Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind Podcast
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Mediation Is Not Giving Up
Is This Attorney Actually on Your Side?
Can They Afford the Four Seasons for a Year?
Refusing To Give An Inch Feels Like Strength
You Told Yourself It Wouldn't Come Up
Every Issue Feels Like an Emergency
You Keep Being Reasonable. It Keeps Not Working.
Nobody explained how any of this works
When It Doesn't Feel Like It's Working
Reply Like a Judge Is Reading Every Word
When Being Reasonable Stops Working
Stop Telling. Start Asking.
What to Say Instead of "That's Ridiculous"
Build Momentum Without Caving
What to Say Instead of "Where Have You Been?"
Your Reaction Is Right. Your Response Cannot Be.
Your Feelings Don't Matter in Divorce Court. Your Actions Do.
The Secret Weapon That Makes You More Persuasive in Your Divorce
You Think Winning Changes Everything. You're Wrong.
S6 Ep 15Divorce Settlement Proposal: This Can't Be Real
EYou open a settlement offer on Friday afternoon and it's outrageous. Before you fire back, this episode gives you the Perspective Check: a way to borrow wisdom from your future self by asking how this will play out in 10 hours, 10 days, and 10 years. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S6 Ep 14Why Your First Instinct Is Ruining Your Divorce
EThe two traps people fall into when divorce hits their inbox: freezing and doing nothing, or retaliating with everything you've got. Corey breaks down why both backfire and walks through the strategic response that keeps you in control. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S6 Ep 13The Checkpoint You Can't Skip
EA checkpoint before we move forward. How far you've come since episode one, and what's next. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S6 Ep 12The Divorce Trap Parents Fall Into: Harming Kids Mentally
EThe 4 levels of a contested custody case and why only one of them protects your child's mental health. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S6 Ep 11Triggered by His Text? Here's What to Do
EWhat to do when you're spiraling at 2am over a text from your ex. A scenario lab walking through the 3 shifts: boundaries, the 24-hour pause, and mental distancing. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S6 Ep 10Your Spouse Hiding Documents? This is How It Backfires
EWhy fighting every issue in your divorce will cost you the ones that matter most. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S6 Ep 9Your Battery Is Low. Not Broken.
EYou knew better. You responded anyway. Now you're spiraling. This episode isn't about being perfect. It's about three small changes that give you more capacity when you're running on fumes. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S6 Ep 8You Raised Them Alone. Now the Court Wants 50/50.
EYou've been the primary parent their whole lives. Now your ex wants 50/50 and won't budge. You're awake at 2 AM, replaying the injustice on a loop. This episode gives you a 5-step process to break that cycle so you can stop spiraling and start thinking clearly again. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S6 Ep 7That Text Hits Different When You're Already Stressed About the Weekend
EFriday afternoon. You're done with work, ready for the weekend with your kids. Then a text from your soon-to-be ex lands and you fire back while you're still activated.I've been a divorce attorney for 25 years. Those rapid-fire text threads become Exhibit A. They get used against you.This episode covers the 24 Hour Pause: how to stop reacting and start responding tactically.You'll learn why the "emergency" usually isn't one, what to say when you need to buy time, and why their escalating texts actually mean you're winning. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S6 Ep 6That Angry Text Message Hit Too Close to Home
EYou know the moment. You're about to fall asleep, you check your phone one last time, and there it is. A text that lights you up. You respond. It goes badly.Corey shares a story he's not proud of and explains why boundaries aren't about your ex. They're about protecting yourself from your worst impulses when it matters most.Plus one phone setting that puts you back in control. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S6 Ep 5You Can't Solve a Problem With Someone Who Needs a Problem
ESome people will spend ten thousand dollars to fight a five-thousand-dollar problem. That's not negotiation. That's punishment. Spot it early so you stop wasting resources. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S6 Ep 4The Parent Who Reacts Least Wins Most
EThe parent who reacts least wins most. That win is a better life for you and your children. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S6 Ep 3Your Divorce Just Got More Expensive Here's Why
EDivorce isn't just financial. It's a capacity problem. Most people run out of something other than money first. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S6 Ep 2Your Divorce Lawyer Can't Help You If You Don't Understand This
EThere's an outer game and an inner game in divorce. Your lawyer plays one. You play the other. And yours matters more. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S6 Ep 1Start Here 2026: Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind
EFeeling overwhelmed by your divorce? Start here. In this episode, Corey Shapiro shares how to slow down, set boundaries, and think clearly before emotions or bad advice make things worse. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
The Emotionally Savvy Divorce with Katherine Miller
bonusEKey takeaway: Your emotions are not the problem in divorce. How you use them is.Most divorce books say to leave your emotions at the door. Katherine Miller, author of The Emotionally Savvy Divorce, has a different take: your emotions can be your most valuable negotiation tool if you know how to work with them instead of fighting them.Katherine and Corey discuss how to handle anxiety without making reactive decisions you will regret later, why fighting to be "right" often costs you happiness, and how to break out of exhausting conflict loops. She explains the three levels of conflict: positions ("I want the house"), interests ("I need stability"), and meaning ("I am a good parent"), and why most couples argue at the surface level.If you are overwhelmed and want practical ways to negotiate more effectively, The Emotionally Savvy Divorce offers clear tools and real stories that will help you feel less alone and more strategic about what comes next.Resources mentioned:The Emotionally Savvy Divorce by Katherine Miller Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S5 Ep 52Divorce Isn't Just an Ending. It's a Reckoning
ESeason 6 finale. Five truths to carry forward: clarity over control, balance over fairness, time as currency, emotions that pass, and progress over perfection. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S5 Ep 51You Don't Need to Earn Rest
EYou don't earn rest. You need it to think clearly. Corey explains why self-care isn't optional during divorce and how to start small. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S5 Ep 50How Holiday Schedules Actually Work in Divorce
EHoliday schedules override your regular parenting routine. Corey breaks down how to define them precisely, handle the collisions, and stop treating December like a zero-sum game. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S5 Ep 49Why Some Kids Heal After Divorce and Others Don’t
ESome kids seem to bounce back after divorce while others carry the pain for years. Corey Shapiro explains why that happens and how your healing becomes the key to your child’s emotional recovery. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S5 Ep 48Can You Find Happiness After Divorce?
EDivorce can leave you feeling like love and happiness are over. Corey Shapiro shares how to heal, rebuild trust, and take simple steps toward a life that feels good again. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S5 Ep 47Why Your Divorce Recovery Isn't Working and How to Fix It
EYou’ve done the hard part. The papers are signed, the conflict is over, but you still don’t feel better. In this episode, Corey Shapiro explains why recovery after divorce can stall and what simple steps can help you move forward again. This is not about perfection. It is about rebuilding your energy, your focus, and your peace of mind. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S5 Ep 46Are You Accidentally Letting Anxiety Turn into Anger in Your Divorce?
EAre you letting anxiety or anger steer your divorce? In this episode, Corey Shapiro, a New York City divorce attorney, breaks down how strong emotions can cloud judgment and damage credibility in court and co-parenting. Learn the difference between anger that explodes and anxiety that spirals inward, and how to pause before either takes over.Corey shares a real-world example of how worry can snowball into serious accusations, and what to do instead to stay grounded and strategic.If you want to protect your children, your peace of mind, and your case, this episode will help you slow down, think clearly, and act from your wiser side. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S5 Ep 45When Your Ex Plays Games with Discovery: How to Protect Yourself
ECorey explains what to do when you hand over your documents and the other side plays games with theirs. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S5 Ep 44When Child Support Doesn’t Come In: How to Respond Without Hurting Your Case
EThey stopped paying child support, and Corey explains why blocking parenting time will only hurt your case. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S5 Ep 43Escape vs. Take a Break: Which Divorce Strategy Works?
EYou love your kids, but sometimes you wish you could vanish. Corey breaks down the difference between taking a restorative break and making an escape that leaves lasting scars. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S5 Ep 42Court Is a Tool Not a Therapist
ECorey shows you how to distinguish between court-worthy problems and everyday disagreements, enabling you to protect your time, energy, and children. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S5 Ep 41The Lawyer You Hire Can Save Your Family or Burn It Down
ECorey explains why “shark” lawyers often leave families in ruins.He breaks down the swarmer, the brawler, the boxer, and the top dog.Corey shares the one question to ask before you hire any attorney. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S5 Ep 40How to Respond Wisely When Every Button Is Pushed
ECorey Shapiro breaks down one of the nastiest divorce games: serving papers at work just to humiliate. He shares how to avoid firing off a text you will regret and introduces a new 24-minute pause using AI to help you respond wisely, not wildly. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S5 Ep 39How to Stay Calm When Your Ex Knows Exactly How to Get to You
EYour ex knows exactly how to get under your skin, and that is no accident. Corey explains why reacting in the moment can wreck your case and how a simple pause can save your time, money, and peace of mind. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.
S5 Ep 38Why Pausing During Divorce Is a Power Move
EThis episode is about why reacting in the heat of the moment can backfire. Corey shares how a simple pause can keep you from making a mistake that hurts your case, your co-parenting, and your peace of mind. Corey Shapiro. NYC divorce attorney. 25 years in family law. Child of divorce. This podcast is based on his book, Getting Divorced Without Losing Your Mind (mybook.gettingdivorced.org).Video: youtube.com/@gettingdivorcedAudio and video editing by Chris Mottram. Recorded at Melrose Podcasts NYC.New episodes every Thursday.For information and entertainment only. Not legal advice. Consult a licensed attorney in your jurisdiction.