and his top sex tips for men and couples! A few things you'll learn about in the episode: What Jeff learned about sex, growing up in the 1960s and '70s What led him from small town life to bigger pastures A few ways to keep sex exciting long term! How delay spray can help penis owners and their partners, whether they're dealing with premature ejaculation (PE) or not Promescent's mission and the tragedy that fuels Jeff's work Save 15% on your first Promescent automatically here! Save $50 on Yarlap with promo code GB50! Learn more at greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks or yarlap.com. For more Girl Boner fun, join August on Patreon: patreon.com/girlboner Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin, with transcript support from KM Huber.

Desiree has lived with incontinence for about two decades, since age 6. She wanted to share her story with August because her symptoms have played a big role in her life, including her sexuality, relationships and self-esteem. A few things you'll learn about in the episode: Desiree's experience with urinary incontinence, including challenges and ways she's learned to manage How she navigates sexual intimacy amid her symptoms Facts about urinary incontinence, including the 4 types and how prevalent it is Awesome accessible toys/accessories, available at The Pleasure Chest Dr. Megan's latest Pleasure Pick, Yarlap. Save $50 at checkout with the code GB50! greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks This episode features voice over artist Rosa Delgado: rosamdelgado6 at gmail dot com Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin.

Have you ever felt as though you've lost yourself or your confidence after a relationship? Or wondered how a romantic relationship that started out like a fairytale spiraled into lies, gaslighting and pain? If so, you may be one of the many people who've grappled with narcissistic abuse syndrome. August has been there, as have numerous of her past guests. For this week's episode, she explores the impact of narcissistic abuse with Dr. Kate Balestrieri, a sex therapist and psychologist who specializes in treating people on both sides of the equation. A few things you'll learn about in the episode: What Kate learned about sex and sexuality growing up Common signs of narcissistic abuse syndrome How gaslighting can impact sex and intimacy Kate's thoughts for a listener whose controlling ex restricted sex and affection Dr. Megan's thoughts for a listener who's haunted by her ex's "porn addiction" How trauma can impact sex and pleasure Important truths about healing from trauma A few powerful things healing can bring to our lives Save 15% on your first order of lube, arousal gel, delay spray and more at Promescent with promo code august 15: delayspray.com Check out Dr. Megan's FREE pleasure challenge: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasure Join August on Patreon to get an upcoming bonus episode on this topic and more!: patreon.com/girlboner Instagram: @themodernintimacy @drkatebalestrieri @GirlBonerMedia @dr.megan.fleming Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin, with transcript support from KM Huber. Learn more and find lightly edited transcripts at augustmclaughlin.com.

Self-love plays an important role in everything from pleasure and intimacy to our everyday interactions. But how do you cultivate it, especially when things feel difficult? In this Girl Boner Radio episode, Mike Johnson, author of Making the Love You Want, speaks about his childhood, how he's cultivated self-love and the impact self-love has had on his life. He also answers Girl Boner listeners' questions, reflects on how he was depicted on The Bachelorette, and shares his top tips for sexual empowerment! A few things you'll learn about in the episode: Why Mike describes his mom as a shining star of resiliency, determination and persistence Gender roles Mike feels we should do away with, including personal examples from his life How Mike felt revealing the sexual assault he endured during childhood in Making the Love You Want The difficult breakup that brought Mike lengthy grief and how he found healing How he feels about how he was depicted on The Bachelorette Mike's answers to listeners' questions! Why he prefers the term "rising action" over "foreplay," and how he defines it How self-love can enhance pleasure + tips for cultivating it from Dr. Megan Fleming LEARN MORE: Order a signed copy of Mike's book at mikejohnsonsmile.com. Follow him on Instagram at @Mike_Johnson. Check out the latest specials at The Pleasure Chest! thepleasurechest.com Check out Dr. Megan's FREE pleasure challenge: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasure Join August on Patreon: patreon.com/girlboner Show IG: @GirlBonerMedia Read a lightly edited episode transcript: girlboner.org/mike-johnson Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin, with transcript support from KM Huber.

If you've ever had a one night stand and then felt like you shouldn't talk about it, worried that you cared too much about sex outside of a relationship or acquired an STI from an abusive partner, you're not alone. Ella Dawson experienced all of these issues and writes about them, both so she can process it all and to help others who relate. A few things you'll learn about in this episode: Why Ella believes "casual sex" is a misnomer A few experiences from her life that illustrate major gaps in what we're taught about physical intimacy outside of relationships The link between intimate partner abuse and STIs What you can get by joining Ella's Patreon community! What to do when you start falling for your "friends with benefits" pal, with Dr. Megan Fleming Join August on Patreon for GirlBoner extras: patreon.com/girlboner. Join us on Instagram: @brosandprose @GirlBonerMedia @dr.megan.fleming Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin, with transcript support from KM Huber.

Ever wondered why sex used to feel easy and pleasurable and gradually, or suddenly, that stopped? Or wished you could experience orgasms or great sex in the first place? Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, sex therapist and author of SEX POINTS, believes everyone who wishes to can have "rockin' sex" and that all related challenges are surmountable. She spoke with August about her personal journey and lessons we can all learn from challenges she's encountered in the lives of her clients, as well as her own. A few things you'll learn about in this episode: Unforgettable sex-talk stories from Dr. Marcus's childhood Why it's important to consider sexual arousal, desire and functional challenges beyond the psychological Ways birth control can influence sexual desire and orgasms What many of us get wrong about fantasizing The myth that women do better with monogamy than men Common factors that can lower what Dr. Marcus calls "sex points" What led her to "lose her orgasms" twice, and how she found her way back to that pleasure Dr. Megan Fleming's thoughts for a listener who wants to experience orgasm (and for her partner to, too) during intercourse, versus only through masturbation Stream an exclusive bonus segment, and get more rewards, by joining August's Patreon community: patreon.com/girlboner. Check out the latest specials at The Pleasure Chest! Free, discreet shipping over $75. Join us on Instagram: @drbatsheva @GirlBonerMedia @dr.megan.fleming @pleasurecheststores Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin, with transcript support from KM Huber.

Does great sex start at 50? It sure can, according to Tracey Cox, a renowned bestselling author and expert about sex and relationships. A few things you'll learn in this episode: What leads to sexlessness in relationships When to accept or change that dynamic Myths about sexless marriages How to talk about low sexual desire or frequency, even if years have passed without sex The truth about "lesbian bed death" How to fuel female sexual desire The role body image can play in pleasure and desire How Tracey went from high to low libido, then to some of the best sex of her life Her top advice for anyone struggling in these areas What struck Tracey most while completing Great Sex Starts at Fifty Dr. Megan Fleming's Pleasure Pick of the Month! And how you can enter a very special giveaway. Join August on Patreon at patreon.com/girlboner. IG: @GirlBonerMedia @traceycoxsexauthor @dr.megan.fleming Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin, with transcript support from KM Huber.

Curious about threesomes? Or ways to make your next one better? Stella Harris, a Certified Intimacy Educator, Sex Coach and author of The Ultimate Guide to Threesomes, is expert at ways to effectively become "a threesome person," benefits of thoughtful threesomes and how to decide whether or not to bring this type of play into an existing relationship or your life in the first place. A few things you'll learn in the episode: What many folks get wrong about threesomes Questions to consider before deciding on a threesome Why jealousy isn't the worst thing (or unusual) How intoxication can impact threesome play Ways to more comfortably ease into your first one Where to meet people for a threesome Dr. Megan Fleming's thoughts for a listener who's struggling after a threesome didn't go as she had hoped Register for Stella's book launch party with SheBop here! Check out the latest specials at The Pleasure Chest! Free, discreet shipping over $75. Join August on Patreon at patreon.com/girlboner. Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin, with transcript support from KM Huber.

Have you ever wondered if you orgasm "weird?" August hears about that a lot. The truth is, there are many ways of experiencing orgasm and all of those Os are valid. A few things you'll learn about in this episode: First orgasm stories of Lynn Anderton, Dr. Lanae St. John and Jayne Renault, all of which took them by surprise 7 types of "female orgasms," including sleep-gasms, back-gasms, cervical orgasm and more What we tend to get wrong when talking about "clitoral" and "vaginal" orgasms 3 types of orgasm penis owners may experience Dr. Megan Fleming's thoughts for a listener who wonders if using a vibrator consistently can make it difficult to climax without one To support the show and get fun extras, join August on Patreon! patreon.com/girlboner.

Have you ever felt let down because your partner doesn't meet your expectations? Or wondered if you're having enough sex? Dr. Gary Lewandowski, psychologist and author of Stronger Than You Think: The 10 Blind Spots That Undermine Your Relationship...and How to See Past Them, has been studying relationships for years through his Relationship Science Lab. He's also been featured by The New York Times, NPR, The Atlantic and Cosmopolitan. His empowering TEDx Talk, "Break-Ups Don't Have to Leave You Broken," has been viewed nearly 2 million times. Dr. Lewandowski joined August recently to explore several common relationship myths that can really cause problems, if you buy into them—which is easy to do! He also shared his own love story, including how he met his wife, some of the challenges they've faced and signs they're on the right track. A few things you'll learn in the episode: The difference a maximizer and a satisficer in terms of relationships, and which is a better aim Why a "sex challenge" isn't usually helpful What's most important about your sex life for boosting relationship satisfaction A common misbelief about breakups 5 ways to heal and move on after a break up, with tips from Dr. Megan Fleming Support the show and/or sponsors + have more fun: Join August on Patreon! patreon.com/girlboner. To up your sexual novelty game or invite more pleasure to your life, explore the latest specials at thepleasurechest.com. Save 25% on Dr. Megan's Rekindle Desire audio and workbook program at greatlifegreatsex.com/desire.

Have you felt a more or less sex-inclined lately? Or wished you could have more spicy fun and pleasure during these zany times? If your answers are yes or yes, this episode is for you. A few things you'll learn: Ways the pandemic and social distancing are impacting sexuality, including thoughts from listeners Awesome sex toys for clitoris, penis and couple's play How to set the stage for spicier scheduled sex A sensual way to spend Valentine's Day at home Some of Dr. Megan Fleming's top sex advice More! Check out Dr. Megan's recommendations: greatlifegreatsex.com/resources Support Girl Boner Radio + get fun extras! patreon.com/girlboner

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to talk to strangers about their sexual experiences? Julia Rothman and Shaina Feinberg did just that, and more, for their new book, Every Body: An Honest and Open Look at Sex from Every Angle. A few things you'll hear in this episode: An excerpt from August's first time hitting the streets to ask people, "What's a Girl Boner?" What Julia and Shaina recall learning about sex early on What struck them most about the books' stories about masturbation, Shaina's Betty Dodson interview, body acceptance and religion What takeaways they want you to embrace from their experience creating Every Body What numerous listeners wish others knew about sex or their sexuality The role attention can play in arousal, pleasure and desire Check out Sex Hacks with Kenneth Play and the replay Dr. Megan mentioned: greatlifegreatsex.com/sexhacks Join August on Patreon to support the show and get fun extras! patreon.com/girlboner Learn more: girlboner.org

S and C are scientists and foodies who share a deep love. One thing they don't share is an equal desire for sex. While S is pretty much always "ready to go," her partner C desires sex less often. And when he does desire it, his wants aren't always those that S can fulfill. Shan is a virtual assistant and mother of two homeschooled teens who consistently desired sex less often than her beloved late husband, Jim. Navigating these differences well came in waves, she said, as they learned what did and didn't help over the years. For this Girl Boner Radio episode, August spoke with S and C and with Shan about their journeys and ways to manage mismatched libido in a loving relationship. Content note: This episode includes mentions of abuse, miscarriage and death. Correction: Shan is a "widowed mother of two teens who never went to school," meaning she homeschools them. Shan did go to traditional school. Find Valentine's Day gifts for you or a parter at The Pleasure Chest! Save 25% on Dr. Megan's Rekindle Desire program! Through Valentine's Day, 2021. Support the show and get fun extras: patreon.com/girlboner Produced and edited by August McLaughlin Transcript support from KM Huber

Have you sent intentions for 2021? How about sexual intentions? As we make our way into a new year and reflect on what hasn't worked so well in the past, we shan't forget our sex lives! A few things you'll learn about in this episode: A common lube mistake to avoid A type of harmful self-talk that's super easy to fall into What to do when you feel uncomfortable during sex Which fantasies to speak up about (and ways to do so) Ways to feel more sex-inclined, if or when you wish to More! Check out the Sexy Self-Care collection at The Pleasure Chest! Save 25% on Dr. Megan's Rekindle Desire program! Support the show and get fun extras: patreon.com/girlboner Brought to you a day early, in light of Inauguration Day on 1/20! Produced and edited by August McLaughlin

Sex-Positive Parenting, Fetish Play and Sexual Liberation with Jet Setting Jasmine As a trauma-informed clinical therapist, sex worker, parent of three and woman of color, Jet Setting Jasmine knows a great deal about these topics, from personal and professional experience. A few things you'll learn in this episode: What Jasmine learned about sex early on and ways she challenged the negative messages early on Benefits of sex-positive parenting and ways implement it How kink and fetish play can support healing from trauma What the hashtag #pornandparenting is all about Ways racism and racist stereotypes harm folks in the BIPOC community Jasmine's top advice for sexual liberation Dr. Megan's thoughts for a listener who wonders what to do when a couple is compatible in every way, except sexually Support the show and get fun extras! patreon.com/girlboner Download a free gift from Dr. Megan Fleming: greatlifegreatsex.com Produced and edited by August McLaughlin

Ever considered putting a ring on it? On a penis, that is... Or wondered about reaching climax in "perfect time" with a partner? (Hint: simultaneous Os are pretty rare, but that doesn't mean you can't invite or embrace them.) A few things you'll learn in this episode: Sexual trends during the pandemic A bit of cock ring history The best cock rings for beginners How cock rings can help in the erection + pleasure departments Facts about simultaneous orgasms August and Dr. Megan's tips for a listener who wants to experience simultaneous orgasms with her husband The role edging, aka orgasm control, can play Peruse popular cock rings at The Pleasure Chest! Join August on Patreon + get your handy cock ring guide! patreon.com/girlboner Sign up for occasional Girl Boner updates by email: girlboner.org Learn more from Dr. Megan Fleming: greatlifegreatsex.com Produced and edited by August McLaughlin

They aren't all holidays-themed, but some fun distraction may be just what 2020 ordered! August wraps up the Girl Boner Radio year by sharing the voices and stories of librarian Jess Witkins, publicist Will Armstrong, sex educator Angelique Luna and #open's Maile Manliguis. A few things you'll hear about this episode: Some intense improv (and okay, lies) that fueled romance Attraction that was finally acted on, after a date with someone else A play date that turned into a lengthy therapy session An odd kind of handsy-ness at the end of sex Wild animals on a wild night Why "green flags" are important in relationships How to navigate sexual dysfunction or low desire after an ex's infidelity (and then some), with Dr. Megan A fun and spicy gift to consider for you and/or a partner The show will return on January 6th. Wishing you meaningful holidays! Shop holiday specials at The Pleasure Chest! thepleasurechest.com Get the replay of Kenneth Play's top 3 sex hacks! greatlifegreatsex.com/sexhacks/ Edited and produced by August McLaughlin Transcript support from KM Huber

Long-time sex therapist Tara Galeano, speaks about her a journey to rediscover her body after difficulties in her personal life and health served as a major wakeup call. She now approaches her life and her work very differently. A few things you'll learn in this episode: How Catholic messaging early on impacted Tara's ideas about sex and marriage How she (and her body) responded to learning about her then husband's deceptions Body mapping basics and how it plays out in group therapy How you can try body mapping at home Benefits of body mapping, from stronger intimacy to kinkier sex The basics of touch starvation ("skin hunger") and 6 ways to manage it with Dr. Megan Fleming About Tara's new book, Rediscovering My Body Join the Girl Boner Radio Patreon community! patreon.com/girlboner Join us on Instagram: @GirlBonerMedia Narrated and produced by August McLaughlin Transcript support from KM Huber

Thien-Kim Lam, founder of Bawdy Bookworms, and Nhakia Outland, founder of Prevention Meets Fashion, run sex-positive businesses that stem from personal experience, as well as passion for cultivating needed change. A few things you'll hear in this episode: About Thien-Kim and Nhakia's sexual empowerment journeys Thien-Kim's top sex toy tip for newbies, plus pleasure advice for us all Nhakia's thoughts on fashion as a powerful form of self care, activism and personal identity Dr. Megan Fleming's thoughts for a listener who's struggling with anxiety around anal sex and penis size Join the Girl Boner Radio Patreon community: patreon.com/girlboner Shop holiday specials at The Pleasure Chest! thepleasurechest.com Sign up for Sex Hacks with Kenneth Play, hosted by Dr. Megan: greatlifegreatsex.com/sexhacks/ Join us on Instagram: @GirlBonerMedia Edited and produced by August McLaughlin Transcript support from KM Huber

There are not easy times, especially for anyone who was struggling with mental health issues before the pandemic. Whatever you're feeling is valid and all of us at Girl Boner Central hope this special pre-holiday episode brings you some comfort and light. In this episode: Ellen Kahn, Senior Director of Programs and Partnerships for the Human Rights Campaign, speaks about her background and work with the Human Rights Campaign, and ways COVID-19 is impacting the LGBTQIA+ community, especially trans and queer people of color. Thomas Davis, Founder/Artistic Director & Project Lead for The Creative Remedy & Education Workshop, speaks about his personal journey, from growing up as one of the only Black kids in his school and learning perplexing information about sex and sexuality to realizing he was HIV positive and becoming an outspoken advocate. He shares how the pandemic has been impacting his own mental health, as well as what's been helping. Dr. Amelia Burke-Garcia, program area director at NORC at the University of Chicago and director of How Right Now, talks about the research behind the initiative, its aims and ways we can all benefit from it. The guests also share messages of hope for anyone really struggling and what they're most grateful for lately. Dr. Megan Fleming weighs in for a listener whose primary relationship is strained by pressures to attend group holiday gatherings. How can she smoothen things out with her wife, protect both of their health and ensure special holidays? A few things you'll learn: Ways COVID-19 is impacting mental health, wellbeing, coping and resilience Unique challenges folks in the LGBTQIA+, BIPoC and poly communities are facing How to talk to a partner about tense pandemic-related challenges COVID-19 safety tips related to gatherings What it's like to use the How Right Now website More! Get the support you need: howrightnow.org Holiday Celebrations and Gathering Tips: cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/daily-life-coping/holidays Sign up for Dr. Megan's free 9-day pleasure challenge: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasure Join the exclusive Girl Boner community: patreon.com/girlboner

Have you ever wondered what it's like to live with bipolar disorder or wished that you didn't feel alone in your mental health journey? Or wondered what it's really like to make out with a fellow actor on camera? If so, pull up a chair! In addition to being an established actress, Alessandra Toressani speaks about her journey with bipolar publicly and advocates for mental health awareness on her podcast, Emotional Support. And she had so much wisdom to share for listeners. A few things you'll learn in this episode: How bipolar presents in Alessandra and the surprising way she was diagnosed How bipolar has impacted her sex life and relationships Her thoughts on three listener questions on mental health, sex and dating How she feels about kissing and make out scenes Dr. Megan's thoughts on the importance of explicit sex advice A spicy clitoral play activity for big time pleasure About a FREE upcoming workshop for more sex hacks, featuring Dr. Megan and Kenneth Play Alessandra Torresani on IG: @alessandratorresani + @emotionalsupportpod Join Girl Boner Radio on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/girlboner Sign up for Sex Hacks with Kenneth Play, hosted by Dr. Megan: https://greatlifegreatsex.com/sexhacks/ Shop holiday specials at The Pleasure Chest! https://thepleasurechest.com Girl Boner: https://augustmclaughlin.com/ IG: @GirlBonerMedia

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Interested in pegging a partner or being pegged? How about pegging the patriarchy? Canada-based sex and pleasure educator Luna Matatas receives a LOT of questions about sex, and butt play, with or without a strap-on, is among the most common themes. In this episode you'll learn: Where the term "pegging" came from and what it means What led Luna to become passionate about pleasure-based sex education What pegging-curious people want to know more than anything! Tips for choosing the proper pegging gear Benefits of being the pegger How to up your pegging receiving skills for more mutual fun and pleasure Why anal training is important Dr. Megan's tips for bringing up new, sexy activities to a partner Luna Matatas: https://lunamatatas.com IG: @LunaMatatas Girl Boner: https://augustmclaughlin.com/ IG: @GirlBonerMedia Dr. Megan: https://greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasure/ IG: @Dr.Megan.Fleming

You can "come of age" sex and relationship-wise at any stage of life. Take it from sex therapist Cyndi Darnell, disability advocate Andrew Gurza and industrial designer Ti Chang. A few things you'll learn in the episode: What erotic embodiment entails Benefits of erotic embodiment Common myths about hiring sex workers Benefits of hiring a sex worker, whether you're disabled or not Andrew and Dr. Megan's advice for meeting accepting partners Learn more: http://cyndidarnell.com http://www.andrewgurza.com https://www.lovecrave.com/about/ E-Book: The Handi Book of Love, Lust & Disability: https://thatshandi.co/collections/pre-order/products/e-book-the-handi-book-of-love-lust-disability Shop at The Pleasure Chest! https://thepleasurechest.com Get FREE engraving on a Crave Vesper vibrator necklace with the code girlboner! https://www.lovecrave.com/products/vesper/ Girl Boner: https://augustmclaughlin.com/ Dr. Megan: https://greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasure/

Kristen J. Sollée is an author, educator and second-generation witch whose latest book, Witch Hunt: A Traveler's Guide to the Power and Persecution of the Witch, explores the witch as a figure of female power and persecution—covering everything from the dark realities of witch trials and dangerous misperceptions that echo today, to love spells, fascinating uses of menstrual blood and sex magic. She also happens to make chats about witchy role-play ideas incredibly fun! A few things you'll learn about in this episode: Kristen's experience with long-haul COVID-19 What Kristen means by the "magic of place" and how writing her latest book, Witch Hunt, became a deeply personal experience and ultimately changed her Witches throughout history and how they became linked with sex positivity and sex-positive feminism How the sex magic practice Kristen talked about during her last Girl Boner appearance played out in August's life (Authors, take note!) 8 witchy role playing accessories + 3 sexy scenes to consider! Spicy ideas for celebrating Halloween and any time there's a full moon Dr. Megan Fleming's top beginner's tips for role playing Learn more: Kristen J. Sollée - order a signed copy of Witch Hunt! http://kristensollee.com/books Order Witch Hunt from a wonderful indie bookstore:https://www.esowonbookstore.com/book/9781578636990 More Girl Boner fun: https://girlboner.org/ (Click "blog" for episode transcripts.) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/girlbonermedia/ To receive Clitoral Play: 7 Techniques for Mindblowing Pleasure and occasional hot sex tips from Dr. Megan Fleming, text 'desire" to 66866. Or sign up here: https://greatlifegreatsex.com/

Dr. Tim Seelig, Emmy Award-winning­ director and San Francisco Gay Men's Chorus conductor, spent the first 35 years of his life closeted about his gayness in a traditional Southern Baptist community. A few things you'll learn in the episode: How Tim was outed to his entire community and lost everything What he gained by coming out How his Baptist Christian family reacted and how those relationships evolved How encountering a man with AIDS changed him Highlights from an incredible forthcoming documentary Dr. Megan Fleming's thoughts for a listener who wants to support her friend who recently came out as lesbian and has sex toy questions A food-themed bonus clip after the outro music Dr. Tim Seelig: http://www.timseelig.com More Girl Boner fun: https://girlboner.org/ (Click "blog" for episode transcripts.) Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/girlbonermedia/ To receive Clitoral Play: 7 Techniques for Mindblowing Pleasure and occasional hot sex tips from Dr. Megan Fleming, text 'desire" to 66866. Or sign up here: https://greatlifegreatsex.com/ Edited and produced by August McLaughlin

If you or a partner has ADHD, you know that brain styles can impact sex and relatioships in all sorts of ways. A few things you'll learn in this episode: Common challenges related to sex and ADHD, from "time blindness" (for lack of a better term) to distractability How this type of neurodivergence can enhance relationships and intimacy Some related funny-in-hindsight experiences, from August and Rachael Rose What to do if you're struggling with sex or intimacy Take the neurodiversity, sex, love and relationships survey created by Rachael Rose and Dr. Liz Powell here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeDLmfeX_XARHASs1RMLhURGZCaxIZWlf_t5e8wn8_h7iBZYg/viewform Learn more about Rachael's work: http://hedonish.com To receive Clitoral Play: 7 Techniques for Mindblowing Pleasure and occasional hot sex tips from Dr. Megan Fleming, text 'desire" to 66866. Or sign up here: https://greatlifegreatsex.com/ More Girl Boner fun: https://girlboner.org/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/girlbonermedia/ Edited and produced by August McLaughlin

Phone sex operator Amberly Rothfield had just gone through a several-month sex hiatus when she experienced an orgasm that changed her life. Dr. Samantha Allen had started to think orgasms were no longer in her future when, two years after sex reassignment surgery, she was surprised by one. Sex therapist Vanessa Marin had her first orgasm on the playground as a child. only to struggle in the climax department years later. A few things you'll learn in this episode: A common myth about gender, being transgender and what sex-reassignment surgery actually entails A few ways to invite your first orgasm alone or with a partner How (and why) to create and continue expanding what Dr. Megan calls your "erotic menu" Learn more and support this episode's guests: https://amberlyrothfield.com http://samanthaleighallen.com https://vmtherapy.com/how-to-orgasm M to (WT)F: Twenty-Six of the Funniest Moments from My Transgender Journey by Samantha Allen: https://www.audible.com/pd/M-to-WTF-Audiobook/B08FTJJHHP To receive Clitoral Play: 7 Techniques for Mindblowing Pleasure and occasional hot sex tips from Dr. Megan Fleming, text 'desire" to 66866. Or sign up here: https://greatlifegreatsex.com/ More Girl Boner fun: https://girlboner.org/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/girlbonermedia/ Edited and produced by August McLaughlin

Vibrators were originally created to treat "hysteria" in women. Thankfully, they're now broadly embraced for personal pleasure. But not all sex toys are created equally or as beautifully. A few things you'll learn in this episode: What Ti Chang learned about sex growing up and takeaways from her first vibrator experience Why the aesthetics of sex toys, especially those marketed toward femmes, matter Common myths about vibrators that can really stand in our way How to bring up toy use to a partner Ways to make orgasms stronger through sex toy play, with or without a partner Get FREE engraving on a Crave Vesper vibrator necklace with the code girlboner! https://www.lovecrave.com/products/vesper/ INSTAGRAM: @DesignerTi https://www.instagram.com/designerti/ @Dr.Megan.Fleming https://www.instagram.com/dr.megan.fleming/ @GirlBonerMedia https://www.instagram.com/girlbonermedia/ To receive Clitoral Play: 7 Techniques for Mindblowing Pleasure and occasional hot sex tips from Dr. Megan Fleming, text 'desire" to 66866. Or sign up here: https://greatlifegreatsex.com/ More Girl Boner fun: https://girlboner.org/

Eager to get turned on or enjoy more pleasure? There are many ways to do so, and the benefits can go far beyond the bedroom. Take it from 6 authors or spicy books, as well as August and Dr. Megan! If you're concerned about a lack of sexual desire lately, on the other hand, you're not alone and that's nothing to be ashamed of. Keep the fun going: Autumn Bardot's YouTube page for writers: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC001T98zlVVjqrutPCRPEsQ Lauren Emily on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurenemilywrites/ Rebecca Grace Allen: https://rebeccagraceallen.com Logan Pierce: http://www.whoislogan.com Kitt Crescendo's books: https://www.amazon.com/Kitt-Crescendo/e/B00HIV96CW The Big Book of Orgasms: 69 Sexy Stories, edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07H457569/ Shop at the Pleasure Chest: https://thepleasurechest.com To receive Clitoral Play: 7 Techniques for Mindblowing Pleasure and occasional hot sex tips from Dr. Megan Fleming, text 'desire" to 66866. Or sign up here: https://greatlifegreatsex.com/ More Girl Boner fun: https://girlboner.org/

Have you ever used a non-sexual object for sexy play? If so, you're far from alone. Sometimes these "pervertables" can bring fun and adventure. Other times, they land folks in the emergency room. Thankfully, there's a lot you can do to have creative fun and stay safe at the same time. Take it from Dr. Megan Stubbs. A few things you'll learn in this episode: What objects got lodged in folks' vaginas and rectums last year What this kind of report reflects about sex and sexuality How to more safely use pervertables Vaginal douching risks and anal douching tips The best way to wash genitals How to make sure your sex toys are as body-safe as possible How do deal with negative comparison comments, about penis size specifically Learn more: What Did We Get Stuck in Our Rectums Last Year? https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/v74mgb/what-did-we-get-stuck-in-our-rectums-last-year Dr. Megan Stubbshttps://www.sexologistmegan.com More Girl Boner funhttps://girlboner.org/ To receive Clitoral Play 7 Techniques for Mindblowing Pleasure and occasional hot sex tips from Dr. Megan Fleming, text 'desire" to 66866. Or sign up here: https://greatlifegreatsex.com/

"What about Girl Boners?" August first wondered about this in grade school. While she didn't realize it then, that curiosity set the stage for her eventual career. Throughout that work, she's learned a great deal about obstacles in the realm of femme sexuality. She's also heard many questions about arousal, a topic Dr. Megan has a lot to say about, given her nearly two decades as a sex therapist. A few things you'll learn in this episode: What "Girl Boner" means A few common obstacles around "female sexuality" Repercussions of these obstacles that hurt folks of all genders Tips for exploring your personal turn-ons Explore Girl Boner: https://girlboner.org/ Shop for toys: https://thepleasurechest.com To receive Clitoral Play 7 Techniques for Mindblowing Pleasure and occasional hot sex tips from Dr. Megan, text 'desire" to 66866. Or sign up here: https://greatlifegreatsex.com/ Connect with Makenzie Mizell for podcasting services: https://www.periodnetwork.com

Porn. How do you feel about it? August has heard from folks who love watching porn and feel it strengthens their lives and relationships, people who feel better off without it, folks who are frustrated by what's portrayed on mainstream porn screens and those who are irked by the myths surrounding the medium. All of these feelings are valid. One thing's for darn sure. We need more conversations and education about it. In this episode you'll learn: Filmmaker Angie Rowntree's decision to create porn geared toward female viewers A bunch of ways sex on the screen varies from sex in porn What can happen when we aren't clear on these differences (including a true story) How performer and creator June Ann navigates pirating of her content How penis pumps work, what they're for and whether they're safe More! Learn more: June Ann: jadextraextra.com Sssh: Sssh.com Girl Boner: https://augustmclaughlin.com/ Dr. Megan: https://greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasure/ The Pleasure Chest: https://thepleasurechest.com

Cheryl Hunter talks to August about the harrowing tale of the kidnapping and sexual assault she endured in her late teens, when she traveled from rural Colorado to France in hopes of launching a modeling career. She's now a bestselling author, news commentator and resilience expert with a great deal to say about navigating difficult times, forgiveness, owning your story and learning to thrive—including during and after the pandemic. Cheryl Hunter: https://www.instagram.com/huntercheryl/ http://cherylhunter.com/masterclass Erin Tillman: https://thedatingadvicegirl.com More Girl Boner fun: https://augustmclaughlin.com/girlboner

Holly, Lena Corazon, Shannon K. and Kirsten share their favorite solo play techniques, from fingers-only to a nipple-stimulating toy! A few things you'll learn in this episode: 1 Tips for up-leveling or starting a masturbation practice 2 Ways a piercing might enhance sexual pleasure 3 What some people use instead of a vibrator in a pinch 4 Benefits of natural oils as lube 5 How to deal with shame around solo play 6 Awesome perks of "Jill-ing" off 6 When to reveal your sexual desires and orientation to someone you're dating Erin Tillman's book + podcast: https://thedatingadvicegirl.com The Pleasure Chest specials: https://thepleasurechest.com Followup blog post: https://girlboner.org/blog Girl Boner books: https://augustmclaughlin.com/books/

Grief impacts sexuality, yet the topic too often goes unaddressed. In this episode, Joan Price speaks to this interplay and ways to best navigate intimacy during difficult times, drawing on from personal and professional experience. 1 A gift Joan's beloved gave her before he died (that we should all consider doing) 2 How Joan reconnected with sexual pleasure after losing him 3 Practical ways to deal with insecurities that impact sex and dating 4 Joan's decision to cocreate an explicit sex ed film for seniors 5 Spectacular aspects of creating the film 6 Takeaways from the film that can enhance our sex lives at any age Explore Joan Price's books, blogs, webinars and film: https://joanprice.com Check out Erin Tillman's book and podcast: https://thedatingadvicegirl.com Shop at the Pleasure Chest: https://thepleasurechest.com Sign up for occasional Girl Boner extras: https://girlboner.org/

What's your wildest sex or dating memory? This week on Girl Boner Radio, August shares OMG stories from fellow Period podcasters, including Makenzie Mizell, AM Davies and Sara, plus dating empowerment coach, Erin Tillman. August starts with one of her own stories and wraps up with stories submitted by listeners. Work with Erin: https://thedatingadvicegirl.com Celebrate Anal August! https://thepleasurechest.com More Girl Boner fun: https://girlboner.org/ Period: https://www.periodnetwork.com Comadres y Comics: https://www.periodnetwork.com/comadres-y-comics Yes, a Stripper Podcast: https://www.thequeenofsexy.com/yes-a-stripper-podcast/

Mollie Birney, MA knows how challenging self-destructive behaviors are, thanks to personal and professional experience. She spoke with August about her journey, including messages she learned about femininity from her abusive father and her toxic relationship with boxing, plus her top advice for addressing compulsive behaviors and cultivating self-compassion. Dr. Megan Fleming weighs in for a listener who feels powerless to risky sexual urges and wants to save his relationship with his girlfriend. Mollie on IG: https://www.instagram.com/mbclinicalcoaching/ "Things I Learned Getting Punched in the Face": https://humanparts.medium.com/things-i-learned-getting-punched-in-the-face-b92faed76124 Shop summer vibes! https://thepleasurechest.com Pleasure challenge: https://greatlifegreatsex.com/ More Girl Boner fun: https://girlboner.org/

In loving memory of Lora Somoza, August shares highlights from their 2017 studio time when they talked about sex games and what to keep out of your onling dating profile, then played The F'ing Truth (like Truth or Dare Bingo without the dares). Dr. Megan Fleming shares tips for a listener whose partner experiences multiple orgasms and she would like to, too. Between the Sheets with Lora Somoza: https://apple.co/3j8pQj7 Pleasure challenge: https://greatlifegreatsex.com/ More Girl Boner fun: https://girlboner.org/ The F'ing Truth: http://www.thefingtruth.com Apple Podcasts summary: In loving memory of Lora Somoza, August shares the time they played a game (like Truth or Dare without dares), covering everything from booty calls and masturbation memories to true intimacy. Dr. Megan weighs in on multiple orgasms.