Everyday Legends

Do men really think like this? In today's episode, I explore a question I received a while ago from a woman wanting to understand some of her man's behaviour. I made a Q&A video about it where I came in with some HEAT, essentially saying - "No, men do not think, speak or act like this, boys do." This garnered a lot of comment and attention - questions, affirmations and confusion from some guys. So in this episode of the podcast, I expand on that point that "No, boys think like this" and discuss what I mean by that. We look at how that comes about and why. I cover if you do this and what to do about it. This ranges from reacting in the moment, getting defensive and a reactive eversion to being made to be wrong. This is a lesson into how there can be a huge chunk of our behaviours still ruled by the boy we were - the little guy whose job really was and is to try to keep us safe, but how in that adolescent state he kind of misses the mark now. As such, we start the conversation on how it's now the mature adult man's job to do this, to take care of him and to lead with maturity. If this brings up questions for you, please reach out, comment here, hit me up on social media - an Instagram DM or email me at [email protected] Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Explore Mike's coaching in the EVERYDAY LEGENDS ACADEMY Consume this: On iTunes On Spotify Read Transcript

A Personal story of Culture & Initiation This episode with Mick is a powerful journey into Indigenous Initiation - what it can look like and what can happen when it's absent. That example coming directly from Mick's life and lived experiences. We journey into his youth and where the absence of access to his parents or mentors to guide him took him into early adulthood chasing something; belonging and a deeper understanding of self. I enjoyed this conversation immensely, as we explore some of Mick's personal and cultural philosophies that now manifest in the work that he and his wife do. I felt privileged to interviewing Mick for his first podcast and gain these insights into a rich culture and some of the initiation that takes place. It certainly got me thinking about some of the monumental gaps we have in today's culture and the African Proverb that springs to mind: "The boys we don't induct into the tribe will burn don the village" Where and how are we doing that? Have a listen to this episode, I would love to hear your feedback and thoughts on the above. See below for all of Mick's info and where you can find him. If you haven't, please leave us a review on Apple - this is hugely helpful in the podcast landing in front of more men it can support. Mike's main lessons/takeaways: Mick has this beautiful presence, it's something I've only ever experienced with him because I met him after a huge shift started. It's interesting that he referenced that - a point where he recognised the need to find that version of him, he knew it was there somewhere, hidden, unexplored. I took so much from this talk and this point in tuning in to what we really already know a lot of the time. However, sometimes we need something to trigger us into action, as well as mentors, guides, and practise - especially if it can come from those int he community who have been through it. Mick's Bio: Mick Bani comes from the tribe of Wagadagam, located on Lag Mabuyag, Western Torres Strait. He is the co-founder and co-director of Kayin Revolution; a social enterprise that provides innovative, hands-on services and programs, allowing men and women of all ages the space to discover self-identity and connectedness within the realm of their own inner compass. Since leaving his island home for the first time at the age of 13, his journey took him along the east coast of Australia from Torres Strait to Sydney. An opportunity came knocking on the door which led him to play in the National Rugby League (NRL) for clubs such as Manly-Warringah Sea Eagles, North-Queensland Cowboys and the Canberra Raiders. Through his professional football and part-time acting careers, along with his own personal and family experiences of living in a remote Indigenous community, Michael wholeheartedly and openly shares inspirational messages of his life's journey, and all the struggles and triumphs that he has endured along the way, that leads to the development of mental strength and self-awareness. Where to find Mick: Website: www.kayinrevolution.com Instagram: @mickbani and @thekayinproject Other Resources mentioned: Black Dog Institute Mick's blog he mentioned Other Ways To Consume this podcast: Read Transcript iTunes Spotify

Codependency & Owning your Wounds Welcome to the first guest conversation for the show with a very good friend of mine - Mark Groves, Mr @createthelove. I was thrilled to have Mark on the show to bring the piece that first connected us to this very topic of the Everyday Legend - a piece he wrote about the 'Evolved Man', challenging women that say they want this man if they're actually ready for him. In the show, we explore mark's story a what he does. We then start talking about relationship dynamics, how our wounding - our shit - plays out and with that we explore codependency. This is a topic Mark has such a great depth of knowledge in, as well as some practised personal experience (me too). Mark is someone whose content and wisdom I trust wholeheartedly, I have learnt so much from him over the years in the field of relationships and being human, including integrity - something central to this show. A Human Connection Specialist and a great human being, mark brings some brilliant insight and always a light and engaging delivery. Mike's main lessons/takeaways: Mark always has so much insight into relationships and what I really liked about this conversation was where he dives into how our wounding - the shit we went through that created most of our beliefs about ourselves and our behaviours in relationships - ends up becoming an intense driver for sexual attraction often getting us deep into a place we don't want to be in. It's a counter-intuitive piece that mark brings so much sense to. This often being the base for codependency, which Mark breaks down nicely in this episode. "Say for example you're with someone that is hot and cold. The person hits you up at 1 am - a good sign you're a booty call. You hook up, and the arousal and sexual connection treats the pain of the abandonment and ejection. So we end up in these cycles, and of course, that's the best sex right? Of course you do, you have a couple of wounds banging up against each other." Where to find Mark and his work: Website Instagram Podcast Other Resources mentioned Why you might not be ready for the evolved man you say you want Other Ways To Consume this podcast Read transcription iTunes Spotify YouTube (unedited) Do more: Subscribe to the podcast on Apple and Please leave us a review. Sign up here for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket

Why you (likely) have LOYALTY all wrong In this solo episode, Mike breaks down the idea of loyalty and how it plays out in today's world, especially for men. We cover the origins of loyalty and how it starts from a biological level to the misguided way it often manifests today. Mike then explores how we do this and the self-abandonment it results in. We look at why we do this, and how we can shift to a place of integrity and loyalty where we don't first abandon ourselves so we can be stronger for those we wish to be loyal to. Some powerful points to consider for any man who values (or says he values) loyalty. It might challenge you to explore your definitions, how you may have been blindly running an outdated model of loyalty, but the aim here is to invite you to move to a new standard that will not only serve those people you have important relationships with - that you currently have loyalty for/to - but for and with yourself; the thing that all of those other relationships depend on. Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Explore Mike's coaching in the EVERYDAY LEGENDS ACADEMY Consume this: On iTunes On Spotify Read Transcript Watch on YouTube

EVERYDAY LEGENDS with Mike Campbell Join me for the very first episode of my new podcast; EVERYDAY LEGENDS, where I'll take you through what the show is about, who it's for, and what I want to achieve. I'll share what I mean by this term 'Everyday Legends', both who I'll be speaking to and what we are working towards creating in you, the listener. and I'll also go into a bit of my own story - something some of you may not have heard before. A little additional context to how I got into this work with men and what drives me. Join me to get a feel for the show and also to learn how you can engage with and BE PART OF the show. Where else to get this podcast Download from/Listen on Apple Listen on Spotify Do more: Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Sign up here for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket