Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind Podcast

You open a settlement offer on Friday afternoon and it's outrageous. Before you fire back, this episode gives you the Perspective Check: a way to borrow wisdom from your future self by asking how this will play out in 10 hours, 10 days, and 10 years. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

The two traps people fall into when divorce hits their inbox: freezing and doing nothing, or retaliating with everything you've got. Corey breaks down why both backfire and walks through the strategic response that keeps you in control. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

A checkpoint before we move forward. How far you've come since episode one, and what's next. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

The 4 levels of a contested custody case and why only one of them protects your child's mental health. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

What to do when you're spiraling at 2am over a text from your ex. A scenario lab walking through the 3 shifts: boundaries, the 24-hour pause, and mental distancing. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Why fighting every issue in your divorce will cost you the ones that matter most. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

You knew better. You responded anyway. Now you're spiraling. This episode isn't about being perfect. It's about three small changes that give you more capacity when you're running on fumes. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

You've been the primary parent their whole lives. Now your ex wants 50/50 and won't budge. You're awake at 2 AM, replaying the injustice on a loop. This episode gives you a 5-step process to break that cycle so you can stop spiraling and start thinking clearly again. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Friday afternoon. You're done with work, ready for the weekend with your kids. Then a text from your soon-to-be ex lands and you fire back while you're still activated.I've been a divorce attorney for 25 years. Those rapid-fire text threads become Exhibit A. They get used against you.This episode covers the 24 Hour Pause: how to stop reacting and start responding tactically.You'll learn why the "emergency" usually isn't one, what to say when you need to buy time, and why their escalating texts actually mean you're winning. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

You know the moment. You're about to fall asleep, you check your phone one last time, and there it is. A text that lights you up. You respond. It goes badly.Corey shares a story he's not proud of and explains why boundaries aren't about your ex. They're about protecting yourself from your worst impulses when it matters most.Plus one phone setting that puts you back in control. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Some people will spend ten thousand dollars to fight a five-thousand-dollar problem. That's not negotiation. That's punishment. Spot it early so you stop wasting resources. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

The parent who reacts least wins most. That win is a better life for you and your children. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Divorce isn't just financial. It's a capacity problem. Most people run out of something other than money first. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

There's an outer game and an inner game in divorce. Your lawyer plays one. You play the other. And yours matters more. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Feeling overwhelmed by your divorce? Start here. In this episode, Corey Shapiro shares how to slow down, set boundaries, and think clearly before emotions or bad advice make things worse. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Key takeaway: Your emotions are not the problem in divorce. How you use them is.Most divorce books say to leave your emotions at the door. Katherine Miller, author of The Emotionally Savvy Divorce, has a different take: your emotions can be your most valuable negotiation tool if you know how to work with them instead of fighting them.Katherine and Corey discuss how to handle anxiety without making reactive decisions you will regret later, why fighting to be "right" often costs you happiness, and how to break out of exhausting conflict loops. She explains the three levels of conflict: positions ("I want the house"), interests ("I need stability"), and meaning ("I am a good parent"), and why most couples argue at the surface level.If you are overwhelmed and want practical ways to negotiate more effectively, The Emotionally Savvy Divorce offers clear tools and real stories that will help you feel less alone and more strategic about what comes next.Resources mentioned:The Emotionally Savvy Divorce by Katherine Miller Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Season 6 finale. Five truths to carry forward: clarity over control, balance over fairness, time as currency, emotions that pass, and progress over perfection. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

You don't earn rest. You need it to think clearly. Corey explains why self-care isn't optional during divorce and how to start small. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Holiday schedules override your regular parenting routine. Corey breaks down how to define them precisely, handle the collisions, and stop treating December like a zero-sum game. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Some kids seem to bounce back after divorce while others carry the pain for years. Corey Shapiro explains why that happens and how your healing becomes the key to your child’s emotional recovery. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Divorce can leave you feeling like love and happiness are over. Corey Shapiro shares how to heal, rebuild trust, and take simple steps toward a life that feels good again. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

You’ve done the hard part. The papers are signed, the conflict is over, but you still don’t feel better. In this episode, Corey Shapiro explains why recovery after divorce can stall and what simple steps can help you move forward again. This is not about perfection. It is about rebuilding your energy, your focus, and your peace of mind. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Are you letting anxiety or anger steer your divorce? In this episode, Corey Shapiro, a New York City divorce attorney, breaks down how strong emotions can cloud judgment and damage credibility in court and co-parenting. Learn the difference between anger that explodes and anxiety that spirals inward, and how to pause before either takes over.Corey shares a real-world example of how worry can snowball into serious accusations, and what to do instead to stay grounded and strategic.If you want to protect your children, your peace of mind, and your case, this episode will help you slow down, think clearly, and act from your wiser side. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Corey explains what to do when you hand over your documents and the other side plays games with theirs. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

They stopped paying child support, and Corey explains why blocking parenting time will only hurt your case. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

You love your kids, but sometimes you wish you could vanish. Corey breaks down the difference between taking a restorative break and making an escape that leaves lasting scars. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Corey shows you how to distinguish between court-worthy problems and everyday disagreements, enabling you to protect your time, energy, and children. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Corey explains why “shark” lawyers often leave families in ruins.He breaks down the swarmer, the brawler, the boxer, and the top dog.Corey shares the one question to ask before you hire any attorney. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Corey Shapiro breaks down one of the nastiest divorce games: serving papers at work just to humiliate. He shares how to avoid firing off a text you will regret and introduces a new 24-minute pause using AI to help you respond wisely, not wildly. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Your ex knows exactly how to get under your skin, and that is no accident. Corey explains why reacting in the moment can wreck your case and how a simple pause can save your time, money, and peace of mind. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

This episode is about why reacting in the heat of the moment can backfire. Corey shares how a simple pause can keep you from making a mistake that hurts your case, your co-parenting, and your peace of mind. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Forget spouse against spouse. Corey makes the case for treating divorce like a family system, not a fight, and shows why you may need to lead even if your ex won’t. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

When tensions rise, Corey shares why sometimes the smartest move in divorce is doing nothing at all. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Most people want answers in divorce; Corey explains why better questions matter more. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

What happens when both spouses want to divorce well, but emotions still threaten to derail the plan? Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

When both sides are in operator mode, Corey shows how to stop the spiral before it turns into all-out war. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Corey explains how to stay grounded when you want peace and your spouse chooses conflict. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Most people don’t need more legal tactics; they need a better lens. In this powerful episode, Corey Shapiro challenges you to stop spinning in circles and start asking the one question that changes everything: What am I trading that isn’t equal?Because staying stuck isn’t neutral, it’s expensive. It drains your time, your peace, and your power. If you’re caught in indecision or obsession, this episode is your wake-up call.What You’ll Learn:Why thinking like an Architect, not an Operator, is the first step to clarityHow to avoid pouring your kid’s college fund into your conflictThe 3-phase map of divorce: Get Clarity, Get Going, Get Your Life BackHow to stop trading peace for control and truth for approvalThe power of a single question to reset your mindset and protect your futurePower Line:What am I trading that isn’t equal?Core Insight:You’re not broken, you’re just in the fog. But every decision you make in this fog will shape what comes next. This podcast is here to hold the map while you walk.Action Step:Fill in the blank:“I’ve been trading ___ for ___.”Then ask: Is it worth it?Closing Thought:You don’t build a house without a blueprint. Don’t try to build your future that way either.You’ve got this.Even if you don’t believe it yet, Corey believes it for you. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

A high-profile lawyer doesn’t always mean high-quality results. In this final episode of our Divorce Attorney Styles series, Corey Shapiro explains what a “Top Dog” attorney really brings to the table, why reputation can be misleading, and how to protect your case — and your budget — from intimidation theater. Whether you’re facing off with a name-brand firm or just feeling outgunned, this episode will help you stay strategic.What You'll Learn:Why some clients hire big-name attorneys they can't afford, and what happens nextThe difference between legal skill and legal theaterWhen a Top Dog might actually be the right moveHow to spot whether you’re paying for reputation or resultsWhat to ask your own attorney if the other side brings in a heavy-hitterPower Line:Don’t confuse a big name with a big threat.Core Takeaway:You don’t win by matching swagger. You win by staying smart. Understand who you’re really dealing with, what matters in your case, and how to choose the legal strategy that works for your life, not your fear.Next Step:Ask your attorney:“Have you worked with this opposing counsel before?”“How do you plan to respond to their strategy?”“What are we doing to keep the case efficient and focused?”Closing Thought:You don’t need to be the loudest voice in the room. You just need to know what you’re building and how to protect it.You’ve got this.And if you don’t believe it yet, Corey believes it for you. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

If your ex’s attorney is loud, aggressive, or constantly stirring up drama, it’s easy to panic. Especially if your attorney is calm, measured, and quiet. You start wondering—am I losing?In this episode, divorce coach Corey Shapiro breaks down the third divorce attorney style: The Boxer. Not flashy. Not chaotic. But steady, strategic, and ready to strike—only when it counts.You’ll learn:What a “Boxer” attorney looks like (and why they might seem disengaged)Why tactical silence can be stronger than reactive noiseHow to know if your attorney is playing defense—or building a quiet offenseWhat questions to ask if you’re unsure who’s really fighting for youPower Line:“You’re not losing. You’re lasting.”Because lasting takes more strength than lashing out.Next Steps:Ask your attorney: Are we being tactical or just quiet?Get clear on the plan. If they’re prepping depositions, trial outlines, or settlement proposals—they’re moving.If they’re not? It might be time for a second opinion. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

If your divorce feels like a boxing match, you might be up against a brawler—someone who’s obsessed with one issue and won’t let go. In this episode, divorce coach and attorney Corey Shapiro unpacks the “brawler” attorney style: what it looks like, how it operates, and how to respond without getting knocked out.Brawlers aren’t random. They’re focused, strategic, and exhausting. But there’s a smarter way through.In this episode, Corey covers:How to tell if you’re dealing with a brawlerWhy one obsessive issue can drain your entire caseTwo smart strategies: Own it or expose itHow to protect your peace, time, and credibilityPower Phrase:“Expose it or own it.”Say it when you feel cornered. Say it before your next move.Who it’s for:If you’re facing aggressive accusations, constant pressure, or feel like you’re being backed into a corner, this episode will help you reclaim your clarity and stand your ground.Corey Shapiro helps you stop reacting, start thinking, and fight back smarter, so you can get divorced without losing your mind. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

If every message from your ex or their attorney feels like an ambush, you’re not imagining it—you’re dealing with a swarmer. In this episode, I’ll show you how to spot the tactics that thrive on chaos and keep you stuck in reaction mode. You’ll learn how to stay steady, shut down the noise, and make strategic moves that actually move your case forward. I’m giving you four clear tools—and one mantra—to help you stop feeding the fire and start taking your power back. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Sometimes it’s not just your ex—it’s their attorney. In this episode, I pull back the curtain on the four types of divorce lawyers who fuel conflict instead of resolution—and how to stay steady when the other side plays dirty. If you’re months (or years) in and wondering, “Why is this still dragging on?”—this will help you get clear, get grounded, and start moving forward again. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Everyone worries about money. But what about the hours, months—even years—this could steal from your life?In this episode, I unpack the real cost of conflict: your time, your energy, your peace. I’ll share five ways I help clients protect their calendar and their sanity—including how to avoid pointless meetings, use a 24-hour pause to regain control, and stop letting divorce drama hijack your weekends.Because the longer it drags, the more it drains. And you’ve got a life to get back to. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.

Divorce can drag on for years—and no one tells you how much it will take out of you.In this episode, I talk about why your energy is your most precious resource and how to protect it like a budget. I’ll share three simple tools I use with clients—movement, gratitude, and meditation—to help refill your tank and stop pouring yourself into every fire.This isn’t about being perfect. It’s about staying strong for the moments that matter.If you’re running on fumes, start here. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.