Everyday Legends

In this Episode: Lance and Mike start off by exploring some of Lance's histories, having left a secure job in the police at 57 to start his own business consulting on navigating tough situations and building genuine resiliency. Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube Mike's Website

Rock bottom is a term we usually associate with absolute destruction and utter worst-case scenarios. It's a place we have to get up from - 'the only way is up' from there, as the saying goes. Yet, for many men, rock bottom isn't waking up under a bridge covered in your own shit and piss and vomit having burnt every relationship you've ever had. For many, it's a very different, sometimes far more subtle, nowhere near as full-on place where simply something has to change. But for so many men, we must reach our own point of rock bottom in order to make a positive forward-directed change. If what we're suffering through isn't as bad as we think doing something about it will be, we won't do anything about it. And that is what I wanted to explore in this episode. In this episode: I explore the idea of rock bottom, how we have almost romanticised it and why it takes hitting our own version of it for so many men to do something about the shit that isn't working for us. I'll break down some of the societal beliefs that imapct this and offer a solution for how to reframe the mindset that takes us there and how to get out of it. I trust you will learn something from this and invite you - no, challenge you - to do something meaningful with this information. It needn't be climbing the mountain in one go, as I discuss in the episode, but something towards a fuller, richer, stronger, more alive you. Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Emails to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Want to explore DEEP coaching support and guidance with Mike? The Everyday Legends Academy is now open for enrolment applications. Book a call here with Mike to see if it can be the full and remarkable solution for you like it has been for so many men before you.

A short moment from the episode with Mike Campbell on the idea of the 'Lone Wolf' as well as how he goes about coaching men in this way. He dives into his major caching program ELA - EVERYDAY LEGENDS ACADEMY and make the case for not only why everyday men can benefit immensely from being in a like-minded community of men, but why it's so immensely enriching and fulfilling. Get the full episode 44 here: iTunes Spotify YouTube

"Just be nice" - an often used sentiment that can, well, often lack depth. Statements like 'just be nice" or "don't be a dick" lack any understanding of why someone might or might not be those things. It's the same as saying "eat less if you want to lose weight" - sure, thanks for that, I had somehow missed that food is a major contributing factor to body weight. It has no attempt to understand the behaviour behind it. Everyone knows being nice is a good thing. Everyone knows not to be a dick, not to lie cheat and steal, everyone knows not to fight people for a few potentially hurtful words. Simple statements risk being shallow and hallow. This is why when I had on today's guest I had to put this to him; Josh Reid Jones - Founder of the Just Be Nice Project. In this Episode: Josh is a wonderfully insightful, determined, huge-hearted and nice man. Not to be confused with a 'Nice Guy' (a differentiation we explore in this episode). In this chat, we dive into the origins of the Just Be Nice idea as well as the organisation that, as Josh states it, is the only one in the world breaking down the real ins and outs of making an impact and helping organisations (and people) work out how to make the most impact in the community. This goes beyond the tired and cliched model of charity - something Josh breaks down in a deeply accurate and wonderfully worded call out of charity style advertising and money-raising model. We explore Josh's take on making an impact in the world, starting with one person. And we look at the pyramid of being nice, starting with 'being nice' then to 'being really good at something' to 'doing good'. This was a fascinating chat in which I really enjoyed diving into the next piece with Josh. I trust you take something valuable away from this episode. Please share it with a man you think could benefit from it also. And if you can prioritise 2 minutes, I ask you to do ME a solid and like and rate and review this podcast on iTunes - it supports us in getting this podcast in front of more everyday men who can benefit from it but don't yet have this information. Josh's bio: Josh Reid Jones is a social impact professional and social entrepreneur. He is the founder of the Just Be Nice project with the aim of changing the way that people help people; until they are housed, employed, and have positive mental health outcomes. Josh has been relentless in his pursuit of creating an environment that ensures people in need get the help that they need, when they need it, for as long as they need it, regardless of how they come to need help. Josh works daily to engage businesses, schools, organisations and communities in the process of creating extraordinary positive change in the world, through making ordinary positive change. Educating and engaging people while managing the resources necessary to ensure that everyone has assistance with housing, employment, and positive mental health outcomes. A non-executive director of one of Tasmania's largest social service providers Colony 47, a member of the board of directors for the Port Phillip EcoCentre, an RUOK Day ambassador and recipient of a range of awards and scholarships for outstanding contributions to social impact and non-profit leadership, Josh is committed to improving and expanding social impact and equality of opportunity both domestically and abroad. Where to find Josh: Website: https://www.jbnproject.com/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/joshreidjones YouTube: https://youtube.com/joshreidjones Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Emails to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Want to explore DEEP coaching support and guidance with Mike? The Everyday Legends Academy is now open for enrolment applications. Book a call here with Mike to see if it can be the full and remarkable solution for you like it has been for so many men before you.

A short moment from the episode with the Mark on how a conversation wanders through many aspects of being a great partner. Get the full episode - episode 39- here: iTunes Spotify YouTube

Some voices just have weight. Some people do. I am blessed to have plenty of people in my life whose voices carry weight. Certainly to me. One of those is a friend of mine, Nick Bradley-Qalilawa. Nick is someone I've had on the show before, in episode 14 where we explored Race and Racism in Australia. I always enjoy chatting with Nick and get so much insight from him - because he's such as insightful dude. Lately, I've been watching some of his adventures in Fiji - a place that is very much home to him as a half Fijian Australian - he has been back in his village with his father. And this was, in part, what I wanted to explore with him today - what we can learn from village and community life in our fast paced and ever-growing world. In this Episode: Something we touched on in our last chat, Nick and I explore the juxtaposition that has often been a throughline in his life: being half one thing and half another; European Australian and Fijian. Footballer and university student. We explore how this can actually work, as it does now for Nick, as a bridge between those two worlds. With this, we explore some of what Nick and his father are doing in bringing the villages of Fiji to meet the technology and opportunities in Australia and the 'developed world' and what we can also bring back and revive in our world that Nick's village still very much has. In this, nick shares some wonderful and inspiring stories of growing up in small-town Queensland and the kind of community that was, to the point that Barry from the local footy club just doing his thing played a monumental part in Nick becoming the man he is today. There are wonderful lessons in stories like Barry's for us men striving for purpose in our lives and how to be an impactful and useful members of community. It doesn't have to change the world but it might just change your world and the lives of people in your world. We also touch on something that is an every-increasing reality for many men: sharing a huge part of life with an ex-partner. For many that is co-parenting and striving to do so with a healthy relationship with an ex and parent of children in the middle of a break-up. Well, for Nick it is a business that he still runs with his ex. A business the two of them co-founded that serves a lot of people and would be heavily impacted if they ended it or could not relate amicably and maturely. I sense some great takeaways in this piece alone for many guys listening. I trust you will get something from this conversation. Please share it with someone you think would enjoy, benefit from, and potentially be lovingly challenged by its content. As always, if you have questions out of it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook Where to find Nick Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theonlyblackswan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/NNBBQQ Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube Mike's site Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Send Mike an AUDIO question Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Emails to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your inbox Explore Mike's Better Partner Project 4 week Accelerator Course in Relationships for Men

A short moment from the full solo episode on how nice Guys are not Good Men with Mike Campbell. Get the full episode - episode 43 - here: iTunes: https://apple.co/3pn7KOZ Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3plvzXG Mike's site: https://bit.ly/3IqYiBR YouTube: https://youtu.be/coEAZnhzQDQ

A short moment from the full episode with Mike Campbel on how lack of commitment is costing you & what to do about it Find the full episode of this Everyday Legends podcast episode number 38: iTunes: https://apple.co/3lfAsPh Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3DUCpJ4 Mike's site: https://bit.ly/3yLUPIf YouTube: https://youtu.be/XU-xVkqSXKg

A short moment from the full episode with relationship expert Jayson Gaddis Find the full episode of this Everyday Legends podcast episode number 40: iTunes: https://apple.co/3DtGQtJ Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3uGJXuW Mike's site: https://bit.ly/3hpocdi YouTube: https://youtu.be/tIgGM0l_BZ0

Imagine getting the news that your busted shoulder will, in fact, need urgent surgery. Then getting in the car and going straight home to get on a podcast interview with me. Well, that's what today's guest did, despite the frustrating situation he found himself in. Actually, it's exactly who he is that allows him to navigate shit like that and still have a great conversation. ⁠I've learnt a few things about myself over the years. One of those is to write things down that pop into my head, or I'll likely forget them. Circle back to September 2020 and I heard someone on a radio show podcast and thought - 'this dude is switched on, I need to get him on the podcast' - so I wrote down his name and the date of the podcast. Then forgot about it. Then I heard him again on the same radio show in New Zealand a few weeks back. I went back to my notes, found his name and the episode and listened to it again and in that moment stopped what I was doing and searched how to get hold of Lance Burdett. I dig some digging, reached out, got a response, we booked a time and then I thanked my previous self. I reached out to Lance because I wanted to explore his vast experience and expertise in navigating crisis, the brain, and being an ex-top cop negotiator for the NZ Police. In this Episode: Lance and I start off by exploring some of his history, having left a secure job in the police at 57 to start his own business consulting on navigating tough situations and building genuine resiliency. We have a conversation about how as the top crisis and suicide negotiator he was, in fact, himself, suicidal. Lance is real, raw, extremely well-spoken, smart, likeable, and great to have a chat with about the brain, about men and seeking help, and navigating lifes' tough situations. I enjoyed this chat. I trust you take something valuable away from this episode. Please share it with a man you think could benefit from it also. And if you can prioritise 2 minutes, I ask you to do ME a solid and like and rate and review this podcast on iTunes - it supports us in getting this podcast in front of more everyday men who can benefit from but don't yet have this information. Lance's bio: Following a successful career in construction, Lance Burdett spent 22 years as a cop and became the lead crisis negotiator. He trained in New Zealand, Australia, England and the USA with the elite units of police, prisons, emergency services, the military, and the FBI. Lance has an MA majoring in Terrorism, Safety & Security, a Diploma in Policing, a Diploma in Business Studies, and is completing a Diploma in Positive Psychology and Wellbeing. He published the bestselling books – Behind The Tape and Dark Side of the Brain – and is writing a third book about anxiety. He also makes regular media appearances. Where to find Lance: Website: http://www.warninternational.com/ Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/warninternation YouTube: here Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube Mike's Website Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Emails to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Want to explore DEEP coaching support and guidance with Mike? The Everyday Legends Academy is now open for enrolment applications. Book a call here with Mike to see if it can be the full and remarkable solution for you like it has been for so many men before you.

The challenges, the triumphs, and the deep purpose of coaching men: Here's something that comes up a lot in my work with men - the idea that guys are and feel the need to be a 'Lone Wolf'. We have glorified the idea of a man being entirely self-sufficient, never needing anyone or anything, no weakness, no whole in his wide and expansive capabilities. Because if you're not a lone wolf, well, you're weak, you're pathetic, there's something wrong with you, you're less of a man. Let me put my hand up right now and say - what total bollocks. At best a Lone Wolf fights to survive. Just to survive. So as a Lone Wolf, when you take on that identity, what you're signing up for is at best surviving. And when you're in survival mode, you can't have a very rich, fulfilling, rewarding life because all you're doing is fighting off death. Because at best he survives. At worst, the lone Wolf dies. Whereas the pack thrives. And that is what brings me to the podcast episode I have recorded for you today. After many questions about this and butting up against it first in myself for many years and now in countless me in my work, I have developed an ethos that centres around being in a pack, i.e.e having other good men in your corner as you work on yourself. And so, I have addressed this idea and the questions I get about coaching men. In this Episode: In this solo episode, I speak to the idea of the 'Lone Wolf' as well as how I go about coaching men in this way. I dive into the work we do in my major caching program ELA - EVERYDAY LEGENDS ACADEMY and make the case for not only why everyday men can benefit immensely from being in a like-minded community of men, but why it's so immensely enriching and fulfilling. For me, there is no more meaningful way to make a living providing for my family and making a difference in the lives of men that enter my coaching world. I trust you take something valuable away from this episode. Please share it with a man you think could benefit from it also - especially if you're thinking about a man who you suspect could benefit immensely from this work, then this can be a nice intro to the idea of letting the Lone Wolf identity die off and becoming stronger as part of a pack. If you're one of the legends that read this far - please take a moment to like, subscribe and leave a rating and review on iTunes. EXPLORE ELA with Mike: Grab this opportunity to explore DEEP coaching support and guidance with Mike and his team in ELA - The Everyday Legends Academy is now open for enrolment applications. Book a call here with Mike to see if it can be the full and remarkable solution for you like it has been for so many men before you. Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube

A short moment from the full episode with All Black hard man and compassionate community leader Ardie Savea. Find the full episode of this Everyday Legends podcast episode number 42: iTunes: https://apple.co/31U1NRp Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3sa2iS6 Mike's site: https://bit.ly/320tBmC YouTube: https://youtu.be/WseU2R4Lk44

For the Nice Guys reading and listening to this - I feel you. Because I've been you.⁠⁠ ⁠ 100% self-confessed recovering nice guy here. ⁠⁠With honest reflection, feedback, clarity, and some sobering acknowledgements I saw that some overarching motivations were because I needed to be liked.⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Insecurity yearned to feel like I was important to and valued by others so I could convince myself of the same thing.⁠⁠ ⁠⁠What a shit-sandwich that was!⁠⁠⁠⁠ One I kept making and eating.⁠⁠ Yuck. ⁠⁠ This is the Nice Guy: hope that by being nice, people will like them - see them as a good nice guy. ⁣⁠⁠ ⁣⁠⁠On the surface - "So what, who doesn't like being liked?"⁣⁠⁠ ⁣⁠⁠Intent matters.⁠ ⁣⁠⁠'I'll Be this way and do this for you, and then in return, you like me and give me reassurance.'⁣⁠⁠ ⁣⁠⁠That's not nice, brother. ⁠ It's a subtle form of manipulation. ⁣⁠ It's transactional niceness.⁠ ⁠Yuck. I know this can be a tough pill to swallow, it definitely was for me many years ago.⁠⁠ But the thing with swallowing some pills is they can create a new reality.⁠⁠ ⁠⁠This pill can shed the patterns that sit beneath the nice guy persona; the need for the approval of others so that you can feel ok about yourself.⁠⁠ ⁠⁠That's a bottomless pit of resentment, frustration, self-abandonment, and hopelessness.⁠⁠ ⁠⁠When we can learn to accept ourSELVES as imperfect humans that some people just won't like, we can actually move beyond our old nice guy software and into actually being a GOOD MAN.⁠⁠ ⁠⁠That's the aim; an internal compass for self-assurance.⁠ ⁠ In this Episode: That is what we cover in today's podcast - a deeper look into the key differences between a Nice Guys and a Good Man. I share some for comparison as well as expand on some of the points and give a little of my own experience and examples in some of them For Nice Guys listening to this and resonating let me be clear on one important point: you can change this. You can be nice AND have boundaries and self-respect. You can be ok with people not liking you without being an arsehole. But it takes work. And I invite you into exploring that work with me in EVERYDAY LEGENDS ACADEMY via a simple clarity forming conversation with me. You have ZERO to lose in doing so - click here to find out more on ELA and book a call. If you're reading and listening thinking "Shit, maybe I am too nice" then you can take a quick 3 minutes quiz to find out here: 'Are you too nice?' I trust you take something valuable away from this episode. Please share it with a man you think could benefit from it also. And if you can prioritise 2 minutes, I ask you to do ME a solid and like and rate and review this podcast on iTunes - it supports us in getting this podcast in front of more Nice Guys who want to become a genuine good man but don't yet have this information. Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify Mike's site YouTube Get Involved: Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Emails to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your inbox Want to explore DEEP coaching support and guidance with Mike? The Everyday Legends Academy is now open for enrolment applications. Book a call here with Mike to see if it can be the full and remarkable solution for you like it has been for so many men before you.

For those unfamiliar with New Zealand - we are a small country in the arse end of the world, as we tend to call it. We have some sheep. Probably not as many as you might think. It's very green. Quite beautiful, really. We can claim to Middle Earth, but that's really a minority of the population. We currently love shutting ourselves off from the rest of the world (much to this author's frustration - Hi Cindy). And we love the All Blacks. While there certainly is a wide range of humans in this country, the cliche is that most boys grow up idolising and dreaming of being All Black. Hi - I'm Mike, I'm one of those dudes. I played rugby intensely and competitively most of my life, travelled the world with it, met some wonderful mates, had some remarkable times, played some epic and 'story of a lifetime' games. But I never made it to those heights. I've told some of my story plenty of times, some of that occasionally touches on a particular broken leg and a bunch of stories about not having 'it' anymore and subsequently hiding away and not pushing myself. So, yeah - the All Black dream dropped away. Yet, being a fan did not. And the older I get, the more mature I get, the more I see the men in amongst those men. And let's be clear, in New Zealand for the longest time the All Blacks have held this kind of awed position, a revered model of manhood; strong, stoic, unemotional, humble, and ever-capable man's man. Then times changed. A new century, a new decade, and men have more scope to explore a wider breadth of manhood. So to, it would turn out, do All Blacks. Enter today's brilliant, inspiring, humble, strong, caring, powerful and poignant guest - current All Black sometimes caption, full-time legend Ardie Savea. In this Episode: Yeah, fucking Ardie Savea is on the show. This man is someone - I think - single-handedly changing aspects of the game of rugby and how to be a warrior on the field, a leader of men and others of it, with heart, with integrity, and with a consistent example of exploring his depths and inviting others to theirs. Anf that, really, is what we explore in this episode. Ardie and I wander through some of his stories, going into his own journey of healing - still - some of the tougher shit from his past, knowing that the "stuff he was going to take to his grave" is exactly what was holding back the deepest and riches connections in his life, including that with his wife. We explore some of what goes on inside the All Blacks culture, how they approach high performance and high-stress situations, and how they can learn to translate that to real life and challenging relationships, but more so we explore Ardie Savea the man. Which, to be clear, in my opinion, is a man who encapsulates what I term 'the everyday legend' - this modern representation of 'Zeus Energy'. So yeah, I flatter him with that a touch, but then, if you appreciate a dude, let him know, bro. I loved this chat for the little boy in me getting to yarn with an All Black legend and for the legend sat across from me who chose to share some of the shit most men never do, let alone All Black stars very much in the public eye. I trust you will get something from it - as might a man in your world, please pass it on to anyone you think will benefit from it. As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. Ardie's Bio: At ASAV we want to inspire youth and their families to embrace uniqueness. To empower people to be truly and authentically happy. It's simple. Happy humans mean better people. Better people build better communities. Better communities for us, for our children and their children to come. We might be the new now. But our dream is that every generation after us uses their "them" and adds to our foundation. Everyone can contribute something no matter how big or small. ''I recognise I am unique. I embrace myself. I want to be new. To be the leader of a generational change amongst my family and most loved friends. Show my children that by being my most true self I am the happiest version of myself. Show them that what I dream to build, I can. It is sustainable. And when it's their time, I can hand it onto them and they build on it and so on with their children. Every generation's uniqueness adds to the asav story. '' Ardie's clothing brand - ASAV https://asav.co/ Ardie on IG: https://www.instagram.com/ardiesavea/ Ardie's All Black profile: https://www.allblacks.com/playerprofiles/ardie-savea/ Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's brand new mini-course FINDING PURPOSE - How To Live With Purpose Instead Of Cockblocking Yourself Trying To Find Your Life's One Purpose.

There is one thing that comes up more than most when it comes to working with men; PURPOSE. Sure, many guys want to 'get confidence' and some want to simply get out of the frustrating place they are now, stop the sabotage and spending a vast majority of their time caught in their head. But even for those guys, at some point, the work turns to 'finding purpose', Which, when you talk to them - as I do all the time - the idea we have gleaned from the world of personal development, self-help, and 'success' is that a man must find his 'One True Purpose' as if there is something waiting for all of us, something we were born to 'uncover' which will then make ou lives not only complete, but make our lives. We learn to hang the entire of our happiness (outside of that which we have possibly lumped on our romantic partners) onto this idea that 'once I find my purpose I'll be happy and everything in my life will make sense and be ultra meaningful'. If you can't tell yet from my approach here, I think this is a load of bollocks that tends to send most men into a frenzy of ludicrously high expectations they can't meet - can never find this elusive 'one purpose' - and so go into the mode of self-beat-up, a consistent mode of 'shoulds' ('I should be living my purpose') and ultimately being kind of frozen in inaction until this one big purpose hits us over the head somehow. Lies and misnomers. This is something we deal with a lot in my coaching and so I have decided to do a solo episode on it as well as release a punchy yet powerful teaching mini-course on actually finding purpose. In this episode I bring you a take on the above as we explore why this happens and how it messes with our lives. I'll take you through a couple of simple examples of purpose as we explore the vital difference between 'finding your purpose' and 'living with purpose. This will include one seemingly insignificant aspect of all of our everyday lives in which you'll soon be able to not only see the purpose in it, but use the explanation to apply to many things in your everyday life. this little trick will help you on the road to doing away with the ideas of discipline and motivation - things of the past when you truly understand purpose. One of the reasons I decided to put this episode together was because we have decided to package up and release a live teaching from inside my coaching program the EVERYDAY LEGENDS ACADEMY (ELA) in which I take the guys through this critical difference and get them to go through an example that completely squashes this idea of finding your one true purpose and instead instantly gets you on the path to living with purpose. One of the ... purposes of this mini-course and the incredibly affordable investment of just $47 (AUD) is so you have the appropriate buy-in to take on board the lessons in it and then actually apply it with purpose into your life. Without that buy-in, purchasing a mini-course like this is just masturbation. This teaching also has another purpose of being an exclusive sneak behind the curtain of what we do in the coaching work with me in ELA. You can get access to the course here - it is one 45 minute teaching with some supporting emails and content. Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's brand new mini-course FINDING PURPOSE - How To Live With Purpose Instead Of Cockblocking Yourself Trying To Find Your Life's One Purpose.

Name one thing people avoid probably more than most other things. The plague - definitely. Not really Covid - although, we have become a world of attempting to avoid that at all other costs. I mean, it is the new plague, really. I digress. I suppose you could say walking into traffic. Perhaps putting metal in the microwave. Things like these do have undesirable consequences, no doubt. But what I'm talking about is more mundane yet wholly impactful on our lives. Conflict. Tell me you've never avoided conflict and I'll tell you you're lying. Go on, tell me… ahhh. Okay yeah, so conflict is something we simply do not learn how to manage, navigate, and handle. Yet, it's one of the more common elements of being a human, especially a human who is in relationships with other humans. We avoid it. We butcher it. We create it unnecessarily. We get stuck in our heads about it and create conflict there instead of just having conversations with people. All in all, it's something we could do with some more education on. Luckily for you, me and everyone else - there are people skilled in and specifically working on helping us understand and navigate conflict with ease. Enter Jayson Gaddis, founder of The Relationship School, and now the author of the BRAND NEW book (like right now it's being released - get it here first). His book is called 'Getting to Zero - how to work through conflict in your high-stakes relationships' - funnily enough the name of this episode too. In this Episode: Having Jayson on the show has been a desire of mine for a while, and the timing of his book release was too good a chance to pass up. You can probably imagine that we discuss conflict in this episode, and we do. However, we also dive into Jayson's own story of one relationship ending after another frustrating relationship ending that sparked the curiosity in him to explore why that was happening and uncovering how his way of relating was central to that. Jayson's own lessons can teach us a lot and we dive into that. While we also cover aspects of conflict and a wonderful topic I just loved - choosing to be the relational leader. I personally learnt a bunch from this conversation and am looking forward to reading the book to explore conflict management strategies for myself and my relationships. After all, if we don't learn this, we are choosing to continue patterns we learnt along the way to this point in our lives and relationships and choosing to suffer the same consequences. I trust you will get something from it - as might a man in your world, please pass it on to anyone you think will benefit from it. As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. Get Jayson's Book here right now. Jayson's Bio: Jayson Gaddis is an author, relationship expert, and coach who teaches people the one class they didn't get in school – "How to do Relationships." Jayson leads one of the most in-depth and comprehensive relationship trainings and trains coaches from all over the world on how to be relationship coaches. Jayson has thousands of fans and followers across multiple channels. He's the host of The Relationship School Podcast with over 4 million downloads (and over 330 episodes). He is also the visionary behind The Relationship School®. His book Getting to Zero will be out in fall of 2021. Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Want to explore DEEP coaching support and guidance with Mike? The Everyday Legends Academy is now expanding to a new and more accessible level for everyday men - 'The Development Academy' has all the content, coaching and most crucial aspect - the community - of ELA, now at a drastically reduced investment price. Book a call here with Mike to see if it can be the full and remarkable solution for you like it has been for so many men before you.

Welcome back to the show a good friend of mine and the first guest to appear twice - Mark Groves. For those who don't know Mark, he is a human connection specialist who delivers content, courses, and no BS advice on relationships. Right now I'm talking a lot about relationships and being a - *cough* great partner - so the first person on my list to have a conversation about this stuff for you guys is Mark. So, I gave him a shout, and here we are - a conversation that wanders through many aspects of being a great partner. In this Episode: Mark and I explore some of the things that prevent us from being great partners. We then venture into some of his own story - and what happened to him after a full-on breakup. Well, what he chose to do - put his heart behind the walls of a seemingly safe cage - until he got stumped and called to total honesty by the question "When was the last time you fully let someone love you?" I mean, that one will cut through - once you get beyond the easy to answer initially "Always" and look at what really lies beneath. We both share stories of broken engagements and hints at abandoning our own values and integrity under the misguided thinking of "winning them over and maintaining harmony in the relationship". We then venture into attachment, and why someone might not reciprocate when we say what we want. From here to look at secure attachment, and fundamentally one of the main aspects of being a great partner - being secure in yourself. As always, I loved this chat with Mark I think there are wonderful gems in here for you, as there always is for me in our conversations. I trust you will get something from it - as might a man in your world, please pass it on to anyone you think will benefit from it. If you're ready to take the plunge and BECOME A GREAT PARTNER yourself, then grab your spot in the Better Partner Project here now while they're available for a limited time. As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. Where you can find Mark and the pieces we discussed: Create The Love website Create The Love Instagram Mark's site Mine'd in the App Store Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Sign up for Mike's 4 week accelerator course in relationships for men - The Better Partner Project. We'll support you in learning everything you need to know about yourself, about your partner and about creating fun, secure and easy partner-ships. Join here.

I grew up hearing many different things that were presented to me as 'fact'. The thing about growing up is that what we witness, by in large, is what we see as truth in the world until we somehow learn differently. I thought professional wrestling was real for a good while until I had the dream shattered. Many of these truths we take on and form part of our lens of the world, and in other ways often part of our identity. One of those ideas and stories perpetuated around me, especially in my twenties was this doozie - "Men are afraid of commitment". That's just truth, isn't it? Well, no. it's not. But it's the kind of little mistruth that infiltrates the minds of men and people who deal with and relate with men that almost give it permission to fulfil as a prophecy. And so I, like many men before and after me, used this as a bit of a crutch to lean my lack of - and fear of - commitment onto. Until I shattered it into the total and utter bollocks that it is. Enter - this episode. In this Episode: It's true that commitment is a big deal for men. So much so that it harks back to our instinctual and evolutionary ancestry. This and how it now plays out for us in terms of both consequences and opportunities is what I cover in today's solo episode. In this, I share a story about me sleeping on the couch one night after being delivered some shitty news by my wife - and I explain why I did that and how it links back to commitment. And I share a story of having my heart broken so severely I out it away in a cosy sounding cage of "I'm just not looking for commitment right now". I give you examples and strategies to go away and put into practise in your life. Please do so - please implement this information. And if you need support with that especially in the area of relationships, then take this limited time opportunity to access the Better Partner Project - my 4 week accelerator course in relationships for men. The Better Partner project is the first 4-step course in relationships for men that combines done-for-you psychology, easy actions and communication tools to help you finally become the partner you've always wanted to be (and that she deserves). Without guesswork, confusion or pretending to be someone you're not. Enrol here, get instant access, start when you want. I trust you will get something from it - as might a man in your world, please pass it on to anyone you think will benefit from it. As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify Youtbe Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Sign up for Mike's Brand New & FREE Webinar on how to become a GREAT partner - join us live Sept 9th to learn what you need to know to take your relationship to the next level: Register for free here

It's been a belief of mine for a while now that many of the most messed up and avoidable issues we have on a global scale are the result of dysfunctional, disconnected, and discontent men. To expand upon that, even more, I think we have a problem with how we portray what a healthy and mature man is, and we lack adequate passages and initiations into true grown-ass mature manhood. As a result, we have many men, through no fault of their own, going about life still running some outdated and adolescent psychology. When I say 'no fault of their own' I mean we learn what we learn growing up, we model what is modelled to us and so at the point of just going about living how we've learnt to live and to make our way in the world we do just that; our best with what we've learnt and been given. But unfortunately, many of us fall short in being healthy men - which, hopefully, you can start to see, is totally understandable when we haven't had a healthy idea of wTF that is. So - dysfunctional, disconnected, discontent, disenfranchised even - and we have men who are too in their head, or too in their anger, or too in their fists, or too in their sensitivity, we have men who can't find the middle ground of being a useful, healthy and mature men and member of commnuity. This certainly isn't to shame on men - fuck no - it's to point out some shit that hasn't been working for us and direct us to how we can be better, for ourselves and those we influence. It'd also not to totally blame men for the world's wrongs - fuck no - but it is to offer some shit that we get to own and improve upon. One of the incredibly obvious ways in which men who haven't learnt how to deal with the shit from their past and truly grow into healthy manhood cause damage in the world is violence on themselves and violence on others. We have shelters for battered women and victims of family violence - all incredibly important and much needed things. But one thing we absolutely need is work and support for men to heal, grow, and become safe, mature, and loving men so we can prevent the violence in the first place. In this Episode: Enter Matt Brown (and his wife Sarah) - founders of She is not your rehab - a powerful organisation and movement working to change ideas of masculinity through supporting, educating and empowering men to transform the pain of their past instead of transmitting it onto others. They have made some huge waves globally, even getting The Rock himself into a campaign of theirs. Beyond that, they have done remarkable work both in places like New Zealand's high-security prisons, throughout the community, and in Matt's barbershops My Father's Barber. Matt and I discuss his own story from a "volatile childhood" of abuse and violence to healing his own pain to starting to cut hair in order to connect with men, and then the forming of She is not your rehab and the wonderful work they are doing. I trust you will get something from it - as might a man in your world, please pass it on to anyone you think will benefit from it. I had a great chat with Matt and am a HUGE supporter of their work. You can find out more about him and the work they're doing and how to access the book below. As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. Where to find Matt and She Is Not Your Rehab: She Is Not Your Rehab Get the Book here Matt on IG SINYR on IG Video campaign that got The Rock involved Matt's Bio: Matt Brown, is a New Zealand born Samoan and an internationally acclaimed barber, hair artist, communicator, husband, and father of three children known for 'giving great cuts' and 'inspiring great men.' He is a survivor of family violence and childhood sexual abuse and shares his story with the men who frequent his busy Christchurch and Palmerston North barbershops, My Fathers Barbers, as a way to foster vulnerability, healing, and connection. He has facilitated multiple barbering programs inside Christchurch Men's Prison, Te Puna Wai O Tuhinapo, a Christchurch youth justice facility and was named a Corrections NZ patron in 2020. Matt has cut everyone from All Blacks to the Wu Tang Clan but his true calling; he believes lies in his work to redefine societies view of masculinity and to help end the cycle of domestic violence affecting whānau all over New Zealand. In 2018, Matt and Sarah partnered with the Ministry of Social Development as ambassadors for their 'It's not OK Campaign' and are proud ambassadors for the work of Aviva Families, a family violence service centre in Christchurch. In collaboration with them, Matt hosts a men's anti-violence support group from his barbershop. Together they co-founded She Is Not Your Rehab and launched the concept in Matt's 2019 TEDx talk. He says the movement is an invitation for men to acknowledge their own childhood trauma and to take responsibility for their healing so that they can transform their pain instead of tra

One of the things I've often seen in the world of personal development is men coming in to do some work on themselves and to 'grow', but a lot of that is being driven by a desire to become more immune to judgement. We get into the work so that we can become more approvable to others, therefore, less open to some kind of hurt, rejection, judgement, wounding. This is not and cannot be the aim - for that is just attempting to create a shinier veneer, a more presentable and approval armour that we still hide behind. The aim has to be self-acceptance - the full spectrum acceptance of all of you, including the parts we might have shoved (or have shamed) into the shadows of my existence. This idea of what might be a pervasive side of the world of personal development, and potentially what some may be building a business on is a topic close to the heart and mind of this week's guest, Henare O'Brien. In this Episode: This week we discuss some of the darker sides of personal development, some of the, well, let's call it what it seems to be - hypocrisy in those at the top of this world, those espousing the loudest voices in personal growth. We explore some of Henare's own experiences in this world and the impact on himself. We also enter into conversation about men, about what he thinks is falling down in the support of men; too much telling men how to live and not enough integrity in showing them through lived example. I have to admit, some of this conversation challenged me and some of my beliefs. I feel I could have dug into this more and challenged Henare more on it - but this is me being a human and using hindsight. Alas, I didn't, and so the conversation here is what it is! I trust you will get something from it - as might a man in your world, please pass it on to anyone you think will benefit from it. As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. Where to find Henare: https://www.henareobrien.com/about Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify Youtube Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Want to grow in your relationship and take a leadership role in communication? Mike's powerful and punchy 4-week course Better Partner Project is made just for you to be your best, get on the same page, and build a true partnership that feels easy. Get it here now.

It was 2015 and I started to realise over many conversations with many men about their challenges and things they were facing in their lives that I was answering their pleas for advice and support with the same answer (thereabouts) - 'Have you tried having a conversation about that?' What became apparent to me was that something that had become pretty bloody normal and easy (easiER) for me - to connect to the conversation I needed to have despite the discomfort the idea of that conversation might bring with it - others just weren't even contemplating. It was THE answer to most of the things challenging these men; go and talk to your partner about that thing, share what you need with your father, ask your boss for a raise instead of bending over backwards behind the scene hoping they notice all your passive attempts to have your value noticed. You know? From this idea another one formed; men aren't having the conversations we need to have, we're sticking on the surface where it seems safe and our lives are constant windows into the consequences. That gave birth to Beyond The Beers - Taking a beer with mates to new depths and actually talking about the shit that matters. BTB started as a show and then became a series of live events bringing men together and taking action on the shit that matters and visiting our own depths so we can more securely do so in our lives. In this Episode: That is essentially what led to this podcast and a lot of my work now; supporting me in going to their depths. In this week's episode, I have revisited an older Q&A question about having challenging conversations in our relationships and I have expanded on it with some personal experience. The thing about a tough conversation si that it's very rarely as bad as we make it out to be beforehand. So in this episode, I explore this and how to do it. I trust you'll gain something from this. As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. Where to access BETTER PARTNER PROJECT: Better Partner Project Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Want to grow in your relationship and take a leadership role in the communication? Mike's powerful and punchy 4-week course Better Partner Project is made just for you to be your best, get on the same page, and build a true partnership that feels easy. Get it here now.

Here's something we STRUGGLE with as men - anger. We shame it, we stuff it away, we shambles it and explode with it inappropriately. We just don't know how to deal with, express and DO anger. Many men have never learnt how to manage and effectively express anger, some learnt incredibly unhealthy and shitty ways of dealing with anger - to explode, to be violent, and to essentially have other people deal with our vomiting of it onto them and into our relationships and interactions. If nothing else, it leaves a gaping hole for us to deal with a lot of our own shit. I've had many questions about it over the years, helped many men understand their outburst reactions, own the emotion and own their shit. I recently posted on social media about the difference between having anger and being violent, with a solid response wanting more on the topic. So, here we are. In this Episode: Today I explore the post I made and then dive into a story of my own where I share with you an example of an anger experience of my own and how I handled it. I explore the options I had in the moment, and that we all have when anger visits us. I break down what I did and how you can follow suit. And I explore how and why we must explore, express and own not only anger that comes to us but old historical anger we might have stuffed away or never properly dealt with over the years. As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. Where to access GYST 101: GYST 101 - Get Your Shit Together Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify Youtube Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Want or need to get your shit together? Mike's powerful and punchy 3 week course GYST 101 is made just for you to make your shit make sense stop the self-sabotage, and step into your potential. Get it here now.

I am always learning many things, all the time - still learning. Some things I keep learning over and over - kind of implying I'm not bloody learning them at all. And then there are ones that I learn again and again but in a new way or on a new level, almost. One of those is this: man, as individuals and as a society we need the wisdom, experience, insight, and practises of elders; those people advanced in age (perhaps) but sage in themselves and experienced in those years. For the longest part of human history - up until the global expansion of the agricultural age on one new level and then the dawn of the industrial age on an all-new, and almost entirely eradicating new level, we were a species that lived in small tribal bands and communities where young, old, babies and elderly, couples and families lived in close quarters, everyone had a role, everyone had a purpose. One of the central roles to a healthy, functioning and mature - initiated - society was the role of the elder; the people who could guide not only the youth, but those entering into marriage and parenthood and slowly taking over the majority of the responsibility of the community. Elders would initiate the young, pass on wisdom and knowledge, tell stories and share the lesson to life in myth and song, and cultural stories. They would sit with the young and facilitate respect, patience, grace, and humility. They were a crucial part of individuals growing into responsible adults, as well as the healthy functioning of the clan. Then BANG, we lose that, and widely present throughout most Western, and certainly European cultures, we don't have this. Instead, we have a generation of eldery, or 'olders, perhaps. We have lost the respect and reverence for the wisdom in our older generation, instead, they have been taught to chase the solo life of retirement and end of life fulfilment, turning away from the role, while the rest of us happily shove them to the corner of our psyche and our society, into the care homes and minimum security prisons, as Jerry Seinfeld once called retirement homes. We have lost the role and importance of true elders unless individuals choose to follow that path. They exist, but it's not really a self-appointed tag. As one elder I admire and follow, Francis Weller, says: "Eldership comes about when the youth come for something" - because this is something have been pondering - ' how do we create more elders when they are limited, we just have old people and they never had elders bringing them through and showing them the way? And now I get it - we, the 'youth' create this by going to those people and asking for something; guidance, support, wisdom, insight, initiation. In this Episode: This was evident to me in meeting and chatting in this episode with today's guest, John Moulang. I'm not entirely sure if john would agree with my summation here, but we do get into it in this episode. As we do his own story in parts. While he has quite the introduction in being captured, poisoned, raped, and even being in a coma, we don't spend too much time in those stories. After all, in one short podcast, episode, while it might be entertaining to hear those stories, we are here to learn some insight from him, and as John so wisely put it, not everyone gets access to your full story until they earn the right. That's what sitting with elders can do; impart little gems like this while also earning the right to the deeper stories and lessons. We also discuss elements of the shadow and men's work that john has been heavily influential in over the years. I suspect I personally will have many more conversations with John over the years, and perhaps record one or two so that we can learn from him and other elders like him (just don't expect him to call himself an elder, as I won't call myself a 'legend' - just make a podcast with that title as something to strive a life towards ;-) ) As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. John's Bio: John has explored and experienced much of South Africa, Australia, New Zealand, India, Nepal, Pakistan and Thailand. He had intentions to build a career in surfing until a skateboard accident switched his focus to music – firstly as a percussionist then adding guitar and vocals as he developed his craft into a career. The years have also been given to architecture, project management, counselling and meditation training. In more recent years, John has offered consultancy to accessibility for people with a disability while contributing to 'men's work', co-creating the annual Sydney National Men's Gathering. Now, as president of the National Men's Gathering Association, he continues expanding its offerings to regional areas and being more inclusive. John launched his first book of poetry THE HEART OF ONE in 2020 with the second coming out in September 2021, titled DREAM WAKE LISTEN SEE. John is currently restruct

There is an increasingly common theme with some men who reach out to me and that I work with. Not all, but the numbers are steady. And that is men who have either divorced or separated from their children's mother and now living in a whole new set of experiences. Not only is there the man wanting to heal old relationships and potentially the wounds and mechanisms that played out in that relationship, but there is navigating fatherhood with a new and challenging set of parameters. Co-parenting means communicating with the person with whom you have had a relationship end, often times a messy breakdown. It also commonly means part-time solo parenting. This can be an incredibly challenging situation to get through, especially when you add in the very human desire - at some point in time - for a new relationship and other life-consuming things such as work or business. Enter this week's podcast guest, Pete Tansley. Pete is a friend of mine, a wonderful business coach for fitness professionals, maker of tasty margaritas, and divorced father and co-parent of 8-year-old twins. In this Episode: In today's episode of the podcast, Pete and I explore his story of parenthood, the details around in that pertain to the relationship between him and the twin's mother at the time, and his business; a place of additional stress and reprieve from both fatherhood and marriage. Pete shares generously his experience, his challenges, and some of the areas he dopped the ball. We also look at where he's got to now in terms of his own growth and awareness of past mistakes and future relationships. We also explore some of his brilliant business and personal development philosophies that can definitely buck the cliched trend. I enjoyed this chat with Pete, and think there will be some solid takeaways for not only those men in similar situations now and previously, but men with relationships and businesses. As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. Where to find Pete: Websites: https://petetansley.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/petetansley Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/petetansley/ Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Want or need to get your shit together? Mike's powerful and punchy 3 week course GYST 101 is made just for you to make your shit make sense stop the self-sabotage, and step into your potential. Get it here now.

There are many things men are often terrified of being and/or terrified of being seen as. Being or being seen as - sometimes the reality doesn't seem as daunting as other people thinking the reality is true. Being wrong, incapable, weak are a few of the big ones that I've mentioned on this podcast before. And then there is another, one that carries with it so much social stigma it really only gets put in the darkest of corners for the saddest of people. What is it that we fear being and being seen as along with these heavy hitters? LONELY. Loneliness is a dirty word in so many places and in so many psyches, that we avoid even contemplating it. As a result, we struggle to even be alone. We're with someone at a cafe, restaurant or bar, they get up to go to the bathroom. They'll be gone a few minutes, maximum. And what do we do? We pull out our phones, we distract ourselves from a moment with ourselves. We are a society that fears being alone and much more, being lonely. Not only does it have this impact on how we view ourselves and the direct resulting impact on our mental and emotional health, but loneliness has now been clearly shown as a massive contributor acutely to poor immune function and chronically to reducing longevity. Loneliness is something that so many people feel and experience in a kind of bastardised and self-shamed way. And so, we must talk about it. In this Episode: In today's episode of the podcast, I am extremely pleased and proud to have on The Loneliness Guy, Phil McAuliffe. Not only is Phil an expert in working with both diplomates and gay men around the issue of loneliness, but he is one of the first graduates of my coaching program back in 2016, and now very much an integral part of the coaching aspect in the community in Everyday Legends Academy. In this episode, we explore Phil's own story of not only realising that he was lonely - despite working on his younger self's dream job as a diplomat in Seoul and various other countries around the globe - but then coming out as lonely to his then-wife. This would then take a whole new level of self-realisation, self-connection, and self-assessment as Phil realised part of his loneliness, as is often the case with many of us, was the realisation of how much of himself he had been hiding behind a self-protective mask. We dive into Phil's story which I think has wonderful insights for so many, be you someone who resonates with the feeling of loneliness yourself, or someone who simply wants to connect to yourself more and get more from the everyday. As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. Phil's Bio: Phil passionate about de-stigmatising loneliness and creating a safe space for people to authentically connect with themselves, those people around them and their communities. Loneliness - especially chronic loneliness - is an awful feeling. Phil's battled, and continues to battle at times, feelings of loneliness and knows how wretched and unworthy it can make us feel. Loneliness is part of the human condition, but there's such stigma in admitting our loneliness and we often deny the thoughts and feelings that come with loneliness and hope that they'll just go away. They don't. Phil tried that. The antidote to loneliness is connection. We need connection for our mental, emotional and physical wellness. But connection – authentic connection – is hard work, especially when we're all so busy or we don't even know how to connect with each other. With love and curiosity, Phil uses his story and life observations to show a way for you to begin the journey back to real, authentic connection that you need and deserve. You can find Phil's blogs and podcasts at www.thelonelinessguy.com (site for gay men) and www.thelonelydiplomat.com (for diplomats) and on social media at the links below. Where to find Phil: Websites: http://www.thelonelinessguy.com and http://www.thelonelydiplomat.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheLonelinessGuy and https://www.facebook.com/thelonelydiplomat Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_loneliness_guy and https://www.instagram.com/the_lonely_diplomat Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Need to get your shit together? Sign up for Mike's new 3 week accelerator course GYST 101 for men to move past their shit and get more from the everyday

An often asked question and butchered answer based on a set of beliefs we grow up with or learn along the way - this question is one I've been asked and seen play out in tremendously ignorant, immature and just plain stupid ways. All of which understandable. Can men and women actually be friends without messing it up with sex and attraction? Well, I address it in today's punchy solo episode taken from (and expanded upon) a previously filmed Q&A video on my social media. In this Episode: I address the question both in its natural context: can men and women be friends? And also in the context of a relationship where one partner might have an issue with the other partner still having strong female friendships (this questions asked of me by a guy, as is usually the way). I love doing these types of Q&A videos for you, so if you have your own question you'd like me to explore and speak directly to you - via the global portal that is the internet then drop me an email and send me your question. My request is that you make it specific yet precise - give me context and details but don't chew my ear off or it will be very hard to get all of that across to the viewer in the recording. As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify IGTV on Instagram Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket

I often get asked the question "How did you get into this work with men?" - with a commonly preconceived idea that it was some kind of obvious rock-bottom or really traumatic event that led to me turning my life around and then getting into the work to help men in the same situation. While that might be a sexy story, it's not the case. What is true is that my story like everyone's, hold crucial events that are vitally relative to their own life experiences. So, what I did go through eventually led me to get into this work. However, I m often interested my self in the journey of other men who end up doing similar work. Enter this week's guest, Bryan Reeves, a former Captin in the United States Airforce, now life and relationships coach for men and couples. That is a journey I am interested to hear - airforce to coach on love, essentially. In this Episode: Byran is a fascinating guy, with a huge heart, an incredibly smart head and a wonderful way with words. In this episode, we explore some of the language around boys and men and differentiate between some key aspects, such as his quote "Boys save, men serve" which is a fascinating take on mindset and psychology, especially from a former US serviceman. We explore some of Bryan's wonderful insights into moving from being broke and attaching his entire identity to it, to realising that "My situation is not my identity. My bank account is not my identity. How much money I have is my identity, it's just how much money I have at that moment. Who am I? Well, I'm not my bank account, I'm not my living situation, I'm not my past." He shares some of his journeys into trusting men and trusting himself, ultimately. If you're a man who has struggled to move from placing your identity into the things you collect or to trust yourself, this episode is for you. Bryan has some phenomenal work, including a recently released book 'Choose her every day (or leave her)' - you can hear us talk about that in this episode, and you can find it below. As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. Bryan's Bio: A former US Air Force Captain, Bryan is now an internationally renowned Author and Life/Relationship Coach, and host of the podcast, "Men, This Way." His viral blog has been read by over 30 million people in every country on the planet (except North Korea). His newest book, Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her), is now available on Amazon and other retailers, and also at www.bryanreeves.com/book. Where to find Bryan: [email protected] / [email protected] Home - https://bryanreeves.com Facebook - http://www.facebook.com/bryanreevesofficial Instagram - http://www.instagram.com/bryanreevvesinsight TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bryanreevesinsight? BOOKS 1) "Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her)" @ https://bryanreeves.com/book 2) "Tell The Truth, Let The Peace Fall Where It May" on Amazon @ https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01EJZKENO Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube: https://youtu.be/fe0w3QKmDis Mike's Website Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Want to explore the deepest and most secure coaching experience with Mike and his team in the ELA program? Book a 'Make my shit make sense' call with Mike now.

In my work, I get asked many questions about men, what it means to be a man, about understanding men, and about supporting men. One that pops up now and again is something like this: "Have you ever thought about working with young men and doing this work in schools? Man, it would be so powerful!" I agree. It would be. But I've always said and still stick by the point that I work with grown-ass men because, fundamentally, I'm working with me from about 12 years ago. I work with the men who resonate with me and that I get along with. Legit, if you listen to me, watch my content, follow my stuff and in amongst all of the lessons and 'SHIT Mike is speaking TO ME!" moments you think "Mike sounds like a dude I could have beers/coffee/laugh with." it's because you could. Which, as a quick aside, might be evidence enough to get your shit moving and start working with me and my team. Anyway, back to the point - the other thing I say in response to this is this "I don't think I'm the best man for the job, and I know of wonderful organisations that are doing the work in schools with young men. I am happy to support them and their great work." Specifically, two organisations come to mind when I say this. One of them is called Man Cave. Man Cave is founded by a man called Hunter Johnson. And Hunter is my guest on the podcast this week. In this Episode: Hunter and I venture into the remarkable work Man Cave are and have been doing for some years now. We explore what he sees in the young men they work with, and what he sees in them that is also perhaps still in many of us. Including, in this, some of Hunter's personal journey and realisations in even starting the organisation. We dive into Huner's take on how we tend to have a crisis management approach to things like sexual violence and mental health in men and instead, looking at their proactive, educational, and ultimately, empowering model of not just talking about men or to them but with them. Especially young men who are often incredibly confused at the multiple conflicting and highly important messages coming at them every day. This was a fun conversation wandering through many aspects of masculinity and working with men both young and those in their mid-life years. Not only that but we hear a phenomenal story from Hunter about meeting the Queen at Buckingham Palace and having several meeting with Prince Harry and Meagan about the state of mental health in young men and the work Man Cave is doing to reverse that. As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. Hunter's Bio: Hunter Johnson is the Founder & CEO of two purpose-driven organisations. Hunter leads The Man Cave, an emotional intelligence charity that has impacted the lives of 20,000 young men across Australia. Hunter also leads STUFF™, an investor-backed, purpose-driven personal care brand for the next generation of men. Alongside his work in the masculinity space, Hunter is an Advisor to The Queen's Commonwealth Trust (QCT), a charity championing young people throughout the Commonwealth alongside Prince Harry, the President of QCT. Hunter's work has led him to speak around the world including presenting at the United Nations, Government House, Human Rights Commission, Sydney Opera House, Melbourne Town Hall, Graduation Ceremonies and various Universities. Hunter has been recognised as a Finalist for the 2020 Young Australian of the Year Awards (VIC), listed as one of Harper's Bazaar's "Visionary Men for 2019", named a 2018 Queen's Young Leader by Her Majesty The Queen, and 2018 Winner of the EY Social Entrepreneur of the Year Award (Southern Region). Where to find Hunter: The Man Cave Website Facebook Twitter - @themancave_aus LinkedIn Instagram - themancave_aus STUFF Website Facebook Instagram - @followthestuff Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube Get Involved: Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Email Mike [email protected] if you want to take action on THE opportunity to 'have a beer' with Mike - aka spend six months learning and hanging out with me.

We have many narratives that we see, hear, experience, and take on board as boys, adolescents and now as men. They range from innocent, to important, to powerful and positive, to powerful and outrageously negative. We have narratives and messages we receive about being respectful of others, about treating others how you want to be treated, about elbows on the table, about talking with your mouthful, about the importance of getting an education and getting a good-paying job, about success and what dictates it, about marriage and what makes a good one, about death and aging - just about anything in life, we receive messages and from those messages, we create narratives about them. Those narratives become our beliefs. Our beliefs become our behaviours. Our behaviours create our life; what it looks and feels like, how we act, how we speak, and ultimately who we are. In amongst all of this is the common narrative that includes a mixture of the following: that men need to be strong, tough, unemotional, never show weakness, be able to handle everything, and never ask for any kind of help or admit that you can't do something or don't know something. Before I move on - let's just reflect for a moment on the widely outrageous size of that as an expectation we commonly place on boys as they stare down that narrowest of narrow paths to manhood. Fuck. One of the behaviours and set of outcomes that often falls in here is the common pattern of attempting to live and solve all of life's problems on an isolated island. And friendships that stick to the surface. A consequence of that is almost every man living this reality thinking he's the only one experiencing rough patches and problems, while simultaneously wishing he had safe support to understand and navigate said issues. What happens, is we have removed the incredibly important and massively powerful nature of male relationships with depth, support, strength, compassion, and accountability - the kind of relationships that allow us not only to navigate life, but to grow in the container that they are as we test ourselves and be tested. In this Episode: This is what I explore and dive into on this solo episode of the podcast this week; the power of being in community with good men. Of course, one of the things that might bring up is 'What is a good man?' - so, for the sake of brevity, I'll simply point you to the podcast to listen to the broader explanation of a man of integrity, strength and safety for others. If you're a man who does not have these types of relationships, nor doesn't have an idea how to create them let's first start with acknowledging the immense power and importance of them and what they have available for you. In the episode, I present the case for not only having good men in your life, but also why men and boys banter and pile shit on each other - from an evolutionary standpoint. I enjoyed this episode, as, in case it's not blatantly obvious, I believe wholeheartedly in this - it is part of every piece of coaching, programs, course, anything of the work I do with men in some way involves that man having other men in his corner to support him, to challenge him, to hold him accountable, and to call him forward into integrity and who he is capable of being. There is an invitation for you in this. As always, please let me know what you think of it. Hit the 'SUBSCRIBE' button and if you're listening on Apple - please leave a rating and review, it helps us get this in front of more men who could benefit from it. Where to find out more about entering into this kind of supportive community and loving challenge with Mike in EVERYDAY LEGENDS ACADEMY - Find out more and apply for a strategy call with Mike here: http://mikecampbell.com.au/coaching/ Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube: https://youtu.be/Qq6VjKfGjBM Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Register for your simple, safe, and commitment-free call with Mike to explore if ELA is right for you: http://mikecampbell.com.au/coaching/

The realm of personal development has a few different worlds in it. One of those is the idea of just being better ' #liveyourbestlife - which tends to focus on just following your dreams and passions and being positive all the time. Unfortunately, for many of us, this sets unrealistically high expectations and ultimately encourages by-passing of shit we actually need to learn, sit in, process, and move through. As a result, we often spin in feeling like a failure, beating ourselves up and trying hard to be overly positive despite shit potentially going as well as am arm being chopped off. Closely related to this world is the idea - heavily favoured by men - of simply focusing on the strategy to move past what is frustrating us, the strategy to create new results and outcomes. The challenge and weakness with this are immense but often subtle; if we only focus on moving forward without understanding and being able to overcome what led to us being in the place we want to move beyond, we will tend to have short bursts of success until the underlying issues inevitably resurface. Enter - YOUR SHIT. This is what is happening in both of these situations; we're trying to ignore and avoid our shit. Doing that only emboldens in to have a more insidious and frustrating hold over our lives. Shit unaddressed and unmanaged will pull the strings. That is primarily a lot of my work with me; making sense of their shit, changing the relationship to it, owning it, moving past it, and overcoming it so that we get out from under its thumb and replace our thumb on its head. That's what this episode is about - why you struggle to get your shit together even though you really want to. In this Episode: In this episode, we explore some of the reasons why we - especially as men - struggle to get out shit together even though we know how it's playing out, we know what we want and what we need to do. We'll explore some of the ideas that see us stubbornly stick our head in the sand with our shit, hoping it will just magically disappear and life can be grand. We also explore some key foundations for how you can actually and finally get your shit together. Where this brings us to is this - I have launched a brand new course for exactly this: GYST 101 - Get Your Shit Together - a 3 week accelerator course in life and shit for men who want to make their shit make sense, stop sabotaging themselves, and finally step into their potential. This is a punchy 2 weeks - not only, but long enough with concerted application to make a DENT in your shit ad in your life. It would be easy for me to create a course of 6 weeks, or longer - to really do longer-term work on your shit, but here's the kicker - for most men our shit is the thing stopping us from working on our shit. The more barriers to starting the less likely we are to starting. So, GYST is 3 weeks - a 21 day push to make a monumental difference in your life. You can apply yourself for three weeks, right? It starts TWO DAYS from the time you purchase and enrol. Spots are open NOW - and we have an initial availability of 100 places for men finally ready to stop feeling like they need to get their shit together, fed up with struggling to get their shit together, men finally ready to stop hearing from the people in their lives "you need to get your shit together" and actually DO IT. SIGN UP HEREor send this on to a man in your life (or sift it to him - just $247 AUD for lifetime access to the content and live coaching support with me. Where to find out more on the course - including ALL your questions (FAQ at the bottom of the page) Get the course here: https://bit.ly/3aWpEAZ Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube: https://youtu.be/RscI3mMgsKM Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Sign up to the GYST course today and join us when you start in two days time: http://mikecampbell.com.au/get-your-shit-together

Getting out of $500,000 debt & turning your life around I've been working with men for a long time now. Specifically in the realm of helping them mentally and emotionally to get their shit together for 9 years. Before that in the physical sense - but always essentially mental and emotional sense - for 8 years. That's 17 years and counting in working with men to understand and overcome their shit. There are common themes, no doubt. Relationships are a huge one. Career enters a lot. Body stuff for sure. And then there is how they feel about themselves, which usually boils down to one thing - their worth. How we see our worthiness is a giant subject. One we often screw up in the personal development world, in my mind. But what's important to note is this - it touches and impacts everything in our lives. One of the biggest areas that we struggle to connect to - even though part of the clue is in the fucking title - is money. It is frighteningly common for men to have shit around money and that having a direct connection to their own worth. It usually runs something like this: The more money I have, the more worth I have, the more worthy I am. After all - money is something we place worth into. And for so many men it means we place our worth as a human into the money we have - or don't have. This doesn't mean money is bad, it simply means it is a beautiful lens from which is see a bunch of our own shit. Shit that holds us back from a few monumental things: feeling worthwhile, like we deserve to be happy as we care, and actually gaining and maintaining money. If I don't believe I have worth then it will be hard for me to hold onto something of worth. And so, I don't. Enter most guys money shit (and their own shit). And so, for this podcast, Enter Dan Harrison. In this Episode: Dan is a man which a hell of a story when it comes to money and shit. From working $8'hr and being $500,00 in debt to a complete turn around earning hundreds of thousands of dollars a year and coaching financial advisors, Dan has been through the wringer with money and come out the other side to totally change his relationship to it. We explore this story, his journey and how he got to the other side of such a massive debt at just 22 years of ages. What I really enjoyed in this conversation with Dan is his candid nature in exploring some old wounds, as well as his ability to take us through the mind of a young man working his way out of such heavy shit - "A bone-crushing mountain of debt" to use his words. Very shortly, potentially by the time you hear this episode and read these words, I have a new course for men in navigating life - GYST: Get Your Shit Together 101. It is designed to make your shit make sense, stop sabotaging yourself, and step into your potential. Your shit might sit squarely in money, or it might sit elsewhere. Either way, this course will support you in understanding, owning, and growing past it. You can view it on my site here (if live) or email me at [email protected] to get front of queue access to one of the limited 100 initial spots. As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. Dan's Bio: Dan Harrison is an Ex CFP turned course creator and online business mentor to Intuitive Entrepreneurs. He specializes in authentic selling, relationship-based marketing and transformational leadership. He was a top producer for one of the largest asset managers in Canada, is the Co-Founder of SOGO and creator of A Course in Conscious Wealth. He is a certified trainer with Bob Proctor, Gabby Bernstein and is a Certified Business performance coach and digital marketer with The Fletcher Method. For years he was hiring and training financial advisors to become top producing agents.. Nowadays you'll find him speaking at conferences, hosting masterminds, leading men's groups and spending time with his wife and daughter - all while mentoring today's top emerging intuitive entrepreneurs and teaching them everything he knows about entrepreneurship, social good and life. Where to find Dan: Website: www.danharrisonconsulting.com Instagram: @intuitiveentrepreneur Facebook: www.facebook.com/groups/6figureintuitiveentrepreneur LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/danharrisonexcfp Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Email Mike [email protected] if you want to be at the FRONT of the cue for the upcoming GYST 101 program

I have worked with many men over the last decade. I have worked intimately with many and spoken with, answered questions, supported and given requested advice to many more. There are themes that arise and remain across numbers like this - certainly in the ones that seek me out (or have the courage to do so, at least). One of those themes is a desire to get more from life - knowing there is more available but not necessarily knowing how to access it. What accompanies this for so many guys is a current experience of feeling somewhat stuck like they're cruising along in neutral - moving but not really going anywhere. For many of us, we look at the big things in our life and think something needs to change; relationships, career, and health are a few of the big hitters. An important note here is that sometimes it's all of these, sometimes it's none - it's inside us that needs to be addressed and change created. For the countless guys that look at their work and think one or both of these things: This isn't for me, I can't do this forever, I need to do something that brings me purpose and fulfilment. What do I do? There is this specific thing I know I need and want to be doing with my life and career. How do I go about doing it? This step from leaving a secure job to step into something more meaningful and purpose-driven can be a pipedream and an overwhelmingly daunting concept. It can be a mixture of taking risks and being responsible. And it can certainly help to have the examples of others who have done it to learn from. That's one of the major things we visit in this episode of the podcast this week with the one and only Sylvester McNutt III. In this Episode: Sly is a remarkable man. Full of curiosity and wonder, his story has many elements and journeys. One major thing we explored in this episode is his shift from working in corporate America to becoming a full-time writer and now the author of eight books. None of it was handed to him on a platter. It involved working his job and working on his passion when he was able to. Backing himself, building momentum and evidence across time for the idea he had. We explore this journey for him and now some of his journey in healing the relationship with his father to now becoming a father and some of the things he learnt and mistakes he's made. I enjoyed this chat getting to know more about Sly's story. Sylvester is someone I have gotten to know via his content and more recently, in a group of like-minded men who connect regularly, his huge heart and determined head, this chat has some wonderful takeaways for those listening, not just those wanting to make a change in career. SLy has a huge library of work to support you in knowing, loving, and becoming yourself in a richer and more meaningful way. As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. Sly's bio: Sylvester is an 8-time author; his most notable books are Care Package: A Path To Deep Healing and Free Your Energy. He created the Build Your Boundaries program where he teaches how to build healthy and effective boundaries. To date, he's recorded over 100 episodes of the Free Your Energy podcast. Go here to learn more about his books, here to see his courses, and here to see his essays. Where to find Sylvester Website https://www.sylvestermcnutt.net/ And find him on Instagram: http://instagram.com/sylvestermcnutt And on Facebook here: http://www.facebook.com/sylvestermcnuttiii And all podcast platforms at 'Free your energy' Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Email Mike if you want to be at the FRONT of the cue for the upcoming GYST 101 program

There's this saying "If you're the smartest person in the room, you're in the wrong room". While that might be tentatively attributed to Confucius originally (from this author's Google search) and many people thereafter, I like it but wouldn't say I take it as gospel. Cognitive Intelligence is one thing, emotional is another. I suspect we can always learn something from other people, be it something in them that creates a reflection and learning about ourselves, or some unique piece of information that person happens to know, regardless of how they score on an IQ test. However, there's a room I regularly sit in where I have a clear understanding (belief) that I am most definitely not the most intelligent person in the room. I am often in awe of the gentlemen who sit around me and the conversations we have. I learn a lot from being in that room; about the world and myself. I bring this up for two relevant reasons; one, my guest today - Rainier Wylde - is a mutual friend of many of these men and it seemed a natural link to have him on the show. And two, sitting on the conversation with Rainier I instantly felt like "yeah, wow, there's no way I am the smartest man in this room!" What unfolded was a wonderful conversation where I was repeatedly left collecting my thoughts from Rainier's wonderful insights and storytelling. In this Episode: Rainier has such a wonderful and varied background, from being the son of the travelling televangelist to a life of highs, lows, and diving deep into psychotherapy especially around identity, that we immediately had to explore this idea of 'authenticity'. Rainier brings his immense storytelling prowess - or as he describes it 'a daisy-chainer of words' - to break down understanding what is the set of beliefs and stories we live and think is ourselves and what is actually our deeper essential self. This then takes us into a conversation around initiation, specifically male initiation, as we dive deep into evolutionary chat for me to sit back and geek out on. Rainier has some brilliant, poignant and funny insights that I think you'll enjoy taking on board. Plus his voice is that of someone who watched his father preach to the masses for many years; smooth and lovely to absorb. This conversation was a joy to have and I hope also for you to listen to. It's a slightly longer one as I simply had to let it flow where it flowed. As always, if you have questions about it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. Rainiers bio: An experienced teacher, writer, and speaker, Rainier has embraced life for all that it is. He has celebrated its highs and learned from its lows. He has managed a Fortune 500 company and built businesses, he has also elegantly blown them up, burned them down, and started over from scratch. Through the various positions he has held, he has discovered that life must be claimed to hold any worth. His work is to inspire others to live fully and deeply in the here and now. Where to find Rainier: Website https://rainierwylde.com/ And find him on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rainierwylde/ And all podcast platforms at Relating in the Shadows - here on Apple Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube Mike's Site Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Email Mike [email protected] if you want to be at the FRONT of the cue for the upcoming GYST 101 program

Human's evolved to be in community with others, to be supported by and be in support of other humans, to build relationships, to problems solve, to hunt and cook and sing and dance and share stories and experiences. We are social creatures. You are a social creature. Yet, when it comes to the stuff that challenges you, the things that hold you back, that keep tripping you up, there is a universal truth that actually negates this point for a very important moment; no one is coming to save you. No one is going to fix your shit or do the work for you, no one is going to make you do the thing you need to do. And even if they did, it's not really yours at that point - if they do it, you don't own it. That is entirely disempowering. One can lead a horse to water. One can attempt to force the horse's head to the water. But one cannot, no matter how much one tries, make the horse drink it. The horse must do the drinking itself. Hello, hi - you're the horse. We're all the horse. We can be supported and helped, we can be guided and poked and challenged into action, but we have to take the actual action. In this episode: And this is what brings me to this week's solo podcast episode - whatever it is you're challenged by, whatever displeasure or struggle you're experiencing if you are waiting for someone to come and rescue you and do it for you - you will be waiting forever. In this episode I explore this idea, however, I do it off the back of a comprehensive list of questions to support you in getting to that point. What you'll see in this episode is a list of questions to help you break down and review 2020 and then plan out 2021. So yeah, it's the end of January already, but I suspect many people listening to this episode (reading this) might not have done something as comprehensive as this. It is never too late to do this stuff, seeing as the date is arbitrary anyway - start today and review back 12 months from this point and then plan 12 months forward from this point. Because here's the thing - if we don't review and plan in this detail - we will continue to have lives that are vague, unclear, and frustrating. Once you've done that, well, you'll know no one is coming to save you and you'll be int he best position to take the necessary steps forward yourself. THEN if you feel the need for some external support, if you think the step you need to take is to then join a community of men and coaches that can help you implement all of the stuff you plan, then the fastest and most serious of you can act NOW - I have three spots left in the February intake of EVERYDAY LEGENDS ACADEMY - as of publishing this. However, it is highly likely they will go quickly - so click below, book an initial application query call and lets you and me see if me and my team can be the guiding hand once you take the step. As always, if this lands, please share this episode with a man you know could benefit from it. If you haven't, please leave me a rating and review on Apple Podcasts. Remember - DO something with the lessons in this podcast. Let me know you're listening and how you're applying it in your life - tag me on socials @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. Other links: EVERYDAY LEGENDS ACADEMY - find out more here Other ways to consume this podcast: On Apple On Spotify On YouTube (Coming soon) Read transcript (Coming soon) Get involved: Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket COACHING: Book your 'Make My Shit Make Sense' Strategy call with Mike to explore Everyday Legends coaching Academy here.

It would seem now more than perhaps ever, or certainly in recent history, we as a society, are faced with our shadow; the parts of ourselves, as individuals and a collective, that we have shamed, shunned, and hidden away into a dark corner. When we reject or shame something it goes away into the dark, and we try to convince ourselves that it's not here, not around, simply because we're choosing not to see it. But that is very far from the truth. In the dark those things are gaining power, they grow. When the parts of us in the shadow gain power they leak into our lives. And the best answer to that from the level of psychology that created it, is to shame it further and hide it even more. All this does is give more power to those parts of us we want to shame, which continue to act out in ineffective ways, keeping us in that cycle of shame and self-rejection. This idea of the shadow isn't a new one, but the actual reality of it is much older - as old as humans have been evolved creatures, yet it only seems to get stronger the more we have a world of divisive tribal ideologies and rhetoric creating more and more 'us vs them'. This look into the shadow is what I wanted to explore on the podcast this week with my guest Connor Beaton. In this Episode: Connor is a men's coach, the founder of Mantalks, and a great man with a wildly interesting past and wholly impressive present. His work is similar to mine in that he works in supporting men in exploring the parts of themselves that have been pushed into the dark corners, bringing those dark parts into the light. so that they can reclaim agency of their lives. He does a lot of focused work on the shadow, and so this was what we explored in this episode starting squarely with his own story. This story is one ranging from international opera singer to living out of his car and having a total moment of rock-bottom leading into a personal transformation of sorts, all the way through to the amazing work he does now. We also take this topic into an area I think we need to continue to explore when it comes to addressing the state of men and masculinity, and that is the way in which man men across the globe, but most certainly in the USA exclusively tie their masculinity to their religion and their patriotism. Connor has spoken about this before, and it was a topic I wanted to cover with him on this episode so we waded in to explore why and how men tie their masculinity to anything external to them, including country and Christ. As always, if you have questions out of it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook Where to find Connor: Website https://connorbeaton.com/ And find him on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mantalks/ And all podcast platforms at Mantalks https://connorbeaton.com/podcast/ Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube Mike's site Transcript (coming soon) Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Explore Mike's EVERYDAY LEGENDS ACADEMY coaching program and book a strategy call to discuss if it can be the thing that makes THE difference in your life - Feb 2021 intake open NOW.

Here's a common desire in so many men - "I want to be more confident" which, if not obvious, follows the proclamation "I'm just not confident enough" - or words very close to that effect. They're the words of men focused on a story they have around confidence - that they don't have it and they need to find it. But it goes beyond that, it extends into this idea I have that some people have it, they're doing things I'm not, and because they have it and I don't, there must be something wrong with me. And that story - or line of internal narrative - is what not only perpetuates the belief that we don't have confidence, therefore, don't feel it, but it is the creation of not feeling confident in its entirety. Confidence is a subject we have butchered for so long, like many others in the realm of personal development such as motivation, will power or discipline.What it requires is a deeper assessment, some curiosity to see what is really playing out here. If I want to feel confident in something yet my fear around the lack of confidence - in reality, my insecurity about not looking competent - is stopping me from doing the thing to gain the confidence I get from doing it, I am creating and perpetuating my own misery cycle. This is so common it hurts. And so, that's what I wanted to cover in this episode of the podcast. In this episode: A while ago I did a short video on my social media channels exploring this idea that most men have confidence all wrong. In this episode, I wanted to take that video and expand upon it. So you'll hear the introduction for the podcast and me introducing the topic, then you'll hear the audio from the original video backed up by an expansion on this idea. From here I'll take you into not only why and how we have confidence wrong, but how to actually gain real, legit, lasting grounded confidence. It's not some magical thing, there is no confidence fairy that will sprinkle you with confidence dust on you one night - it comes down to the stories you tell yourself, caching the BS ones mentioned above, and then in the actions we take. A hint to what is covered - get used to the idea of sucking and becoming more competent. If you can consistently apply yourself to the simple act of improving your competence in what you wish to be confident in, you will become that. Not the other way around. This might be a knock to your balls as I shatter a long term belief about confidence and the fruitless actions of countless men trying to build their confidence. If that's the case - good, I hope it works and that you can receive it with the respect for you that it is intended. This really is just the beginning of this conversation, as it can and does need to go even deeper. Exploring and really uncovering your confidence story, both what and how it is anchored in your psyche and, therefore, how we get out of it. This is central to the first and third pillars of the work in my major coaching program the EVERYDAY LEGENDS ACADEMY. If you want to find out more about that and when the February 2021 intake - find out more here or email me today [email protected] I have spots filling fast and fact-finding calls with me filling even faster. As always, if this lands, please share this episode with a man you know could benefit from it. If you haven't, please leave me a rating and review on Apple Podcasts. Remember - DO something with the lessons in this podcast. Let me know you're listening and how you're applying it in your life - tag me on socials @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. Other links: EVERYDAY LEGENDS ACADEMY - find out more here Other ways to consume this podcast: On Mike's site On Apple On Spotify On YouTube Read transcript (Coming soon) Get involved: Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket COACHING: Book your 'Make My Shit Make Sense' Strategy call with Mike to explore Everyday Legends coaching Academy here.

Today's episode is a bit different. My guest is Traver Boehm. And also I'm his guest. Traver and I are colleagues and (internet) friends with a deep respect for each other and each other's work. When Traver asked me to appear on his podcast, I responded with 'of course' and then "I'd like to have you on mine too. He initially responded "Of course" to then reflect and suggest "Why don't we simply do a two-way conversation and both publish it instead of doing one interview then changing and going again?" Efficiency - I like it - so I agreed and here we are. I suggested we explore a question that I was posed by one of my listeners, friend and former clients, the everyday legend Dana. Dana shared a curious and thoughtful question that speaks to his thoughtfulness. That was: "During these times of global hardship, how should we as men best show up in our local community/friend circles/workplaces to demonstrate cohesive leadership, encourage calm rational behaviour, be inclusive, protect what we cherish and instil a sense of hope to move forward in a positive way?" Yeah, just a small topic :-) But something that Traver and I felt up to exploring, because, if two guys leading other men and creating communities of men can't address a question like this, who will? That's a big chunk of what we explore in this episode and all of the nuance around it. It brings to mind a term for me which features in my coaching academy and I spoke about in the first episode of this podcast, for what I think the everyday legend is - 'Zeus Energy' an ancient Greek term that was described as 'Male authority accepted for the sake of the community'. I also put to Traver the idea of a 'Compassion Revolution'. Keep an ear out for that part later on in the episode. We did our best to keep this a flowing two-way conversation with your ears in mind. I trust you will get something from this conversation. Please share it with someone you think would enjoy, benefit from, and potentially be lovingly challenged by its content. And my request of you - to leave me a 5-star rating a review on Apple. More on Traver: Traver Boehm is the author of Today I Rise, and Man UNcivilized. He's a two time TEDx speaker, men's coach and the founder of the UNcivilized Men's Movement. This movement is radically redefining the way men around the globe experience their masculinity by uniquely blending both primal elements of manhood with massive doses of consciousness. Drawing upon an eclectic background ranging from professional bodyguarding and Mixed Martial Arts to Traditional Chinese Medicine and meditation, Traver also teaches people to skillfully use the inevitable pain of their lives as fuel for growth and positive change. In 2016 after losing a pregnancy, his marriage, and his business partnership all within weeks of each other, he created a radical social experiment and spent the next 12 months as if it were his last year to live, aptly naming it "The Year to Live Project." A few of the highlights of the year include: Volunteering with the dying as a hospice worker Spending 28 days in complete isolation and pitch-black darkness in Guatemala Living in the frigid Utah wilderness for a month with only a knife, a water bottle, and a blanket After publishing Today I Rise and receiving an influx of calls specifically from men, Traver began guiding men through their own journey into an actualized version masculinity by asking them these two questions: "Are you leading or being led?" And, "What are your wounds and what are you doing to heal them? When so many said this way of thinking and living was counterintuitive to how they were taught "civilized" men should act, the movement was born. Now men all over the world have deemed themselves UNcivilized as they wake up to meditate, feel into their hearts, and train their bodies. Men who can fight, fuck, feed, and feel. And do all four well. When not teaching workshops or radically shifting the way men experience their masculinity, Traver can be found chewing on his thumbnail in front of his laptop, chasing surf around the globe, or being reminded that yoga is a lot harder than it looks. As always, if you have questions out of it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook Where to find Traver: Website www.manuncivilized.com And find him on Instagram: @traverboehm And all podcast platforms at The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify Mike's site Transcript (coming soon) Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Explore Mike's EVERYDAY LEGENDS ACADEMY coaching program and book a strategy call to discuss if it can be the thing that makes THE difference in your life.

There are a few terms that make their way around the personal development world and become common vernacular. Some become tired and worn, such as 'authenticity' or 'vulnerability'. Then there is men's work in particular, which it's own nuanced cliques and terms. To me, some of it doesn't connect or resonate, while some of it seems tired and inaccessible. Then there are terms which I think every man would benefit from understanding and knowing how to apply to his life for the better. One of those is the idea of the masculine and feminine. In my own work, we look at these terms and understand them at what I would call a fairly simple level. My students don't need to write a thesis on these aspects we all have in us, they simply need to understand them enough to know how to apply them to their lives so they live with more clarity and purpose. It's not a gendered thing - the masculine is something every human has on some level, each individual. As is the feminine. However, in my opinion, when it boils down to nature, the majority of men are more masculine. That doesn't mean some men aren't, nor that these men don't have a feminine side. We do, and it's vitally important that we understand it, honour it, and integrate into our full selves. But the suggestion of these terms can be confusing. That's why I brought Rosko Blake onto the podcast this week. In this Episode: Rosko is someone I met many years ago when I was working as a personal trainer still and I attended a workshop of his on energy systems. There was one thing that really stuck out to me in that workshop - an all-out two-minute burpee test. I can still feel the horrid lactic acid build-up that escalated inside me for the two hours post that test. However, from that day, much like myself, Rosko has been on a journey of his own self-discovery which has led him to many places and modalities. As a movement teacher, he explores many things that involve the body, from breathwork to exercise, to meditation and shaking, something we discuss in this episode. Inside all of that is a focus on masculine embodiment for men, and this is the primary focus of this episode as we dive into what Rosko describes as the 3 Pillars of Masculine Transmission. It was a fascinating chat as we explore some concepts and real-life examples to apply to your own life, including some more extreme examples like being open to receiving something up your own bum in order to get a deep (excuse the pun) understanding and reverence for penetrating a female. I trust you will get something from this conversation. Please share it with someone you think would enjoy, benefit from, and potentially be lovingly challenged by its content. As always, if you have questions out of it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook Where to find Rosko Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_roskoblake_/ Relaxation - shaking exercise here on YouTube Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube Transcript (coming soon) Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Explore Mike's EVERYDAY LEGENDS ACADEMY coaching program and book a strategy call to discuss if it can be the thing that makes THE difference in your life.

There is this consistent thing that happens with so many of the men I work with - a journey in understanding and processing their emotions. For some guys, it's because they've shut off that side of themselves for so long - hearing terms that shame tears, emotions, or any kind of sensitivity will do that. And anything we shame and hide away will atrophy, it will die off. For these guys, it is a whole new and terrifying thing to connect to their body, to their emotions, and to their heart. For some other guys who identify with being more sensitive but in reality have this kind of over-sensitivity where they feel their emotions, even express them, but they have pour management of them. And so, in understanding themselves, in really becoming the everyday legend that they can become - first for themselves and then for their partners, this journey is often necessary. It can be daunting, confusing and fucking uncomfortable. And I'm fortunate to have an ace up my sleeve on this in my coaching program - today's podcast guest: Kristian Stephan-Martin. Beyond being a wonderful Relationship, sex & self-expression coach and remarkably talented dancer, Kristian has a skill in helping men drop into their hearts and really understand their feelings so they can learn, process, and move ahead in life. That alone was reason to bring him onto today's episode. In this Episode: We get started with a personal story of Kristian's, looking at what brought him to this place and this work. He shares a very personal story of early childhood trauma and how this massively impacted his belief about his manhood and masculinity, ultimately becoming a large catalyst for him exploring personal development and men's work. We take his own journey and expand that into the world of men getting into their hearts in order to understand, process and figure out their emotions. His analogy of emotions being like a 'GPS' system is something to listen out for. Kristian has a cool concept of 'Championing yourself' where you both play you in that moment and the supporting father in the corner you need. A wonderful way of working through something new, uncomfortable, and challenging I trust you will get something from this conversation. Please share it with someone you think would enjoy, benefit from, and potentially be lovingly challenged by its content. As always, if you have questions out of it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook Where to find Kristian: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristianstephanmartin/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kristian.stephanmartin Email: [email protected] Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube Transcript (coming soon) Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Explore Mike's EVERYDAY LEGENDS ACADEMY coaching program and book a strategy call to discuss if it can be the thing that makes THE difference in your life.

What is it to be & feel successful as a man This topic sits central to basically everything we do. It's the one thing - not, one of many, actually - that we tend to have a 'just part of life' that we don't even question. SUCCESS. But what is it even? To be a successful man? The unspoken cultural agreement in the West looks something like: He earns 'good' money, has a 'good job, has nice things as a result, such as a house and car. Bonus points for power, status, and happy marriage but can also be a sexually talented bachelor. Sometimes both at the same time. Welcome to manhood, son, that's your blueprint. Try your best to live up to it. And don't worry if it doesn't feel like you, go for it anyway because otherwise, well, I mean, otherwise, you won't be a success. And obviously, f I'm not a success, I'm a failure by default. And this is how it has been for so long, the glorified measure of success as a man, that has sent many a man chasing more and more and more and never really landing in a place that is actually meaningful. He never connected any of those things to personal meaning - to what they provide for him, apart from feelings of success because they're the socially agreed-upon measures. And with that, the socially agreed upon respect and approval for achieving such things. Or the men that can't reach them, and so pile endless pressure and expectation on top of themselves trying to collect more of this, often missing what is in front of them all along; relationships, family, LIFE. This is what I cover in today's episode - what is success, how have we got to this point, and how can we take ownership of it for ourselves. Mike's Takeaways: I've worked with many men over the years and chatted with (and studied) even more. What we place as success sits so paralysingly central to our life, to how we feel about ourselves, to what we do all day every day, that we simply must prioritise exploring it in more depth. It isn't a baby out with the bathwater situation, of course. We don't reject striving and achieving, but we want to give individual context and meaning to it. And that's what I cover in this episode of the podcast. We look at how we've narrowed down success as a man to our ability tp Provide, Protect, and Procreate. We explore these and where they actually have deep instinctual evolutionary roots And I'll give you some things to reflect on and think about so you can start to determine what success is for yourself. This really is just the beginning of this conversation, as it can and does need to go even deeper. Exploring and really uncovering what success is to you, why it is and how to both anchor that in deep personal meaning, and, therefore, create built-in personal motivation to create that, is central to the second and third pillars of the work in my major coaching program the EVERYDAY LEGENDS ACADEMY. If you want to find out more about that and when the 2021 intakes are - find out more here or email me today [email protected] And if you have your own questions for a solo episode, then send them through to me at [email protected] As always, if this lands, please share this episode with a man you know could benefit from it. If you haven't, please leave me a rating and review on Apple Podcasts. Remember - DO something with the lessons in this podcast. Let me know you're listening and how you're applying it in your life - tag me on socials @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. Other links: EVERYDAY LEGENDS ACADEMY - find out more here Other ways to consume this podcast: On Apple On Spotify On YouTube Read transcript (Coming soon) Get involved: Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Get Your Relationship Shit Together with Mike's Better Partner Project 4 week Accelerator Course in Relationships for Men

Extreme initiation rites of passage & growth I was first introduced to Tim and his work via his TV show 'Boy to Man' back when it initially aired in Australia 2016. A show in which he travelled to 12 extremely remote locations to spend time with people still living in their traditional ways and partake in a series of coming of age boy to manhood rituals. I remember being captivated by the first ad I saw on TV, for two reasons; one. I am deeply curious about rites of passage rituals and the journey from boy to man. At the time, this was something I was looking into more and becoming increasingly aware of via its glaringly impactful absence in most modern society and culture. I still am, for what it's worth. And two, I love me some adventure into strange and wonderful places, which is something this show has by the bucket load. Oh and three, at the time I was beginning a deep dive into a historical novel series based on the life of Ghengis Khan and his descendants, so with an episode going to Mongolia and taming a wild eagle - I was hooked before it even began. The show didn't disappoint. With wild adventures, remarkable rituals and captivating situations that Tim got himself in, it was something I tuned in fr every week. Not long after I reached out to Tim about having him speak at a Beyond The Beers event of mine on his adventures and what he learnt going through all of these coming of ages rituals. Unfortunately, we couldn't make the timing work. So when I started getting a list of people I want to speak to for this podcast, I knew Tim ahd to be on the list. And today, we bring you that conversation. In this Episode: Since that show, Tim has also gone through another series of initiations, believe it or not. The first being another show with his fiancee PJ called 'Extreme Engagement' (now airing on Netflix globally) in which they, wait for it… set out to travel the world to remote occasions and villages to partake in ceremonies and challenges designed to test a couple before they commit to each other for life. Yeah, Tim has a thing. He has also gone through an initiation like no other, one I am extremely familiar with myself right now - fatherhood. So in this episode, we touch on these rituals, what he experienced, the things he went through, what he learnt, what he saw in the other participants, especially the young men doing the coming of age rituals with him. We cover some of the most challenging moments he has faced, and the invariable 'death' that needs to occur in these rites of passage so that the new man can arise from the ashes, as it were, and become a mature, integrated, and valuable member of the community. Integral to all of these adventures and experiences was the fact that he was the film crew - he was capturing all the footage and capturing it in a way that would make not only a great TV show, but each adventure had to be a complete episode. He took one friend with him to run the sound and any filming he couldn't do. That was it. An extra level to all of this, something we touch on in this podcast episode as well. Given all of the adventures Tim has been on, we could easily talk about it for hours. The stories alone are endless. However, I didn't want this episode to simply be him telling outrageous epic stories, I wanted to get into the experiences and learn from him so we can all learn from him. So, we cover a bit of everything in this one. I trust you will get something from this conversation. Please share it with someone you think would enjoy, benefit from, and potentially be lovingly challenged by its content. As always, if you have questions out of it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook Where to find Tim: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/timnoonantv/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wildmanfilms/ Website: https://wildmanfilms.com/ Extreme Engagement: https://www.netflix.com/au/title/80210245 Other places to find this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube Transcript (coming soon) Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Create a POWERFUL same-page partnership that feels EASY; take on your own Extreme Engagement - Explore Mike's Better Partner Project 4 week Accelerator Course in Relationships for Men

This is a conversation from a few months ago - smack bang in the middle of one of 2020's major global offerings - a look at race. Black Lives Matter exploded with fervour in the US after the police killing of George Floyd. A powder keg was ignited both in the US and in many places across the globe, leading to one giant and multifaceted conversation on race, racism, and how people of colour have been treated and marginalised in a lot of society. Here in Australia was no different, as protests amongst the confusion and government restrictions od COVID-19 took place, with the US topic of deaths in police custody also having roots here too. For me, the conversation is one that can't be ignored, and the rhetoric of "It's not enough to not be racist, one must be anti-racist" soon spread, which lead to my own deep reflection. It's easy to stand back and say "I'm not racist" but what does that do to help change such deeply rooted systemic and casual racism? Nothing. I'm not a rapist either, but sitting on hands and hiding behind saying that does nothing to reduce assault when I can actually do something to heal more men and prevent them from becoming perpetrators. So, when this hit I knew I had to do something - and what can I do? Well, I can start with a conversation, I can use the platform I have to highlight the voices and experiences of people of colour. Which led me instantly to reaching out to my good friend Nick Bradley-Qalilawa. I have had him on stage at a Beyond The Beers event before where we spoke about race, and he also shared some fascinating and captivating stories of growing up (in part) in Fiji. In this Episode: In this conversation, Nick takes us into what it was like growing up in Australia the son of a Fijian father and a white European mother. He had different experiences both in his largely white family, but also a largely white society in which he somehow became exempt from being "just another black fella". I learned a lot during this time in the global conversation on race. I listened to books, read pieces, watched videos, spoke to friends, and consumed content from many people of colour, Nick being one of them. I always learn from this man. I appreciate his insight and unique intelligence, and his generosity in sharing his experiences. Some of his stories in here, some of the things he shared that he's still working to understand, really made me sit back and get a lot of pieces I hadn't had fall into place yet when it comes to racism. I also had to sit back and reflect on where I have been an active participant in some of the same kinds of situations Nick discussed. I wanted to bring this to my podcast and publish it because it was not designed to be a popular topic conversation when everyone was walking about it. It was meant to make a dent and spurn more conversation. I hope that does this via this podcast. Because Nick sure is an Everyday Legend. I trust you will get something from this conversation. Please share it with someone you think would enjoy, benefit from, and potentially be lovingly challenged by its content. As always, if you have questions out of it - ask me. Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook Where to find Nick: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theonlyblackswan/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/NNBBQQ Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify Transcript (coming soon) Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Explore Mike's Better Partner Project 4 week Accelerator Course in Relationships for Men

Ahhhh, the friendzone. That lonely yet connected, comforting yet terrorising, familiar yet frustrating place. Of course, the friend zone isn't the only place we might end up chasing unrequited love - sometimes it's in a relationship that stutters and two people seem to be misaligned. Either way, finding ourselves in the place of wanting someone and them not wanting us back, or them being unavailable to us, can be heart-aching and life-consuming. That's the subject of this week's podcast episode in a revamped version of a listener Q&A. I have had tonnes of questions from guys in and around this area. Usually from 'Nice Guys' - guys that are so terrified of rejection, who so desperately need to be liked or their inner world will fall over, so they end up just playing the good nice guy in the hope that people will see them as this and like them. These guys - of which I am a recovering Nice Guy myself - often end up in glorified friendships, essentially one-sided faux-relationships, with women/people they have feelings for because they were too unsure about themselves early on to say how they felt combined with an almost unbearable fear of rejection, that they just hover in the space of "If I am around enough and nice enough, maybe they'll notice/like/love me." (It doesn't work). Previously across three different #AskMike Q&A videos on my social media channels, I have addressed similar questions in this space. Today on the podcast I wanted to bring them together and dive a bit deeper on what's playing out and what to do about it, how to get past that crippling and almost life-stoping focus on unavailable love. I introduce the overall topic and then each individual video, before expanding on them all with some common themes and lessons for guys who are either in this right now in your life, or recognise that pattern totally unrelated to unrequited love, where you're so narrow-focused on one thing that you can't seem to focus on anything else even though you know you need to. Mike's Takeaways: I could talk about this all day. I've helped so many guys in situations like this, not just deep in the friendzone - of their own creation - but suffering of Nice Guyitis in all areas of life. The simplest advice - to quote Stifler from American Pie - is to "locate your balls, remove the shrink wrap" and have the conversation. But it's much more than that. In all reality, the key is to focus on something else - in the case of unrequited love - what other love is possible for and available to you. Of course, this last part brings up something central to the Nice Guy that we touch on in the episode - 'Well, I have to then believe there is more out there for me' If this resonates and hits home, please tell me. If you are going to take action on the advice in here I would love to hear about it - share your messy action with me. And if you have your own questions for a solo Q&A episode, then send them through to me at [email protected] As always, if this lands, please share this episode with a man you know could benefit from it. If you haven't, please leave me a rating and review on Apple Podcasts. Remember - DO something with the lessons in this podcast. Let me know you're listening and how you're applying it in your life - tag me on socials @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. Other links: Take my 2 minute quiz - 'Are you too nice?' Other ways to consume this podcast: On Apple On Spotify Get involved: Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Get Your Relationship Shit Together with Mike's Better Partner Project 4 week Accelerator Course in Relationships for Men

How to Build Mental Strength It's November now - and for certain men, certain groups and organisations that means one thing (among many) - MOvember. Which really brings to the conversation the idea of men growing moustaches in support of men's health; more specifically testicular cancer, prostate cancer and suicide in men. Of course, Movember isn't the only charity or organisation dealing with men's mental health, in fact, I am a board member of one called The MENtour. Our mission is very much about raising men's emotional literacy. And that's ultimately what I wanted to (and did) cover in this episode: What is men's mental health and why do we struggle with it so much? Here's the big glaring statistic on this issue: roughly 75% of all suicides are men. In Australia is essentially 6 a day out of 8 across the nation. And these stats generally carry over in the majority of the western world. We can look at solutions to dealing with the risk, we have countless awareness campaigns - growing moustaches being a very obvious and highly effective one - and we have more and more, what I call, crisis point options and organisations dealing with men at the brink. But this like so many aspects of being a man, is reactive - it's waiting until the shit has hit the fan and trying to clean it up, instead of preventing the shit from getting in the vicinity of the fan, to begin with. That's what we cover in this podcast - how men can be proactive with their mental and emotional wellbeing - how they can build emotional literacy. We explore how this even happens - why a lot of men not only fear exploring their emotions but what happens when something hasn't been used for so long - it atrophies. And we then look at what else comes into this picture, such as building genuine resilience and overall mental strength, including the ability to simply talk through shit that needs to be talked through. This is both a perspective on how we view and approach men's mental health and emotional wellbeing, and some ideas and tangible actions you can implement in your own life today. As always, if this lands, please share this episode with a man you know could benefit from it. If you haven't, please leave me a rating and review on Apple Podcasts. Remember - DO something with the lessons in this podcast. Let me know you're listening and how you're applying it in your life - tag me on socials @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. Other links: Movember The MENtour Tomorrow Man Other ways to consume this podcast: On Apple On Spotify On YouTube Read transcript (coming soon) Get involved: Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Get Your Relationship Shit Together with Mike's Better Partner Project 4 week Accelerator Course in Relationships for Men

Understanding Women's need for safety I'm very excited about today's guest, a good friend of mine in the first woman on our show. Miss Amber Hawken. I've been very fortunate to be her friend for some time. And that has been both in just two humans connecting on a level that we get each other, but also because of, you know, where we're at and the work that we do. And that's one of the major reasons why I wanted to bring Amber onto the show. Because of the insight, the skills, the expertise she has in helping people get the shit together. I wanted to bring her on because as a woman, I believe she has a beautiful and unique perspective for men, as women of course do. And I will talk to many more women on the show. I wanted to speak to Amber to get a bit of a woman's perspective for men, but more specifically, and as you hear in this podcast, I wanted to speak to the idea of the conversation of safety. I've done plenty of posts about this in the past, that speak somewhere along the lines to: "Men, she needs to feel safe with you." They usually get a monumental response from women and from guys sometimes "Yes, and okay, please tell me more or make sense of this." And also "It should go both ways." And so in this episode with Amber we'll explore that; the idea of safety. What that is to women, to the feminine and in with it, we actually go into looking at the masculine and feminine; those modes. In us, as individuals, as well as how that plays out in our relationships; how do we understand these aspects and modes and energies in us? Amber's got some beautiful, uh, personal stories that she shares in amongst this. For guys, you might want to pass on some of this stuff to some of your female partners. Also to any of my gay audience, there's a lot here speaking to the feminine in anyone. So it doesn't really matter who you are. I think you can get a lot from this and from Amber. Including any female listeners, for sure. See below for some tools from Amber and how to access more from her. A little of the 'formal' bio: Cause I love it. And it goes:"In a society that capitalises on our deepest fears, doubts and insecurities people no longer have the courage to show themselves, be themselves, live for themselves, think for themselves. Alas, we get so lost in this trap of gratification and escape that we live empty lives, trying to fulfil a version of someone else's perfect. It's a fucking tragedy. Amber's work is dedicated to passing on practical principles for spiritual evolution and a magnificent life. And for that four ingredients are required: vulnerability, mindfulness, a great sense of humour and purpose." As always, if you take something from this, please share it with me, let us know, share it with someone else, take the episode and share it with someone that you think might get a lot from this. Reach out; let me know that you're listening. And of course, you know, I'm going to ask this, make sure that you follow subscribe, click, download, and leave us a rating and a review. It gives us so much support in getting this in front of other eyes and ears that need it, that can benefit from it. And with that said, let's get into the show. Mike's main lessons/takeaways: This can be a HUGE topic to start exploring for men if you haven't explored safety and the masculine/feminine. This is a nice starting point, and the perspective of women is easily the most powerful way to learn this. Tune in to the examples she gives, and if you have questions out of it - ask me: Hit me on social media @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook Where to find Amber Website: http://www.amberhawken.com/ Instagram: @amber_hawken Facebook: FB.com/hawkenamber Amber Hawken Podcast Resources mentioned: Coherent breathing - this link Feel Free in 15 Minutes here Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube Transcript (coming soon) Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Explore Mike's Better Partner Project 4 week Accelerator Course in Relationships for Men

The Art of Authenticity & Overcoming Laziness Dr Jeremy Goldberg is a wonderfully unique and wholly interesting and refreshing human. This episode represented one of many ways a conversation between us could have gone. A self-confessed 'Recovering Scientist" - Jeremy spent years working on not only preventing Climate Change, but how we actually change people's behaviours in order for that to happen on large scale. He has an immense love for the planet, and for life. And that is evident even in 5 minutes in his company. In this episode, we start there, on his history in studying behaviour change, and we wander into how this has then impacted his own life in changing some old behaviours, and the beliefs underlying them, that haven't served him so well in the past. We explore his own experience with codependency and how one of his biggest areas of growth has been in relationships and stepping away from trying to fix his partner's feelings because it was the only mode he knew. That and it helped negate his own discomfort in more awkward feelings. With that part alone there is a lot for you to take away from this episode. We also explore how this then has become one of his core ways of being - doing hard shit. And how even this isn't about some noble way of being better and winning personal development, but simply because he's lazy. Just some of the realness that Jeremy brings to literally anything he does. It's always refreshing and fun to speak with him, and I hope you'll get that from this conversation too. Be sure to share this with a man you think could benefit from it and enjoy Jeremy take on things. Let me know you're listening to is - tag me on social media - and if you haven't yet, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts - it can take you two minutes but help me massively to get this in front of more men who may just resonate with something that facilitates monumental (or small) change in his life. Mike's main lessons/takeaways: Jeremy's zest for life is infectious. I literally think fo his every time I see wildlife (follow him on social media to make more sense of that). He brings his unique, light, engaging, and down to earth style to everything he does, including this episode. Beyond the actual content we cover, I think the takeaway for me is in how Jeremy chooses to relentlessly, and lazily, live his own life. Contact Info for Jeremy Website: http://longdistancelovebombs.com/ 'Do Hard Shit' program Instagram: @longdistancelovebombs Podcast: https://anchor.fm/longdistancelovebombs 'Other Ways To Consume this podcast' iTunes Spotify YouTube Transcript (coming soon) Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Explore Mike's Better Partner Project 4 week Accelerator Course in Relationships for Men

How to live with Integrity In this episode, I venture into and explore something very close to my heart - and head and balls - and that is: INTEGRITY. It is my highest values, because, for me, everything else is determined by this. If I don't have that, then all my other values don't really get a chance. Join me as I share some personal stories - including the first one in which as a younger man I fell into a common trap; lying to someone a liked and pulling myself right out of integrity in doing so. I take you through what integrity actually is, how to assess it, and how to understand it on a deeper level so that if we fall out of it we can navigate our way back in. I visit a story about a time my now father-in-law hit me with a daunting question in front of his (Nardia's) family, well before I was even close to being a permanent fixture; "What are your intentions with our Nardia?" * GULP* Tune in to see how I handled this. Quite fucking excellently, I might add. I call on this story often in teaching about integrity because regardless of the answer I shared, what the key point sticks to is - can I be honest here regardless of what that honesty entails? I venture into some of the nature of men and the masculine in how we have this need to test each other, and essentially what we're doing is testing the strength, the dependability of those men we go into battle (hunt) with. If you're a man struggling to understand yourself, wanting to work out what that niggling little feeling inside of you is, or simply wanting to access what's possible for you, it starts and stops with INTEGRITY - this episode is for you. As always, if this lands, please share this episode with a man you know could benefit from it. If you haven't, please leave me a rating and review on Apple Podcasts. Remember - DO something with the lessons in this podcast. Let me know you're listening and how you're applying it in your life - tag me on socials @mikecampbellmc on Instagram or @Mike Campbell Man Coach on Facebook. Other content mentioned: Integrity Check-In questions: What was the promise or commitment you made to yourself? What did you choose to do? (Have you been choosing/did you choose to do instead?) What are the consequences? What's the driver? Is this a pattern? What do you need to do to return to/remain in integrity? Other ways to consume this podcast: On Apple On Spotify On YouTube Read transcript Get involved: Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Follow on Spotify Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Get Your Relationship Shit Together with Mike's Better Partner Project 4 week Accelerator Course in Relationships for Men

Using your passion to grow a business This conversation with Isaac is one where I want to showcase the Everyday Legend - someone living with authenticity and relentlessly going about living life his way. We cover the life from professional football to what happens next - how that impacts identity and the often unchosen task of role model. This then brings us to look at the position he now sees himself in, one he's chosen, and that is of a role model, someone who has an impact on many young men wanting to build a business with something they're passionate about. We explore growing up in small-town New Zealand and what Isaac believes that instilled in him, and how he is now building business, all things that bring him joy - despite the hard work involved. When it comes to this work, and the idea of becoming an Everyday Legend - there is A LOT we can look at and have to work on, but the best work is always done when we simplify life and the steps to self-acceptance, purpose, and fulfilment. I believe Isaac is one of those dues who lives by some simple philosophies that serve him greatly. And by indirect default, serve many of the young men that look up to him. Leadership takes on many forms. Sometimes it looks like a young former footballer turned passionate entrepreneur with the insight into both getting the most out of himself, and how that impacts those who watch and follow him. I think there are some great lessons in this for the men listening, especially to those guys who feel like they might have had a big shift in their role or identity, and for those guys who can struggle with productivity versus simply being busy - and want to work out how to manage this so their energy is going into things that they are both passionate about and bring them reward in various forms. Mike's main lessons/takeaways: Isaac is someone I see as relentlessly and courageously carving his own path. He's open, authentic and most definitely running his own race. He's unapologetic about his influences, but very much gives things his own flavour, and the way he runs his business to the way he leads his life, show me someone happy in himself, someone grounded in purpose. I feel Isaac's take on life and business can help other men looking to live with more authenticity. Connect with Isaac & YKTR Instagram: @iice_ Instagram: @yktr_ Website: YKTR.com.au Other Ways To Consume this podcast: iTunes Spotify YouTube Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Explore Mike's Better Partner Project 4 week Accelerator Course in Relationships for Men

Fatherhood - What I've learnt so far I'm a dad now. Just like that - my wife Nardia grew a little human and now we have a baby and I'm a father. Our daughter - Kaia Rey Norman Campbell - was born on June 20th this year, 2020. There were a bunch of extra challenges in the lead up with COVID, and most definitely now with borders still being shut. I speak to that part a touch in this - not being able to see or access our families in New Zealand - but the challenges prior to this I haven't covered. Anyway, I'm a dad now. So I decided to reflect on the experience so far - three months in - and some of the lessons and challenges I've noticed and taken on. This podcast is that. Show notes: On this episode, I venture into more of a personal story than previous when I tell the story of becoming a father. From before Nardia became pregnant, to finding out after already believing I would never be a dad, and through all the lessons, challenges and projected expectations from others all the way up to bubs being three months old. In here I explore the importance of community, or lack thereof in our case, and both the reflections I've been making around this and the yearning I've been feeling for "The Village", as it were. I dive into a seemingly normal yet surprisingly odd question to receive: What kind of dad do you want to be?" This takes me into a Cherokee Proverb that I'll drop here for reference - something that has had a deep meaning to me in my relationship with my wife Nardia, and now a new meaning in relation to my daughter: "A woman's highest calling is to lead a man to his soul, so as to unite him with Source. Her lowest calling is to seduce, separating man from his soul and leave him aimlessly wandering. A man's highest calling is to protect woman, so she is free to walk the earth unharmed. Man's lowest calling is to ambush and force his way into the life of a woman." And I also explore some of the biggest and weirdest challenges I'm experiencing. What I only touch on but will express here so it's bloody obvious - I am in love with Kaia and seeing her gorgeous little face. In fact, I may say to her "LOOK AT YOUR LITTLE FACE!" about 20 times a day! As always, send me your feedback. Hit Apple podcasts and leave me a review - this will do me a HUGE favour in getting the podcast in front of more men - my thanks and gratitude in advance. For those wanting to see the Monty Python skit and song I refer to: Other links: Alchemy of Initiation by Francis Weller: https://www.francisweller.net/the-alchemy-of-initiation-a-five-week-series.html Monty Python Sketch - Every Sperm is Sacred: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fUspLVStPbk The pregnancy announcement image, as promised: Other ways to consume this podcast: On Apple On Spotify On YouTube Read transcript Get involved: Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Explore Mike's Better Partner Project 4 week Accelerator Course in Relationships for Men

Using Your Origin Story for Personal Growth This conversation with JuVan, like any and many I've had with him, was full of powerful nuggets and refreshing moments of clarity. He's a brother to me, he's a very, very close friend and I feel very fortunate to have him on the podcast here today. We talk about all sorts of things. We go into his journey. From a rough and challenging upbringing to where that took him wearing masks, hiding who he was trying to fit in and ultimately kind of abandoning himself and not really having an identity, to really starting to explore that, to challenging the beliefs that he had formed a bit himself and the world around him and going into a huge period of, that he's of course, still then as we all are, inquiry and curiosity as to who he is. As to why he's here, and in that, seeing the immense talent that he has and being determined to bring them to the world, support those who he can support. And so we talk about a few of the key things that challenge men, and we explore is identity. We explore intimacy and you know, also a bit of a personal story from there on JuVan and that one. And we also explore integrity, a favourite topic of ours here on the podcast. So all of that, and so much more for you to get into. Can't wait for you to hear this episode, as always remember, share with us where you're listening to this grab, do a screen, grab of your favourite part of the episode, share it on social media, tag JuVan and I, and let us know that you're listening to it. What you're getting out of it. Give us the feedback. Please send me DMs. I love receiving the stop that remember also where you get your podcasts like us, click subscribe, please give us a review and a rating. It helps us massively in getting this in front of more men who need it, who want it, who can benefit from it. And always remember whilst I love you listening to this and giving us the feedback, please don't just listen to it, do something with this information, whatever out of this, write that shit down, put it into your life. And then if you don't know him, reach out and ask. For info on JuVan: BIO - Affectionately known in leadership circles as The Global Voice of Men's Empowerment, JuVan Langford is a highly sought after expert within the Men's Mental Health & Wellness space. Proudly serving as the founder & CEO of The MENtour™, a multinational charitable organization, he is on a mission to support men in their journey of healing their past so as to create a purpose-driven future. A trusted advisor and executive business coach & mentor to corporate leaders, culture icons and celebrity clientele, JuVan provides strategic counsel and support to both individuals and organizations that are navigating challenging transitions. In just a few short years, JuVan has impacted the lives of tens of thousands of young men and adult males on 4 continents on his platform. Hungry for substantial and sustainable change, JuVan is strategically working towards extinguishing the unhealthy narratives within the culture of masculinity on a global scale. Website: https://juvanlangford.com Instagram: @juvanlangford Facebook: @juvanlangford Other Ways To Consume this podcast: Read Transcript iTunes Spotify YouTube (unedited video) Get Involved: Subscribe to podcast on Apple Sign up for Mike's LEGENDAILY Texts to help you with a daily shot of loving straight talk direct to your pocket Explore Mike's Better Partner Project 4 week Accelerator Course in Relationships for Men