Disrupting Divorce: Conversations for Women

In this episode, Michael shares some great ways to make co-parenting easy, including how you can accomplish this through the Fayr app. Fayr stands for: Family Advocacy is Your Responsibility. Some highlights: It is IMPORTANT to stay organized throughout the divorce process; Fayr makes it easy to see who owes what with expenses, and helps balance things out; You are able to "check in" with a date and time stamp at important locations - driven by GPS; You can use Fayr alone, or with your co-parent; Fayr will NEVER sell your user data - they understand the information that you share may be private Be prepared to take notes! Contact Information and Other Resources Our guests today was Michael Daniels, CEO of Fayr. Fayr was born out of two desires: to become a better co-parent, and to make the experience of co-parenting better. After his separation, Michael found it a constant challenge to be the best, most present father he could be. The time he wanted to spend focused on his children was instead taken up by tedious documentation, scheduling and preparing for court. Why wasn't there an alternative to this time consuming, anxiety producing way co-parents were forced interact? Enter Fayr. Our app encompasses the whole range of co-parents needs - financial, documentation, geo pinpointing, scheduling, communication - for the entire time you're co-parenting. What makes us different? At Fayr, it's not just about efficiency and ease (though we love those). We also help you create a better co-parenting experience by providing tools for: constructive communication, argument diffusion, and emotional support. FAYR.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter Email Michael: [email protected] ____________________ Our host of Divorce Conversations for Women Podcast is Rhonda Noordyk, CFEI Rhonda Noordyk's relentless pursuit of financial justice for women going through divorce drove her to leave the financial industry in 2014 to open The Women's Financial Wellness Center. She was in search of a better way. She used her knowledge, passion, and experience to build a leading-edge business model. The intention was to create a business that provided a safe place for women - especially those in a vulnerable position - to find their paths, find their voices and find the financial confidence they need to lift themselves out of seemingly hopeless situations. Since starting the Women's Financial Wellness Center, after a 10+ year career in the financial industry, she has helped alleviate financial vulnerability for thousands of women. ​In addition to being the CEO of The Women's Financial Wellness Center, Rhonda is also a professional speaker. While her platform is women's money wellness, it is not just about money. Her topics include: assertive communication, boundaries, leadership and overcoming financial myths. Her speaking experience includes: GE Healthcare, UWM Women's Leadership Conference and Marquette Law School. In addition, she has appeared on Fox6 News, Real Milwaukee, and Morning Blend. Her dynamic and inspirational style leaves women with a sense of empowerment. Rhonda Noordyk, CFEI CEO | The Women's Financial Wellness Center [email protected] | (262) 522-1502 Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube Schedule a FREE 30-Minute Phone Call ____________________ Sponsored by: Divorce Conversations For Women (online course) ____________________ Visit the Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with the Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website or grab a complimentary 30-minute consult. Leaving a positive podcast review is hugely important: they help the podcast get discovered by new people. Please spend 5 minutes of your time to leave a review on your preferred listening platform, we'd love to hear from you! 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

In this episode, Christopher and Nicholas gives us some insider tips regarding the importance of refinancing your auto loan, even if you think you got a good rate. They had some great tips, and here are just a few of them: Be sure to do your research when shopping for a car; Through their website, you can have a soft pull of your credit to see how you can qualify for a lower rate; Try and pre-approve before you even walk into the dealership, so you know what rate you qualify for Be prepared to take notes! Contact Information and Other Resources Our guests today was Christopher Coleman & Nicholas Hinrichsen, Co-owners of WithClutch.com in Tempe AZ. We believe in financial fairness and equality. America is our community and we are here to bring all of us together again. Everyone deserves a chance. WithClutch ____________________ Our host of Divorce Conversations for Women Podcast is Rhonda Noordyk, CFEI Rhonda Noordyk's relentless pursuit of financial justice for women going through divorce drove her to leave the financial industry in 2014 to open The Women's Financial Wellness Center. She was in search of a better way. She used her knowledge, passion, and experience to build a leading-edge business model. The intention was to create a business that provided a safe place for women - especially those in a vulnerable position - to find their paths, find their voices and find the financial confidence they need to lift themselves out of seemingly hopeless situations. Since starting the Women's Financial Wellness Center, after a 10+ year career in the financial industry, she has helped alleviate financial vulnerability for thousands of women. ​In addition to being the CEO of The Women's Financial Wellness Center, Rhonda is also a professional speaker. While her platform is women's money wellness, it is not just about money. Her topics include: assertive communication, boundaries, leadership and overcoming financial myths. Her speaking experience includes: GE Healthcare, UWM Women's Leadership Conference and Marquette Law School. In addition, she has appeared on Fox6 News, Real Milwaukee, and Morning Blend. Her dynamic and inspirational style leaves women with a sense of empowerment. Rhonda Noordyk, CFEI CEO | The Women's Financial Wellness Center [email protected] | (262) 522-1502 Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube Schedule a FREE 30-Minute Phone Call ____________________ Sponsored by: Divorce Conversations For Women (online course) ____________________ Visit the Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with the Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website or grab a complimentary 30-minute consult. Leaving a positive podcast review is hugely important: they help the podcast get discovered by new people. Please spend 5 minutes of your time to leave a review on your preferred listening platform, we'd love to hear from you! 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

In this episode, Freddie gives us some tips regarding staying safe physically and mentally during quarantine. Make sure you keep a good support system around you who you can communicate with during this time; Try not to disrupt your routine; Establish tools to protect your email, social media, and other apps you may use; Those aren't all of the tools that Freddie shared with me during this interview, give it a listen and be prepared to take notes! Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Freddie Harris, Owner-Chief Instructor at Badger Krav Maga in Madison, WI. Badger Krav Maga offers self-defense training and security consultation to civilian, corporate & law enforcement clients.Through education and training members will gain an increased awareness of common threats and how to defend against them. The training approach of Badger Krav Maga embodies three core concepts: mind, body and law. Members will gain a defensive mindset to refuse being a victim. They will understand and develop the body mechanics necessary for effective self-defense. And they will possess a basic comprehension of governing self-defense statutes that support them. Badger Krav Maga | Facebook ____________________ Our host of Divorce Conversations for Women Podcast is Rhonda Noordyk, CFEI Rhonda Noordyk's relentless pursuit of financial justice for women going through divorce drove her to leave the financial industry in 2014 to open The Women's Financial Wellness Center. She was in search of a better way. She used her knowledge, passion, and experience to build a leading-edge business model. The intention was to create a business that provided a safe place for women - especially those in a vulnerable position - to find their paths, find their voices and find the financial confidence they need to lift themselves out of seemingly hopeless situations. Since starting the Women's Financial Wellness Center, after a 10+ year career in the financial industry, she has helped alleviate financial vulnerability for thousands of women. ​In addition to being the CEO of The Women's Financial Wellness Center, Rhonda is also a professional speaker. While her platform is women's money wellness, it is not just about money. Her topics include: assertive communication, boundaries, leadership and overcoming financial myths. Her speaking experience includes: GE Healthcare, UWM Women's Leadership Conference and Marquette Law School. In addition, she has appeared on Fox6 News, Real Milwaukee, and Morning Blend. Her dynamic and inspirational style leaves women with a sense of empowerment. Rhonda Noordyk, CFEI CEO | The Women's Financial Wellness Center [email protected] | (262) 522-1502 Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube Schedule a FREE 30-Minute Phone Call ____________________ Sponsored by: Courageous Contemplation (online course) ____________________ Visit the Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with the Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website or grab a complimentary 30-minute consult. Leaving a positive podcast review is hugely important: they help the podcast get discovered by new people. Please spend 5 minutes of your time to leave a review on your preferred listening platform, we'd love to hear from you! 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

In this episode, Jeanne gives us some tips to prepare your credit during & after divorce Pull your credit reports from all three credit bureaus via annualcreditreport.com Look at each report & highlight things that were joint accounts and close them Find any mistakes or charges you do not recognize Have access to credit to build it back up (Jeanne gives us a few tools to do this) Open a secure credit card or secure loan Find out your FICO Score at myficoscore.com Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Jeanne Kelly Jeanne Kelly is a nationally recognized voice in credit consulting. In addition to serving her clients in their efforts to improve their credit scores, Jeanne has been sought out by real estate professionals, mortgage analysts and journalists for her thoughts and advice on how to best manage your credit portfolio in an ever-changing financial landscape. TKG Inc | Facebook Email Jeanne: [email protected] ____________________ Our host of Divorce Conversations for Women Podcast is Rhonda Noordyk, CFEI Rhonda Noordyk's relentless pursuit of financial justice for women going through divorce drove her to leave the financial industry in 2014 to open The Women's Financial Wellness Center. She was in search of a better way. She used her knowledge, passion, and experience to build a leading-edge business model. The intention was to create a business that provided a safe place for women - especially those in a vulnerable position - to find their paths, find their voices and find the financial confidence they need to lift themselves out of seemingly hopeless situations. Since starting the Women's Financial Wellness Center, after a 10+ year career in the financial industry, she has helped alleviate financial vulnerability for thousands of women. ​In addition to being the CEO of The Women's Financial Wellness Center, Rhonda is also a professional speaker. While her platform is women's money wellness, it is not just about money. Her topics include: assertive communication, boundaries, leadership and overcoming financial myths. Her speaking experience includes: GE Healthcare, UWM Women's Leadership Conference and Marquette Law School. In addition, she has appeared on Fox6 News, Real Milwaukee, and Morning Blend. Her dynamic and inspirational style leaves women with a sense of empowerment. Rhonda Noordyk, CFEI CEO | The Women's Financial Wellness Center [email protected] | (262) 522-1502 Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube Schedule a FREE 30-Minute Phone Call ____________________ Sponsored by: Courageous Contemplation (online course) ____________________ Visit the Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with the Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website or grab a complimentary 30-minute consult. Leaving a positive podcast review is hugely important: they help the podcast get discovered by new people. Please spend 5 minutes of your time to leave a review on your preferred listening platform, we'd love to hear from you! 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

In this episode, Andy walks us through his story of divorce, and offers us 3 things that he has learned: Pick & choose your battles Find a common enemy or a common ally Don't communicate over the phone - use email or text Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Andy Weins Experienced Sergeant First Class with a demonstrated history of working in the military industry. Skilled in Sales, Management, Training, Subcontracting, and Resiliency. Strong community and social services professional with a Bachelor of Science (B.S.) focused in Business and Management from Cardinal Stritch University. Green Up Solutions | LinkedIn ____________________ Our host of Divorce Conversations for Women Podcast is Rhonda Noordyk, CFEI Rhonda Noordyk's relentless pursuit of financial justice for women going through divorce drove her to leave the financial industry in 2014 to open The Women's Financial Wellness Center. She was in search of a better way. She used her knowledge, passion, and experience to build a leading-edge business model. The intention was to create a business that provided a safe place for women - especially those in a vulnerable position - to find their paths, find their voices and find the financial confidence they need to lift themselves out of seemingly hopeless situations. Since starting the Women's Financial Wellness Center, after a 10+ year career in the financial industry, she has helped alleviate financial vulnerability for thousands of women. ​In addition to being the CEO of The Women's Financial Wellness Center, Rhonda is also a professional speaker. While her platform is women's money wellness, it is not just about money. Her topics include: assertive communication, boundaries, leadership and overcoming financial myths. Her speaking experience includes: GE Healthcare, UWM Women's Leadership Conference and Marquette Law School. In addition, she has appeared on Fox6 News, Real Milwaukee, and Morning Blend. Her dynamic and inspirational style leaves women with a sense of empowerment. Rhonda Noordyk, CFEI CEO | The Women's Financial Wellness Center [email protected] | (262) 522-1502 Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube Schedule a FREE 30-Minute Phone Call ____________________ Sponsored by: Courageous Contemplation (online course) ____________________ Visit the Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with the Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website or grab a complimentary 30-minute consult. Leaving a positive podcast review is hugely important: they help the podcast get discovered by new people. Please spend 5 minutes of your time to leave a review on your preferred listening platform, we'd love to hear from you! 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

In this episode, we discuss trusting your intuition. We will share some tips on how you can hear your intuition. Your intuition doesn't stop when we fail or screw up or "do it wrong" or life isn't going where we thought it should - No shame! No blame! Your intuition is lovingly leading you- even when you aren't loving yourself. It loves your kids and you and will show you the way - this is a journey of forgiving yourself. You learned this behavior - we all did. So be easier on yourself and you'll be able to hear that still, small voice easier. Tell yourself what you need to hear right now. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access TRANSCRIPT Rhonda Noordyk: Welcome to this episode of the Divorce Conversations for Women. I'm your host, Rhonda Noordyk. You know there's one common thread facing women that are contemplating divorce, and it's that we don't know what we don't know, right? And so, I want to make sure to help you ask the tough questions so that you get the answers that you need. Rhonda Noordyk: In today's episode, we are going to dive into the topic of INTUITION, which is something that I think women really need to learn how to tap into and trust a little bit. So I'm so excited about our topic for today. This episode is sponsored by Courageous Contemplation. It is my online course for helping women navigate through the divorce process, so be sure to check out womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/events. So, I am here today with Cyrina and I want to just thank you so much for joining us. Cyrina Talbott: Oh, thank you so much for having me. I'm really excited to share this. Rhonda Noordyk: So, I know that people can certainly reach out to you. We're going to include all of your contact information and all the good things about you. But I just want to get started in our conversation today about intuition. And let's just start by saying, if a woman came to you and said, "Gosh, you know I really feel like I need to make a decision or something just doesn't feel right or whatever." Like let's just talk about, if you could tell them one thing, right, what would that one thing be? Cyrina Talbott: I think the thing that's the hardest is to trust yourself. You know? And as I was thinking about this too... when you're going through divorce, that's really hard. That's a really big ask because maybe you're looking at this whole situation that you're finding yourself in and going, "okay. Well, I don't know how to trust myself. I made this decision and it didn't work out." Or a lot of times when anything is falling apart, whether it's a business or marriage or our health or whatever it is, we're kind of, life is showing us areas that do need to change. Cyrina Talbott: And even if your partner is hugely at fault, there may be some things you're seeing like, "Oh, okay, I did that." You know where you're responsible. And in light of that, still being able to trust yourself even if you're feeling bad or even if you're realizing there's things or patterns that are needing to change or whatever. Cyrina Talbott: But it's so important to trust your intuition and trust yourself because there are no rules. I mean, there are no rules about divorce, whether you should do this with your finances or that with your in-laws or that with your kids. Like there are no rules. Everybody's situation is so different and so unique that you're really the one that can decide. Cyrina Talbott: And so, you can take all the advice from everybody, but at the end of the day, it's you and to really, my encouragement is to trust that and be like, "Yeah, I'm, I'm not going to defer this to all the people I think are smarter than me. This is me, my family, my kids, my life." And just feel a little bit like, "Yeah, I can do this." Even if everything's falling apart, that's okay. Rhonda Noordyk: Well, and I think to your point, I think a lot of times in situations where women have spent years, sometimes decades squelching their intuition, I think it takes time for us to gain the confidence like, "Oh my gosh, I was right." Or, "Man, I should have listened to this gut feeling that I had several years ago, sometimes decades ago." Rhonda Noordyk: And so, I think there's this aspect of getting reacquainted with our intuition, right? And maybe testing it in small ways to help build our confidence so that then when we do feel like, "You know what, gosh, that's right." I mean, it's interesting because I think guys do such a better job at this. I mean, many of my male colleagues, if you were to ask them what's your key for business? It's like, "I trust my gut. If I get a bad sense from somebody, I'm not working with them." Rhonda Noordyk: So like for women, if you're interviewing attorneys and you're like, "I don't know. I didn't really get a good vibe but everybody says they're really great so I'm going to work with

In this episode, we discuss helping women transition through a divorce and ways to support them through this using the 3C approach of communication, communing, and community. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access TRANSCRIPT: Rhonda Noordyk: This is the Divorce Conversations for Women Podcast. I'm so glad that you're here. I'm your host, Rhonda Noordyk, Founder and CEO of the Women's Financial Wellness Center. I am passionate about educating and empowering women who are going through divorce. I want to help you go from chaos to clarity. The purpose of this podcast is to provide women with educational tips, tools and resources as it relates to the divorce process. Be sure to check out our website at www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com. Rhonda Noordyk: Alright, well, thank you so much for joining us for another episode of Divorce Conversations for Women. And I am really excited to be able to have a conversation today with my friend Sheryl Brown. She is the CEO of Females and Finance. And we met several years ago when I was in the industry as an advisor and have just stayed in touch, right? And so, I want to thank you for joining us today. Sherly Brown: Absolutely. I'm excited to have this talk today. Rhonda Noordyk: Me too. Me too. So, as I was thinking about where to kind of take this conversation today, I think what would be most helpful, and I know that's something that you, up until recent maybe have kind of kept close to the vest, but a little bit about your story, because I know that when you shared it with me a couple of years ago, I remember being on the phone pretty surprised at how challenging your situation was. Yeah, let's start with that. Share with us a little bit about your story. Sherly Brown: Yeah. So here I am, gosh, 30 years into working in financial services. And I remember always being a good wife. I was somebody who, of course, I made a very good living. I was entrusting my ex-husband to pay the bills and we had a lifestyle. And I remember, he had gotten really upset with me that I was traveling a lot, I needed to quit my job. And so I did. And it was a job I actually enjoyed quite a bit. But I quit my job to be home more. I also have grandchildren, and I just thought I needed to be more present. Sherly Brown: And so, when the last paycheck hit, it was May 30 of 2017, so I'm not employed anymore. That means I'm 100% dependent on him. And I remember, I was at a Michaels Arts and Crafts store with my two grandsons, they were fighting over a doughnut and they're twins. It's funny how you remember things, the details. I remember it was a sour cream crunch doughnut that I had bought at the grocery store and there was one left and they were twins. I remember reaching down and breaking it in half and saying, "Here, you each have a half, we're good." Sherly Brown: And the phone rang and my husband called to say, "I don't want to be married to you anymore." I remembered in that moment, Rhonda, I literally said, "You know, I'm with the children right now. I'm going to need to give you a call back, I need to get them home and I want to talk about ..." I'm trying to stay professional and together and not alarm my littles, because they're always looking at you. And any mother listening knows that all children, their feelings fester off of their moms. They will look at their moms and if mom stays calm, they stay calm. Sherly Brown: And it's amazing how even in a moment of angst, there's a lot of times where we're able to reach a level of calm in order to keep children, grandchildren, everything happy and safe for them. And inside, I'm like, what? And so I did, I took them home, I told my son, I have to see you later. I didn't even say anything to my son at home. And I waited. And it was hours and hours. He wasn't there. And it was hours. And I thought, you call me and you say this and you don't come home. Sherly Brown: Well, what had ended up happening was he, in hindsight, a couple days later, I don't know why it took me 48 hours to put the lightbulb on. I should check the bank accounts, like he's not here, what are we doing? Yeah, he had emptied every bank account. He had cash boarded every credit card. He had got on a plane and had left. So he wasn't leaving me, he left. I think that term is really interesting to Rhonda, I remember sharing this with you. I said, they make it always sound so kind. No, someone left me. No, it was so much harder than that. And when I went through realizing that I had no money, I had nothing, I had no job, I had no husband. And so, I went into a full panic and depression, a little bit of one I would say. And I think rightfully so, I think you're just sort of, oh my gosh, what happens now? Sherly Brown: And my son will tell you that I was sitting at the house once I realized all the money had been gone and what he had do

In today's episode, we discuss: Identifying your strengths and how to position them How to handle time away from the traditional workforce The importance of shifting your mindset and how important it is when you are putting together your resumé Rhonda: All right. Well thank you so much for joining us. Welcome to this episode of Divorce Conversations for Women. I'm your host, Rhonda Noordyk. You know there's one common thread facing everyone that's going through or contemplating divorce and that is you don't know what you don't know. So, I want to make sure that I help you ask the tough questions to get the answers that you need. Rhonda: In today's episode, we're going to be diving into the topic of... resumé writing, right? And what do you do if you need to go back into the workforce or you need to up-level your skills to be able to really live the life that you have been wanting to live during or post-divorce. So, this episode is sponsored by Courageous Contemplation. It's our online course. So, if you find yourself contemplating divorce, please check out womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/events. So, I am here today with Dr. Heather Rothbauer-Wanish and she is, not only the owner of Feather Communications, but she's also a professional resumé writer and has been doing this since 2008. So, thank you so much for joining us today. Heather: Thanks, Rhonda. I'm glad to be here. Rhonda: So, tell us a little bit about... Before we dive into the tips that we have for our listeners today, if there are women that are listening, what are some of the things that you've seen as far as trends in resumé writing, basically, and let's let them know that they're not alone. Heather: Okay. Yeah. First of all, you are absolutely not alone. One of the trends that I've really noticed, whether I'm working with somebody that is getting divorced, maybe just stayed home raising kids, and is now entering the workforce, is probably 15 or 20 years ago. It's almost like we tried to hide that information, like, "Oh, I don't want them to know that I wasn't doing anything." Which by the way, we know you were doing a lot of different things, but now we address it. We just flat out address it in the resumé and say, "These five years, two years, whatever it was, here's what I was doing." And I think there's some value to that because people feel like they don't necessarily have to hide it and they can use those skills that they built during that time. Heather: Another trend that, you know, if somebody hasn't looked for a job for a really long time is understanding how the job search works today. It's important to know that resumés go through applicant tracking systems. You're not going to be physically handing your resumé to somebody anymore, so just understanding the different tips and tricks and ideas and being smart about how you're putting together your document to best identify your strengths and your skillset. Rhonda: I love that. And if you are listening, I hope that you find encouragement in that because things have shifted, and even in previous episodes that we've recorded, we've been talking about the importance of flexing. Like, hey, it's not that you have to be working in the nine-to-five jobs anymore in the corporate space. People are really starting to recognize, "Hey, what is it that I'm passionate about? What skills do I bring to the table? Gosh, could I turn that into a business?" Or, "Can I leverage some of those skills in the career space?" So, I love that. Rhonda: I remember... So, in teaching in higher education, I was teaching PowerPoint classes and Microsoft Office classes. And as part of that, I was encouraging my students to put together a resumé because I said, "You know what? The best time to put together a resumé is when you don't need one and you're not stressed- Heather: Exactly. Rhonda: ... and you're not feeling frustrated or bitter toward the employer that maybe had to part ways with you for various reasons." And so, I put as part of that process, I put together mine, and I thought, "Okay, I've got this really great chronological resumé." And the gal who was reviewing it at the college, their professional onsite resumé writer, said, "Yeah, Rhonda, I mean good information, but, man, this is an old-school format." Feeling like we need to put everything in chronological order and put as much as we can on there. And I want to say that I was clustered. But I think just also recognizing, what is it that really, we need to be putting on there and also realizing that we have control over what we put on there or don't put on there. Right? Heather: Exactly. And I always tell people, your resumé is meant to put enough out there that somebody is interested enough to call you for an interview to find out more. It's not your entire life story. It's not every single job that you've ever had since high school. Because people do it. It's not every single thing. It's what's relevant and thinking about what's relevant over a qua

🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access TRANSCRIPT: Rhonda: Welcome to this episode of Divorce Conversations for Women. I'm your host, Rhonda Noordyk. There's one common thread facing everyone that's contemplating divorce or even in the midst of divorce, and that is, you don't know what you don't know, right? So I want to make sure to ask the tough questions so that you can get the answers that you need. In today's episode, we're going to dive into the topic of negotiation for women. This episode is sponsored by Courageous Contemplation, our online course. So, if you're contemplating divorce, I want you to check out womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/events. I am so excited today. I am joined with Nicole Martin and John Tinghitella. To learn more about Nicole and John, we've linked their website and additional information in the show notes. You can also check out their website at www.nofearnegotiation.com. I want to get started here today. I am so excited that you guys are here because I feel like this is a topic that definitely deserves to have its own podcast episode. So, I'm a woman facing divorce, right? What's the one thing that we want the women that are listening to know about negotiating? Nicole: It's so interesting, Rhonda, because I think that if you think of it with that directness of the question, the one thing I would say to a woman that's really thinking about negotiation is first the fact that it's a two-way discussion or conversation or exchange, and that they are worthy no matter what they are feeling or how they're feeling as they approach that table, that they are worthy equal in that conversation. And the question is, do they feel equal, first of all? Are they prepared in that conversation when they come forth? And are they also ready to listen? Because like I said, it's a two-way exchange. That's probably the first thing I would say. I don't know, John, what would you say? John: I think that's a really good starting point. I think the power to listen is crucial to any successful negotiation. But to back up even another step, negotiation is just another word for managing relationships. Negotiation tends to have a negative connotation in a lot of people's minds, which creates resistance, which creates people not wanting to do it, which usually means they end up with a bad result because they kind of faded out when they should have leaned in. But that said, the ability to listen upfront is absolutely crucial. There's also a realistic connotation to negotiation that needs to be addressed and managed. It's the fact that negotiations, by their nature, are highly competitive, and we have to be careful in a negotiation to realize there's a clear winner and loser. This is not a ballgame with a time clock and a score at the end. This is people managing their lives going forward, and everyone has to leave, not so much with a victory, but everyone has to leave with what matters to them. And Rhonda, in your discipline of managing women through the extremely difficult dynamic of divorce, they tend to be highly competitive, highly adversarial, and a lot of times there are winners and losers, and that's just not healthy. It's a horrible outcome and our goal is to have positive outcomes. Rhonda: And so I agree, and I love the perspective of it being built on relationships. I've got a client right now who is ... her attorney is a guy, then there's her husband and his attorney is a guy. And she's at the table feeling like nobody's listening to her. And so, the preparation part, I think, is super important, number one. And so I've been working behind the scenes with her to help prepare her to have some of those conversations. I think, Nicole, you mentioned the worthiness. Man, that is probably one of the most challenging pieces as women are going through divorce, their confidence has been shattered. Can we talk about the worthy piece? Do you have any suggestions or tips as they're going into this? And I don't like the whole fake it 'til you make it thing, but I think ... Are there some specific things that women could be doing to build up, like, I'm worthy to have this conversation, and what I have to say is important? Nicole: Well, and we actually kind of put forth three letters with what we do with our process within negotiation specifically, No Fear Negotiation. And the first letter is M, and M really stands for changing your mindset. And I think for women, especially going through relationships, I can recall a particular instance for myself personally where almost every relationship that I'd had where it had come to an end and I was leaving, my counterpart in that relationship had actually driven me to a place of guilt where you're feeling like you weren't working hard enough or you didn't do enough or you need ... this is your fault that you're letting go

In today's episode, we discuss: Get out of the muck with a plan. I use a formula that I call 15-30-90-18. Confidence is not a trait; it's a skill. We get out of difficult situations by having the confidence that we can. Confidence is triggered by taking a step, then another, then another. Progress creates confidence. Just. Take. One. Step. Look for happiness in the simple things of everyday life while dealing with the challenges of divorce, single motherhood, dealing with the comparison trap. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access Confidence is a Skill, Not a Trait TRANSCRIPT: Rhonda: Welcome to this episode of Divorce Conversations for Women. I'm your host, Rhonda Noordyk. There is one common thread facing every woman that is going through or contemplating divorce. You don't know what you don't know, right. So I want to make sure that we are asking the tough questions to get you the answers that you need. In today's episode, we are going to dive into the topic of confidence. This episode is sponsored by the Women's Financial Wellness Center online course. Be sure to check out our website under the events tab. I'm joined today by my friend Aleta Norris. She is not only the co-founder of Living as a Leader, but she's also the founder of a new women's community called Women Who Spark to learn more about Aleta. We have linked her website and LinkedIn bio in the show notes, so be sure to check those out. So, Aleta, I want to thank you for joining us today. Aleta: Well thanks for having me, Rhonda. Rhonda: So I want to start by saying and essentially asking a question. So for the women that are listening that are facing a divorce, certainly confidence is a big part of the journey. So what is one thing that you would want them to know about confidence? Aleta: Well, so first of all, you're right, Rhonda. Confidence is a really significant element in a divorce experience. And I've scarcely met a woman, myself included, who has navigated divorce, who hasn't taken a hit to her confidence. And it's a good time to remind women that confidence is not something that you either have or don't have. It's not a trait. Confidence is, in fact, a skill and it's something that we can develop over time. We can build strength in our confidence just as we can build strength in our body by waking up every day and moving our body and exercising our body. Aleta: Confidence is very similar. If we wake up every day and we take some kind of step or some kind of action and then the next day we take another step and the next day we take another step. What we'll find is that progress that we're making will help us begin to either strengthen or regain some of the confidence that we're certainly predictably going to lose when we go through a life experience as traumatic as a divorce. Rhonda: Yeah, for sure. Absolutely. Well, and I think there are so many great opportunities for us in our lives where we can look back and say, "Oh my gosh, wow, how did I get to this point?" Right. Aleta: Right. Rhonda: It isn't something that happens overnight. And I remember a couple of years ago I ran across a formula that was talking about confidence and it said, "Knowledge + Experience = Confidence. Knowledge plus experience equals confidence." And to your point it's like, Hey, you know what? There is certainly the knowledge piece or the theory behind certain things and then there's actually putting it into practice. And the confidence is certainly no different, especially for women that either hasn't gone through a divorce before or this divorce that they're facing is different than any of the previous ones. It's certainly important. Rhonda: So one of the things that you and I have talked about is just your own journey in going through this process. And I just think of you as a very confident person and to your point, it's not something we wake up and say, "Hey, I'm confident." It's a learned skill. And so thinking back to your situation and your divorce experience, share with us a little bit about what role confidence played in that for you? Aleta: Well, so first of all, it's really interesting, Rhonda, what you said is that you've always viewed me as a confident person, and we've known each other in the business community for a very long time. And one of the things that I'm becoming more and more aware of is just how many confident-looking women we interact with on a regular basis who are in fact are struggling with their confidence. And we struggle with confidence in a variety of ways. One might be that simply, innately who we are as a person, we're more of a timid, tentative woman than others might be. Right. And then some of us, our confidence takes a hit when we experience something like divorce and I know a lot of women as well. And, and I think this probably pertains to all of us where we have confide

In this episode, we discuss: The importance of a Wealth Coordination Account Understanding long-term planning for your long-term future Resources and tips related to understanding your knowledge gap 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access TRANSCRIPT: Rhonda: All right. Well, thank you so much for joining us for another episode. And I am so excited to be able to introduce to you my friend, Paul Adams. And he and I met via LinkedIn. All good things start there. And there was something about your profile that just captured my attention and I actually didn't even really know what you did when I said, "Hey, let's connect." And so, you are the Founder and CEO of an organization called Sound Financial Group. And you're also a fellow podcaster and entrepreneur. Paul: Indeed. Rhonda: And so, I just want to thank you for taking time to join us today. Paul: I got to tell you, I'm so happy to be here. Just our phone conversations we've had leading up to this, and you mentioned about creating a friendship. And I even was talking to my wife this morning and saying, "Yeah, I'm going to be on a friend's podcast this morning." And it was just like, "Oh, yeah, that's kind of nice." Versus somebody has a show somewhere that asked me to be on it. It just felt wonderful and warm and just getting a chance to reconnect this morning. Rhonda: Yeah, absolutely. Well, and I have certainly been in the financial industry and you are with an organization that happens to be in their headquarters in Milwaukee. Paul: Yeah, at the very beginning of my career. Rhonda: Right. Right, at the very beginning of your career. So, I just want to take some time and share, what are some of the trends that you're seeing? Obviously, our focus is women. Paul: And I think that if, for any of us, it's where is my knowledge gap? And when I say knowledge, I mean the capacity to act, not just understand it. If we were thinking of it like parachuting, understanding would be like, "I know the plane goes up to 13,000 feet, somebody jumps, they count to 10, they pull this thing here, and then they steer themselves with two cables they hold in their right and left hand, and it pulled them both down near the ground and they land." That's understanding. Paul: Knowledge is hurling yourself into the abyss and landing and not dying. That is the difference. And I think people tend to collapse the understanding and knowledge. And especially when we're divorced, prior to that, it may have been, at least we see this often, I don't know about you, but we'll see oftentimes that the wife will handle a ton of the bills, and then the husband tends to handle a lot of the long-term strategy and investments. And they both have an understanding of the other one. Paul: Now, it's a lot easier for the divorced husband to get a handle on the bills because it's a fast iteration cycle. They got to deal with the bills every 30 days. So, I don't know, after doing it for four or five months, you're back on plane and you know what you're doing. But when there is this... And it really is one of the longest feedback loops we deal with in our entire life. It's a 40-year feedback loop from 22 to 65. You have one time that you get feedback, and filling a glass of water, we're all used to it. We've all gotten our hands wet as kids when we overfill the glass, that we're listening and feeling the weight of the glass, and we turn off the spigot at the right time. Paul: If you perform really badly at work, somebody's going to let you know in a few weeks. You eat too much, over 7 to 10 days, you'll actually start gaining weight, and the feedback is in the scale. Bad behavior in all those areas equals bad short-term outcome. Paul: Here's the problem. With money, the feedback loop is like a negative feedback loop in that you can make bad decisions with money. And know how they feel in the short run? Awesome. It feels so good. You can get the brightness on your kids' eyes because you got them a cool new toy. Or all the Instagram likes because of the killer vacation you went on. All those things feel wonderful. The new car smell. Nice, so wonderful. And those are all things that, in the long run, the one-time feedback loop is you spend the rest of your life in some version of poverty below what you would have chosen. Paul: And so, one of the things we have to do is get those shorter iterations occurring through these coaching conversations around money so that everyone, and I think divorced women are particularly susceptible to having somebody that looks trustworthy, somebody who's super friendly, who's a friend of a friend, who may just be selling product. And one of the things we encourage people to think about is, is the advisor's revenue model only you acquiring product from them? Paul: And if that is their primary revenue model and they're not charging yo

In this episode, we discuss: How to position yourself to prepare for dating after divorce How to set yourself up for success when you enter the dating arena Tips on first dates 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access TRANSCRIPT: Rhonda: Thank you so much for joining us for another episode. I am delighted to be able to have a very special guest on with us today. It's interesting because we are going to be talking about dating. You might be thinking, "Okay, Rhonda, I'm super overwhelmed and just really having a challenging time." This is probably one of the last things that you feel like you want to talk about. But as I was thinking about who to bring on, I really think that this is an important conversation. The reason for that is because when I started my business, gosh, five years ago, the why on why I was doing my business is actually different or a little different than the reason that I'm doing it today. The reason that I started my business was because, hey, I just really felt emotionally compelled to wanting to help people that were in a challenging spot. There were a lot of things that had, had happened in my childhood that I can relate to. The feeling of abandonment, the feeling of frustration, the feeling of overwhelm. Rhonda: A lot of that came from my dad being an alcoholic and just seeing the dynamic that my parents had. Well, recently, I celebrated my 20th wedding anniversary and it's really prompted me to be thinking about my why. I believe that my why has shifted in a sense that I want women to really experience what I have. My husband, there isn't a day that he doesn't get up and say something complimentary like, "Hey, good morning beautiful, good morning whatever, right?" He's just a very kind, respectful, thoughtful person. It's prompted me after two decades to really reflect on where we're at, and I was not in that spot 20 years ago. I was a mess and the consistency that he has brought to my life has allowed me to be able to do what I'm doing. Really, Lori, the passion for this conversation comes from me wanting for other women what I have. Unfortunately, my husband doesn't have any brothers, so this is where you come in. Lori: It's wonderful out there. Rhonda: Thank you. Lori: Yes, I'm the brother that you don't ever have. Rhonda: That's right, you know. I want to introduce our listeners to Lori Mendelsohn and she is the owner and founder of SmartFunnySingle, and she has over 33 years in the fashion industry and 12 years as an award-winning entrepreneur. Thank you so much for joining us today. Lori: Rhonda, it is so my pleasure and I also want to thank you, first of all, for having me on and giving me this opportunity to talk and share about experiences that I have gone through from divorce. Again, I want to thank you for your help in helping me get through that divorce and introducing me to someone who could help me in that path, my attorney. I don't know if you recall the day that we met, I stood up and I had just experienced domestic abuse for the first time and I knew that that was the pivotal point that my marriage was over, and I was scared. You walked up to me and you told me that you could help me, and I will never forget that moment because my head was just spinning and reeling, and I was so afraid and so discombobulated. I don't use that word that often and destabilized and you helped me at that moment. That was when I really needed help, I didn't know what to do. I was terrified, so thank you. Rhonda: You are most welcome. Yeah, I do remember that, and I have goosebumps just having you share that because I remember exactly where we were. Lori: Yeah. Well, I'd like to share what happened if I could. It'll just take a second. Rhonda: Yeah. Lori: I was invited by a mutual friend to a networking event, and every woman stood up and had a minute spiel about her business, and I stood up and I started to talk about my business. I said, "I experienced domestic abuse for the first time today. My husband just put his fist through the kitchen sink and hit it and I'm afraid that that's going to be my head and I don't know what to do, and I don't know if I can even go home." I started crying and it was a very powerful moment and you were there and, again, thank you. Rhonda: I'm glad that you mentioned that because you are somebody, and I know that we haven't known each other for a really long time but we've known each other long enough that you get a really good sense of people. Here you are, an accomplished business owner, a woman who I think people really view as having her shit together. I don't even swear on my podcast. Rhonda: You are a confident person, you'd have some really great successes in your business, right? Lori: Yep, very successful. Rhonda: Right and here you are feeling like, "Oh my gosh, everything's now unraveling or I'm fee

In this episode, we discuss: Family law matters can be resolved amicably through mediation The process of divorce does not need to be economically devastating Mediation provides an opportunity to minimize your children's exposure to the divorce process 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access TRANSCRIPT: Rhonda: Thank you so much for joining us for another episode. I am so excited to be able to introduce you today to Alex Jacobson. She is the founder of Jacobson Mediation Group out of the Greater Chicago area and she's a former divorce lawyer turned divorce mediator. What a mouthful that is. Thank you so much for joining us today. Alex: Thank you. Thank you for having me. Rhonda: Well, let's talk a little bit about what prompted you to move in the direction of building your practice around mediation. Give us a little backstory on what led you to where you're at today. Alex: Certainly, so I was a divorce lawyer for the past 12 years. I practiced at one of the premier divorce firms in Chicago doing all matters related to divorce and matrimonial issues, so that included child custody, property division, child support, spousal support, premarital agreement, postnuptial agreements, all the above. And as my practice grew, it became increasingly apparent that even in the highest complex situation, matters can be resolved outside of the courtroom. And I just found that after practicing at that level, that once you are in the courtroom, you really can't unring that bell. Once people start slinging the mud, it's difficult to go back to co-parenting or to reach an agreement that is reasonable for both parties. And once the judgment is imposed upon you by a judge, it may or may not meet the needs of your family. It may or may not be narrowly tailored to the needs of your family. And so, I just simply found that alternative dispute resolution was just a better way to resolve these types of cases. Rhonda: Yeah, yeah, absolutely. So, talk to us a little bit about, I mean obviously, there's a lot of different ways that mediation can be used throughout the divorce process. Are you, tell us a little bit about what you're seeing as far as trends? Are people moving in the direction of mediation only? Meaning you've got that neutral third party who is facilitating the conversation between the parties? Or are you, and or are you also seeing where people have attorneys and then they're utilizing mediators to be able to close the gap on our particular issue? Alex: So, I'm seeing both, in fact, depending on the issues that are being addressed. So in the first instance, I would, I would say that parenting issues often can be resolved with the parties without their attorneys being present because quite simply they are the key people that know what their children need and how to craft an agreement that meets the needs of their children, their extracurriculars, the extent that their child has a special need. They are the two people and the two people primarily who know what those needs are and who can speak to those issues and in the best way. When it comes to financial issues, they're oftentimes one or both parties who really are not equipped to handle the financial issues on her own and really look to their attorneys to provide them with the guidance that they need. And my role is to facilitate the discussion and help navigate that conversation. Alex: And, and whether attorneys are involved also depends on what phase in the case mediation comes in. So for example, cases may or may not begin sort of with a bang and there are some temporary issues that need to be resolved immediately. So, who's going to pick up Tommy from soccer practice? Who's going to pay for school tuition this month? Who's going pay the mortgage bill? These are immediate issues that the people need a band-aid for immediately while they're working on a more global resolution of all the issues in the case. So those immediate issues may be addressed with just the parties present without attorneys involved. And then once everyone has done their discovery and they're prepared to address all the issues in the divorce case, that is when the attorneys may come in and participate in the process. Rhonda: So I love one of the things that you said, I just want to touch on, because I see this in the women that I'm working with, which is, there are some of those immediate things that do need to be resolved or taken care of the day-to-day stuff. Like you said, who's going to pick up so-and-so from soccer practice and let's talk about who's going to pay the bills, you know, or which bills they're going to pay. So, if somebody is listening today and they're feeling frustrated because they perhaps feel like, you know, people aren't listening to them like, hey well we'll get to that later, we'll get to that later. Cause I mean the divorce

In this episode, we discuss: The importance of having a core team How the Women's Financial Wellness Center can help you in your divorce marathon Finishing the marathon a more confident, solid, financially savvy woman that is ready to enter her next chapter! 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access TRANSCRIPT: Thank you so much for joining me. Today is actually going to be a solo episode, and I am so excited to just be able to spend a little bit of time and chat with you. You know, I love doing the interviews, but sometimes it's nice to be able to just share some of the thoughts and things that I am seeing or thinking about. So, thank you so much for joining me today. You know, as I was thinking about what I wanted to share, I think the main, overarching message is that you're not alone. And the vision that I've been having lately in certain conversations and just pictures in my mind has been a marathon. And whether you're a runner or not, you know, when we think about something that is time-consuming and takes training, and the actual journey itself is quite lengthy, and, you know, there's certain parameters along the way. There are mile markers. There are a lot of unknowns. We don't know if it's going to be raining. We don't know if it's going to be sunny. We don't know if it's going to be super-hot. We don't know if it's going to be windy. You know, if we have a map, we may be able to identify, "Hey, are there some hills? What's the terrain look like?" So, we can build in some of the things we know. We know where the mile markers are going to be, and we know what the general path is going to be. But along that path, if you will, along that 26.1-mile journey, there's a lot of things we don't know. And, you know, that's really the premise of the divorce process, right? Divorce is really a great training ground for us, as women, to step into our own. And I know sometimes in the midst of it, it's hard to see, like, "Hey, I'm going to actually come out of this stronger, or I'm going to feel relieved. I'm going to have more confidence on the other side." But it's true. It happens, every single time. The unfortunate thing is, we can't get to the end of the race until we've put in the 26.1 miles. You have to cross the finish line. And, you know, when I think about the divorce process, even along the way, there's going to be some flags, right? And we want to make sure we avoid the red ones. And, so, you can either go and run this race all by yourself and do it as a solo journey, or you can decide that you want to do it with other people. And, as it relates to the divorce process, what I mean by that is, I really believe that divorce is not a do-it-yourself project. It's not something that you should do on your own, a) because the average divorce is 52 weeks. That's an entire year. Don't isolate yourself. Find support. Surround yourself with people that are positive and encouraging. I had somebody send me a message the other day, and she said, "Rhonda, I feel kind of sad." She said, "I was thinking about you, and how you only get to see women when they're in their saddest moments, their darkest times, their most vulnerable spot." And I responded to her, and I said, "I really appreciate that because, you know, it certainly has forced me to build in very structured self-care, so that I can make sure that my cup is full, and that I'm operating with tons of energy, and I'm healthy and have great vitality, so that I can pour into the women that need me most." But the second thing I said to her was, "You know what? I also get to see women when they are crossing the finish line, and I have the privilege of seeing the transformation." And every time a woman, you know, crosses that finish line, and the divorce is over, she and I kind of take a brief snapshot back and say, "Gosh, you remember when we first met, and here you were in this spot, and you were super overwhelmed, and you were, you know, uncertain about how you were going to do all these things, look at all of the things that you've accomplished. Look at all of the changes that you've gone through, and you're still standing." And while you might be tired, and you need to take a break, right, and refuel and fill up those electrolytes and get some rest, right, that probably has been missing over the months of the divorce process, it's just really an honor to be able to see women on the other side. So, as you are going through this journey, the importance of having support, not only from friends and family, but also from professionals that are passionate about helping women, in my case, you know, I feel called to help women that are going through divorce. And the level of passion and commitment that I bring to the work that I do, is really, really important because, for me, it's not a job. This is my life's work, and I pu

In this episode, we discuss: Five things you need to know before you start working from home. What does it take to be successful working from home? What are the biggest mistakes people make when starting to work from home? About our guest: Lesley Pyle is the founder of HireMyMom.com, a boutique service connecting Entrepreneurs and Small Businesses with top-notch Virtual Professionals across the country. She began her work-at-home career in 1996 with the launch of her first website: Home-Based Working Moms. She has a Master's degree in Public Relations from the University of Stirling, Scotland while on a full academic scholarship and as an Ambassador of Goodwill for Rotary International. She also has a BA in Journalism / Public Relations from Texas State University. Pyle has been featured in numerous publications including Forbes, Entrepreneur, Wall Street Journal and USA Today. She and her husband live in Texas and have four children. Rhonda: Thank you so much for joining us! I am really excited to be able to introduce to Lesley Pyle, and she is the founder of Hire My Mom, which is a boutique service connecting entrepreneurs and small businesses. She began her work-at-home career in 1996 with the launch of her first website, Home-Based Working Mom. So, for all of us moms out there, we can relate to her business. Whether it's a full-time hustle, a side hustle, we're going to be sharing some tips on working from home. Lesley has a master's degree in public relations from the University of Stirling in Scotland and she also has some additional credentials as well. She has a bachelor's degree, bachelor's of arts actually in journalism and public relations from Texas State University. As I was looking through your credentials, isn't it fun that we have the opportunity to be able to use our journalism and public relations backgrounds to be able to share something we're super passionate about? Lesley: Yeah. You know, I was so thankful that I did have that background because it comes in handy no matter what business you have, to have a PR and marketing background. So, I credit that with helping me get my business off the ground because- Rhonda: Yeah, absolutely. Lesley: ... so many of us start on a shoestring budget, so being able to do some marketing and PR, in the beginning, was really helpful. Rhonda: Yeah, absolutely. Well, thank you so much for joining us today. Lesley: Yeah. Thank you. Pleasure to be here. Rhonda: So, share with us ... I know you've had several articles written, Huffington Post. What are some of the other places that you have written articles for or been - Lesley: I wrote ... Yeah, I wrote for Women Entrepreneur for quite a while and then I've written for some ... one-time posts on various parenting and work from home blogs. So, yeah. 24 years of doing this, so it's been ... A lot's changed over the years. Rhonda: Right? Well, when you and I chatted prior to doing the recording, that was one of the things that we were talking about is how things have shifted so much over the years. You know, I'd love for you to share, from your perspective, some of the things that you've seen as far as some of the shifts. Lesley: Yeah, most definitely. So, when I first started out 24 years ago, working from home was not so widely accepted. So, I basically .. When I started freelancing, I didn't tell my clients that I work from home because I knew it was going to be not as well received. Today, everybody thinks it's great and they're jealous if you work from home, but back then it was like, "Oh, you must not be very good at what you do if you work from home." So, that's been the biggest change. Lesley: With the advent of all the technology we have today with the Internet and with cell phones and email, none of that existed back ... Well, I think we had ... I did have a website, but I don't even know if I had email originally. But so much has changed and it just makes working from anywhere so possible now. With moms wanting that flexibility to work from home, not just moms that are searching for work, but moms who are business owners, a lot of them want to work from home, too, because that flexibility is just so helpful and beneficial for moms. So, I don't know about you, but I had ... When my babies were young, I had somebody come in and watch them while I work. That worked out beautifully. Then as they got older, they could go to a mother's day out or a preschool for a few hours a day and that sort of thing. Then, transition. Now, they're all in school. Rhonda: I know, right? It's like, "Oh, my gosh." Well, I think a lot of times, people start, they want the flexibility, and yet I think it takes the right person and right personality to be able to be disciplined and navigate through all of those pieces because ... I don't know that balance is really the right word because I don't know if you can ever have balance, but it's prioritizing those things and then also knowing like, "Hey, we might have to work a litt

In this episode, we discuss: The importance of having a vision and writing it down Hire a coach to help you! Surround yourself with the BEST people! Rhonda: I am so excited to be joined today with my friend, Stacy Kaat. And she's not only a number one bestselling author, a speaker and also personal brand coach, she's also a woman who has gone through divorce and knows what many of you who are listening today are going through, what you're feeling like, some of the challenges you may be experiencing. And Stacy and I met several years ago, and it felt like we had known each other for a long time and I'm so grateful that we have had the opportunity to stay in touch. Thank you for joining us today. Stacy: Well thank you for having me, Rhonda. I haven't really publicly spoken about my divorce, so this is kind of fun and a little bit scary. Rhonda: I know that there's an element of vulnerability that comes with sharing our stories. I just want to say; you are welcome to share as much or as little as you want here today. And then we're going to transition into some keys on the personal branding side, but I just really feel like having this conversation is important because there may be women that are listening that are really going to resonate with what it is that you have to share. Thank you. Stacy: You're welcome. Rhonda: So, go ahead and share with us a little bit about your divorce story here as we're grabbing our coffee here on a chilly day here in Wisconsin, right, or tea? Stacy: A rainy day at the end of June. Rhonda: If you're listening, grab a beverage. You can decide if it's alcoholic or not, right? Stacy: You can always put a little of that Baileys in your coffee! Rhonda: I mean, right? Just saying. Stacy: Why not? So, I was divorced I think about, or married, I'm sorry, married, about 15 years. And he was a great guy. There was a lot of great things about him, but he was kind of heading in a different direction and I was heading in another direction and there were a few main things along that path that happened that last year or so that really changed the course and kind of led toward the divorce. I think one of them was a family vacation that we were on. And I just remember his sister asking me ... She was about my age, in her late 40s, and she's like, "A lot of my friends are getting divorced. How about you?" And I said, "Well, a few of them are, but yeah, most of my friends are still married. Some of the marriages are rocky." She said, "Well, how do you feel?" And I said, "Well, I could take it or leave it." And I was kind of shocked that had come out of my mouth. I was like, "Wow, that just came out of my mouth." Stacy: But I think the reality of it was, is that in my mind, maybe not consciously, I knew it was going to happen. We had moved from one house to another, we downsized, we got rid of a lot of things. We were simplifying our lives. We were paying off our debt. We had accumulated debt during that whole real estate crash. And there was a lot of things that happened. Stacy: I just want to say this again that the man that I ... Dave, he was a great guy. And he was very supportive of me our entire marriage. Everything I wanted to do, he supported me. Any idea I had, he supported me. And so, this wasn't a case of "he's not a nice guy, he doesn't treat me well, we don't get along", because we did. We got along really well. I could sense that his life path, the way his lifestyle was going, was not what I wanted. I had envisioned more of a very healthy lifestyle. I love being outdoors and I like to kayak and eat healthily, grow things in the garden and things like that. And that was the kind of lifestyle that I wanted, and I didn't feel that was happening anymore. We were starting to separate. Stacy: I was taking a class, and one night I was getting ready to leave for class and I was wearing a black dress and a black jacket. I was all dressed up for this specific class. And I gave him a hug and a kiss goodbye. And I said, "I'll see you later." And he said, "I fear you." And I'm like, "What do you mean? You think I'm going to shoot you?" I was carrying a gun because I was going to a concealed carry class, and that day we had to dress up and pretend we were going to a wedding and how are you going to conceal? So, I was wearing this dress. Of course, I probably looked kind of cute, right? And it must've just been like, wow, he saw me looking the way I did and kind of saying goodbye, and he just said that to me and I was shocked. And then he said, "I fear you're going to leave me." Stacy: I don't even know what I said. I cannot remember what I said. All I know is...I got into my car and all the way to the class, I just thought, "I think I'm getting divorced." So it was really a weird awakening like he knew, but I didn't really know. I mean, he kind of confronted me with something that must've been on his mind for a while. And then in my mind, I guess I just was ignoring the signs or ignoring the feelin

In this episode, we discuss: Why divorced women should talk to their parents about their parents' finances How to start the conversation and what to gather 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access TRANSCRIPT: Rhonda: All right. I am so excited to be able to interview today, Cameron Huddleston. She is the author of Mom and Dad, We Need to Talk: How to Have Essential Conversations with Your Parents About Their Finances. She is an award-winning personal finance journalist, and life and money columnist for GoBankingRates. So, thank you so much for joining us today. Cameron H.: Thank you so much for having me on your show. Rhonda: So, this is a topic that anybody who's had any conversation with me or seen some of the things that we've been doing here at the Women's Financial Wellness Center, I have been a champion for having the conversation with our parents about money. Some might think, "Okay, Rhonda. Well, I thought this was a podcast about women going through divorce." Yes, it is. You're in the right place. But I also feel like as women are going through these challenges, we know that most of our clients are 45 to 65, and that also means that their parents are aging. Rhonda: So, it's not uncommon for them to be dealing with a divorce, and yet trying to help mom and dad navigate through their personal aspect related to finances. So, I am so excited to be able to dive into this topic. Let's start with, first, the why. So, we're going to talk about the why, the how, and the what. So why should divorced women talk to their parents about the parents' finances? Cameron H.: Obviously, everyone should be having these conversations, but I really do think women, in particular, and that includes divorced women, absolutely must have these conversations because women are much more likely than men to become caregivers for their parents. I mean, more than half of caregivers are women. And so, this can impact your finances big time. Rhonda: Yes, absolutely. Cameron H.: Big time because most people do not have any sort of long-term care plan. They don't have long-term care insurance. And if they don't have that, then they often don't have any other way to pay for long-term care. So that means their children are their long-term care plan. And as a woman, you are most likely going to be that caregiver, that long-term care plan for your parents. You want to know this before you're in a situation where you have to step in and start providing care because, like I said, this will impact your finances. Cameron H.: Being a caregiver is a full-time job. I know this because my mother has Alzheimer's. She was diagnosed 10 years ago when I was 35 and she was 65. I had young kids at the time. I still had a child in diapers at the time. I always thought my mother was going to be there for me to help me with my kids. But the roles were flipped entirely. I had to step in and start helping her with her finances, and then help provide care for her. She lived with us for a little while. And then it got to the point where it was too hard for me to juggle caring for my mom and for my kids. Even with the help, even with a hired helper, it was still too much. Cameron H.: Fortunately, we had some conversations and I knew ... Obviously, we had conversations because I had to get her in to meet with an attorney to get her legal documents updated so I could legally step in and start managing her finances for her. And this is so, so important. This is one of the key reasons why you must have these conversations because you have to be mentally competent to sign a will, or living trust, a power of attorney, and advanced healthcare directive. And so, if you wait until mom and dad are already having health issues, it can be too late. Cameron H.: And just for people who don't know, people are pretty aware of what a will does. But a power of attorney lets you name someone to make financial decisions for you if you no longer can, and the advance healthcare directive lets you name someone to make healthcare decisions for you, and also spells out that end of life care you want like whether you want to be on life support. And so, I did this with my mother in the very, very early stages of her dementia when she was still competent enough. If I had not done this, I would not have been able to step in and start managing her finances for her without going through very expensive and lengthy court proceedings to be named her conservator. So, we had done these things. Cameron H.: But like I said, as I stepped in and started caring for her, it was difficult. Finances aside, emotionally it was difficult, and it was too much of a tug of war on me. And I really wish I had had conversations with my mother before she started having issues. Because once we were already there, we weren't talking about hypotheticals. We were in the t

Melissa Davis, an affair survivor, joins us today to talk about healing after an affair. It is never an easy conversation and a lot of women are facing this subject. Being able to heal through the affair is so crucial for women. Carrying unhealed wounds is trauma – a big thing in your life that you have to deal with, or it will keep coming back up. Your body and mind must deal with it so breathing through it helps it. If you do not make the choice to heal, then you are just going to carry around this heavy weight that you do not want to have with you. It comes down to choices. A strong, fierce woman who can handle everything or hold on to it and become bitter and resentful. In order to move forward with other relationships, we need to go through the healing process. It's not easy – it is painful, yes, but necessary. Allow yourself as many ugly cries as you must in order to heal and move forward. When we choose to be mindful and pay attention to our thoughts, that really starts to help us realize the truths. Melissa shares that her husband was having many affairs and with people that she knew, and thought loved her. We must remember that both women and men that have partners that are unfaithful to them go through the grief process – the same timeline of misery. Women never go through things in vain. There is always a deeper purpose and a deeper meaning. You must breathe through the pain. Your life is not over even though it is overwhelming – you still have a lot to offer. Our belief is that whether you choose to stay or go you want to make that choice from a healthy place in your heart and mind. You must start addressing some of that healing to really know what you need. In this episode, we discuss: Why healing from an affair is crucial What makes After the Affair different A helpful tip to use when you keep having flashbacks or obsessive thoughts Having the right resources and tools to help you through the emotional and financial stuff What your core team is so you can move forward and make good decisions "Grieving, it's like exhaling after holding your breath for far too long." RESOURCES: Julia Kristina on YouTube Melissa Davis Affair Survivor After The Affair (828) 773-7735 [email protected] Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Pinterest Visit the Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with the Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website or grab a complimentary 30-minute consult. Leaving a positive podcast review is hugely important: they help the podcast get discovered by new people. Please spend 5 minutes of your time to leave a review on your preferred listening platform, we'd love to hear from you! 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

Beth Ruthmansdorfer, Attorney with Moertl, Wilkins & Campbell, S.C., joins us to discuss the various ways that setting up authority in your Financial Power of Attorney (POA) is beneficial to you including your business, pets, children, and other assets that you have especially while going through and post-divorce. Assigning authority within your Financial POA is important because it gives you control over where your assets go in the case that something happens to you. The 5 items that every newly divorced woman needs in her POA are: Beneficiary designations – this is important because if an accident happens and the estate plan is not done yet you need to have your agent have the authority to be able to add the beneficiary on those assets to make sure the plan works (i.e., life insurance and retirement accounts). There is still a lot of clean-up to do post-divorce. You want to make sure your ex-spouse is not listed as a beneficiary on your accounts and assets. Creating and Funding Trusts – making sure the adequate paperwork is done to complete the process. This is important because you might not have gotten started, but your agent can finish the process if the agent is specified in the POA. HIPAA – if we are not physically able to pay our bills then we want our Financial POA to have the authority to pay our medical bills and get a second opinion or can look at the medical pieces in order to do a proper analysis. Business – if an individual opens a business and something happens to them physically where they are not able to manage it or they cannot pay the bills, somebody needs to have the authority to manage those business assets. Pets – having the authority in the POA to have someone care, manage, and pay for your pet is important because there are a lot of veterinarians that will not release any information about the animal to anyone that is not the owner of the animal. The more authorities that you lay out in your Financial Power of Attorney, the less likely you are having to go to a court of law to ask for permission. In this episode, we discuss: Financial Power of Attorney Beneficiary designations Naming minor children as beneficiaries Estate Planning: Importance of having a Trust in place Creating and funding Trusts Post-divorce storm clean-up HIPAA RESOURCES: Legal Empowerment for Women Through Estate Planning Post-Divorce Storm Clean-Up with Rhonda Noordyk Elizabeth Ruthmansdorfer Attorney Moertl, Wilkins & Campbell, S.C. (414) 376-4366 [email protected] Facebook Visit the Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with the Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website or grab a complimentary 30-minute consult. Leaving a positive podcast review is hugely important: they help the podcast get discovered by new people. Please spend 5 minutes of your time to leave a review on your preferred listening platform, we'd love to hear from you! 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

Women, in general, are natural givers especially when they are empowered and confident. During divorce, especially during the midst of divorce, confidence can be impacted by what you wear, your financial situation and even the people that you surround yourself with. There are things that you can do that will boost your confidence and help you to move forward. Heather Schaefer, Personal Stylist and Chief Team Builder, is passionate about helping people to be difference makers. Her mission is to empower women to be confident in their own skin and become difference makers in their home, their workplace, and their community. In this episode, she explains that the common thread amongst women is that we like to look good. Not for other people but for ourselves. When we put on our super suit, that first layer of clothing, it helps us work better, be kinder, our attitude shifts, and our posture changes. Dress with confidence, it helps you feel like you can take on the day! When it comes to financial confidence, think outside the box. There are more people today that are generating more than one income. Having that extra income allows you the freedom and flexibility to do the things you want to do when you want to do them. The market right now is great for thinking outside the box like working from home or job sharing. When it comes to running your own business be sure to narrow your niche with what you are offering and know the solutions you can solve for other people. Our community can be so greatly impacted when women can have more flexible income and freedom in how much they give. When we are going through a life change or a struggle, there is so much that can happen when we step outside of ourselves and think of another person first. When we do that, it will build up your confidence as well as the person that you are serving, that you are walking alongside. Surround yourself with people that want to pour into you, that are the most positive, supportive people that you can find. When you come out of your struggle, you will be stronger and more confident. In the words of Sandra Yancy, Founder of eWomen Network – "Every master begins as a disaster." In this episode, we discuss: Confidence in your own skin Confidence in your household income Confidence in your community RESOURCES: Heather Schaefer Personal Stylist, Director for Ruby Ribbon, and Chief Team Builder for Become Difference Makers Heather Schaefer HQ – Become Difference Makers (262) 853-7299 [email protected] Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn | Instagram | YouTube Visit the Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with the Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website or grab a complimentary 30-minute consult. Leaving a positive podcast review is hugely important: they help the podcast get discovered by new people. Please spend 5 minutes of your time to leave a review on your preferred listening platform, we'd love to hear from you! 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

Car buying can be very stressful especially while going through divorce but with the right techniques, it can be easier. Tina McKandes, Director of Internet Operations at Boucher Automotive Group, has been in the industry for 25 years. Helping women find their perfect vehicle fit resonates with Tina having been through the divorce process herself. She knows the importance of educating yourself enough in order to make informed decisions. In this podcast, she expresses the importance of doing your research, knowing what features are important to you, and having confidence and flexibility in expressing your needs and timeline. "Be armed with information, regardless of what it is." – Tina McKandes 98% of people do online research prior to coming into a dealership. The customer journey starts and stops at various different areas depending on what your situation is. The approach that Tina takes is providing the guest with all of the information. They first evaluate your needs. It's important to be willing to be a little bit open and vulnerable so that the dealership can give you the best options for you and your situation. Yes, there are still some experiences that are not so great at other dealerships; however, you will find that there are some that will train on "customer first". At Boucher, they create a new experience for women who are considering purchasing a new vehicle, taking on the current vehicle, and evaluating leases. Pick a dealership that you feel comfortable at. The dealership should be looking at filling your needs with the best vehicle available based upon the information that you already collected from your personal end…budget, 3 most important things you need on the car…then the dealership gives you the selections that they feel fit the best based on those needs. Have confidence in trying to fill your needs but also have some flexibility in options that may be outside of the box for you. Allow yourself the time and don't feel rushed. The dealership should be paying attention to YOUR needs, working at YOUR pace, and you should be working with someone you like and that will go the extra mile for you. So, what can women do to prepare before they even go to the dealership? First, figure out where you are starting at, everyone will start at a different point. Second, begin to use your online resources and start to talk to your local lenders. Third, figure out your budget (Not sure where to start, check out our 10 Simple Steps to Creating Your Beautiful Budget online course ($47)). In this episode, we discuss: Tips, ideas, and thoughts that you can take to your dealership Trends of negotiation and where car buying is now What you can do to prepare Lending Divorce and your credit score Establishing car credit history Role of the dealership RESOURCES: 10 Simple Steps to Creating Your Beautiful Budget online course Tina McKandes Director of Internet Operations Boucher Automotive Group (414) 427-4141 [email protected] LinkedIn | Facebook | Twitter | YouTube Visit the Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with the Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website or grab a complimentary 30-minute consult. Leaving a positive podcast review is hugely important: they help the podcast get discovered by new people. Please spend 5 minutes of your time to leave a review on your preferred listening platform, we'd love to hear from you! 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

What is your cash flow going to look like post-divorce? This is a common question that most women going through divorce have. Whether you are going back into the workforce or if you need/want to make changes in your career, Kathryn Sollman of 9 Lives for Women discusses the 6 different types of flexwork that can better blend your professional and family life. You have many options to work. You can define what success is. You have a voice in what you want to be doing in your next chapter. The six different types of flexwork are: Professional full-time – today these can be flexible in terms of where you work and what your schedule is Flexible part-time – you can also work in a more mid-to-senior level in a professional way Telecommuting – working from home or even a co-working space Job Shares – less frequent than other options but are still growing, you share a job with someone who has complementary skills and together you share the responsibility of one full-time employee Freelance – independent work, on your schedule, you get to choose what you want to do Independent Consultant – usually set up an LLC, this occurs typically when you want to have a specialty (i.e., marketing), a business built on your own terms It is important to realize that you need to give yourself a break and not feel that you must aim for the C-Suite and become this ultra-career person. You get to define how you want to work, what success means to you, what your ambition is. This should all be in the context of your long-term financial security. There are many ways to get to long-term financial security and they do not all involve being the head of the department. So how and where do you find flexwork opportunities whether you are currently working or heading back into the workforce? Well…it is all about being able to ask. 80% of companies now have some sort of flexibility even if you cannot see it. If you are returning to work, the important thing is to know what you want. It is important to ask during the interview about the opportunity to have some flexibility in the job. It creates a dialog and lets the future employer know that you are interested in flexwork. If you are already working a job and now want it to be flexible, you need to do your ask in a more professional pitch method. You need to really lay out how it will benefit the company. Kathryn outlines how to put together a professional pitch in her book as well as providing coaching services to help you through this. In this episode, we discuss: The six different kinds of flexwork How to ask for flexibility in a current job or find it elsewhere The fact that today there is no hard stop to work at age 65 Women who return to work in their 40s or 50s still have a long runway for work – and the ability to build financial security "A Man is Not a Financial Plan" – tagline for WIFE.org RESOURCES: Ambition Redefined: Why the Corner Office Doesn't Work for Every Woman & What to Do Instead Kathryn Sollmann Career Coach, Speaker and Author 9 Lives for Women, LLC (203) 423-9251 Facebook | LinkedIn | Instagram | Twitter Visit the Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with the Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website or grab a complimentary 30-minute consult. Leaving a positive podcast review is hugely important: they help the podcast get discovered by new people. Please spend 5 minutes of your time to leave a review on your preferred listening platform, we'd love to hear from you! 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

You all know that inner voice that tells you that you are not good enough in one way or another. That voice that is inside your head that is constantly beating you up that makes you feel guilty, less than, and underperforming all the time. It is like having a really bad roommate. In this episode, Dr. Diane Garrison, a licensed psychologist and a women's empowerment coach, discusses how we first need to recognize that we internally talk to ourselves in a mean girl manner, then finding the understanding that you are not flawed. This type of thinking is something that was programmed into you when you were a kid. Society has led women to believe that they need to work harder and longer in order to prove that they have even half the value of men. Women have been taught that feelings are weaknesses and therefore are taught to be cast aside in order to get things done. Giving yourself compassion when you are hurting is a skill that can be learned. "It is a part of me but it doesn't have to run me." The center of this is really learning how to take care of yourself. Taking care of yourself is not selfish. Self-neglect is happening a lot even when you know you are doing it to yourself. Pay attention to what is going on inside of you instead of pushing past it when you are hurting, sad, tense – turn towards those negative feelings with gentleness – the same kind of gentleness you would give to someone else that is hurting. Having a support team of objective, heart-centered people is important. Recognize that you do not have to go through these challenges alone. Therapy is an incredibly safe container where you can let it all hang out. You can be real. When you can talk freely about the things that are weighing heavily on you, you can gain clarity and confidence. Coaching takes you past the place of functional to self-actualization and self-awareness. Diane is offering a free 30-minute "Get Clear" consultation when you mention this podcast to really identify what you desire to change in your life and what is stopping you. In this episode, we discuss: Why are we, as women, so hard on ourselves (why do we have such a healthy "inner mean girl") How we can soften the inner critic and make friends with that "inner mean girl" How we can build self-compassion and self-acceptance How to calm your "inner mean girl" Facing your limiting beliefs so you can transform them I'm suffering and it's okay. I'm human. The importance of surrounding yourself with objective people Acknowledging your self-worth "You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." – Buddha "You cannot become your best-self by yourself" Resources Mentioned: Guided Self-Meditation Dr. Diane Garrison Licensed Psychologist, Certified Feminine Power Coach & Facilitator Lake Country Wellness and Counseling [email protected] (262) 547-9673 Facebook | LinkedIn | Instagram Private Facebook Community Visit the Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with the Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website or grab a complimentary 30-minute consult. Leaving a positive podcast review is hugely important: they help the podcast get discovered by new people. Please spend 5 minutes of your time to leave a review on your preferred listening platform, we'd love to hear from you! 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

In this episode, Pam reminds you to live your life on purpose and to not be driven by the circumstance in your life but remember that those circumstances are your hinge points in order to get to your purpose. It is part of your journey. If you know what your purpose is, it is easier to get through the circumstances. You need to take the emotion out of decision making and part of that is allowing yourself to let go of the physical things that may hold sentimental value. Things that you just place on a shelf but are not going to use. Pam tells us a great way to hold on to these emotional keepsakes without carrying the baggage with you. When going through a major life change, we tend to hold onto the guilt that is associated with it, remember that it is a fresh start. Move forward and let go of the rest. When we are going through changes in our lives, part of the process is knowing who we actually are. Who we are and how we show up today is going to affect the person that we will ultimately be in the future. Take action that works best for you that will bring you confidence. Faith of knowing your next step is going to be determined by how you are today. All of your actions have consequences good or bad. If you are conscious about knowing who you are so you can show up as the best version of yourself, will help you through separation, divorce, and beyond. Part of the process of being your best self is allowing yourself to grieve, even if you are the one who initiated the divorce process. You need to allow yourself to grieve and be in that moment and know you don't have to make a decision right then about the goal for the rest of your life. Acknowledge the parts in those grieving moments that are going to allow you to move forward. Keep your ears and eyes open around you and do not form the story before you know what the actual information is. We get attached to drama around things and getting caught up in the drama keeps the drama going. Pam Drzewiecki is the Owner and Founder of Powerful Purpose and Powerful Purpose Planning Systems - taking the craziness out of everything. Resources, tools, and coaching videos to stay present and focused in a multi-tasking world. Pam is also a Business & Life Coach that helps women be more, do more and make more with confidence and no-guilt. It is possible. Text nugget to 66866 and you will be put on my Nugget of the Day – Daily Mindset Inspirations sent directly to your email In this episode, we discuss: Living your life on purpose is filled with circumstances but the circumstances are what hinges you closer to your true purpose Faith and self-discovery allow you to live your best life Do not be blind on how your life is now . . . either be in gratitude or make a change. That goes for your personal life, business life, or career life. Buying yourself small gifts is a reminder of the positive path you are on A great way to part with items of sentimental value The importance of grieving through the process regardless of who started the process Releasing the drama and surrounding yourself with people and things that fuel you "She is clothed in strength & dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future." – Proverbs 31:35 or is it 31:25 Resources: Pam Drzewiecki Owner | Founder | Business & Life Coach Powerful Purpose | Powerful Purpose Planning Systems [email protected] (203) 592-7230 Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube Other Resources Mentioned: #NUGGET: 28 Days to Self-Discovery by Pam Drzewiecki Leaving a positive podcast review is hugely important: they help the podcast get discovered by new people. Please spend 5 minutes of your time to leave a review on your preferred listening platform, we'd love to hear from you! 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access Keywords: divorce, conversations, women, financial, wellness, marriage, finances, selfdiscovery, purpose, faith, gratitude, grieve, sentimentalvalue, sentimental

"I was suffering in my marriage and I believe my partner was too. However, when I would talk about leaving, it was so scary to imagine what life would look like in the future." Have you had a partner that would make you feel like you would not be able to financially support yourself and/or your kids if you left them? "I never imagined when I got married that it would end in divorce." You just don't know what your future will look like and having the facts helps you make decisions for your future. Finding happiness in the core of who you are, allowing yourself to grieve through the process, and allowing yourself to find joy and a healthy mindset will pave the way to building your confidence. Women are good at making decisions if they have all the facts. Sometimes we feel it must be so terrible that we have no other option before we leave, but that is not always the case. We have choices. In this episode, Julie talks about her journey of making the tough decisions in order to take back control in her life. By surrounding herself with objective experts that helped guide her through the process of leaving, Julie was able to make the tough decisions that ultimately led her to realize the greatest gift in all of it – feeling empowered, becoming a homeowner on her own, and creating new and amazing memories with her daughters in her own space. A lot of times people are afraid to engage more than just their attorney in this process. However, it is valuable to have a different perspective, different areas of expertise that can come alongside you to help you through this process. At the end of the day, it is about what the money means versus what is in your bank account. Having the facts about your finances can make a huge difference and step-by-step, building up your confidence. You must be able to trust your gut. Interview your experts to find the ones that will listen to you and help you navigate through this time in your life. You deserve that. You do not have to go through this alone. Julie Hoelle is a working mother, yogi and community volunteer. She has a walk-the-walk, talk-the-talk perspective on making the decision to divorce and allowing yourself the space to believe in yourself, to be happy, and to be financially confident. In this episode, we discuss: How to manage through the fear of leaving your marriage from a financial standpoint How life will look post-divorce Self-care and how to navigate and preserve what is important starts with making time for what is important to you How seeking the RIGHT experts can help you through the tough decisions The importance of understanding your own financial security Knowing when to call it quits and finding the confidence to move forward Closing out the noise The importance of maintaining your support system Being open to trusting that it will be okay. You do not need to go through this alone. "If when we get into a difficult situation, our will or courage lessens, and we fall into the laziness of feeling inferior. Thinking that we could not possibly accomplish such a difficult task, this diminishment of will cannot protect us from any suffering. It is important to generate courage corresponding to the size of the difficulties." - Dalai Lama We, as women, can do so much more than we give ourselves credit for. When we really need to dig down to fight for something that we truly believe in, we can do it. Resources: Top 3 Pitfalls to Avoid During Divorce eBook 10 Questions to Ask When Interviewing an Attorney Julie Hoelle - Working Mother, Yogi, and Community Volunteer Visit the Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with the Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website or grab a complimentary 30-minute consult. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

As an adult woman, we are kind and clueless. Clueless in understanding the boys and men in general. Often we wonder why they bottle up their emotions and avoid eye contact. But when we try to understand how males prefer to communicate, that allows us to adjust our expectations. Boy expert Janet Allison is a former teacher and a mother of girls. She founded Boys Alive, an organization that advocates for boys. Teaching parents how males and females learn, interact, and interpret the world differently. She wrote Boys Alive! Bring Out Their Best and has collaborated with many international experts to create virtual educational summits, interviewing experts and sharing wisdom with thousands of parents and teachers. In this episode, you'll learn more about men and boys. Why they act the way that they do and what can you do about it. Anger is a big topic of concern for parents of boys. Opt-in to claim a free audio report on Boys & Anger and how you can help him manage this big emotion! Claim here In This Episode We Discuss: Knowing how and when to talk to your son (especially about emotional topics) Connecting with your son in a boy-friendly way Understanding why he needs to move his body What to do about screens (e.g. gadgets) Giving your man a hint and applying the concept of bullet points Staying in reality and not taking things personally Being a good listener "You are not raising a little boy, you are raising a man and the world needs you to do that well." I can do hard things! Resources Mentioned: Boys Alive On Boys Podcast Janet Allison Author | Educator | Family Email her: [email protected] Social Media: Facebook Facebook Private Group Instagram Twitter LinkedIn --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

So you finally realized that he left you. Now what? What's your game plan? How do you begin when there are so many obstacles to overcome? Jenna Whitehead is an everyday woman. She's a Realtor in the area of Dallas, who unexpectedly was hit with a divorce. Her husband has become a person she doesn't recognize anymore. Her experience led her to write a book entitled "He Actually Left Now What?" designed to heal women from the pain of divorce. A book that helps you move on from your horrendous past with him. Listen on as she shares helpful advice to help you move past your divorce slump. Just because he left, doesn't mean it's over. For listeners who would like to receive a free copy of this ebook, please email [email protected], using the subject line "Wellness Center Podcast" In This Episode We Discuss: The knowledge that women aren't alone How social media groups played an important role in her healing journey Practical ways of healing through journaling Getting into the space of acceptance Putting up a game plan on what your next move The therapeutic effects of journaling Using your suffering for the good of others "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. — Jeremiah 29:11 Disaster is temporary. The hope and the future is what God has promised you. Resources Mentioned: Jenna Whitehead Author | Realtor [email protected] Social media: Twitter Facebook --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

What does it take to truly succeed in life? How do you stand back up when you're experiencing something traumatic? Jennifer Leigh is a self-made entrepreneur, a mother of twins and an intuitive. She has a background in crisis management, serving as a consultant to companies, organizations, and people who're going through a crisis. In this episode, Jennifer shares her story, from being on top of her game when she started her company to hitting rock bottom when she was going through a divorce. Amidst all the challenging things she has experienced, she learned to be more resilient, more resourceful. She learned to have more faith and belief that she will come out stronger after the storms of her life. In This Episode, We Discuss: Being resilient during tough times Resourcefulness and thinking outside the box Reshaping your life using your mind Women judging other women Compartmentalizing your feelings Love Languages Speaking words of affirmation to yourself as a form of self-care Recognizing the power of vulnerability Being kind and not judging others because you never know what battles someone id currently fighting with. Only you have the power to change your life. Your mind is the most priceless tool you'll ever have to achieve the life you desire. Resources Mentioned: Jennifer Leigh Consultant, Entrepreneur Graceful & Gumption Social Media: Instagram LinkedIn Facebook --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

Divorce is an emotional roller coaster ride. If you're in the early stages, you're probably thinking about what to expect - How do you go from feeling small to feeling big and confident in a good way? Julie Rothamer Cruz, a woman who's currently going through the divorce process is here to share her story and help you create your puzzle piece and play it big again! She's a Health and Energy coach, and a Certifies Integrative Nutrition Health Coach who helps women and individuals with health transformations. As she rides the roller coaster of divorce for a second time, she wanted to help more women feel empowered as they go through and after their divorce. Visit https://www.schedulicity.com/scheduling/JHLQCR to schedule a free, 30-minute Empowered Woman consultation with Julie and get started in celebrating you as you create a new life vision for yourself. In This Episode We Discuss: Divorce as a roller coaster ride The grief and support of the divorce process It's okay to say "I'm not fine" Creating your new life puzzle Gratitude as part of self-care It's safe for me to play big. Let's celebrate the women that we are no matter where we are at in this moment. Resources Mentioned: Julie Rothamer Cruz | +1 608-556-6758 Health Coach and Consultant Doterra Website Social Media: Facebook LinkedIn Twitter --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access Keywords: divorce, conversations, women, financial, wellness, marriage, finances, puzzle, pieces, rollercoaster, gratitude, health, coaching

Divorce is painful but it doesn't have to be a disaster. Societal standards hinder us from having a good divorce. People shy away from this notion because they think it's uncommon. Having divorce doesn't mean you're happy to have it. It also doesn't mean you've failed or you did something wrong, but what does a good divorce really mean? Dianne Mader is an attorney who has practiced divorce law in Wisconsin for more than 30 years. She has also mediated divorce cases for 25 years. Through the years of working with divorce clients, she's gained deep compassion for women going through a divorce. Her commitment to making divorce a transformative experience for women led her to train as a certified life coach. Ever since then, she has used that opportunity to coach women before, during, and after their divorce. Dare to have a good divorce as you listen to today's episode! In This Episode We Discuss: Divorce as a future-focused planning process What a good divorce means The practice of affirmations Forgiveness. It's not something that you give to the person who has wronged you, but it's something that you do and give to yourself. Having compassion for yourself How to focus on the future planning process You don't divorce your children Co-parenting after a divorce The best way to get through a divorce "The best predictor of a good outcome for children whose parents are divorced is low conflict between their parents" Resources Mentioned: Should I Stay Or Should I Go? A Guide to Knowing If Your Relationship Can - and Should - be Saved by J. A. C. Patrissi and Lundy Bancroft Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay by Mira Kirshenbaum Attorney Diane L Mader Email: [email protected] Website: https://www.maderlaw.com/ Social Media: Facebook Twitter LinkedIn --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

In the process of divorce, the most important part is the very beginning. If you're planning to leave your spouse because it's unfair, suffocating and toxic to stay in a relationship with him, then it's time to plot out your exit strategy. Today, we have Kristie Dye who was married for 15 years until she got divorced. She'll be sharing helpful tips and strategies to make sure you are prepared before you leave your partner. In This Episode We Discuss: Kristie Dye's story with her narcissistic ex-husband How Kristie handled being in an abusive relationship Tips and strategies before you go through a divorce Strategic exit plan ideas Helping women understand their strength when children are involved Managing narcissistic behavior Abuse is far more than somebody hitting you Why Kristie choose to have divorce Being kind to yourself Don't be afraid to ask for support Knowledge is power "Good parents give their children roots and wings" The best thing that you can do as a mother for your children is showing them how they should be treated and how they are to treat others. Resources Mentioned: Necessary Endings by Henry Cloud Kristie Dye Email: [email protected] LinkedIn --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

When you lose touch with yourself, you lose yourself in the world. — Eckhart Tolle Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt powerless, you lose yourself in the process? Don't do this, don't do that. Rules keep adding up one after another. You're not happy anymore. You want to break free and be you again. But how do you do that when you have children, bills, rents, and life, in general, to think about? In this episode, Liberty, a multipotentialite creative, maker, and an artist, shares her story on how she got out of a relationship where she didn't feel safe to make her own decisions without repercussions. Now, she's happier and more connected with herself as she makes art that gives people hope and inspiration. Fill yourself with the hope that better days will always come as you listen to her story in today's episode! In This Episode We Discuss: Liberty's married life story with her strict husband Women's tolerance for pain How your identity is not tied to a person, object or even your career The camaraderie of women who've gone through tough times Setting your intentions through vision boards Liberty's community of women Gigs, real estate, and art Being present and not losing yourself "Be easy. Take your time, you're coming home to yourself." ~Nayyirah Waheed Resources Mentioned: Nextdoor - free private social network for your neighborhood community Marie Kondo A New Earth: Awakening Your Life's Purpose Liberty Wilson Artist, Creator & Multipotentialite Website: https://www.libertyshea.com/ Instagram --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

There is so much trepidation for a woman going through divorce alone. Half of the battle is getting the right people in the right place at the right time. It's hard to trust anyone (even your attorney) - and it gets tough when you don't have the support of the ones you consider close to you. Nancy Towle is a licensed health insurance agent with HealthMarkets insurance agency. She helps individuals and families find the best plan for their budget, providing objective guidance and solutions. In this episode, Nancy shares her story about how she didn't have anyone to run to during the days of her divorce. She was a victim, trapped in a relationship where she was made to feel useless. But despite all of the hardship, Nancy managed to get through it. She's a great example of what it's like to be on the other side. In This Episode We Discuss: Getting the right people to help you navigate through the divorce process The importance of having someone to support you in your battles Opportunities can arise even in uncertain times Nancy's journey from hopelessness to restoration Having faith that everything's going to be alright "You gotta take a chance. Do what you love and the money will come" ~Nancy Towle Resources Mentioned: Nancy Towle Licensed Health Insurance Agent HealthMarkets Agent info (414) 687-1687 | West Allis, WI 53227 Social Media: Facebook --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

Science shows us that heartbreak and mourning have neurobiological evidence of stress similar to someone who's been tortured as a prisoner of war. In most studies, women have the highest rates of depression. To cope with pain, women adjust. But how do you heal through all the hurt that you've experienced? Monica Rodriguez is a licensed Mental Health Therapist and also the owner and founder of On Purpose Psyche. She is very passionate about helping people, fostering them to grow in their mental health. In this episode, Monica shares the importance of a story - the idea of telling ourselves stories to help us navigate our way through life. We like to project and personify unto other people. But know that you are writing your own story. How you re-write it in order to be happy and live your purpose is up to you. Monica is offering a FREE initial consult for listeners of Divorced Women Conversations Podcast. In This Episode We Discuss: Helpful advice and tips for women who are going through a divorce The importance of a story The things that women can do to be more aware of the flaws that they tell to themselves Personifying your depression The awareness of being aware Myths and Archetypes Embracing the story and Rewriting it your way How can you rewrite your own story When consciousness comes, it's always painful "There is no birth of consciousness without pain" ~Carl Jung Until you are fully conscious of something in your life, why you are doing something, why a typical pattern keeps happening for you, transformation can't take place! Resources Mentioned: Carl Jung - Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst who founded analytical psychology The Tale of Bluebeard The Story of Persophone Monica Rodriguez Mental Health Therapist | Founder of On Purpose Psyche +1 262-490-3894 | LinkedIn On Purpose Psyche 405 E Forest St, Oconomowoc, Wisconsin 53066, US --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

Shopping for a home is a huge and tough thing to do, especially when you're a single mom or someone who's going through divorce. You're considering to buy a home but everything should still be within your budget range, arming yourself with knowledge over financial things and having someone to simplify things for you is the best thing you do. Penny Charlson is a Mortgage Loan Expert and a Branch Manager. She has 12 years of experience as a real estate agent and have been in the mortgage business for more than 20 years. She's experienced with many different loan programs including refinancing, purchasing, and other transactions with unique circumstances and special challenges. In this episode, Penny shares her knowledge about everything you need to know in the mortgage industry. She helps her clients by doing all the maths and educating them carefully to have a good understanding of the process, allowing them to make the best decisions. Special offer: Penny is offering $500 off of closing costs. In This Episode We Discuss: How interest rates and closing cost are interrelated Being creative in finding options What constitutes "a total debt" Doing the maths to have better options that'll best suit your needs and situation Credit reports and using Credit Karma Having patience and taking the time to educate yourself The importance of face-to-face meeting Pre-approval process and how it all works Knowledge + Experience = Confidence to make good decisions "There's a solution to every problem" Resources Mentioned: Credit Karma Penny Charlson Mortgage Loan Expert | Branch Manager Facebook --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

Resilience is defined as the ability to bounce back after adversity. It's like the pinnacle of mental health. Being able to endure and be resilient at the same time is a tough thing to do. The wonderful thing is, resilience can be taught. Jennifer Van Rossum is a licensed Psycho Therapist in private practice at Cornerstone Counseling. She provides therapy to both teens and adults. Offering resilience and mental strength training. In this episode, Jennifer talks about what it means to be really resilient. Her goal is to provide creative outlets to deepen personal awareness and growth that leads to a flourishing life. In This Episode, We Discuss: What it means to be resilient Inner strengths of compassion and mindfulness Having self-compassion and compassion Practical things people can do to develop that self-compassion skill? Loving kindness and meditation Boundaries When we build self-compassion, we're recognizing our own self-worth Resilience training plus mental strength lifehacks and Strategies Life is hard but we can do hard! "You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf" —Jon Kabat-Zinn Our problems are often times opportunities Resources Mentioned: Jennifer Van Rossum Cornerstone Counseling 741 N. Grand Ave. Ste. 302 Waukesha, WI 53186|262-789-1191 --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

When you're in the midst of the divorce process, you're probably considering to sell your home. And if you want to sell it quick, you got to let home staging come in. Susan Dakins is a Sales Specialist who's also an Accredited Buyer Agents, a Residential Specialist, as well as Senior Real Estate Specialists. From analyzing the market data on how much your home is worth to preparing your home for staging, she helps spouses and individuals who are planning to sell their home. Not everything is going to be easy or simple. Stress is surely to come, but don't lose hope and stay optimistic! There will always be a way. For the women going through divorce, you've got a lot on your plate and you want people on your side who're experts in what they do and knows when to push and when to step back. Susan Dakins is offering a 1 hour consultation in preparing and staging your home for sale, timing the market and what to expect every step of the way. In This Episode We Discuss: How to get your home 'showroom' ready What are the repairs needed to be made for optimal return on investment (ROI) Knowing what's the high-end, low-end, and what to expect before you start investing Timing the market How Susan and her team deals with an uncooperative spouse or partner Additional costs to staging your home Realtors are like therapist, they talk people off the ledge and put the facts back in the table Success isn't about the money you make, it's about the difference you make in people's lives." —Michelle Obama Resources Mentioned: Tidying Up (Netflix Show) Susan Dakins Sales Specialist, Senior Real Estate Specialist [email protected]|(262) 894-0623 LinkedIn --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

Buying or selling a home is not an easy transaction but it could get smoother if you have someone to it for you. And having this resource could save you a lot of time, money, and energy. In this episode, Alyona shares how being a realtor allowed her to be in complete control of everything. Helping her achieve financial freedom, self-esteem, and good financial acumen. Alyona Caravella is a realtor at RE/MAX and has been in the real estate industry since 2009. Helping families and individuals buy or sell a home. She's also an accredited buyer's agent and an expert in real estate negotiation. She helps anybody from start to finish - from planning to getting the resources ahead of time so her clients can enjoy ease and take charge of their cash flow and finances. In This Episode We Discuss: Alyona's story on becoming a realtor Her experience being a landlord Tips for women who are planning to dive into the real estate industry Who you hire can make or break a business What is a Potential Rental Area? The pros and cons of becoming a landlord What you can control as a landlord Why buying an investment property is better than renting Education & Planning is the key to successful rental income and investment Stay ahead, plan ahead - Alyona Caravella For every action, there's an equal and opposite reaction (Newton's Law) When it comes to rentals and investment properties, there's as many plusses as there's minuses. Resources Mentioned: Research rental pricing and trends in your area on https://www.craigslist.org/ or https://www.rentometer.com Access all state approval legal docs on https://wilegalblank.com Neighborhood Services in Milwaukee County https://city.milwaukee.gov Report cards for different types of schools or districts: https://dpi.wi.gov/families-students/data/report-cards RE/MAX Alyona Caravella, ABR, CHBA, CHBS, RENE Real Estate Agent Re/Max [email protected] 414.520.7780 Connect with her on LinkedIn Instagram Facebook --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

A lot of women struggle with juggling and balancing together their work and family especially when they're going through a divorce. In order to cope with such situation, it's really important to educate yourself on the rules, laws and guidelines in order to better navigate through an intimidating and complex process such as divorce. Lindsay Lloyd is an HR Consultant Veteran with 15 years of experience on her hands. She's the owner of Leave Solutions, a company that provides FMLA services for companies when it comes to their employee leave admin without compromising the employee's experience. She's very passionate about empowering women that are in the workplace. Providing them great tools to help them handle some of their work leave concerns. She does not only help companies but she also offers help and advice to people who have individual questions when it comes to FMLA. In This Episode We Discuss: What is FMLA and hoe does it relate to Divorce? Requirements and qualification for an FMLA Leave The benefits of EAP (Employee Assistance Program) Health Insurance and Medical Benefits The QDRO Process and splitting of accounts Lindsay's insights on a woman who's on her husband's health insurance Taking a loan doesn't hide the money, it's still on record and it's still gonna be a part of those total assets. Asking your HR about certain stuff as you start to go through the divorce process Having a good relationship with the HR department can be really helpful whether it's your employer or your spouse's employer. Resources Mentioned: COBRA Insurance Lindsay Lloyd PHR, CEBS HR Consultant | FMLA Consultant & Trainer Email: [email protected] | LinkedIn Leave Solutions LinkedIn Leave Solutions --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

Today's episode is a BONUS! Christmas is a few days away. It's a great time where you get to reconnect with friends and love ones. But it can also cause you stress at the same time which shouldn't be. Susan Pokorny is a wellness trainer with a focus on mind-body health. She's the owner of Pure Home and Body, and the best-selling author of the book Two Inches of Wool. She's also a certified yoga instructor since 2001 and is very passionate about trauma-sensitive yoga. In this episode, Susan is going to share some heart-centered meditation that is very helpful in dialing down your stress hormones that arises when you are under high-intensity stress. Give your mind and body a break today. Feel better and meditate. Share it with the people around you too, and you'll feel better wherever you go. In This Episode We Discuss: Heart Meditation Breath patterns and Inhaling light, love, life, and joy How your body responds to stressors Focusing on positive thoughts that feeds happiness to your soul You have a choice with how your body is going to respond to the stresses around you Resources Mentioned: Book: Two Inches of Wool: The Simple Art of Self Care Susan Pokorny Wellness Coach Pure Home and Body --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

One of the biggest financial decision you'll be facing when you're in the process of divorce is - what's going to happen to your family home. Keep the house? Sell it? Buy a new one or rent? With the right information, women are amazing decision makers. The problem lies in getting the correct pieces of information. But what steps should you take in order to avoid mistakes and regrets later on? Josh Bucio is Mortgage Originator at Waterstone Bank with 15 years of experience in helping family and individuals with mortgages. He specializes in educating home buyers, providing them complete guidance from the beginning till the family is settled. He takes the time to understand your entire situation, in order to give you the best guidance possible when choosing a mortgage program. Having clarity and seeing the bigger picture from the beginning gives you peace and enough reason to get moving forward. In This Episode We Discuss: The 5 Item Checklist How to calculate your debt income ratios Things you need to consider when making decisions Impacts of purchasing a house Patience and progress Understanding the division of the income, debts, and properties Tips from Josh Bucio Get comfortable being uncomfortable "You get out what you put in." The process is not always easy but if you put in the work, educate yourself and connect with the right people, things will work out. Resources Mentioned: Credit Karma - a tool to manage your credit Divorce is not a DIY Project Josh Bucio Mortgage Originator Facebook --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

What does your normal day feel like? Do you feel low most of the time? What are the thoughts running through your head on a regular basis? Oftentimes we feel like we don't have the energy to do things especially when we're going through a difficult time, like divorce. We associate emotional fatigue with physical fatigue and that affects how we perform every day resulting in decreased productivity and an unfocused mind. Jill Sommers is a marathon runner, performance coach, and owner of JMS Performance Coaching. She coaches both women and men to live a fulfilled life that makes them feel good both inside and out - be it in business, relationships, sports and other fields of life. In this episode, Jill emphasizes the importance of self-care, staying focused, getting enough sleep and keeping yourself hydrated all the time. In divorce, just like a marathon, we need to focus on the process and not the outcome, as the outcome will take care of itself. Navigate your life better and keep on reminding yourself of the benefits of what you're going through right now because it's definitely worth the effort. In This Episode, We Discuss: The perpetual 'Not Enoughness' How to prepare for your own race. Sport is one of the greatest places we can draw parallels between hardship and life. Your support buddy doesn't have to be a human. What to do next when you're in the midst of a race. Thoughts attract thoughts. How to avoid going through the dark spots when you're in the middle of the race. The "Joy List" Focusing on your strengths and the benefits of your actions. When you're more present, you're more aware of your feelings. Always have trust and faith that it's going to work out. "People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing - that's why we recommend it daily." — Zig Ziglar Resources Mentioned: Jill M Sommers Performance Coach 414-559-7164 | [email protected] Jill Sommers Website Facebook --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc.

What are your beliefs when it comes to money? Is it evil? Good? Or do you look at it as a tool? Money in itself is an objective tool but we connect it with a lot of emotion, that's why it's not only a financial topic but an emotional one. In this episode, we are going to have an assertive financial conversation about the 10 paradigms regarding financial wellness. These 10 beliefs which we are going to explore today can help you go from "Financial Self-Sabotage" to "Financial Self-Confidence". Understanding how money works results in us becoming brilliant decision-makers. When we have access to knowledge and information we have choices: a choice to do nothing or a choice to go out there do it on your own or find someone you can collaborate with or help you with in order to make good financial decisions and live a more financially well and money-confident life! I believe that women when they have the right information, make really good decisions! Wealth in the hands of women is a good thing because we're always thinking about others. And that's what makes us great, helping other women be empowered. In This Episode, We Discuss: My family history about money. How I built up my business and helping women build confidence when it comes to handling money and their financial life. Family history is very important in relation to money. Your attitude toward money Money is Unfaithful The Rule of 72 Financial literacy is a lifestyle The Importance of Financial Literacy and Financial Education especially to us women. Budgeting or "The Spending Plan" 3 Types of Communication Knowledge + Experience = CONFIDENCE The importance of having difficult money conversations A.N.O.T. Tool for Negotiating The definition of " Financial Wellness" "I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know how to do better, I do better!" — Rhonda Noordyk Resources Mentioned: Divorced Conversations for Women Podcast The Rule of 72 by Albert Einstein University of Wisconsin Extension - Financial Coaching Training Mint.com - an automated tool for budgeting Beautiful Budget Online Course --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc.

Divorce is complicated in itself and it could get even more so with Social Security benefits. Because you're no longer married, depending on your personal situation, a few sets of different rules will apply. And the more you educate yourself about this topic the more prepared and better equipped you'll be. Randy Kitzmiller, a National Social Security Advisor, Retirement Income Certified Professional through the American College and a Retirement Income consultant at Ash Brokerage, help others get protection and receive security for their planning needs through seminars and educational events regarding the benefits of Social Security. In this episode, Randy shares common concerns and relevant information regarding social security benefits. A lot of women and men alike don't realize that there are certain benefits they're entitled to receive when they are divorced. And just by knowing that you could receive such benefits can be life-changing. In This Episode We Discuss: If you're educated enough about certain topics you can make really good decisions. Spousal benefits vs. Survival Benefits Divorced Spouses have Survivor Benefits if certain criteria are met. Divorced Spouses have benefits if certain criteria are met. Example scenarios of Social Security Benefits Interesting things you should know under the Divorce benefits. Social security is not an emotional decision it's a financial decision. Education is key, get what you deserve. Your personal situation will dictate it. "Social security benefits although available to men and women is a women's issue and to be able to maximize those benefits is key." Books mentioned: Get What's Yours: The Secrets to Maxing Out Your Social Security by Laurence Kotlikoff, Paul Solman, and Philip Moeller Resources Mentioned: Randy Kitzmiller Retirement Income Consultant LinkedIn --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

A Prenuptial Agreement is more than just a financial agreement. Before tying the knot with your partner, it's important to be knowledgeable about how to protect your heirloom, property, and other assets before marriage. Attorney David Watson specializes in estate planning by protecting and preserving his clients' assets. In this episode we talk about the importance of a Prenuptial Agreement and why you and your spouse should consider signing into one. He explains that a prenup establishes the property and financial rights of each spouse in the event that a divorce occurs. Having a prenuptial agreement is not selfish, it's called being responsible. Take ownership for what it is that you not only bring to the marriage but what you brought to the marriage. In This Episode We Discuss: What is a Prenuptial Agreement. Why you should consider getting a Prenuptial Agreement. Tough conversations' necessary in building trust in any relationship. Tools you can use to make sure what you brought into that particular agreement is protected. Things to consider within a prenup. Without a prenup, you're at the mercy of State Law. Cohabitation Agreement and other Marriage related laws. Know what your rights are and what the actual document says. Sometimes, there's a difference in what the actual document says and what's actually going to happen. Just because your spouse brings it up doesn't mean that they don't trust you. "Don't be blissfully ignorant" — Atty. David Watson Resources Mentioned: Atty. David Watson Estate Planning Attorney 500 W. Silver Spring Drive, Suite K-200 Glendale, WI 53217|414-491-3283 Email: [email protected] Website: The Law Office of David Watson, LCC --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

How do we create health? How do we stay healthy in our 40's, 50's, 60's and beyond? How can we take care of our health as we go through divorce? We don't have to accept changes that we start to experience in our bodies as manifestations of getting older. We can take action. We can take our path to optimal health and well-being as an iterative journey with learning and empowerment on the way. Dr. Kate Bayliss is a medical doctor who has worked in conventional medicine for over two decades. She completed a fellowship in Integrative Medicine (Dr. Weil's program at the University of Arizona), and a member of the Institute of Functional Medicine and American Association for Anti-aging Medicine. She loves working with both women and men that are interested in figuring out how they can better optimize their health. She's currently focused on "whole person care" with an eye toward health creation and promoting well-being. There are many things you can do to help respond to stress in a healthier way. Get to the root cause and address them, rather than sticking to conventional medicine. Let's all do it the natural way! Mention the Divorce Conversations for Women Podcast and get a free 15-minute phone consultation. In This Episode We Discuss: Philosophical differences between functional medicine and conventional medicine. Components of functional medicine. We don't have to accept changes that we start to experience in our 40's 50's and 60's as a manifestation of getting older. Taking care of yourself is not selfish. We can take action. What we put on our fork is the most important things in determining our health and well being. Food is medicine. There's no set formulation that we all should be doing this because everybody's experiences are different. Our path to optimal health and well-being is an iterative journey with learning and empowerment on the way. The physician of the future will give no medication, but will interest his (her) patients in the care of the human frame, diet and in the cause and prevention of disease. —Thomas Edison Avoid drugs whenever possible and be PRESENT in the way you take care of your health and your loved ones. Resources Mentioned: Dr. Kate Bayliss Medical Doctor --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

If you're currently dealing with stress, the person you need to talk to the most is you - your unconscious. If you're going through divorce or planning to get a divorce, ask yourself, talk to your unconscious: Am I really ready to get a divorce? How did I get myself here? What has led me to this event? Deborah Lukovich, the Executive Director of a fabulous nonprofit called Playworks that improves children's wellbeing in school through play, is also an expert in depth psychology. With 15 years of coaching and consulting experience, she helps others deeply connect with people while creating a safe space where they can reflect in a way that's required for real professional, personal and spiritual growth through depth psychology. Communicating with our own minds is very important. Most people don't know how to communicate with that part of their mind that controls automatic behaviors, urges, emotions, and habits. Don't you wonder why we sometimes end up doing the total opposite of the best rational thing to do in a situation? Whatever you're going through right now is exactly what you're supposed to be going through right now. You're exactly where you're supposed to be because there's a lesson for you to learn about yourself. That will be a major insight helping you have healthier relationships in life. Deborah Lukovich offers a monthly workshop at Elle Studio + Wellness. She offers a 30-minute free consultation and 45% off for the first session ($75) for Divorce Conversations for Women listeners! In This Episode We Discuss: What Depth Psychology is all about. Depth Psychology concepts. Learn how to unravel some very very deep-seated patterns and belief that are not necessarily negative but have stopped working for us. A new perspective and context for the difficult journey of divorce. How to tap into your unconscious wisdom. What your unconscious mind is telling you. It all starts with getting it out onto paper via journaling, drawing, poetry. There's a light at the end of the tunnel. You're not ready to get a divorce until you unravel all those emotional patterns that contributed to it not working out. Romantic attraction is very mysterious but once you understand this, it can actually be beautiful. When you change, somebody else doesn't like it unless they're changing too. "Every encounter where there is sexual attraction, no matter how short or long, offers a kind of spiritual curriculum where the objective is to learn and take responsibility for our your own development instead of projecting it onto our romantic partner in the way of expectations that are impossible to meet." Resources Mentioned: Deborah Lukovich Executive Director of Playworks - https://www.playworks.org/wisconsin/about/staff/ 414-803-3229|[email protected] Website: www.deborah-alinea.com --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

Divorce is an experience that's both physically and mentally taxing. It's like losing a part of you or grieving the loss of a loved one. One thing is for certain when you go through a divorce - you're going to be alone, but only for a while. Once you've recovered, you'll feel like a new-born person again. When you are ready, fully recovered and healed, you might consider dating again like a flower waiting to bloom. Raeeka Yaghmai, founder and CEO of Dating with Confidence is a certified life coach and a dating and relationship expert for single women as well as a professional opera singer. She coaches and help both single women stop their repeating patterns of dating wrong guys and women who wanted to find love again after a traumatic experience such as divorce to connect to their self-worth and value to feel confident and sexy so that they can attract quality relationship-ready men, and finally create the love lives they desire. Our love lives are so personal, it reflects so much of our internal self. Her message to ladies who have gone through divorce — You need to take 100% responsibility for the role you are playing in creating your love life. Identify relationship-ready men and avoid unavailable guys with Raeeka Yaghmai's FREE guide training - the "Broken Picker". Get her FREE guide at https://datingwithconfidencecoaching.com/bps In This Episode We Discuss: Dating after divorce. How her past relationships helped in founding Dating WIth Confidence. You cannot control other people, but you have 100% control over YOU! You need to put the past 100% in the past. Why she calls her ex fiancé 'Santa Claus'. The difference between "Coaching" and "Therapy". Confidence and Forgiveness. When a leaf falls another leaf comes out. Upgrading your DOS - Dating Operating System The way we show up in our love life, a lot of times is the way we show up in every other aspect of our lives. "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results." — Albert Einstein You can't do the same thing over and over again and expect different results. It doesn't work like that. Resources Mentioned: Raeeka Yaghmai Dating Coach | CEO of Dating With Confidence [email protected] | +1-415-336-9176 Facebook | Twitter | Instagram --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access

When it comes to the legal process, divorce is never a walk in the park. You'd need to go through a lot of procedures which can be very taxing mentally, emotionally and physically. You want to make sure you're on the right track and have the proper and unclouded advice to avoid making decisions that'll lead to mistakes. Of course you want to have custody of your kids and don't want to lose your rights over marital properties. To ensure this, you need an accurate interpretation of the divorce laws and what you should you do next in the process. You probably need to choose the right lawyer whom you can trust to help you sort out the complicated things. Barry Book is an Attorney practicing family law exclusively for over 29 years representing individuals in divorce cases and also act as GAL and mediator. Family law is very personal in nature. It deals with the most personal aspects of an individual's life whether you have children or not. In This Episode We Discuss: The difference of Family Law from other areas of law. How patience is extremely important. Don't compare your situation to other people. Divorce is a personal matter. The roles of an attorney. How a lawyer should treat his/her clients. The importance of being honest with your lawyer. The outcome of another person's case has nothing to do with your case. Rely on your lawyer to guide you through the process and the issues involved Family is the core of who we really are. The outcome of the legal process will affect you and your children forever. An attorney-client relationship has to be built on being clear and being honest every step along the way whether the news is good or bad. "I handle exclusively family matters because families matter." —Barry Book Resources Mentioned: Barry Book Family Lawyer | Divorce Attorney 414.930.1170 | www.book-law.com Brookfield, Wisconsin --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc.

We all have the capacity to know and feel without reasoning about it consciously. It's called 'gut feeling'! You can't think 100% rationally all the time. Our mind uses both our emotions and logic when making decisions. But we are too distracted or doubtful whether we should trust that small voice deep within us. Especially when faced with difficult situations. Nicole Isler is an empowerment coach for caring souls who wants to make a difference in the world for people, animals, and the planet. She works with spiritual people whose priority is to be loving to themselves and help others understand the process if spiritual promotion, the importance of energy and self-trust in a world full of distractions. In this episode, Nicole shares three important tips that will help not only women but anyone to have better days building the life they could step into, learning to trust and not doubt what they really feel. Life's a fluctuation of experiences. You're not trapped, there's always an option, a way out. In This Episode We Discuss: Trusting Yourself: The difference between intuitive nudges and ego-driven thoughts. The best decisions you can make are the ones when you're being TRUE to yourself! No one else knows what's better for you than you yourself. The 5-second rule by Mel Robbins Building confidence even after years of negative conditioning and patterns. Three ways intuition is 100% of the time working for you. How people can recognize when they are not true to themselves. Putting yourself first doesn't mean you're putting everyone else last. Guilt is taught. You're never trapped or stuck. There are always options no matter how hard they might be. Trust your first feel, not your second thought - Nicole Isler Intuition always comes in first. Always go with that first feel, then proceed and move forward! Resources Mentioned: Nicole Isler Chief Empowerment Coach Nicole Isler's Website The Energy Lounge Instagram Facebook LinkedIn --- Visit The Women's Financial Wellness Center for a full directory listing of experts. https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.com/our-supporters Be sure to reach out if you would like to connect personally with The Women's Financial Wellness Center. You can visit our website at https://www.womensfinancialwellnesscenter.comor grab a complimentary 30-minute consult at http://bit.ly/dashboardwfwc. 🌟 Master Your Next Move in Divorce: Watch our FREE Masterclass and learn how to empower your divorce journey with confidence, clarity, and control. 🎥 FREE MASTERCLASS: Get Instant Access